20:25 wow! I also refused to memorize as a way of learning and spent more time with books than my peers but was also the only one I knew who was genuinely happy to be in college. Great to be reminded of what that experience is like.
Memorizing was a coping strategy for years.... I wasn't learning, only regurgitating 😂 I finally "got it" one day and life became so much simpler and required less energy. Cheers.
@@justaman3333 Is there an “it”? We have our 5 senses bringing our awareness to what the mind is capable of experiencing. Can we ever experience the same combination of sense of taste, touch, sight, hearing, and feeling we experience in one moment in our future?
I have a dog that has a past. I am as soft and sweet with her a I can, but still, after 3 years, when I sweep the floor with a broom she runs. Even though she never experienced me hitting her with a broom, the 'danger' reflex is in her cells. We are more animalistic than we think. Our cells have memory, our nervous system has a response. Our mind has a superiority complex, and thinks it is deciding everything. But so much is decided by your nervous system responding to subtilities and energies that your mind is not even aware of.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
I'm from Indonesia, I really want to thank you very much, you are like an angel sent by God to guide me through life and be more aware of life, Thank you, God bless you.
Quick story: an old friend of mine was complaining about her husband for months. Finally I said "girl, you stressing me out with all this. I feel like I'm married to the mfer" LOL "do what you need to do. I don't want to hear about it anymore"
Valuable information and delivered a bit too harshly for someone who is deep in shame of not being able to “get over it” - there is nothing dumb about how my body remembers what it has experienced. This also is disregarding the deep physical impacts of trauma and the value of different types of processing to help different types of rumination. Telling anybody to get over it will build immediate resistance. Have them feel stupid is judging themselves. No apologies are needed with understanding. Instead of let it go how about fully integrate. Very western to cut it out before understanding its purpose. Nothing in me is an enemy and all parts of me are welcome to learn from and remember who i am.
This is so true..95 percent of our problems we create in our minds...like ratfiend 1....although with name like that they obviously haven't a wise mind...alas thank you Michael for these talks❤❤❤❤from Ireland 🇮🇪🇮🇪♥️🔥 xxx
u dont know anything about what its like for a three year old going through torture ,, how do u judge me and a situation without knowing the first thing about me or what happened.. this is why we are in kali yuga , look it up if u dont know its meaning
I never judged u at all brother...read it again I stated unfortunately as u have just proved u haven't a wise mind...and you trying to solve all the hate and anymosity in the world before you solve things closer to home.... namaste my friend...gud luck....
Positive and negative memories are both okay. It's clinging to them and living in the past that cause problems. It's not the memory, but our reaction to the memory that is important.
@@SeatsofContemplationparticularly problematic in narcissistic relationships due to trauma bonding. The push pull, hot cold relationship actually alters brain functioning. Post break-up, one tends to recall only the positive in the relationship, resulting in rumination and guilt tripping
Can someone please tell me what means these two words in the beginning of every Michael A Singer's speech? Is this some way to pay respect or to connect with your guides or something? Thanks.
Jai Guru Dev, Jai Masters. Jai Guru Dev is a traditional Hindu phrase that means Glory to the Great Teacher (the most accurate translation would be glory to the shining remover of darkness), where the great teacher here is generally considered to be the Divine Soul, while we, as human beings, are considered the individuated Soul. Jai Masters means Glory to the Masters, some of whom Singer refers to at times.
Of course that is a problem, it was a problem when I was a child dealing with sexual abuse but I am an adult now and learning how to free myself from my past.
@@carrieb.5896 give an example of how she would tackle that scenario as a perceived problem ? I've looked into her work but am interested to hear what you mean
Obviously this is a difficult question to tackle. This grown up 3 year should tackle the low hanging fruits first. Yes, i understand this approach take time. Will you start climbing mount Everest without climbing smaller peaks first, if your life goal is that?
What he describes seem beautiful, but I feel like the recipe he prescribes disregards centuries of research and development in psychology and psychotherapy. I understand that he is not saying "suppress it", but rather "let it in and then let it out", but he only slightly mentions "letting in", whereas for almost an hour he talks about not getting involved in recurrent ruminations, as if it was enough. But we already know that the way to freeing yourself from the past requires sometimes deliberately going back to it and living through the feelings that had been suppressed.
