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Can’t recommend this advice enough. I’ve been so stagnant the past few years because my thought was “once I catch up on everything I will then work towards a better future.” It’s only now that I’m working on my future that I’m motivated to catch up. Great advice!!
Yes! I'm an ENFP and I just began trying to clear up some of my physical, mental, and emotional baggage. Going to start to see a therapist in a week, losing weight, and clearing up clutter. Thanks!
Oh god no just the thought of dealing with the past and cleanly and organising stuff drains me. I always want to move onto the next thing because that’s what I’m excited about, and if I have to re-do stuff I hate it, both in terms of videos, copy, podcasts etc. and also in terms of those awful repetitive day to day things like cleaning and food shopping . I also hate having to delay the future, like if I can’t plan a trip yet because of finances or I can’t throw myself into a new project because I’m still tying up loose ends from the project before. 😠
this is so me omg. i’m enfp and literally if i have an idea or want something i want it STRAIGHT away and get rlly irritated when things get in the way i love to have things done as soon as i think of it
Oh my. I hate loose ends. I am a self confessed procrastinator. Fear of failure. Scared I will fail. So scared sometimes I end up doing nothing! It's tedious but decluttering is therapeutic. When I get motivated enough to do it. I believe, though I don't always practice it. We despise the mundane. I don't know if it's best. However it makes sense that your life will flow much smoother if you de clutter on a regular basis. I am quite tidy anyway and can't stand dirt in my house. Just like in life. If you have lived in the same place all your childhood. Your parents are still together etc. It's a psychological fact that you're relationship attachment style will be secure rather than nervous or avoidant. Very important with romantic relationships. I am not romantically involved with anyone. Decided I am going to work out what I want from a relationship first before jumping in the swan shaped paddle boat a again. Others don't understand. ENFP worlds are often complex. Except to us it's fine and don't get how we can look upon the situation and see it as it really is. No point in getting upset about things we have no control over. I wish I had gone to the same school all my childhood. It definitely helps to build those all important bonds and necessary foundation's to live a balanced happy, almost stress free life. Thanks Dan great. New things to ponder. Love and happiness to all my fellow enfps. I like my own type a lot. Infps too. I feel I fluctuate between introvert and extrovert.
This video changed my life. I have been digging three years in my past and childhood as i was learning psyhology.. and my teacher told me i smile too much, that im fake. So, as a good student i stopped smiling, beacuse i tought that he was right. Everything in my life falled apart, i was not me anymore, i was so demotivated and sad all the time. Now i have somehow reached up to your channel as a enfp and understood, that there is nothing wrong with me. I was simply doing things that was killing me inside.. But now i have quit the school that was so bad for me, and started my own photography - my secret love, my inspiration and i feel amazing. I love creating and looking forward everyday, not digging in the past all the time. So, Dan - thank you so much for creating this channel and putting so much energy in that. Big kisses
@@kristinadjurasevic lol I am finishing my psychology degree right now and I don't regret doing it but I feel this is not what I actually want to do in my life. I want to create.
I'm enfp and had depression. And it did really messed me up thinking, and looking back in the past, of what went wrong, or what it could actually could be. It really drained me focusing in the past or pain I've had, that I can't move forward... there's no room left for future. Now, that I'm reinventing myself, I'm glad I found this channel, and binge watching few days now and it's giving me light and hope. Also, HAHAHA weird thing. I was studying accounting when I had depression because of family matters and also had existential crisis of what do I really want in my life! 😂 Since I deeply know to myself I don't like to be an accountant, and add depression. Didn't really think twice skipping class lol. Wish I had more guidance during that time. But I'm back to school just to finish it since I'm in my last semester lol. Hope everything turn up great.
Hey, I'm an enfp who had been diagnosed with depression as well. I was so lost in what to do, what am i doing and all. I'm also studying accounting but I've been failing classes for 3 years now. I know i have potential because i used to be top 3 students in my class before and still when i get sudden burst of energy i will be studying day and night for about 2 weeks and then come back to square one but now I'm slowly trying to improve myself and i hope i will pass this year NO i am going to pass this year 🤞 its just i read that people with enfp should avoid accounting and finance so..how do you feel about accounting now? I'm wondering if i made the right career choice and ik i can't just leave it. 🥲
Interesting! I just realized that I only clean when I AM thinking about the future. I clean like mad when I am going on a trip and don't mind and it's hard for me to stop cleaning to actually GO on my trip or I clean like mad when I am having someone over but it makes me feel terrible to clean on a regular basis so I DO often hire out my cleaning... It has always had me perplexed why I have a love/hate relationship with cleaning when I dont mind cleaning and actually rather enjoy it... but then I mind cleaning.... You just made me realize the difference! I love cleaning when I am thinking about the FUTURE. THANKS! It's as simple as that! When I need to clean, I just need to focus on what the future will bring as I clean.
I think you once made a vid on getting anchored in the past. The other day I watched Pinocchio which felt good. There's a time for everything I guess. If it feels unproductive to dig in the past, look to the future, and if you get stuck in the future, maybe there's a need for the past again. Great video(s)!
