How to STOP Approval Seeking | A Monk's Perspective

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  • @nickkeomahavong01
    @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +69

    Is seeking praise, validation or external approval an issue for you currently?

    • @kemageorge2194
      @kemageorge2194 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Unfortunately, yes.

    • @photovincent
      @photovincent ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Most helpful was saying that dependency on praise also makes you vulnerable to criticism. I will think about that!

    • @artfuldodger7838
      @artfuldodger7838 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I have problems accepting it. Typical artsy type, I see the mistakes. I've had to learn to see my own value, and external approval doesn't much matter to me. I've learned to say thank you for it, but it still makes me uncomfortable. I do what I do because I am who I am. I don't look for external approval.

    • @lukemckean6155
      @lukemckean6155 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes

    • @sadieveronica7188
      @sadieveronica7188 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It has been an issue for a long time, going back to childhood. I valued other people’s assessment of me more than my own. It’s a very difficult way to live. This talk is valuable as I continue to work with it. Thank you!

  • @rebornmmmmuch
    @rebornmmmmuch ปีที่แล้ว +128

    I love how you always say “it’s ok”. There’s no pressure on us. The feeling of not rushing on everything is very soothing❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Thank you my friend 😊😊😊

    • @Lamakunphel
      @Lamakunphel ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/video/2qXGX4OuY7o/w-d-xo.html

    • @JennaOnTheBeach
      @JennaOnTheBeach ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Totally! I love that too. So cool. 🙏🏾

    • @NallahBrown
      @NallahBrown ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Honestly 🌷

    • @Themystergamerr
      @Themystergamerr ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I also love his midsentence chuckles ❤

  • @kitten8249
    @kitten8249 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I love the part about how seeking validation takes attention from the work. It’s interesting to think about how much energy we put into having others approve of us, instead it’s more useful to focus on what you have to offer regardless of praise.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      Yessss! It’s definitely takes a lot of our time for sure 😊

  • @ameliaconway
    @ameliaconway ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i dont find you boring at all, i love that you talk calmly and softly - alot of the modern popular TH-camrs are so intense, feels like they are shouting at you, and in every sentence trying to be so clever and witty and funny, its exhausting to watch

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much for your kind words 😊😊😊

    • @JP-ve7or
      @JP-ve7or 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So, so agree!

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    "I don't need mommie. I am grown. I can do this by myself." Thank you. You confirmed a conclusion from a time of personal reflection.

  • @amanr6346
    @amanr6346 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Hi Nick, I’m retraining as a Psychotherapist at present, and I return to your videos and rewatch them to remind me ultimately of what everything we do is all about. This issue of external validation is so pervasive from young age through to adult life, unfortunately it goes hand in hand with sadness and feeling unfulfilled for many. The concept of intention as you discuss is so crucial! Best wishes 🙏😀

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much my friend and congratulations with your training. Keep up the great work out there 😊😊

    • @noemarie8
      @noemarie8 ปีที่แล้ว

      thank you for your work !! here in canada becoming a psychotherapist requires a lot of physics and maths studies and that’s not my forte but i hope to help people heal in other ways regardless !

    • @c.cabanilla8963
      @c.cabanilla8963 ปีที่แล้ว

      Helping those in crisis is an honorable work! Keep it up

  • @charleenhaynes3057
    @charleenhaynes3057 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    You are so right, self validation is less risky. People can be negative and hurtful and removing yourself from that can difficult. Deep down l think you know when you have done a good job but it is nice to be told so long as it is done with good intention 🙏🏻❤

  • @vivianwalsh1098
    @vivianwalsh1098 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I admire your wisdom and sharing your thoughts so I can learn from you. I'm 71 yrs. I want to finish the story I started in my 30's. It's an ongoing memoir that may entertain while helping others. I'm having some Dementia showing up and I want to finish my book. This will help. Grateful 🙏❣️

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh wonderful Vivian! Yes keep going. It will be a great gift to the world 😊

  • @rochellearellano7135
    @rochellearellano7135 ปีที่แล้ว

    The comment that the less you are seeking validation means you can put the effort into doing or making whatever you are doing or making to the very best of your ability was very helpful.

