There's a generalization I've heard from Brittney, Bridgette and Conor that growth comes from differences and pain in relationships. But growth can come with out significant pain too. Comfortable relationships aren't void of growth. It's okay to want a comfortable relationship. It's okay to want a monogamous relationship and not push yourself to be comfortable with something that doesn't fit. We don't need to be in relationships that trigger our worst traumas and fears in order to heal them. I also think it's okay to want to connect with a partner while still in a "needy" place, before syncing up yourself. Sometimes I'm a mess and just need to be held and not have it all figured our or held together. Like another commenter said, it's a weird contradiction to support the practice of holding space for each other but not being needy.
I 100 percent could not be in a relationship where I cannot approach my partner and request attention and my wife feels the same way. We love each other and don't struggle being monogamous. We will stop in our tracks when the other one needs a moment of undivided attention or space. We grow from understanding the other person and being committed to one person in different ways where I don't think you could find in a poly relationship. I'm not taking away from different relationships but while there are special growths in poly relationship, there are in our mono ones as well. The journey differs. While they say poly relationships help them grow, I can point out how being committed to one person has made me grow more as a person than having multiple partners would. It's just different. It is a spectrum and there is no right and wrong in general, but certainly for the individual.
Brittany, i dont know if youve ever been told this,im sure you have,but you are an amazing listener. I love the way you listen so intently when Conor or Bridgette is speaking,its just such a lovely quality that i feel many others lack. A lot of people long to be listened to,the way you listen to other people and i just wanted to take the time to compliment you on that. Love your channel❤️
When Brittany corrected herself and said that we come into this world 'as the fullness of ourselves' after saying we come into the world 'perfect', it really opened something up for me. I find it astonishing how you manage to put feelings and love into words for us to understand. Really powerful video from the both of you. I love you
I love hearing your perspective Bridgette. I was always wondering how you evolved in this relationship from the beginning. Thank you for sharing. Love seeing you both smile.
I really enjoy how gentle you are with eachother. Nothing can go wrong when we approach eachother with gentleness Love when Bridgette makes a video. She is a wee gorgeous dynamo Keep well
I really go in between understanding and listening in awe then completely disagreeing and almost resisting your views, such different perspectives I throughly enjoy. It’s an odd and wholesome experience. Thank you for making content through it all.
I love your channel so much. I absolutely love and appreciate everything you guys share. However, if I could share a little feedback as a viewer it would be this: I really wish you guys would be willing to get more raw, real, and vulnerable. I know you guys THINK you are, but you guys actually have a way of putting up a facade of beautifully crafted sentences and ideas without getting specific about what that means to you... You guys can talk for 20+ minutes and not really say a whole lot of substance past throwing around a lot of enlightened language. You can explain ideas and dynamics etc. in such beautiful ways, but don't really get any deeper than vague, abstract rambling. It would be so much more vulnerable to hear more specifics of how these beautiful and expansive ideas actually play out in your reality. For example, the video with the "accidental raw processing" with Conor allowed us to see how all the stuff you talk about ACTUALLY can apply or play out in a real situation. In the same way, I think a lot of us would love to see more vulnerability and less of a "we're woke" facade. Not that you're not woke, lol, you're all wonderfully enlightened beings, but I don't feel you're letting your viewers "in" as much as you think you are. Anyway, love your channel either way so thank you for all that you do.
Omg THANK YOU!!! Exactly what I have been thinking for the past few months! I absolutely refuse to believe that their poly relationship comes without any pain or struggle or challenges. I, too, would appreciate more raw and unpretentious videos.
Thanks for the feedback, we put most of our raw processing videos on our memership website at conorandbrittany.com. We think you'd love being a member if this is the content you prefer. Lots of love to you! conorandbrittany.com/free-membership-promo/
@@conorandbrittany I'm not just talking about raw processing videos, I'm talking about you guys being more real and honest about your experiences and not staying surface level. I am someone that would totally pay for a membership like you offer, but I won't pay for something until I resonate with it in a real way. I honestly don't know if I resonate with you guys because you don't let us in, you just pretend to by using all that beautiful language. The way you run your business is obviously entirely up to you, but just so you're making an informed decision, you probably have a LOT of viewers that are like me and would be all over that membership if we actually trusted you guys. And please let me explain because I know that sounds harsh, I'm not saying you're not trustworthy or anything like that it's just that those of us who care as much as you guys about intimacy and connecting with others can FEEL that you're staying surface level, and it's impossible to truly resonate with and trust someone if they're unwilling to reach a certain point of authentic vulnerability. All this to say, your business is your business and you know what's best. I just felt drawn to sharing that with you, and wouldn't have bothered if I didn't really like this channel and you guys.
I totally agree with you. I never seem to finish watching a video these days as it’s just a lot of superficial words. Lots of talk but don’t actually say much..I love these guys and have followed for years but loved the old stuff when it was real.
I love the way Brittany looks are their partners. You can feel the love Brittany has to witness true expression. Thank you so much for this video as I have been shuffling through my own beliefs around this, and where conditioning has played a role in my identity. Devine timing 🙏☀️ keep shining!
I just discovered you all and you have moved me deeply. As someone who's been monogamous all my life, I realize that's not who I am at my core and would feel so blessed to find what you have. As a single female in my 60s, I don't have a clue how I would even go about discovering others with a similar consciousness. I'm hoping that my desire to live more wholly loving will somehow be an attracting force for a new,beautiful relationship ❤
I just want to admit how much this channel has helped me grow. Helped me understand who I am and how brain washed I have been my whole life. I can’t thank you guys enough. I’m currently healing from societal beliefs of ownership over my husband. I think today I’m ready to let go of this fierce feeling of ownership over him. And I hope in that that we both grow together; spiritually and emotionally. Thank you. Thank you for being the only people for the past four years, whether you knew or not that you were helping support me emotionally.
Woww. This one gave me soo much to think about! Currently journaling now about some of the things that were brought up here. Thank you thank you for sharing this
Ahhhh I can’t explain how inspiring this is. Bridgette, how you have evolved and been open to ‘growing pains’ in the relationship and realizing that you’d rather be triggered and grow and heal with someone who loves you so much! Than to be “comfortable.” And Brittany the way you hold her and love her through all her triggers. I love the way you two smile at each other. Such pure love and support. Thank you for this!!! 🙏🏽💓✨
Sometimes when Bridgette is talking, and really gets on a roll, those words are flowing fast, it seems like she is a conduit, the message is just coming through her. It is her but it's also just this universal message and she is acting as a conduit for it, so we can all hear it.
