What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
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What does the Bible teach about divorce and remarriage? That’s our topic today on the BEAT.
Hey what’s up everyone my name is Allen Parr and so today we are dealing with a very sensitive subject. Statistics show that over 50% of all couples experience divorce, which means not only are they affected by it but their children are as well. I recognize there are a variety of views on it so my goal is to provide a balanced yet biblical view on the subject.
With that being said, the first thing I want to say is that…
1. Divorce is not the unforgivable sin
a. I would argue that it’s not a sin at all in some situations. We’ve taken this one sin and have shunned and shamed people and caused them to feel worse than they already do about the deep pain associated with a divorce.
b. We need to be about the business of restoring people who are broken and reminding them that if God is big enough to forgive other sins then He is big enough to forgive the sin of divorce.
2. Grounds for Divorce
a. With that being said I would argue that the Bible provides four grounds for divorce and remarriage.
b. Adultery - Mt. 19:9 - Jesus says that if a spouse commits adultery then the other spouse has the option to divorce and remarry although reconciliation is always preferred if the offending spouse is truly repentant.
c. Abandonment - 1 Cor. 7:12-15
d. Death - 1 Cor. 7:39 - Paul says that if a spouse dies then the living spouse is obviously no longer bound and is free to remarry.
e. Divorce as an Unbeliever - 2 Cor. 5:17 - When we become Christians God does not hold us accountable for anything we did before we were saved.
3. The X-Factor
a. With all of that being said I believe there is one x-factor here and that is the heart of God. I am convinced that, although there are consequences to our decisions, GOD ALWAYS RESPONDS TO A HEART OF REPENTANCE WITH GRACE.
b. We see this in the life of David. We see this with how God dealt with Israel who sinned against God repeatedly and yet God called them back to repentance.
4. Finally my advice to someone who has experienced the devastating pain of divorce is
a. Go out of your way to shield your children from the pain of the divorce as much as you can.
b. But more importantly, NEVER WASTE A FAILURE! Take the lessons that you’ve learned [see what part you played, if any, in the breakdown of the marriage] and turn around and help someone else because if you don’t you are allowing the enemy to get the victory on the front end and on the back end by causing you to hide behind your failures and being too ashamed to share your wisdom with someone else.
If you found this video helpful…
Tip for guy by a guy on how to stay in a healthy good marriage: Listen to a woman’s feelings, don’t put work over family, and get some emotional intelligence. Don’t fight or yell if you have to discuss stuff! God be with y’all
A woman says thank you for this ! Bless you !
God be with us undeed lol
Thank you for this. It's really hard, though. Sometimes women don't even understand their own feelings and often the feelings are not consistent- it can be like trying to maneuver through a minefield that keeps shifting.
Often something is misconstrued (either because I said it wrong or they interpreted it wrong) but they are still hurt because of the misunderstanding.
Even when it comes out that I wasn't actually meaning it the way it was interpreted, all that matters is how it made her feel. That's so hard.
I dig this bro it has to start off as a Christian relationship meaning y’all have to be on the same page. Recognize the other persons strength and weaknesses and tap into them. For example if you wife is better at money management then she needs to manage the money y’all have together If you’re better at handling bills then you should handle them I did t say pay them all lol. A relationship and marriage is a balance
If my (soon to be ex husband) would have understood this, we wouldn't be getting a divorce a right now. This isn't my grounds for the divorce, but when I offered an opportunity for reconciliation, he literally did the opposite of this advice.
I’m over here Thankful God didn’t leave it up to the people here in the comment section to define sin.
N Frost
Amen brother
N Frost Jesus said all remarriage is Adultury. Stop listening to people and ask for an infilling of the Holy Spirit.
Jesus said the comforter on the father will send will lead and guide you into all truth.
Satan is very deceptive
Jesus offers NO EXCEPTIONS on divorce and remarriage
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Did you know the Book of Matthew was circulated among the Jews and the Book of Mark and Luke was circulated among the Gentiles
In The Book of Mark and Luke Jesus offers no exception whatsoever
In the Book of Matthew Jesus said that a Jewish man who is betrothed to a virgin and if he finds out she's not a virgin "before" they're married he can put her away. This is why he used the term "fornication".
....
Also if you're relying on a modern translation of the Bible you are being deceived by Satan
Did you know the NIV Bible has omitted so many scripture that it's enough to fill 33 small books of the Bible. Did you know places in the NIV that were omitted dealt with worshipping Jesus Christ the blood of Jesus and very important scriptures. Did you know the same company that prints the NIV Bible and most modern Bible translations also produces the Satanic Bible. It comes from the SAME company FACT.
Did you know that ALL PASTORS allowing divorce and remarriage COMPLETELY IGNORE the book of Mark and the book of Luke were Jesud offers NO EXCEPTIONS.
Don't die in your sins
Repent and leave the adulturous affair
Your remarriage is in fact Adultury
Repent of this adultury
Did you know the scripture says what God has joined together no man can put asunder
When you made a covenant till death do you part to the person that was never marry your first wife or husband the GOD recorded your covanant in heaven and joined you as ONE FLESH. No "man" can undo this ONE FLESH that God performed in Heaven.
Jesus said, many will say unto me Lord Lord and Jesus said He will say Depart from me, you worker of iniquity.
The word of God is not popular today and man has tried to redefine God's word for centuries
God defines a marriage as a man with one or more wives (provided each wife has never been married or is widowed)
God will not allow a man to divorce his wife and marry another woman because the man is symbolic of God and the wife is symbolic of isreal.
I plead with you to STOP LISTENING TO MAN, STOP PUTTING YOUR ETERNAL SOUL in the hands of youtube video authors who DO NOT HAVE THE HOLY SPIRIT.
Notice if you have a room full of Christians and if you ask a question about divorce and remarriage you'll get a thousand different answers.
People ask the preacher "what is YOUR VIEW of divorce and remarriage?"
WHY IN THE HELL WOULD YOU ASK A MAN "WHAT IS HIS VIEW" WHEN GOD TOLD YOU HIS VIEW ALREADY?
Read the book of Mark
Read the book of Luke
Use a King James Bible there is no debate on the subject.
I warn you before God
If you follow anyone else other than Jesus, you will end up in Hell
Jesud said I AM THE WAY, I AM THE TRUTH, I AM THE LIGHT
No man comes to the father but by me
No one goes to heaven but by me Jesus is saying
Again I warn you to flee your ungodly affair that God sees as adultury
when you stand before God you will not be able to have an excuse because of God's servant warned you that you were going to die and go to hell for sexual sin
Lukas Anthony Jesus said all remarriage is Adultury. Stop listening to people and ask for an infilling of the Holy Spirit.
Jesus said the comforter on the father will send will lead and guide you into all truth.
Satan is very deceptive
Jesus offers NO EXCEPTIONS on divorce and remarriage
....
Did you know the Book of Matthew was circulated among the Jews and the Book of Mark and Luke was circulated among the Gentiles
In The Book of Mark and Luke Jesus offers no exception whatsoever
In the Book of Matthew Jesus said that a Jewish man who is betrothed to a virgin and if he finds out she's not a virgin "before" they're married he can put her away. This is why he used the term "fornication".
....
Also if you're relying on a modern translation of the Bible you are being deceived by Satan
Did you know the NIV Bible has omitted so many scripture that it's enough to fill 33 small books of the Bible. Did you know places in the NIV that were omitted dealt with worshipping Jesus Christ the blood of Jesus and very important scriptures. Did you know the same company that prints the NIV Bible and most modern Bible translations also produces the Satanic Bible. It comes from the SAME company FACT.
Did you know that ALL PASTORS allowing divorce and remarriage COMPLETELY IGNORE the book of Mark and the book of Luke were Jesud offers NO EXCEPTIONS.
Don't die in your sins
Repent and leave the adulturous affair
Your remarriage is in fact Adultury
Repent of this adultury
Did you know the scripture says what God has joined together no man can put asunder
When you made a covenant till death do you part to the person that was never marry your first wife or husband the GOD recorded your covanant in heaven and joined you as ONE FLESH. No "man" can undo this ONE FLESH that God performed in Heaven.
Jesus said, many will say unto me Lord Lord and Jesus said He will say Depart from me, you worker of iniquity.
The word of God is not popular today and man has tried to redefine God's word for centuries
God defines a marriage as a man with one or more wives (provided each wife has never been married or is widowed)
God will not allow a man to divorce his wife and marry another woman because the man is symbolic of God and the wife is symbolic of isreal.
I plead with you to STOP LISTENING TO MAN, STOP PUTTING YOUR ETERNAL SOUL in the hands of youtube video authors who DO NOT HAVE THE HOLY SPIRIT.
Notice if you have a room full of Christians and if you ask a question about divorce and remarriage you'll get a thousand different answers.
People ask the preacher "what is YOUR VIEW of divorce and remarriage?"
WHY IN THE HELL WOULD YOU ASK A MAN "WHAT IS HIS VIEW" WHEN GOD TOLD YOU HIS VIEW ALREADY?
Read the book of Mark
Read the book of Luke
Use a King James Bible there is no debate on the subject.
I warn you before God
If you follow anyone else other than Jesus, you will end up in Hell
Jesud said I AM THE WAY, I AM THE TRUTH, I AM THE LIGHT
No man comes to the father but by me
No one goes to heaven but by me Jesus is saying
Again I warn you to flee your ungodly affair that God sees as adultury
when you stand before God you will not be able to have an excuse because of God's servant warned you that you were going to die and go to hell for sexual sin
Cortana Jesus said all remarriage is Adultury. Stop listening to people and ask for an infilling of the Holy Spirit.
Jesus said the comforter on the father will send will lead and guide you into all truth.
Satan is very deceptive
Jesus offers NO EXCEPTIONS on divorce and remarriage
....
Did you know the Book of Matthew was circulated among the Jews and the Book of Mark and Luke was circulated among the Gentiles
In The Book of Mark and Luke Jesus offers no exception whatsoever
In the Book of Matthew Jesus said that a Jewish man who is betrothed to a virgin and if he finds out she's not a virgin "before" they're married he can put her away. This is why he used the term "fornication".
....
Also if you're relying on a modern translation of the Bible you are being deceived by Satan
Did you know the NIV Bible has omitted so many scripture that it's enough to fill 33 small books of the Bible. Did you know places in the NIV that were omitted dealt with worshipping Jesus Christ the blood of Jesus and very important scriptures. Did you know the same company that prints the NIV Bible and most modern Bible translations also produces the Satanic Bible. It comes from the SAME company FACT.
