You are a wonderfully eloquent person and I really appreciate the analogies you frequently provide. I've learnt a lot from your videos, thank you for sharing your experiences.
I love your explanation about how information is either stored in a specific file forever, or it's a sticky note that slides off the front of the filing cabinet. That is (not exactly) how I've described taking information in (learning) my whole life - I either grab it and it's there forever (along with what day I learned it, where I was, what I was wearing, who I was with, the weather outside, and what I ate later on), or I'm like teflon and it hits me and slides off never to be considered again. I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way - thanks!
It feels like, I’m always saying, why am I waiting on them to get it? When I worked in electronics, I was always fixing problems that shouldn’t have happened in the first place, or that’s how I felt about it, school was always waiting, and waiting, I could never understand why I was waiting constantly on everyone else, I wanted to get it done and move on to the next thing, I love my alone time, it’s a relief to not have to be around so many people anymore, I loved when at school and work, playing a prank on them, having things done and then letting teachers tell me to finish my assignment, then saying, but I’m already done, I also loved doing that same sort of thing to my boss, she could never figure out how I was doing the work so quickly, and they’d always try to find a flaw, it really was fun to watch them watching me trying to figure out how I was doing it, and they never did figure it out, it’s one thing to be the odd one, but it can be fun too messing with people, because you know they can’t put you as being odd and smart together in their mind, so they never figure you out, it’s like people have a love/hate relationship with us, we’re sweet people, honest and hard working, but we just don’t really give a crap what you’re babbling about!lol
"Hard to be normal"... Half the time, I don't understand what other people mean, because they use words so imprecisely. "Turn left?" "Right" turn right "Why'd you do that?" "You told me to turn right." "No, I meant you were right." "You mean you meant I was correct." "Jeez. . ." Anyone who has had this same conversation with others, raise your hand.
🙋♂️ Like EVERY time I need the passenger to navigate! I’ve also noticed it’s harder to talk to a NT while driving. Seriously, I’m supposed to be looking at the road! How TF is ANYONE, NT or ND, still expected to read nonverbal queues at a time like this?!
Just wanted to say thank you for the end of your video: "Another way of looking at is that I've been given some amazing gifts and these gifts make me 'special'--again the opposite of normal. So every gift that I have makes it harder to be normal. Even something basic like being extra creative--hard to be normal. Being extra intelligent--harder to be normal. Being more logical than others--hard to be normal. Every gift no matter how good it is in some situations makes it hard to be normal in other situations. And for me that's what Aspergers is."
Yep. Music. Photography. Even casual art. For many years now I found myself to be hopping from one of these to the next in a cyclical and fairly equally intervalled manner. Obsessing to a great extent until the period ends and I’m onto the other thing, absolutely immersed.
Thank you so much for this! I have adhd and I want to understand my niece who is a verbal autistic. My relationship with her has been really strained because I just don't fully understand what she goes through in her mind. All I see from the outside is her anger and frustration. I'm not trying to compare her with other people who have autism. It's just that I love her very much and I want to learn more about her condition and how she thinks.
Have just found your videos. Adorable. I believe I am an Aspie too. As a child I was sure I was adopted by humans BUT my real parents were dragons...(!) I was the kinda child who is reading "teenage" books in age of 3 but trying to figure out how to smile the right way - using the mirror. Always separate, lonely, misunderstood, contempted. Bullied in school. Had to learn how to take part in conversation - it was always a kinda exam to me - interacting with people! I still have great problem with phone calls etc. I feel very safe watching your videos, like a meeting with an Aspie friend :) gonna stay here. Thanks for all!
Thank you, This video is very helpful for me. I think there is something wrong with me because I'm not "normal" I have not been diagnosed with Autism or Aspergers or any disorder. I have always felt different from everyone else and I have difficulty being me when I am around "normal" people. Have a nice day 💞🙏
I have always felt the same way. When I’m with really close friends da I can interact “normal” and just be me. But with most people I can’t seem to get more than 2 words out and I feel nervous and tense and feel like an idiot.😕😕 and it just happens. I used to think that I was just shy. And I always always try to talk more but it only works for a few moments Because it’s not natural for me ..
This resonated with me so much. "The gifts" that make it hard to be normal... they actually alienate me from others many times. People will say things like... "what can't you do? or "well, you just know it all don't you?" These comments always confused me... I never knew how to take it.
Yes, I understand about the file cabinet. I have told others it's like an electric train track if it does not go a certain way it will never reach the docking point. I normally have a learning curve when it comes to "understanding things in a normal manner." Use to be in what my school called special needs class but they couldn't understand how to help me. But when I finally understood I helped those that the teacher couldn't help at all.
Hi mate I can relate to you I have Asperges and started doing videos on TH-cam , I find mostly social situations hard and get anxiety and depression a lot .