  • @yuleydicruz7252
    @yuleydicruz7252 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    We also look for validation from our partner or spouse . I am currently single after dating for two and half years and the hardest part is that I still look for his approval. I know I can do well on my own, just to have to find myself again . Be alone and be okay ❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yes that’s normal. Just take time to observe yourself neutrally 😊 be kind and patient with yourself

    • @Lamakunphel
      @Lamakunphel ปีที่แล้ว

      How to live in the present time
      By lama kunphel
      th-cam.com/video/7j6SwEI9Oh0/w-d-xo.html

    • @carladirden
      @carladirden ปีที่แล้ว

      Shadow work helps a lot especially after a break up. Use tapping too. Helps to bring you back to yourself...and quickly.

  • @daynaparadis9219
    @daynaparadis9219 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "I don't have time to be a leaf". I will remember that!

    • @sergio93940
      @sergio93940 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ME TOO

  • @Akina_Nikka2315
    @Akina_Nikka2315 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video has helped me a lot about the subject because I´ve been seeking validation from my narcissistic mother my whole life...thank you so much ❣

  • @bennyyastremski
    @bennyyastremski ปีที่แล้ว

    People with low esteem need validation to try to pull themselves up a little more from that darkness. I found being a foreman when I see workers doing a good job. I tell them that they are doing great. By giving them a little validation, they do even better work.

  • @whatmjshared
    @whatmjshared ปีที่แล้ว +11

    When you stated that to seek approval from the outside is to put power outside of yourself it was refreshing to hear. Thank you, Venerable Nick 💜

  • @28105wsking
    @28105wsking 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've had four strokes now. I have trouble processing fast speech, so popular now among the young. You are the perfect speed for me to listen, comprehend, understand, and retain. Even if I had not had the strokes! Thank you so much. As a former nun in Asia, in two traditions and years with three, I find slower delivery more respectful to the Holy Dharma and to a multi-lingual and multi-cultural audience, both male and female, both the young and the old, many of whom are NOT native speakers of English and need a few seconds for mental translation. Good delivery. A+ in my class! Always be mindful of the needs and requirements of such a varied audience. We are an international community. The Buddha has "60 forms of speech with loving compassion for each being, like his only child." to reach all beings in every realm, all of whom simultaneously understand what was said or taught in the way best for them. You are doing a good thing, and doing it well for your audience.🙏🙏🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awww thank you so much for such a beautiful and kind feedback. Thank you my friend and hope you are doing well. Sending you my blessings from Thailand 😊

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Take those negative remarks with a grain of salt. There are those out here who are being greatly helped by your teaching. I am one of the latter.
    Your teaching always does one of three things for me personally: encouraged, given me insight, or given me a confirmation.
    Keep it up.🙏

  • @WendyKroy70
    @WendyKroy70 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Thank you for this valuable guidance Venerable Nick 🙏 From a young age, our brains were coded for approval seeking either by well-intended parents who were also raised suffering under this attachment or by mono-type dysfunctional education systems. We need to get awareness and free our minds. Thanks for showing us the way to be happier.

  • @coolbreeze5683
    @coolbreeze5683 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think we centre a lot of things in society that are outside of ourselves. Centering and seeking approval from those with money, from those with some sort of "power", from a romantic partner, etc. takes a lot away from us. It takes a lot of practice to dismantle what we've been conditioned to do throughout our entire lives but the practice is worth it.
    I just started watching your videos and they're all amazing. Thanks so much for your knowledge 🙏

  • @rollandjoeseph
    @rollandjoeseph ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is a great topic, as in today's world people online constantly need validation ( I did this or that, what do you guys think of this etc) . It's really getting old when the format is setup like this ( ie: "likes" ) . This is one reason why I want to "unlike" a bunch of pages that I follow as everyone asks for validation.

  • @dannymeske3821
    @dannymeske3821 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your not boring at all, and you talk at the right speed Ven. Nick! May peace always be with you

  • @quinnandfinnadventures9143
    @quinnandfinnadventures9143 ปีที่แล้ว

    I find your videos very soothing, never boring. I can't believe someone would actually say that. Just know that you are helpful to so many people.

