I'm so happy for you!!!!! I hope you and your birth family get the connections and answers that you want but regardless, I'm very inspired by you and your bravery. You are a strong woman. You sought your answers but allowed people time and space to process things on their own.
I've been watching all of your videos! You should submit your journey to a TV show. A podcast. A TH-camr with a big following. You have soooooo much to offer other adoptees and people who are tracking ancestry, though convoluted family history. Also you're very articulate and entertaining and have a soothing voice.
May I just say thank you so much for all of the love and support you have given me in your comments. It makes it all worthwhile when I hear that I have resonated with someone. I love sharing my story so I would also jump at any opportunity to share it further and learn from other adoptees. So maybe us talking about it will manifest opportunities haha. I have also never gotten such sweet compliments about my speaking so thank you again!
Oh man, just binged this journey, and I’m so happy you found him! That’s amazing! It sounds like you have found some pretty great siblings, that’s so exciting! I really hope that this happy ending is just the first of so many for you. Tbh, I feel closure now that you know. Secondhand closure. I’m so happy for you.
Oh my gosh I’m sorry I didn’t see your comment earlier! It makes me so happy to know people are enjoying what I share and that they can kinda follow my journey with me. I’m trying to be the channel/person that I needed when I was a kid on the search. I wish you the best in whatever journey you are on as well and thank you again for your sweetness ❤️ check back again sometime, you’re always welcome!
Congratulations 🎉 I still haven’t been able to get my bio dad to communicate with me or take a test, but like you, at last I know now. My half sister told me he knew my mother and was most likely the father.
Congrats on finding your bio dad. DNA isn't confusing. It's fairly straightforward AND you don't necessarily need a bio parent to take a DNA test to prove who they are. I've found a bunch of bio parents that have never taken a test. Same principles as how the Golden State Killer was discovered. Good luck on your new journey. 💞
Absolutely! With enough testing and dna knowledge you dont necessarily need the parent to test, I just needed to see that 100% for my own sense of completion in the journey and so there are no questions in anyone else's minds either
@@blabla22222 You don't even need a sibling. If you have descendants of 4 grandparents or 8 greats, the puzzle pieces only fit together one way to point to the right bio parent.
I never knew my father, he denied me as his daughter, so I had nothing to do with him, until a decade ago, I met my grandparents and after that I met my father about a week later... but I class him as my sperm donor nothing more, I've done the Ancestry DNA test, just waiting for the results...
I'm sorry you have had a difficult experience but I applaud you for your courage meeting new bio family after disappointment and setting boundaries in how you manage that relationship. Please share if you would like when you get your results in! I would love to hear :)
Remember this a woman knows a child is her a man does not. Some men deny because they just don’t want the responsibility or they don’t want to deal with the mother’s non stop nonsense. Also a man may think she’s been with others besides him. Also in a lot of countries if a man is not on the birth certificate he has no rights to be in that child’s life eg visits nothing. Also many times many mouthy man hating women will put a man down calling him a loser or deadbeat without knowing for sure if he’s the biological father or not. A woman should never bag the man without knowing for sure if he’s the biological father. Also the laws still favours the woman vs the man. There’s a lot of egg donors who are unfortunately as mothers when all they are really are egg donors. There are quite a few mothers who have custody and shouldn’t are having their child raised by the maternal grandparents or maternal grandmother. A lot of men don’t get told they have a child while in the meantime the mother is bagging him to whoever.
Honestly it has only let me have the time to get closer to those who are open to talking to me like some of my siblings. While my mysteries have been solved in terms of searching for family, I now get to have a chance to know the people I have found :)
I was able to figure out who the birth parents of my maternal grandmother were using DNA. I put my DNA, my brother's DNA and my Mom's DNA on every DNA ancestry site I could find. I also published my grandmother's story on adoptee sites too. After several years I got two emails in July of 2019. One was from my grandmothers' mom's side and the other was from her dad's side. It was crazy. What are the chances of after about 40 years of searching, both sides of my grandmother's family would email me in the same year and month? Wild. So on the father's side, GEDmatch was where that distant cousin was looking. He couldn't understand why there was such a big DNA link of my mom's DNA and his. He said that he was from a small family and knew everyone in his family---so who was I???? On the maternal side , it was an adoption site where searches for family are posted that helped. You post your story and you hope someone will recognize your story and match up. So I was contacted by my distant cousin and she had read my post and also seen 23andMe matches of me and many of my family to her DNA. She said that when her grandmother passed, the grandmother said to her daughter, 'I had a baby that I gave up for adoption, please find it." She didn't say if the baby was a boy or girl, where the baby was born, how come it was put up for adoption, no details, just find the baby. So after over 100 years everyone put together the story and DNA is what confirmed the relationships. It took forever and I had kind of given up. I also prayed a lot too!!!
