It is nice to hear someone else say they are shy and can't change that. People always tell me to stop being shy, but I have finally realized I can't just go and change my personality.
This!! I've also heard this all my life 🥲 that I should just stop being so shy, speak up more (in eg group settings) and be more social etc. And I always believed it, that it was wrong being like I am and that I had to change (or try to, since altering personality traits is soooo easy (not)). But I'm slowly coming to the same conclusion as you, that I simply am shy and that... that is alright :)
Talking about your shyness is dead on me like literally single everything you said. And I never thought that anyone felt like I did. Thanks for talking about this it’s such a relief to know it’s not just me.
I hated coloring because the markers were scratchy or came out streaky. I am OBSESSED with the Ohuhu markers Switching to bold, simple coloring books also made a huge difference for me. The super complicated adult coloring books are so overwhelming and I get upset when the markers bleed over the lines
Thank you SOOOO much for sharing the social struggles section in such detail. I think you just gave me some major insight into a loved one's struggles.
omgg morgan i totally feel u. like socializing on a whim is soo hard as an autistic human being, im just satisfied that i can go to a store and interact with the cashier or with the waiter at a restaurant because they're CONTROLLED environments. but when it comes to just socializing with someone or wanting to make a new friend... i just gotta pray someone has the balls to strike up a convo with me 😭 being an autistic woman in college is not for the weak🤧
I understand you so much. To communicate with some people it needs so much work. As one of conclusions in my life was that I just haven’t energy to pour it around and it’s more efficient to communicate with people who actively reciprocate or try to do, try to understand and share thoughts and emotions rather to wait that somebody would guess their thoughts, emotions, social or cultural cues. It’s efficient when both sides work on relationships rather only one side perform for both. Love your videos❤❤. So safe and calm. And overall you’re inspiring💖
I was just crying to my mum tonight about how stressed I was feeling like there’s not enough hours in the day to engage in my special interests and do other things and do restful, more calm hobbies and she just couldn’t understand and thinks I’m just obsessed with time, but it’s more worried about losing time with hyper focus, and questioning if I’m making the most of my time and wanting to create the perfect balanced routine…yeah it’s a whole thing that feels hard to explain to neuortypicals
This video is really really really helpful. It allows me to understand my boyfriend better, be kinder and understanding and it is a very cool, casual vlog, thankyou for this.
What you said in the Social Struggles section is what I've been struggling (ha) to articulate to others as I'm trying to help them understand my social hangups. I swear when I try, even I think it sounds like I'm being a whiny victim who doesn't want to try to make friends. But I've tried, for 34 years... As much as it sucks being alone, trying (and eventually failing) to make friends is 10x more painful. Why keep putting myself through that... :(
I love your vlogs! I find them so relatable as an audhder myself. Also the hobbies etc you have are literally the same as mine currently!! So it is so relaxing to watch ❤
I set alarms in my phone for my meds. I forgot regardless yesterday, because I got distracted getting ready to go out for dog training and remembered once I was out😡 I now have a small bag with a days worth of pills in a bag that always come with me. No matter what. I'll never be stuck not being able to take my meds if I forget now
Hey there is a little trick you can try: Give your dog (works also with cats!) a treat or play with him or feed him every day when you need to take your meds. You might forget, your phone might be dead but trust me, your dog or cat will let you know that you are about to forget something important. I've done this for the last eight years with my cats, and they are on point every single day
My least favorite errand to run is Costco. So big, so crowded, everyone is rushing, and they move everything. It's loud, walk in fridges suck, the carts are big, and people don't pay attention to where they're pushing them.
I love watching your content, on Instagram and on here! (I'm not on TikTok) and I have to say, I like these kinds of vlogs. 30 year old autistic and ADHD woman from Belgium ❤
I use a white board to write down when I take my medication during the day. It makes it so much easier for me if I don't have to think about it all the time. Another thing that works is setting an alarm on my phone or watch to remind me.
