Adam Ruins Everything - Why Divorce is Actually a Good Thing
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- Everyone says half of all marriages end in divorce, but it's not actually true.
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Adam Ruins Everything - Why Divorce is Actually a Good Thing
"My husband is trying to kill me."
"And where is this husband?"
"Knife shopping."
I feel guilty for laughing.
Don't
Icyclear same
i see what you did there
you should feel guilty for laughing that skit wasnt even funny
@@waflletoast11 and yet I don't
My parents got divorced when I was around 6 years old, and before that every day they would be yelling and screaming at each other and sometimes I would hide in a closet with a cat because they scared me. And I would hide in my moms room and lock my dad out while she smokes, he would somehow unlock the door and come in just to scream at her for no damn reason and one time I told him to knock it off and he punched me in the chest (he was drunk at that time but still doesn’t make it right). So divorce can be a good thing for children, helps them get away from their parents screaming at each other and maybe away from an abusive parent in general.
I am married now. I and my wife screamed at each other many times. My boy is only 1yo. I have so much hope he will lead a good life in the future. Your story is a lesson for me. Thx for sharing.
Yeah, my parents acted the same way, always screaming and fighting with each other while my sister and I would hide out somewhere. We begged our mother to leave my dad for as long as I can remember, but she didn't want to be "a failure of a wife" so she didn't until we where 18 & 19. We need to get rid of this awful stigmata that toxic marrage is still better than divorce.
My parents never had any arguments in front of me, and I never learned how to resolve conflict in a normal way and I'm a pushover.
So, whom are you living with now, your mother.
stop writing paragraphs on youtube
It isn’t “ruining a happy marriage”!
If they’re getting divorced they weren’t happy!
this is more a reflection of why did they get married in the first place? statistics should be, theres a lot of spontaneous superficial marriages that are leading to divorces, and even then some may not because of denial
Adam is wrong about the divorce rate. It’s over 50%. And he neglects to mention it’s 70-% if you marry someone who already has children. And it’s even higher if your between the ages of 18 and 25. And also he doesn’t mention how many people who do habitate, which is something that started in the 60’s. And also kids are dating at a much younger age which will lead to marrying young which will lead to more divorces..just sayin.
@@matthewcastillo9951 where are your sources
YawnDeer , just google it. This is also what is always being said on talk radio.
@@matthewcastillo9951 google and talk radios are unreliable/secondary sources that are not accurate
'no, it means a bad marriage is over' 👍
Makes sense: if a relationship isn't going to work, probably better to not have to stay in it.
You might never need it, but it is good that divorce is an option if necessary.
Still takes away 50%
Until it enslaves men
@@legendaresn6983 how you being lonely I wouldn't care until we both are proceeded to marry
@@aliezahjuarez1212 wat
Yes when those marriages are actually bad. But less than 25% of marriages are toxic or bad. This only encourages people to run from problems not solve troubled relationships.
100% of all divorces start with marriage though.
no duh
I am agree to the Top.
That's the joke, Jody
Prove it
Where are your sources?
"divorce means a happy marriage is over"
"no it means that a bad marriage is over"
any one else get a mini mind blow.
Me. I did. If things go to a point of no return and divorce becomes a matter of time, then hurry up, sort things up with kids and property and so on, and do it.
No, it means the value of marriages has decreased since anyone can get a divorce now without good reasons AND men suffer from it much more than women do.
Do you really think that marriages where people want a divorce are really that great to begin with?
The Real Prunebutt I really think that some people want to get divorced because they're not willing to solve their issues.
If you're not willing to resolve your issues with a person, why spend your life with them?
My parents bickered often as a child. and I learned an important lesson never to buy your wife car parts for Christmas. But they still had dinner almost every day at the table and talked about their day. Sometimes my father would go up to the cottage and do his thing on the weekend, while my mother needed her space but they never stopped loving each other. Now they're old in their late 50s and relaxed. 29 years last June and I'm getting married later this month. I told my fiancee we're shooting for 60 years, my grandpa and Nan were married for 57 years but unfortunately for the last three years she was living in a care home but that didn't stop my grandpa because he bought a house next door and visited her almost every day until she passed last November
tucker12435 go you! you got a great example to follow but don't forget you will change and so will your partner. kids change things and the more you have the more things change. I'd recommend starting with a newborn animal that has to be bottle fed when you get it (as in before eyes opening if you can) its a good start up trial. wish the two of you the best
I dont think adam ruined anything in this vid, I think he improved it actually, well the outlook per se
He ruined marriage
@@yoholup19 it was already ruined by the fact that in most cases when a couple breaks up half of a persons earnings get pushed to another, including child support. Today marriage is just a big scam, if you do like somebody alot most of the time the best case senario is just to be their gf/bf, if you are fine with being married you dont need to take it from me. if you want to know more go to the adam ruins weddings video.
Everyone is saying "THINK OF THE CHILDREN" But, honestly, if the relationship is toxic, the home life will be toxic, and the child will grow up in a toxic environment and become toxic.
And, yes, child psychologists will say that divorce is bad for the children, but maybe that's not divorce's fault, so much as the way we handle it? The stigma of coming from a "broken home"? How some parents will, intentionally or not, drag the kid into arguments that the parents shouldn't even be having in earshot of them? The polarization in the house? I think that every civilly divorced couple with a kid should say this, word for word: "We both love you, we just couldn't love each other anymore." Make sure the kid spends enough time with both parents, just not in the same room if you know there's going to be a fight.
Divorce may not be the cause of all the mental scarring we attribute to it. Maybe it's just the way we handle divorce and all the stigma around the concept of divorce. Is there a way to commission scientific study on this? If so, tell me! I will pay money for a study done and I don't care if I'm wrong. What I will be mad at is if they completely dismiss my idea and say "That's ridiculous, no one cares anyway!" Because I care.
I want to KNOW, will a child have better mental heath if they have parents in a toxic relationship that stay together for them, or parents that divorced out of a toxic relationship and don't have any fights around the kid and make absolutely clear that this whole divorce thing has nothing to do with them? Of course, the control would be a kid who ha parents that are still married and are in a healthy relationship, but that isn't the case for everyone.
And, just on a side note, if I were a kid who's parents are staying in a toxic relationship with each other for me, I would feel really bad and I would think that I was the one making the suffering happen, which, if you're in that situation, is completely false. You're not the one making the suffering happen, the stigma against divorce is the one making the suffering happen.
Some people say that their parents got divorced and it ruined their life. I say if you can't handle your parents getting divorced how are you ever going to handle a breakup of your own?
ToeKnee Balony This comment is actually very well written and has an interesting hypothesis.
Actually That is very similar to my predicament. My mom was domestically abused by my biological farther for 9 years and she had me at 21 and only divorced because he wanted to take me out of school. I was only 4 so it wouldn't have been as much as a shock to a child who was say 6 but I was never scarred, we lived with my grand parents till I was about 7 then my mom re married and rented out a house of our own. I live a happy life now and don't even hate my sperm donor I just don't care about him, he was never a parent to me but I guess that's the problem :/
Uhh we didn't ask for your life story
Lmao you have $100K laying around to fund a study?
