Love you ladies and always enjoy the patterns and kits you feature, as well as your own projects. Your friendship warms my heart💛 You made me fall in love with Natasha's patterns and now I have knit 2 of them. Dina, I love the idea of once per month family time for whoever can make it. Embrace this change and create your own new norm as an empty-nester with more knitting and reading. They will come home when they can.
With adult kids, I’ve come to a point of take what you can get. Just be glad they want to spend time with you. It may not always be the way I would prefer.
Love listening to you two. You both have great points about the kids and your knit time Dinah and Pam . I agree with Pam, I have 3 boys, no way they would all meet me with their women for Sunday dinner every week . I think once a month is plenty with my grown up boys. Twice a month no way it won’t happen 🤭 I really enjoyed your podcast today. Pam is a great friend to you and vice versa , she’s looking at both sides of the coin sorta speak… good friendship you both have ❤
I get up at 6 am and listen to you lovely ladies and other you tube subscriptions while I knit. At between 8 and 8:30 I meet my daughter and granddaughter for coffee downstairs and we plan dinner and talk about the events of the day. I’m very lucky to live with my daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren and have been for about 10 years. I then knit for a bit after lunch and knit in the evening on simple projects like a blanket. I’m very fortunate.
OMG your chit chat at the beginning was cracking me up. No thank you to the 5am book. I would go back to bed too. Dina love love love your cardigan. BTW my City Lights hat is one of my most worn hats. A classic. Kim
Enjoyed the discussion, children growing up present a whole new emotional challenge for parents, expectations on both sides can be SOOO different. And Pam, loved the bucket hat, I donate hats for a Pediatric Cancer group, so I purchased your pattern...it will be a winner!
Parenting is all about transitions in the relationship as they grow and develop, My two are adults now and wait until you have grandchildren! It gets even more interesting when there is a baby/babies involved and in-laws but................my approach is to be available when needed and I remember my own process with my parents and try to do better. AND Dina, life is short AND you have to spend your time how you want to spend it and find the balance. As women/mothers we are always caring and providing for others..............sometimes to the neglect of ourselves. I am trying to do better on a daily basis, that's what I can do for me AND in turn my family. LOVE the podcast ladies!
I love my 5am knitting time! All my kids are out of the house now. I started this about 10 years ago and have found It energizes me and makes me happy to start my day knitting. 😊
Dina, hang in there! My husband and I are both 84 and we are very active. We are retired-duh-and we do whatever pleases us. I knit all day and he does things around the house and outside and goes to grocery etc. At night we watch tv together and after he goes to bed I sit up-still knitting-and watching TH-cam knitting videos for 3 or 4 hours! Ha! The later Tony stays up, the later I go to bed! Then I sleep til noon if I want to and don’t have anything special to do. SO-see what you and your husband have to look forward to!! When I was your age I was still teaching full time til I was 73! Dear Heart, you do YOU!! ❤ Angela
We have five adult children who live in five different cities. Four are in the health care professions, so nights and weekends come into play. We have accepted to enjoy the time we can spend with each of them. However, my heart is full when they are all together talking and laughing. I wish it could happen more often, but, that's what family apps are for.
Dina I love your hair! It’s beautiful!! I’m 51 and have just enough grey to be annoying but not enough to just let it go. Love all the projects you both make!
Shabbat family dinners are a blessing for everyone! Twice a month sounds reasonable, and tradition is so important. Especially for the young generation 🙏❤️
Dina, your Tursa is absolutely gorgeous and beautifully knit! I have three adult children, all in different cities, all a plane ride away. You are lucky yours are still so close! We do a weekly family zoom which helps keep in touch (even that seems like a trial to them sometimes 😂).
So happy to hear you give Tash and HandMakeCreate, my local knitting store, another mention. I look to both you and she for my creative inspiration. I also can't wait to visit your store again during my next trip to New York. Sending a big hug and Dina, I love your Tursa!
Ever since my children were born I have an internal alarm that wakes me up at 5 am…and at 79 I still do it! I cherished that time, just as I cherished the time (sort of 😊) when everyone joined me later. At first I was a bit sleepy, but it took no time before I found that time was my most creative and I would find myself alone, making coffee and smiling. I wasn’t into knitting so much then…no money…but was in to journaling. How I enjoy reading through my collection of journals…who was that young, ambitious woman? Hang in there…you are exactly where you are supposed to be!
