"I skipped a few meals and I sat through the hunger & I realized it felt good to punish myself. I felt like it was just retribution for my flaws and my wrongdoings. But, it couldn't get rid of my self hatred" 6:05
I’ve lived in and out of remission with anorexia for 33 years. This statement is so accurate, and it’s so emotional. I’m out of remission yet again, but reaching out to family and my psychiatrist. Secrets CAN end up killing us.😔
"We collectively are both the problem and the solution. When we engage in competitive, mindless, and self absorbed behaviors, we ignore our own deep needs and the needs of others." 18:20
My son has recovered from anorexia nervosa.. My understanding of the inherited personality ''type'' called Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder equipped me to understand him. Once he knew he was understood he eased off to a certain extent. He used humour in many instances to get him through.. Where the need for perfection exists shame is never far away.
How is he now ?I hope he's fully recovered. Can u tell me plz How can I tell my mum that I'm suffering? I'm afraid she can't understand and support me, that will put on me a huge pressure.....
@@illusions8675 Sorry I took so long to reply, I don't often check my responses. My son still follows a strict vegan diet and still has trouble dealing in social situations, feeling he's not good enough and is a very bad person. He suffers from depression but he's determined to recover without medication. He is blessed with intelligence but cannot see that. I understand his personality type so don't worry too much as I know it lessens with age. If I could advise your mother I'd ask her to research Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder that is a different diagnosis from OCD. I prefare to call it a personality type rather than a disorder. You may like to find out about it too as it helps to know it's just how you are and not something that needs fixed. Wishing you and your mother every understanding and know that there is nothing new on this earth when it come to how humans are created. People with this personality type are a gift to many areas of life...especially when it comes to detail and understanding. xx
Wow. Listening to her, she appears to be a highly sensitive, ethical, and compassionate person. I really admire people like that and it seems mind boggling that these amazing people can doubt their self worth so deeply. On the other hand, I find her struggles so very relatable. It’s weird how easy it is to put ourselves down instead of showing kindness like we would for others.
It's so refreshing to hear the vulnerable and deep nature, the complicated and wounded self that is activated through eating disorder behavior. Thank you for your courage...
I had Goosebumps all the way through. Wow she speaks incredibly beautifully and amazing. Never heard of Anorexia as like a god before. I can relate to so much of what she says. Amazing beautiful woman !!! 💜💜💜
Great speech! I survived of anorexia too and i know how hard and almost impossible to fought it. Thanks for sharing! It was very interesting to listen to somebody else's experience.
Halfway through, I began to hear her earring scrape against the microphone cord. Could not stop hearing it. However, this speech was incredibly moving and insightful. Lovely.
I heard it within the first three minutes and it’s driving me insane. As someone who has a very hard time focusing- this shouldn’t be taken as an insult that her speech wasn’t captivating or insightful- I just became so fixated on the earring that it was almost like the earring was screaming over her the entire speech. I wish I could tune it out :(
In some ways my values are very, very different from Elizabeth's. At the same time I profited very, very greatly from listening to Elizabeth's candor and to her story. I am grateful to have heard this talk. Thank you for it.
Yea unrequited feelings pushed me to the edge of self hatred and not wanting to eat and want I g to change myself. Still dealing with it everyday and it still affects me everyday
Im trying to help my girl out by learing as much as i can and to fully understand what anorexia is so that i can help and take care of her not to ever feel alone/invisible , everytime i learn more it really helps so much with knowing what kind of things she''s going through and and what she needs and it makes me worry so much cause she's hurting and i promise im going to be right by her side every step of the way to get through this 😣 this video made me think so much about her cause some of the things she says in a way matches exactly how she felt and this video gave me so much information and will watch this video to use as my guide for everything while i keep learning and discovering and wont stop until she's truly happy😣
I hope all the best for her 🥺🤍 She's really lucky to have someone can understand her . For me I'm also suffering from Anorexia, but I'm afraid if I told my mum she won't understand me , that will be a huge pressure on me , so I prefer not telling her anything
You are a true warrior. I'm one of those who fully recovered and I am a dietitian now. Anorexia is an endless nightmare. From the bottom of my heart I wish your daughter get well soon. Life is too short to suffer.
