I have a daughter who I gave up for adoption in 1990. I did contact her when she was 28. She wants nothing to do with me at all. I did go on to have 4 other children, with someone different . I never forget about her, but never knew her name till my ex told me. I.tried Facebook and everything was locked or out dated. So I contacted her friends and relatives, big mistake. Her step sister contacted me and said she wants nothing to do with me. I obviously watch stories like yours all the time. I’m a pretty bold person with communication. I don’t give up very easily. I’m worried my biological daughter will never even say hi to me. I think about it every day. So many adoption people ect are emotionally unstable Worried they weren’t wanted.. I wanted to keep her so did her biological mom. We were homeless at that time and most people told us to get an abortion 😔. There is so much more to my story but I can’t tell her.
You were strong to keep her alive and give her a better future you couldn’t afford at that time being homeless. Maybe you can write her a letter explaining that you didn’t give her up because you didn’t want her but because you were not in the best situation in your life. I think that may make a difference.
Yes what you did was very brave and selfless with the resources you had. I think writing a certified letter to her may help! Maybe she doesn’t know about you at all and that’s what her step sister is saying - I wouldn’t stop until you hear it from her yourself. Good luck and God bless you and your daughter !
Zoe I'm glad you have foound your father. I am still after 70 years, am still searching for mine. Although I know he has passed it would be a relief just to know who he is/was. It took me close to 40 years to find my mother who aat yhe time was deceased, but I did meet my 2 half brothwrs.
I truly believe your videos were therapeutic for you and part of your journey of discovery. Dont let the self centered critics get to you, they would surely drag you down to thier insignificant level. Blessings.
I just watched like 10 videos of people meeting fathers who didn't know they existed. Trying to gauge how many men react/would react positively. Actually I think I'm just working up the nerve to finally start an active search for my father and contact him.
I am one of those fathers and glad my son found me. I had no clue his mom was pregnant. I would recommend ssearching, but keeping in mind if you don't find him or if he doesn't want to connect or he's not what you expected, that's okay, too. Good luck!
Morning Glory don’t wait to long is my only advice. I did an Ancestry DNA test thinking that I was just looking for what parts of the World I came from. Imagine my surprise when people I was related to started popping up. But then a Man came up. It said he was a close relative, but upon looking closer it actually said, “this is your Father”. I was blown away. I never knew my father. I had no idea really who he was. Just a name. He didn’t use his real name only a code type name. I also was sent something saying I had another close relative. It ended up being my half brother who confirmed my Fathers real name. I wrote to him but got no response. I started googling and searching everything I possibly could. Then finally an Obituary came up. It showed that my Father had died 4 Months before I took my DNA test. Now I don’t if we could have met had I found him sooner? But it seems life is so unfair.. and time waits for no one.
@ravencrone56 I know someone that has done something similar. He was cheating on the women who is now his wife. They were all teenagers at the time he got one pregnant then denied it was his told his mum she was a cheat. I know for a fact age was not a cheat and it's his child. Anyway the other girl he married and has had children with she is from a wealthy family. He married into money and all he was concerned about is his son might want money. I was like even if he does want money at least give him something to build is life, its the least he can do. But no he's ignored his own son because his wife would work out the dates and realise he's a cheat.
I have personally known, and also watching many videos of these family discoveries. To any children watching these videos... I think all fathers/mothers have a love for their children. Although you should surely be sensitive to disrupting the relationships they have now, this should not be a deterrent to you for reaching out to them. I believe it would be much more devastating to them if they found out you were interested in meeting them, but were afraid, and never did. The truth is better than not knowing...
My friend grew up thinking her Dad was a man named Frank and she thought he was a deadbeat Dad so she grew up hating him, after taking an ancestry test she found out he was not her dad and her Dad never knew she existed when they met he was so happy to find out he had a daughter. Maybe you're Dad never really knew he had a baby.Your Mother never said who the man in the picture was.
My mom sent his mom my baby picture. She tore it up and threw it in the garbage. He knew. He was in jail the month I was born. He received the message, as well as my entire paternal family that I was his child. God put the right people in my life to raise me. Jess took care is me and for that I am extremely grateful.
Just went though much the same thing. Unfortunately he isn't very interested in knowing me or my children. I did get to find out that I have a half brother and found an aunt who is very close in age to me!
