I have a masters in child and family development. Because of my studies I knew I wanted to be a mother that stays home during the formative years. We have very clear data in this field on divorce, early childhood attachment and mother/father relationship. And I remember thinking as a student why is society so disconnected from the science we clearly know about what best for children? It’s astonishing how we as a society do not put kids first! I got married right after getting my masters and we started our family. I’m now 33 with 5 kids. I still have many plans and desires to do more in the field I studied. The way I look at it if I start a career at 40 I still have a good 25+ years in the work field. It always was common sense to me that if you’re lucky to find your love young, have a family first and career later!
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet you don’t have to be “privileged” to be a stay at home mom, all you really need is a decent, caring, supportive, hard-working, father in the home for the children and the mother. The due diligence for a successful family comes way before you say “I do”.
As a grown daughter of divorced parents, my childhood was mostly awful. Then I turned around and did it to my own kids. No example of what marriage was supposed to be like. So grateful for all the pro life and pro family content.
My husband is a child of divorced parents and had to do (and still does) a LOT of inner work and forgiveness to break free from such trauma. I'm so proud of him and am very confident our story will be different ❤
I'm an adult child of divorce. My parents divorced was lengthy, ugly and secretive. All of it still effects me today, 2 decades later. I'm angry and sad.
I'm so sorry you experienced that. Can I ask what made their divorce "secretive"? Was it the reasons for the divorce were kept secret from you, secret from your community; or was it the negotiations were kept secret?
I remember finishing my assignment early so I went to visit with my 2nd grade teacher at her desk and I was telling her about my parents getting divorced… almost 40 years ago.
@hammypie sure.... the students always want their parents to stay together. They will check out mentally, get the ghost face/ fish eye look, can't concentrate or stay focused, start having social problems. Some act out, while some will internalize it. Most times, the mom will immediately start chasing other men and ignore the child. This really causes harm and I notice the kids seek companionship through their teachers. Suddenly the child will want to constantly be next to me, hold my hand In the halls while we go to lunch, pe, recess, or wherever. As a teacher, we usually hook them up with the counselor too. I've seen some kids not sleep, start urinating themselves, sleeping In class, etc
@Kwildcat13 I was thinking how getting dumped at school was where I learnt failure. Not only were so many years wasted going to school but the amount of harm done takes even longer to try and recover from. A single parent could still be better than a married couple who are not married to each other or their children but devoted to the school and the mortgage and the car and their friends etc.
@PowerRedBullTypology or learn to communicate, compromise, if not compromise on somethings except the decision and so on and so forth. Making a baby while not married is sinful. It's called fornication and it is a sin to our own bodies. The wages of sin is death, so you are basically promoting death.
I teach my babies to come to me. When they fall around me and cry, I sit down and open my arms for them and I display empathy on my face and I tell them to come if they need help to start the action; they stand back up and come running for a hug and comfort (or crawl). It becomes natural for them to take part in the relationship and have agency in how they respond to failure and adversity. They know I will always make myself available when they need support. I recommend this to every parent as soon as children learn to crawl. We practice the verb "come here" in non-emotional situations, like when we go to the fridge for a snack. ❤
Most absolutely mind-blowing conversation I’ve seen maybe ever. My jaw is on the floor. This podcast is sooo important. All the pieces are clicking together for me. Dr. Morse does a stunning job of revealing that we the ruled are multi generational battlefield casualties from this war by the rulers. I’m more anti State than ever now.
I’m a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and nothing is more important to me than family. One of my first memories was looking up at my mom and realizing my dream was to become a mom too, so I could make my kids feel as loved as she made me feel. I grew up with the gospel taught in our home- particularly the Proclamation to the family- that proudly declared families to be essential to gods plan. I’m only 20, but I’m so excited to get married and have a family one day. Society is built upon mothers and fathers, and I’m grateful God put me in a home with a strong foundation. I’m gonna start looking into whatever pro life organization I can join in, because I’ve got hope that this generation is gonna raise wonderful warriors of God to combat the craziness of these times
That’s so cool that you want to be a mother, best of luck! And I truely mean this in the nicest way possible, I’d highly highly highly recommend you do some research into the history of the LDS church. Even if you’re completely convicted in your beliefs, it’s always okay and smart to ask questions. Please do some digging, not everything is rainbows and unicorns. Lastly, best wishes for you and the family you wish to have. Judging by this one youtube comment (which doesn’t say a lot) you seem like you’d be a great mother.
@@abigailshepherd3453 Thank you so much! Hehe I do get that a lot when I say what church I’m a member of, and it is understandable since there’s a looooot of misinformation and stereotypes about us out there. Luckily the church is very open and honest about its history, and I have done quite a bit of research already, but even if I haven’t, I’ve prayed and received confirmation that the Book of Mormon is another testament of Jesus Christ. So, even in the case that there is some church things that may be dubious, that would be the fault of imperfect people and not our doctrine. I appreciate the concern though! And I wish you luck in your goals as well
@@justyouraveragebaka9493 I am a member as well! As a child who has come from a very broken home I have come to love and cherish The Proclamation of the Family, and I am so grateful and encouraged when I see amazing people from all walks of life and faith coming to the same conclusions. I love your faith and enthusiasm, and though things seem bleak at times I have hope that together we can all do our part to help turn this tide around!
Aww thanks 🥰 One last thing though: you’re saying the fault would be on imperfect people and not the doctrine, but the doctrine was written by imperfect people. Overall, the LDS church has a very controversial history. But I’m not here to argue.
...while making an argument. Why can't you just leave it alone. Take the second half of your response, post it and leave. Why the first part of your comment if you are posting "no argument." THAT is the word-game-folly that makes a salad distasteful and disrespecting for those that despise salad's. Make no mistake as I am not talking about Olive Garden or table food salad here.
Great job Lila for inviting the marvellous Dr Morse!! I can't believe I am seeing you both in the same room. Women of character, substance and faith!! If there were more of this kind of women, lots of issues will come to an end. Mzy God bless you both and help us all to speak the Truth.🙏🏾🙏🏾
It's hard being a parent. It's hard being married. both call for sacrifice and true love - which is willing the good of the other and doing everything you can to help the other achieve this good.
It's very interesting to watch this as someone, who grew up in a family with an absent mom and a great father. It's often talked about how an absent father effects his child, but not, what happens, when the mother isn't there. My mother is physically and mentally ill and was just overwhelmed with me and my three siblings. Today I know that, but as a child, you don't understand. And I was that kid, who was the "good" one. I didn't cry, like my father said "very easy to care for." It's absolutely true, what Dr. Morse said. As the "easy to care for" kid, you just resignate. And in my case, I just staid in that mode. I was the responsible, resonable one, the one, who was always there in every need. But in the end it's just a role you play, because it's the only thing, that gives you some sort of, good, attention. 'Till this day, it's very hard for me to trust humans, especially women, in a deep way.
Shame so many women use their children to gain leverage in the family courts during seperation in order to claim max child maintenance and benefits. It's a win all round for women to claim domestic abuse and/or try to prevent child spending quality time with both parents. The solicitors, the schools and all are all involved with their biases. My heart goes out to all the dad's and children out there suffering at the hands of the malciious system directed by spiteful and power hungry women
Going through my parents divorce was so harmful to me as I was early in my adolescence and it was my mom who wanted to leave. On the upside, I saw everything they did wrong and I’ve been able to advise friends of mine who go through divorce. As a wife and mother myself, I refuse to see that as an option.