Honestly, even the other 15 signs could use this. I’ve been on journey of learning how to be hopeful and grateful, and unlearning put myself down and ruminations
My favorite advice ever for ENFP’s! Tied with your advice to remember that when we are told to “focus on one thing” it’s like a death knell for us! We shouldn’t (necessarily) attempt to follow traditional advice for success. Now, I just need to keep the momentum GOING!! 👏🌟🙏
Was just doing this before I saw your video and yes it helped so much. I'm getting burnt out with work, I love the work im doing but its been too much of the same for too long. So I spent the last couple hours planning a trip and all of my energy came back and im energized again.
@@enfp I'm not totally sure yet! I'm on a budget so I'm going to camp along the way and find a few things east coast USA to visit. My social muscles have deteriorated a bit so im hoping to meet people in my travels!
Oh my. Thank you SO much for this. I thought I was an INFP for the longest time and I’ve now learned that I’m actually an ENFP. This hit the nail on the head! You are definitely not alone in getting excited for the possibilities and I spend most of my time trying to fix the past. Thank you for helping me see that! I wish you all the success!!
Absolutely true, it took me a long time to figure that out! To have energy to get things done that kind of nail us to the floor, I need to do something that makes me excited. Than I will have energy enough for all those other stuff!
This is awesome. I read on 16Personalities that ENFPs are the biggest type to be nostalgic and think about the past. I can attest to this, as well as probably INFJs. The only downfall is like you said when it becomes this painful longing for how things used to be, or you're stuck in some sort of spiral you haven't fully coped with yet. There definitely is a fine line and I think it's also hard because we are Feelers too lol. Would you be able to make a video for coping, resiliency, and dealing with our intense, overwhelming emotions--and how to be more grounded in reality and logic? Thanks!!
This is true. When watching movies, I always hate high school graduation scenes because it gives me so much feels in my heart and I am kinda uncomfortable with that tingles. I recetly realized that I feeel that way because I incorporate it to my own high school days. What makr my heart feel things is the fact HS is already in the past and I cannot come back to the innocent happy days. I realized that I am uncomfortable with the feeling of nostalgia.
Even the thought of looking towards the future and building possibilities is hugely relieving. I feel lighter and more able to deal with tasks. Thanks for the reminder!
I have been trying to heal and "fix" my past for almost a year now, after my mother passed away, and it has been a year of constant journaling, thinking that i have to heal as fast as possible to move on to the next part of my life where i get over all the resentment. It feels stagnant . Dan made a point, while im healing maybe i should look for future possibilities, instead of thinking that im only deserving of new visions when the past mindsets are healed
I had a housekeeper for 6 months once. Had so much more time to be creative. I moved back last year and still haven't unpacked everything. I have better things to do!
I'd love to have someone come in and help me clear out what's no longer of any use in here! When I get on a 'minimalist' binge, I get great ideas for the future. So freeing!
I think understanding the past is very helpful thought. You understand what you do that may be toxic and needs to change to be healthy and make better choices, appreciating your relationships more, being happier in general, etc. I was in a very very dark place this year : I was lost, I didn't love and accept myself, I never communicated with friends, my relationship with my boyfriend was difficult, etc. Needless to say I was fucking depressed and suicidal. So, I had to revisit a very very unhappy part of my childhood to heal from it, to accept that I have lived that experience and I will always be trigger by some things, but since I now understand when and why I react in some ways, I can stop myself and choose to act or feel something more healthy instead. But it is so fucking hard. You are right to say we ENFPs aren't excited to look into the past. It is unexcited. Ok take care of yourselves guys
Clever! Hadn't even occurred to me! I'm doing a whole bunch of stuff to make myself a new future whilst surrounded by a whole bunch of past stuff that weighs me down every single day. In truth the stuff that weighs me down probably wouldn't take that long to deal with but because it weighs me down I end up avoiding it but not really progressing with the new stuff either. If I spent 3/4s of my working day doing the new stuff & 1/4 dealing with the old stuff I bet I'd start seeing the progress I'm missing out on, especially if I change my attitude to the old stuff & see it more positively as making a positive contribution to the future too. I think you just nailed this on the head. Thanks Dan!
Yes definitely! It is much more fun and energizing for me to look at future possibilities 👍 I think that you do have to do the work and tend to some things from the past at times in order to make way for that brighter future.
This is exactly what I needed to hear ! You have no idea how much this helped ! Thanks! I went through some rough few years that now I don’t really feel like myself anymore but I thought I had to look back in order to heal and move forward but I now realize I simply have to look ahead! Mind blowing ! Thanks so much :)
So true! a few years ago, I got financially stuck and it was not the first time in my life. I created an image of myself being financially independent in five years. These years are almost over and I’m not a millionaire, but I have a solid buffer and it makes me feel good to be free of worries. We do have a super power 💪🏽
I completely agree with you because I feel energized thinking about possibilities and the future. As a matter of fact, this is how I keep my positive, upbeat outlook on life that makes people want to stay in it and be around me, but I am not an ENFP. I am an ENFJ and I never focus on the past. I leave past issues and trauma where they belong, in the past. I focus on now and tomorrow and if something comes up from my past that needs dealing with then I handle it when it comes back into my present. If it never comes into my present then it's a nonissue and should be put away in the archives of my mind to hopefully never be thought of again. I am not my trauma. I am a strong person who doesn't let trauma run my life. I decide to be happy, my past doesn't decide that for me.
