Constant criticism and belittling is common place…they always have a person to blame for their own failures. This is a fantastic explanation of what can hold you stuck not understanding.Highly controlling and angry! Thank you.
My husband passed almost four years ago. We were married for 20 years. I knew he was abusive, and he had seemingly worked hard to stop those behaviors. Now I know that was just the beginning. He had just gone more covert with his behaviors. The layers run deep. I’m so sad for myself and my children. We continue to heal and love each other in healthy ways. Thank you for the continued education.
I wish you and your children well. If you can, get a good therapist to process this. Must be a good therapist who knows the personalty disorder area , take your time to find the right one. You and your children can feel free, authentic and joyous again. x
@@angelaramsay1778 , thank you so much. We’re doing so well. We have always been a close family, but we’re even more deeply bonded and supportive now. Him dying protected us, as sad as that is to say.
I feel a deep sadness for you and your children❤️🩹. Because I can relate to this. 34 years of not knowing what I was dealing with. Not knowing what the future consequences would ultimately be. Including my two sons abandoning me. I am disabled and very ill. I was a very loving caring mother. It makes no sense to me. How my beloved precious children could end up “evil” and let me rot alone dying with the never ending physical suffering and psycho emotional abuse. I never could have Imagined 😮😢😢😢death of monsters might be the only way escaping hell on earth. If I could turn back time…. Hope you and your children continue to heal more and more ❤️🩹☮️
None of you deserved any abuse. Ever! He had issues that nobody but himself could've fixed. Those aren't your issues. In time and with loving each other, but most importantly learning to love yourself first the damage the abuse has done will fade and you'll no longer carry it. It wasn't ever yours to carry. When we love our self first then we don't tolerate any less than what we deserve from others who are supposed to love us. Forgiveness is a powerful tool. Forgive yourself for allowing another to abuse you and your family. Forgive yourself for not knowing how to navigate things you didn't expect or understand from a man that said he loves you and started a family with you. I've been married to a sociopath for 20 years. He is still living. 15 years my senior. I'm pretty sure if he passes before I do it's going to be yet another phase of confusion (maybe not the correct term) within my grief. Maybe bitter sweet. I won't know how I'll feel if I get there ❤❤❤ Prayers for you and your family for healing with God's grace
@ , I agree completely. He could never get the woman I am now. I have grown and healed and done so much work. My children were very protected. I would never let him hurt them. I was okay to take the brunt. Now I know that isn’t love. I know what it looks like. And I know that I deserve as much as my children. I’m very content in my life now. I’m very careful who I give my energy to. And I do forgive young me. She was doing the absolute best that she could.
I suffered a massive "widow maker" heart attack 3 years ago at the age of 40. When I got home I still had to clean a very dirty house because the hubby let teenagers party while i was in the hospital. He bought me chips for dinner but day 2 being home I had to cook. The doctor said #1 no stress and I wish that the hubby didnt hear that. I believe he was trying to push me to over do it. Thats just a very small portion of what all the man was doing. It would be a chapter in a book describing all that he was doing convincing me he was (still) trying to kill me, covertly and that he is nothing short of pure evil ...
My ex has these traits and behaviors, as do many in my family of origin. I was one of the ones selected early on to be conditioned as an empath/slave/fixer/scapegoat. My ex is currently trying to suck me back in. I'd sooner boil in oil.
I really don't know the exact diagnosis with family members but each was touched by something. My Grandmother was an R.N. 1910 education raising my only child mom. She supervised my parents I'm sure trying to keep things undercover. These were successful people but creatures in the home. I blacked most out but kept enough info to understand. 😢 It takes a community God bless my teachers, doctors, therapists like you Darren. Across the ocean. ❤
You have perfectly described my last relationship, which is amazing because I literally have called him a “psychopath” myself and I’m no expert, except that he had a very successful career path because he was basically able to do what he wanted.
I’m a victim of diagnosed psychopath (F1)- pure horror! They love inducing a fear, it’s empowering them. But now I’m glad that I’m free and alive, and I’m able to see and recognise people and their intentions almost immediately. My experience has transformed me for the better, even I still have a lot of recovery to do, but I’m actually grateful for what I have and I don’t worry or envy what I don’t have, and I have so much! I’m alive, free , I’m not hungry or homeless and I learn so much. So I’m a very wealthy person. Even I didn’t enjoy a minute of the senseless abuse but my scars became my stars. And I get a lot of professional help, even I’m still not able to work yet.