Re. the networking dilema: some other issues that come up with my brand of autism 1)My audio processing disorder (APD) is on the more severe side, which makes networking settings settings extra overwhelming as I can't filter out background chatter as well as neurotypicals. Some conferences I've attended, which is very common in my academia setting, also have used airhorns or other loud sounds to indicate moving on 2) Growing up, i had an authoritative parenting style on me, especially re. my neurodivergent behaviours. This included being shut down for 'interrupting.' This makes it such that now when I want to folks having a convo I just stand silently until i'm directly acknowledged and invited to speak. It also makes being interupted, including just overlapped speech, activate me to silence/submission. This sometimes includes background chatter like previously mentioned. This also makes me feel excluded from typically queer/neurodivergent spaces where bubbly/hyper-active voices are dominant or lack of pauses between responses are typical as I either get triggered into between silent or otherwise feel incapable of being allowed to speak ^This is another barrier for excelling in careers that culturally expect networking at conferencing with strangers as essentially a requirement to get ahead
Wow. I totally relate to this. I get bad anxiety around groups of people and mingling. At church, I get so confused about who I should talk to, so sometimes I dont talk to anyone and just want to leave early. Everyone seems to have red flags with me, and like you said, either the bubbly person will approach me or the sweet, popular person. Everytime I approach someone it is hit or miss if it goes well. If goes bad, I think about it all day and feel guilty for wasting someone's time. I dont know how to make it stop. I also have RBF and try to have a nuetral happy face but it is so hard. ❤😢😮
I've been coloring for years, I didn't realize I would love it so much until a former manager gave me a coloring sheet when I was working in a call center. Now I have a whole collection of coloring books. When I was a kid I used to draw but I haven't attempted that for a long time.
I would love a Video about hobbys 🥺 as an audhder myself, I start a hobby, get hyperfixated, then it doesn’t progress quick enough and I give up… the only thing I’m sticking to rn is bouldering. Even with that it’s either me flashing a boulder or trying two times max before I give up bc I can’t stay focused and try 😬
16:15 yes, yes, yes !! I would definitely love that ! 🤩😁 I myself had to realize that the way I work best is by myself, as an independent. I love creating arts content, I've been doing that since I was a child (I find that images for me is how I communicate better than words), and without surprise through time I ended up sharing it more and more publicly. So any advice or guidance you can share about being neurodivergence and creating content would be interesting to me ! 🌟☺️
Autistics need to be aware of how much wearing sunglasses can help in daily life. This will let you walk around and drive in your car, doing errands and such while PREVENTING people from making unnecessary and unwanted eye contact. You can move your eyes around freely in anyway you want without worrying about how you look to others.
I’ve recently had some thoughts about getting into content creation so a video like that would come at a perfect time. I currently do some TH-camr stuff on the side but it’s with someone else, so I would love to do something on my own
Okay, am into those markers now (after researching for more then an hour, but also need to sleep now😅)and need to know where I could get this absolutly cute hoodie (in europe...)🥰
I love your dog! I got myself an elderly black cat with white flecks three months ago, he reminds me of your doggo. But the main question is, is it a good boy or a good girl?
@@morgaanfoley :) please give her a treat from me. Hey would you give me an example for a question you could ask that "red flags" you? Or is it just a feeling you get that that's why people get overwhelmed with you?
You should do whatever gets you your win, but within reason/ without abandoning your authenticity. If smth's too much for 1, 2, n moments, then it's too much in those moments.
Yes, when you've got autism and ADHD and other medical conditions, you have to take three lots of tablets a day. I always seem to forget one of the tablets to take.
Sounds like what one of my Fibromyalgia flare-ups which causes, "brain fog", that's the terminology the doctors use. I have other neurological problems where I'll drop things repeatedly like my cup will just slip out of my hand, I can't judge putting things in the microwave or shelf and end up banging the cup or plate, I start talking backwards, etc.
Hi Morgan! I really enjoy your videos and how you share your experiences about living with autism. I have a video idea I’d love to see: could you talk about how autism is represented in TV shows and movies? I think it would be so interesting to hear your thoughts on this topic. Thanks for all the amazing content you create!" ❤
Is your therapist autistic too? I just was diagnosed on 19th December and started with a new therapist who is also autistic :) I'm LOVING working with her!
