It’s so scary when you finally realize it’s just manipulation. Then you understand the power of silence. It’s crazy making to a covert narcissist. Taking back control through no reaction or a noncommittal response is liberating. I’m enjoying this newfound freedom more & more. People get the dish they usually serve others 😉
it's not manipulation for the sake of manipulation: it's a survival strategy for them. When they don't get their supply, it's like cutting off their oxygen supply. In a way, their life is that of eternal misery, they can't even enjoy the smallest of things. It's a wretched life they live 24/7 and unfortunately, some of us have to cross their path.
I think sometimes they did it for entertainment, to watch the actions of others around them, enjoying this. And sometimes to move attention OFF of them, when sneaking around. Sigh.
Medical emergencies are their favourite tactic. One I worked with claimed to have a diabetic episode and once I managed ro run around looking for a first aider, he suddenly claimed to be fine once help arrived. The following day he brought all his medicines and placed them on the office desk expecting me to query what they did for him. Unfortunately for him I I had wised up to his game and completely ignored the charade. That was the last time he tried any shit on me because right after I gave him the silent treatment and found inner peace. These creatures are truly sick beyond redemption. Steer clear if you can.
Omg, this exact thing happened to me. We were just starting a nice dinner when he said he couldn't breathe. He looked and sounded fine, but I called a waitress over. He had them running round for him, asking him if he needed a doctor. He was suddenly fine within a couple of minutes. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. We got funny looks from the waiting staff for the rest of the night. It was so embarrassing.
Yes and they're happy to dump their dramas and problems that they created all over you so the same applies. What are you going to do? That must be awful for you.
Spot on Darren. Narcisists are corrupted to the core. Any lie, secrets, deception or manipulation will do to maintain power and control. And the worst and most evil lie of all is the: I love you! Once we realise the truth of what kind of a trap that lie is, the magic spell is broken and the truth has set us free! Thank you ❤😊
He causes drama every time we go anywhere. He always gets in my face and starts on me out of nowhere. He goes on and on until I snap back. Then he says "what's wrong with you?" Are you ok? It's truly bizarre and embarrassing and I'm so done with it. Is this gaslighting, him trying to make me seem crazy?
YES! And more. Thanks for your comment, because something just hit me that I didn't fully understand earlier. Mine did this at restaurants, even at church. So embarrassing and hurtful. I realized we couldn't have one good whole day. It was always something, even though there was no reason.
Thanks sooo much for explaining the motives behind this baffling behavior.🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 As a 7-8yo child I began recognizing certain patterns in my mom... 1.If she observes something very unseemly in someone, she pounces on it, so happy to find fault so she can criticize someone. 2.If it's something that's only mildly unseemly, she exaggerates it to make it much worse than it is, a confusing mixture of truth and lies. 3.If there is nothing at all that she can find wrong, she'll just fabricate an outrageous lie out of thin air. Everyone she knows is either guilty of something outrageous, or is being prompted(demanded) to share in her outrage about somebody else, or both. I've often witnessed the event that she's describing(lying about), and while others are in getting sucked into mom's lies, I'm shocked and traumatized at how far she will go to throw someone under the bus just so she can get her twisted emotional needs met. And I've also had my turn getting thrown under the bus, endlessly.
Narcissists also like to chose targets to do horrible and bizarre things to, so when the target is forced to get help, no one believes the target. Then the narcissist can say, "See, I'm not the narcissist, they are!"
A story: The covert narc went to visit his flying monkey-relatives and misplaced his car fob. Chaos ensued as everyone was enlisted to search for the key. Of course, he advised them all that he couldn't tell me, irrationally suggesting to his family that big bad me would not send replacement keys to him. (Nonsense.) The fob was found the next day, but not before I was bad-mouthed and he had to be rescued by concerned relatives. Thank you for the excellent insight into what I am still trying to understand!
This was excelent. Had to laugh because one of the christmas dramas this year was the lost phone charger and it wasn't even the first time. I, the scapegoat, bought her a new charger and she then told everybody that it was someone else, probably because I can do nothing right or good.