I just went through this, myself. Met my dad, aunts, uncles, and cousins... my siblings did not show any interest in meeting me, and stayed away. After getting to know more, it sounds like my father and his immediate family have all struggled with addiction in one form or another, and other bad choices. At first, I felt judged and rejected by my siblings, but within a few days, my perspective totally changed. I realize now that it would have been very difficult for me to be wound up with people who are bent on self-destruction, and that I was probably much better off letting sleeping dogs lie. I also felt that my dad was intentionally keeping me from meeting them.... maybe for a good reason. However, my aunts, uncles, and cousins are all very relatable, did not fall down the dark hole of addiction, and I felt warmly received by them. That was good enough for me! 😊 Trust that the Universe is looking out for you. I felt rejected by my dad and his family, but I now know that I was divinely protected, and had I been raised in that environment, I might have succumbed to the same addictions that seem to have consumed them. I was clearly meant for better things, and more than likely, so were you! My regrets quickly changed to gratitude when I looked at it from this perspective.
Most of these people don’t have a problem having sex and bringing kids to this world, then they turn around and say they love the children and are giving them up out of love! I thing they’re cowards and love taking the easy way out instead of taking on the responsibility of their actions! Stop making it look like your making the best choice for the child & step up!!
No, he didn’t know my mother had passed away. He was very heart broken when I told him. My mother and father knew each other for a few years before I was born. He and I have had some great talks about our memories of her. It has been very therapeutic for both of us.
Your path in life is your path. Your choices are yours to make. Your decision to meet or not is a choice that is not about your mother it is totally between you and him. Kahlil Gibran in a book called the Prophet, said about parents and children, parents are the bows and children are the arrows we as parents send the children out in life.
After hearing you & reading comments: Your mom GAVE UP dealing with your father because he refused to accept you were his, & because of “how he is.” That’s why she did pursue it & discouraged you. You must see her side of this, SHE TRIED! She never saw genetic testing as proof coming... It sounds like whatever “affliction” your father has did not reach you, you are normal, like his sisters. I understand all this because I had one brother like him who has already passed, but the story is similar & the rest of us are normal, & his kids are normal too (but he was not there for them either, their mother raised them). It’s great his sisters are accepting you as part of the family & not assuming you are like your father. Sounds like they are ABOVE that kind of thinking. Now you have them, plus all the cousins for you & your kids. Enjoy your new life!
You are completely correct. After meeting my biological father, I now understand my mother was trying to protect me from that lifestyle (and she succeeded). Thanks for understanding!
@@zoejohnson892 I meant to say your mom DIDN’T pursue anything with him. Opps! Anyway, I didn’t realize you made more vids...wow, now that I’ve seen more: Identical to my brother...he would have just completely stopped working & tried to many times, to just do drugs. Finally his wife “saw the light” & wanted a different example for her sons. She moved on, because he kept disappearing anyway. He ended up getting aids, no surprise & died rather young. His sons got education, have jobs, are buying houses....things he cared little about. He wanted to FEEL GOOD in the moment, & drugs or alcohol did it & also did him in, by making him open to an opportunity to contract aids. I am so happy for you, that you are here on earth making a positive impact with your own life & in the lives of others. You have a lot to be proud of 🌹😊
What about your cousin? Did he find his father? One of your aunts is the mother ... ?! And she doesn‘t know the man? Maybe i didn‘t listen and understand the whole story 🤔
The cruelest thing a woman can do to a father is not allow him the privilege of knowing his child, the fact that they can do this is unforgivable ! It's one thing to choose to ignore your children but it's evil to not give the person that choice!
Yes. That would be awful. My mother told my biological father she was pregnant with his child. He denied he was my father, despite my mother’s efforts. My mother sent my paternal grandmother a photo of me shortly after I was born, which was discarded.
Can you get to the point? Did you meet him Did it go well Are you both enriched as a result, extending the volumenof family, realizing this affects many people
So we're is your father then You talking a lot without images of your aunt Or your Father Can you just get the point. And shaw them off I would love to see your Fathers image.
Sooo much talking. All this could have fit in one video. I hope you can get to the point. Frustrating ! Talking way to slow. Sorry. I feel like I just wasted some precious time. Dragging things out is a good way to make people not watch your channel. You don’t want that to happen!
Yes - it was quite a drawn out experience! (Just imagine how I felt - living 34 years - then I had to wait 2 weeks to meet him...😅) Now looking back it would be easier to summarize all of these videos. Right now I am slowly working on a video with lots of pictures. Hopefully you will enjoy that one. Blessings to you!
You make me NOT want to give my adopted child their information about their parents. You are messed up and sounds like your Dad is a person I would not want my child to be dealing with if you have to SET BOUNDARIES.