My parents were divorced when I was ten. Just last year at 34 they reunited. I suffered a lot. We all did. My mom regrets leaving. I don’t have any friends and I live alone. I pushed everyone who ever loved me away. But my parents got their happy ending. I forgive them as best I can.
My parents were divorced for the first 5 years of my dad because of my father’s mother (my dad was and kind of still is a mama’s boy) and I vaguely remember my dad sending me birthday gifts every year and sending me toys, dresses, etc. I didn’t even know I had a father for years and I was mostly raised by my maternal family who I am much closer to than my paternal. My dad was extremely depressed about me since my mother wouldn’t let him see me due to pettiness, but at one point, she felt bad for me and began sneaking out of my grandparent’s home to let me see my dad. I still remember how happy he looked each time. Then after 5 years of divorce they got back together for me. Even after they got back together, they had many ugly fights which basically ruined me. Now my dad is slowly realizing his own flaws and so is my paternal grandmother, they fight less often now and when they do it’s less ugly but I’m still pretty traumatized by their past fights. I remember the bad times more than the good times. I hold resentment towards both of my parents now.
I really wish people would understand that who you choose to marry is the biggest decision you'll make in your life. Too many people idolize marriage and/or think of it as something to check off of a list. Then, once the novelty wears off (it does), they're shocked and overwhelmed and confused by the sacrificial nature of marriage. And they naively think that who they married will never change. Which is false. We all change and we all are charged with loving the evolving spouse before us. I also think a big indicator of the strength of a marriage is what people did when they're single prior to marriage. So many people treat being single as something to escape from rather than a valuable time that you won't get back once you're married. When I've spoken to divorced people I can almost pinpoint what they might have done differently while they were single. Commonly for women I see waiting to live their life until they get married. Then a few years into marriage with kids, they want to do certain things like travel or pick up an expensive hobby or finish school, but the demands of marriage/kids won't always allow for that. Or they don't use their single season to truly understand who they are and what they need in a partner, and, importantly, what will be required of them in marriage. Flash forward to "irreconcilable differences." Bottom line, everyone wants to be Michael Jordan but not many people actually want to put in the work. I treat marriage just like I treat most areas of my life. If I want to be successful at it, I have to prepare BEFORE. I'm not going to magically figure it out as I go along and most people won't either. Take your time and don't get married just because you don't want to be single because, as this video shows, the consequences are far reaching.
I don’t agree that who you marry is the biggest decision you’ll make in life. It’s what you do with that person you married. How much work you put in. How much self sacrificing love you put in. There is no “perfect” person to marry.
I am a grandchild of divorce and a grandchild of an alcoholic. The trauma is absolutely real and impacts the generations. I’ve seen it with my cousins, my affected parent, and extended family. I will say that I found the 12-Step program, ACOA (and dysfunctional families), very helpful in learning tools to help me.
This is so good. My parents divorced when I was six. I'm thirty-six now. Life was just fine besides my parents' dating and remarriages. My dad remarried when I was sixteen and a half and, very much because of the person he married, it turned life upside-down. (They are still married.) Over the years, I have grown to have the opinion that a person should go into a divorce with the intention to remain single afterward. I feel pretty firmly that what it takes to raise children well and what it takes to effectively date and find a new spouse are two things that are too big to do at the same time. I have started being pretty vocal about these things. My husband and I should be divorced right now for a handful of reasons, but we have managed to work through things. Our family is healthy, and our kids are doing well. A number of times, I could have left for a variety of good reasons. Reason was on my side. But by the grace of God, I'm here and we're doing fine, and things get better every day. (I don't say this in a delusional way, and I'm not in denial.)
Love this discussion and it’s not rocket science it’s someone if they pay attention to their heart and what’s really going on around them. They’ll see these true so we’re spoken in this discussion today. Appreciate these women blessed by the time they spent figuring these things out. Hugs.
When I was in the scouts there was this boy who was also from Romanian who have been adopted 。His parents and my were good friends. is mother told us that when he came。 he didn't speak at all. So she prayed。 that he would be able to speak. Till this day he has never stopped talking😅
This was a very compelling conversation. I adored the conversationabout the value of a homemaker. I had no support in my drive to do this... my parents had an awful marriage. My mother left for another man when I was 19. Im now 40 and I have a lot if peers with a similar experience. I'd like a hard conversation from a Christian perspective on the effects of divorce on children versus the effects of growing up in a toxic/abusive household. I'm an "unlapsed" Catholic now and trying my best for my children.
First and foremost Im gettig more educated, read books, and grab one of her books and see what you gain As a current mom and wife in crisis. Im trying my hardest to keep the peace and marriage together for the sake of my child. I have 1 child, and I cant imagine anyone going though a divorce and having more than one. Its surely a huge distruction in society. I have been the best wife, but men will still find reasons to get away with adultry. I have been really taking on the role of mom and dad, while still married (protector and the nurturing mom). There are days where I really just want to walk away, but then I don't know how this will damage my son in the long run. I would rather sacrifice my happiness to an extent. I can't control if the dad leaves (abandons) the house and family. However, Im not willing to trade my sanity and my sons wellbeing for a man who is only looking to knock down the tribe. 😢 It is such a personal decision. Please know moms, and women that no one should judge you if you decide to leave or decide to say, becauee one might leave one scary situation to jump into another scary situation, please plan, be proactive, and trust in God.❤
Thank you, Lila. Praying to our Lord Jesus for help with healing; asking for the intercession of holy parents Saint Louis Martin and Saint Zelie Martin, and their daughter Thérèse of Lisieux. Hope you have a light-filled peaceful energetic day with your beautiful family, especially because you'll need the energy with your new daughter! And looking forward to today's Lila Rose podcast, your first live show since the birth of your daughter on your Lila Rose channel!
As a child of divorced parents that used my sibling and I as pawns in their dislike for each other, they never understand the affect it truly has on the kids and their development, from anxiety and depression of what life will become and constant arguing even after the divorce to only worrying about what makes them happy and not making sure the kids where truly ok, now as a 27 year old man i still find myself worrying about little things in life and walking on eggshells to appease everyone. Divorce is extremely detrimental to children's development and mental wellbeing
My parents had a not perfect marriage - but their faith kept them fighting for it. They stayed together till they died and I am so grateful they did- I told my boyfriend “divorce is not an option for me- and he responded “me either” we are both Catholic and share the same values.
I am the child of divorced parents. My parents would drag me and my siblings to psychiatrists when we had issues which were actually rooted in family conflict. So we grew up prescribed to Adderall and were drugged with other psychiatric medications that ultimately killed my brother in his sleep at age 18. Both parents were never home, pursuing their careers, so we were raised by babysitters and television. At night they would be busy finding other sexual partners or drinking with friends. I struggle on a daily basis due to my upbringing and my parents have lived miserable lives themselves because of it. I am broken, my twin brother is dead, and my family is all lonely - of course I have struggled my whole adult life with relationships because I never saw up close what love was like.
I have a testimony to this and first comment about abuse. My first marriage ended in nasty divorce my parents were divorced - it is the worst thing for the children it ruined my kids 100%. But God. I ended up in 2nd being abusive ready to leave that one...but God... We now coparent awesomely, our children are growing in Christ, and I've watched transformation of 2nd. God is good. He really does restore and uses all things...
I hate the phrase , “ kids are resilient “. My parents divorced when I was 11 and I heard this frequently. It forced me to bottle up my emotions and live up to this performance of the perfect kid.