My ex has some but not all of these traits. The domination and escalation etc. yet everyone else thought he was an awesome guy! We broke up for a short time in the middle of our 20 year marriage and when we got back together (it was the only way I could see my children), he told me that he had driven to my house with guns in his car, ready to kill me. We finally broke up when he had a new girlfriend to terrorise. 😢
Oh and also the power plays...how they reflect their own underhanded behaviour onto others...gas lighting...abuse of power...complete lack of empathy...complete lack of remorse...persistent in cruel ways to self serve...superiority complex either racial or any other...complete lack of accountability...manipulation to mask their filth...finger pointing...hate rallying...crimes like theft...xenophobia of sorts...bullying etc all goes...But I'll tell you there's no "criminal"out there to outsmart the most high...
Don't know if wasband would meet the criteria of psychopathic, although he met nearly all of these, and definitely narcissistic. But I was aghast when, in casual conversation, he mentioned he'd been considering how to kill me, should I become ill. 18 months later, after I'd gotten to the end of my ability to deal with him and said it was over, that come January 1, get through the holidays, he or I would leave, he committed suicide. Later I found he'd made plans for me to commit suicide along with him. Geez.
You Poor lady! That's horrible! And here I was feeling bad because my dark tetrad covert n-ex told me to get out of the house and his life the day I was diagnosed with a very severe, difficult disease. He wouldn't even help me get my things together, even though I could barely walk or use my arms. I loved him. It's good for me to remember exactly how he felt about me only 3 months after we married... that was last January, and I am still recovering, but doing very well. I pray you have shalom.
Bless you with peace too. It may be that you will feel better, being away from his toxicness (think that's not a word. Should be.). I can say things got LOTS better, very quickly, for me.
Nah. Well maybe if I got sick. But he was a coward, never would do anything that might make him responsible. Deluded and in his strange head to the end.
No matter how many of these videos I watch on "Male Psychopaths", and "Female Psychopaths", or indeed anyone with personality disorders, in pretty much any context, I strike an interesting phenomena; That is that; all the descriptions given for male psychopaths fit almost perfectly almost all the females that claim they were abused by a male in their life.... including, nay especially: the traits that are asserted to be prevalent in male psychopaths and not female psychopaths, ie: overt violence and reckless behaviour. As if to make it even more ridiculous and morbidly hilarious; all the men that I have met that have been diagnosed with (or accused of having) pretty much any personality disorder, but especially speaking to psychopathy, ASPD, or Narcissism, have only situational (non-clinical levels of) Depression, Anxiety, or CPTSD at worst, and are often being actively and violently abused by a personality disordered individual (that is almost invariably a female cluster-b, intimate partner and/or family member, and/or members), and more often than not a host of misandric flying monkey's, including (feminist) therapists corrupt (feminist) police and even their own (feminist) family members and friends.... whatever the real motivation for them doing so is. But perhaps it is an environment thing, and this is only my experience because I live in one of the dystopian Feminist enclaves where girls and women are actively encouraged (by authorities) to be, and are rewarded for being, the most violent, and generally lawless, women in the world (at least towards, and in regards to, men and children). Oh I live in Christchurch, New Zealand, home of the treasonous Jacinda Ardern's; "The Christchurch Call" M.I.S.O. Now there's a textbook perfect example of a female psychopath, if ever there was one.
Can an sociopath act same like an psychopath. Cold, uncaring, emotionless, indifferent. Some people say that an sociopath can act, behave like an psychopath. Is this true? Some people say no, they’re more prone to be outbursts, violent, impulsive. What is the truth in this?
Thank you! This video appeared exactly when I needed it. I’m so grateful for your knowledge, passion and your dedication. This description is spot on. I’ve been traumatized for years and also have extremely disabling chronic illnesses. 💯 no empathy or emotions. It’s appearing that he also is developing dementia which made his narcissistic personality worse. Imo he’s been attempting to escalate my life expectancy and has been on a death watch. Articulated in a clearly understandable manner. You’re a good human. ❤️🩹☮️
The more they get away with being cruel the worse they get.
TRUISM!!!
Constant criticism and belittling is common place…they always have a person to blame for their own failures.
This is a fantastic explanation of what can hold you stuck not understanding.Highly controlling and angry!
Thank you.
My husband passed almost four years ago. We were married for 20 years. I knew he was abusive, and he had seemingly worked hard to stop those behaviors. Now I know that was just the beginning. He had just gone more covert with his behaviors. The layers run deep. I’m so sad for myself and my children.
We continue to heal and love each other in healthy ways.
Thank you for the continued education.
I wish you and your children well. If you can, get a good therapist to process this. Must be a good therapist who knows the personalty disorder area , take your time to find the right one. You and your children can feel free, authentic and joyous again. x
@@angelaramsay1778 , thank you so much. We’re doing so well. We have always been a close family, but we’re even more deeply bonded and supportive now. Him dying protected us, as sad as that is to say.