Emotional addiction is similar to sex addiction in that individuals may seek out intense emotional highs, often through drama or chaos, to experience dopamine and other neurochemical rewards. People with lower emotional intelligence tend to act impulsively based on their emotions, rather than managing them thoughtfully. Emotional intelligence is a multi-faceted/dimensional construct. Each of these facet/dimensions can be applied in a variety of contexts, situations, and relationships, and may involve more specific sub-skills in different circumstances. This is why AI would never be able to humans…it might act like one but not one because AI and robots doesn’t have emotion.
So spot on Darren. It's all about NEEDING to be the center of attention which makes the narc feel 'special' and important...so they create situations in order to get this fix, and then manipulate the hell out of it. Pathetic. How about when a narc gives a running commentary out loud, on what they're doing, or thinking, for everyone around to hear. More of the 'I'm so important, so special, everyone I'm sure wants to know what I'm doing, thinking!, etc.' Sheesh.
This describes my adult narc daughter perfectly. Always an emergency. Even if it is not. As her mom I get drawn in. Am trying to walk that razors edge of care and love, and exhaustion and seeing what this is now. Especially difficult when this is a family member. I do see she does seem to get a dopamine hit by this behaviour. Meanwhile I am so depleted. … Can’t unsee it now. Thank you Darren !
My 37 year old daughter is a mess as well, and life is all about her poor choices, of which I'm sure that I'm the scapegoat of those poor choices. I divorced her father, who could definitely be diagnosed with NPD, after eight years of an insufferable marriage. He catered and coddled her, and allowed her to do whatever pleased her, especially if it went against my good parenting. I feel that she only reaches out to me out of obligation, or just keeping a weak connection, in case she actually needs me down the road. Her selfishness has given me cause to finally go no contact with her, which gives me a great sense of peace.
Same. Mine too. Also 37. She creates problems where there were none and has been the cause of many a drama but somehow she's the innocent party and has done nothing wrong. Then comes the barrage of blame, criticism ,put downs, personal remarks and labels. I was so sick of it all. I've recently first limited then cut contact. .@@SteeleMagnolia
Could it possibly be that they are getting a dopamine hit? I’ve lived with one for over 35 years and it definitely seems like when he’s low he will start in on me for doing something wrong and ask for answers and it goes on and on and on once he gets his brain hit seems like it stops. Can you do a video on the brain of narcissist, the receptors, and maybe the drug addiction of dopamine?
It’s about triggering you so they win! Go gray rock plz then watch the tables turn as they scramble for more supply. He might even disappear one day like mine did ☮️
Love the way you contemptuously dismiss the toxic game of one upmanship these people play. There is even one who claimed that therapy would put him at a disadvantage by reaching him through cognitive therapy to treat others as he would like to be treated. In stead as a psychopath he feels he is helping people to avoid ending up with people like him while claiming that no one but him knows what they are talking about when it comes to this subject of taking advantage of people and manipulating and exploiting them. The truth is that these people are empty shells and cause chaos during quiet moments because they are bored and frustrated at looking onwards and terrified that, there's nobody home. The emptiness can be seen in the 2 situations of their eyes. 1 glassy and empty and expressionless 2 absolutely black as they clear you from their mind and disengage with rage at those who don't follow their script. Their attempt at causing chaos is simply to get away from their greatest enemy, boredom. They are mad at people who can sit quietly for hours and meditate either on how to improve their personalities, fix wrongs they have done to others or meditate on what they have learned throughout the day and what they can do about it tomorrow. Toxic people are stuck in the now. All they think about is what they can either get others to do for them or how others can keep them distracted and entertained. This is the reason for ghosting, discard and abandonment of the relationship or seeking someone else instead of you..refusing to be drawn into their chaotic lives means, you are no fun anymore
I have been raised by mrs Dry Begging. It is exhausting since she would tell everyone she needs help with this and that and then people come to me and ask why I cant help my own mother with it, your mother has even asked us to do etc... and you have to explain that you want to help but she will immediately delay or withdraw the request, it is merely a way of engaging people, the last thing she actually wants is you helping. Who would believe it?