It feels so good to have different relationship models like this💜 I recently joined a triad and they have only been w each other since they’ve met. It was a strange feeling to think that even tho I’m their “unicorn” they only want it to be the 3 of us. Thank you Brittany & Bridgette! 👩❤️💋👩
Bridgette did such an amazing job answering the question and putting her feelings into words. I loved this video and appreciate you guys putting yourselves out there for us and opening up so that we really understand. I’m having a hard time putting it into words lol but I just love you all and love how you both spoke in this video ❤️❤️
As someone who is identifies as monogamous, I’ve fallen deeply for someone who identifies with polygamy. I’ve realized love is allowing your partner to be who they identify to be. This is something I don’t expect him to change. I’m learning through his eyes how open love can be.
I'm so happy Bridgette confessed her love of monogamy 💛 I felt like her body language made it obvious before, so it was a relief to hear :) I wonder if both of your preferences (and Connors tbh) aren't just too different? I know Brittany is lovely, but relationships don't need to be that hard or cause pain... Just my two cents :) thanks for sharing either way, and I know this is a vulnerable space for y'all
Can I see who is the dominant and the dependent partner here? Brittany gives a totally different impression here compared with when she is in the video with Connor.
When you are saying that "everyone is polyamorous'" and that "preferences don't matter and don't really exist", how do you relate to people who are actually monogamous and not polyamorous? How do you relate to people's actual preferences that are different from your own? And how do you relate to the specific meaning of polyamory as a word meaning "to love many romantically"? Do you view the word as having essential meaning, or do you think that the word can be changed in meaning in order to say that "humans are social beings" (that our friendships and other non-romantic relationships are also a part of polyamory)? Also, how do you relate to hurting other people? Brittany mentioned avoiding hurting other people in the house dynamic. Do you accept that hurting others is a part of relationships worth embracing, or do you see it as something that is meant to be continually avoided?
Maybe you want to watch one of their last videos called something like 'we are all polyamorous'. :) that might answer the first part of your question on what they mean using that word. Bc monogamy doesn't mean monoamory :) and polyamory doesn't necessarily mean polygamy.
N. N. That might be true but to them the word polyamory is usually extended to hook ups and casual sexual liaisons particularly. While most humans are 'polyamorous' they don't all gravitate towards the sexual aspect of it like this family does here. So maybe it's a personal preference.
@@bizardvark962 , in this video for example, bridgette uses that word exactly like they described it in the video I mentioned - she said she realized that she was polyamorous all along but she doesn't seek a polygamous relationship. And yes, when they talk about their lives and being poly, they also often talk about hooking up with people but I don't think that is necessarily linked to it ... I for example know lots of people who wouldn't define themselves as poly, but as 'singles' they still have those casual sexual encounters. I know it is a little bit twisted and sometimes used as synonyms but that's how I understand it :) And I guess their relation to other people prefering not to live polygamous (themselves and also not their partner) is that those should articulate their needs and their visions for a relationship just as any other :) they should watch themselves and their feelings closely and take care of themselves. And if they don't feel good or true to themselves, they should take actions to get themselves into a situation that meets their needs. Like any other. What that looks like can only decide those in that situation - lots of communication for sure, but maybe compromises, maybe standing up for oneself and not compromise and make a decision only for oneself (for example not being with that person who prefers polygamy - and they will have to accept that). And that is totally fine :) .... I think the values shared on this channel are applicable to everyone: look after yourself and make decisions that get you into a place of growth and comfort :) find the expression of the real You. Whatever that looks like
Wow, you had me crying at the end there. GEtting triggered and have someone love you and hold space for you while you're feeling your pain and helping you work through it, sounds like heaven to me! I guess you guys are being the parents you each wanted as children for each other now. Love that! Growth, maturity, love! xxx
Lol yeah. They still don't really talk about it as much as I want them too. Like they paint everything with a veil of positivity which is good but at the same time like it almost seems false at times
@@NexusProductionGroup conor and brit moved bridgette into their relationship and home then after a while conor said he didn't want to do it anymore and wasn't enjoying it but brit basically picked bridgette over conor.She pretty much threw him out.
This is really wonderful, guys. So much wisdom and depth in this video! Creating that kind of safe space to process through the triggers and grow is so beautiful! The growth of your relationship is even obvious in your body language and your energy. Much love and gratitude 💙
Cant wait to watch this!!! Love hearing your experiences & views! Such a rainy day here in Ireland, stuck inside so perfect timing for you to upload :-)
This is just a few months before Bridgette usurps Connor as a parent living with his child and partner. Connor leaves. All three seem to think Bridgette as a primary care giver that lives with Ilya is a better option than Connor. They are all on the same page. Not sure what Ilya thinks.
I really dont feel as though Conor feels that way. Maybe he feels the dynamic between Bridgette and Brittany is more loving right now and maybe that will be a healthier example instead of the anger and confusion he must be feeling but I see him give to Brittany so fully and I dont see the compromise from her.
How Brittany is towards Bridgette now is how she used to be towards Conor. There’s definitely been a change of her feelings towards Conor and she shows it.
@@TERRIKARRIFIC Outside looking in, and from what I know of non-monogamous relationships, some have primary partners. And it appears that Brittany and Connor are primary to each other. Getting in a relationship with an individual who is monogamous, may automatically shifts primary status (level of attention and care) to the monogamous partner. It can be a way of "accommodating" a monogamous partner. However, it can disrupt the relationship between primary partners. I can understand why individuals may prefer to entertain romantic relationships with others who are also monogamous or non-monogamous.
This was so helpful and beautiful! I'm in a poly relationship and dating a dear friend who is mono, and we have these issues and blocks about it, and how this person triggers all my insecurities and I trigger theirs, is incredible and terrifying, and it has make me grow a lot and they are growing with me. Sending hugs
Yes, if we all could get through the hang ups with possessiveness and expectations of other people and just let live and let love. Sounds amazing and wonderful to hear it’s possible but not without pain that has to be worked through as Bridgette mentioned. Inspiring video. :)
I LOVE your energy in this video! You’re both such amazing beings and I can actually feel your love for each other through the screen. The way you look at each other is mesmerizing. So beautiful! Thanks for sharing!
I'm sure many of us would love to see a video on how constantly creating content like this about your relationship(s) affects them...for example, does it make you love eachother more to be verbalising your feelings)thoughts about your relationship(s) so frequently, or does it make you overthink? Or both! Would love that kind of video 🧡
Seeing how much Bridgette's presence has grown on this channel is so beautiful. I used to feel like they were still waiting to emerge into this youtube world. Over the last 6 months seeing how comfortable they've become on camera and sharing has filled my heart. Love you guys so much
Brittany I love what you said about wanting to just strip yourself of all of your labels and see what's left and who you really are underneath. That really provoked a lot of thought for me. Not even in a relationship sense, but just in general. Who am I? A businesswoman. A fiance. A mother to fur babies. A soon to be bride. A daughter. A sister. A friend. But extracting all of those labels, if you did NOT have the option to describe yourself with a label, who would you be truly?? I'm going to try to start viewing myself and others that way.
writing and crying. thank all of u just came to the terms with myself being monogamous after several attempts of poly relationships. Looking right now for stories like mine so i could learn how to continue to love the love of my life (i know i’m cheesy af) and not to hurt him or myself. and u really help. xx
Bridgette is so eloquent! It is such a skill to be able to express your thoughts so clearly and concisely. I really appreciate this conversation, thank you for sharing.
wow thank you guys! I hung on to every word!! understanding feeling and blossoming. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH. what an simple honor to watch :) gracias again hehehe!!!!
