This was soooo good! Another key tip for new dads is to not be to hard on yourself! You are doing good and your kids love you. Just knowing that you found this comment I can tell that you are trying to do good by your family! Relax and enjoy the ride!
Great stuff. Thanks for posting. In summary... Tip 1: Give toddler smaller portions Tip 2: Love Conquers anger - get down to their level, open arms, empathize. Tip 3: Messy play areas ok; spurs creativity Tip 4: You are allowed to NOT play with your kids Tip 5: Create special rituals / routines (occasional treats, e.g. video game time, pizza / movie Friday, walks after school.
Great tips! Thank you for this! I read something this week that really resonated with me: your power as a parent does not lie on being louder, stronger or older. Your power is in your calmness. If you learn how to remain calm when it feels like your kids are losing it. You win. Every single time.
I wouldn't say your calmness is your power its being wise enough to know when you should be calm and when you should be loud. Too many people take this approach to the extreme and try to be calm no matter the situation. There are situations where being loud is warranted and even necessary.
Great advice, I love seeing guys help support each other through this amazing journey of fatherhood. Another thing I would add for us guys because I know a lot of us struggle with this: Tell your kids you love them EVERY day and how grateful you are to be their dad. Get on their level and touch their face. LOTS of physical touch with your little ones.
Something I figured out early on was to lower my expectations. My kid doesn't know. When she tears up paper and makes a mess, she has literally never torn something up before, she is learning what that is like and the consequences. When she gets rough with our pets, she doesn't know any better, she is learning how to behave in this world. When I stopped expecting basically anything from my daughter besides that she grow and slowly understand our guidance and discipline over time I became a much better dad.
This is amazing!!! Had a moment with my son today when he was giving my wife a tough time. And I had the temptation to go angry into the situation. I ended up going with an understanding but stern/directive approach (most importantly not angry) and I saw his response was way better than if I had gone in angry. These tips are universal!
Awesome video. Hope you do more toddler focused videos as I'm in the early toddler stages. I've got a 15 month old. A fun ritual we've started to do every once and awhile before bath time is chase each other around the house. He's up and moving pretty quick so I'll either let him chase me or I'll "run" after him. He loves it, laughs the whole time, and it wears him out before we start the bedtime routine. Also gives mom a a moment to herself if she's coming off a full day of work/dinner/etc.
Moving forward a lot of the focus will on this channel will largely be focused on toddler and kid-related topics my family has gotten older. But we'll sprinkle in some baby stuff as well.
Great tips for feeding and descalating your child's temper. My husband uses those types of descalation methods at his job and has even helped me calm down this way.
Thank you so much! I'm about to start a channel myself about parenting but just hearing these are so helpful! I want to be able to share what knowledge and wisdom I have but more over, I want to be a great student. I know there is so much to learn about parenting and like I said before, this content is awesome! Keep up the good work and I am now a subscriber.
Regarding tip #4, please know that I'm not saying to "neglect" your kids. The point is to know that you don't constantly have to feel pressure to be the sole source of entertainment and activity. Helpful links regarding things I mentioned in the video - Join our private Discord community for new/expectant dads: bit.ly/3rcdk7r Courses for new dads: www.fatherfigured.com/ AAP Toddler Servings information: bit.ly/3EZyo9p Feeding Littles Courses: feedinglittles.com/ (Use DADVERB for $10 off) Creating a Yes Space: bit.ly/3gLWMkE Creating a Yes Space" bit.ly/3FjPS0v Busy Toddler Independent Play: bit.ly/3TDnMRX Jerrica Sannes: bit.ly/3W37CTz
During Xmas for one of our advent ideas we did a glow stick bath and the kids loved playing in the bath bubbles with their glow sticks. Changed up bath time a bit and definitely will be something we incorporate more. Loved all the tips! Thanks for sharing!
That tip 2 portion i can vouch for that, My daughter is special needs, she has delayed learning. she is 12 but has the mind of a 5 yr old. When she is getting seriously frustrated, just like Dad Verb guy said. It looks logical to me but not to her, but i get down give her a hug, and then talk to her and help her out.