I'm sure this is an excellent program but I will not watch it. I was a child of divorce not just one divorce but five and have experienced as many myself sadly I am a believer I was not raised to believe in Christ but I am a believer and I read his word continually. Divorce and rebellion against God of devastated this world and family I have learned I have children of my own and I have learned what the law alone has done to marriage It is taking the biblical content out of it which allows you to divorce for any reason when the kids suffer greatly and it doesn't go away. Now there are success stories because of the Lord and I am one of those but mother and father are needed that's why the attack is straight from hell on the family. May God bless us and forgive us all and help us to follow Christ Jesus and the words of the holy book.
It’s not that single mothers can’t raise their children well, I’ve known a few wonderful single moms who give so much and sacrifice everything for their children. It’s just that social roles and expectations for children can become muddled and without watching a healthy relationship between a mother and father, children grow up trying to guess what a good marriage or committed relationship is suppose to feel/look like on the daily. And a good father can sort of “vet” boyfriends and see if they are decent enough to date, because they know how men with certain personalities act when they are not trying to impress girls. And can give unique advice to their sons in addition to the advice of their mothers. Two good parents just increase the probability of better experiences.
I likely would have handled my parents' divorce so much better if only my mother had just STAYED SINGLE afterward. My step-dad is the source of SO MANY issues I have as an adult. I wish she had prioritized us over feeling less lonely. She could at least have waited to remarry until after we'd all moved out of the house. Also, my bio dad could have stuck around rather than immediately uprooting to another state so we never saw him again after the divorce. Both my parents were so selfish.
These people never talk about the family who loses a parent when a child is very young. Try 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8… It is devastating. Lost my dad at 4 years old.
What utter garbage. Why do you mention feminism in the same sentence as you mention “boomers“? What choice does a person have as to what age he is born into? This is nothing but age bigotry. You need to check your conscience and your heart before talking.
I know for a fact that children of divorce have targets on their head to predators. Also, it hurts the kids so much that they are more open for suicide during their neglected teen years. If you feel you must divorce do NOT remarry unless an amazing person, better than your ex. Do not DATE around. You need to give your time and attention to your children exclusively.
My parents used to say we were lucky to have 2 Christmas's and 2 birthdays. As soon as they split the magic for both had gone and every "celebration" was awful.
Based on what Jennifer is saying (and is a lovely woman by the way) feminism seems to be mainly driven by non hetero women. I don't know why a hetero woman would want to push the idea that men and women are the same. And it seems that there is a conflict between how hetero feminist women think (or non hetero women who lean more hetero), versus how non hetero feminist think. In fact I would love to see her debate a feminist like Julie Bindel on the points brought up in the video.
Marriage is no longer an institution. It’s no longer considered an act of sacrifice to the greater good. Even most churches don’t condemn divorce. There’s no shame involved. We now have “no fault”divorce. We are watching the social collapse of the family unit.
Unfortunatel, my husband can't support our family of 6 but still expects me to be with the kids. He is ok for me to work from home around my homemaking if it does not interfere. Life is pretty miserable living paycheck to paycheck, drowning in debt. The kids would like to have swimming lessons or at least go to the public pool. One would like to learn the piano. My parents are paying for my car (my husband does not drive and does not want to pay for anything connected to the car). There is only barely enough gas to get the big kids to school. No trips with the car for leasure. No playdates with friends where I have to pick them up, because we need the gas to go to school. My husband gives me the impression I'm worthless because I don't bring in any $. I feel like I'm suffocating. Worrying about the debt... Crying everyday.
I urgently need a remote job or there will eventually be a divorce. He is not really mean or abusive. Just with the finances. No drive, no plan, just "I'm paying for everything, so I make the rules. Your dresser? I'm selling it, we need money. Your bike? Sold. You got the car from your parents." No drive to get new skills or a better paying job. We are just an annoying burden for him. He also doesn't like to spend time with the kids. As long as he gets sex and we don't annoy him with wanting something that costs money, he is fine. Like he would prefer to be a bachelor, no responsibilities but a girlfriend for sex a few times a week.
Scripture says a man that does not provide for his own family is worse than an unbeliever. You both need to get counseling and he needs to be held accountable or allow you to also work. Living like that is unacceptable and miserable
I'd strongly recommend going through the Financial Peace University program together, it doesn't sound like you are on the same page financially. Dave Ramsey 's program is life altering.
As a father/husband that went from homeless to homeowner all while married to a immature, promise breaking, lazy, obese, contentious modern woman, I'd rather be homeless and happy again than stay married. The relationship is dangerously toxic and I cant afford that because I'd like to be there for my kid's futures. It's better imo that they don't experience hateful arguments everyday. Divorce at times is self-preservation in hopes of fixing a broken, dysfunctional relationship in some way. This is not a knock on marriage which I believe, when done correctly, is close to perfection and a Godly institution. My advice: 1) No sex out of marriage. 2) Know your your prospective spouse for years before getting married. Ya'll should be best friends. 3) Make sure that you have the house, car, and savings before you even put yourself on the market for marriage. 4) Be successful spiritually, mentally, and physically before marriage and children.
You are putting all of the blame on everyone and everything else and you're taking zero accountability or responsibility for yourself and your actions. You picked this woman, not only that but you willingly had children with her, even after you saw who she was and what her character was like, and you still willingly brought life into this world with her. That's on YOU pal. You ignored every red flag and went all in anyway. Have some self reflection.
@@george.eliot42 no, you're totally wrong. I picked a woman that made plans & promises in the beginning of our relationship that were never kept. How would I have known she was going to break those promises until the passage of time proved that she was a liar? Our kids were both conceived in the 1st two years and I was so busy working that it took me several years to realize she had no plans on keeping her word.
Is anyone going to acknowledge her unbelievable resemblance to Dede Pritchett from modern family- I kept thinking “I know her from somewhere” well, no quite but man I can’t unsee DeDe during this interview. Even talks the same
Nothing would have made me happier than to have a good marriage, but my ex is a sociopath. She's alienated herself from everyone, including her own family and her children. Her daughter has nothing to do with her and our son doesn't trust her. He is thriving without her, but I really wish he could have had a good mother, so we could have had a two-parent home.
So many people now use the word partner. If you want a partner don't get married and just be partners. But If you want a wife or husband is the reason to get married.
Both my parents ran off when I was 6. Raised by my grandparents. I was lucky. Many aren't. My grandparents were great the only downfall is they were tired and didn't have the energy anymore. I was Raised in the country with no other kids to enteract with. When I went to school I had no social skills and kept to myself. That's ok too. Lol the one noticeable habit it created was I talk to myself all the time lol. That's ok too
The family is to the child the same as the womb is to the embryo. For a child, trying to survive a divorce is like an embryo trying to survive an abortion.
1:05:12 you’re more likely to divorce if you don’t cohabitate? My girl and I are waiting until marriage. Is she saying we need to live together before marriage?
So are "boomers " getting flack for the way things are today? Im glad my parents were tough, told me no, and cracked my ass when I needed it! Not enough of this happens in the parent child dichotomy today!
I'm at five years, six months, and nineteen days free of an addiction that started when I was thirteen. This is because I sought the Lord. 2 Chronicles 12:14
We need people to be more careful with who they marry. Divorce is not always bad, sometimes it's necessary if the couple truly is not on the same page and cannot make things work
People need to stop jumping into bed with whoever they're dating, because women especially will marry somebody because they've been sleeping with them and they're hormonally bonded. Instead we need to reintroduce the idea that dating is for marriage and marriage only.
