Anisha Ani Allah bless/guide you. We Muslims, love and respect prophet Jesus(Isa) (peace be upon him) *And We sent, following in their footsteps, Jesus, the son of Mary, confirming that which came before him in the Torah; and We gave him the Gospel, in which was guidance and light and confirming that which preceded it of the Torah as guidance and instruction for the righteous. Quran **5:46* *But when Jesus felt [persistence in] disbelief from them, he said, "Who are my supporters for [the cause of] Allah ?" The disciples said," We are supporters for Allah . We have believed in Allah and testify that we are Muslims [submitting to Him]. Quran **3:52* *They have certainly disbelieved who say, " Allah is the Messiah, the son of Mary" while the Messiah has said, "O Children of Israel, worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord." Indeed, he who associates others with Allah - Allah has forbidden him Paradise, and his refuge is the Fire. And there are not for the wrongdoers any helpers. Quran 5:72* *The Messiah, son of Mary, was not but a messenger; [other] messengers have passed on before him. And his mother was a supporter of truth. They both used to eat food. Look how We make clear to them the signs; then look how they are deluded. Quran 5:75*
This is why I avoid Instagram, facebook and snapchat, I am a girl of 18 years old and it is really important to love Allah first, than your parents. May Allah protect my parents… I am now studying medical to be a doctor Inshae allah.. Woman in general should protect themselves! I loved someone in the past, but due to social media he talked with other girls... So love some one who is encourages you to pray, to make time for Allah.. and do not love someone who loves your body etc etc. Yarabim sen buyuksun sen bizi kotuluklerden uzak tut, sen birsin Allahim sen buyuksun
That's true👍 Most women expect more respect, but they present themselves cheaply, have no feeling of shame... the devil talks everything nice to you and in the end he lets you down. Trust in Allah and be patient
I am grateful for Allah for protecting me from cheap boys and instead leaving me in the safe place ☺️ because i want to be safe from zina and almadilliah i am safe now 🥰
Every haram relationship I was in. I regretted it. Bcs the person looked good from outside but wasn't a good person. May Allah help me. And please pray for me to find my janat
In my case he was absolutely perfect at his house but when he went to his hostel during his education is were i actually got to know his true color the saddest part was i was already married to him n i got to know that he slept with his colleague 12 day prior to marriage 😔 I just couldn't come out of it
@@lisaross4782 same happened to me but searching for hookup when he come to my country for our marriage around, 5 days before our marriage,and all through the marriage is sleeping around with anything available subhannal,but no regrets at all because this is qadr of Allah
If you believed in kalima la illaha illalahu mohamadur rasululah. Allah is one and prophet Muhammed is the messenger of Allah. And say it you will be Muslim.
I am not a Muslim but I respect every religion n feel that there is only one God!!! I feel lucky to have come across this channel...I really respect Allah and his teachings...😊😊😊
Stand up for yourself. Voice out or run away from your house and live with me. One day, i will build an institute / shelter for women who are forced to marry someone they dont one thus disregard by their parents. ⛄️
anonymous person your parents want the best for you... so shut up and follow them... you are nothing without them.... you can't be who you are without them....
Resky Jamil how rude.. I'm not even talking bout my parents u fool..I love my parents and they won't be forcing me ever for marrige and stuffs.. It's just my friends parents they are forcing her to marry someone she doesn't want to marry.. and that man is not even from a good family.. some parents could be wrong at these things.. not all are same..
Since you love the teachings of our prophet, why not just convert??? If u want to act like a muslim, Might as well be one right? May allah guide u my brother
Do not think that sis, take good hope on Allah almighty. Because He said what u do will u get so if u didn't took any disadvantage of anyone no one even all the world want to take yoyr disadvantage they will nevwr get bcoz Allah will be there for u......
I m young and at the age of marriage, in this environment every second girl has zina with anyone. I m not afraid for my spouse bcoz i didn't do that with anyone inshallah i will never get that..... ❤️❤️😇👍
Oh yeah. Unfortunately, this fear is common to any girl but converts have lesser ways to investigate in the matter more thoroughly. I pray you may find a righteous husband, ameen. :)
When I first met my husband we married. We have been now living in two different countries for 7 months, I miss him a lot but I am patient and Insha'Allah we will see each other next year.
@@thaknobodi thats an excuse to me... she had a reaon... but he is just a fiance ... if it dont work .. both parties should move on and allah knows best
As a Muslim who dated a girl, At first it felt so good, I feel loved and stuff, for 5 months... One night, I took it to myself to go pray qiam al lyl, I said (translated from Arabic to English) “O Allah, Please help me, if what I’m doing is right leave me on it, if what I’m doing is wrong help me get away from it” Later that night, she started texting me, I was not feeling confutable with her after that all the sudden, then I told her “Please I don’t want to take you to hell... neither do I wanna, Let’s break up... this is for your good” She agreed happily (AlHamdul liallah) And we walked our own paths...
If you go as per statics arrange marriages are more successful than lust marriages. Just google how many single moms are there in the world. You’ll be shocked
@Maher Zain's Fan go and say that to most pakistani old generation they would even go as far as disowning their children if they don't follow parents rules
this why I don't like to be in arelationship am a 17 girl who likes to be a religious watching this increase my faith alhamdulillah my life going good my first Love is Allah and second is my parents I always pray to be marry the halal way MyAllah grant me good husband who always encouraged me to pray ,to have good relationship with Allah
Mashallah im only 13 yd but allah has guided me for 13 yd and inshallah till i die i would never ever do something that will upset allah plus i pray everyday forgiveness to allah allah will bless only people that go into his path and not the shathon may allah protect allah muslims.❤❤
my heart is cry because every one asking when i will get married...i always pray dua insha allah he will hear my dua before i gain of age 35 .i will meet my future husband ,he will be the path of my jannah insha ALLA,
Allah put us on this earth, not to fall in love with the mere creation, but to prove our love for him, I don’t believe in any love...besides the love that my allah has for me, because that’s the only true love there is and will ever be. And if i am to marry in the future, it will only be for the pleasure of my allah, by completing the sunnah. When you do something for the pleasure of Allah, it will prosper...but if you do something that displeases Allah, then how do you expect that to last? For allah is the controller of everything. May he give us all hidayat ameen.
What I find weird, is that most fathers don't allow their daughters to go out and stuff. So how am I going to go ask the father about his daughter if I have no knowledge of her existence.
***** No my parents don't want to find me a spouse, plus I live in a small city where there are almost no muslims, and I have no practicing muslims friends because I don't know any. I am the only practicing muslim in my family. No one care about that stuff in my house, only me.
+ahmadinejad6666 If you are a practicing Muslim, then you should know that your spouse has already been decided (if you are granted one, in sha Allah you are). So no matter what happens, that result will remain the same. Also, make dua to Allah for a suitable spouse.
As a practicing sister growing up in the west, I have to disagree with you on certain things. Sometimes the parents don't really understand what we are going through in the west. E.g. my parents found men who are suitable for THEM from back home, but not necessarily suitable for me. They want someone they can manipulate, but didn't look whether or not if he's suitable for me spiritually. Often times the marriage becomes a family or cultural thing over religion. Although I agree the principle of this video, but I also know there are more to it then just going by the father's wish. Not all parents are the same in terms of knowledge and understanding or even range of social circle.
In Islam parents have to ask the girl if she agree or not to marry the guy , but it is not preached by most . Or the girl agree where ever her parents are happy to marry her .
Is it still lust when you want to hug and kiss him? And its also ok if you cant kiss him and hug him is it a lust😭😭even though you dont even see each other in every 10 months???and 2 months of vacation you just have a minute with him??😭😭😭is it a lust and not missed when you want to hug him tightly???is it lust that you love him in his ugliest and gorgeous ways????plsss tell mee
+mubarak gidado umar lol! Tell you people to stop blowing other up/stoning people/ not letting girls go to scchool/forcing girls to cover up...that's aggressive
I’m a Catholic woman, my husband is muslim. We are doing it well together and have respect for each other. We love each other so much. It’s all about respect and knowing the culture and faith. I hope everyone, Muslim or Christian can be strong togheter like us🙏🏼
Georgia Deer hunting no I don’t. I believe in what I believe. And you need to respect that. That’s what the islam says. Have respect to other believers and don’t push people to Islam. They need to believe it for them selves.
I wish you both happiness .Yes it is true, a man can marry a non Muslim as long as she is Jewish or Christian.May Allah guide you to the straight path sister. Selam (peace)
I know a couple who were betrothed when still children. They didn't want to marry those whom they were betrothed to. They met each other, parents refused and then eloped. They had children, they made a life from nothing and built upwards. They now have 6 children who are of the best of character from all their relatives. Now their family want to know and their parents have apologised. Recently the man passed away at the age of 60, on the first day they read the Quran 67 times. He was loved. There is always more to the story. It's always the intention that prevails in the end. If it's a fling then it will always be treated as one. But if it's sincere and there is love then alhamdulillah it lasts forever.