What is wrong with you? Setting boundaries with any person no matter who they are is a good thing. Who are you to judge? Just because someone deals with things that other do not agree with doesn't mean they don't deserve a chance. My mother has put up two children for adoption, shes had her issues but is a wonderful person. My father, who has never been in my life looks great on paper and from what I have seen, everyone loves him, but has me as a secret he refuses to face. Just because someone looks better than another does not mean that they are. The only messed up person I see here is you, even thinking that it would be ok or beneficial to have the information on your childs parents and keep it from them. If you choose to do that I really hope for your sake they do no find out and resent you for it. That can turn out much more damaging for them than finding out that their biological parents have dealt with unfortunate things.
I like you videos and I like watching you, but it gets kind of boring looking just at you. Can you post pictures, or interaction with others? Is this tale for real, or it is just a script you wrote for a soap opera. It looks like you are a very good actress, and I would not discard that you may be a good writer and are writing this novel for a book, or a TV program.
I have a daughter who I gave up for adoption in 1990. I did contact her when she was 28. She wants nothing to do with me at all. I did go on to have 4 other children, with someone different . I never forget about her, but never knew her name till my ex told me. I.tried Facebook and everything was locked or out dated. So I contacted her friends and relatives, big mistake. Her step sister contacted me and said she wants nothing to do with me. I obviously watch stories like yours all the time. I’m a pretty bold person with communication. I don’t give up very easily. I’m worried my biological daughter will never even say hi to me. I think about it every day. So many adoption people ect are emotionally unstable Worried they weren’t wanted.. I wanted to keep her so did her biological mom. We were homeless at that time and most people told us to get an abortion 😔. There is so much more to my story but I can’t tell her.
She might not feel ready to meet for various reasons like protecting her adoptive parents etc but at least she knows you want to see her.
You were strong to keep her alive and give her a better future you couldn’t afford at that time being homeless. Maybe you can write her a letter explaining that you didn’t give her up because you didn’t want her but because you were not in the best situation in your life. I think that may make a difference.
Yes what you did was very brave and selfless with the resources you had. I think writing a certified letter to her may help! Maybe she doesn’t know about you at all and that’s what her step sister is saying - I wouldn’t stop until you hear it from her yourself. Good luck and God bless you and your daughter !
What a life you've had. Your father should be proud of having a daughter like you.
he must be soo proud, Zoe so brave beautiful and cool
Thank you!
Zoe I'm glad you have foound your father. I am still after 70 years, am still searching for mine. Although I know he has passed it would be a relief just to know who he is/was. It took me close to 40 years to find my mother who aat yhe time was deceased, but I did meet my 2 half brothwrs.
I truly believe your videos were therapeutic for you and part of your journey of discovery. Dont let the self centered critics get to you, they would surely drag you down to thier insignificant level. Blessings.
Thanks Walter!
I just watched like 10 videos of people meeting fathers who didn't know they existed. Trying to gauge how many men react/would react positively. Actually I think I'm just working up the nerve to finally start an active search for my father and contact him.
I am one of those fathers and glad my son found me. I had no clue his mom was pregnant. I would recommend ssearching, but keeping in mind if you don't find him or if he doesn't want to connect or he's not what you expected, that's okay, too. Good luck!
This is great advice.
JUJU --I'm curious what you decided.
Morning Glory don’t wait to long is my only advice. I did an Ancestry DNA test thinking that I was just looking for what parts of the World I came from. Imagine my surprise when people I was related to started popping up. But then a Man came up. It said he was a close relative, but upon looking closer it actually said, “this is your Father”. I was blown away. I never knew my father. I had no idea really who he was. Just a name. He didn’t use his real name only a code type name. I also was sent something saying I had another close relative. It ended up being my half brother who confirmed my Fathers real name. I wrote to him but got no response. I started googling and searching everything I possibly could. Then finally an Obituary came up. It showed that my Father had died 4 Months before I took my DNA test. Now I don’t if we could have met had I found him sooner? But it seems life is so unfair.. and time waits for no one.
@ravencrone56 I know someone that has done something similar. He was cheating on the women who is now his wife. They were all teenagers at the time he got one pregnant then denied it was his told his mum she was a cheat. I know for a fact age was not a cheat and it's his child. Anyway the other girl he married and has had children with she is from a wealthy family. He married into money and all he was concerned about is his son might want money. I was like even if he does want money at least give him something to build is life, its the least he can do. But no he's ignored his own son because his wife would work out the dates and realise he's a cheat.
It's amazing how you keep your cool through such turbelance
Glad to hear that he accepts you!
Thank you!
I have personally known, and also watching many videos of these family discoveries. To any children watching these videos... I think all fathers/mothers have a love for their children. Although you should surely be sensitive to disrupting the relationships they have now, this should not be a deterrent to you for reaching out to them. I believe it would be much more devastating to them if they found out you were interested in meeting them, but were afraid, and never did. The truth is better than not knowing...