When you take love honor and obay out of the marriage vows , you remove a man from the family. You remove authority from the family vested in the husband. When you remove GOD from the family , kiss the family good by.
You understand that for Generations MEN were hired over women, repeatedly my Mother was denied access to a Med school scholarship and million of other women
If you use that as an argument, one could argue that everyone can be “toxic”. Jesus says to “forgive seventy times seven” and yes it’s hard, but in marriage there is a lot of forgiveness and selflessness that needs to be involved and a lot of people lack that nowadays and conform to the world’s view on marriage
I realize you are an economics professor but The information you are talking about has been quite well researched at the period of time you are talking about. So you think you and your husband are good parents but not a gay couple that adopts ?
This video should be titled Society needs their to be a mother and a father in a child's life. Somewhere in the world there is a single parent male or female who is distant from the social order and and can successfully raise a child without any issues. Why do so many people cling to this notion even when nature itself shows us human beings how far are ideas are fromreslity there are countless animals that are single parents and there are countless animals that are cohabitating parental figures. Yet countlessly people will ignore the single parental animals and only clean to mammals and animals that are cohabitating parental figures 🤔 now way is that when human beings are on top of the food chain we mirror all ways of life not just one yet we will only uphold one way.
I’m here to Learn and not let my baby grow up in two homes . I’m here for my son my boyfriend I’m here to be a better wife mother I fight for my family
I'm sorry to say this because I never met her, but I feel she's cold and detached. Too intellectual for me. What about Doctor Spock that taught parents not to run to your child when they cry? However, I've changed my opinion lmafter listening half wsy through. She is correct about careers and abortion and baby's. I'm sorry for being so critical without hearing the entire message.
Girls have the same outcomes in single parent households (usually woman led) while boys have very negative outcomes from this. There has also been some new research about intentional versus unintentional single parent households. The limited research there has been points to the finding that children in intentionally single parent households have the same outcomes as children from two parent households. Much to early too tell though.
Complete nonsense. Many studies have proven that a child raised in a single household, where the father is not present have many many problems in life. This has been the cause of the collapse of many inner city, black families. No father present. The boy joins a gang and begins drug use. The girl gets pregnant at a very young age and repeats the cycle.
Romantic relationships are not a beautiful thing. Romance causes a lot of problems in this world. Life is a lot better without romance than it is with it. Romantic love is not special at all. I hope that someday that the human race ditches the concept of romance and romantic relationships. The human race can still reproduce without romance or even without sex. There's a lot of ways a woman can get pregnant without sex, and artificial insemination is one of them. Women don't unnecessarily have to be in a romantic relationship in order to raise a child. Fatherhood isn't necessary for the growth and development of a child like how motherhood is. A child can only be raised by their mother and still turn out fine. Studies have found that single mothers do better than married ones.
Two people shouldn't be together of they don't work out anymore. Sometimes people work.out better as friends than a couple. Sometimes divorce is good. I've never been married but my Ex abused me for 13 years and abused my kids. So you expect someone who is being abused to " work it out"? Thats stupid i broke uo with him my life has been awesome. I ended up getting with my childhood friend who was married also then divorced and hes happy to with me. Dont go promoting making thinhs work when it wasn't met to be with them. Some people sre being abused or theyre not happy and they have a right to breka free from that
@@Mrs_Homemaker very good,I applaud you! I don't know if I'd be not as influenced as you. Because they even say it's useful,self soothing or something like that. My sister moved to US from Ukraine and completely integrated. Her son is sleep trained,they even hired some consultant for advice.... My twins are 18 months and 3rd on the way, all are not sleep trained. Will not be sleeping for several years with these 3 girls)) but, I am happy to soothe them ❤️❤️❤️
I don’t know anyone that sleep trained and I am American. Don’t believe what you see online.. these “experts” don’t know anything! I co-slept with both of my children while I breastfed them. I nursed each of them until they were 2 - 2.5 yrs old. Best decision I could’ve made. They’re not 3 and 5 and they sleep in their own rooms just fine! I still love to snuggle up to them, though ❤ I love that you said you don’t mind soothing them, I feel the same way! They’re only babies for a while! God bless you and your family!
@@kristenadorno Thank you, Kristen! I love your story:) You're right, being in Ukraine, I just read a lot, though have a twin sister in the US, but she's just 1 person. I am happy to hear that it's an inflated and false impression that everyone sleep trains:)
American here. I have a baby boy rn and I don’t think I’ll ever have it in me to sleep train. Cosleeping until he gets much older no matter how much judgement I get from other Americans 🥰🤍💫
I have a masters in child and family development. Because of my studies I knew I wanted to be a mother that stays home during the formative years. We have very clear data in this field on divorce, early childhood attachment and mother/father relationship. And I remember thinking as a student why is society so disconnected from the science we clearly know about what best for children? It’s astonishing how we as a society do not put kids first!
I got married right after getting my masters and we started our family. I’m now 33 with 5 kids. I still have many plans and desires to do more in the field I studied. The way I look at it if I start a career at 40 I still have a good 25+ years in the work field. It always was common sense to me that if you’re lucky to find your love young, have a family first and career later!
Our children are far more important than a career.
Lmao you're definitely privileged to have that life scenario
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet you don’t have to be “privileged” to be a stay at home mom, all you really need is a decent, caring, supportive, hard-working, father in the home for the children and the mother. The due diligence for a successful family comes way before you say “I do”.
@ASMRyouVEGANyet prioritizing her so she can be a mother to her is privilege? Laughing at you 🤣
@Based_Gigachad_001 not privilege, prioritizing, wanting something and working hard to get it. The vegan is jealous cause she has no life.
As a grown daughter of divorced parents, my childhood was mostly awful. Then I turned around and did it to my own kids. No example of what marriage was supposed to be like. So grateful for all the pro life and pro family content.
((HUGS Mama))
Just start working on saving the next generation 🩷
@@JC111WPB We can't really help anyone get saved with Christ until we are ourselves.
My husband is a child of divorced parents and had to do (and still does) a LOT of inner work and forgiveness to break free from such trauma. I'm so proud of him and am very confident our story will be different ❤
Divorce PTSD is a real thing. I recommend Cognitive Behavioral Therapy!
Finally someone not promoting and giving excuses for divorce
From the mind of a child "if it's possible for Mommy and Daddy to stop loving each other, they could stop loving me"
That never crossed my mind because I never saw love between them.
I'm an adult child of divorce. My parents divorced was lengthy, ugly and secretive. All of it still effects me today, 2 decades later. I'm angry and sad.
I'm so sorry you experienced that. Can I ask what made their divorce "secretive"? Was it the reasons for the divorce were kept secret from you, secret from your community; or was it the negotiations were kept secret?
I feel the same way. Divorce can feel like a death. 😢
Are you a laydee?
I disowned the four children I raised.
Divorce PTSD is a real thing. I recommend Cognitive Behavioral Therapy!
As a 5th grade teacher of 25 years, I've seen the damage to kids year after year.
I remember finishing my assignment early so I went to visit with my 2nd grade teacher at her desk and I was telling her about my parents getting divorced… almost 40 years ago.