This has already been researched extensively. Divorce is inherently harmful. It creates stress and difficulty forming relationships. Learn how to use a library before you start thinking of yourself as a social scientist.
"Ending a good marriage"
DO-
DO PEOPLE ACTUALLY THINK DIVORCE ENDS GOOD MARRIAGES?
Ozzie 177 I KNOW RIGHT
WHY ARE WE TYPING IN ALL CAPS?
It is used to emphasize a point.
We are very passionate.
Well, if it was a good marriage, there will be no divorce in the first place
"And where is this husband?"
"Knife shopping"
LOL
It's even better if you just add in the previous and next lines. "My husband is trying to kill me!" "And where is this... Husband?" "Knife shopping..." "No dice!"
My husband is just killing some more people no big problem
ha
Divorce horse do your thing
This was more of an "Adam makes it all better".
Exactly! The radical left wants the gays to marry, just so they can divorce each other! A brilliant plan!
Exactly what I was about to comment
Oh boy...
K
He ends the TV episodes with 1 positive statement to let the show end on a good note.
Divorce is not bad, Bad Marriage is. Well said.
Bad Marriage is Bad? never would have guessed
+TheGingerBreadMania Me either
And what makes Most marriages Bad?
+Rensune no one is really saying marriage is bad, just advertising has created expensive traditions that Americans feel must have in a marriage
Bad marriages can be turned into good marriages with time and effort. Thats what people used to do.
I've been saving up for a divorce in case I ever get married.
Mark?
+SomeDudeOnline smart
Bad day?
i dropped my phone and laughed really hard. thank you
quote from It's a Wonderful Life
Just about to say, if your parents divorce, they're most likely protecting you from future trauma. It's a good decision. As I know from experience it sucks at first and you feel like you're living two lives, but then you remember your parents fighting and how some of your friends have parents that keep each other up yelling at them. In the end, it's not gonna completely ruin your childhood. It's probably a good call.
My parents are divorced but things arent going well for us. If my father was still with us, my brother would have stopped hanging out with degenerates and not had made bad choices. then I think that they'd argue a lot too.
Princess Lunafreya I don't know you but you might want to think about why you're parents were divorced and how that would have affected you now
Kids need the father 90% of the time@@obsessedwithotomegames3788
As a kid of divorce, I'm actually kinda glad it DOES exist as an option for people in bad relationships. Is it misused? Certainly, as is any means of getting money, but I'd rather there be an option that gets misused that no option for someone in an abusive relationship, especially when kids are involved.
Thanks for your opinion! hope this shows some light to some people
Indeed. The problem with divorce in the US is that alamony still exists (seperate from child support), and that proceedings have to go through the court system. In Sweeden divorce is performed bu an accountant deciding the assets of the marraige, and alimony onlu lasts for 6 months.
and when mom and dad abuse the children by manipulating and abusing them, screaming at them for loving the other parent you think that is healthy? children dont need trauma because mom and dad decided to break up and have a brutal custody battle.
+Edward Nashton Damn. Never thought about it that way. There's some sick people out there
Edward Nashton I never said that was healthy, nor am I here to defend it. As a matter of fact my parents DIDN'T do that.
Besides, in the example of a divorce you bring forward, that's the perfect example of a marriage that shouldn't still be together in the first place. When both sides have had a failure to work together on such a front, yeah, divorce isn't exactly good for the kids, but a broken marriage sure as hell isn't either.
Sometimes Adam doesn't ruin everything...the truth does
Jesus that was deep...
no, feminism is ruining everything, just look at EU. Now feminism welcome illegal immigration, suppress news on crime by illegals, and yes, even support pedophilla
jack schitt *asks for source or at least experience in detail*
Typical Emily Agreed, the truth is literally everything, and is more big than Adam alone
jack schitt You're too dumb to live in Europe anyways
son your father and I are having a divorce.
YAY TWO CHRISTMASES!!!
I was honestly jealous of all the divorced parent kids in my school! My parents stayed together and are still miserable, angry, depressed. As a product of a 'good marriage' (on the outside) I am completely and utterly against marriage as an institute and will never subject myself to that! If I find someone compatible that I love, I can date, exchange rings, throw a party/reilgious ceremony, co-purchase a home, set up a will to leave them anything after I die, and do pretty much all the important stuff I value.
@@LDT7Y Yeah my parents should have divorced each other. I hate when people tell me divorce is worse.
@@runningsrage5895 Exactly! My parent's have wasted their lives trying and failing to force things to work with the wrong person and (now in old age) the realisation has really hit them hard. Both had the chance to be with someone else that would have made them happy, and they refused 'on principle'. I never want to end up like them. It's horrible to watch now.
Some people will argue 'there is no right or wrong person for you' but I strongly disagree with this. Everyone is a mix of different traits and needs a partner that has traits that matches theirs (or at least enough of them to make it work). Too many people decide to marry on the basis of one specific trait (appearance) and ignore everything else. That trait matters far less as you get older, and other traits matter far more. You can also cosmetically fix that trait these days, so it's far more important to make sure you match in other (harder/impossible to fix) areas.
Truuuuuu
My parents got divorced and they've never been happier. They're great friends, my dad is engaged and my mom is studying pharmaceuticals so she can be a paramedic so she can do what she really loves, helping people.
if they get along so well, why don't they live together?
It's one thing to be great friends, and it's a whole nother thing to live with a person.
Happy for you then
Lily Born you were a mistake then
Doubt it lol theyre just good at keeping their issues from your eye
Everyone argues divorce with the excuse "But think of the children!" Well, coming from a child of a divorced couple, my parent's divorce is one of the best things that ever happened to my siblings and I. I'm happy my brother was young enough when they finally separated that he won't remember the years of unhappy marriage they had. The arguments were explosive and at one point my parents got physical with each other. They tried to stay together because they asked what I, a ten year old little kid at the time, wanted. I obviously asked them to try and work it out, and as I explained previously, the results were disastrous. My parents are both much happier now, and my family has never been happier.
same.
aenjgeal unfortunately not everyone has a happy ending when my parents divorced we couldn't afford our house for reasons I'm not going to share and they still struggle with money to this day
Anecdotal Evidence. I'm happy for you but it seems you're one in a million.
I can attest to this, same thing for me but I actually begged my parents for them to divorce from a very young age.
It definitely took a huge toll on my developmental years as a teenager having to deal with the dysfunctional marriage.
Even to today my parents are just starting to go through the process after starting it over 5 years ago starting with a fake restraining order on my mother that made her homeless in the streets with nothing from a 25 year marriage together. Going through a process of the first 2 years of trials, my father, in order take the upper hand, was able to embezzle everything made from the marriage and delay any time due to the US justice system working slow cause of having 3 hearings a year, him canceling them of course. its finally reaching its end and my father will finally have justice done, with many criminal charges that will be placed on him.
I would agree with you if I wasn't with the wrong parent. My mom kicked me out of the house three times out of arguments we've had and the times she took my money with out my permission. thank god I was able to find my own place
Wait isn't the divorce rate down because more people don't get married anymore and just cohabitate?
