"Stop messaging first and see how many dead plants you’ve been watering" is a wonderful quote which encapsulates what happens when you realize whose your friends and whose just around for a time.
Of course. The quote basically means that if you ALLOW others to treat you badly, they will continue to treat you badly. So if you want others to treat you with respect then you have to stop tolerating their bad behaviour. I hope this clears things up! @@LessyLy
“You get what you tolerate” few words but so important. If you dont tolerate something and it keeps happening. Leave the situation. Your not wrong for not have patience for certain things espescially if you made it clear the first time around.
Thank you, brother, I just went through the biggest heartbreak of my life and your wisdom has helped me grow immensely. Keep making moves, keep making a difference. God bless.
Rip your best friend God please help this man give the hope and strength to continue on amen. Your best friend would want the best for you so continue your life because your not only for yourself your living for him. God bless you 🙏🏿
Man I felt this so deep. Loosing friends to anything just makes it harder to go on but it also motivates you to keep going for them. Won’t stop can’t stop twin. Stay up. ✨
God bless you and God be with you. He is your light in the midst of all. I love you but God does more, stay strong for God has a plan for you In Jesus Name Amen!
Going through a painful friendship breakup right now and doing my best to be the friend I deserve. Sending love to everyone who’s struggling right now❤Know that this season is temporary and you’ll come out of it better than before
people who you really cherish and also cherish you will find their way back to you too. it won't always be bye forever, even if it feels like it will be
That's why I don't have any friends. Not because others are problematic but because I am. I have heavy depression and so many mental issues that I would never expect others around me to put up with that.
third friend in the group of three here. thank you so much. I feel so abandoned by my two friends whenever we go out, and I know I need to let them go but it hurts so much and I'm so scared of being all by myself
hey man I feel the same way yr not alone I feel left out by my 2 friends too to the point where they hangout and dont invite me and its sad but maybe its the best for me just as it is for you to move on man hope you make through as well 💯
@@khysantana1096this happened to me and I was the one who introduced them and got them close we was a 3 that would do stuff together and just chill but now we don’t hang out we just stopped talking but they would hang out all the time idk they if they talk anymore but I still am alive and I find allot of my happiness and joy by myself and it got close to God during the process but you guys will both be ok I promise you it’s not gonna be like that forever we will all find the friend group that we need and enjoy 💯
Just leave. Those feelings of not being included and being left out are real and if you ignore them all you'll become is a joke of a person to them and pathetic. and a joke to yourself gtfo of there.
Just got out of a 6 year relationship about a month ago and I desperately needed to hear this. I know there's a slim chance of you seeing this but your videos have unlocked new things inside of me that I didn't know I had and have given me a new out look on life. Hope God protects you and your family. Stay blessed Mr. Davis
I had to end two friendships last year. That was the hardest thing I ever did, because those people were very important to me. But I couldn't keep on disregarding my integrity, my self-worth and my goals. One of them was my best friend, and she talked me down all the time, which was very hard on me. I let her go, and her words were "I hope this is the right thing for you to do." When I read the letter that said that, I knew I did the right thing. Thanks for this video. Gotta admit, I cried a little, but I feel much more confident in my decision to let them go now.
Cried watching this maybe it’s just TH-cam listening to my conversations or universe sending a sign but either way much needed. grateful to you brother
My ex and I broke up a little over a year ago but remained friends. I always knew that once one of us moved on we probably wouldn’t be able to stay friends bc being “just friends” was already hard enough. He recently started dating someone new and I know I have to move on and it hurts really bad because now it feels like it’s REALLY over. As much as it hurts watching this brought me a feeling of peace about letting him go. Thank you for posting this.
I’m in the same situation but me and my ex didn’t stay friends I just couldn’t agree to it because I can’t be friends with someone I love. And she started talking to a new guy after a month and a half after she broke up with me and now she recently started dating him. It hurts so much because I thought she was truly the one. He’s a clone of me but he’s a wannabe gangbanger he’s no good for her and I’m sure she knows this. I’m worried about her even tho I know she don’t care about me. If yhu want to hear more about my situation you can find my comment it’s pretty long😭
Good stuff Shimon. I’ve been in a 7 year and 5 year relationship. Kept allowing the last one to re enter at her will and disrupt my healing for bread crumbing. Finally had to block it all off and walk away for my own self. Your videos are helpful to a bunch of grown adults who are years older but lack the insight. Thank you
My whole life every friend group I've been apart of I've never felt like I actually belonged. I was always the but of the joke or the one that was excluded from things. Even with the current friends I have now I notice the same patterns. It sucks because I have to make a choice between being alone or being surrounded by people who don't even want me there.
I can relate to you but now I got used to it so it doesn't matter sometimes I feel like that I'm actually faking everything so people can like me love so I can be someone who is important for them
Been there plenty of times, and it sucks, the one thing it taught me is that it's better to be alone in an empty room, than it is to be in a room full of people who don't even care what you have to say or add.
@@fivezedits2486 I actually feel like an outcast now the people who were never good to me are too nice to my other friends sometimes I feel that there is actually a problem with me or maybe it is but still I don't think I deserve this
@@riti2884 Everyone has their issues to work on, but as long as you are going in with good intentions and a kind heart than you don’t deserve to be treated like an outcast. Some people just refuse to take the time to understand or see things from the other’s pov, if it’s really bothering you, you should just ask them about it, if their behaviour toward you continues, leave them, you deserve better than to be treated like the black sheep.
The true friend is the one who sticks with you, who responds back and actually starts conversations, who decides that you are good enough for them. Never lose that friend.
