No Buy Week #25: WHY did I buy all this? A Radical Display of Everything I was Influenced to Buy
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ค. 2024
- Right so this is another one for my own exposure therapy, confronting everything I didn't need to buy but bought anyway because I was so sucked into social media and the aspirational content and the idea that I could buy a piece of that life and aesthetic too, without doing the inner work to FEEL that life and aesthetic (happy, calm, put together...) on a regular basis. If you have to skip it because of all the STUFF, no hard feelings. Hope to see you in the next one.
0:00 Hi, this is hopefully the last of the embarrassing videos showcasing my past habits
0:09 Liszt's Hungarian Rhapsody No. 2
0:19 what I mean by "influenced"
0:57 the plot thickens...online influencing really led to my shopping
1:53 my most embarrassing video?
2:10 I want to think I'm a smart person but...
2:38 DISCLAIMER, PAUSE TO READ
2:44 at the dining table once again...
3:12 candid closeup
5:08 KITCHEN STUFF that you don't need to buy
7:07 Caraway pans STAIN SO BAD don't buy them
7:30 what I wish we had bought instead
10:04 omg it's an air fryer
10:46 would I have bought one without the influence?
11:22 "elevated" kitchen utensils...
12:13 if I hadn't seen them I wouldn't have bought them
12:26 eco-friendly swaps, NOT regrets
13:33 I DO regret this compostable phone case
14:14 and the octobuddy
14:37 blueland cleaners...love and hate
15:58 a container from a TH-camr business
16:36 consumables...emma chamberlain cringe
17:47 other consumables that were already consumed...
18:45 meal kits or deliveries are expensive and wasteful
19:47 I have NOT tried Athletic Greens but I kind of wanna try greens powder?
21:03 subscription boxes suck
22:19 general tiktok influences...
23:23 a product I ACTUALLY find useful - sponsor me? haha
23:42 I have a different lotion I use, shouldn't have bought this
24:36 I don't watch the "Amazon must-have" influencers now but I used to
26:08 influenced makeup closeup
28:02 influenced hair products
29:18 hair and beauty are SO influence-able
29:58 big mama Dyson airwrap, not just a hair tool but a self soothing tool
30:44 purses and bags, an achilles heel
31:44 hi my name is Alexa hope I didn't wake up your devices
32:22 along with embarrassing overconsumption is embarrassing pronunciation
33:18 matching yellow tiktok influenced style
35:29 starting to get into clothes...
36:33 how I used to do Christmas...
37:31 I remember wanting this so much!
38:35 WHY DID I TRUST INFLUENCERS
38:52 jewelry, rocks, and secrets from my husband
45:52 AUDIO QUALITY IS BACK HERE
46:08 NOT a Stanley thank you very much
47:12 eyemask of stupidity
47:50 I don't blame the influencers, really
48:45 getting into clothes again
50:40 it's that silly fruit print robe
52:00 I wanted to try this because it's expensive
52:14 and now for shoes
55:09 the ludicrous-ness of long sock boots
56:04 other people's love of stuff made me want it
57:00 the vivaia pink slides are put to bed once and for all
57:55 these may not be my style but I just think they are because I bought them
58:04 my favorite bag brand
01:00:00 dental insecurity purchases
01:01:17 do you have any areas of insecurity?
01:01:26 influenced clothing I'm not decluttering
01:02:28 purchased style vs. intuitive style again
01:05:37 I was in a vulnerable place
01:06:09 finally I learned not to follow fashion influencers
01:08:32 there's no end to the stuff I bought because I was influenced
01:09:48 REAL TALK - TLDW
#influencer #overconsumption #shopaholic #shopping #problem #reflection #nobuy #nobuyyear
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Your courage in posting this video is an inspiration . Being a senior citizen, I worry about leaving behind my foolish & wasteful purchases, for my children (both male) to see and be responsible for disposing of. Therefore I am making a concerted effort to greatly reduce my belongings and significantly reduce future consumption. But it’s certainly an uphill battle. Thank you for making content that inspires me to do better.
It is an up hill battle!
Thank you so much for sharing. You are so kind to think about your kids dealing with what you leave behind because obviously at that point it's not really your problem anymore - but I'm sure our families appreciate less of a burden when that time does come.
Other people can use your purchases - there are women's shelters for clothing (they need nice clothing for jobs). There are organizations helping people going into permanent housing - they need housewares of all kinds (kitchen, bedding, etc). Just think of them as charity to the world.
Isn’t ironic that we follow all these “minimalist” influencers and then waste so much money on their recommendations? you’re not the only victim of this 🙃
Yes! I think HLP would be low-key mortified, especially since she got her start as a no-buy channel. I mean, mortified all the way to the bank, but mortified just the same.