Wow.. you have no idea how much your videos have lifted so much heaviness off of me. Thank you! More excited for the future now with less pressure from INTJ people around me
I like to get all the past stuff done so I can feel free to do the new stuff...gotta clean the kitchen so I can make the new food. Gotta make the bed so I can sit on the bed and draw and paint something new. Gotta clean the bathroom so I can decorate it with new stuff!
Wow, that's a really powerful advice! You are absolutely right! I am an ENFP and I am struggling right now, I feel I have left a lot of projects undone, they are really heavy weight on my shoulders. I think about them and how to do these all. But really the most inspiring is always the new. So forget about the past, because there is no more energy in there. Go where everything will flow easily! You are so right! Thank you for this point of view!!!
Dealing with the past does drain me...however, I do feel that at this stage, I have gotten over them and got to eager to move on such thag so much things have piled up! So cleaning once in a while I feel is okay, because it makes me want to reconsider what im doing and redefines my purpose, which I love....also there are many situations I can apply your advice to, so thank you for that!!
I have noticed the exact same thing about my life... all my past, present and future achievements. Ntm wants and needs. though I've noticed and identify them at times it's good to have someone backing it up in a clear concise way. I really think that videos like these and doing further research into my own psyche make a positive and fruitful change. Thank you👍👍👍👍
YESSS!!!!! I was thinking of that. I had such motivation to start some new things then I was like okay I’m ready I’ve got this I gotta start fixing certain things and then all of a sudden I started to lose my motivation but this is true!!!!! This helps a lot!!! 🤩🤩🤩🤩
this advice seems so good... my problem, however, is that I'm pessimistic. when things aren't going my way, when life's beating me down and everything feels wrong, if I try to focus on the future, chances are ill be seeing it in a very dark light. these days, I try telling myself that I was able to get through every hard scenario life has given me, I've survived all my bad days. that thought gives me strength. the help part is very precious too. I'm trying to lose the shame and fear in asking others for help and opening up these days. reaching out does help, even if we don't think it would. nonetheless, thank you for this video!
Weve never met and yet you just understood me and helped me more than anyone in my life ever has in a matter 4 minutes --Seriously -Thank you! for making this video :D
I love your channel, Dan! I’ve been watching your videos for a while now. Thank you for your content. My main issue right now is I have so many possibilities and desires for what I want to do and I’ve been so overwhelmed that I’ve been stuck in not being able to do any of them. Anyone else feeling that?
Oh yes! It seems I'm swimming in overwhelm sometimes. It's because our brains light up with all the possibilities and we can only do one thing at a time.
Hey Dan! I think both are useful, none is better than the other. As an ENFP if I didn't go back in the past and clean up a little bit (reading lessons, finishing podcasts, cleaning up my room) it would always stay in the back on my head bothering me. Just as important as feeling empowered and inspired by starting something new, a new day in the horizon, a short term goal... I find the main thing that gets makes me feel stuck is not knowing how to prioritize and having too many possibilities. Hope that helps. Thanks for your videos
I really appreciate this!!! If I look at the past too much, I feel extremely drained. But, planning for my desired future sounds so much more appealing. I'm going to try that & not feel constrained by my past decisions ❤
It's actually both, restoring things in your past and looking to the future. because at times in the present the past usually catches up to you, and being an ENFP we are more lenient to heal and restore things of our past, and when we do so, it helps to clear the path to run towards things in the future :)
I have spent a couple years cleaning up a thousand messes from my ex husband who was a liar, hoarder and cheater. Now I know why I'm always exhausted!! Running to the future now! Yay!!!
Very on topic for me at the moment going job to job and seamlessly have no future plans that help to refocus from a negative headspace to a positive one. Great vid.
Cleaning up my past is not my thing. Im an ENFP and i always get so sentimental when it comes to past. Maybe its bc i love my life, of Course there are Bad day, but I try to live every moment. And its so Hard when i look Back. But i dont like concentrating on the future either. Maybe bc everything is in place right now..
I came to the same consensus but I was not sure if that's the ultimate way of doing things Knowing what I know through your content I will focus on the future and use that excitement to move things 🙏🏼
Well this fell in my lap at the perfect moment. Needing to get motivated for a move which has me stuck cos I've been sorting through my things/past. Soooo draining. This is freaking fantastic advice! Thank you!
enfp here. just wanted to bring up that while looking into the past might not be important, i think it is necessary. I think maybe this is just my perspective but a couple years ago i had a reslly solid and fortified mindset and i was very happy and over time ive lost the knowledge of how that mindset of happiness worked amd for me looking into the past and reflecting on all the variables in my life and how each person or event might make me think certain ways and rediscovering parts of that mindset by looking to the past has been the most productive and best thing ive ever done for my mental health and its more than any therapist could possibly give me
Oh wow. You're right. I always tend to forget I'm an ENFP, and Ne is my dominant function, and the only way to boost this and keep me going is thinking fast forward to the future. Lately, I tend to focus on the, "goal" I have set. Though it is true that I want it, I already closed every possible options to get through the goal I want. Yes. Having a goal is important, but being close minded would not help us ENFP's. Considering the possibilities while having a goal in life is way better, not trapping ourselves to the "only" option created in our minds.