Your comment has really highlighted to me how people agree with /understand the Truth to the extent of their capacity, nothing more - today you may find him to be 80% sensible and 20% off the mark, and tomorrow, once you better understand the nature of Reality and your own Self, you may find yourself 95% in agreement. You find him largely correct because you largely understand, and what you find incorrect is what you don’t understand, not what he doesn’t understand. What you mean is that the recipe he prescribes, being based on millennia of the combined wisdom of some of the wisest humans to walk the Earth, who struggled with the same basic problems of life, love, loss, disregards *decades of “research” in fields which Modern Man has concocted and given big fancy names to. The former is based on the wisdom of people who generally lived stable, peaceful, and illuminated lives while the latter is based on a handful of (for the most part) deeply disturbed, confused and dysfunctional individuals largely from the 20th and 21st century, steeped as they are in this Age of Ignorance and deeply at discord with the natural order of things and the harmony of reality. The former is based on wisdom gleaned from sensitivity to the patterns and harmonies of a tranquil and fulfilled life, while the latter is based on random shots in the dark based on the confused mind’s adorable but futile attempt to interrogate, analyse, and make sense of the Great Mystery of Reality in a desperate bid to acquire “knowledge” and control over it. The former is based on deep understandings of the rhythms of happiness, while the latter is part of the usual attempt to wrangle reality and try and “fix it” so that things stop bothering you. You speak of the past as though it is some real place that you can “go back to”. All of this is delusion, or to talk like a man who is hallucinating. The past doesn’t exist. You keep reinventing it moment by moment, so that you can bother yourself about it. Modern psychology’s method of going back to it in order to “fix it” just falls for the same trap of reinventing your problems again and again, and making what is ultimate unreal seem more and more real, because as a part of your (false) identity you are desperately attached to them. There is no “deliberate action” ever required, in fact the whole notion of doership is an illusion. What arises in the mind, arises, either you have a problem with it or not. To not have a problem with it you don’t have to “do” anything, you just have to not “do” something - i.e. decide that you have a problem with it. He is talking about escaping prison, and you are talking about going back to visit your prison cell and rearranging the furniture there - to quote someone I forget whom. No, we don’t already “know” that that is the way of freeing yourself from the past, it is your belief, and it is my belief and experience that that only reinvents the problem in more subtle and insidious ways, but never gets rid of it. What you are describing as ‘going to the past and doing XYZ’ is nothing more than some kind of weird fantasy or roleplay, of the same kind that we are usually engaged in. What is real is what is here, now. In the present, suppressed feelings will naturally arise, one doesn’t have to deliberately go and fetch them. When they do, the right thing to do is do nothing. Then, they will soon naturally dissolve, as soon as they came, like all things that arise. They will naturally exit through the back door unless you lock it shut and tie them to the chair. The moment you try and “do something” about them, you only feed them. So yes, there is no deliberately doing anything, there is just letting go of your perverse and compulsive need to keep “doing something” about everything. Yes, what he is saying is at odds with modern psychotherapy, and that’s because modern psychotherapy doesn’t have a clue of what it’s talking about. But, if you have invested time and energy into it, probably you are attached to thinking that it has anything whatsoever to say about the Truth. Cheers 😊
@@Interspirituality That is exactly what I mean. He speaks as if he was prescribing to everyone what works for him, as if everyone was standing where he stands. And that is simply not true.
@@InterspiritualityQuite a thought-provoking response/interesting argument! And our culture has really locked onto a concept “ traumatic memories” and can’t really “scientifically “ prove the effectiveness of psychological interventions that purportedly “treat” these “memories!” One thing I know is true, “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear!”
@@Interspirituality The laws of gravity are the same for all athletes, yet if you make a beginner deadlift 150 kg, they are likely to rather break their back than succeed. Encouraging them by saying, like the author of this talk here, 'just do it, haha!' won't help. Instead they can engage in training, proper nutrition, renounce bad habits etc. It might be more appealing to see yourself directly by a 150 kg bar. I believe some, those with good karma, will be able to lift it, but imposing on others that everyone is alike and everyone should do it, is short sighted at least. And then we see flourishing of spiritual bypassing, plenty of enlightened comments on the internet, etc.
Is it me or is this his best talk ever?
The best talk ever...feel free to contact me...
Yeeeeeeeees.
definitely one of my favs
It both is and isn't.
i feel that way about every talk on this channel.
Thanks Mickey it was very deep and very beautiful, and totally inspiring ❤❤❤
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20:25 wow! I also refused to memorize as a way of learning and spent more time with books than my peers but was also the only one I knew who was genuinely happy to be in college.
Great to be reminded of what that experience is like.
Memorizing was a coping strategy for years.... I wasn't learning, only regurgitating 😂 I finally "got it" one day and life became so much simpler and required less energy. Cheers.
We cannot memorize being aware of the current moment unfolding in front of us.
@@justaman3333
Is there an “it”?
