What drives me crazy with the school teacher who says "no one was nonbinary or genderfluid five years ago" and she was right - 9/11 happened when I was in fifth grade. My peers said the r-slur, called stuff "gay" in a derogatory way, and no one in my graduating class was trans. AND YET I still knew I wasn't "one of the girls" and eventually came out as nonbinary with education and self-reflection. But no one influenced me to be nonbinary. No TV show, movie, or cartoon told me I was trans, and yet I wore boys' clothes as a kid and wanted a voice like Tim Curry even though I was a girl. No one told me I could be nonbinary, but looking back it was painfully obvious. The only difference between then and now is that I have the vocabulary now to describe WHY I felt that way. That's what documentaries like these are actually promoting - the limitation of language to keep kids like me suffering in the closet.
I was in 6th grade around that time and also remember those slurs.. I was also heavily bullied, because I was a tomboy. I loved wearing boys clothes (I grew up wearing the clothes my brother grew out of and loved it - new clothes tended to be more boyish because of that as well), I had shorter hair and liked to be rowdy with boys more than playing with girls. I was also highly confused about everything sexual as a teen. Like how in movies they suddenly start kissing and hurry towards the nearest bed and how it's so difficult to not have sex for some weeks/months. Well, a few years ago I finally realised that I'm asexual, then aromantic and finally I realised that I'm agender. Only when I learned about the existence of these orientations/identities I had the vocabulary to express why everything felt off all my life. Learning about it didn't make me those things, it just made everything make sense. All those weird interactions, thoughts and feelings were in my past. They are a fact, whether I knew the terminology or not. I wish someone had taught me back then. I wish I could've loved true to myself from a young age, instead of feeling out of place and broken. Kids KNOW who they are, if you give them the freedom to express themselves. Of course, they also experiment, find and discard labels, until something feels just right.. but there is nothing wrong with that. There's nothing permanent being done anyways. So why are they bothered by kids identifying as genderfluid or non-binary or as a gender different from their genitals. Gender stereotypes never made sense to me anyways, even as kid. I liked what I liked and am who I am. Nothing would change about me if I suddenly became a different gender. I'd keep living as myself, gender stereotypes be damned.
@@borealernadelwald yes, exactly!!! I don't even take hormones now as an adult, but even just getting to dress in the clothes of genders other than my own is such a relief, especially now that I have the words to understand why it is. I also had tomboy friends that still identify as girls - that's okay, too! But by making even the mention of trans people existing taboo, it hurts everyone. How can anyone explore their gender identity with knowing that's something they're ALLOWED to do in the first place? It's really sad to see something so helpful and harmless be treated as a dangerous fad.
I'm in the same age group and yeah, that's consistent with what I remember. I'm cis and didn't experience it personally, but there were absolutely trans/NB kids in my school. I don't remember how they were referred to at that time, but they were definitely out there, living their lives.
@@extendoduck Yes and they grew up to be women. Like me. When will you figure it out: You can be anything and do anything as either sex and you are still that sex. Not liking girl things and feeling different doesn't mean you are not a woman/girl. You are all out of your goddamn mind, you literally think that women and men are all walking sex serotypes and if one doesn't fulfil these stereotypes, they are trans. That's insane.
Thank you for this video. One point especially-- I'm a trans person who detransitioned. I was stuck in an abusive situation and had to stop taking HRT, stop binding, etc, and go back to living "like a normal person". Once I was out of that situation, I started transition again. Not all people who detransition "go back to being" cis! A lot of detransition is due to lack of support, medical problems, and other such reasons-- not regret.
I hope you're feeling safe now? I've read that personal safety is the most common reason for detransition. Your right to feel safe while being your authentic self is so important! Also, cute wombat in your pfp. I have kangaroos and echidnas here.
@@combatwombats There was a study a while back that a couple transphobes tried to point to because it had a much higher rate of detransition (like 18%), but the minute you dig into it, you find that after controlling for all the folks who said they detransitioned due to external pressures (unsupportive social network, discrimination, unsafe situations, etc...) it was right back down around 2%.
the way they call it "gender transformation" makes it sound so badass lmfao. like hell yeah brother i take this badass hormone that changes me into a new cooler form.
I was genderfluid at school decades ago. The fact I didn't have the language or safety to say so at the time doesn't change who I am and always have been. I am filled with hope and joy that our young people can be authentic sooner. The transphobic kickback is tired and tedious. I'm disgusted it's being used as a political wedge at great cost to trans wellbeing.
I hate when people use the 'queer youth are being influenced into it' like nuh uh I've grown up around homophobia yet i still know I'm queer. I also think i might be agender but honestly, i don't have any gender dysphoria anymore so i think I'll just chill and try and figure it out another time. This channel and community has helped me combat my internalised homophobia toward myself. Thank you 😊
I grew up Latter Day Saints Mormon with no exposure to gay or trans info positively (there was so much transphobia and homophobia) I still turned out a gay trans man.
Exactly, I grew up in a very conservative, anti-gay anti-trans church, and still came out a bisexual trans man. I can count on two hands the amount of people that didn't immediately drop me. My parents still don't really accept me, just love me enough to not misgender me to my face. And I'm still going mother fuckers just try and stop me
I was told not to be queer, because "they're like nazis" or "well it's a sin" Yet I'm still queer (with a lot of internalised queerphobia) The only difference between me and a person raised in a more supportive environment is that I feel worse about being myself
You want to know a fun fact? Of course you do and no, it's not actually fun haha Anyway, I had a surgery to freeze an intermediate tumour (think of it as locally as aggressive as cancer but will not kill me bc of metastases) 8 years ago, when I was 17. It failed. Catastrophically. Sciatic nerve dead on the inside, 5-week-long hospital stay for intense pain, sleeping 20h per day because of how drugged up I was and spending the 4 others screaming and crying. Does my hospital still performs this surgery despite what happened to me? Of course! Because in that case, I was the "1%" (there were only 8 operations done that year, so technically, the regret rate was about 13% in 2016), the one for whom it wasn't right. I even had a patient during my internship get the same procedure for the same kind of tumour, and they are doing great! Neither my parents nor I have ever tried to have this surgery banned because we knew that, despite the risks being statistically low, I was a complex case and we'd be robbing many people of a chance at a better life. All of that to say that, while I feel for people who thought they were trans and got surgery, one cannot ban a surgery just for that. Especially when the regret rate is 1%. Then we would have to ban pretty much all surgeries Edit to add that no, the surgery was in NO WAY life saving or genuinely needed. I could have kept going with chemo but this surgery was supposed to totally get rid of the tumour and therefore, eliminate the need for chemo.
Hey! I hope you're doing better now, that sounds absolutely awful. And I agree with your point. There are so many other surgeries that have a higher regret rate than gender affirming care, the only reason why people are "worried about the children" transitioning is because of their transphobia.
@@artheenbyrogue804 all other surgeries have higher regret rates than gender affirming surgeries. All of them. A good regret rate of 10-15% is considered good on cis people.
I think it's encouraged not required and 10% towards charity which can be the church? You don't 'pay God'! 😂 My understanding is it's partly about encouraging generosity and not clinging on to stuff.. Having said that I did hear a fully inclusive Baptist/Evangelical pastor be critical about that -that wealthy people could afford to give much more then 10%, there are people in poverty who can't afford to give anything and it seemed unfair that everyone was 'required' to give the same amount regardless of income..
@mariannehavisham8323 My understanding is that some denominations (maybe Methodists, Pentacostals, and Mormons) heavily pressure all members to tithe 10% to their church. Also, 70-80% of Americans who attend Protestant churches told pollsters that 10% tithing is Biblically mandated (per a 2023 survey by Lifeway Research).
They still do that in the US? I know they did this in Europe ever since the end of the Roman Empire but at least where I live it's been abolished for like 230 years.
I love (sarcastically) that they say it's trendy or cool to be trans. Do you think I would've intentionally chosen this path 4 years ago if I knew I'd have to consider potentially fleeing the country due to fear of discrimination? This isn't fun stuff to think about or deal with. It wasn't my choice to be a man, I just am one.
It has *_NEVER_* been "cool" or "trendy" to be non cis-het. We LGBT+ folk have always been the first ones lined up against the wall and shot by these reichwingers. And we all know it. Sorry, I'm not saying anything about your post. I'm just reacting to the very idea that being an abused, despised minority is "cool" or "trendy." As a gay male comedian from the 1990s said in his routine, "Yes, everyone hates us and wants us dead. Come, join us. Come join my Personal Hell - with Madonna!" 😆🙄
just a reminder that you ARE valid and loved, and you do not deserve any of the discrimination you may face. I’m so sorry about what you feel and i understand, but things will get better for us someday. For now, stay safe and stay positive
53 here, when I was in high school one of my friends was kinda masc-looking and tended toward jeans and flannel shirts. The rumors that went around about her made her mad, at least outwardly. She also seemed sad about it sometimes. That showed me that my own experience, hating my chest and especially my voice but also liking high heels and really short skirts, would not be a good thing if I said anything to anybody about it. I didn't learn about non-binary people until I was in my 40's. If I had gone to a movie at 16 and saw a non-binary character an-y-where, it might have saved a LOT of hospital visits and psych ward stays over the decades. Thank you for your many contributions to me sloooowly learning who I am
I'm 52. I learned about genderqueer (not the book, the category) in my mid 30s and realized I finally had a word to describe myself, because trans didn't fit despite being able to relate to trans people in so many ways. I wasn't my birth gender, but I wasn't the opposite gender either, so what did that make me? For a long time, I just thought I was broken. Even after learning about genderqueer, I still had difficulty accepting myself. In my early 40s, I learned about nonbinary and realized that's a better word to describe myself, and with more accurate vocabulary and better understanding, I was finally able to accept myself. In my late 40s, I learned about agender, which is an even more accurate word to describe myself. I'm agender. It feels so good to not only know who I am, but to be able to describe it.
When the teacher was talking about how there is more options and openness towards queer kids and the trailer framing it as if it is a bad thing… like y’all remember when the most common insult was ”gay”? Y’all think that was a healthier enviorment for kids? Like wtf
Explain what specific standards “trans” people are measuring themselves against to determine that there is a "mismatch" - THEY are the ones with a regressively sexist idea of what it means to be a boy/girl or man/woman and that is the issue causing all the problems - their own misunderstanding and severely limited perspective/sexist misunderstanding of what sexist stereotypes/"gender norms" actually entail - they are not rules, they are not real boundaries, they are regressive ideas and generalisations - no one needs to live up to any such nonsense or feel comfortable with those stereotypes to be a boy/girl/man/woman - all those terms represent, and all they should represent, is sex and stage of maturity - by creating this whole "gender identity" nonsense they create an unnecessary distorted framework which needlessly causes distress. How are males or females "supposed to" think or feel, want to dress like or act? You must be able to provide specific standards for each sex for what you are contending to make any sense whatsoever. If there is no correct way of being male or female, then how can there be a "mismatch" between what they are and how they feel?
I've been on testosterone for four months and I am 32 years old. In these four months, though my mood is kind of out of whack and I have some serious acne, I FEEL SO GOOD emotionally. Every new chin hair, every time my voice cracks, every time I feel how my muscles are starting to harden and grow... Yeah... It is so affirming and euphoric that the discomforts that come along with it are trival. It does make sense that without that euphoria and feeling happier and happier with the progress, people would feel it was a horrible experience; however, like Jaimie said, that was because of a wrong choice for that person, for that 1 percent of people. To deny the feeling I have to every trans person who wants to transition is so horrific.
@@jessicalush251 A circus is performance for monetary benefit. That's your party's Presidential Nominee. Do you see his sales pitches for Assassination Sneakers and NFT Digital Trading cards? xD YOU people are a circus.
@@Eltanin25 You think I haven't fully researched all of the possible complications? I am fully aware of the risks associated with transition- but I don't want to end my life anymore. I think that by itself, aside from the other positive outcomes I continue to experience every day, is enough for me to far it's the right decision.
@@Eltanin25 So are you threating trans people to go back into the closet or to remove their access to otherwise safely transition? Cause that's most of what detransitioning entails and you are aware of that.
1) Jamie does talk about the negatives but (just like the positives) only when it's relavent. He's a commentary channel afterall, not a story channel. Futhermore, if he didn't mention a certain side effect, it's totally possible he just didn't have it. 2) As been mentioned 3 times now, each you've ignored, detransitioners are BELOW 1% of trans people. Plus in my opinion, if you are a grown adult and have at least 2 years to consider before they give you HRT (if you're very lucky, often longer) and make a mistake, that's on you. Where I live 16 years olds get can tatoos within a week and they're considered responsible enough. 3) I never understand why people try convince trans people not to transistion by listing possible side effects. Imagine doing research for years to decide if it's right for you AND speaking to a proffesional doctor about it. In the nicest way possible, he probably knows the risks quite a lot better than you do. I'm not trans masc but I can speak to saying how much of a life changer actuslly liking your body is.
@@Eltanin25 Again, Jamie is a *meme* commentary channel so as nice as it would be for him to make one, it wouldn't make sense. He doesn't make videos about the positives either. Try Sam Colins instead, he talks about the pros and cons and is still a large channel. I admit I made a typo saying 1%, that's completely my fault, sorry. I meant 2%. Granted, I'm still wrong, since it's actually just over 2% not below. ~7% detransition in total but I only counted those who genuinely regretted it. Around 70% are forced by family or societal threats. The end result is about 2.3% who genuinely regret it post HRT. Sources: GenderGP USA 2019, NIH 2015 (which does actually discuss the negatives of transitioning, worth a read) and Netherlands 2018 survey. All within the last decade. Apologies for assuming you meant detransistioners, when you said "people regret it 8 years later", before going on a tangent about how harmful it is, it really makes it sound like you think he'll regret it. Finally, I know you meant well but as I originally mentioned, trans people discuss it with their doctors and have years of research. I can gurantee you anyone on HRT knows it in and out. I'm not saying and never said we shouldn't discuss the negatives, it's quite a leap to assume I do think that. But it's very rude (even if you didn't mean to be rude) to assume they know nothing after all that research. Sometimes you gotta recognise when you aren't the most qualified person in the room. I'm a good runner but I also wouldn't tell Usain Bolt he's doing it wrong because he probably knows better.
As a trans guy who was born in a very rural place in the early 80s I wish I could invite these transphobes into my head as I was growing up so they can see how miserable I was and how close to the edge it pushed me. I didn’t know for the longest time that being trans was even a possibility then when I came across the word when I was in COLLEGE I was so far in the closet i couldn’t even come out to myself. Looking back all that pain and suffering could have been avoided if people were more accepting back then or even if there was more information or some information (thanks section 28).
Actually, the transphobes would not only _want_ you close to the edge, they'd gleefully push you off of it. That's they're _plan:_ to drive trans people to unaliving, so that they don't have to get their hands dirty unaliving you themselves.
@@Moebz818 Internet Uncle-Gay🏳🌈 wants everyone to read the last clause of that last sentence again. And I want you to do 2 things: (1) Always remember that the transphobes _really_ want _that_ to happen: they want all trans people _unalived._ They just don't want to dirty their hands doing it themselves. (2) Any time you have the misfortune of dealing with a transphone, _throw #1 in their faces._ Throw that Truth at them, that they want all trans people _unalived_ and that everyone knows that's what they want.