I dont know if I have autism, but I do have ADD and was diagnosed when I was in 4th grade. My way of dealing with it is eating very clean and avoiding wheat. If I get cross contamination, because it is impossible to be perfect 100% of the time, I get disregulated and brain fog. I have to eat organic, wheat free and dye free. I avoid high fructose corn syrup and any fake foods. I'm not sure if you've tried that, but I'd definitely give it a try.
At parties I tend to either stick with someone I know if it’s with people younger than me or my age but if it’s adults I will go around and ask lots of questions and try and get to know people just to try and stop myself doing something weird or annoying my mum who is trying to have fun cos if I’m stood with nothing to do I will start biting my nails or itching my arms or doing something else stupid that nobody else is doing and then people stare at me and my brain goes oh they’re staring at me is that good or bad do I go say hi so usually I’ll go and talk to them and thankfully people are kind enough to talk back but when people stare I never know if it’s good or bad and I should by now cos if I’m doing something wrong my mum will stare at me and I either don’t realise or I do and think she’s just saying hi like I don’t realise I’m doing something wrong and she’s always like why are you still doing that I told you not to I stared at you and I didn’t know what she meant and I’m rambling now so I’m gonna stop cos you probably don’t care
Hello! I can relate to so much of what you talk about. I've actually started making videos about content creation for Neurodivergents but it's my own thoughts and experiences because it's very hard to grow a YT channel as a Neurodivergent person. I really struggle with it because I value authenticity and I hate doing what other people are doing, I always wanna do the opposite. And I can't be making videos just so the algorithm will notice that I exist and that's hard. I think it's a GREAT idea to make content about how to be a Neurodivergent content creator because I need support! I really want to make an impact with my content and to be able to do that I need to know what is the most natural and healthy for me to focus on. I will keep making videos about it but I can't give that much advice considering I struggle to grow my channel myself. I just felt like Neurodivergent people really need support and it's very good to hear someone talking about it. Thank you for talking about your daily life, I feel so seen because I need to decompress constantly and to see you do it gives me so much comfort. I'm so excited that your doing great when it comes to your career!
Yes, yes, yes!!! That sounds great!!! Omg!! A neurodivergent creator guied would be great!! I'm nerodivergent and have my own youtube channel too and would love to see a content Creation guied!!
As a fellow autistic it kind of makes my skin crawl when someone says they're filming, when there is no film involved. I wish everyone would say what's accurate which is that you're recording video.
To answer your question - yes, I would be interested in seeing a neurodivergent guide to content creation
Omg yes yes yes yes ❤🎉
agreed, that would literally be the dream job for me when i get older
It is nice to hear someone else say they are shy and can't change that. People always tell me to stop being shy, but I have finally realized I can't just go and change my personality.
This!! I've also heard this all my life 🥲 that I should just stop being so shy, speak up more (in eg group settings) and be more social etc. And I always believed it, that it was wrong being like I am and that I had to change (or try to, since altering personality traits is soooo easy (not)). But I'm slowly coming to the same conclusion as you, that I simply am shy and that... that is alright :)
Talking about your shyness is dead on me like literally single everything you said. And I never thought that anyone felt like I did. Thanks for talking about this it’s such a relief to know it’s not just me.
I hated coloring because the markers were scratchy or came out streaky. I am OBSESSED with the Ohuhu markers
Switching to bold, simple coloring books also made a huge difference for me. The super complicated adult coloring books are so overwhelming and I get upset when the markers bleed over the lines
Thank you SOOOO much for sharing the social struggles section in such detail. I think you just gave me some major insight into a loved one's struggles.
omgg morgan i totally feel u. like socializing on a whim is soo hard as an autistic human being, im just satisfied that i can go to a store and interact with the cashier or with the waiter at a restaurant because they're CONTROLLED environments. but when it comes to just socializing with someone or wanting to make a new friend... i just gotta pray someone has the balls to strike up a convo with me 😭 being an autistic woman in college is not for the weak🤧
Oh man. I feel this way too.