I'm actually doing a dedicated chat about this next week! The many times "conscious consumerism" channels got me to buy stuff or made it seem like a "good" decision...
Right - I think in her specific case, I followed for her no buy content and grew to enjoy her company, and therefore did not have my guard up when she pivoted to being more of a product "influencer". Not her fault and I don't blame her at all but it took doing a "no buy" myself for me to see, and become able to enjoy content more responsibly.
@@Alexas.nobuyyearoh yeah, there are 2-3 I actually unfollowed because they started to have Amazon affiliate links under every post and recommended stuff in every second. For me Shelbi is OK. She mostly marks her sponsorship videos clearly and you don’t have to look her recommendations. She also is very transparent about her sponsors and who she chooses to support. But certainly this case wasn’t the right one for your needs. I am mostly not the target group neither because most of these brands aren’t available in Germany. But I understand how you think you actually NEED the stuff if you trust the creator.
@@Siures I do still follow Shelbi, and while she has occasional sponsors I do find her sponsored content "worth the ads." Even though I didn't need to buy this phone case I find it interesting to know companies "can" make "compostable" products - but now I have a better understanding that if I don't really need it I don't need to buy to support!
I feel like I’m watching myself. Same channels watched, same products purchased. Oh goodness.
I’m going through the same journey and realizations. Fascinating.
Haha welcome to the club 😅
I've often imagined myself doing a spoof video of TH-cam content creators. I would be wearing the Lilysilk striped blue and white silk button up, drinking Athletic Greens from a Stanley Cup (or we could do old school with a mason jar and glass straw), wearing a Nord Green Watch, the Bottega dupe earrings and Of course be wearing Invisalign while talking; and my hair would be wrapped in a bathrobe belt (if you know, you know).
I think comparatively, your pile of errors is dwarfed by mine, especially considering how far you are going back in time. So, so many regrets and a sinking feeling at all of the wasted money. This video is a great visual at just how much we are duped and influenced into buying useless stuff. The vast majority we could have easily and happily done without. That being said, I do love your navy Dragon Diffusion dupe and your jewellery rock :)
Now I have to ask if ANOTHER person likes the jewelry rock!!! Why??? That is the only item I REALLY don't get?🤔
Haha LOVE that - but the problem is - would people even realize that it was a spoof these days?? Seems like even that level of "sponsored products" might be too "normal" and we already do see people using a Stanley, dyson airwrap, greens powder, and more all in the same video! 😅
There's just something about it hahaha
We'll let it go.😇😎
Oof this was relatable
This was really relatable and badass. Your memory for where you first saw something is really impressive.
Unfortunately HLP and Alyssa Beltempo/Christina Mychas have a similar effect on me as you describe. I lose a bit of perspective when it's coming from someone who seems thoughtful (which I do believe they are, but that doesn't excuse me from doing any thinking myself).
Thank you! Finally using powers of memory and attention to detail for forces of GOOD rather than obsessive shopping, haha
And yes I also do believe those creators are genuinely thoughtful, it's just one of the pitfalls of doing the work they have chosen. I don't think they'd want anyone to fall into spending/buying traps!
I've also found this year after taking a step back that I've felt less of a need for "style" focused content, because my focus REALLY is on expressing myself using what I have since removing the option of buying anything new. Which is what they teach us - especially Alyssa, I think, but somehow for me the allure of the brands she occasionally worked with would override her very good advice. I don't blame them at all, but I am happier/feel more like "me" now in my wardrobe after taking in less influence in general.
And I know that as long as they're creating videos I can always check back in (I guess it's kind of like celebrity gossip?) if I'm curious to see what they're up to these days.
Funnily enough, I follow a lot of thrifters and I still feel the desire to get the same items even thought it’s practically imposible. 😅
The main factor for me personally to feel the desire to keep shopping (especially for clothes) is the discontentment with my body and how I want to be perceived. And no amount of clothes can change that.
Yes! I think the older I get the more I see how perception is an attitude thing...and we can't buy that "cool-person" attitude (or whatever it is that we want to be perceived as). We can change our attitudes to some extent but also embrace how we currently are too - and actually, seeing myself in these videos on camera has helped me in this acceptance of my own personality in all of its good, bad, and ugly, or perhaps "good, bad, and sometimes weird/cringey" glory.
I wasted so much time being insecure about how tall I am or other stuff like that, and it would have been nice to fast-forward emotionally to this point of not really caring anymore!
Validation helps! There is real interest in this channel!