Can you elaborate? My nephews parents are not together and I want to know what to look out for
@hammypie sure.... the students always want their parents to stay together. They will check out mentally, get the ghost face/ fish eye look, can't concentrate or stay focused, start having social problems. Some act out, while some will internalize it. Most times, the mom will immediately start chasing other men and ignore the child. This really causes harm and I notice the kids seek companionship through their teachers. Suddenly the child will want to constantly be next to me, hold my hand In the halls while we go to lunch, pe, recess, or wherever. As a teacher, we usually hook them up with the counselor too. I've seen some kids not sleep, start urinating themselves, sleeping In class, etc
@Kwildcat13 totally
@Kwildcat13 I was thinking how getting dumped at school was where I learnt failure. Not only were so many years wasted going to school but the amount of harm done takes even longer to try and recover from. A single parent could still be better than a married couple who are not married to each other or their children but devoted to the school and the mortgage and the car and their friends etc.
My family has generations of divorce, I’m determined to break that for my children
Amen!
Well, you can be sure about that if you simply do not get married ;)
@PowerRedBullTypology or learn to communicate, compromise, if not compromise on somethings except the decision and so on and so forth.
Making a baby while not married is sinful. It's called fornication and it is a sin to our own bodies. The wages of sin is death, so you are basically promoting death.
It starts with the husband…
@@drummerhq2263 ???
I teach my babies to come to me. When they fall around me and cry, I sit down and open my arms for them and I display empathy on my face and I tell them to come if they need help to start the action; they stand back up and come running for a hug and comfort (or crawl). It becomes natural for them to take part in the relationship and have agency in how they respond to failure and adversity. They know I will always make myself available when they need support. I recommend this to every parent as soon as children learn to crawl. We practice the verb "come here" in non-emotional situations, like when we go to the fridge for a snack. ❤
Most absolutely mind-blowing conversation I’ve seen maybe ever. My jaw is on the floor. This podcast is sooo important. All the pieces are clicking together for me.
Dr. Morse does a stunning job of revealing that we the ruled are multi generational battlefield casualties from this war by the rulers.
I’m more anti State than ever now.
I’m a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and nothing is more important to me than family. One of my first memories was looking up at my mom and realizing my dream was to become a mom too, so I could make my kids feel as loved as she made me feel. I grew up with the gospel taught in our home- particularly the Proclamation to the family- that proudly declared families to be essential to gods plan. I’m only 20, but I’m so excited to get married and have a family one day. Society is built upon mothers and fathers, and I’m grateful God put me in a home with a strong foundation.
I’m gonna start looking into whatever pro life organization I can join in, because I’ve got hope that this generation is gonna raise wonderful warriors of God to combat the craziness of these times
That’s so cool that you want to be a mother, best of luck! And I truely mean this in the nicest way possible, I’d highly highly highly recommend you do some research into the history of the LDS church. Even if you’re completely convicted in your beliefs, it’s always okay and smart to ask questions. Please do some digging, not everything is rainbows and unicorns. Lastly, best wishes for you and the family you wish to have. Judging by this one youtube comment (which doesn’t say a lot) you seem like you’d be a great mother.
@@abigailshepherd3453 Thank you so much! Hehe I do get that a lot when I say what church I’m a member of, and it is understandable since there’s a looooot of misinformation and stereotypes about us out there. Luckily the church is very open and honest about its history, and I have done quite a bit of research already, but even if I haven’t, I’ve prayed and received confirmation that the Book of Mormon is another testament of Jesus Christ. So, even in the case that there is some church things that may be dubious, that would be the fault of imperfect people and not our doctrine. I appreciate the concern though! And I wish you luck in your goals as well
@@justyouraveragebaka9493 I am a member as well! As a child who has come from a very broken home I have come to love and cherish The Proclamation of the Family, and I am so grateful and encouraged when I see amazing people from all walks of life and faith coming to the same conclusions.
I love your faith and enthusiasm, and though things seem bleak at times I have hope that together we can all do our part to help turn this tide around!
Aww thanks 🥰 One last thing though: you’re saying the fault would be on imperfect people and not the doctrine, but the doctrine was written by imperfect people. Overall, the LDS church has a very controversial history. But I’m not here to argue.
...while making an argument.
Why can't you just leave it alone. Take the second half of your response, post it and leave. Why the first part of your comment if you are posting "no argument."
THAT is the word-game-folly that makes a salad distasteful and disrespecting for those that despise salad's.
Make no mistake as I am not talking about Olive Garden or table food salad here.
Give Lila her flowers for another great episode. 🙏 💐
❤
Great job Lila for inviting the marvellous Dr Morse!! I can't believe I am seeing you both in the same room. Women of character, substance and faith!! If there were more of this kind of women, lots of issues will come to an end. Mzy God bless you both and help us all to speak the Truth.🙏🏾🙏🏾
It's hard being a parent. It's hard being married. both call for sacrifice and true love - which is willing the good of the other and doing everything you can to help the other achieve this good.
👍 Anything worth doing is never easy.
Great job Jennifer and Lila! Super important topic. Abortion won't become unthinkable without family restoration.
It's very interesting to watch this as someone, who grew up in a family with an absent mom and a great father. It's often talked about how an absent father effects his child, but not, what happens, when the mother isn't there. My mother is physically and mentally ill and was just overwhelmed with me and my three siblings. Today I know that, but as a child, you don't understand. And I was that kid, who was the "good" one. I didn't cry, like my father said "very easy to care for." It's absolutely true, what Dr. Morse said. As the "easy to care for" kid, you just resignate. And in my case, I just staid in that mode. I was the responsible, resonable one, the one, who was always there in every need. But in the end it's just a role you play, because it's the only thing, that gives you some sort of, good, attention. 'Till this day, it's very hard for me to trust humans, especially women, in a deep way.
Shame so many women use their children to gain leverage in the family courts during seperation in order to claim max child maintenance and benefits. It's a win all round for women to claim domestic abuse and/or try to prevent child spending quality time with both parents. The solicitors, the schools and all are all involved with their biases. My heart goes out to all the dad's and children out there suffering at the hands of the malciious system directed by spiteful and power hungry women
Wow! This is informative, inspiring and awesome! Thank you for taking the time to do this. Truly grateful for sharing! This is amazing!
Going through my parents divorce was so harmful to me as I was early in my adolescence and it was my mom who wanted to leave. On the upside, I saw everything they did wrong and I’ve been able to advise friends of mine who go through divorce. As a wife and mother myself, I refuse to see that as an option.
My parents were divorced when I was ten. Just last year at 34 they reunited. I suffered a lot. We all did. My mom regrets leaving. I don’t have any friends and I live alone. I pushed everyone who ever loved me away. But my parents got their happy ending. I forgive them as best I can.
My parents were divorced for the first 5 years of my dad because of my father’s mother (my dad was and kind of still is a mama’s boy) and I vaguely remember my dad sending me birthday gifts every year and sending me toys, dresses, etc. I didn’t even know I had a father for years and I was mostly raised by my maternal family who I am much closer to than my paternal. My dad was extremely depressed about me since my mother wouldn’t let him see me due to pettiness, but at one point, she felt bad for me and began sneaking out of my grandparent’s home to let me see my dad. I still remember how happy he looked each time. Then after 5 years of divorce they got back together for me. Even after they got back together, they had many ugly fights which basically ruined me. Now my dad is slowly realizing his own flaws and so is my paternal grandmother, they fight less often now and when they do it’s less ugly but I’m still pretty traumatized by their past fights. I remember the bad times more than the good times. I hold resentment towards both of my parents now.
I really wish people would understand that who you choose to marry is the biggest decision you'll make in your life. Too many people idolize marriage and/or think of it as something to check off of a list. Then, once the novelty wears off (it does), they're shocked and overwhelmed and confused by the sacrificial nature of marriage. And they naively think that who they married will never change. Which is false. We all change and we all are charged with loving the evolving spouse before us.
