Growing up, I was taught "to be kind" in school... Slowly maturing into what I am today, I realized that we should not just "be" but "see." To "see" kindness and appreciate it when others share it. So don't be offended when someone offers a seat for you, or a hand when in trouble. 🤣👌
For a long time I've been stressed, depressed and insecure, which led me to live in a socially awkward and very self-conscious, almost egotistical way. The more I gain maturity, the more I see kindness as a logical way to feel safe around others. Kindness and compassion for everyone makes you instantly feel good and make people lower their defenses around you, smile and relax. Wherever you go, you feel safe, because treating strangers like friends make them treat you likewise. Those who don't treat you that way, you know they're in pain or hurting. As long as you remember that, you can't take it personally, because you know you've been kind to them and you're probably not the problem. Living this way makes your social anxiety drop and it opens the way for feeling fulfilled and safe anywhere you go. I feel like we are wired for this. Love is the answer.
I couldn't have worded it better. Being empathetic to each other and doing what's logical aren't mutually exclusive, quite the contrary. More people need to understand this, but for that, they first need to understand and accept that they are hurting. Only then we can begin to heal.
This is so true! My other observation is that the more kindness you show, the more people around you will taste what it is, and will respond in kinder ways, spreading it further and further to their connections. In a way kindness is like a virus, but bearing only benefits to hosts and their environment. Thank you for doing all the work for yourself! It's very inspiring ✨
@@user-mj6qr2ky9d I believe that if you smiled because it was genuine, you should feel confident that you just gifted something very precious to the other person. Never give anything expecting to receive something back. Give to give. Otherwise, it's not a gift, it's a manipulation tactic. The other person might be surprised, shy, depressed, angry, preoccupied... whatever the reason they didn't smile back immediately, know that your smile will make it's way through somehow. It can't hurt and you have no idea who/how much it might help.
one time someone's safety glasses flew off and i caught them and returned it to him and he was absolutely shocked that someone was kind enough to do that, big cities ruin kindness so much so that little things like that seem alien to us now
On a certain level, we have a drug store in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.
I can't say I would sacrifice myself for a stranger, not because I'm selfish, but rather that I have a family and my responsibility to care for them supercedes my inclination to save a stranger. But I also suppose it would depend on the circumstance.
I'm not real certain that I would but I think I would I don't have any kids or a significant other and I don't really want to continue the genes that I have I'm type 1 diabetic and probably the world is better without that disease
I think most people would not. In theory a lot would say yes/maybe, but in practice they would just stand there and watch as most people usually do in these situations. Humans used to live in small family groups and as we developed new technologies and ways of living those family groups got bigger and bigger. Now you live in city's where 99.99% are strangers. But those technologically driven changes happened faster than our evolution as a species. So we might live in 'communities of thousands or millions, our willingness to sacrifice at our own expense is still predominantly reserved for our family and other close. The family groups Homo Sapiens, and other hominids before were build on. So even though we might think we have come so far from our hunter gathering days, deep down the fundamentals of what drives us haven't changed that much.
When we practice kindness either to other people or towards ourselves we can experience positive mental and physical changes through lowering stress levels and increasing the body's production of feel-good hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin.
Cooperation is actually the mark of evolution and NOT competition. It is with cooperation between humans that we got to the moon and beyond. And I believe that despite current event the act of cooperation will carry us further and further.
One of the main arguments I've heard from religious people about not believing in god is that they believe religion is where all morality comes from, and if they didn't believe in god or jesus or allah or the great juju on top of the mountain that everyone would rape and kill and be mean to one another. Although I know wholeheartedly that is not the case and can provide them many examples, sometimes it's tough to articulate why morals exist beyond religious or societal laws. I appreciate this video very much for putting that into words. Thank you.
Great talk. I have the same opinion about human kind. Our thoughts can override emotional response. And in doing so a person gains a control of self that can be enlightening to previously unexplored areas of surrounding life
The moral code I found myself subscribing to after leaving an autocratic religion is, I think is best described as *egalitarian consequentialism.* _Consequenses,_ what's 'right' or 'wrong' is determined by the consequences of our thoughts, speech and actions, what's beneficial or harmful. And I'm not inherently superior or inferior to anyone else; we're all equals. It can get complicated. What's beneficial to one may be harmful to another, mandating an assessment of the degree of harm versus good, and to who and how... But it's also so much simpler than the religious moral codes many of us grew up with because most things we encounter in life are not good or bad. They just _are._
I won't argue about everybody not being equals because like I said, _It can get complicated._ Life is like that. And yes, I agree religion is more that just codes of morality. I don't dismiss religion in general but do oppose those high-control ones that have many if not all the characteristics of a cult.
Just as the old, Confucian saying goes "Treat others the way you want to be treated." Kindness, for me, is ultimately what makes humans human, and how that differentiates us from our ancestors who used to survive in the wildness millions and millions of years ago. In a wider sense, it may sound a bit idealistic, but it is with more kindness and less greed that we can make the world a better place, at least starting from those around us.
This doesn't at all prove evolution. How does this prove that there has been species changes? Like a monkey into a human? This proves nothing of evolution. If anything, this backs up creationism even more.
@@seanA416 Please point out to the class where exactly in the title it says "Proof of evolution"... or "Proof that species change over time"... yeah, you won't find that very specific subject because that's not what he's talking about. He's talking about, as the title you obviously chose NOT to read, is "Evolution proves kindness."
Selfish is a ideology we create in our mind. Is a normal thing to every individual and life organism to live for itself benefit. But human is a social species, we cooperate with each other to trade things and survive, to take care each others, for the sake of the species and individual... But competitive and evil also in our blood so we can harm others for our benefit.. So yeah, human can be selfish but also altruistic
I am inclined to believe that it isnt human nature that is selfish, but the circumstances of ones life, and as of late social medias, that conditions ones ideals and brain to be selfish.
It is simple: A group with individuals willing to give their lives for the others has more probabilities of surviving in many situations than a group without such individuals. So evolution leads to this behavior, of course.