I get up at 4:30 every morning. I began that when I was going to college and had four roommates. It was the most quiet time of the day where I could study. We could make a 5 o’clock if your usual wake up time is seven and he would be way ahead of the game for knitting
Life totally changes when your children become adults. They may still be our priority but we are certainly not theirs which alters the family dynamics. Enjoy your new found freedom and embrace the extra time by doing more for yourself for a change. Just ordered the ewe ewe. Have a great week ladies.
Thanks for mentioning the zooms…I got a kit for the Garden Cardigan from you and will be picking up the zoom too. How fun to knit together! I’m trying to finish my languishing WIPs by year end. Would love to see what the two of you have waiting to be finished.
I can so relate to your issues with family and working in our knitting time etc. It is going to get harder as far as having your children near. It will never be enough lol! Keep your self in a good place- this is YOUR time now! I went through this twice. The first time was because my mom had a serious illness and as the oldest of six, I assumed that role of mom whenever they needed me. Thank God for my dad! But what happened when everybody married and had kids, I felt such a loss even though you get that they have their own lives, you miss them in yours. Knitting and other passions in your life will take a bigger part. I found knitting when my own daughter became pregnant. It was the separation I went through earlier that really helped me to adjust when Katie started her family. PS We moved 10 minutes away lol. She and Mike were shocked at first. Now 9 years later, I watch the kids two days a week, and we are very mindful of their own lives. Same with my step kids! Keep on knitting and enjoy this new chapter in your life! On the Fridays you don’t see them, have a special date night with your hubby!❤❤❤
I haven't read that book, but I do get up at 5 AM every day. That habit started when my kids were young, and I got up early to read and work out. I know what you mean Dina -- about the peace. No one needs me at 5 Am. Thank you for the podcast, and I am thinking of you during this transition time.
Dina, I have the same dilemma at times. I just want to sit and do my crafts (I also cross stitch and needlepoint as well as knit and crochet) and my husband will want to go out and do things. I hate to say no to him because your husband’s right, life is short. But I’m always torn because I want to craft. I also listen to books and I fall asleep too and have to keep rewinding
Dina: You obviously give SO much to your family… they need to respect (not resent) your knitting in turn !!! You should not be made to feel guilty for pursuing your profession or your hobby. Keep on knittin’😊
I feel you Dina I’m the driver my husband reads 😅 celebrating our 37th anniversary on 7th. Sounds like you both need discussion especially since you own a LYS and need to have pieces to show to sell that yarn. Love both of your finished projects this week. {{HUGS}} and Happy Knitting 🧶❤️🧶❤️
You both are a dream- you look GORGEOUS! Coming from a daughter who misses her mom and always loves to see her inlaws with a 9 year old- I think they may be independant now, but come time for grandbabies and all- bet they look forward to those weekend meals and get togethers. It ebs and flows even with them adjusting to careers. But my guess is they'll be back in full speed when kids are involved. LOL! Also, totally agree with Pam about the time to get up- meaning our bodies all thrive in different ways. Hugs! - Kimberly
Dina, my kids are on the other side of the ocean, so I only see them twice a year: summer vacation and winter vacation. I understand that your family tradition of Shabbat dinner is very important to you, but you should be very thankful for having them so close. I love the idea of meeting them in the city for informal meals. How about planning an annual family trip that everyone could get excited about and help plan? Since my parents have died, we plan a family trip each year with our adult boys between Christmas and the New Year. We have so much fun that this year my brother-in-law, his wife and their adult kids are coming along, too! Thanks for all the fun💗
My husband and I were first to break away from going to his family for Christmas. Our teenage daughter wanted to stay home and we lived in Michigan with beautiful snow. My mom n law didn’t speak to us for over a year.
I am up at 5:30 a.m. but it's to do yoga and then I immediately launch into chores and I prep dinner, so that's ready to go when I'm done with work. I too wish I had more time to knit but we have an 8 year old and are also caring for my 78-year-old mother in law who lives with us. I walk and knit, which gives me more knitting time. Of course, though, I can't do complicated things while walking. And as winter comes, it will be too cold to walk and knit. I also think I would have more time to knit if I spent less time on Instagram and shopping for yarn (lol).
