Facing Marriage Tensions and Emotional Burnout?

แชร์
ฝัง
  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ธ.ค. 2024

ความคิดเห็น • 80

  • @asingleton8295
    @asingleton8295 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    "We marry our unfinished business." I never heard it that way before and it resonates with me instantly.

  • @Lanes8930
    @Lanes8930 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Anyone else binge this show while their other half is in the room, hoping john will say something that grabs their attention and gets them thinking?

  • @kerisallee3976
    @kerisallee3976 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    39:44 Christy Wright has a great quote that says “life balance isn’t about doing everything for an equal amount of time. It’s about doing the right things at the right time”

    • @LisaPFrampton
      @LisaPFrampton 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I LOVE that! 💯❤️

  • @sheanaguthrie6021
    @sheanaguthrie6021 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    First caller- when you and your husband have different ideas about what is fun and not boring then you'll drift even further away.

  • @MugglesUnited19
    @MugglesUnited19 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    The 2nd call has me sobbing. My mom is an alcoholic and I’ve let go of that and forgiven her but I don’t think I ever told little me that it was never my fault. So I’ll be over here crying. 😂

    • @dahliacheung6020
      @dahliacheung6020 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah this show has me realizing I need to make contact with the little kid inside who is just so hurt and confused and angry even though now I'm probably one of the most chill, laid back people know now.

  • @dachater1
    @dachater1 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I resonate with the lady that called in regarding her husband not showing gratitude.It’s hard to live in that space and not be able to do anything directly to change it. But again it’s clear that we only have power to change ourselves and come alongside others as they allow. I pray they will find the healing and her husband especially.

  • @TheTlevasseur1019
    @TheTlevasseur1019 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    When that last caller said they love their body now I just imagined what my life would be like if I loved my body I would be so much happier that's definitely the motivation I need to continue my weight loss.

  • @starlingswallow
    @starlingswallow ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Last caller~ this is hard 😢 My ex was always negative, complaining all the time. He refused to get help and his attitude was crushing me. I tried getting him to go to counseling with me, he laughed in my face and said therapy was hogwash.
    I ended up leaving because it was the best thing for me physically, emotionally, mentally & spiritually. I had to realize I could not save him, fix him nor help him because he believed he was fine the way he was. 😢
    I hurt for him and that's why I stayed as long as I did. I felt so responsible for his well-being, but I was ignoring my own.
    I ended up having to choose my own safety and leave. (He was abusive, covertly)
    I was a sunshine girl, too. And unfortunately I married someone who seemed hell bent on snuffing out my light. It almost happened....but I left.
    I hope this guy sees how much he's loved and sees his worth enough to get himself help. ❤

    • @AM-nd9nl
      @AM-nd9nl ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Beautifully said. Thank you ❤. I am there right now and just about out of gas.

    • @LisaPFrampton
      @LisaPFrampton 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ditto ​@@AM-nd9nl

  • @hollypinque5349
    @hollypinque5349 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    “Are you a veteran”
    “uhhh… yeah.”
    John: 😀
    I laughed out loud 😂😂😂 I love Dr. John so much. I related to (probably to the wife of) that caller so much.

    • @LisaPFrampton
      @LisaPFrampton 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I did too!! 😂😂

  • @jasondima1411
    @jasondima1411 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I can relate to the 2nd caller other than his dad not being in his life. Work life balance is real and I hardly get time to be with my family or build a community since I’m a truck driver

  • @Flower-power99
    @Flower-power99 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The lady that lost weight brought tears to my eyes. Loving herself now is is amazing, I wish I could do the same. Inspiring to say the least!! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @2daFull
    @2daFull ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think he hit the nail on the head with that first call.

  • @brightpage1020
    @brightpage1020 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    For the food in the teeth thing - be proactive:
    Take a flask of mouthwash and a travel toothbrush or a small box of toothpicks in your jacket pocket and use it in the bathroom just before leaving the restaurant.
    A gentleman comes prepared for anything. He always goes the extra mile to impress. If she’s worth it.

    • @ESLhills
      @ESLhills 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Flossing and using a water pik at night or in the morning is key. And making sure you go to the dentist regularly.

  • @sumzero5857
    @sumzero5857 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2nd caller - Johns advice about writing a letter is spot on, before chasing all the other goals there are basics that need to be dealt with, first is to love yourself….finding compassion in place of judgement. Once these things started in motion for myself, it was the single thing that enabled me to improve so many other areas of my life.
    It takes a mindset change and removing the default thoughts. It’s changed my life in so many ways that I never knew it could.

  • @DogmaGirlAD
    @DogmaGirlAD ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Kissing after food: It depends on what you just ate but even more. It's about if Partners are on equals status... Either we've both brushed or neither of us have brushed... Either way it's fine as long as the mouth is of equal "dirtiness"...