Hell yea we are smh is that a serious question??? We as a whole especially now, are freakin terrible! To our own and the rest of the planet smh its truly sad what we do to each other on a daily basis....senseless murders, physical/psychological harm planetary destrustion....its sad and the worst part is i feel its only going to get worse. We need to get this shit together as a whole until then even if it seems like we are progressing, were def not
Inspiration is accepting what is true in ourselves instead of what we think evolution has caused us to be. Creation has made us kind like itself. We have brought that with us into the world . We have also made up a world of separation, guilt and distrust. We have within us teachers of both. We have to power to choose which teacher we listen to.
Raising kids to be kind is paramount. Personally, I loved super heroes and the values instilled in me by my parents and cartoons/anime drilled into me kindness. I have to go pick up the garbage on the street that no one picks up even though I'm insanely busy. I *have* to be friendly to complete strangers/staff in stores even on a day I'm almost miserable enough to hurt myself. Oh I can be mean too, to the family close enough to hurt me, so I'm no saint, but kindness is wired into me like the need for water. I guess I must need kindness so I give it. I'm pretty miserable these days though. My wife is so unkind to me. I can't stand it. That's probably why I went to Ukraine for 2 weeks within 1.5 months after the war started - needed to prove myself, needed to do something meaningful since my wife makes me feel so incompetent. I was just helping with supplies, nothing dangerous. Sorry I think I just sound like I'm bragging... I had a point.... Um I guess I think kids can be raised to value being kind to others even when they have nothing to give (when life is hard) and instill in them Resilience 2.0 - antifragility. Then after growing up, community needs to provide both challenging feedback along with emotional safety and encouragement to motivate the adult to remain that kind person cultivated as a child. An adult will struggle to hold onto that unless there are a couple of people in his/her life that dismisses their mistakes/failures and believes in them 100%.
We are absolutely a selfish creature. Not only do we place ourselves above every other lifeform on the planet, we place ourselves above each other. We behave as if we are the begin all and end all of everything, and we treat other life as if it's beneath us or more ignorant than us when in reality the vast majority of us are too ignorant to even begin to grasp the intelligence and capabilities of other than human lifeforms. The "extraordinary examples of altruism" are not being created by the majority of the planet. Do we have to be selfish? No. We don't have to be. We choose to be. Using the altruism of others as a way to say we're not is a common cop out we've grown comfortable with as is the donation of money. Though it's true that those who have less tend to share more. Funny that, huh? I'm guessing it goes well with the recent video on suffering.
The thing is, looking at selfish as a bad word. Actually if we help our specie, our planet, and the life around us, for our benefit, at the end we all are going forward. We should make up a new word that describes selfishness as the wellbeing of everyone.
@@tomich20 That's just it though, isn't it? In order for us to truly prosper, the planet needs to. In order for the planet to organisms at all levels, including those too small for us to see need to. We are constantly disrupting and destroying ecosystems with our short sightedness and selfishness and our education system doesn't teach us to look beyond the obvious. We're very human centric without really even grasping what being human is. Instead we bestow upon ourselves these imaginary powers that make us "better" than everything else. Ironic, since if we were actually "caretakers" of the planet, we'd definitely be fired by now for the extremely poor job we do at it. I imagine many indigenous tribes have a word for what you're describing, but I don't know what it is. I am hoping that climate change is going to force us into a reality check and improve our society as a whole. If it doesn't and we're just going to continue like we are and become more and more egotistical and greedy, I'd rather us get wiped out so the rest of the species on the planet don't get their exit clause due to something we did. I'd prefer major social reform. 🦋
Also, I think the ways in which we benefit from connection with others is still being explored. There are lovely advantages to being enmeshed in a community -- entangled, interwoven, tuned in -- that remain a bit mysterious.
I’ll try…Guess I’m always hyper vigilant about the sociopathic narcissists who are experts at pretending to be kind…Humans soft underbelly…That groom with kindness then go in for the kill…Past experience…I know I chose to be around those types and out of deep insecurities…Now…What to do with this many years in the making cynical (one liners, zingers and comebacks) defense system.👨🎓
Explaining kindness isn’t the problem. We have plenty of reasons to be kind. The problem is trying to justify that kind ness. Sure, kindness promotes the healthiness of a group and in turn increases the chances that group would survive and reproduce. But does that mean that it is right? Why does it matter if a group is more likely to survive and reproduce?
We care for others for our own benefit, that is why society needs some sort of religion, to teach people to think of others as well or else pay the price in an afterlife. But without a religion it is very difficult for Humans to care for others if there is no win-win situation. By ''selflessly'' helping other people society views you as a great person, since we are a group animal, that benefits us. Many ''selfless'' acts are actually selfish when you dig deeper into the psychy.
Nope. It’s just you that thinks that way. Your handle tells us all we need to know about you. Religion is a blight on humanity. Get real we’re smarter than that.
If we were just free floating non-physical forms there would be no drive towards selfishness - look at "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs". Acting unselfishly must be the path to something greater.
People usually help others for self satisfaction, they enjoy helping others because it makes them happy or feel good doing it. That in itself is selfish, some level of selfishness is inevitable as an individual so I don't think one can simply write it off as black or white. We are selfish, however that doesn't mean we cannot be kind and altruistic.
to be honest, no. Not every act of kindness is done for the sake of self satisfaction. In fact, putting myself in the place of others, where i imagine their feelings in certain situations, be it poverty, i get the urge to help, not because i'll feel well after it, but because i felt their situation imaginatively. For example, let's say im outside taking a walk, and while enjoying myself i see these teenagers hurting a small bird, they are torturing him, and by that i get the thought:"What's the fault of the bird? Why should it be treated like that and it doesn't know why too?" Then suddenly i get the urge to go and help it. Not because i'll get a sense of satisfaction but because i put myself in the place of the bird and i don't want anyone to feel like that... There are definitely situations where you help because you'll feel better after it, but a moment of introspection and empathy where you use your mind to introspect on their situation is enough to be a fully altruistic act.
Very interesting. There is a difference between genes and organisms. Genes are selfish. It can still be helpful to the propagation of selfish genes for their host organism to evolve altruistic behaviors.