Snoep means candy in Dutch 😊 And Dina, I understand you so well about missing your children! I am 71, have a son of almost 50 and a son of 47 years old. They both live far away from me: the oldest in London (I live in the Netherlands) and the other one at the other side of The Netherlands. So I don't see them very often. But they are grown men, so it must not be an 'obligation ' to come over every week or so for dinner or a visit. Nevertheless, I miss them. About your knitting: please, try to be yourself and knit whenever you want to. I suppose your husband has hobby's too? Talk to him that knitting is also a therapy: it keeps away the stress. Dina, thanks for a lovely podcast again, I enjoy it every week!
Dina, I am 71 and have two sons - 44 and 41, each with one child. My older son has always lived near us and is now divorced. My ex-DIL didn’t talk to her parents, so we were the primary in-laws/grandparents. Just the opposite for my younger son. He lives three hours away and his wife has made it very clear that holidays are spent with her family. We’re usually invited but we have our own holiday traditions. During the school year, the only way we see our granddaughter is via FaceTime or if we go to their house. It’s a very complicated situation. So, enjoy whatever time the kids make to see you now because it becomes excruciating once spouses and grandkids are involved. Dealing with your husband is another thing entirely. I retired a year before my husband did. I have knitting groups, a monthly book club, lunches with friends, etc. When my husband retired, I told him in no uncertain terms that I wasn’t put on the planet to constantly entertain him and that he had to find some of his own activities. We still spend plenty of time together, but I won’t give up my own activities, BTW, we’re married for almost 50 years! Hang in there - things will settle into a new equilibrium.
Well Dina as they all get married it becomes a shuffle game to try to get them home. It’s so hard to do because they try to get to both places and sometimes the wife’s family wins out. Pam is right about not saying anything because then they come out of guilt and they won’t be happy. It’s a tough road and gets worse when babies come. It will become easier for you to go to see them when they are free. Good luck.
Dina. He is a man. He wants you to resort your schedule so it helps him get through this " life is short" panic! What is going to happen when you get that "life is short" panic? I understand the walking on eggshells with kids.As you said, they are adults . They should tell you straight up and not count on you to change plans in mid air. Wait till the grandkids come along. You for sure will get to see them!! To this day our 18 year old granddaughter comes and stays all night once a week. She said - life is short Gammy. I love that she is so insightful . Never turn down the chance to be the grandparent. It is life changing. Love and prayers, Cheryl. Oh yeah, just knit!! Life is short!😜
Hi girls . I'm with both of you on the family issues. I have four sons, all married so trying to get them all together is impossible. As long as they know you are there for them that's all you can do .. best of luck dina hang in there❤❤
Loved your podcast today. You are lucky to have your kids nearby, but they are trying to figure out their lives and where they fit in themselves with their new life. Give them some time to figure their schedules, needs and wants. Also your life is changing without them at home. Be patient. As to your husband and knitting. I was once a LYO with a working husband. Once he realized I did the cooking, car pooled the kids, entertained, and co-partnered a yarn business, I needed TIME for me….private time. Your husband works as do you and you both have needs and wants….sounds like he needs to realize your time and needs are as important as his are. Also is he worried about turning 60? Sounds heavy but not a big deal…just another birthday. Yes, a big one, but his life sounds good…health and business wise. Age is only a number….what you do with it is the important thing. I can only say this because Jim and I are retired and in our 80s. I now have knitting time and Jim has his time. Enough already…see you next week. Enjoy this gorgeous weather!!!
You asked us to leave you a question. Here is one. To you both-how did you meet your husbands and what was your first date like? Love at first sight? Always enjoy your podcasts.
my Husband has always been in some comittee or other all my married life, basically out for meetings or plays bridge at least twice a week. thank God for knitting!!. I have worked but not all the years as I stayed home to look after the kids and home. I am a typical Indian housewife who did everything. This is what my husband says to others, well she has her knitting andI I play bridge. I don't go away from kids or house and am present even if I knit and he is physically not even here🤬🤬ps I have 3 kids, 2 married and one gone to uni in past 2 years. Feeling the empty nest syndrome and have lost comunication with hubby,
It’s growing pains. Just enjoy your times you get together. I have 6 kids and if we didn’t have birthdays prob never see them. Well some I would see the girls prob. Boys go the girls way. We have to share our kids. With the other family to. You Will get use to it.