We have our 5 senses bringing our awareness to what the mind is capable of experiencing.
Can we ever experience the same combination of sense of taste, touch, sight, hearing, and feeling we experience in one moment in our future?
@@richardhart2291 just like can we ever step in to the same river twice. Cheers
Problems are just another trick by the ego - making you insist something must be wrong.
All the while reinforcing the illusion in your mind.
I have a dog that has a past. I am as soft and sweet with her a I can, but still, after 3 years, when I sweep the floor with a broom she runs. Even though she never experienced me hitting her with a broom, the 'danger' reflex is in her cells. We are more animalistic than we think. Our cells have memory, our nervous system has a response. Our mind has a superiority complex, and thinks it is deciding everything. But so much is decided by your nervous system responding to subtilities and energies that your mind is not even aware of.
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Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
Thank you, what I needed now, how did you know? The Universe knew….❤
I'm from Indonesia, I really want to thank you very much, you are like an angel sent by God to guide me through life and be more aware of life, Thank you, God bless you.
Quick story: an old friend of mine was complaining about her husband for months. Finally I said "girl, you stressing me out with all this. I feel like I'm married to the mfer" LOL "do what you need to do. I don't want to hear about it anymore"
Valuable information and delivered a bit too harshly for someone who is deep in shame of not being able to “get over it” - there is nothing dumb about how my body remembers what it has experienced.
This also is disregarding the deep physical impacts of trauma and the value of different types of processing to help different types of rumination.
Telling anybody to get over it will build immediate resistance.
Have them feel stupid is judging themselves. No apologies are needed with understanding.
Instead of let it go how about fully integrate. Very western to cut it out before understanding its purpose. Nothing in me is an enemy and all parts of me are welcome to learn from and remember who i am.
This is so true..95 percent of our problems we create in our minds...like ratfiend 1....although with name like that they obviously haven't a wise mind...alas thank you Michael for these talks❤❤❤❤from Ireland 🇮🇪🇮🇪♥️🔥 xxx
u made up a lot of untrue things about me writing those words
u dont know anything about what its like for a three year old going through torture ,, how do u judge me and a situation without knowing the first thing about me or what happened.. this is why we are in kali yuga , look it up if u dont know its meaning
I never judged u at all brother...read it again I stated unfortunately as u have just proved u haven't a wise mind...and you trying to solve all the hate and anymosity in the world before you solve things closer to home.... namaste my friend...gud luck....
Why the mame explain that to me before explaining Kali Yuga..which I already understand my friend....
@@GerFennelly-pb5pg you have proved you identify with yr ego
❤Simply beautiful ❤️ I'm learning🌎
30:50 “but what if It comes back? Do it again”
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shut up nerd
shut up nerd
Keep surrendering
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Do you let go of positive uplifting memories too?
Positive and negative memories are both okay. It's clinging to them and living in the past that cause problems. It's not the memory, but our reaction to the memory that is important.
@@SeatsofContemplationparticularly problematic in narcissistic relationships due to trauma bonding. The push pull, hot cold relationship actually alters brain functioning. Post break-up, one tends to recall only the positive in the relationship, resulting in rumination and guilt tripping
Can someone please tell me what means these two words in the beginning of every Michael A Singer's speech? Is this some way to pay respect or to connect with your guides or something? Thanks.
Jai Guru Dev, Jai Masters. Jai Guru Dev is a traditional Hindu phrase that means Glory to the Great Teacher (the most accurate translation would be glory to the shining remover of darkness), where the great teacher here is generally considered to be the Divine Soul, while we, as human beings, are considered the individuated Soul. Jai Masters means Glory to the Masters, some of whom Singer refers to at times.
Is it a problem to a 3 yr old child while it's being tortured sexualually physically emotionally psychologically, and no one saves them from that ?
Of course that is a problem, it was a problem when I was a child dealing with sexual abuse but I am an adult now and learning how to free myself from my past.
Go deep into Byron Katie's work and liberate yourself.
@@carrieb.5896 give an example of how she would tackle that scenario as a perceived problem ? I've looked into her work but am interested to hear what you mean
Obviously this is a difficult question to tackle. This grown up 3 year should tackle the low hanging fruits first. Yes, i understand this approach take time.
Will you start climbing mount Everest without climbing smaller peaks first, if your life goal is that?
@ratfiend1 Freedom lies in the turn arounds. I found her work, Singers and E. Tolles, combined together (daily), to be incredibly helpful. ❤️ 🙏 ❤️
What he describes seem beautiful, but I feel like the recipe he prescribes disregards centuries of research and development in psychology and psychotherapy. I understand that he is not saying "suppress it", but rather "let it in and then let it out", but he only slightly mentions "letting in", whereas for almost an hour he talks about not getting involved in recurrent ruminations, as if it was enough. But we already know that the way to freeing yourself from the past requires sometimes deliberately going back to it and living through the feelings that had been suppressed.