Oh boy ....this is emotional 🧡 .... Could only hope if we all humans become more sensitive and kind ...in this everlasting evolving World. But Reality is this is extremely Ruthless n Cruel World we live in , so the genuine people around us , (who care for us are Angles , figure out , look around you carefully ) b Honest with them 🧡
To be honest, it turned into an inspirational speech when attempting to explain how a non utilitarian morality could exist with evolution. Still not satisfied by it. We often know what's right or wrong but we don't always follow it which seems like there is something more to morality than what we are "inclined" to do.
Of course, given that an immortal has others to care for. Or maybe it is just selfcare for an immortal. A very selfish immortal that one would be. A lonely selfish immortal caring herself in entirety of time. So boring.
Sooo i was also wondering if the universe is expanding or shrinking? If it is expanding, i may not see a raptor all my life or any other life form, it will be like i am living on an island.
Totally disagree! In a capitalist economy it's become abnormal to be kind. If you look deep enough, you will find that the only unselfish love we get in our lives, if we were lucky enough, is parental love. And even that is selfish, as we see our children, even if adopted, as an extension of ourselves. It's how we defeat death. It also gives us some sort of gratification that we feel needed, to provide love or care or food...etc.
I don't think that has anything to do with capitalism, but rather more to do with the cultural shift of shying away from traditional western values. Where there is a society that values "golden rule" style ethics, you have inherent altruism. Capitalism isn't a driving force, in my opinion.
Even reciprocal altruism is ultimately selfish, but if it increases kindness, it doesn't really matter if selfish or not at the root does it? Altruism is like consciousness to me - an emergent property rather than being "designed for something".
I don't think it's black and white. Selfishness, to me at least, implies that you don't care about other people. Even if you do benefit from reciprocal altruism, you can be both happy to help others and happy to receive benefits at the same time. That doesn't seem to be inherently selfish, more of a win/win than anything else.
It is difficult taking this in given what we've all experienced the last few years in which hate has often prevailed. Clearly, not everyone is capable to being kind to those who don't look like them, attend their church or are part of their political party. We are the poorer for those divisions.
To answer the title question... I will never sacrifice my own life just for a complete random stranger because I don't even fucking know the person. the person could be a psychopath or did some serious crimes or could be a kindhearted soul, the only person i know is myself so then i choose myself instead of that stranger.
Is it same for saying the one who fears most, is most feared ugly? Dragons for instance. They were really afraid once. Like real afraid. Then they got ugly and big and peculiar. This is only a theory though. ☺️🤤
I am looking for a team to help me with this theory. You can think of it like "going to live in mars" invitations. ☺️ if you are sensitive and fear a lot and you spend a few hundred thousand years that way, you become real ugly and everyone is afraid of you.
Kindness is fear..we are kind because we fear.. thus we have dragons. Buddha for instance is a dragon and he lives the same life all the time. Boring 🤤 he has a very strong suit. Actually bullet proof in a way. Since he lives the same life all the time.
No people are generally kind so much so that it is easy for the unkind ones to take advantage of that benefit of the doubt to their own ends but they are the minority if everyone were like that we wouldn't have a whole society going on
By and large our species is not selfish but our genes are, according to Richard Dawkins’s _Selfish Gene._ *_Without love and sense of humor life is meaningless._* 💕☮🌎🌌
Maybe love is meeting someone who has strange ideas who can think of different possibilities other than either an expanding or shrinking universe. Because that would be boring
Notice how he completely didn't answer the question of why people do sacrifice themselves for other's. He just said some fancy words to make it look like he answered and to confuse late people who just listen and follow without thinking critically.
Except in China! There is a controversial theory that Chinese people caught on camera stepping over their own people who have been hit by cars! One school of thought it they are so populous deep down they feel they don’t have to compete with another person for resources! That’s been studied extensively
If the kindness exist without the positive reinforcement (money or other benefit that a person can get from the action) it will be a true kindness, imho 🤔
Evolution transcends the theory itself . It's selfish , but it's selfless , it's aggressive or submissive , it's cruel and it's kind , it's slow or it's fast , it's fragile and robust ' or simply a platitude of speculations to address the endless contradictions made to support it.
I liked my comment again. We constantly sacrifice ourselves for a stranger if you pay a close attention. You sacrifice yourself for a stranger version of you. It is a stranger to your now self all the time.
If i had choice, i would still do it. Die for a stranger, i mean .. and then i would remake myself. Since i have choice, i can do that, too, right?☺️ buuut i am not sure if it is matter of choice even if i have choice to remake myself or if it is unavoidable. Because there is a heaven above us. And it is pretty much unavoidable. Maybe i would remake myself as a magical deer, as the spirit of the forest 🤤 yay. i like this environment. 🦌
what do you mean? What about the firefighters who die while on duty? Or the nurses and doctors who are continuously getting infected during the pandemic? Even personally i know a lot of people who died trying to save others. It might not be common, but it happens.
I think the problem is that if morality is subjective, then this whole discussion becomes redundant. A subjective morality means that all means for survival are equally legitimate, whether it involves relationships or not. But I think there is an inherent 'correctness' to peace and orderliness.
SIR FRED HOYLE Falsified Evolution: 1- Fred Hoyle FRS (24 June 1915 - 20 August 2001) was an English astronomer who formulated the theory of stellar nucleosynthesis and also an atheist 2- In 1987 he wrote ‘Mathematics of Evolution’ concluding the Darwinian theory is false (accepted micro-evolution) 3- What Hoyle showed was that novel genes for new proteins could not possibly have evolved by the Darwinian process of natural selection; 4- _“Well as common sense would suggest, the Darwinian theory is correct in the small but not in the large. Rabbits come from slightly different rabbits...”_ 5- Even assuming 95% of the genome is junk and the code is 30% redundant could not save evolution 6- Concerning new genes _“Where they came from in the first place is a problem yet to be solved, like much else of a cosmic scale.”_ 7- In 2018 TB. Fowler reviewed Hoyle's Critique of Neo-Darwinian Theory and said _“The conclusion is that while Hoyle's mathematics is impeccable, and thus his critique based on them has merit, he did not carry his own reasoning far enough and specifically failed to consider the possibility of large variations in selective value.”_ 8- Hoyle did not consider large variations because he knew the obvious negative effect on probability of beneficial change only magnifies the problem; Hoyle 9- _“we have a case in histone-4 where more than 200 base pairs are conserved across the whole of biology? The problem for the neo-Darwinian theory is to explain how the one particular arrangement came to be discovered in the first place. Evidently not by a random process"_ The probability = 1e-120 ? 10- Hoyle was so convinced he invented a panspermia model pushing the problem of new genes out into the cosmos admitting it’s still a problem 11- Since Hoyle’s work was verified and its only alternative worse for evolution of new genes his assertion that the neo-Darwinian theory of evolution is wrong is a *falsification!*
This simple concept, which John Donne recognized and immortalized in meditation 17 seems baffling to Ayn Rand and her followers. No man is an island, Entire of itself, Every man is a piece of the continent, A part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less. As well as if a promontory were. As well as if a manor of thy friend's Or of thine own were: Any man's death diminishes me, Because I am involved in mankind, And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; It tolls for thee.