I understand you so much. To communicate with some people it needs so much work. As one of conclusions in my life was that I just haven’t energy to pour it around and it’s more efficient to communicate with people who actively reciprocate or try to do, try to understand and share thoughts and emotions rather to wait that somebody would guess their thoughts, emotions, social or cultural cues. It’s efficient when both sides work on relationships rather only one side perform for both. Love your videos❤❤. So safe and calm. And overall you’re inspiring💖
I was just crying to my mum tonight about how stressed I was feeling like there’s not enough hours in the day to engage in my special interests and do other things and do restful, more calm hobbies and she just couldn’t understand and thinks I’m just obsessed with time, but it’s more worried about losing time with hyper focus, and questioning if I’m making the most of my time and wanting to create the perfect balanced routine…yeah it’s a whole thing that feels hard to explain to neuortypicals
Wow, the coloured page turned out so great!! I didn't know it was possible to give this wonderful finish with a colouring book.
This video is really really really helpful. It allows me to understand my boyfriend better, be kinder and understanding and it is a very cool, casual vlog, thankyou for this.
Honestly, hearing you talk about socializing and those struggles was so comforting for me.
I love the energyy
Woaoooo your colouring is at a professional level!!
THE VLOGGGGGGGGGG
Love these vlogs so much, they feel so validating and comforting. Also, if you ever decide to do any ND group trips closer to Australia I am so there!
I get hyped for a Morgan Foley vlog, especially if it's a few days in the life.
What you said in the Social Struggles section is what I've been struggling (ha) to articulate to others as I'm trying to help them understand my social hangups. I swear when I try, even I think it sounds like I'm being a whiny victim who doesn't want to try to make friends. But I've tried, for 34 years... As much as it sucks being alone, trying (and eventually failing) to make friends is 10x more painful. Why keep putting myself through that... :(
Yay top 315 and top 41 likes and comments. Love this channel. Best to you and your family. Thanks for making this video.
I love your vlogs! I find them so relatable as an audhder myself. Also the hobbies etc you have are literally the same as mine currently!! So it is so relaxing to watch ❤
i love your content sm! it's super relatable!
Yes is the answer! But no stress for me,I live everything you do, you habe such an high reflexion and Humor and by the way: you do understand life!
I’m hearing you! Seeing ‘that face’ and then having so many ‘what did I just do?’ thoughts. Is so exhausting
I set alarms in my phone for my meds. I forgot regardless yesterday, because I got distracted getting ready to go out for dog training and remembered once I was out😡
I now have a small bag with a days worth of pills in a bag that always come with me. No matter what. I'll never be stuck not being able to take my meds if I forget now
Hey there is a little trick you can try: Give your dog (works also with cats!) a treat or play with him or feed him every day when you need to take your meds. You might forget, your phone might be dead but trust me, your dog or cat will let you know that you are about to forget something important. I've done this for the last eight years with my cats, and they are on point every single day
I crochet and colour. I like using my ohuhu markers to colour. It relaxes my brain and regulates me.
My least favorite errand to run is Costco. So big, so crowded, everyone is rushing, and they move everything. It's loud, walk in fridges suck, the carts are big, and people don't pay attention to where they're pushing them.
I love watching your content, on Instagram and on here! (I'm not on TikTok) and I have to say, I like these kinds of vlogs. 30 year old autistic and ADHD woman from Belgium ❤
I use a white board to write down when I take my medication during the day. It makes it so much easier for me if I don't have to think about it all the time. Another thing that works is setting an alarm on my phone or watch to remind me.
