Social Anxiety or Just Being Shy
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Did you know there is a difference between being SHY and having SOCIAL ANXIETY? Many think it is the same thing. It's important to know the difference or if you have a mixture of both. Are you ready to watch a video of me when I was younger? Take the test to see if you can recognize social anxiety or shyness.
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DISCLOSURE: Although I am a licensed therapist. This video is not intended to replace medical advice. This is for information purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a local mental health professional.⠀
Do you struggle with social anxiety or shyness? What does it look like? 😃
Whats worse? Being shy or having social anxiety?
I have both
Im shy
Whenever I need to speak in format of a class Or to someone in a grocery store... I get shaky, nervous, shortness of breath,
But I never feel judged But I always Just think about what to say beacuse of how nervous I am so I forget everything
Really He Looks Attractive Than Anyone Else
Literally both
I’ll never forget sitting on the bus crying because I wanted to introduce myself to the new foreign exchange student, make a new friend. But I just couldn’t. It was like someone had a gun to my head
I had a similar situation too, but on the way to school, luckily, I overcame my fear but I know how did you feel about it, it was so stressful
Did you figure out if it was social anxiety or shyness?
Unnoticed wisdom I never overcame it. It went on for days, until she said something to me a month or two into school.
PianoLovee24 shyness doesn’t make you feel panicked and afraid, and it doesn’t last for long periods of time. I always act like my social anxiety is completely healed now, but the truth is I just don’t try if it gets too hard 😅 so I would have just stopped trying to talk to her instead of agonizing over how I was so afraid to.
I feel you my parents would always say I’m shy and my counselor even said “you’re just going through a fase you’re to young to have social anxiety” this is one of the things people say that make me feel even worse about myself
the thing about it is that our society scorns 'shyness' and rewards extroversion. Social anxiety is scorned as "shyness" and this makes it even worse with a person with SA. Plus a lot of people don't see the anxiety that you have. They just see you "acting shy". A lot of parents see it that way too and they don't understand that the person exhibiting these symptoms are experiencing anxiety.
Is it still social anxiety if i’m not really afraid of other people judging me but more i just don’t really know what to do with myself or act in social situations? And this in turn causes me anxiety because i have no idea if what i’m doing is considered somehow wrong
Omg sameee
sameeeee 😐
Same :(
Same...
Yes, i’ve never been afraid of anyone judging me but I have always had a physical reaction of panic and fainting. I don’t understand why mind over matter never works
I wish my parents knew more about this when I was a kid. I was always told I was just shy, and my parents would often force me to do things I didn't want to do because I was "just shy" and just needed a push. I remember my first day at a new school, I was crying because I didn't know where to go and was too scared to ask. A teacher eventually saw me and helped me, but I could barely even talk because I was so scared. I have lots of memories like that. I couldn't ever order food for myself at a restruant or fast food place because I was too scared. Would never ask questions in class because I was nervous. I was embarassed to be different at all, even owning generic brand school supplies was so embarassing.
Now in my mid 20's im realizing I probably had anxiety and I wish my parents helped me differently rather than hoping exposure would fix everything. I still struggle today.
I still go to school it was my 2nd day i freaked out. Almost was about to make a scene but i calmed myself down and. Was super scared to talk to people. I barely talk to other kids. But same my mom always says my shy lol 😭✋🏾
@@i.dle.k I feel your pain 😞 😭
I love you❤ Things would get better for us. In this together!
Same!!!!
I really appreciate this video! I've always been shy (just haven't really cared or been interested in a lot of social situations -- I'm also an introvert, so I prefer to be alone anyway), but I feel like I've developed more social anxiety as I've been in college and have been expected to "perform" more. Essentially, I've been able to distinguish between my natural shyness and my social anxiety because I've realized that my social anxiety is a cycle (I feel anxious and think that I will be judged by others -> I don't participate socially -> I feel more anxiety about my lack of participation). What's really helped me has been actively thinking to myself "You are good enough" and "You deserve to participate" before social situations and, like you mentioned, making the social situation as positive as possible.
Last week everyone in my class was divided in groups for a project and I ended up in a group of two.
Then i wanted to start a conversation by asking her question and I sat there for like 20-30 minutes just to ask her one single question!
