When my father and mother were engaged he was drafted and had to go to war. He was badly wounded. He stepped on a land mine and lost his eyes and his leg. Everyone told her (including his dad) do not marry him, that it would be such a burden for her. She loved my dad so much that they did get married in the hospital where he was recuperating from his wounds. my mom was 19 years old when they married and they loved each other for almost 50 years until my father past away. She never remarried saying "he was the love of my life." They raised my brother and myself with so much love. Our life was peaceful and good. My father had a great sense of humor and kept us all laughing. He was never bitter over his condition and was a great man. Did mom sacrifice? I would say she worked very, very hard taking care of all of us. People would say she was a saint. I'm sure there was some frustration, but she never complained. To us this was our normal family life. We had lots of love and respect in our household and love really does conquer all. Shane and Hannah you are truly blessed to have found each other, as my parents were. This is your journey. What does it matter what people think or say. Always try to keep your sense of humor. Trust and have faith in the Lord and He will bring you through any challenges that you have to face.
I believe their journey together is really teaching people, like me, a lot of things I would have never thought of. You were a lucky girl to see such love with your parents!
One of my friends has interabled parents. Her dad became disabled while she was pretty young. I'm sure there were challenges, but her parents, like yours, managed to raise a bunch of kids without going insane and her dad found other ways to contribute to the well being of the family in spite of his limitations. Not having a body that works quite like it should isn't the end of the world. It's almost like humans have a big clever brain that makes them adaptable or something! :)
I love how people call her caring for the man she loves "wasting her 20's" and me spending 10 years doing nothing but games and youtube "fine". We wase our 20's alot more often and on alot useless stuff...... She's enjoying her life.
Ok. I am glad she is happy that is a good thing is today her birthday if it is tell her I said happy birthday 🎈🎉🎂🎈🎉 how old will she be if it's her birthday
@@laurenmarie9332 ok lol what do you meanyou look at him I don't understand I'm busy trying to work but you can still message me I'm working on singing 😉
Hannah is lucky to have such a sweet, funny, and caring man. Why doesn’t anyone talk about how lucky Hannah is?? Shane is a freaking goldmine. A successful author who is so loving and positive and also puts family first is a score
@@inhaledexhaled5460 both can be true! For example Hannah finds Shane physically attractive as well as loving his personality. I think the important thing is to b open hearted
Skyler Reynolds I would NEVER be with someone who found me a burden.. not fucking ever. The second they said or hinted I was a burden I’d wheel away and be done with her 100%
I don't see sacrifice at all... I see a girl who found the person who makes her happy in life. You can tell just by looking at her face when she talks to him.
She may love him but let's be real. She has made the decision to be forever celibate. They cannot have sex. If that is ok with her then that is okay with her. That is a loving sacrifice for a young woman to make going into a marriage. Hopefully love conquers all. As long as they are both happy.
Anyone could become less physically able at any time. A real relationship isn't about what you can or can't do, its about who you are. Why do people find this so hard? You guys are great together and it shows. X
Many people nowadays are too egocentric and narcissistic to be able to sustain a normal relationship ,not to mention an interacted one. Selfless love is seen as abhorrent and so strange. Not so! The teacher learns more than the student and the giver receives more in return. The stingy goes without and the generous reaps a bountiful harvest.
I’m mostly concerned that there are so many people out here in relationships in which they don’t do acts of service for their partners. Y’all should try it sometime.
Yesss they are such a model for this to learn from I know a woman she was a NB PSYCHOLOGIST. She did not know me or my partner and said right off the bat all of my relationships were “not equal” because of my ADD. I would use people for the rest of my life basically. This woman was mad at the world or something she really only should be mad at herself for being such a BAD VILE PERSON. Love people for what they are not aren’t (their weaknesses) it was the most bizarre encounter with a narcissist. Later I found out she was in a divorce of which the reason was: my husband -now I am a psychologist- is not up to mu standards anymore our relationship is not equal no more.
@@arthurwarren2able yo author if you're going to make a remark like that you need to be suspicious pick you just see something in their eyes I see something in your ignorance you have to be very specific if you're going to make a very ignorant like that what the hell do you see it on your eyes? so stupid
The ignorance of some people truly amazes me. Love is love period its not about money it’s not about physical ability. People should be happy for Shane and Hannah that they found one another and plan to have an amazing life together. I myself am disabled and have been married for nearly 24 years I have two amazing kids and the most wonderful and caring wife who is also my best friend. Ok I have limits but I worked hard and gave my wife and kids the best I could give them and out of all my abled bodied friends still married to my one and only and not single or on wife number 3. There are two many keyboard warriors in this day and age also very unhappy single people who live in the parents basements who are quick to judge and leave comments with out knowing the true facts, not that Shane or Hannah need to address these idiots in the first place. I’m so happy they have each other and there family’s and true friends in there life and I wish them all the best for an amazing life together ❤️
I'm a "caregiver" for someone who I'm not in a romantic relationship with, but even I know that caregiving for someone that you love never feels like a sacrifice. We naturally care for the people we love. When I reach over an wipe my friends mouth, I don't even think about it. I love her and that's the routine of things. She would do it for me if the tables were flipped, and I am not a saint for being her friend. I feel like our relationship is give and take. We both just enjoy being around each other. No sacrifice needed.
