❤ you are so incredibly intuitive and brilliant! Seriously I don't think any of us could get better advice from a professional psychologist or psychiatrist!. You just hit the nail on the head so often it's incredible! Thank you for being here
I cant go and talk to ppl about anything related to cptsd bc of their reaction ( victim card and etc ) ppl with cptsd are so lucky to have a channel like this , to hear from someone who understands us thank u
Family and people I think of as mentors are so unwilling to attempt to empathize or support us in the ways we need, it’s disturbing and ultra hard to recover from. aka the spread of cptsd which often gets diagnosed inaccurately as bpd. Either way growing up neurotypical and then becoming neurodivergent bc of the stormy atmosphere…🤔…yes this is a good place to land. I love this 🧚🩵💜🩷
@LHydro I think I understand what you’re going through. I now know what I have suffered through is cptsd all my life, which it has almost ruined. When it re-emerges I start feeling like I can’t do anything anymore. The bad childhood fairy has been a god send and helped me to realise that I’m not crazy, but I’m dealing with neurological disregulation brought about by my negative childhood experience/trauma.
It explains what I have been feeling all weekend…crying my eyes out because I am so frustrated with myself and can’t seem to get out of this endless cycle.
I literally have zero people I can talk to about anything. So I’ve just been slowly learning and applying things to heal my own self. It’s hard having noone to vent to or cry with.
If you’re interested, Anna has a whole course on connecting with people called ‘Connection Bootcamp’. Here’s a link if you want to check it out: bit.ly/CCF_Connection Nika@TeamFairy
I'm in the EXACT SAME PLACE you are!! 😢 So guess what? That means we relate to each other & can be helpful to each other 🎉 WOW! THAT'S BEAUTIFUL ❤️ Just reach out to me & maybe we start with 2 & slowly increase to a community! I feel you, I hear you, we need each other. God Bless you my friend ✝️
Amy, I have the same issues- I'm trying to find places to go without having to pay money, I found a church I really like. I will join Anna's bootcamp when I can afford it. you can reach me out -if you want.
My procrastination is part “what’s the point anymore?” My entire life anytime I had something I cared about or was proud of it was was either destroyed or taken from me.
I wish the excellent counselors we have here would say more about that. How we can fear to try to accomplish anything because we know there are people who we're related to who will do their best to destroy whatever we create -- because they've done that before. 😮😢❤
Trauma-driven thinking can be discouraging. But never forget: Healing is possible! The Daily Practice can help with procrastination by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can try it for free here if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
I know that I struggel to be good with me. That's why I had to go no contact with my family, because they feel good more I destroy my self and I feel it less strong over the time, without them... I need to learn to give me the permission to take care of me. Treating me bad makes me less anxious 😥, I feel tired....
It helps me sometimes by setting a timer for 15 minutes and tell myself I can at least do that. You can get a lot done in 15 minutes. Then the timer goes off and you are now into the project and set it for another 15. Music definitely helps! I have a list of 20 things to do all the time because I take care of my parents and their bills and I get VERY overwhelmed. I am afraid to pay my bills because the money is low. We had some structural repairs on the house. I KNOW I feel better when I cross things off of my list. It's getting started that I dread. I do the same thing about going to bed or take a shower. Once I am in, I'm good. It's getting there..... Thank you for being here fairy!!! Loveyoumeanit!!!
I relate so much to what you've said here Lisa! I like knowing I'm not alone so thank you for sharing. This channel is really helping me and I'm really grateful.
I tackled a scary online form by staying up late and listening to a rainy day in Tokyo for some reason. It somehow allowed me to concentrate. Even through my migraine.
I just want to add that there is something so emotionally comforting and real/authentic about you and your videos. You have wonderful energy and thanks for all you do. You have been a safe and informative haven and hugs to you and everyone here in the comment section.
I’m a huge procrastinator, but I’m a little better now that I started eating better. I stopped wine, carbs, sugar and all processed food. I think stopping these things healed my brain or maybe in the process of healing my brain.
@@PracticalChristianWarfarewhat I try to do is _delay._ If you can eat some carrots or healthy leftovers before that bowl of ice cream, then you're making progress - and it's real progress! The less sugar you eat, the less your body will be addicted to it. I've not beaten it myself, however, when I fall back into old ways, this is what pulls me out - small steps.
This is my safe space for all things CPTSD. I feel like most people dismiss this concept quickly or downplay it. On the outside I appear as if I have it together but inside I’m stuck in freeze mode and unable to show up in the world as I like and live my purpose. Thanks so much for these videos ❤️ they have really helped
I find it difficult to not compare. I find it through others that a horrible thing to do. Money is a problem for most trauma survivors. It's important to try pt work whatever to survive in this world.
Yesterday I thought to myself:" At Least Im moving". Moving in a disconnected mode, but at least Im moving. I even did something very important but ScAry: switched my high rate credit card to one with 0% interest for 15 months. Im resigned to pay it off by paying My Own Way and not much else.
Here's what I did: I made a poster board of post-it notes, one per task - just getting all the tasks out of ny head made a huge difference. Next, I chose no more than 3 items per day. Sometimes 1 was enough, sometimes the task was taking an item and breaking it into smaller tasks! (And I counted the tab as done!) Through this method, I got over 300 must-do items done in 6 months! Then I "fell off the wagon." I think an important step in any organizational system is an easy way to get back on the wagon. I'm trying to start my list again, but it's hard. I think planning a "get back on the wagon" system is an important piece too.
I’ve always found that doing things for myself (and the procrastination associated with those things) comes from my lack of self-worth. It’s difficult to do things for yourself when you don’t feel worthy. Doing things for others: easy. I’ve always been too much of a giver. But doing things for myself…. For me, the thing that has really helped has been to imagine ‘little me’, telling myself that “we are worthy”, whenever I need to do anything. I’m not just doing it for me. I do it for both of us; and that’s makes it a little easier. I’m doing it for that little girl who had so many hopes and dreams that I was never able to follow though with.
Here's an example of what I do to myself: my dentist complimented me re how good I am at taking care of my teeth. I could almost feel something click inside myself. So- yeah, I stopped taking care of my teeth. Procrastination is part of my self- destructive stuff. I don't know what to do if I feel good. I have to ruin it for myself.
When I get a compliment ( which is rare) I usually don’t feel as if I earned and deserve it. I say thank you out loud but internally I dismiss it. I don’t trust the complimenter and therefore I don’t believe the compliment.
Ok well PTSD came around in my late 30s early 40s not as a child, however I have a hard time even bathing. I function just enough to go to work, but everything else is toast. Soul sickness is the perfect terminology. Just to have someone to talk about this gives me more hope.
Hello Celena, that's so hard. I know that too well, don't shower ower monthes, my hair don't look durty and i wash my self, but can't even shower, wouldn't share that else than here. That sommer i'll have to, because of my nerves that needs cold or i go stick, menaupose and cptsd whire together and fier together. Now i know why i loos my appetite every sommer and feel much better when it's cold, i want to work my self up to eyce bathe, that must feel so good on my nervous systeme . I know what i need but have to work my self up to it. Do you know the daily practice, did realy help me a lot and you have free accès two zoom meditation and learn the daily practice. Go easy, lissen to you 💖🙏 We are fighting sisters 💕
I don't usually comment, mostly a lurker here but... This video (watching currently) might just help me get off rock bottom and get my life back together. Thank you for taking the leap and having the courage to make this channel :) It really is a blessing for those of us struggling. I used to be a high achiever but lately I have been very down. When people ask me what's wrong... I had no idea how to even begin to explain what I was going through. But this video puts things into perspective. Again, thank you so much for your work and dedication 💝
I am so glad you took the step up. I don't have childhood trauma, I have developed this deregulation paralysis, loss of executive function over the past 3.5 years from grief, carer burnout. My little bother, Mother and Father all dying, plus other stuff. Going from a high functioning person to the extreme opposite. You made me laugh today, I thought is she here somewhere as you describe me to a tee. All the time I spend frozen and procrastinating I could have done all the things I'm avoiding. As I was watching, I got up and started clearing up, my problem is that when I do get energy I get distracted and start a side quest and end up with a bigger mess as I am sure so does everyone else. Anyway your delivery I really resonate with. You're a star. I will make my way through your links and episodes (whilst doing stuff) because I always feel positive after watching. Thank you.
For many of us, we don’t strive to do big things, we work to survive. The striving can cause mental problems that complicate CPTSD. It’s constant hustle and comparing yourself to others that’s produces more difficulties.