I really want to purchase your Tursa kit, but I don't see it. Yours is stunning, I would make it long sleeved and that long but would want to use Siri alpaca not mohair. If you please. I pray you are doing a class for it. I've never done charts. I need the class. Your sweater is fabulous. Now, I'll watch the video. Lovely to see you both. I can so relate. We didn't do shabbat dinners because my mom was a horrible cook. My dad was an amazing cook and baker. He is the one who would want to do the dinners because he was a holocaust survivor, so he was much more religious than my mom. Nhe had no family my mom had 7 brothers and sisters but only one sister that I am aware of religiously had all the holiday dinners and different everything for Passover. These things my mother wasn’t as active as my friends or cousins mothers. My father would have done it all but he was the worker. He was known in Hollywood as the designer to the stars. So he was always busy sometimes working at two peoples homes a day which worked into the nights.
For me, turning 60 was a watershed moment. It is a sobering thought to realize that 2/3 of your life is over. With any luck many women like my mom live to their 90s, men usually are not so lucky. And perhaps your husband is feeling this. it was also a significant moment as I approached 65. I don’t have children; my life is very different from yours and I also am divorced and alone. So I basically can dictate what I do with my day when I am not working. But part of having children I think is recognizing that when they become adults, they live their own lives and need you less. You will always be an important part of their lives, but You should not have to go to them. They will come to you when they want to be with you. I can imagine that is so hard, but remember, your years left are much less than the years ahead of them, so make the most of them!
It’s growing pains. Just enjoy your times you get together. I have 6 kids and if we didn’t have birthdays prob never see them. Well some I would see the girls prob. Boys go the girls way.
I love your podcast! Dinah, I feel for you as you wanting all your kids together, but unfortunately....as they get older, it's not easy nor what they want. It's hard to let go of those family traditions. As far as your husband is concerned...I agree with Pam...you shouldn't have to ask permission to knit or be made to feel guilty. Carrying that stress could lead to a heart attack...not worth it! Have a talk with him. Pam has the right attitude- who cares!! Love you two!❤
Today’s podcast…you said we could ask you anything. What grade does Pam teach? Every time Pam talks about school…I wonder gee…what grade does she teach?
Dina, gathering with all 4 kids (and partners) once a week is TOO MUCH. Once a month even feels like too much. I have 2 adult kids who each live thousands of miles away. I manage to see each one once a year. And then we talk by phone. I'm happy with that.
Gotta love Pam…..you speak my language “ what do you mean ya have to ask to knit”…..wtf…sounds controlling….not a fan of this episode….its knitting not about how to handle your husband
I love my 5am knitting time! All my kids are out of the house now. I started this about 10 years ago and have found It energizes me and makes me happy to start my day knitting. 😊
Love you ladies and always enjoy the patterns and kits you feature, as well as your own projects. Your friendship warms my heart💛 You made me fall in love with Natasha's patterns and now I have knit 2 of them. Dina, I love the idea of once per month family time for whoever can make it. Embrace this change and create your own new norm as an empty-nester with more knitting and reading. They will come home when they can.
With adult kids, I’ve come to a point of take what you can get. Just be glad they want to spend time with you. It may not always be the way I would prefer.
I get up every morning at 3:30am to knit for 2 hrs before work. It's my favorite time of the day ! Coffee, knitting and of course, your podcast!
I made the City Lights hat with red yarn and silver paiettes and a black pom! It’s awesome! I love it!
Love listening to you two. You both have great points about the kids and your knit time Dinah and Pam . I agree with Pam, I have 3 boys, no way they would all meet me with their women for Sunday dinner every week . I think once a month is plenty with my grown up boys. Twice a month no way it won’t happen 🤭
I really enjoyed your podcast today. Pam is a great friend to you and vice versa , she’s looking at both sides of the coin sorta speak… good friendship you both have ❤
I get up at 6 am and listen to you lovely ladies and other you tube subscriptions while I knit. At between 8 and 8:30 I meet my daughter and granddaughter for coffee downstairs and we plan dinner and talk about the events of the day. I’m very lucky to live with my daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren and have been for about 10 years. I then knit for a bit after lunch and knit in the evening on simple projects like a blanket. I’m very fortunate.