@@Moebz818 Really? I don't know the ages of a lot of the people I follow, but quite a few of them are significantly older than I am (and I was an adult transitioner 20 years ago).
Fun fact, if you're on disability in Utah, a transphobic state in the US, you will be kicked off disability. It happened to me and I've been told it's happened to a lot of other trans folks on disability though I haven't personally talked to any yet.
I'm so sorry to hear that. As a fellow Utahn, i hope you at least live near Salt Lake because it's like the only blue county in the state and it might be a bit easier for you. Although it's completely wrong for you to be kicked off disability, and that's awful. Hugs to you.
@@blubblewubble Well, I’m not an expert, but if they really are denying it to trans people then my guess would be that it doesn’t make sense and is just pure transphobia.
I kept getting advertised this, and as a young queer person who watched exclusively wonderful people is hilarious I got the add on some of Jammi’s videos
@@S-yj2eh calling a science deniers when we are literally supported by medical journals is one of the most brain-dead things I've ever heard you claim that we deny science yet you don't do your research
I'm sure any trans person wishes trans health care was as quick as the transphobes make it sound like - my friend in the UK is 1 year into a potential 5 year+ waiting list to get the first appointment
The NHS is in shambles at the moment and the supposed 'left' party has done nothing really to fix it. Private trans healthcare is ,a lot of the time, necessary which is quite sad considering we're supposed to have public healthcare
For real. I had a transphobe call me a liar for saying no 12 year old AFAB child walks into a hospital, asks for a hysterectomy, is handed a gown and immediately rolled into surgery. I've met people who've had to wait longer to have their rupturing appendix removed, and that's something that can kill you very quickly. At the time I'd been trying for 5 years (all as an adult) to get a hysterectomy for medical reasons. Yes I'm trans, but I needed it for medical reasons. I had doctors tell me it didn't matter it would significantly risk my life (more than the normal pregnancy risks, like in the range of "you might or might not survive to viability"), if I didn't have two successful births of two living children, regardless of what happened during the first one, no hysterectomy. I was told I'd have to take a 50% risk on my life at least TWICE in order to get medical care to stop my uterus from trying to kill me. And the transphobe? "Lies, lies, lies". Absolutely refused to believe it took more than a week to get any trans related healthcare. I did eventually succeed after 7 years of trying...with two counts of PTSD and a doctor who needed to be sued for gross negligence, but it's impossible to prove.
@@waffles3629 yeah they do be like "But [insert public bigot name] said you go to the doctors and the front desk admin staff diagnose you with trans when you went in for a cough! [public bigot] wouldn't lie to me!"
@@Robin_hsr12 "little to no wait times". I once waited 3 months for an "emergency priority appointment" as I got sicker and sicker and lost over 20% of my bodyweight. I'll take waiting and not worrying about how to pay over waiting and worrying about how to pay.
The experience of just one girl who detransitioned, just one, led to the Cass Review, which in turn has led to the Tavistock Clinic in England, and the Sandyford Clinic in Scotland - despite Cass never being intended for NHS Scotland - stopping treatment for transgender young people. In the movies? How often is a transgender character played by an actual transgender actor? The movie "Stonewall" even rewrote history by completely ignoring Marsha P Johnson, a black, transgender sex worker, being the first person to fight back. I only wish being trans were cool and accepted in society. Being a trans rights activist is exhausting, depressing, and time consuming.
It annoys me when people go X years ago that we didn't have kids coming out as trans or non-binary. Like yes, that's called the progress of language & we could do this all day long about the changes but just because language had changed, that doesn't mean people just suddenly became trans, gay, bi, ace, aro, nob-binary, etc. I like many people of the community knew what I was growing up but just didn't have the word for it. It wasn't until much later I learned the word was bi-romantic & ace. Had I been able to explore more & have access to lgbtq+ material I would have likely figured it out sooner than when I was in college. This is why allowing kids to safety explore & learn about different types of people can help them discover themselves as well as understand their peers which can reduce bullying
Same here. For years, decades really, I thought I was broken and just did my best to act "normal" (conform to cishet standards). As the language and discussion regarding LGBTQ people progressed, I eventually realized I'm not broken, I'm just agender and on the aro/ace spectrum (light-gray aro, dark-gray ace, and bi/pan for the rare times when I do feel attraction), and I shouldn't have to conform to cishet anything.
@@John_Weiss I first came out as bi because that was what I knew at the time, and I knew gay, lesbian, or (opposite gender) trans didn't describe me. When I learned about aro/ace, I realized that's me. And when I learned about genderqueer, nonbinary, and agender, I realized that's also me.
@@rosieg6989 Yes! Back in the 1990s, "genderqueer," and, "genderfsck," were the terms used for anyone who fell in-between cis and transsexual [that word hadn't fallen out of favor yet], while "transgender" was still just the umbrella-term for anyone who was not cis and was someplace on the continuum.
The sad thing is that this "documentary" follows a young trans person who never detransitioned. They sadly committed you-know-what and their mother (who is in this) is not accepting. The film shows this person as an example of why people shouldn't be trans, but it's really sad to me. The fact that they are so disrespected in this is awful. It's recreated by actors which makes it somehow even worse. (I forgot the name and pronouns of the person, so I'm using they/them. It's not really clear in the "documentary".)
Why is it so hard to understand that people kill themselves not because they are trans but because they lose hope of living and having a future because of the way they are treated
@@n1kogrindraws447 Ikr, we'd be fine being ourselves if others would stop having a problem with it. In the autistic community, we also say something similar, "we don't suffer from autism, we suffer from people", same thing over here in the trans community.
@@Milo-hp9fw sounds to me like they might've not been in a supportive environment. Plenty agree that most of the regrets come from the people around you not accepting you for who you are that lead to wanting to detransition. Expecially since nowadays it seems like to even start transitioning you have to go through hoops. So it's not as easy as me going to my doc, saying I'd like to become a man all of the sudden and get prescribed meds. Hell I want to go talk to my doc about something way simpler and I know it's going to take a long while before I find a solution. And it's for chorinc mental fatigue due to my mental disorders (adhd and autism).
De-transitioners saying, "It's not right for me therefore it's wrong for everyone." If that's the case, I will respond with "Glasses aren't right for me, so no one should wear glasses." PS Not a slight on you, Jamie, just showing how RIDICULOUS they sound.
@@Eltanin25 If they are appearing as evidence that transition in general is harmful, they might be saying that, but the wider message is "danger, transition is danger."
My mum (who was at school in the 60s/70s) talks about how there were kids in her school that she knows today were autistic or had ADHD, etc but those diagnoses weren’t common then. I don’t see us saying they’re a social contagion or made up
Actually, suspected neurodivergent person here, oh hell yes do they accuse us of being just a fad and claiming to be autistic or ADHD because it's fashionable or sounds like fun... The number of times I've been told that I cannot be autistic or ADHD because I'm an adult and wasn't diagnosed as a kid, and to stop trying to use my suspicion of neurodivergence as an excuse for my moral shortcomings... I'd actually like to see if I can get a proper diagnosis, but I don't even know where to start...
Er, I hate to tell you, but people do say that autism and ADHD are made up social contagions. Even learning disorders like dyslexia or dyscalculia are barely recognised in my country, you get maybe 10mins extra on your exam time in school. Which, I'm sure you can imagine, doesn't help at all. Source: Autistic + dyscalculia here.
@@katze69 Depends on where you live. Unfortunately, in most countries it'll cost you a few thousand to get a diagnosis, so if you really want to, you'll have to be ready to burn some cash. My Autism assessment and diagnosis cost a little over 2k in USD and took like a year, and some countries like Australia will not allow you to move there if you have an ASD diagnosis so, keep that in mind. That's why most of the Autistic community don't discount self-diagnosis, it's just difficult to get a clinical diagnosis. I went for it because I wanted to know for sure and my family were supportive, even after getting the ASD diagnosis, I still have that annoying doubt so, it does help, but don't expect all of it to disappear with the diagnosis x')
@@SwordmaidenGwen Kind of feel like we need more information to back up that claim that Australia will deny you entry if you have ASD because would that not be discrimination?
I didn't identify as non-binary until I was 30.... because I didn't know what non-binary was before then. As soon as I learned about it, I was like, "oh so *that's* what I am!". I was still non-binary as a child, I just didn't have the language to describe my experience. I was dysphoric, but did not understand what I was experiencing or why. Getting the language and the resources to help me transition has made my life so much better. But putting out bullshit about how "no one was non-binary" back when I was in school is just incredibly misleading. Because I was non-binary back then, but it's impossible to come out as such when you don't have the language for it or a supportive social environment. I was pansexual back then too, but I didn't come out about that until my 20's, because when I was in school, people were using "gay" and "queer" as insults, and being gay was extremely stigmatized. And bi-/pansexual people were all but erased completely. I've always been queer and trans, but I'm now finally living in a time where I feel safe enough to come out about these things and to live as my authentic self.
People know this because they feel it inside and have an inner knowledge of it. You can't describe a feeling to someone who has never experienced it, it's like describing a salty taste to someone they've never tasted.
@@SuperJJParker I'm not sure what kind of answer you're looking for? The short answer is I realized I was *mostly* a guy, but also kind of not. Since that was neither 100% man nor 100% woman, that made me non-binary. Also the fact that I experience dysphoria around certain female aspects of my body, as well as being seen as a woman socially.
@@itisdevonly Thanks for the reply. I'm not after any particular answer. I'm just trying to understand more about how people feel. Being a cis man, I've never had any feelings about being a man or woman. I just am what I am, and I don't give it any thought, so it's hard to understand what trans or non binary people go through.
@@SuperJJParker I understand. When everything feels right, you don't have to think about it, so it can be hard to imagine what dysphoria is like. It's a bit like going around wearing the wrong size shoes. It's uncomfortable and sometimes painful. You might be able to live with it, depending on how off the size is, but it's never going to feel good. Being able to swap out those shoes for ones that fit is such a relief. For a long time I didn't recognize what my dysphoria was, so I was just uncomfortable and unhappy and dissociated, and I didn't know why. But when I understood that it was about my gender and I started taking steps to transition, I immediately felt so much better, so much relief. I was honestly surprised by how much of a difference it made just to wear a men's T-shirt instead of a woman's, even though they're nearly identical. Somehow it matters. I don't know why it does, but it does. Something inside you just says "this is right" or "this is wrong." I think it can help to understand that cis people can experience gender dysphoria too, but it's usually much less severe, since the discrepancy is much smaller and narrower in scope. But, for example, women who have to have mastectomies because of breast cancer might feel a sense of loss at not having a bust, and might seek reconstructive surgery to resolve that issue, that's gender affirming surgery. Men with gynecomastia (excess breast tissue) can feel self-conscious and uncomfortable, because their chest is oddly feminine, and getting surgery to resolve that is common. That too is gender affirming surgery. The thing about FTM top surgery, is that's exactly the same procedure as the one to correct gynecomastia. There's usually more tissue to remove in that case, but it's the same basic procedure, for the exact same purpose - to feel more comfortable in one's body. How would you feel if you looked down and found that you had breasts? What if everyone thought of you as a woman and used she/her pronouns for you? How would that make you feel? Not every cis person would find that dysphoric or upsetting. And it might be okay initially for many, maybe an interesting novelty, but I think after time, for most, it would wear on you that your body didn't feel right and that people weren't really seeing you as you were. Eventually you'd get depressed and desperately want to fix the issue. But I suppose that's a scenario that is hard to imagine.
With all the discussion around Imane Khelif, I have had some conversations with friends and family that have been quite frustrating. From denying intersex people their gender just because of their chromosomes, to saying that some trans people transition because they have a fetish to see their body as the other sex. Then the whole sports discussion, that trans people are actually cis (not the word they use) people who are masquerading as the other sex to win trophies (the example was a swimmer, but I don't know the name). It's quite exhausting and I haven't read too many studies yet...
Just one thing, trans people look like that all the time and I think if you have a fetish you at least take a break, trans people don't do that and they don't do it because of a fetish
Unfortunately I live in a red state in the Bible Belt of the U.S and it’s against my school district rules to go by a different name or pronouns without getting it signed off by a parent/guardian. As horrible and transphobic as it is, most my teachers fortunately try to not dead name and misgender me unless they have to. Even my principal is amazing and accepts all her LGBTQ+ students. I hope that after I graduate this year, my school district will get better at being accepting. (Side note but I found out one of my favorite teachers moved schools because she transitioned!!!! I’m so proud of her and I hope that she’s happy)
Jamie, what you said about these people redirecting their energy to maybe saying "hey, we probably shouldn't have a for-profit healthcare system" rang so true and so ironic. Because these are the exact same people calling public healthcare/universalized healthcare a socialist/communist scam and fighting *against* those who are trying to bring it about....
7:00 5 years ago now would be 2019. I was in middle school and one of my classmates was trans non-binary and used he/they pronouns. I was also figuring out my identity and 5 months later identified as enby with they/she pronouns (I'm now trans masc). Just because that teacher hadn't heard of being trans or enby in class does NOT mean it didn't happen. If anything I'm pretty sure her students were worried about coming out to her as trans and hid it.
Yep. More than 5 years ago I was being told "No one heard of non-binary 5 years ago". Because for some reason the number is always 5. I've been out for 9 years, so clearly at least one person was non-binary 5 years ago.
5 years ago I graduated highschool and started university. In a hs of ~2k students I was one of at least 7 trans kids that I can remember off the top of my head. That didn't really change at all in university. It's wild to hear someone say that there were no trans students in 2019 even if they are exaggerating.
No, what’s really f-ed up is feeling though TH-cam is pushing this “ad” several times (because I live in Missouri), when all I’m trying to do is listen to sapphic playlist. I ended up just having to report them.😒
I want to clarify that its not just difficult for trans people to get gender-affirming care, its also difficult for trans people to get ANY kind of care if it could even just remotely be seen as a trans thing. I knew a trans man whose doctors thought he had endometriosis. He wanted a hysterectomy anyways, but this was an even bigger reason to get it. He could barely get any doctors to even look at it. He finally got a doctor who did an exploratory surgery, who had found that his uterus was essentially dying from the inside out, absolutely filled with dead tissue. Since it was exploratory, they didnt remove it, but they cleaned it up a bit. His uterus was still dying and it NEEDED to get removed, and he literally had to search constantly for OVER A YEAR in order to get anyone to take care of it, because no one wanted to remove the dying uterus of a trans man. This is in the country where a doctor is perfectly allowed to deny women birth control if they dont have a husband thats okay with it, or healthcare for an autistic person because apparently autistic people arent capable of making their own medical decisions. Americaaaa
Ah the American healthcare system. The system that keeps on giving, and by giving I mean: fixing, taking, taking, taking some more, and then when you think its over they drop kick you from behind.
That is really strange because I had my hysto+oopho with no problems immediately within a few weeks of going through the medical process, planning, exams etc. I actually thought it was odd that cis women have such a hard time with getting medical care when I as a transman was run through quickly. Especially odd considering I had to fight viciously for 3 years as a minor to get medical care initially. Doctors and clinics would just ignore me. What a perverse world.