Thank you so so so much for answering this question. I think the part on being clear about being open and supportive to each others triggers without taking them on is very important. I will share and discuss :) thank you again!
I feel so much resonance with your content, it's really important so show up as our true selves and to grow through relationships wich are one of the most beautiful things in the world ❤ I really love your channel, you're talking so deeply about profound subjects and the way you see connections with other human beings is really awesome 💞
This is such a fantastic video. Thank you for sharing your story and your experiences within poly-mono relationships. I feel that most if not all of what you're talking about it also applicable to things outside of love, resonating with truth that is in the world all around in terms of so many things. Keeping open, keeping playful, keeping expansive, it's all vital to our human experience here on this earth.
New to polyamory. Consider myself monogamous. Fell in love with my poly partner and am trying so hard to fit in their world but I feel so othered so often. I don’t know if it’s for me but your perspectives are helpful. Thanks for sharing.
Yes to finding and connecting to beings that support our full, true selves. This is my total desire. Thank you both for sharing about this topic. Love watching you all grow and learn and helping us all do the same. 💜💜💜💜💜
This was so important for me to hear. I would love more from this dynamic, it is so real to what I am going through, so similar to bridgette's point of view. I look forward to learning more. Thank you 🥰
What thoughtful reflections, Britt & Bridgette. I am taking it in and connecting with certain aspects of it. Thank you for sharing! 💕 Also- can I just say y’all gave me butterflies looking at each other?🦋 you have such amazing chemistry and an amazing love. Awesome to see!!
Thank you both for exploring things that bring you into your full selves and for seeing the world through the lens of love and growth. I will say this over and over again... but you are infinitely inspiring! Every time I need to feel loved and grounded, I come to your videos. I end up feeling full of love and I'm reminded that it's okay to be fueled by love and compassion and gentleness and badassery!!
I could listen to all of you talk for hours. Ya'lls energy is so beautiful. The way you have all learned to love unconditionally is just such a powerful and magical thing to me. I truly feel like I was born with the gift to love people unconditionally. It's never been difficult for me to love people unconditionally. It use to hurt me so deeply because I would give such unconditional love to others and never get that in return. But over the years I realized most people in our world are conditioned by so many things to not love unconditionally. I now try to just find like minded people to truly interact with, while still giving love to everyone in the world.
wow. I've never seen it this way. What you shared sounds so beatiful to me and something I will think about. I've always seen it as a bad thing to be triggered by someone, especially my partner. This is cool to hear.
Is it really necessary for Bridgette to be so attractive? I'm trying to listen to the video, but I keep getting distracted by how much I want to have her baby.
I vibe with the expansion of evolving into who we truly are and how we express ourselves and where we are at in this moment. There is no specific being that feels or sees life in the same way and that’s whats so beautiful when you can express and speak your truth and what feels good to you. The world can be so judgmental wanting to put everyone into a box, that’s not who we are or should conform to. We are sovereign beings that have different backgrounds, lifestyles, dreams and paths. Bravo for sharing your love and how your moving your way through it on a daily basis. What I see and perceive from your love is communication and checking in with one another, which Is what we all need to work on. Labels be gone. Lots of love and good vibes ladies. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your hearts and journey 💓💕🥰
Firstly let me say how much I love you all and the content yall create. I've been watching since before Ilya was born. You're all so genuine and attentive when you speak to one another. It's a truly beautiful thing to witness. Now onto my question/questions. My husband and I are in a monogamous marriage and we have 2 young children together. For years we've jokingly talked about adding another woman to our relationship. It's always been a fantasy of mine...and his! And at first it was just that. Because jealously and hurt would step in and I then realized that I only liked for it to be a fantasy. Well as the years have passed and our 10+ year relationship has matured. We have started discussing it again. And this time I feel like I am ready to add someone to our family. 😁 We have no idea where to begin! How do we go about seeking someone to be in a relationship with? And when/if we find someone what is the best ways to keep communication and openness as a focal point in the relationship? I really hope yall can help me. Thanks so much and yall have a great day beautiful people!
Hi Brigette and Brittany! A great simple way to drop the Effect of labels is to simply ask: “Who do I believe I am with x label” Then “who would I be without that label/S (you can bunch them together” Then: How true is it that I am ... with that label? In other words, you’re pulse checking the belief structure not necessarily the label per-say. Even if labels are removed, there is still a label in not having a label in way, you know? So it’s about feeling free whole and complete with vivacious aliveness with detachment to label. Just like, you have a female formed body but don’t associate to the gender term. It’s very little to do with the terminology and the outlay belief behind it for example.. so, what I’ve really seen is & I feel you know this already :) it’s our beliefs and decisions around life that keeps us bound. So if we believe we are limited due to a label, just purely check in and ask for it to be revealed “how true is it that I’m not expansive, loving etc etc with x label?” Then the truth will cut through- ❤️ I do a lot of healing around removing beliefs and decisions and worthiness - still very much on the journey though! Love what you shared around holding space! ❤️❤️
This video, and these relationships, feel like the ultimate embodiment of the song "Love Without Possession" by Mount Eerie. A verse: What's this new version of love that intrudes Into the peace I thought I had? This love has no recipient But still lies there smoldering Indifferent stars in the night sky Watch me while I churn Still holding this love for you Without a thing to do But try to live In this uninvited liberation Without a home in your life or heart Without a shelter at all Exposed and burning still This unattended fire For no one emanates a wasted warmth on the wind Pushing against the edges Of what it means to give So much love and gratitude for what y'all have opened for me over the years. Thank you ❤️
Oh my goodness, I just love you beings so much! The kindness and deep connection I see here is so incredible. I respect and value your videos so much. Thank you.
I’m really feeling so confused inside about the topic that came up around 17:11 where you talk about how important it is to take self responsibility and not “take up space” with heavy energy/bring others down/neediness (as bridgette says) yet then you continue on about how important it is to hold space for others and how much growth that has given you and that’s always such a critical part of the relationships you have. So I just don’t know.. how to balance the two..
thank you for sharing your story! i love that and learn a lot about my own stories. one question: can you describe, what you "exactly" mean with "holding space for each other"? Lots of love!
I don’t mean to answer for them, but my experience and understanding of it is when someone is experiencing something difficult, you hold space by not reacting or getting defensive. You literally just give them space to feel and say and behave however they need to with no judgment from you. Sometimes that can include simply listening without trying to fix anything, hugs, kisses, kind words or actions. I think it can be summed up as you’re putting your own needs and agenda to the side (for the moment) to support the other person in whatever ways seem most helpful.