I got broken up with when my disability started getting worse and my abled partner told me it was too hard to be with me because I’m disabled. That was 2 years ago and since then my disability has got worse. Whenever I see the comments about how people like Hannah are sacrificing so much to consider being with people like Shane or like me. It makes me feel so hopeless. One of the reasons I love Shane and Hannah is because they give me hope that I could find an equal but it’s so heartbreaking to know that so many people in the world think of me as a burden that would be ruining the life of anyone who fell in love with me.
The people who say those kind of things come off as real assholes and don't deserve any kind of respect. Don't take criticism from anyone who shows such obvious disrespect and ignorance. The opinions of the people who genuinely care about you and you know to be good people are the only ones you should listen to about important matters. I realize I'm just another stranger on the internet but I am someone who loves someone with chronic illnesses and have never wanted to not love them or not be with them based on their health. Love isn't conditional, and just because some people haven't figured that out doesn't mean that no one has. Your health does not determine if you are worthy of love 💕
I was going out with my husband for two weeks when I had an accident which escalated a pain condition and has left me disabled. 5 years in a wheelchair etc. I offered for hubby to leave our relationship, later our marriage as my disability got worse. I felt that I was a burden and that he would be better off without having to care for me. Hubby got really upset and told me that he would like to be the one who decides if he is suffering and assured me that our 22 year marriage as been his happiest time. Being of service is a way of life, to care for someone can be a gift (hubby’s words not mine). Hannah and Shane, you are blessed to have found a deep and trusting love, cherish that and ignore those who find caring a chore. A fan from Australia 💕
I think the attention you both have brought to interabled relationships is amazing! The choice you made to share you relationship to the entire world is (and will continue to) remove the stigma of not only interabled relationships, but disability in general. Thank you for sharing your stories and experiences with the world and being so open to answering questions and assumptions (even the rather mean spirited ones) in such a kind and loving way!
You two are filling a huge educational hole for society. Inter-abled relationships will be understood and more people will be accepting of them in large part due to your love and the work you are doing. Thank you for continuing to put yourselves out there, making videos, answering questions, and writing a book in spite of the negativity that comes with it. Dealing with the harsh treatment of your relationship has got to be hard, and yet your story needs to be heard. You are helping to blaze the trail of acceptance. Quite a fulfilled life indeed!
I have a mental illness (tourettes to be exact) and my hubby got a shit ton of backlash for wanting to be with me. Some days can be really tough with tourettes and he just stands right by me every step of the way. Anyone teases me and he steps right in. We both sacrifice for each other. Relationships are built on sacrifice for each other. These people saying she's a hero or stupid for sacrificing for him are bloody idiots and have never truly been in love or were probably terrible partners to be with. Disabled, mentally ill, normal, it doesn't matter. Everyone who is truly in love sacrifices for their partner. If my husband lost the ability to do things on his own you better damn bet I would be HONORED to loving sacrifice for and take care of him, just as he would for me. These 2 are normal lovers, normal people, with a normal healthy relationship
Tolkien!Fan omg I was right wasn’t I, you got left behind all alone and lonesome and now you troll these people. Hahaha that’s so sad and hilarious. Ps I don’t have an opinion on either one of them really, I just like making fun of clearly autistic losers like yourself
Irony is that Hannah has a more fulfilling and complete life than the people who are accusing her of sacrificing her life. Example, I’m sure that their are people saying she sacrificed her life that have wanted to travel to Europe but never had the time or money, well, the irony is Hannah on any given day might be reading your comments about her sacrificing her life... on a plane flying to Europe! 😂😂😂 People have no self awareness, just accept that her “sacrifice” is actually just your jealousy that they are living their best lives, and instead of being pissed off about it be inspired.
@Kid Kirby fair enough. Even if the relationship is fake and she is sticking around for trips to Europe, etc, and he is basically just paying her to play that role for him, so what? Lol. I kind of already assumed that but it doesn't matter because the videos are still interesting and so is the story they have invited us all to experience with them even if parts of it aren't true. I can't say I would blame either of them.