Realize that nobody actually cares about what you’re saying they’re really worrying about how they’re gonna do .
i experienced that alot i sat there crying thinking why im i like this. its just a simple task to approach your group mates but i cannot do it. luckily i have a friend that helped me to do it lol im so embarrassed at myself
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Im shy
Whenever I need to speak to someone I get out of breath, my whole body starts to shake, I forget how to make sentences and I make up a scenario in my head But than I forget how and what am i supposed to say
And I dont really think its gonna go away by me being like that my whole life
idk if its shyness or social anxiety but it feels like shit and i cant take it anymore
TWO THINGS: Customer Service and Ballroom Dancing. I used to have crippling social anxiety but the things that helped me break out of that were formalized/scripted social situations. Mainly, customer service jobs (barista and bank teller) and ballroom dance classes. Because there is a script or dance to follow, the element of uncertainty that triggers anxiety is minimized. The focus was not on me but on learning and following the patterns. Little by little as I became more comfortable and confident with these scripted interactions, I could go off script and be candid and natural. These things were total game changers for me.
That's awesome!
I get social anxiety specifically when I have to perform a physical task or give a presentation ,we don't have a toastmaster or something so how should I improve at these things ??
I Could Give A Presentation In Front Of A Class And Go To Grocery Store. Could You Say What Am I ?
Introvert, Shy, S.A
I call myself shy because it’s easier to explain and hide behind. My social anxiety is a part of my moral OCD because I’m so afraid of doing wrong things or hurting people deeply, so I’m scared to interact with people at all. It runs my life and I don’t make friends easily. But my shyness and introversion are traits I embrace. It’s kind of hard to tell how far I can push my natural personality before it becomes social anxiety avoidance.
When I was little I was the most vibrant of all my siblings but now I am very shy but not socially anxious because when I heard that if you're shy you'll just have trouble meeting new people, but when you get to know them you don't really worry about how you look or adding to the conversation bcos you're already used to them. Just like on the first day of school or on the first day of a new job your a little anxious but it wears out after some days and you get comfortable with everyone and everything but socially anxiety not the case.
Sometimes people also tend to think that being an introvert also means being shy but it isn't always the case, you just enjoy your alone time and do not like being in a crowd of people conversing, you just prefer one on one meaningful conversations and do more thinking than speaking .
Sometimes people can be shy and introverted.
thats me shy introverted and blessed with social anxiety, if its not one thing its another, the daily struggle is real
Iam shy but feel pressured to do things which is exhausting
I have terrible social anxiety, and will actually go way out of my way to avoid unwanted social situations.
Same
But people always say to me that I'm shy too
Can this be a spectrum, because in certain situations I’m so scared of judgment from people that I just won’t talk, and sometimes I feel like I begin to act differently. I’m always really nervous that someone is judging me, but I’m an outgoing person. It’s confusing😔
Oh 100% just like any other mental disorder there are different severities
Is it me or this guy has magnetic personality?
Thanks for the new video on anxiety.
Thanks for the kind words! I hope it was able to help you!
@@ocdandanxiety well the advice you gave to parents on calling their kids shy as it is something "bad". I almost cried 😊🤭
Hey, I appreciate your videos a lot! They’ve been helping me out a lot recently. Thank you so much and keep up the good work! 👍🌟
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for this explanation! I am a really shy person and I am also an introvert. For years I thought that for this reasons, I wasn't able to live my life like I wanted and that it was completely normal. I can't make friends or conversations easily, if I am anxious in a certain situation, I will probably avoid it in the future and I tend not to be comfortable around people I have known for years... I just feel like I am boring, I will have nothing to say and they probably prefer to spend their time with someone else. I still don't know if I suffer from social anxiety or I am just a really shy and awkward person lol but this video made me realized a lot of things which I didn't consider. Thanks!! :)
Nicely Distinguish Shyness and Social anxiety Love you bro👍
Thanks so much for the kind words!
I just don't understand if I am shy or social anxious...
I really don't mind meeting new people but I just act differently when there's people around me ....I really don't know wheather to speak or not...I usually tend to remain quiet..I just become a robot in front of new people having no expressions or any thought...I just don't want to be watched at heard by people ...Whenever I am in spotlight I become conscious
Help me out please
Same
Same.
This was extremely helpful. Thank you
I feel more social anxiety when I'm around people of older generations because in my experience many older people are very critical and judgmental suck as my grandfather he would find some tiny fault or flaw in people and start making disapproving comments so that's just what I thought old people were like and felt very anxious around old people
i think i have social anxiety but im too scared to even say anything and what if im wrong and im just shy. or what if like my parents just dont take me seriously and how am i supposed to talk about it, i dont like talking about stuff like that
me crying because i cant approach my groupmates.