The “discontentment with my body and how I want to be perceived” really hits the nail on the head for me! It’s exactly why I keep browsing and looking because you can’t buy your way into contentment with body and self
@@aamie2389 I hope for both of us that we can overcome those feelings and find value outside of just the body 💚
Incredible transparency from you here. The stash really shows how much this new social media network of purchase promotions ultimately functions the same as grandma’s home shopping network. I’m not above it, I’m just reluctant to drop a lot of money on any one piece, so if I’m seduced by a promoted product, I’ll look for it secondhand at a low price, thrift a dupe or make it myself. Any later regrets are tempered at least by less money spent and not indulging an affiliate link.
It is astonishing (and unlike you I do judge them) how much product sanctimonious minimalists end up promoting. Partly it’s that they haven’t resolved their own shopping issues. But I think there’s also a perverse incentive to make a channel 'minimalist' or 'elevated' because it throws an ethical wash over the whole thing while making their recommendations that much more valuable because they are supposedly rarer. “Even as a minimalist, I recommend this item.” “Even as someone who buys fewer expensive things, I think this item is totally worth it.” Probably allows them to charge more for sponsored videos and opens the door to receiving pricier higher-end gifts.
I recently watched some of the Financial Confessions episodes of The Financial Diet with a couple of the characters you mentioned. It surprised me that some actually vocalized problematic thought patterns and purchasing habits (e.g. progressively talking themselves into coveting ever more expensive brands and objects), but have enthusiastically fallen back into them.
To be more charitable, a “less than” feeling as a kid really seems to be a throughline. At some point, I wish we could just accept that we’re adults now and our kindergarten buddies’ opinion is irrelevant. The older I get, the more I realize that so much of 'personal style' is not clothes but confidence, posture and maintaining your nerve about your sense of self. It’s why people as disparate as Jane Birkin and Iris Apfel are style icons: because they wore what they wanted & were comfortable in and got on with life even if people looked at them funny. Incidentally, it’s so emblematic that one of the world’s most impractical expensive bags is named after Birkin, when her most iconic bag that she actually used was a plain farmer’s market basket: how brands commodify and mark up genuine style aka someone living their own darn life.
This comment was an experience!
BRAVO 👏
YES!
Next week I am going to share some "last straw" moments I've had recently from minimalism-oriented channels that seem to have endless sponsors and/or affiliate-linked "stuff", which is just in principle totally not minimalist. And I actually just watched the latest Financial Diet video about influencing being like an MLM (unfortunately I didn't see this before I filmed my chats! But it's ok, as obviously perspectives are always going to be unique even on the same topics). And I ALMOST said this in my rant about it but didn't know if I felt good about taking it as far as the MLM....because I do believe that these people are just fallible humans too, and that for these particular creators at this particular time, the allure of thousands-of-dollar sponsorships is enough for them to kind of throw away their brand credibility for but because they're in it too deep, they don't see it that way.
I've definitely stopped watching more and more, and the creators will still be fine obviously, but I do wonder if they realize how hypocritical it is for them to have gained a following through the "responsible journeys" of debt payoff and no buys, to then turn around and sell to their followers. And then to have the audacity to do "declutters" complaining of being overwhelmed by their stuff when it's their own acceptance of PR, sponsorships, etc. that caused this result. They got PAID to be overwhelmed by "stuff"...and I think they've not just fallen back into the consuming habits they used to vocalize awareness of and try to overcome, but have done it in a way that they can justify to themselves because now it's "work" and not them "consuming" or "shopping". It's so dangerous.
I also love that you mention Jane Birkin and Iris Apfel. I'm definitely going to be thinking more about those two as examples, because people were drawn to them because of their sense of self and willingness to display that regardless of opinions - and, I have seen Iris Apfel have sponsored collaborations with brands like Ruggable (and Google tells me now, many other brands!) but all of her collabs clearly seem to have the essence of HER, where the brands sought to express and capitalize on HER iconic style, rather than her spreading the non-authentic-essences of bigger brands and companies for her own monetary gain.
And the Birkin bag arguably doesn't have the essence of Jane Birkin either - I am not personally educated on her or the bag so this may be totally off-base, but surface-level googling unearthed an article where she apparently said she sketched a bag that would be "suitable for young mothers" and I'd argue that a "designer bag" of that price and "status" is NOT in fact suitable or practical in any way for young mothers 🙃
@emmy8526 I feel like I know exactly who you’re talking about without you naming them 😂
@@rachelbrewin5618Same
More people need to see this.
Haha maybe, or maybe not, since that'd just be more embarrassing for me 😆
I wonder if TH-cam recommended me your channel because we watch the same TH-camrs 😅 I’m glad it did!