This guy feels different from other self-improvement content creators, he isnt trying to blow smoke up my ahh while being genuine. You're doing good work, my friend. May god bless you.
going through the same moment rn where the friends I would hangout are outgrowing or feeling like the third person in the friend group maybe this video was a sign to meet new people who I can relate to or learn to be by myself
Ive been alone since i graduated high school in 2021 i dont want to speak to people anymore or get to know them cause in the end they never stay, but not having anyone around to talk to hurts more espically when you want to level up your life its even harder to find people who want the same
Man, ive been dealing with grief after a family member died, and ive been dealing with anxiety and stuff too, and your content is helping me so much man. You just really teaching me stuff that i should have known, but just didnt realize i should have known. Thanks!! :)
I feel you on the negativity part, some of my friends were so negative and would say horrible things to others, it was just very draining to the point I stopped talking to them
Thank you as always for making these videos. That part where you said you feel like you're the one reaching out most of the time to old friends really hits home now that I've moved on from high school and college. It sucks on one level, but it's important to stay reminding that where one door is closing, another opens 🏁
My father's passing has took me on a emotional ride for 4 years✨️... 2020 was so dark for me, the pandemic, the uprisings in the streets. I watched it all with my father as he was sickly & dying from heart failure. As he looked at the events he had a odd look on his face. It was the look of determination & maturity he saw of certain black people waking up... You will make it through ✨️
i’ve been losing a lot of friends lately and i thought it was something wrong with me, while im not the perfect person these videos have reminded me that sometimes things don’t last and it’s okay, it doesn’t always mean it’s something wrong with me necessarily
this really helped. i ruined a relationship, in an instant kept putting pressure on myself. now and then she would talk smack, I wouldn't say anything. my dad taught me fighting wont resolve anything. but seeing this and you saying move on it happen. thank you for that.
A couple of weeks ago i saw this one girl in my highschool and everytime i saw her she was looking at me with beautiful eyes after a while i gained confidence i walked up to her to ask for her ig she was really beautiful and she said yes we talked a while and after sometime i noticed that she texted dry ,she was responding really late or she was leaving me on deliver even tho she was active she started to lose interest in me even tho i couldnt let her go because i was in love with her i tried to make her happy i complemented her everytime i saw her until yesterday a classmate that she was friends with walked up to me and said she told him that "This boy has no chances" and when i heard that i felt like i was shot in the stomach i felt nothing i couldnt even cry because she doesnt deserve a single tear ,she was only playing with me she was testing me she only took advantage of my kindness,later that day she blocked me on everything.This relationship was short but i felt that she was the one the love of my life,it doesnt matter how beautiful a person is on the outside because on the inside they can have a wicked soul.I loved you Sara i really did.
I’m sorry for your experience but you do not love her. Not only do you not even know her or who she is, you don’t know who you are. Your so young and you may actually be very intelligent and self aware… but trust me my friend… there’s so much more for you, me, all of us to learn… the best years of our lives were when we were our most ignorant… yes.. it is bliss.. You do not love her because if you truly did, you would still love her. Your love for her is only contingent on your heart still beating… love doesn’t care if that love is requited or not. Love has no conditions, no exceptions, and no excuses. You will learn this when you experience love, and trust me; the most important thing in life is to make your love/desire as intentional as possible. Know who, what, and where to give yourself to. The quality of your life is dependent on it.
Thank you for sharing this video, it felt like I was talking to someone who truly cares about what I’m going through and just giving genuine advice and insight. I truly thank you and love forward to seeing more of your content through this healing journey.
You helped me a great deal man! I was going through the difficulty of letting someone go when I saw you in this video! You gave me peace with your message here, and I appreciate it! Keep doing what you're doing man!
Oh my goodness the way your channel has grown this month Shimon!!! I’m so happy for you, genuinely you are such a rare spirit and this is just the beginning of your journey. Thank you for inspiring me and helping me get through a difficult season. You are light❤
Beyond relatable, I'm at the point where I started online school, which means Its hard to meet new people, but at least its easy to not meet bad people anymore. Needed this, has me thinking of ways to meet new people.
its a great video for me right now. I've had one of my best friends for around 4 years. There'd been a group bullying me and he was friends with them too. When I stood up for myself finally, he turned on me and went with them. Now he makes fun of me too. But it's a gift too I've lost most my circle to this situation. It's left me pretty depressed, but it's showed me who's really there for me. I went from 10 to 2 people with me at lunch, but I know they're real.
“don’t sit here and tell me things if you’re not about it” THIS!!!!! I am currently getting over this guy AGAIN bc he’s told me things and planted all of these delusions in my head just to essentially ghost me!!😀 (I spent all winter break moving on from him bc I came to realize my feelings for him felt very one sided. Even though we would hang out fairly often, I would give him my time and energy just for it to never feel 100% reciprocated.) As soon as we get back from break he tells me that he thinks about me all the time and for 2 weeks straight he puts in effort to hang out with me and literally tells me EVERYTHING I wanted to hear !!!! So naturally my feelings for him returned even more this time . JUST FOR ME TO ASK HIM TO HANG OUT AND HE NEVER REPLIED. it’s been 3 weeks. I’ve seen him in person since then and he’s been acting like nothings happened. Meanwhile I literally went thru the 5 stages of grief LMAOOOO I really really really liked him and it’s a shame but I’ve decided to move forward because it’s not the end of the world. It took a lot out of me but I am okay. ALL OF THAT TO SAY, DONT TELL ME THINGS IF YOURE NOT ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!
