OMG I found my 70yr old formerly childless uncle a 37 yr old daughter he never knew existed, through Ancestry DNA. She popped up as a first cousin and I couldn’t leave it alone until I figured it all out. I felt so honored to help this adoptee find a successful end to her long journey. What’s craziest is that she grew up on the same neighborhood my family comes from, and most of us already knew her! We weren’t friends because we ran in differently circles, she’s a few years younger than I and my siblings are. She was friends with my friends younger siblings. She and her father must’ve passed each other on the street thousands of times without knowing it before he moved to Florida. They got 5 years together before he passed, they connected and bonded like father and daughter. The love was there from the first phone call and deepened the moment they laid eyes on each other, it helps that she’s his very face 😂 She was adopted by a lovely couple who gave her the world, my uncle called them his angels on this earth. And then she got a bonus mom in my uncles wife who always wanted children but couldn’t have them. They have continued a loving second-mother/daughter relationship since his passing last year. It was like a fairy tale before he passed, it couldn’t have gone better for either of them ♥️
That is such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. I am so glad your cousin got to have a real relationship with her dad for five years and that she has you and the rest of your family. That is such a wonderful happy ending. That's crazy that you guys kind of grew up together and didn't even know it.
This is a great video explaining your journey. I've helped two adoptees and several family members identify their biological father through DNA matches and building lots of trees. You explained the process better than most do. Thanks for sharing.
I have been on a similar journey finding my father’s biological parents. My dad died never knowing anything about his origins so I decided to do this for him (and me!) I just wanted to say that with databases growing every day, your journey is not over. You never know when another close family member may decide to test. I think your chances of finding more family is better than not…in time. This has been my experience.
Hi! I'm sorry to hear that your biological father had passed before you got to meet him. I know how important closure can be and listening to your story, I thought I may suggest something that you may have already tried, but here goes... Your aunt... look for her name in obituaries as "survived by." I was on the same journey as you and facing the very same issues. My biological father had a VERY common name and on top of that, he went by a nickname so when he first appeared in obituaries by those he survived, he was called by his nickname. Don't give up!
I lived with my biological father and still wasn't anybody's little girl. I understand what you were looking for. I wish that I had had that, too. I'm in my sixties now and still wonder how different my life would have been if my father had even moderately liked me.
I am so sorry you went through that. I understand. I was rejected by my mother and her mother. I totally understand the feeling of, "Why can't they just love me?" I am so sorry you went through that. You are a wonderful person very deserving of love and understand. Sending you my heart. I am so sorry you endured that.
I did ansestry a while back. A lady reached out to me she just did the test and was 42 years old. She never knew any of her family. Well in 2 full days of reasearch I found her mom and dad. Un fortunately her mom past but her dad and siblings are still here. And she's gonna come to my state well have a get together for her. 💪💯❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. Mine is similar. I never knew my dad he left my mom when she was pregnant. I always wanted to meet him. I finally had the courage to do the DNA test on ancestry! I got back results and it was under first cousin. Looked her up on fb and it was my dads sister! Found out I had a little brother, a grandfather and step grandmother still living, aunts uncles and cousins! Unfortunately my dad died a year before I did my test so I can also never meet him. So glad you got some answers.
Kia Ora from New Zealand. Thank you so much for the video. I’m trying to work out my real grandfather and have been a bit lost. The small bit of information you have given has been a great help in pointing me in the right direction. I have found it frustrating when people keep their family trees private. Fortunately my brother agreed to have his DNA tested as well, so that gives me a clearer direction to follow. Now l just need to focus and do the mahi.
Hi I am so glad my video was able to help you a bit. Definitely get your brother to test as well. That will help a lot. Yes private trees are very frustrating especially when you are trying to piece together who fits in where from you DNA matches. I wish you the best and good luck in your search.
You may look into Geni too. I found my father due to DNA tests, shared my data to FamilyTreeDNA and MyHeritage, from there came different ppl, looked Geni trees, searched our archives, found one possible closer relative, she took DNA test and so i found my father.
You are not alone! My mother told me my dad was the man that signed my birth certificate along with three other men. I went through life calling people that weren't family family. It took 2 dna tests and I am still working through it all. Four search angels have helped and suggested that my fater was tied to my mom's step family.
You seem super nice. :) I'm currently in the process of finding my father. Hoping it has a good outcome. Just had a big breakthrough thanks to Ancestry.
Just remember love, your Heavenly Father GOD, planned to have you in His Family and you are well known to Him as a cherished daughter and He loves you sooo much more than any Earthly father could. You are extremely important to Him and very much wanted from the very beginning of your life. If you don’t know Him you can be sure He is hopeful that you will want to know Him even more. X
Same story here Mom lied, given grief whenever I asked, but I spent over a thousand on dna testing & found the truth. Luckily my mysterious father's side has a much smaller family size. 40 years without even knowing is way too long, but it was worth it to find out. Yeah it's not easy I've always hurt a lot about it. Much more than most people. My Mom died right around the same exact moment that I discovered it too. And the guy is alive, but doesn't care. His sister had a nice half hour chat with me, but she doesn't really care. Some of my paternal family does care to some extent which makes me happy. I want to change my last name & the fact that I have to pay so much more money to do that is absurd.
I am so sorry you went through that. I agree that it hurts to have waited this long but totally worth it to find answers. I am sorry your father wasn't interested and that your mother died around the time you found out. That's rough. I am glad that your extended family is interested in getting to know you. That sucks about the amount of money it cost to change your name. It is pretty crazy they charge so much for that. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope that you get to know the rest of your family and that your aunt and father come around to want to find out more about you.
I look at you too and see her just a bit taller than him; him a bit rounder than some guys; obvious and genuine love shared between you. What I see is a reflection of the love shared between my brother and his wife and am SO happy for your whole family!
My circumstances were very similar except it was both my father mother and father that were unknown. I found both with a lot of the same work that you did.
DNA testing both raises and solves a lot of mysteries. My wife tested with Ancestry several years ago. Plenty of father's side matches came up, and a lot of strangers. Further digging revealed that my mother-in-law (who by this time was in her 70s) was adopted. We made contact with the birth mother's family and MIL got to meet a sister she never knew she had. Father's side is another matter; MIL matched a paternal aunt but we have decided to sit back and see if they contact us. The birth parents were teenagers and do not seem to have had any significant relationship that we are aware of. That reunion might be a bit uncomfortable, if you know what I mean. Even so -- it is amazing that we can do this now!
I totally understand. My mother had her family keep any mention of her father quiet. Her mother wouldn't tell her anything. I ordered Ancestry kits for me and my Mom in 2013. I had to learn how to do all of the things you and your Search Angel did. I searched for almost 7 years, when all of a sudden I noticed a group of matches that matched my mother and myself. By now my sister, her daughters, my brother, and my youngest son all have kits on Ancestry. These matches did not match my mother's maternal shared matches. So I began working on their trees. Long story short, my mother passed away in 2019. A few months later I was able see the surname of her father consistently match all of these matches. Mind you they matched my sister, her daughters, my brother, and my son too. Because of how high the centimorgans we're these were my siblings and my 1st cousins and my mother's nieces and nephew. I was able to connect with my mother's nephew and it turned out she has 1 half-sister living. The day I got in touch with her was truly touching. Now I shared that to say this: my mother was born in May 1920. She died at 98 years old. She never got to know who her father was. I talked with my aunt and I told her that I really don't think my grandmother knew who the father was. She was a teenager messing around with boys and was too ashamed to tell my mother she didn't know. Even though you won't get to meet your father, there are many more relatives within your matches that come from his ancestors. I hope that you get to have meaningful connections with some of them.
E Davis Smith thank you so much for the encouragement and for sharing your story. I am so sorry that your mother died before you were able to find out her father's name. I am so glad though that you were able to connect with her sister and nieces and nephews. That is a wonderful thing. I am going to keep trying and hopefully I will make a connection.
I am amazed....the lengths these people go to to find answers....surely the relatives will see that she really cares. Anyone who didn't wouldnt have had the staying power to keep searching. ❤️
You are not alone. I found out in my early 30's that the man I was told was my dad wasn't. It took me almost 3 decades to solve the puzzle. There is hope. My bio-dad died in 2010, I figured out who he was in 2020. What! Your mother lied about who your father is? Been doing genealogy for 3.5 decades and that story line is so common. One of the most common ones. Happened with me, my mom, her sister and her mom, her mom's mom... My other half aunt and so on. Very similar stories here. I even tried using an Angle, but that went sideways. Anyway I sorted maternal to start, to eliminate those matches. Then I started sorting the paternal side into two groups, Dralles and Wardrips. I eventually used DNA Painter to triangulate where I fit in the trees; for the Dralles and Wardrips. I solved it. Used 23&Me to start out, then Ancestry. My mom lied, told half a dozen different stories and never anything close to the truth. I feel your pain.
You can search for your aunt under her maiden name. She could show up in birth or marriage records, high school yearbooks, census, or newspaper records. Obviously finding the record of her marriage would be especially useful, but sometimes you can home in on someone from the other records. Also, findagrave or obituary records using the maiden name might also be useful, because sometimes they list surviving children, siblings, or other relations. When Ancestry finish indexing it, the 1950 census might help tracking down people and families with that name. Bon courage !
My partner is going through the same with his mother. He has a high DNA match but she has lied to him his whole life and is now suggesting it is someone who doesn’t even make sense. It’s very frustrating and we have to step back at times because it can really consume your present life. I get excited to make small break throughs but besides the search angel we have not many family members that have been willing to help so far. It is good to know we are not alone. Best of luck to you on your continued journey beautiful. You are deserving of answers and I hope you get them. 💕
Thank you for sharing you and your partner's journey. You are right it really can be all consuming when you are doing the search. I am so sorry his mother is lying to you guys. Best of luck on finding answers for you guys and thank you for the encouragement.