  • @ZengHuaXiansheng
    @ZengHuaXiansheng ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you so much Nick! I definitely have this problem, probably because many things that I did as a little kid weren’t regarded as good enough. Seems this video is one of the greatest tutorials on how to get self confidence. And you’re totally right, it’s always a chase without an end. I just realised that many of the things I thought I’d do for others I even don’t actually do for them, instead it’s like trying to stuff a black hole inside myself using the wrong material. I think that if I really want to help others I first have to develop the right material inside myself to stuff that black hole.

  • @Easy-English-Hi-fi-Confidence
    @Easy-English-Hi-fi-Confidence ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how you say "Good evening everyone ". I also say like yours

  • @Houdini_Bob
    @Houdini_Bob ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really like your talks, they come form the heart and resonate with me.
    myself, I do not like praise or recognition for doing my job, I do not require it to feel validated. I know I did my best and got the task completed.

  • @anamisidro8453
    @anamisidro8453 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you 🙏 validation from others could be very toxic. It really freezes you in the moment you have to decide, to plan or even to dream.

  • @distaff2935
    @distaff2935 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "Please like, share, and subscribe." Actually, now that I think about it, I can't remember you ever ending your videos that way. But, when I remember to, I press the Like button. Thank you for all the good content!

  • @Maura-u6b
    @Maura-u6b 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I got alot from this teaching and it made me realise how mcuh ive been seeking validation at work and how that has affected my productivity and presence , , Thankyou for sharing this( NON Boring) Wisdom :)

  • @KAEmmons
    @KAEmmons ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Profoundly blessed by the wisdom you share Venerable Nick. 🙏💗🌻 Blessings and peace to you. Namaste.

  • @sakadachum
    @sakadachum ปีที่แล้ว +10

    🙏🙏🙏 I have been blessed yet again to watch your videos

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sadhu sadhu! Thank you so much 😊 hope you are doing well!

  • @AlotusNine
    @AlotusNine ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Another great video Nick🙏Thank you for your serene presence and bringing peace to my mind once again.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s my pleasure. Thank you so much my friend 😊

  • @joankennedy1148
    @joankennedy1148 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thank you for this Nick. Self awareness and self efficacy is a useful tool. Intention as you say is key. I believe keeping my ego in check and responding in a neutral way to comments maintains integrity. This lesson is very timely for me Nick. Thank you.

  • @marianneeckertjensen4723
    @marianneeckertjensen4723 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much! Yes, and there is always going to be childish people who praise you one day, and feel disgustes two weeks later. 😊👃

  • @reni6771
    @reni6771 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Honestly this really helps me! I always feel like I don't matter if no one else cares about my life. You are so sweet and full of kindness thank you for this wisdom i will cherish the moments I spend watching ❤ namaste 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh wonderful! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊😊

  • @mnznita
    @mnznita ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have recently started working on my self validation and this video was so helpful! I forget how much mindfulness helps me tune in w better choices for myself

  • @rileyreeves2961
    @rileyreeves2961 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My new response to any insult. "I don't have time to be a leaf."

  • @SundayBoy72
    @SundayBoy72 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes. I often tell my customer that praise is not necessary. If I do good it’s because I like to give my best. And if on the street you recognise me, give a smile or thumbs up. I know I do well. I just hope you have a fruitful experience and I can help you. Your words resonate so much. Thanks Nick. ✌️❤️

  • @lauraromeroescarcega3079
    @lauraromeroescarcega3079 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Always a pleasure to listen to you I love your laughter specially when you said people tell you you are boring 😅 it is so refreshing to see your reaction 😊 wish you well, thank you 🙏🏼

  • @rebeccarussell1358
    @rebeccarussell1358 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just when I needed to hear your words, there you were. You were tremendously helpful during my struggle. Thank you.

  • @jacquelineireland2273
    @jacquelineireland2273 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Those who find you boring are seeking the wrong things. Fortunately you have developed yourself to let those comments roll off you like water on a duck. Know that you are appreciated and accepted by many. Peace and love to you.