Have a closer look at the human genome and the entirety of the package it presents. It was 'designed' to produce alphas, from the qualities of alphas (courage, resilience, seeking achievement and sociability) in a self-contained package that because there is no 'creator' we have had to unlock this reality from the jaws of ignorance. Everything we can be is in there, and apart from genetic misfires some of which are permanent like damaged transcription factors (in the ovum), it is all we have. BTW our instincts are pre-arranged thought processes, it is a powerful base from a very tiny start. Robert Sapolsky's lectures is the TH-cam way to go about it.
Kindness is a human anthropocentric concept and this video is making a joke out of psychological behavioralism and evolutionary psychology. 1:30 Especially this point. Has zero application or sensibility.
This hasn’t solved the issue. All you’ve done is explain why kindness is actually beneficial for survival and reproduction. Kindness is doing something beneficial for others with the no intent or desire to receive anything beneficial in return. The kindness you are referring to is actually self centered because it is for your own benefit to survive and reproduce.
If you asked me twenty years ago I would definitely try to save another, even at my own risk. Now, never gonna happen. Humanity is undeserving of my empathy yet alone long term survival. We deserve extinction.
I love my children, but that is not because I am eager to preserve my genes. I don't give a damn about what happens to my genes. My genes are as much disconnected from "me" as a strangers. I am an ousider/stranger trapped in this universe. That is why I am curious about it and is always searching for frontiers, physical or intellectual. I know I don't belong here and I know I will go back there. That is why I believe soul and God.
This is so silly. Regardless of having brains, self destruction is such a dumb behavior that doesn't matter how much our brains would like it to be so, this behavior would eventually weed out any genetics that have us even considering the possibility. To think about it is perfectly fine, but push comes to shovel, to act on it is so rare that people that can actually do this is often praised as heroes. Too bad they wont live to pass on their hero genes.
Unless they already passed on their genes. Also, once the example of what you call heroism is given, it inspires others to do the same, such that enough people doing so increase your odds of surviving to pass on your genes.
@@mikeg8028 think statistically and long term, and you'll realize any decreased chance to pass on an individual's genes, eventually will result in those genes being phased out. Even recessive genes will sooner or later be gone if they reduce the likelihood of being replicated.
Why do I get the overwhelming impression that he doesn't know much more than a layman with access to Wikipedia about this topic 🤣 I could go on for a long time about the contradictions, apples to oranges comparisons, and even word mispronunciations I heard in this video...
Darwinian thinking is not a science which disproves traditional theology. If kindness increases our chances of survival then Christianity has proven the Darwinian way of thinking correct , if you look at it's flip side Darwinian thinking acknowledges that Christianity ✝️ is part of evolutionary science as is kindness. Jesus Christ healed and sacrificed his life so that we may be forgiven thereby giving human's the evolutionary advantage of survival.
Growing up, I was taught "to be kind" in school...
Slowly maturing into what I am today, I realized that we should not just "be" but "see."
To "see" kindness and appreciate it when others share it.
So don't be offended when someone offers a seat for you, or a hand when in trouble. 🤣👌
This comment is great ✨
For a long time I've been stressed, depressed and insecure, which led me to live in a socially awkward and very self-conscious, almost egotistical way.
The more I gain maturity, the more I see kindness as a logical way to feel safe around others.
Kindness and compassion for everyone makes you instantly feel good and make people lower their defenses around you, smile and relax. Wherever you go, you feel safe, because treating strangers like friends make them treat you likewise. Those who don't treat you that way, you know they're in pain or hurting. As long as you remember that, you can't take it personally, because you know you've been kind to them and you're probably not the problem.
Living this way makes your social anxiety drop and it opens the way for feeling fulfilled and safe anywhere you go.
I feel like we are wired for this.
Love is the answer.
I couldn't have worded it better. Being empathetic to each other and doing what's logical aren't mutually exclusive, quite the contrary. More people need to understand this, but for that, they first need to understand and accept that they are hurting. Only then we can begin to heal.
This is so true! My other observation is that the more kindness you show, the more people around you will taste what it is, and will respond in kinder ways, spreading it further and further to their connections.
In a way kindness is like a virus, but bearing only benefits to hosts and their environment.
Thank you for doing all the work for yourself! It's very inspiring ✨
What about the people you smile at, but they just ignore you or look at you mad or angry? 🤔
@@user-mj6qr2ky9d I believe that if you smiled because it was genuine, you should feel confident that you just gifted something very precious to the other person.
Never give anything expecting to receive something back. Give to give. Otherwise, it's not a gift, it's a manipulation tactic.
The other person might be surprised, shy, depressed, angry, preoccupied... whatever the reason they didn't smile back immediately, know that your smile will make it's way through somehow.
It can't hurt and you have no idea who/how much it might help.
@@roankai 100% agree. ♡
one time someone's safety glasses flew off and i caught them and returned it to him and he was absolutely shocked that someone was kind enough to do that, big cities ruin kindness so much so that little things like that seem alien to us now
On a certain level, we have a drug store in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.
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I have no f idea what you’re saying.
@@Showmetheevidence-same !!!!