I also think a big indicator of the strength of a marriage is what people did when they're single prior to marriage. So many people treat being single as something to escape from rather than a valuable time that you won't get back once you're married. When I've spoken to divorced people I can almost pinpoint what they might have done differently while they were single. Commonly for women I see waiting to live their life until they get married. Then a few years into marriage with kids, they want to do certain things like travel or pick up an expensive hobby or finish school, but the demands of marriage/kids won't always allow for that. Or they don't use their single season to truly understand who they are and what they need in a partner, and, importantly, what will be required of them in marriage. Flash forward to "irreconcilable differences."
Bottom line, everyone wants to be Michael Jordan but not many people actually want to put in the work. I treat marriage just like I treat most areas of my life. If I want to be successful at it, I have to prepare BEFORE. I'm not going to magically figure it out as I go along and most people won't either. Take your time and don't get married just because you don't want to be single because, as this video shows, the consequences are far reaching.
I don’t agree that who you marry is the biggest decision you’ll make in life. It’s what you do with that person you married. How much work you put in. How much self sacrificing love you put in. There is no “perfect” person to marry.
I am a grandchild of divorce and a grandchild of an alcoholic. The trauma is absolutely real and impacts the generations. I’ve seen it with my cousins, my affected parent, and extended family. I will say that I found the 12-Step program, ACOA (and dysfunctional families), very helpful in learning tools to help me.
25:14 Wow. When she talks about her 2.5 year old not even knowing his name my heart just broke.
He will be ok
He is ok. He’s 35, and doing fine!
I just love listening to Dr. Morse!
This is so good. My parents divorced when I was six. I'm thirty-six now. Life was just fine besides my parents' dating and remarriages. My dad remarried when I was sixteen and a half and, very much because of the person he married, it turned life upside-down. (They are still married.) Over the years, I have grown to have the opinion that a person should go into a divorce with the intention to remain single afterward. I feel pretty firmly that what it takes to raise children well and what it takes to effectively date and find a new spouse are two things that are too big to do at the same time. I have started being pretty vocal about these things.
My husband and I should be divorced right now for a handful of reasons, but we have managed to work through things. Our family is healthy, and our kids are doing well. A number of times, I could have left for a variety of good reasons. Reason was on my side. But by the grace of God, I'm here and we're doing fine, and things get better every day. (I don't say this in a delusional way, and I'm not in denial.)
Your comment brings me hope! God Bless
You are truly an unusual wife. 70% of marriages end because the wife is “unhappy“
Love this discussion and it’s not rocket science it’s someone if they pay attention to their heart and what’s really going on around them. They’ll see these true so we’re spoken in this discussion today. Appreciate these women blessed by the time they spent figuring these things out. Hugs.
When I was in the scouts there was this boy who was also from Romanian who have been adopted 。His parents and my were good friends. is mother told us that when he came。 he didn't speak at all. So she prayed。 that he would be able to speak. Till this day he has never stopped talking😅
❤ Dr. J! She is amazing!
I’m a former Catholic but I love this education. Love this type.
This was a very compelling conversation. I adored the conversationabout the value of a homemaker. I had no support in my drive to do this... my parents had an awful marriage. My mother left for another man when I was 19. Im now 40 and I have a lot if peers with a similar experience. I'd like a hard conversation from a Christian perspective on the effects of divorce on children versus the effects of growing up in a toxic/abusive household. I'm an "unlapsed" Catholic now and trying my best for my children.
First and foremost Im gettig more educated, read books, and grab one of her books and see what you gain
As a current mom and wife in crisis. Im trying my hardest to keep the peace and marriage together for the sake of my child. I have 1 child, and I cant imagine anyone going though a divorce and having more than one. Its surely a huge distruction in society. I have been the best wife, but men will still find reasons to get away with adultry. I have been really taking on the role of mom and dad, while still married (protector and the nurturing mom). There are days where I really just want to walk away, but then I don't know how this will damage my son in the long run. I would rather sacrifice my happiness to an extent. I can't control if the dad leaves (abandons) the house and family. However, Im not willing to trade my sanity and my sons wellbeing for a man who is only looking to knock down the tribe. 😢
It is such a personal decision. Please know moms, and women that no one should judge you if you decide to leave or decide to say, becauee one might leave one scary situation to jump into another scary situation, please plan, be proactive, and trust in God.❤
Brilliant. This entire talk is brilliant. Thanks, ladies. ❤️
Great interview! I’m going to buy some of Jennifer’s books right now.
let’s hope this opens a lot more eyes
Thank you, Lila. Praying to our Lord Jesus for help with healing; asking for the intercession of holy parents Saint Louis Martin and Saint Zelie Martin, and their daughter Thérèse of Lisieux. Hope you have a light-filled peaceful energetic day with your beautiful family, especially because you'll need the energy with your new daughter! And looking forward to today's Lila Rose podcast, your first live show since the birth of your daughter on your Lila Rose channel!
i'd actually suggest therapy.... for both of you.
As a child of divorced parents that used my sibling and I as pawns in their dislike for each other, they never understand the affect it truly has on the kids and their development, from anxiety and depression of what life will become and constant arguing even after the divorce to only worrying about what makes them happy and not making sure the kids where truly ok, now as a 27 year old man i still find myself worrying about little things in life and walking on eggshells to appease everyone. Divorce is extremely detrimental to children's development and mental wellbeing
My parents had a not perfect marriage - but their faith kept them fighting for it. They stayed together till they died and I am so grateful they did- I told my boyfriend “divorce is not an option for me- and he responded “me either” we are both Catholic and share the same values.
I'm an adult child of divorce. I always wonder why I can't sue my parents for damages. My dad was the worrrrrssst.
Though the realist in me says it’s a non viable idea, the emotional part of me really wishes this was a thing.
Grow up.
Life sucks.
Move on and do better than what you were shown.
Fyi parents who stay together while it's best, still can be VERY VERY abusive.
I am the child of divorced parents. My parents would drag me and my siblings to psychiatrists when we had issues which were actually rooted in family conflict. So we grew up prescribed to Adderall and were drugged with other psychiatric medications that ultimately killed my brother in his sleep at age 18. Both parents were never home, pursuing their careers, so we were raised by babysitters and television. At night they would be busy finding other sexual partners or drinking with friends. I struggle on a daily basis due to my upbringing and my parents have lived miserable lives themselves because of it. I am broken, my twin brother is dead, and my family is all lonely - of course I have struggled my whole adult life with relationships because I never saw up close what love was like.
Thank you for sharing this.
I have a testimony to this and first comment about abuse. My first marriage ended in nasty divorce my parents were divorced - it is the worst thing for the children it ruined my kids 100%. But God. I ended up in 2nd being abusive ready to leave that one...but God...
We now coparent awesomely, our children are growing in Christ, and I've watched transformation of 2nd. God is good. He really does restore and uses all things...
As a child of divorce from the age of 13 on, and now being 50 and unmarried without kids, I wouldn't wish divorce on my worst enemy.
I disowned the 4 children I raised. They are all failures in life. Too bad.
I hate the phrase , “ kids are resilient “. My parents divorced when I was 11 and I heard this frequently. It forced me to bottle up my emotions and live up to this performance of the perfect kid.