Did you know that ALL PASTORS allowing divorce and remarriage COMPLETELY IGNORE the book of Mark and the book of Luke were Jesud offers NO EXCEPTIONS.
Don't die in your sins
Repent and leave the adulturous affair
Your remarriage is in fact Adultury
Repent of this adultury
Did you know the scripture says what God has joined together no man can put asunder
When you made a covenant till death do you part to the person that was never marry your first wife or husband the GOD recorded your covanant in heaven and joined you as ONE FLESH. No "man" can undo this ONE FLESH that God performed in Heaven.
Jesus said, many will say unto me Lord Lord and Jesus said He will say Depart from me, you worker of iniquity.
The word of God is not popular today and man has tried to redefine God's word for centuries
God defines a marriage as a man with one or more wives (provided each wife has never been married or is widowed)
God will not allow a man to divorce his wife and marry another woman because the man is symbolic of God and the wife is symbolic of isreal.
I plead with you to STOP LISTENING TO MAN, STOP PUTTING YOUR ETERNAL SOUL in the hands of youtube video authors who DO NOT HAVE THE HOLY SPIRIT.
Notice if you have a room full of Christians and if you ask a question about divorce and remarriage you'll get a thousand different answers.
People ask the preacher "what is YOUR VIEW of divorce and remarriage?"
WHY IN THE HELL WOULD YOU ASK A MAN "WHAT IS HIS VIEW" WHEN GOD TOLD YOU HIS VIEW ALREADY?
Read the book of Mark
Read the book of Luke
Use a King James Bible there is no debate on the subject.
I warn you before God
If you follow anyone else other than Jesus, you will end up in Hell
Jesud said I AM THE WAY, I AM THE TRUTH, I AM THE LIGHT
No man comes to the father but by me
No one goes to heaven but by me Jesus is saying
Again I warn you to flee your ungodly affair that God sees as adultury
when you stand before God you will not be able to have an excuse because of God's servant warned you that you were going to die and go to hell for sexual sin
Prince Darius amen
Folks this is so messed up first of all the bible does not say you have to commit adultery to keep from comiting adultery . What it does say is a woman is bound to her husband as long as he shall live . and if anybody marries her while her husband is living they are comiting adultery
lucky we have Moses law then,look it up
Thank The Most High we follow what the savior says. I know Moses's law but understand Christ is the word and he Trump's the law of Moses. Remarriage is adultery. The way is narrow and few be that follow it.
and it also says EXCEPT adultery.
It also says that if an unbeliever deserts the believer that they are no longer under bondage.
Then Paul says that if you are loosed from a wife, if you do marry, you have not sinned.
It has to be a legitimate divorce that God’s Word recognizes (no longer bound) or sexual immorality
iLoveJesus,my boyfriend&BTS ! Where did you read that in the bible? Maybe you should read your bible again.
So it's best to stay unmarried and childfree to bypass all of this unnecessary baggage?..
Lioness Es
Yes. If you can live life and not ever have sex, then yes. If not its better to marry.
Lioness Es as long as you’re not living in sin because then, it makes no sense.
No. 😫😂
I am virgin and not married and don’t want to. Generation now want to switch just like cars. One needs born again Christian with values to marry.
if your Catholic and you don't wanna get married then they want you to live a religious life (like a sister, nun, or priest)
My dad was a pastor, and my brother and I were victims of their divorce. The whole church basically shunned us (we grew up Baptist), my dad ever since then in some way abandoned us because he no longer cared to be a part of our lives any more. I can testify of the pain you live with your whole life. God makes all things new, He forgives us and gives us grace, and even though the pain is there, it’s liveable. My father never re married but my mom did, and 3 years after, she lost her husband due to a heart attack. Right now, I am married, we have our firstborn in heaven and are expecting a baby girl soon. God blesses us as long as we live under His shadow.
You have to consider the historical context when interpreting the Bible. In biblical times women didn't have rights. They were only a little better than slaves. They couldn't choose who they married or when they married. they couldn't own property. their husbands could divorce them for any old reason and without the protection of a husband or father, women were usually destitute and reduced to prostitution or worse.
Read Deuteronomy 24 where Moses required men to give their wives a bill of divorce. This was helpful in that while man wanted divorce for petty reasons, God used Moses to protect women (i.e. men's "hardness of hearts"). The allowance for remarriage was a way to protect women! Notice how the text states that it is an abomination for a woman to go back to her former husband, not an abomination for her to re-marry--this was obvious to people in Jesus day and its pretty obvious now when we consider what we know about God.
He is merciful, right? And Jesus spent a LOT of time showing the significance of women which is what led to his discussion with the Pharisees to begin with and why God hates divorce--because it usually left the women suffering.
By clarifying the acceptable reasons for divorce, Jesus was holding men accountable! God hates adultery (also understood as a form of idolatry) and divorced Israel! Did God himself sin? I think not!! The pharisees were putting away their wives, most of the time without a divorce, leaving them without shelter, clothing, or protection which was basically a death sentence in those days. Divorce was a common but different practice among the gentiles and Paul addressed that kerfuffle in 1 Corinthians 7-- so it didn't need to be explained to them in relation to the law as it had to be explained to the Jews.
We have to be extremely careful not to force our 21st century ideals on biblical interpretation and follow the WHOLE counsel of God, not just the verses that feed our particular bias. If God could forgive David for adultery with Bathsheba, the murder of Uriah, and still call him a man after God's heart then that blows out most arguments against adultery being a continuous sin, otherwise it would make sense for people to go kill their former spouse so they could stop "sinning" (just because David murdered Uriah that didn't make it less of a sin. Sin doesn't work like that!) If a divorced woman was not permitted to remarry then it was a death sentence--thru no fault of her own but because of her husband's sin.
On a sidenote 1 Corinthians 7 is clear as day, it talks about 2 married believers and then unbelievers married to believers. To apply the 1st situational restraints to the second condition is not what Paul was saying and is fairly obvious just from a cursory reading of the text.
The point of Romans 7 is not marriage, it is an explanation of how Christians are dead to the law and it should be understood within that context. If something is an "ex" it no longer is current so it doesn't make sense to apply an "ex husband" to what is stated here about a husband that lives.
Christians today need to get over themselves and stop putting periods where God puts grace and commas. Jesus is the fulfillment of the Law thru His life and sacrifice. We are not made righteous by obedience to the Law. We are made righteous by our faith in Him. This constant bickering about divorce puts more emphasis on the law than it does on grace. Divorce is not the unpardonable sin and remarriage is understood where divorce is allowed. Jesus would prefer forgiveness and thats why he mentioned Moses' allowance for hard hearts-- but-when we become believers we get NEW hearts, NEW life, and a clean slate. This might make legalistic folks BIG mad but that's just the beauty of grace. Be encouraged!
Thank you for that message. Usually people who say you can't remarry are married and are enjoying the bedroom benefits. But the person that is divorce has to twiddle their thumbs for the rest of their life. And be alienated from finding love again. Thanks again.
Biblically sound teaching is so refreshing!
Thank you so much....YOU have a complete understanding of this matter!
Yvette Renee Johnson agree !!!
@@adriennesmith2133 Not only married people..I'm single and I know lots of other Christian women who will not remarry while their spouse is alive or have never married and will not marry someone with a living spouse. Yes, we're twiddling our thumbs..walking in obedience to God's word even though it is not easy and may cost us something.
Yes, I Corinthians chapter 7 says to remain married to an unbeliever if they choose to remain, but and If they depart, the believer is Not under bondage.
A widow age 60 or older is not allowed to remarry.
That's a hardness of heart clause. Divorce and Remarriage is not God's will. Till death is the clause that God intended and put forth from the beginning for man and women. One flesh.
Context is everything here. It’s talking about divorce there not remarriage lol. He even starts off the topic saying “let not the BELVING wife depart from the husband”. What they’re saying is let the UNBELIVING spouse leave, but you don’t divorce from them. He’s clearly saying if your unbelieving spouses leaves, you are not bound to stay married to that person. But in no means does it command you to remarry.
You forgot abuse but that still counts as a form of abandonment. It is an absolute abandonment of one's duties in the marriage.
Recognition of domestic violence is overlooked.. and that's abandonment
neither is abuse nor abandonment grounds for divorce and remarriage.....separation, yes.....the two options then are to remain single, or to reconcile...
@@philipbuckley759 Yep totally makes sense for the battered woman 🙄
@@philipbuckley759 so you're wife is allowed to slip into the bed of another man but you can and must be forgiven...right? it's great how a chauvinism can be so blind to a painful excruciating wife bullied experiences, you're hypocrisy speaking loud...did you hear yourself?? abuse nor abandonment is not a right....but a 9 in 10 domestic violebt statistical husband can end the life of a wife and be forgiven RIGHT?
Only someone bullied in life has your soulless option, you need to repent of the coldness
@@smoothsoulbrotha he made absolutely zero sense, so if anyone embezzling his business he'll just forgive that easy too, nonsense women hating behaviour it is
After coming to know Jesus i broke up with a girl of 11 months who i was living with and worked hard to work things out with my wife because that is what the bible teaches. I agree so strongly that we are not to make anyone feel worse than they already do, it is our job as Christians to love not judge.
Luke 16:18 "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits
adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."
Are you snd your wife still together today?
the idea is to encourage people to follow a Biblical mandate....
you are dead wrong on point #4. it doesnt matter if you were a christian or non christian when you got married. if point 1,2, and 3 dont apply you MUST remain single or be reconsiled to your spouse.
Alan brother, it is true that God will forgive any sin if one repents from it, meaning you turn away from that sin and ask God for forgiveness. But how can one repent from a second marriage... unless one turns away from it.
Amein!!
You need to leave the remarriage. When Jesus comes back to get his bride, the kids who are from the remarriage will be killed Unless they repent.
“And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 39 KJV
@@Jesusbride515 Amein!!
So, anyone who left a dysfunctional marriage and found happiness and started a family with someone else must leave that family because god said so.
My sister in-law is getting married for the 5th time next week. We refuse to go to her wedding. She called us hypocrites and unchristian. She messed up all 4 of her previous marriages. The guy she is marrying has been married once. And is a widow. I believe he is the only one that is allowed to get remarried. But not to her.
He cannot marry another divorced woman, he is also in Sin.
@@Godovereverything8 we are all sinners 😊 don’t have a legalistic mindset. But I wonder why she will be remarrying her 5th? 😯
@@klf2921 you’re right :)
@@klf2921 Its not legalistic. It's god's word.