Hi Reesy I, thanks for the support. I didn't see any videos on your channel? I've found that even the hardest situations slowly get easier with practice. don't give up :)
@@autismfromtheInside The dsm 5 has scientifically questionable conclusions like seasonal affective DISORDER. Is an evolutionarily adaptive trait where your epigenetics through photoperiod modulation at greater latitudes and potentially harsh winters, downregulates neurotransmitters, hence metabolism, leading to sadness. Whats more survivable? -- sadness or starvation? Its hibernation lite. Good job white coat morons. I use to work with them as a tech. Even our phd avoided talking to me because i could troll them with logic. Im super holding back in trashing their stupid little book on human so called malfunction. I could pull out the Robert Sapolsky card. He was generious in his schizophrenia lecture on youtube in that Stanford classroom to give me some high caliber ammunition if i ever was met with the crazy deck. A favorite of people with more power than argumentative capability.
@@autismfromtheInside Dont ever be fooled by qualifications. If they aren't passionate about their trade you can be that rarity that dominates them and not even have a masters degree.
@@autismfromtheInside There is no such thing as too logical either. Thats a myth sub human intelligence conjures as a means to make themselves feel better about having the curiosity of an evangelist on xanax.
Once again, your description of your experiences as a person with autism sounds like you're describing my experiences. I especially identify with being extremely logical, organized, etc., what a gift it is to me to have those qualities, and how hard it is for "normal" people to understand all of that. Thank you.
I think I often get mis-classed as "on the spectrum" by people due to childhood trauma which also has an effect on how I process information. Thank you for your explanation of how it is for you. It really clarified that I am a very different type of thinker as most of my learning is haphazard and unplanned (the complete other way around to what you were describing).
This helps me better understand my brother, who I suspect has Aspergers. Of course, being a highly sensitive person myself, this can drive me nuts. And here we are, the Odd Couple, sharing an apartment. 🥺
I don’t have a great memory for stuff I’m learning on purpose and I don’t have very useful “gifts”...but I also didn’t realise I was struggling all that much until recent years. I did however get “special” (quotation marks and all) on the back of my year 12 jersey back in 2008! I was fully aware that I had a lot of “talent” for failing spectacularly at some things while overall being perfectly intelligent
❤watching this video 7 years after it was posted. So much relatable of the social situations that shy introvert persons go through - For years the shy traits were gas lighted by others around them. But there is a name to it --ASD .
I have Aspergers and it explains a lot about myself,ever since I found this out I’ve been much happier. Although I don’t know how to tell anyone coming from an African Home it’s either they don’t understand or they don’t believe you.
I have been getting back into simple note taking. Keep a few notebooks the size of my hand by my bed just in case. I don't enjoy journaling extensively though. But then again I really want to share my thoughts and knowledge. I randomly got into philosophy but I got to a point where...the answer is just another question. So I'm on break from that for now.
I always knew I didn't fit normal. I was okay with being different until diagnosed at 45. Now I am classified as a not normal and am having trouble with who I am and where I can never fit.
Spot on for me too - untill life became anything but simple it was all easy to work through methodically, then it all wwent all over the ships deck and it is like I have been in a astorm trying to ctahc bits and pieces flying around seeking to prevent loss and damage. My Tabs on my Browser and my languishing Filing and Paperwork is now complete disaarray though i know reasonably where to go look, but I also have not ever had any place for "useless" information, it washes over me like water over a ducks back. Nice to see I am not alone - thanks for that!
Perfect I love you man... my double and your videos are helping so much even the understanding is great I'm with you 1000 percent on moat things say great for your time from us all...
Just a couple of video ideas for u in future, great channel mate: 1) Aspergers and being misdiagnosed and similarities with ADHD , SPD 2) Disclosure: When u should say it to people, the information on this is very vague out their, generally I'm filled with anxiety everytime I share it with someone. 3) Any suggestions on small talk and how to get better at it 4) Sexuality videos and peoples experiences in this area 5) Having an ego or bullying other people because u have AS and feel inferior. I've met one or two rude and hurtful people with Aspergers and this tends to be because they compensate their low self esteem 6) Assertiveness tips
Pity you chose to use the term ‘normal’ to describe those members of society who don’t have Asperger’s syndrome ( now termed ASD Level 1). What is normal? How do you define ‘normal’ in respect to the human condition? Aren’t we all individuals with multiple identities and wide variations in how we interact with others? We all live on a spectrum of human experience.