This is only true if you are not severely traumatized, if that is the case you can only begin looking to the future once you have healed a lot of the things that hold you back daily. So, if you feel you have a lot of trauma in your life, it might take 2 or 5 or even 10 years before you can really begin creating (until you exit survival mode, due to the trauma) . But, if you stay postive through it all and just know that one day you will be at a place where you are thriving, you can push through!
And guess what. 59 yr old Enfp came to MBTI wisdom a month ago. Spent whole life thinking I was under developed and inadequate because I could focus on “stuff” the way others do and I had assumed was so important and prevented me from ever being successful. I had this great idea for a business and instead of trying to patch it together my self doing tasks I am crap at I have employed people to fulfill activities they are skilled at. I have amazing meetings being me which is super fun and I know I have a flare for generating and pushing through great themes and the results are amazing. Why did it take this long to reach this point in life where I accept myself, focus on my strengths and acknowledge those areas I am not driven to be good at. I have surrounded myself with people who have taken advantage of enfp’ s are there such types. Those that I have allowed to actively undermined my confidence with their characteristic type self belief that things have to be done in a certain way otherwise enfp are a potential failure or lack skills to ever make things happen. So glad to hear that despite the delay in my life journey it was great to hear that my strategy now seems to be very much in line with your guidance Dan. Better late than never
Hope you enjoy this one! I've found it is one of the quickest ways to change your energy levels and get excited again! If you haven't yet taken advantage of my free training, you can find a series for ENFPs about using our strengths more here: www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/enfptraining/
What you said about looking to the future and letting your vision and plans inspire and empower you (I might be paraphrasing here), that has been bubbling underneath me like some oft-forgotten/ignored undercurrent. Just watching this and imagining the possiblities excites me enough to...to...wait...not sure...I just know that I'm excited about my own potential and tapping into ideas and dreams and goals...and...and...I wonder what other ENFP advice I can find. LATER!
Damn shit!!!!!i really needed dis rite now!!!!.......just a few days ago ...i tried to shift my thoughts on y i want to clean my past works ......dats to hv a beautiful future ......nd wen i focused on it ....i cud get my motivation to do my past left behind paper works.......nd now i realised y it happened .......thnks for stating it more clearly so dat i can understand it more early!!!love d channel!
wow this helped alot ive been trying to move forward in my life but i keep analyzing the black box of a devastating break up which i need to stop doing.
hmm, i just reserved one day to look back and fix thing from my past. yes i feel relieved, but i'm getting exhausted after it and not doing any work. i guess i should focus on my future again 🤗
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You know you are an ENFP when you have three English projects due at the end of the day or you fail the class and you are watching videos about ENFP's
WHY ARE YOU ATTACKING MEEEE😭😭😭 -ENFP
Omfg I'm gonna get fired tomorrow if I don't finish my project and here I am. Thank god for our intellectual ability or we'd never get through this life 😂
😂😂😂😂
Holy shit u'r right. I'm mad when read your comment but it's actually a fact.
Literally supposed to be finishing a 10 page paper...and here I am looking at ENFP videos..🤦🏾♂️...such an ENFP
ENFP’s don’t get excited by paperwork 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 soooo true I’m drained just thinking about it:)
Yes! It almost makes me cry now! 😂
This enfp bored crap is working on my nerves
Tell me about it😅
Can’t recommend this advice enough. I’ve been so stagnant the past few years because my thought was “once I catch up on everything I will then work towards a better future.” It’s only now that I’m working on my future that I’m motivated to catch up. Great advice!!
I feel that
True.
Yes! I'm an ENFP and I just began trying to clear up some of my physical, mental, and emotional baggage. Going to start to see a therapist in a week, losing weight, and clearing up clutter. Thanks!
Awesome!
Me too how are you ?
Oh god no just the thought of dealing with the past and cleanly and organising stuff drains me. I always want to move onto the next thing because that’s what I’m excited about, and if I have to re-do stuff I hate it, both in terms of videos, copy, podcasts etc. and also in terms of those awful repetitive day to day things like cleaning and food shopping . I also hate having to delay the future, like if I can’t plan a trip yet because of finances or I can’t throw myself into a new project because I’m still tying up loose ends from the project before. 😠
Oh man! I feel you so much. I did say. I despised the mundane. I feel the exact same when forced to confront the past.
I chose all the wrong subjects to study... 2 Years of Agony & Demovitation 😭😩🙏
this is so me omg. i’m enfp and literally if i have an idea or want something i want it STRAIGHT away and get rlly irritated when things get in the way i love to have things done as soon as i think of it
Oh my. I hate loose ends. I am a self confessed procrastinator. Fear of failure. Scared I will fail. So scared sometimes I end up doing nothing! It's tedious but decluttering is therapeutic. When I get motivated enough to do it. I believe, though I don't always practice it. We despise the mundane. I don't know if it's best. However it makes sense that your life will flow much smoother if you de clutter on a regular basis. I am quite tidy anyway and can't stand dirt in my house. Just like in life. If you have lived in the same place all your childhood. Your parents are still together etc. It's a psychological fact that you're relationship attachment style will be secure rather than nervous or avoidant. Very important with romantic relationships. I am not romantically involved with anyone. Decided I am going to work out what I want from a relationship first before jumping in the swan shaped paddle boat a again. Others don't understand. ENFP worlds are often complex. Except to us it's fine and don't get how we can look upon the situation and see it as it really is. No point in getting upset about things we have no control over. I wish I had gone to the same school all my childhood. It definitely helps to build those all important bonds and necessary foundation's to live a balanced happy, almost stress free life. Thanks Dan great. New things to ponder. Love and happiness to all my fellow enfps. I like my own type a lot. Infps too. I feel I fluctuate between introvert and extrovert.