Hannah sacrificed her life for Shane? Pffffftttt. Hannah sacrificed her life when she worked at Kohl’s 😂 Hands down, worst job I’ve ever had! So sorry you know that pain, Hannah
@@ebogar42 exactly! She is with him because he is funny, kind, loves to travel, is okay with living with animals, and is family oriented ... so definitely not for nothing
My husband had 3 brain aneurysms when he was 18, he now has epilepsy and recently heart by pass surgery, he is unable to drive, I met and married him when he was 32, we have two wonderful children and a very happy marriage and life. My old school friend married a school crush and he beat her, cheated on her and left her a single mum with 3 kids in a strange country. Yes my husband sometimes has seizures and we can't do everything we want to all the time but isn't that the point of appreciating what you can do !!
Being disabled sucks sometimes, and loving someone who's disabled is gonna suck sometimes too. Whether it's physical, mental, chronic pain, depression, anxiety. Nobody asks for it for themselves or for their partner. The real sacrifice is having to see the person you love in pain or struggling with their disability and being unable to fix it.
@Boost , Yes. She looks happy, but I would not do it as I worked with disabled and it was too hard for me. I had to leave my job as they did not want to extend my contract as I was not strong enough for the job... I also felt unhappy as everything was about the people I used look after and mine own life was not very good and my needs not met :-(
To the judgey folks: every marriage involves sacrifice. Every relationship has issues big and small. My able bodied husband is the biggest man baby EVER! But I love him. Hannah’s an adult woman, in love so back off and be happy for them.
i have judged her the same as i judge my dad. my dad married my mom who is missing a leg. people like them see beyond the level of perfection society puts on people instead of finding beauty and perfection in people with disabilities.
Don't play the judge card! there's nothing wrong with questioning someone's intentions it's not passing judgment it's making your own observation and challenging someone's true intentions
I think Dr. Phil has become wealthy by sensationalizing the misery and dysfunction of others. You made the right decision to not go on his show. I am a quadriplegic, and my wife is my caregiver. We have been married almost 40 years. We have three very successful and happy children. We have both had successful careers, and have never received or even requested any government support. No, we did not start out wealthy, but I think we are happy. I'm happy for you.
Yesss! That Dr. Phil show was the worst, because it had a veneer of professionalism to it. It was horrible sensationalism, but some were duped into thinking it was educating them about real life issues. At least Jerry Springer had the nutz to be unashamedly awful. Just thinking about them makes me shudder. Love that Shane and Hanna gave him the finger and stayed off his show, lol.
I can honestly see why you married him. He's an amazing man. Very sweet, loving and humorous and ya'll are obviously best friends. From what I can see his disability doesn't even enter into it.
I live with my grandmother now bc she has dementia, and she needs help with everything. I decided to move in with her bc I love her, and wanting to be with someone you love no matter what is a token of that love. People who criticize you are lacking that kind of love in their lives, and they are missing out on the incredible adventure that is loving one person that much that you want to be part of their journey, which might be called disability, aging, sickness, health, youth, loss... you name it. I loved that you made this video, even when it’s non of our business whether you are happy or miserable. 🥰
chris borggia, a relationship is a relationship, whether it is with a SO, with a friend, or with a family member. The point of my comment was the commitment you make with yourself based on the love you have for that person to take care of them if they need you. Also, physical care is just one type among many that are important for a person; I don’t understand were the “lol” part comes in...
I truly admire your choice to look after your grandmother. She obviously must have been a beautiful person for you to decide to look after her. We are looking after my husband’s mother who is 90 this year and we would never put her into a home. Yes, at times it is challenging to look after her but not for reasons others think. We watch her body letting her down and she is acutely aware of it which is heartbreaking. To lose independence for whatever reason is hard and we work on letting her have as much say in her day to day life, as possible but at times we need to step in for her safety. Is it a sacrifice? No, it is heartbreaking at times because of her suffering but also our way to thank her for loving and supporting hubby when he was young and for accepting my daughter from my previous marriage and never making her feel for one second that she isn’t part of the family. I love my mum-in-law and feel blessed to have her live with us.
I cared for my mother for 10 years she had Alzheimer’s and it was not a sacrifice because I loved her dearly and I would do it again in a heartbeat I wish I could still be doing it but she passed on and when you love somebody no matter what it’s not a sacrifice once a while things get to you because you get tired I totally understand love
WHY DONT we see more of your FAMILY shane or Hannah's dad , I think Hannah"s is lovely alway's there to help Hannah with Shane if need be , what a lovely Mother in law to have Shane XXX🖐♿❤😍😘
Shane is hysterical! I love his expression when he says or finds something Hannah says funny! I love how Hannah looks at Shane with such a look of pure joy and love for him! It is so very genuine and sweet. You two make me smile!
I "sacrifice" things for my husband and he does for me too and we both go out of our way to take care of each other. We're both able bodied. That's a part of any partnership. You guys are great together. I'm sorry about the no so nice comments.