I've watched 2 vids now and you have just summarised my whole 3 year diagnosis in like 15mins. Even know I'm 10 years plus therapy and everyone around me personal or professional still have me explain this over and Over. Its circles and circles. They all understand and dont get it all in 1. My fault I suppose. But everything is now becoming illogical to me. I dont know how to navigate in this world. I have no mask for it. I wish i was diagnosed in my younger years. Would of helped massively. Although that was early 80s. There was only rain man back then. I went to therapy cause I couldnt b in this world anymore. Now i wish to very much. But putting a name on it didnt help me. The realisation the light bulb moment of what it ment. THIS IS WHO I AM. Rather than I'm broken and just need fixed. No asperger's garage in my town. Anyways thanks for using the correct words logically. Havent related to anything for a while.
So relatable. Except I live in a culture that likes to make stuff up, so I often end up going through all my files whenever I get conflicting information. It's not that bad since I know my limits, but it does prevent me from doing stuff I really like as often as I'm expected to (friends expect me to be with them for longer periods of time during vacations, but I'd rather spend half that time all by myself, for example).
Whoah - I never heard it described that way before ... aT less than 3 minutes - I totally get it ! We could use more people describing their inner experiences - It can help us feel less isolated ...🌷
That’s for sharing . For what’s it’s worth I don’t really thing there is a standard of normal or at least there are more non normal people out there than you think that may not have a diagnosis or any kind or fit into one. If that makes sense
Wow, thank you sir, I am a owner of a multi million d, co, I have struggled so much to communicate.its tough to speak and not be a “narcissist” or “bullshitter”.
Omg. Narcissism is a catch phrase for EVERYTHING. Armchair psychologists throwing around diagnoses when they have no idea what they're talking about. 🤬
well I guess this is better than autism. I think we are sent from the spirit world- to save the people of earth. we must find each other. and create a new world. together. please take the time to find people with these same symptoms so we can stop being singled out and judged. If we simply had 2 or 3 of us together we would not look abnormal. we would IDOLIZED. The only reason any one gets a chance to shoot us down is because we are isolated. We are the ALPHAS. We feel EVERYTHING.
Hello! I like listening to your videos. They are very interesting. Thanks a lot! :) Pls tell me, do Aspergers always have an above average IQ or do some have an average IQ. Or is finally only the IQ defining if you are Aspergers or not?
So. Why is it that I’m pretty sure I’m an Aspie too? Well because when you describe things like filing information away I think to myself, I assumed that was normal. I have watched a few of your videos and each time I think to myself yes I know exactly what you are talking about, I thought that was normal....
LoL ! - What exactly is “ normal “ other than what we perceive to be the general concensus ? Also, how do we even know what other people think - as they are not nearly as hyper observant as we are ? Mmm 🤫
Im all of 'em Asper autism adhd... i hv no prob with any when i finally figured out, i dont want to & dont hv to fit in. Happy Misfitting ! btw, my ex died on ADHD cuz he nvr gave up fitting in, loveless depression kills.
I'd love to use your video in the awareness training sessions I run - is that ok with you? I love the way you describe what's in your head, it chimes with what so many of my students tell me.
Me too! Coz Im always forgetting to brush my hair. And I don't like the social expectation of having "Joe lunchbox" cookie cutter everyone is the same homogeneous hair. 🤮
The Nature of the Gifts ... Special Gifts / Providings ... Yes , this is True for so many On the Spectrum ... But , if these ... Let's say ... Eccentricities , even Anomalies ... Only seem Advantageous in Extremely Limited Settings / Environments ... and Do Not provide of Advantage or Advancement in the Gainful Sense ... Rather , All the Spectrum Components Unique to the Individual .. cause A Lack of Honest Ability to Not Only Maintain Gainful Employment and / or Cause Social Inadequacy ...or Worse have Caused People to Resent our Differences ... Then a Consideration has to be taken into Account ... That being Ginea-Pigs ...so to Speak ... By way of ...Well , get on in there and Let's All just see what you can do and what happens ... At some Point in Life ...we Need Compensated . Yeah , this can take a Life Time .
Hello there, i have a question: Is there a difference between aspergers syndrome and high functioning autism? If there is , can you please explain further?
Aspergers is an informal subcategory of autism. Some people might refer to it as 'high functioning', but I find this unhelpful because it masks the difficulties faced. It also makes the 'autism spectrum' sound like a linear continuum and implies that the 'low functioning' end is much worse (i.e. 'disabled' - which is not necessarily the case). In that sense 'functioning' might be better replaced with 'high pretending', the better someone is at hiding their difference and passing for 'normal' the better that person can 'function' in a society that does nothing to help.
What you are saying about yourself with the facial expression and vocal tone might come across as “Humble Bragging “ to some people in which case they might think you are arrogant and looking down on them and they might choose to not interact with you sometimes
Or they are just arrogant/deficient themselves and realise they feel uncomfortable around someone who is genuinely intelligent. Bullshitters, wankers and sociopaths would sweat the most, but when they realise they have a social advantage they often use it cruelly and feel justified/empowered. Real easy to gaslight an aspie especially when socially isolated. So having a rare skillset and saying it/ knowing it is more of an advertisement than a brag.