But im trying i swear
this is copied and pasted from another big think video
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I can't say I would sacrifice myself for a stranger, not because I'm selfish, but rather that I have a family and my responsibility to care for them supercedes my inclination to save a stranger. But I also suppose it would depend on the circumstance.
selfish POS ^
I'm not real certain that I would but I think I would I don't have any kids or a significant other and I don't really want to continue the genes that I have I'm type 1 diabetic and probably the world is better without that disease
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I think most people would not. In theory a lot would say yes/maybe, but in practice they would just stand there and watch as most people usually do in these situations. Humans used to live in small family groups and as we developed new technologies and ways of living those family groups got bigger and bigger. Now you live in city's where 99.99% are strangers. But those technologically driven changes happened faster than our evolution as a species. So we might live in 'communities of thousands or millions, our willingness to sacrifice at our own expense is still predominantly reserved for our family and other close. The family groups Homo Sapiens, and other hominids before were build on. So even though we might think we have come so far from our hunter gathering days, deep down the fundamentals of what drives us haven't changed that much.
When we practice kindness either to other people or towards ourselves we can experience positive mental and physical changes through lowering stress levels and increasing the body's production of feel-good hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin.
Cooperation is actually the mark of evolution and NOT competition.
It is with cooperation between humans that we got to the moon and beyond. And I believe that despite current event the act of cooperation will carry us further and further.
I'm copying this comment. All love and peace.
One of the main arguments I've heard from religious people about not believing in god is that they believe religion is where all morality comes from, and if they didn't believe in god or jesus or allah or the great juju on top of the mountain that everyone would rape and kill and be mean to one another. Although I know wholeheartedly that is not the case and can provide them many examples, sometimes it's tough to articulate why morals exist beyond religious or societal laws. I appreciate this video very much for putting that into words. Thank you.
Great talk. I have the same opinion about human kind. Our thoughts can override emotional response. And in doing so a person gains a control of self that can be enlightening to previously unexplored areas of surrounding life
The moral code I found myself subscribing to after leaving an autocratic religion is, I think is best described as *egalitarian consequentialism.* _Consequenses,_ what's 'right' or 'wrong' is determined by the consequences of our thoughts, speech and actions, what's beneficial or harmful. And I'm not inherently superior or inferior to anyone else; we're all equals. It can get complicated. What's beneficial to one may be harmful to another, mandating an assessment of the degree of harm versus good, and to who and how... But it's also so much simpler than the religious moral codes many of us grew up with because most things we encounter in life are not good or bad. They just _are._
we are not equals. And there are reasons for religion other than moral codes.
I won't argue about everybody not being equals because like I said, _It can get complicated._ Life is like that. And yes, I agree religion is more that just codes of morality. I don't dismiss religion in general but do oppose those high-control ones that have many if not all the characteristics of a cult.
Just as the old, Confucian saying goes "Treat others the way you want to be treated." Kindness, for me, is ultimately what makes humans human, and how that differentiates us from our ancestors who used to survive in the wildness millions and millions of years ago.
In a wider sense, it may sound a bit idealistic, but it is with more kindness and less greed that we can make the world a better place, at least starting from those around us.
Thank you @BigThink. Thank you Paul Bloom. Love all you share & do. Greetings from Bolivia.
Very thought-filled presentation. Thank you.
This doesn't at all prove evolution. How does this prove that there has been species changes? Like a monkey into a human? This proves nothing of evolution. If anything, this backs up creationism even more.
@@seanA416 Please point out to the class where exactly in the title it says "Proof of evolution"... or "Proof that species change over time"... yeah, you won't find that very specific subject because that's not what he's talking about. He's talking about, as the title you obviously chose NOT to read, is "Evolution proves kindness."
@@ShitTot and evolution is false. So, how can that be the cause of kindness.
Selfish is a ideology we create in our mind. Is a normal thing to every individual and life organism to live for itself benefit. But human is a social species, we cooperate with each other to trade things and survive, to take care each others, for the sake of the species and individual... But competitive and evil also in our blood so we can harm others for our benefit.. So yeah, human can be selfish but also altruistic
I am inclined to believe that it isnt human nature that is selfish, but the circumstances of ones life, and as of late social medias, that conditions ones ideals and brain to be selfish.
Wholeheartedly agree with this. At least the actions of people
It is simple: A group with individuals willing to give their lives for the others has more probabilities of surviving in many situations than a group without such individuals. So evolution leads to this behavior, of course.
Hell yea we are smh is that a serious question??? We as a whole especially now, are freakin terrible! To our own and the rest of the planet smh its truly sad what we do to each other on a daily basis....senseless murders, physical/psychological harm planetary destrustion....its sad and the worst part is i feel its only going to get worse. We need to get this shit together as a whole until then even if it seems like we are progressing, were def not
There is great strength in kindness.
Inspiration is accepting what is true in ourselves instead of what we think evolution has caused us to be. Creation has made us kind like itself. We have brought that with us into the world . We have also made up a world of separation, guilt and distrust. We have within us teachers of both. We have to power to choose which teacher we listen to.
Raising kids to be kind is paramount. Personally, I loved super heroes and the values instilled in me by my parents and cartoons/anime drilled into me kindness. I have to go pick up the garbage on the street that no one picks up even though I'm insanely busy. I *have* to be friendly to complete strangers/staff in stores even on a day I'm almost miserable enough to hurt myself. Oh I can be mean too, to the family close enough to hurt me, so I'm no saint, but kindness is wired into me like the need for water. I guess I must need kindness so I give it. I'm pretty miserable these days though. My wife is so unkind to me. I can't stand it. That's probably why I went to Ukraine for 2 weeks within 1.5 months after the war started - needed to prove myself, needed to do something meaningful since my wife makes me feel so incompetent. I was just helping with supplies, nothing dangerous. Sorry I think I just sound like I'm bragging... I had a point.... Um I guess I think kids can be raised to value being kind to others even when they have nothing to give (when life is hard) and instill in them Resilience 2.0 - antifragility. Then after growing up, community needs to provide both challenging feedback along with emotional safety and encouragement to motivate the adult to remain that kind person cultivated as a child. An adult will struggle to hold onto that unless there are a couple of people in his/her life that dismisses their mistakes/failures and believes in them 100%.