Jonathan Helas yeah
Mayhaps.
No its in percent i think
The rate is not the amount. Its a percentage
That might be part of it. Feminism was in full swing in the 70s and 80s and was affecting the traditional marriages that started in the 50s and 60s. Now, more people think feminism is toxic and less people strive to have traditional marriages, so there is less of a clash.
My parents got divorced and my mom has never been happier. Also the "think about the children" if my parents are happy and I don't have to see that toxic relationship ever again then I'm happy.
Yeah, when you get OVERpaid in alimony and child support and you get the primary custody of the kids no wonder you are happy.
someone said marriage is like a hand grenade pull the ring and bang the house is gone
Yup
Wow that's.... pretty good. well bad, but a good analogy
To quote the play Bullets Over Broadway, "Marriage is an important decision. Like suicide!"
I don't know many men in my life who could even afford a house wo their wives income .if you marry a chick who contributed nothing but having babies that's your bad you know what you're getting into
Yea when a woman getting divorced she is a weak lady she must be supported
But when she is not then she is a strong lady.....
So much for your "GENDER EQUALITY"
Louis ck said this years ago.. "Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it's true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. That would be sad. If two people were married and ... they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has happened zero times."
but it is sad that the marriage wasn't good and divorce kind of symbolises that
Better than living with two people who hate each other! Trust me! I WISH my parents had gotten divorced!
That's very true.
Lois ck is legit the best comedian ever.
Venu GOPAL JOSHI good o'l Adam not mentioning how women almost always get the children unless proven a bad parent
I mean, who you love shouldn't require a legally-binding government contract to begin with...
Good thing it doesn't. It begins with intial interest and is cultivated by dating and getting to know each other. Tada
Kannonball You misses the point. He’s talking about getting a marriage certificate, which isn’t necessary to have a ceremony and party to celebrate a couple’s new life together. That way if 7 years down the line they want to split, there is no reason to involve the family court system.
@@David-fw4ly Except for when it's not an amicable divorce and children are involved. Then, a court getting involved is unfortunate but necessary. Really, it just depends how you view marriage. If you see it as just "I'm committing to you and only you in this relationship" you wouldn't need paperwork. But, because we no longer live in a simple society, the paperwork assures things like shared benefits, medical protection and so on and so forth.
But marriage can make things like finances easier
Yeah but at its core marriage is just a societal contract to bone with the intent to make babies and you do generally want a contract for that. Children are expensive and infanticide is frowned upon after all so you want to make it crystal clear that if you bone that person and the two of you make a baby, you two will be paying for it. As long as you've legally agreed to do that in a marriage ceremony witnessed by your community--traditionally a ceremony in which the man promises financial support while the woman promises fidelity--you are free to bone.
The advent of birth control and paternity tests have made marriage much more a testament to twue luv than it used to be.
No-Fault divorce was one of the few good things Reagan did. Though he got it wrong with Trickle-Down Economics and neglecting the AIDS epidemic, among other things, he did a lot of good with divorce laws.
However Adam has a tendency of twisting around facts in his crazy ideas
Iran-contra
"The four pillars of Reagan's economic policy were to reduce the growth of government spending, reduce the federal income tax and capital gains tax, reduce government regulation, and tighten the money supply in order to reduce inflation." Trickle Down Economics is a liberal buzzword. These are Reagan's actual economic plan. Haven't looked into the aids thing though.
Explain me what's is trickle down economy?!
@@vishnuswaroopgopalakrishna9588 a fairy tale told by rich people to poor people.
Why would you animate the jury scene but do that horrifying Reagan makeup?
😂😂😂
Because Reagan can only be accurately animated as an angry spiderperson with a face punctured by dozens of rusty nails and they didn't think advertisers would like it.
+Gublinch Scrivener Reagan was the best president ever
Many certainly believe so. Many believe Ayn Rand is a good philosopher, and that goblins are not really, *really* scary. These are things I cannot agree with. Ronald Reagan's economic plan is now America's dominant model, and whether you like him or not will depend in large part on whether you like it or not.
Not really. The economic model we have now has been completely distorted to be much more, "conservative" (not in the literal sense), than what Regan implemented.
Well yeah when you put it that way it is a good thing.
Divorce is a good thing.
The reasons for divorce is the bad part.
NO! Just look at statics of single parent house hold children, they are awful.
@@bornfree8073 Honestly, staying with toxic and abusive parents hurts the child more than a divorce
@Vlavitir glutginskiya i totally agree with you.
@@bornfree8073 ok boomer
@what we must be that only happens if the wife isn't working and just at home minding the kids, which nowadays isn't an option due to the cost of living
Not getting married is even better.
Movie Games i like how your brain works.👌
Movie Games
Preach
Agree
Not really. Countries with majority high numbers of non married people are home to high numbers of alcoholics and diseases of sexual types.
Robert McMann
Stats?
"What about the children?" I'm sure the children don't want to see their parents fight and be dragged into fights as well.
I'm glad my mother divorced my dad, as much as I loved the being together and all the good times we all had as a family and how much love they had for each other, things happen that make people come apart it's sad at first but then you realize it's a good thing because you don't want your parents to be upset .
See this is why I don't understand divorce or marriage. Your parents loved each other but still got a divorce? My parents separated because my dad was abusive. See I could never understand why some gets a divorce unless it is abusive marriage or infidelity. I just don't get it.
i've said it before and i'll say it again: American divorce rates and the great accessibility to divorce is the one thing i am most proud of in American society. Back when divorce was damn near impossible and extremely frowned upon, people would be trapped in abusive or unhappy marriages all because they were pressured to marry off quickly and women in particular would go from being under the ownership of their fathers to the ownership of their husbands.
"my great grandparents were together for 75 years! they made the rough times work!"
your great grandfather beat your great grandmother and she couldn't leave.
haha
Most people are not monsters, most people don’t beat their spouses even if unhappy. That’s not most peoples go to response to crap.
I do have great grand parents who got married young. Granny was orphaned with five younger siblings to feed and house, Grandpa actually had some land he owned. He married for comfort and pressure from ailing parents to hurry up and marry, without knowing about the kids.
She was like 15 and said she was 19, he was 21. They are still married and their never has been abuse. She is not even five feet tall, he’s almost six feet. She wears the pants in the relationship.
Not all pressure marriages are bad. Just like all arranged marriage are not going to be miserable.
Why is it actually good divorce ratings getting up? I don’t understand how ruining a children’s life is good, I understand the importance of divorce, and most people don’t abuse each other, they love or are simply simpathetic, divorce for the parents is a good thing, but for the future generations, im not that convinced
Matias Mendes plus love is a horrible reason to get married. What many people call love is actually just lust. You fall in and out of lust and love easy enough. That pops up in the average intro to psychology class. It’s well known. Long term relationships will have times when they don’t want to be near each other. But this is not a reason to devorce. “I’m not happy” is such a self centered way to think about a relationship. A marriage is not about what MakeS YOU happy. It’s about what is best for your spouse and your family.
If you have a drug problem and your spouse is a good spouse then will bug you about it. This will not make you happy.