I don’t know if I have social anxiety bc it’s hard for me to tell how bad my anxiety is, I’ve always gotten so much anxiety about approaching people and sometimes in a way it feels like I’m faking it even though I know I’m not- I also don’t know if I do bc I sing & do musical theatre and I love being on a stage and people watching me in that way(maybe it’s because sometimes when there’s so many people it feels like no ones there), like I sung in a choir in front of more than 1,000 people and loved it; but I’ve always been so anxious about approaching people and I can’t tell if it’s shyness or social anxiety
I didn’t even realize I experience social anxiety sometimes. But attributing the anxiety to nervousness makes it so much easier to push past it. I have a more reserved personality but can be pretty social if needed
Thanks for your videos. I can't distinguish whether it's social anxiety or my INFJ personality. I'm not interested in my friends' topics, but I'm not sure if it's an excuse or not. Sometimes I secretly judge them.
Wow helped me alot
I thought I recognized that stage… I went to Aspen Grove when I was younger too!
Haha yes! That’s the place! 👍🏻
When I was six years old and seven years old I didn't talk in school because I had social anxiety. Nobody understood me.
Idk I feel this way I been dealing with this since I was younger and now it’s not that I don’t want to not interact with people at it’s just hard for me it’s just takes time but once i talk to you or like anyone elf’s then I’m not shy any more
I think being shy in particular situations .. it’s kind of the same feeling , but if it’s shines it go away when that situation have passed , so if you had to speak in front of a camera you will be totally normal sharing your experience and shyness with the people you know after that experience .. social anxiety in other hand it’s being “shy/ anxious “ about people looking at you , thinking if you share that you will be judged as well .. thinking they judge you poorly about your looks and what you have said , and in my particular experience looking at people , that look towards me .. because i feel it will be the end of the world if i do so literally .. even if I know it’s not gonna happen anything most of the times .. also feeling like everyone is looking at you at social situations , so you become clumsy and awkward .. even if they don’t even notice you. It’s like you are a teenager and having a crush .. but imagine your crush it’s every person you meet in social situations .. even if you are not attracted to them.
In fact by watching your video I can totally see myself on it .. I was as well hiding my anxiety behind my smile , at the point where I seemed aways happy ( not forced to smile , it just happens ) when someone looked me .. or it happened one time even while I was breaking up with a guy because well I felt particularly anxious .. until someone make me notice it looks kind of weird .. even if I don’t really think so now .. and avoiding eye contact apparently took the lead as a coping mechanism.
sometimes i just wanna die because my anxiety is killing me. idk if what gonna happen to me in the future lol i cant even order at mcdo without shaking
Yea I get that, I’m like that or well idk it’s more shyness but like when I am the street I think that I’m gonna be robbed or something and it scares me a lot and my sis says like is not a big deal but i am like this :l
@@danielleperez1357 sameeee feels like someone gonna talk to me and ask for money and stuff and it feels like im in danger even though im in a safe place idk i always need someone to talk to just to avoid thinking of those situations
and when im waiting for my friends if they don’t respond to me i feel like they are in danger and it makes me burst into tears and i hate it when im in public and im crying like a baby
@@lunaa7165 I relate a lot, even with my friends I am kind of shy, idk why but yea. When I cry, I do it alone so no one sees me, like last week In my English class i had this oral presentation and I was so nervous, I started crying horribly and I can’t understand why.
@@lunaa7165 I don’t go out alone like never, I don’t know what I’m gonna do when I grow up honestly and i am two years away from college so I’m very scared, I don’t tell anyone but it’s weird to grow up :/
i just don't know how to present this to my parents and show them what i feel isn't "what everyone experiences from time to time"
I have always had the drive and desire to be a performer. I don’t have negative thoughts that people would not like me and that I know they would love me but every time I get up to sing in front of anyone even my parents, I start feeling debilitating fear, I see stars, and then faint. There’s no Mind Over Matter that can help. I really want to sing in front of people I’m not afraid to sing in front of people, but a physical reaction always comes over me no matter how much I tell myself this is a good thing and people will love my songs. I have passed out in front of everyone I know trying to sing my songs for them. At this point it’s more of a running joke to people that know me, but still something, but I wish I could do. I write music and record and come out my music online, but still cannot sing in front of anyone even know I have a lot of confidence, no fear of rejection, and I’m just really happy to sing in front of people. I will still have a panic attack and pass out. I just don’t understand why something that I want to do so badly and I’m not afraid of doing causes me that panic attack and faint every time… the absolute craziest part about this is, I can get up and speak in front of a room full of people. I have absolutely no problem, being the center of attention or being at the head of the room talking. But if we’re to go from talking to singing, Id pass out.🤷♀️
you should speak of hocd and envy since many people seem to think they rule the same landscape but self-comparing is what triggers hocd in the first place
It is still social anxiety and i still don't know what to do. I mean like, I am just 14y what do I do? I am just so shy to tell my parents or friends so that stops me from going to a therapist. And it is just that my anxiety gets worse. My native language is arabic but I am used to talk with myself in english like think and all for years to the extent that I am better in english than arabic now, but still englist is not my native language so now I am not that good in any of them. And that makes it so hard to talk to people cause I just forget the right words! My family and relatives started to notice it and they say that I am a coward and that I am weak😢. What do I do know? Please anyone tell me a solution quickly..