  • @alyssacortijo2235
    @alyssacortijo2235 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love your teachings💗 Thank you so much for your precious gift of knowledge. You don't know how much this is helping me. God bless you and your family always 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are so welcome 😊 I’m glad it’s helpful.

  • @sabrinas2181
    @sabrinas2181 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hands down this is my favorite YT channel. Such valuable information & perspective.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      Aww thank you so much for your kind words Sabrina 😊😊

  • @Lentzkhan-yf1zk
    @Lentzkhan-yf1zk 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    hi nick u make things so simple.u give us a choices,if it work for u used and if it do not its ok. i like that about u ,u are so humble in my opinion,i don't have to meditate,when i listen to your lectures it automatically relaxes me. tbank u

  • @lenengquist592
    @lenengquist592 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Interesting timing for a video like this. I definitely needed. Also at 14:17 I love how you laugh at the examples your giving for people who dislike what you do. It just really shows that I shouldn't take offense to something that's not my problem.

  • @annlaing8714
    @annlaing8714 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You really inspire me to take a step back and think about things to take a look at myself and see how I’m doing in my life. To use your wisdom to really be honest with myself and my motivations. I thank you for this as it helps me to be the person I wish to be. L ways love and light to you ❤️🙏🏻

  • @SundayBoy72
    @SundayBoy72 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Revision lesson today. 27/7.23. Thank you teacher.

  • @shraddhaarya1734
    @shraddhaarya1734 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much...your gave entirely different perspective ....so thoughtful and technical...deep regards.. ..

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@shraddhaarya1734 aww I’m glad that’s helpful. Thank you so much 😊

  • @katehenry6666
    @katehenry6666 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like how you can laugh. It's a small moment of joy you share with us. Thanks🙏

  • @jimmykeys9784
    @jimmykeys9784 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You do an excellent job sharing your perspective and It helps me to calm down and put things in a better perspective for me to move forward. Thank you!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      Awww thank you so much my friend. That’s very kind of you and I’m glad it’s helpful 😊😊😊

  • @SundayBoy72
    @SundayBoy72 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Nick. I have watch and re watch and binge watch. Every time I get a new understanding. From listening to understanding to comprehending to internalising to gaining the wisdom… thank you again for sharing.

  • @robertwilson822
    @robertwilson822 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I started a new job recently. Catching myself about the validation stuff at times... When I don't look for external validation and just do my job and I know I did the best I could do, that's a way better place to be... I'm more calm and grounded then. This video is a great reminder thank you

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wonderful Robert! That’s so great to hear. Keep it up 😊

  • @nonexistenty4152
    @nonexistenty4152 ปีที่แล้ว

    Best video ever!
    I am SO SO SO following this!
    I did the best I could in every moment of my life, I noticed!

  • @matttheman9740
    @matttheman9740 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When you used a book as an example at the start.. I immediately went "😲" lol! I'm in the process of writing out a story for a graphic novel I plan to make. And I'm not gonna lie, I kinda started it because I do want some validation from my family. Feeling like I'm behind on everything Is bringing me down, this graphic novel is gonna be the hardest thing I've ever tried. I really love the process of creating but sometimes I get so consumed by the obsession of being validated they I forget my passions. Anyways, this made me realize that I am putting my energy into things for the wrong reasons. I do feel a little sad that I'm not where my family probably expects me to be, but I feel like if I just can enjoy what I'm doing, then I can accept myself for where I am and make better progress. Thanks for your wisdom 😊😊

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re welcome Matt and yes that’s normal. Dealing with family pressure is not easy; however, just take the time to reconnect with the pure intentions 😊

  • @batman5383
    @batman5383 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for these videos! There are many individuals in this beautiful world that are lost in their thoughts, and people like you help bring them to the light!

  • @genevieverouet1340
    @genevieverouet1340 ปีที่แล้ว

    One more powerful video. Thank you Ven. Kind of : Demand much from yourself, little from others...