Hey man, I was just thinking about you, my kids are growing fast and some of your older videos prepped me well, I just stopped being suggested your videos I just assumed you stop uploading, good to see you still staying consistent and helping the dads out there
Honestly man, it's hard for me too. But at least the tip is out there so guys can be more conscious of the tactic. But it's definitely not easy and some kids are just wired to be tougher to handle.
Haha- your summary in the first 13 seconds of live with a toddler is SPOT ON- my youngest is 2.5yrs old right now and you nailed life with her right now!
While the tips for leading with love are great, in the situation where the kid is being rude towards mom, negative reinforcement is appropriate, but it has to be done correctly and consistently. The problem is that parents are usually really random with when they correct with anger. They usually get mad so often kids can’t really understand what they did wrong. Choose your battles carefully and then be 100% consistent with those. Nice tips.
Thank you so much for your video's. It has helped me a ton. My son is two and our nightly routine is dinner, bath, and then 30-45min of wrestling/rough housing. He has so much energy and only sleeps about 6 hours at night (which i am told i was the same) I have to help him release that energy otherwise its 4hours of sleep up at midnight to play and back to sleep at 2 until 6am. It varies but i am sure there are others out there have similar issues. I was a light sleeper as a baby and never was a napper even to this day at 43 i can't sleep until its bed time. I am alseep by 9 and up at 4am with out an alarm and my boy is falling quickly into that same routine.
Damn, my son just turned 1 year old and I'm thrilled to say he smashes that recommended serving size daily! We knew he was a big eater but compared to the recommended serving sizes he eats like a Roman emperor 🤣
With serving sizes I often found that putting a couple of bites at a time out for them ultimately resulted in more food eaten than if I'd put a full plate of food out. And like he mentioned if they didn't eat then less went to waste.
You've created a lot of great videos, but this is by far the most helpful videos. Loving my kids this way helps break the cycle of older/unhealthy parenting techniques.
Is it me or this guys voice sounds very similar to Ryan Reynolds’s ? Lol my man good tips! As a Spanish brother myself I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. I have 2 under 2 and some days it’s just insanity BUT thanks to God who gives my wife and I the patience and love to continue. 100% helps a ton to get on their level and acknowledge their emotion, I’ll often get my toddle mid tantrum to settle down when I say something like, “hey I can see your upset? It’s no fun when -blank- doesn’t go the way you wanted right ?” I have a new level of respect for my parents and how tough that was to raise me and 7 others 😅
Your stuff has always been amazing. Truth is, we have to do a lot of unlearnings from how we were raised to raise better humans. Food was a great example of that, same with anger as a teaching approach. Onward and upward friends.
I rarely raise my voice to my 16 most old. The only occasion is if she's about to seriously injure herself. Running to the road, trying to grab a hot pan/open oven...etc
I've got a question. My 2 year old still can't talk yet and so when she gets angry she proceeds to hit me. I've been trying to combat this, but time outs are not working. Any advice on how to encourage her to express her anger without the hitting?
This is a good behavioral question. Unfortunately I don't have the experience nor the expertise to advise on this but I would highly recommend you looking to the following experts that can provide detailed help: biglittlefeelings.com/ www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/ www.goodinside.com/
Jocelyn, I highly recommend baby sign language! There are many videos on it and Google images of charts! It took my one year old two to three days to learn one, don't know if she's a fast learner but they learn it so quickly! She knows "more", "water", "milk" etc, and you can come up with your own too! It helps them communicate with you and makes the whole thing less frustrating for both you and baby, I promise! x
What If their feelings aren't accurate, should we still be validating wrong or inaccurate feelings? Or trying to explain to them what happened in reality vs in their perception?
Feelings are subjective. There’s no “wrong way” to feel. It may be based on inaccurate information, but feelings are valid regardless of perception. It’s our job as parents to help them learn how to manage them vs. just suppressing them or telling them that their feelings are “wrong”.