We love this question! It means so many things to us but maybe the biggest impact has been in relation to compassionate communication. We elaborate more in this video if you're interested
This is so beautiful! I found myself wanting to be in your happy skin for a moment,but I understand that everyone has his time and experience. What you built in your life is so inspiring! At times, during critical moments I ask myself what you all would do and how you would react. Maybe it's the first time I have someone inspiring to look up to when comes to relationships. But how do you deal with breakups? Just going through it with a person I thought I was building something very meaningful with and I hoped we could play around with life and expand ourselves. Now I'm left with nothing. Much love.
Thank you for the video and the work that you are doing! Could you share more about how you cultivate that feeling of worthiness inside yourself? Thank you again, much love
You're so welcome! We do have some videos on this channel on the topic of self love and the practices that resonate with us. How to cultivate these feelings will look different for everyone but hopefully the videos can spark some inspiration
OMG what bridgette said about worthy resonates with me so deeply that i cried like a baby right now. My bf asked to open our relatioship the other day and i felt so hurt and unworthy...and i knew in my heart and my brain that i couldnt block him to have his own experiences... And after all this years following brittany and conor's path i knwe that yes, i have to let him have his experiences with other being but at the same time, he should know what i was feeling. So i told him that i was feeling unworthy and i would work this with myself. So i am mono, but now mt bf can be his full self and i'm starting to learn to live with this feelings e let them go. So, THANK U. Thank u bridgette for your words, it was exactly what i needed. Sorry my bad english, i'm from brazil :)
O disagree with the idea that having a connection with multiple people doesn't diminish the specialness of the relationships. I prefer being unique and special in the eyes and heart of my partner. Of I have a cake, I can't give 100 percent of it to several people. Any one person can only ever have or enjoy part of it. I find that sort of relationship dissatisfying. My wife disagrees and this is major source of conflict for us.
Thanks so much for sharing your feelings around this, Darryl. It's great to hear from you. I could imagine that feeling challenging for you. Sending you both tons of love. -Britt
Maybe the idea here is that love is not like a pie, because it's not of a finite amount but multiplies as you share. Can't say I'm able to manifest that very well myself, but in my ideal world I would love to. All the best.
I’ve noticed a shift in your discourse away from the words “people” or “person” in favor of the word “being,” and I am so curious as to why you choose this! Would you mind maybe explaining why this wording feels better for you? Thanks! Love your videos and your family🥰
Obviously can’t speak for them but I use “being” too personally because it feels more connected and authentic 🙂 we’re energetic beings that aren’t limited to the physical “person”. I’m more than my personhood. For me it feels more authentic to go deeper and recognize my being. And it feels like it connects me more to all other beings, like birds, bees, flowers, and trees 🥰
I sort of have a question/ comment, thing is not being judgmental but when it comes to these poly relationships. It always seems or appears to involve two women and one man. Never have I heard of two men and one woman before. . I find this to be confusing and having a double standard. I wonder why is that. Could it be the ways we all have been conditioned and programmed according to the roles we are expected to play in life because of our gender? There is a reality show on cable tv called Sister wives where this guy has many wives which they all address themselves as being “ sister wives” if this one man can be allowed to have a few other wives. Why can’t the wives have the same opportunity and have more than just one husband, which they could be addressed as “brother husbands “ do you see the irony and double stands here. How would the both of you feel if Connor would like to bring another man into your relationships. And would Connor ever consider that prospect. Can you see my confusion here? If seems in a poly relationship you three have there , it’s the women who get a free pass.in that decision. I found this all to be very interesting. But somewhat unbalanced when it comes to genders .
i am actuly bi have had mmf relationships that was amazing and am looking to build a relationship now its not easy my last girl was amazing and bi as well but she passed away with cancer
I don't want to respond FOR any of these awesome people, but I do know that in past videos, it was mentioned that Conor has said he is open to male bodied partners. I think these being would all be open to having another male body around, but it matters more who that individual is and how they resonate. There are many people out there that break thr norms, they just might not be on display as much, but they are there. It can feel icky when things always seem imbalanced. Much love to you, and sorry if I answered to much for you 3, Conor, Brittany, or Bridgette! Xox
I also wondered about this, but in a recent livestream they addressed it and described their current gender ratio situation as a coincidence, and that they didn’t have any intention of having partners of specific genders but it just so happened that these were the people they really connected with!
There's a generalization I've heard from Brittney, Bridgette and Conor that growth comes from differences and pain in relationships. But growth can come with out significant pain too. Comfortable relationships aren't void of growth. It's okay to want a comfortable relationship. It's okay to want a monogamous relationship and not push yourself to be comfortable with something that doesn't fit. We don't need to be in relationships that trigger our worst traumas and fears in order to heal them.
I also think it's okay to want to connect with a partner while still in a "needy" place, before syncing up yourself. Sometimes I'm a mess and just need to be held and not have it all figured our or held together. Like another commenter said, it's a weird contradiction to support the practice of holding space for each other but not being needy.
You expressed my thoughts so well! I agree 110%
I 100 percent could not be in a relationship where I cannot approach my partner and request attention and my wife feels the same way. We love each other and don't struggle being monogamous. We will stop in our tracks when the other one needs a moment of undivided attention or space. We grow from understanding the other person and being committed to one person in different ways where I don't think you could find in a poly relationship.
I'm not taking away from different relationships but while there are special growths in poly relationship, there are in our mono ones as well. The journey differs.
While they say poly relationships help them grow, I can point out how being committed to one person has made me grow more as a person than having multiple partners would. It's just different. It is a spectrum and there is no right and wrong in general, but certainly for the individual.
Brittany, i dont know if youve ever been told this,im sure you have,but you are an amazing listener. I love the way you listen so intently when Conor or Bridgette is speaking,its just such a lovely quality that i feel many others lack. A lot of people long to be listened to,the way you listen to other people and i just wanted to take the time to compliment you on that. Love your channel❤️
Thanks love! Feels good to be seen in this way, loving you!
When Brittany corrected herself and said that we come into this world 'as the fullness of ourselves' after saying we come into the world 'perfect', it really opened something up for me. I find it astonishing how you manage to put feelings and love into words for us to understand. Really powerful video from the both of you. I love you
I love how each relationship brings out a different part of everyone’s personality.
I love hearing your perspective Bridgette. I was always wondering how you evolved in this relationship from the beginning. Thank you for sharing. Love seeing you both smile.
I really enjoy how gentle you are with eachother. Nothing can go wrong when we approach eachother with gentleness
Love when Bridgette makes a video. She is a wee gorgeous dynamo
Keep well
You are so kind, Lynne! love you
Well looks like something did go wrong. 😳
I really go in between understanding and listening in awe then completely disagreeing and almost resisting your views, such different perspectives I throughly enjoy. It’s an odd and wholesome experience. Thank you for making content through it all.