Wow I can relate so so much. I too attended the University of Chicago too! After suffering for over 20+ years with anorexia I know only too well the devastation of the disease and the love of friends that keeps me afloat.
It's inaccurate to say "We are all suffering from a type of anorexia". That's like saying "we all have schizophrenia" or "we all have cancer". Sure, we all have struggles and will likely all have to recover from something, but that's not the same as us all having anorexia.
I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in the name of Jesus." And he has been believing God is real ever since. He believes God has a plan for his life now. I thank God for His awesome power can change anyone. The name of Jesus is so powerful.
@@venus_valentine_xo if someone has anorexia they are in need of a spiritual change or realization called salvation so we have to pray for their salvation which is also called being born again. The bible teaches on this.
@Ploof Poof yeah that's what my brother said too so I guess I will just be glad for what I have seen and heard in my own experiences. That's why I talked about it cuz I was trying to help others realize how people can be changed by God's grace.
@Ploof Poof I had anorexia when I was a teenager. It was very difficult for me. So sorry that you feel that way about what I wrote. I understand that too, I didn't like people pushing Christianity onto me either until I understood it. I can respect that don't worry. I hope the best for you n take care.
They eat normal food. People think that anorexics hate food, but that’s so wrong. They are obsessed with food but often think that they do not deserve it. For me, my “ food happiness “ disappeared because I was so depressed, and I was so depressed because I was underweight. But anorexics eat as said normal food, but they often eat foods with less calories. Rice cakes, plain salads etc.
"I was an atheist, who needed a religion and anorexia became my god."
"I skipped a few meals and I sat through the hunger & I realized it felt good to punish myself. I felt like it was just retribution for my flaws and my wrongdoings. But, it couldn't get rid of my self hatred" 6:05
Your beautiful u don’t need to suffer to get there
Such a great metaphor because even people without an eating disorder can relate to that sometimes. Helped me understand it more
I’ve lived in and out of remission with anorexia for 33 years. This statement is so accurate, and it’s so emotional. I’m out of remission yet again, but reaching out to family and my psychiatrist. Secrets CAN end up killing us.😔
The hunger pains do feel kinda gud tho.
That’s heavy! My younger self can relate!
This is such a good explanation of eating disorders.
Rita Labarbera she helpful so much
Fantastic talk.... my son nearly died from anorexia... three years later, he still suffers but is slowly getting better.
Is he still working toward recovery?
how is he?
I'm happy to hear this
how is your son now?
I cried three times while watching this. This Tedx Talk has touched me unlike any other. Thank you for sharing your story with the world.
"We collectively are both the problem and the solution. When we engage in competitive, mindless, and self absorbed behaviors, we ignore our own deep needs and the needs of others." 18:20
loveisanopendoor anorexia she get in your head and make u feel like nothing
My son has recovered from anorexia nervosa.. My understanding of the inherited personality ''type'' called Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder equipped me to understand him. Once he knew he was understood he eased off to a certain extent. He used humour in many instances to get him through.. Where the need for perfection exists shame is never far away.
Magz Sara he is beautiful we all are beautiful
How is he now ?I hope he's fully recovered.
Can u tell me plz How can I tell my mum that I'm suffering? I'm afraid she can't understand and support me, that will put on me a huge pressure.....
@@illusions8675 Sorry I took so long to reply, I don't often check my responses. My son still follows a strict vegan diet and still has trouble dealing in social situations, feeling he's not good enough and is a very bad person. He suffers from depression but he's determined to recover without medication. He is blessed with intelligence but cannot see that. I understand his personality type so don't worry too much as I know it lessens with age. If I could advise your mother I'd ask her to research Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder that is a different diagnosis from OCD. I prefare to call it a personality type rather than a disorder. You may like to find out about it too as it helps to know it's just how you are and not something that needs fixed. Wishing you and your mother every understanding and know that there is nothing new on this earth when it come to how humans are created. People with this personality type are a gift to many areas of life...especially when it comes to detail and understanding. xx
It feels like I listened to a part of my life. I related so much. Thank you.
applecinnamon me too
This was very moving, what an articulate and deeply introspective woman she is.
wow. she describes the feeling so perfectly
“I starved myself because I needed to survive” 6:45
This is deep
Psychologists listen up. This girl knows her stuff.
That’s my cousin
Lisa Turnbull yeas she does and she will not be silent
She certainly does 🤗
I,m all ears!
nope.