Your comment gave me so much comfort... I am muslim convert for more than 3 years now. Due to my love, boyfriend, angel in Pakistan, whom i already call husband and he calls me his wife. My father is a stubborn atheist, threatened me to stop the nonsense when i told him about Islam 😢 He knows i have a friend in Pakistan but does not know he is my love. We want to marry and be together forever. And this video is simply so wrong. Like how can you marry a person if you don't know his/her interests, level of intelligence, sense of humour? You go and ask for a wife without even knowing how she is. And i am sorry for the speaker uttering those words, but not sheitan tells us we love each other, but Allah. He is the miracle of my life.
@m 2222 This "incident" is called love... And if parents wouldn't be so rigid they would understand that they cannot force their children to marry whom they want against their will and feelings. You are supposed to live your whole life with that person... And love is the most noble and selfless feeling of all, so can Allah not like it? Boyfriend and girlfriend is haram... Even if you want to marry and know a bit of each other. But marrying someone whom you don't want to is ok... Marrying someone whom you only see once before marriage is ok.
The story that is mentioned regarding the girl falling in love with the guy and the guy falls in love with her etc and they want to get married and he goes and ask for her hand in marriage which the father says no too surely the father should agree if the guy is a Muslim and is trying to put everything right. To my knowledge I thought if the guy is a Muslim and is trying to be on the right path and happens to fall into a haram relationship but wants to make it right, surely you should get them married ASAP. Nowadays fathers mainly reject a proposal purely on culture. This is why some youth nowadays tend to get involved in haram relationship etc.
+willy awsome that I agree. But say if two people happen to have been in a "haram relationship" may Allah guide us then they happen to make it right by making it islamically right it doesn't purely mean they will end up in divorce. I've come across number of fathers who refuse to marry their daughter to a different cast, race etc etc and sadly this does exist to this day. That is why some youth tend to go about it the haram way. I believe if it started through "haram relationship" and both want to make it islamically right and on the right path of deen it don't tend to end up in divorces
+willy awsome well living in a western country I have seen many relationships that unfortunately start out haram but end up not divorcing at all... And then there are many who didn't start this way and still end up divorce and like the prophet PBUH said "Marriage is the best solution for those in love" Ibn Majaah The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)
+willy awsome I don't condemn haram relationship far from i but there are ways to go about it that doesn't be all sinful. All I'm saying it isn't totally that 1% at all, it's verse wise the way your thinking an all
Muslimahh xx So you don't agree with Islamic scholars and would like to make your own judgements? And why don't you condemn haram relationships? So doing haram is good now?
@@Nourdin726 bro india mai esa kuch nhi ho raha... Kuch haramkhor h jo yeh sabh kar rhe h muslim bhi ate h usmai aur hindu bhi... Baki india ke log mil julkr rhete h eid mai hindu bhi saath hote h aur holi mai muslim.... App shayad pak se hounge apko galat news dikhayi jaa rhi h india mai esa kuch nhi h
+MrBossmedia Allah created the rainbow. so to appreciate the colours of the rainbow is nothing wrong. The west made it a gay thing, they over sexualis everything, so to say its a gay thing you support the western view. rainbow shouldn't be related to that!
I am an atheist. I vehemently oppose all religion and endorse a position of non-belief almost absolutely. Every word of this message is true. Listen, believer or not.
ChaosmanOne you are the first atheist on TH-cam (that I've seen) with an open mind. you didn't offend anyone or discriminate anyone. look, I know you don't believe in God, but God bless you anyway.
what if the girl no longer have a father like me? my father passed away when I was a teenager. And my mother and I have agreed that we will just go through nikah if someone wants to marry me. nothing fancy. but I live in a society where the guys family do not agree to this. they want a fancy wedding just because their son is the only child or oldest child. I'm stuck in this culture where money and showing off means a lot. I just hope that I will get married one day. please pray for me dear brother and sister.
@@gulebamarni6214 It's beauty to society..but not in Islam...islam says "Love the girl you marry rather than Marry the girl you love".. it's not a hadeeth but Dr Jakir Nayek said that
AndroGamer ZX sorry but you can not marry someone you dont even know ... dont marry someone you dont love ... dont marry someone Who is like a brother/ sister to you .. marry someone Who is good for you and Who will love you and love her/him
This was so real and pure way to express love or find true love in a paak way , very much impressed, it’s my deep heart wish to meet this man , Islam really teaches you to be pure ❤️
I agree, it all make sense if you see it from a point of view like this. Love and lust is completely different. Love is something you develop over time and what overlooks the appearance. Love is still caring if a persons face is half burned.
soort witte smurf Tell that to those western folks. Think you're an smart guy, media tells alot of lies. Man in the middle east RESPECT their own woman, in the western country the woman is the man. HAs to do everything including; doing the shopping, adding planks to the wall. etc etc.
I think the role of the father here should simply because of a guardian. Some one who could help you decide for yourself and not someone who forces his decision on you. Anyway, a forced marriage isn't really a marriage in Islam as it requires consent of both the partners. And I such a circumstance the blame isn't on the victim or his /her spouse who is unaware but only those who forced it.
+222amonra In Islam, a person is no longer a child once they reach puberty - they are now responsible for their actions and able to give consent as they have reached maturity. If by 'child' you mean under the age of puberty, then they are not mature enough to give consent to marriage.
+222amonra If we stopped treating them like children and started to support them as the young adults that they are, maybe things would be different. I know you wouldn't like to think so, but actually their bodies are giving off signals that they are maturing... And why do they have relationships and sex at 13 years (let's be real here) but aren't responsible for their decisions/ actions? Children do not have romantic/ sexual relationships.
To be really honest, I'm so done with the mere idea of marrying and 'love' bs. I'll probably live my life alone and love it that way. What's the point of all the drama when you're going to die alone and all these lustful relations are for this life only? My husband won't answer the questions I'll be asked in my grave nor will he be any help as soon as I stop breathing when it comes to the Day of Judgement and the afterlife or the trails of the grave.
It's a good thing to marry. Marriage is not compulsory in Islam but it's sunnah so It's a good thing. Of Course you don't have to marry at a certain age but only when you are ready. It may be 25 or 52. Not marrying at all is also okay but is a strong decision. It's just that when some people look back at life they just regret some of their decisions. Of Course your spouse won't answer your questions in the grave. No one's does. But it's great to have someone with you to walk through life. There are amazing people out in this world so If you've met or had experience with some bad ones. Don't make permanent decisions based on that. I hope you understand my perspective and think again. May you make the better choice.
It is your choice entirely to get married, but remember that you should try to enjoy life as much as you can. We only get one life so make it a good one.
Assalamualaikum...my parents are in distress because we are two sisters getting aged day by day ,but we are not getting a suitable person for marriage. Please make dua for my family. The reason for not getting married is we are not good in money & status . I request everyone who is reading this please make dua of Khair & Barakah for my family and Every single family facing same issues .
Yah now a days Muslims have made more difficult to nikah instead of its making easy the harsh reality everyone Now a days greedy Of Money only But many people still in path Of sunnah , InshaAllah Allah one day grant you a good husband may Allah testing u as of now JazakAllah khairan wa kasira
I don't know exactly why, but this lecture made me teared. Could be the inspirational speech or maybe my anxieties are attacking. But then , I'm just listening and tearing up.
That`s true even because often the parents of the girl or boy returned to islam(as we should say and not converted because we are all born muslims), they don`t agree at all the idea of a muslim son/daughter so that is the reason why is easy to get the haram. By the way I think that a person returned to islam that is always in the right path will have halal so easy in sha Allah and if the family returned to islam... ma sha Allah will be the best for everyone !!! :D
Salamwualakum this is true in some cases but if one was to understand the true meaning of marriage in islam and was to follow the sunnah, and then untop of that the parents of either son or daughter, would look at the Iman of the person asking for the hand in marriage. rather than judge simply by the job, background or nationality, halal relationships would be alot easier to undertake, but it doesn't mean as muslim we should abandon it, we should just find a way to make it easier to be approached inshAllah.
Maybe try asking at the local mosque, brother. Some mosques offer marriage search services. It's hard for sisters too when their male relatives aren't interested in looking for them :/ May Allah make securing a halal relationship easy for us, Ameen.
Xochilt Escalante i always wonder how converts find their other half. here it's easy we're all muslims and we're all born muslim on a muslim land. but then i rmbr that allah is always there so i'm sure allah lead them to their other half. stay away from haram relationships plz it won't do u any good i promise
I was about to indulge in haram relationship but now with the blessings of Allah almighty I have reverted my ways and started practising Islam as much as possible. Now I want some halal marriage relationship with someone pure...