Same, happy to connect with you and others who can relate, it's honestly helping ME so much on this journey. 😊
Isn’t it funny how we pay for streaming services so we don’t have to watch commercials and then we voluntarily watch TH-cam, Tik Tok and Instagram that are full of people selling you stuff. lol
Right? And for some reason I don't want to pay for TH-cam Premium...😅
This is an incredible video. Reading the comments, I’m fascinated at how a lot of us have seen the same videos and bought the same things. Eye opening!
Thank you! It is fascinating and on one hand I'm glad that I'm not the only one, but on the other hand it kind of suggests that there's a bit of a problem in how the system of online influencing is going right now!
This pile is an awesome visual. I have been a watcher of TH-cam forever and can reconcile all the sponsorships lol. I’m fortunate to not have purchased too much but always watched declutters too and was seeing them throw out all the things they made me lust over lol
Thank you for your thoughtful, nonjudgmental and honest content. I’m new in my shopping addiction recovery, and have yet to de-clutter (to be honest, I’m afraid to face the material proof of the financial mess I’ve made). You’re giving me the courage to dive in. For me, cute workout clothing, cosmetics and contemporary clothing are my drugs of choice. Thank you again.
I have honestly found the process of going through the material proof to be extremely helpful. Not because I'm trying to guilt myself or feel bad about how I used to consume, but mainly because now I am FULLY aware of how much I have compared to how much I actually feel that I need, and how I actually would prefer to use my favorite stuff more often, than have so many options to rotate through. Especially with clothing but even with makeup - I would love to be able to say I have a signature lipstick that I love and actually use up entirely than to have 10 options that are all good, but none of them get finished. Good luck and welcome to the journey 😊
I so appreciate your candor. Thank you!
Me too!
Yea ❤
Thank you!!!
Whoaaaa the cat flats. That brought back memories of the early days. I really appreciate both your vulnerability and your confidence.
Haha a very specific era
You are so not alone girl. This got me spirling thinking about all the things i was influenced to buy. This is so good to be aware of.
It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one 🫣
Lily Silk does not make high quality products. Additionally silk charmeuse is easily damaged. I saw NUMEROUS influencers talking about how high quality their stuff is, and I have many very very nice silk pieces, and knew there was absolutely no way you can get high quality silk for such a low price.
Good to know - I'm definitely not an expert on fabrics etc. and that possibly makes it even easier to be duped into thinking something is a "good" purchase just because it's not polyester 😅
GIRL this was such a good video! Congratulations on your journey and channel growth 🎉 I hope that you can have some gentleness and compassion for yourself re: the capacity to be influenced. The role of influencers IS to influence. That's the job and many are well practiced and professionals at doing just that. The fact that they were effective in influencing is at least, in part, a reflection of their effectiveness at doing their jobs. There is also the element of personal responsibility that you are also addressing. But please don't be too hard on yourself that you took an action that someone created an entire campaign to encourage you to take.
Omg thank you!!! I'm definitely seeing the "job of influencing" differently this year, through newly opened eyes and with new opinions 🤔😅
And BIG CONGRATS to you too for 20k!! Love to see it 🎉🎉🎉
Not me looking at my Echo Pop when you said Alexa twice!
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OMg this video!! you are so relatable and inspirational at the same time , and you are not alone I'm 40 years old and still feel the pull of influencing online most of the items and influencers you mention I have also been influence to buy in my always revolving accumulation and decluttering of stuff . thank you for your honesty at this point you are now of the only people I can watch thank you ( im here with you learning to think on my own is never 2 late )
Thank you for joining and sharing this with me - we can break out of the cycle together!
I continue to love this channel even though I have absolutely no connection to the subject! The honesty and openness and fearlessness so appeals!
Haha I'm happy we can share a connection even if it's not through the subject 😊
I feel that your subject matter will expand. Not that it is narrow now but the many other branches of careful living ( climate change, sustainability, happiness with less, future of our kids!) all seem within your area of benefit!
@@bthomson Funny you should mention this...I DO have a lot of ideas kind of "loosely journaled" about all of those topics! And plans to weave them into some future chats for sure, so your intuition is very sound!
Can't wait!
I kinda feel good bc I didn't spent my money as much as you hahahahah
But regardless I feel that we need more videos like this , so that we really can see how online world influences us and makes us a sheeps.
Thank you! No more sheep life for me haha
@@Alexas.nobuyyear Hahahahha realization is the first step , if we realize that we are going on the good path.
I had a discussion about this under one video after which I unfollowed the (minimalism) creator. I talked about advertising tv of before. They talk about a product seemingly from a personal perspective. But they make their living doing this. They’re not your friend recommending things they know you need. They produce the need. The person whom I answered this to wrote that she didn’t read the whole comment but doesn’t understand my problem - therefore this content and discussion is important!