Great I don't have any gift so I am just a puzzle piece tat don't fit with normal people. They starts making fun of me. I am not used to it but I hide my conscious that nothing happened or they said . Yeah one gift I have some one make fun of me or hurts me sometimes due to pain I become deaf so I am not able to hear what they said or what the meaning they said I can't catch. 😂😂 Ya such good human I am just living . With lots of hope and ambition. And lazyness makes me a dumb 👍
The name "Asperger" won't be (or already isn't) used anymore. Do you plan on changing the name of the channel? Also considering that Hans Asperger was responsible for the death of many children...
I’m sorry for comming off as rude I’m stand offish I want to be accepted by a whole community I know fondly that’s i just don’t know how to go I’m my meds. Prozac made me so lazy and even more misery I won’t cent in here any more here sorry it’s all true 😢 blue heart 💙
Thank you for doing the video but it was very difficult to hear you because your voice is echoing. It’s like your far away or in a bathroom . Hope not all your videos are like this ☹️
😂 🤣I think Paul is actually sporting dreadlocks in this video which was filmed when he was about 9 years younger than he is now. It suited him at that age but maybe as he has matured he has chosen to wear a more conventional hair style. It saddens me that society demands that we conform to the status quo to be more widely accepted, especially as we grow older.
Nah. Define what normal is first. Otherwise there’s only strawman argument / logic. you can’t define it and it’s in flux everyday. If there’s no normalcy or pedestrian idea that it’s hard to function for those who don’t want to fake social routine of bs then those problems are separate from being an innate condition of some sort.
I think that Aspergher is just a type of human behavior.It is not a symptome. I am not an Aspie.It is not true that we can read other people faces.Or other people's mind??!! Most "normal"people dont have empathy at all. Your empathy just my not be recognized due to variation in the ways empathy is expressed. You need to know that,my friends.
Someone with severe asperger's wouldnt even be able to get through a video without rambling about their inner thoughts. I've seen it first hand...if you do have it....its got to be the mildest case I've ever seen.
You clearly don't understand Autism Spectrum Disorder. Aspergers is a form of it, I have it, and it's very frustrating to say the least when people think just because we're not non verbal and can be really intellectual that it's "mild." It still affects me and causes me struggles every day. I rock back and forth (called stimming) and struggle to make eye contact and conversation with most people. As well as having sensory issues.. Please do more research before making ignorant comments and assumptions.
You are a wonderfully eloquent person and I really appreciate the analogies you frequently provide. I've learnt a lot from your videos, thank you for sharing your experiences.
I love your explanation about how information is either stored in a specific file forever, or it's a sticky note that slides off the front of the filing cabinet. That is (not exactly) how I've described taking information in (learning) my whole life - I either grab it and it's there forever (along with what day I learned it, where I was, what I was wearing, who I was with, the weather outside, and what I ate later on), or I'm like teflon and it hits me and slides off never to be considered again. I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way - thanks!
We understand the task of evolution. Hold on to it tightly- God is with us.
It feels like, I’m always saying, why am I waiting on them to get it? When I worked in electronics, I was always fixing problems that shouldn’t have happened in the first place, or that’s how I felt about it, school was always waiting, and waiting, I could never understand why I was waiting constantly on everyone else, I wanted to get it done and move on to the next thing, I love my alone time, it’s a relief to not have to be around so many people anymore, I loved when at school and work, playing a prank on them, having things done and then letting teachers tell me to finish my assignment, then saying, but I’m already done, I also loved doing that same sort of thing to my boss, she could never figure out how I was doing the work so quickly, and they’d always try to find a flaw, it really was fun to watch them watching me trying to figure out how I was doing it, and they never did figure it out, it’s one thing to be the odd one, but it can be fun too messing with people, because you know they can’t put you as being odd and smart together in their mind, so they never figure you out, it’s like people have a love/hate relationship with us, we’re sweet people, honest and hard working, but we just don’t really give a crap what you’re babbling about!lol
Well said 💫
wow. I finally figured it out.
I've experienced similar things :)
"Hard to be normal"... Half the time, I don't understand what other people mean, because they use words so imprecisely. "Turn left?" "Right" turn right "Why'd you do that?" "You told me to turn right." "No, I meant you were right." "You mean you meant I was correct." "Jeez. . ."
Anyone who has had this same conversation with others, raise your hand.
🙋♂️
Like EVERY time I need the passenger to navigate! I’ve also noticed it’s harder to talk to a NT while driving. Seriously, I’m supposed to be looking at the road! How TF is ANYONE, NT or ND, still expected to read nonverbal queues at a time like this?!