Everyone knows that your parents will SEEM to make your life a living hell growing up. Then one day you look back and realize they loved you and WANTED to make sure you were safe and happy. And they did not let you go out drinking out of love, not to make you “uncool”.
In the same way a good spouse does try to help you become a better person. But being told “your not perfect” is never pleasant. You will not be “happy” if your in the wrong.
I firmly believe good marriages don't end in divorce. If they are ending, its because someone doesn't want to be there. Let these bad relationships die so they can go find happiness. That's my opinion.
Divorce is horrible, but generally I agree, that if you aren't happy together first try to fix it, then divorce.
people that say divorce is terrible never grew up in a household with 2 parents that hate each other
creative username
I think you don't understand.
"IF you aren't happy together first try to fix it, then divorce"
Yes if your parents fought I'm sorry, they should have worked things out or separated.
However statistics prove that children of divorced parents end up worse then their counterparts with both parents in a home.
Source? I mean, that's kind of a vague statement to make. Worse how? Financially? Psychologically? Does their parents' divorce effect their relationships? And what benefit would come from a kid staying in a home with unhappily married parents?
He wasn't saying an unhappy couple should stay together for the children's sake. I'm pretty sure he meant that a happily married couple's children typically have a more enjoyably life than a divorced couples'.
if you marriage is suck and male just can't get away with you wife just divorce
This show should be called Adam HELPS everything
No, Adam ruins everything sounds cool.
For the people who are saying that divorce is bad because it "harms the children":
My parents were divorced when I was around 4 (currently 18). My mother is manic-depressive and is very reluctant to take any medications prescribed to her. This makes her VERY unstable, thus her actions are unpredictable and oftentimes dangerous. If they had stayed married, there is no telling as what more damage she could have caused to myself and the rest of our family.
Think more outside the box next time.
ok so one kid had a good experience. Good for you.
Lukaluka So did this one kid, and you'll find more in the comments
whateverworksman Actually in a lot of cases divorces are very traumatizing for the children involved, this may not be a reason to not divorce at all, but this is certainly a reason to handle the divorce well, with as little fighting as possible (especially in front of the children) and with normal contact and cooperation in the upbringing of the child after the divorce. No matter how failed the marriage was, ex partners still need to be able to talk to each other, be able to be near each other and agree on decisions in the upbringing of their child if they don't want to traumatize it. Your scenario is probably quite extreme and doesn't compare to most cases, divorce is indeed bad for the children, just in some cases like yours the parents staying together might be worse.
Ikr? Mine got divorced when I was 11 (12 now) and its been less than a year but it has none nothing but end a terrible marriage. They just weren't compatible, enough said.
Just because your experience was good doesn't mean that it is good for everybody else. That is why people say "in lots of cases" or "in many cases".
Divorce sucks in the short term, but is beneficial in the long term
20centuryfox100 agreed. I was 8 when my parents split, and it was a horror-show. But now, its pretty cool actually. I have 7 step-siblings and more family then i could ever have had before. More love to go around.
Joe Smith Custody and child support is based off of who the primary caretaker was while married. That tends to be women. It’s not an attack on men, it’s a consequence of a sexist society that teaches men that women take care of the kids.
I missed this show so much! I'm so glad it's back!
You know it, brother.
We should also stop romanticising our grandparents 60 years of loveless marriage and fighting. They should've been divorced 30 years ago and the only reason they weren't is either stupid laws about it or societal pressure.
If peer pressure is the only thing keeping you together, you should be far far apart.
Amen for that. hehehe, I'm a divorce lawyer.
You of all people know that divorce is a business
thomas saucier
As opposed to what? An act of charity? There's always money involved in divorce cases.
How's business, by the way?
You should change your name to Hannibal Lecter because all lowyers do is devoure everyone they can and leave nothing but bones when they are done. Keep filling your belly with the wealth of broken homes.
because it turns what should be a negotiation between mutually accenting parties into a venal winner takes all scramble and that winner is inevitably not the couple but the legal fraternity. It probably makes the woman far more greedy than she otherwise would be, having another party there, in her ear. And with women being more suggestible, this is a recipe for the creation of a monster. "but you can get this, and this" .. "oh you think that he was being fair, but was he reallly fair with you" .. "Did you feel threatened at any point over any matter even if you initiated the conflict" .. "remember the kids have a stake in this too, they need to know that you can care for them" .. and so evil on.
That wasn't ruining it, just improving my opinion of it
It ruined your previous outlook on it.
“I tried to stab him with scissors”
“YES DICE”
I never thought she’d be happy to say that
This video is not about all divorce. The title is to broad. This video is about why LEGAL divorce is actually a good thing.
so? its still about divorce lol
So what if I was deceived? At least I learned something!
Captain Jack you wasnt deceived
That's...what a "divorce" is. If it's not legally finalized, it's a "separation."
What's an illegal divorce? A shotgun to the face and calling it quits?
My grandmother was trapped in an abusive marriage in the early 60s. She literally had to sneak her kids out of the house so they and she could be safe. Fast forward to the 2010's and my parents had a very civil divorce because my mom couldn't stand my dad. My parents are both way happier separate. They are right. Happy marriages never end in divorce. Once-happy marriages do, but divorce means it's been a looooong time since the marriage was happy
Still doesn't explain why the man loses his house and kids...
Prejudice and sexism, of course.
It's true that it's so much harder for the man to get the kids, even when the mother is unfit.
This is something that feminism actually aims to fix. Modern feminism is trying to show that 'traditional gender roles,' like the one that says the mother is naturally more nurturing than the father, are not actually correct. It brings both parties to an equal, where they can be judged solely by merit. It's a long way off from actually being equal in real life, but it will hopefully move that way for everyone's sake. A friend of a friend of mine literally had a hatchet thrown at him by his crazy ex, and she still has primary custody. Not sure how that one happened, other than that he doesn't actually have proof that the incident actually occurred. Female abuse to males is another travesty that needs to be taken seriously as well. Men aren't believed, which is just plain wrong.
The system is corrupted
+The visitor101 your corrupted
actually sarah thats something modern feminism does not want fixed...they passed a law recently in some state where men and women get equal custody is custody battles unless one if unfit and feminists are claiming its unfair for women to only get 50% custody when they are used to near full
Divorce is fine, but Lifetime Alimony isn't.
I agree. My mother and father split when I was 15 and they just agreed that my dad would send checks to us until my little brother was done with college and me and my mother both had paying jobs.
Alimony is incredibly rare these days. I used to work at a law firm that specialized in family law. I saw hundreds of divorces, many of them ugly. But no one ever got alimony.
+AmayaChosha but is it true that the woman has automatic right to half your stuff or is that myth
Ch0plet I think that all depends on why they are divorcing. I'm pretty sure the half your stuff thing only applies if the husband did something like cheating on her or something.
Each person has the right to half of the patrimony both people have at the time of the divorce, unless you made a previous agreement otherwise. In the past for sure that meant the (usually) stay at home wife, as part of a society, would get half the stuff the husband worked for. Which seems fair, since the husband and society would usually presure women not to work after marriage.
Divorce rates have gone down because fewer people are getting married.