😂Dont worry it happens everywhere around the world ,i meet This guy in the bus stop ,we had a Nice conversation ,i bring him to my place and we drink same biers together and exchange number ,Next day he came again i introduce him to my landlord and latter on he get a Room Next to me , Next he become "cold " and i almost dont see him for days ,i like the guy ,he seems Nice and friendly,so he distance himself from me ,i live in Germany so Im schock but not surprise,you dont get real friendship here,they ghost you very easily,they dont want any emocional conection ,you help peole ,Next they vanish or they go around talking bad about you ... 😢as they say "if people show you who they are in the first time believe then " at least he show his ass very soon and now is my Next door neigbour
Hi there. Same sh*t happened to me. I've been dating this girl and we have amazing chemistry, we hang out every week and I've always been good to her, I was respectful and I listened to her about everthing she wanted to share about her life etc. but of course I have my own opinions on certain things cuz I'm not a simp or a yes man haha Then one time I saw her and she just ignored me, she gave me this look like she didn't know me or maybe she is purposely ignoring me. And I was life wtf, so I called her attention. She had no choice but to respond lol I couldn't allow her to just pass by me and disrespect me like that, that's why I called her attention. Then later on she texted me that she was sorry and she was late for work that time that's why she kinda ignored me lol I never replied to her after that. Istg most women these days don't have character, most women's ego are so big because of all these simps trying to give them free attention and validation online. Long story short I'm letting go of her and I wish her nothing but the best. I realized that I'm comfortable being alone and I just wanna focus my timr and energy to the people that cares for me. Just sharing, peace out!
Damn, just 2 days ago a girl that I’ve been waiting for 5 months left me without even telling me. I felt lost and i don’t even know what to do anymore. Seeing you upload this video 2 days ago is a lifesaver. It’s like God wants me to see this and want me to know that life goes on and I should not waste any more of my time waiting for her again
Sup man or anyone interested, Been following your journey for a week or so now, it’s been hitting in the correct spots. But I wanted to go to the leader of the tribe himself. I’ve been Feeling like I wont be loved again, I’m 19 yrs old , I recently got out of a 2 year relationship that truly tanked my self esteem. I went in so ready for love and I proved myself but I was also shown how worthless I can be treated. Ive been trying to find “someone” to fill the void, it’s been causing me so much stress, I struggle with the go with the flow mindset nowadays. I don’t have trust in myself to be loved. Love ❤️
i sabotaged my relationship and it took me half a year before i reflected upon it. i have been punishing myself everyday for putting him through that pain, but i have to stop clinging onto the past and just move forward and take what happened as a lesson to do better next time.
Hey, I just started watching your content and wanna say God is really using you to change the lives of many youth and lead them in another path, different from the usual smoke, drinking, porn, drugs etc. As a youth myself I love your wisdom and I pray you go deeper with the Lord in these end times like never before. With the Word we are above all and have the wisdom of Christ! Christ is our wisdom. We are more than conqueres through him that loved us. I love you but God does more! God bless. Also, though you may be helping others makes sure to help yourself aswell. Two people who are down cannot help each other up. God sees your heart do the right thing His eyes are on you. Hope this helps in return with all the help you give us
This video came at the perfect time.. I was about to sleep and it’s my 24th bday today. I feel so far behind and things haven’t gone my way the past few months. It’s time to let go of the people that no longer choose me. Here’s to bigger and better things. Thank you ❤
This is crazy to say and think but I always felt like as a teen , I felt way more self aware and matured than my peers back my high school and a lot had to do with some of the core values my mom taught me about being a good human being foremost and trying our best to have self control and ignore people that do us wrong or lift us to be the best version of ourselves… the amount of patience and love she has for people and her community was inspiring but also felt like I could never live up to that level of being that nice and not setting boundaries or speak up for myself than ignoring…
Hi , it is my first time to write a comment on TH-cam . But for the first time it is a video that really speak to me . I’ve randomly found your video and I click on it and let me tell THANK YOU your video really helps me . I’m a subscriber from Belgium 🇧🇪 so thank you
Been watching your videos for a little while now and you always manage to make me look at things more positively when I'm feeling down or stuck. Keep doing what you do and keep up the good work man! Thanks for the good talks and wisdom
I cried to this shit man! I agree what you had said. I relate to this sooo damn much. This help me realize and it just hit me in my heart and it's true. You have a good day man!
Just blocked him after months of him breadcrumbing. It's over now. No explanation. His toxicity and the things be did. I couldn't do it. People will come and people will go. It hurts at first, but I'll be okay. Just did it 20 minutes ago. Here's to healing.
Have this friend that I've known over a year now. It feels like he just keeps making the same mistake over and over and I've grown weary of dealing with it.
i had a friendship a year ago with a girl, she was my bestfriend, i really didnt want her out of my life. but then for a joke that went too far the friendship ended, i dont have many friends and so when this friendship ended i was destroyed. that hurt me soo bad that i still am disgusted with myself for what ive done, ive tried too convince me that it didnt matter but every time i tried it the sadness that i had came back strucking me like a fucking train........i dont really know what to do at this point.