Such golden words you have said actually I am just 18 years old now many wrongs things attacks my mind and iam very afraid to indulge in wrong things may Allah guide me and help me plz say ameen
ALHUMDULLIAH 😇😇😇.Before marry I offered prayer for halal relationship because I want to protect myself from haram relationship and for my future husband and then my Parents choose a guy for me I did Istakhara and now I am married for almost 2 years .. we never even argue or blame each other.. ALHUMDULLIAH Allah choose best for me 😇😇😇😇
The infatuation or first love will fade, but the true love will never ever go away, and you can find love and learn to love people, but true love is something else. And you have to look past your lust to find true love
(49:13) Human beings, We created you all from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes so that you may know one another. Verily the noblest of you in the sight of Allah is the most God-fearing of you. Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware. May Allah swt. guide us all and protect us all from zina. Have a beautiful day brothers and sister :)
This recently occurred to me and we both realized our grave mistake... Now I only wish to go through what’s right and look towards a halal relationship 🙏🏼
Divorce is allowed in Islaam but it is not liked . Marriage is a necessity especially for Young men and women otherwise there can be no sex. Sex outside of marriage is a capital sin that can put you in hell, it is haraam. So get married and it does not work out then get a divorce. But prior to divorce give marriage every chance. PEACE!!!
Do you know that in Muslim traditional wedding (nikah) the marriage cannot take place unless the girl agrees.. Also the marriage takes place with the conest of the girl.. The family collect info. about the boy, they look into his bio data, check if he has a good family background and after that some meetings are arranged between the boy and the girl where they talk, share about their own nature and interact.. In the end if both of them find think that they are compatible then they get married.. Also if a boy or a girls has someone that he /she likes then he/she can talk about it to their parents for marriage.. Liking means only liking, it's like you admire someone who is your ideal type but you can't get sexual with them before marriage which people do while dating ... In Islam, before marriage you cannot get sexually physical with the boy, eg :when you date you are bound to get physical, flirt, and do all sorts of stuff which a couple does.. This is prohibited in Islam.. You can do whatever you want after marriage ..
I f you two have married when you find out you do not like each other, you simply divorce. It is not liked but it is not forbidden. If you have not yet married but are engaged/promised simply break the engagement. You both should consider the parent's wishes but you are not bound by them, that part is for you both to decide but be gentle to your parents whatever you decide. Surely ALLAH knows best.
Amazing video and very eye opening. I used to have this mindset of “how will I know them if we dont go out” but now I now that if Allah swt commands something, it is for the right reason. And thank you for explaining this so well.
It depends on cultural aspects and differences. Some cultures don't have arrange marriages or for the father to sort out the marriage. Or other cultures don't have dowries so it doesn't apply to them. I think it depends on culture this guy is talking from a typical Arab family perspective.
I'm from a small area between India and Pakistan and trust me, it's one of the most peaceful Islamic areas. We don't have arranged marriages and I am so glad I am from this part of Muslim land.
yes it true as Arab women ask for house fully furnish, car and etc. we don't have this in my Asian country. mahr is important but not dowry. dowry is discuss between the man and woman family. and if he give some certain amount and agreeable. then the nikah will take place :)
Muslim men should marry reverted women and Muslim Women should marry reverted men, this way they are making double the rewards, first of getting married and second of helping a Muslim who needs to get through the first few years of understanding the religion. In the case where it is difficult for them to go through the father as they may be of other religion, they should do this through some masjid. I wonder what sort of difficulties Muslims reverts have to go through after coming into the shade of Islam. May Allah help them all, and make it easy for them.
In Qur'an it is written " Do not marry an Idolatrous women or men until they believe" Parents are above you and they can make good decision for you but also they should keep your decisions in mind as well and decide accordingly.
I'm Muslim but I don't entirely agree with this. I do believe in the idea of love at first sight. However, the reason why girls and guys say "I have to get to know or I have to get to know him or I have to get to know her" is because you want to see if the two of you are compatible. The big difference when dating is age. When you're 15 and you act that way obviously people change as they get older. I'm a 30 yr old guy who never did drugs, doesn't smoke, doesn't party, wouldn't cheat, stays active, never drank alcohol, good education , saved money and who has dealt with over 10 yrs of drama with girls, especially Muslim girls and I never had sexual encounters with them because I'm waiting for marriage. But if her father says well over my dead body ur not marrying my daughter well give me a break? I'm not going to put myself down and think I'm some piece of garbage. Only idiots elope. Parents should not get involved with picking and choosing partners for their children.
In this world we live in of doing things on time, paying bills, watching your children, being religious, being civil with others and ext it's hard to be a perfect 10 and then some. For myself I hope to have a close relation with my wife's family (the in-laws) many guys and especially girls could care less about having a rapport with the other family members of the spouse's side. Having 3 older sisters who are all married and being through stuff with girls myself, I have a hard time trusting people so yes, I will date her and see if she's my type, if she's not some - i want you for your money type of girl. When your parents are dead and gone are they the 1s working the relationship with you and someone you potentially love? No. So it does hinder on your own instincts, sound judgment. Like any relation it requires work. Children with disagree with parents and people are bound to disagree with their spouse, it's how mature u are and how u handle it.
+Mohammad N Been watching to many movie love at first sight haha give me a break. The looks don't matter because in a couple of years when she hits her 40s or so she would look ugly their is no such thing as love at first sight its when you have an emotional attachment that's true love when you have the same goals or have a connection ect that's love. The sheik isn't saying tell your parents to set up marriage he is saying to go to the girls father and talk to him have coffee ect and pray together meet his family know what your getting yourself involved in. Arrange marriage are the most successful marriage in my opinion my parent have been married for more than 20 years and they are happy if you do it the halal way and are sincere your marriage will work out in Sha Allah if you aren't than you know you have to change yourself for the better.
Adnan Akbar First of all did I say looks was the end all B-all? Read everything I typed out (both comments). Now days in-laws can barely stand other in-laws. I've known Muslim girls who have fathers who were or are abusers and alcholics, do u think I care about praying with a man I don't respect? thats fine if u believe in arranged marriages but I've heard stories where people met at random places when they least suspected it and they ended up getting married and being happy. Guys/Men shouldn't be viewed as the bad guys who only want sex, because I can state that there are shady women out there who only care about $. I don't want my parents to arrange someone with me because I have a different mind set. Because I tend to be more organized, on time, communicative with everyone and ext...my parents rnt like that...what are they going to find for me? A girl who cannot be communicative with me either? Yep that's a great recipe for marriage. If you read this and say I'm wrong that's fine, but it's my way and I'm not doing anything wrong.
ok I understand what you mean but when god said haram its haram and its not good for us even if we didnt know why its haram dont do it like zeena its ok i will make it but i will not bring kids some people say that but its haram
+fantastic xxxXxxxXXxX what's so haram about it? I don't cheat in life, I don't do drugs, I don't smoke, I stay fit, i don't drink, I'm not a fake, I work hard and ext...it's rare to find ppl like that now days and who are genuine. I'm not hurting anyone, give me a break. Am I honestly going to hell if I marry an Irani Muslim girl that has a mature mind set as do I? Because it's apparently haram that I found a girl that I love and truly care about her. People who act 1 way and another way are just fake. I ended many relationships with girls because I told them exactly how I was and what i expect and those expectations are not high and nor am I referring to sex. Do guys do that now days? No, hardly ever and rarely. Tell me I'm haram by my actions because u make it seem like I am...ridiculous, don't bother messaging me when u don't truly know me.
subhanaAllah so true the abuse of Marriage in Islam so unnecessary and the abuse of reverts in marriage fear Allah if you do not you could be held up on the surat
I just can't fathom the idea of just walking up to a man and asking for her daughters hand in marriage, I would at the very lease need a reason besides appearance. (I'm Muslim btw).
Shwarmie i mean you don't see the girl at the grocery store, find her beautiful and follow her to her house and ask her dad for her hand, i guess you just get to know her and stuff but without dating or just like try to create a friendship, so if you feel as you want to marry her, then you go up to her dad, if you find y'all being not compatible or you know she doesn't want to marry you, then you just stay friends ...
Jazakallah Khayran for the great video. May allah reward you all for your efforts to help the youth of our Ummah. And may Allah grant us spouses who will the coolness of our eyes. Ameen
I'd like to say this first: I am not judging anyone of saying that what others have said is 'wrong', I am simply expressing my opinion alongside yours. Iv read on some of the comments that "It depends on culture..." and I think that the whole point of the video is that we shouldn't be following culture but Islam. For example, the video used western culture to illustrate the point. I was grew up thinking that I would want to find my partner myself, and thought I am still young and not married, nor do I have any partner, I truly believe that letting your parents find you a match is am incredible thing. Tbh I don't see how it's any different from dating sites....its just that on dating sites a computer brings two people together whereas in this case it would you be your parents. I don't know about you,but I trust my parents a heck of alot more!!