@@joycelynmiller2970 even god says dont be legalistic
There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit ( Romans 8:1- full scripture: KJV)
even, when living in an adulterous relationship....
TheJude1790, "for those who walk not after the flesh but after the Spirit". Remarriage to another while one's spouse is alive is walking after the flesh.
Divorce is against the Bible
Romans 7:2 a woman is bound to her husband until death.
Divorce
Romans 7:2 a woman is bound to her husband til death
Matthew 19:3-12 Jesus explains that from the beginning it was not so, can divorce only for fornication
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 God say the husband and wife cannot depart from each other
Jeremiah 3:8 Israel backslid and committed spiritual adultery against the Lord
Jeremiah 3:20 Divorce is treacherous
Jeremiah 3:14 God is married to the backslider
John 3:19 men’s deeds were evil
Roman 8:1 free from the law of sin and death through Jesus Christ
Malachi 2:16 God hates divorce
Mark 10:11-12 if you divorce and marry another you are committing adultery
Mark 10:1 Jesus on divorce
Mark 10:11
Mark 1-9
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 to avoid fornication
1 Corinthians 11:3 the head of the woman is the man
1 Corinthians 7:27 seek not to be loose.
Numbers 23:19
Ecclesiasticas (also known as the book of Sarrach) chapter 23: verse 22
Thus shall it go also with the wife that leave her husband and bring in an heir by another, for First she hath disobeyed the law of the most high, and secondly she hath trespassed against her own husband and thirdly she hath played the whore in adultery and brought children by another man.
Ecclesiasticas chapter 23: verse 18 a man that breakth wedlock saying thus in his heart “who see me? I am compass about with darkness, the walls cover me what he I to fear the most high will not remember my sins”.
1 Corinthians 7:5 do not deprive your spouse of sex (less it be for prayer, fasting, menstrual cycle, medical condition)
James 4:4 adulterers
1 Corinthians 7:2 to avoid fornication
1 Corinthians 2:28 but if you do marry you have not sinned and if a virgin married they have not sinned, but those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
1 Corinthians 7:28
Hebrews 13:4 all marriage (first marriages) are honorable
Ecclesiasticus 23: 17-21
Mark 10:2-12
@@philipbuckley759 yes, there is condemnation for those living in an adulterous relationship
@@justesaying1229 agreed
I’ve been married for about one year and 4 months to my wife. We have a newborn and she wants a divorce. I truly believe that she has a lot of mental and emotional health problems that she refuses to deal with from her past, and has dumped all of her hurt, pain, and trauma on me. She also has been showing signs of being depressed and of a narcissist.
I know that marriage isn’t perfect and takes lots of practice and patience. I’m here and have never wavered in my faith that God can turn this thing around.
I have never said that I wanted to leave my marriage every time something didn’t go my way or if my wife did something that I didn’t like.
I know that God has put us together for a reason, and I’m praying that He continues to do a work on the both of us. Whatever issues my wife is going through, I pray that He can help her because she has shut me totally out of her life and is trying to do the same when it comes to our son.
I also believe that she is at the point, that she will not listen to anyone. She has blocked my entire family and church family off of Facebook. She’s running from something but refuses to communicate with me or anyone who gives her Godly advice and wisdom.
If she is one of those individuals that has to go back into the world for Satan to completely beat her up so that she can learn how to totally surrender and depend on God and not on her own self will, I will always be here to be her husband.
Unfortunately, I did have to leave our home to stay with my parents. She became physically violent towards me and has locked me out of our home.
For any believers in Christ who know the power of prayer, please keep us in prayer. All I want is my wife back. Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.
Wassha 09: Reading your story reminds me about the prophet, Hosea. Have a read of this: blog.adw.org/2016/07/story-hosea-teaches-god-holy-matrimony/ . I pray the Lord will restore your marriage. Stay true to the Word of God. He will not let you down. Your reward will come in His timing. Prov.3 Verses 5 to 6
[5] Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. [6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
God bless you. That is one heavy cross to bear. You are going to help many hurting people.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I believe that physical and emotion abuse would count toward "immorality", and it sounds like she is not a Christian at all. Keep praying about it and seek Christian counseling for yourself even if she won't get counseling.
amen....
Was she going through postpartum depression?
From the beginning divorce was not so but in the beginning there was no sin either but thanks to Eve... the Bible doesn't not allow divorce but you can separate. God does forgive divorce but the key word is adultery. Since divorce was not so then the only thing you can do is separate but if you have sex with someone else it adultery. God commanded us not to separate but if so remain single. There's no way out but death... believe me I wish there was a way out!!!
Bird you cannot divorce for adultery read 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
You mention Eve..but I hope you realize that things would have been very different had Adam not sinned. I believe had he not sinned we would not be living in a fallen world. God gave him the instructions about the trees..God called Adam after the fall. Something to think about..
@Tony Rowan I agree; I think if his wife commits adultery, he has every right to get remarried.
@Tony Rowan I feel you. Something don't seem right
@@Laoriginal718 You “can” divorce for any reason, per se. As a woman us called to be under her husband’s leadership, she’s specifically allowed to divorce, so long as she remains unmarried:
10 “But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not [d]leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife.”
Note that, where he is instructed not to leave his wife, period, she is told that, if she does leave, she is to remain unmarried.
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Obviously you didn't get that one:
Mark 10:11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
Divorce and remarriage are two different things. One reason for so many divorce and remarriage is false teaching as yours.
With all respect, do you think it's possible that if God had communicated more clearly with human beings then there wouldn't be so many "false teachings"? The verse you quoted begins with the greek word 'hos' (Ὃς) which is translated "whoever". This is an all encompassing term, which means that EVERYONE who divorces his wife and remarries commits adultery. But Matthew 19:9 makes an exception for sexual immorality, stating that "anyone who divorces his wife, *except* *for* *sexual* *immorality,* and marries another woman commits adultery." If it's true that WHOEVER divorces his wife and remarries commits adultery, then it logically follows that whoever divorces his wife and remarries due to her sexual immorality is also committing adultery. So it looks as though both these verses can't both be true at the same time. I only mention this because I think a large part of the reason Christians are so divided on the subject of divorce is that they're focusing on different passages from different books of the Bible that say different things. Trying to fit it all together into a unified whole just creates an ambiguous mess. Idk maybe you have a different theory.
@Bubbha 1 Yes of course God accept repentance, but one need to stop the adulterous relationship with the person who is not his wife (or her husband). Bible clearly teaches that as long as husband and wife are both alive, they belong to each other. (1 Cor. 7: 39-40 & Rom. 7:2-3) If I marry someone else's wife it is an adulterous relationship
@Bubbha 1 I agree with you, we should be doers of word of God and understanding that divorce and remarriage is sin
@Bubbha 1 Solomon was not from an adulterous relationship. Bathsheba was a widow and David married her. In the past men had more than one wife, Jesus said NO MORE. In all those cases, as in case of Abraham, they did not marry someone else's wife.
About 10 times in New Testament says don't do it {divorce and remarriage}
Of course there is grace and forgiveness,
@Bubbha 1 1st. Issue:
David had Uriah killed, it was a gross sin and was forgiven by God when he repented.
2nd. issue: David married Bathsheba who was a widow and available to be married, and Solomon was born after that.
3rd, issue: In old testament many men had more than one wife and God allowed that, thus Abraham's son was not born as a result of an adulterous relationship.
4th. Issue: Jesus in NT says NO MORE, one man and one woman.
My friend, if you have done that, there is forgiveness and grace, but if you or anybody else is thinking about divorcing their spouse and marry another, DO NOT DO THAT.
My ex husband repented several times before our official divorce my Lord reminded me that I’m not greater than him to not forgive. I never realized the grudge I held for 10 years. We’re just closing up loose ends but my God is doing great things. I don’t know him anymore but I hope it can be reconciled he was my true love since 15. We both never remarried I came close and he never proposed to his on and off gf so we shall see.
God Made Marriage For ALL Humanity, and He Honors Marriage, including among non-believers ( see Joseph's response to Potiphar's Wife ). Divorce, Biblically, is only the separating from the Spouse. The Marriage Still Exists In God's Sight. Marriage Is Not A Sin ( unless Adulterous ), so becoming a believer DOESN'T erase the original Marriage Bond, anymore than becoming Christian would make property you robbed your neighbor's house to acquire suddenly "yours".
God Doesn't Honor Explicit, Definitive Sin. He Wouldn't Have Said It's Adultery if it was negotiable. It doesn't magically cease being Adultery after demonic vows are spoken, no more than it would cease to be Adultery if done in secret, with no vows, behind the back of a Spouse one was still living with. To say otherwise is like saying theft ceases to be theft if you can manage to get your neighbour's property out of his house and into your own. Yahweh El Elyon Presented The Example Via Hosea & Gomer, And Yeshua Jesus The Christ Mightily Reaffirmed This. Herodias was an Adulteress, even if her original husband was disreputable. If a "divorce" isn't Scriptural, it isn't recognized by God. These debates have happened since before St. Augustine's time, and his view on it was categorical, as was that of our Lord Yeshua Jesus Christ. A troubled relationship can be a valid reason for a spouse distancing, even distancing via moving out, from the other spouse, but always with the Prayer for and spirit for Reconciliation. If the spouse goes from distancing for whatever form of rehabilitation, and goes from creating space to forming new relationships with other people, that is Adultery: it doesn't matter whether they call themselves "divorced" or anything of the sort, it and any subsequent relationships are Adulteries. Consider John The Baptist and the wicked Herodias. At no point does the Bible suggest that her 1st and true Husband was a good person: indeed, all we know about that family suggests he was certainly wicked, NEVERTHELESS, her "remarriage" to his brother was Adultery, and John rightly Rebuked it... her response to that Rebuke tells us all we need to know about the truly evil and unrepentant state of her heart.
Very sweet
you remarried your living in sin and you are not living Holy as God says to live, many will claim to know him but he will not know you living against his will in a adulterous marriage, read your bible
@@samuellee7781 oh I’ll never get remarried unless it’s to the first plus I’m just off the market living for the Lord
#2 totally disagree. Again where does it say in those scriptures anything about remarriage?? This guy is saying it but it's not there.
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And He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."
Mark 10:11-12 ESV
false doctrines..the father is against divorce mosses allowed divorce so who laws do you follow man's or Gods choose who you serve this day shalom...
true true, even if your husband beats the crap out of you daily you better keep quiet keep smiling because he has the authority and divorce is the sin among sins.