I feel a deep sadness for you and your children❤️🩹. Because I can relate to this.
34 years of not knowing what I was dealing with. Not knowing what the future consequences would ultimately be. Including my two sons abandoning me. I am disabled and very ill. I was a very loving caring mother. It makes no sense to me. How my beloved precious children could end up “evil” and let me rot alone dying with the never ending physical suffering and psycho emotional abuse. I never could have Imagined 😮😢😢😢death of monsters might be the only way escaping hell on earth. If I could turn back time….
Hope you and your children continue to heal more and more ❤️🩹☮️
None of you deserved any abuse. Ever! He had issues that nobody but himself could've fixed. Those aren't your issues. In time and with loving each other, but most importantly learning to love yourself first the damage the abuse has done will fade and you'll no longer carry it. It wasn't ever yours to carry. When we love our self first then we don't tolerate any less than what we deserve from others who are supposed to love us. Forgiveness is a powerful tool. Forgive yourself for allowing another to abuse you and your family. Forgive yourself for not knowing how to navigate things you didn't expect or understand from a man that said he loves you and started a family with you. I've been married to a sociopath for 20 years. He is still living. 15 years my senior. I'm pretty sure if he passes before I do it's going to be yet another phase of confusion (maybe not the correct term) within my grief. Maybe bitter sweet. I won't know how I'll feel if I get there ❤❤❤ Prayers for you and your family for healing with God's grace
@ , I agree completely. He could never get the woman I am now. I have grown and healed and done so much work. My children were very protected. I would never let him hurt them. I was okay to take the brunt. Now I know that isn’t love. I know what it looks like. And I know that I deserve as much as my children.
I’m very content in my life now. I’m very careful who I give my energy to.
And I do forgive young me. She was doing the absolute best that she could.
I suffered a massive "widow maker" heart attack 3 years ago at the age of 40. When I got home I still had to clean a very dirty house because the hubby let teenagers party while i was in the hospital. He bought me chips for dinner but day 2 being home I had to cook. The doctor said #1 no stress and I wish that the hubby didnt hear that. I believe he was trying to push me to over do it. Thats just a very small portion of what all the man was doing. It would be a chapter in a book describing all that he was doing convincing me he was (still) trying to kill me, covertly and that he is nothing short of pure evil ...
Why didn t you divorce him right away?
@@christymckee8133 Stay safe!!
My ex has these traits and behaviors, as do many in my family of origin. I was one of the ones selected early on to be conditioned as an empath/slave/fixer/scapegoat. My ex is currently trying to suck me back in. I'd sooner boil in oil.
I really don't know the exact diagnosis with family members but each was touched by something. My Grandmother was an R.N. 1910 education raising my only child mom. She supervised my parents I'm sure trying to keep things undercover. These were successful people but creatures in the home. I blacked most out but kept enough info to understand. 😢 It takes a community God bless my teachers, doctors, therapists like you Darren. Across the ocean. ❤
You have perfectly described my last relationship, which is amazing because I literally have called him a “psychopath” myself and I’m no expert, except that he had a very successful career path because he was basically able to do what he wanted.
I’m a victim of diagnosed psychopath (F1)- pure horror!
They love inducing a fear, it’s empowering them.
But now I’m glad that I’m free and alive, and I’m able to see and recognise people and their intentions almost immediately. My experience has transformed me for the better, even I still have a lot of recovery to do, but I’m actually grateful for what I have and I don’t worry or envy what I don’t have, and I have so much! I’m alive, free , I’m not hungry or homeless and I learn so much. So I’m a very wealthy person. Even I didn’t enjoy a minute of the senseless abuse but my scars became my stars. And I get a lot of professional help, even I’m still not able to work yet.
My ex has some but not all of these traits. The domination and escalation etc. yet everyone else thought he was an awesome guy! We broke up for a short time in the middle of our 20 year marriage and when we got back together (it was the only way I could see my children), he told me that he had driven to my house with guns in his car, ready to kill me.
We finally broke up when he had a new girlfriend to terrorise. 😢
@@grooviechickie Sometimes it's a blessing when they turn their attention to someone else!
Oh and also the power plays...how they reflect their own underhanded behaviour onto others...gas lighting...abuse of power...complete lack of empathy...complete lack of remorse...persistent in cruel ways to self serve...superiority complex either racial or any other...complete lack of accountability...manipulation to mask their filth...finger pointing...hate rallying...crimes like theft...xenophobia of sorts...bullying etc all goes...But I'll tell you there's no "criminal"out there to outsmart the most high...