Being a disabled person myself I’m really glad you made this video ❤️. I’ve said this in comments on other videos so I apologize. I have Cerebral Palsy and my boyfriend has Duchenne muscular dystrophy. I have also gotten comments from people that I’m sacrificing everything to be with him. I think it’s important to mention that my boyfriend and I are both in college we are both set to graduate in Spring 2021. ❤️
I think people should understand that being a caregiver can be quit sacrificial if it doesn't aline with your personality or if it is for someone or something that is emotionally and physically draining, but it can also be the most wonderful and fulfilling thing, giving strength and further the relationship between the people involved. As with everything it all depends on how you view and handle the situation. Everyone is different in that way. Love your channel, you two. 💖💕 Shane, you really have my sense of humor. I am currently binging your videos. It's now 3 am and I can't stop laughing. I am learning things and having fun at the same time. Keep up the great work and stay safe ❤️❤️❤️❤️
“That’s not even worthy of a Nope”. I feel like that sums up the answer to all these trolls, who project their own feelings onto Shane & Hannah’s relationship
Don’t see this often, but Shane is a GREAT person. To have someone to be emotionally comfortable with, who you can be yourself with, and the way he looks at Hannah is always with love. He doesn’t see her as his care taker and neither does Hannah. She sees herself just helping the person she loves and for Shane to allow her to take care of him is huge too. Not many people will say they would legitimately take care of their partner through sickness and in health. She sees past his disability and anyone reading this who feels Shane is dragging Hannah down or keeping Hannah from living her life fuck off ☺️don’t watch them simple as that 🤷♂️ he provides just like any other man out there. Congratulations to you both on the wedding I’m so happy for you both! And love both of your personalities! You guys are so real! Goals 💯
When I broke up with my disabled partner my grandma told me she was glad because, if I had stayed with him, I would have been throwing my life away. As glad as I am to no longer be with him, it has absolutely nothing to do with his health. He was just not right for me as a person. Had he been, though, and had we stayed together, I would have absolutely not been throwing my life away. It's in our nature to care for the people we love. It's not a sacrifice. They're not a burden. That was eight years ago and her comment still pisses me off to this day. Glad you guys made a video about it because it really needs to be addressed, and I kind of want to send this to my grandmother.
I hope you let your grandma know that, that wasn't an issue because I had an ex that told me his mom didnt want him with me. She told him that its fresh and to end it now. Of course he didn't but after a while he did because he was influenced by alot of ppl.
@@fudgecake76 On the topic of grandmothers: my friend's grandma is married to a blind man. I have never seen a happier woman. There are things she has to do to help him every single day, more than in the average marriage, but she still (before retirement) had a job, goes out with her friends, has hobbies... I don't see how having a disabled partner, whom you love as much as one could possibly love another, means you're throwing your life away. Could you explain that to me, please?
As a person who has worked with people with disabilities for several decades, I am sitting here literally crying over the beauty depicted in this video. Thank you so very very much for this wonder-filled loving depiction of a loving relationship....regardless of physical circumstances. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I have Charcot Marie tooth Disease. I met my husband 10 years ago. I was already in a power chair. The reason I fell in love with him, was because he “saw me”. Not my situation. I was a single mom of two kids. And my awesome husband took the whole package! He cooks, because I can’t any longer. Due to my hands. He cleans the house, with my daughter and son. Because it’s hard for me. But even though he may take on more things than me. We are still loving partners! He never ever makes me feel like a burden. Even though I feel like that sometimes. This year will be 11 years together! And we are both grateful for each other! He’s pretty amazing! But, so am I! Love you guys! I totally get it! 🤍
I am pretty sure there is a lot you are giving him in return, emotionally and mentally. A relationship does not only consist of cooking and cleaning but of emotional support, organizing your life etc.
Ziuta Sow every married women is just a car crash or stroke away from having to do those things. You marry for better or worse, sickness and in health. If you think doing those things for someone you love is wrong then you’ve never loved anyone and I feel sorry for you.
They are both amazing people. My wife became seriously ill at29 yrs old, which was 6 months after we got married. She is not disabled like Shane, but has still bee unable to work for 26 years now. We could not be more happy with our union. I have developed serious health conditions over the last 15 years, and now at 57 yrs old we are quite a pair. We are each mostly mobile; no wheelchairs or walkers... Just pain, lots of pain for both of us, with little relief. Our love keeps us going. I wish the best for these two, this is true love; I know because I'm a practitioner! God Bless you both.
Really grateful for this video. I am disabled... and I question every day whether I'm being a burden on my spouse. To see the love you two share really helps hit home for me that my husband sees me beyond my disability, he sees me for me.
God bless Shane, he's giving up his 20's putting up with Hanna. He's truly a saint. I'm a cat parent and It would break my heart if my human son fell in love with the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. If you can't tell I'm miserable. I hate seeing people falling in love with someone for what they are instead of what they aren't.