Divorce rates are per married couple, not number of divorces overall.
Per married couple? I think you mean as a percentage of of overall marriage rate.
Regardless, women are no longer reliant on a man as bread winner. This is a good thing but it means women don't have to rely on men hence a lower marriage rate and fewer unhappy marriages.
Divorce rates per person have gone down because the average age of first marriage has gone up. After looking at divorce rates for the same age of first marriage the divorce rates have continued to go up.
It used to be, and, in some cases, still is.
yea that's what marriage has been about for a large majority of the human existence. sooo... yea.
Thank God that I got a divorce from my horrible marriage. People tried to tell me that it would ruin my life, but the marriage was ruining it. My life is better now than it's ever been and now I am free to be in a healthy relationship.
now do one on why divorce favors females heavily.
He might bring it up in the full episode on Monday.
He will not do that. That is not is stick . It is always horrible horrible man.
Ha ha, that would be awesome but this guy is super liberal, he's never gonna do that.
Or how men are actually the victims of physical, verbal abuse and domestic violence more often than women. Yet there are barely any shelters, helplines or other facilities for male victims.
+Halapecia shaniqua
while yes that does happen, women are abused more than men, the problem with men being abused is there isn't support in place, how ever there are far more cases of women being abused all over the world, and I'm pretty sure in no country the number of men being abused is more than women.
not that it isn't sick or terrible, honestly I don't see why it's so hard to put support in place for abused men
Sometimes only one partner wants a divorce and it's hell for the other
So they stay together and the person who wants to leave has to suffer?
Oh yeah because both parties should need to consent when breaking up "sarcasm"
If one partner isn't happy and wants out then the marriage is already over. When you love someone you want them to be happy even if it's at the cost of your own happiness. So if the other person insists that their spouse stay with them knowing that they're miserable that person isn't acting out of love but selfishness.
And it would be better if the partner who wants to leave was forced to stay?
minski76 There is a reason people get married it's not just another relationship you can walk out on if your partner abuses you then by all means go but otherwise you have a marriage to fix
He doesn't mention that until much more recently than most people would want to believe, a husband was legally allowed to force sex on his spouse, if you were married, no matter what he did, it wasn't legally defined as rape.
btw 1800s is when it was outlawed
Ummm... no, not even close. The criminalization of marital rape in the United States started in the mid-1970s and by 1993 marital rape became a crime in all 50 states. What was your source, I'm curious?
PtolemyJones Interesting that you only bring in dates when it's to prove someone else wrong but not when you're proving your own point.
+edward heaney in what way do those numbers not prove my point?
Actually, it was considered sexual assault. It's a good thing that it's now considered rape, but it did not go unpunished.
Now we can hope that female-on-male rape in the UK gets a similar legal redefinition.
As someone with divorced parents, it’s sad to see your family split but my dad had anger issues. His emotions could change from happy to mad in a couple minutes. He’s getting better and I still get to see him often. But divorce was something that was needed. My dad and mom argued a lot and my mom just didn’t love him anymore. So I see what you mean Adam. (Did...did I just have a normal conversation with someone on a TH-cam video? Yes, yes i did.)
Divorce is awesome that's if you don't factor in the woman taking half of everything then hitting you with Alimony, CHILD SUPPORT court, &, or lawyer fees! Yes Divorce is great.
Exactly, Divorce is only beneficial for women but screws men over.
Only if you get that kind of judge. I've had friends where their husbands took them to the cleaners because they made more money. Sometimes it's literally the wage gap or even social status. Some Judges will favour the man over the woman; unless there are kids involved. Kids are a game changer for everything.
MGTOW
TBF, alimony is being awarded less and less because most people have had careers before (and after) being married.
That said, men still often get a raw deal having to continue paying for a house they don't live in, pay for children they seldom or never get to see, and even when a court rules against the mother, the rulings are difficult to enforce because sending the mother to jail or making her pay a fine would adversely affect the children.
+Yummy_Gamer wage gap does not exist
Divorce is a solution to a bad situation and signs there is a problem. It is not a preferable thing on it's own.
Not that a divorce is actually good, but it is better than a sick marriage. Still the best is to marry and live a long life together
No the best is to not get married, perfect for your sanity not having to deal with anothers demands.
Well that is debatable, but the title of this video is a bit misleading
Nicolás Jiménez García protecting oneself from a court system designed to milk money from the richer of two parties, seems pretty protective to me.
Nicolás Jiménez García
I like that name.
No the best is whatever the person in question wants
Too long? Didn’t watch? Here’s the short version. It sucks that divorce is necessary, but when it is necessary, it’s a good thing that it’s available. It ends bad relationships, not good ones.
having divorced parents, i already knew this without the facts. when i was really young, i wanted my parents together again. but i ignored or just didn't realize how much of a good thing for me and my parents that divorce was. now my dad is happy with my step mom and my half brother on the way, and i love my mom all the same.
Sour grapes if I was ever heard it. It's call the best of a BAD situation. Hint the word BAD! You morons act as if your parents divorce was like going to Disneyland. You might be able to guard your own emotions in fantasy but it's not fooling anyone else around you.
-sigh- The more I read the comment section on TH-cam, the more my faith in humanity lessens.
Sophie Luvs Books Faith is for stupid people
hitch not true, its the opposite
GTAVALE stupid people are for faith?
Jonas Rains yes, and im actually retarded
I dont have that problem. I dont have any faith in humanity anyways
I love how in this episode, they praise Reagan and give him credit, but in the episode abt gun control, they criticize him and even imply he's a racist. It really shows how they know the world isn't black and white and they just wanna show the truth, not push any specific agenda.
Not push an agenda. That's funny.
@@jackcarraway4707 not pushing agendas on adam's show. You are either funny or naive. Stay that way
Well everything always have an agenda regardless. However the point is if your propose solution is good or not.
Imagine thinking that show dosent push an agenda lol
Adam leaves out negative information when it is about minorities. The Black Panthers charged into the California State Legislature fully armed while the legislature was in session. The Black Panthers did a January 6th riot before it was cool. California passed its first gun control law and, for the first time, made it a felony to come into the state Capitol building while armed.
Context: This all happened in 1969. 1969 was only two years after the Watts Riots in Los Angeles caused 34 deaths and one year after the nationwide riots following the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr. The Black Panthers took the rather extreme political stance that black citizens should be armed so that they can fight against racist police. Given the context, this was more or less a pro-rioters stance.
Hypothetically, if BLM today tried to take over a state capital building somewhere without strict gun control laws like Kentucky and if the affected legislature passed more gun control laws in response, would that make the state legislators racist?
You're forgetting quite a bit and making a very complex issue seem mundane. Financially divorce can be very devastating to both parties and if children are involved it can have a major impact on their lives. Divorce can be a better alternative to an abusive relationship but most causes for divorce are avoidable with counseling. My wife is the child of three divorces and it really tore apart her family...
Except the divorce is NOT what tore up the family. If people are ready for a divorce, the family already fell apart. It's already a bad situation for kids to be in. A home that involves your parents constantly fighting isn't a safe or happy place to be, and is borderline abusive even if none of it gets directed at the kids themselves.