The amount of drama I received just before the holidays and during the holidays so I wouldn't pay attention to my family but to him... I couldn't go to after work events without the relentless text messaging saying I was cheating or whatever so I'd be mad.. because he had a "feeling" and he was NEVER wrong about his feeling. He would even follow me to ensure that I was going where I said I would. It was never peaceful... ever..
When my kids were small, we travelled 1000 km to visit my parents. We stay in a tropical area and both kids had sandworm in their one foot, and tonsillites. We got medicine to take orally, and meds to apply on their feet. My severe narc mother worked herself up and the children as well. As I wanted to give theid med, with narc mom carrying on about oh, the poor babies!! Oh, this... oh that! I got so nervous. The next momentI gave the foot meds to them orally! The consternation that followed! Phoned pharmacist! .fortunately it was not poisouness!
"My document camera doesn't work. Why? because I threw away the electrical extension as it was "unsightly"." Have the custodian mount a battery operated clock 3 inches from the ceiling so they "have to" call that custodian back twice a year, or more, to change the clock or change batteries. Child brings a random piece of paper to the office with the message of "my teacher says they don't need this anymore". Parks in handicapped spot with no placard as there is "no parking spaces" (does this often). "Someone planted flowers outside my room, but I wanted to plant native plants." Two weeks later three South American milkweed plants show up as planted in that California soil. 👎🏼 Bad for the monarchs. "Do you work in your car because you are a hoarder?" (says the person with a *hot mess* K-6th classroom with many cabinets, and inside of the door, painted a blood red color.). Calls the help desk, I get the voicemail, fix issue and call within 5 mins to convey. Next thing I hear is in a meeting about how "someone" was "very upset" that they were helped by me. I wait for help desk tickets now (it wasn't my day to listen to calls I just like to start August off right). And they wonder why I set up a killer office in my car with steering wheel desk, and leave when I need to charge up my laptop. Best part of my car office? I can listen to your videos......and in peace. ✌🏼💋
I've just woke up to the fact my husband and partner of the 40yrs is a narcissist. We have the house for sale and every time I return from visiting family I come back to disaster. 1 Dish washer leaked kitchen floor,2 half kitchen lights strobing,3 toilet leaking on to kitchen ceiling and 4 claims freezer is triggering power cuts so he left me in the house alone over night to deal with it, woke to the carbon monoxide alarm beeping battery needed changing big coincidence. All the food is sitting in the back garden in chill bags and to top it off he's cancelled the internet without telling me.
Very good Darren,withholding information was always a favourite,untill they thought it was the right time to release it,to there advantage of course!!! "Develish"
Do these types of behavior ever something other than narcissism and can narcissism be accompanied by other disorders. I ask because we have a family member who married into the family that is causing so much grief and strain on everyone. We've all put her at arm's length for our own safety but she's the mom to our loved kittle one so we'll be around her for the next 18 years. She's a head scratcher for sure, almost broke her hubs' mental health (he's separated now and doing very well). Autism, adhd and LD are strong in the fam.
my ex caused a full air sea search and rescue,saw kids bodies in the water at the beach. Thing is 2 kids had gone missing it was in the National paper though it was miles away. Course there were no bodies . Ialso had a narc neighbour she had a "heart attack "inside a church at a friends wedding.These narcs are quite common ,awful
Interesting topic, i could never tell what was going on but i know 2 that always needed to be on the phone to their mother. It was like a stage play where chaos was going on in their family. One lady even did this through her husbands work dinner party. Putting on her dramatic performance of importance to MOTHER. On the phone with everyone listening. 😂
Yet again, I think you described my ex, and a few family members to a t.😊 Seven plus years later I am still trying to put my life together again. It's worse that I moved 10,000 miles to his country. I was younger and significantly dumber.😂
My husband got fired on purpose at Christmas lost our health insurance thousands of dollars in bonus money. I bought a new car and didn’t need him to do it my daughter is going to a village she choose. So he lost his job to sabotage both of us . I’m done now he can’t get a job and has decided to retire at age 61. Oh and he the victim .
Totally true, Darren. But one thing: narcissism is really a handicap, a lack of trust in others. And this leads to the question: what can we do? What reaction is grown-up en lovable, and leads the narcissist to self-acceptance?