Omg I’ve just come across your video and I’m in absolute tears because I can relate to it so much I’m currently looking for my birth father who doesn’t even know I exist, my mum is completely unsupportive and I feel so alone, I’m am nearly 34 years old and I’ve never known anything about him had a picture extra! I just want to say I admire how brave you are talking about this because it’s something I wish I could do but I’m so heartbroken I wouldn’t be able to deal with negative comments! You have a beautiful family and I just want you to know you are not alone in this situation 💚
Kerri Edwards I am so sorry to hear that you are going through the same thing. It sucks when a parent doesn't understand why it is important for a child to have answers about their lineage. Thank you so much for the support and kind words about me and my family. You are much stronger than you know and I am sending you love and support cause I really hope that you are able to heal and hopefully find answers. 💙
Q. This may sound potentially creepy but then again maybe not... but could you possibly put in a buy and sell platform or similar group on Facebook in the community that your dad/aunt were from, her maiden name? Say that you're looking for her - just say..."family information needed"? Graduation and graduation reunion committees for schools as well can be helpful. Maybe others could then reach out and say "oh ya, she they were neighbours,..." Possible? Not?? Hopefully it's an idea that might help. Good luck with finding your aunt and any other extended family that might be out there. Big hugs.
Thank you for the idea. Those are good ideas. I will definitely look into finding a reunion committee for sure. That is a great idea. I am shy about sharing on social media but I think I may just have to bite the bullet.
Sometimes knowing the truth is more painful than not knowing and your mother maybe was trying to protect you (maybe). You can say the name of your aunt and the name of your mother through your social media and somebody that knows them (or your aunt herself) could reach you and clarify the mystery.
To be honest the truth while painful is better most times. My mother was protecting herself. I won't go into it too much but she is a selfish person in many ways and this was just another. I understand that is not how most mothers are but in my case that is who she is. She has said on many occasions she wanted to be a single mother with no other input. I will look at sharing on social media. my aunt's name. I would like to do more research first, because I want to meet her without blasting her on social media and possibly upsetting her for disturbing her privacy.
Wow that was a lot. I wanted to find my birth father… I have information through Ancestry, the closer dna matches… but like you, mine died in a plane crash in 1972. He also has a younger sister (now in her mid 70’s) but I don’t know how to contact her. I tried FB but she’s never read my emails… assuming they are going into another folder. I dearly wish I could meet her and find out something about him. I like to think she would be happy to find a niece she never knew she had.
O wow. Your story is almost exactly like mine. I am so sorry you went through all that. Your messages are probably in a second folder for sure. I really hope she sees them and contacts you back. I bet she would be over joyed to find out she has you and a part of her brother back. I hope you are able to find her address or phone number to contact her in a different way. Thank you so much for sharing your story and watching mine. Hugs. 💙
@@ThisSideoftheNuthouse I will continue to hope that I can one day give her the gift of knowing about me. I really would like to know about him... it would be wonderful. I imagine it will fill a big part of the puzzle. Thank for your reply xx
I'm really sorry you were lied to. You're incredibly brave to share this and describe your experience so clearly - thank you! My own story is similarly frustrating but I wasn't lied to. I wish you the greatest of luck in the future and so appreciate what you've done.
I'm 60 and still don't know who my bio father is, I just got to a point in my life when I decided it doesn't matter anymore because life is to short to worry about someone that never worried about you! I'll never know what it's like to be daddy's little girl but it doesn't matter anymore because I'm my daughter Mumzi and that's my fulfillment in life they taught me how to love and grow and be whole without even knowing it. They were my purpose in life and gave me the happiness and joy and unconditional love I yearned for.... I stopped looking for my parents when I became a parent and promised myself no matter what it takes I'll never abandon my children and we are still a beautiful together a force to be reckoned with....
Unless you actually met this bloke and he told you he didn't care then you don't know for sure that's actually true. Are you basing this maybe on what your mother has said,? Or you have just assumed that because he wasn't in the picture? A lot of women and children fail to get that men didn't have the same rights as mother's back then especially if he wasn't listed as father on the birth certificate. If the parents separated and the man was not listed as father on the birth certificate he had no rights to see you etc. Also a lot of mothers hold unnecessary grudges and often wouldn't allow the father to see the child. Plus women have a habit of always up and leaving with the children to a new location and it takes men ages to track down. Also a lot of men if the relationship finished and the woman was in the early stages of her pregnancy often were not told that he has a child on the way. Remember even if the woman was at fault in the relationship they still keep their children. Men are never sure when they are going to see their children again after a split. A woman always knows that their biological child a man does not.
Came across your video, sorry for your loss. And congratulations on your tenacity and will. If you don’t mind I was going to say that if you want to get in contact with your aunt and cousin maybe reach out to a few of you third or fourth cousins there is a big chance they could guide you to your aunt. I would. I think there is a reason to why you came across them. You may not have your father or grand parents. But making contact with her would help you get closer to your paternal roots, you will learn about your father what things you have inherited from him and have in common. And I’m sure if you are the only child he had your aunt will be so happy to know an extension of her brother exists in you. Not sure if you did find her and made contact this video is two years old. I hope you did. And that you are enjoying of each other’s company. God bless!
This is almost the same process I used when I started getting a lot of matches who didn't line up to my tree. Mine was way less organized, though, because I didn't know what I was doing and learned on the way. But, one thing I did learn to do was mine obituaries and BMD records and phonebooks and the like for information. For instance, if this Aunt was married in an area where marriage licenses/certificates are public and online you can check to see who their witnesses were. If they have less common names, you can search for them and see if the aunt's name is in any of their friends list on Facebook or other sites. Or, you can look up obituaries for their parents and their aunts and uncles and see if any of them mention your aunt. Sometimes, those obituaries will mention where people lived, but it will also give you other family members to look for on social media who may not already be in your tree since recent relatives can be hard to find paper records on. Also, some newspapers would post birth notices. If you don't already know the aunt's birthday, you can look up birth notices using the name of your grandfather. If they moved around, you can build a timeline for them and check newspapers in those areas or if the name is unique enough, just search the entire country. You can then use your aunt's name and the birthdate and suspected place the aunt may have lived in to do google searches. You all may have already tried these. But, these are things I have used when searching.
Thank you for the suggestions. I will look into them. Those are really good ideas for searching. I didn't even think to look up witnesses to her wedding. That is a very solid idea. I will try that next. Thank you so much for being so very helpful.
thank you for doing this video, the search is a journey and every bit of support from fellow travelers helps along the way, much like you I unraveled the thread of my own paternity at 47 yrs old, and my father had died a year and a half after I was born so I get it
Thank you for commenting and sharing your story. Hugs to you. It really is awesome to hear others stories and know we are not alone. So sorry for your loss. ❤
Great video were you able to look at his obituary and at the people who were listed at his obituary and then go to the funeral home and see if you could see the people who were at the funeral I found that to be a great help
I was able to see the death certificate. I thought I had found the obituary but I can't find it again. I will have to see if I can find it again so I can call the funeral home. Thank you for the suggestion.
I went looking for my Grandfathers family. He was put out for adoption in 1890. I was able to do the same process you did only it was easier because they all had big families back then so I have 43000 cousins. My grand father had always thought another man was his father. Turns out his father died the same year he was born and he had a daughter who died after he was born. I had a 2nd half cousin who was the son of my grandfather’s half sister. Your mother is a pain in the ass. Things were different in the past Single motherhood was not a thing back then. If you got divorced you got remarried. My last name is wrong. My grandfather was forced labor on a farm until he was old enough to leave. You need to reach out to other people in the home town who might know her.
I am so glad you were able to find answers for your grandfather. I have been able to find lots of extended family like 3rd cousin plus but no close family unfortunately. I agree my mother is a pain in the ass. So sorry to hear your grandfather was used for labor. Thank you for the idea. I will be reaching out to people who knew my mother. That's a great idea.
Find your mom's bestie around the time you were born. Even her neighbors or frenemies know something. Most people find the truth at family gatherings thru the drunk uncle or aunt. Keep searching.
Thank you for the encouragement. I will try the find her old bestie idea. Yeah I have seen a lot of people find out a lot of stuff from drunk relatives.
i found I had a different father through Ancestry. I do a lot of research like you do - Facebook other sites etc. Just keep watchign Ancestry DNA matches
I just want to say that you are ADORABLE. You actually remind me a lot of Shirley Temple (who I idolized when I was a little girl). And I want to share with you that -- and I know you know this -- that many of us who DO know our biological parents and even grew up with at least one of them while knowing the other have had a father that NEVER made us feel like "Daddy's little girl" -- and well as mothers who NEVER seemed to care at all (and really didn't care much at all). A child tends to blame herself/himself. That is what I did. I was CLEARLY "unlovable" since my own mother and father didn't care about me and rarely even talked to me, etc. It took me many decades of life, (I'm 70 years old now), to realize that they had their own BIG personal problems and were absolutely unequipped to act like real parents. I am very, very, very grateful that my father provided food and shelter in fairly safe neighborhoods until I left home at 17. I know it could have been a lot worse, going through government institutions like foster homes, etc. And I FINALLY learned that I AM loved by my REAL Father -- yes, I mean God -- and His Son, who loves each and every one of us SO MUCH that he put himself through TOTAL HELL just to make a way for us to get back to our Heavenly Home. I am NOT recommending a church (though if you are in NYC then Times Square Church would be awesome), because so very many are really NOT what they should be in this country and are culture-driven, money-driven, power-driven, etc. Don't let them get in your way if you can't find one that you know in your heart is God-inspired. I no longer -- after a long lifetime -- feel like the unloved duckling. I LITERALLY experience and KNOW God's love every day of my life now, even when things are NOT going great. I wish that for you, dear girl. May God bless you!
@WholeBibleBelieverWoman thank you for the support and kind words. I really appreciated your sentiment and kindness. Also, thank you for sharing your story and for sharing your faith. Sending care and love back towards you and I really appreciate the reframing of perspective.
Good that you did find some answers - even though you're left with more questions. Finding a biological parents is tough with only 3rd and 4th cousin matches. It took me about 4 months of searching/calculating day and night to find a woman's father with only 3rd and 4th cousin matches. When I did find the man I thought was her father, I was about 80% sure it was him, but when I contacted him, he was in denial. Finally, a biological daughter he raised decided to take a DNA test and when her results came back, it was obvious, he was bio dad. He accepted it and did an about face, and now the woman I helped has a good relationship with her father. She's in her 50s and he's in his 70s.