I call BS on the haters. Hannahs face glows with love when she looks at Shane and vice versa.Any idiot should able to see how much ya"ll mean to each other.
People tend to look at a situation imagining themselves in it, with factors of their own lives. They sometimes then put those feelings on someone else and their life I have a large family (5 kids) plus we took in 2 more, raising 2 foster kids. I have many think OMG, I couldn't do it. It's not for everyone, and for some, if struggling with 2 kids, or maybe dealing with a child with struggles, the thought of 5 or 6 more would be overwhelming. Understandable. Many also just wouldn't want the responsibility of 7, which is also understandable. I was widowed suddenly at 41. Now I have no interest in dating anyone and choose not to bring any man in my children's lives, but if I did, there are certain circumstances, many struggles a man might have, I would not choose for me now just because I have so must responsibility already, it would not be fair to these kids to add more. Someone with a completely different life circumstances would feel completely differently and would take on a relationship with extra physical challenges. If my husband of 23 years, their dad, suddenly had a disability or medical issues in our marriage though, then I wouldn't think twice, and same for him with me. It would not be right for me to start new challenges now with a new person though. On the other side, I also would understand a man not wanting to take on a woman with 7 kids, who still is completely in love with and who honors another man daily. That's not for everyone. What is right for one is not right for another, and that goes for almost everything in life. It's not right or wrong. We are all just unique, all with varying life circumstances.
I bet you two are more in love, bonded and open with each other than most couples. I think this might be true because of the extra time you spend together. I would think while you are doing Shane's therapy or care you would be talking, laughing, sharing feelings. I think your relationship is something to look up to. Sending Love.
This video makes me smile. I am the ‘disabled’ one in my relationship. I have extreme agoraphobia, panic, BPD, depression, anxiety... list is endless.. and I feel all the time that my partner sacrifices so much being with me. I can’t go out with him, can’t stay at his, can’t go away, can’t go shopping....pubs/days out/meals/if he’s invited anywhere he goes alone (you get the idea). I know he compromises a lot to be with me..... and for 90% of our almost 3 year relationship I’ve been convinced I wasn’t worthy of being loved by him and even more convinced he would find someone ‘normal’.... turns out, he’s still with me, still loves me regardless of my mental illnesses and wants to be with me forever..... so yeah.... what I’ve learnt along the way is that it’s NOT sacrificing if you love someone, it’s what you do, and I would do the same for him............. THANK YOU BOTH for this video.
Aside from the agoraphobia (I have autism and DID instead), this is basically my thoughts. You’re completely right though, it’s not a sacrifice if it’s a choice you’re making out of love, and if the tables were turned, I would do the same for her without hesitation.
Wow. Thanks for speaking on this. My husband and I help each other with stretches and rehab ALL the time and no one would EVER make comments like that. You guys literally cannot live without scrutiny. I'm sorry you have to experience this daily but grateful that you are able to educate. I'm learning more about ableism every day - thanks to you both!
People who feel like it’s okay to say those things need to see a psychiatrist. What makes people think it’s okay to say every stupid thought that comes into their empty heads? Both of you are adorable! We love your adventures! You are definitely an encouragement to people with disabilities. I have so many disabilities right now that I don’t recognize my life anymore. It wasn’t always like this. I watch your videos and think how genuine you both are! Hannah is beautiful so people are jealous! Shane I am so happy you found joy with her! You compliment each other! TH-cam decided to suggest a video of you before Hannah. It broke my heart! You keep being happy, fulfilled and ignore the haters! Did it ever cross peoples narrow little minds that affection in any form is affection? Your significant other has a neck ache so you rub their shoulders, how is it different if Hannah gives physical therapy? Imbeciles! ❤️ Shane and Hannah! Stay strong
You guys remind me of a young version of my parents who were an inter-abled couple. They had the best relationship and were married for 41 years before my dad passed. Love watching your videos.
To be honest, one thing that would stop me from dating a disabled person and being their care-taker, is the level of dependency. If I ever loose feelings for my partner or am unhappy in my relationship, I want to be able to leave without feeling guilty. I think in relationships like these there can be a lot of pressure on the side of the caretaker which makes it hard sometimes. But who knows, these two really seem happy and i love their relationship!!!
You are a class act for sharing this thought. I'm sure others have questions, too. But it just seems people on this thread are downright hateful or, the other extreme, syrupy sweet about everything. No in between.
I've had similar thoughts. Not to be negative, but people that are/were in love break up all the time, for all kinds of reasons. If it happened with Shane and Hannah it would just add another layer of complexity to the usual complexity of a break up. But God bless them...they seem to have a good foundation and an abundance of love and respect for one another. I hope to find that kind of love someday!