Thank you for your invaluable help and support Darren.
My father. He was a monster.
Darren, my husband used to love to publicly embarrass and berate servers, clerks etc. Is this a sign?
I've known some people like this. Something is broken within them. Narcissistic for sure! Watch out for people who flip that switch like that.
This video is helping me with language I need to help a former spouse write a memoir about this kind of husband. Thank you. I just sent it to them.
Don't know if wasband would meet the criteria of psychopathic, although he met nearly all of these, and definitely narcissistic. But I was aghast when, in casual conversation, he mentioned he'd been considering how to kill me, should I become ill. 18 months later, after I'd gotten to the end of my ability to deal with him and said it was over, that come January 1, get through the holidays, he or I would leave, he committed suicide. Later I found he'd made plans for me to commit suicide along with him.
Geez.
You Poor lady! That's horrible! And here I was feeling bad because my dark tetrad covert n-ex told me to get out of the house and his life the day I was diagnosed with a very severe, difficult disease. He wouldn't even help me get my things together, even though I could barely walk or use my arms. I loved him. It's good for me to remember exactly how he felt about me only 3 months after we married... that was last January, and I am still recovering, but doing very well. I pray you have shalom.
Bless you with peace too. It may be that you will feel better, being away from his toxicness (think that's not a word. Should be.). I can say things got LOTS better, very quickly, for me.
That is unspeakably horrible! You are so blessed to have escaped with your life!
Nah. Well maybe if I got sick. But he was a coward, never would do anything that might make him responsible. Deluded and in his strange head to the end.
Glad it was him. Hope your free now!stay single.
Can you do a video on the narcissistic grandparent?
Thanks!
Thank you for your generous support. I’m glad you found the content helpful
@@DarrenFMagee
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It’s a nightmare.
Interesting topic
Wow checked every box on this list, never married though, thank God
No matter how many of these videos I watch on "Male Psychopaths", and "Female Psychopaths", or indeed anyone with personality disorders, in pretty much any context, I strike an interesting phenomena; That is that; all the descriptions given for male psychopaths fit almost perfectly almost all the females that claim they were abused by a male in their life.... including, nay especially: the traits that are asserted to be prevalent in male psychopaths and not female psychopaths, ie: overt violence and reckless behaviour.
As if to make it even more ridiculous and morbidly hilarious; all the men that I have met that have been diagnosed with (or accused of having) pretty much any personality disorder, but especially speaking to psychopathy, ASPD, or Narcissism, have only situational (non-clinical levels of) Depression, Anxiety, or CPTSD at worst, and are often being actively and violently abused by a personality disordered individual (that is almost invariably a female cluster-b, intimate partner and/or family member, and/or members), and more often than not a host of misandric flying monkey's, including (feminist) therapists corrupt (feminist) police and even their own (feminist) family members and friends.... whatever the real motivation for them doing so is.
But perhaps it is an environment thing, and this is only my experience because I live in one of the dystopian Feminist enclaves where girls and women are actively encouraged (by authorities) to be, and are rewarded for being, the most violent, and generally lawless, women in the world (at least towards, and in regards to, men and children). Oh I live in Christchurch, New Zealand, home of the treasonous Jacinda Ardern's; "The Christchurch Call" M.I.S.O. Now there's a textbook perfect example of a female psychopath, if ever there was one.
Ok, I listened to this and now asking you what the difference is between a type 2 psychopath and a malignant narcissist?
Type 2pychopath my Dad. A nightmare.
Can an sociopath act same like an psychopath. Cold, uncaring, emotionless, indifferent. Some people say that an sociopath can act, behave like an psychopath. Is this true? Some people say no, they’re more prone to be outbursts, violent, impulsive. What is the truth in this?
Do you think Johnny Somali is more psychopath or more sadist?
My ex-wife…
…all of those “qualities”.
RFK Jr is Covid vaccinated. I hope he sues for slander!
...and I'm glad he has seen the light and would never require anyone to get that jab.
He has had an actual worm that ate away his frontal lobe.
So most men these days?
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Oh ofcourse for you God doesn't exist...But He does and it's never pretty ....
Get lost.
Thank you! This video appeared exactly when I needed it. I’m so grateful for your knowledge, passion and your dedication. This description is spot on. I’ve been traumatized for years and also have extremely disabling chronic illnesses. 💯 no empathy or emotions. It’s appearing that he also is developing dementia which made his narcissistic personality worse. Imo he’s been attempting to escalate my life expectancy and has been on a death watch.
Articulated in a clearly understandable manner.
You’re a good human. ❤️🩹☮️
Type 2pychopath my Dad. A nightmare.