I love how open you guys are and it’s so refreshing. Definitely a huge reason I love your channel. Ilya is the other big one because they’re precious
haha, aw thank you so much. Both of these feel so great to receive!
I love your channel so much. I absolutely love and appreciate everything you guys share. However, if I could share a little feedback as a viewer it would be this: I really wish you guys would be willing to get more raw, real, and vulnerable. I know you guys THINK you are, but you guys actually have a way of putting up a facade of beautifully crafted sentences and ideas without getting specific about what that means to you... You guys can talk for 20+ minutes and not really say a whole lot of substance past throwing around a lot of enlightened language. You can explain ideas and dynamics etc. in such beautiful ways, but don't really get any deeper than vague, abstract rambling. It would be so much more vulnerable to hear more specifics of how these beautiful and expansive ideas actually play out in your reality. For example, the video with the "accidental raw processing" with Conor allowed us to see how all the stuff you talk about ACTUALLY can apply or play out in a real situation. In the same way, I think a lot of us would love to see more vulnerability and less of a "we're woke" facade. Not that you're not woke, lol, you're all wonderfully enlightened beings, but I don't feel you're letting your viewers "in" as much as you think you are.
Anyway, love your channel either way so thank you for all that you do.
Omg THANK YOU!!! Exactly what I have been thinking for the past few months! I absolutely refuse to believe that their poly relationship comes without any pain or struggle or challenges. I, too, would appreciate more raw and unpretentious videos.
Agreed!
Thanks for the feedback, we put most of our raw processing videos on our memership website at conorandbrittany.com. We think you'd love being a member if this is the content you prefer. Lots of love to you! conorandbrittany.com/free-membership-promo/
@@conorandbrittany I'm not just talking about raw processing videos, I'm talking about you guys being more real and honest about your experiences and not staying surface level. I am someone that would totally pay for a membership like you offer, but I won't pay for something until I resonate with it in a real way. I honestly don't know if I resonate with you guys because you don't let us in, you just pretend to by using all that beautiful language. The way you run your business is obviously entirely up to you, but just so you're making an informed decision, you probably have a LOT of viewers that are like me and would be all over that membership if we actually trusted you guys. And please let me explain because I know that sounds harsh, I'm not saying you're not trustworthy or anything like that it's just that those of us who care as much as you guys about intimacy and connecting with others can FEEL that you're staying surface level, and it's impossible to truly resonate with and trust someone if they're unwilling to reach a certain point of authentic vulnerability.
All this to say, your business is your business and you know what's best. I just felt drawn to sharing that with you, and wouldn't have bothered if I didn't really like this channel and you guys.
I totally agree with you. I never seem to finish watching a video these days as it’s just a lot of superficial words. Lots of talk but don’t actually say much..I love these guys and have followed for years but loved the old stuff when it was real.
I love the way Brittany looks are their partners. You can feel the love Brittany has to witness true expression. Thank you so much for this video as I have been shuffling through my own beliefs around this, and where conditioning has played a role in my identity. Devine timing 🙏☀️ keep shining!
I just discovered you all and you have moved me deeply. As someone who's been monogamous all my life, I realize that's not who I am at my core and would feel so blessed to find what you have. As a single female in my 60s, I don't have a clue how I would even go about discovering others with a similar consciousness. I'm hoping that my desire to live more wholly loving will somehow be an attracting force for a new,beautiful relationship ❤
You will!!!
I just want to admit how much this channel has helped me grow. Helped me understand who I am and how brain washed I have been my whole life.
I can’t thank you guys enough. I’m currently healing from societal beliefs of ownership over my husband. I think today I’m ready to let go of this fierce feeling of ownership over him. And I hope in that that we both grow together; spiritually and emotionally. Thank you. Thank you for being the only people for the past four years, whether you knew or not that you were helping support me emotionally.
Thanks for sharing your reflection here, so much ❤ for you!
Woww. This one gave me soo much to think about! Currently journaling now about some of the things that were brought up here. Thank you thank you for sharing this
so am I! haha it's SO rich! much love for your experience x
Ahhhh I can’t explain how inspiring this is. Bridgette, how you have evolved and been open to ‘growing pains’ in the relationship and realizing that you’d rather be triggered and grow and heal with someone who loves you so much! Than to be “comfortable.” And Brittany the way you hold her and love her through all her triggers. I love the way you two smile at each other. Such pure love and support. Thank you for this!!! 🙏🏽💓✨
look at those shoulders and toned arms, you two look so strong! great, great content that gave me a lot to think about, thank you for sharing!
Sometimes when Bridgette is talking, and really gets on a roll, those words are flowing fast, it seems like she is a conduit, the message is just coming through her. It is her but it's also just this universal message and she is acting as a conduit for it, so we can all hear it.
It feels so good to have different relationship models like this💜 I recently joined a triad and they have only been w each other since they’ve met. It was a strange feeling to think that even tho I’m their “unicorn” they only want it to be the 3 of us. Thank you Brittany & Bridgette! 👩❤️💋👩
Bridgette did such an amazing job answering the question and putting her feelings into words. I loved this video and appreciate you guys putting yourselves out there for us and opening up so that we really understand. I’m having a hard time putting it into words lol but I just love you all and love how you both spoke in this video ❤️❤️
So much love to you two, and Conor, Emily and Ilya ! This video was really inspiring ♡ much love from Switzerland beautiful beings !
Hallo Nachbarland :D
thanks for those wonderful beings full of love. feels so inspring
Didn’t know we were so many Swiss people on here☺️
Yeah!! Love from Switzerland too ;) xx
I love how vulnerable Bridgette is in this video. That’s the hardest thing. She‘s doing so much growing.
As someone who is identifies as monogamous, I’ve fallen deeply for someone who identifies with polygamy. I’ve realized love is allowing your partner to be who they identify to be. This is something I don’t expect him to change. I’m learning through his eyes how open love can be.
I'm so happy Bridgette confessed her love of monogamy 💛 I felt like her body language made it obvious before, so it was a relief to hear :) I wonder if both of your preferences (and Connors tbh) aren't just too different? I know Brittany is lovely, but relationships don't need to be that hard or cause pain... Just my two cents :) thanks for sharing either way, and I know this is a vulnerable space for y'all
Guess you were spot on
Can I see who is the dominant and the dependent partner here? Brittany gives a totally different impression here compared with when she is in the video with Connor.
When you are saying that "everyone is polyamorous'" and that "preferences don't matter and don't really exist", how do you relate to people who are actually monogamous and not polyamorous? How do you relate to people's actual preferences that are different from your own? And how do you relate to the specific meaning of polyamory as a word meaning "to love many romantically"? Do you view the word as having essential meaning, or do you think that the word can be changed in meaning in order to say that "humans are social beings" (that our friendships and other non-romantic relationships are also a part of polyamory)?