Why is it so extremely hard to find a devout Muslim man to marry in the West? :( I totally disagree with this sheikh. In a place where the population of Muslims is less than 1% how are we to find a spouse if we do not look online?
you have to do it halal by letting parents know. bf gf is just wrong. if you go against that order it shows you love your feelings more than allah. have faith in allah and he will provide
Of course bf gf is wrong, did I say it was halal? But we have to arrange ourselves to be married because sometimes parents would not do it for us, or they may be looking for qualities and we may be looking for different qualities in a spouse. It is allowed for a woman to find a husband and arrange her marriage as long as she has the permission of her father or guardian.
+Sana Qadeer Look to those who are not Muslim. The only thing that he did not explicitly say here that would have made things clear; when the Father says, "Over my dead body!", then the brother knows that he is not good enough and must endeavor to increase himself. If he truly wants love that lasts a lifetime, he will break the bones of the Earth to make this happen. The words of this message are not lost, even to an atheist.
+Sana Qadeer people define GF/BF as friends of opposite genders sexually attracted to each other. And that is a very Western concept. Due to this alone most Eastern people, including Muslims see these relationships to be harmful
Sana Qadeer I think the guys from educated families there are way better than the ones in Pakistan. The ones in Pakistan can't handle freedom. They drink, do drugs, stalk random girls, text random people, act like clowns, dm you from fake accounts, poke their nose in your friends, try to make you jealous, etc. A guy actually did that then he was delusional enough to say that he was teaching me a lesson (because he felt rejected) and trying to show me there are prettier girls out there. I mean that's how low their standards are. He has been stalking me for 2 yrs after having met me 5-6 times. Social media for guys in Pakistan is exciting cause they have no exposure to the west. I've already decided what guy I want to end up with. He knows I had proposals. I don't get why he doesn't understand that I'll never end up with him and he doesn't have qualities that will make me love him. Pakistanis love drama. I think it's best to marry someone from a good educated civilised family otherwise someone out of race. That way you avoid a lot of lame problems.
I was c Christian but after 2years from now i converted slam and im proud to be im happy being slma even some people may judge me even when im doing salah 5times a day i dont care of people may judge me im happy because i been more closer to allah. Allhamdul allah
How lucky u r in sha allah Allah will give u big reward for make sabar and Allah make them victims of ur every salah it's will be so much benefit for u it's happening with becoz Allah loves u wants more and more rewards give❤❤❤
date for some time sans the immoral stuff, let the folks know it or better inform them beforehand. Get to know each other a little bit and then proceed to marry
I am a christian and i have a wish to become a muslim, may allah guide me ,in right way nd i have trust that i will become a muslim one day 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Anisha Ani Allah bless/guide you.
We Muslims, love and respect prophet Jesus(Isa) (peace be upon him)
*And We sent, following in their footsteps, Jesus, the son of Mary, confirming that which came before him in the Torah; and We gave him the Gospel, in which was guidance and light and confirming that which preceded it of the Torah as guidance and instruction for the righteous. Quran **5:46*
*But when Jesus felt [persistence in] disbelief from them, he said, "Who are my supporters for [the cause of] Allah ?" The disciples said," We are supporters for Allah . We have believed in Allah and testify that we are Muslims [submitting to Him]. Quran **3:52*
*They have certainly disbelieved who say, " Allah is the Messiah, the son of Mary" while the Messiah has said, "O Children of Israel, worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord." Indeed, he who associates others with Allah - Allah has forbidden him Paradise, and his refuge is the Fire. And there are not for the wrongdoers any helpers. Quran 5:72*
*The Messiah, son of Mary, was not but a messenger; [other] messengers have passed on before him. And his mother was a supporter of truth. They both used to eat food. Look how We make clear to them the signs; then look how they are deluded. Quran 5:75*
Wait I know you want to be Muslim like me but uh.... what’s the point in changing lol
TheSonicModder Real its my wish...u mean it's lol but its my happiness..
Semih Sargın tnq😃😃😃
I think you have to find someone who can teach you how to be a Muslim
This is why I avoid Instagram, facebook and snapchat, I am a girl of 18 years old and it is really important to love Allah first, than your parents. May Allah protect my parents… I am now studying medical to be a doctor Inshae allah.. Woman in general should protect themselves! I loved someone in the past, but due to social media he talked with other girls... So love some one who is encourages you to pray, to make time for Allah.. and do not love someone who loves your body etc etc. Yarabim sen buyuksun sen bizi kotuluklerden uzak tut, sen birsin Allahim sen buyuksun
MashaAllah 😍
Amin
Mashallah abla be proud off yourself. May Allah grant you a good man. And good luck with everything.
Mashaallah may god grant you a good man insyallah
haklısın
Haram relationship takes you away from Allah. It feels bad inside.
So true 🙄 it just won't feel right
That's true👍
Most women expect more respect, but they present themselves cheaply, have no feeling of shame... the devil talks everything nice to you and in the end he lets you down. Trust in Allah and be patient
It's so true. It happened with me
Alhamdulillah now I m in peace
I am grateful for Allah for protecting me from cheap boys and instead leaving me in the safe place ☺️ because i want to be safe from zina and almadilliah i am safe now 🥰
That's why i have high standards i don't want play boys i want real men when I get married in my adulthood
Every haram relationship I was in. I regretted it. Bcs the person looked good from outside but wasn't a good person. May Allah help me. And please pray for me to find my janat
if you want a good wife, become first a good men
The name of Allah should be written with a capital letter
By haram relationship do you mean you’ve had sexual intercourse together?
The Moon no yeah I know, I meant is a haram relationship where you sex before marriage?
I give u my dua
Assalamu allaikom,alhamdulillah,im a Christian before but I'm already convert in Islam,
Monaliza Lachica Hello sister did you convert or not yet ?
Mashallah
Hafidha CHOUAL she did she said she was a Cristian but she’s Muslim now
Monaliza Lachica allah akbar machallah
Masha allah
Opened my mind
“You will never know the true character of this person until you meet them in their home” 1:52
Same same same
In my case he was absolutely perfect at his house but when he went to his hostel during his education is were i actually got to know his true color the saddest part was i was already married to him n i got to know that he slept with his colleague 12 day prior to marriage 😔
I just couldn't come out of it
@@lisaross4782 same happened to me but searching for hookup when he come to my country for our marriage around, 5 days before our marriage,and all through the marriage is sleeping around with anything available subhannal,but no regrets at all because this is qadr of Allah
Indeed
I'm proud of my religion. May Allah Swt. Bless you
Maura Aisha101 insha Allah
Im a catholic in my papers but a muslim in my heart
Abu Jafar aw ok
If you believed in kalima la illaha illalahu mohamadur rasululah. Allah is one and prophet Muhammed is the messenger of Allah. And say it you will be Muslim.
mashaAllah. Allah bless you brother. May he guide you to the right path.
May Allah guid you to the truth inchaalah ❤
try to be a Muslim in the papers too
I am not a Muslim but I respect every religion n feel that there is only one God!!! I feel lucky to have come across this channel...I really respect Allah and his teachings...😊😊😊
meghna das gupta wow meghna thanks impressed
I appreciate your words.😍
Beautiful May Allah guide you
Maria Bbleu jazakallah
Thank you and we respect your religion too
I'm christian ,but every time I watch ur videos,, I smile a lot...thank you man
May Allah guide you and all of us to the righteous path, Ameen!
Oowh i’m happy to hear that 😄🙌🏻
Dear, where are you from
May Allah bless you and guide you
I’m converted few months ago and I’m better one now ❤️. Alhamdulilah
Alhamduilah may Allah guide u all the way.💙💚
Can I know where are you from
@@lutfulhaque3677 I’m from the Philippines
@Endai Explorer Tv that’s Good decision bcz l have seen most of Philippine girls are lazibilians ....
I'm a Filipino Christian and I want to become a Muslim♥️♥️ May God Almighty guide me❤️
Sister go to the nearest mosque to you and talk to them
Ameen.
I'm Muslim and philipino
May Allah guide you brother AMeen
Have you converted to Islam now?
parents should also understand their children 😔 they shouldn't give their daughters to someone they don't feel like to marry them..
ya they should ask people about him ... then
Stand up for yourself. Voice out or run away from your house and live with me. One day, i will build an institute / shelter for women who are forced to marry someone they dont one thus disregard by their parents. ⛄️
Friend dont go after girls/boys.if u truly want to merry go after their father 100 times.Inshallah Allah will grant ur wish.
anonymous person your parents want the best for you... so shut up and follow them... you are nothing without them.... you can't be who you are without them....
Resky Jamil how rude.. I'm not even talking bout my parents u fool..I love my parents and they won't be forcing me ever for marrige and stuffs.. It's just my friends parents they are forcing her to marry someone she doesn't want to marry.. and that man is not even from a good family.. some parents could be wrong at these things.. not all are same..