Dina, I can relate. Sometimes we feel pulled in different directions. Pam, you are a great and wise friend.
OMG your chit chat at the beginning was cracking me up. No thank you to the 5am book. I would go back to bed too. Dina love love love your cardigan. BTW my City Lights hat is one of my most worn hats. A classic. Kim
Love your podcast! Ladies you both look fantastic in hats. Pam, you look like a movie star in your Bucket hat.
Enjoyed the discussion, children growing up present a whole new emotional challenge for parents, expectations on both sides can be SOOO different. And Pam, loved the bucket hat, I donate hats for a Pediatric Cancer group, so I purchased your pattern...it will be a winner!
Parenting is all about transitions in the relationship as they grow and develop, My two are adults now and wait until you have grandchildren! It gets even more interesting when there is a baby/babies involved and in-laws but................my approach is to be available when needed and I remember my own process with my parents and try to do better. AND Dina, life is short AND you have to spend your time how you want to spend it and find the balance. As women/mothers we are always caring and providing for others..............sometimes to the neglect of ourselves. I am trying to do better on a daily basis, that's what I can do for me AND in turn my family. LOVE the podcast ladies!
I love my 5am knitting time! All my kids are out of the house now. I started this about 10 years ago and have found It energizes me and makes me happy to start my day knitting. 😊
Dina, hang in there! My husband and I are both 84 and we are very active. We are retired-duh-and we do whatever pleases us. I knit all day and he does things around the house and outside and goes to grocery etc. At night we watch tv together and after he goes to bed I sit up-still knitting-and watching TH-cam knitting videos for 3 or 4 hours! Ha! The later Tony stays up, the later I go to bed! Then I sleep til noon if I want to and don’t have anything special to do. SO-see what you and your husband have to look forward to!! When I was your age I was still teaching full time til I was 73! Dear Heart, you do YOU!! ❤ Angela
Angela, you are an inspiration! GOD Bless you and your hubby! 🙏❤️
We have five adult children who live in five different cities. Four are in the health care professions, so nights and weekends come into play. We have accepted to enjoy the time we can spend with each of them. However, my heart is full when they are all together talking and laughing. I wish it could happen more often, but, that's what family apps are for.
Dina I love your hair! It’s beautiful!! I’m 51 and have just enough grey to be annoying but not enough to just let it go. Love all the projects you both make!
Shabbat family dinners are a blessing for everyone! Twice a month sounds reasonable, and tradition is so important. Especially for the young generation 🙏❤️
Dina, your Tursa is absolutely gorgeous and beautifully knit! I have three adult children, all in different cities, all a plane ride away. You are lucky yours are still so close! We do a weekly family zoom which helps keep in touch (even that seems like a trial to them sometimes 😂).
So happy to hear you give Tash and HandMakeCreate, my local knitting store, another mention. I look to both you and she for my creative inspiration. I also can't wait to visit your store again during my next trip to New York. Sending a big hug and Dina, I love your Tursa!
Love how real you both are!! Humans can be difficult, which is why I prefer cats and dogs 😂. Thanks also for the gift hat ideas.
Ever since my children were born I have an internal alarm that wakes me up at 5 am…and at 79 I still do it! I cherished that time, just as I cherished the time (sort of 😊) when everyone joined me later. At first I was a bit sleepy, but it took no time before I found that time was my most creative and I would find myself alone, making coffee and smiling. I wasn’t into knitting so much then…no money…but was in to journaling. How I enjoy reading through my collection of journals…who was that young, ambitious woman? Hang in there…you are exactly where you are supposed to be!
I get up at 4:30 every morning. I began that when I was going to college and had four roommates. It was the most quiet time of the day where I could study. We could make a 5 o’clock if your usual wake up time is seven and he would be way ahead of the game for knitting
Life totally changes when your children become adults. They may still be our priority but we are certainly not theirs which alters the family dynamics. Enjoy your new found freedom and embrace the extra time by doing more for yourself for a change. Just ordered the ewe ewe. Have a great week ladies.