The financial issue is definitely real, but it's just as real for single parents who were never married. The issue isn't that divorce ruins your financially, it's that legal costs are almost as absurd as medical bills, and there's no where's near enough support for single parents in our society. That problem could be addressed without trapping people in abusive or unhappy relationships.
Counseling isn't a solution unless people *want* it to be, and if people don't want it to be, suggesting counseling is selfish. People's romantic relationships don't revolve around anyone but themselves - not even the kids. And our society shouldn't be built in such a way that kids *need* two parents living in a single household in order to grow up happy and safe, in the first place.
On the TV show, he talked about how children are better off psychologically speaking living in a divorced family than living with unhappily married parents.
Lol, I'm glad my parents got divorced. Growing up, them being in the same room together was hell, it always ended in an argument. I hated things like parent teacher conferences, church events, graduations, etc. I can't even imagine living in a house that they both lived in. I'm sorry your wife had bad experiences with divorced parents but I doubt the divorce was the problem. In most cases, the marriage is the problem. I hope your wife is emotionally healing and knows that the parents choices are never the child's fault.
Notice how they only seem to care about the women in trouble issue here? I especially find it funny how he's pointing out the women's issue when it's the man that's panicking... Is he saying this dude is going to be abusive to his new wife?
Furlow Torent I'm a man, but I would be all for decreasing the female suicide rate by 20%
I will never get married so I don't have to worry about divorce and kids!
yeah me too, my folks often try to convince me its a good thing, even though their marriage was (is) incredibly toxic (and I had a front row steat to it having to play marriage counsellor from the age of 12) and when im told to treat their marriage as an outlier, I then point out how just about all of my Aunts and Uncles also had bad marriages, i'm usually told i'm being too negative..... lol whatever never gonna happen
FalconFlyer75 I feel you
@@FalconFlyer75 That's how strong social conditioning is. Even when our own experiences tell us otherwise, because we're conditioned to think one way by society, we can't let it go. However, if they told you that you should find out for yourself instead of only basing your decision to not marry on what you've seen from them, then I'd have to side with them. Even if it didn't work out for them, it doesn't necessarily mean it won't work out for you.
@Roman Blitz Again, troll, misogynist, or both.
@Roman Blitz I read it. You're a raging misogynist. Actually learn anything and interact with a person without a Y chromosome.
My grandmother celebrated her divorce! Went to England with some friends lol.
While yes Divorce for people in dangerous relationships is a good thing. However, If the couple are divorcing because they are bored of each other but also have kids then I say it's selfish to put your own boredom above your children's wellbeing
if you're unhappy, your children will most likely be unhappy as well.. common sense
I agree. The biggest issue in today's world is impatience. We need everything NOW. When we want internet we simply double click an icon on our desktop, and when it's not working we throw tantrums that would make a 2 year old blush. We expect things to working when we want it to be. Things must be in stock at supermarkets. Sold out? Then that poor 15 year old cashier is going to get an earful and a fist in their face for something they can't control.
This applies to marriages too. When people becoming unhapy in a marriage, they don't work on fixing the relationship.They don't take time any more to work through their problem. Instead anger and resentment just builds until one or both of the parties snaps and suddenly divorce papers are being spitefully shared.
Agree
+hey hey Divorce puts a much bigger strain on kids than "not being happy" does. If you're simply bored go to counseling. Getting a divorce because you're bored is the most selfish and stupid thing ever, and is more damaging to kids
+Alicia Day
You say that like Divorce is instantaneous, without any legal process or lengthy discussions and paperwork involved. And keep in mind, children only makes the divorce even more complicated.
Heck, if people really wanted an instantaneous solution, counseling would be much faster than judicial bureaucracy.
Also, you realize people have been making that exact same complaint for the last 2000 years. Somehow society hasn't imploded yet.
I can't help but feel that Adam didn't actually ruin anything in this clip.
Oh hey Ronald Reagan did a good thing
...No comment...
@@grottyband8052 lol
It’s crazy. He’s the reason we’re where we’re at today with the current political landscape. It’s truly where all the really bad and scummy things started to become the norm
I know, I was surprised too!
He did tons of good things
Simply put. If it won't work, split. Thanks Reagan.
Unpopular Opinion: instead of marrying hastily, take time to fully know them by not marrying people with qualities that one can see to be a seed of a bad marriage
That's the safest option. It won't guarantee anything, because people can and do change, but at least figure it out first. This is why I never advise youngsters to simply blow off their parents when choosing their partners, because in many cases, parents know better because parents have actually experienced it firsthand.
People get married to quickly and don't have enough time to actually think about it. that's why divorces happen
Most people do that but even marriages can fail over time
The problem is that these people get married in the first place
FRLSGaming sometimes, if kids live in very religious household, their parents disown them if they had pre-marital sex, or worse, sire a child.
So if they have any hope of losing their virginity, or having kids, they have to get hitched, or else you get zero parental support.
And that's why marriage is stupid kids
Miss Devil they*
Not really, i mean, yes, i have a lot of objections to marriage as an institution, but both marriage and divorces are judicial processes that can be made really simple if the parties involved are mature about it and the system is flexible. People should be able to get married or divorced at will, the problem, in my view, is exceptionalizing these things so much in any way. Either by viewing marriage as infinitely sacred or infinitely stupid.
Mr Google Marriage maybe stupid, but it still one of the most significant milestones in an individual’s life. To me, someone who weds their lover informally and at will is person who is an anti-nihilistic, not traditional. It not naive, it pretty much like this: th-cam.com/video/LLXQcMEtoEw/w-d-xo.html
My great-Aunt somehow managed to get a divorce in the 1930s. The husband in question was beating her and the kids but we all still scratch our heads on how she did it.
if you are not happy with a person, why should you be forced to spend the rest of your life with him
Because you agreed too. It's called marriage "till death do we part".
is Annulment considered divorce
@@10xGeneration Stop putting your religion in other people's lives. Marriage isn't a religious institution anymore.
@@sodaking6858 Then never get married, just date and you'll never have to deal with a divorce. Its simple really.
@@NIHIL_EGO I'm not religiously affiliated with anything. It just makes common sense to not marry someone if you don't plan to spend your life with them. Why get the government and legal documents involved if you don't want to spend your lives together. The line "Till death do we part" is there for a reason, marriage is a legal contract not a fling.
Adam! Take out the Myers-Briggs test! And psychoanalysis! NOW!!!
Why? I mean, I see why you might dislike personality tests, people put far too much faith in them. At most they should be seen as a suggestion for a therapist's approach to a patient, but not taken too seriously. But Psychoanalysis was great. Freud set down the groundwork for modern psychology. Was some of his theories batshit crazy? Yes, he lived a long time ago and we have learned since then. Sir Arthur Conan Doyle believed in magic and ghosts to the point of donating thousands to Spiritualists. But some of Freud's work on the field he named Psychoanalysis is key to our understanding the mind. For example, it was Freud who believed what we experienced as children, whether we remember it or not, would have a much stronger effect on the outcome of our lives that that which we experienced in adulthood.