Not muslim, but this channel is one of my favorites highly informative and the production quality is high. Allah baraka feek
Since you love the teachings of our prophet, why not just convert??? If u want to act like a muslim,
Might as well be one right? May allah guide u my brother
waiyyak bro, may God protect and guide you to the truth
learn quran.
learn quran.
why wasting time then
Whoever is interested, the speaker is called Bilal Assad. He was my teacher in high school, one of the best people i've met
TheRedTech98 thanks for sharing
Was trying to recall his name bt I couldn't ,,Thanks
You're so lucky to have a teacher like Bilal Asaad!
Really he was your teacher in high school
MaShaaAllah. How can I become his student?
am a convert and scared to get married,someone might mistreat me or take advantage of me....make dua for me
Do not think that sis, take good hope on Allah almighty. Because He said what u do will u get so if u didn't took any disadvantage of anyone no one even all the world want to take yoyr disadvantage they will nevwr get bcoz Allah will be there for u......
I m young and at the age of marriage, in this environment every second girl has zina with anyone. I m not afraid for my spouse bcoz i didn't do that with anyone inshallah i will never get that..... ❤️❤️😇👍
Allah bless you
Always Keep Hope in Allah
Oh yeah. Unfortunately, this fear is common to any girl but converts have lesser ways to investigate in the matter more thoroughly. I pray you may find a righteous husband, ameen. :)
When I first met my husband we married. We have been now living in two different countries for 7 months, I miss him a lot but I am patient and Insha'Allah we will see each other next year.
Allah loves patients
@@thaknobodi thats an excuse to me... she had a reaon... but he is just a fiance ... if it dont work .. both parties should move on
and allah knows best
Im a christian but I LOVE islam❤❤❤
Thx
Thanks
We love you too!! 😊♥️
May Allah guide you
You are what is described in scripture as a false Christian
guys, don't let yourself fall in to the trap of satan
marriage?
سليمان السهميI’m a teenager too. It’s a lot more sensible and more complex than that.
I’m a teenager I know what he’s talking about,he’s talking about sexual attraction to a guy who’s not your husband like Zina
@@dusscode
Nope
As a Muslim who dated a girl, At first it felt so good, I feel loved and stuff, for 5 months...
One night, I took it to myself to go pray qiam al lyl, I said (translated from Arabic to English) “O Allah, Please help me, if what I’m doing is right leave me on it, if what I’m doing is wrong help me get away from it”
Later that night, she started texting me, I was not feeling confutable with her after that all the sudden, then I told her “Please I don’t want to take you to hell... neither do I wanna, Let’s break up... this is for your good”
She agreed happily (AlHamdul liallah) And we walked our own paths...
Which type of 'haram' relationship were you in?
Mostafa Zahid just a Message type convo, not anything physical
MashAllah brother
Brother you could have talked to her parents
I respect your Iman brother. But if you really liked her and were at the age of marriage you could’ve talked to her father.
divorces happen to forced marriages too
It happens in other marriages too
No not necessarily
If you go as per statics arrange marriages are more successful than lust marriages. Just google how many single moms are there in the world. You’ll be shocked
@Maher Zain's Fan go and say that to most pakistani old generation they would even go as far as disowning their children if they don't follow parents rules
@@faranbutt180 yeh this is haram nonetheless
this why I don't like to be in arelationship am a 17 girl who likes to be a religious watching this increase my faith alhamdulillah my life going good
my first Love is Allah and second is my parents I always pray to be marry the halal way MyAllah grant me good husband who always encouraged me to pray ,to have good relationship with Allah
Inshallah sister
May Allah make everything easy for you my sister
Mashallah im only 13 yd but allah has guided me for 13 yd and inshallah till i die i would never ever do something that will upset allah plus i pray everyday forgiveness to allah allah will bless only people that go into his path and not the shathon may allah protect allah muslims.❤❤
Mshallah sister
mashallah 💕
my heart is cry because every one asking when i will get married...i always pray dua insha allah he will hear my dua before i gain of age 35 .i will meet my future husband ,he will be the path of my jannah insha ALLA,
@Anyway Uncle Santa did you just ignore what the video says..?
The Moon But it’s highly recommended to marry Muslim girl/boy. And also you forgot “people of the book/ اهل كتاب”.
Read rabbi inni li maa anzalata ilaiyya min khaireen faqeer all th time
Allah put us on this earth, not to fall in love with the mere creation, but to prove our love for him, I don’t believe in any love...besides the love that my allah has for me, because that’s the only true love there is and will ever be.
And if i am to marry in the future, it will only be for the pleasure of my allah, by completing the sunnah.
When you do something for the pleasure of Allah, it will prosper...but if you do something that displeases Allah, then how do you expect that to last? For allah is the controller of everything. May he give us all hidayat ameen.
How beautiful...Subhaan Allah
Exactly! It's to prove our love for him but you should read abot the relationship of Prophet [PBUH] and Ayesha too
Thank you
Sumaya Paruk I admire you.I really do!May Allah bless you
Ameen
I am christian but my heart on Allah and his words in Qur'an that giving me more strenght to live without fear..i love Allah❤
May Allah guide you to Islam, you know Muslims believe in Jesus too!
Allah is our Creator and the Creator of the Heavens and the Earth.. We should love Him and thank him always of all this blessings😍
Lariza Olivo if you want happiness every day please convert to ISLAM QUICKLY life is uncertain
May allah guide u to islam inshallah.
Those who submit their will to Allah swt are already muslims.
What I find weird, is that most fathers don't allow their daughters to go out and stuff. So how am I going to go ask the father about his daughter if I have no knowledge of her existence.
***** But I don't understand your point. Why would I go ask the father if I don't even know that he has a daughter ?
***** No my parents don't want to find me a spouse, plus I live in a small city where there are almost no muslims, and I have no practicing muslims friends because I don't know any. I am the only practicing muslim in my family. No one care about that stuff in my house, only me.
The lecturer seems to believe in arranged marriages I guess. To each their own.
ask your parents to find your spouse, and I'm sure they would look up and give you the best.
+ahmadinejad6666 If you are a practicing Muslim, then you should know that your spouse has already been decided (if you are granted one, in sha Allah you are). So no matter what happens, that result will remain the same.
Also, make dua to Allah for a suitable spouse.
I am a Christian but every time I watched videos about islam touched my soul,tears are fallen😢
Welcome to Islam 😇
I am happy you found the truth 💔💔💔 thanks God
Dear,vWhere are you from
As a practicing sister growing up in the west, I have to disagree with you on certain things. Sometimes the parents don't really understand what we are going through in the west. E.g. my parents found men who are suitable for THEM from back home, but not necessarily suitable for me. They want someone they can manipulate, but didn't look whether or not if he's suitable for me spiritually. Often times the marriage becomes a family or cultural thing over religion.
Although I agree the principle of this video, but I also know there are more to it then just going by the father's wish. Not all parents are the same in terms of knowledge and understanding or even range of social circle.
Her Highness j
In Islam parents have to ask the girl if she agree or not to marry the guy , but it is not preached by most . Or the girl agree where ever her parents are happy to marry her .
@ It's not her fault. The parent should know what they are doing is wrong
M H not really some parents are ignorant and don’t want to listen just like mine
lust disguised as a love
lol true that
- says the one who is inviting lust in a prof pic. *kermit sips tea...
ChiefKeeffiyeh and who might that be
marlina je
Is it still lust when you want to hug and kiss him? And its also ok if you cant kiss him and hug him is it a lust😭😭even though you dont even see each other in every 10 months???and 2 months of vacation you just have a minute with him??😭😭😭is it a lust and not missed when you want to hug him tightly???is it lust that you love him in his ugliest and gorgeous ways????plsss tell mee
Ya Allah Help Me Fast In The Month Of Ramadan Allah U'Akabar
Ameen! May Allah make it easy for you and any other Muslim!
+Jim Roland It's funny how you have the time to mock other religions on youtube... How sad, may God guide the blind! Amen.
+Jim Roland Innalillahi Wa'inna ilaihi raji'un! Be careful to what you say to others. This is very aggressive!
+mubarak gidado umar lol! Tell you people to stop blowing other up/stoning people/ not letting girls go to scchool/forcing girls to cover up...that's aggressive
Jim Roland They aren't our people lol. They're ignorant cowards who can't see like you.
"They start to cry; they start to this, they start ro commit suicide, they start to ahhh😂"
LOLOLOL
All these years of friend zone has just been Allah swt protecting me. Alhamdulillah
I for one am not muslim but this way is the right way.
I’m a Catholic woman, my husband is muslim. We are doing it well together and have respect for each other. We love each other so much. It’s all about respect and knowing the culture and faith. I hope everyone, Muslim or Christian can be strong togheter like us🙏🏼
Is haram married non muslim
mhasif ghaz no it isn’t. A muslim man may marry an Muslim, Christian of Jewish woman. Read the Quran.
Chanel van Os you need to convert to Islam
Georgia Deer hunting no I don’t. I believe in what I believe. And you need to respect that. That’s what the islam says. Have respect to other believers and don’t push people to Islam. They need to believe it for them selves.