Thanks for mentioning the zooms…I got a kit for the Garden Cardigan from you and will be picking up the zoom too. How fun to knit together! I’m trying to finish my languishing WIPs by year end. Would love to see what the two of you have waiting to be finished.
I can so relate to your issues with family and working in our knitting time etc. It is going to get harder as far as having your children near. It will never be enough lol! Keep your self in a good place- this is YOUR time now! I went through this twice. The first time was because my mom had a serious illness and as the oldest of six, I assumed that role of mom whenever they needed me. Thank God for my dad! But what happened when everybody married and had kids, I felt such a loss even though you get that they have their own lives, you miss them in yours. Knitting and other passions in your life will take a bigger part. I found knitting when my own daughter became pregnant. It was the separation I went through earlier that really helped me to adjust when Katie started her family.
PS We moved 10 minutes away lol. She and Mike were shocked at first. Now 9 years later, I watch the kids two days a week, and we are very mindful of their own lives. Same with my step kids! Keep on knitting and enjoy this new chapter in your life! On the Fridays you don’t see them, have a special date night with your hubby!❤❤❤
I haven't read that book, but I do get up at 5 AM every day. That habit started when my kids were young, and I got up early to read and work out. I know what you mean Dina -- about the peace. No one needs me at 5 Am. Thank you for the podcast, and I am thinking of you during this transition time.
Dina, I have the same dilemma at times. I just want to sit and do my crafts (I also cross stitch and needlepoint as well as knit and crochet) and my husband will want to go out and do things. I hate to say no to him because your husband’s right, life is short. But I’m always torn because I want to craft. I also listen to books and I fall asleep too and have to keep rewinding
Dina: You obviously give SO much to your family… they need to respect (not resent) your knitting in turn !!!
You should not be made to feel guilty for pursuing your profession or your hobby. Keep on knittin’😊
empty nest takes adjustments we are very lucky they found their own way and we are needed a little less but we are always loved
I feel you Dina I’m the driver my husband reads 😅 celebrating our 37th anniversary on 7th.
Sounds like you both need discussion especially since you own a LYS and need to have pieces to show to sell that yarn.
Love both of your finished projects this week.
{{HUGS}} and Happy Knitting 🧶❤️🧶❤️
You both are a dream- you look GORGEOUS! Coming from a daughter who misses her mom and always loves to see her inlaws with a 9 year old- I think they may be independant now, but come time for grandbabies and all- bet they look forward to those weekend meals and get togethers. It ebs and flows even with them adjusting to careers. But my guess is they'll be back in full speed when kids are involved. LOL! Also, totally agree with Pam about the time to get up- meaning our bodies all thrive in different ways. Hugs! - Kimberly
Dina, my kids are on the other side of the ocean, so I only see them twice a year: summer vacation and winter vacation. I understand that your family tradition of Shabbat dinner is very important to you, but you should be very thankful for having them so close. I love the idea of meeting them in the city for informal meals. How about planning an annual family trip that everyone could get excited about and help plan? Since my parents have died, we plan a family trip each year with our adult boys between Christmas and the New Year. We have so much fun that this year my brother-in-law, his wife and their adult kids are coming along, too! Thanks for all the fun💗
Ah.. Life changes, I’m there too.
Roasts remember Red Buttons in the 70’s”never got a dinner “😂
Lol the weekends is my husband doing his things and I knit
I hear you about getting up early for knitting time. It is the only time I get alone time all day. It is sacred!
My husband and I were first to break away from going to his family for Christmas. Our teenage daughter wanted to stay home and we lived in Michigan with beautiful snow. My mom n law didn’t speak to us for over a year.
I am up at 5:30 a.m. but it's to do yoga and then I immediately launch into chores and I prep dinner, so that's ready to go when I'm done with work. I too wish I had more time to knit but we have an 8 year old and are also caring for my 78-year-old mother in law who lives with us. I walk and knit, which gives me more knitting time. Of course, though, I can't do complicated things while walking. And as winter comes, it will be too cold to walk and knit. I also think I would have more time to knit if I spent less time on Instagram and shopping for yarn (lol).
I do wake up early, not 5am mind you, but I purposely get up early to have peaceful knitting time.
The Tursa and your hair are beautiful today, Dina.