I think that there should be space for detransitioners at gender clinics. I don't think they warrant a whole separate class of clinics given their minuscule numbers; I just think that the specialists at existing clinics should be able to provide support for detransitioners as well as other trans people - after all, detransitioners do face many of the same challenges as trans people, what with going through a whole second transition.
Good gender clinics support detransitioners too. I met a detransitioner recently and he was very happy with the care he was getting. He had transitioned privately without proper MH care and self administered hormones and had an undiagnosed mental health condition. He has found trans ppl really supportive of his situation.
Nice idea except when I went through my detransition, I was routinely pushed into trans clinics from regular OBGYN clinics even though they were remarkably incompetent and completely messed up my health. It was dangerous, I was put into medically induced menopause and hormonal psychosis for 6 months with less frequent symptoms for an additional 6 months. It was not until I REFUSED to back down that I got a functional medicine OBGYN who understood my health issues much better. I do not trust trans clinics.
If you have the time and constitution, I recommend Jessie Gender's two video essays in which she tears apart this "documentary," from showing how the movie misconstrued the true story behind the dramatized segments about a Latine trans-man, to the film language the movie uses.
Funny how the ones that used to say "Facts don't care about your feelings" ignore so many facts, studies and professional opinions, just becasue their feelings tell them they are correct, isn't it?
this isn't even the worst of the ads. there's one that straight-up tells a misconstrued story from start-to-finish, which a lot of transphobic rhetoric all throughout it.
As a left handed trans person the comparison is pretty accurate imo; they're both normal variations of humans that have been unfairly demonised. One day people will talk about this hate the same way they do about left handedness being abused for it!
@@grieffoundation8451 Trans people have always existed but were often conflated with homosexuality and cross dressing. But your use of dog whistles already shows that you dont care about the facts
Yep. I met a woman who had been forced to be right handed...by damaging her left hand so badly she had no fine motor control left. It's the same kind of abuse happening to trans people now.
As a trans man myself i can say that being transgender is not a trend and at times because of truama and gender dysphoria it can be very difficult. Though I am so grateful and i am more healthy and happy than I ever been still I struggle with gender dysphoria and trauma. I am more happy and healthy because i am currently in medical transition. These turfs need to stop. I hate people who are transphobic
I don't understand, I don't see a trend anywhere for being a trans person or non-binary. I'm non-binary and i don't saw a single non-binary person around me in my city.
About 150 years ago, any school teacher could have said: "Five years ago, nobody knew about being left-handed, and nobody was left-handed". The change is in awareness, not in the distribution of phenomena within biology. Denying left-handedness doesn't make people be not left handed.
Might I ask why there is no boom in trans-identifying youth in France? It’s only 25 miles from England, is socially progressive and homosexuality has been legal since 1791
I want to know where these in and out hrt clinics are.. I'm 29 and I'm still having to go through all the hoops just to get an appointment to talk to a doctor..
I wish we would stop saying that puberty blockers are reversible. "Reversible" implies that something has happened that needs intervention to reverse. "Reversing" puberty blockers is just... Not taking them anymore. It's like saying the fever reducing effects of acetaminophen are "reversible". That would sound ridiculous because (assuming you're still ill) your fever will just come back on its own if you stop suppressing it.
Yep. It's like buying a box of cake mix, putting it on the shelf, and saying you need to reverse making the cake. You can't, you didn't make the cake, but you still can if you want to.
Had I gotten gender affirming healthcare as a kid, (even just the safety to socially transition) I would be so much happier today. I suffered through school, and hated being forced to wear the wrong clothes and put in the wrong PDHPE class. It made life miserable for me to not get a chance to be myself, and to not have the words to explain that to anyone. I ODed twice to try to get out of the hell I was living. It wasn't until years later as an adult that I was able to come out, and start dressing the way I wanted and going by a new name and pronouns. But even now, I have to put up with the irreversible changes of going through the wrong puberty for me. It's exhausting to put so much time and effort into makeup and clothes, just to hide secondary sex characteristics so that I feel comfortable. Let kids get the help they need. Not everyone has an ambulance find them fast enough.
As a preface, I am a cis straight white male in my 20s. I definitely don't know all of the correct words for everything so anything I say that comes off wrong or disrespectful is unintentional and I will gladly take any correction or feedback to my language. Trans rights and visibility came onto my radar in the past few years, and there are now a handful of trans and nonbinary people in my life, including my partner. I have spent that time educating myself and being the best ally that I can be. Educators like Jamie have been such a valuable resource on my journey of striving to be the best person I can be. I was hoping to ask Jamie (if he happens to see my comment) and this community what the most important and impactful things an ally can do or be from the perspective of people with the lived experience of being a part of gender-queer community. I do what I consider the basics i.e. being aware of gendered language, asking for and using the correct pronouns, respecting individuality and privacy, and just generally treating everybody as a person and an equal. What else can I do to be the best ally for the people around me? Thank you all!
Fellow cis person here. I heard some advice from a trans man (DrBen), who requested that we cis people try to center trans people's voices, and be cautious about speaking up in contentious discussions unless we are confident we are well-informed on the nuances (as otherwise we may accidentally do more harm). (I will sit back quietly now and listen to what others say since I am not trans or nonbinary.)
My enby egg only recently cracked, so I don't feel like I'm really part of the community in this way yet. But I can tell you I am happy whenever people try to use my pronouns and my chosen name. It makes me feel seen and accepted. So I guess that's the easiest impactful way to be an ally. Especially when you try to use the pronouns (I guess people have a hard time not using she/her for me, because my body is very female and I also like dresses sometimes).
As a trans person, I think you're already being a pretty good ally with all the effort you are putting in. But like another user already refrenced, listening to the trans voices around you and lifting them up is something you can do to be a better ally. Another thing you can do as a cis straight white male is to call out any intolerable people for their actions. Since a lot of homo/transphobic people would sooner listen to you than to (visibly) queer people.
THIS ADVICE IS NOT ALWAYS APPLICABLE!!!! I hate it, but my tendency whenever I get misgendered is to shut up and take it. I'm afraid of retaliation. There have been many moments in my life where a friend, and once a near stranger bless him, have corrected the offender for me without me even saying anything. I am always so eternally grateful to these heros. So I say, if you know someone is being misgendered, don't be afraid to correct them if the person being misgendered isn't standing up for themselves. I WOULD NOT do this tho if the offender is in a position to enact violence on whoever you are standing up for. Don't out people to bigots obviously, use your brain. The best option would be to correct the offender when the trans person is not physically near the offender
You already are doing great. Being open to learning as well as acknowledging you sometimes mess up but wish to do better are already 1000 times better than the average cis person just learning about trans people.
Their main intention is to spread fear, as it's one of the most effective ways to influence and control people into agreeing with their viewpoints and acting in ways that align with their agenda. Educating people isn't even on their list, as they didn't use any actual facts in the documentary.
I wanted to comment today because I won't be able to watch this for awhile and that's going to affect the algorithms negatively. Here's some ballast for that. I love your works; I find them enlightened, helpful, inspiring, and hugely relatable. I get to change a little or a lot for the better with each interaction. Your gentleness doesn't detract from your male identity for me. Instead YOU rather raise the esteem I have for all men that you are among them.
I just got called a predator for being LGBTQIA+ supportive under a minecraft video titled "I added being gay to minecraft." so this video is much appreciated! PS.: I just commented that technically Minecraft is the most queer game because all the mobs are non-binary and either bi or ace. Some people liked it, a couple didn't.
And in case you're wondering the exchange went like this: @feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 11 days ago: Go to therapy @Alpatrixx 11 days ago: @feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 no you @BasicallyBaconSandvichIV 10 days ago: I agree with @Alpatrixx assesment. @feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 10 days ago @BasicallyBaconSandvichIV neither of you are making it to 30 @BasicallyBaconSandvichIV 10 days ago @feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 Already past thirty mate. [A lie.] @feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 10 days ago @BasicallyBaconSandvichIV 30 cm long things maybe @BasicallyBaconSandvichIV10 days ago @feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 Why thank you for the compliment! But please, there may be kids reading this, it may not be appropriate to talk about my lenght down there. @The_BlOb 9 days ago No way the woke left got Minecraft too! @nxmx6ix 3 hours ago @BasicallyBaconSandvichIV First thing you think about when someone mentions cm is children, groomers gonna groom ig @feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 36 minutes ago @BasicallyBaconSandvichIV up yours not that you have that There were luckily some really nice things before this, but this just made me kinda sad.
I'm not part of the lgbtq+ but the beginning part sounds awfully similar to people that are claiming others are faking autism online to gain clout. Many people have debunked this theory because people don't get any kind of clout for being autistic. It's even worse. We get told were stupid, dumb, can't understand things and when it isn't convenient to them (when they have to accomodate you) they just accuse you of stealing resources and faking it, because you're not that bad for them to have to accomodate you. And then they start calling you pretentious and selfish for setting very reasonable boundaries like making less noise, not being crammed in a car etc. I can vouch for the fact nobody wants to be associated to a perceived child who bangs their head, screams and is violent in their imaginative stereotype. Because that's what all autistic people are reduced to and whether you fit that depiction, or don't (which is the scary part) a lot of uninformed pretentious neurotypicals will use that as an excuse to mock you. And as I said earlier, even if you don't fit the standard you're still mocked or being made fun of. Either on the pretence of faking your disorder/disability or you being different and weird and autistic. I can almost certainly tell the same happenes for trans kids. They probably get made fun of and insulted by others all the time unless they meet some supportive folks or other fellow lgbtq+ (or most of them) identifying people. So I doubt any of them would do it to get popular or gain any sort of clout.
So like, 15 years ago my rural PA highschool had a bunch of queer kids including one openly trans guy and almost everyone was cool with them. The like, super preppy Christian kids obviously werent but the rest of us had no problem accepting our queer and trans classmates. We definitely thought they were weird but more because they were mostly scene/emo kids lol. I wanted to be like them but didnt know why. 15 years later I do know why. People really love being ignorant
@@S-yj2eh lmao of course you are not "with me". I've seen you comment ridiculous transphobic stuff and now this bs. Honestly stop. Don't you have better stuff to do?? This is too much.
i was trying to play my dad "dont hug me im scared" and this came on and when i tried to skip it he stopped me and forced me to watch it. i was so uncomfortable and disgusted, he was just eating it tf up. he knew i was more left leaning and he's been trying to shove propaganda down my throat at any opportunity.
What percentage of that 1% regret surgery because they had complications, lots of pain, or the result didn't look as good as they hoped but still identify as trans? I regret getting LASIK, but that doesn't mean I think LASIK should be banned.
6:49 Nailed it! It's so much simpler to have a word instead of a long-winded description, or resorting to just picking one of the available options. After 20+ years of "Well, I think of everyone as just a person, and I'm attracted to and open to relationships with all genders/gender identities/orientations/chromosomes/etc." I can just say "Pansexual". After 20+ years of "Well, I've no use for gender norms so I just ignore them because personally, I don't care about social constructs." I can just say "Gender non-conforming" Not everyone is familiar with the terminology, but at least there's a decent chance I won't have to elaborate😊 🥔❤🥔🧡🥔💛🥔💚🥔💙🥔💜🥔
@@SuperJJParker Perhaps, but GNC isn't a gender identity, but a form of gender expression. Non-binary people (which is a gender identity) have existed for all of human history, and are likely going to continue to exist unless something like eugenics happens.
@@SuperJJParker Correct, I'm just not sure if it would be a gradual disintegration or instant vaporization. "Norms" in the sense of bimodal statistical models will always exist and aren't inherently problematic. Expecting everyone to embrace and adhere to such norms and roles based solely upon one's reproductive organs, and casting judgement on those who don't conform, is the part we can do away with, as it serves no purpose nor provides any benefit. Humans tend to get uncomfortable when they can't easily label or categorize everything, for some reason.
@@SuperJJParker None, again, gender identity is a completely separate thing from gender roles and gender expression. Gender roles and gender expression are social constructs, while gender identity is an innate part of how a person is born.
“My daughter was in pain. She used to cry, she couldn’t sleep, she couldn’t concentrate” Damn, almost sounds like something else I know of! coughDYSPHORIAcough
As a trans guy who is constantly fighting with my insurance and finding a surgeon that will take my insurance, this really angers me bc I've been trying to get top surgery for 4 years.... it is not an easy process
For the algorithm and the records. My first coming out in front of my mother was when I was about 12 years old, that was in 1998, when I asked her to get me checked because I think there might be a possibility that I could be a girl. I didn't even know the term trans or the possibility of transitioning. I tried twice, both times she said this is bullshit and I'm crazy.... Yey, up in the closet for a decade... Socially transitioned around 2008/2009 totally 5 years ago... it would be so laughable if it weren't so sad... xD
7:38 That teacher might be In Florida, as I believe that simply talking about trans stuff in schools (not conversion therapy or trying to force kids to be trans, simply discussing it) really could put a teacher’s teaching license at risk
Just so everyone knows, unless I'm very much mistaken this film weaponizes a trans person who ended up committing self-end because of the social pressure they were put under. They are represented by an actor speaking words they didn't. It's a disgusting use of a very tragic story. Wherever he is now, I hope the boy who's story they now weaponize is somewherebetter (even if it wasn't this one, it was another one like it. It's hard to keep track now tbh)
I was one of the non-conforming kids at school. The fashions and hair and behaviour then were non-binary and i just went with it. I'm glad I explored my identity. Other kids shouted slurs and bullied me but some admired that I wasn't conforming to stereotypes. School isn't the whole world. It's hard just finding yourself amongst the pressures and expectations. There's help, sympathetic people who can listen and support you. It Just Gets Better. It got better for me. You can be who you are! ❤🩹❤🧡💛💚💙💜💑👩❤👨👨❤👨👩❤👩♥
I've been getting an ad for this trailer (I seem to remember it being the whole trailer) at least twice, and everytime I was disgusted with it. Happy you finally covered it!
Man, I WISH that was how it worked. I went to a therapist in college. They sent me to someone who put me on hormonal birth control, which made things WORSE. I've still not had any surgery, and am not on hormones, and I'm in my 40's. SO wish I had been supported in middle school, high school, ... EVER!
fun fact: those detransitioners were ALL ADULTS when they got on hormones or got surgeries. im sorry, but that is your fault. you agreed to the hormones, you agreed to the surgeries. stop blaming others & take responsibility for your decisions. one of them is crying about how she "may never have kids" even though she wasnt even on t for a full year (& even though trans men who have been on hormones for years can still get pregnant). if youre THAT concerned about it, get a fertility test. but its not a real concern, its just crocodile tears for grifter money. another thing id like to point out in this "film" is the heavy "follow the money" angle, which is just thinly veiled antisemitism.
Do you have no compassion for people who suffered and made choices from desperation, who later change and now suffer permanent damage? I was a transman for 14 years until I was profoundly healed inside out from a spiritual transformation. I am one of the lucky ones, because I only did one surgery. That one alone left me vulnerable to the medical system fucking over my health through remarkable incompetence. I was put into medically induced menopause and hormonal psychosis for 6 months with lesser symptoms for another 6 months. It was absolutely dangerous for my life. Do you not care at all about that stuff? I would NEVER have predicted any of that would happen or even know what it was. It sounds like you are angry at detrans people and WANT them to suffer. But ALL detrans people were once trans people, so do you care about trans people or not?