I wish you both happiness .Yes it is true, a man can marry a non Muslim as long as she is Jewish or Christian.May Allah guide you to the straight path sister. Selam (peace)
i wish my father was still here in dunyah :( alhamdulilah for everything ur words are gold brother jazaka lah
This opened my eyes alot!
I had this bad stuff in my head.
I know a couple who were betrothed when still children. They didn't want to marry those whom they were betrothed to. They met each other, parents refused and then eloped. They had children, they made a life from nothing and built upwards. They now have 6 children who are of the best of character from all their relatives. Now their family want to know and their parents have apologised. Recently the man passed away at the age of 60, on the first day they read the Quran 67 times. He was loved. There is always more to the story. It's always the intention that prevails in the end. If it's a fling then it will always be treated as one. But if it's sincere and there is love then alhamdulillah it lasts forever.
smartipants123 EXACTLY!
Your comment gave me so much comfort... I am muslim convert for more than 3 years now. Due to my love, boyfriend, angel in Pakistan, whom i already call husband and he calls me his wife. My father is a stubborn atheist, threatened me to stop the nonsense when i told him about Islam 😢 He knows i have a friend in Pakistan but does not know he is my love. We want to marry and be together forever. And this video is simply so wrong. Like how can you marry a person if you don't know his/her interests, level of intelligence, sense of humour? You go and ask for a wife without even knowing how she is. And i am sorry for the speaker uttering those words, but not sheitan tells us we love each other, but Allah. He is the miracle of my life.
@m 2222 This "incident" is called love... And if parents wouldn't be so rigid they would understand that they cannot force their children to marry whom they want against their will and feelings. You are supposed to live your whole life with that person... And love is the most noble and selfless feeling of all, so can Allah not like it?
Boyfriend and girlfriend is haram... Even if you want to marry and know a bit of each other. But marrying someone whom you don't want to is ok... Marrying someone whom you only see once before marriage is ok.
The story that is mentioned regarding the girl falling in love with the guy and the guy falls in love with her etc and they want to get married and he goes and ask for her hand in marriage which the father says no too surely the father should agree if the guy is a Muslim and is trying to put everything right. To my knowledge I thought if the guy is a Muslim and is trying to be on the right path and happens to fall into a haram relationship but wants to make it right, surely you should get them married ASAP. Nowadays fathers mainly reject a proposal purely on culture. This is why some youth nowadays tend to get involved in haram relationship etc.
+willy awsome that I agree. But say if two people happen to have been in a "haram relationship" may Allah guide us then they happen to make it right by making it islamically right it doesn't purely mean they will end up in divorce. I've come across number of fathers who refuse to marry their daughter to a different cast, race etc etc and sadly this does exist to this day. That is why some youth tend to go about it the haram way. I believe if it started through "haram relationship" and both want to make it islamically right and on the right path of deen it don't tend to end up in divorces
+willy awsome True, but still I'm 50/50 about this video. Don't totally agree with it
+willy awsome well living in a western country I have seen many relationships that unfortunately start out haram but end up not divorcing at all... And then there are many who didn't start this way and still end up divorce and like the prophet PBUH said "Marriage is the best solution for those in love" Ibn Majaah
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)
+willy awsome I don't condemn haram relationship far from i but there are ways to go about it that doesn't be all sinful. All I'm saying it isn't totally that 1% at all, it's verse wise the way your thinking an all
Muslimahh xx So you don't agree with Islamic scholars and would like to make your own judgements? And why don't you condemn haram relationships? So doing haram is good now?
I am a Hindu, But I 💓 & 🙏 respect all religions....
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I am proud of you dear you are modern Padmavati.🚩💪🚩💪🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳
May Allah guide you and all of us o the straight path, Ameen!
@@Nourdin726 bro india mai esa kuch nhi ho raha... Kuch haramkhor h jo yeh sabh kar rhe h muslim bhi ate h usmai aur hindu bhi... Baki india ke log mil julkr rhete h eid mai hindu bhi saath hote h aur holi mai muslim.... App shayad pak se hounge apko galat news dikhayi jaa rhi h india mai esa kuch nhi h
K Stun sorry I don’t understand Your language it’s better you to reply me English instead of your mother your mother tongue.
I absolutely love this channel I never fail to learn something every video! May Allah bless u 😊
Your rainbow picture is insinuating you are supporting gay people, which is not good what so ever.
+MrBossmedia Never heard about something called "Niyya"
+MrBossmedia Rainbows have been in existence long before humans were ever created.
+MrBossmedia Allah created the rainbow. so to appreciate the colours of the rainbow is nothing wrong. The west made it a gay thing, they over sexualis everything, so to say its a gay thing you support the western view. rainbow shouldn't be related to that!
Okay sorry guys
I am an atheist. I vehemently oppose all religion and endorse a position of non-belief almost absolutely.
Every word of this message is true. Listen, believer or not.
Thank you for watching with an open mind. :)
Most open minded and nicest Athiest I've ever met + not racist or discriminative at all 😄
thank u for u humane comment
Thanks, I met a non muslim with respect, an open minded. May Allah SWT guide you.
ChaosmanOne you are the first atheist on TH-cam (that I've seen) with an open mind.
you didn't offend anyone or discriminate anyone.
look, I know you don't believe in God, but God bless you anyway.
"its like that movie i watched the other day, twighlight" carries on giving islamic speach
thank u so much for this lectures it has adviced me a lot a lot thank u teacher i have learn alot
what if the girl no longer have a father like me? my father passed away when I was a teenager. And my mother and I have agreed that we will just go through nikah if someone wants to marry me. nothing fancy. but I live in a society where the guys family do not agree to this. they want a fancy wedding just because their son is the only child or oldest child. I'm stuck in this culture where money and showing off means a lot. I just hope that I will get married one day. please pray for me dear brother and sister.
it he girl has fahter then the guy should go to the girls guarian
omg
u need to goto the molana aka priest and you can look into the Quran if she is right for you or not
Where are you from sister
Ma Sha Allah Akhi let us fear Allah has we can
Actually love after marriage is beautiful but some people find it difficult😋
Love marriage is haram
AndroGamer ZX Its beautiful .. dont make beautiful things ugly
@@gulebamarni6214 It's beauty to society..but not in Islam...islam says "Love the girl you marry rather than Marry the girl you love".. it's not a hadeeth but Dr Jakir Nayek said that
AndroGamer ZX sorry but you can not marry someone you dont even know ... dont marry someone you dont love ... dont marry someone Who is like a brother/ sister to you .. marry someone Who is good for you and Who will love you and love her/him
@@gulebamarni6214 Why are you telling me this..tell this to the muftis or to the Imams who gives us a lot of lectures about this matter
OMG, Thank you very much brother!
Best preacher ever!
Alhamdullilah!
This was so real and pure way to express love or find true love in a paak way , very much impressed, it’s my deep heart wish to meet this man , Islam really teaches you to be pure ❤️
ooooh my Alaaah help us all muslim brothers and sisters:::mAy Alaaah guide us the right path Amiiin Amiiin Yarabi
saadia CODEY
Ameen
I annsjshgeuiuuwwiow😟😟🥄🏄♂️🥇☀️😐🤐
Saquib Ahmed l
Ameen
I agree, it all make sense if you see it from a point of view like this. Love and lust is completely different. Love is something you develop over time and what overlooks the appearance. Love is still caring if a persons face is half burned.
You're too immature.
★_Vizualize_★ too immature for what?
Exactly.
tell that to those middle-eastern folks
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Tell that to those western folks.
Think you're an smart guy, media tells alot of lies.
Man in the middle east RESPECT their own woman, in the western country the woman is the man.
HAs to do everything including; doing the shopping, adding planks to the wall. etc etc.
So what if the father makes a mistake? Whose responsibility is my marriage and who will decide to divorce. The father?
I think the role of the father here should simply because of a guardian. Some one who could help you decide for yourself and not someone who forces his decision on you. Anyway, a forced marriage isn't really a marriage in Islam as it requires consent of both the partners. And I such a circumstance the blame isn't on the victim or his /her spouse who is unaware but only those who forced it.
zubairi gal So child marriage, which is allowed and widely applied in Sharia is a form of forced marriage than.
+222amonra In Islam, a person is no longer a child once they reach puberty - they are now responsible for their actions and able to give consent as they have reached maturity. If by 'child' you mean under the age of puberty, then they are not mature enough to give consent to marriage.
+222amonra If we stopped treating them like children and started to support them as the young adults that they are, maybe things would be different. I know you wouldn't like to think so, but actually their bodies are giving off signals that they are maturing... And why do they have relationships and sex at 13 years (let's be real here) but aren't responsible for their decisions/ actions? Children do not have romantic/ sexual relationships.
+222amonra lol am 21, muslim, my father is a Muslim and am still unmarried 😂 so, you were saying?