When the spouse dies then it is alowed to remary. See 1 Corintians 7:39.
It also says that if an unbeliever deserts the believer that they are no longer under bondage.
Then Paul says after saying that if you are loosed from a wife, if you do marry, you have not sinned.
It has to be a legitimate divorce that God’s Word recognizes (no longer bound) or sexual immorality.
Check the Corinthians letters to see it ~
All of us as Christian should not judged our brothers and Sisters but love! God is all about restoration and us being happy on earth not miserable. We put all this "energy " in the comments to condemn" people" for sins instead of walking in Love. I;m so glad God isn't like Men who will throw you away when you fall short in Glory! Remember all of guys ,when you first came to Jesus imagine someone telling you your done and their no hope for "YOU" your going to Hell! I serve a God that has mercy for us ALL!!! Love you ALL
Nope. It’s not your best life now. Jesus is coming soon. We have to judge the people in the church righteously.
One Corinthians 5 talks about doing church discipline
We need to live holy, not happy. Godliness with contentment is great game. I need to work on this stuff too. But when Jesus sets you free, you live for Him and you obey His commands until He comes.
God did tell us to judge he told us to judge righteously
@@BeFeClanGaming Exactly
if you could remarry then it would actually say the word in Scripture
That is what Jesus says look at Deut. 24:1-4 Paul address it as well in scripture 1 Cor. 27-28 are you released? Divorced? if you marry you have not sinned
Look at Pauls response in 1 Cor. 7:27-28 he clearly addresses if one has been divorced they are free to marry again. It is Not a sin.
@@kevinmeeske3412 Paul is not referring to married people in verses 27-28, he's speaking only to the virgins (never before married). He first addresses male virgins in verses 25-27 and in the second half of verse 28 he addresses female virgins. So whatever your interpretation of the word "loosed" might be, it obviously can't mean divorced. He's most likely referring to a betrothal commitment or a promise to be married as was common during that time.
Nowhere in that chapter does Paul give a divorced person permission to remarry after a divorce. If he were to do that he'd be directly contradicting Jesus who says that it's adultery to do so. The scriptures are not broken but our understanding certainly is.
Cloven Tongues of Fire how can he Paul not be? Vs 25 concerning virgins
That’s covered no command.
Next vs27 are you bound ( marriage)
Dont seek a divorce
Are you loosed or divorce
Don’t seek a wife. But if you do marry you have not sinned. And if a virgin marries. He obviously bid addressing those married or divorced.
Contrary to a most popular belief God does no forbid divorce.
Look at His reason for it. I suggest start there. Study where n when it was given by whom? Under Gods authority. Also look at why God have divorce study it deeply I have for over 300 hrs. I know the traditional arguments which don’t answer any Qs rather simply read a few passages out of context n make up rules on something they don’t understand. Ok but then they attack people who are or have been abused.
If God forbids divorce.
Then He made a way out murder. Then remarry
That makes zero sence.
@@kevinmeeske3412 I'm only now seeing this since it looks like you didn't tag me properly. I had to reread your comment a couple of times but I think I see your misunderstanding. You think that only verse 25 is referring to virgins but that's clearly not the case. Paul is being very methodical in his treatment of the topic of marriage in this chapter. He first addresses the married in verses 10-24 then in verses 25-37 he speaks to the unmarried (who he specifically calls virgins [𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘴] in verses 25-28) and then finally he speaks to widows in verses 38-40. He's not jumping back and forth but treating the topic very systematically.
In verse 25 he says "Now concerning 𝐯𝐢𝐫𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐬 I have no commandment 𝐎𝐅 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐋𝐎𝐑𝐃: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful." Which means he's not relating a direct command from Jesus but in the ensuing verses he's going to give his Holy Spirit inspired advice to the unmarried. Therefore, verses 25-28 can in no way be referring to people who are married. As I mentioned in my first post, he first speaks to male virgins and then to female virgins in verse 28.
If he was somehow telling people that were divorced that they could remarry after a divorce then he'd be contradicting what he said in verses 10-11, "remain unmarried or be reconciled" and he'd be contradicting Jesus himself who said that you commit adultery if you remarry after a divorce.
Lastly, I think the confusion over these verses comes from the likelihood that Paul is referring to the legal bonds of a betrothal agreement rather than marriage. Here's a good translation of these same verses.
1 Cor. 7:27 [ESV] "Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. [28] But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that."
So essentially he's saying if you're bound by a betrothal agreement don't seek to nullify it and if you've been released from the agreement don't look for a wife.
your position in #2 = does not give the believing Christian grounds to remarry, just as you said reconciliation to the spouse is Gods' number one mode, if your not able to reconcile then you are to remain unmarried. This is a continuation of rules in Vs 10-15 !!!
It does indeed give the believing Christian grounds to remarry. "No longer bound" means what it says.
Preach!
@@lawrence1318 You are no longer bound, but not free to remarry.
Amen!! I had to stop the video when he said that on position #2. I was like.. Oh no no no. Lol. Separate but not remarry. God would rather have you work it out. But of the spouse decides to leave then its better to separate. But that does not mean to divorce.
@@virginiarush8541 Virginia, in context, he’s speaking of the unbeliever who leaves the believer. What is the believer no longer “bound” to? The marriage. If they’re no longer bound to the marriage, they’re obviously free to remarry. Why? Because the marriage bound someone else, since, truly, we are a new creation in Christ Jesus, Galatians 6:15.
this is so heartbreaking to find out
my husband and I been married for 10years, my husband and his ex-wife had got a divorce years ago due to adultery and abandonment.
so does this mean that my husband and I must separate due to the fact that he must be reconciled to his first wife?
my heart is so beyond sore right now.
does this mean I have to be single for the rest of my life, knowing that I can never remarry again?
I'm 40 years of age, and all I want is to have a stable family, but reading these comments is really hurtful. ...this means I must remain single for the rest of my life until JESUS CHRIST return,
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Study the Word of God for yourself and seek the wisdom and guidance of God for yourself. The Church is divided on many issues and this has been one of them for many years and you have a lot of folks who should not even be teaching or advising on this subject. It's funny how pastors/preachers can commit adultery, rape kids, steal money and do all kinds of ungodly stuff and still be reconciled and lead God's people but if a person divorces or remarry then they are treated like the worst sinner. Folks can do an get away with just about anything in the so called Church even homosexuals get better treatment than people who divorce or remarry. My 1st wife not only committed adultery but also got impregnated by it. I held on to the Word and church stance many years and tried to make my marriage work but my wife did not want it so we divorced. I remarried a godly woman who helped lead me back to Christ and eventually into ministry. Im not condoning it but every situation is different. People these days are heartless and act like they obey the Bible to the tee. I guarantee majority of people condemning people who divorce have something ungodly in their life they need to work on and I sure hope none of these folks condemning remarriage are from one of these ungodly denominations that condone gay marriage.
Starr it means that your marriage with him has been adulterous on his end. And fornicatoion on your's. That leaves you free to marry someone who hasn't been previously divorced.
I was skeptical during your introduction, but love that you kept it biblical. 🙌🏼
Unequally yolked isn’t a covenant with God.. and majority of the marriages that have taken place were not ordained by the Most High and were joined together out ignorance...
Warrioress On the Wall That does not mean that God does not recognise the union.
@@gilly3719
He may recognize it as long as the husband and wife do.
There are times when he will not recognize it, an example would be gay "marriage", a biblical example would be Herod who married his brother's wife and John, the greatest of old covenant prophets, spoke out against their marriage.
@@lilchristuten7568 The moment you exchange vows he recognises it.People that say otherwhise are those that are looking for a way out of their marriage,so they come up with all kinds of clever theories that are not backed by God's word.
Stop believing the lie about being unequally yoked in marriage. Paul's second letter to the Corinthians, in 2 Corinthians 6, is about ministry. The entire chapter. Paul's first letter to the Corinthians was about marriage in chapter 7.
@@ajlouviere202
The thing Paul wrote about being unequally yoked was about separation from unbelievers not about ministry. I take it to mean do not bind yourself to the thoughts plans and desires of unbelievers. When it comes to marriage, unless God has told you to marry someone who isn't a Christian, do not even approach someone who is not Christian with the thought of marriage; and when it comes to conversation, if you are married before becoming Christian then try to hold on to your marriage unless your spouse has a problem with you being Christian and it causes a separation between you.
One more. If you are being physically abused, please get a DIVORCE.
amen...I was am divorced for 17 years now due to abuse...he staying out all night as well...the devil is a lie, yes I am remarrying because he sent me a MAN of God finally. Me and my ex were married and not saved at the time. God forgives, and does not intend for us to be stupid, getting abused and cheated on and want us to remain single and sin....SEEK GOD like I did!!!
Virtuous Lady sorry you went through that. good thing you weren't saved then. Now you are! you were saved then, but didn't know it. God's rules for marriage are what needs to be taught to young people ,because marriage in Him is very binding. It only goes His way no matter how we choose to view it. I wish you the best in your marriage
olivia seed This is false teaching. There is no scripture that backs up physically abused victims.
Dave Rajendram....you're saying god should allow his child to continously be abused? Obsurd! That's grounds for divorce!!!
@@kingdavid4466 If a husband for example physically abuses his wife, the wife should call the police and send him into prison. However, this is no excuse for the wife to divorce her husband. The wife should wait for their husband to recover from his phase and reconcile when the time is right. If the husband continues to go back to his old ways, the same process needs to be repeated until death.
Separation is ok but not divorce.
do you not know that teachers receive a more strict judgement....and that teaching contraty to the Bible is allowing people to live in sin, and somehow you will share in that judgement....
"What God has joined, let no man separate." How can our society twist this so much? Its so simple.
@ Thomas Jefferson, God doesn't put everybody together. Some people do it for their own reasons. If God put them together, couldn't and wouldn't anything or anybody come between it.
What if a single never married woman married a divorced man? Does that mean that woman should divorce the man because in the eyes of God he is not her husband? Also does that mean the woman is free to marry because she was never married to the divorced man in the eyes of God?
@@agapelove7426 , yes. That man is still married in God's eyes. The first marriage (covenant) is what God honors. No one can break that covenant unless one of them dies or commits adultery. If they end up divorcing because one of them commits adultery, both the man or the woman cannot remarried; they have to stay single. Also, any other marriages after that, God will no honor it. Go only cares about the first marriage/covenant, and that's it!