We are absolutely a selfish creature. Not only do we place ourselves above every other lifeform on the planet, we place ourselves above each other. We behave as if we are the begin all and end all of everything, and we treat other life as if it's beneath us or more ignorant than us when in reality the vast majority of us are too ignorant to even begin to grasp the intelligence and capabilities of other than human lifeforms.
The "extraordinary examples of altruism" are not being created by the majority of the planet. Do we have to be selfish? No. We don't have to be. We choose to be. Using the altruism of others as a way to say we're not is a common cop out we've grown comfortable with as is the donation of money. Though it's true that those who have less tend to share more. Funny that, huh? I'm guessing it goes well with the recent video on suffering.
The thing is, looking at selfish as a bad word. Actually if we help our specie, our planet, and the life around us, for our benefit, at the end we all are going forward. We should make up a new word that describes selfishness as the wellbeing of everyone.
What exactly you have in mind? I would like to join that "place ourselves on top of each other" game or however you call it.
@@tomich20 That's just it though, isn't it? In order for us to truly prosper, the planet needs to. In order for the planet to organisms at all levels, including those too small for us to see need to. We are constantly disrupting and destroying ecosystems with our short sightedness and selfishness and our education system doesn't teach us to look beyond the obvious. We're very human centric without really even grasping what being human is. Instead we bestow upon ourselves these imaginary powers that make us "better" than everything else. Ironic, since if we were actually "caretakers" of the planet, we'd definitely be fired by now for the extremely poor job we do at it. I imagine many indigenous tribes have a word for what you're describing, but I don't know what it is. I am hoping that climate change is going to force us into a reality check and improve our society as a whole. If it doesn't and we're just going to continue like we are and become more and more egotistical and greedy, I'd rather us get wiped out so the rest of the species on the planet don't get their exit clause due to something we did. I'd prefer major social reform. 🦋
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@@ApAcVideoWatcher 👍☺️
Marvelous video
Thanks for speaking on this
Humanity is caring
Also, I think the ways in which we benefit from connection with others is still being explored. There are lovely advantages to being enmeshed in a community -- entangled, interwoven, tuned in -- that remain a bit mysterious.
Yes. We are.
Selfish - I'm not. I have good friends😊 but it's not emphasized by the mass media. So people think that selfishness=safety.
Oww it would be nice to meet you. You are different. ☺️
@@sdamlaify maybe we will in this or next life😘
@@ivangohome i think it is semantically anomalous to say next life. If you are in chronological counting you cant have next life.
@@ivangohome and if we meet this life, i will just like myself as you.
Thank you. This is what I needed today. ❤
Well, its not even a question in my opinion, is logic.
Even the most altruist acgion we make it because it makes us feel good
We should be kind to EVERY kind!
Including non-human animals as well…
Stop SPECIESISM!
We are 99% genetically related. To help others is to help family.
Yes my brother, you nailed it.
Only white people think this way.
I’ll try…Guess I’m always hyper vigilant about the sociopathic narcissists who are experts at pretending to be kind…Humans soft underbelly…That groom with kindness then go in for the kill…Past experience…I know I chose to be around those types and out of deep insecurities…Now…What to do with this many years in the making cynical (one liners, zingers and comebacks) defense system.👨🎓
Great video. Thank you for sharing your knowledge!
I love kindness
Who doesn't
Explaining kindness isn’t the problem. We have plenty of reasons to be kind. The problem is trying to justify that kind ness. Sure, kindness promotes the healthiness of a group and in turn increases the chances that group would survive and reproduce. But does that mean that it is right? Why does it matter if a group is more likely to survive and reproduce?
absolutely agree! thanks for the nice interview!
We care for others for our own benefit, that is why society needs some sort of religion, to teach people to think of others as well or else pay the price in an afterlife. But without a religion it is very difficult for Humans to care for others if there is no win-win situation.
By ''selflessly'' helping other people society views you as a great person, since we are a group animal, that benefits us. Many ''selfless'' acts are actually selfish when you dig deeper into the psychy.
Nope. It’s just you that thinks that way. Your handle tells us all we need to know about you. Religion is a blight on humanity. Get real we’re smarter than that.
If we were just free floating non-physical forms there would be no drive towards selfishness - look at "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs". Acting unselfishly must be the path to something greater.
People usually help others for self satisfaction, they enjoy helping others because it makes them happy or feel good doing it. That in itself is selfish, some level of selfishness is inevitable as an individual so I don't think one can simply write it off as black or white. We are selfish, however that doesn't mean we cannot be kind and altruistic.
to be honest, no. Not every act of kindness is done for the sake of self satisfaction. In fact, putting myself in the place of others, where i imagine their feelings in certain situations, be it poverty, i get the urge to help, not because i'll feel well after it, but because i felt their situation imaginatively. For example, let's say im outside taking a walk, and while enjoying myself i see these teenagers hurting a small bird, they are torturing him, and by that i get the thought:"What's the fault of the bird? Why should it be treated like that and it doesn't know why too?" Then suddenly i get the urge to go and help it. Not because i'll get a sense of satisfaction but because i put myself in the place of the bird and i don't want anyone to feel like that... There are definitely situations where you help because you'll feel better after it, but a moment of introspection and empathy where you use your mind to introspect on their situation is enough to be a fully altruistic act.
Very interesting. There is a difference between genes and organisms. Genes are selfish. It can still be helpful to the propagation of selfish genes for their host organism to evolve altruistic behaviors.
Check out multi-level selection and you will find that the most current evolution science has moved beyond a gene-centric model.
Oh boy ....this is emotional 🧡 ....
Could only hope if we all humans become more sensitive and kind ...in this everlasting evolving World.
But Reality is this is extremely Ruthless n Cruel World we live in , so the genuine people around us , (who care for us are Angles , figure out , look around you carefully ) b Honest with them 🧡
To be honest, it turned into an inspirational speech when attempting to explain how a non utilitarian morality could exist with evolution.
Still not satisfied by it.
We often know what's right or wrong but we don't always follow it which seems like there is something more to morality than what we are "inclined" to do.