This is very interesting. I really enjoyed the message presented. I can agree
To be really honest, I'm so done with the mere idea of marrying and 'love' bs. I'll probably live my life alone and love it that way. What's the point of all the drama when you're going to die alone and all these lustful relations are for this life only? My husband won't answer the questions I'll be asked in my grave nor will he be any help as soon as I stop breathing when it comes to the Day of Judgement and the afterlife or the trails of the grave.
But Marriage is a Sunnah! 😂
I sometimes think the same
In Marriage we complete half of Deen "Islam"
It's a good thing to marry. Marriage is not compulsory in Islam but it's sunnah so It's a good thing. Of Course you don't have to marry at a certain age but only when you are ready. It may be 25 or 52. Not marrying at all is also okay but is a strong decision. It's just that when some people look back at life they just regret some of their decisions. Of Course your spouse won't answer your questions in the grave. No one's does. But it's great to have someone with you to walk through life. There are amazing people out in this world so If you've met or had experience with some bad ones. Don't make permanent decisions based on that. I hope you understand my perspective and think again. May you make the better choice.
It is your choice entirely to get married, but remember that you should try to enjoy life as much as you can. We only get one life so make it a good one.
I swear to God you changed my mind about what true love is and in the end I was convinced this whole thing is lust.
Assalamualaikum...my parents are in distress because we are two sisters getting aged day by day ,but we are not getting a suitable person for marriage. Please make dua for my family. The reason for not getting married is we are not good in money & status . I request everyone who is reading this please make dua of Khair & Barakah for my family and Every single family facing same issues .
Try different methods and places
In’sha Allah you both will be married soon
Yah now a days Muslims have made more difficult to nikah instead of its making easy the harsh reality everyone Now a days greedy Of Money only
But many people still in path Of sunnah , InshaAllah Allah one day grant you a good husband may Allah testing u as of now
JazakAllah khairan wa kasira
I hope u got married
I don't know exactly why, but this lecture made me teared. Could be the inspirational speech or maybe my anxieties are attacking. But then , I'm just listening and tearing up.
Converts don't have anyone to set them up with anyone so haram relationships are very easy
That`s true even because often the parents of the girl or boy returned to islam(as we should say and not converted because we are all born muslims), they don`t agree at all the idea of a muslim son/daughter so that is the reason why is easy to get the haram. By the way I think that a person returned to islam that is always in the right path will have halal so easy in sha Allah and if the family returned to islam... ma sha Allah will be the best for everyone !!! :D
Salamwualakum this is true in some cases but if one was to understand the true meaning of marriage in islam and was to follow the sunnah, and then untop of that the parents of either son or daughter, would look at the Iman of the person asking for the hand in marriage. rather than judge simply by the job, background or nationality, halal relationships would be alot easier to undertake, but it doesn't mean as muslim we should abandon it, we should just find a way to make it easier to be approached inshAllah.
Maybe try asking at the local mosque, brother. Some mosques offer marriage search services.
It's hard for sisters too when their male relatives aren't interested in looking for them :/
May Allah make securing a halal relationship easy for us, Ameen.
Xochilt Escalante i always wonder how converts find their other half. here it's easy we're all muslims and we're all born muslim on a muslim land. but then i rmbr that allah is always there so i'm sure allah lead them to their other half. stay away from haram relationships plz it won't do u any good i promise
+Xochilt Escalante david so :p
thank u teacher always send me lectures
This video is full of so much truth. Love it. JazakAllah
I swear u just answered everything for me thanks:)
Masyaa Allah..i hope my dream come true with the future husband bring me to jannah ❤️
I was about to indulge in haram relationship but now with the blessings of Allah almighty I have reverted my ways and started practising Islam as much as possible. Now I want some halal marriage relationship with someone pure...
Me tooo
The "twilight saga" part got me!😂😂😂 mashallah brother keep going!
im so thankful for this wonderful message about being marriage it helps to think more mature and ready for life❤️☝️
best youtube channel ever! 😊
Such golden words you have said actually I am just 18 years old now many wrongs things attacks my mind and iam very afraid to indulge in wrong things may Allah guide me and help me plz say ameen
Ameen
ameen
This helped me so much. Thank you, thank you. 🙌
Well spoken, valuable advice the youth need. Marriage has lost it's value. It's wonderful in the eyes of God. ⛪🇦🇺
Subhaan Allah its soo true!! A must watch!! May Allah forgive us all for our past sins!! Aameen
Yes plz plz Allah plz forgive me from all the sins😥😟 I'm now always so anxious and so much stress then happiness
True Akhi may Allah accept where good work and forgive us all for where past sin Ameen
Please make dua I find a good righteous husband who's everything I want in a person and much more. may Allah help me :(
May Allah help you
Can I know, where are you from
ALHUMDULLIAH 😇😇😇.Before marry I offered prayer for halal relationship because I want to protect myself from haram relationship and for my future husband and then my Parents choose a guy for me I did Istakhara and now I am married for almost 2 years .. we never even argue or blame each other.. ALHUMDULLIAH Allah choose best for me 😇😇😇😇
The infatuation or first love will fade, but the true love will never ever go away, and you can find love and learn to love people, but true love is something else. And you have to look past your lust to find true love
(49:13) Human beings, We created you all from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes so that you may know one another. Verily the noblest of you in the sight of Allah is the most God-fearing of you. Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.
May Allah swt. guide us all and protect us all from zina. Have a beautiful day brothers and sister :)
This recently occurred to me and we both realized our grave mistake... Now I only wish to go through what’s right and look towards a halal relationship 🙏🏼
Alhamdulillah
5:08 good point brother 🤣🤣🤣
You are the best TH-camd bro you always try to tell people to go to the right path thx for your hard work
Ma sha Allah. Muslim marriages are beautiful. :) in sha Allah one day soon. Aameen :)
May Allah make it easy for us all Ameen
Islaam is about respect, honesty and God fearing.Not terror and abuse.Welcome sister Marie
how can you ask for someone's hand when u dont know them tho? what if you do ask for it and you end up not liking them? do u UN-ask ?
Divorce is allowed in Islaam but it is not liked . Marriage is a necessity especially for Young men and women otherwise there can be no sex. Sex outside of marriage is a capital sin that can put you in hell, it is haraam. So get married and it does not work out then get a divorce. But prior to divorce give marriage every chance. PEACE!!!
Usually, It's because that person that you want to marry is known as a good person that's always praying etc.
Do you know that in Muslim traditional wedding (nikah) the marriage cannot take place unless the girl agrees.. Also the marriage takes place with the conest of the girl..
The family collect info. about the boy, they look into his bio data, check if he has a good family background and after that some meetings are arranged between the boy and the girl where they talk, share about their own nature and interact.. In the end if both of them find think that they are compatible then they get married..
Also if a boy or a girls has someone that he /she likes then he/she can talk about it to their parents for marriage..
Liking means only liking, it's like you admire someone who is your ideal type but you can't get sexual with them before marriage which people do while dating ...
In Islam, before marriage you cannot get sexually physical with the boy, eg :when you date you are bound to get physical, flirt, and do all sorts of stuff which a couple does.. This is prohibited in Islam..
You can do whatever you want after marriage ..
Rasulullah said The best was to know the opposite sex is to marry them
I f you two have married when you find out you do not like each other, you simply divorce. It is not liked but it is not forbidden. If you have not yet married but are engaged/promised simply break the engagement. You both should consider the parent's wishes but you are not bound by them, that part is for you both to decide but be gentle to your parents whatever you decide. Surely ALLAH knows best.
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Amazing video and very eye opening. I used to have this mindset of “how will I know them if we dont go out” but now I now that if Allah swt commands something, it is for the right reason. And thank you for explaining this so well.
It depends on cultural aspects and differences. Some cultures don't have arrange marriages or for the father to sort out the marriage. Or other cultures don't have dowries so it doesn't apply to them. I think it depends on culture this guy is talking from a typical Arab family perspective.
I'm from a small area between India and Pakistan and trust me, it's one of the most peaceful Islamic areas. We don't have arranged marriages and I am so glad I am from this part of Muslim land.
yes it true as Arab women ask for house fully furnish, car and etc. we don't have this in my Asian country. mahr is important but not dowry. dowry is discuss between the man and woman family. and if he give some certain amount and agreeable. then the nikah will take place :)
Thanks so Mach I'm not married but inshaallah I pary for God get a good husband like thing you
Ameen
Ameen
i think i watch this video @ right time....alhamndulillah..
Alhamdullilah i am.christian before but i accept islam from the bottom of my heart inshaallah allah guide me alwyz to make a right way ...
Muslim men should marry reverted women and Muslim Women should marry reverted men, this way they are making double the rewards, first of getting married and second of helping a Muslim who needs to get through the first few years of understanding the religion. In the case where it is difficult for them to go through the father as they may be of other religion, they should do this through some masjid.