Also, how do you relate to hurting other people? Brittany mentioned avoiding hurting other people in the house dynamic. Do you accept that hurting others is a part of relationships worth embracing, or do you see it as something that is meant to be continually avoided?
Maybe you want to watch one of their last videos called something like 'we are all polyamorous'. :) that might answer the first part of your question on what they mean using that word.
Bc monogamy doesn't mean monoamory :) and polyamory doesn't necessarily mean polygamy.
N. N. That might be true but to them the word polyamory is usually extended to hook ups and casual sexual liaisons particularly. While most humans are 'polyamorous' they don't all gravitate towards the sexual aspect of it like this family does here. So maybe it's a personal preference.
@@bizardvark962 , in this video for example, bridgette uses that word exactly like they described it in the video I mentioned - she said she realized that she was polyamorous all along but she doesn't seek a polygamous relationship.
And yes, when they talk about their lives and being poly, they also often talk about hooking up with people but I don't think that is necessarily linked to it ... I for example know lots of people who wouldn't define themselves as poly, but as 'singles' they still have those casual sexual encounters. I know it is a little bit twisted and sometimes used as synonyms but that's how I understand it :)
And I guess their relation to other people prefering not to live polygamous (themselves and also not their partner) is that those should articulate their needs and their visions for a relationship just as any other :) they should watch themselves and their feelings closely and take care of themselves. And if they don't feel good or true to themselves, they should take actions to get themselves into a situation that meets their needs. Like any other. What that looks like can only decide those in that situation - lots of communication for sure, but maybe compromises, maybe standing up for oneself and not compromise and make a decision only for oneself (for example not being with that person who prefers polygamy - and they will have to accept that). And that is totally fine :)
.... I think the values shared on this channel are applicable to everyone: look after yourself and make decisions that get you into a place of growth and comfort :) find the expression of the real You. Whatever that looks like
Wow, you had me crying at the end there. GEtting triggered and have someone love you and hold space for you while you're feeling your pain and helping you work through it, sounds like heaven to me! I guess you guys are being the parents you each wanted as children for each other now. Love that! Growth, maturity, love! xxx
Well this didn’t age well, unfortunately 🥺
Lol yeah. They still don't really talk about it as much as I want them too. Like they paint everything with a veil of positivity which is good but at the same time like it almost seems false at times
Can you please explain, I just found this video?
@@NexusProductionGroup conor and brit moved bridgette into their relationship and home then after a while conor said he didn't want to do it anymore and wasn't enjoying it but brit basically picked bridgette over conor.She pretty much threw him out.
@George Cameroon
Now, things have changed even more... Connor has a newer partner that moved in with him and is now his primary partner.
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It did though… everyone is allowed to grow and expand and things change. It’s life. As long as they’re happy that’s what matters.
This is really wonderful, guys. So much wisdom and depth in this video! Creating that kind of safe space to process through the triggers and grow is so beautiful! The growth of your relationship is even obvious in your body language and your energy. Much love and gratitude 💙
I love how Britt looks ar Bridget as shes speaking. They're literally looking into each others souls! 😍😍
Doesn't look at conor this way anymore though
Cant wait to watch this!!! Love hearing your experiences & views! Such a rainy day here in Ireland, stuck inside so perfect timing for you to upload :-)
This is just a few months before Bridgette usurps Connor as a parent living with his child and partner. Connor leaves. All three seem to think Bridgette as a primary care giver that lives with Ilya is a better option than Connor. They are all on the same page. Not sure what Ilya thinks.
I really dont feel as though Conor feels that way. Maybe he feels the dynamic between Bridgette and Brittany is more loving right now and maybe that will be a healthier example instead of the anger and confusion he must be feeling but I see him give to Brittany so fully and I dont see the compromise from her.
How Brittany is towards Bridgette now is how she used to be towards Conor. There’s definitely been a change of her feelings towards Conor and she shows it.
@@TERRIKARRIFIC Outside looking in, and from what I know of non-monogamous relationships, some have primary partners. And it appears that Brittany and Connor are primary to each other. Getting in a relationship with an individual who is monogamous, may automatically shifts primary status (level of attention and care) to the monogamous partner. It can be a way of "accommodating" a monogamous partner. However, it can disrupt the relationship between primary partners. I can understand why individuals may prefer to entertain romantic relationships with others who are also monogamous or non-monogamous.
This was so helpful and beautiful! I'm in a poly relationship and dating a dear friend who is mono, and we have these issues and blocks about it, and how this person triggers all my insecurities and I trigger theirs, is incredible and terrifying, and it has make me grow a lot and they are growing with me. Sending hugs
Yes, if we all could get through the hang ups with possessiveness and expectations of other people and just let live and let love. Sounds amazing and wonderful to hear it’s possible but not without pain that has to be worked through as Bridgette mentioned. Inspiring video. :)
I LOVE your energy in this video! You’re both such amazing beings and I can actually feel your love for each other through the screen. The way you look at each other is mesmerizing. So beautiful! Thanks for sharing!
I'm sure many of us would love to see a video on how constantly creating content like this about your relationship(s) affects them...for example, does it make you love eachother more to be verbalising your feelings)thoughts about your relationship(s) so frequently, or does it make you overthink? Or both! Would love that kind of video 🧡
Seeing how much Bridgette's presence has grown on this channel is so beautiful. I used to feel like they were still waiting to emerge into this youtube world. Over the last 6 months seeing how comfortable they've become on camera and sharing has filled my heart. Love you guys so much
Brittany I love what you said about wanting to just strip yourself of all of your labels and see what's left and who you really are underneath. That really provoked a lot of thought for me. Not even in a relationship sense, but just in general. Who am I? A businesswoman. A fiance. A mother to fur babies. A soon to be bride. A daughter. A sister. A friend. But extracting all of those labels, if you did NOT have the option to describe yourself with a label, who would you be truly?? I'm going to try to start viewing myself and others that way.
Bridgette’s personality and persona are so attractive. I’m so happy for your family building and growing ♥️
Thank you so much!
writing and crying. thank all of u
just came to the terms with myself being monogamous after several attempts of poly relationships. Looking right now for stories like mine so i could learn how to continue to love the love of my life (i know i’m cheesy af) and not to hurt him or myself.
and u really help.
xx
i love how cute and almost still a little nervous and coy you guys get around each other. it’s so sweet to witness!
Bridgette is so eloquent! It is such a skill to be able to express your thoughts so clearly and concisely. I really appreciate this conversation, thank you for sharing.
Eloquently expressed, thank you! Luv your luv! Sending you beautiful loving energy!
You all are amazing. Love to listen to your insight. Have a beautiful weekend 😊
wow thank you guys! I hung on to every word!! understanding feeling and blossoming. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH. what an simple honor to watch :) gracias again hehehe!!!!
I think you two are twin flames, that’s just my gut feeling. :)
Thank you so so so much for answering this question. I think the part on being clear about being open and supportive to each others triggers without taking them on is very important. I will share and discuss :) thank you again!