Just wanted to say thank you for the end of your video:
"Another way of looking at is that I've been given some amazing gifts and these gifts make me 'special'--again the opposite of normal. So every gift that I have makes it harder to be normal. Even something basic like being extra creative--hard to be normal. Being extra intelligent--harder to be normal. Being more logical than others--hard to be normal. Every gift no matter how good it is in some situations makes it hard to be normal in other situations. And for me that's what Aspergers is."
I think I may be extra creative. Also, I love singing and when I sing or listen to music, a lot of anxiety tends to go away.
DNE Momming same, feel the same way about being xtra creative.
Same. its 6 string and bass guitar for me. I get lost in it and it makes me feel safe.
Yep. Music. Photography. Even casual art. For many years now I found myself to be hopping from one of these to the next in a cyclical and fairly equally intervalled manner. Obsessing to a great extent until the period ends and I’m onto the other thing, absolutely immersed.
Same for me!
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Thank you so much for this! I have adhd and I want to understand my niece who is a verbal autistic. My relationship with her has been really strained because I just don't fully understand what she goes through in her mind. All I see from the outside is her anger and frustration. I'm not trying to compare her with other people who have autism. It's just that I love her very much and I want to learn more about her condition and how she thinks.
Have just found your videos. Adorable. I believe I am an Aspie too. As a child I was sure I was adopted by humans BUT my real parents were dragons...(!) I was the kinda child who is reading "teenage" books in age of 3 but trying to figure out how to smile the right way - using the mirror. Always separate, lonely, misunderstood, contempted. Bullied in school. Had to learn how to take part in conversation - it was always a kinda exam to me - interacting with people! I still have great problem with phone calls etc. I feel very safe watching your videos, like a meeting with an Aspie friend :) gonna stay here. Thanks for all!
Thank you, This video is very helpful for me. I think there is something wrong with me because I'm not "normal" I have not been diagnosed with Autism or Aspergers or any disorder. I have always felt different from everyone else and I have difficulty being me when I am around "normal" people. Have a nice day 💞🙏
Something to keep in mind is that not being normal doesn't make you "wrong".
I have always felt the same way. When I’m with really close friends da I can interact “normal” and just be me. But with most people I can’t seem to get more than 2 words out and I feel nervous and tense and feel like an idiot.😕😕 and it just happens. I used to think that I was just shy. And I always always try to talk more but it only works for a few moments Because it’s not natural for me ..
This resonated with me so much. "The gifts" that make it hard to be normal... they actually alienate me from others many times. People will say things like... "what can't you do? or "well, you just know it all don't you?" These comments always confused me... I never knew how to take it.
Yes, I understand about the file cabinet. I have told others it's like an electric train track if it does not go a certain way it will never reach the docking point. I normally have a learning curve when it comes to "understanding things in a normal manner." Use to be in what my school called special needs class but they couldn't understand how to help me. But when I finally understood I helped those that the teacher couldn't help at all.
Hi mate I can relate to you I have Asperges and started doing videos on TH-cam , I find mostly social situations hard and get anxiety and depression a lot .
Hi Reesy I, thanks for the support. I didn't see any videos on your channel?
I've found that even the hardest situations slowly get easier with practice. don't give up :)
@kyle Dyson pretty ignorant stuff you posted.
@@autismfromtheInside The dsm 5 has scientifically questionable conclusions like seasonal affective DISORDER.
Is an evolutionarily adaptive trait where your epigenetics through photoperiod modulation at greater latitudes and potentially harsh winters, downregulates neurotransmitters, hence metabolism, leading to sadness. Whats more survivable? -- sadness or starvation?
Its hibernation lite. Good job white coat morons. I use to work with them as a tech. Even our phd avoided talking to me because i could troll them with logic. Im super holding back in trashing their stupid little book on human so called malfunction. I could pull out the Robert Sapolsky card. He was generious in his schizophrenia lecture on youtube in that Stanford classroom to give me some high caliber ammunition if i ever was met with the crazy deck. A favorite of people with more power than argumentative capability.
@@autismfromtheInside Dont ever be fooled by qualifications. If they aren't passionate about their trade you can be that rarity that dominates them and not even have a masters degree.
@@autismfromtheInside There is no such thing as too logical either. Thats a myth sub human intelligence conjures as a means to make themselves feel better about having the curiosity of an evangelist on xanax.
I love how you described learning with Aspergers!
Once again, your description of your experiences as a person with autism sounds like you're describing my experiences. I especially identify with being extremely logical, organized, etc., what a gift it is to me to have those qualities, and how hard it is for "normal" people to understand all of that. Thank you.
I think I often get mis-classed as "on the spectrum" by people due to childhood trauma which also has an effect on how I process information. Thank you for your explanation of how it is for you. It really clarified that I am a very different type of thinker as most of my learning is haphazard and unplanned (the complete other way around to what you were describing).
My son has this filing cabinet!