"cPTSD feels uncomfortable when you ascend to a new level." YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS I just accepted a new job as a supervisor but I keep on regressing to negative thinking. It is so difficult for me to not think in the negative because of the stuff I have going on but your videos help bring me back to reality!! KEEP THEM COMING!!!
@@khalida02 Thank you. I thought about that too. It's a symptom and I've been working on it. Making progress with Anna's pomodoro technique and just doing the best I can. I appreciate your comment. What a great community!
@@HappyRisks that’s wonderful! I’m just starting to work on this… I’ve been aware of how cptsd affects our environment as far as disorganization, and knew it affected procrastination, but I wasn’t ready to work on it I guess. We receive information when we are ready for it. I want to watch the one about organizing, again.
You have a lot of guts you are as brave as any special force soldier fighting a war!!! Because that’s what this feels like!!!. I am so grateful to you. I can’t put everything in a text, I just wanted you to know that. And as a mother, look what a model you are to your sons, and grandchildren, and how this will carry down. Happy Mother’s Day, Anna.🙏💕💕
Feeling really called out by 7:46. I make the list, I convince myself it’s all pretty simple. I get overwhelmed that I’m not fast enough, I get stuck on #2, I watch TH-cam until bed. Repeat.
I am a queen of criticism, and most people who have heard me say anything will verify that; BUT, I can find NOTHING in any of your videos ( I've seen at least 20) to criticize. Rather, the opposite. Anna, you truly are, for me, the Functional Adulthood Fairy. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 💯👌
I married a boy who was adopted into a home with emotionally unavailable parents. He was also bullied in school K-12, and gained no support. Today, he has many hopes and dreams that do not get started. I spent 6 years supporting him and pushing him to make his dreams a reality, and he just gave up each time. I've given up too. Focusing on him, only to have him go back to the job he hates and remain an angry, grouchy person, cost me my mental health. I've learned that I can't help him--only he can help himself, and I've learned to focus myself and my kids instead.
I live in florida and I definitely feel like being outside was used as punishment when I was younger. This makes sense to me now because whenever people talk about going out in nature being relaxing i literally panic
Thank you for sharing. I encourage you to try The Daily Practice free course. It is a great way to process fears and resentment and it can help with getting regulated: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
Anna, one of the things I really like about you is that you talk about the exact things I struggle with. Like feeling the need to vacuum the entire house when what I know I should be doing is recording and editing my first TH-cam video. I've been preparing, studying, and thinking I want to do this for months. Thinking, "I can do it!" but then this weird hesitation kicks in and I really need to clean something, or go outside and work in the garden. What IS that? Sigh. The struggle is real.
Time is ticking and life is passing by...my Spirit knows yet something is holding me back!😢 Thanks a million Anna for outlining this so clearly. I have so much written work that's waiting to be published. I'm ready to do it. I guess I'm underfunctioning in executing my own projects while I'm a high achiever at work. Lord help me to take the 1st step to get out of this freezemode!
Listening to your videos is like a step by step guide on what to do and how to do it, because I've been stuck on How to get started....then doubt creeps in. Other things that contribute to procrastination are distractions. Just when I get ready to do some work. Then I will think of tyding up 1st or get a cup of tea. This may sound small but it's a pattern that ends up causing delays and unmet timeframes. Especially because going back on track ends up not happening. I'm glad I came across your videos. I would really like your help and to work on your advice.
I feel mighty foolish. I actually saved this video to my "watch later" and "from surviving thriving" folders! I had to admit this foolish stumble to someone. But, more importantly. A Very Happy Mother's Day to all you Moms out there. I love this, channel but it's difficult relating to this topic too completely. But putting off this video on procrastination is actually funny. I've learned to laugh with myself. (Not at...) Thanks Doc. You're exactly what I need. Amd I'm grateful. ❤ A fan from Canada.
It really upsets me to know that you gave up so many dreams for the exact reasons that you're helping me through daily - I really want you to know how important your work has been in even getting me out of bed - I'm leaving the house for the second time today and I wouldn't be if i didn't understand my dysregulated emotional patterns just a little better then i did yesterday, and the day before - thank you for being so open and vulnerable with your personal experiences it's so easy to see myself in the letters you read and the experiences you share, and I truly hope you manage to reclaim ALL AND ANY creative power that may have been relinquished on your journey - I want to see your movie! Please make a video directing us to some of your personal endeavours, I'd love to read your book as well!! And sabotage.... ouch. I truly believe in being there for everyone and supporting the community talent pool so when people sabotage and compete it hurts me to my core... I think it's more of a reliving of trauma then anything elseI've had similar experiences, but I've always been able to create boundaries surrounding that particular subject and I'm sorry you didn't feel you had a voice. Your voice is globally powerful and you save lives - thank you.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am so glad I found your channel. From childhood trauma which the the repercussions followed me into adulthood, I have been on a rollercoaster of everything you have said in this video. This video really reasonates with me. Currently going through a crash at the moment, with disastrous consequences if I continue in my freeze state. The takeaway for me from this video, is movement. Create a list and doing something everyday has been amazing in the past. Binge watching your videos and the light bulbs are flashing all around me. Thank you so much, words are not enough to express what you have done for me and no doubt millions of people who watch you videos. God bless you ❤
You should be proud of yourself, your videos are awesome, and help so many! Boy oh boy, paralysis is a word I can identify with! Add adhd to it, and I spin as well, fun times😂😂😂I appreciate what you have to say, I've learned to bite off smaller chunks to avoid the overwhelm, and I'm so proud of myself, I can now accomplish by small actions. Can't thank you enough, It makes me feel so much better, not staying in frozen mode, by taking baby steps of action really helps!👍😁 I also learn alot by reading the comments from the people who comment here, cheers!
Wow, "squandering time", is my inner critic's favourite term for how I've been living my life. Knowingly squandering my life, my time. Definitely want to do better yet... 😞 I'm going to go for a walk in the sun. Thanks so much.
Remember to get vitamin D if that sun's not shining and, if you can, a little b vitamins and magnesium. Sometimes the combo of those two lifts my mood. ❤ Wishing you well
Thank you for sharing but I had an awesome loving childhood experience. However your teaching on COMPLEX PTSD helped me understand by behavior these last years. You see the emotional trauma that I experienced was through an abusive marriage, condescending church, and verbally abusing employment -- yes as an adult. I couldn’t understand why I’ve been struggling so much in being productive - putting things off yes by reading Facebook or Instagram postings, playing games on my phone - saying I’ll relax and play for an hour that turned out to be 3 to 4 hours. Thank because I took charge today , that I’ve been putting off for 2 months and called a college about taking some refresher classes. Ty you I’m will be paying closer attention to my daily habits -- it’s a start not looking for an over night miracle just a start the beginning for change! Thank you for the insight I just thought I was getting older and lazy which bothered me because I was never like this when I was single thank you! ( for give all spelling and grammatical errors .)😊
i appreciate all the effort & mental / emotional energy it takes to make these videos. your videos have helped me so much, even saved me on many levels.
I have just found you and I am absolutely so grateful that I did. It’s like you know exactly how I feel and you know my problems in getting things done. I am soooooo grateful to have someone to listen to who completely gets me. I have learned so much in the 3 videos I’ve watched and I can’t wait to absorb more. Thank you!!! ❤
Freeze mode that is it. My son's all have it as do I Recovery came slow and I am sober and benzi free for 710 days Boys are grown, my oldest died suddenly 6years ago prompting us to heal. Smart lady I feel blessed to hear you.
This insightful video sheds light on how childhood trauma can manifest as procrastination, a crucial revelation for personal development. 👏 Embracing small, consistent actions can effectively break this cycle, enhancing personal productivity.
You make me cry with gratitude and hope Bam! Right on time! Just when I should be getting a job asap. Eternally grateful for you, Anna (and team!). Providing me with an explanation for my weirdness and helping me to live better and happier. So very empowering. I was not blaming anyone and I have been marinating in self-loathing / over-distracting myself... I want to have goals and projects. I want to look forward to the rest of my life. Leave this dull waiting room I have been living in.
I'm so glad you talked about crashes. I've become more and more aware of it, but had no idea how to put it into words or how to describe it to someone. I had a very traumatic experience recently with a sibling and it really threw me for a loop for days/weeks. I truly felt traumatized. It was hard to stop thinking about it or know how to process it. It still bothers me, but I'm somewhat better. Your teaching on these things helps me understand why it's so hard for me to not internalize that kind of experience.