If we don’t talk about the problem people will fall to these influencers.
(Edit typo)
@@Siures The way you wrote this is kinda hard for me to understand but I got the point.
Well I do agree with you , we need to be more aware that creators make a problem then give us a solution without us noticing it , but also I like to see some recommendations for things that I actually need. But I noticed that once you realize how much you have , or let's say you need then it is easier to ignore recommendations that you don't need and focus just at ones that you want.
For example , I used to go to the drugstore and I wanted everything, I needed everything ( I didn't spend much money there bc I don't have such income) , but I still bought some stuff that I totally don't need e.g. cooling salt water ( a bullshit of a product) , but after I realized that I don't need such products I only buy ones that I actually find necessary, shampoo, conditioner, deodorant and so on , but no more oh i need cooling water . Once you realize it , it's not that easy to get influenced , i love to watch , you need this ,videos , but I totally realize that most of those thing I don't need ,so i don't buy them. And the more you watch and you are like I don't need it ,it become easier to just ignore all ads or to search just for ones that you would like to see .
Was this comment to long and unnecessary? 🤣
The point is , that you just need to realize it , and to realize it you need more open eyeing videos like this ,or videos like " the things i no longer buy" , " the things I no longer need" and instead of your feed being , "you need this" , let it be "you don't need this".
Back to your comment, how did you managed to find a minimalist creator that is recommending you stuff to buy? Or they just recommended eco friendly replacement.
@@Siures "producing the need" is right on. I will talk about this on Thursday and Friday this week about how influencers are so removed from both the companies paying them, AND the customers, and this really messes things up. They can look bad if/when companies they recommend have scandals or go under, and they also have no real idea who is being pitched to in their videos, it could even be children or other more vulnerable members of the community.
i wonder if you have come upon Swedish Death Cleaning in your declutter journey? your last comment about the stuff we leave behind being trash almost 99.5% of it reminded me of that
Yes I have! And while I love the point behind it, I'm going to consider the "not buying new trash" good enough for right now because I hope I have a good bit of time left, before REALLY having to consider when I'm no longer here 🫣 avoiding existential crisis haha
Thank you for your courage to talk candidly and show all the items, it’s very powerful image. I feel sometimes that one of the few ways saving me from the vast influence is the fact of me living in Eastern Europe - shipping of all the goods seems horrifying… but also watching all the creators you mentioned I can’t shake the feeling of how much poorer of a part of the world I live in. But maybe for good, I am starting to appreciate our need to have more of the modest ways of life. But I had to „translate” American imagery of „standard” of accquiring stuff to our reality - american side of social media is so prevalent…
Same here, I can’t justify the international shipping on top of the prices of certain items. But fighting the desire to own things is the real issue for me 😅
I used to have something similar when I lived in New Zealand as far as shipping, many brands wouldn't ship there or costs would put me off buying 😅
But yes I'm not proud of being "American" in my consuming recently - I think the shipping impact is probably the same as far as environmental damage and labor and etc. even if we "American consumers" aren't paying higher prices directly for it, which is dangerous and enabling...
It's interesting to think about how people in America especially talk about being "overwhelmed by stuff" and doing "no buys" and etc. while it's very much a problem we have made for ourselves (and what's more a problem that can seem insulting to people who are not part of the problem but have to watch it unfold!).
Oh man your statement about liking to buy jewelry more than wear it really hits home. I think I did the same thing. I had a whole big jewelry armoire full plus more at one point. Have gotten rid of probably 2/3 but still have a lot that I don’t wear 🧐
I think this is true of jewelry AND makeup for me! And I'm not even totally sure those are the ONLY two categories.
There are even possibly some groceries I've purchased because I liked the "idea" of using sundried tomatoes for example, but have never actually had recipes that asked for those before I bought them...😅
I just want to say think you for this video and your content in general. I have been on a low buy this year and your talks have helped me identify more problem areas, especially this video. I have the opposite problem. I am rarely influenced to buy something. When I am, it is something that i have intentionally been looking for, and they all have been major successes. I think because it is harder to return, I put more thought and effort into the purchase. However, take me to a mall and a good sale, oh that is a different story. I actually just quit my part-time retail job because the employee discount and constant exposure was too much.
That's so interesting to hear about having the opposite problem. I do think the "convenience" and "personal recommendation" of online influencing is my downfall but it sounds like it does actually work as it "should" for you, where you can use recommendations to find the best product for you!
I've actually never worked retail (I was in hospitality 😅 so, discounted food instead of clothes/other stuff) but I can also totally get how that can be a double-edged sword of making money while being exposed to tempting stuff and I think I would very likely not do well in that environment with my shopping habits either!