This video changed my life.
I have been digging three years in my past and childhood as i was learning psyhology.. and my teacher told me i smile too much, that im fake. So, as a good student i stopped smiling, beacuse i tought that he was right. Everything in my life falled apart, i was not me anymore, i was so demotivated and sad all the time. Now i have somehow reached up to your channel as a enfp and understood, that there is nothing wrong with me. I was simply doing things that was killing me inside.. But now i have quit the school that was so bad for me, and started my own photography - my secret love, my inspiration and i feel amazing. I love creating and looking forward everyday, not digging in the past all the time. So, Dan - thank you so much for creating this channel and putting so much energy in that. Big kisses
this sounds just like my story. i had the same experience during my psych studies, and got really depressed after.
@@kristinadjurasevic lol I am finishing my psychology degree right now and I don't regret doing it but I feel this is not what I actually want to do in my life. I want to create.
OMG "looking to the past..." it's like you shot an arrow right into my core
I'm enfp and had depression.
And it did really messed me up thinking, and looking back in the past, of what went wrong, or what it could actually could be.
It really drained me focusing in the past or pain I've had, that I can't move forward... there's no room left for future.
Now, that I'm reinventing myself, I'm glad I found this channel, and binge watching few days now and it's giving me light and hope.
Also, HAHAHA weird thing. I was studying accounting when I had depression because of family matters and also had existential crisis of what do I really want in my life! 😂
Since I deeply know to myself I don't like to be an accountant, and add depression. Didn't really think twice skipping class lol. Wish I had more guidance during that time.
But I'm back to school just to finish it since I'm in my last semester lol.
Hope everything turn up great.
Hope we'll for you!!
You're not alone on this. Don't worry. Stay strong. Stay yourself.
I love your story!! Would love to hear a life update as you progress through all of your trials
Hey, I'm an enfp who had been diagnosed with depression as well. I was so lost in what to do, what am i doing and all. I'm also studying accounting but I've been failing classes for 3 years now. I know i have potential because i used to be top 3 students in my class before and still when i get sudden burst of energy i will be studying day and night for about 2 weeks and then come back to square one but now I'm slowly trying to improve myself and i hope i will pass this year NO i am going to pass this year 🤞 its just i read that people with enfp should avoid accounting and finance so..how do you feel about accounting now? I'm wondering if i made the right career choice and ik i can't just leave it. 🥲
Same here
Just found out I'm an ENFP! You're channel has been so powerful. Yes! Future it is.
Welcome!
Interesting! I just realized that I only clean when I AM thinking about the future. I clean like mad when I am going on a trip and don't mind and it's hard for me to stop cleaning to actually GO on my trip or I clean like mad when I am having someone over but it makes me feel terrible to clean on a regular basis so I DO often hire out my cleaning... It has always had me perplexed why I have a love/hate relationship with cleaning when I dont mind cleaning and actually rather enjoy it... but then I mind cleaning.... You just made me realize the difference! I love cleaning when I am thinking about the FUTURE. THANKS! It's as simple as that! When I need to clean, I just need to focus on what the future will bring as I clean.
I think I had an enfp episode again where I zoned out halfway through the video, thinking about a random scenario...
Really good one, thanks Dan. To the future it goes!
I think you once made a vid on getting anchored in the past. The other day I watched Pinocchio which felt good. There's a time for everything I guess. If it feels unproductive to dig in the past, look to the future, and if you get stuck in the future, maybe there's a need for the past again. Great video(s)!
Honestly, even the other 15 signs could use this. I’ve been on journey of learning how to be hopeful and grateful, and unlearning put myself down and ruminations
My favorite advice ever for ENFP’s! Tied with your advice to remember that when we are told to “focus on one thing” it’s like a death knell for us! We shouldn’t (necessarily) attempt to follow traditional advice for success.
Now, I just need to keep the momentum GOING!! 👏🌟🙏
True. In a day, i would focus on 4 tasks minimal, and it's more satisfying than less than 2 things. THE MOMENTUM MY FRIEND. 💯
Was just doing this before I saw your video and yes it helped so much. I'm getting burnt out with work, I love the work im doing but its been too much of the same for too long. So I spent the last couple hours planning a trip and all of my energy came back and im energized again.
Yes!! Where are you going?
@@enfp I'm not totally sure yet! I'm on a budget so I'm going to camp along the way and find a few things east coast USA to visit. My social muscles have deteriorated a bit so im hoping to meet people in my travels!
Oh my. Thank you SO much for this. I thought I was an INFP for the longest time and I’ve now learned that I’m actually an ENFP. This hit the nail on the head! You are definitely not alone in getting excited for the possibilities and I spend most of my time trying to fix the past. Thank you for helping me see that! I wish you all the success!!
INFP here looking for advice on how to help my two great ENFP friends who are struggeling at the moment. That was really helpful. Thanks alot!!!
Awesome!