Snoep means candy in Dutch 😊
And Dina, I understand you so well about missing your children!
I am 71, have a son of almost 50 and a son of 47 years old.
They both live far away from me: the oldest in London (I live in the Netherlands) and the other one at the other side of The Netherlands. So I don't see them very often.
But they are grown men, so it must not be an 'obligation ' to come over every week or so for dinner or a visit.
Nevertheless, I miss them.
About your knitting: please, try to be yourself and knit whenever you want to. I suppose your husband has hobby's too? Talk to him that knitting is also a therapy: it keeps away the stress.
Dina, thanks for a lovely podcast again, I enjoy it every week!
Love that you shared a problem that so many of us have. Your conversations are so real. Questions asked and answered as time goes on.
Dina, I am 71 and have two sons - 44 and 41, each with one child. My older son has always lived near us and is now divorced. My ex-DIL didn’t talk to her parents, so we were the primary in-laws/grandparents. Just the opposite for my younger son. He lives three hours away and his wife has made it very clear that holidays are spent with her family. We’re usually invited but we have our own holiday traditions. During the school year, the only way we see our granddaughter is via FaceTime or if we go to their house. It’s a very complicated situation. So, enjoy whatever time the kids make to see you now because it becomes excruciating once spouses and grandkids are involved. Dealing with your husband is another thing entirely. I retired a year before my husband did. I have knitting groups, a monthly book club, lunches with friends, etc. When my husband retired, I told him in no uncertain terms that I wasn’t put on the planet to constantly entertain him and that he had to find some of his own activities. We still spend plenty of time together, but I won’t give up my own activities, BTW, we’re married for almost 50 years! Hang in there - things will settle into a new equilibrium.
Well Dina as they all get married it becomes a shuffle game to try to get them home. It’s so hard to do because they try to get to both places and sometimes the wife’s family wins out. Pam is right about not saying anything because then they come out of guilt and they won’t be happy. It’s a tough road and gets worse when babies come. It will become easier for you to go to see them when they are free. Good luck.
I test knit the same hat. Love it!
Pam, can the adult bucket hat be made with the yarn for kids hat? Thanks for keeping your episodes real.😊❤❤
Dina. He is a man. He wants you to resort your schedule so it helps him get through this " life is short" panic! What is going to happen when you get that "life is short" panic? I understand the walking on eggshells with kids.As you said, they are adults . They should tell you straight up and not count on you to change plans in mid air. Wait till the grandkids come along. You for sure will get to see them!! To this day our 18 year old granddaughter comes and stays all night once a week. She said - life is short Gammy. I love that she is so insightful . Never turn down the chance to be the grandparent. It is life changing. Love and prayers, Cheryl. Oh yeah, just knit!! Life is short!😜
My dogs are part of the 5:00 AM club. Unfortunately I am part of the stay up past midnight club. So I go back to bed :)
Hi girls . I'm with both of you on the family issues. I have four sons, all married so trying to get them all together is impossible. As long as they know you are there for them that's all you can do .. best of luck dina hang in there❤❤
I only have two children both married with children. They live 36 hours and 8 hours away. I get to see them at least once a years.
Loved your podcast today. You are lucky to have your kids nearby, but they are trying to figure out their lives and where they fit in themselves with their new life. Give them some time to figure their schedules, needs and wants. Also your life is changing without them at home. Be patient. As to your husband and knitting. I was once a LYO with a working husband. Once he realized I did the cooking, car pooled the kids, entertained, and co-partnered a yarn business, I needed TIME for me….private time. Your husband works as do you and you both have needs and wants….sounds like he needs to realize your time and needs are as important as his are. Also is he worried about turning 60? Sounds heavy but not a big deal…just another birthday. Yes, a big one, but his life sounds good…health and business wise. Age is only a number….what you do with it is the important thing. I can only say this because Jim and I are retired and in our 80s. I now have knitting time and Jim has his time. Enough already…see you next week. Enjoy this gorgeous weather!!!
You asked us to leave you a question. Here is one. To you both-how did you meet your husbands and what was your first date like? Love at first sight?