I love Athletic Greens because it is so pure and has no fillers. Also, I love MudWTR - I feel so much better using both! Whenever I quit them, I miss them...
That's great! I'm happy to hear these products do actually work for some people.
Love the way you think! Awesome and refreshing! Every time I see you have a new vid I am overjoyed ❤❤❤😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Aw thank you!
what an amazing video! this is my first video of yours and i subbed right away. your honesty is refreshing and i love your self-reflection! you inspired me to declutter with you as i was watching the video. thank you!
Aw thank YOU!
instant subscribe. you are the creator youtube needs ❤
Aw thank you!
If you are eyeing a greens powder because your diet doesn't meet your daily nutritional needs, I would recommend looking for either a food based multivitamin or fortified protein powder instead. There are better priced options out there. AG1 is not special, they just have great marketing.
Thanks for these ideas! I'm currently trying a much cheaper greens powder (don't think I can ever bring myself to try AG1) and perhaps afterwards I'll look into a different option, a protein powder might be an even better swap if I actually follow through on working out more this summer as well...
Also Patricia from "A small wardrobe'' ditched the whole " I only wear earthy tones" boho art teacher vibe and is now a black wearing designer bag diva lol. With beautiful artsy shots she can sell you anything
HLP is very eloquent. I never liked her style, I find it a little dated honestly, but the way she beautifully describes them makes the clothes desirable
Chirstina and UseLess girl aren't my style, theyre too basic looking but they're pushing a lot now. It's very sad because you almost believe they would never push anything that they wouldn't buy themselves.
I'm sorry, I'm not a rude person but this whole narrative is hypocritical.
Also, Alexa, you're very creative and intelligent, you're an orchestral musician for crying out loud! You don't have to copy those people.
Yes with Patricia it was the beautiful artsy shots, as well as the nature, beaches, dunes...I think THAT was more of the aspiration I wanted when I bought what she recommended! I wish I lived closer to the ocean!
HLP is WAY more into makeup than I ever have been, but when she talks about clothing I have tended to "want to try" what she talks about.
And I think I'd agree that Christina and Signe are only partially "my style", like their outfits are "fine" but I couldn't follow their formulas without something a little more unique or personal to me - but I think their messages of financial responsibility and wardrobe sustainability (which may have been stronger before so much sponsored content!) and I've actually had to unfollow both (which I actually am talking about this weeK!).
HLP is the only one left for me probably because 90% of the time the things she talks about are not temptations, and I hope with my increased awareness this year I can get through the other 10% of the time where she might show something tantalizing that I don't need.
And finally - yes I am an orchestral musician! But, I don't have a full-time orchestral job, despite having done probably 30-40 auditions, possibly even more. While I now consider myself lucky to have a part time version of my dream job, it still feels like I've failed time and time again, and a lot of it due to my own inability to get my act together and prepare seriously. So it's hard to appreciate my "identity" when it's been peppered with being told I'm "not good enough" to be chosen and I know that it's not even necessarily due to a lack of ability because I haven't been organized enough to put forth my best. And the other scary thing is...what if I do get organized and put forth my best, and still don't get chosen? Clearly I have more to work through here but I'm not sure how much of the super specific details will feature on this channel haha. Sorry for the long response but I appreciate the opportunity to think through things even further - so thank you!
I find it interesting that, while I've only been influenced to purchase about five items from this video, I've bought many other items due to similar influences. It's fascinating to see how people are persuaded to buy different products, even when influencers are sharing similar content. Out of all of my influenced purchases I think I only have repurchased maybe 3 because I actually enjoyed them. I found your channel at the perfect time! I am glad an "influencer" (yourself) is influencing me to NOT buy and to be more mindful of my money and purchases. #NoBuyYear
Haha I still cringe a little at the "influencer" label but I suppose it's inevitable if I'm going to share ideas online - have to remind myself that not all influence is bad!
And it is so interesting! We are all different but I guess it just goes to show different stuff will tickle our personal insecurities/goals/values in different ways but I think many of us are susceptible to the false promises of "buying stuff", one way or another!