  • @jimmypaguila7256
    @jimmypaguila7256 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so muck, Nick! Your voice made me calm to the pressure of socity. 💚

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful 😊😊

  • @dennamotevalian6749
    @dennamotevalian6749 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so so much this teaching healed me immediately 🙏🏽⭐️✨

  • @filmmaker5457
    @filmmaker5457 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for being here for us, Venerable Nick. Im working on a feature script that involves Buddhism and I'm studying a lot. Your channel is incredibly helpful. I've also been practicing meditation every day for the past 3 months. Thank you.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wonderful my friend! I’m glad it’s helpful. Keep up the great work 😊

    • @filmmaker5457
      @filmmaker5457 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nickkeomahavong01 🙏

  • @c.cabanilla8963
    @c.cabanilla8963 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Recently I have been focused on improving my meditation and the view point of looking at life with objective lenses.

    • @herrweiss2580
      @herrweiss2580 ปีที่แล้ว

      I concur.
      Subjectivity is never good. ❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh wonderful! Please keep it up 😊😊

  • @starrsteele1340
    @starrsteele1340 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love how you speak; nice and clear. Thank you for sharing your wisdom God bless

  • @consuelomarquez5173
    @consuelomarquez5173 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you! As an artist, writer and teacher this is the most helpful! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

  • @malu-cl3jh
    @malu-cl3jh ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Nick. I feel a little lighter every time I listen to your guideiance. For me it's very reassuring when you speak so slowly 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      You are so welcome! Glad it’s helpful 😊😊

  • @KCeci
    @KCeci ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you venerable Nick for translating this wisdom into very tangible steps that we can take. I will also see how I can share this with my primary school sons.

  • @nicolesage1344
    @nicolesage1344 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for putting out these helpful videos! You have definitely made an impact on my life and I really appreciate your work.

  • @senflyer-
    @senflyer- ปีที่แล้ว

    This is an issue I struggle with a lot. Thank you for explaining it and giving possible guideposts to use for self validation.

  • @arjunshah9531
    @arjunshah9531 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this video! Struggling with CPTSD, and this has helped me immensely while meditating. Everything will take time.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wonderful! I’m glad it’s helpful Arjun 😊

  • @lieselotte521
    @lieselotte521 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can learn a lot from your wisdom and modesty that comes with it. You are far from boring to me , and I need information presented to me in a slow way to be able to process it .
    I think your tips are very useful for me , especially the " Why am I doing it " . Thank you ! 🔶️

  • @nicky_bee
    @nicky_bee ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are so not boring! 😆 Coolest monk I know.

  • @myrahochreutener2040
    @myrahochreutener2040 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you deeply.
    All the best to you and your sanga.
    Love from Switzerland

  • @SundayBoy72
    @SundayBoy72 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I tried a different way to mediate today. Closed my eyes clear my thoughts and with ear plug in, listen to your talk.
    Self validation couple with wisdom and having the right intention. Your words again calm and unlock the learning. I will apply to self validate with wisdom.
    Right intention -> validation on work with Wisdom -> self sustainable

  • @mia92b
    @mia92b ปีที่แล้ว

    True words. Thank you

  • @carladirden
    @carladirden ปีที่แล้ว +2

    When you attach to praise, AUTOMATICALLY you're gonna be attached to blame.

  • @TheAnnieApplePie
    @TheAnnieApplePie ปีที่แล้ว

    Nick, you are such a blessing! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You mix mindfulness and practice of spiritual principles with stories that also make me laugh, help me stay alert, and discover my own path of actually "practicing" and improving my inner/outer world. Peace.

  • @hughp00
    @hughp00 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video Nick. I understand how if I heap praise on what you are doing, your goal remains to simply keep the main thing the main thing. So simple and clear. Stay safe my friend!