  • @ammaraymen9898
    @ammaraymen9898 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You: Thank you for mowing the yard, it looks nice.
    Him: You don’t have to thank me. It’s my job.
    You: You might think it is but I still want you to know I think it looks nice. 😊

  • @Tylerstrodtman
    @Tylerstrodtman ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Did Deloney mumble an F bomb on air at 5:50!? Haha!

    • @shorty4872
      @shorty4872 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep 😂

  • @blah7694
    @blah7694 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you for reminding me to apply for Bake Off :)

  • @tacooflove6175
    @tacooflove6175 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Sounds like Salem needs some wins and focus on just three things that will have the quickest gains in his life and just take small bites to get where he wants to be, he’s doesn’t need to do it all right now. He has 40-50 more years to practice and gets things right. Baby steps and snowballing your life applies to more then money.

  • @Thespiritleads777
    @Thespiritleads777 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I agree with Nate in that preamble about kissing 😅

  • @hellodenise9612
    @hellodenise9612 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    3:15 I'm wondering why you assume there has to be tounge action???? You can just do some lip kissing??? Frankly I do not want someone sticking their tounge in my mouth in public or a first date!! Lip kissing is with no tounge is very romantic!! You guys crack me up!!!

  • @jangrosemartindale8740
    @jangrosemartindale8740 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    John, that’s why, as a teenager, I carried gum-for after.

  • @IFBBProYeo
    @IFBBProYeo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    57:49 get his testosterone checked. It could REALLY help with emotional stability & coping. He might be low or under-oprimized for decades. I've seen proper for the individual test levels CHANGE LIVES. Just that simple change could relieve depression, anxiety, self worth, work ethic and more. Of course bonding within the relationship!
    Therapy in tandem could be phenomenal.

  • @SbzeroGames
    @SbzeroGames ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Salem's story is a story I know too well with myself.

    • @sinisterchin1592
      @sinisterchin1592 ปีที่แล้ว

      Dude, me too. I just signed up for BetterHelp because of it

  • @ladycactus110
    @ladycactus110 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    A guy who tells his wife she is boring probably is an incredible bore himself (and a boar).

  • @briannamartin1803
    @briannamartin1803 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    On my parent's first date (when they were teenagers), after they ate Arby's, my dad pulled out a pack of gum and handed a piece to my mom. He wouldn't kiss her until she chewed the gum first. 😆

  • @marilynking2358
    @marilynking2358 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Oh please! I’m older & I’ve never heard of anyone having to brush their teeth before kissing! Having a mint is a great idea, but we didn’t do that 50 years ago!!!
    People now a days are so weird about germs. Our kids won’t even let their kids play in a sand box!!

    • @wmluna381
      @wmluna381 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I won't allow my kids in sandboxes either because I am not trying to clean sand out of my house and car not necessarily due to germs.

  • @rebeccaoprea9917
    @rebeccaoprea9917 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    To the second caller, sometimes we need to get what we think we want to realize it’s not what we wanted.

    • @tobiramasenju6290
      @tobiramasenju6290 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Dude wants to work less and support his family. John missed the mark on that one he needs to figure out how to get to school and then get through the next fours years until he gets a degree. Also a good lawyer because his baby mama won't let him see his kid. John was trying so hard to be right not everyone's issue is there dad left them when they were 7.

  • @TerriBennett-nf4vb
    @TerriBennett-nf4vb 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I would be cautious if this goes on too long . he could be looking elsewhere just be cautious

  • @frankirwin5684
    @frankirwin5684 ปีที่แล้ว

    Shoutout to mount olive from Hackettstown!

  • @michellec3349
    @michellec3349 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    If you both eat something garlicky it cancels each other out everyone knows that 😆

  • @eliselippert9953
    @eliselippert9953 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🇩🇰🇩🇰 From Denmark with ❤❤
    Wow!!!!! You can't be serious??? .. first time with a comment 😂 .. Kissing and food .. food is the cleanest part of kissing!
    I know we have different cultures, but didnt know it was to an extend that in the US, you have to put kissing "in the calender"
    Wow!! 😂
    Greatings from a 62 years old Dane, I'm a huge fan ❤

  • @France149
    @France149 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Not 🚫 a factor of out of sight out of mind folks topics, branding lol

  • @ValerieSunshine
    @ValerieSunshine ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Kissing is great! Romantic, and spontaneous kissing even better! Turkey 🦃 day or not!😂

    • @starlingswallow
      @starlingswallow ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My hubby and I will kiss WITH food still in our mouths! 😂😂 Not open mouth...ew....just pecks! LOL

  • @miniskillet0587
    @miniskillet0587 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Katie is like my fiance. Forcing me out and wondering why I'm not having fun. It's exhausting. Then dragging me with his family, makes feel even more defective and hope I can just go home and take off this mask that feels like acid. Let me go at my own pace.