This is incredibly insightful. She chronicled my journey through ED perfectly.
This all feels too real. Explained feelings I didn't understand or know I had exactly
Yes. Yes. Yes. As a recovered anorexic, you described what we deal with so well! ❤️
Wow. Listening to her, she appears to be a highly sensitive, ethical, and compassionate person. I really admire people like that and it seems mind boggling that these amazing people can doubt their self worth so deeply. On the other hand, I find her struggles so very relatable. It’s weird how easy it is to put ourselves down instead of showing kindness like we would for others.
It's so refreshing to hear the vulnerable and deep nature, the complicated and wounded self that is activated through eating disorder behavior. Thank you for your courage...
Brought a tear to my eye. Very insightful and personal talk.
Thank you for your open, beautiful honesty. Needed a reminder today of why I am on a path of recovery!
proud of u
Never have I heard a better explanation of what I was going through. Thank you for this.
you are my hero! this was the first time i realised how my own disordered behaviours manifested x
I had Goosebumps all the way through. Wow she speaks incredibly beautifully and amazing. Never heard of Anorexia as like a god before. I can relate to so much of what she says. Amazing beautiful woman !!! 💜💜💜
I think you're a great public speaker. You're very articulate and interesting to listen to. Take care.
I heard the influence of the University of Chicago in this talk. Well done.
I am so glad I got to meet you in Sosc. You are such a strong, inspiring individual.
Love how you speak! From the mind,heart & experience. Plenty of class. This young lady is destined to go far in life I feel! WOW!!!
Great speech! I survived of anorexia too and i know how hard and almost impossible to fought it. Thanks for sharing! It was very interesting to listen to somebody else's experience.
NAILED IT! Thank you for your courage and your vulnerability. You are surely changing this world with your positive presence. Thank you
Halfway through, I began to hear her earring scrape against the microphone cord. Could not stop hearing it. However, this speech was incredibly moving and insightful. Lovely.
Alex Kirkvold why did you have to point that out Dx now i can't stop hearing it
I heard it within the first three minutes and it’s driving me insane. As someone who has a very hard time focusing- this shouldn’t be taken as an insult that her speech wasn’t captivating or insightful- I just became so fixated on the earring that it was almost like the earring was screaming over her the entire speech. I wish I could tune it out :(
Thank you for sharing your life, Elizabeth. ❤️
It can give your life meaning when nothing else does, it can give you control when you have no control over anything else
In some ways my values are very, very different from Elizabeth's. At the same time I profited very, very greatly from listening to Elizabeth's candor and to her story. I am grateful to have heard this talk. Thank you for it.
Thank you so much Elisabeth. Thank you.
I felt like she was describing my teen years when she was describing the start of her own eating disorder
Yea unrequited feelings pushed me to the edge of self hatred and not wanting to eat and want I g to change myself. Still dealing with it everyday and it still affects me everyday
Most inspiring talk ever.
This was so beautiful. Much of this felt so similar to my own story. We are not alone♡
I’ve never heard a better explanation
Very beautiful and well stated! This was such a wonderful and inspiring story!
i wrote a whole paper on this topic, how food media has religious overtones
I'd love to read that!
Me too! I have anorexia right now and would be very interested in your essay :)
Did you post it somewhere online? It sounds like an interesting topic and I'd love to read it
@@jendizzlerz post your essay!!!
I want to read the paperrr
wowowow this is probably the most insightful talk on eating disorder recovery ive seen yet
That was great Elisabeth! New Yorkers stopped to listen; they're the Best.
Elizabeth is amazing. Thank you for sharing your story. It required a lot of courage to do so.
Thanks for sharing, I loved to hear your story. You´re an incredibly inspiring woman and I respect you a lot!
This was a very moving talk, thank you for your openness.
You are an amazing inspirational person. Thank you for sharing your incredible journey x
This is it. Someone finally got it right.
Im trying to help my girl out by learing as much as i can and to fully understand what anorexia is so that i can help and take care of her not to ever feel alone/invisible , everytime i learn more it really helps so much with knowing what kind of things she''s going through and and what she needs and it makes me worry so much cause she's hurting and i promise im going to be right by her side every step of the way to get through this 😣 this video made me think so much about her cause some of the things she says in a way matches exactly how she felt and this video gave me so much information and will watch this video to use as my guide for everything while i keep learning and discovering and wont stop until she's truly happy😣
I hope all the best for her 🥺🤍
She's really lucky to have someone can understand her .