Re. the networking dilema: some other issues that come up with my brand of autism
1)My audio processing disorder (APD) is on the more severe side, which makes networking settings settings extra overwhelming as I can't filter out background chatter as well as neurotypicals. Some conferences I've attended, which is very common in my academia setting, also have used airhorns or other loud sounds to indicate moving on 2) Growing up, i had an authoritative parenting style on me, especially re. my neurodivergent behaviours. This included being shut down for 'interrupting.' This makes it such that now when I want to folks having a convo I just stand silently until i'm directly acknowledged and invited to speak. It also makes being interupted, including just overlapped speech, activate me to silence/submission. This sometimes includes background chatter like previously mentioned. This also makes me feel excluded from typically queer/neurodivergent spaces where bubbly/hyper-active voices are dominant or lack of pauses between responses are typical as I either get triggered into between silent or otherwise feel incapable of being allowed to speak
^This is another barrier for excelling in careers that culturally expect networking at conferencing with strangers as essentially a requirement to get ahead
I'm autistic too!🤍♾
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Wow. I totally relate to this. I get bad anxiety around groups of people and mingling. At church, I get so confused about who I should talk to, so sometimes I dont talk to anyone and just want to leave early. Everyone seems to have red flags with me, and like you said, either the bubbly person will approach me or the sweet, popular person. Everytime I approach someone it is hit or miss if it goes well. If goes bad, I think about it all day and feel guilty for wasting someone's time. I dont know how to make it stop. I also have RBF and try to have a nuetral happy face but it is so hard. ❤😢😮
How did you find the right therapy?
I’m 28 and in the process of getting an autism diagnosis. I love watching your videos
I've been coloring for years, I didn't realize I would love it so much until a former manager gave me a coloring sheet when I was working in a call center. Now I have a whole collection of coloring books. When I was a kid I used to draw but I haven't attempted that for a long time.
I would love a Video about hobbys 🥺 as an audhder myself, I start a hobby, get hyperfixated, then it doesn’t progress quick enough and I give up… the only thing I’m sticking to rn is bouldering. Even with that it’s either me flashing a boulder or trying two times max before I give up bc I can’t stay focused and try 😬
16:15 yes, yes, yes !! I would definitely love that ! 🤩😁 I myself had to realize that the way I work best is by myself, as an independent. I love creating arts content, I've been doing that since I was a child (I find that images for me is how I communicate better than words), and without surprise through time I ended up sharing it more and more publicly. So any advice or guidance you can share about being neurodivergence and creating content would be interesting to me ! 🌟☺️
Autistics need to be aware of how much wearing sunglasses can help in daily life. This will let you walk around and drive in your car, doing errands and such while PREVENTING people from making unnecessary and unwanted eye contact. You can move your eyes around freely in anyway you want without worrying about how you look to others.
I’ve recently had some thoughts about getting into content creation so a video like that would come at a perfect time. I currently do some TH-camr stuff on the side but it’s with someone else, so I would love to do something on my own
YAAAYA 2nddd
YES VLOG
neurodivergent guide to content creation yes we do it but struggle
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just want to say thank you
Oooooh would love a guide pleaase
"My brain is not braining" is the most accurate description of life in January. :(
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I want that dog! Hand over that cute dog!!!
Also, relatable content. Took me all day yesterday and 4hr today to get me to get myself to the supermarket.
16:13 nd guide: yes plz!
Okay, am into those markers now (after researching for more then an hour, but also need to sleep now😅)and need to know where I could get this absolutly cute hoodie (in europe...)🥰
I love your dog! I got myself an elderly black cat with white flecks three months ago, he reminds me of your doggo. But the main question is, is it a good boy or a good girl?
Evie is a very good girl☺️
@@morgaanfoley :) please give her a treat from me.
Hey would you give me an example for a question you could ask that "red flags" you? Or is it just a feeling you get that that's why people get overwhelmed with you?
You should do whatever gets you your win, but within reason/ without abandoning your authenticity. If smth's too much for 1, 2, n moments, then it's too much in those moments.
Yes, when you've got autism and ADHD and other medical conditions, you have to take three lots of tablets a day. I always seem to forget one of the tablets to take.
Sounds like what one of my Fibromyalgia flare-ups which causes, "brain fog", that's the terminology the doctors use. I have other neurological problems where I'll drop things repeatedly like my cup will just slip out of my hand, I can't judge putting things in the microwave or shelf and end up banging the cup or plate, I start talking backwards, etc.