Creators can have affiliate links/codes and share products/services they genuinely like without being paid or asked to do so. I bought the course myself and asked for a code from Meg and Judy because I loved what they were doing.
You didn't address any repercussions or explain to him why it isn't okay to lash out at mum out of frustration. He just cried and went on his way after the Lego incident. :/ Could have been a great teaching moment in respect and emotion handling.
This was soooo good! Another key tip for new dads is to not be to hard on yourself! You are doing good and your kids love you. Just knowing that you found this comment I can tell that you are trying to do good by your family! Relax and enjoy the ride!
Absolutely a good thing to keep in mind. Thanks for that tidbit man.
Also, don’t be so hard on your wife (talking to myself).
if im being completely honest this almost made me cry thank you!
Great stuff. Thanks for posting. In summary...
Tip 1: Give toddler smaller portions
Tip 2: Love Conquers anger - get down to their level, open arms, empathize.
Tip 3: Messy play areas ok; spurs creativity
Tip 4: You are allowed to NOT play with your kids
Tip 5: Create special rituals / routines (occasional treats, e.g. video game time, pizza / movie Friday, walks after school.
Great tips! Thank you for this!
I read something this week that really resonated with me: your power as a parent does not lie on being louder, stronger or older. Your power is in your calmness.
If you learn how to remain calm when it feels like your kids are losing it. You win. Every single time.
I wouldn't say your calmness is your power its being wise enough to know when you should be calm and when you should be loud. Too many people take this approach to the extreme and try to be calm no matter the situation. There are situations where being loud is warranted and even necessary.
@@mekko1413 you can be firm and calm at the same time, loudness has no particular benefits
Great advice, I love seeing guys help support each other through this amazing journey of fatherhood.
Another thing I would add for us guys because I know a lot of us struggle with this: Tell your kids you love them EVERY day and how grateful you are to be their dad. Get on their level and touch their face. LOTS of physical touch with your little ones.
Something I figured out early on was to lower my expectations. My kid doesn't know. When she tears up paper and makes a mess, she has literally never torn something up before, she is learning what that is like and the consequences. When she gets rough with our pets, she doesn't know any better, she is learning how to behave in this world. When I stopped expecting basically anything from my daughter besides that she grow and slowly understand our guidance and discipline over time I became a much better dad.
This is amazing!!!
Had a moment with my son today when he was giving my wife a tough time. And I had the temptation to go angry into the situation.
I ended up going with an understanding but stern/directive approach (most importantly not angry) and I saw his response was way better than if I had gone in angry. These tips are universal!
Awesome video. Hope you do more toddler focused videos as I'm in the early toddler stages.
I've got a 15 month old. A fun ritual we've started to do every once and awhile before bath time is chase each other around the house. He's up and moving pretty quick so I'll either let him chase me or I'll "run" after him. He loves it, laughs the whole time, and it wears him out before we start the bedtime routine. Also gives mom a a moment to herself if she's coming off a full day of work/dinner/etc.
Moving forward a lot of the focus will on this channel will largely be focused on toddler and kid-related topics my family has gotten older. But we'll sprinkle in some baby stuff as well.
Great tips for feeding and descalating your child's temper. My husband uses those types of descalation methods at his job and has even helped me calm down this way.
I’m a single father and my son is a year and a half. I clicked on this soon as I saw the title!
Very well spoken. I like that you explain why you say to do the things that you do. makes it easier to want to do them
Great list! My tip is having a small basket of toddler's socks by their shoes. It has been a game changer in my house.
Thank you so much! I'm about to start a channel myself about parenting but just hearing these are so helpful! I want to be able to share what knowledge and wisdom I have but more over, I want to be a great student. I know there is so much to learn about parenting and like I said before, this content is awesome! Keep up the good work and I am now a subscriber.
Regarding tip #4, please know that I'm not saying to "neglect" your kids. The point is to know that you don't constantly have to feel pressure to be the sole source of entertainment and activity.