He is our go to encyclopedia 💜
Feeling? Alien from another planet where emotions are rare and conversations are only useful.
Accurate 👽
We are telepathic. I watch body language as their truth and listen to their words as lies.
This helps me better understand my brother, who I suspect has Aspergers. Of course, being a highly sensitive person myself, this can drive me nuts. And here we are, the Odd Couple, sharing an apartment. 🥺
I don’t have a great memory for stuff I’m learning on purpose and I don’t have very useful “gifts”...but I also didn’t realise I was struggling all that much until recent years.
I did however get “special” (quotation marks and all) on the back of my year 12 jersey back in 2008! I was fully aware that I had a lot of “talent” for failing spectacularly at some things while overall being perfectly intelligent
Woah...I"be been watching your other videos regarding Asperger's and you had short hair on those... it's a shock seeing you with dreadlocks LOL
LOL......same here, i was like: WTF is that?! Then it was like: oh, damn, i guess he was going through a rastafari phase, LOL
@@ronrendon I think it's pretty cool
@@hunter6953 I wasn't criticizing him. He just looks very different with the dreadlocks.
@@williamjay8715 I know
I like them. Tattoos. Peirce everything. Pagan/viking - ish.
I was diagnosed a week ago so here I am finding your ultimate guide on how to ... xD
Ive just found this video i was diagnosed with asd last week, your video is like your describing me,thank you
You are not alone! I have aspergers too.
❤watching this video 7 years after it was posted.
So much relatable of the social situations that shy introvert persons go through - For years the shy traits were gas lighted by others around them. But there is a name to it --ASD .
I have Aspergers and it explains a lot about myself,ever since I found this out I’ve been much happier. Although I don’t know how to tell anyone coming from an African Home it’s either they don’t understand or they don’t believe you.
I have been getting back into simple note taking. Keep a few notebooks the size of my hand by my bed just in case. I don't enjoy journaling extensively though. But then again I really want to share my thoughts and knowledge. I randomly got into philosophy but I got to a point where...the answer is just another question. So I'm on break from that for now.
I always knew I didn't fit normal. I was okay with being different until diagnosed at 45. Now I am classified as a not normal and am having trouble with who I am and where I can never fit.
I can totally relate!
Who wants to be normal!
I sometimes try then get bored and go back to being Me!
Good to be onboard!
I have seen and heard a lot of people with Asperger's, and all of them are proud of their diagnosis. Most of them are even bragging about it.
Spot on for me too - untill life became anything but simple it was all easy to work through methodically, then it all wwent all over the ships deck and it is like I have been in a astorm trying to ctahc bits and pieces flying around seeking to prevent loss and damage.
My Tabs on my Browser and my languishing Filing and Paperwork is now complete disaarray though i know reasonably where to go look, but I also have not ever had any place for "useless" information, it washes over me like water over a ducks back.
Nice to see I am not alone - thanks for that!
Perfect I love you man... my double and your videos are helping so much even the understanding is great I'm with you 1000 percent on moat things say great for your time from us all...
thanks! I'm glad to help :)
Just a couple of video ideas for u in future, great channel mate:
1) Aspergers and being misdiagnosed and similarities with ADHD , SPD
2) Disclosure: When u should say it to people, the information on this is very vague out their, generally I'm filled with anxiety
everytime I share it with someone.
3) Any suggestions on small talk and how to get better at it
4) Sexuality videos and peoples experiences in this area
5) Having an ego or bullying other people because u have AS and feel inferior. I've met one or two rude and hurtful people with Aspergers and this tends to be because they compensate their low self esteem
6) Assertiveness tips
You are a creature of the living allmighty god. You are his tool and you are perfectly made...
Sounds totally normal and fabulous to me! We are all fabulously different. How boring the world would be if we were all the same. 💝
You aren't wrong, I see this in my son, I myself feel like having structure, and logic in my life, but I understand the
Pity you chose to use the term ‘normal’ to describe those members of society who don’t have Asperger’s syndrome ( now termed ASD Level 1). What is normal? How do you define ‘normal’ in respect to the human condition? Aren’t we all individuals with multiple identities and wide variations in how we interact with others? We all live on a spectrum of human experience.
I've watched 2 vids now and you have just summarised my whole 3 year diagnosis in like 15mins. Even know I'm 10 years plus therapy and everyone around me personal or professional still have me explain this over and Over. Its circles and circles. They all understand and dont get it all in 1. My fault I suppose. But everything is now becoming illogical to me. I dont know how to navigate in this world. I have no mask for it. I wish i was diagnosed in my younger years. Would of helped massively. Although that was early 80s. There was only rain man back then. I went to therapy cause I couldnt b in this world anymore. Now i wish to very much. But putting a name on it didnt help me. The realisation the light bulb moment of what it ment. THIS IS WHO I AM. Rather than I'm broken and just need fixed. No asperger's garage in my town. Anyways thanks for using the correct words logically. Havent related to anything for a while.