I’m looking down at the way my un-hemmed way-too-long pants have been making me look. ie clueless, crazy, mentally disturbed, mentally challenged, homeless? And God knows what else. Been putting off the easy task because I inwardly feel scared of shortening them too much and then having ppl think I am even more outta control than I am afraid of currently looking to them… I got these adorable paisley pants before 2020 and each time I’ve worn them I have told myself “tonight I will grin and bear it and then I’ll never have to wear them looking like this next time.”
This happened to me when I had my first big successes publishing my work & winning awards. There was this app where people could post anonymous "constructive criticism," but really most of it was just mean and bullying. I decided I would download the app & leave little compliments and happy notes for people because I didn't like what I was seeing ... then I saw my profile. Several people had written that my writing was good, but I was a liar and everyone hates me. My work won awards, but they felt so hollow after that. Meanwhile, someone who was jealous of my work got a major publication to delete my essay, which had gone viral. Someone else published it and it won another award, but it was also the last time I even submitted any creative writing. I am getting back to it now. This is a helpful video!
0:36 .....and then I made it stop. And I started bawling at you saying this. There's an answer!?!?! 😭😭😭😭😭 Pushing through for you doing these videos makes you happy.... Could it be there's something IN us that doesn't want ourselves to be happy? Maybe we feel guilty for being happy?
💯🔥💯🏆😎🥰🥰 You're AWESOME! Thank God for you and your work!! It's really important to do what and be who you're supposed to be!!! You're lovely and we're lucky to have you here with us, even after and during your healing!!! The world needs you and we're glad to have you!! 😁
Wow, this was incredibly helpful. I’ve had this going on since my freshman year of college, 40 years ago. You described me to a T. I’m going to listen again and figure out what moving forward at a sustainable pace looks like for me. Many thanks 💕
OMG I really, REALLY love these longer compilation videos. They're awesome because we get to hear related information but presented at different times and in different ways. OMG by the time I reached the 3rd segment, with Anna in a white shirt, I was so clicking with EVERYTHING she was sharing!! My heart relaxed and I was able to find such a gentle, compassionate attitude towards younger me.....the me from 30 years ago. I remember in my mid 20s getting a job and feeling like it was so wrong for me because I wasn't happy. My brother, also my boss, said "You don't know what you're talking about. This is a great industry, oil and gas, and you don't know enough about it to judge it. So you need to commit for 5 years then make a judgement." SO I did and found ways to force myself to do a job I hated. It was ONLY when I refused to go on without anymore until I HONORED my own deeply held desires that I found a better path for me, computers. BUT I STILL struggle with this path because it too has some very negative aspects for me. This video helps me feel like I'm not so bad for feeling the way I'm feeling and that I have found ways to take care of my needs while also finding work. I've been crashing for 8 years over and over again and living off of savings. It's unsustainable but I'm now turning 57 and terrified that it'll continue but I keep trying yet again to find work that I can do, sustain and feel energized and passionate about because everywhere I look, it's just more of the same. Disgruntled people, working in businesses, suppressing others, only in it for the money, stress and more stress and "We're running a business here not a daycare" kind of mentality.....just many bosses upon bosses that are like Anna's old boss that suppressed her writing and I can't help but think "NO!" and then get down because that's the majority of what I see when imagining going back to work because it's such a common issue. And then my brothers voice comes crashing back in saying "You don't have to like work. It's work afterall. Most people hate their jobs. Doesn't matter....get up and do it anyways" and I just think....."No I can't" and that's a crash then I start the cycle all over again. Ugh I want to be free from this but not sure how and where to start....it all seems so damned complex, complicated and confusing.
Glad to have found this as I've noticed since having Long Covid Vaxx( but not entirely z) increased procrastinating! Helping me figure it out and gently start..blessings
You mentioned something I never really thought about. " What if I succeed, and have to keep doing this forever!" I always thought I was afraid of failing, now I am thinking about, just maybe, I am afraid of succeeding.
I took 3 steps to heal my inner child third step is ongoing for sure. Step one for me was finding him I had to go back to the place I was hurt once I found him I made him safe and made agreements with my self I basically said I'm going to be my own father and keep him safe and meet his needs i left him there for a few months third step was telling him he was safe and I loved him I still have lots of work to do but you are helping me to understand my self better thank you for your work you are a blessing
You are truly so very gifted at what you do. Thank you so much for this video. Your videos are the only things helping me truly understand why I behave as I do. I feel extremely stuck despite heing told how smart I am. I am going to watch this video over and over again let the information solidify in my mind. Could you *please* do a video on how to actually organize yourself with a schedule to create routine? Everything is so messy, cluttered and chaotic, inside and out, without organization. It's overwhelming.
Thank you for watching, we're glad Anna's videos are helpful for you! I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It can help with procrastination by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can then create your own list of tasks and start from there. Here's a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Good luck! Nika@TeamFairy
Hi. When you began to talk in this video, I felt as if you were describing me to the T. I felt as if I was the only one. I felt as if you have watched me all my life and telling my story. Of course I'm not the only one. There are millions of people just like you and I in this situation. I appreciate you talking about this and helping us find solutions to our problems. Also, as you began to describe the symptom, it was very overwhelming and exhausting. Even though I'm trying to help myself, feels as if whatever little or a lot I do to help myself sometime feels as if I have made no progress because the problem still there. The way I cope is by taking baby steps and not look back. Only look forward. The image came to me of a horse that has those things on the side of their eyes to help it look forward. Lol, funny but true I have to stay focused. Not easy, but doable. Thank you for helping us. One day very soon, I hope I can help others in whichever area they need help. You have no idea how much I appreciate you. Thanks again.
Im the opposite. No one took care of me so im stressed about everything. I even make sure the birds, squirrels and raccoons that visit my backyard want for not. I'll have to convince myself to skip a workout if my back hurts. I think procrastination happens when we have filled our lives with stuff we don't want to do. There's never an end to the bs, so why bother? We have to reward ourselves after we work hard. We need something to look forward to.
Exactly! I have a very healthy and strict daily routine that I have been increasingly realizing is causing more stress than relief most days. Trying to find a balance between positive actions and learn the ability to relax, something I have NEVER been able to do as there is always something else on the to do list and I have 'failed' if I don't get it all accomplished. And yes, the birds, raccoons, possums and whatever other critters want to visit ALWAYS have food and water available...I really get it. And it is soooooooo difficult to function in a typical 9 to 5 corporate job, can not keep a stable momentum. Thank you Anna for so much, including saying so many absolutely right on target CPTSD realities that I have never been able to articulate.
I think this is it. I think procrastination is the psychological trauma that gets developed in the psyche when our boundaries have been crossed too many times in terms of what to do. It feels like we have no say in what we are being asked off and that creates anxiety.
I am suffering tremendously from procrastination. I literally have not been able to make myself move forward with work because I'm suffering again from a physical injury which brings up all the other painful stuff in my life. I joined today with the annual membership. It's a step in the right direction.
You're an inspiration Anna. I have this summer to come up with an at home business and it's hard because of procrastination. I feel like such a lazy bum. This video really explains it. I gotta do the work plain and simple. Thank you❤
Ohhh that one is hard to swalow, but it's pointless😢 I have a future and a year ago I was in desperation I feel Happy smelling frech cut grass, Happy to be able to feel it. I was so numb for decades and I never felt like this. Thank you for the daily practice, I went from 10 min ones a day to 15min, than 20min and after I made twice a day every two or three days. I did the same as too stuck to it, that's the most important part for me, I need to practice every day or I won't have the chance for the life I deserve. To go for twice a day I gave me a challenge of two weeks, twice a day 20 min. I'm in day 6 and I feel that much benefits that motivation won't be a big challenge 🎉❤❤❤ How can I thank you for saving my life 🙌🏼💞 I never felt that much supported, empowered validated and so much more They are no Words Strong enough to Express my Gratitude 🙏🏼❤❤ A year ago I was in desperation and now I have faith that it's reacheble to have the life I deserve and be capable to give my participation to the community ❤
@@DavesFitLife for me too I had the informations a year ago with 53 and the menaupose yeay... The menopause and the anxiety are weired toogether and I stop slowly my xanax and morphine, impossible to do without the daily practice 🧚 . I take half less xanax, now 8mg and 200mg less morphine, now 400mg and they gave me 1g morphine at the begining. But even when I was clean I felt so numb and over stressed all the time, with 40 I began to fear for my life and decided to medicat till I found an other way and I found it 🧚🙏🏼💞🙌🏼🍀 I feel I come back too life like never befor and that's the most important too me, because without feeling life has no taste or color and nothing realy matters It's one of the worst symptômes I know 😥 Too feel that I feel again coulden't be a better signe of healing. I do the daily practice for around three monthes, regulary but not daily twice a day and since six daiys I do twice a day 20 min meditation and I'm amazed by the differentes after only six days and feeling come back to life, litteraly I was not Here and three monthes, that's very short for a result I didn't get and I tried so many things... Thank you Anna, without YOU 🧚 💕 by by me.... 🤯
Yesterday I organized my refrigerator for the first time in my life because I learned how to from TH-cam videos. I keep opening the door and looking at it it’s so inspiring. Because I made an effort to take care of myself and make my day better that way, it spurred me to make a good dinner too. I had been having trouble doing that. Of course, it spurred me to me to do the next thing too. Anyway. Whatever angle or region inspires you, DO A THING. Right?