It’s so scary when you finally realize it’s just manipulation. Then you understand the power of silence. It’s crazy making to a covert narcissist. Taking back control through no reaction or a noncommittal response is liberating. I’m enjoying this newfound freedom more & more. People get the dish they usually serve others 😉
it's not manipulation for the sake of manipulation: it's a survival strategy for them. When they don't get their supply, it's like cutting off their oxygen supply. In a way, their life is that of eternal misery, they can't even enjoy the smallest of things. It's a wretched life they live 24/7 and unfortunately, some of us have to cross their path.
I think sometimes they did it for entertainment, to watch the actions of others around them, enjoying this. And sometimes to move attention OFF of them, when sneaking around. Sigh.
Yes a medical drama is always a good one, deflects from the current situation, gives them all the attention they need and sympathy.
Truth. And it's usually themselves that put them in those situations. They want everyone else to be responsible for them.
My ex-fiancee did this on Thanksgiving. Was will to hurt himself to get attention.
Spot on! They are exhausting. Run!!!!!!
Been there for many years....
But, finally fled the marriage.
So true!
@@elisabethrio6498 Congratulations!
A narcissistic family member of mine ALWAYS had to WAIL, scream and CRY the loudest at EVERY single funeral. Inevitably, she got all of the attention.
I guess....
Unfortunately my mother couldn’t do that at her own open casket funeral 😂
Wailing, yes, her signature attention bid
Medical emergencies are their favourite tactic. One I worked with claimed to have a diabetic episode and once I managed ro run around looking for a first aider, he suddenly claimed to be fine once help arrived. The following day he brought all his medicines and placed them on the office desk expecting me to query what they did for him. Unfortunately for him I I had wised up to his game and completely ignored the charade. That was the last time he tried any shit on me because right after I gave him the silent treatment and found inner peace.
These creatures are truly sick beyond redemption. Steer clear if you can.
Omg, this exact thing happened to me. We were just starting a nice dinner when he said he couldn't breathe. He looked and sounded fine, but I called a waitress over. He had them running round for him, asking him if he needed a doctor. He was suddenly fine within a couple of minutes. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. We got funny looks from the waiting staff for the rest of the night. It was so embarrassing.
I found a brilliant response to dry begging here once, wish I could credit the author. “That’s terrible. What are you going to do?”
Yes and they're happy to dump their dramas and problems that they created all over you so the same applies. What are you going to do? That must be awful for you.
You nailed it. Always busy with drama in order to never tend to what he needs to do. I just calmly let him solve his own "crisis".
Darren's forte. Everyone needs your channel. Can't wait for our chat
Looking forward to chatting again as well 👍
Spot on Darren. Narcisists are corrupted to the core. Any lie, secrets, deception or manipulation will do to maintain power and control. And the worst and most evil lie of all is the: I love you! Once we realise the truth of what kind of a trap that lie is, the magic spell is broken and the truth has set us free! Thank you ❤😊
Freedom in silence.
He causes drama every time we go anywhere. He always gets in my face and starts on me out of nowhere. He goes on and on until I snap back. Then he says "what's wrong with you?" Are you ok? It's truly bizarre and embarrassing and I'm so done with it. Is this gaslighting, him trying to make me seem crazy?
YES! And more. Thanks for your comment, because something just hit me that I didn't fully understand earlier. Mine did this at restaurants, even at church. So embarrassing and hurtful. I realized we couldn't have one good whole day. It was always something, even though there was no reason.
If that's going on, it's past time to leave
Thanks sooo much for explaining the motives behind this baffling behavior.🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
As a 7-8yo child I began recognizing certain patterns in my mom...
1.If she observes something very unseemly in someone, she pounces on it, so happy to find fault so she can criticize someone.
2.If it's something that's only mildly unseemly, she exaggerates it to make it much worse than it is, a confusing mixture of truth and lies.
3.If there is nothing at all that she can find wrong, she'll just fabricate an outrageous lie out of thin air.
Everyone she knows is either guilty of something outrageous, or is being prompted(demanded) to share in her outrage about somebody else, or both.