While the Myers-Briggs test is an invalid test, it is highly reliable so I don't disagree with you there. However, modern psychoanalysis (psychodynamic therapy) has been shown to be just as effective as CBT (the current posterchild for evidence-based treatment). Not sure what you mean here.
The problem with people saying the MBTI doesn't count because people who retake it get different results is that it's only meant to be taken once. If you retake the test you can game the results. It's like the cube game, any test or game that depends on your subconscious can only be performed once.
MBTI isn't bad and neither is psychoanalysis.
Psychoanalysis, like someone already said, is pretty effective and has helped.
MBTI is just a way of showing how people think, but many people misuse the test and analyze where MBTI has strictly said it shouldn't be analyzed.
@Brandon Ottinger Or it could be that people simply change. Your MBTI type isn't the same as your hair color or gender, it's a fluid thing. More of an idea than a scientific theory.
And nobody is arguing over the validity of whether someone is introverted or extroverted. The MBTI is not scamming people or making any big claims. Being an INFJ for example just means that you prefer less friends, intuit more than sense, feel more than think, and judge more than perceive. That's it. Nothing deeper. It makes for good conversation and often times people find similarities between each other, but I don't think anybody takes it too seriously. It just gives you an idea of what someones personality might be like. It's more accurate than the retarded "What Star Wars character are you" personality tests, or astrology, but it's not the theory of gravity either.
Best way to avoid getting divorced: not getting married in the first place.
^ Seconded.
Best way to not die dont live
Or don't be a dumbass and only marry when the relationship is happy
Nah, no marriage ever.
PlasmaMongoose yas
We need someone like him to reveal the lies we are living in !
what about marriage in its current form? There is a rather large down side to being a man in divorce proceedings. Why wasn't that brought up.
What about the kids?
true nowadays due to the men in that generation we suffer. some women dont recieve support while others recieve too much it all depends on the judges rather than a specific law demanding order.
Nobody in the mainstream can afford to criticize feminism and it's horrible abuses of power. You can be completely factual, cite numerous data, but in the end you're always considered just a misogynist. You can be "controversial" about literally anything else, just not feminism.
Because the burden of men in today's society doesn't matter to liberals. It wouldn't be PC to talk about it. Is all about the poor delicate women that need to be protected no matter how scummy they might be.
This is only part of the episode, not the full thing. Not sure if it is brought up or not.
Divorce is going down because less people are getting married. Most people are happy being together without marriage. Even if its there not happy a least they save money. Its a waste of money getting married anyway.
Emo Imo No, you dont like people responding back to you when you insult someone. Just a side note, if you want someone respond back to you without calling you names then dont start the insult. Your narcissistic attitude will be the end of you. You keep responding back to my comment while I dont responding to you. I have better things to do than taking to imbeciles like you. I have a life, you dont. Kind of sad that's the only joy you get from your life is being online and insulting people.You clearly have no worth in this world. You clearly dont know when to stop. I cant stand taking to idiots like you. See ya, enjoy your shot life.
Tax benefits tho
It’s like you can have a birthday without a party. You can get married without a wedding.
Getting married is fine, but huge weddings and stupid expensive engagement rings are not
The largest cause of divorce and separation is financial reasons that lead to arguments. Marriage counsellors know this as a well known statistic. often issues in a relationship can be traced right back to issues with finances. The idea that divorces are to remove a person from a violent or abusive relationship is a good one, but not the usual cause of divorce in modern society.
Many countries have a requirement that couples visit a marriage counsellor before divorce to solve issues that have nothing to do with violence for this very reason.
Which is the main reason women divorce men along with no fault divorce.
Modem society ? So the 80s weren't modern society ?
victoria hale not sure your point... the primary cause of break up and divorce has been financial for a long time now.
Domestic violence was higher in the 80s but in fact was much less of a reason for break ups in that decade as women were less aware it was a good reason.
***** I'm not sure if you know this, but women initiate 70% of domestic violence cases and also statistically hit more as well.
Jdawg Biggums
I'm not sure if you're aware, but a grown man can kill a woman with a single punch.
I would never suggest that it is right or okay for women to abuse their partners, those women are wrong for doing so, BUT please stop pretending they are equivalent cases.
When a man beats a woman, even if they are equal in weight, he has an upper-body advantage, so it is not a fair fight.
You understand this perfectly well when discussing boxing, or any other sport, so please stop pretending you don't know the difference.
When I got divorced friends and colleagues would say "I'm sorry" my reply? "I'm not"!
It's so cool seeing these college humor cast members have cameos in ARE. I'm positive that was Mike Trapp doing the judge's voice.
Less than half of all marriages end in divorce?
So you're saying that the majority of divorces end in death? I'm not sure that's better.
That's really funny (assuming you're mentioning it because everyone dies) but it does bring up an interesting question. What percentage of marriages end because one spouse killed the other?
+SomeDudeOnline all of them. The amount of stress women put on men is enough to shorten your life 😜
You mean "majority of marriages" end with a death? And why is this bad? I'd think most of these marriages that lasted long and one dies of old age or related illness. As the oath goes, 'til the death do us apart.
+Peter Park psst, you missed the joke.
But he did correct an error I made, so that's appreciated.
You really need to watch Divorce Corp. It's on Netflix. Divorce is a horror show for the people involved, and if you have kids, it can ruin their lives.
No kidding, thanks for stating this.
Not divorcing is worse for the kids. I don't like giving stories in issues like this and I won't. The emotional implications of growing up in a dysfunctional household can and will damage children and stunt their emotional development.
+Zino A Agreed. I struggle with every type of relationship because of my parents basically hating each other.
I asked my mom recently if she even loved him. She said she didn't know. They've been married for 35 years.
Yes, but the problem isn't that Divorce is inherently bad - it's that the legal institution and the courts that oversee Divorce are corrupt. There are two kinds of court in American law - courts of law (who are meant to follow the law down to the letter) and courts of equity (who are meant to be 'fair and balanced' to both parties). Divorce courts are Courts of Equity; in theory, the courts are meant to ensure that both parties receive a fair settlement at the end of the proceedings, but in reality the court has no legal accountability (attorneys are allows to openly collude with judges, officials have absolutely no oversight or certification, judges are selected from existing divorce attorneys and people are functionally allowed to openly bribe judges to settle proceedings in a favorable manner) and people are incentivized to openly lie about their former partners for a better settlement.
Look - if your marriage isn't working out and your marriage needs to end, then sometimes Divorce is the best way to go. There is absolutely zero shame in needing a divorce and we shouldn't be embarrassed about it. The problem is that we need to reform the courts and official that oversee marriage so that a Divorce proceeding can actually be a amicable proceeding rather than a two-three year grudge match where you're encouraged to lie about your former partner, bribe the judges and navigate a labyrinthian legal code just to move on with your life.
Yah, but my parents were more dysfunctional married than divorced.
I can tell you as a child of divorce, things have gone a lot better
correction
divorce is awesome....for women
its not like men get half the womans things and we all know courts favor women
Well I suppose that man doesn't have to deal with that women, and that woman doesn't have to deal with that man.
+Devin Williams except that if the woman doesnt have snything on her name but the man has everything in the household... the woman gets half of it.