Perfect Timing with this one. I just don't know when to hop back on the saddle. Recently my best friend finally just caught up with the rest of the group and got in a relationship, and here's miserable old me sitting on my 2nd consecutive night drunk out of my mind, on the clock with college deadlines and not even 2 full months out of a relationship. I'm happy for the guy but IDK if I'm hurting myself on purpose just for the sake of it or not. I don't mean to be a downer and dampen everyone's mood but damn everyone in my life rn is somewhat in control or has some semblance of a connection. I've just been lonely af for a while now. Hope someone else relates to this
its painful. ive only met 1 person who i would consider a friend, and it feels like they're slipping away like every other associate. ive been lonely for a long while, i dont know why i cant accept this
This week i realized i lost a friend, my best friend, someone who was very important for me, we cared about each other, but i dont want to be freinds with her anymore, and its hard because right now i feel like i need her because i havent feel this close to someone in years, but we have been changing lately and she is just cruel and not really caring about my feelings. i have no one to tell this and i would love to talk to her and tell her all the things that i dont like about her and thank her for her time with me and everything she tought me, because i learned so many things about life that i never really tried to learn, i feel lucky to have met her. I hope she finds new and better freinds. the last time we had an argument she talk to me a week later telling me that she needs me and i told her the same that we want to be friends but i think we cannot its exhausting and just to much work from both parts we are just freinds and its a draining relationship. i really tried and i will cherish everything we did together but i have to let you go. Sorry guys i needed to write this down for my own sake.
I just had to cut my cousin out of my life two weeks ago. We were so close; we talked every day, we would go out for random adventures at random hours of the night, we work together, we've both spilled so many secrets and insecurities to each other. She was a person I could tell anything to. But I realized that my cousin is a time bomb. Every time I spoke to her, she had something bad to say. She was so paranoid everyone was out to get her, and no matter what I'd say, she'd never change. Never wanted to help herself, never was willing to sit down and accept her faults and instead blamed other people. She was jealous of my sister because my sister was successful before my cousin ever was. And then when I got success, she shifted that jealousy to me. Pretended to be my friend, when she was really just trying to boost herself, and make her feel better than me at something. I got promoted at work. She tried to tell me she's the sole reason why I got promoted. She tried manipulating me, told me she's the only one looking out for me, spread lies about me to others to isolate me from people, tried making me think that I need her...because she's actually terrified of people leaving her. Now she is alone, because I realized that I have become such a hateful person, such a strong force of negativity. I don't want to be like that anymore, and doing that means leaving some of the people who fuel that side of me the most. And it's honestly difficult.
bro im holding back to no contact but when i saw your video its a sign thats my final decision. even tho i love that person but my peace always compromised. i need to let her go
I will miss these guys so much, we been together for 3 years man, 3 years, from 7° class to 9° class, we... I never reaaly tough we are going to live these school day forever, but no, we are closer to the end of school, and then change from mid school for highschool, I may see some of them there, but not everyone, they have changed me, and made so good to me, I'm not ready to accept I'm gonna loss this class, I love them so much, and they dont even know they're so special to me... The whole class... I love you 9°E
I wish it was a matter of outgrowing. I said something that I can't take back and now we're no longer friends. I replay that day over and over in my geasy
"Stop messaging first and see how many dead plants you’ve been watering" is a wonderful quote which encapsulates what happens when you realize whose your friends and whose just around for a time.
Beautiful, I will take this to heart
Did that and they blamed me for "purposely distancing myself from them"
The real friendship is that which lasts even when not watered. You will find out when you get older. :)
It's a stupid thing to do though. It's the first step to losing friends
@@ryanstarlight8018 not to everybody, only those who only seem to message you when they need something
"You get what you tolerate" simple yet effective quote
Could explain this quote to me, I speak German I don’t understand.
Of course. The quote basically means that if you ALLOW others to treat you badly, they will continue to treat you badly. So if you want others to treat you with respect then you have to stop tolerating their bad behaviour. I hope this clears things up! @@LessyLy
@@thedankwalrus thank you 😊
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Thank you @@thedankwalrus
"If you feel like the smartest person in the room, get the hell out that room"
preach
Right on time 🙏
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“You get what you tolerate” few words but so important. If you dont tolerate something and it keeps happening. Leave the situation. Your not wrong for not have patience for certain things espescially if you made it clear the first time around.
Thank you, brother, I just went through the biggest heartbreak of my life and your wisdom has helped me grow immensely. Keep making moves, keep making a difference. God bless.
I've been experiencing the same thing, it's gonna get better man I believe you will make it better. Godspeed and God bless
Same here. My heartbreak happened four months ago. It's been really hard and I lost friends that led to that.
Same for me as well
i hope you have gotten better
How do you feel now?
it’s like you knew i’ve been currently going through this rn. thank you for uploading this during such a convenient and difficult time in my life
Hang in there friend 🙏
@@lionnonnyappreciate it man 🫡
@@ssm4ck Absolutely. You got this.. This too shall pass. 🙏💪🏼
One of the most fulfilling relationship you can have is with yourself. Never loose that for something else.
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Just wish my best friend was still alive man, my world has been so dark
Im very sorry for your loss, frend. Hope you find peace.
Hang in there.....things will get better
Rip your best friend God please help this man give the hope and strength to continue on amen. Your best friend would want the best for you so continue your life because your not only for yourself your living for him. God bless you 🙏🏿
Man I felt this so deep. Loosing friends to anything just makes it harder to go on but it also motivates you to keep going for them. Won’t stop can’t stop twin. Stay up. ✨
God bless you and God be with you. He is your light in the midst of all. I love you but God does more, stay strong for God has a plan for you In Jesus Name Amen!
Going through a painful friendship breakup right now and doing my best to be the friend I deserve.
Sending love to everyone who’s struggling right now❤Know that this season is temporary and you’ll come out of it better than before
Thank you sharing😅
people who you really cherish and also cherish you will find their way back to you too. it won't always be bye forever, even if it feels like it will be
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That's why I don't have any friends.