For the longest I called it laziness until you saw how badly it was affecting my life but it felt like I couldn’t do anything about it. I procrastinate with almost everything and say oh I like doing things last minute because it gives me a rush and then I get it done fast but then I would get upset at myself when things took longer than expected (ie homework, work assignments, etc). I just found out I have CPRSD and paralysis is the worst
I am really glad it all worked out for you, sincerely. You do it well! As for me, being in the middle of a move, I do not feel so motivated, and also in the latter quarter of my life--spent on others, dedicated to my Creator-Redeemer. This video was put in my path this morning. I stopped it, saving for now. I would not have been able to manage it earlier. Even now, it is quite exhausting for me to hear. Good truth is presented here. I know it will help many. It is just an overwhelm for this time in life. I am very glad you broke free and became successful. Even the desire for that has left me and all I want to do is get moved and get settled again. Nothing more, any more. God bless your endeavors!
What I have learned to get my list in good forward momentum is to put things that I don't have any hesitation on at the top of the list. I use things like " pee, drink coffee, put cup in the sink, eat breakfast, etc." And check them off as i do them. It creates the forward motion that i need. 😊
-Working very hard on my mindfulness and it's starting to kick in. I'm recognizing when my ego is taking over and I'm thinking irrationally and from all fears I avoided everything that caused me any frustration because I felt like I just couldn't take it. It hit me like a ton of bricks one day that IF something bad is coming down the pike that I cannot handle but it's not here now, why not enjoy this moment? why waste a moment of happiness when eventually sadness is coming. I'm suffering for something twice this way. I understand what suffering means now and I choose not to as much as possible. Thank you so much for helping me find my way. Peace.
Anna you hit the nail on the head for me I actually know you from years ago with the international call meditation. I've used resentment fear strategy for years and struggling with regulation. To top things off I've been in a 30 year marriage to a man on the narcissistic spectrum.I was in a deep dark cave. Your work has helped me in practical ways to live LIFE. Thank you so much. Im working on digging myself out...... to find another place to live, study for a major exam that will enable me to return to the work force and be financially sober and self sufficent. So at least 3 times a day I say IT is Hard. and I AM WORTH IT. I deserve to flourish prosper and thrive❤
Thank you for sharing! Glad you're free from a relationship with a narcissist. Now is the time to heal and start a new, better life. You can do it! We're all rooting for you! Nika@TeamFairy
This is exactly where I am at right now and the first video of yours I’ve seen and I just want to say truly… thank you. Thank you. You are amazing and it’s really liberating to know there is a reason I am like this. I feel heard finally without having to say or do anything.
This one is so spot on! The best of all your videos I’ve watched. Planning to contemplate, work it out, convert it into an action plan, review multiple times, adjust my goals and start flying in moderation towards my ideal future. I’m feeling so grateful you’ve uploaded this exactly todo, I had an intake for ADHD/Autism when we simultaneously concluded with coaching on procrastination in relation with childhood trauma, exactly like with Jacob’s letter! Funny universe. With lots of love, Iris, Rotterdam, The Netherlands 🥰
thank you for this. I needed to hear this. I can’t elaborate on my trauma right now cuz it still feels ongoing but I am just grateful that I’m not alone n that we have a wonderful human like yourself giving us these resources. Thank you again. Have a blessed day.
Well, thank you. I really really needed hear this. You just described so much of what I’ve been going through for the last few years now I understand why. It’s also very helpful just to listen to other comments. Thank you so much.
I agree with these folks, you come across very genuine and approachable. This video is the first of your's that Ive seen. I really like you. I have procrastination. Pretty bad. But I had a good childhood, so that is not the etiology. In 2015, my mom committed suicide. I was her caregiver and I found her. Ive been frozen since. I thaw out a little from time to time but never much. Ive got a wonderful husband who is kind and patient and a good earner so I dont have to work outside the home. I dont feel anxiety or stress very much/often and I always choose the same activity to do instead. I started a hobby in 2020 and I love it. I make money with it too. But my problem is that I dont list my work on the site to sell. Ive only got 2 or 3 items listed and Ive made dozens of much more beautiful pieces since the last time I listed something. My shop is full. But Im frozen. I have a list. Its updated and current. But still I havent called my elderly father in months. But if there is a biological or parasympathetic aspect to this maybe I can snap out of this! Thank you so much for this video
I have immense respect for you and your team. Your channel, content are awesome. Thank you for all you do. I shared this one on fb.
We thank you! And thanks for spreading Anna's content to the world!
Nika@TeamFairy
❤ you are so incredibly intuitive and brilliant! Seriously I don't think any of us could get better advice from a professional psychologist or psychiatrist!. You just hit the nail on the head so often it's incredible! Thank you for being here
Maybe a more to the point vid for people talking themselves off ledges? I've lost interest in small talk format. I'm honestly s8ck of blinking.
Good 👍 done menarussell, that's fantastique 🙏🙌
Maybe another channel for you?@@IamKai8947
I cant go and talk to ppl about anything related to cptsd bc of their reaction ( victim card and etc ) ppl with cptsd are so lucky to have a channel like this , to hear from someone who understands us thank u
Seriously! It's the worse
Family and people I think of as mentors are so unwilling to attempt to empathize or support us in the ways we need, it’s disturbing and ultra hard to recover from. aka the spread of cptsd which often gets diagnosed inaccurately as bpd. Either way growing up neurotypical and then becoming neurodivergent bc of the stormy atmosphere…🤔…yes this is a good place to land. I love this 🧚🩵💜🩷
Absolutely, but I try to believe one of these people, someday, may understand my pain.
Extreme C-PTSD. Isolated.
@LHydro I think I understand what you’re going through. I now know what I have suffered through is cptsd all my life, which it has almost ruined. When it re-emerges I start feeling like I can’t do anything anymore. The bad childhood fairy has been a god send and helped me to realise that I’m not crazy, but I’m dealing with neurological disregulation brought about by my negative childhood experience/trauma.
what exactly do you mean by the term "victim card"?
If I ever doubted I have CPTSD, then the section about procrastination and crashing got me.
I hear you. I'm in my fiftys and wish I learned this decades ago. But it's never too late. Be well.
@@justincase6588 67 here
Yup, same. This video 100% confirmed it.
It explains what I have been feeling all weekend…crying my eyes out because I am so frustrated with myself and can’t seem to get out of this endless cycle.
I literally have zero people I can talk to about anything. So I’ve just been slowly learning and applying things to heal my own self. It’s hard having noone to vent to or cry with.
If you’re interested, Anna has a whole course on connecting with people called ‘Connection Bootcamp’. Here’s a link if you want to check it out: bit.ly/CCF_Connection
Nika@TeamFairy
I'm in the EXACT SAME PLACE you are!! 😢 So guess what? That means we relate to each other & can be helpful to each other 🎉 WOW! THAT'S BEAUTIFUL ❤️ Just reach out to me & maybe we start with 2 & slowly increase to a community! I feel you, I hear you, we need each other. God Bless you my friend ✝️
Amy we're social creatures & we need others. However it shows up - a mentor, a spiritual director, reaching out of yours & my comfort zone ✝️
Amy, I have the same issues- I'm trying to find places to go without having to pay money, I found a church I really like. I will join Anna's
bootcamp when I can afford it. you can reach me out -if you want.
Yes exactly. Loneliness is the worst. Sometimes all you want is someone to tell you that “it’s going to be okay”
My procrastination is part “what’s the point anymore?”
My entire life anytime I had something I cared about or was proud of it was was either destroyed or taken from me.