I'm on a similar DNA journey. I was raised to think these people were my relatives and I'm not convinced....
He will be overwhelmed but proud your precious
He says I overwhelm him quite often - LOL! 😂
So happy for you :)
My friend grew up thinking her Dad was a man named Frank and she thought he was a deadbeat Dad so she grew up hating him, after taking an ancestry test she found out he was not her dad and her Dad never knew she existed when they met he was so happy to find out he had a daughter. Maybe you're Dad never really knew he had a baby.Your Mother never said who the man in the picture was.
My mom sent his mom my baby picture. She tore it up and threw it in the garbage. He knew. He was in jail the month I was born. He received the message, as well as my entire paternal family that I was his child. God put the right people in my life to raise me. Jess took care is me and for that I am extremely grateful.
It all comes down to one quote; "It seemed like a good idea at the time."
So true! 😂🤗👍
You're super sweet, best of luck n blessings
Thank you Nike!
So thankful he has job! Now, you don't have to worry him trying to take advantage of you. Is Kelly Clarkson still playing in the background?
Thanks Tara! It’s not Kelly Clarkson, it’s a preset in iMovie 😂.
Such an amazing journey
Thank you for joining me on it!
I am Happy for you, you are so sweet.
Thank you Sharon!
Your wonderful !,,
Thanks Marilou!
Just went though much the same thing. Unfortunately he isn't very interested in knowing me or my children. I did get to find out that I have a half brother and found an aunt who is very close in age to me!
Dee Drole So sorry he is not interested. His loss. but he makes it yours as well, but don’t think you aren’t worth it!
I just went through this, myself. Met my dad, aunts, uncles, and cousins... my siblings did not show any interest in meeting me, and stayed away. After getting to know more, it sounds like my father and his immediate family have all struggled with addiction in one form or another, and other bad choices. At first, I felt judged and rejected by my siblings, but within a few days, my perspective totally changed. I realize now that it would have been very difficult for me to be wound up with people who are bent on self-destruction, and that I was probably much better off letting sleeping dogs lie. I also felt that my dad was intentionally keeping me from meeting them.... maybe for a good reason. However, my aunts, uncles, and cousins are all very relatable, did not fall down the dark hole of addiction, and I felt warmly received by them. That was good enough for me! 😊
Trust that the Universe is looking out for you. I felt rejected by my dad and his family, but I now know that I was divinely protected, and had I been raised in that environment, I might have succumbed to the same addictions that seem to have consumed them. I was clearly meant for better things, and more than likely, so were you! My regrets quickly changed to gratitude when I looked at it from this perspective.
Most of these people don’t have a problem having sex and bringing kids to this world, then they turn around and say they love the children and are giving them up out of love! I thing they’re cowards and love taking the easy way out instead of taking on the responsibility of their actions! Stop making it look like your making the best choice for the child & step up!!
Because of the selfish nature and drug addiction both of my parents had, it is best that I wasn’t raised by them.
My friend she learned she has five dads I guess they shook up that milkshake pretty good huh?!
I wonder if he knew about your mother's sudden death
No, he didn’t know my mother had passed away. He was very heart broken when I told him. My mother and father knew each other for a few years before I was born. He and I have had some great talks about our memories of her. It has been very therapeutic for both of us.
Your path in life is your path. Your choices are yours to make. Your decision to meet or not is a choice that is not about your mother it is totally between you and him. Kahlil Gibran in a book called the Prophet, said about parents and children, parents are the bows and children are the arrows we as parents send the children out in life.
Thank you Jean! I completely agree!!
zoe did you and your dad get a dna test just in case there might be a mix up. and to be sure he is your dad.
Yup. Here is a link to the photo and results: instagram.com/p/BlMPNDtgaCe/
After hearing you & reading comments: Your mom GAVE UP dealing with your father because he refused to accept you were his, & because of “how he is.” That’s why she did pursue it & discouraged you. You must see her side of this, SHE TRIED! She never saw genetic testing as proof coming... It sounds like whatever “affliction” your father has did not reach you, you are normal, like his sisters. I understand all this because I had one brother like him who has already passed, but the story is similar & the rest of us are normal, & his kids are normal too (but he was not there for them either, their mother raised them). It’s great his sisters are accepting you as part of the family & not assuming you are like your father. Sounds like they are ABOVE that kind of thinking. Now you have them, plus all the cousins for you & your kids. Enjoy your new life!
You are completely correct. After meeting my biological father, I now understand my mother was trying to protect me from that lifestyle (and she succeeded). Thanks for understanding!