Not because others are problematic but because I am.
I have heavy depression and so many mental issues that I would never expect others around me to put up with that.
Real
Real friends would understand that you have depression. They wouldn’t act as if you intentionally have lack of interest in things
third friend in the group of three here. thank you so much. I feel so abandoned by my two friends whenever we go out, and I know I need to let them go but it hurts so much and I'm so scared of being all by myself
hey man I feel the same way yr not alone I feel left out by my 2 friends too to the point where they hangout and dont invite me and its sad but maybe its the best for me just as it is for you to move on man hope you make through as well 💯
@@khysantana1096this happened to me and I was the one who introduced them and got them close we was a 3 that would do stuff together and just chill but now we don’t hang out we just stopped talking but they would hang out all the time idk they if they talk anymore but I still am alive and I find allot of my happiness and joy by myself and it got close to God during the process but you guys will both be ok I promise you it’s not gonna be like that forever we will all find the friend group that we need and enjoy 💯
Just leave. Those feelings of not being included and being left out are real and if you ignore them all you'll become is a joke of a person to them and pathetic. and a joke to yourself gtfo of there.
Leave them asap. Find someone else to find peace, that'll always make you happy.
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Just got out of a 6 year relationship about a month ago and I desperately needed to hear this. I know there's a slim chance of you seeing this but your videos have unlocked new things inside of me that I didn't know I had and have given me a new out look on life. Hope God protects you and your family. Stay blessed Mr. Davis
I had to end two friendships last year. That was the hardest thing I ever did, because those people were very important to me. But I couldn't keep on disregarding my integrity, my self-worth and my goals. One of them was my best friend, and she talked me down all the time, which was very hard on me. I let her go, and her words were "I hope this is the right thing for you to do." When I read the letter that said that, I knew I did the right thing.
Thanks for this video. Gotta admit, I cried a little, but I feel much more confident in my decision to let them go now.
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Cried watching this maybe it’s just TH-cam listening to my conversations or universe sending a sign but either way much needed.
grateful to you brother
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My ex and I broke up a little over a year ago but remained friends. I always knew that once one of us moved on we probably wouldn’t be able to stay friends bc being “just friends” was already hard enough. He recently started dating someone new and I know I have to move on and it hurts really bad because now it feels like it’s REALLY over. As much as it hurts watching this brought me a feeling of peace about letting him go. Thank you for posting this.
I’m in the same situation but me and my ex didn’t stay friends I just couldn’t agree to it because I can’t be friends with someone I love. And she started talking to a new guy after a month and a half after she broke up with me and now she recently started dating him. It hurts so much because I thought she was truly the one. He’s a clone of me but he’s a wannabe gangbanger he’s no good for her and I’m sure she knows this. I’m worried about her even tho I know she don’t care about me. If yhu want to hear more about my situation you can find my comment it’s pretty long😭
Woke up this morning missing that one person, and then I saw this video pop up on my feed right on time. God wants me to move on
It's as if God is speaking DIRECTLY to me.... Thank you shimon
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Good stuff Shimon. I’ve been in a 7 year and 5 year relationship. Kept allowing the last one to re enter at her will and disrupt my healing for bread crumbing. Finally had to block it all off and walk away for my own self. Your videos are helpful to a bunch of grown adults who are years older but lack the insight. Thank you
My whole life every friend group I've been apart of I've never felt like I actually belonged. I was always the but of the joke or the one that was excluded from things. Even with the current friends I have now I notice the same patterns. It sucks because I have to make a choice between being alone or being surrounded by people who don't even want me there.
I can relate to you but now I got used to it so it doesn't matter sometimes I feel like that I'm actually faking everything so people can like me love so I can be someone who is important for them
Been there plenty of times, and it sucks, the one thing it taught me is that it's better to be alone in an empty room, than it is to be in a room full of people who don't even care what you have to say or add.
@@fivezedits2486 I actually feel like an outcast now the people who were never good to me are too nice to my other friends sometimes I feel that there is actually a problem with me or maybe it is but still I don't think I deserve this
@@riti2884 Everyone has their issues to work on, but as long as you are going in with good intentions and a kind heart than you don’t deserve to be treated like an outcast. Some people just refuse to take the time to understand or see things from the other’s pov, if it’s really bothering you, you should just ask them about it, if their behaviour toward you continues, leave them, you deserve better than to be treated like the black sheep.
treat yourself like the friend you never had. thank you
The true friend is the one who sticks with you, who responds back and actually starts conversations, who decides that you are good enough for them. Never lose that friend.
myself
This guy feels different from other self-improvement content creators, he isnt trying to blow smoke up my ahh while being genuine. You're doing good work, my friend. May god bless you.
My King, you are a blessing for real. This is just what I needed to hear, I give thanks man. Stay blessed❤.🌍love from South Africa.
Stay blessed, I'm also from South Africa (jhb)
this video came in the right time bro. feels like your videos are speaking to me
Samee
Thank you, I just got out of a year and a half relationship and I've been needing to hear this
year and a half is tuff bro, good luck
a year and a half for me too man, i hope things get better for you
A really powerful message that I struggle with so much. Thank you ❤
GOD BLESS YOU BROTHER, I definitely needed this video. The part about being your own friend, really hits home.