That's implying they didn't get a prenup
my thoughts exactly.
all property is divided evenly in most divorce casses. woman just typically have less
Wait so divorce is this really awesome thing? I must try it immediately!
I hate when people like bluebanana misinterpret the video and think that the video is trying to say that everyone should get a divorce when the video is actually trying to say that divorce isn't bad to get in bad marriages.
1, you can only try it if you're married
2, you should only do it if you're in a bad marriage
*J o k e*
Jame Pak ikr lmao. i don't understand how people take anything people say on the Internet seriously. especially when they give you death threats and they are only 11 LMAO
You my sir, made my day.
Actually, studies show that 75% of divorces are due to "boredom in the bedroom." Most marriages nowadays are based on sex, so couples split because their "spark" is gone. Reagan, a former actor, passed the "No-grieves Divorce" Law due to Hollywood's multiple couples routine. Now, being single isn't a bad thing. But marriage isn't something to rush into. And when you do get married, remember divorce is evil. It doesn't just break up a couple, but families, friend circles, and even communities. Marriage is for life. Don't make a promise you can't keep.
Divorce is definitely not evil, and i'd like to read the study that stated that.
Marriage is evil. Why would you even need a lawfull construct to express love?
My parents got married because my dad knocked my mom up with me. Sometimes it's isn't as simple as "don't make a promise you can't keep." While I appreciate that they stayed together in their frankly awful marriage for me I really wished they would've gotten a divorce sooner.
***** People seem to forget that "marriage for love" is a relatively new concept that has only been widely put into practice less than 200 years ago. For most of human history people didn't marry their "soulmates". They married for other important things like money, land, power, prestige, and family.
Things aren't black and white. Marriage isn't for life because like all other relationships it can grow or fall apart. Marriage isn't necessarily anymore meaningful than any other relationship. It's just a title you put on a couple and couples get together and break up all the time. Things aren't so black and white. You may think you've found your "soulmate" but time changes people and relationships and evolve into something that isn't good for either party. So no. Marriage isn't for life. Marriage is for the duration in which a couple can still hold strong positive feelings for one another. Whether that is a day or a lifetime, staying with someone you no longer care for is torture and unhealthy for all people involved.
***** My whole point was that feelings change. You may believe and want to spend your whole life with someone but time changes people and emotions. What you wanted before you may not want now. You don't "marry for life". You marry for the duration of your affections for each other. Why would you tolerate someone in a marriage if all feelings of romance is gone? Marriage is just another fancy title for a couple. The "until death do us part" is just a formality at this point. It use to mean that the couple literally could not break up unless one of them died. Now it's just tradition.
Breakups are good thing too. Especially with helping you get rid of bad relationships. My parents are still married and they always hated each other. Dealing with that unhappy marriage since childhood, It helped me to make better decisions in my life. Damn, I'm a single lucky woman. 💜
I do not understand why there are marriage laws in the first place. Marriage is a social and religious institution; I don't have to register my friendships with the government, so why is it their business whether or not I am married?
This bit actually helped me get through my parents divorce. It got me to remember how much they were fighting before hand, the pressure, the fights, and at one point it was actively hurting me and my little sister. I will take wondering what day I’ll visit dad over going deaf due to me trying to block out their fights with my headphones. I’ll miss our old family before it turned sour, but I also know I can’t go back to that time and to move forward with a better path.
Adam couldn't ruin my parent's marriage! because they already got the divorce.
:'(
Nice
good for them. i'm assuming they got divorced because they were unhappy, so getting a divorce is a smart decision. don't be sad. a lot of couples have better a better relationship and stay great friends after they get divorced. even if they don't get along well after they get divorced, all it means is that the divorce was a great decision, because if they don't get along after the divorce, imagine how unhappy they must have been by the time they decided to divorce.
+AndreinneLawrence u just gonna write an essay on everyone's comments or what
Tommy Klein lol, if u dont like 2 read, then dont.
You are taking this from the parents perspective, not the kids, especially if they are young they wont understand the benefits of their lives effectively being destroyed
Both my best friends have been through divorces and it was probably one of the best things for them (minus the costs, and other things) they're now together, and working things out.
But seriously a truly happy marriage wouldn't end in divorce.
Why get married at all? Just stay together and do all the things that married couples do without the government and courts getting involved. Swap rings, throw a party, have a religious ceremony, wear white, co-purchase a house, move in together, whatever else.
"Adam makes divorce better"
I know some families really need a divorce because of how bad the marriage is, but I do know that my father's family was torn up pretty bad by their divorce
Pretty much pushed my adopted uncle into a meth addiction and I know a lot of the kids have hold onto a bit of resentment to their parents. It's why my dad would never let anyone even speak the word in the house.
So while divorce can be nice for the parents the major concern is how it's going to effect the kids when it happens.
Divorced, Beheaded, Died.
Divorced, Beheaded, Survived.
I'm glad that's in my head instead of financial advice.
Me: **watches this to reassure myself about my parents**
0:18 - Fact checked - Half of all marriages in the US do end in divorce or separation. I just googled it, but it is going down because people feel financially stuck in the marriage and are waiting longer to marry.
"just googled it" is not good enough to back up a claim! If you say you found a source, but until you actually provide it, it's not going to be any better of an argument than without any source at all.
This explained why it was good for women, not for men.
That's why divorce laws should be reformed.
Not really. He may have neglected to mention it, but his argument applies equally well to men who are in abusive marriages.
Except it's not. Should be in theory, doesn't really happen. Male victims of abuse are usually behind bars for, well abuse. It can't be any way else, since every case of domestic abuse (literally) is treated by the police and consequently the courts as if the woman is the victim. Even if there is evidence to the contrary. Thanks to feminists and their legislation. Google Duloth model and especially legal guidelines related to it.
Simon Željko
I think you're exaggerating a bit, but I agree that men are treated unfairly in cases of abuse. But that's the fault of the Duluth model, etc, not divorce. In fact, divorce is one way for men to get away from abusers without having to prove they were abused. (Of course, they may get a poor settlement, but that's better than being stuck in an abusive marriage)
edit: To clarify, I disagree that the woman is always seen as the victim, since the Duluth model is not the only one used.
1:22 What about the men trapped in abusive marriages.
That is more of a thing today, and he said "this WAS a particularly bad thing for women" I guess
The problem is not the divorce, but the underlying conflict between husband and wife that leads to them desiring a divorce.
Divorce means I have to give half my hard-earned stuff to my ex. Divorce aint good.
+Jeremy Pike You magical
Prenuptials are common for successful people worried about gold diggers.
"Prenup" I believe is the vaccine to what Chris Brown calls:
*_HALF!!!_*
+John Wotek Yeah but you'll likely die alone. Sounds unappealing. Who's gonna take care of you when you're 80?
don't know... probably be already dead at this point...
If only watched adam ruins everything instead of going to school I would probably learn more and enjoy it *A L O T* more
Tell that to Father’s who are denied their rights when it comes to having access to their children. At least you get to see them most often when you’re married.
Even if divorce rates peaked at 41%, that still left 59% of marriages that ended in death