I feel so much resonance with your content, it's really important so show up as our true selves and to grow through relationships wich are one of the most beautiful things in the world ❤ I really love your channel, you're talking so deeply about profound subjects and the way you see connections with other human beings is really awesome 💞
This is such a fantastic video. Thank you for sharing your story and your experiences within poly-mono relationships. I feel that most if not all of what you're talking about it also applicable to things outside of love, resonating with truth that is in the world all around in terms of so many things. Keeping open, keeping playful, keeping expansive, it's all vital to our human experience here on this earth.
Thank you so much! Yes we totally agree, love you
🤯 Mind blown in the best way. Thank you for sharing!
New to polyamory. Consider myself monogamous. Fell in love with my poly partner and am trying so hard to fit in their world but I feel so othered so often. I don’t know if it’s for me but your perspectives are helpful. Thanks for sharing.
Yes to finding and connecting to beings that support our full, true selves. This is my total desire.
Thank you both for sharing about this topic. Love watching you all grow and learn and helping us all do the same. 💜💜💜💜💜
This was so important for me to hear. I would love more from this dynamic, it is so real to what I am going through, so similar to bridgette's point of view. I look forward to learning more. Thank you 🥰
That intro clip was so cute! Love you two and your growing family 💕
You know it’s a good video when you have tears in your eyes by the end of it. Love you both! ✨
So much love to you Candice! oxox
I was glued to this video. There was such great energy. Loved this!
What thoughtful reflections, Britt & Bridgette. I am taking it in and connecting with certain aspects of it. Thank you for sharing! 💕
Also- can I just say y’all gave me butterflies looking at each other?🦋 you have such amazing chemistry and an amazing love. Awesome to see!!
Thank you both for exploring things that bring you into your full selves and for seeing the world through the lens of love and growth. I will say this over and over again... but you are infinitely inspiring! Every time I need to feel loved and grounded, I come to your videos. I end up feeling full of love and I'm reminded that it's okay to be fueled by love and compassion and gentleness and badassery!!
I could listen to all of you talk for hours. Ya'lls energy is so beautiful. The way you have all learned to love unconditionally is just such a powerful and magical thing to me. I truly feel like I was born with the gift to love people unconditionally. It's never been difficult for me to love people unconditionally. It use to hurt me so deeply because I would give such unconditional love to others and never get that in return. But over the years I realized most people in our world are conditioned by so many things to not love unconditionally. I now try to just find like minded people to truly interact with, while still giving love to everyone in the world.
Thank you for sharing. The vlog brought me a lot of joy today.
Glad you enjoyed it
this was so beautiful and made me so happy to watch
Wow, what journey Bridgette! Happy for you! You are so inspiring!🌈
I’m new to ethical non-monogamy and REALLY connected with this video! thank you guys!
woh. this is the world i was born to experience (and beyond!!!!) thank you both so much for your younesses. so beautiful
How come you all are so eloquent? I wish I was able to express myself like you guys. Thanks for sharing, much love to your family 💛
Thank you so much guys... i really needed this
I just recently found this channel and I have loved it! I have loved seeing how open, honest and loving you all are! ❤️ so inspiring!
Welcome! 🤗
wow. I've never seen it this way. What you shared sounds so beatiful to me and something I will think about. I've always seen it as a bad thing to be triggered by someone, especially my partner. This is cool to hear.
I love your channel, it helps me so much. So much love to u two, Conor, Emily and Ilya, you all beautiful beings. Hugs from Brazil! ♥
xoxo
Is it really necessary for Bridgette to be so attractive? I'm trying to listen to the video, but I keep getting distracted by how much I want to have her baby.
Hahaha, same! I find her physically and energetically attractive!
Me too haha. I think because of her muscle tone
The energy of you two makes my heart smile ❤
This resonated with me so much♥️
My brain is exploding. These are brand new ideas to me!!!
I vibe with the expansion of evolving into who we truly are and how we express ourselves and where we are at in this moment. There is no specific being that feels or sees life in the same way and that’s whats so beautiful when you can express and speak your truth and what feels good to you. The world can be so judgmental wanting to put everyone into a box, that’s not who we are or should conform to. We are sovereign beings that have different backgrounds, lifestyles, dreams and paths. Bravo for sharing your love and how your moving your way through it on a daily basis. What I see and perceive from your love is communication and checking in with one another, which Is what we all need to work on. Labels be gone. Lots of love and good vibes ladies. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your hearts and journey 💓💕🥰
Firstly let me say how much I love you all and the content yall create. I've been watching since before Ilya was born. You're all so genuine and attentive when you speak to one another. It's a truly beautiful thing to witness.
Now onto my question/questions.
My husband and I are in a monogamous marriage and we have 2 young children together. For years we've jokingly talked about adding another woman to our relationship. It's always been a fantasy of mine...and his! And at first it was just that. Because jealously and hurt would step in and I then realized that I only liked for it to be a fantasy.
Well as the years have passed and our 10+ year relationship has matured. We have started discussing it again. And this time I feel like I am ready to add someone to our family. 😁
We have no idea where to begin!
How do we go about seeking someone to be in a relationship with? And when/if we find someone what is the best ways to keep communication and openness as a focal point in the relationship?
I really hope yall can help me.
Thanks so much and yall have a great day beautiful people!
You wonderful beings make this world so much more beautiful!!!!!! Thank you for your sweet words we all love you 🙂
Hi Brigette and Brittany!
A great simple way to drop the Effect of labels is to simply ask:
“Who do I believe I am with x label”
Then “who would I be without that label/S (you can bunch them together”
Then:
How true is it that I am ... with that label?
In other words, you’re pulse checking the belief structure not necessarily the label per-say.
Even if labels are removed, there is still a label in not having a label in way, you know? So it’s about feeling free whole and complete with vivacious aliveness with detachment to label.
Just like, you have a female formed body but don’t associate to the gender term. It’s very little to do with the terminology and the outlay belief behind it for example..
so, what I’ve really seen is & I feel you know this already :) it’s our beliefs and decisions around life that keeps us bound.
So if we believe we are limited due to a label, just purely check in and ask for it to be revealed “how true is it that I’m not expansive, loving etc etc with x label?”
Then the truth will cut through- ❤️
I do a lot of healing around removing beliefs and decisions and worthiness - still very much on the journey though!
Love what you shared around holding space! ❤️❤️
so beautiful :') thanks u guys
This video, and these relationships, feel like the ultimate embodiment of the song "Love Without Possession" by Mount Eerie. A verse:
What's this new version of love that intrudes
Into the peace I thought I had?