I wish the excellent counselors we have here would say more about that. How we can fear to try to accomplish anything because we know there are people who we're related to who will do their best to destroy whatever we create -- because they've done that before. 😮😢❤
@@amarbyrd2520 because they're wounded too and don't know it, so don't try to learn to regulate ?
Trauma-driven thinking can be discouraging. But never forget: Healing is possible! The Daily Practice can help with procrastination by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can try it for free here if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy so true. Thanks to your sharing your journey and truly wanting to help, we can get to a better place.
I know that
I struggel to be good with me.
That's why I had to go no contact with my family, because they feel good more I destroy my self and I feel it less strong over the time, without them... I need to learn to give me the permission to take care of me.
Treating me bad makes me less anxious 😥, I feel tired....
It helps me sometimes by setting a timer for 15 minutes and tell myself I can at least do that. You can get a lot done in 15 minutes. Then the timer goes off and you are now into the project and set it for another 15. Music definitely helps! I have a list of 20 things to do all the time because I take care of my parents and their bills and I get VERY overwhelmed. I am afraid to pay my bills because the money is low. We had some structural repairs on the house. I KNOW I feel better when I cross things off of my list. It's getting started that I dread. I do the same thing about going to bed or take a shower. Once I am in, I'm good. It's getting there..... Thank you for being here fairy!!! Loveyoumeanit!!!
Thanks for sharing! You're doing a great job!
Nika@TeamFairy
I relate so much to what you've said here Lisa! I like knowing I'm not alone so thank you for sharing. This channel is really helping me and I'm really grateful.
I think setting a timer may help me. Thank you for the tip.
I tackled a scary online form by staying up late and listening to a rainy day in Tokyo for some reason. It somehow allowed me to concentrate. Even through my migraine.
@@Iconoclast1919 Awwwww! I am just now seeing this reply. Hugs!!
I just want to add that there is something so emotionally comforting and real/authentic about you and your videos. You have wonderful energy and thanks for all you do. You have been a safe and informative haven and hugs to you and everyone here in the comment section.
What a kind thing to say! We appreciate it!
Nika@TeamFairy
I’m a huge procrastinator, but I’m a little better now that I started eating better. I stopped wine, carbs, sugar and all processed food. I think stopping these things healed my brain or maybe in the process of healing my brain.
I can't imagine the self-control it would take for me to stop sugar. But I bet this alone would improve my symptoms 😬🥴
Thank you for sharing this.
@@PracticalChristianWarfarewhat I try to do is _delay._
If you can eat some carrots or healthy leftovers before that bowl of ice cream, then you're making progress - and it's real progress! The less sugar you eat, the less your body will be addicted to it.
I've not beaten it myself, however, when I fall back into old ways, this is what pulls me out - small steps.
Thank you Suzie, helpful informations 💕🙌
@@kikijewell2967 when I crave sugar, eating protein always takes the immediate desire away and it’s filling.
This is my safe space for all things CPTSD. I feel like most people dismiss this concept quickly or downplay it. On the outside I appear as if I have it together but inside I’m stuck in freeze mode and unable to show up in the world as I like and live my purpose. Thanks so much for these videos ❤️ they have really helped
I know what you mean, sending love❤
Thanks for watching! Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
I find it difficult to not compare. I find it through others that a horrible thing to do. Money is a problem for most trauma survivors. It's important to try pt work whatever to survive in this world.
I don't find learning easy either but I am trying.
Yesterday I thought to myself:" At Least Im moving".
Moving in a disconnected mode, but at least Im moving. I even did something very important but ScAry: switched my high rate credit card to one with 0% interest for 15 months. Im resigned to pay it off by paying My Own Way and not much else.
Here's what I did: I made a poster board of post-it notes, one per task - just getting all the tasks out of ny head made a huge difference.
Next, I chose no more than 3 items per day. Sometimes 1 was enough, sometimes the task was taking an item and breaking it into smaller tasks! (And I counted the tab as done!)
Through this method, I got over 300 must-do items done in 6 months!
Then I "fell off the wagon."
I think an important step in any organizational system is an easy way to get back on the wagon.
I'm trying to start my list again, but it's hard. I think planning a "get back on the wagon" system is an important piece too.
Thank you for sharing! Good job!
Nika@TeamFairy
A "get back on the wagon" system sounds perfect!
worrying about what others think is wasted energy. being you is beautiful
I’ve always found that doing things for myself (and the procrastination associated with those things) comes from my lack of self-worth.
It’s difficult to do things for yourself when you don’t feel worthy. Doing things for others: easy. I’ve always been too much of a giver. But doing things for myself….
For me, the thing that has really helped has been to imagine ‘little me’, telling myself that “we are worthy”, whenever I need to do anything.
I’m not just doing it for me. I do it for both of us; and that’s makes it a little easier.
I’m doing it for that little girl who had so many hopes and dreams that I was never able to follow though with.
I relate to your words 100%. Sending "little you" lots of 'you are worthy' affirmations. ❤
Here's an example of what I do to myself: my dentist complimented me re how good I am at taking care of my teeth. I could almost feel something click inside myself. So- yeah, I stopped taking care of my teeth. Procrastination is part of my self- destructive stuff. I don't know what to do if I feel good. I have to ruin it for myself.
When I get a compliment ( which is rare) I usually don’t feel as if I earned and deserve it. I say thank you out loud but internally I dismiss it.
I don’t trust the complimenter and therefore I don’t believe the compliment.
TH-cam Dr Ellie Phillips
@@pilarq7886 Thank you ❤
Ok well PTSD came around in my late 30s early 40s not as a child, however I have a hard time even bathing. I function just enough to go to work, but everything else is toast. Soul sickness is the perfect terminology. Just to have someone to talk about this gives me more hope.
Hello Celena, that's so hard. I know that too well, don't shower ower monthes, my hair don't look durty and i wash my self, but can't even shower, wouldn't share that else than here.
That sommer i'll have to, because of my nerves that needs cold or i go stick, menaupose and cptsd whire together and fier together. Now i know why i loos my appetite every sommer and feel much better when it's cold, i want to work my self up to eyce bathe, that must feel so good on my nervous systeme . I know what i need but have to work my self up to it.
Do you know the daily practice, did realy help me a lot and you have free accès two zoom meditation and learn the daily practice. Go easy, lissen to you 💖🙏
We are fighting sisters 💕
I don't usually comment, mostly a lurker here but... This video (watching currently) might just help me get off rock bottom and get my life back together. Thank you for taking the leap and having the courage to make this channel :)
It really is a blessing for those of us struggling. I used to be a high achiever but lately I have been very down. When people ask me what's wrong... I had no idea how to even begin to explain what I was going through. But this video puts things into perspective. Again, thank you so much for your work and dedication 💝
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I am so glad you took the step up. I don't have childhood trauma, I have developed this deregulation paralysis, loss of executive function over the past 3.5 years from grief, carer burnout. My little bother, Mother and Father all dying, plus other stuff. Going from a high functioning person to the extreme opposite. You made me laugh today, I thought is she here somewhere as you describe me to a tee. All the time I spend frozen and procrastinating I could have done all the things I'm avoiding. As I was watching, I got up and started clearing up, my problem is that when I do get energy I get distracted and start a side quest and end up with a bigger mess as I am sure so does everyone else. Anyway your delivery I really resonate with. You're a star. I will make my way through your links and episodes (whilst doing stuff) because I always feel positive after watching. Thank you.
For many of us, we don’t strive to do big things, we work to survive. The striving can cause mental problems that complicate CPTSD. It’s constant hustle and comparing yourself to others that’s produces more difficulties.
"cPTSD feels uncomfortable when you ascend to a new level." YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS I just accepted a new job as a supervisor but I keep on regressing to negative thinking. It is so difficult for me to not think in the negative because of the stuff I have going on but your videos help bring me back to reality!! KEEP THEM COMING!!!
Same here....
procrastinating has been my worst fault my entire life
You're in the right place :) -Calista@TeamFairy
It’s not a fault. It can become a character flaw when it becomes part of personality but it didn’t start out as a “fault”. We didn’t choose it.
@@khalida02 Thank you. I thought about that too. It's a symptom and I've been working on it. Making progress with Anna's pomodoro technique and just doing the best I can. I appreciate your comment. What a great community!
@@HappyRisks that’s wonderful! I’m just starting to work on this… I’ve been aware of how cptsd affects our environment as far as disorganization, and knew it affected procrastination, but I wasn’t ready to work on it I guess. We receive information when we are ready for it.
I want to watch the one about organizing, again.