I really feel what you're saying here
Yes! Filed.
Others dont get it.
And the 'other' pile...
Sometimes a sticky note pops up and l connect something after years of wondering WHY?
I was beaten and emotionally abused as a child. It only git worse cause I didn't understand why. I really want to talk
So relatable. Except I live in a culture that likes to make stuff up, so I often end up going through all my files whenever I get conflicting information. It's not that bad since I know my limits, but it does prevent me from doing stuff I really like as often as I'm expected to (friends expect me to be with them for longer periods of time during vacations, but I'd rather spend half that time all by myself, for example).
Whoah - I never heard it described that way before ... aT less than 3 minutes - I totally get it !
We could use more people describing their inner experiences - It can help us feel less isolated ...🌷
That’s for sharing . For what’s it’s worth I don’t really thing there is a standard of normal or at least there are more non normal people out there than you think that may not have a diagnosis or any kind or fit into one. If that makes sense
Incredible video
Yep. Well said.
I have a SEVERE case of the mechanical organized procress oriented paradigm. Should I get tested?
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Wow, thank you sir, I am a owner of a multi million d, co, I have struggled so much to communicate.its tough to speak and not be a “narcissist” or “bullshitter”.
Omg. Narcissism is a catch phrase for EVERYTHING. Armchair psychologists throwing around diagnoses when they have no idea what they're talking about. 🤬
@@sixthsenseamelia4695 you speak truth
TEAM ASPIE✔️
You're very handsome. Aww
James Kramer Aww. True
Ouch!!!!
I agree. Too bad he is straight :(
Looking like Adam Duritz in this awesome video
well I guess this is better than autism.
I think we are sent from the spirit world- to save the people of earth. we must find each other. and create a new world. together.
please take the time to find people with these same symptoms so we can stop being singled out and judged. If we simply had 2 or 3 of us together we would not look abnormal. we would IDOLIZED. The only reason any one gets a chance to shoot us down is because we are isolated.
We are the ALPHAS. We feel EVERYTHING.
Hello! I like listening to your videos. They are very interesting. Thanks a lot! :)
Pls tell me, do Aspergers always have an above average IQ or do some have an average IQ. Or is finally only the IQ defining if you are Aspergers or not?
So. Why is it that I’m pretty sure I’m an Aspie too? Well because when you describe things like filing information away I think to myself, I assumed that was normal. I have watched a few of your videos and each time I think to myself yes I know exactly what you are talking about, I thought that was normal....
LoL ! - What exactly is “ normal “ other than what we perceive to be the general concensus ?
Also, how do we even know what other people think - as they are not nearly as hyper observant as we are ? Mmm 🤫
Im all of 'em Asper autism adhd... i hv no prob with any when i finally figured out, i dont want to & dont hv to fit in. Happy Misfitting ! btw, my ex died on ADHD cuz he nvr gave up fitting in, loveless depression kills.
I'd love to use your video in the awareness training sessions I run - is that ok with you? I love the way you describe what's in your head, it chimes with what so many of my students tell me.
+Harriet Cannon
Possibly. Can you tell me more about it in an email? ( to aspergersfromtheinside@gmail.com)
I've been thinking about it and I think we should abandon the concept of normal and approach things in a more 'how do you use what you've got way'
I love the dreads❤️
Me too! Coz Im always forgetting to brush my hair. And I don't like the social expectation of having "Joe lunchbox" cookie cutter everyone is the same homogeneous hair. 🤮
The Nature of the Gifts ... Special Gifts / Providings ... Yes , this is True for so many On the Spectrum ... But , if these ... Let's say ... Eccentricities , even Anomalies ... Only seem Advantageous in Extremely Limited Settings / Environments ... and Do Not provide of Advantage or Advancement in the Gainful Sense ... Rather , All the Spectrum Components Unique to the Individual .. cause A Lack of Honest Ability to Not Only Maintain Gainful Employment and / or Cause Social Inadequacy ...or Worse have Caused People to Resent our Differences ... Then a Consideration has to be taken into Account ... That being Ginea-Pigs ...so to Speak ... By way of ...Well , get on in there and Let's All just see what you can do and what happens ... At some Point in Life ...we Need Compensated . Yeah , this can take a Life Time .
I've had those book shelves myself
Can Aspergers or high functioning autism mimic narcisim? Thanks!
Ah, the dreads!! Haha! Nice.
I went to Byron Bay in 2005, its a very spiritual place, anyone would fit in there.
I lived in Byron Bay in the 70s. Byron is a sad place now.
@@Noor-jw2tn You still have nature, which is there to support you, at least physically.
That’s about right
Correct!