What an incredible story! Thank you so much for sharing. What a gift to her and to all of you I hope that her wish could be answered even so long after ❤️
I been having the hardest time try to find my husband parental side he never meet them at all he really wants to aleast know something of his father we don’t know his birthday etc so it’s super hard I’m praying so hard we found out something before his 33 birthday 6/20 his dna already came back on ancestry just don’t understand how to match who and what
I’m sorry I didn’t respond sooner. Hopefully some more information has come your way. It can be hard if you have no information to figure out which matches are from birth father and which are from birth mother. If your husband knows any family names or even context clues for example I knew my birth mother was white and my birth father was Hispanic, so any closely related matches that were totally white I knew were likely from my birth mothers side and vice versa. Also reoccurring last names can help sort people. But best of all ancestry and maybe 23andMe have a shared relatives feature so if you click on a match you can see which of the other matches are related to that person and boom you can at least sort them out that way until you know which parent they are related too. And of course just reaching out in a message to the matches. Something simple and requesting assistance to find out who his birth father is and that he’s just seeking some information for closure or however you’d like to word it. It may take time to get a response but my biggest help came from a second cousin I had messaged. So you never know! Best of luck to you both
So u accept the ancestry as 100% accurate? I just found my biological dad on ancestry DNA as well. Do u think doing a paternity test is also needed or not? Thanks in advance.
Fortunately when it comes to parentage, the result of whether they are your parent or not is either 0% or 99.99%. So not much room for error. I had taken a paternity test in the past which cost over $300 and all it tells you is 0% or 99.99%. I personally say ancestry is the way to go because one, the science is pretty much foolproof, two, it is soooo much cheaper and easier, and three, you get a lot more information from the ancestry test such as ethnicity, shared matches, CM and such. Congrats on your discovery and I hope that helps!
Hi there! Definitely do Ancestry and 23andMe if you can afford both. Wait for sales! Then upload the Raw DNA file for free to other sites like GEDMatch, Family Tree DNA, My Heritage, etc. Then look for DNA matches and clues. Don’t be afraid to ask matches for help but be patient and ask gently, not everyone signs up for the shock of a new family member and may not be super open to it and may even be worried you’re a scam of some kind, so go slowly and gently and be as understanding as you can.
My paternal half-sister that I couldn’t tell if they were a half sibling or a cousin was 1,260 cm. So you can probably understand how frustrating that was! Haha 😅 my other half sister from the same father shares 1,687 which is my highest sibling so far. Pretty random
If you haven’t yet I would try testing with sites like ancestry DNA or 23andMe to start your search! 😊 or if anyone in your family might have information maybe gently starting a conversation with them
Hey I'm 23 there almost 24 I know my birth mother but not my birth father would you or anyone knows any tips on finding my father I don't have much info about him and the info I have might be fake anytips?
Hi there! Sure thing, if you haven’t tested with ancestry or 23andMe I highly recommend it. The fact that you have some info on your birth mother is a great first step so you’ll likely be able to figure out which of your immediate matches may be from your mothers side and which may be from fathers side. Send a message to your matches, even the more distant ones, it may take a while to get a response and they may not wanna help but sometimes it just takes one helpful match to fill in the information gaps 😊 best of luck
When I hear this "birth father" its generally a derogatory inference that ranks men as sperm donors not fathers. Its this lack of a functional relationship or emotion that is disturbing.
Keep making videos your doing a great job cant wait to see you doing new things and enjoying life
happy for you. i wish you all good things
Beautiful!!Blessings to you!!
Just found your video. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story 🙌🏼 I love watching your journey and how you speak ❤️🙌🏼
I'm so happy for you!!!!! I hope you and your birth family get the connections and answers that you want but regardless, I'm very inspired by you and your bravery. You are a strong woman. You sought your answers but allowed people time and space to process things on their own.
Thank you so much! Allowing that space for processing both for yourself and others is so important
I've been watching all of your videos! You should submit your journey to a TV show. A podcast. A TH-camr with a big following. You have soooooo much to offer other adoptees and people who are tracking ancestry, though convoluted family history. Also you're very articulate and entertaining and have a soothing voice.