I've often witnessed the event that she's describing(lying about), and while others are in getting sucked into mom's lies, I'm shocked and traumatized at how far she will go to throw someone under the bus just so she can get her twisted emotional needs met.
And I've also had my turn getting thrown under the bus, endlessly.
Narcissists also like to chose targets to do horrible and bizarre things to, so when the target is forced to get help, no one believes the target. Then the narcissist can say, "See, I'm not the narcissist, they are!"
A story: The covert narc went to visit his flying monkey-relatives and misplaced his car fob. Chaos ensued as everyone was enlisted to search for the key. Of course, he advised them all that he couldn't tell me, irrationally suggesting to his family that big bad me would not send replacement keys to him. (Nonsense.) The fob was found the next day, but not before I was bad-mouthed and he had to be rescued by concerned relatives. Thank you for the excellent insight into what I am still trying to understand!
You can't understand a crazy person. Don't wreck yourself trying to
This was excelent. Had to laugh because one of the christmas dramas this year was the lost phone charger and it wasn't even the first time. I, the scapegoat, bought her a new charger and she then told everybody that it was someone else, probably because I can do nothing right or good.
Emotional addiction is similar to sex addiction in that individuals may seek out intense emotional highs, often through drama or chaos, to experience dopamine and other neurochemical rewards. People with lower emotional intelligence tend to act impulsively based on their emotions, rather than managing them thoughtfully. Emotional intelligence is a multi-faceted/dimensional construct. Each of these facet/dimensions can be applied in a variety of contexts, situations, and relationships, and may involve more specific sub-skills in different circumstances. This is why AI would never be able to humans…it might act like one but not one because AI and robots doesn’t have emotion.
I just commented and then scrolled down to find you already wrote something similar! Thanks and very well said!
So spot on Darren. It's all about NEEDING to be the center of attention which makes the narc feel 'special' and important...so they create situations in order to get this fix, and then manipulate the hell out of it. Pathetic. How about when a narc gives a running commentary out loud, on what they're doing, or thinking, for everyone around to hear. More of the 'I'm so important, so special, everyone I'm sure wants to know what I'm doing, thinking!, etc.' Sheesh.
Let's just call them what they are: energetic vampires.
Yep. I changed "someone's" contact photo to a Colin Robinson's photo.
This describes my adult narc daughter perfectly. Always an emergency. Even if it is not. As her mom I get drawn in. Am trying to walk that razors edge of care and love, and exhaustion and seeing what this is now. Especially difficult when this is a family member. I do see she does seem to get a dopamine hit by this behaviour. Meanwhile I am so depleted. …
Can’t unsee it now.
Thank you Darren !
My 37 year old daughter is a mess as well, and life is all about her poor choices, of which I'm sure that I'm the scapegoat of those poor choices. I divorced her father, who could definitely be diagnosed with NPD, after eight years of an insufferable marriage. He catered and coddled her, and allowed her to do whatever pleased her, especially if it went against my good parenting.
I feel that she only reaches out to me out of obligation, or just keeping a weak connection, in case she actually needs me down the road. Her selfishness has given me cause to finally go no contact with her, which gives me a great sense of peace.
Same. Mine too. Also 37.
She creates problems where there were none and has been the cause of many a drama but somehow she's the innocent party and has done nothing wrong.
Then comes the barrage of blame, criticism ,put downs, personal remarks and labels.
I was so sick of it all.
I've recently first limited then cut contact.
.@@SteeleMagnolia
I had a boss who caused conflict between his employees by telling lies, then he’d sit down with them to mediate the conflict.
Could it possibly be that they are getting a dopamine hit? I’ve lived with one for over 35 years and it definitely seems like when he’s low he will start in on me for doing something wrong and ask for answers and it goes on and on and on once he gets his brain hit seems like it stops. Can you do a video on the brain of narcissist, the receptors, and maybe the drug addiction of dopamine?
It’s about triggering you so they win! Go gray rock plz then watch the tables turn as they scramble for more supply. He might even disappear one day like mine did ☮️
It’s just bully supply. It’s a type of sadism. Darren even mentioned this, real quick, in this video.