Helpful links regarding things I mentioned in the video -
Join our private Discord community for new/expectant dads: bit.ly/3rcdk7r
Courses for new dads: www.fatherfigured.com/
AAP Toddler Servings information: bit.ly/3EZyo9p
Feeding Littles Courses: feedinglittles.com/ (Use DADVERB for $10 off)
Creating a Yes Space: bit.ly/3gLWMkE
Creating a Yes Space" bit.ly/3FjPS0v
Busy Toddler Independent Play: bit.ly/3TDnMRX
Jerrica Sannes: bit.ly/3W37CTz
During Xmas for one of our advent ideas we did a glow stick bath and the kids loved playing in the bath bubbles with their glow sticks. Changed up bath time a bit and definitely will be something we incorporate more.
Loved all the tips! Thanks for sharing!
That tip 2 portion i can vouch for that, My daughter is special needs, she has delayed learning. she is 12 but has the mind of a 5 yr old. When she is getting seriously frustrated, just like Dad Verb guy said. It looks logical to me but not to her, but i get down give her a hug, and then talk to her and help her out.
Hey man, I was just thinking about you, my kids are growing fast and some of your older videos prepped me well, I just stopped being suggested your videos I just assumed you stop uploading, good to see you still staying consistent and helping the dads out there
Tip 2 hit me hard. It’s a struggle right now that I know I need to change how I go into it.
Honestly man, it's hard for me too. But at least the tip is out there so guys can be more conscious of the tactic. But it's definitely not easy and some kids are just wired to be tougher to handle.
Dude, thanks for the great tips. Got a toddler now so definitely looking forward to more of these videos.
Haha- your summary in the first 13 seconds of live with a toddler is SPOT ON- my youngest is 2.5yrs old right now and you nailed life with her right now!
Needed this appreciate you dadverb
While the tips for leading with love are great, in the situation where the kid is being rude towards mom, negative reinforcement is appropriate, but it has to be done correctly and consistently.
The problem is that parents are usually really random with when they correct with anger. They usually get mad so often kids can’t really understand what they did wrong.
Choose your battles carefully and then be 100% consistent with those.
Nice tips.
This was a much needed video. Thanks for all the tips!
Thanks for the great advice brother and keep them coming!
Thank you so much for your video's. It has helped me a ton. My son is two and our nightly routine is dinner, bath, and then 30-45min of wrestling/rough housing. He has so much energy and only sleeps about 6 hours at night (which i am told i was the same) I have to help him release that energy otherwise its 4hours of sleep up at midnight to play and back to sleep at 2 until 6am. It varies but i am sure there are others out there have similar issues. I was a light sleeper as a baby and never was a napper even to this day at 43 i can't sleep until its bed time. I am alseep by 9 and up at 4am with out an alarm and my boy is falling quickly into that same routine.
Bro, how are you? Glad to see you growing as a dad! Your amazing I’ve got a 17 year old man child. Your tips are great advice.
This is such great content! Thank you!!!
Damn, my son just turned 1 year old and I'm thrilled to say he smashes that recommended serving size daily! We knew he was a big eater but compared to the recommended serving sizes he eats like a Roman emperor 🤣
With serving sizes I often found that putting a couple of bites at a time out for them ultimately resulted in more food eaten than if I'd put a full plate of food out. And like he mentioned if they didn't eat then less went to waste.
Awesome video! Thanks brother!
Thanks for sharing it through!!!
Good tips. Gained a follower. Love to see more
Such a valuable video. I needed this today thank you
Great tips! Glad I stumbled across this video, Subscribed!
Awesome! Thank you!
Thank you for this video! Amazing!
You've created a lot of great videos, but this is by far the most helpful videos. Loving my kids this way helps break the cycle of older/unhealthy parenting techniques.
Amen.
Great video and information!
Good tips thanks
Thank you for the video!
Glad to see a new video!
I think I have that same shirt. Target? Oh yeah, also great video, liked and subscribed 👍
Subscribed. Great video.
Such a great video with so much amazing information! Easily one of your best ever.