Thank you for this video man. I'm going through it right now, and this helps.
going through the same moment rn where the friends I would hangout are outgrowing or feeling like the third person in the friend group maybe this video was a sign to meet new people who I can relate to or learn to be by myself
Ive been alone since i graduated high school in 2021 i dont want to speak to people anymore or get to know them cause in the end they never stay, but not having anyone around to talk to hurts more espically when you want to level up your life its even harder to find people who want the same
Man, ive been dealing with grief after a family member died, and ive been dealing with anxiety and stuff too, and your content is helping me so much man. You just really teaching me stuff that i should have known, but just didnt realize i should have known. Thanks!! :)
Right when I wanted to break no contact, thanks twin
I feel you on the negativity part, some of my friends were so negative and would say horrible things to others, it was just very draining to the point I stopped talking to them
Thank you as always for making these videos. That part where you said you feel like you're the one reaching out most of the time to old friends really hits home now that I've moved on from high school and college. It sucks on one level, but it's important to stay reminding that where one door is closing, another opens 🏁
My father's passing has took me on a emotional ride for 4 years✨️... 2020 was so dark for me, the pandemic, the uprisings in the streets. I watched it all with my father as he was sickly & dying from heart failure. As he looked at the events he had a odd look on his face. It was the look of determination & maturity he saw of certain black people waking up... You will make it through ✨️
Love the content you create Shimon, you’ve inspired me in many ways. Finally created my channel after years of procrastinating. Thank you! 🙏🏾
It hurts me really bad 'cause I feel like I have to be always chasing people, I mean it's not just one friend, it's with all my friends
Thank you bro, I love how even if your going through something you come to help us ❤ it’s really generous of you god bless you 💙💙
i’ve been losing a lot of friends lately and i thought it was something wrong with me, while im not the perfect person these videos have reminded me that sometimes things don’t last and it’s okay, it doesn’t always mean it’s something wrong with me necessarily
I'm going through heart break and I just discovered your TH-cam ❤ keep enlighten us bro 🙏
this really helped. i ruined a relationship, in an instant kept putting pressure on myself. now and then she would talk smack, I wouldn't say anything. my dad taught me fighting wont resolve anything. but seeing this and you saying move on it happen. thank you for that.
We are called to serve a living Jesus. You don't loose anything when you are with him. That is truly dying to self.
A couple of weeks ago i saw this one girl in my highschool and everytime i saw her she was looking at me with beautiful eyes after a while i gained confidence i walked up to her to ask for her ig she was really beautiful and she said yes we talked a while and after sometime i noticed that she texted dry ,she was responding really late or she was leaving me on deliver even tho she was active she started to lose interest in me even tho i couldnt let her go because i was in love with her i tried to make her happy i complemented her everytime i saw her until yesterday a classmate that she was friends with walked up to me and said she told him that "This boy has no chances" and when i heard that i felt like i was shot in the stomach i felt nothing i couldnt even cry because she doesnt deserve a single tear ,she was only playing with me she was testing me she only took advantage of my kindness,later that day she blocked me on everything.This relationship was short but i felt that she was the one the love of my life,it doesnt matter how beautiful a person is on the outside because on the inside they can have a wicked soul.I loved you Sara i really did.
I’m sorry for your experience but you do not love her. Not only do you not even know her or who she is, you don’t know who you are. Your so young and you may actually be very intelligent and self aware… but trust me my friend… there’s so much more for you, me, all of us to learn… the best years of our lives were when we were our most ignorant… yes.. it is bliss..
You do not love her because if you truly did, you would still love her. Your love for her is only contingent on your heart still beating… love doesn’t care if that love is requited or not. Love has no conditions, no exceptions, and no excuses.
You will learn this when you experience love, and trust me; the most important thing in life is to make your love/desire as intentional as possible. Know who, what, and where to give yourself to. The quality of your life is dependent on it.
Thank you for sharing this video, it felt like I was talking to someone who truly cares about what I’m going through and just giving genuine advice and insight. I truly thank you and love forward to seeing more of your content through this healing journey.
You helped me a great deal man! I was going through the difficulty of letting someone go when I saw you in this video! You gave me peace with your message here, and I appreciate it! Keep doing what you're doing man!
Oh my goodness the way your channel has grown this month Shimon!!! I’m so happy for you, genuinely you are such a rare spirit and this is just the beginning of your journey. Thank you for inspiring me and helping me get through a difficult season. You are light❤
So happy i found this. Thank you for your wisdom
Beyond relatable, I'm at the point where I started online school, which means Its hard to meet new people, but at least its easy to not meet bad people anymore. Needed this, has me thinking of ways to meet new people.
Broke up last night and this video came up on my page exactly after I woke up ❤
its a great video for me right now. I've had one of my best friends for around 4 years. There'd been a group bullying me and he was friends with them too. When I stood up for myself finally, he turned on me and went with them. Now he makes fun of me too. But it's a gift too I've lost most my circle to this situation. It's left me pretty depressed, but it's showed me who's really there for me. I went from 10 to 2 people with me at lunch, but I know they're real.
“don’t sit here and tell me things if you’re not about it” THIS!!!!!
I am currently getting over this guy AGAIN bc he’s told me things and planted all of these delusions in my head just to essentially ghost me!!😀
(I spent all winter break moving on from him bc I came to realize my feelings for him felt very one sided. Even though we would hang out fairly often, I would give him my time and energy just for it to never feel 100% reciprocated.)
As soon as we get back from break he tells me that he thinks about me all the time and for 2 weeks straight he puts in effort to hang out with me and literally tells me EVERYTHING I wanted to hear !!!!