If the man or the woman decide to get into another relationship, he or she will be living in an adultery relationship, which is very deadly for his or her SOUL, because that person is ENDANGER of the HELL FIRE. Forgiveness of sins has nothing to do with divorce. It is either you stay married to your first husband /wife or get a divorced and stay single. You have to know this; don't go get into a relationship and think that you can ask Jesus for forgiveness, because that's not how it works. If you are divorce, it is best for your SOUL for you to repent (repent means stop partaking in that sin) and remove yourself from that relationship ASAP.
If one dies living in an adultery relationship, that individual will guaranteed to have a first class ticket to THE HELL FIRE. Therefore, that single-never-married woman and that man are both committing adultery. It is best for her SOUL that she leaves that relationship and ask God to bring her the man that he created just for her, so that there would be no room for divorce in her Godly relationship. Hope that helps.
A husband’s unique role consists of three tasks: leadership, protection and provision. In fact, these may be the only unique abilities a man brings to the marriage relationship (beyond the obvious biological role). If he abdicates on any of these things, either allowing them to disappear altogether or forcing his wife to take over, he is less of a man for it. And she has less of a husband.
Where does it say that if a spouse cheats that the offended can remarry?
If you’re single you’re single
Matt 19:9
Ppl are going to do whatever they want. It's a fact. If that's the case then a long healthy marriage has a small chance of success
I will not do what I want if it's God's word I'll b single
Sir, I really enjoy your videos, but I have a question, you quoted 1 cor 7:12/15, but I don't see where it says you can remarry ??????
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No where in the Bible does it say you can remarry EXCEPT if your spouse dies.
Divorce
Romans 7:2 a woman is bound to her husband til death
Matthew 19:3-12 Jesus explains that from the beginning it was not so, can divorce only for fornication
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 God say the husband and wife cannot depart from each other
Jeremiah 3:8 Israel backslid and committed spiritual adultery against the Lord
Jeremiah 3:20 Divorce is treacherous
Jeremiah 3:14 God is married to the backslider
John 3:19 men’s deeds were evil
Roman 8:1 free from the law of sin and death through Jesus Christ
Malachi 2:16 God hates divorce
Mark 10:11-12 if you divorce and marry another you are committing adultery
Mark 10:1 Jesus on divorce
Mark 10:11
Mark 1-9
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 to avoid fornication
1 Corinthians 11:3 the head of the woman is the man
1 Corinthians 7:27 seek not to be loose.
Numbers 23:19
Ecclesiasticas (also known as the book of Sarrach) chapter 23: verse 22
Thus shall it go also with the wife that leave her husband and bring in an heir by another, for First she hath disobeyed the law of the most high, and secondly she hath trespassed against her own husband and thirdly she hath played the whore in adultery and brought children by another man.
Ecclesiasticas chapter 23: verse 18 a man that breakth wedlock saying thus in his heart “who see me? I am compass about with darkness, the walls cover me what he I to fear the most high will not remember my sins”.
1 Corinthians 7:5 do not deprive your spouse of sex (less it be for prayer, fasting, menstrual cycle, medical condition)
James 4:4 adulterers
1 Corinthians 7:2 to avoid fornication
1 Corinthians 2:28 but if you do marry you have not sinned and if a virgin married they have not sinned, but those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
1 Corinthians 7:28
Hebrews 13:4 all marriage (first marriages) are honorable
Ecclesiasticus 23: 17-21
Mark 10:2-12
God bless you and your family man of God. This is a powerful teaching be encouraged🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thanks brother for taking the time to explain a difficult situation, I agree with what your saying . I have studied this in the scriptures and gotten advice from the elders as read Douglas Jacoby’s study. I was married before I became a disciple and my spouse never got baptized. He after 9 years asked me for a divorce and after praying and fasting I agreed. I’m happy because it was a blessing in disguise 14 years later I’m still single and I know I can remarry. When in doubt remember ( what would Jesus do ) , there’s no condemnation in Christ. Thank you
God has given you grace. You must remain single until he passes.
Lies you cannot remarry until your first spouse dies
@@georgina4874 bro (I say it to my wife too lol) you're right! Why risk eternity over this. Remain single or get reconciled!! YESUAH is explicit about this yet people perverting it
You will find someone sweetly I was in the same boat then GOD sent me my 2nd yes 2nd husband
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Though not in Bible, I would say I am sure Abba would not expect you to stay if you are being physically abused. Maybe separate and get into safety, then if the Lord wants you to stay married, then He will work things out, the abuse stops, and you go back to living with the spouse. Or, He may have you to divorce for that reason.
Recommended anger management that is heavily overseen could be a factor in the mix. Jesuslove1976; very good post👍
still no divorce if you have separate you must remain single..
Divorce is not a sin. Divorce was NEVER a sin. Divorce had rules to it, and you pretty much just can't get divorced over anything, the way you can these days. It's funny how shallow this world is today, yet people wanna lie about ancient times and marriages and G-d's agreement about these topics. Irony.
Funny; I never really looked at it that way. I understand that God hates divorce but it never is called a sin itself
Hmmmm...
Adultery is a sin
no says that divorce, remarriage is the unforgivable sin....but living in sin....well that is something else....so if you teach that one can live in sin.....and not be judged, it means that you are twisting scripture to their destruction.....
that's not what he's saying
it is not adultery....it is fornication....one should not change the words, of scripture...
in the US State, of Texas...a woman, on death row, tried to use this argument to escape the death penality...ergo she was saved, on death row....well it did not work, she was executed....as some have stated, marriage is a covenant....for the saved, and unsaved....ergo the covenant is not broken or changed, just because one becomes saved....other wise all the unsaved, would have to be remarried, on becoming a Christian...
some people never cheated on their spouse and need to get divorced to stop committing adultery
living in sin is living in sin no matter what the sin is. it dosen't only apply to fornication
Biblical ground #4... So if I stole a car before I was a christian and then I became a christian and I still get to keep the car?
on point
If you kill a person can you bring them back?
Where did you get the "they can re marry" word on those two bible verse parts you mentioned. I couldn't find that one on the bible.
You couldn’t find it because it’s not there. Divorce is against the Bible and you can ONLY remarry if your spouse has died.
Divorce
Romans 7:2 a woman is bound to her husband til death
Matthew 19:3-12 Jesus explains that from the beginning it was not so, can divorce only for fornication
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 God say the husband and wife cannot depart from each other
Jeremiah 3:8 Israel backslid and committed spiritual adultery against the Lord
Jeremiah 3:20 Divorce is treacherous
Jeremiah 3:14 God is married to the backslider
John 3:19 men’s deeds were evil
Roman 8:1 free from the law of sin and death through Jesus Christ
Malachi 2:16 God hates divorce
Mark 10:11-12 if you divorce and marry another you are committing adultery
Mark 10:1 Jesus on divorce
Mark 10:11
Mark 1-9
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 to avoid fornication
1 Corinthians 11:3 the head of the woman is the man
1 Corinthians 7:27 seek not to be loose.
Numbers 23:19
Ecclesiasticas (also known as the book of Sarrach) chapter 23: verse 22
Thus shall it go also with the wife that leave her husband and bring in an heir by another, for First she hath disobeyed the law of the most high, and secondly she hath trespassed against her own husband and thirdly she hath played the whore in adultery and brought children by another man.
Ecclesiasticas chapter 23: verse 18 a man that breakth wedlock saying thus in his heart “who see me? I am compass about with darkness, the walls cover me what he I to fear the most high will not remember my sins”.
1 Corinthians 7:5 do not deprive your spouse of sex (less it be for prayer, fasting, menstrual cycle, medical condition)
James 4:4 adulterers
1 Corinthians 7:2 to avoid fornication
1 Corinthians 2:28 but if you do marry you have not sinned and if a virgin married they have not sinned, but those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
1 Corinthians 7:28
Hebrews 13:4 all marriage (first marriages) are honorable
Ecclesiasticus 23: 17-21
Mark 10:2-12
@@Laoriginal718 thank you so much for these verses. I am CONVINCED the Bible says divorce is only allowed because of adultery. I am CONVINCED till death do you part. I am CONVINCED 2nd, 3rd & 4th marriage is ADULTERY!! People in my church are living this way and serving in the ministry. They don’t like me for telling them this. I am so convinced but I’m told I’m wrong!! I am torn.
God bless you.
@@Laoriginal718 It is weird how high marriage is held up on a pedestal in the bible only for it to also condone remarriage after a partner dies. Everything you did together that was hyped up as so meaningful gets thrown out and pushed to the side because the partner wasn't immortal.
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Wonderful discussion community! I like the different perspectives. On the road now but would love to share this evening. Look out for a comment here shortly! Thank you for engaging in a sensitive touchy subject.
great video. I am not religious but I do believe in God. I unfortunately am one of those 50% that ended in divorce. I saw my vows as a promise (my word is my bond) . My ex gave me a surprise email where she stated she was divorcing me and that there was nothing I could do (and she was right as I tried in vain to save my marriage). sure we had problems but nothing that couldn't be fixed (in my opinion, obviously not hers). here is where it gets tricky. My ex remarried shortly (less than two years) after our divorce. She married a Christian man and she became involved in the church. He has previous marriages also (from what I am told. so I am just wondering how they can believe in one thing but yet their actions are different. anyway I just ran across this video and it reminded me of my ex.
go figure....we are sinful creatures, and bend the scriptures to meet out needs.....
THE BEAT by Allen Parr so what about being abused or child molestation?
Allen Parr is a sensible voice on the subject of divorce and remarriage, rightly dividing and applying the Word of Truth, and adding common sense teaching. Bravo !!! He is a bright light in a dark world that has been confused with the entanglement and entrapments of the false teachings of "the permanence doctrine" on the internet, a doctrine that teaches that an innocent marriage partner has no recourse or leverage in the event(s) of betrayal, sexual infidelity and unfaithfulness on the part of their spouse, to keep holiness, purity and virtue in a marriage (in other words, the permanence doctrine teaches that you just have to "put up with it," and "live with it," in the event of adultery and multiple sex partners enjoying intercourse with your spouse. Not so). Let holiness in marriage continue.
By the understanding of many, only death of a spouse allows for remarriage: so HYPOTHETICALLY SPEAKING; one spouse could murder the other (death), repent, receive forgiveness, and remarry yet a person that divorces and remarries while the other spouse is alive is condemned.
The Lord is not a hard taskmaster; while marriage for life is His perfect will, He extends grace and mercy when marriages fall short of that fulfillment. Now that's not to say that marriage is to be taken lightly, jumping in and out of it at will; it is to be viewed as sacred and given great consideration of the sacrifices required before entering but to live in bondage because one failed is not the nature and character of God. To anyone bound by condemnation because of divorce and remarriage, be freed and encouraged in Jesus' name!