I constantly think about a part in Shane’s book when he had to look after Hannah and realized that what people said to him his entire life was true: “labors” of love don’t feel like labor when you really care about someone. Looking after them is almost natural and not a sacrifice at all. Love is a give-and-take. It’s very powerful and an amazing example of what real love is.
Just found you guys from Taylor Wynn’s video on her favorite TH-cam channels. I’ve binged almost all of your videos in a few days!! Thank you for the endless entertainment!
One can choose to view most any situation as an OBSTACLE or an OPPORTUNITY. Think about this for yourself. Look at the chemistry and ease these two beautiful souls have with each other. It's obviously authentic and I wish them so much continued love and happiness. Also, look how productive they are in their lives! It's inspiring!!!
I like how Shane made the joke about the “announcement,” disregards it, and adds “Have I mentioned that you are absolutely glowing right now?” 😂 so sweet and random
I'm happily married to my best friend but I can totally see why Hannah fell in love with Shane. He's so witty, so funny, his face is gorgeous... Absolute love material, right there ❤️
Shane is seriously hilarious!! After watching for a while... I forget he is even disabled. Then you blink and remember he is in a chair and in a body that just doesn't work the same as most. Hannah has emotional and mental support from Shane... and not all couples even have that from their partner. Where Shane lacks in some areas... he soars in others. It brings a good balance to your relationship! We are rooting for you!!
Me too💜while everyone else is saying negative things about Hannah and shanes relationship we will be the ones who sit back not say anything and enjoy their videos. And if we do say anything it's that we love them or their videos brighten our day i know they do mine. I was just reading some of the comments and had to stop because there was a fight going on between like 5 people in the comments they said sonething really negative about shane and it was just back and fourth bickering like 5 yr olds it's horrible. I just come to watch their video and enjoy them. And they do love eachother very much and they are a beautiful couple. I wish them all the love and happiness in the world.
Look around, do we see genuinely happy couples like these two? or even individuals..... I literally cry laughing at Shane’s humour. Your both lovely people, I wish you both forever happiness together ❤️
It amazes me how many people leave comments completely outing themselves as selfish! You guys are amazing and we love your sense of humor. We have unseen disabilities in our family and we're so thankful for the strength you display in vulnerably sharing your personal life with everyone!
It honestly makes me sad that some people see your guys’ relationship that way.! I find you two to be lovely and funny!! I have never seen you two being together as Hannah “sacrificing” he life to be with Shane. In a relationship yeah there is sacrificing but just because Shane has a disability doesn’t mean someone has to sacrifice their life to be with him!! Everyone deserves love able bodied or not(.) I just wish you two a lovely and happy life together ☺️
It is clear by the way they interact that it is real love. Her life is probably MORE fulfilling with Shane in her life... he is hilarious and clearly keeps her laughing, he obviously loves her, and the kind of love you can see between them is what is rare. It is crazy to me that people think "convenience" is what relationships should be about. Relationships should be filled with sacrifice on both sides... giving up your former single lives to become one. And that means you both may possibly give things up FOR EACH OTHER. Anyway, I love your videos. Shane, you are seriously hilarious. I love your sense of humor and Hannah I love how you just go with it when he is making his jokes. 🥰
As someone who has a lot of health issues, I constantly feel like I am a huge burden to my husband, daughter, parents, etc. I feel like they have had to make so many sacrifices for me, both physical and financial, and I am in a constant state of guilt. If you asked any of them, they would immediately shut it down, but I still struggle with it. There is so much we can’t do as a family because of me and my limitations. I love that y’all are standing up for your relationship, and all interabled relationships, but just know that those comments might actually be coming from someone in Shane’s position who feels like the burden. It doesn’t make it right, but it can be hard to move past the guilt and see all the positive impact you’ve made.
I have health issues and I suffer from depression and anxiety disorder. I have 2 adult kids and my grandson that live with me. My son just turned 21. My daughter left her now ex fiance and came to live with me along with my grandson. So, after almost 4 years of my daughter being here, not helping with anything, tells me how she tells her friends that I have mental issues, I am needy, to dependent and more. It hurts so, so bad. I love my children but I feel like a huge burden because of the comments. I am the one who has raised her child, taken them in and she lives a free life here. I so get where you are coming from! Sending hugs to you!
I feel the exact same way. I have quite bad chronic pain and I feel like such a burden to my family, but they, especially my husband tries to do a great job of keeping that shut down in my mind
Girl, I’m in the same boat! It’s so embarrassing to me to be such a burden on my Husband! I swear, he NEVER complains at all! I understand what you’re feeling! We got lucky to have the people in our live that we do! Blessings to you and your Family!❤️👍🏻🙏🏻
This video encourages me a lot. My dad has been paralyzed for 21 years (he was paralyzed while my mom was pregnant with me), and I struggle with discouragement sometimes and just the hardships that come with a disability. My family and I are really close, and when my dad got in his accident, many people told my mom to leave my dad. But she has stayed with him and LOVES him fully! Jesus has been so good to us despite really hard struggles we've had to face, especially recently.