We humans are way to quick to judge other humans and other species by our own yard-rule.
Limited sources make people care less. An immortal has enough time to care.
Of course, given that an immortal has others to care for. Or maybe it is just selfcare for an immortal. A very selfish immortal that one would be. A lonely selfish immortal caring herself in entirety of time. So boring.
I like to think i can think. 🤤 i like possibility of me thinking. ☺️
I like possibility of me being a styracosaurus more. Not boring. 🤤 i understand kids. ☺️
Sooo i am not as selfish as i should be. Very depressing 🤡
Sooo i was also wondering if the universe is expanding or shrinking? If it is expanding, i may not see a raptor all my life or any other life form, it will be like i am living on an island.
Totally disagree! In a capitalist economy it's become abnormal to be kind. If you look deep enough, you will find that the only unselfish love we get in our lives, if we were lucky enough, is parental love. And even that is selfish, as we see our children, even if adopted, as an extension of ourselves. It's how we defeat death. It also gives us some sort of gratification that we feel needed, to provide love or care or food...etc.
I don't think that has anything to do with capitalism, but rather more to do with the cultural shift of shying away from traditional western values. Where there is a society that values "golden rule" style ethics, you have inherent altruism. Capitalism isn't a driving force, in my opinion.
Even reciprocal altruism is ultimately selfish, but if it increases kindness, it doesn't really matter if selfish or not at the root does it? Altruism is like consciousness to me - an emergent property rather than being "designed for something".
I don't think it's black and white. Selfishness, to me at least, implies that you don't care about other people. Even if you do benefit from reciprocal altruism, you can be both happy to help others and happy to receive benefits at the same time. That doesn't seem to be inherently selfish, more of a win/win than anything else.
love the way you worded it!@@garretlevi
Yes. We act like we own the Earth. But actually, it's the opposite.
It is difficult taking this in given what we've all experienced the last few years in which hate has often prevailed. Clearly, not everyone is capable to being kind to those who don't look like them, attend their church or are part of their political party. We are the poorer for those divisions.
habit it's a wonderful tool that if it's not managed correctly in a reasonable way, it can turn against us )
stay strong wherever you are.
To answer the title question... I will never sacrifice my own life just for a complete random stranger because I don't even fucking know the person. the person could be a psychopath or did some serious crimes or could be a kindhearted soul, the only person i know is myself so then i choose myself instead of that stranger.
you don't know your genes unless you've been in the said environment
yes
A nice thought. Not much more than that though for both practical and philosophical reasons.
Sharing has never been the strong suit of our species.
Is it same for saying the one who fears most, is most feared ugly? Dragons for instance. They were really afraid once. Like real afraid. Then they got ugly and big and peculiar. This is only a theory though. ☺️🤤
I am looking for a team to help me with this theory. You can think of it like "going to live in mars" invitations. ☺️ if you are sensitive and fear a lot and you spend a few hundred thousand years that way, you become real ugly and everyone is afraid of you.
Kindness is fear..we are kind because we fear.. thus we have dragons. Buddha for instance is a dragon and he lives the same life all the time. Boring 🤤 he has a very strong suit. Actually bullet proof in a way. Since he lives the same life all the time.
He lives the life of a bullet as i said before. But actually he is a dragon and he is not me..because we call him buddha. 🤤🤡 obviously.
No people are generally kind so much so that it is easy for the unkind ones to take advantage of that benefit of the doubt to their own ends but they are the minority if everyone were like that we wouldn't have a whole society going on
YES, 1000% no doubt
By and large our species is not selfish but our genes are, according to Richard Dawkins’s _Selfish Gene._
*_Without love and sense of humor life is meaningless._* 💕☮🌎🌌
What is love though? Maybe it is selfcare
Maybe love is meeting someone who has strange ideas who can think of different possibilities other than either an expanding or shrinking universe. Because that would be boring
I think love is humour we have an excess of words everywhere. 🤤☺️
Btw. Life is meaningless. Scientifically proved. ☺️
We are not
Notice how he completely didn't answer the question of why people do sacrifice themselves for other's. He just said some fancy words to make it look like he answered and to confuse late people who just listen and follow without thinking critically.
Except in China! There is a controversial theory that Chinese people caught on camera stepping over their own people who have been hit by cars! One school of thought it they are so populous deep down they feel they don’t have to compete with another person for resources! That’s been studied extensively
Ofcourse...
Anyone going down the memory lane whilst watching the video?
If the kindness exist without the positive reinforcement (money or other benefit that a person can get from the action) it will be a true kindness, imho 🤔
Sean Carrol is right, kindness is pretty cool
Evolution transcends the theory itself . It's selfish , but it's selfless , it's aggressive or submissive , it's cruel and it's kind ,
it's slow or it's fast , it's fragile and robust ' or simply a platitude of speculations to address the endless contradictions
made to support it.
We are one…
Did you change the title? Oh, ok. Lots of things to talk about yet again. 🤤 so you are asking as if we have a choice on that? ☺️
I liked my comment again. We constantly sacrifice ourselves for a stranger if you pay a close attention. You sacrifice yourself for a stranger version of you. It is a stranger to your now self all the time.
If i had choice, i would still do it. Die for a stranger, i mean .. and then i would remake myself. Since i have choice, i can do that, too, right?☺️ buuut i am not sure if it is matter of choice even if i have choice to remake myself or if it is unavoidable. Because there is a heaven above us. And it is pretty much unavoidable.
Maybe i would remake myself as a magical deer, as the spirit of the forest 🤤 yay. i like this environment. 🦌
Until humanity develops a hive mind society where the greater good is all that matters, there is no way strangers will die for each other.
what do you mean? What about the firefighters who die while on duty? Or the nurses and doctors who are continuously getting infected during the pandemic? Even personally i know a lot of people who died trying to save others. It might not be common, but it happens.
But they do die for each other. Not everyone, but some do
the power of kindness can overlap the rationality
People has evolved to be impartial or reasonable. Why? Where this value came from the time of human creation?
I think the problem is that if morality is subjective, then this whole discussion becomes redundant. A subjective morality means that all means for survival are equally legitimate, whether it involves relationships or not. But I think there is an inherent 'correctness' to peace and orderliness.