It is crazy how hard it is with those numbers. I am glad the woman you helped got answers and that they have a good relationship now. That's great that happened. I love to hear stories where things went well.
I talked to my bio father for the first time in my mid 20s and he wanted nothing to do with me. Moving forward to my mid 40s, I found a half sister ( bio dads DA) on Ancestry. She was adopted at birth and her adoption was closed. Over the last 5 years we have been making up for lost time ❤️🙌. We have discovered so much about our bio father’s family together. My bio father was so hurtful, but I wouldn’t trade the truth for not knowing who he is. Lucky for me and my sister he wrote a book about his life and he made so much money. Lol
I'm an amateur genealogist and have been a search angel before helped a few people to reconnect to their families. I would be happy to see if I can find information on your Aunt. I would need some info on her such as her birth name, birth date & place of birth if you have it, first husband's name, places she is known to have lived, children names if any and your birth father's name. You could message me the info privately if need be. Just a thought. PS: Have you obtained the obits of your father's parents (grandparents)? They may contain Aunt's name or her new married name.
Just started my journey... in my 50s. DNA kit hasn't even arrived yet and I've found some relatives I didn't know about from my maternal grandmother's trail of children. But I've no luck using the name for my father that my mother remembers. So, I'm hoping DNA might help me. I wanted to do it sooner, but something held me back. A few years ago I survived a heart attack and cardiac arrest, and now I'm no longer worried about what might happen.
I only seen this don’t even know if your still doing these but if you actually get this you are very brave and inspiring I’ve taken for granted that I have a lot of information about my family going back 7 generations. There are only a few holes one thing that does annoy me is that the oldest tree I have from Syria only has the men’s names.? I’m very proud of you, be proud of yourself you are unique and special I hope you have progressed some more in your search.
Ahhh that’s really good to know about how ancestry sorts out your matches. My mum doesn’t want to take a test but I have a half brother so any matches he has that are shared with me would be 100% from our mums side so I actually wouldn’t need her to take a test to get that information.. I’ll just have to convince my brother to take one haha.
My son and I used Ancestry DNA and My Heritage to find out the identity of my g-g grandfather. It was shares in Australia that led us first to a surname and then the family. Closer DNA shares started to make sense and finally we saw the potential person as a 20 year old male living a few cottages from my g-g grandmother at the time my great grandfather was born. Subsequent “cousins” have appeared that confirms our work. This was the result of 20 years of genealogy and 4 using DNA. Be patient….it is possible.
Hey there your video was awesome thank you for explaining your journey to us. I’m kind of going through the exact same thing I was just wondering if you could reference the search Angel that helped you because the ones that tried to help me said that all my matches were too far out, I know exactly what you’re going through though it is heartbreaking and unbelievably unfair. Thanks.
It must have been hard to find him only to know that he is forever lost as far as knowing you. 💔 At least you tried and know about him now. I am sorry, mostly about your own mother lying to you and belittling you. I think her personality was very difficult, and for that reason, all the more you had, the need to find your dad.
I'm going to bring it up in my therapy and maybe I can get my mom to agree to introduce me to mine. I know everyone worries about secrets. But my dad and I aren't really close. Hugs from my aunt. She has the same problem you did.
Yes definitely bring it up in therapy. I talk to my therapist about my situation too and it is very helpful. If you can get your mother's help then it will be a lot easier to search for him. Hugs to your Aunt. I am so sorry she went through that and I am sorry you are going through what you are going through. Thank you for sharing your story and your Aunt's story. You two are very brave and strong women.
Good luck with your test and your search. The only thing I can say is the ethnicity estimates are 50% accurate but the DNA family links seems to be mostly accurate. I don't follow the estimates on ethnicity from the test because there are no genes that are specific to certain regions and the regions change based on the amount of people who have tested but it does help to flesh out a family tree when you see the family links.
True but if it links down to the DNA relatives you have then you are probably on the right track. I used them in the basis of am I linking to the people listed as my DNA relatives and if I was then I felt like it was a good indicator.
I've been on a journey with my mom trying to figure out who her dad was. My mom is biracial born back in the 50's.... I really thought we weren't going to find anything but we actually got 1st-2nd cousin hits as soon as our DNA results came back. I was getting excited b/c it's been a long mystery, I actually found out who he was after much research and was also able to determine that matches for my mom as 1st cousins are nieces and nephews, so I sent a few friendly msgs to several people, nobody responded, that sorta made me sad b/c I was really hoping that we could have met some of the relatives on her paternal side.
Thank you so much for helping your mom with her search. That is such a hard thing to carry around not knowing where you come from and support especially from family is a huge thing. I am so sorry that you didn't get a response on your message to your new found family. Maybe if you can find them on social media you will get an actual response. I know for many on the tests they don't look at their messages through that platform. I am glad that you were able to find a name of who her dad was though. I know for me just having a name helped so very much and gave me a sense of peace. I really hope that you were able to find that for your mom.
I been having the hardest time try to find my husband parental side he never meet them at all he really wants to aleast know something of his father we don’t know his birthday etc so it’s super hard I’m praying so hard we found out something before his 33 birthday 6/20 his dna already came back on ancestry just don’t understand how to match who and what
I understand the frustration. That's where I was. The best I can say is go through DNA relatives and sort them by if they are related on maternal side or not. If they are linked to his maternal side ancestry allows you to color code. You can also look at matches to see mutual matches. This will help with the grouping. You can also look on Facebook for a search angel for help. There are many groups out there that offer help for free.
@@ThisSideoftheNuthouse I really appreciate you just even taking the time to reply !!!! Thank you so much 😊 glory to god !!!! So that’s thing idk 🤷🏻♀️ the difference between which parent is parent 1 or parent 2 ! He have a lot of hints just don’t understand it all I been watching ancestry videos to get some understanding!!! I heard a lot about the angel on Facebook I need to make a page ASAP !!!
My son was doing a search for the family as part of a project for another master's a year ago. my first wife and son died long ago, so he got my sister in law and her kids to get tested. Now she never told anyone who the father or fathers of her kids were. Let's just say my ex, sister in law and me were 4th cousins along a female line. The shocker I was showing 6 kids, two each with 3 women. My sister in laws twins were from a related female and me along with her two youngest sons were from me and she only had one sister my first wife. From what we could tell was she used the Plan B for my first wife having a child with me if anything happened to me. (first wife was a widow when I married her.) The interesting part, first wife and sister in law were from Bavaria, my ex was from northern Germany and I was from the US. The great grand father that taught me German and his first wife was the line all of us had in common or through her sisters. The twins she had were from embryos from my first wife and me, but the two youngest were from me and her. So when I went over to Germany a little over two weeks ago he presented me with what he found out. I had to look at the birthdates just to say to myself I was not there to make them. My sister in law and my ex have been BFF's since they were little. Yes, after I saw my ex 8 months pregnant, I gave up looking for her and my sons for 2 years was the first time me and my sister in law got involved in 2002. So that night I went to dinner with my sons and her, the first time she had seen me after 25 years. Ok I hold grudges, just a little. My son brought up what he found, and she started laughing and said you did not even get to have fun making them and laughed harder. Now since mid teens I have been going over to Germany to see my sons and stay with my sister in law and see my step kids. So, the next day Sunday me and my sons were going over to my sister in laws house to have Sunday dinner. My boys got the kids out of the house to do things, and I helped her with the preparations. I said the boys look just like their father and other brothers and thank you and gave her a hug. A few minutes later we went outside to tell the kids. Now my niece a few years ago had come to one morning and gave me a hug and said I wish you were my daddy while looking out the window with the snow in the trees before Covid and I said at least you are my niece. Never thought I had a daughter before, but when she found out she just launched into me crying. I just got back Monday 3 days ago and have been on Discord video talking to her every day. I went over there with 2 sons 26 and 24 and now have 3 more sons 14, 12, and 10 along with a 14 year old daughter that has loved me since she was 7 or 8. As to why me and my sister in law did not have kids the normal way, she was surprised we did not in the during my visits in the 2000s and a bit in the later teens when I showed up again to see them. During those times she would stop taking the pill, that was some news. As for now I guess I will take my computer up to my fathers have a long talk Saturday morning, then introduce him to his new grandkids on the large screen in the living room.
I'll just throw this out there for you. If you can find your Father's obituary there might be a mortuary listed. If you contact them, they might be able to get a address of his sister or other relative to reach her. You might have already thought of this. I wish you the best. I will share this with you. I was able to connect a woman who turned out to be my first cousin, who was the daughter of my Mother's only brother. Apparently he had an affair while married with someone. Her biological Mother placed her for adoption in the state of WV. As of the connection of my DNA match to her as her 1st cousin, she was able to find my other two cousins who were her half siblings. To date she's still trying to find her biological Mother. My Uncle, her father, is in his 90's and has dementia. He doesn't remember anything from during that time. Their thinking it might have possibly been a one night stand. WV department of vital statistics has closed adoption records. So, my adopted cousin has hit a brick wall trying to find her biological mother. She's hired an attorney to possibly get a copy of her original birth certificate. So far she's not been successful doing so.🥺
Thank you. I will look into contacting the Mortuary. I hadn't really thought of that before. That is a great idea. I am so glad you were able to find out you had a cousin. I really hope she finds her birth mother. Thank you for sharing your story and for giving advice to help.
My mom did DNA on Ancestry and she got really sick she said to me and my sister watch I'll pass and you will find my father my mom passed and we found a 2nd cousin who helped us find her father but he passed in 2020 my mom passed on October 19,2022 .. But my mom went through the same as you she found out when she was 16 got a name which was close but wrong and any time we would ask or my mom would ask my grandmom we got shot down so we just gave up.. but the crazy thing when my mom was on hospice and wasn't her self anymore she said hey my dad's name isn't what we think his first name is Ali not his last so that's how we were able to know who it was because there was only 2 brothers and the 1 was Ali and in the service...