Absolutely true, it took me a long time to figure that out! To have energy to get things done that kind of nail us to the floor, I need to do something that makes me excited. Than I will have energy enough for all those other stuff!
This is awesome. I read on 16Personalities that ENFPs are the biggest type to be nostalgic and think about the past. I can attest to this, as well as probably INFJs. The only downfall is like you said when it becomes this painful longing for how things used to be, or you're stuck in some sort of spiral you haven't fully coped with yet. There definitely is a fine line and I think it's also hard because we are Feelers too lol. Would you be able to make a video for coping, resiliency, and dealing with our intense, overwhelming emotions--and how to be more grounded in reality and logic? Thanks!!
This is true. When watching movies, I always hate high school graduation scenes because it gives me so much feels in my heart and I am kinda uncomfortable with that tingles. I recetly realized that I feeel that way because I incorporate it to my own high school days. What makr my heart feel things is the fact HS is already in the past and I cannot come back to the innocent happy days. I realized that I am uncomfortable with the feeling of nostalgia.
Even the thought of looking towards the future and building possibilities is hugely relieving. I feel lighter and more able to deal with tasks. Thanks for the reminder!
I have been trying to heal and "fix" my past for almost a year now, after my mother passed away, and it has been a year of constant journaling, thinking that i have to heal as fast as possible to move on to the next part of my life where i get over all the resentment. It feels stagnant . Dan made a point, while im healing maybe i should look for future possibilities, instead of thinking that im only deserving of new visions when the past mindsets are healed
I had a housekeeper for 6 months once. Had so much more time to be creative. I moved back last year and still haven't unpacked everything. I have better things to do!
My secret dream is to have a housekeeper. That’s really my weak point in me. I’m sooo bad in that!
I'd love to have someone come in and help me clear out what's no longer of any use in here! When I get on a 'minimalist' binge, I get great ideas for the future. So freeing!
Wow. You're literally speaking of the exact same things I started doing intuitively few months ago. Such a valuable confirmation!
I think understanding the past is very helpful thought. You understand what you do that may be toxic and needs to change to be healthy and make better choices, appreciating your relationships more, being happier in general, etc. I was in a very very dark place this year : I was lost, I didn't love and accept myself, I never communicated with friends, my relationship with my boyfriend was difficult, etc. Needless to say I was fucking depressed and suicidal. So, I had to revisit a very very unhappy part of my childhood to heal from it, to accept that I have lived that experience and I will always be trigger by some things, but since I now understand when and why I react in some ways, I can stop myself and choose to act or feel something more healthy instead.
But it is so fucking hard. You are right to say we ENFPs aren't excited to look into the past. It is unexcited.
Ok take care of yourselves guys
This one is pretty relevant to my current situation. Thank you Dan!
yesss, wonderful!!! The future looks bright!
Yes it does!
Clever! Hadn't even occurred to me! I'm doing a whole bunch of stuff to make myself a new future whilst surrounded by a whole bunch of past stuff that weighs me down every single day. In truth the stuff that weighs me down probably wouldn't take that long to deal with but because it weighs me down I end up avoiding it but not really progressing with the new stuff either. If I spent 3/4s of my working day doing the new stuff & 1/4 dealing with the old stuff I bet I'd start seeing the progress I'm missing out on, especially if I change my attitude to the old stuff & see it more positively as making a positive contribution to the future too. I think you just nailed this on the head. Thanks Dan!
I’m an ENFP. It’s like your read my soul.
Holy cow literally you stated my way of dealing, look to the past for something missing when really I need to just look to the future
Yes definitely! It is much more fun and energizing for me to look at future possibilities 👍
I think that you do have to do the work and tend to some things from the past at times in order to make way for that brighter future.
Of course, I always eventually do my taxes, but if that's your primary focused you're guaranteed to feel drained and procrastinate like crazy!
So true. The problem is that there's always a present "now" to handle also....witch is also a kind of future....harder to handle......
This is exactly what I needed to hear ! You have no idea how much this helped ! Thanks! I went through some rough few years that now I don’t really feel like myself anymore but I thought I had to look back in order to heal and move forward but I now realize I simply have to look ahead! Mind blowing ! Thanks so much :)
So true! a few years ago, I got financially stuck and it was not the first time in my life. I created an image of myself being financially independent in five years. These years are almost over and I’m not a millionaire, but I have a solid buffer and it makes me feel good to be free of worries. We do have a super power 💪🏽
You are right! For me, going to the past is the fastest road to depression and anxiety. When I am engaged in creating something, life is awesome!
I wish my therapist understood me like this. This is sooo true!
I completely agree with you because I feel energized thinking about possibilities and the future. As a matter of fact, this is how I keep my positive, upbeat outlook on life that makes people want to stay in it and be around me, but I am not an ENFP. I am an ENFJ and I never focus on the past. I leave past issues and trauma where they belong, in the past. I focus on now and tomorrow and if something comes up from my past that needs dealing with then I handle it when it comes back into my present. If it never comes into my present then it's a nonissue and should be put away in the archives of my mind to hopefully never be thought of again. I am not my trauma. I am a strong person who doesn't let trauma run my life. I decide to be happy, my past doesn't decide that for me.