Christy Moore thank thank thank you for your comment. It's the first I've heard/read that makes sense in this crazy world and seems to me to align with who I know God to be. I needed this perspective in my life.
You know what your comment has that so many OTHER comments don't? COMPASSION 💘
How can I accept this ?? I feel like if a remarry I’ll be condemned because Jesus said that I would cause my ex to commit adultery if I or she remarries ?? How can I walk forward in a new marriage with confidence ??
Joshua, I would encourage you to put this before the Lord and allow Him to show you what it is that you're truly feeling. Know that condemnation is from satan, conviction is from Holy Spirit. Until or unless you have heart assurance about this, I would suggest that you don't make a decision on remarriage as the Scripture declares that whatever is not of faith is sin.
Hey Christy! Do you have any suggestions on channels or maybe a site of your own? I was really feeling your response and I'd like to see more.
While the Lord allows for divorce for adultery, non believers leaving, and for those who cannot peaceably live together (I often think of abuse), Jesus called remarriage adultery if the ex spouse is still living. So, although God permits divorce, He calls remarriage adultery, not permitting another marriage when exspouse is living. With that said, God will forgive those of us, me included, who have entered into other marriages Jesus referred to as adultery. Glory to God for His grace, mercy, and forgiveness.
Yes, Ernie, He forgives. The adultery of remarriage is actually more about what you lose, namely, the grace within His Covenant, wherein, God as a Father views both man and wife as one, which is a physical representation of our spiritual relationship with Jesus Christ ✨
I think you need to re-examine the last sentence.
@@georgina4874 Why do you say that Georgina? Christ is, spiritually our husband, as we are His bride, no?
Listening to this video again, there are so many things wrong with what is being said. Opinion and emotion are added into scripture.
Agree there is a lot wrong with this teaching in this video. It is a very traditional yet very wrong and distrurbing teaching.
I know this is a few years old but it’s a current situation with me. However, I’m concerned about how quick you are to judge and say he is incorrect yet you offer no counter argument.
The Reptile Dude my brother this is also a current situation for me too, and I’ve search the scriptures on marriage for the past almost 2 years. And he is wrong in this video.
Michael Freeman how is he wrong is all I’m asking. I’m not defending anyone or trying to offend anyone. I just want to understand why he is a “false teacher” and why he is wrong?
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At the end of the video it said that contempt as in seeing your spouse as beneath you is a predictor of divorce . What if it is the spouse that feels like you see them as beneath you or they themselves feel inferior. Is there a way to fix that issue?
Let holiness in marriage continue. Not the "uncleanness" of the "permanence is marriage" doctrine, where "no matter how unclean and unholy it becomes, not matter how much it becomes a stench in the nostrils of God, and an abomination to God, you just wallow, wallow, wallow in the mire."
I am guilty of re-marrying after my ex-wife divorced me after our baby died 9 years after our first son died. I was a Christian then (although in hindsight weak) who loved the Lord. I soon met my wife of 22 years and we married after only 5 months. She too was divorced after an abusive marriage, although unlike me, she was not a christian. I didn't go looking for a relationship. It just happened. I sinned against God and have struggled with this fact ever since because I know scripture is God-breathed and true. My first wife and I were in so much pain at the time but this does not excuse me re-marrying. I have repented sincerely about this, just as I have about other sin in my life. I can't turn the clock back. However, the only way I can physically put right what I did wrong is to divorce my 2nd wife who I love so much. This also would be wrong. God has blessed us and I believe forgiven us. Yes, I know there are stronger, better people than me, the worst of sinners, but God is my judge, not man. I love God so much and it pains me that I could have been so selfish but hopefully people will see me as living proof of God's grace.
Leave the second one. God doesn’t consider it a valid marriage…. Or burn in hell for eternity.. up to you
@@RyanREAX gotta agree with you!!
@@RyanREAX no he cant leave the second one, he divorced on bibical grounds
@@ritagomes9186 the only biblical ground is death.
@@RyanREAX no its not . The offended can if the divorce was bibical
No where in the Bible does God allow remarriage. Please provide scripture if you believe my statement is incorrect.
He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
Matthew 19:8-9 NKJV
Its says if you get remarried, except for in the case of sexually immorality ( which means adultery, prostitution, sexual relations between unmarried individuals, etc...) you will be committing adultery.
So if you get divorced on the grounds of sexual immorality and remarry you arent committing adultery and it's alright by god
Duteronomy 24:1 24 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass thaWhen a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;
4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the Lord: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the Lord thy God giveth thee for an inheritance
He did. He said that if your spouse dies then you can remarry
AMEN
When the spouse dies. 1 Corintians 7:39
Divorce is never discussed in the Christian churches. Jesus never mentioned abortion or homosexuality. But, he gave extensive instruction on divorce. What did he see as the greater social evil?
1 Corinthians 7:15, If the unbeliever leaves you are NO LONGER BOUND TO THEM... end of story. if you're not bound to anyone of course you're free to marry. So many loose reading comprehension and common sense logic when they become 'believers' and literally go by what they FEEL the bible says rather than what it says.
Not under bondage/ enslaved
You still bound. It is a covenet only death seperates it. A ife must not leave her husband but if she does she must remain unmarried or reconcile to husband.Not EX husband.
A covenent is till death
I really like your videos but I would have to disagree with you on this one. You are misinterpreting the Bible and misleading many people. The ONLY reason the Bible ever mentioned remarriage is when the spouse is dead. The Bible authorises divorce yes, but it never says to remarry for a reason other than your spouse's death, never. I believe that you are wrong on this one.
Thanks for Posting this Allen!! this was very much helpful to me!!
Awesome Melissa!
Mary! Please go to God about this and confirm with scripture before you make any decision! 💜
God Made Marriage For ALL Humanity, and He Honors Marriage, including among non-believers ( see Joseph's response to Potiphar's Wife ). Divorce, Biblically, is only the separating from the Spouse. The Marriage Still Exists In God's Sight. Marriage Is Not A Sin ( unless Adulterous ), so becoming a believer DOESN'T erase the original Marriage Bond, anymore than becoming Christian would make property you robbed your neighbor's house to acquire suddenly "yours".
God Doesn't Honor Explicit, Definitive Sin. He Wouldn't Have Said It's Adultery if it was negotiable. It doesn't magically cease being Adultery after demonic vows are spoken, no more than it would cease to be Adultery if done in secret, with no vows, behind the back of a Spouse one was still living with. To say otherwise is like saying theft ceases to be theft if you can manage to get your neighbour's property out of his house and into your own. Yahweh El Elyon Presented The Example Via Hosea & Gomer, And Yeshua Jesus The Christ Mightily Reaffirmed This. Herodias was an Adulteress, even if her original husband was disreputable. If a "divorce" isn't Scriptural, it isn't recognized by God. These debates have happened since before St. Augustine's time, and his view on it was categorical, as was that of our Lord Yeshua Jesus Christ. A troubled relationship can be a valid reason for a spouse distancing, even distancing via moving out, from the other spouse, but always with the Prayer for and spirit for Reconciliation. If the spouse goes from distancing for whatever form of rehabilitation, and goes from creating space to forming new relationships with other people, that is Adultery: it doesn't matter whether they call themselves "divorced" or anything of the sort, it and any subsequent relationships are Adulteries. Consider John The Baptist and the wicked Herodias. At no point does the Bible suggest that her 1st and true Husband was a good person: indeed, all we know about that family suggests he was certainly wicked, NEVERTHELESS, her "remarriage" to his brother was Adultery, and John rightly Rebuked it... her response to that Rebuke tells us all we need to know about the truly evil and unrepentant state of her heart.
@@gibranlewis7300 excatly
Thank you for this. There's alot of restrictive, long teachings yet little depth. Many have a critical and presumptive spirit, hence not reliable. This is short, and I think it is the truth. ❤
Wow from what I'm reading in the comments and replies this is definitely a touchy topic of discussion!
Not trying to be funny but I knew something was wrong and I'm not surprised for real, because this video was less than 5 minutes long for such an important subject. Definitely 🙏
genuine question, but why did Paul the apostle say that the Lord commands the wife who is divorced to remain unmarried or to reconcile with the husband?
1 Corinthians 7:10-12
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.
But if she does, SHE MUST REMAIN UNMARRIED or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
I'm not bashing you I'm just actually curious because you didn't cover this scripture in the video and this is in the Bible so, if you can provide an answer that you feel the Lord is telling you I would love to know because I'm personally confused on why one will say you can remarry someone else but in here it says you can't. Am I misunderstanding something?
Because he doesn't know what he's talking about,God Bless his confused soul.
@@tajkirk5995Excatly it is crazy how he is leading people to sin
I'm confused on this topic, I thought God sends you your spouse therefore divorce is not an option because your spouse was handpicked for you, so he knows what you want and need.
Yeah but a lot people choose their spouse. They are are unequally yoked marriages.
Hannah Bradner but if God handpicked your spouse isn’t divorcing your spouse like saying to God , “you were wrong on this person” ??
People have free will. Spouses who don’t follow God can bring evil into the relationship. These things complicate the marriage God wants for us.
this remarriage issue is nothing less than a shame, on the Church, of allowing people to live, in what the Bible calls adultery.....
No way this is right for a one flesh covenant marriage. You can only be loosed from the law and the promise to God through death only. You can separate if abuse. There is no concession to divorce and remarry.
Hi Allen, thank you for your video, and I have always loved your content. One question though, at time 3:22, you pointed out three vows people can practice if they are divorced. But in the Bible, Matthew 5:34-36, it says "but I say to you, take no oaths at all, not by the heaven because it is the seat of God. Or by the earth, because it is the resting place for his foot; or by Jerusalem because it is the town of the great king. You may not take an oath by your head, because you are not able to make one hair white or black." Therefore, are we supposed to make vows? or there is a significant difference between vows and oaths? Thank you.
that one about being able to divorce it doesn't say you can remarry. I like how he added that in there as if he was God.
The point of a divorce IS to able to get remarried, as long as it fits into the exceptions for divorce.
Thiago Naves Matt 19:9 anyone (that’s everybody) who remarries commits adultery unless the divorces was because your spouse commits adultery on you. So no divorce isn’t sole permission to remarry. The only reason you should divorce is adultery. Per the Bible. I’m not speaking from my opinion but the scriptures. I’m not even a Christian lol.