How isn't it? I would not want to be with someone I had to do literally everything for him. If they have kids it would be a nightmare. I would be very sad for either of my daughters if they chose a life like Hannah's.
Plenty of caregivers understand. You may not. Have you spent months or years taking care of someone who needed maximum assistance with all of their basic needs? Many people will eventually do this for aging spouses or parents. In my experience, most people who have acted as caregivers themselves specifically ask their families not to do this for them.
Natalia Rodriguez I think the cut looks great on him... brings attn to those fantastic eyes! Sorry Hannah, not flirting, married for 27 years and old as the hills!
I love this couple. Shane’s sense of humour is hilarious and Hannah’s reactions to his humour are priceless. They bounce off each other so well. Keep up the good work people. Greetings from the UK x
Hannah, voice memo! I have 17 years worth of them of my husband! 🤣 I’m sorry that you experience this hate from others. We sacrifice in our marriages, just in different ways. I’ve had cancer. 3 times. My husband cared for me and worked full time as an Air Force pilot whilst our kids were school aged. You guys are amazing!
The improvements that Shane has gone through are incredible, seeing him with such a good posture is amazing. Thank you for sharing such precious moments!
Love this: my husband helps me due to my disability ; he feels like Hannah even though I tend to feel guilty at times; don’t want to be a burden but am reminded constantly I am not
every time i watch them my heart feels full and happy. they are so pure, so real and also hilarious. one of the best channels on youtube. no lies, no fake news, no drama, just real. thanks for sharing your life together w us all :)
All I see is 2 people who are so made for each other!! The love is so apparent. Shane has the best sense of humor, and Hannah with a heart of gold. Love these 2
You two are too cute. Every relationship has it’s “sacrifices”. You do that for people you love whether disabled or not. I think people who make comments like what you’re talking about have never had a loving relationship and don’t understand that. Never a burden, always a privilege. My husband and I have been through many ups and downs over our 38 years together. I’ve wiped his bum when he was unable and he’s wiped mine lol. You just do it. Love is a wonderful thing. 💕
You are both lucky to have a mutually supportive, respectful relationship. I grew up in abuse, married into it, became a single mother in poverty with two tiny ones. To have what you two have is rare, not counting that you are interabled. I love your videos, and I think more than anything you give people hope that there is true love out there, which is a precious gift. Thanks for brightening my days- you’re both funny! 💯
I. Love. This. Guy!!! This sense of humor is absolutely amazing. It's so effortless. I'm sitting here laughing just thinking about a previous video I watched where Shane was siting in the back yard meditating. Saying he needed to get outside of his mind due to being stuck at home. So funny! Seriously, the coolest guy ever!
@@minaisfab17 you're so cute Miss sarcastic😉 as a matter of fact I actually hope he does stay with her forever, I have a disability myself and I have had difficulties finding a woman that is accepting of me.
When my father and mother were engaged he was drafted and had to go to war. He was badly wounded. He stepped on a land mine and lost his eyes and his leg. Everyone told her (including his dad) do not marry him, that it would be such a burden for her. She loved my dad so much that they did get married in the hospital where he was recuperating from his wounds. my mom was 19 years old when they married and they loved each other for almost 50 years until my father past away. She never remarried saying "he was the love of my life." They raised my brother and myself with so much love. Our life was peaceful and good. My father had a great sense of humor and kept us all laughing. He was never bitter over his condition and was a great man. Did mom sacrifice? I would say she worked very, very hard taking care of all of us. People would say she was a saint. I'm sure there was some frustration, but she never complained. To us this was our normal family life. We had lots of love and respect in our household and love really does conquer all. Shane and Hannah you are truly blessed to have found each other, as my parents were. This is your journey. What does it matter what people think or say. Always try to keep your sense of humor. Trust and have faith in the Lord and He will bring you through any challenges that you have to face.
I believe their journey together is really teaching people, like me, a lot of things I would have never thought of. You were a lucky girl to see such love with your parents!
One of my friends has interabled parents. Her dad became disabled while she was pretty young. I'm sure there were challenges, but her parents, like yours, managed to raise a bunch of kids without going insane and her dad found other ways to contribute to the well being of the family in spite of his limitations. Not having a body that works quite like it should isn't the end of the world. It's almost like humans have a big clever brain that makes them adaptable or something! :)
Theresa❤️
thanks for for sharing your beautiful story! sounds like a wonderful childhood. God bless
This video; this comment give me hope for the internet ♥️
I love how people call her caring for the man she loves "wasting her 20's" and me spending 10 years doing nothing but games and youtube "fine".