I wish this video could start automatically every day on my notebook so I get reminded to this always and always and always
Wow.. you have no idea how much your videos have lifted so much heaviness off of me. Thank you! More excited for the future now with less pressure from INTJ people around me
Future possibilities inspire me a lot.. as you rightly said it creates enormous potential just like some magic..
I like to get all the past stuff done so I can feel free to do the new stuff...gotta clean the kitchen so I can make the new food. Gotta make the bed so I can sit on the bed and draw and paint something new. Gotta clean the bathroom so I can decorate it with new stuff!
Wow, that's a really powerful advice! You are absolutely right! I am an ENFP and I am struggling right now, I feel I have left a lot of projects undone, they are really heavy weight on my shoulders. I think about them and how to do these all. But really the most inspiring is always the new. So forget about the past, because there is no more energy in there. Go where everything will flow easily! You are so right! Thank you for this point of view!!!
Often pondered why I fall back for a safety cushion in the past inspite of the past not working for me or is a closed door
Thank you for this video
I'm stuck in the past/present, but I know that when for example I want to do 100% of a game, I'll stick to it until it's done. Love that
This is exactly what I needed today mate. Many thanks from a fan and fellow ENFP down under.
You're very welcome! We may be coming to visit down under next year, so keep an eye out!
Hey fellow ENFPs. If you are super content with your career. Please list what it is and why you love it.
I started a non profit and love it! As long as I am able to create new programs and problem solve, then I am in my flow state.
How do you make money?
Dealing with the past does drain me...however, I do feel that at this stage, I have gotten over them and got to eager to move on such thag so much things have piled up! So cleaning once in a while I feel is okay, because it makes me want to reconsider what im doing and redefines my purpose, which I love....also there are many situations I can apply your advice to, so thank you for that!!
I have noticed the exact same thing about my life... all my past, present and future achievements. Ntm wants and needs. though I've noticed and identify them at times it's good to have someone backing it up in a clear concise way. I really think that videos like these and doing further research into my own psyche make a positive and fruitful change. Thank you👍👍👍👍
Completely relate. It’s scary how relatable.
This is huge. Can't believe i didn't see this. Thank you
We do Love creative potential /the future
YESSS!!!!! I was thinking of that. I had such motivation to start some new things then I was like okay I’m ready I’ve got this I gotta start fixing certain things and then all of a sudden I started to lose my motivation but this is true!!!!! This helps a lot!!! 🤩🤩🤩🤩
this advice seems so good... my problem, however, is that I'm pessimistic. when things aren't going my way, when life's beating me down and everything feels wrong, if I try to focus on the future, chances are ill be seeing it in a very dark light. these days, I try telling myself that I was able to get through every hard scenario life has given me, I've survived all my bad days. that thought gives me strength.
the help part is very precious too. I'm trying to lose the shame and fear in asking others for help and opening up these days. reaching out does help, even if we don't think it would.
nonetheless, thank you for this video!
Weve never met and yet you just understood me and helped me more than anyone in my life ever has in a matter 4 minutes --Seriously -Thank you! for making this video :D
Wonderful advice! Thank you!!
Glad it was helpful!
I love your channel, Dan! I’ve been watching your videos for a while now. Thank you for your content.
My main issue right now is I have so many possibilities and desires for what I want to do and I’ve been so overwhelmed that I’ve been stuck in not being able to do any of them. Anyone else feeling that?
Hey Tiffers... I can tell you, you aren't alone on this one! Have you checked out my enfp training? www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/enfptraining
Oh yes! It seems I'm swimming in overwhelm sometimes. It's because our brains light up with all the possibilities and we can only do one thing at a time.
Hey Dan! I think both are useful, none is better than the other. As an ENFP if I didn't go back in the past and clean up a little bit (reading lessons, finishing podcasts, cleaning up my room) it would always stay in the back on my head bothering me. Just as important as feeling empowered and inspired by starting something new, a new day in the horizon, a short term goal... I find the main thing that gets makes me feel stuck is not knowing how to prioritize and having too many possibilities. Hope that helps. Thanks for your videos
Cleaning up is essential sometimes. But I hear ya. We can get bogged down by that for SURE.
I really appreciate this!!! If I look at the past too much, I feel extremely drained. But, planning for my desired future sounds so much more appealing. I'm going to try that & not feel constrained by my past decisions ❤
It's actually both, restoring things in your past and looking to the future. because at times in the present the past usually catches up to you, and being an ENFP we are more lenient to heal and restore things of our past, and when we do so, it helps to clear the path to run towards things in the future :)
Thinking of the future might build energy but cleanin up the pass helps focus
I have spent a couple years cleaning up a thousand messes from my ex husband who was a liar, hoarder and cheater. Now I know why I'm always exhausted!! Running to the future now! Yay!!!
Good luck!
@@enfp Thank you! And thanks for all the insight and inspiration!#
as an INTP, thank you. I can use allot of information from this too. Thanks for the teachings.
Very on topic for me at the moment going job to job and seamlessly have no future plans that help to refocus from a negative headspace to a positive one. Great vid.
Cleaning up my past is not my thing. Im an ENFP and i always get so sentimental when it comes to past. Maybe its bc i love my life, of Course there are Bad day, but I try to live every moment. And its so Hard when i look Back. But i dont like concentrating on the future either. Maybe bc everything is in place right now..