Oooh the Mason Pearson brush, I have coveted that brush since I was a teenager 😂 but I can never justify the price. Also, I know I will not clean that MP brush in order to maintain the quality of it so it doesn’t fit my lifestyle. I remember the mulberry bag when they collaborated with Target but unfortunately mine didn’t last, the quality was not as good as the designer one.. I miss that bag. I do however love my uniqlo crescent for traveling, I take it on every trip lol and as for the baggu bag, I bought a dupe from Amazon and I use it as my everyday bag so while I was influenced, I am glad I have them. And I’m proud that I have resisted the need for more colors! I find myself browsing different colors but then I remember I already have the bag so I don’t need to buy it again 😂 You’re not alone with the “after dental work purchase to make me feel better.” I have been victim to that and even did it recently. I was triggered and immediately made an order on Muji but I didn’t spend a lot and they were practical purchases for my house which I am allowing myself to buy for the next few months. So I did better than before, progress over perfection. After that, the no buy will become more strict because of the said expensive dental work! Dental products are from my own teeth insecurity as well but one thing that helps is that I try to only buy things that have the ADA seal of approval so that cuts out ALOT of dental products. But I’m a sucker too and also bought that Gurunanda pulling oil even though it’s not ADA approved 😅 side note, the Gurunanda toothbrushes are the best!
Here's to dental recovery, both from the work and from the cost😬but also yay for us being responsible and actually getting it taken care of - I know people who either never go to the dentist or put off getting work done because it's so expensive and hard to pay off (which I totally do understand as well).
Stainless steel - Prudent Reviews yt channel seems to have great reviews of cookware and he has extensive reviews and demonstrations of stainless cookware (and other types of professional quality pans). For even cheaper I like Tools of the Trade brand stainless. Rice/grains cooker - I love my Oyama all stainless steel rice cooker (inside parts are stainless steel) it is actually quite easy to clean, it has a clamp down lid so it can cook harder grains like steel cut oats, wheatberries, ryeberries and whole buckwheat (I cook both 2 to 1 water to grains). Buckwheat is a great savory grain (better than rice) as well as great as porridge.
Great to know! When the time comes I will check them out thank you!
Wow, that frying pan looks defective. Caraway cookware is amazing for ceramic coating. They are much healthier for nonstick. We opted for them after a ton of research (I’m notoriously slow at big decisions) I think you got a dud if yours look like that and won’t come clean-I would reach out to the company. As far as the storage containers-yeah, I would not have gotten those either. Cookware is a different story though. 😉👍
Amazing video as always! I love your content; the transparency and honesty are so refreshing! 😁👍
Good to know and happy to hear they came through after being researched as well! I suspect it's been too long to reach out (maybe 2 years) but we do still use them even as they are, and I'm not sure how long of a life-span ceramic nonstick is supposed to have? Maybe I need to do some research there too...
I already answered under other comments but now I actually finished this video. I love your insights! I know a lot of the influencers you mention and unfollowed a few of them because their content was a bit to advertising for me. I’m not easily influenced by fashion but I enjoy content about capsule wardrobes, repairing, sustaining clothes… and there are some intersections.
What I struggle with is kids stuff / kids clothes. I didn’t buy something I totally regret but in a few cases I ask myself if the brand I saw online was really the best choice… on the other hand I am tired of researching and going through things on Second Hand markets. Children constantly NEED something. I have to replace irreparable damaged Leggins. They will need new shoes twice a year. They need new bikes every few years. So a no-buy is no option. And - on a certain level - I am responsible for how people see them. And board games are my biggest flaw. I follow several channels and buy games although I still didn’t play the old ones and the kids‘ board games don’t fit on their shelf anymore.
I totally get how you WANT to have a guide - an influencer - to make these decisions. I am very interested in your planned video about this!
Right I know I kind of indirectly mentioned in the video where "I failed my no buy" that I also DID buy kids clothes, one of my kids had a birthday and also needed summer-appropriate replacements so, clothing was purchased, and my "no buy" does not extend to kids needs. But I'm not allowing myself to "shop for them" when I just want to shop, which I have been guilty of in the past, not a ton, but it would happen sometimes.
I also love board games but have put those on a total pause until all of my kids are old enough to participate. I think they're also appealing because they promise fun and quality time, which, who doesn't want more of both of those things?
I do love my little Polene bag but it’s the only item I’ve bought directly via social media. Waited 4 months before purchasing.
Honestly I also do enjoy all of my Polene bags - I started my "collection" back maybe 5 years ago, and social media didn't play that big a part since I saw the brand before they got really big. I'm probably going to do an "opposite of sponsored review" (going through the things "review videos" SHOULD cover) on this channel, going through my "bag collection" as part of my "going through and decluttering all the stuff I've bought before this year" series...
For green powder, I use Garden of Life's Raw Organic Perfect Food Green Super Food Juiced Greens Powder (flavor: original/no stevia). A lot of the trendy green powders mostly use algae which isn't inherently bad but there if someone has a thyroid issue, excessive iodine from algae can be as an problematic (I'm an RN). Algae runs a risk of seafood-related contamination/toxic poisoning (unlikely since the algae is processed and pulverized but still a consideration). Made from different grasses and bean/grain/seed sprouts, fruits & vegs, and probiotics & enzymes. A registered dietician who isn't an influencer recommended this.