May I just say thank you so much for all of the love and support you have given me in your comments. It makes it all worthwhile when I hear that I have resonated with someone. I love sharing my story so I would also jump at any opportunity to share it further and learn from other adoptees. So maybe us talking about it will manifest opportunities haha. I have also never gotten such sweet compliments about my speaking so thank you again!
Oh man, just binged this journey, and I’m so happy you found him! That’s amazing! It sounds like you have found some pretty great siblings, that’s so exciting! I really hope that this happy ending is just the first of so many for you. Tbh, I feel closure now that you know. Secondhand closure. I’m so happy for you.
Oh my gosh I’m sorry I didn’t see your comment earlier! It makes me so happy to know people are enjoying what I share and that they can kinda follow my journey with me. I’m trying to be the channel/person that I needed when I was a kid on the search. I wish you the best in whatever journey you are on as well and thank you again for your sweetness ❤️ check back again sometime, you’re always welcome!
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Congratulations 🎉 I still haven’t been able to get my bio dad to communicate with me or take a test, but like you, at last I know now. My half sister told me he knew my mother and was most likely the father.
Thank you! I'm so sorry to hear that. Some things take time but I am glad you feel like you have your answer. Take care of yourself!
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Congrats on finding your bio dad. DNA isn't confusing. It's fairly straightforward AND you don't necessarily need a bio parent to take a DNA test to prove who they are. I've found a bunch of bio parents that have never taken a test. Same principles as how the Golden State Killer was discovered.
Good luck on your new journey. 💞
Absolutely! With enough testing and dna knowledge you dont necessarily need the parent to test, I just needed to see that 100% for my own sense of completion in the journey and so there are no questions in anyone else's minds either
@@blabla22222 You don't even need a sibling. If you have descendants of 4 grandparents or 8 greats, the puzzle pieces only fit together one way to point to the right bio parent.
ure so strong and brave
I never knew my father, he denied me as his daughter, so I had nothing to do with him, until a decade ago, I met my grandparents and after that I met my father about a week later... but I class him as my sperm donor nothing more, I've done the Ancestry DNA test, just waiting for the results...
I'm sorry you have had a difficult experience but I applaud you for your courage meeting new bio family after disappointment and setting boundaries in how you manage that relationship. Please share if you would like when you get your results in! I would love to hear :)
Remember this a woman knows a child is her a man does not. Some men deny because they just don’t want the responsibility or they don’t want to deal with the mother’s non stop nonsense. Also a man may think she’s been with others besides him. Also in a lot of countries if a man is not on the birth certificate he has no rights to be in that child’s life eg visits nothing. Also many times many mouthy man hating women will put a man down calling him a loser or deadbeat without knowing for sure if he’s the biological father or not. A woman should never bag the man without knowing for sure if he’s the biological father. Also the laws still favours the woman vs the man. There’s a lot of egg donors who are unfortunately as mothers when all they are really are egg donors. There are quite a few mothers who have custody and shouldn’t are having their child raised by the maternal grandparents or maternal grandmother. A lot of men don’t get told they have a child while in the meantime the mother is bagging him to whoever.
Whoa! This was published right around when the lockdown happened. How has the quarantine affected your "family" journey?
Honestly it has only let me have the time to get closer to those who are open to talking to me like some of my siblings. While my mysteries have been solved in terms of searching for family, I now get to have a chance to know the people I have found :)
I was able to figure out who the birth parents of my maternal grandmother were using DNA. I put my DNA, my brother's DNA and my Mom's DNA on every DNA ancestry site I could find. I also published my grandmother's story on adoptee sites too. After several years I got two emails in July of 2019. One was from my grandmothers' mom's side and the other was from her dad's side. It was crazy. What are the chances of after about 40 years of searching, both sides of my grandmother's family would email me in the same year and month? Wild. So on the father's side, GEDmatch was where that distant cousin was looking. He couldn't understand why there was such a big DNA link of my mom's DNA and his. He said that he was from a small family and knew everyone in his family---so who was I???? On the maternal side , it was an adoption site where searches for family are posted that helped. You post your story and you hope someone will recognize your story and match up. So I was contacted by my distant cousin and she had read my post and also seen 23andMe matches of me and many of my family to her DNA. She said that when her grandmother passed, the grandmother said to her daughter, 'I had a baby that I gave up for adoption, please find it." She didn't say if the baby was a boy or girl, where the baby was born, how come it was put up for adoption, no details, just find the baby. So after over 100 years everyone put together the story and DNA is what confirmed the relationships. It took forever and I had kind of given up. I also prayed a lot too!!!