I wonder what sort of difficulties Muslims reverts have to go through after coming into the shade of Islam. May Allah help them all, and make it easy for them.
bu Ta that's sad I hope inshaallah you find a beautiful wife and her parents love you as well
Affan Sami ameen. Allah always has a plan.
Aameen
In Qur'an it is written " Do not marry an Idolatrous women or men until they believe" Parents are above you and they can make good decision for you but also they should keep your decisions in mind as well and decide accordingly.
I'm Muslim but I don't entirely agree with this. I do believe in the idea of love at first sight. However, the reason why girls and guys say "I have to get to know or I have to get to know him or I have to get to know her" is because you want to see if the two of you are compatible. The big difference when dating is age. When you're 15 and you act that way obviously people change as they get older. I'm a 30 yr old guy who never did drugs, doesn't smoke, doesn't party, wouldn't cheat, stays active, never drank alcohol, good education , saved money and who has dealt with over 10 yrs of drama with girls, especially Muslim girls and I never had sexual encounters with them because I'm waiting for marriage.
But if her father says well over my dead body ur not marrying my daughter well give me a break? I'm not going to put myself down and think I'm some piece of garbage. Only idiots elope. Parents should not get involved with picking and choosing partners for their children.
In this world we live in of doing things on time, paying bills, watching your children, being religious, being civil with others and ext it's hard to be a perfect 10 and then some. For myself I hope to have a close relation with my wife's family (the in-laws) many guys and especially girls could care less about having a rapport with the other family members of the spouse's side. Having 3 older sisters who are all married and being through stuff with girls myself, I have a hard time trusting people so yes, I will date her and see if she's my type, if she's not some - i want you for your money type of girl. When your parents are dead and gone are they the 1s working the relationship with you and someone you potentially love? No. So it does hinder on your own instincts, sound judgment. Like any relation it requires work. Children with disagree with parents and people are bound to disagree with their spouse, it's how mature u are and how u handle it.
+Mohammad N Been watching to many movie love at first sight haha give me a break. The looks don't matter because in a couple of years when she hits her 40s or so she would look ugly their is no such thing as love at first sight its when you have an emotional attachment that's true love when you have the same goals or have a connection ect that's love. The sheik isn't saying tell your parents to set up marriage he is saying to go to the girls father and talk to him have coffee ect and pray together meet his family know what your getting yourself involved in. Arrange marriage are the most successful marriage in my
opinion my parent have been married for more than 20 years and they are happy if you do it the halal way and are sincere your marriage will work out in Sha Allah if you aren't than you know you have to change yourself for the better.
Adnan Akbar First of all did I say looks was the end all B-all? Read everything I typed out (both comments). Now days in-laws can barely stand other in-laws. I've known Muslim girls who have fathers who were or are abusers and alcholics, do u think I care about praying with a man I don't respect? thats fine if u believe in arranged marriages but I've heard stories where people met at random places when they least suspected it and they ended up getting married and being happy.
Guys/Men shouldn't be viewed as the bad guys who only want sex, because I can state that there are shady women out there who only care about $. I don't want my parents to arrange someone with me because I have a different mind set.
Because I tend to be more organized, on time, communicative with everyone and ext...my parents rnt like that...what are they going to find for me? A girl who cannot be communicative with me either?
Yep that's a great recipe for marriage. If you read this and say I'm wrong that's fine, but it's my way and I'm not doing anything wrong.
ok I understand what you mean but when god said haram its haram and its not good for us even if we didnt know why its haram dont do it like zeena its ok i will make it but i will not bring kids some people say that but its haram
+fantastic xxxXxxxXXxX what's so haram about it? I don't cheat in life, I don't do drugs, I don't smoke, I stay fit, i don't drink, I'm not a fake, I work hard and ext...it's rare to find ppl like that now days and who are genuine. I'm not hurting anyone, give me a break. Am I honestly going to hell if I marry an Irani Muslim girl that has a mature mind set as do I? Because it's apparently haram that I found a girl that I love and truly care about her. People who act 1 way and another way are just fake. I ended many relationships with girls because I told them exactly how I was and what i expect and those expectations are not high and nor am I referring to sex. Do guys do that now days? No, hardly ever and rarely. Tell me I'm haram by my actions because u make it seem like I am...ridiculous, don't bother messaging me when u don't truly know me.
Allah will decide when and with whom we will get married.may Allah bless us.
Thank you dear ustaz. May Allah SWT protect us from zina, fitna, shaitan etc, Ameen🤲🏻
I also told the same to my interviewer.I mean how could he know my capabilities without letting me work.?😟😟
subhanaAllah so true the abuse of Marriage in Islam so unnecessary and the abuse of reverts in marriage fear Allah if you do not you could be held up on the surat
I just can't fathom the idea of just walking up to a man and asking for her daughters hand in marriage, I would at the very lease need a reason besides appearance. (I'm Muslim btw).
Shwarmie i mean you don't see the girl at the grocery store, find her beautiful and follow her to her house and ask her dad for her hand, i guess you just get to know her and stuff but without dating or just like try to create a friendship, so if you feel as you want to marry her, then you go up to her dad, if you find y'all being not compatible or you know she doesn't want to marry you, then you just stay friends ...
if you see a girl that you want to marry then tell youre mom or dad to ask her parents dont go yourself maybe she has someone lol
جزاك الله خيرا واحسن الله جزء... بارك الله في علمك و عمالك.. آمين
Jazakallah Khayran for the great video. May allah reward you all for your efforts to help the youth of our Ummah. And may Allah grant us spouses who will the coolness of our eyes.
Ameen
I'd like to say this first: I am not judging anyone of saying that what others have said is 'wrong', I am simply expressing my opinion alongside yours.
Iv read on some of the comments that "It depends on culture..." and I think that the whole point of the video is that we shouldn't be following culture but Islam. For example, the video used western culture to illustrate the point.
I was grew up thinking that I would want to find my partner myself, and thought I am still young and not married, nor do I have any partner, I truly believe that letting your parents find you a match is am incredible thing.
Tbh I don't see how it's any different from dating sites....its just that on dating sites a computer brings two people together whereas in this case it would you be your parents. I don't know about you,but I trust my parents a heck of alot more!!
Why is it so extremely hard to find a devout Muslim man to marry in the West? :(
I totally disagree with this sheikh. In a place where the population of Muslims is less than 1% how are we to find a spouse if we do not look online?
you have to do it halal by letting parents know. bf gf is just wrong. if you go against that order it shows you love your feelings more than allah. have faith in allah and he will provide
Of course bf gf is wrong, did I say it was halal? But we have to arrange ourselves to be married because sometimes parents would not do it for us, or they may be looking for qualities and we may be looking for different qualities in a spouse. It is allowed for a woman to find a husband and arrange her marriage as long as she has the permission of her father or guardian.
+Sana Qadeer Look to those who are not Muslim. The only thing that he did not explicitly say here that would have made things clear; when the Father says, "Over my dead body!", then the brother knows that he is not good enough and must endeavor to increase himself. If he truly wants love that lasts a lifetime, he will break the bones of the Earth to make this happen.
The words of this message are not lost, even to an atheist.
+Sana Qadeer people define GF/BF as friends of opposite genders sexually attracted to each other. And that is a very Western concept. Due to this alone most Eastern people, including Muslims see these relationships to be harmful
Sana Qadeer I think the guys from educated families there are way better than the ones in Pakistan. The ones in Pakistan can't handle freedom.
They drink, do drugs, stalk random girls, text random people, act like clowns, dm you from fake accounts, poke their nose in your friends, try to make you jealous, etc. A guy actually did that then he was delusional enough to say that he was teaching me a lesson (because he felt rejected) and trying to show me there are prettier girls out there. I mean that's how low their standards are.
He has been stalking me for 2 yrs after having met me 5-6 times.
Social media for guys in Pakistan is exciting cause they have no exposure to the west.
I've already decided what guy I want to end up with. He knows I had proposals. I don't get why he doesn't understand that I'll never end up with him and he doesn't have qualities that will make me love him.
Pakistanis love drama.
I think it's best to marry someone from a good educated civilised family otherwise someone out of race. That way you avoid a lot of lame problems.
I was c Christian but after 2years from now i converted slam and im proud to be im happy being slma even some people may judge me even when im doing salah 5times a day i dont care of people may judge me im happy because i been more closer to allah.
Allhamdul allah
How lucky u r in sha allah Allah will give u big reward for make sabar and Allah make them victims of ur every salah it's will be so much benefit for u it's happening with becoz Allah loves u wants more and more rewards give❤❤❤
date for some time sans the immoral stuff, let the folks know it or better inform them beforehand. Get to know each other a little bit and then proceed to marry
InShaAllah im waiting for my Halal spouse 💖
I am here
That's why I'm not allowed boyfriends! Best explanation ever.👏👏😃
Lucy the Mystik Fox where are you from?
A very useful and composed it in a very right way! Congrats