Thanks for anyone who read this if there's any....
you are not alone my native language is arabic and i'm shy too, i think what you should do is to start do things that makes u uncomfortable. and always keep asking questions and try to look for answers.
Same.. But my native language is Hindi/Urdu
yeah sometimes I forget the right words too, but my native language is portuguese
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Yes that is my story. It took me that long to try to fix it on my own, what is even worse, is that I thought I had to fix it on my own since that was what was offered to me. By the time I realized that what I had was a treatable thing in therapy, seemed a bit too late.
Thanks for sharing, these tips are gonna last a lifetime! I make wonderful sleep music for stress
More on social phobia please this is most common ocd
Thanks man
I like being shy and i have aceppted it but people keep telling me that it is bad thing
Great video. Does a treatment for social anxiety reduce the anxiety to "shyness"? I mean, can a solution to social anxiety be to become at ease with being that way?
Great question. I always want someone to work on their social anxiety so they can get to a point that they can be themselves. It tends to allow the person to just be shy if that's what they are naturally.
Mine is so terrible... I'm the quiet at any gathering... i intentionally miss any invitations... my heart rate just blows up in that situation... I hate it... but if try to talk... it just turn out lame... I want to be funny n talking but I'm just stuck...
I'm Felt Shy About Ian Gulps Too Much
I never had social anxiety which I don’t think but I was not always comfortable talking to people but I was okay working in groups when we all have to talk out loud because I know it’s wasn’t just me along at front of the class but I really get nervous when I go up in front of the class. I don’t like talking to people but if I have to I will because I hade to because the teacher said so but I’m quite, Never loud. People don’t understand me as a shy person I feel. I’m always get ask that question. Why don’t you talk? It make feel bad about myself and makes me not want to talk at all and I had a teacher was telling my mom ‘ she’s going to talk no matter and that made me not was to. I was so upset. I didn’t have any friends. I got bullied in grade school because of my shyness.
I was crying bc I didn’t want to run because there was so much people at the field and I didn’t feel like it..
Very good video
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What is perceived as shy could be somebody Displaying asocial behavior. Which can mean many things i suppose.
Being “shy “can can often be associated with being timid and having social anxiety”. Shy” people are shy for a reason. Maybe the person wants to be social but has low confidence and self esteem issues. People fear rejection from their peers.
It can also be unrelated to any of those things. The behavior of Choosing not to be social (asocial behavior) can be expressed for many different reasons, depending on the person. Not having a desire to partake in social behavior is scene as abnormal because humans are social beings that are easily motivated to respond to social influences.
Still people chose not to connect to the group for many different reasons. Some people don’t think very highly of the individuals in their mediate environment, they rather be an outcast in their community.
They may even have a sense of moral superiority, making them very critical of the way people behave. This makes it an easy choice to not partake in social Interactions. If you don’t trust your peers enough to want to form and maintain relationships, why bother.
I have a huge problem... and I’m not sure what to do...
I have a friend who keeps self-diagnosing herself with social anxiety... I’m pretty sure she doesn’t have it since she is really confident in what she does at school she even volunteers to do public speaking and such. So in short she’s a really social person. To make sure she doesn’t have social anxiety me and my best friend asked her what she was feeling and what she thought social anxiety was. Funny thing was she didn’t know so she stuttered the wrong definition. She’s always been type to tell everyone she’s been ‘cutting’ herself and that she has depression even though she hasn’t gotten any check ups from a doctor. I wanna tell her to stop acting like this because I worry people are gonna treat her as a liar. But at the same time I don’t wanna be rude... what should I do in this situation?
Just be direct with her
confront her about it in a nice and friendly way :)
I have suffered so much coz of been shy
I was sometimes shy
I don't like presentations or talking in front of my coworkers in a meeting. I get nervous and stutter. I'm so happy to have found your page. It is God sent
I sometimes feels embarrassed
I'm confused
I think I have both
This video gives me anxiety
It sounds like you're describing introversion as shyness.
Sorry I don't agree, I think shyness is just the normalization of social anxiety. Maybe people who are shy have a mild form of social anxiety. I think we have social anxiety but we accept it, and in accepting anxiety it becomes shyness.