Yes please create an ND for content creation, I create coding tutorials on my channel and would love a guide on how to make it successful 😊
Hi Morgan! I really enjoy your videos and how you share your experiences about living with autism. I have a video idea I’d love to see: could you talk about how autism is represented in TV shows and movies? I think it would be so interesting to hear your thoughts on this topic. Thanks for all the amazing content you create!" ❤
Is your therapist autistic too? I just was diagnosed on 19th December and started with a new therapist who is also autistic :) I'm LOVING working with her!
i like to compare that brain foggyness with having fever. so far that seemed to be relatable enough for the people around me to understand what i mean
Another autistic climber here 👋 fricken love it
And I really like your videos thank you Morgan 😊
I feel you! Actively working on deconstructing the idea of “bitchy” and no longer letting the patriarchy and misogyny force me to mask ❤❤
Least it came back
I will like a Neurodivergent guide to content creation.
17:08 recipe plz!!!!!!!!!!! looks delicious!!!!!!!
Yes, I would really like a neurodivergent guide to content creation
I dont know if I have autism, but I do have ADD and was diagnosed when I was in 4th grade. My way of dealing with it is eating very clean and avoiding wheat. If I get cross contamination, because it is impossible to be perfect 100% of the time, I get disregulated and brain fog. I have to eat organic, wheat free and dye free. I avoid high fructose corn syrup and any fake foods. I'm not sure if you've tried that, but I'd definitely give it a try.
At parties I tend to either stick with someone I know if it’s with people younger than me or my age but if it’s adults I will go around and ask lots of questions and try and get to know people just to try and stop myself doing something weird or annoying my mum who is trying to have fun cos if I’m stood with nothing to do I will start biting my nails or itching my arms or doing something else stupid that nobody else is doing and then people stare at me and my brain goes oh they’re staring at me is that good or bad do I go say hi so usually I’ll go and talk to them and thankfully people are kind enough to talk back but when people stare I never know if it’s good or bad and I should by now cos if I’m doing something wrong my mum will stare at me and I either don’t realise or I do and think she’s just saying hi like I don’t realise I’m doing something wrong and she’s always like why are you still doing that I told you not to I stared at you and I didn’t know what she meant and I’m rambling now so I’m gonna stop cos you probably don’t care
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Please do consider creating a Neurodivergent Guide to Content Creation! I would be enthusiastic to watch.
And thanks for these vlogs.
Hello! I can relate to so much of what you talk about. I've actually started making videos about content creation for Neurodivergents but it's my own thoughts and experiences because it's very hard to grow a YT channel as a Neurodivergent person. I really struggle with it because I value authenticity and I hate doing what other people are doing, I always wanna do the opposite. And I can't be making videos just so the algorithm will notice that I exist and that's hard.
I think it's a GREAT idea to make content about how to be a Neurodivergent content creator because I need support! I really want to make an impact with my content and to be able to do that I need to know what is the most natural and healthy for me to focus on. I will keep making videos about it but I can't give that much advice considering I struggle to grow my channel myself. I just felt like Neurodivergent people really need support and it's very good to hear someone talking about it.
Thank you for talking about your daily life, I feel so seen because I need to decompress constantly and to see you do it gives me so much comfort. I'm so excited that your doing great when it comes to your career!
I would love to see a Neurodivergent guide to content creation!
morgan!! would u ever be open to the idea of making a video with your boyfriend and what its like dating as an autistic woman? 😱
Idk he’s a little camera shy
@morgaanfoley no worries!! I loveee ur channel 🧡
Yes, yes, yes!!! That sounds great!!! Omg!! A neurodivergent creator guied would be great!! I'm nerodivergent and have my own youtube channel too and would love to see a content Creation guied!!
Why do you have a « Mm » tattoo?
Yes, that face people give me is unbearable. I'd rather not talk to anyone to avoid that face of confusion or judgment.
As a fellow autistic it kind of makes my skin crawl when someone says they're filming, when there is no film involved. I wish everyone would say what's accurate which is that you're recording video.