I came to the same consensus but I was not sure if that's the ultimate way of doing things
Knowing what I know through your content I will focus on the future and use that excitement to move things 🙏🏼
HOLY MOLY this just awoke my head like you have no idea
For me I get pumped about the future plans. I can't stand looking back 🍻🍻🍻
Well this fell in my lap at the perfect moment. Needing to get motivated for a move which has me stuck cos I've been sorting through my things/past. Soooo draining. This is freaking fantastic advice! Thank you!
Great to hear!
enfp here. just wanted to bring up that while looking into the past might not be important, i think it is necessary. I think maybe this is just my perspective but a couple years ago i had a reslly solid and fortified mindset and i was very happy and over time ive lost the knowledge of how that mindset of happiness worked amd for me looking into the past and reflecting on all the variables in my life and how each person or event might make me think certain ways and rediscovering parts of that mindset by looking to the past has been the most productive and best thing ive ever done for my mental health and its more than any therapist could possibly give me
Just want to say thank you 🐱
You are welcome!
Oh wow. You're right. I always tend to forget I'm an ENFP, and Ne is my dominant function, and the only way to boost this and keep me going is thinking fast forward to the future. Lately, I tend to focus on the, "goal" I have set. Though it is true that I want it, I already closed every possible options to get through the goal I want. Yes. Having a goal is important, but being close minded would not help us ENFP's. Considering the possibilities while having a goal in life is way better, not trapping ourselves to the "only" option created in our minds.
Love this advice
Thank you!
Assertive vs Turbulent
This is only true if you are not severely traumatized, if that is the case you can only begin looking to the future once you have healed a lot of the things that hold you back daily.
So, if you feel you have a lot of trauma in your life, it might take 2 or 5 or even 10 years before you can really begin creating (until you exit survival mode, due to the trauma) . But, if you stay postive through it all and just know that one day you will be at a place where you are thriving, you can push through!
I think you are right, i will try your method! Thanks a lot Dan! Your videos is really inspiring us, the ENFPs 👍
Yes yes!! This is so timely for me!! Thanks!!
So glad!
And guess what. 59 yr old Enfp came to MBTI wisdom a month ago. Spent whole life thinking I was under developed and inadequate because I could focus on “stuff” the way others do and I had assumed was so important and prevented me from ever being successful. I had this great idea for a business and instead of trying to patch it together my self doing tasks I am crap at I have employed people to fulfill activities they are skilled at. I have amazing meetings being me which is super fun and I know I have a flare for generating and pushing through great themes and the results are amazing. Why did it take this long to reach this point in life where I accept myself, focus on my strengths and acknowledge those areas I am not driven to be good at.
I have surrounded myself with people who have taken advantage of enfp’ s are there such types. Those that I have allowed to actively undermined my confidence with their characteristic type self belief that things have to be done in a certain way otherwise enfp are a potential failure or lack skills to ever make things happen.
So glad to hear that despite the delay in my life journey it was great to hear that my strategy now seems to be very much in line with your guidance Dan. Better late than never
Edit above - should read “Could NOT ” - ( obviously )
@@michaelheritage8822 It's never too late to discover and improve yourself.
Maybe all enfp's are late bloomers.
Thank you 😊 You really made my day 💕
I needed this! Thank you Dan!
nice video mate
Hope you enjoy this one! I've found it is one of the quickest ways to change your energy levels and get excited again! If you haven't yet taken advantage of my free training, you can find a series for ENFPs about using our strengths more here: www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/enfptraining/
What you said about looking to the future and letting your vision and plans inspire and empower you (I might be paraphrasing here), that has been bubbling underneath me like some oft-forgotten/ignored undercurrent. Just watching this and imagining the possiblities excites me enough to...to...wait...not sure...I just know that I'm excited about my own potential and tapping into ideas and dreams and goals...and...and...I wonder what other ENFP advice I can find. LATER!
TRUTH HAS BEEN SPOKEN
Learning about my self is amazing lol
I am an ENFP and decided to become a teacher. I think it suits me who have to learn more.
Hi I'm Halima from Belgium and as an ENFP I feel it's better to focus on the futur, on new creating youre dream life. ❤️😍👌💖
Damn shit!!!!!i really needed dis rite now!!!!.......just a few days ago ...i tried to shift my thoughts on y i want to clean my past works ......dats to hv a beautiful future ......nd wen i focused on it ....i cud get my motivation to do my past left behind paper works.......nd now i realised y it happened .......thnks for stating it more clearly so dat i can understand it more early!!!love d channel!
wow this helped alot ive been trying to move forward in my life but i keep analyzing the black box of a devastating break up which i need to stop doing.
that's so accurete that made me cry
Amazing advice thank you!!
You're welcome! :)
Love you Dan!! This is very true for me atm, I need to be more future focused🙌🤘
Just when he was about to share the game changing advice, I got distracted looking at my phone
You're amazing! Thank you so much I needed this :')
Awww. Thank you, you've made my morning.
I'll be publishing new videos again starting this month :)
definitely the future. No digging deep into the past did any good to me. Ever.
hmm, i just reserved one day to look back and fix thing from my past. yes i feel relieved, but i'm getting exhausted after it and not doing any work. i guess i should focus on my future again 🤗
Spot on for my problem.
This video is awesome! Thank you
Thank you thank you!
Needed to hear this!