I'm sure this is an excellent program but I will not watch it. I was a child of divorce not just one divorce but five and have experienced as many myself sadly I am a believer I was not raised to believe in Christ but I am a believer and I read his word continually. Divorce and rebellion against God of devastated this world and family I have learned I have children of my own and I have learned what the law alone has done to marriage It is taking the biblical content out of it which allows you to divorce for any reason when the kids suffer greatly and it doesn't go away. Now there are success stories because of the Lord and I am one of those but mother and father are needed that's why the attack is straight from hell on the family. May God bless us and forgive us all and help us to follow Christ Jesus and the words of the holy book.
It’s not that single mothers can’t raise their children well, I’ve known a few wonderful single moms who give so much and sacrifice everything for their children. It’s just that social roles and expectations for children can become muddled and without watching a healthy relationship between a mother and father, children grow up trying to guess what a good marriage or committed relationship is suppose to feel/look like on the daily. And a good father can sort of “vet” boyfriends and see if they are decent enough to date, because they know how men with certain personalities act when they are not trying to impress girls. And can give unique advice to their sons in addition to the advice of their mothers. Two good parents just increase the probability of better experiences.
I likely would have handled my parents' divorce so much better if only my mother had just STAYED SINGLE afterward. My step-dad is the source of SO MANY issues I have as an adult. I wish she had prioritized us over feeling less lonely. She could at least have waited to remarry until after we'd all moved out of the house. Also, my bio dad could have stuck around rather than immediately uprooting to another state so we never saw him again after the divorce. Both my parents were so selfish.
Sad situation but it can be reversed... It's going to take a revolutionary shift in worldview.
My Mother’s name was Ruth too. I want to learn more about the Ruth Institute!
These people never talk about the family who loses a parent when a child is very young. Try 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8…
It is devastating. Lost my dad at 4 years old.
You can thank the 60’s, feminism and boomers for what we live in now.
Actually you can thank the Zionist movement.
Go look into
-Arron Russo
-The godfather of propaganda
What utter garbage. Why do you mention feminism in the same sentence as you mention “boomers“? What choice does a person have as to what age he is born into? This is nothing but age bigotry. You need to check your conscience and your heart before talking.
And when were you born? I’m sure I can find many things to blame on your generation and blame on you also. What ignorance.
Or their parents?
Thanks!
I know for a fact that children of divorce have targets on their head to predators. Also, it hurts the kids so much that they are more open for suicide during their neglected teen years. If you feel you must divorce do NOT remarry unless an amazing person, better than your ex. Do not DATE around. You need to give your time and attention to your children exclusively.
My parents used to say we were lucky to have 2 Christmas's and 2 birthdays. As soon as they split the magic for both had gone and every "celebration" was awful.
She’s amazing.
Wonderful!
Great episode👌🙌
Based on what Jennifer is saying (and is a lovely woman by the way) feminism seems to be mainly driven by non hetero women. I don't know why a hetero woman would want to push the idea that men and women are the same.
And it seems that there is a conflict between how hetero feminist women think (or non hetero women who lean more hetero), versus how non hetero feminist think.
In fact I would love to see her debate a feminist like Julie Bindel on the points brought up in the video.
Marriage is no longer an institution. It’s no longer considered an act of sacrifice to the greater good. Even most churches don’t condemn divorce. There’s no shame involved. We now have “no fault”divorce. We are watching the social collapse of the family unit.
Unfortunatel, my husband can't support our family of 6 but still expects me to be with the kids. He is ok for me to work from home around my homemaking if it does not interfere. Life is pretty miserable living paycheck to paycheck, drowning in debt. The kids would like to have swimming lessons or at least go to the public pool. One would like to learn the piano. My parents are paying for my car (my husband does not drive and does not want to pay for anything connected to the car). There is only barely enough gas to get the big kids to school. No trips with the car for leasure. No playdates with friends where I have to pick them up, because we need the gas to go to school. My husband gives me the impression I'm worthless because I don't bring in any $. I feel like I'm suffocating. Worrying about the debt... Crying everyday.
I urgently need a remote job or there will eventually be a divorce. He is not really mean or abusive. Just with the finances. No drive, no plan, just "I'm paying for everything, so I make the rules. Your dresser? I'm selling it, we need money. Your bike? Sold. You got the car from your parents." No drive to get new skills or a better paying job. We are just an annoying burden for him. He also doesn't like to spend time with the kids. As long as he gets sex and we don't annoy him with wanting something that costs money, he is fine. Like he would prefer to be a bachelor, no responsibilities but a girlfriend for sex a few times a week.
I'm sorry that's happening. Dave Ramsey takes calls like yours often. Maybe you could call into his show to get some advice. You are in my prayers.
Scripture says a man that does not provide for his own family is worse than an unbeliever. You both need to get counseling and he needs to be held accountable or allow you to also work. Living like that is unacceptable and miserable
I'd strongly recommend going through the Financial Peace University program together, it doesn't sound like you are on the same page financially. Dave Ramsey 's program is life altering.
@@elfriededrunus6402 you sound very bitter and angry. When did he change? Did you marry him and he had a different personality and character?
As a father/husband that went from homeless to homeowner all while married to a immature, promise breaking, lazy, obese, contentious modern woman, I'd rather be homeless and happy again than stay married. The relationship is dangerously toxic and I cant afford that because I'd like to be there for my kid's futures. It's better imo that they don't experience hateful arguments everyday. Divorce at times is self-preservation in hopes of fixing a broken, dysfunctional relationship in some way. This is not a knock on marriage which I believe, when done correctly, is close to perfection and a Godly institution.
My advice:
1) No sex out of marriage.
2) Know your your prospective spouse for years before getting married. Ya'll should be best friends.
3) Make sure that you have the house, car, and savings before you even put yourself on the market for marriage.
4) Be successful spiritually, mentally, and physically before marriage and children.
Make sure you Sheba your spouse to be has addressed trauma in therapy and gotten treatment if needed
You are putting all of the blame on everyone and everything else and you're taking zero accountability or responsibility for yourself and your actions. You picked this woman, not only that but you willingly had children with her, even after you saw who she was and what her character was like, and you still willingly brought life into this world with her. That's on YOU pal. You ignored every red flag and went all in anyway. Have some self reflection.
@@george.eliot42 no, you're totally wrong. I picked a woman that made plans & promises in the beginning of our relationship that were never kept. How would I have known she was going to break those promises until the passage of time proved that she was a liar? Our kids were both conceived in the 1st two years and I was so busy working that it took me several years to realize she had no plans on keeping her word.
Is anyone going to acknowledge her unbelievable resemblance to Dede Pritchett from modern family- I kept thinking “I know her from somewhere” well, no quite but man I can’t unsee DeDe during this interview. Even talks the same
Hey Lila, I know that you get all kinds of comments and probably won’t see this, but you should interview Fr. Josiah Trenham!!😊☦️ I love your work!♥️🥰
I had this exact same thought!!! It would be an amazing interview!!!
Nothing would have made me happier than to have a good marriage, but my ex is a sociopath. She's alienated herself from everyone, including her own family and her children. Her daughter has nothing to do with her and our son doesn't trust her. He is thriving without her, but I really wish he could have had a good mother, so we could have had a two-parent home.
So many people now use the word partner. If you want a partner don't get married and just be partners. But If you want a wife or husband is the reason to get married.
Lake Charles? I just built a home in Gueydan. Originally from Catholic Louisiana have a great community in Texas, but there is nothing like Louisiana.