So naturally my feelings for him returned even more this time . JUST FOR ME TO ASK HIM TO HANG OUT AND HE NEVER REPLIED. it’s been 3 weeks. I’ve seen him in person since then and he’s been acting like nothings happened. Meanwhile I literally went thru the 5 stages of grief LMAOOOO I really really really liked him and it’s a shame but I’ve decided to move forward because it’s not the end of the world. It took a lot out of me but I am okay. ALL OF THAT TO SAY, DONT TELL ME THINGS IF YOURE NOT ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!
😂Dont worry it happens everywhere around the world ,i meet This guy in the bus stop ,we had a Nice conversation ,i bring him to my place and we drink same biers together and exchange number ,Next day he came again i introduce him to my landlord and latter on he get a Room Next to me , Next he become "cold " and i almost dont see him for days ,i like the guy ,he seems Nice and friendly,so he distance himself from me ,i live in Germany so Im schock but not surprise,you dont get real friendship here,they ghost you very easily,they dont want any emocional conection ,you help peole ,Next they vanish or they go around talking bad about you ... 😢as they say "if people show you who they are in the first time believe then " at least he show his ass very soon and now is my Next door neigbour
Hi there. Same sh*t happened to me. I've been dating this girl and we have amazing chemistry, we hang out every week and I've always been good to her, I was respectful and I listened to her about everthing she wanted to share about her life etc. but of course I have my own opinions on certain things cuz I'm not a simp or a yes man haha
Then one time I saw her and she just ignored me, she gave me this look like she didn't know me or maybe she is purposely ignoring me. And I was life wtf, so I called her attention. She had no choice but to respond lol I couldn't allow her to just pass by me and disrespect me like that, that's why I called her attention. Then later on she texted me that she was sorry and she was late for work that time that's why she kinda ignored me lol I never replied to her after that. Istg most women these days don't have character, most women's ego are so big because of all these simps trying to give them free attention and validation online. Long story short I'm letting go of her and I wish her nothing but the best. I realized that I'm comfortable being alone and I just wanna focus my timr and energy to the people that cares for me. Just sharing, peace out!
@@roiroi2923 Funny 😂 Greetings from Germany
@@mariaseidi4023 Hello there my new German friend, we're friends now and there's nothing you can do about it. Greetings from the Philippines♥️
Damn, just 2 days ago a girl that I’ve been waiting for 5 months left me without even telling me. I felt lost and i don’t even know what to do anymore. Seeing you upload this video 2 days ago is a lifesaver. It’s like God wants me to see this and want me to know that life goes on and I should not waste any more of my time waiting for her again
Truly on time for me right now. Thank you for this.
Sup man or anyone interested,
Been following your journey for a week or so now, it’s been hitting in the correct spots. But I wanted to go to the leader of the tribe himself. I’ve been Feeling like I wont be loved again, I’m 19 yrs old , I recently got out of a 2 year relationship that truly tanked my self esteem. I went in so ready for love and I proved myself but I was also shown how worthless I can be treated. Ive been trying to find “someone” to fill the void, it’s been causing me so much stress, I struggle with the go with the flow mindset nowadays. I don’t have trust in myself to be loved.
Love ❤️
You have no idea how much I needed this. 9:00 - 10:00 made complete sense 👏 gotta put yourself first no matter what ❤
bro is honestly a role model to me. i want to be as helpful and emotionally inteligent as this guy is
This came into my recommended at the perfect time dude 🙏🙏🙏. Love your channel
i sabotaged my relationship and it took me half a year before i reflected upon it. i have been punishing myself everyday for putting him through that pain, but i have to stop clinging onto the past and just move forward and take what happened as a lesson to do better next time.
I rarely get that genuine aura back that i put out since i was a youngin but its best to keep pushin 🙏🏾😌
bro, you are always amazing ,you're talking about everything in life,
Well I think I cried about 10 times watching this. It’s the video I needed to see. Love you bud ❤ty from the bottom of my heart.
Wow it took me half of a century to feel this way you are way ahead of the crowd and that's a good thing I'm going to pray for myself to night wow
Hey, I just started watching your content and wanna say God is really using you to change the lives of many youth and lead them in another path, different from the usual smoke, drinking, porn, drugs etc. As a youth myself I love your wisdom and I pray you go deeper with the Lord in these end times like never before. With the Word we are above all and have the wisdom of Christ! Christ is our wisdom. We are more than conqueres through him that loved us. I love you but God does more! God bless. Also, though you may be helping others makes sure to help yourself aswell. Two people who are down cannot help each other up. God sees your heart do the right thing His eyes are on you. Hope this helps in return with all the help you give us
I think I speak for all of us when I say that this video couldn't have come at a better time. Thanks Shimon!
This video came at the perfect time.. I was about to sleep and it’s my 24th bday today. I feel so far behind and things haven’t gone my way the past few months. It’s time to let go of the people that no longer choose me. Here’s to bigger and better things. Thank you ❤
Happy birthday. Best of blessings
This is crazy to say and think but I always felt like as a teen , I felt way more self aware and matured than my peers back my high school and a lot had to do with some of the core values my mom taught me about being a good human being foremost and trying our best to have self control and ignore people that do us wrong or lift us to be the best version of ourselves… the amount of patience and love she has for people and her community was inspiring but also felt like I could never live up to that level of being that nice and not setting boundaries or speak up for myself than ignoring…
Thank you man... you're like a big brother ❤
Thank you for sharing these words with us. I really needed to hear all this.