@@anewagora no. im angry at grifters, which the people in this "documentary" clearly are. when i say they wont take responsibility, i mean that instead of just living their lives they blame everybody else. its not "i made a mistake", its "i was coerced into this as a fully grown adult by an evil cabal". dont come at me saying i dont care about trans people when these grifters are out there making money off of trying to prevent trans people from getting any care whatsoever
@@anewagora so what's your solution? Ban trans healthcare for all adults because YOU regretted it? By that metric everything should be banned. There are people who regret chemo and have permanent effects (including infertility and sterility), should chemo be banned? What about knee replacements?
@@waffles3629 not banned, the treatment priorities for trans and detrans healthcare need to be established and how to alleviate suffering better understood, i.e. real treatment. at the moment there's no way to tell if someone will change. Additionally considering how I changed, it suggests a completely different interpretation of transgenderism. That you're not born with something lifelong, something else is going on. In my trans and detrans support group we've discussed this a lot and not only are a lot of trans people suffering longterm because the condition is debilitating, there's a huge increase in people transitioning who really shouldn't have medically. Those people get in and out sooner, it's a more temporary experience. The way the process is done really should be dramatically different to actually help people suffer less. I already was dismayed at the lack of trauma therapy being integrated when I was trans, I was lucky to find Somatic Experiencing (trauma therapy) on my own, which is what ended my Chronic Fatigue after 12 years. It's patent stupidity to not prioritize trauma therapy as the center of trans healthcare. We're also finding that surgeries have a high rate of damage/ complications and regret with permanent damage later on, hence why the detrans topic has become prominent recently. Specifically sex reassignment surgery. Those surgeries are horrifying experiments that destroy people. A transman died from constant brutal complications over a few years. We need to urgently consider what is harming trans people and what's actually helping.
@@anewagora why do I need trauma therapy for being trans? Oh right, because I don't. Trauma didn't make me trans. You regret something- you, not everyone. That does not mean care should be gatekept and unnecessary therapy pushed.
One very important semi-correction: taking hormones absolutely CAN screw you up mentally. I have no information to suggest that either estrogen or testosterone carry that risk (and none to say that they don't). Progesterone is what messes with me. I was never able to tolerate birth control pills when I was younger, as they made my depression noticeably worse. I found out much later that progesterone was the specific culprit when I took it years and years later to stop excessive bleeding, and it made it almost intolerable to exist for a few days until it was out of my system. It's indescribable how bad that felt. Obviously plenty of people tolerate birth control (and progesterone only pills) just fine; I'm just not one of those people. I'd never suggest that birth control pills should be outlawed because of people like me, and I'd never suggest that HRT for trans people should be outlawed if testosterone or estrogen carries the same risk for some other unlucky minority. But I'm not going to lie, hearing you say so confidently and mockingly that "oh no, hormones could never do this" does not feel good.
Yeah both ways. I’m trans and intersex and unfortunately I have pms/pmmd (not sure which one, mom and both sisters also have pms) with the issues each month. But because I’m MtF they don’t even want to try to test if birth control pills would work better than just the estrogen I get now (low dosage). Not that I ever get read as trans. My body made sure of that when it started to produce female hormones at 14/15😂. I just feel crap 6 days a month and often have to skip 1 or 2 days of work. For the ones wondering: yes I get the full menstruation symptoms besides bleeding
Funny how they try and claim that being trans is seen as cool and trendy like yeah I totally chose to spend money I don’t have on testosterone and feel bummed out that I have no idea how I will ever afford top surgery and also get misgendered and discriminated bc it’s “fun” But I LOVE that I’m trans, it’s a major part of my identity bc it shapes my experiences and how I react and interact with the world!
Oh my goshhhhhh I just remembered I got ads for that documentary like months ago or something, so annoying 😭 Commenting for the algorithm because I’m not sure I’ll be able to finish this video 😓
a trans kid would love you to be their parent. unfortunately kids who come out to their parents as trans are hurt in some way by them and/or get disowned.
Exactly what I did. I've been watching Jamie's channel for five years now, from suddenly needing to know about this phenomenon. It can be scary when you're too focused on how the world is going to treat your kid .. you need to focus on how awesome your kid is, and not panic while you work out how to protect them from the worst of the transphobic world.
just starting this video, but oh my god people using detransitioners to further their transphobia piss me off, because i have a friend whose older brother is a detransitioner (came out as a trans girl in 4th grade, went on puberty blockers, went back to identifying as male in 8th grade.) the friend is also trans and came out in high school, is still IDing as trans as an adult, and as far as i know his older brother has never had problems with it, and i imagine is probably pretty pissed that transphobes are using people like him as an example to discriminate against people like his little sibling. not only is it awful for trans people, it also gives just regular trans supportive detransitioners who understand that just because something didn't work for them doesn't mean it won't work for other people a bad name. sucks all around
It was not until today that I learned cis kids have been given puberty blockers for years for precocious puberty and there was no concern until it came to trans kids, and now I'm angry about it and that more people don't argue that point.
The damage done makes it high-risk. I run a trans & detrans support group and we have 18-20 year old detrans women there who have permanent chronic bone pain and osteoporosis without any known treatments. I was a transman for 14 years. I think hormones are actually safer than puberty blockers.
@@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos it varies by person in the group. I know one 18 year old woman used blockers ages 11-14 before starting testosterone. She wasn't on testosterone that long, I think less than a year.
Having such an emotionally draining day regarding being trans, so happy to see a Jamie video 🥺 ik this will be a tough watch but I'm here w my people. Love this community, thanks friends
I will say that if you are over 18, it is very easy to get HRT in the US. We have companies that will do everything online and get you a prescription within one appointment and they are covered by a few insurances. This isn’t for kids, but it is easier in the US than the UK
Jamie the announcement of an NHS Levy review into healthcare for trans adults causes me as a Trans man great concern. We have seen how the Cass Review has been misrepresented and misused to severely restrict healthcare for trans young people, even though the review is deeply flawed, what is your take on this (Matt) The government has also just implimented the ban on puberty blockers in Northen Island
@@SophieRoseLive technically he was, but only to the extent that he was selling his own individual vacccines as a replacement for the 'dangerous' combined MMR vaccine, and everyone has used the study to say that all vaccines are bad (including his individual vaccines)
16:10 It’s reasonable to say that the full film _might_ provide further context, but saying you’re _sure_ that they provide context is far too generous for this kind of thing.
I had a few surgeries as a baby/kid (exactly two as a baby and one as a kid for real medical reasons). And had another two in the past decade for flat feet. I won't go into detail about the first ones as I know nothing about them (too small to remember and understand) and because it's a long story. But I vividly remember being put to sleep for my first flat feet surgery. For context you have to do two. One where they put screws in the feet to shift the bone in the right place and one to take them out. During the first one I was kind of joking about it with the docs. I was at our local very well known in Europe children's hospital called Gaslini. I told the docs I was scared of pain so I was not feeling my best about doing the whole thing and getting a needle stuck in my arm. I powered through it and joked how it didn't really hurt but as a distraction I kept thinking about stabbing my fingers all the time with needles everytime I sew anything. The male doctor (If I'm not wrong) was actually surprised and chucked. I believe the female doctor was amused and interested at the same time in the plenty of hobbies I do all the time. I was 14 close to 15 it was back in 2016 so my memories are a bit fuzzy. Also I'm autistic. During the last surgery I was openly talking about my degree during the set up time. And all the ladies chimed in interested to hear what I had to say as a very hobby filled woman with lots of interests and a nice fancy degree on the way: in product and communication design. The visuals were really freaky for me too as someone who has been in that environment and got away from it easy peasy. Except one time where one doc was kind of rude at me for crying when walking. I was very overwhelmed and I thought it would hurt just as bad if not worse than it did after the first surgery. Edit: I'm not trying to insult anyone or diminuish anyone by saying real medical reasons. I just don't know how to put it nicely. I'm referring to health reasons that would've affected my life for the worse long term (or even caused death) if not treated immediately. As opposed to a surgery that could've waited a moment before getting done because it is not a medical emergency.
I think you are looking for elective vs urgent vs emergency surgery. Emergency surgery is "do it as soon as possible or you will die/severely be impacted". Urgent surgery is "can be done in the next few days, and most likely if not done will develop into an emergency situation". And elective is "anything that won't kill or severely impact you anytime soon". Surprisingly many cancer surgeries are actually elective since you can often wait even a few months to get them done.
I had a root canal which went disastrously wrong in my twenties, around 1990. My teeth were, ironically, very hard but also cracked easily, so the anesthetic couldn't reach down the nerve canal to shut off the pain sensation. The only thing the dentist could think of to do, since she didn't have a sedation license, was to drill into my tooth, directly down the nerve canal, without anesthesia, and then shove the needle directly into the nerve. The drilling hurt so much, I think the pain really did hit "10" on the famous "scale of 1 to 10". I noticed that day that pain comes in something analogous to "colors", that it has qualities analogous to color or flavor. or texture. It was quite an educational experience. It also changed my relationship with all forms of medical care, which had already been problematic for me because of abuse I had suffered in childhood which had resulted in PTSD. Did I avoid having dental work in later years? Do I campaign against dental work? Well, no. Guess I'm a bad person.
Here in Ireland, when we were voting to change the constitution to permit abortions, I got very interested in factchecking and reading up on what those opposing the changes were saying. And it was the exact same playbook. Massive focus on people who experienced regret, (or hypothetical regret of those who never did have an abortion but thought 'maybe' at some point) . A lot of talk to the american "abortion industry" and talk of money, and people being pressured into it for profit. the exact same groups of people are both anti-abortion and anti-trans, and they use the same tactics. the most frustrating thing is how these people can openly lie. And everyone is taken in by their lies. leaving a very small minority trying to do around fact-checking.
Man, I also don't get how some detransitioners think it's everyone else's fault they ended up transitioning and regretting it. I literally fought to finally get Testosterone, and if I regret it at some point, guess who is to blame? Still me! I'm the one who decided to take HRT, no one ever forced me to. I had a choice, and if that choice turns out to be wrong, then that's the way it is. No one forced me. I took that risk by myself.
i will say that cos you only reacted to the trailer there's probably going to be people that'll claim that comments in the trailer were 'taken out of context' and other BS but i get why you didn't react to the whole thing, they don't deserve your time or money. great video anyway and keep up the good work
I am not trans, but I had my first surgery when I was nine. It was a necessary genital surgery. That is not counting circumcision. That is not counting the the genital surgery I have had since being in my 60's. The people should be sued for child endangerment.
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What drives me crazy with the school teacher who says "no one was nonbinary or genderfluid five years ago" and she was right - 9/11 happened when I was in fifth grade. My peers said the r-slur, called stuff "gay" in a derogatory way, and no one in my graduating class was trans. AND YET I still knew I wasn't "one of the girls" and eventually came out as nonbinary with education and self-reflection. But no one influenced me to be nonbinary. No TV show, movie, or cartoon told me I was trans, and yet I wore boys' clothes as a kid and wanted a voice like Tim Curry even though I was a girl. No one told me I could be nonbinary, but looking back it was painfully obvious. The only difference between then and now is that I have the vocabulary now to describe WHY I felt that way. That's what documentaries like these are actually promoting - the limitation of language to keep kids like me suffering in the closet.
I was in 6th grade around that time and also remember those slurs.. I was also heavily bullied, because I was a tomboy. I loved wearing boys clothes (I grew up wearing the clothes my brother grew out of and loved it - new clothes tended to be more boyish because of that as well), I had shorter hair and liked to be rowdy with boys more than playing with girls. I was also highly confused about everything sexual as a teen. Like how in movies they suddenly start kissing and hurry towards the nearest bed and how it's so difficult to not have sex for some weeks/months.
Well, a few years ago I finally realised that I'm asexual, then aromantic and finally I realised that I'm agender. Only when I learned about the existence of these orientations/identities I had the vocabulary to express why everything felt off all my life. Learning about it didn't make me those things, it just made everything make sense. All those weird interactions, thoughts and feelings were in my past. They are a fact, whether I knew the terminology or not. I wish someone had taught me back then. I wish I could've loved true to myself from a young age, instead of feeling out of place and broken.
Kids KNOW who they are, if you give them the freedom to express themselves. Of course, they also experiment, find and discard labels, until something feels just right.. but there is nothing wrong with that. There's nothing permanent being done anyways. So why are they bothered by kids identifying as genderfluid or non-binary or as a gender different from their genitals. Gender stereotypes never made sense to me anyways, even as kid. I liked what I liked and am who I am. Nothing would change about me if I suddenly became a different gender. I'd keep living as myself, gender stereotypes be damned.
Sadly today I actually saw some random TH-cam commenter use “gay” derogatorily
Only huge idiots do it now, but it’s sadly not gone completely
@@borealernadelwald yes, exactly!!! I don't even take hormones now as an adult, but even just getting to dress in the clothes of genders other than my own is such a relief, especially now that I have the words to understand why it is. I also had tomboy friends that still identify as girls - that's okay, too! But by making even the mention of trans people existing taboo, it hurts everyone. How can anyone explore their gender identity with knowing that's something they're ALLOWED to do in the first place? It's really sad to see something so helpful and harmless be treated as a dangerous fad.
I'm in the same age group and yeah, that's consistent with what I remember. I'm cis and didn't experience it personally, but there were absolutely trans/NB kids in my school. I don't remember how they were referred to at that time, but they were definitely out there, living their lives.
@@extendoduck Yes and they grew up to be women. Like me. When will you figure it out: You can be anything and do anything as either sex and you are still that sex. Not liking girl things and feeling different doesn't mean you are not a woman/girl. You are all out of your goddamn mind, you literally think that women and men are all walking sex serotypes and if one doesn't fulfil these stereotypes, they are trans. That's insane.
Thank you for this video. One point especially-- I'm a trans person who detransitioned. I was stuck in an abusive situation and had to stop taking HRT, stop binding, etc, and go back to living "like a normal person". Once I was out of that situation, I started transition again. Not all people who detransition "go back to being" cis! A lot of detransition is due to lack of support, medical problems, and other such reasons-- not regret.
I hope you're feeling safe now? I've read that personal safety is the most common reason for detransition. Your right to feel safe while being your authentic self is so important!
Also, cute wombat in your pfp. I have kangaroos and echidnas here.
@@combatwombats There was a study a while back that a couple transphobes tried to point to because it had a much higher rate of detransition (like 18%), but the minute you dig into it, you find that after controlling for all the folks who said they detransitioned due to external pressures (unsupportive social network, discrimination, unsafe situations, etc...) it was right back down around 2%.
I hope you're okay
the way they call it "gender transformation" makes it sound so badass lmfao.
like hell yeah brother i take this badass hormone that changes me into a new cooler form.
I mean, Metomorphises are rlly cool in general like, Hell yeah little wormy dude become a sick ass Moth (Same with Trans people yall cool as hell)
You're like an eevee: evolving into your final form.