This love has no recipient
But still lies there smoldering
Indifferent stars in the night sky
Watch me while I churn
Still holding this love for you
Without a thing to do
But try to live
In this uninvited liberation
Without a home in your life or heart
Without a shelter at all
Exposed and burning still
This unattended fire
For no one emanates a wasted warmth on the wind
Pushing against the edges
Of what it means to give
So much love and gratitude for what y'all have opened for me over the years. Thank you ❤️
Oh my goodness, I just love you beings so much! The kindness and deep connection I see here is so incredible. I respect and value your videos so much. Thank you.
I’m really feeling so confused inside about the topic that came up around 17:11 where you talk about how important it is to take self responsibility and not “take up space” with heavy energy/bring others down/neediness (as bridgette says) yet then you continue on about how important it is to hold space for others and how much growth that has given you and that’s always such a critical part of the relationships you have.
So I just don’t know.. how to balance the two..
I guess you have your answer now as to what Brittany was referring to. The comment is so clear as hindsight is 2020.
This is so beautiful.
You two are so cute together ❤ such sweet little looks and smiles
I love everything about this.
You guys are SO CUTE omg love you
thank you for sharing your story! i love that and learn a lot about my own stories. one question: can you describe, what you "exactly" mean with "holding space for each other"? Lots of love!
I've been thinking about this as well 💕
I don’t mean to answer for them, but my experience and understanding of it is when someone is experiencing something difficult, you hold space by not reacting or getting defensive. You literally just give them space to feel and say and behave however they need to with no judgment from you. Sometimes that can include simply listening without trying to fix anything, hugs, kisses, kind words or actions. I think it can be summed up as you’re putting your own needs and agenda to the side (for the moment) to support the other person in whatever ways seem most helpful.
We love this question! It means so many things to us but maybe the biggest impact has been in relation to compassionate communication. We elaborate more in this video if you're interested
This is so beautiful! I found myself wanting to be in your happy skin for a moment,but I understand that everyone has his time and experience. What you built in your life is so inspiring! At times, during critical moments I ask myself what you all would do and how you would react. Maybe it's the first time I have someone inspiring to look up to when comes to relationships.
But how do you deal with breakups? Just going through it with a person I thought I was building something very meaningful with and I hoped we could play around with life and expand ourselves. Now I'm left with nothing.
Much love.
Hi Alessandra ❤ thanks for sharing this here! We have a video titled How to rock a breakup that we think you would like. Much love to you!
Thank you for the video and the work that you are doing! Could you share more about how you cultivate that feeling of worthiness inside yourself? Thank you again, much love
You're so welcome! We do have some videos on this channel on the topic of self love and the practices that resonate with us. How to cultivate these feelings will look different for everyone but hopefully the videos can spark some inspiration
I wish I could move in with you all for a couple weeks & absorb all your wisdom 😂😂❤️❤️❤️ love you all !!
Great video thank you for sharing ❤🙏
OMG what bridgette said about worthy resonates with me so deeply that i cried like a baby right now.
My bf asked to open our relatioship the other day and i felt so hurt and unworthy...and i knew in my heart and my brain that i couldnt block him to have his own experiences...
And after all this years following brittany and conor's path i knwe that yes, i have to let him have his experiences with other being but at the same time, he should know what i was feeling. So i told him that i was feeling unworthy and i would work this with myself. So i am mono, but now mt bf can be his full self and i'm starting to learn to live with this feelings e let them go.
So, THANK U. Thank u bridgette for your words, it was exactly what i needed.
Sorry my bad english, i'm from brazil :)
Sending so much love to you Luiza!
Amazing video! 💓 I would love to see a Day in the Life of your sweet family. 💕
We just posted one on our Lifestyle and Family channel! Hope you enjoy it :) th-cam.com/video/A4K_lDCemRE/w-d-xo.html
O disagree with the idea that having a connection with multiple people doesn't diminish the specialness of the relationships. I prefer being unique and special in the eyes and heart of my partner. Of I have a cake, I can't give 100 percent of it to several people. Any one person can only ever have or enjoy part of it. I find that sort of relationship dissatisfying. My wife disagrees and this is major source of conflict for us.
Thanks so much for sharing your feelings around this, Darryl. It's great to hear from you. I could imagine that feeling challenging for you. Sending you both tons of love. -Britt
Maybe the idea here is that love is not like a pie, because it's not of a finite amount but multiplies as you share. Can't say I'm able to manifest that very well myself, but in my ideal world I would love to. All the best.
A human being’s ability to connect isn’t as limited as a physical cake 💜 love is infinite.
I’ve noticed a shift in your discourse away from the words “people” or “person” in favor of the word “being,” and I am so curious as to why you choose this! Would you mind maybe explaining why this wording feels better for you? Thanks! Love your videos and your family🥰
Obviously can’t speak for them but I use “being” too personally because it feels more connected and authentic 🙂 we’re energetic beings that aren’t limited to the physical “person”. I’m more than my personhood. For me it feels more authentic to go deeper and recognize my being. And it feels like it connects me more to all other beings, like birds, bees, flowers, and trees 🥰
That intro made me giggle! Haha 🥰
So much radiance.
Such open hearted expressions.
"Create Space for your partner" this really sits with me! us! we!
You both are so beautiful in your unconditional love ❤
Just hold the space for your partner! yes! i dig it.
I sort of have a question/ comment, thing is not being judgmental but when it comes to these poly relationships. It always seems or appears to involve two women and one man. Never have I heard of two men and one woman before. . I find this to be confusing and having a double standard. I wonder why is that. Could it be the ways we all have been conditioned and programmed according to the roles we are expected to play in life because of our gender? There is a reality show on cable tv called Sister wives where this guy has many wives which they all address themselves as being “ sister wives” if this one man can be allowed to have a few other wives. Why can’t the wives have the same opportunity and have more than just one husband, which they could be addressed as “brother husbands “ do you see the irony and double stands here. How would the both of you feel if Connor would like to bring another man into your relationships. And would Connor ever consider that prospect. Can you see my confusion here? If seems in a poly relationship you three have there , it’s the women who get a free pass.in that decision. I found this all to be very interesting. But somewhat unbalanced when it comes to genders .
i am actuly bi have had mmf relationships that was amazing and am looking to build a relationship now its not easy my last girl was amazing and bi as well but she passed away with cancer
True. I prefer men but not many would be open or try understanding.
I don't want to respond FOR any of these awesome people, but I do know that in past videos, it was mentioned that Conor has said he is open to male bodied partners. I think these being would all be open to having another male body around, but it matters more who that individual is and how they resonate. There are many people out there that break thr norms, they just might not be on display as much, but they are there. It can feel icky when things always seem imbalanced. Much love to you, and sorry if I answered to much for you 3, Conor, Brittany, or Bridgette! Xox
@@johnbaker8482, I am so sorry for your loss. Bi men are awesome! Much love to you.
I also wondered about this, but in a recent livestream they addressed it and described their current gender ratio situation as a coincidence, and that they didn’t have any intention of having partners of specific genders but it just so happened that these were the people they really connected with!
AMAZING!!!
You 2 are so beautiful
Have a great day ❤️