@@PewPew702 that could very well refer to the ones that divorced in the eyes of man, not God, my mother is divorced, but not according to the exceptions in the bible. I bet Paul would tell to go chaste or reconcile.
@@55runescaper yea because that is what she is supposed to do
@@55runescaper I think so, too-otherwise why would there be exceptions that actually allowed divorce?
It doesn't seem to be a point in allowing divorce if the person who fits the allowance is bound by the same stipulation as the one who didn't fit it.
In my situation, I was married to a guy (civil marriage) and i found out that he had an affair with another woman. Then we separated. At the end I have found out too that our marriage was invalid. The certificate was not registered, even local or national, nothing there, so it turned out that we both single. Its been 6 years already and until now I never dated anyone. Am I still allowed to remarry if in case in the future.???
I think you should ask the pastor in your church about this case.. but I think maybe you can remarry because you didn't get married in church, it's like you have not married yet before actually. But consul to your pastor, you will get valid information about it.
You would still have to remain single. A vow is a vow.
@@ann8ann ask the pastor? Who is the pastor? The pastor is not GOD. Go to God, you don’t need to go to no pastor, go to GOD! Start meditating in the word and God will answer you.
When I got married, my wife was previously married in a courthouse the first time and I was never married.
Her ex abandoned her and it was never a covenant. Her wedding made me think of little kids that have pretend play weddings together or actors that get married on TV and movies. They say the actual words with witnesses.
IDK, sometimes I have doubts that I made the right decision, but at the time I had prayed and was sure of it and thought that her previous one, like those other example, was not a covenant.
I'm just a human and trying to trust God the best I can.
I agree with you! If you cheat on your spouse with another person, the covenant is already broken. Period! You brought someone into your marriage. That’s disrespectful! So for people saying you should stay. So my husband can cheat on me & bring women to my home & I suppose to just let him do it. No way!!! People giving people a reason to cheat & stay married.
@Ketia Mae,have you cheated on God?(we all have) did he leave us ?(No)He didn't break His covenant with you,Right?
Ketia Mae, whether you stay or leave you have no grounds for remarriage.
Finally I hear it from someone. Divorce is not the unforgivable sin. I'm not married yet I pray God to help with that because I want my marriage to be for life.
It’s not the divorce it’s the remarriage of covenant spouse is still alive
God Made Marriage For ALL Humanity, and He Honors Marriage, including among non-believers ( see Joseph's response to Potiphar's Wife ). Divorce, Biblically, is only the separating from the Spouse. The Marriage Still Exists In God's Sight. Marriage Is Not A Sin ( unless Adulterous ), so becoming a believer DOESN'T erase the original Marriage Bond, anymore than becoming Christian would make property you robbed your neighbor's house to acquire suddenly "yours".
God Doesn't Honor Explicit, Definitive Sin. He Wouldn't Have Said It's Adultery if it was negotiable. It doesn't magically cease being Adultery after demonic vows are spoken, no more than it would cease to be Adultery if done in secret, with no vows, behind the back of a Spouse one was still living with. To say otherwise is like saying theft ceases to be theft if you can manage to get your neighbour's property out of his house and into your own. Yahweh El Elyon Presented The Example Via Hosea & Gomer, And Yeshua Jesus The Christ Mightily Reaffirmed This. Herodias was an Adulteress, even if her original husband was disreputable. If a "divorce" isn't Scriptural, it isn't recognized by God. These debates have happened since before St. Augustine's time, and his view on it was categorical, as was that of our Lord Yeshua Jesus Christ. A troubled relationship can be a valid reason for a spouse distancing, even distancing via moving out, from the other spouse, but always with the Prayer for and spirit for Reconciliation. If the spouse goes from distancing for whatever form of rehabilitation, and goes from creating space to forming new relationships with other people, that is Adultery: it doesn't matter whether they call themselves "divorced" or anything of the sort, it and any subsequent relationships are Adulteries. Consider John The Baptist and the wicked Herodias. At no point does the Bible suggest that her 1st and true Husband was a good person: indeed, all we know about that family suggests he was certainly wicked, NEVERTHELESS, her "remarriage" to his brother was Adultery, and John rightly Rebuked it... her response to that Rebuke tells us all we need to know about the truly evil and unrepentant state of her heart.
@@gibranlewis7300 also this verse shows something.
1 Corinthians 7:14
King James Version
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
@@gibranlewis7300 what about if adultery occurred in the marriage. Are they now free to remarry if they divorce because ?
All sin that is not forsaken is unforgivable! (Meaning ongoing, persistent and willful sin). Acts 2: should I continue to sin that grace may abound? The apostle Paul's reaction: Certainly not!
Thank you for all that you do! There seems to be a precedent in scripture both for getting married and staying single. In light of the scriptural evidence that you have shared I have a question. How was/is it even "POSSIBLE" for a man to have multiple "WIVES" in light of what you share about marriage and divorce? There were both wicked and righteous men in scripture that had multiple wives simultaneously. I read where the "priest" gave a "righteous" man/king two wives! 2 Chronicles 24:2,3 Has God's moral law changed? Malachi 3:6/Hebrews 13:8 Why isn't Elkanah's marriage, to his two wives, condemned as adultery? Is not Matthew 25:1-10 a very peculiar parable?
I have prayed about this one many many times. 🌼🌼🌼 God always answers me by saying Go Back to The Garden. That is His will.
@@georgina4874 Good morning, Ms. Blackwell! I once had that view as well. However, if we "Go Back To The Garden" without the balancing counsel of "All Scripture" (2Tim. 3:16,17)there will be challenges. It would mean that you and I will have to advocate for Exhibitionism as well as Veganism for every human on the planet. We can not "cherry pick" which doctrines carry over from the Garden prior to Sin entering the world. (no disrespect)
@@vincentnulevels4113 what about the woman who had five “ husbands” at the well. I have a lot of questions about a lot of things but I never get the answers
@@LisaLisaCJ Hi Lisa and Blessings to you. Help me to place you?
@@vincentnulevels4113 the question you posed about the multiple wives in the Bible I agree with what you are asking and I was saying how Jesus told the woman at the well she had five husbands. And I’m like well there had to be some putting away with her but Jesus recognized all of them as her husband… I hope I’m making sense 😂
Keep up the good work bro! Preach
Hi Allen, please answer this question for me: how is it, that YHVH can break the blood covenant of an exsatanis; forgive the killing, the rapes, the killing of Christian people, all kinds of blasfemi. God sees their repented heart (like apostle Paul), forgives them and YHVH, doesn't demand from them to go to the authorities to turn themselves in, to prove that the are really sorry, but instead YHVH just forgives them. I know someone personally like that, and now he is preaching YHVH's word. But YHVH, demands from the divorce person who is now married to someone else, to break that covenant and either returned to his first wife or remain unmarried. YHVH, doesn't dissolve the first marriage, so if I don't divorce and stay single, I now continue to live in a state of adultery
This is why I waited and I get criticized by both Christians and non Christians for still being single at my age. God is the creator of marriage and I have no desire to destroy what He made beautiful and the most meaningful decision a person could make in their life.
Matthew 19:9 please better explain this for me brother... Because I've read if she committed fornication not adultery implicating the idea if she was having sex before marriage making her unclean in a since
The fact that there's so many pastors who have been remarried telling people how to live is beyond me. I was married to a man for 15 years and he lead me down a dark path. The bible talks about being unequally yoked also you cannot serve two masters for you will love one and hate the other. I was in my father's church early on in my marriage and had even began ministering but my husband didn't really care for it I still loved him and stuck with him. It got to the point where my service to the most high became a fight and I walked away to keep the peace in my home and he seemed happier. I began drinking and partying with him only to find out he wasn't as faithful as I had thought. After years of fighting to keep my marriage I know I need to let this go because I really feel in my spirit that some unions were not blessed by the most high but by our own fleshly desires. Im working on myself and I pray that he will one day forgive and bless me with a second chance with the right spouse.
2 questions:
If you are a believer and you're spouse a non- believer, leaves/abandons you,and The spouse has no interest in repenting or returning to the marriage but also doesn't want to divorce. are you allowed to Divorce?
If the believer has divorced the non believing spouse is it ok to remarry? I've heard teachings where it has been said the believer should not re-marry because the ex-spouse is still alive and may one day come to Christ and want to reconcile and wouldnt be able to ,Therefore the believer would be living as an adulterer if the believer remarried. Is this correct?
Short answer. No to remarriage.
Brother Allen Parr, again excellent work. A calm, refreshing voice in the storm, is exactly what the world is needing.
your right the world which makes you enemy to God
#1 totally disagree. Where does it say anything about remarriage?? This guy is saying it but It's not there.
Pacifica74 remarriage only allowed if the partner dies.
1 Corinthians 7:8
Now to the unmarried and widows I say this: It is good for them to remain unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
In 1 Corintians 7:39. But that is when the spouse died.
I have seen on many occasions in many countries an age old trend that i would like to get different point of views on.This would allow me to see all the possible answers or solutions that can apply to this situation. SOME PEOPLE GET MARRIED STRICTLY FOR CITIZENSHIP. WHAT IF THIS HAPPENS WHILE THEY WERE UNSAVED AND ALTHOUGH THEY NEVER CONSUMMATED THE MARRIAGE, THEY NEVER GOT DIVORCED THEN MANY MANY YEARS AFTER THEY EVENTUALLY GOT SAVED AND NOW DESIRES A SPOUSE SO THEY DECIDES TO PURSUE A DIVORCE TO BE ABLE TO REMARRY. What do you think christians that finds themselves into this situation should do?
Question what if he got saved years after we was married, Then all of a sudden on a Sunday he was baptized and said he wants out on Wednesday?
The way it reads in Matthew it talks like you're not allowed to remarry
Linda Hibbs yes you are not allowed to remarry while your partner is still living
God bless you and keep you
You are free to remarry both parties are after a divorice is final.
The teachings of Jesus are clear and unambiguous-"Whosoever shall divorce his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall divorce her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). 50 years ago for a Christian to divorce and remarry was considered the sin of living in a continual state of adultery. Christians, today, in India, for example, still believe the same thing (see Zac Poonen). Today most Evangelicals over the age of 50 consider sodomite marriage illegitimate and sinful, ( rightly so), but the majority of their offspring in the church, Gen X'rs and Millennials, according to statistics, do not believe sodomite "marriage" is sinful. Nonetheless, the Boomer generation in the last half of 20th century embraced divorce/remarriage which for 2000 years of Church history called sin. Slippery slope? 3 generations ago a Christian remarrying while the first spouse was alive was considered a sin. Today, this generation of Young People are embracing sodomite marriage and lifestyle using the same logic and arguments their parents used to justify their unbiblical and adulterous remarriages contrary to the very clear teachings of Jesus whom they claim to follow.