They’re just trying to demonize my special interest!!! Transformation!! It’s not scary it’s cool
By anime logic, genderfluid people are incredibly powerful because they can keep getting new forms endlessly
LOL, your username makes me laugh. Prager U is awful and I love that you’re making a fun jab at them.
I was genderfluid at school decades ago. The fact I didn't have the language or safety to say so at the time doesn't change who I am and always have been.
I am filled with hope and joy that our young people can be authentic sooner. The transphobic kickback is tired and tedious. I'm disgusted it's being used as a political wedge at great cost to trans wellbeing.
I hate when people use the 'queer youth are being influenced into it' like nuh uh I've grown up around homophobia yet i still know I'm queer. I also think i might be agender but honestly, i don't have any gender dysphoria anymore so i think I'll just chill and try and figure it out another time. This channel and community has helped me combat my internalised homophobia toward myself. Thank you 😊
I grew up Latter Day Saints Mormon with no exposure to gay or trans info positively (there was so much transphobia and homophobia) I still turned out a gay trans man.
Exactly, I grew up in a very conservative, anti-gay anti-trans church, and still came out a bisexual trans man. I can count on two hands the amount of people that didn't immediately drop me. My parents still don't really accept me, just love me enough to not misgender me to my face. And I'm still going mother fuckers just try and stop me
@@ArAsDeCosexactly! Where did the 'gay genes' thing come from?! 😂
I was told not to be queer, because "they're like nazis" or "well it's a sin"
Yet I'm still queer (with a lot of internalised queerphobia)
The only difference between me and a person raised in a more supportive environment is that I feel worse about being myself
@@ArAsDeCosI grew up in a Muslim country and my only exposure was homophobia and transphobia, and I still turned gay and trans.
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You want to know a fun fact? Of course you do and no, it's not actually fun haha Anyway, I had a surgery to freeze an intermediate tumour (think of it as locally as aggressive as cancer but will not kill me bc of metastases) 8 years ago, when I was 17. It failed. Catastrophically. Sciatic nerve dead on the inside, 5-week-long hospital stay for intense pain, sleeping 20h per day because of how drugged up I was and spending the 4 others screaming and crying. Does my hospital still performs this surgery despite what happened to me? Of course! Because in that case, I was the "1%" (there were only 8 operations done that year, so technically, the regret rate was about 13% in 2016), the one for whom it wasn't right. I even had a patient during my internship get the same procedure for the same kind of tumour, and they are doing great! Neither my parents nor I have ever tried to have this surgery banned because we knew that, despite the risks being statistically low, I was a complex case and we'd be robbing many people of a chance at a better life. All of that to say that, while I feel for people who thought they were trans and got surgery, one cannot ban a surgery just for that. Especially when the regret rate is 1%. Then we would have to ban pretty much all surgeries
Edit to add that no, the surgery was in NO WAY life saving or genuinely needed. I could have kept going with chemo but this surgery was supposed to totally get rid of the tumour and therefore, eliminate the need for chemo.
Hey! I hope you're doing better now, that sounds absolutely awful. And I agree with your point. There are so many other surgeries that have a higher regret rate than gender affirming care, the only reason why people are "worried about the children" transitioning is because of their transphobia.
I hope you're doing better :(
I’m sorry you had that pain. I hope you have healed well-⚖️
I hope you're doing better now!
@@artheenbyrogue804 all other surgeries have higher regret rates than gender affirming surgeries.
All of them. A good regret rate of 10-15% is considered good on cis people.
Lol at the "financial interests" of trans from a church that requires you pay god 10% of your weekly income.
Nice 👍🏼
I think it's encouraged not required and 10% towards charity which can be the church?
You don't 'pay God'! 😂
My understanding is it's partly about encouraging generosity and not clinging on to stuff..
Having said that I did hear a fully inclusive Baptist/Evangelical pastor be critical about that -that wealthy people could afford to give much more then 10%, there are people in poverty who can't afford to give anything and it seemed unfair that everyone was 'required' to give the same amount regardless of income..
@mariannehavisham8323
My understanding is that some denominations (maybe Methodists, Pentacostals, and Mormons) heavily pressure all members to tithe 10% to their church.
Also, 70-80% of Americans who attend Protestant churches told pollsters that 10% tithing is Biblically mandated (per a 2023 survey by Lifeway Research).
They still do that in the US? I know they did this in Europe ever since the end of the Roman Empire but at least where I live it's been abolished for like 230 years.
I used to be Mormon and after learning they have been hoarding a $100 billion dollars it pisses me off they make their members tithe.
I love (sarcastically) that they say it's trendy or cool to be trans. Do you think I would've intentionally chosen this path 4 years ago if I knew I'd have to consider potentially fleeing the country due to fear of discrimination? This isn't fun stuff to think about or deal with. It wasn't my choice to be a man, I just am one.
It has *_NEVER_* been "cool" or "trendy" to be non cis-het. We LGBT+ folk have always been the first ones lined up against the wall and shot by these reichwingers. And we all know it.
Sorry, I'm not saying anything about your post. I'm just reacting to the very idea that being an abused, despised minority is "cool" or "trendy." As a gay male comedian from the 1990s said in his routine, "Yes, everyone hates us and wants us dead. Come, join us. Come join my Personal Hell - with Madonna!" 😆🙄
no youre not maam
just a reminder that you ARE valid and loved, and you do not deserve any of the discrimination you may face. I’m so sorry about what you feel and i understand, but things will get better for us someday. For now, stay safe and stay positive
I'm sorry, you're so valid and I hope you're okay
53 here, when I was in high school one of my friends was kinda masc-looking and tended toward jeans and flannel shirts. The rumors that went around about her made her mad, at least outwardly. She also seemed sad about it sometimes. That showed me that my own experience, hating my chest and especially my voice but also liking high heels and really short skirts, would not be a good thing if I said anything to anybody about it. I didn't learn about non-binary people until I was in my 40's. If I had gone to a movie at 16 and saw a non-binary character an-y-where, it might have saved a LOT of hospital visits and psych ward stays over the decades. Thank you for your many contributions to me sloooowly learning who I am
I'm 52. I learned about genderqueer (not the book, the category) in my mid 30s and realized I finally had a word to describe myself, because trans didn't fit despite being able to relate to trans people in so many ways. I wasn't my birth gender, but I wasn't the opposite gender either, so what did that make me? For a long time, I just thought I was broken. Even after learning about genderqueer, I still had difficulty accepting myself. In my early 40s, I learned about nonbinary and realized that's a better word to describe myself, and with more accurate vocabulary and better understanding, I was finally able to accept myself. In my late 40s, I learned about agender, which is an even more accurate word to describe myself. I'm agender. It feels so good to not only know who I am, but to be able to describe it.
When the teacher was talking about how there is more options and openness towards queer kids and the trailer framing it as if it is a bad thing… like y’all remember when the most common insult was ”gay”? Y’all think that was a healthier enviorment for kids? Like wtf
I‘m too old for having experienced ´gay‘ as a schoolyard insult, and I’m not sure if that’s a good or bad thing 😅
@@eaglenoimotoits a bad thing unc
@@eaglenoimotoit's still used. Just not as a school yard insult
I use it ironically, but only among my similarly queer friends. It's hilarious given that it was a "serious" insult in grade school.
Explain what specific standards “trans” people are measuring themselves against to determine that there is a "mismatch" - THEY are the ones with a regressively sexist idea of what it means to be a boy/girl or man/woman and that is the issue causing all the problems - their own misunderstanding and severely limited perspective/sexist misunderstanding of what sexist stereotypes/"gender norms" actually entail - they are not rules, they are not real boundaries, they are regressive ideas and generalisations - no one needs to live up to any such nonsense or feel comfortable with those stereotypes to be a boy/girl/man/woman - all those terms represent, and all they should represent, is sex and stage of maturity - by creating this whole "gender identity" nonsense they create an unnecessary distorted framework which needlessly causes distress.
How are males or females "supposed to" think or feel, want to dress like or act? You must be able to provide specific standards for each sex for what you are contending to make any sense whatsoever. If there is no correct way of being male or female, then how can there be a "mismatch" between what they are and how they feel?
I've been on testosterone for four months and I am 32 years old. In these four months, though my mood is kind of out of whack and I have some serious acne, I FEEL SO GOOD emotionally. Every new chin hair, every time my voice cracks, every time I feel how my muscles are starting to harden and grow... Yeah... It is so affirming and euphoric that the discomforts that come along with it are trival.
It does make sense that without that euphoria and feeling happier and happier with the progress, people would feel it was a horrible experience; however, like Jaimie said, that was because of a wrong choice for that person, for that 1 percent of people. To deny the feeling I have to every trans person who wants to transition is so horrific.
@@jessicalush251 A circus is performance for monetary benefit. That's your party's Presidential Nominee. Do you see his sales pitches for Assassination Sneakers and NFT Digital Trading cards? xD YOU people are a circus.
@@Eltanin25 You think I haven't fully researched all of the possible complications? I am fully aware of the risks associated with transition- but I don't want to end my life anymore. I think that by itself, aside from the other positive outcomes I continue to experience every day, is enough for me to far it's the right decision.
@@Eltanin25 So are you threating trans people to go back into the closet or to remove their access to otherwise safely transition?
Cause that's most of what detransitioning entails and you are aware of that.
1) Jamie does talk about the negatives but (just like the positives) only when it's relavent. He's a commentary channel afterall, not a story channel.
Futhermore, if he didn't mention a certain side effect, it's totally possible he just didn't have it.
2) As been mentioned 3 times now, each you've ignored, detransitioners are BELOW 1% of trans people.
Plus in my opinion, if you are a grown adult and have at least 2 years to consider before they give you HRT (if you're very lucky, often longer) and make a mistake, that's on you.
Where I live 16 years olds get can tatoos within a week and they're considered responsible enough.
3) I never understand why people try convince trans people not to transistion by listing possible side effects.
Imagine doing research for years to decide if it's right for you AND speaking to a proffesional doctor about it.
In the nicest way possible, he probably knows the risks quite a lot better than you do.
I'm not trans masc but I can speak to saying how much of a life changer actuslly liking your body is.
@@Eltanin25 Again, Jamie is a *meme* commentary channel so as nice as it would be for him to make one, it wouldn't make sense. He doesn't make videos about the positives either.
Try Sam Colins instead, he talks about the pros and cons and is still a large channel.
I admit I made a typo saying 1%, that's completely my fault, sorry.
I meant 2%. Granted, I'm still wrong, since it's actually just over 2% not below.
~7% detransition in total but I only counted those who genuinely regretted it. Around 70% are forced by family or societal threats.
The end result is about 2.3% who genuinely regret it post HRT.
Sources:
GenderGP USA 2019, NIH 2015 (which does actually discuss the negatives of transitioning, worth a read)
and Netherlands 2018 survey.
All within the last decade.
Apologies for assuming you meant detransistioners, when you said "people regret it 8 years later", before going on a tangent about how harmful it is, it really makes it sound like you think he'll regret it.
Finally, I know you meant well but as I originally mentioned, trans people discuss it with their doctors and have years of research. I can gurantee you anyone on HRT knows it in and out.
I'm not saying and never said we shouldn't discuss the negatives, it's quite a leap to assume I do think that. But it's very rude (even if you didn't mean to be rude) to assume they know nothing after all that research.
Sometimes you gotta recognise when you aren't the most qualified person in the room.
I'm a good runner but I also wouldn't tell Usain Bolt he's doing it wrong because he probably knows better.
It has a pretty accurate title. "The Untold Realities" in a documentary where no realities are told
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As a trans guy who was born in a very rural place in the early 80s I wish I could invite these transphobes into my head as I was growing up so they can see how miserable I was and how close to the edge it pushed me. I didn’t know for the longest time that being trans was even a possibility then when I came across the word when I was in COLLEGE I was so far in the closet i couldn’t even come out to myself. Looking back all that pain and suffering could have been avoided if people were more accepting back then or even if there was more information or some information (thanks section 28).
Actually, the transphobes would not only _want_ you close to the edge, they'd gleefully push you off of it. That's they're _plan:_ to drive trans people to unaliving, so that they don't have to get their hands dirty unaliving you themselves.
@@Moebz818 Internet Uncle-Gay🏳🌈 wants everyone to read the last clause of that last sentence again. And I want you to do 2 things:
(1) Always remember that the transphobes _really_ want _that_ to happen: they want all trans people _unalived._ They just don't want to dirty their hands doing it themselves.
(2) Any time you have the misfortune of dealing with a transphone, _throw #1 in their faces._ Throw that Truth at them, that they want all trans people _unalived_ and that everyone knows that's what they want.
As someone who uses tumblr everyday it still catches me off guard when people mention it as a thing of the past
@@Moebz818 Really? I don't know the ages of a lot of the people I follow, but quite a few of them are significantly older than I am (and I was an adult transitioner 20 years ago).
@@Moebz818a good chunk of the tumblr userbase are adults in their 20s/30s who used the site as teens and just stayed there lol
@@Moebz818 as a regular tumblr user, i can confirm that most people on this site are actually adults
I post cringe, my cat, Miitopia, Pokémon, leftism, cursed stuff, random life things, and whatever else comes to mind.
me too 😭
Fun fact, if you're on disability in Utah, a transphobic state in the US, you will be kicked off disability. It happened to me and I've been told it's happened to a lot of other trans folks on disability though I haven't personally talked to any yet.
I'm so sorry to hear that. As a fellow Utahn, i hope you at least live near Salt Lake because it's like the only blue county in the state and it might be a bit easier for you. Although it's completely wrong for you to be kicked off disability, and that's awful. Hugs to you.
Sorry but what is disability in this context?
@@blubblewubbleThe disability checks paid to people who aren’t able to work and support themselves
@@JoylessBurrito I thought it was that BUT WTF HOW DOES THAT MAKE SENSE??!?
@@blubblewubble Well, I’m not an expert, but if they really are denying it to trans people then my guess would be that it doesn’t make sense and is just pure transphobia.
I kept getting advertised this, and as a young queer person who watched exclusively wonderful people is hilarious
I got the add on some of Jammi’s videos
unrelated but omg is that a bmc icon? bruh i was OBSESSED with bmc like 7 years ago
@@prageruwu69 BMC is amazing
@@Eliot-is-Deadone of my favourite musicals by far tbh
@@prageruwu69 saaaame
@@prageruwu69that name is rediculous😂 prageruwu 🤣
They're not documentaries, imo. Just propaganda. Documentaries are more scientific...
Yeah documentaries actually contain research
You can label anything a documentary regardless of How much research you put into It ancient aliens has 20 seasons
Some youtubers be calling hour long videos documentaries..