What an incredible story! Thank you so much for sharing. What a gift to her and to all of you I hope that her wish could be answered even so long after ❤️
Thank you for your videos.
congratulations, not many can find their family
I’m certainly very fortunate ❤️ thank you
do you have any ideas how to get ideas
I still don’t know my bio father but I know my mom
I been having the hardest time try to find my husband parental side he never meet them at all he really wants to aleast know something of his father we don’t know his birthday etc so it’s super hard I’m praying so hard we found out something before his 33 birthday 6/20 his dna already came back on ancestry just don’t understand how to match who and what
I’m sorry I didn’t respond sooner. Hopefully some more information has come your way. It can be hard if you have no information to figure out which matches are from birth father and which are from birth mother. If your husband knows any family names or even context clues for example I knew my birth mother was white and my birth father was Hispanic, so any closely related matches that were totally white I knew were likely from my birth mothers side and vice versa. Also reoccurring last names can help sort people. But best of all ancestry and maybe 23andMe have a shared relatives feature so if you click on a match you can see which of the other matches are related to that person and boom you can at least sort them out that way until you know which parent they are related too. And of course just reaching out in a message to the matches. Something simple and requesting assistance to find out who his birth father is and that he’s just seeking some information for closure or however you’d like to word it. It may take time to get a response but my biggest help came from a second cousin I had messaged. So you never know! Best of luck to you both
There's still a hole that's not filled yet.
So u accept the ancestry as 100% accurate? I just found my biological dad on ancestry DNA as well. Do u think doing a paternity test is also needed or not? Thanks in advance.
Fortunately when it comes to parentage, the result of whether they are your parent or not is either 0% or 99.99%. So not much room for error. I had taken a paternity test in the past which cost over $300 and all it tells you is 0% or 99.99%. I personally say ancestry is the way to go because one, the science is pretty much foolproof, two, it is soooo much cheaper and easier, and three, you get a lot more information from the ancestry test such as ethnicity, shared matches, CM and such. Congrats on your discovery and I hope that helps!
@@AdopteeThings Thanks that helped me out a lot. So I can 100% put my dad into my heart ❤.
I also did ancestry dna and found it absolutely reliable.
and so how did you find your birth father and what are your websites do you recommend
Hi there! Definitely do Ancestry and 23andMe if you can afford both. Wait for sales! Then upload the Raw DNA file for free to other sites like GEDMatch, Family Tree DNA, My Heritage, etc. Then look for DNA matches and clues. Don’t be afraid to ask matches for help but be patient and ask gently, not everyone signs up for the shock of a new family member and may not be super open to it and may even be worried you’re a scam of some kind, so go slowly and gently and be as understanding as you can.
Hello,
Could you share how much CM you and your sister(1st cousin) share?
My paternal half-sister that I couldn’t tell if they were a half sibling or a cousin was 1,260 cm. So you can probably understand how frustrating that was! Haha 😅 my other half sister from the same father shares 1,687 which is my highest sibling so far. Pretty random
Do you have any idea for me
If you haven’t yet I would try testing with sites like ancestry DNA or 23andMe to start your search! 😊 or if anyone in your family might have information maybe gently starting a conversation with them
Hey I'm 23 there almost 24 I know my birth mother but not my birth father would you or anyone knows any tips on finding my father I don't have much info about him and the info I have might be fake anytips?
Hi there! Sure thing, if you haven’t tested with ancestry or 23andMe I highly recommend it. The fact that you have some info on your birth mother is a great first step so you’ll likely be able to figure out which of your immediate matches may be from your mothers side and which may be from fathers side. Send a message to your matches, even the more distant ones, it may take a while to get a response and they may not wanna help but sometimes it just takes one helpful match to fill in the information gaps 😊 best of luck
I don’t know who is my birth mother and birth father
I found mine and im 49 lol
Congratulations!
and so I have no idea who is my birth father
I have not met my birth mother and birth father and birth grandparents
or some people
When I hear this "birth father" its generally a derogatory inference that ranks men as sperm donors not fathers. Its this lack of a functional relationship or emotion that is disturbing.
Rather shocking lack of emotion. Lets hope there is something more positive.