Thank you for this advice!
Thank you for your honest content and time you take to make it. I’ve got a basket waiting with sandals in that I wanted and now are in the sale so not influenced just by just being in a sale, but do I actually need them as I do have sandals that will do the same job? I would have just hit ‘buy’ by now but not as yet. You really are making me think and I listen to your videos as a sounding board in my mind to really think and consider than just clicking the buy button. 😊
Oh man it sounds like the urge to purchase sandals during summer is more universal than I thought - which makes sense! I'm increasingly realizing that I don't actually care about having "more" options for stuff (now I wish I had less!) and as I slowly wear things out, I really want to try and keep a smaller amount. But, if I hadn't bought in the first place I wouldn't have this issue! So I guess make sure you're okay with having another option in your rotation before adding those new sandals 🙃
Best Buy will take your old cell phone for proper recycling.
@thestorykeeper6818 thanks so much for this info!
The amount of things in your video that i have actively lusted after is not finny. The only thing that stopped me from purchasing these exact things were that i do not live in the US and so they were unaccessible to me.
I've had several people comment that living outside the US means a lot of stuff isn't available! So interesting that the US/North American market has such a monopoly on these ads 😬
Amazing that I hear you mention Justine Leconte, you always remind me of her, especially at the beginning of your video’s!
You are a more beautiful version though😊.
That's exactly what I was thinking! They both look somewhat similar.
They do look similar! Even their voice and tone
Aw thanks, I'm so flattered! 😄
athletic greens tastes like a popsicle that hates you
I don;t think sponsored content is necessarily unethical - it is simply advertizing, it does not mean it is bad, they have to get seen somehow.
I have more thoughts about this coming this week, I think saying it is or isn't ethical is probably too simple of a judgement since it's always about the grey area in between...but I am going to share why it makes me personally uncomfortable (I think especially on Thurs and Fri)
Do you think that the underlying problem was that you wanted to be someone else and tried to achieve that through buying items associated with those people. I came to realise that I did not really like who I was during the various lockdowns in the UK in 2020 and 2021 when we had so much time to ourselves. The amount of online shopping I did went through the roof because I was looking to buy myself into a better version of myself. It is so good you have recognised there is an issue and that you are working on it. Best wishes
Very possibly yes! Or perhaps another way to say that is that I was keeping myself from reaching my full potential. Like I was frustrated maybe, that I hadn't succeeded in winning a job in an orchestra yet, (still am!) and turned to distraction, or frustrated that I don't work out or learn languages or pursue my personal goals that take time and effort and can't be "bought"...so the "someone else" I wanted to be was the ME that DOES succeed at these things. And actually still kind of is who I want to be but am not quite yet - but now I'm working towards it instead of misguidedly buying stuff...😅
Wow
So that got my comment! Yes! Why is this item so expensive? I HAVE to find out! Maybe IT really IS different? What a racquet!!! We shouldn't fall for that trap!
Even better quality!? So it lasts longer - we may want a change! Isn't it better to buy two different whatevers to mix color or style than one expensive one? I can never get myself to fork over THAT much money for one item! 😎
Oh my, stop watching hannah louise! haha 😊
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I bet those Leconte earrings look great on you. You should untarnish them and wear them!
Thank you - I definitely should. I do really like the style!
hahaha nisolo got me good. byebye $500 for the "club" that's now defunct
HLP 😅😅😅😅 * runs away screaming*
omg 😆
I tried the Live It Up brand of greens powder. It was awful- didn't dissolve in water at all and tasted gross.
Funny you mention that, I just started trying that brand 😳 haha
I wouldn't say it's been totally awful for me as I do enjoy the slight mint flavor, but you're right that it doesn't dissolve well, I use half of the recommended amount and stir a few times as I'm drinking it...but not sure if I'll keep this habit unless I do notice a difference in how I feel (it's only been a few days). I am happy that it's making me drink water before coffee in the morning though so hope I can keep THAT habit with or without greens powder!
I bet your kids wanted to play with all those wonderful things!
Pela cases u have to send them into pela to be composted they need special circumstances to compost people have made videos showing you you cannot compost them @home
Oh thank you for letting me know! Another thing to add to the to-do list haha 🫣
This pile is an awesome visual. I have been a watcher of TH-cam forever and can reconcile all the sponsorships lol. I’m fortunate to not have purchased too much but always watched declutters too and was seeing them throw out all the things they made me lust over lol
Right, I finally decided I just have to be done shopping haha it is kind of frustrating to see creators complain about receiving too much PR/free stuff/sponsorships and then having to "declutter"!