@@S-yj2eh calling a science deniers when we are literally supported by medical journals is one of the most brain-dead things I've ever heard you claim that we deny science yet you don't do your research
As it turns out, this was literally made by a cult. (Falun Gong)
I'm sure any trans person wishes trans health care was as quick as the transphobes make it sound like - my friend in the UK is 1 year into a potential 5 year+ waiting list to get the first appointment
The NHS is in shambles at the moment and the supposed 'left' party has done nothing really to fix it. Private trans healthcare is ,a lot of the time, necessary which is quite sad considering we're supposed to have public healthcare
For real. I had a transphobe call me a liar for saying no 12 year old AFAB child walks into a hospital, asks for a hysterectomy, is handed a gown and immediately rolled into surgery. I've met people who've had to wait longer to have their rupturing appendix removed, and that's something that can kill you very quickly. At the time I'd been trying for 5 years (all as an adult) to get a hysterectomy for medical reasons. Yes I'm trans, but I needed it for medical reasons. I had doctors tell me it didn't matter it would significantly risk my life (more than the normal pregnancy risks, like in the range of "you might or might not survive to viability"), if I didn't have two successful births of two living children, regardless of what happened during the first one, no hysterectomy. I was told I'd have to take a 50% risk on my life at least TWICE in order to get medical care to stop my uterus from trying to kill me.
And the transphobe? "Lies, lies, lies". Absolutely refused to believe it took more than a week to get any trans related healthcare.
I did eventually succeed after 7 years of trying...with two counts of PTSD and a doctor who needed to be sued for gross negligence, but it's impossible to prove.
@@waffles3629 yeah they do be like "But [insert public bigot name] said you go to the doctors and the front desk admin staff diagnose you with trans when you went in for a cough! [public bigot] wouldn't lie to me!"
@@waffles3629the US has little to no wait time on a lot of shit. But we have absurd prices. Pick ya poison ig
@@Robin_hsr12 "little to no wait times". I once waited 3 months for an "emergency priority appointment" as I got sicker and sicker and lost over 20% of my bodyweight. I'll take waiting and not worrying about how to pay over waiting and worrying about how to pay.
The experience of just one girl who detransitioned, just one, led to the Cass Review, which in turn has led to the Tavistock Clinic in England, and the Sandyford Clinic in Scotland - despite Cass never being intended for NHS Scotland - stopping treatment for transgender young people.
In the movies? How often is a transgender character played by an actual transgender actor? The movie "Stonewall" even rewrote history by completely ignoring Marsha P Johnson, a black, transgender sex worker, being the first person to fight back.
I only wish being trans were cool and accepted in society. Being a trans rights activist is exhausting, depressing, and time consuming.
The untold realities of gender transformation 100% sounds like a pro trans title lol. They failed so hard they made us sound AWESOME!
Even me who hate my bottom part (MtF) is not obsessed to others and even my own personal parts.
It annoys me when people go X years ago that we didn't have kids coming out as trans or non-binary. Like yes, that's called the progress of language & we could do this all day long about the changes but just because language had changed, that doesn't mean people just suddenly became trans, gay, bi, ace, aro, nob-binary, etc. I like many people of the community knew what I was growing up but just didn't have the word for it. It wasn't until much later I learned the word was bi-romantic & ace. Had I been able to explore more & have access to lgbtq+ material I would have likely figured it out sooner than when I was in college. This is why allowing kids to safety explore & learn about different types of people can help them discover themselves as well as understand their peers which can reduce bullying
Same here. For years, decades really, I thought I was broken and just did my best to act "normal" (conform to cishet standards). As the language and discussion regarding LGBTQ people progressed, I eventually realized I'm not broken, I'm just agender and on the aro/ace spectrum (light-gray aro, dark-gray ace, and bi/pan for the rare times when I do feel attraction), and I shouldn't have to conform to cishet anything.
I have to wonder how many enby or trans folks initially came out as gay, lesbian, or bi, because that's the only thing they knew?
@@John_Weiss I first came out as bi because that was what I knew at the time, and I knew gay, lesbian, or (opposite gender) trans didn't describe me. When I learned about aro/ace, I realized that's me. And when I learned about genderqueer, nonbinary, and agender, I realized that's also me.
And for the record the word Non-Binary as wee recognize it today is over 20 years old.
@@rosieg6989 Yes! Back in the 1990s, "genderqueer," and, "genderfsck," were the terms used for anyone who fell in-between cis and transsexual [that word hadn't fallen out of favor yet], while "transgender" was still just the umbrella-term for anyone who was not cis and was someplace on the continuum.
The sad thing is that this "documentary" follows a young trans person who never detransitioned. They sadly committed you-know-what and their mother (who is in this) is not accepting. The film shows this person as an example of why people shouldn't be trans, but it's really sad to me. The fact that they are so disrespected in this is awful. It's recreated by actors which makes it somehow even worse.
(I forgot the name and pronouns of the person, so I'm using they/them. It's not really clear in the "documentary".)
Why is it so hard to understand that people kill themselves not because they are trans but because they lose hope of living and having a future because of the way they are treated
@@n1kogrindraws447 transphobes just don’t want to admit how heartless they are.
@@n1kogrindraws447 Ikr, we'd be fine being ourselves if others would stop having a problem with it. In the autistic community, we also say something similar, "we don't suffer from autism, we suffer from people", same thing over here in the trans community.
@@Milo-hp9fw sounds to me like they might've not been in a supportive environment. Plenty agree that most of the regrets come from the people around you not accepting you for who you are that lead to wanting to detransition. Expecially since nowadays it seems like to even start transitioning you have to go through hoops. So it's not as easy as me going to my doc, saying I'd like to become a man all of the sudden and get prescribed meds. Hell I want to go talk to my doc about something way simpler and I know it's going to take a long while before I find a solution. And it's for chorinc mental fatigue due to my mental disorders (adhd and autism).
His name was Andrew
THIS ISNT EVEN MY FINAL FORM >:D
Hell Yeah! keep going!
Next step: Eldrich Deity
@@S-yj2eh next step is to stop being tangible entity
I remember getting ads for this. Good thing they wasted their money on me.
oh thats a good way to think of it. i always get depressed seeing transphobic ads but this helps thank you
De-transitioners saying, "It's not right for me therefore it's wrong for everyone."
If that's the case, I will respond with "Glasses aren't right for me, so no one should wear glasses."
PS Not a slight on you, Jamie, just showing how RIDICULOUS they sound.
If you want to know if a movement is dangerous or a cult have a look to see what they do to heretics....
@@lucylu2927 this "documentary" was made by a literal cult
Unrelated but I love your profile pic!!!!! Ratties are so so cute
@@Eltanin25 If they are appearing as evidence that transition in general is harmful, they might be saying that, but the wider message is "danger, transition is danger."
@@pbcrispy Thanks! I currently have 6 boys. Yes I have gone nose blind. 🤣
My mum (who was at school in the 60s/70s) talks about how there were kids in her school that she knows today were autistic or had ADHD, etc but those diagnoses weren’t common then. I don’t see us saying they’re a social contagion or made up
Actually, suspected neurodivergent person here, oh hell yes do they accuse us of being just a fad and claiming to be autistic or ADHD because it's fashionable or sounds like fun... The number of times I've been told that I cannot be autistic or ADHD because I'm an adult and wasn't diagnosed as a kid, and to stop trying to use my suspicion of neurodivergence as an excuse for my moral shortcomings... I'd actually like to see if I can get a proper diagnosis, but I don't even know where to start...
my parents grew up around the same time and deny ADHD exists because "kids are just energetic", it very much happens
Er, I hate to tell you, but people do say that autism and ADHD are made up social contagions. Even learning disorders like dyslexia or dyscalculia are barely recognised in my country, you get maybe 10mins extra on your exam time in school. Which, I'm sure you can imagine, doesn't help at all. Source: Autistic + dyscalculia here.
@@katze69 Depends on where you live. Unfortunately, in most countries it'll cost you a few thousand to get a diagnosis, so if you really want to, you'll have to be ready to burn some cash. My Autism assessment and diagnosis cost a little over 2k in USD and took like a year, and some countries like Australia will not allow you to move there if you have an ASD diagnosis so, keep that in mind. That's why most of the Autistic community don't discount self-diagnosis, it's just difficult to get a clinical diagnosis. I went for it because I wanted to know for sure and my family were supportive, even after getting the ASD diagnosis, I still have that annoying doubt so, it does help, but don't expect all of it to disappear with the diagnosis x')
@@SwordmaidenGwen Kind of feel like we need more information to back up that claim that Australia will deny you entry if you have ASD because would that not be discrimination?
I didn't identify as non-binary until I was 30.... because I didn't know what non-binary was before then. As soon as I learned about it, I was like, "oh so *that's* what I am!". I was still non-binary as a child, I just didn't have the language to describe my experience. I was dysphoric, but did not understand what I was experiencing or why. Getting the language and the resources to help me transition has made my life so much better. But putting out bullshit about how "no one was non-binary" back when I was in school is just incredibly misleading. Because I was non-binary back then, but it's impossible to come out as such when you don't have the language for it or a supportive social environment. I was pansexual back then too, but I didn't come out about that until my 20's, because when I was in school, people were using "gay" and "queer" as insults, and being gay was extremely stigmatized. And bi-/pansexual people were all but erased completely. I've always been queer and trans, but I'm now finally living in a time where I feel safe enough to come out about these things and to live as my authentic self.
If you don't mind me asking, how did you know you are non-binary?
People know this because they feel it inside and have an inner knowledge of it. You can't describe a feeling to someone who has never experienced it, it's like describing a salty taste to someone they've never tasted.
@@SuperJJParker I'm not sure what kind of answer you're looking for? The short answer is I realized I was *mostly* a guy, but also kind of not. Since that was neither 100% man nor 100% woman, that made me non-binary. Also the fact that I experience dysphoria around certain female aspects of my body, as well as being seen as a woman socially.
@@itisdevonly Thanks for the reply. I'm not after any particular answer. I'm just trying to understand more about how people feel. Being a cis man, I've never had any feelings about being a man or woman. I just am what I am, and I don't give it any thought, so it's hard to understand what trans or non binary people go through.
@@SuperJJParker I understand. When everything feels right, you don't have to think about it, so it can be hard to imagine what dysphoria is like. It's a bit like going around wearing the wrong size shoes. It's uncomfortable and sometimes painful. You might be able to live with it, depending on how off the size is, but it's never going to feel good. Being able to swap out those shoes for ones that fit is such a relief.
For a long time I didn't recognize what my dysphoria was, so I was just uncomfortable and unhappy and dissociated, and I didn't know why. But when I understood that it was about my gender and I started taking steps to transition, I immediately felt so much better, so much relief. I was honestly surprised by how much of a difference it made just to wear a men's T-shirt instead of a woman's, even though they're nearly identical. Somehow it matters. I don't know why it does, but it does. Something inside you just says "this is right" or "this is wrong."
I think it can help to understand that cis people can experience gender dysphoria too, but it's usually much less severe, since the discrepancy is much smaller and narrower in scope. But, for example, women who have to have mastectomies because of breast cancer might feel a sense of loss at not having a bust, and might seek reconstructive surgery to resolve that issue, that's gender affirming surgery. Men with gynecomastia (excess breast tissue) can feel self-conscious and uncomfortable, because their chest is oddly feminine, and getting surgery to resolve that is common. That too is gender affirming surgery. The thing about FTM top surgery, is that's exactly the same procedure as the one to correct gynecomastia. There's usually more tissue to remove in that case, but it's the same basic procedure, for the exact same purpose - to feel more comfortable in one's body.
How would you feel if you looked down and found that you had breasts? What if everyone thought of you as a woman and used she/her pronouns for you? How would that make you feel? Not every cis person would find that dysphoric or upsetting. And it might be okay initially for many, maybe an interesting novelty, but I think after time, for most, it would wear on you that your body didn't feel right and that people weren't really seeing you as you were. Eventually you'd get depressed and desperately want to fix the issue. But I suppose that's a scenario that is hard to imagine.
With all the discussion around Imane Khelif, I have had some conversations with friends and family that have been quite frustrating. From denying intersex people their gender just because of their chromosomes, to saying that some trans people transition because they have a fetish to see their body as the other sex. Then the whole sports discussion, that trans people are actually cis (not the word they use) people who are masquerading as the other sex to win trophies (the example was a swimmer, but I don't know the name). It's quite exhausting and I haven't read too many studies yet...
Just one thing, trans people look like that all the time and I think if you have a fetish you at least take a break, trans people don't do that and they don't do it because of a fetish
The words 'gender transformation' just reminds me of this quote from Robots (I think)
'Upgrades people, upgrades!'
Yeah that movie was awesome lol
I'm two months on testosterone, and I felt better than I have in a long time
I wish there was a Big Trans Agenda and industry. I want money to tell ppl about how awesome being trans is, I already do it for free damnit!
@@secretagentbob201030 I just ask what the trans agenda is and watch them stumble lol.
Unfortunately I live in a red state in the Bible Belt of the U.S and it’s against my school district rules to go by a different name or pronouns without getting it signed off by a parent/guardian. As horrible and transphobic as it is, most my teachers fortunately try to not dead name and misgender me unless they have to. Even my principal is amazing and accepts all her LGBTQ+ students. I hope that after I graduate this year, my school district will get better at being accepting. (Side note but I found out one of my favorite teachers moved schools because she transitioned!!!! I’m so proud of her and I hope that she’s happy)
Jamie, what you said about these people redirecting their energy to maybe saying "hey, we probably shouldn't have a for-profit healthcare system" rang so true and so ironic. Because these are the exact same people calling public healthcare/universalized healthcare a socialist/communist scam and fighting *against* those who are trying to bring it about....
7:00 5 years ago now would be 2019. I was in middle school and one of my classmates was trans non-binary and used he/they pronouns. I was also figuring out my identity and 5 months later identified as enby with they/she pronouns (I'm now trans masc). Just because that teacher hadn't heard of being trans or enby in class does NOT mean it didn't happen. If anything I'm pretty sure her students were worried about coming out to her as trans and hid it.
Yep. More than 5 years ago I was being told "No one heard of non-binary 5 years ago". Because for some reason the number is always 5. I've been out for 9 years, so clearly at least one person was non-binary 5 years ago.
5 years ago I graduated highschool and started university. In a hs of ~2k students I was one of at least 7 trans kids that I can remember off the top of my head. That didn't really change at all in university. It's wild to hear someone say that there were no trans students in 2019 even if they are exaggerating.
No, what’s really f-ed up is feeling though TH-cam is pushing this “ad” several times (because I live in Missouri), when all I’m trying to do is listen to sapphic playlist. I ended up just having to report them.😒
Get a adblocker or a modded / 3rd party TH-cam client if you're on mobile💀
'THEIR movies' *Their* games, why are *THEY* doing this'. Who? Directors and game creators? Oh, you mean me? Im doing this??? Okay then.
I want to clarify that its not just difficult for trans people to get gender-affirming care, its also difficult for trans people to get ANY kind of care if it could even just remotely be seen as a trans thing. I knew a trans man whose doctors thought he had endometriosis. He wanted a hysterectomy anyways, but this was an even bigger reason to get it. He could barely get any doctors to even look at it. He finally got a doctor who did an exploratory surgery, who had found that his uterus was essentially dying from the inside out, absolutely filled with dead tissue. Since it was exploratory, they didnt remove it, but they cleaned it up a bit. His uterus was still dying and it NEEDED to get removed, and he literally had to search constantly for OVER A YEAR in order to get anyone to take care of it, because no one wanted to remove the dying uterus of a trans man. This is in the country where a doctor is perfectly allowed to deny women birth control if they dont have a husband thats okay with it, or healthcare for an autistic person because apparently autistic people arent capable of making their own medical decisions. Americaaaa
sounds crazy
Thats an American healthcare issue
@@res6148 Partially, but not really. Doctors all over the world will refuse to treat trans people for things, regardless of where or how legal it is
Ah the American healthcare system. The system that keeps on giving, and by giving I mean: fixing, taking, taking, taking some more, and then when you think its over they drop kick you from behind.