Wow I am so sorry your mom went through that. I really feel like mothers who keep basic information from their children are selfish. I am glad you got an answer through DNA and I am so sorry that your mother wasn't able to find out herself. It is hard to carry that burden. Thank you so much for all that you did for your mom. You are such a wonderful daughter for doing that for your mom and finding out even looking after she passed. Her story really hit me in the heart from your words of what happened. Thank you so much for sharing my heart goes out to you and your family.
I've never met my bio dad. I'm now 100% sure I was an oops baby. I just don't know if it's worth the risk to go meet him or not. I know it would help with my medical issues. I have been getting leads like every day for relatives. It's so confusing still after all the research I've tried to do.
I am sorry to hear that. It is hard to have a name but no face nor story with the name. The way I looked at it with my search was even if I find him and he rejects me, I am no worse off. I would still have no father. I totally understand Ancestry can be very confusing to navigate. Have you thought about reaching out to search angels on Facebook?
I am so sorry to hear that. If you look up search angel groups on facebook you can get in contact with people who are helpers for looking up estranged family. I wish you guys the best in your search. ❤
I started my search to look for my dads parents and to see if there were any relatives we never met. He was orphaned in Phila., Pa @ approx 9 years old. He had one picture of his mother, se documents written in Portuguese that identifies her, info that she was 1st married in her early 20’s before coming to the states from the Azore islands, Island if Terceira, Heroismo. I had the paperwork translated, she was an “exposta” meaning she was found on the doorstep of someone’s home as a newborn in the year 1879. They turned her over to the church who then hired a wet nurse to breastfeed and care for her. He had no info on his father besides a name, Robert A. Taylor, from UK. His father passed away when he was approx 1 1/2 yrs old. He was told his parents were both Portuguese. Long story short, I thought it would be easy to find his family….Not. I learned I wasn’t his biological daughter, my mother allowed him to raise me with my 3 older sisters, on his own without her, and let him believe I was his. She told my oldest sister when I was about 30 that he might not be my bio dad, but within a month lies to me that he was. 20 years later is when I decided to search for his family and I learn she lied, only a year after she passed away, and then a year later when I learned who the bio dad was I was 1 year 2 months too late to meet him. He lived 10 minutes away my whole life and she never thought that she should tell me the truth. If she was afraid of my father getting angrier at her, that wasn’t even possible since he died long before she told my oldest sister the truth. My sisters always said I was my dads favorite, we thought it was because I was the youngest of his 4 daughter…..now I don’t know why I was his favorite, I don’t care either because I only love him even more and have more respect for him now than I ever did. I found out through a much older cousin, recently, that at my fathers funeral my aunt told the cousin that he wasn’t a bad man, “he took me and raised me as his own even though he was 95% certain I wasn’t his.” Sadly all of dads siblings have passed, one niece is alive but will not talk to me or my oldest sister who she knew back in the 1950’s. Her daughter and granddaughter knew nothing about us until I messaged them and she will not discuss anything with them. I had my oldest sister and an older cousin from m dads side test their dna, one of my sisters matches reached out to me and identified my dads father as a John Robert Taylor born in Jamaica, which I did find on several of his siblings birth certificates that the father was born in Jamaica, but sone of the other birth certs said Portugal or UK…and the fathers name was listed as Robert or John (?) no consistency. The census records listed his dad as Robert A. Taylor -> I have no clue as to why his name was changed or is different since he came to the US. The dna match actually showed me his birth certificate from Jamaica and told me how he traced his dna with my sisters to find him as the MRCA. It was so many years ago, I’m afraid I will never learn the truth as I’ve been doing this for 4 years now. Sorry for the long story, I just love hearing happy endings for others who have been looking for answers. Maybe one day I will find my happy ending and get the answers to my questions. ☺️
Thank you for sharing your story. I love to hear about other's searches. I am so sorry you don't have all your answers. I know that can be rough. Thank you for sharing your story.
did you find his obituary ? Then go to the city they live in and look for traffic & civil filings around the city they live. I'm sure they at least got a speeding ticket in the past 10 years.
I did find one cousin but that was it. I am planning a final video in the series, because a lot did happen in this year from this. I have just been really busy. I plan to have it out soon.
I, too, am a search angel. Did your dad ever marry? You may have half-siblings out there. Check records for him and hope you can find wives or ex-wives.
Thank you for watching. I didn't see any marriages but I will check again. I really would love to find siblings if possible. Thank you for the idea. I will look specifically in that direction.
Hi. I do a lot of genealogical research and I just happened to stumble upon your video. I could sense your emotions and I'd like to try and help. You'd be surprised at what you can do with a lot of sleuthing and tenaciousness even when the person you're looking for has a common name. People can always be found. I don't know if you'll see this, but if you do and you would like to share your info with me I would like to help you find your aunt and cousin and whoever else is out there waiting to be found by you.
Nancy Thank you so much for reaching out to help me. I would love support and help in my search forward. If you want to reach out to my email. I have it listed on my page and we can talk more. Thank you so much for offering to help.
I can't be 100% certain on if he had more children but because he is dead more records are available on general research sites. He is not listed on any state marriage registries and there are no marriage liscenses that link back to him. He is not on any birth certificates either. So I know for sure he was never married. As far as other children I only know he was never listed on a birth certificate.
If your Mother had to go to such lengths to protect you from him and God and the universe seem to be against a meeting as well, then maybe find out why, by checking his criminal record or his life history.However, that might be harder to hear, if he was a scoundrel and also difficult, if he was a pillar of society. Church records, hospital birth records, military records, burial records and newspapers might hold some tiny answers. Social Security also has records, but I don't know if they can release anything. Check it out. If you had any location for him, that might be a new search beginning. Some Fathers never knew that they had become Fathers. Some Fathers had children with women, other than their wives. If you hear enough search stories, you will see how many crazy possibilities there are. So many Fathers, present in the home, don't give their daughters that 'Daddy's little girl feeling.' Many don't have a Grandpa, because Grandpa's kids married later. I wouldn't let it get you down. When you are ready, you can search more. The Sister has done a DNA test? If so, then you can try to contact her, I believe. Maybe try another Search Angel, inform yourself about searches of others and just know that for whatever reason, you will be protected from the Truth, until you are strong and ready enough to receive it. The Sister is out there. You might have to contact all women with this name, area by area. I had a friend named Judy Smith and she moved to Chicago. I would have had to mail thousands of letters to find her, but now there are emails. Don't put your Father on a pedestal, until you are sure that he belongs up there. You are a Mother and you can appreciate it that your children, have also been protected, regardless of the motives of your Mother. Nothing is simple and things are devulged at about the right time, uncomfortable or not. Check out Genea Vlogger or his other channel. It is admirable, that you had the courage to begin the search. Also, it is a learning experience, so that right now, you didn't get the expected results, but are prepared for what follows. You found his Sister. That is an achievement. ❤
@ThisSideoftheNuthouse At least you saw your father's face! Do you resemble him? Everyone longs to know their parents. I feel for the children of donors who feel lonely and fatherless. I wish I had known my grandparents. To hear their voices and to see them.
Let me tell you one of our family stories. I had a cousin, recently deceased. Back in his young and froggy days he was having an affair with a married lover. Her hubby came home unexpectedly one day and almost caught them. Cousin dear jumped out of the second floor bedroom window and broke his fool.leg. Don't know how he explained to the Emergency squad about his state of disrepair ,one can hope he at least pulled up his underware. Years later through Ancestory Dot Com he found out m.lovers daughter was his biological child. So instantly he became a daddy and grandpa 👴, met Paige once. Very sweet young lady- a credit to our family line, no matter how she got here.
OMG I found my 70yr old formerly childless uncle a 37 yr old daughter he never knew existed, through Ancestry DNA. She popped up as a first cousin and I couldn’t leave it alone until I figured it all out. I felt so honored to help this adoptee find a successful end to her long journey. What’s craziest is that she grew up on the same neighborhood my family comes from, and most of us already knew her! We weren’t friends because we ran in differently circles, she’s a few years younger than I and my siblings are. She was friends with my friends younger siblings. She and her father must’ve passed each other on the street thousands of times without knowing it before he moved to Florida. They got 5 years together before he passed, they connected and bonded like father and daughter. The love was there from the first phone call and deepened the moment they laid eyes on each other, it helps that she’s his very face 😂 She was adopted by a lovely couple who gave her the world, my uncle called them his angels on this earth. And then she got a bonus mom in my uncles wife who always wanted children but couldn’t have them. They have continued a loving second-mother/daughter relationship since his passing last year. It was like a fairy tale before he passed, it couldn’t have gone better for either of them ♥️
That is such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. I am so glad your cousin got to have a real relationship with her dad for five years and that she has you and the rest of your family. That is such a wonderful happy ending. That's crazy that you guys kind of grew up together and didn't even know it.
This is a great video explaining your journey. I've helped two adoptees and several family members identify their biological father through DNA matches and building lots of trees. You explained the process better than most do. Thanks for sharing.
Rhetta Whinnery thank you for the kind words and thank you for helping people find the answers they need. 💜
Can you help me?
I have been on a similar journey finding my father’s biological parents. My dad died never knowing anything about his origins so I decided to do this for him (and me!) I just wanted to say that with databases growing every day, your journey is not over. You never know when another close family member may decide to test. I think your chances of finding more family is better than not…in time. This has been my experience.
Thank you for the positive reassurance. It is always good to hear good things from someone else searching.
Hi! I'm sorry to hear that your biological father had passed before you got to meet him. I know how important closure can be and listening to your story, I thought I may suggest something that you may have already tried, but here goes... Your aunt... look for her name in obituaries as "survived by." I was on the same journey as you and facing the very same issues. My biological father had a VERY common name and on top of that, he went by a nickname so when he first appeared in obituaries by those he survived, he was called by his nickname. Don't give up!
Thank you for the encouragement. I will try that. Hopefully I can figure out more.
I lived with my biological father and still wasn't anybody's little girl. I understand what you were looking for. I wish that I had had that, too. I'm in my sixties now and still wonder how different my life would have been if my father had even moderately liked me.
I am so sorry you went through that. I understand. I was rejected by my mother and her mother. I totally understand the feeling of, "Why can't they just love me?" I am so sorry you went through that. You are a wonderful person very deserving of love and understand. Sending you my heart. I am so sorry you endured that.