  • @kristianfella-glanville
    @kristianfella-glanville ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Well here is my praise of this work:
    Very insightful, almost shocking how applicable this is to my life and what I've seen of the lives of others. Awesome work 😁. Never seen those negative comments before lol

  • @kellitasmith8490
    @kellitasmith8490 ปีที่แล้ว

    I LOVE AND ADORE YOU!!!! YOU ARE ABLESSING IN MY LIFE🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @sofiadiazlalova277
    @sofiadiazlalova277 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video really helped me, thank you brother Nick

  • @andrewabrehart6628
    @andrewabrehart6628 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Venerable Nick, for such a thought provoking video. I know I was often seeking validation and feel it was to, in some way, validate my existence. Now I no longer work, I find it difficult not to have that source of validation. Something to work on, that's for sure. Thank you again. 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re welcome and yes it takes time. Just be patient with this process 😊

  • @susannegerber7360
    @susannegerber7360 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes, it is as you said.Thank you for displaying it so clearly. i would even say there are situations when the artefact that you create and share has a voice of itself and the creator is in service. Interesting subject!

  • @pedazodegringa
    @pedazodegringa ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really love your videos This one, and another about envy have been two of the 'self help' videos on TH-cam that are the most thoughtful, down to earth, and have helped me the most.

  • @paulamarsden-robbins4981
    @paulamarsden-robbins4981 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this tool of wisdom Venerable Nick, helping me so much in my experience and you are definetly not boring!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful 😊😊 and thank you

  • @turningthesage8687
    @turningthesage8687 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am thankful for your videos.. they really make a difference. Thank you for your wisdom.

  • @obsieheissen
    @obsieheissen ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i got enlightened by the sound of the caterpillar gnawing on the mic, thanks !

  • @shilparamgopal1221
    @shilparamgopal1221 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such a treat to listen to your wisdom. Thank you, as always.

  • @AngDevigne
    @AngDevigne ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for creating and sharing this, Ven. Nick. 🙏 🙇‍♀️ I've struggled with external validation for as long as I can remember, and you made the solutions sound so simple and achievable. Specifically loved the journal prompts. With time and effort, I'm confident this approach will work. All the love for you!

  • @sunityensabai2903
    @sunityensabai2903 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sadhu Sadhu.It's a wonderful tips to apply to our daily life.

  • @nyalimuir4103
    @nyalimuir4103 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nick thank you 🙏
    I treasure your wisdom and gifts.

  • @delia200903
    @delia200903 ปีที่แล้ว

    14:38 many thanks for YOU search so slowly.its for me wonderfully since English is not my native language. Many tks too for u be with me at moments I think give up. And finish all . Many tks too learn couple new words. Manybtks to for u r existence

  • @manupanditaratne
    @manupanditaratne ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Ven. Nick. Namo Buddhaya 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      You are so welcome! Glad it’s helpful 😊😊

  • @shaeweir9882
    @shaeweir9882 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really wish I'd been able to hear this message when I was younger!

  • @heidigone
    @heidigone ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm always so happy to see your videos. You have helped me so much! Thank-you!

  • @joannahao925
    @joannahao925 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for the video. Need this so bad right now.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful 😊😊

  • @maloufusingan1623
    @maloufusingan1623 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    im a filipino working here in hk.and wanna say thank you nick.

  • @josel.casanova5405
    @josel.casanova5405 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Nick, much appreciated 🙏🏻

  • @rochellearellano7135
    @rochellearellano7135 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you. I found this helpful!

  • @BlairPittams
    @BlairPittams ปีที่แล้ว

    multiples of combined issues and in the mind PTSD from so many adverse life events.
    I don't really know where to begin to heal,
    In the darkness I live, I now want to actively seek the calm light

  • @pauladini7237
    @pauladini7237 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Nick, have recently started watching your videos and yes, have really found them helpful including this one. 🙏❤️

  • @Gme6955
    @Gme6955 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you very much. Your videos are very helpful and I am grateful to your work 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  ปีที่แล้ว

      You are very welcome. Thank you so much consuelo 😊😊

  • @teenafrench7236
    @teenafrench7236 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Brother Nick. As well, you are beautiful...not boring looking at all☺️🥰

  • @nureinherz
    @nureinherz ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great Method, to come back to one's intention. It helped me just now. Thank you 🙏

  • @gabrielacruceanu9922
    @gabrielacruceanu9922 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great topic! Thank you 🙏