That is really strange because I had my hysto+oopho with no problems immediately within a few weeks of going through the medical process, planning, exams etc. I actually thought it was odd that cis women have such a hard time with getting medical care when I as a transman was run through quickly. Especially odd considering I had to fight viciously for 3 years as a minor to get medical care initially. Doctors and clinics would just ignore me. What a perverse world.
I think that there should be space for detransitioners at gender clinics. I don't think they warrant a whole separate class of clinics given their minuscule numbers; I just think that the specialists at existing clinics should be able to provide support for detransitioners as well as other trans people - after all, detransitioners do face many of the same challenges as trans people, what with going through a whole second transition.
Good gender clinics support detransitioners too. I met a detransitioner recently and he was very happy with the care he was getting. He had transitioned privately without proper MH care and self administered hormones and had an undiagnosed mental health condition. He has found trans ppl really supportive of his situation.
Nice idea except when I went through my detransition, I was routinely pushed into trans clinics from regular OBGYN clinics even though they were remarkably incompetent and completely messed up my health. It was dangerous, I was put into medically induced menopause and hormonal psychosis for 6 months with less frequent symptoms for an additional 6 months. It was not until I REFUSED to back down that I got a functional medicine OBGYN who understood my health issues much better. I do not trust trans clinics.
If you have the time and constitution, I recommend Jessie Gender's two video essays in which she tears apart this "documentary," from showing how the movie misconstrued the true story behind the dramatized segments about a Latine trans-man, to the film language the movie uses.
I'm not trans, but you're so inspiring to me. You're so clearly comfortable being exactly who you are. 💕
We also happen to share a surname 😅
Funny how the ones that used to say "Facts don't care about your feelings" ignore so many facts, studies and professional opinions, just becasue their feelings tell them they are correct, isn't it?
Psychological projection is strong with that crowd
this isn't even the worst of the ads. there's one that straight-up tells a misconstrued story from start-to-finish, which a lot of transphobic rhetoric all throughout it.
It is still crazy that youtube still ensists to put conversion theropy ads on such great chanles just because they exist.
If you live in NY or California, consider reporting this to the state AG, as conversion-therapy is illegal in both of those states.
As a left handed trans person the comparison is pretty accurate imo; they're both normal variations of humans that have been unfairly demonised. One day people will talk about this hate the same way they do about left handedness being abused for it!
@@grieffoundation8451you are quite literally lying. We have evidence of trans people existing in ancient greece, china, and even egypt. Womp womp
@@grieffoundation8451 Trans people have always existed but were often conflated with homosexuality and cross dressing. But your use of dog whistles already shows that you dont care about the facts
@@grieffoundation8451 You are a literal transvestigator.
Yep. I met a woman who had been forced to be right handed...by damaging her left hand so badly she had no fine motor control left. It's the same kind of abuse happening to trans people now.
As a trans man myself i can say that being transgender is not a trend and at times because of truama and gender dysphoria it can be very difficult. Though I am so grateful and i am more healthy and happy than I ever been still I struggle with gender dysphoria and trauma. I am more happy and healthy because i am currently in medical transition. These turfs need to stop. I hate people who are transphobic
I don't understand, I don't see a trend anywhere for being a trans person or non-binary. I'm non-binary and i don't saw a single non-binary person around me in my city.
I didn't become trans because it was cool at 11 I just discovered there was a word and an identity for my feelings of dysphoria
About 150 years ago, any school teacher could have said: "Five years ago, nobody knew about being left-handed, and nobody was left-handed". The change is in awareness, not in the distribution of phenomena within biology. Denying left-handedness doesn't make people be not left handed.
Might I ask why there is no boom in trans-identifying youth in France? It’s only 25 miles from England, is socially progressive and homosexuality has been legal since 1791
@@grieffoundation8451Maybe try to hide your power level a bit more by not using BS terms.
"follow the money, it'll always tell you the truth"
ok.... who paid for this documentary?
"no, not like that"
jammidodger upload my day is no longer awful thank you jamie 🔥
I want to know where these in and out hrt clinics are.. I'm 29 and I'm still having to go through all the hoops just to get an appointment to talk to a doctor..
It's always interesting seeing an information panel under the vid, makes you go "oh this is going to be intense"
I wish we would stop saying that puberty blockers are reversible. "Reversible" implies that something has happened that needs intervention to reverse. "Reversing" puberty blockers is just... Not taking them anymore. It's like saying the fever reducing effects of acetaminophen are "reversible". That would sound ridiculous because (assuming you're still ill) your fever will just come back on its own if you stop suppressing it.
Yep. It's like buying a box of cake mix, putting it on the shelf, and saying you need to reverse making the cake. You can't, you didn't make the cake, but you still can if you want to.
Had I gotten gender affirming healthcare as a kid, (even just the safety to socially transition) I would be so much happier today. I suffered through school, and hated being forced to wear the wrong clothes and put in the wrong PDHPE class. It made life miserable for me to not get a chance to be myself, and to not have the words to explain that to anyone. I ODed twice to try to get out of the hell I was living. It wasn't until years later as an adult that I was able to come out, and start dressing the way I wanted and going by a new name and pronouns. But even now, I have to put up with the irreversible changes of going through the wrong puberty for me. It's exhausting to put so much time and effort into makeup and clothes, just to hide secondary sex characteristics so that I feel comfortable.
Let kids get the help they need. Not everyone has an ambulance find them fast enough.
As a preface, I am a cis straight white male in my 20s. I definitely don't know all of the correct words for everything so anything I say that comes off wrong or disrespectful is unintentional and I will gladly take any correction or feedback to my language. Trans rights and visibility came onto my radar in the past few years, and there are now a handful of trans and nonbinary people in my life, including my partner. I have spent that time educating myself and being the best ally that I can be. Educators like Jamie have been such a valuable resource on my journey of striving to be the best person I can be. I was hoping to ask Jamie (if he happens to see my comment) and this community what the most important and impactful things an ally can do or be from the perspective of people with the lived experience of being a part of gender-queer community. I do what I consider the basics i.e. being aware of gendered language, asking for and using the correct pronouns, respecting individuality and privacy, and just generally treating everybody as a person and an equal. What else can I do to be the best ally for the people around me? Thank you all!
Fellow cis person here. I heard some advice from a trans man (DrBen), who requested that we cis people try to center trans people's voices, and be cautious about speaking up in contentious discussions unless we are confident we are well-informed on the nuances (as otherwise we may accidentally do more harm).
(I will sit back quietly now and listen to what others say since I am not trans or nonbinary.)
My enby egg only recently cracked, so I don't feel like I'm really part of the community in this way yet. But I can tell you I am happy whenever people try to use my pronouns and my chosen name. It makes me feel seen and accepted. So I guess that's the easiest impactful way to be an ally. Especially when you try to use the pronouns (I guess people have a hard time not using she/her for me, because my body is very female and I also like dresses sometimes).
As a trans person, I think you're already being a pretty good ally with all the effort you are putting in. But like another user already refrenced, listening to the trans voices around you and lifting them up is something you can do to be a better ally.
Another thing you can do as a cis straight white male is to call out any intolerable people for their actions. Since a lot of homo/transphobic people would sooner listen to you than to (visibly) queer people.
THIS ADVICE IS NOT ALWAYS APPLICABLE!!!!
I hate it, but my tendency whenever I get misgendered is to shut up and take it. I'm afraid of retaliation. There have been many moments in my life where a friend, and once a near stranger bless him, have corrected the offender for me without me even saying anything. I am always so eternally grateful to these heros. So I say, if you know someone is being misgendered, don't be afraid to correct them if the person being misgendered isn't standing up for themselves. I WOULD NOT do this tho if the offender is in a position to enact violence on whoever you are standing up for. Don't out people to bigots obviously, use your brain. The best option would be to correct the offender when the trans person is not physically near the offender
You already are doing great. Being open to learning as well as acknowledging you sometimes mess up but wish to do better are already 1000 times better than the average cis person just learning about trans people.
Idk about you but that trailer feels like it’s for some kind of epic horror movie lol, maybe it’s just how they shoot the shots and the music 😂
They seem to think this is a horror movie ngl
@@akisatsuki8444 lol
Their main intention is to spread fear, as it's one of the most effective ways to influence and control people into agreeing with their viewpoints and acting in ways that align with their agenda. Educating people isn't even on their list, as they didn't use any actual facts in the documentary.
I received my little Pud today!!! It came in a pride bag and I love the cape!!! Thanks Jamie!!!
I wanted to comment today because I won't be able to watch this for awhile and that's going to affect the algorithms negatively. Here's some ballast for that.
I love your works; I find them enlightened, helpful, inspiring, and hugely relatable. I get to change a little or a lot for the better with each interaction. Your gentleness doesn't detract from your male identity for me. Instead YOU rather raise the esteem I have for all men that you are among them.
I just got called a predator for being LGBTQIA+ supportive under a minecraft video titled "I added being gay to minecraft." so this video is much appreciated!
PS.: I just commented that technically Minecraft is the most queer game because all the mobs are non-binary and either bi or ace. Some people liked it, a couple didn't.
And in case you're wondering the exchange went like this:
@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 11 days ago:
Go to therapy
@Alpatrixx 11 days ago:
@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 no you
@BasicallyBaconSandvichIV 10 days ago:
I agree with @Alpatrixx assesment.
@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 10 days ago
@BasicallyBaconSandvichIV neither of you are making it to 30
@BasicallyBaconSandvichIV 10 days ago
@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 Already past thirty mate. [A lie.]
@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 10 days ago
@BasicallyBaconSandvichIV 30 cm long things maybe
@BasicallyBaconSandvichIV10 days ago
@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 Why thank you for the compliment!
But please, there may be kids reading this, it may not be appropriate to talk about my lenght down there.
@The_BlOb
9 days ago
No way the woke left got Minecraft too!
@nxmx6ix
3 hours ago
@BasicallyBaconSandvichIV First thing you think about when someone mentions cm is children, groomers gonna groom ig
@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644 36 minutes ago
@BasicallyBaconSandvichIV up yours not that you have that
There were luckily some really nice things before this, but this just made me kinda sad.
Oh, that one fingees video?
I'm not part of the lgbtq+ but the beginning part sounds awfully similar to people that are claiming others are faking autism online to gain clout. Many people have debunked this theory because people don't get any kind of clout for being autistic. It's even worse. We get told were stupid, dumb, can't understand things and when it isn't convenient to them (when they have to accomodate you) they just accuse you of stealing resources and faking it, because you're not that bad for them to have to accomodate you. And then they start calling you pretentious and selfish for setting very reasonable boundaries like making less noise, not being crammed in a car etc. I can vouch for the fact nobody wants to be associated to a perceived child who bangs their head, screams and is violent in their imaginative stereotype. Because that's what all autistic people are reduced to and whether you fit that depiction, or don't (which is the scary part) a lot of uninformed pretentious neurotypicals will use that as an excuse to mock you. And as I said earlier, even if you don't fit the standard you're still mocked or being made fun of. Either on the pretence of faking your disorder/disability or you being different and weird and autistic.
I can almost certainly tell the same happenes for trans kids. They probably get made fun of and insulted by others all the time unless they meet some supportive folks or other fellow lgbtq+ (or most of them) identifying people.
So I doubt any of them would do it to get popular or gain any sort of clout.
So like, 15 years ago my rural PA highschool had a bunch of queer kids including one openly trans guy and almost everyone was cool with them. The like, super preppy Christian kids obviously werent but the rest of us had no problem accepting our queer and trans classmates. We definitely thought they were weird but more because they were mostly scene/emo kids lol. I wanted to be like them but didnt know why. 15 years later I do know why. People really love being ignorant
I’m mad that I’ve watched so many of your videos and never once have you ever eaten any jammy Dodgers and that’s really the only reason I subscribed.
"Profit based medical system... Which is just awful..." Yes. Yes it is. We're not okay.
It should be free to transition.
@@S-yj2eh wtf honestly. nobody is saying this shite but you.
@@S-yj2eh stop whatever you are doing. You look ridiculous.
All healthcare should be free
@@S-yj2eh lmao of course you are not "with me". I've seen you comment ridiculous transphobic stuff and now this bs. Honestly stop. Don't you have better stuff to do?? This is too much.
Yeah true. Government needs to pay the medical field while everyone gets free health care.
Watching you whilst recovering from my top surgery this morning. Thanks for always being so positing 🥰
i was trying to play my dad "dont hug me im scared" and this came on and when i tried to skip it he stopped me and forced me to watch it. i was so uncomfortable and disgusted, he was just eating it tf up.
he knew i was more left leaning and he's been trying to shove propaganda down my throat at any opportunity.
Ok but why would you be showing your dad don’t hug me I’m scared LMAO 😭 (also sorry he seems like he sucks)
@@tampj9558 i fuckin love dhmis- lmao
he does suck, kind hoped it'd traumatize him a little bit 🤣
What percentage of that 1% regret surgery because they had complications, lots of pain, or the result didn't look as good as they hoped but still identify as trans?
I regret getting LASIK, but that doesn't mean I think LASIK should be banned.
No idea what this is about, but Blahaj is along for the ride.
6:49 Nailed it!
It's so much simpler to have a word instead of a long-winded description, or resorting to just picking one of the available options.
After 20+ years of
"Well, I think of everyone as just a person, and I'm attracted to and open to relationships with all genders/gender identities/orientations/chromosomes/etc."
I can just say "Pansexual".
After 20+ years of
"Well, I've no use for gender norms so I just ignore them because personally, I don't care about social constructs."
I can just say "Gender non-conforming"
Not everyone is familiar with the terminology, but at least there's a decent chance I won't have to elaborate😊
🥔❤🥔🧡🥔💛🥔💚🥔💙🥔💜🥔
If in 20 years gender norms no longer exist would that mean gender non conforming people no longer exist also?
@@SuperJJParker Perhaps, but GNC isn't a gender identity, but a form of gender expression. Non-binary people (which is a gender identity) have existed for all of human history, and are likely going to continue to exist unless something like eugenics happens.
@@rosieg6989 What percentage of non binary people do you believe are non binary due to not fitting in with society's gender roles?
@@SuperJJParker Correct, I'm just not sure if it would be a gradual disintegration or instant vaporization.
"Norms" in the sense of bimodal statistical models will always exist and aren't inherently problematic. Expecting everyone to embrace and adhere to such norms and roles based solely upon one's reproductive organs, and casting judgement on those who don't conform, is the part we can do away with, as it serves no purpose nor provides any benefit.
Humans tend to get uncomfortable when they can't easily label or categorize everything, for some reason.
@@SuperJJParker None, again, gender identity is a completely separate thing from gender roles and gender expression. Gender roles and gender expression are social constructs, while gender identity is an innate part of how a person is born.