@@zoejohnson892 I meant to say your mom DIDN’T pursue anything with him. Opps! Anyway, I didn’t realize you made more vids...wow, now that I’ve seen more: Identical to my brother...he would have just completely stopped working & tried to many times, to just do drugs. Finally his wife “saw the light” & wanted a different example for her sons. She moved on, because he kept disappearing anyway. He ended up getting aids, no surprise & died rather young. His sons got education, have jobs, are buying houses....things he cared little about. He wanted to FEEL GOOD in the moment, & drugs or alcohol did it & also did him in, by making him open to an opportunity to contract aids.
I am so happy for you, that you are here on earth making a positive impact with your own life & in the lives of others. You have a lot to be proud of 🌹😊
Why didnt your mom tell him or you?
My mom did, but there are many factors. Mostly, he didn’t believe her.
Zoe Johnson so many young men choose not to believe and that is ez for them...meanwhile the pregnant young woman has no choice to not believe...
Where's the first video - I can't find it?
Videos in Chronological Order
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You look like Fay Dunaway
Thank you!!! You are too kind!
Hurt HIS feelings? Where's your Mom in all of this?
Her Mother passed away when she was 11
i like this woman. its rare but shes not knocking him as a lot of women even they have never met the person they are knocking
Thank you Alfredo!
What about your cousin? Did he find his father? One of your aunts is the mother ... ?! And she doesn‘t know the man? Maybe i didn‘t listen and understand the whole story 🤔
Thank you Oliver - yes. I just posted a Q&A video
I couldn't sleep
The cruelest thing a woman can do to a father is not allow him the privilege of knowing his child, the fact that they can do this is unforgivable ! It's one thing to choose to ignore your children but it's evil to not give the person that choice!
Yes. That would be awful. My mother told my biological father she was pregnant with his child. He denied he was my father, despite my mother’s efforts. My mother sent my paternal grandmother a photo of me shortly after I was born, which was discarded.
Can you get to the point?
Did you meet him
Did it go well
Are you both enriched as a result, extending the volumenof family, realizing this affects many people
This was a long drawn out process that I wanted to document. There is a summary here: th-cam.com/video/xoKMlT9_j28/w-d-xo.html
I had to do 1.5x you talk slow 😂
Lol! Thanks Amber! I do that with a lot of podcasts. I didn’t realize you could do that on you tube! Cool!
So we're is your father then
You talking a lot without images of your aunt Or your Father
Can you just get the point.
And shaw them off
I would love to see your Fathers image.
Lots of photos here. Feel free to skip around this channel too. 🤗
facebook.com/ZoeJohnsonDNA
instagram.com/zoejohnsondna/
Sooo much talking. All this could have fit in one video. I hope you can get to the point. Frustrating ! Talking way to slow. Sorry. I feel like I just wasted some precious time. Dragging things out is a good way to make people not watch your channel. You don’t want that to happen!
Yes - it was quite a drawn out experience! (Just imagine how I felt - living 34 years - then I had to wait 2 weeks to meet him...😅) Now looking back it would be easier to summarize all of these videos. Right now I am slowly working on a video with lots of pictures. Hopefully you will enjoy that one. Blessings to you!
Have some respect. She had the right to take her time and explain how she was feeling and was willing to do so to help others. This isn’t about you.
@@tanuashealth9791 u chose to watch the video. It's not like she forced you. And she talks about he feelings to not just the results.
Gee, milking the topic over 4 videos
You make me NOT want to give my adopted child their information about their parents. You are messed up and sounds like your Dad is a person I would not want my child to be dealing with if you have to SET BOUNDARIES.
Ummm. “You are messed up.”
What is wrong with you? Setting boundaries with any person no matter who they are is a good thing. Who are you to judge? Just because someone deals with things that other do not agree with doesn't mean they don't deserve a chance. My mother has put up two children for adoption, shes had her issues but is a wonderful person. My father, who has never been in my life looks great on paper and from what I have seen, everyone loves him, but has me as a secret he refuses to face. Just because someone looks better than another does not mean that they are. The only messed up person I see here is you, even thinking that it would be ok or beneficial to have the information on your childs parents and keep it from them. If you choose to do that I really hope for your sake they do no find out and resent you for it. That can turn out much more damaging for them than finding out that their biological parents have dealt with unfortunate things.
I like you videos and I like watching you, but it gets kind of boring looking just at you. Can you post pictures, or interaction with others? Is this tale for real, or it is just a script you wrote for a soap opera. It looks like you are a very good actress, and I would not discard that you may be a good writer and are writing this novel for a book, or a TV program.
You can ask for the unpaid alimony and sue him.
Boring and pointless.