Im 37. Know my wife for over 15 years. I have two kids. My daughter is 7. I'm ok if my daughter stays dating at 16 so that she will be exposed to the dating space and navigate around responsible decisions to be made in relationships. I can still be there to guide her. Don't wait until 20+ when you step into the working society then you might be mesmerized by the more mature and financially stable men, and go head over heels for them, who can jolly well turn out to be already married/engaged, have weird fetishes and probably are assholes too. The pain suffered then might even become too traumatic to recover. To be clear, I'm not asking her to get into situationship/ fuck buddy/ whatever labels they have for not getting into a proper serious relationship. I just hope that she can see more types of boys/ men before deciding on what kind of personality, values, and temperament in the guy that she's looking for, and even consider the flaws of a person which she is willing to compromise with.
This video found me at a right time. In my 25s and only started dating more seriously after i graduated more so to know what I like and what I don't and after a period I stopped as I wanted to work on myself and also cause I knew what I wanted to look for. The past experiences have all taught me something new including one recently where the guy left me hanging with uncertainties for the past 1 month. There is no right or good time, if its the right person, there will be a way to work through things and these are the ones that are meant to stay. The ones that got away may have hurt you in ways but they have also taught you something new. And its also true that I am also getting comfortable with being single but at the same time I don't doubt that I crave to have a partner too. However till we meet the right one, we should work on ourself and also not settle for less just cause societal or biological clock is ticking :) thanks for being that virtual bffs that would provide advice & wisdom on these ^^
Wasn’t / isn’t Azura married? To be sharing about dating and not mentioning the divorce seems …. abit odd? Sure, it’s her own private matter … but when this is a podcast that has so overtly championed being honest and vulnerable - to not even mention it at all while talking abt her “exciting” dating life is abit disingenuous.
24:30 This and your own. But I think a lot of people stop short of communicating it to their partners (initially and constantly), because 'they are expected to know' and imo that's toxic AF, no one's a mind reader. Not doing so only hurts yourself and the relationship.
35:29 LOL.....Azura, need to also state what the first two numbers of the NRIC should be. Cos NRIC start with 'S'.....can also be much much older than either you or Hazelle. 'S' only guarantees that they are born before 1 Jan 2000.
But wouldn't dating more make it harder to settle with a partner? You tend also know more of what you don't like which makes you more brutal in your selection, you pull all the best parts of the relationships you had and project into a single partner can only lead to more unhappiness as such a person would not exist.
I recently stumbled upon your videos after watching the one with Jenn, and I’m so happy that it happened. I feel like I found three virtual BFFs, and you guys inspire me so much with the clarity and wisdom you exude. All I’m doing these days is listening to you guys while eating, driving, and working out. I’m obsessed haha. Sending you love all the way from Malaysia 💕 Keep doing what you’re doing.
13:29 Hazelle, you are right to be, I would say, concerned....maybe for your age, not so much worry yet. But yes, you should be concerned. If not, you could end up like me. I got so comfortable being alone, plus I'm a big introvert, I now find it difficult to date. Cos life is so peaceful now being alone. No drama, no fights, go where I want, do what I want, eat what I want, anytime I want. After work, I naturally just want to go home and do my own stuff (that's the introvert side of me). Weekends, since no partner to go pak-tor, just stay home and do my own stuff again. Catch up on tv or movies, clean the house since I stay alone, do other household chores, cook, catch up on sleep, etc. Again, all this feeds into the introversion since being out and about "tires" me out very quickly. In my last relationship, my partner was the type who feels staying home over the weekend is wasting the weekend. So every weekend we'd be out, from morning till evening. After a while, I couldn't take it. I was exhausted, burnt-out, mentally and psychologically. But now, wah.....every weekend is like paradise. I have a love affair with my home.....LOL. But yea, becoming very difficult to get out of this comfort zone after so many years of being alone.
Can relate, cuz I am the same, just younger. But yea, gotta find a partner that has same pattern, I love staying at home too since everything I love to do can be done at home 😂. Occasionally, go cafe hop, hike or shop, but really really seldom. I went out for a few hours with my sis the other day for sibling bonding for like 5-6 hours and my whole week's worth of social battery was drained, just from drastically the different energy outside.
Im 37. Know my wife for over 15 years. I have two kids. My daughter is 7. I'm ok if my daughter stays dating at 16 so that she will be exposed to the dating space and navigate around responsible decisions to be made in relationships. I can still be there to guide her.