Just realised its ironic that i recently schedueled to get dreadlocks, yet you have them now too! 😂
Omg...I think you just diagnosed me
Hello there, i have a question:
Is there a difference between aspergers syndrome and high functioning autism? If there is , can you please explain further?
Aspergers is an informal subcategory of autism. Some people might refer to it as 'high functioning', but I find this unhelpful because it masks the difficulties faced. It also makes the 'autism spectrum' sound like a linear continuum and implies that the 'low functioning' end is much worse (i.e. 'disabled' - which is not necessarily the case). In that sense 'functioning' might be better replaced with 'high pretending', the better someone is at hiding their difference and passing for 'normal' the better that person can 'function' in a society that does nothing to help.
High functioning autism is another term for Asperger’s
The DSM-5 equates Aspergers as ASD Level 1. I agree it makes Autism appear linear but nothing really is.
Ok I think might be a sweaty refrigerator.. ain't no notes stickin
I am very logical and very creative as well.
Do you find yourself motivated?
'Normal' is unhelpful.
Spectrum is helpful.
Colour spectrum; brain spectrum; all types of stuff spectrum
What you are saying about yourself with the facial expression and vocal tone might come across as “Humble Bragging “ to some people in which case they might think you are arrogant and looking down on them and they might choose to not interact with you sometimes
Or they are just arrogant/deficient themselves and realise they feel uncomfortable around someone who is genuinely intelligent. Bullshitters, wankers and sociopaths would sweat the most, but when they realise they have a social advantage they often use it cruelly and feel justified/empowered. Real easy to gaslight an aspie especially when socially isolated. So having a rare skillset and saying it/ knowing it is more of an advertisement than a brag.
Great I don't have any gift so I am just a puzzle piece tat don't fit with normal people. They starts making fun of me. I am not used to it but I hide my conscious that nothing happened or they said . Yeah one gift I have some one make fun of me or hurts me sometimes due to pain I become deaf so I am not able to hear what they said or what the meaning they said I can't catch. 😂😂 Ya such good human I am just living . With lots of hope and ambition. And lazyness makes me a dumb 👍
The name "Asperger" won't be (or already isn't) used anymore. Do you plan on changing the name of the channel? Also considering that Hans Asperger was responsible for the death of many children...
No one gives a shit
Michael Franti has Asperger's? Who knew? Lmfao
I think you’re so sweet
Is it still called Aspergers still? I thought people just called it Autism / spectrum now. I'm confused.
How are you doing today???
@@nicolassmith1278 not the best, you?
You are a brave man and I am sure you are a great human being!
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Bob Marley
1,000% get it..
I’m sorry for comming off as rude I’m stand offish I want to be accepted by a whole community I know fondly that’s i just don’t know how to go I’m my meds. Prozac made me so lazy and even more misery I won’t cent in here any more here sorry it’s all true 😢 blue heart 💙
extreme fixations on stuff. for me, geographical statsistics.. i have no room left in my brain
Thank you for doing the video but it was very difficult to hear you because your voice is echoing. It’s like your far away or in a bathroom . Hope not all your videos are like this ☹️
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😂 🤣I think Paul is actually sporting dreadlocks in this video which was filmed when he was about 9 years younger than he is now. It suited him at that age but maybe as he has matured he has chosen to wear a more conventional hair style.
It saddens me that society demands that we conform to the status quo to be more widely accepted, especially as we grow older.
Being normal is overrated.
"normal" people are awfull
Nah. Define what normal is first. Otherwise there’s only strawman argument / logic. you can’t define it and it’s in flux everyday. If there’s no normalcy or pedestrian idea that it’s hard to function for those who don’t want to fake social routine of bs then those problems are separate from being an innate condition of some sort.
Nope, you're not special. I'm not special. Postmodern childish bs.
I think that Aspergher is just a type of human behavior.It is not a symptome.
I am not an Aspie.It is not true that we can read other people faces.Or other people's mind??!!
Most "normal"people dont have empathy at all.
Your empathy just my not be recognized due to variation in the ways empathy is expressed.
You need to know that,my friends.
Any chance you’re just an INTJ personality type, and people don’t understand you. It’s a rare type and it doesn’t jive with many others.
Someone with severe asperger's wouldnt even be able to get through a video without rambling about their inner thoughts. I've seen it first hand...if you do have it....its got to be the mildest case I've ever seen.
u do realize that there are cuts and probobly multiple takes of this video what an idiotic thing to say
Thanks doc 🤦
You clearly don't understand Autism Spectrum Disorder. Aspergers is a form of it, I have it, and it's very frustrating to say the least when people think just because we're not non verbal and can be really intellectual that it's "mild." It still affects me and causes me struggles every day. I rock back and forth (called stimming) and struggle to make eye contact and conversation with most people. As well as having sensory issues.. Please do more research before making ignorant comments and assumptions.