"Of all the early recognized Church Fathers who ever wrote, all who were written about, concerning every discussion and every debate, in thousands of surviving documents, over hundreds of years, there is not a single dissenting authoritative voice on the essential core doctrines of marriage, divorce and remarriage. Each taught the same doctrine, each held the same opinion and each enforced the same morals standards" That is, no Divorce/Remarriage
@mensajes para el remenante,beautifully said!!!!!
I love this thank you 💕
Well i was once married. And my ex hubby walk out of the marriage a few year later we got a divorce and i met with a man who is married but his wife also walked of their mirrage two years ago however he went ahead and get a divorce when we were just beginning to courten. I would like to know if i had a big part in his divorce. Note I Was no where in the picture when they had seperated.
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There was a divorced man at church that showed strong interest in me one week, but a week later he had his wedding ring back on???
A doubleminded man is unstable in all his ways.
my brother, with all due respect, in Matt 19:9 the Lord Jesus never said it's OK for a married person to remarry. notice the word is fornication not adultery implying that it the betrothal or engagement period such as in the case of Joseph and marry. remarriage and divorce r never OK for ppl who r already married. only when the spouse dies.
In Matt 19:9, the greek word Paul used is "porneia," where we get our modern work porn from. That word was common interpreted at either fornication, adultery, or any type of sexual immorality.
Webster-Merriam dictionary translates fornication as "consensual sexual intercourse between two persons not married to each other," so a married person can commit fornication with someone they are not married to. The definition does not require both to be unmarried to fornicate. So if we were to interpret it in today's language, for both fornication and adultery Jesus would say, "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife *for any reason*, except *if she cheats on him*, and marries another woman commits adultery."
Sexual immorality is anything sexual outside of God's marriage covenant, so is more inclusive than fornication or adultery. If we use the sexual immorality definition, then to correctly interpret Jesus' statement into today's English culture would be, "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife *for any reason*, except for sexual immorality on *her part (watching porn, writing adult sexual fanfiction, reading female "romance" books i.e. 50 Shades of Gray, homosexuality, transvestism, lustfully looking at another human, watching sex scenes in movies/tv shows/comics/games/drawings, etc)* , and marries another woman commits adultery."
So going off the original greek, this verse does apply to a married couple.
Also, since it states that remarriage is adultery except if your spouse cheats on you or commits sexual immorality, than remarriage after a spouse cheats on you, etc, is not adultery.
@@bacca1990 Check the Scriptures. Whenever the words fornication and adultery appear together as in Mathew 19:9, the distinction is clear- the first to the single having defiled sex, the other to the married.
It is not written that we can remarry, even when adultery. Just that we are free to go. Widows is the only ones that can remarry according to scripture.
Well done sir...I just subscribed..
The part about being a New Creature, does not apply to marriage. Even if a couple is not a Christian, they are still bound by God's guidelines of marriage. Thanks for the video. .
Keith Clark I don't know about that. Marriage was created by God true. But if two people are unbelievers and they marry , God couldn't have brought together a marriage he was never a part of.
Keith Clark if you are born from your mother's womb then you are brand new, nothing exists before. Same when you are born again. Earthly men remember, but God says ALL things are NEW.
Keith Clark and where does that apply...... you guys are so stuck on this God hares divorce.... so does he hate murder, lies, idolatry and the whole 9 yards
forgiveness never changes a sin, into a non sin.....adultery, into a valid covenant marriage...
I have a question. Im divorced and my wife and i did it not on the ground of sexual immorality. Does that mean according to Matthew 5 vers 32 that i am responsible if my ex wife sleeps with another man? Real question. Have a hard time dealing with this.
If a spouse false accuse physical abuse against their spouse because they need a divorce to get out of the marriage.. then the innocent party who got falsely accused try to reconcile with them but the guilty party won’t reconcile or repent of their sin and going for divorce... so the innocent party decided to give divorce to the false accusing guilty party because there is nothing that the innocent party can do...
Then who commits adultery and can the innocent party remarry and what about the guilty party who false accused against their innocent spouse to get a divorce for selfish purpose ?
ALL ADULTERERS WILL HAVE THEIR PART IN THE LAKE OF FIRE 🔥
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
The Bible says that EVERYONE sins and deserves judgement. Jesus also said to take the plank out of your eye before trying to get the speck out of your neighbor's eye.
In other words, get your own soul clean before God, before condemning someone.
You didn't really address remarriage. Can you talk about this point more?
Hi Allen Parr, is there any way where I could talk or chat with you? I couldn't message you privately here on youtube. You could save my life..
Thank you answering my question.
I guess we could do whatever we want as long as we ask God to forgive us?
Romans 6:1-2 " What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? God forbid!"
Purposely commiting the same sin and asking for forgiveness is not true repentance.
That’s not repentance
I was in an abusive marriage and my husband was using me to stay in the country. For me that is ground to leave the marriage.
You can leave but you cannot marry anyone else
@@katrinathomas2140 Why can’t she be remarried?
@@simonedishelle6720 God says...read the bible
@@katrinathomas2140 fact
So if you're a Christian woman and you marry a man and after a few years he turns to alcohol and he begins to beat you and you try to seek help but he continues and you're afraid for your life so you fell for divorce she will be living in sin for the rest of her life? And you are supposed to be alone for the rest of your life because of some man's abusive towards her
Hmmm. Allen, I don't know if you've thought about this before and I've never seen anyone address it, but if a spouse never has a physical adulterous relationship BUT is guilty of adultery in God's eyes due to lust, is this proper grounds for divorce if the marriage cannot be reconciled?
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thought of that.
No. It's not not grounds for divorce. If divorce occurs both must remain un-married until one passes on.
Many have eyes few see, many have ears few hear the bible was written in parables. When Jesus healed the blind and death it wasn't always physical but spiritual.
Like paul said it's better to not married
God bless you. Nicely said. I too come from a broken home can relate to how it affects the family no doubt. However; if a woman has no children with a man and the man is emotionally abusive, manipulative etc, and this is for instance a 2nd or 3rd marriage. Any recommendations as to what a Christian woman aught to do? God bless
Bless you Brother and you are right. Mathew 19 : 9
All the legalism in the comments is heartbreaking. I'm grateful that God is a God of grace, love, and new mercies every morning! God knows I don't want the divorce my husband is getting. He knows my heart is for repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation. He knows my husband is broken, angry, and not walking with Him. I believe God can restore our marriage, but He may not. To say that I have to remain single for the rest of my life because of my husband's sins is legalistic punishment that is not from the heart of our gracious God.
Hey Cassie! Michael Chriswell has some great videos on TH-cam on this very same topic!
Its not legalism we can be forgiving but God never forgave anyone who continued in sin God will not let you out of your covenant if you choose to remarry you both are in sin you be no different then 2 married gays who think the God of love will accept them.
That analogy though 🤔 If that were the case, why is there the Scriptures 1 Corinthians 7:15-16! We CAN'T make anyone choose God's/The King's way & precepts. How is the other person bound to not live a fulfilled life if the other person/spouse doesn't choose to walk with God in mind, heart, spirit, & soul?... Just questions to meditate on & NOT for a dialogue of disagreement. I truly believe that once we transition & it's time to meet Him, that we will Truly be surprised that He thinks nothing like how we think! With my situation, I did a lot of self blame & God truly had to minister to me from that one scripture & share that no matter what, I am STILL The Lord's handmaiden. He also shared that how you don't know you are EXACTLY where you're SUPPOSED to be because it is one who plants, another who waters, & God who gives the increase... Sure he hates divorce, but He also had Jesus as a checks & balance about our motives. If we truly tried & wanted it to work & the spouse is totally opposed, 1. We can't make him or her & 2. That's why I believe 1 Corinthians 7:15-16 is so applicable.
cassie thats what sin does it justifies if you remarry then your not right with God your in adultery. Gods grace is never so we continue in sin and the lord only forgave repented sinners.Jesus makes it very clear remarriage is adultery and one day we all stand before him. I feel your pain i live with a women who stop loving me. iam pretty sure she cheated on me iam in agony day after day but remarriage is not worth hell so sorry cassie
Cassie Skye you are correct
I am so torn by this issue - it is hurting the church in so many ways. Millions of children have not been born because millions of Christians live under the idea that they can never get married yet God said it is not good for man to live alone. The King James says we can not get married again if we send "put" our spouses away, but in later translations the language changes this to if we "divorce" - so much confusion in translation - it is so deceptively clouded. Some pastors say if you get get married again your going to hell, yet Jesus offered the water of life to the woman at the well. Why do most messianic rabbis say you can get remarried, those who knew the customs of Christ's day, yet 65% of other non Jewish pastors say no you can't? Satan is certainly in this work. I always go back and ask what hurts the church, what heals the Church. Does God really want a man and woman who are in their early 20s to burn with lust all their lives because they got divorced? Paul says if a man burns with lust he must marry - what if your divorced is this verse now mute? Is there not a difference between divorcing because one just chooses to divorce and divorcing because a spouse refuses to stop abusing their children or spouse. A Christian woman who is faithful to God, but married to a brutally rebellious and abusive man must either live in misery with her children or divorce and live in the misery of loneliness leaving the children without a father in the home. I will say this of whose fault divorce is it belongs to the pastors who have married people too easily and without significant training.
Maybe Can't help but think that if God had communicated better then that wouldn't be a problem.
@@chad969 I'm always baffled by what has been left out or communicated vaguely
I couldn't agree more. My concern is that many believers don't attempt to have a truly personal experience with the spirit. They instead lack compassion and become harsh judges because of their hardening.
I believe God caused vagueness and multiple seemingly competing dialogs to keep divorce complicated, that way we wouldn't find it so simple as believers to commit it. Just look at how willing the world is to divorce. It's so simple. God could possibly be shielding his flock from the atrocities created from broken families and hearts. I know first hand how difficult it could be. I was the product of a divorce situation AND I totally committed adultery in my own marriage, which led to divorce eventually😥 And I'm very sorry about it.
I have an urgent question. My ex fiancé and I prayed in our room alone and ask to have God’s blessing in a ‘marriage’. Is that considered a marriage in God’s eyes? Now I don’t know if I should just stay single as we are no longer together and never went through with an actual marriage. Please help
Matthew 19:8-9 ESV
He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”