Your comment has really highlighted to me how people agree with /understand the Truth to the extent of their capacity, nothing more - today you may find him to be 80% sensible and 20% off the mark, and tomorrow, once you better understand the nature of Reality and your own Self, you may find yourself 95% in agreement. You find him largely correct because you largely understand, and what you find incorrect is what you don’t understand, not what he doesn’t understand.
What you mean is that the recipe he prescribes, being based on millennia of the combined wisdom of some of the wisest humans to walk the Earth, who struggled with the same basic problems of life, love, loss, disregards *decades of “research” in fields which Modern Man has concocted and given big fancy names to. The former is based on the wisdom of people who generally lived stable, peaceful, and illuminated lives while the latter is based on a handful of (for the most part) deeply disturbed, confused and dysfunctional individuals largely from the 20th and 21st century, steeped as they are in this Age of Ignorance and deeply at discord with the natural order of things and the harmony of reality. The former is based on wisdom gleaned from sensitivity to the patterns and harmonies of a tranquil and fulfilled life, while the latter is based on random shots in the dark based on the confused mind’s adorable but futile attempt to interrogate, analyse, and make sense of the Great Mystery of Reality in a desperate bid to acquire “knowledge” and control over it. The former is based on deep understandings of the rhythms of happiness, while the latter is part of the usual attempt to wrangle reality and try and “fix it” so that things stop bothering you.
You speak of the past as though it is some real place that you can “go back to”. All of this is delusion, or to talk like a man who is hallucinating. The past doesn’t exist. You keep reinventing it moment by moment, so that you can bother yourself about it. Modern psychology’s method of going back to it in order to “fix it” just falls for the same trap of reinventing your problems again and again, and making what is ultimate unreal seem more and more real, because as a part of your (false) identity you are desperately attached to them. There is no “deliberate action” ever required, in fact the whole notion of doership is an illusion. What arises in the mind, arises, either you have a problem with it or not. To not have a problem with it you don’t have to “do” anything, you just have to not “do” something - i.e. decide that you have a problem with it. He is talking about escaping prison, and you are talking about going back to visit your prison cell and rearranging the furniture there - to quote someone I forget whom. No, we don’t already “know” that that is the way of freeing yourself from the past, it is your belief, and it is my belief and experience that that only reinvents the problem in more subtle and insidious ways, but never gets rid of it.
What you are describing as ‘going to the past and doing XYZ’ is nothing more than some kind of weird fantasy or roleplay, of the same kind that we are usually engaged in. What is real is what is here, now. In the present, suppressed feelings will naturally arise, one doesn’t have to deliberately go and fetch them. When they do, the right thing to do is do nothing. Then, they will soon naturally dissolve, as soon as they came, like all things that arise. They will naturally exit through the back door unless you lock it shut and tie them to the chair. The moment you try and “do something” about them, you only feed them. So yes, there is no deliberately doing anything, there is just letting go of your perverse and compulsive need to keep “doing something” about everything. Yes, what he is saying is at odds with modern psychotherapy, and that’s because modern psychotherapy doesn’t have a clue of what it’s talking about. But, if you have invested time and energy into it, probably you are attached to thinking that it has anything whatsoever to say about the Truth.
Cheers 😊
@@Interspirituality That is exactly what I mean. He speaks as if he was prescribing to everyone what works for him, as if everyone was standing where he stands. And that is simply not true.
@@TheJedynak I think the point is that we are all fundamentally One and hence yes, the laws of happiness too are the same for us all
@@InterspiritualityQuite a thought-provoking response/interesting argument! And our culture has really locked onto a concept “ traumatic memories” and can’t really “scientifically “ prove the effectiveness of psychological interventions that purportedly “treat” these “memories!” One thing I know is true, “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear!”
@@Interspirituality The laws of gravity are the same for all athletes, yet if you make a beginner deadlift 150 kg, they are likely to rather break their back than succeed. Encouraging them by saying, like the author of this talk here, 'just do it, haha!' won't help. Instead they can engage in training, proper nutrition, renounce bad habits etc.
It might be more appealing to see yourself directly by a 150 kg bar. I believe some, those with good karma, will be able to lift it, but imposing on others that everyone is alike and everyone should do it, is short sighted at least. And then we see flourishing of spiritual bypassing, plenty of enlightened comments on the internet, etc.