Both my parents ran off when I was 6. Raised by my grandparents. I was lucky. Many aren't. My grandparents were great the only downfall is they were tired and didn't have the energy anymore. I was Raised in the country with no other kids to enteract with. When I went to school I had no social skills and kept to myself. That's ok too. Lol the one noticeable habit it created was I talk to myself all the time lol. That's ok too
Ha they listened to me to have her on 😅
I have a mom and a dad and I'm glad they are no together. My dad was an alcoholic and beat my mom in front of me.
You still deserved healthy parents.
The family is to the child the same as the womb is to the embryo. For a child, trying to survive a divorce is like an embryo trying to survive an abortion.
Want to fix the family? End child support.
I tried starting a family but it was all about the problem 😔
Nothing better than fresh grown cucumbers but fresh cucumbers in white vinegar
1:05:12 you’re more likely to divorce if you don’t cohabitate? My girl and I are waiting until marriage. Is she saying we need to live together before marriage?
I think she misspoke, but even if she didn't you're more likely to divorce if you DO prior to marriage.
@@george.eliot42 thank you
SEX WITHOUT FEELING ISN'T MAKING LOVE. IT IS HAVING LUST. ONE OF DEADLY SINS
So are "boomers " getting flack for the way things are today? Im glad my parents were tough, told me no, and cracked my ass when I needed it! Not enough of this happens in the parent child dichotomy today!
I'm at five years, six months, and nineteen days free of an addiction that started when I was thirteen. This is because I sought the Lord. 2 Chronicles 12:14
Divorce PTSD is a real thing. I recommend Cognitive Behavioral Therapy!
Nothing wrong with Step Parents. Not everyone is meant to be together
We need people to be more careful with who they marry. Divorce is not always bad, sometimes it's necessary if the couple truly is not on the same page and cannot make things work
People need to stop jumping into bed with whoever they're dating, because women especially will marry somebody because they've been sleeping with them and they're hormonally bonded. Instead we need to reintroduce the idea that dating is for marriage and marriage only.
We shouldn't need this extremely educated woman who conducted social experiments to tell us this. Everyone should read The Secret Garden mandatorily.
When you take love honor and obay out of the marriage vows , you remove a man from the family.
You remove authority from the family vested in the husband. When you remove GOD from the family , kiss the family good by.
I teach young men to never get married and never have kids because its not worth it. My case proves that.
You understand that for Generations MEN were hired over women, repeatedly my Mother was denied access to a Med school scholarship and million of other women
If a gay couple adopt children, how does that hurt you ? Do adopted children not make a family ?
Children need a GOOD mom and dad. If a parent is toxic they are better absent.
If you use that as an argument, one could argue that everyone can be “toxic”. Jesus says to “forgive seventy times seven” and yes it’s hard, but in marriage there is a lot of forgiveness and selflessness that needs to be involved and a lot of people lack that nowadays and conform to the world’s view on marriage
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@@KidCity1985 loyalty. Commitment. Sticking to the promises you make. Wow, what a concept, right?
@@maritzah.4039 child abuse, you've heard of it, right?
Children learn coping skills by watching their parents struggle THROUGH problems not abandoning the ship.
My Dad was not my mom Mom was not my Dad Thank God I had both. I knew a woman that socked her boy when 15 year old hit her
I realize you are an economics professor but The information you are talking about has been quite well researched at the period of time you are talking about.
So you think you and your husband are good parents but not a gay couple that adopts ?
This video should be titled Society needs their to be a mother and a father in a child's life. Somewhere in the world there is a single parent male or female who is distant from the social order and and can successfully raise a child without any issues. Why do so many people cling to this notion even when nature itself shows us human beings how far are ideas are fromreslity there are countless animals that are single parents and there are countless animals that are cohabitating parental figures. Yet countlessly people will ignore the single parental animals and only clean to mammals and animals that are cohabitating parental figures 🤔 now way is that when human beings are on top of the food chain we mirror all ways of life not just one yet we will only uphold one way.
I’m here to Learn and not let my baby grow up in two homes . I’m here for my son my boyfriend I’m here to be a better wife mother I fight for my family
Amen and amen. Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
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I'm sorry to say this because I never met her, but I feel she's cold and detached. Too intellectual for me. What about Doctor Spock that taught parents not to run to your child when they cry? However, I've changed my opinion lmafter listening half wsy through. She is correct about careers and abortion and baby's. I'm sorry for being so critical without hearing the entire message.
Girls have the same outcomes in single parent households (usually woman led) while boys have very negative outcomes from this. There has also been some new research about intentional versus unintentional single parent households. The limited research there has been points to the finding that children in intentionally single parent households have the same outcomes as children from two parent households. Much to early too tell though.
Complete nonsense. Many studies have proven that a child raised in a single household, where the father is not present have many many problems in life. This has been the cause of the collapse of many inner city, black families. No father present. The boy joins a gang and begins drug use. The girl gets pregnant at a very young age and repeats the cycle.
Romantic relationships are not a beautiful thing. Romance causes a lot of problems in this world. Life is a lot better without romance than it is with it. Romantic love is not special at all.
I hope that someday that the human race ditches the concept of romance and romantic relationships. The human race can still reproduce without romance or even without sex. There's a lot of ways a woman can get pregnant without sex, and artificial insemination is one of them.
Women don't unnecessarily have to be in a romantic relationship in order to raise a child. Fatherhood isn't necessary for the growth and development of a child like how motherhood is. A child can only be raised by their mother and still turn out fine. Studies have found that single mothers do better than married ones.
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I love Lila but I CANNOT listen to this for an hour and a half and hear her moan every 15 seconds.
I like her moans
Change the laws men aint marrying
The right men will put their trust in the woman they love over the law. We can’t change society by playing by its rules
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Two people shouldn't be together of they don't work out anymore. Sometimes people work.out better as friends than a couple. Sometimes divorce is good. I've never been married but my Ex abused me for 13 years and abused my kids. So you expect someone who is being abused to " work it out"? Thats stupid i broke uo with him my life has been awesome. I ended up getting with my childhood friend who was married also then divorced and hes happy to with me. Dont go promoting making thinhs work when it wasn't met to be with them. Some people sre being abused or theyre not happy and they have a right to breka free from that
28:30 - you Americans love sleep training so much , it's ridiculous. It's learner helplessness
Not all of us. I've never once sleep trained my kids. I find it abhorrent
@@Mrs_Homemaker very good,I applaud you! I don't know if I'd be not as influenced as you. Because they even say it's useful,self soothing or something like that. My sister moved to US from Ukraine and completely integrated. Her son is sleep trained,they even hired some consultant for advice.... My twins are 18 months and 3rd on the way, all are not sleep trained. Will not be sleeping for several years with these 3 girls)) but, I am happy to soothe them ❤️❤️❤️
I don’t know anyone that sleep trained and I am American. Don’t believe what you see online.. these “experts” don’t know anything! I co-slept with both of my children while I breastfed them. I nursed each of them until they were 2 - 2.5 yrs old. Best decision I could’ve made. They’re not 3 and 5 and they sleep in their own rooms just fine! I still love to snuggle up to them, though ❤ I love that you said you don’t mind soothing them, I feel the same way! They’re only babies for a while! God bless you and your family!
@@kristenadorno Thank you, Kristen! I love your story:) You're right, being in Ukraine, I just read a lot, though have a twin sister in the US, but she's just 1 person. I am happy to hear that it's an inflated and false impression that everyone sleep trains:)
American here. I have a baby boy rn and I don’t think I’ll ever have it in me to sleep train. Cosleeping until he gets much older no matter how much judgement I get from other Americans 🥰🤍💫