Narcissistic supply!
There can be a lot of passive manipulation.
Love the way you contemptuously dismiss the toxic game of one upmanship these people play. There is even one who claimed that therapy would put him at a disadvantage by reaching him through cognitive therapy to treat others as he would like to be treated. In stead as a psychopath he feels he is helping people to avoid ending up with people like him while claiming that no one but him knows what they are talking about when it comes to this subject of taking advantage of people and manipulating and exploiting them. The truth is that these people are empty shells and cause chaos during quiet moments because they are bored and frustrated at looking onwards and terrified that, there's nobody home. The emptiness can be seen in the 2 situations of their eyes. 1 glassy and empty and expressionless 2 absolutely black as they clear you from their mind and disengage with rage at those who don't follow their script. Their attempt at causing chaos is simply to get away from their greatest enemy, boredom. They are mad at people who can sit quietly for hours and meditate either on how to improve their personalities, fix wrongs they have done to others or meditate on what they have learned throughout the day and what they can do about it tomorrow. Toxic people are stuck in the now. All they think about is what they can either get others to do for them or how others can keep them distracted and entertained. This is the reason for ghosting, discard and abandonment of the relationship or seeking someone else instead of you..refusing to be drawn into their chaotic lives means, you are no fun anymore
Too worried about the neighbours cat 🤣
I have been raised by mrs Dry Begging. It is exhausting since she would tell everyone she needs help with this and that and then people come to me and ask why I cant help my own mother with it, your mother has even asked us to do etc... and you have to explain that you want to help but she will immediately delay or withdraw the request, it is merely a way of engaging people, the last thing she actually wants is you helping. Who would believe it?
The amount of drama I received just before the holidays and during the holidays so I wouldn't pay attention to my family but to him...
I couldn't go to after work events without the relentless text messaging saying I was cheating or whatever so I'd be mad.. because he had a "feeling" and he was NEVER wrong about his feeling.
He would even follow me to ensure that I was going where I said I would.
It was never peaceful... ever..
Fantastic video. It describes them so wellx No peace, no harmony, just constrant conflict, emergencies, chaos, and drama.
When my kids were small, we travelled 1000 km to visit my parents. We stay in a tropical area and both kids had sandworm in their one foot, and tonsillites. We got medicine to take orally, and meds to apply on their feet.
My severe narc mother worked herself up and the children as well. As I wanted to give theid med, with narc mom carrying on about oh, the poor babies!! Oh, this... oh that!
I got so nervous. The next momentI gave the foot meds to them orally! The consternation that followed! Phoned pharmacist!
.fortunately it was not poisouness!
"My document camera doesn't work. Why? because I threw away the electrical extension as it was "unsightly"." Have the custodian mount a battery operated clock 3 inches from the ceiling so they "have to" call that custodian back twice a year, or more, to change the clock or change batteries. Child brings a random piece of paper to the office with the message of "my teacher says they don't need this anymore". Parks in handicapped spot with no placard as there is "no parking spaces" (does this often). "Someone planted flowers outside my room, but I wanted to plant native plants." Two weeks later three South American milkweed plants show up as planted in that California soil. 👎🏼 Bad for the monarchs. "Do you work in your car because you are a hoarder?" (says the person with a *hot mess* K-6th classroom with many cabinets, and inside of the door, painted a blood red color.). Calls the help desk, I get the voicemail, fix issue and call within 5 mins to convey. Next thing I hear is in a meeting about how "someone" was "very upset" that they were helped by me. I wait for help desk tickets now (it wasn't my day to listen to calls I just like to start August off right).
And they wonder why I set up a killer office in my car with steering wheel desk, and leave when I need to charge up my laptop. Best part of my car office? I can listen to your videos......and in peace. ✌🏼💋
I've just woke up to the fact my husband and partner of the 40yrs is a narcissist. We have the house for sale and every time I return from visiting family I come back to disaster. 1 Dish washer leaked kitchen floor,2 half kitchen lights strobing,3 toilet leaking on to kitchen ceiling and 4 claims freezer is triggering power cuts so he left me in the house alone over night to deal with it, woke to the carbon monoxide alarm beeping battery needed changing big coincidence. All the food is sitting in the back garden in chill bags and to top it off he's cancelled the internet without telling me.