Talking about looking lost and attracting help. That only works if your an attractive young woman.
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SIR FRED HOYLE Falsified Evolution:
1- Fred Hoyle FRS (24 June 1915 - 20 August 2001) was an English astronomer who formulated the theory of stellar nucleosynthesis and also an atheist
2- In 1987 he wrote ‘Mathematics of Evolution’ concluding the Darwinian theory is false (accepted micro-evolution)
3- What Hoyle showed was that novel genes for new proteins could not possibly have evolved by the Darwinian process of natural selection;
4- _“Well as common sense would suggest, the Darwinian theory is correct in the small but not in the large. Rabbits come from slightly different rabbits...”_
5- Even assuming 95% of the genome is junk and the code is 30% redundant could not save evolution
6- Concerning new genes _“Where they came from in the first place is a problem yet to be solved, like much else of a cosmic scale.”_
7- In 2018 TB. Fowler reviewed Hoyle's Critique of Neo-Darwinian Theory and said _“The conclusion is that while Hoyle's mathematics is impeccable, and thus his critique based on them has merit, he did not carry his own reasoning far enough and specifically failed to consider the possibility of large variations in selective value.”_
8- Hoyle did not consider large variations because he knew the obvious negative effect on probability of beneficial change only magnifies the problem; Hoyle
9- _“we have a case in histone-4 where more than 200 base pairs are conserved across the whole of biology? The problem for the neo-Darwinian theory is to explain how the one particular arrangement came to be discovered in the first place. Evidently not by a random process"_ The probability = 1e-120 ?
10- Hoyle was so convinced he invented a panspermia model pushing the problem of new genes out into the cosmos admitting it’s still a problem
11- Since Hoyle’s work was verified and its only alternative worse for evolution of new genes his assertion that the neo-Darwinian theory of evolution is wrong is a *falsification!*
I would, but not on purpose.
Altruism has also been observed in the Animal Kingdom.
This simple concept, which John Donne recognized and immortalized in meditation 17 seems baffling to Ayn Rand and her followers.
No man is an island,
Entire of itself,
Every man is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thy friend's
Or of thine own were:
Any man's death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind,
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.
Are we dumb?
No. We are only beautiful.
And i am not beautiful with you, i am ugly, too 🤤 very very ugly. ☺️
Well either I’m crazy or my comment was for another video
@@Jedry.s which one? Do you remember that? I would like to watch another one ☺️
I don't think DARWINISM & MORALITY can go hand in hand
I think some belive peoples which they never seen to much
God created ever and any thing u see and don't
Nope death is one’s destiny I would salute to them after they died
opening statement: it's of the animals "benefit" to be kind..self interest lol
Animals can be altruistic too
Uh no
No
Have a closer look at the human genome and the entirety of the package it presents. It was 'designed' to produce alphas, from the qualities of alphas (courage, resilience, seeking achievement and sociability) in a self-contained package that because there is no 'creator' we have had to unlock this reality from the jaws of ignorance. Everything we can be is in there, and apart from genetic misfires some of which are permanent like damaged transcription factors (in the ovum), it is all we have. BTW our instincts are pre-arranged thought processes, it is a powerful base from a very tiny start.
Robert Sapolsky's lectures is the TH-cam way to go about it.
Whatcha talkin bout Willis?
Individuality is valuable, not communism
I still fail to understand that how evolution explains morality and life sacrifice in this world of survival.
I don’t mind being kind…Just hate being “told” to be kind…Seems controlling and trite when told by others.🧛♂️
Confirmation
A.G.I Will be man's last invention
Kindness is a human anthropocentric concept and this video is making a joke out of psychological behavioralism and evolutionary psychology.
1:30 Especially this point. Has zero application or sensibility.
This hasn’t solved the issue. All you’ve done is explain why kindness is actually beneficial for survival and reproduction. Kindness is doing something beneficial for others with the no intent or desire to receive anything beneficial in return. The kindness you are referring to is actually self centered because it is for your own benefit to survive and reproduce.
If you asked me twenty years ago I would definitely try to save another, even at my own risk. Now, never gonna happen. Humanity is undeserving of my empathy yet alone long term survival. We deserve extinction.
I love my children, but that is not because I am eager to preserve my genes. I don't give a damn about what happens to my genes. My genes are as much disconnected from "me" as a strangers. I am an ousider/stranger trapped in this universe. That is why I am curious about it and is always searching for frontiers, physical or intellectual. I know I don't belong here and I know I will go back there. That is why I believe soul and God.
Well, I couldn't comprehend the topic, maybe my altruistic genes aren't that well formed
This is so silly.
Regardless of having brains, self destruction is such a dumb behavior that doesn't matter how much our brains would like it to be so, this behavior would eventually weed out any genetics that have us even considering the possibility. To think about it is perfectly fine, but push comes to shovel, to act on it is so rare that people that can actually do this is often praised as heroes. Too bad they wont live to pass on their hero genes.
Unless they already passed on their genes. Also, once the example of what you call heroism is given, it inspires others to do the same, such that enough people doing so increase your odds of surviving to pass on your genes.
@@mikeg8028 think statistically and long term, and you'll realize any decreased chance to pass on an individual's genes, eventually will result in those genes being phased out. Even recessive genes will sooner or later be gone if they reduce the likelihood of being replicated.
Dawkins has been real quiet since this dropped.
the only species that came down from the tree were the English
Why do I get the overwhelming impression that he doesn't know much more than a layman with access to Wikipedia about this topic 🤣 I could go on for a long time about the contradictions, apples to oranges comparisons, and even word mispronunciations I heard in this video...
Darwinian thinking is not a science which disproves traditional theology. If kindness increases our chances of survival then Christianity has proven the Darwinian way of thinking correct , if you look at it's flip side Darwinian thinking acknowledges that Christianity ✝️ is part of evolutionary science as is kindness. Jesus Christ healed and sacrificed his life so that we may be forgiven thereby giving human's the evolutionary advantage of survival.
Kin selection has lost a great deal of footing.
Kindness is just a way for people to feel good about themselves. The amount of selfishness in the world speaks for itself