I feel that on so many levels haha
You have a lot of guts you are as brave as any special force soldier fighting a war!!! Because that’s what this feels like!!!. I am so grateful to you. I can’t put everything in a text, I just wanted you to know that. And as a mother, look what a model you are to your sons, and grandchildren, and how this will carry down. Happy Mother’s Day, Anna.🙏💕💕
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Happy Mother's Day !
I’m sending Love and Hugs to everyone who resonates with this episode
Feeling really called out by 7:46. I make the list, I convince myself it’s all pretty simple. I get overwhelmed that I’m not fast enough, I get stuck on #2, I watch TH-cam until bed. Repeat.
I am a queen of criticism, and most people who have heard me say anything will verify that; BUT, I can find NOTHING in any of your videos ( I've seen at least 20) to criticize. Rather, the opposite. Anna, you truly are, for me, the Functional Adulthood Fairy. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 💯👌
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I married a boy who was adopted into a home with emotionally unavailable parents. He was also bullied in school K-12, and gained no support. Today, he has many hopes and dreams that do not get started. I spent 6 years supporting him and pushing him to make his dreams a reality, and he just gave up each time. I've given up too. Focusing on him, only to have him go back to the job he hates and remain an angry, grouchy person, cost me my mental health. I've learned that I can't help him--only he can help himself, and I've learned to focus myself and my kids instead.
I’m paralyzed too, this is so real.. it’s horrible can’t function.
I am working so hard on being victim no more. I’m taking control. This video was well timed. Many thanks.
I live in florida and I definitely feel like being outside was used as punishment when I was younger. This makes sense to me now because whenever people talk about going out in nature being relaxing i literally panic
Thank you for sharing. I encourage you to try The Daily Practice free course. It is a great way to process fears and resentment and it can help with getting regulated: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Virtual hugs to you. Be gentle with yourself. You are important and You Got This. 🌹
Anna, one of the things I really like about you is that you talk about the exact things I struggle with. Like feeling the need to vacuum the entire house when what I know I should be doing is recording and editing my first TH-cam video. I've been preparing, studying, and thinking I want to do this for months. Thinking, "I can do it!" but then this weird hesitation kicks in and I really need to clean something, or go outside and work in the garden. What IS that? Sigh. The struggle is real.
Happy Mother's Day.
Your stories about how people sabotage you really hit close to my heart. It’s a shame people like that really exist.
Time is ticking and life is passing by...my Spirit knows yet something is holding me back!😢
Thanks a million Anna for outlining this so clearly.
I have so much written work that's waiting to be published.
I'm ready to do it.
I guess I'm underfunctioning in executing my own projects while I'm a high achiever at work.
Lord help me to take the 1st step to get out of this freezemode!
Listening to your videos is like a step by step guide on what to do and how to do it, because I've been stuck on How to get started....then doubt creeps in.
Other things that contribute to procrastination are distractions.
Just when I get ready to do some work.
Then I will think of tyding up 1st or get a cup of tea. This may sound small but it's a pattern that ends up causing delays and unmet timeframes. Especially because going back on track ends up not happening.
I'm glad I came across your videos. I would really like your help and to work on your advice.
I feel mighty foolish. I actually saved this video to my "watch later" and "from surviving thriving" folders! I had to admit this foolish stumble to someone.
But, more importantly. A Very Happy Mother's Day to all you Moms out there.
I love this, channel but it's difficult relating to this topic too completely. But putting off this video on procrastination is actually funny.
I've learned to laugh with myself. (Not at...)
Thanks Doc. You're exactly what I need. Amd I'm grateful.
❤ A fan from Canada.
It really upsets me to know that you gave up so many dreams for the exact reasons that you're helping me through daily - I really want you to know how important your work has been in even getting me out of bed - I'm leaving the house for the second time today and I wouldn't be if i didn't understand my dysregulated emotional patterns just a little better then i did yesterday, and the day before - thank you for being so open and vulnerable with your personal experiences it's so easy to see myself in the letters you read and the experiences you share, and I truly hope you manage to reclaim ALL AND ANY creative power that may have been relinquished on your journey - I want to see your movie! Please make a video directing us to some of your personal endeavours, I'd love to read your book as well!!
And sabotage.... ouch. I truly believe in being there for everyone and supporting the community talent pool so when people sabotage and compete it hurts me to my core... I think it's more of a reliving of trauma then anything elseI've had similar experiences, but I've always been able to create boundaries surrounding that particular subject and I'm sorry you didn't feel you had a voice.
Your voice is globally powerful and you save lives - thank you.
Happy Mothers Day.
Freeze mode… yup . That’s the name for my days of the week.
Yep. I’m here to learn how to not be frozen.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am so glad I found your channel.
From childhood trauma which the the repercussions followed me into adulthood, I have been on a rollercoaster of everything you have said in this video. This video really reasonates with me.
Currently going through a crash at the moment, with disastrous consequences if I continue in my freeze state.
The takeaway for me from this video, is movement. Create a list and doing something everyday has been amazing in the past. Binge watching your videos and the light bulbs are flashing all around me.
Thank you so much, words are not enough to express what you have done for me and no doubt millions of people who watch you videos. God bless you ❤
Goodness, thank you. I hope you enjoy moving outdoors. Such a simple thing can make a difference!
You should be proud of yourself, your videos are awesome, and help so many!
Boy oh boy, paralysis is a word I can identify with! Add adhd to it, and I spin as well, fun times😂😂😂I appreciate what you have to say, I've learned to bite off smaller chunks to avoid the overwhelm, and I'm so proud of myself, I can now accomplish by small actions.
Can't thank you enough, It makes me feel so much better, not staying in frozen mode, by taking baby steps of action really helps!👍😁
I also learn alot by reading the comments from the people who comment here, cheers!
Wonderful! We're so glad to hear Anna's channel has helped you. You do have reason to be proud of yourself! Keep up the great work!
Nika@TeamFairy
Wow, "squandering time", is my inner critic's favourite term for how I've been living my life. Knowingly squandering my life, my time. Definitely want to do better yet...
😞 I'm going to go for a walk in the sun. Thanks so much.
We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy
Remember to get vitamin D if that sun's not shining and, if you can, a little b vitamins and magnesium. Sometimes the combo of those two lifts my mood. ❤ Wishing you well
Where have you been all my life. Seven decades later.....😂😊
Glad you're here now! -Calista@TeamFairy
Right? I payed for so much therapy. Why are her videos the first time hearing these things?
😂 i was going to say the same then i realized it's just 2 decades for me ❤😂 i suddenly feel grateful
Wishing you all the best ❤❤❤❤❤
My thought exactly!💐
I’ll finish watching this video, I swear I will. Right after I’m done procrastinating.
Me too. Really
Procrastination is a parasite.
I just came across your channel, you are heaven sent.
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you for sharing but I had an awesome loving childhood experience. However your teaching on COMPLEX PTSD helped me understand by behavior these last years. You see the emotional trauma that I experienced was through an abusive marriage, condescending church, and verbally abusing employment -- yes as an adult. I couldn’t understand why I’ve been struggling so much in being productive - putting things off yes by reading Facebook or Instagram postings, playing games on my phone - saying I’ll relax and play for an hour that turned out to be 3 to 4 hours. Thank because I took charge today , that I’ve been putting off for 2 months and called a college about taking some refresher classes. Ty you I’m will be paying closer attention to my daily habits -- it’s a start not looking for an over night miracle just a start the beginning for change! Thank you for the insight I just thought I was getting older and lazy which bothered me because I was never like this when I was single thank you! ( for give all spelling and grammatical errors .)😊
i appreciate all the effort & mental / emotional energy it takes to make these videos. your videos have helped me so much, even saved me on many levels.
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
When the algorithm works, it's a beautiful thing. I needed to hear this right now🙏 Keep spreading this message.
Thank you for watching! Glad it was helpful!
Nika@TeamFairy
I have just found you and I am absolutely so grateful that I did. It’s like you know exactly how I feel and you know my problems in getting things done. I am soooooo grateful to have someone to listen to who completely gets me. I have learned so much in the 3 videos I’ve watched and I can’t wait to absorb more. Thank you!!! ❤
We're glad to have you in our community here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Happy Mother's Day! ❤️
Thank you!!
Freeze mode that is it. My son's all have it as do I Recovery came slow and I am sober and benzi free for 710 days
Boys are grown, my oldest died suddenly 6years ago prompting us to heal.
Smart lady I feel blessed to hear you.
This insightful video sheds light on how childhood trauma can manifest as procrastination, a crucial revelation for personal development. 👏 Embracing small, consistent actions can effectively break this cycle, enhancing personal productivity.