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I’m 53 living the same life u just stated!!
I find peace in knowing our Father in Heaven loves us all and can’t wait to be with us.
I did ansestry a while back. A lady reached out to me she just did the test and was 42 years old. She never knew any of her family. Well in 2 full days of reasearch I found her mom and dad. Un fortunately her mom past but her dad and siblings are still here. And she's gonna come to my state well have a get together for her. 💪💯❤️
That's fantastic! I am so happy she will be able to meet her dad and siblings. That is awesome you were able to help her so quickly.
Thank you for sharing your story. Mine is similar. I never knew my dad he left my mom when she was pregnant. I always wanted to meet him. I finally had the courage to do the DNA test on ancestry! I got back results and it was under first cousin. Looked her up on fb and it was my dads sister! Found out I had a little brother, a grandfather and step grandmother still living, aunts uncles and cousins! Unfortunately my dad died a year before I did my test so I can also never meet him. So glad you got some answers.
Kia Ora from New Zealand.
Thank you so much for the video. I’m trying to work out my real grandfather and have been a bit lost.
The small bit of information you have given has been a great help in pointing me in the right direction.
I have found it frustrating when people keep their family trees private. Fortunately my brother agreed to have his DNA tested as well, so that gives me a clearer direction to follow.
Now l just need to focus and do the mahi.
Hi I am so glad my video was able to help you a bit. Definitely get your brother to test as well. That will help a lot. Yes private trees are very frustrating especially when you are trying to piece together who fits in where from you DNA matches. I wish you the best and good luck in your search.
You may look into Geni too. I found my father due to DNA tests, shared my data to FamilyTreeDNA and MyHeritage, from there came different ppl, looked Geni trees, searched our archives, found one possible closer relative, she took DNA test and so i found my father.
Thank you for the advice. I will look into that. That is truly helpful.
So proud of you. You kept on going even when it was difficult. I hope you continue to be positive. Bless you & your family
Thank you so much. That really means a lot. You are truly the sweetest. 💙
You are not alone! My mother told me my dad was the man that signed my birth certificate along with three other men. I went through life calling people that weren't family family. It took 2 dna tests and I am still working through it all. Four search angels have helped and suggested that my fater was tied to my mom's step family.
Hugs. I know how that feels. I am so sorry you are still searching for answers.
You seem super nice. :)
I'm currently in the process of finding my father. Hoping it has a good outcome. Just had a big breakthrough thanks to Ancestry.
That's awesome!! I am so glad to hear that.
Hi, did you find him?
@@lwieserce1899 I did, actually. We have a good relationship and see each other pretty often.
Just remember love, your Heavenly Father GOD, planned to have you in His Family and you are well known to Him as a cherished daughter and He loves you sooo much more than any Earthly father could. You are extremely important to Him and very much wanted from the very beginning of your life. If you don’t know Him you can be sure He is hopeful that you will want to know Him even more. X
Same story here Mom lied, given grief whenever I asked, but I spent over a thousand on dna testing & found the truth. Luckily my mysterious father's side has a much smaller family size. 40 years without even knowing is way too long, but it was worth it to find out. Yeah it's not easy I've always hurt a lot about it. Much more than most people. My Mom died right around the same exact moment that I discovered it too. And the guy is alive, but doesn't care. His sister had a nice half hour chat with me, but she doesn't really care. Some of my paternal family does care to some extent which makes me happy. I want to change my last name & the fact that I have to pay so much more money to do that is absurd.
I am so sorry you went through that. I agree that it hurts to have waited this long but totally worth it to find answers. I am sorry your father wasn't interested and that your mother died around the time you found out. That's rough. I am glad that your extended family is interested in getting to know you. That sucks about the amount of money it cost to change your name. It is pretty crazy they charge so much for that. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope that you get to know the rest of your family and that your aunt and father come around to want to find out more about you.
I look at you too and see her just a bit taller than him; him a bit rounder than some guys; obvious and genuine love shared between you. What I see is a reflection of the love shared between my brother and his wife and am SO happy for your whole family!
My circumstances were very similar except it was both my father mother and father that were unknown. I found both with a lot of the same work that you did.
Thank you so much for sharing. Congratulations on finding your mother and father.
DNA testing both raises and solves a lot of mysteries. My wife tested with Ancestry several years ago. Plenty of father's side matches came up, and a lot of strangers. Further digging revealed that my mother-in-law (who by this time was in her 70s) was adopted. We made contact with the birth mother's family and MIL got to meet a sister she never knew she had. Father's side is another matter; MIL matched a paternal aunt but we have decided to sit back and see if they contact us. The birth parents were teenagers and do not seem to have had any significant relationship that we are aware of. That reunion might be a bit uncomfortable, if you know what I mean. Even so -- it is amazing that we can do this now!
I totally understand. My mother had her family keep any mention of her father quiet. Her mother wouldn't tell her anything. I ordered Ancestry kits for me and my Mom in 2013. I had to learn how to do all of the things you and your Search Angel did. I searched for almost 7 years, when all of a sudden I noticed a group of matches that matched my mother and myself. By now my sister, her daughters, my brother, and my youngest son all have kits on Ancestry. These matches did not match my mother's maternal shared matches. So I began working on their trees. Long story short, my mother passed away in 2019. A few months later I was able see the surname of her father consistently match all of these matches. Mind you they matched my sister, her daughters, my brother, and my son too. Because of how high the centimorgans we're these were my siblings and my 1st cousins and my mother's nieces and nephew. I was able to connect with my mother's nephew and it turned out she has 1 half-sister living. The day I got in touch with her was truly touching. Now I shared that to say this: my mother was born in May 1920. She died at 98 years old. She never got to know who her father was. I talked with my aunt and I told her that I really don't think my grandmother knew who the father was. She was a teenager messing around with boys and was too ashamed to tell my mother she didn't know.
Even though you won't get to meet your father, there are many more relatives within your matches that come from his ancestors. I hope that you get to have meaningful connections with some of them.
E Davis Smith thank you so much for the encouragement and for sharing your story. I am so sorry that your mother died before you were able to find out her father's name. I am so glad though that you were able to connect with her sister and nieces and nephews. That is a wonderful thing. I am going to keep trying and hopefully I will make a connection.
I am amazed....the lengths these people go to to find answers....surely the relatives will see that she really cares. Anyone who didn't wouldnt have had the staying power to keep searching. ❤️
You are not alone. I found out in my early 30's that the man I was told was my dad wasn't. It took me almost 3 decades to solve the puzzle. There is hope. My bio-dad died in 2010, I figured out who he was in 2020. What! Your mother lied about who your father is? Been doing genealogy for 3.5 decades and that story line is so common. One of the most common ones. Happened with me, my mom, her sister and her mom, her mom's mom... My other half aunt and so on. Very similar stories here. I even tried using an Angle, but that went sideways. Anyway I sorted maternal to start, to eliminate those matches. Then I started sorting the paternal side into two groups, Dralles and Wardrips. I eventually used DNA Painter to triangulate where I fit in the trees; for the Dralles and Wardrips. I solved it. Used 23&Me to start out, then Ancestry. My mom lied, told half a dozen different stories and never anything close to the truth. I feel your pain.
You can search for your aunt under her maiden name. She could show up in birth or marriage records, high school yearbooks, census, or newspaper records. Obviously finding the record of her marriage would be especially useful, but sometimes you can home in on someone from the other records. Also, findagrave or obituary records using the maiden name might also be useful, because sometimes they list surviving children, siblings, or other relations. When Ancestry finish indexing it, the 1950 census might help tracking down people and families with that name. Bon courage !
My partner is going through the same with his mother. He has a high DNA match but she has lied to him his whole life and is now suggesting it is someone who doesn’t even make sense. It’s very frustrating and we have to step back at times because it can really consume your present life. I get excited to make small break throughs but besides the search angel we have not many family members that have been willing to help so far. It is good to know we are not alone. Best of luck to you on your continued journey beautiful. You are deserving of answers and I hope you get them. 💕
Thank you for sharing you and your partner's journey. You are right it really can be all consuming when you are doing the search. I am so sorry his mother is lying to you guys. Best of luck on finding answers for you guys and thank you for the encouragement.
Omg I’ve just come across your video and I’m in absolute tears because I can relate to it so much I’m currently looking for my birth father who doesn’t even know I exist, my mum is completely unsupportive and I feel so alone, I’m am nearly 34 years old and I’ve never known anything about him had a picture extra! I just want to say I admire how brave you are talking about this because it’s something I wish I could do but I’m so heartbroken I wouldn’t be able to deal with negative comments! You have a beautiful family and I just want you to know you are not alone in this situation 💚
Kerri Edwards I am so sorry to hear that you are going through the same thing. It sucks when a parent doesn't understand why it is important for a child to have answers about their lineage. Thank you so much for the support and kind words about me and my family. You are much stronger than you know and I am sending you love and support cause I really hope that you are able to heal and hopefully find answers. 💙
Q. This may sound potentially creepy but then again maybe not... but could you possibly put in a buy and sell platform or similar group on Facebook in the community that your dad/aunt were from, her maiden name? Say that you're looking for her - just say..."family information needed"? Graduation and graduation reunion committees for schools as well can be helpful. Maybe others could then reach out and say "oh ya, she they were neighbours,..." Possible? Not?? Hopefully it's an idea that might help. Good luck with finding your aunt and any other extended family that might be out there. Big hugs.
Thank you for the idea. Those are good ideas. I will definitely look into finding a reunion committee for sure. That is a great idea. I am shy about sharing on social media but I think I may just have to bite the bullet.
I grew up parentless and I know the feeling, I hope you're okay and at least you have you're mom!! God bless🙏
I didn't have a mom. She was in and out of my life. My grandmother raised me. I am sorry you grew up without parents. God bless.
Sometimes knowing the truth is more painful than not knowing and your mother maybe was trying to protect you (maybe). You can say the name of your aunt and the name of your mother through your social media and somebody that knows them (or your aunt herself) could reach you and clarify the mystery.