Very good Darren,withholding information was always a favourite,untill they thought it was the right time to release it,to there advantage of course!!! "Develish"
Do these types of behavior ever something other than narcissism and can narcissism be accompanied by other disorders. I ask because we have a family member who married into the family that is causing so much grief and strain on everyone. We've all put her at arm's length for our own safety but she's the mom to our loved kittle one so we'll be around her for the next 18 years. She's a head scratcher for sure, almost broke her hubs' mental health (he's separated now and doing very well). Autism, adhd and LD are strong in the fam.
Thanks Darren 😊
Thank you, Darren. Excellent video again! Please keep them coming.
The way the world is now has everyone wired up, young and old. 😢
Yes my narcissistic mother in law described in great detail. 😢
A million thumbs up!!
Thanks, Darren, for your expertise! And for you Belfast accent! I know one when I hear it. 😊You know your stuff!
Thank you for a great video. I would be curious on your thoughts of the alcohol-driven narcissist.
I made video previously on narcissism and addiction if you’d find that helpful?
@DarrenFMagee Yes, thanks so much!
Yes. My Narc MIL is on cr*ck. Now I'm pregnant and she's very upset and jealous of my baby girl.
Wish you would talk more about narcissism in friendships.. Thank You!
my ex caused a full air sea search and rescue,saw kids bodies in the water at the beach. Thing is 2 kids had gone missing it was in the National paper though it was miles away. Course there were no bodies . Ialso had a narc neighbour she had a "heart attack "inside a church at a friends wedding.These narcs are quite common ,awful
They like Chaos up until they are not the ones in control of it. Then THEY get frantic and want to bring the chaos/ drama your way.
This is so interesting but also your voice is so nice. It's wonderful to listen to.
My mother, (now passed) was rather dramatic also. She lived well into her years. nineties
Narcissists just hide behind everything they can destabilize forther and make you look like a freak, while they play the adult.
That's my mother, necer ending cycle of invent a problem, pretend to be victim. Theatre of distress and blaming everyone
You nailed it. 🎯
A video on narcisstic grandmothers vs grandchildren, please 🙏
My mother
This was the best!
Ha! The last time I had a run in with one of these people it was all about the keys 😂
That's the funniest vid title ever!😂❤
Interesting topic, i could never tell what was going on but i know 2 that always needed to be on the phone to their mother. It was like a stage play where chaos was going on in their family. One lady even did this through her husbands work dinner party. Putting on her dramatic performance of importance to MOTHER. On the phone with everyone listening. 😂
Spineless sadism, exactly
My mother.
Wtf world is right. If you're at peace, they'll drag you away from it asap.
Oh my God ! I was married to someone like this for 15 years and didn't know rhis was A thing
We understand. Welcome to the beginning of healing
Their drama is not appreciated by us
Could the woman with the phone messages have been histrionic personality disorder?
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She could be doing that to get others admire her new phone, especially if it's expensive..smh.
Yet again, I think you described my ex, and a few family members to a t.😊
Seven plus years later I am still trying to put my life together again.
It's worse that I moved 10,000 miles to his country.
I was younger and significantly dumber.😂
Don’t beat yourself up! You didn’t know what you couldn’t know then… I say to myself that I was simply mistaken now 💔❤️🩹♥️
@caroleminke6116 thank you so much.
My husband got fired on purpose at Christmas lost our health insurance thousands of dollars in bonus money. I bought a new car and didn’t need him to do it my daughter is going to a village she choose. So he lost his job to sabotage both of us . I’m done now he can’t get a job and has decided to retire at age 61. Oh and he the victim .
Totally true, Darren. But one thing: narcissism is really a handicap, a lack of trust in others.
And this leads to the question: what can we do? What reaction is grown-up en lovable, and leads the narcissist to self-acceptance?
Hahahahahahaha read on, cuz you don't get it yet
My sisters EX husband.constantly called when she visited.💩
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Now that's unfair