At 67 I still battle everyday with this problem. Isolating myself since 94
You make me cry with gratitude and hope
Bam! Right on time! Just when I should be getting a job asap.
Eternally grateful for you, Anna (and team!). Providing me with an explanation for my weirdness and helping me to live better and happier. So very empowering.
I was not blaming anyone and I have been marinating in self-loathing / over-distracting myself...
I want to have goals and projects. I want to look forward to the rest of my life. Leave this dull waiting room I have been living in.
I'm so glad you talked about crashes. I've become more and more aware of it, but had no idea how to put it into words or how to describe it to someone. I had a very traumatic experience recently with a sibling and it really threw me for a loop for days/weeks. I truly felt traumatized. It was hard to stop thinking about it or know how to process it. It still bothers me, but I'm somewhat better. Your teaching on these things helps me understand why it's so hard for me to not internalize that kind of experience.
Happy Mother's Day ❤️💐
I’m looking down at the way my un-hemmed way-too-long pants have been making me look. ie clueless, crazy, mentally disturbed, mentally challenged, homeless? And God knows what else. Been putting off the easy task because I inwardly feel scared of shortening them too much and then having ppl think I am even more outta control than I am afraid of currently looking to them… I got these adorable paisley pants before 2020 and each time I’ve worn them I have told myself “tonight I will grin and bear it and then I’ll never have to wear them looking like this next time.”
This happened to me when I had my first big successes publishing my work & winning awards. There was this app where people could post anonymous "constructive criticism," but really most of it was just mean and bullying. I decided I would download the app & leave little compliments and happy notes for people because I didn't like what I was seeing ... then I saw my profile. Several people had written that my writing was good, but I was a liar and everyone hates me. My work won awards, but they felt so hollow after that. Meanwhile, someone who was jealous of my work got a major publication to delete my essay, which had gone viral. Someone else published it and it won another award, but it was also the last time I even submitted any creative writing. I am getting back to it now. This is a helpful video!
I'm glad you published your book. :) Be proud of that.
Stay "proud" "doing your bliss" its beautiful❤ thank you so much
0:36 .....and then I made it stop.
And I started bawling at you saying this. There's an answer!?!?!
😭😭😭😭😭
Pushing through for you doing these videos makes you happy....
Could it be there's something IN us that doesn't want ourselves to be happy? Maybe we feel guilty for being happy?
💯🔥💯🏆😎🥰🥰 You're AWESOME! Thank God for you and your work!! It's really important to do what and be who you're supposed to be!!! You're lovely and we're lucky to have you here with us, even after and during your healing!!! The world needs you and we're glad to have you!! 😁
Thank you for your kind words! -Calista@TeamFairy
Wow, this was incredibly helpful. I’ve had this going on since my freshman year of college, 40 years ago. You described me to a T. I’m going to listen again and figure out what moving forward at a sustainable pace looks like for me. Many thanks 💕
I'm so glad the video was helpful! We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
OMG I really, REALLY love these longer compilation videos. They're awesome because we get to hear related information but presented at different times and in different ways. OMG by the time I reached the 3rd segment, with Anna in a white shirt, I was so clicking with EVERYTHING she was sharing!! My heart relaxed and I was able to find such a gentle, compassionate attitude towards younger me.....the me from 30 years ago.
I remember in my mid 20s getting a job and feeling like it was so wrong for me because I wasn't happy. My brother, also my boss, said "You don't know what you're talking about. This is a great industry, oil and gas, and you don't know enough about it to judge it. So you need to commit for 5 years then make a judgement." SO I did and found ways to force myself to do a job I hated. It was ONLY when I refused to go on without anymore until I HONORED my own deeply held desires that I found a better path for me, computers.
BUT I STILL struggle with this path because it too has some very negative aspects for me. This video helps me feel like I'm not so bad for feeling the way I'm feeling and that I have found ways to take care of my needs while also finding work. I've been crashing for 8 years over and over again and living off of savings. It's unsustainable but I'm now turning 57 and terrified that it'll continue but I keep trying yet again to find work that I can do, sustain and feel energized and passionate about because everywhere I look, it's just more of the same.
Disgruntled people, working in businesses, suppressing others, only in it for the money, stress and more stress and "We're running a business here not a daycare" kind of mentality.....just many bosses upon bosses that are like Anna's old boss that suppressed her writing and I can't help but think "NO!" and then get down because that's the majority of what I see when imagining going back to work because it's such a common issue. And then my brothers voice comes crashing back in saying "You don't have to like work. It's work afterall. Most people hate their jobs. Doesn't matter....get up and do it anyways" and I just think....."No I can't" and that's a crash then I start the cycle all over again. Ugh I want to be free from this but not sure how and where to start....it all seems so damned complex, complicated and confusing.
Thank you for all you so freely give. God bless you truly
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Listening to this on a cleaning binge. Tysm! ❤❤❤
Glad to have found this as I've noticed since having Long Covid Vaxx( but not entirely z) increased procrastinating! Helping me figure it out and gently start..blessings
You mentioned something I never really thought about. " What if I succeed, and have to keep doing this forever!"
I always thought I was afraid of failing, now I am thinking about, just maybe, I am afraid of succeeding.
I don't know how I stumbled across your channel, but I am convinced the universe brought me here. So many ah hah moments!
Procrastination has absolutely ruined my life. This is all exactly me! All of it
We understand as few others can! I’m glad you’re here. -Frida@TeamFairy
I should be doing exactly all of the above… get to work on time and laundry, etc.. at this very moment 0:03
Thank you for your wonderful insight!
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for these videos.
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I took 3 steps to heal my inner child third step is ongoing for sure. Step one for me was finding him I had to go back to the place I was hurt once I found him I made him safe and made agreements with my self I basically said I'm going to be my own father and keep him safe and meet his needs i left him there for a few months third step was telling him he was safe and I loved him I still have lots of work to do but you are helping me to understand my self better thank you for your work you are a blessing
You are truly so very gifted at what you do. Thank you so much for this video. Your videos are the only things helping me truly understand why I behave as I do. I feel extremely stuck despite heing told how smart I am. I am going to watch this video over and over again let the information solidify in my mind. Could you *please* do a video on how to actually organize yourself with a schedule to create routine? Everything is so messy, cluttered and chaotic, inside and out, without organization. It's overwhelming.
Thank you for watching, we're glad Anna's videos are helpful for you!
I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It can help with procrastination by giving you clarity about what tasks are most important to do today. You can then create your own list of tasks and start from there. Here's a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Good luck!
Nika@TeamFairy
Hi. When you began to talk in this video, I felt as if you were describing me to the T. I felt as if I was the only one. I felt as if you have watched me all my life and telling my story. Of course I'm not the only one. There are millions of people just like you and I in this situation. I appreciate you talking about this and helping us find solutions to our problems. Also, as you began to describe the symptom, it was very overwhelming and exhausting. Even though I'm trying to help myself, feels as if whatever little or a lot I do to help myself sometime feels as if I have made no progress because the problem still there. The way I cope is by taking baby steps and not look back. Only look forward. The image came to me of a horse that has those things on the side of their eyes to help it look forward. Lol, funny but true I have to stay focused. Not easy, but doable. Thank you for helping us. One day very soon, I hope I can help others in whichever area they need help. You have no idea how much I appreciate you. Thanks again.
Thank you for sharing. You're not alone and we are here to support you!
Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
Happy Mother’s Day! ❤ Thank you for what you do :) I really needed to hear this!
I'm so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Im the opposite. No one took care of me so im stressed about everything.
I even make sure the birds, squirrels and raccoons that visit my backyard want for not.
I'll have to convince myself to skip a workout if my back hurts.
I think procrastination happens when we have filled our lives with stuff we don't want to do.
There's never an end to the bs, so why bother?
We have to reward ourselves after we work hard. We need something to look forward to.
Exactly! I have a very healthy and strict daily routine that I have been increasingly realizing is causing more stress than relief most days. Trying to find a balance between positive actions and learn the ability to relax, something I have NEVER been able to do as there is always something else on the to do list and I have 'failed' if I don't get it all accomplished.
And yes, the birds, raccoons, possums and whatever other critters want to visit ALWAYS have food and water available...I really get it.
And it is soooooooo difficult to function in a typical 9 to 5 corporate job, can not keep a stable momentum.
Thank you Anna for so much, including saying so many absolutely right on target CPTSD realities that I have never been able to articulate.