To be honest the truth while painful is better most times. My mother was protecting herself. I won't go into it too much but she is a selfish person in many ways and this was just another. I understand that is not how most mothers are but in my case that is who she is. She has said on many occasions she wanted to be a single mother with no other input. I will look at sharing on social media. my aunt's name. I would like to do more research first, because I want to meet her without blasting her on social media and possibly upsetting her for disturbing her privacy.
Wow that was a lot. I wanted to find my birth father… I have information through Ancestry, the closer dna matches… but like you, mine died in a plane crash in 1972. He also has a younger sister (now in her mid 70’s) but I don’t know how to contact her. I tried FB but she’s never read my emails… assuming they are going into another folder. I dearly wish I could meet her and find out something about him. I like to think she would be happy to find a niece she never knew she had.
O wow. Your story is almost exactly like mine. I am so sorry you went through all that. Your messages are probably in a second folder for sure. I really hope she sees them and contacts you back. I bet she would be over joyed to find out she has you and a part of her brother back. I hope you are able to find her address or phone number to contact her in a different way. Thank you so much for sharing your story and watching mine. Hugs. 💙
@@ThisSideoftheNuthouse I will continue to hope that I can one day give her the gift of knowing about me. I really would like to know about him... it would be wonderful. I imagine it will fill a big part of the puzzle.
Thank for your reply xx
I'm really sorry you were lied to. You're incredibly brave to share this and describe your experience so clearly - thank you! My own story is similarly frustrating but I wasn't lied to. I wish you the greatest of luck in the future and so appreciate what you've done.
Thank you so much for the support and for watching. I am so sorry you went through similar to me. Thank you for sharing your story.
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don't give up, you are getting close!
I'm 60 and still don't know who my bio father is, I just got to a point in my life when I decided it doesn't matter anymore because life is to short to worry about someone that never worried about you! I'll never know what it's like to be daddy's little girl but it doesn't matter anymore because I'm my daughter Mumzi and that's my fulfillment in life they taught me how to love and grow and be whole without even knowing it. They were my purpose in life and gave me the happiness and joy and unconditional love I yearned for.... I stopped looking for my parents when I became a parent and promised myself no matter what it takes I'll never abandon my children and we are still a beautiful together a force to be reckoned with....
Unless you actually met this bloke and he told you he didn't care then you don't know for sure that's actually true. Are you basing this maybe on what your mother has said,? Or you have just assumed that because he wasn't in the picture? A lot of women and children fail to get that men didn't have the same rights as mother's back then especially if he wasn't listed as father on the birth certificate. If the parents separated and the man was not listed as father on the birth certificate he had no rights to see you etc. Also a lot of mothers hold unnecessary grudges and often wouldn't allow the father to see the child. Plus women have a habit of always up and leaving with the children to a new location and it takes men ages to track down. Also a lot of men if the relationship finished and the woman was in the early stages of her pregnancy often were not told that he has a child on the way. Remember even if the woman was at fault in the relationship they still keep their children. Men are never sure when they are going to see their children again after a split. A woman always knows that their biological child a man does not.
Came across your video, sorry for your loss. And congratulations on your tenacity and will. If you don’t mind I was going to say that if you want to get in contact with your aunt and cousin maybe reach out to a few of you third or fourth cousins there is a big chance they could guide you to your aunt. I would. I think there is a reason to why you came across them. You may not have your father or grand parents. But making contact with her would help you get closer to your paternal roots, you will learn about your father what things you have inherited from him and have in common. And I’m sure if you are the only child he had your aunt will be so happy to know an extension of her brother exists in you. Not sure if you did find her and made contact this video is two years old. I hope you did. And that you are enjoying of each other’s company. God bless!
This is almost the same process I used when I started getting a lot of matches who didn't line up to my tree. Mine was way less organized, though, because I didn't know what I was doing and learned on the way. But, one thing I did learn to do was mine obituaries and BMD records and phonebooks and the like for information. For instance, if this Aunt was married in an area where marriage licenses/certificates are public and online you can check to see who their witnesses were. If they have less common names, you can search for them and see if the aunt's name is in any of their friends list on Facebook or other sites. Or, you can look up obituaries for their parents and their aunts and uncles and see if any of them mention your aunt. Sometimes, those obituaries will mention where people lived, but it will also give you other family members to look for on social media who may not already be in your tree since recent relatives can be hard to find paper records on. Also, some newspapers would post birth notices. If you don't already know the aunt's birthday, you can look up birth notices using the name of your grandfather. If they moved around, you can build a timeline for them and check newspapers in those areas or if the name is unique enough, just search the entire country. You can then use your aunt's name and the birthdate and suspected place the aunt may have lived in to do google searches. You all may have already tried these. But, these are things I have used when searching.
Thank you for the suggestions. I will look into them. Those are really good ideas for searching. I didn't even think to look up witnesses to her wedding. That is a very solid idea. I will try that next. Thank you so much for being so very helpful.
@@ThisSideoftheNuthouse I hope these work for you. Loved the video.
thank you for doing this video, the search is a journey and every bit of support from fellow travelers helps along the way, much like you I unraveled the thread of my own paternity at 47 yrs old, and my father had died a year and a half after I was born so I get it
Thank you for commenting and sharing your story. Hugs to you. It really is awesome to hear others stories and know we are not alone. So sorry for your loss. ❤
Great video were you able to look at his obituary and at the people who were listed at his obituary and then go to the funeral home and see if you could see the people who were at the funeral I found that to be a great help
I was able to see the death certificate. I thought I had found the obituary but I can't find it again. I will have to see if I can find it again so I can call the funeral home. Thank you for the suggestion.
@@ThisSideoftheNuthouse if you know the name of the funeral home they might be able to help you with a copy of the obituary
wishing you the very best of luck in your future❤❤❤🫂
Thank you so much. That means a lot.
I went looking for my Grandfathers family. He was put out for adoption in 1890. I was able to do the same process you did only it was easier because they all had big families back then so I have 43000 cousins. My grand father had always thought another man was his father. Turns out his father died the same year he was born and he had a daughter who died after he was born. I had a 2nd half cousin who was the son of my grandfather’s half sister. Your mother is a pain in the ass. Things were different in the past Single motherhood was not a thing back then. If you got divorced you got remarried. My last name is wrong. My grandfather was forced labor on a farm until he was old enough to leave. You need to reach out to other people in the home town who might know her.
I am so glad you were able to find answers for your grandfather. I have been able to find lots of extended family like 3rd cousin plus but no close family unfortunately. I agree my mother is a pain in the ass. So sorry to hear your grandfather was used for labor. Thank you for the idea. I will be reaching out to people who knew my mother. That's a great idea.
Find your mom's bestie around the time you were born. Even her neighbors or frenemies know something. Most people find the truth at family gatherings thru the drunk uncle or aunt. Keep searching.
Thank you for the encouragement. I will try the find her old bestie idea. Yeah I have seen a lot of people find out a lot of stuff from drunk relatives.
i found I had a different father through Ancestry. I do a lot of research like you do - Facebook other sites etc. Just keep watchign Ancestry DNA matches
Thank you for the encouragement and thank you for shaing how you found out that you had a different father.
I just want to say that you are ADORABLE. You actually remind me a lot of Shirley Temple (who I idolized when I was a little girl). And I want to share with you that -- and I know you know this -- that many of us who DO know our biological parents and even grew up with at least one of them while knowing the other have had a father that NEVER made us feel like "Daddy's little girl" -- and well as mothers who NEVER seemed to care at all (and really didn't care much at all). A child tends to blame herself/himself. That is what I did. I was CLEARLY "unlovable" since my own mother and father didn't care about me and rarely even talked to me, etc. It took me many decades of life, (I'm 70 years old now), to realize that they had their own BIG personal problems and were absolutely unequipped to act like real parents. I am very, very, very grateful that my father provided food and shelter in fairly safe neighborhoods until I left home at 17. I know it could have been a lot worse, going through government institutions like foster homes, etc. And I FINALLY learned that I AM loved by my REAL Father -- yes, I mean God -- and His Son, who loves each and every one of us SO MUCH that he put himself through TOTAL HELL just to make a way for us to get back to our Heavenly Home. I am NOT recommending a church (though if you are in NYC then Times Square Church would be awesome), because so very many are really NOT what they should be in this country and are culture-driven, money-driven, power-driven, etc. Don't let them get in your way if you can't find one that you know in your heart is God-inspired. I no longer -- after a long lifetime -- feel like the unloved duckling. I LITERALLY experience and KNOW God's love every day of my life now, even when things are NOT going great. I wish that for you, dear girl. May God bless you!
@WholeBibleBelieverWoman thank you for the support and kind words. I really appreciated your sentiment and kindness. Also, thank you for sharing your story and for sharing your faith. Sending care and love back towards you and I really appreciate the reframing of perspective.
@@ThisSideoftheNuthouse BIG HUGS!
Good that you did find some answers - even though you're left with more questions. Finding a biological parents is tough with only 3rd and 4th cousin matches. It took me about 4 months of searching/calculating day and night to find a woman's father with only 3rd and 4th cousin matches. When I did find the man I thought was her father, I was about 80% sure it was him, but when I contacted him, he was in denial. Finally, a biological daughter he raised decided to take a DNA test and when her results came back, it was obvious, he was bio dad. He accepted it and did an about face, and now the woman I helped has a good relationship with her father. She's in her 50s and he's in his 70s.
It is crazy how hard it is with those numbers. I am glad the woman you helped got answers and that they have a good relationship now. That's great that happened. I love to hear stories where things went well.
I talked to my bio father for the first time in my mid 20s and he wanted nothing to do with me. Moving forward to my mid 40s, I found a half sister ( bio dads DA) on Ancestry. She was adopted at birth and her adoption was closed. Over the last 5 years we have been making up for lost time ❤️🙌. We have discovered so much about our bio father’s family together. My bio father was so hurtful, but I wouldn’t trade the truth for not knowing who he is. Lucky for me and my sister he wrote a book about his life and he made so much money. Lol
I am sorry meeting your bio dad did go well. I am so glad you found your sister and that you guys are close now. That's fantastic.