“My daughter was in pain. She used to cry, she couldn’t sleep, she couldn’t concentrate”
Damn, almost sounds like something else I know of! coughDYSPHORIAcough
As a trans guy who is constantly fighting with my insurance and finding a surgeon that will take my insurance, this really angers me bc I've been trying to get top surgery for 4 years.... it is not an easy process
For the algorithm and the records. My first coming out in front of my mother was when I was about 12 years old, that was in 1998, when I asked her to get me checked because I think there might be a possibility that I could be a girl. I didn't even know the term trans or the possibility of transitioning. I tried twice, both times she said this is bullshit and I'm crazy.... Yey, up in the closet for a decade... Socially transitioned around 2008/2009 totally 5 years ago... it would be so laughable if it weren't so sad... xD
7:38 That teacher might be In Florida, as I believe that simply talking about trans stuff in schools (not conversion therapy or trying to force kids to be trans, simply discussing it) really could put a teacher’s teaching license at risk
Just so everyone knows, unless I'm very much mistaken this film weaponizes a trans person who ended up committing self-end because of the social pressure they were put under. They are represented by an actor speaking words they didn't. It's a disgusting use of a very tragic story. Wherever he is now, I hope the boy who's story they now weaponize is somewherebetter (even if it wasn't this one, it was another one like it. It's hard to keep track now tbh)
I was one of the non-conforming kids at school. The fashions and hair and behaviour then were non-binary and i just went with it.
I'm glad I explored my identity. Other kids shouted slurs and bullied me but some admired that I wasn't conforming to stereotypes.
School isn't the whole world. It's hard just finding yourself amongst the pressures and expectations.
There's help, sympathetic people who can listen and support you.
It Just Gets Better. It got better for me. You can be who you are!
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why do people keep saying "oh trans youth has no say in their surgeries" like- do you know how surgeries work for trans people especially young ones?
I've been getting an ad for this trailer (I seem to remember it being the whole trailer) at least twice, and everytime I was disgusted with it. Happy you finally covered it!
Man if they treated boob surgery like they treat puberty blockers, actually it would be much better considered that regret rate.
Yep, and they let teenagers (under 18 no less) get breast implants.
Man, I WISH that was how it worked. I went to a therapist in college. They sent me to someone who put me on hormonal birth control, which made things WORSE. I've still not had any surgery, and am not on hormones, and I'm in my 40's. SO wish I had been supported in middle school, high school, ... EVER!
fun fact: those detransitioners were ALL ADULTS when they got on hormones or got surgeries. im sorry, but that is your fault. you agreed to the hormones, you agreed to the surgeries. stop blaming others & take responsibility for your decisions. one of them is crying about how she "may never have kids" even though she wasnt even on t for a full year (& even though trans men who have been on hormones for years can still get pregnant). if youre THAT concerned about it, get a fertility test. but its not a real concern, its just crocodile tears for grifter money. another thing id like to point out in this "film" is the heavy "follow the money" angle, which is just thinly veiled antisemitism.
Do you have no compassion for people who suffered and made choices from desperation, who later change and now suffer permanent damage? I was a transman for 14 years until I was profoundly healed inside out from a spiritual transformation. I am one of the lucky ones, because I only did one surgery. That one alone left me vulnerable to the medical system fucking over my health through remarkable incompetence. I was put into medically induced menopause and hormonal psychosis for 6 months with lesser symptoms for another 6 months. It was absolutely dangerous for my life. Do you not care at all about that stuff? I would NEVER have predicted any of that would happen or even know what it was. It sounds like you are angry at detrans people and WANT them to suffer. But ALL detrans people were once trans people, so do you care about trans people or not?
@@anewagora no. im angry at grifters, which the people in this "documentary" clearly are. when i say they wont take responsibility, i mean that instead of just living their lives they blame everybody else. its not "i made a mistake", its "i was coerced into this as a fully grown adult by an evil cabal". dont come at me saying i dont care about trans people when these grifters are out there making money off of trying to prevent trans people from getting any care whatsoever
@@anewagora so what's your solution? Ban trans healthcare for all adults because YOU regretted it? By that metric everything should be banned. There are people who regret chemo and have permanent effects (including infertility and sterility), should chemo be banned? What about knee replacements?
@@waffles3629 not banned, the treatment priorities for trans and detrans healthcare need to be established and how to alleviate suffering better understood, i.e. real treatment.
at the moment there's no way to tell if someone will change. Additionally considering how I changed, it suggests a completely different interpretation of transgenderism. That you're not born with something lifelong, something else is going on. In my trans and detrans support group we've discussed this a lot and not only are a lot of trans people suffering longterm because the condition is debilitating, there's a huge increase in people transitioning who really shouldn't have medically. Those people get in and out sooner, it's a more temporary experience.
The way the process is done really should be dramatically different to actually help people suffer less. I already was dismayed at the lack of trauma therapy being integrated when I was trans, I was lucky to find Somatic Experiencing (trauma therapy) on my own, which is what ended my Chronic Fatigue after 12 years. It's patent stupidity to not prioritize trauma therapy as the center of trans healthcare.
We're also finding that surgeries have a high rate of damage/ complications and regret with permanent damage later on, hence why the detrans topic has become prominent recently. Specifically sex reassignment surgery. Those surgeries are horrifying experiments that destroy people. A transman died from constant brutal complications over a few years. We need to urgently consider what is harming trans people and what's actually helping.
@@anewagora why do I need trauma therapy for being trans? Oh right, because I don't. Trauma didn't make me trans. You regret something- you, not everyone. That does not mean care should be gatekept and unnecessary therapy pushed.
One very important semi-correction: taking hormones absolutely CAN screw you up mentally. I have no information to suggest that either estrogen or testosterone carry that risk (and none to say that they don't). Progesterone is what messes with me. I was never able to tolerate birth control pills when I was younger, as they made my depression noticeably worse. I found out much later that progesterone was the specific culprit when I took it years and years later to stop excessive bleeding, and it made it almost intolerable to exist for a few days until it was out of my system. It's indescribable how bad that felt.
Obviously plenty of people tolerate birth control (and progesterone only pills) just fine; I'm just not one of those people. I'd never suggest that birth control pills should be outlawed because of people like me, and I'd never suggest that HRT for trans people should be outlawed if testosterone or estrogen carries the same risk for some other unlucky minority. But I'm not going to lie, hearing you say so confidently and mockingly that "oh no, hormones could never do this" does not feel good.
Yeah both ways. I’m trans and intersex and unfortunately I have pms/pmmd (not sure which one, mom and both sisters also have pms) with the issues each month. But because I’m MtF they don’t even want to try to test if birth control pills would work better than just the estrogen I get now (low dosage).
Not that I ever get read as trans. My body made sure of that when it started to produce female hormones at 14/15😂. I just feel crap 6 days a month and often have to skip 1 or 2 days of work.
For the ones wondering: yes I get the full menstruation symptoms besides bleeding
Funny how they try and claim that being trans is seen as cool and trendy like yeah I totally chose to spend money I don’t have on testosterone and feel bummed out that I have no idea how I will ever afford top surgery and also get misgendered and discriminated bc it’s “fun”
But I LOVE that I’m trans, it’s a major part of my identity bc it shapes my experiences and how I react and interact with the world!
It's especially funny to claim it's not cool & trendy from a person with over a million adoring & supportive fans. 🤔
@@5-Volt 1.11 million...instead of the 4.25 billion that have access to TH-cam, as in 0.026% of the world that has access to youtube follows him.
Oh my goshhhhhh I just remembered I got ads for that documentary like months ago or something, so annoying 😭
Commenting for the algorithm because I’m not sure I’ll be able to finish this video 😓
Not trans.. if my child has said they were trans we would have sat down had a few talks and done whatever they needed us!!
a trans kid would love you to be their parent. unfortunately kids who come out to their parents as trans are hurt in some way by them and/or get disowned.
Exactly what I did. I've been watching Jamie's channel for five years now, from suddenly needing to know about this phenomenon. It can be scary when you're too focused on how the world is going to treat your kid .. you need to focus on how awesome your kid is, and not panic while you work out how to protect them from the worst of the transphobic world.
just starting this video, but oh my god people using detransitioners to further their transphobia piss me off, because i have a friend whose older brother is a detransitioner (came out as a trans girl in 4th grade, went on puberty blockers, went back to identifying as male in 8th grade.) the friend is also trans and came out in high school, is still IDing as trans as an adult, and as far as i know his older brother has never had problems with it, and i imagine is probably pretty pissed that transphobes are using people like him as an example to discriminate against people like his little sibling. not only is it awful for trans people, it also gives just regular trans supportive detransitioners who understand that just because something didn't work for them doesn't mean it won't work for other people a bad name. sucks all around
As a Kansan my heart goes out to any trans person who live in red states who have a hard time finding care.
It was not until today that I learned cis kids have been given puberty blockers for years for precocious puberty and there was no concern until it came to trans kids, and now I'm angry about it and that more people don't argue that point.
We do, but transphobes aren't amenable to rational argument.
The damage done makes it high-risk. I run a trans & detrans support group and we have 18-20 year old detrans women there who have permanent chronic bone pain and osteoporosis without any known treatments. I was a transman for 14 years. I think hormones are actually safer than puberty blockers.
@@anewagora how long did she use blockers?
@@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos it varies by person in the group. I know one 18 year old woman used blockers ages 11-14 before starting testosterone. She wasn't on testosterone that long, I think less than a year.
@anewagora ah, yeah, perhaps the testosterone interfered with the onset of her natural puberty. That's very unfortunate, if so :(
i kept seeing ads for this up untill a few weeks ago, so glad they stopped giving me that ads omg
Having such an emotionally draining day regarding being trans, so happy to see a Jamie video 🥺 ik this will be a tough watch but I'm here w my people. Love this community, thanks friends
I thought your pfp was a bi flag at first lol. I'm sorry to hear about your day though
I will say that if you are over 18, it is very easy to get HRT in the US. We have companies that will do everything online and get you a prescription within one appointment and they are covered by a few insurances. This isn’t for kids, but it is easier in the US than the UK
I always appreciate your views on videos like these. Tumblr is still around
Jamie the announcement of an NHS Levy review into healthcare for trans adults causes me as a Trans man great concern. We have seen how the Cass Review has been misrepresented and misused to severely restrict healthcare for trans young people, even though the review is deeply flawed, what is your take on this (Matt) The government has also just implimented the ban on puberty blockers in Northen Island
saying the cass review was misinterpeted is like saying andrew wakefield was misinterpreted.
@@SophieRoseLive technically he was, but only to the extent that he was selling his own individual vacccines as a replacement for the 'dangerous' combined MMR vaccine, and everyone has used the study to say that all vaccines are bad (including his individual vaccines)
16:10 It’s reasonable to say that the full film _might_ provide further context, but saying you’re _sure_ that they provide context is far too generous for this kind of thing.
I had a few surgeries as a baby/kid (exactly two as a baby and one as a kid for real medical reasons). And had another two in the past decade for flat feet. I won't go into detail about the first ones as I know nothing about them (too small to remember and understand) and because it's a long story. But I vividly remember being put to sleep for my first flat feet surgery. For context you have to do two. One where they put screws in the feet to shift the bone in the right place and one to take them out. During the first one I was kind of joking about it with the docs. I was at our local very well known in Europe children's hospital called Gaslini. I told the docs I was scared of pain so I was not feeling my best about doing the whole thing and getting a needle stuck in my arm. I powered through it and joked how it didn't really hurt but as a distraction I kept thinking about stabbing my fingers all the time with needles everytime I sew anything. The male doctor (If I'm not wrong) was actually surprised and chucked. I believe the female doctor was amused and interested at the same time in the plenty of hobbies I do all the time. I was 14 close to 15 it was back in 2016 so my memories are a bit fuzzy. Also I'm autistic.
During the last surgery I was openly talking about my degree during the set up time. And all the ladies chimed in interested to hear what I had to say as a very hobby filled woman with lots of interests and a nice fancy degree on the way: in product and communication design. The visuals were really freaky for me too as someone who has been in that environment and got away from it easy peasy. Except one time where one doc was kind of rude at me for crying when walking. I was very overwhelmed and I thought it would hurt just as bad if not worse than it did after the first surgery.
Edit: I'm not trying to insult anyone or diminuish anyone by saying real medical reasons. I just don't know how to put it nicely. I'm referring to health reasons that would've affected my life for the worse long term (or even caused death) if not treated immediately. As opposed to a surgery that could've waited a moment before getting done because it is not a medical emergency.
I think you are looking for elective vs urgent vs emergency surgery. Emergency surgery is "do it as soon as possible or you will die/severely be impacted". Urgent surgery is "can be done in the next few days, and most likely if not done will develop into an emergency situation". And elective is "anything that won't kill or severely impact you anytime soon".
Surprisingly many cancer surgeries are actually elective since you can often wait even a few months to get them done.
There are detransitioners who are extremely vocally pro-trans so yes, no excuse
I had a root canal which went disastrously wrong in my twenties, around 1990. My teeth were, ironically, very hard but also cracked easily, so the anesthetic couldn't reach down the nerve canal to shut off the pain sensation. The only thing the dentist could think of to do, since she didn't have a sedation license, was to drill into my tooth, directly down the nerve canal, without anesthesia, and then shove the needle directly into the nerve.
The drilling hurt so much, I think the pain really did hit "10" on the famous "scale of 1 to 10". I noticed that day that pain comes in something analogous to "colors", that it has qualities analogous to color or flavor. or texture. It was quite an educational experience. It also changed my relationship with all forms of medical care, which had already been problematic for me because of abuse I had suffered in childhood which had resulted in PTSD.
Did I avoid having dental work in later years? Do I campaign against dental work? Well, no. Guess I'm a bad person.
Here in Ireland, when we were voting to change the constitution to permit abortions, I got very interested in factchecking and reading up on what those opposing the changes were saying.
And it was the exact same playbook.
Massive focus on people who experienced regret, (or hypothetical regret of those who never did have an abortion but thought 'maybe' at some point) . A lot of talk to the american "abortion industry" and talk of money, and people being pressured into it for profit.
the exact same groups of people are both anti-abortion and anti-trans, and they use the same tactics.
the most frustrating thing is how these people can openly lie. And everyone is taken in by their lies. leaving a very small minority trying to do around fact-checking.
For real. Fact checking in the news/media isn't up to standard.
Man, I also don't get how some detransitioners think it's everyone else's fault they ended up transitioning and regretting it. I literally fought to finally get Testosterone, and if I regret it at some point, guess who is to blame? Still me! I'm the one who decided to take HRT, no one ever forced me to. I had a choice, and if that choice turns out to be wrong, then that's the way it is. No one forced me. I took that risk by myself.
i will say that cos you only reacted to the trailer there's probably going to be people that'll claim that comments in the trailer were 'taken out of context' and other BS but i get why you didn't react to the whole thing, they don't deserve your time or money. great video anyway and keep up the good work
I am not trans, but I had my first surgery when I was nine. It was a necessary genital surgery. That is not counting circumcision. That is not counting the the genital surgery I have had since being in my 60's. The people should be sued for child endangerment.
6:45 I wonder how many people were closeted