Hi , it is my first time to write a comment on TH-cam . But for the first time it is a video that really speak to me . I’ve randomly found your video and I click on it and let me tell THANK YOU your video really helps me . I’m a subscriber from Belgium 🇧🇪 so thank you
"Don't sit here and tell me things if you not about it" ~ Shimon da goat Davis 2024
Been watching your videos for a little while now and you always manage to make me look at things more positively when I'm feeling down or stuck. Keep doing what you do and keep up the good work man! Thanks for the good talks and wisdom
I cried to this shit man! I agree what you had said. I relate to this sooo damn much. This help me realize and it just hit me in my heart and it's true. You have a good day man!
Thank you! I do appreciate your videos! ❤
Just blocked him after months of him breadcrumbing. It's over now. No explanation. His toxicity and the things be did. I couldn't do it. People will come and people will go. It hurts at first, but I'll be okay. Just did it 20 minutes ago. Here's to healing.
Have this friend that I've known over a year now. It feels like he just keeps making the same mistake over and over and I've grown weary of dealing with it.
Thank you actually the TH-cam recommend this video to me and I felt of each words you’re saying 🙌
i had a friendship a year ago with a girl, she was my bestfriend, i really didnt want her out of my life. but then for a joke that went too far the friendship ended, i dont have many friends and so when this friendship ended i was destroyed. that hurt me soo bad that i still am disgusted with myself for what ive done, ive tried too convince me that it didnt matter but every time i tried it the sadness that i had came back strucking me like a fucking train........i dont really know what to do at this point.
Just let go, don't cry over spilled milk
I understand you and really feel for you.
Same happened to me.
Let out the tears, cry when you can. These are series of healing. We will be fine
Perfect Timing with this one. I just don't know when to hop back on the saddle. Recently my best friend finally just caught up with the rest of the group and got in a relationship, and here's miserable old me sitting on my 2nd consecutive night drunk out of my mind, on the clock with college deadlines and not even 2 full months out of a relationship. I'm happy for the guy but IDK if I'm hurting myself on purpose just for the sake of it or not. I don't mean to be a downer and dampen everyone's mood but damn everyone in my life rn is somewhat in control or has some semblance of a connection. I've just been lonely af for a while now. Hope someone else relates to this
Am about to be successful with my homie, I fear for him about begin fade with me but I must prepare myself for this. He is one of the good guys
Man, I don't know how you do that, but I needed that so much rn. Right on time fr
its painful. ive only met 1 person who i would consider a friend, and it feels like they're slipping away like every other associate. ive been lonely for a long while, i dont know why i cant accept this
What a smart young man you are. Im impressed.
This week i realized i lost a friend, my best friend, someone who was very important for me, we cared about each other, but i dont want to be freinds with her anymore, and its hard because right now i feel like i need her because i havent feel this close to someone in years, but we have been changing lately and she is just cruel and not really caring about my feelings. i have no one to tell this and i would love to talk to her and tell her all the things that i dont like about her and thank her for her time with me and everything she tought me, because i learned so many things about life that i never really tried to learn, i feel lucky to have met her. I hope she finds new and better freinds. the last time we had an argument she talk to me a week later telling me that she needs me and i told her the same that we want to be friends but i think we cannot its exhausting and just to much work from both parts we are just freinds and its a draining relationship. i really tried and i will cherish everything we did together but i have to let you go. Sorry guys i needed to write this down for my own sake.
This came at a perfect time. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
You're also a true friend to me...Thanks Bro
I just had to cut my cousin out of my life two weeks ago. We were so close; we talked every day, we would go out for random adventures at random hours of the night, we work together, we've both spilled so many secrets and insecurities to each other. She was a person I could tell anything to. But I realized that my cousin is a time bomb. Every time I spoke to her, she had something bad to say. She was so paranoid everyone was out to get her, and no matter what I'd say, she'd never change. Never wanted to help herself, never was willing to sit down and accept her faults and instead blamed other people. She was jealous of my sister because my sister was successful before my cousin ever was. And then when I got success, she shifted that jealousy to me. Pretended to be my friend, when she was really just trying to boost herself, and make her feel better than me at something. I got promoted at work. She tried to tell me she's the sole reason why I got promoted. She tried manipulating me, told me she's the only one looking out for me, spread lies about me to others to isolate me from people, tried making me think that I need her...because she's actually terrified of people leaving her. Now she is alone, because I realized that I have become such a hateful person, such a strong force of negativity. I don't want to be like that anymore, and doing that means leaving some of the people who fuel that side of me the most. And it's honestly difficult.
I just can't give all my energy to people who waste it anymore.
bro im holding back to no contact but when i saw your video its a sign thats my final decision. even tho i love that person but my peace always compromised. i need to let her go
I will miss these guys so much, we been together for 3 years man, 3 years, from 7° class to 9° class, we... I never reaaly tough we are going to live these school day forever, but no, we are closer to the end of school, and then change from mid school for highschool, I may see some of them there, but not everyone, they have changed me, and made so good to me, I'm not ready to accept I'm gonna loss this class, I love them so much, and they dont even know they're so special to me... The whole class... I love you 9°E
Man, needed to hear this today. Keep inspiring brother.
i needed this just yesterday i had to move on from someone who is important to me yesterday and it hurts
Fr bro you always know what I need
I wish it was a matter of outgrowing. I said something that I can't take back and now we're no longer friends. I replay that day over and over in my geasy
Dont stop the videos man. Your advice is amazing!
thank you brother you are very very inspirational i look up to you lots!
This was Completely True🙏, I've been talking about you with someone, & boom, a video minutes later uploaded, Keep Doing your thing man!
It will take a very long time for some people to move on. Some already have and some never will. That's life.
This is like the third time your video ist perfectly timed, thank you for selflessly helping people Shimon❤