Thanks man 🙌🏼
Is it me or this guys voice sounds very similar to Ryan Reynolds’s ? Lol my man good tips! As a Spanish brother myself I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. I have 2 under 2 and some days it’s just insanity BUT thanks to God who gives my wife and I the patience and love to continue. 100% helps a ton to get on their level and acknowledge their emotion, I’ll often get my toddle mid tantrum to settle down when I say something like, “hey I can see your upset? It’s no fun when -blank- doesn’t go the way you wanted right ?”
I have a new level of respect for my parents and how tough that was to raise me and 7 others 😅
Thank for sharing. ❤️
Your stuff has always been amazing. Truth is, we have to do a lot of unlearnings from how we were raised to raise better humans. Food was a great example of that, same with anger as a teaching approach. Onward and upward friends.
Thank you.
My baby is only 7 months but I’m definitely keeping this for my future toddler! Thank you for doing this.
Dope video. Definitely gon’ implement some of these!
Glad this helped man!
Dude! Thank you!
Bro, you hit a solid three on toddler hoop 😂 🏀
Thanks for the help man
Happy to help
Good stuff man!
This is great and very true
Thank you 😊
I rarely raise my voice to my 16 most old. The only occasion is if she's about to seriously injure herself. Running to the road, trying to grab a hot pan/open oven...etc
Just serve Michelin star portion. Or high end restaurants are serving toddler portion.
First TH-cam comment. Great video need this.
I've got a question. My 2 year old still can't talk yet and so when she gets angry she proceeds to hit me. I've been trying to combat this, but time outs are not working. Any advice on how to encourage her to express her anger without the hitting?
This is a good behavioral question. Unfortunately I don't have the experience nor the expertise to advise on this but I would highly recommend you looking to the following experts that can provide detailed help:
biglittlefeelings.com/
www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/
www.goodinside.com/
Jocelyn, I highly recommend baby sign language! There are many videos on it and Google images of charts! It took my one year old two to three days to learn one, don't know if she's a fast learner but they learn it so quickly! She knows "more", "water", "milk" etc, and you can come up with your own too! It helps them communicate with you and makes the whole thing less frustrating for both you and baby, I promise! x
I cant believe I went from baby to toddler this fast😮
Time flies man!
What If their feelings aren't accurate, should we still be validating wrong or inaccurate feelings? Or trying to explain to them what happened in reality vs in their perception?
Feelings are subjective. There’s no “wrong way” to feel. It may be based on inaccurate information, but feelings are valid regardless of perception. It’s our job as parents to help them learn how to manage them vs. just suppressing them or telling them that their feelings are “wrong”.
3:20 it's not a sponsorship but you have a discount code....
Creators can have affiliate links/codes and share products/services they genuinely like without being paid or asked to do so. I bought the course myself and asked for a code from Meg and Judy because I loved what they were doing.
TIP 6. If the phone rings and you are expecting that call, answer it.
Kind of goes along with independent play , to not to do something for your child that they are capable of doing for themselves.
have lots of money, it helps
“Don’t interru-” *TH-cam ad starts
I was literally watching my own playback for errors and sat through the ad spots right at pivotal spots too hahaha
Answered a lot of my question good looking G
Honestly, “embrace the mess” is huuuuge. There is NO stopping it, the kids are walking hurricanes.
I can't listen to my kids "body" or he will just eat chips, soda, and candy all day lol
Why am i watching this i’m miserably single
Great tips but most of your scenarios were for kids older than toddlers ( 2 and 3 year olds can not play Mario kart or express what has them so mad)
You didn't address any repercussions or explain to him why it isn't okay to lash out at mum out of frustration. He just cried and went on his way after the Lego incident. :/
Could have been a great teaching moment in respect and emotion handling.
We had our teaching moment. It just didn't happen during that window.
@@dadverb I love it!
Boredom breeds creativity, in Toddlers, however, an indle mind is a devil's playground for adults.
Summary: don’t try to change your toddler won’t work… change yourself
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Now, how do I get my kid to eat veggies?
what has megan done to her face??
Be careful not to be too much of a softie and raise a monster
Nice videos
But kinda disgusting that we have to pay to join your discord
Why is your forehead so brown