Always enjoy your podcasts.
my Husband has always been in some comittee or other all my married life, basically out for meetings or plays bridge at least twice a week. thank God for knitting!!. I have worked but not all the years as I stayed home to look after the kids and home. I am a typical Indian housewife who did everything. This is what my husband says to others, well she has her knitting andI I play bridge. I don't go away from kids or house and am present even if I knit and he is physically not even here🤬🤬ps I have 3 kids, 2 married and one gone to uni in past 2 years. Feeling the empty nest syndrome and have lost comunication with hubby,
How do you align short rows to make sure they are properly aligned in the garment? Sometimes mine are off center in my top down raglans.
I’m up about 5 everyday…. No alarm needed. What is your most favorite thing to do if not knitting?
I have a question - how do you store your sweaters and accessories so you can find them easily and wear them often?
It’s growing pains. Just enjoy your times you get together. I have 6 kids and if we didn’t have birthdays prob never see them. Well some I would see the girls prob. Boys go the girls way. We have to share our kids. With the other family to. You
Will get use to it.
I really want to purchase your Tursa kit, but I don't see it. Yours is stunning, I would make it long sleeved and that long but would want to use Siri alpaca not mohair. If you please. I pray you are doing a class for it. I've never done charts. I need the class. Your sweater is fabulous. Now, I'll watch the video. Lovely to see you both. I can so relate. We didn't do shabbat dinners because my mom was a horrible cook. My dad was an amazing cook and baker. He is the one who would want to do the dinners because he was a holocaust survivor, so he was much more religious than my mom. Nhe had no family my mom had 7 brothers and sisters but only one sister that I am aware of religiously had all the holiday dinners and different everything for Passover. These things my mother wasn’t as active as my friends or cousins mothers. My father would have done it all but he was the worker. He was known in Hollywood as the designer to the stars. So he was always busy sometimes working at two peoples homes a day which worked into the nights.
For me, turning 60 was a watershed moment. It is a sobering thought to realize that 2/3 of your life is over. With any luck many women like my mom live to their 90s, men usually are not so lucky. And perhaps your husband is feeling this. it was also a significant moment as I approached 65. I don’t have children; my life is very different from yours and I also am divorced and alone. So I basically can dictate what I do with my day when I am not working. But part of having children I think is recognizing that when they become adults, they live their own lives and need you less. You will always be an important part of their lives, but You should not have to go to them. They will come to you when they want to be with you. I can imagine that is so hard, but remember, your years left are much less than the years ahead of them, so make the most of them!
Looks gorgeous! Dina, you need to block the scarf, it will grow!
Help, newbie here. How do I find the show notes?
What is at the back of Dina looks lovely…..
Thanks for the podcastDinah wait until he retires. You need to set up rules now😉😁
I’m wondering How you get so much knitting done.
It’s growing pains. Just enjoy your times you get together. I have 6 kids and if we didn’t have birthdays prob never see them. Well some I would see the girls prob. Boys go the girls way.
I love your podcast!
Dinah, I feel for you as you wanting all your kids together, but unfortunately....as they get older, it's not easy nor what they want. It's hard to let go of those family traditions. As far as your husband is concerned...I agree with Pam...you shouldn't have to ask permission to knit or be made to feel guilty. Carrying that stress could lead to a heart attack...not worth it! Have a talk with him. Pam has the right attitude- who cares!!
Love you two!❤
I love your podcast, and add so many yarns and patterns to my queue. But please please take the extra minute to turn off ads during the podcast.
Today’s podcast…you said we could ask you anything. What grade does Pam teach? Every time Pam talks about school…I wonder gee…what grade does she teach?
Dina, gathering with all 4 kids (and partners) once a week is TOO MUCH. Once a month even feels like too much. I have 2 adult kids who each live thousands of miles away. I manage to see each one once a year. And then we talk by phone. I'm happy with that.
Yes!!! Talk about what is in the back
Wait until your kids have children who have activities - we hardly see them😢
I think it’s terrible your family met with your husband for lunch on day you have to work. I would be hurt.
Gotta love Pam…..you speak my language “ what do you mean ya have to ask to knit”…..wtf…sounds controlling….not a fan of this episode….its knitting not about how to handle your husband
I love my 5am knitting time! All my kids are out of the house now. I started this about 10 years ago and have found It energizes me and makes me happy to start my day knitting. 😊