@@5KAT I can totally relate. Wishing you calm and relaxing energy.
I think this is it. I think procrastination is the psychological trauma that gets developed in the psyche when our boundaries have been crossed too many times in terms of what to do. It feels like we have no say in what we are being asked off and that creates anxiety.
I am suffering tremendously from procrastination. I literally have not been able to make myself move forward with work because I'm suffering again from a physical injury which brings up all the other painful stuff in my life. I joined today with the annual membership. It's a step in the right direction.
It's a great step! We're so glad you're joining the membership community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
You're an inspiration Anna. I have this summer to come up with an at home business and it's hard because of procrastination. I feel like such a lazy bum. This video really explains it. I gotta do the work plain and simple. Thank you❤
You got this! -Calista@TeamFairy
👍🏼 so timely. (Actually could have used it 55 years ago 😏) Just think of what could have been accomplished.
Same
Ohhh that one is hard to swalow, but it's pointless😢
I have a future and a year ago I was in desperation
I feel Happy smelling frech cut grass, Happy to be able to feel it.
I was so numb for decades and I never felt like this.
Thank you for the daily practice, I went from 10 min ones a day to 15min, than 20min and after I made twice a day every two or three days.
I did the same as too stuck to it, that's the most important part for me, I need to practice every day or I won't have the chance for the life I deserve.
To go for twice a day I gave me a challenge of two weeks, twice a day 20 min. I'm in day 6 and I feel that much benefits that motivation won't be a big challenge 🎉❤❤❤
How can I thank you for saving my life 🙌🏼💞 I never felt that much supported, empowered validated and so much more
They are no Words Strong enough to Express my Gratitude 🙏🏼❤❤
A year ago I was in desperation and now I have faith that it's reacheble to have the life I deserve and be capable to give my participation to the community ❤
@@DavesFitLife for me too
I had the informations a year ago with 53 and the menaupose yeay... The menopause and the anxiety are weired toogether and I stop slowly my xanax and morphine, impossible to do without the daily practice 🧚 .
I take half less xanax, now 8mg and 200mg less morphine, now 400mg and they gave me 1g morphine at the begining.
But even when I was clean I felt so numb and over stressed all the time, with 40 I began to fear for my life and decided to medicat till I found an other way and I found it 🧚🙏🏼💞🙌🏼🍀
I feel I come back too life like never befor and that's the most important too me, because without feeling life has no taste or color and nothing realy matters
It's one of the worst symptômes I know 😥
Too feel that I feel again coulden't be a better signe of healing.
I do the daily practice for around three monthes, regulary but not daily twice a day and since six daiys I do twice a day 20 min meditation and I'm amazed by the differentes after only six days and feeling come back to life, litteraly I was not Here and three monthes, that's very short for a result I didn't get and I tried so many things...
Thank you Anna, without YOU 🧚 💕 by by me.... 🤯
@@DavesFitLifesame here too.
Glad you're here now! -Calista@TeamFairy
This is such an important topic. Thank you for delving into crashing and reminding us of the importance of routine!
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you for this topic!! Wow!! This is GREAT!!
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
From Madrid ( Spain)
You are a live savior.
Uso mi idioma : entre lágrimas: Gracias.
Yesterday I organized my refrigerator for the first time in my life because I learned how to from TH-cam videos. I keep opening the door and looking at it it’s so inspiring. Because I made an effort to take care of myself and make my day better that way, it spurred me to make a good dinner too. I had been having trouble doing that. Of course, it spurred me to me to do the next thing too. Anyway. Whatever angle or region inspires you, DO A THING. Right?
For the longest I called it laziness until you saw how badly it was affecting my life but it felt like I couldn’t do anything about it. I procrastinate with almost everything and say oh I like doing things last minute because it gives me a rush and then I get it done fast but then I would get upset at myself when things took longer than expected (ie homework, work assignments, etc). I just found out I have CPRSD and paralysis is the worst
Makes sense as to why I could not get myself together to complete my final project.
I am really glad it all worked out
for you, sincerely. You do it well!
As for me, being in the middle of
a move, I do not feel so motivated,
and also in the latter quarter of my
life--spent on others, dedicated to
my Creator-Redeemer.
This video was put in my path this
morning. I stopped it, saving for now.
I would not have been able to
manage it earlier. Even now, it is
quite exhausting for me to hear.
Good truth is presented here. I
know it will help many. It is just an
overwhelm for this time in life.
I am very glad you broke free and
became successful.
Even the desire for that has left me
and all I want to do is get moved
and get settled again.
Nothing more, any more.
God bless your endeavors!
You are changing lives out here. Truly, you are a godsend. Best of all things that come to you and your team.
Thank you! You too!
What I have learned to get my list in good forward momentum is to put things that I don't have any hesitation on at the top of the list. I use things like " pee, drink coffee, put cup in the sink, eat breakfast, etc." And check them off as i do them. It creates the forward motion that i need. 😊
Happy Mother’s Day, Anna! Thank you for this video, a great Mother’s Day gift 💝
Yes, we can do the craziest things to avoid our important life work.
Thank you!
-Working very hard on my mindfulness and it's starting to kick in. I'm recognizing when my ego is taking over and I'm thinking irrationally and from all fears I avoided everything that caused me any frustration because I felt like I just couldn't take it. It hit me like a ton of bricks one day that IF something bad is coming down the pike that I cannot handle but it's not here now, why not enjoy this moment? why waste a moment of happiness when eventually sadness is coming. I'm suffering for something twice this way. I understand what suffering means now and I choose not to as much as possible. Thank you so much for helping me find my way. Peace.
Thank you for sharing your insight with us! Peace to you too!
Nika@TeamFairy
I completely felt this video! My whole life story. Thank you
Anna you hit the nail on the head for me I actually know you from years ago with the international call meditation. I've used resentment fear strategy for years and struggling with regulation. To top things off I've been in a 30 year marriage to a man on the narcissistic spectrum.I was in a deep dark cave. Your work has helped me in practical ways to live LIFE. Thank you so much. Im working on digging myself out...... to find another place to live, study for a major exam that will enable me to return to the work force and be financially sober and self sufficent. So at least 3 times a day I say IT is Hard. and I AM WORTH IT. I deserve to flourish prosper and thrive❤
Thank you for sharing! Glad you're free from a relationship with a narcissist. Now is the time to heal and start a new, better life. You can do it! We're all rooting for you!
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you for Sharing your personal Testimony ! I Believe it Helps others So Very much !!
You are so welcome
This is exactly where I am at right now and the first video of yours I’ve seen and I just want to say truly… thank you. Thank you. You are amazing and it’s really liberating to know there is a reason I am like this. I feel heard finally without having to say or do anything.
This one is so spot on! The best of all your videos I’ve watched. Planning to contemplate, work it out, convert it into an action plan, review multiple times, adjust my goals and start flying in moderation towards my ideal future. I’m feeling so grateful you’ve uploaded this exactly todo, I had an intake for ADHD/Autism when we simultaneously concluded with coaching on procrastination in relation with childhood trauma, exactly like with Jacob’s letter! Funny universe. With lots of love, Iris, Rotterdam, The Netherlands 🥰
your out here saving lives
thank you for this. I needed to hear this. I can’t elaborate on my trauma right now cuz it still feels ongoing but I am just grateful that I’m not alone n that we have a wonderful human like yourself giving us these resources. Thank you again. Have a blessed day.
Happy Mother’s day 🙏🏼🧿💕
I can really relate to Jacob! Big hugs Jacob.❤
Well, thank you. I really really needed hear this. You just described so much of what I’ve been going through for the last few years now I understand why.
It’s also very helpful just to listen to other comments. Thank you so much.
I agree with these folks, you come across very genuine and approachable. This video is the first of your's that Ive seen. I really like you.
I have procrastination. Pretty bad. But I had a good childhood, so that is not the etiology. In 2015, my mom committed suicide. I was her caregiver and I found her. Ive been frozen since. I thaw out a little from time to time but never much. Ive got a wonderful husband who is kind and patient and a good earner so I dont have to work outside the home. I dont feel anxiety or stress very much/often and I always choose the same activity to do instead. I started a hobby in 2020 and I love it. I make money with it too. But my problem is that I dont list my work on the site to sell. Ive only got 2 or 3 items listed and Ive made dozens of much more beautiful pieces since the last time I listed something. My shop is full. But Im frozen. I have a list. Its updated and current. But still I havent called my elderly father in months.
But if there is a biological or parasympathetic aspect to this maybe I can snap out of this!
Thank you so much for this video