I'm an amateur genealogist and have been a search angel before helped a few people to reconnect to their families. I would be happy to see if I can find information on your Aunt. I would need some info on her such as her birth name, birth date & place of birth if you have it, first husband's name, places she is known to have lived, children names if any and your birth father's name. You could message me the info privately if need be. Just a thought. PS: Have you obtained the obits of your father's parents (grandparents)? They may contain Aunt's name or her new married name.
Thank you so much. I will work on messaging you privately. I did find the obits of my grandparents. Thank you so much for offering help.
Just started my journey... in my 50s. DNA kit hasn't even arrived yet and I've found some relatives I didn't know about from my maternal grandmother's trail of children. But I've no luck using the name for my father that my mother remembers. So, I'm hoping DNA might help me. I wanted to do it sooner, but something held me back. A few years ago I survived a heart attack and cardiac arrest, and now I'm no longer worried about what might happen.
You are so sweet. I wish you luck to discover who your biological father was, but know you are a wonderful person, regardless.
I only seen this don’t even know if your still doing these but if you actually get this you are very brave and inspiring I’ve taken for granted that I have a lot of information about my family going back 7 generations. There are only a few holes one thing that does annoy me is that the oldest tree I have from Syria only has the men’s names.? I’m very proud of you, be proud of yourself you are unique and special I hope you have progressed some more in your search.
Ahhh that’s really good to know about how ancestry sorts out your matches. My mum doesn’t want to take a test but I have a half brother so any matches he has that are shared with me would be 100% from our mums side so I actually wouldn’t need her to take a test to get that information.. I’ll just have to convince my brother to take one haha.
Yes definitely have your bother take one. The more matches you get and share the more helpful to sort them. Best of luck in your search.
I'd find that age group around his town someone may remember him and say I yea his sister lives down the road. Or put flyers out.
Thank you that is a great idea. I will try that.
My son and I used Ancestry DNA and My Heritage to find out the identity of my g-g grandfather. It was shares in Australia that led us first to a surname and then the family. Closer DNA shares started to make sense and finally we saw the potential person as a 20 year old male living a few cottages from my g-g grandmother at the time my great grandfather was born. Subsequent “cousins” have appeared that confirms our work. This was the result of 20 years of genealogy and 4 using DNA. Be patient….it is possible.
You aren’t alone. There were lies in my family and I’m still in the search for my bio dad.
Thank you for sharing your story and being supportive. I wish you the best of luck in your journey for finding your father.
Hey there your video was awesome thank you for explaining your journey to us. I’m kind of going through the exact same thing I was just wondering if you could reference the search Angel that helped you because the ones that tried to help me said that all my matches were too far out, I know exactly what you’re going through though it is heartbreaking and unbelievably unfair. Thanks.
It must have been hard to find him only to know that he is forever lost as far as knowing you. 💔 At least you tried and know about him now. I am sorry, mostly about your own mother lying to you and belittling you. I think her personality was very difficult, and for that reason, all the more you had, the need to find your dad.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I'm going to bring it up in my therapy and maybe I can get my mom to agree to introduce me to mine. I know everyone worries about secrets. But my dad and I aren't really close. Hugs from my aunt. She has the same problem you did.
Yes definitely bring it up in therapy. I talk to my therapist about my situation too and it is very helpful. If you can get your mother's help then it will be a lot easier to search for him. Hugs to your Aunt. I am so sorry she went through that and I am sorry you are going through what you are going through. Thank you for sharing your story and your Aunt's story. You two are very brave and strong women.
😊You're Awesome, thank you for sharing
When you said your Dad died, I just uttered “oh, no”!
It was a hard pill to swallow at first.
Reminder set
Awesome. Thank you ❤️ I will see you there
Same, also waiting on results. I don't know how accurate it'll be but I'm a bit skeptical.
Good luck with your test and your search. The only thing I can say is the ethnicity estimates are 50% accurate but the DNA family links seems to be mostly accurate. I don't follow the estimates on ethnicity from the test because there are no genes that are specific to certain regions and the regions change based on the amount of people who have tested but it does help to flesh out a family tree when you see the family links.
Thrulines works if you have common ancestors names.
The con is some people copy tree information and do not verify.
True but if it links down to the DNA relatives you have then you are probably on the right track. I used them in the basis of am I linking to the people listed as my DNA relatives and if I was then I felt like it was a good indicator.
You really need to think about writing ✍️ a 📕 about your life because you had a long life and looking beautiful Leeann and hope y’all are doing well
I have thought about it 🤔 I think it would definitely be interesting 😆 thank you ❤️ We're doing great 👍 I hope you are doing well too 😀
Glad y’all are doing well and here a name for your book 📕 I survive the storm btw how is the refrigerator
Have you looked on Ancestory for your father’s birth certificate? Sometimes it will show their siblings names.
Yes I found his birth certificate but he was the oldest and only at the time.
I've been on a journey with my mom trying to figure out who her dad was. My mom is biracial born back in the 50's.... I really thought we weren't going to find anything but we actually got 1st-2nd cousin hits as soon as our DNA results came back. I was getting excited b/c it's been a long mystery, I actually found out who he was after much research and was also able to determine that matches for my mom as 1st cousins are nieces and nephews, so I sent a few friendly msgs to several people, nobody responded, that sorta made me sad b/c I was really hoping that we could have met some of the relatives on her paternal side.
Thank you so much for helping your mom with her search. That is such a hard thing to carry around not knowing where you come from and support especially from family is a huge thing. I am so sorry that you didn't get a response on your message to your new found family. Maybe if you can find them on social media you will get an actual response. I know for many on the tests they don't look at their messages through that platform. I am glad that you were able to find a name of who her dad was though. I know for me just having a name helped so very much and gave me a sense of peace. I really hope that you were able to find that for your mom.
This was intensive research wow.
If you look on white pages…they list maiden names and relatives…..her son…good luck❤️
Thank you. I will try that and see if it comes up with anything.
I been having the hardest time try to find my husband parental side he never meet them at all he really wants to aleast know something of his father we don’t know his birthday etc so it’s super hard I’m praying so hard we found out something before his 33 birthday 6/20 his dna already came back on ancestry just don’t understand how to match who and what
I understand the frustration. That's where I was. The best I can say is go through DNA relatives and sort them by if they are related on maternal side or not. If they are linked to his maternal side ancestry allows you to color code. You can also look at matches to see mutual matches. This will help with the grouping. You can also look on Facebook for a search angel for help. There are many groups out there that offer help for free.
@@ThisSideoftheNuthouse I really appreciate you just even taking the time to reply !!!! Thank you so much 😊 glory to god !!!! So that’s thing idk 🤷🏻♀️ the difference between which parent is parent 1 or parent 2 ! He have a lot of hints just don’t understand it all I been watching ancestry videos to get some understanding!!! I heard a lot about the angel on Facebook I need to make a page ASAP !!!
My son was doing a search for the family as part of a project for another master's a year ago. my first wife and son died long ago, so he got my sister in law and her kids to get tested. Now she never told anyone who the father or fathers of her kids were. Let's just say my ex, sister in law and me were 4th cousins along a female line. The shocker I was showing 6 kids, two each with 3 women. My sister in laws twins were from a related female and me along with her two youngest sons were from me and she only had one sister my first wife. From what we could tell was she used the Plan B for my first wife having a child with me if anything happened to me. (first wife was a widow when I married her.) The interesting part, first wife and sister in law were from Bavaria, my ex was from northern Germany and I was from the US. The great grand father that taught me German and his first wife was the line all of us had in common or through her sisters. The twins she had were from embryos from my first wife and me, but the two youngest were from me and her. So when I went over to Germany a little over two weeks ago he presented me with what he found out. I had to look at the birthdates just to say to myself I was not there to make them. My sister in law and my ex have been BFF's since they were little. Yes, after I saw my ex 8 months pregnant, I gave up looking for her and my sons for 2 years was the first time me and my sister in law got involved in 2002. So that night I went to dinner with my sons and her, the first time she had seen me after 25 years. Ok I hold grudges, just a little. My son brought up what he found, and she started laughing and said you did not even get to have fun making them and laughed harder. Now since mid teens I have been going over to Germany to see my sons and stay with my sister in law and see my step kids. So, the next day Sunday me and my sons were going over to my sister in laws house to have Sunday dinner. My boys got the kids out of the house to do things, and I helped her with the preparations. I said the boys look just like their father and other brothers and thank you and gave her a hug. A few minutes later we went outside to tell the kids. Now my niece a few years ago had come to one morning and gave me a hug and said I wish you were my daddy while looking out the window with the snow in the trees before Covid and I said at least you are my niece. Never thought I had a daughter before, but when she found out she just launched into me crying. I just got back Monday 3 days ago and have been on Discord video talking to her every day. I went over there with 2 sons 26 and 24 and now have 3 more sons 14, 12, and 10 along with a 14 year old daughter that has loved me since she was 7 or 8. As to why me and my sister in law did not have kids the normal way, she was surprised we did not in the during my visits in the 2000s and a bit in the later teens when I showed up again to see them. During those times she would stop taking the pill, that was some news. As for now I guess I will take my computer up to my fathers have a long talk Saturday morning, then introduce him to his new grandkids on the large screen in the living room.
I'll just throw this out there for you. If you can find your Father's obituary there might be a mortuary listed. If you contact them, they might be able to get a address of his sister or other relative to reach her. You might have already thought of this. I wish you the best. I will share this with you. I was able to connect a woman who turned out to be my first cousin, who was the daughter of my Mother's only brother. Apparently he had an affair while married with someone. Her biological Mother placed her for adoption in the state of WV. As of the connection of my DNA match to her as her 1st cousin, she was able to find my other two cousins who were her half siblings. To date she's still trying to find her biological Mother. My Uncle, her father, is in his 90's and has dementia. He doesn't remember anything from during that time. Their thinking it might have possibly been a one night stand. WV department of vital statistics has closed adoption records. So, my adopted cousin has hit a brick wall trying to find her biological mother. She's hired an attorney to possibly get a copy of her original birth certificate. So far she's not been successful doing so.🥺
Thank you. I will look into contacting the Mortuary. I hadn't really thought of that before. That is a great idea. I am so glad you were able to find out you had a cousin. I really hope she finds her birth mother. Thank you for sharing your story and for giving advice to help.