Don't wait until 20+ when you step into the working society then you might be mesmerized by the more mature and financially stable men, and go head over heels for them, who can jolly well turn out to be already married/engaged, have weird fetishes and probably are assholes too. The pain suffered then might even become too traumatic to recover.
To be clear, I'm not asking her to get into situationship/ fuck buddy/ whatever labels they have for not getting into a proper serious relationship. I just hope that she can see more types of boys/ men before deciding on what kind of personality, values, and temperament in the guy that she's looking for, and even consider the flaws of a person which she is willing to compromise with.
Slayyyyyy. The daughters of Clarity agree with you dad! 🙇💗
i love hazel and i could totally relate to everything hazel says . ily hazel if u see this
This video found me at a right time. In my 25s and only started dating more seriously after i graduated more so to know what I like and what I don't and after a period I stopped as I wanted to work on myself and also cause I knew what I wanted to look for. The past experiences have all taught me something new including one recently where the guy left me hanging with uncertainties for the past 1 month. There is no right or good time, if its the right person, there will be a way to work through things and these are the ones that are meant to stay. The ones that got away may have hurt you in ways but they have also taught you something new. And its also true that I am also getting comfortable with being single but at the same time I don't doubt that I crave to have a partner too. However till we meet the right one, we should work on ourself and also not settle for less just cause societal or biological clock is ticking :) thanks for being that virtual bffs that would provide advice & wisdom on these ^^
Awww we love this! Thank you so much for sharing 💖
oh no. did azura get a divorce?
Yeah, this episode feels like its dedicated to her
kind of weird that she's openly talking about dating but not addressing her divorce, but i guess it's her business not ours
Confirm divorce???
Wasn’t / isn’t Azura married? To be sharing about dating and not mentioning the divorce seems …. abit odd? Sure, it’s her own private matter … but when this is a podcast that has so overtly championed being honest and vulnerable - to not even mention it at all while talking abt her “exciting” dating life is abit disingenuous.
24:30 This and your own. But I think a lot of people stop short of communicating it to their partners (initially and constantly), because 'they are expected to know' and imo that's toxic AF, no one's a mind reader. Not doing so only hurts yourself and the relationship.
Jia you Ying Shuang! - From a friend during the time you had short hair 😁
35:29 LOL.....Azura, need to also state what the first two numbers of the NRIC should be. Cos NRIC start with 'S'.....can also be much much older than either you or Hazelle. 'S' only guarantees that they are born before 1 Jan 2000.
But wouldn't dating more make it harder to settle with a partner? You tend also know more of what you don't like which makes you more brutal in your selection, you pull all the best parts of the relationships you had and project into a single partner can only lead to more unhappiness as such a person would not exist.
I recently stumbled upon your videos after watching the one with Jenn, and I’m so happy that it happened. I feel like I found three virtual BFFs, and you guys inspire me so much with the clarity and wisdom you exude. All I’m doing these days is listening to you guys while eating, driving, and working out. I’m obsessed haha. Sending you love all the way from Malaysia 💕 Keep doing what you’re doing.
You're too kind!!! 😭😭😭 Welcome and thank you 🥺💖
13:29 Hazelle, you are right to be, I would say, concerned....maybe for your age, not so much worry yet. But yes, you should be concerned. If not, you could end up like me. I got so comfortable being alone, plus I'm a big introvert, I now find it difficult to date. Cos life is so peaceful now being alone. No drama, no fights, go where I want, do what I want, eat what I want, anytime I want. After work, I naturally just want to go home and do my own stuff (that's the introvert side of me). Weekends, since no partner to go pak-tor, just stay home and do my own stuff again. Catch up on tv or movies, clean the house since I stay alone, do other household chores, cook, catch up on sleep, etc. Again, all this feeds into the introversion since being out and about "tires" me out very quickly.
In my last relationship, my partner was the type who feels staying home over the weekend is wasting the weekend. So every weekend we'd be out, from morning till evening. After a while, I couldn't take it. I was exhausted, burnt-out, mentally and psychologically. But now, wah.....every weekend is like paradise. I have a love affair with my home.....LOL. But yea, becoming very difficult to get out of this comfort zone after so many years of being alone.
Can relate, cuz I am the same, just younger. But yea, gotta find a partner that has same pattern, I love staying at home too since everything I love to do can be done at home 😂. Occasionally, go cafe hop, hike or shop, but really really seldom. I went out for a few hours with my sis the other day for sibling bonding for like 5-6 hours and my whole week's worth of social battery was drained, just from drastically the different energy outside.
azura crringe as usual