For me I'm also suffering from Anorexia, but I'm afraid if I told my mum she won't understand me , that will be a huge pressure on me , so I prefer not telling her anything
You are a true warrior. I'm one of those who fully recovered and I am a dietitian now. Anorexia is an endless nightmare. From the bottom of my heart I wish your daughter get well soon. Life is too short to suffer.
This girl is seriously good...
Beautifully shared ... fabulous powerful points made. 🙏
i relate to this so much xx thank you x
This is amazing and i needed to hear this_ This articulates it well
Wowwww so relatable!!! It was as though you were reading my journals. Thank you for this
this was amazing. so relatable .
It IS about control…It’s also an addiction…just my opinion though, respectfully 💗 This woman is amazing. 🙏🏻💙
made me emotional, amazing talk ❤
amazing. definitely resonated with me.
You put it to the point!!!
Wow I can relate so so much. I too attended the University of Chicago too! After suffering for over 20+ years with anorexia I know only too well the devastation of the disease and the love of friends that keeps me afloat.
Beautifully done!
Dont have an eating disorder but still relate to this ladys talk.We are all suffering from a type of anorexia. Thank you for this chat.
It's inaccurate to say "We are all suffering from a type of anorexia". That's like saying "we all have schizophrenia" or "we all have cancer". Sure, we all have struggles and will likely all have to recover from something, but that's not the same as us all having anorexia.
Betty, you are so brave..... ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I just binged after fasting all week 😢
The only control I have is over my attitude (c) I love it!
She is really inspiring 💖
Addiction!
oh she gets it
Wow this is so accurate, similar to my story..btw is her name really Huh? that's pretty awesome :D
Elisabeth Huh^
That’s my cousin
I have a friend who runs a global company centered on accessibility and inclusion for disabled people. Her last name is Ruh.
"I was an atheist and anorexia became my god" is the most poignant sentence I have ever heard
So true...
Perfection is non existence. Excellence can only be willed. Mastery, not tyranny.
Thank you for sharing! Your efforts will no doubt help many others.
I just wanna know if eating disorders coeld come and go?
Yes
amazing! thank you.
Love it💙🍀
2 of my bfs had ED’s without knowing it. I recognized the pattern because I struggle too.
I think I’m inlove
She's smart
I'm struggling with an eating disorder all I want is my body back I feel like I don't have control of my body I used to be eighty pounds
mwhy how old are you? Are you getting help?
Did you recover if yes could you help me😔
Thx q so much
Such great insight
That's my cousin
Oh
@@palaksaxena._.16 yep 😊
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IMSPEECHLESSILOVETHIS
Boy and girl can both have anorexia don’t discriminate don’t give one wether u suffering it still take over and distrust and destroys the body
I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in the name of Jesus." And he has been believing God is real ever since. He believes God has a plan for his life now. I thank God for His awesome power can change anyone. The name of Jesus is so powerful.
SierraSiennaSavahnaDesertNightSky 1985 and this has to do with the talk how?
@@venus_valentine_xo if someone has anorexia they are in need of a spiritual change or realization called salvation so we have to pray for their salvation which is also called being born again. The bible teaches on this.
@Ploof Poof yeah that's what my brother said too so I guess I will just be glad for what I have seen and heard in my own experiences. That's why I talked about it cuz I was trying to help others realize how people can be changed by God's grace.
@Ploof Poof I had anorexia when I was a teenager. It was very difficult for me. So sorry that you feel that way about what I wrote. I understand that too, I didn't like people pushing Christianity onto me either until I understood it. I can respect that don't worry. I hope the best for you n take care.
@Ploof Poof thank you, you have a good day too!
What did she eat when she was anorexic?
They eat normal food. People think that anorexics hate food, but that’s so wrong. They are obsessed with food but often think that they do not deserve it. For me, my “ food happiness “ disappeared because I was so depressed, and I was so depressed because I was underweight. But anorexics eat as said normal food, but they often eat foods with less calories. Rice cakes, plain salads etc.
HUH
I’m hungry right now
Elisabeth ... huh?