My mom did DNA on Ancestry and she got really sick she said to me and my sister watch I'll pass and you will find my father my mom passed and we found a 2nd cousin who helped us find her father but he passed in 2020 my mom passed on October 19,2022 .. But my mom went through the same as you she found out when she was 16 got a name which was close but wrong and any time we would ask or my mom would ask my grandmom we got shot down so we just gave up.. but the crazy thing when my mom was on hospice and wasn't her self anymore she said hey my dad's name isn't what we think his first name is Ali not his last so that's how we were able to know who it was because there was only 2 brothers and the 1 was Ali and in the service...
Wow I am so sorry your mom went through that. I really feel like mothers who keep basic information from their children are selfish. I am glad you got an answer through DNA and I am so sorry that your mother wasn't able to find out herself. It is hard to carry that burden. Thank you so much for all that you did for your mom. You are such a wonderful daughter for doing that for your mom and finding out even looking after she passed. Her story really hit me in the heart from your words of what happened. Thank you so much for sharing my heart goes out to you and your family.
i found out march 26 i had 2 daughters 1 mother knew i was the father but lied 2 me what do i do
How long it take for ancestry to send you the dna results
Put them together as you search
I've never met my bio dad. I'm now 100% sure I was an oops baby. I just don't know if it's worth the risk to go meet him or not. I know it would help with my medical issues. I have been getting leads like every day for relatives. It's so confusing still after all the research I've tried to do.
I am sorry to hear that. It is hard to have a name but no face nor story with the name. The way I looked at it with my search was even if I find him and he rejects me, I am no worse off. I would still have no father. I totally understand Ancestry can be very confusing to navigate. Have you thought about reaching out to search angels on Facebook?
If only your mother would have told you your father's name, age and where he lived your search would have been very quick.
I totally agree.
Bless your heart
I'm searching for my twin sisters and father, haven't had any luck.
I am so sorry to hear that. If you look up search angel groups on facebook you can get in contact with people who are helpers for looking up estranged family. I wish you guys the best in your search. ❤
I started my search to look for my dads parents and to see if there were any relatives we never met. He was orphaned in Phila., Pa @ approx 9 years old. He had one picture of his mother, se documents written in Portuguese that identifies her, info that she was 1st married in her early 20’s before coming to the states from the Azore islands, Island if Terceira, Heroismo. I had the paperwork translated, she was an “exposta” meaning she was found on the doorstep of someone’s home as a newborn in the year 1879. They turned her over to the church who then hired a wet nurse to breastfeed and care for her. He had no info on his father besides a name, Robert A. Taylor, from UK. His father passed away when he was approx 1 1/2 yrs old. He was told his parents were both Portuguese. Long story short, I thought it would be easy to find his family….Not. I learned I wasn’t his biological daughter, my mother allowed him to raise me with my 3 older sisters, on his own without her, and let him believe I was his. She told my oldest sister when I was about 30 that he might not be my bio dad, but within a month lies to me that he was. 20 years later is when I decided to search for his family and I learn she lied, only a year after she passed away, and then a year later when I learned who the bio dad was I was 1 year 2 months too late to meet him. He lived 10 minutes away my whole life and she never thought that she should tell me the truth. If she was afraid of my father getting angrier at her, that wasn’t even possible since he died long before she told my oldest sister the truth. My sisters always said I was my dads favorite, we thought it was because I was the youngest of his 4 daughter…..now I don’t know why I was his favorite, I don’t care either because I only love him even more and have more respect for him now than I ever did. I found out through a much older cousin, recently, that at my fathers funeral my aunt told the cousin that he wasn’t a bad man, “he took me and raised me as his own even though he was 95% certain I wasn’t his.” Sadly all of dads siblings have passed, one niece is alive but will not talk to me or my oldest sister who she knew back in the 1950’s. Her daughter and granddaughter knew nothing about us until I messaged them and she will not discuss anything with them.
I had my oldest sister and an older cousin from m dads side test their dna, one of my sisters matches reached out to me and identified my dads father as a John Robert Taylor born in Jamaica, which I did find on several of his siblings birth certificates that the father was born in Jamaica, but sone of the other birth certs said Portugal or UK…and the fathers name was listed as Robert or John (?) no consistency. The census records listed his dad as Robert A. Taylor -> I have no clue as to why his name was changed or is different since he came to the US. The dna match actually showed me his birth certificate from Jamaica and told me how he traced his dna with my sisters to find him as the MRCA. It was so many years ago, I’m afraid I will never learn the truth as I’ve been doing this for 4 years now.
Sorry for the long story, I just love hearing happy endings for others who have been looking for answers. Maybe one day I will find my happy ending and get the answers to my questions. ☺️
Thank you for sharing your story. I love to hear about other's searches. I am so sorry you don't have all your answers. I know that can be rough. Thank you for sharing your story.
Welcome to the club. I was 48 when I found out that lie.
Can you find a marriage certificate for your aunt? That may provide more info and allow you to narrow down your search for her.?
I will see if I can find one. That's a great idea. Thank you.
Keep building on your father's side. Eventually, you will get more matches. Eventually, someone will contact through these sites.
Thank you. I will do that.
i know you made this video a year ago now but i just wanted to write an encouraging word. may you prosper always.
Thank you so much that really means a lot.
did you find his obituary ? Then go to the city they live in and look for traffic & civil filings around the city they live. I'm sure they at least got a speeding ticket in the past 10 years.
Thank you I will look for those.
I'll help you if you need me. I'm pretty good at finding people.
I would love more help. I will have to email you.
What about cousins
I did find one cousin but that was it. I am planning a final video in the series, because a lot did happen in this year from this. I have just been really busy. I plan to have it out soon.
I, too, am a search angel.
Did your dad ever marry? You may have half-siblings out there. Check records for him and hope you can find wives or ex-wives.
Thank you for watching. I didn't see any marriages but I will check again. I really would love to find siblings if possible. Thank you for the idea. I will look specifically in that direction.
Hi. I do a lot of genealogical research and I just happened to stumble upon your video. I could sense your emotions and I'd like to try and help. You'd be surprised at what you can do with a lot of sleuthing and tenaciousness even when the person you're looking for has a common name. People can always be found. I don't know if you'll see this, but if you do and you would like to share your info with me I would like to help you find your aunt and cousin and whoever else is out there waiting to be found by you.
Nancy Thank you so much for reaching out to help me. I would love support and help in my search forward. If you want to reach out to my email. I have it listed on my page and we can talk more. Thank you so much for offering to help.
So, do you know that he never married and possibly had more children?
I can't be 100% certain on if he had more children but because he is dead more records are available on general research sites. He is not listed on any state marriage registries and there are no marriage liscenses that link back to him. He is not on any birth certificates either. So I know for sure he was never married. As far as other children I only know he was never listed on a birth certificate.
If your Mother had to go to such lengths to protect you from him and God and the universe seem to be against a meeting as well, then maybe find out why, by checking his criminal record or his life history.However, that might be harder to hear, if he was a scoundrel and also difficult, if he was a pillar of society. Church records, hospital birth records, military records, burial records and newspapers might hold some tiny answers. Social Security also has records, but I don't know if they can release anything. Check it out. If you had any location for him, that might be a new search beginning. Some Fathers never knew that they had become Fathers. Some Fathers had children with women, other than their wives. If you hear enough search stories, you will see how many crazy possibilities there are. So many Fathers, present in the home, don't give their daughters that 'Daddy's little girl feeling.' Many don't have a Grandpa, because Grandpa's kids married later. I wouldn't let it get you down. When you are ready, you can search more. The Sister has done a DNA test? If so, then you can try to contact her, I believe. Maybe try another Search Angel, inform yourself about searches of others and just know that for whatever reason, you will be protected from the Truth, until you are strong and ready enough to receive it. The Sister is out there. You might have to contact all women with this name, area by area. I had a friend named Judy Smith and she moved to Chicago. I would have had to mail thousands of letters to find her, but now there are emails. Don't put your Father on a pedestal, until you are sure that he belongs up there. You are a Mother and you can appreciate it that your children, have also been protected, regardless of the motives of your Mother. Nothing is simple and things are devulged at about the right time, uncomfortable or not. Check out Genea Vlogger or his other channel. It is admirable, that you had the courage to begin the search. Also, it is a learning experience, so that right now, you didn't get the expected results, but are prepared for what follows. You found his Sister. That is an achievement. ❤
Soooo much lip smacking mouth noises
I know my father's name. I just don't know which one he is in my city and he's that close too
Do you know his middle name? Or do you have an old address? You can look up him with details like that, that will make him stand out.
That suck sorry you didn't get to meet your dad. He probably didn't even know you exist. So his dad outlived him?
Thank you for understanding. I am assuming he had no idea I existed. Yes his dad outlived him.
I hope you find your aunt.
thank you💙
Did u get to see his picture by chance?
Sad that u were lied to, betrayed actually.
I have seen pictures of him as a child but not as an adult. School pictures are all I have seen. Thank you for the support.
@ThisSideoftheNuthouse You are welcome. Thank you for sharing.
@ThisSideoftheNuthouse At least you saw your father's face! Do you resemble him? Everyone longs to know their parents. I feel for the children of donors who feel lonely and fatherless. I wish I had known my grandparents. To hear their voices and to see them.
Maybe if you mentioned her name she may hear of your plight.
What I am afraid is if I mention her name and she rejects me based on being perceived as blasted on the internet.
V. Long winded
somethimes😀
Just too much irrelevant information!!
What would you have left out or what were you seeking to learn?
Let me tell you one of our family stories. I had a cousin, recently deceased. Back in his young and froggy days he was having an affair with a married lover. Her hubby came home unexpectedly one day and almost caught them. Cousin dear jumped out of the second floor bedroom window and broke his fool.leg. Don't know how he explained to the Emergency squad about his state of disrepair ,one can hope he at least pulled up his underware. Years later through Ancestory Dot Com he found out m.lovers daughter was his biological child. So instantly he became a daddy and grandpa 👴, met Paige once. Very sweet young lady- a credit to our family line, no matter how she got here.
Thank you for sharing your cousin's story. I am so happy it had a happy ending with your new cousin. That's awesome