  • @AcALives4JC
    @AcALives4JC 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂❤😂❤😂❤😂❤😂❤😂
    "I GUESS we could exchange food particles..."
    😂❤😂❤😂❤😂❤😂❤😂

  • @Kate-b5j
    @Kate-b5j 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This woman IS boring. 25 seconds in and I heard what he's hearing. She's being warned. He wants more. Make changes now.

  • @112887db
    @112887db ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i feel like the first lady absorbed absolutely nothing......

  • @asingleton8295
    @asingleton8295 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    That first caller did really sound boring. Undeveloped and hard to talk to, has lots of trouble expressing her situation and feelings.

    • @Rotting12
      @Rotting12 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Pick me up

    • @evachalupa6459
      @evachalupa6459 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh wow. You sound like fun to be with?!

  • @sheilaghburchart3513
    @sheilaghburchart3513 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think you can kiss after eating as long as what you each ate complements

  • @michellebailey206
    @michellebailey206 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Uuuuuuhhh.... sponsored commercials. Fine. Whatever. But I'm not sitting through 11 minutes of Chuck Norris. 😢

  • @IFBBProYeo
    @IFBBProYeo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    7:37 You want me to start going on awesome dates once a month! Plan getting out of town and leaving the kids with somebody . Once a month we'll manage the costs but also get you in a routine of letting your hair down and not being in Mom mode 24/7. And he can step up to treat you like the woman he married and have fun!
    GIRL!! If your husband would be happy with you just getting out of goddamn board game, You can do this! Now I would absolutely hate a board game, but it's the point of the matter 🤣🤣

  • @aprilwright2286
    @aprilwright2286 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My boyfriend calls me sunshine because I’m always brightening his days! Especially when he is sad 😊

  • @joninature
    @joninature ปีที่แล้ว

    trying out for sound garden 💀

  • @Whosonthird
    @Whosonthird 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If you’re on a date and you’re ready to kiss your mind is not on the food or the bacteria in the other person’s mouth you just want to wholeheartedly KISS them 🔥

  • @SaystheTruth3
    @SaystheTruth3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Basically John is saying.... If she doesn't live-in up this relationship, He's going to find someone that does imho... Her husband might really be trying to communicate this to her & give her a chance to. Hopefully that's the case.

    • @blueseptember2174
      @blueseptember2174 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Being unlively is no reason for cheating.

    • @tacooflove6175
      @tacooflove6175 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He said they both need to have fun and find things that are just for them that make them happy and not revolve their lives around the kids and how they both can work towards a life they love.

    • @2daFull
      @2daFull ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree so much with his advice on this. Marriage is a partnership. If anything causes you to not pour into that partnership, even kids, you should evaluate that partnership

    • @SaystheTruth3
      @SaystheTruth3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@blueseptember2174 I totally agree with you!
      Unfortunately these things do happen... John knows as well, that's why he mentioned it

  • @brendondowdy5651
    @brendondowdy5651 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If playing a board game is to much to ask then yes you are super boring.

  • @captinplanet2007
    @captinplanet2007 ปีที่แล้ว

    the spoonman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @elaine8417
    @elaine8417 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow way to make the second guy fell like cap

  • @annp6158
    @annp6158 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Looks like, for the second caller, John misunderstood "curt" to be "terse". One can be terse but curt has a rude connotation and is not okay.

  • @christinamartinez8132
    @christinamartinez8132 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love kissing but I can't kiss my boyfriend if we haven't both brushed our teeth. Good hygiene is really important to me. I never listen to John and his coworkers conversations, I fast forward through that and the advertisement. I like to get right to the callers. The first caller sounds like a stick in the mud. She definitely needs to lighten up.

  • @nathaliebasile6168
    @nathaliebasile6168 ปีที่แล้ว

    Kiss kiss 💋 hug kiss 💋

  • @jenniferbassett3001
    @jenniferbassett3001 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wait a second, why didn't you ask the guy with the baseball cap between Jenna and Kelly, his feelings about kissing? Not nice 😉

  • @krissypeters1517
    @krissypeters1517 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love you John but how can hunting something make you feel alive ????
    You’re KILLING

  • @Cosmicvzn
    @Cosmicvzn ปีที่แล้ว

    Im vegan so my partner has to wait to kiss me after eating meat🤮🤢

  • @cynthialoera3094
    @cynthialoera3094 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Jajajajajaja super least romantic group jajajajajaja

  • @chairdewealth1663
    @chairdewealth1663 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ok, now you're married. Are you brushing your teeth every time you kiss? I don't think it's practical.

  • @Misbehavedcollection
    @Misbehavedcollection ปีที่แล้ว +1

    First