We wase our 20's alot more often and on alot useless stuff...... She's enjoying her life.
Right
Well stated. How about if you’re enjoying life (for the most part) and not hurting others, that’s a life well lived. 👍🏾
I agree so true!!
I still play a lot of games and I am in my early 30s. My wife doesn't mind, since I am able to provide, lol.
@@trey7772 Nothing wrong with that😊 it's a lot of judgmental people out there, ppl always assuming stuff they know nothing about, but Think they do 🤨
Hannah doesnt look like she is sacrificing anything 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ to me she looks happy and living her life
Yes. Shes definitely in love with Shane. The way she looks at him ❤
Ok. I am glad she is happy that is a good thing is today her birthday if it is tell her I said happy birthday 🎈🎉🎂🎈🎉 how old will she be if it's her birthday
Love is in her eyes!!!
@@laurenmarie9332 ok lol what do you meanyou look at him I don't understand I'm busy trying to work but you can still message me I'm working on singing 😉
@@venicegee3675 I want is your name are you a girl or a boy
Hannah is lucky to have such a sweet, funny, and caring man. Why doesn’t anyone talk about how lucky Hannah is?? Shane is a freaking goldmine. A successful author who is so loving and positive and also puts family first is a score
Goldmine???Then what's Barack Obama?Heaven???
Lmao how is she lucky I would never want this for anyone
Cringe
😂😂😂
yes she's lucky to have to wipe the poop on his butt everyday. how romantic
“If only our eyes saw souls instead of bodies.... How very different our ideals of beauty would be”
I wish it did too because I'm way too picky!
Some people do!
Jozart physical attraction is important though, its not shallow until its all you look for.
Julie Schultz youre not very in tune if you think physical appearance matters
@@inhaledexhaled5460 both can be true! For example Hannah finds Shane physically attractive as well as loving his personality. I think the important thing is to b open hearted
There are sacrifices in evvvvry husband wife relationships.
Not even just husband wife. ANY relationship
She is actually better off than most. His personality is nothing but good
I was legit gonna comment this, plus every relationship takes hard work from both sides.
Kim Ulm yes. But saying “the things I sacrifice BECAUSE he’s disabled is NOT cool
Skyler Reynolds I would NEVER be with someone who found me a burden.. not fucking ever. The second they said or hinted I was a burden I’d wheel away and be done with her 100%
I don't see sacrifice at all... I see a girl who found the person who makes her happy in life. You can tell just by looking at her face when she talks to him.
So can you do, the same thing she is doing?
I agree
She may love him but let's be real. She has made the decision to be forever celibate. They cannot have sex. If that is ok with her then that is okay with her. That is a loving sacrifice for a young woman to make going into a marriage. Hopefully love conquers all. As long as they are both happy.
@@dorisjones7036 They have sex lol They made a video about that. It may be different but they are intimate.
Totally agree
Anyone could become less physically able at any time. A real relationship isn't about what you can or can't do, its about who you are. Why do people find this so hard? You guys are great together and it shows. X
Brilliantly stated.
Many people nowadays are too egocentric and narcissistic to be able to sustain a normal relationship ,not to mention an interacted one. Selfless love is seen as abhorrent and so strange. Not so! The teacher learns more than the student and the giver receives more in return. The stingy goes without and the generous reaps a bountiful harvest.
@@barbarabuhrow5049 They are shallow and superficial. They juge their couple solely on their look and the amount of money they make. How pathetic....
In sickness & in health. Let people choose their own choices in life. If it doesn’t affect you negatively, support them if they are happy.
“In sickness & in health”…. Let people choose their own choices in life. If it doesn’t affect you negatively, support them if they are happy.
I’m mostly concerned that there are so many people out here in relationships in which they don’t do acts of service for their partners. Y’all should try it sometime.
Exactly...and I should take your advice too..lol
Yesss they are such a model for this to learn from I know a woman she was a NB PSYCHOLOGIST. She did not know me or my partner and said right off the bat all of my relationships were “not equal” because of my ADD. I would use people for the rest of my life basically. This woman was mad at the world or something she really only should be mad at herself for being such a BAD VILE PERSON. Love people for what they are not aren’t (their weaknesses) it was the most bizarre encounter with a narcissist. Later I found out she was in a divorce of which the reason was: my husband -now I am a psychologist- is not up to mu standards anymore our relationship is not equal no more.
I was always taught that it's not what they can do for you, it's what you can do for them
Exactly!!!!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Hannah IS an amazing person, but not because she’s in this relationship. It’s because she is a great human being. Period.
Ya, id have to know a whole lot more about this relationship like how long have they been together and on and on and on. I don't trust her motives.
@@arthurwarren2able They talk about that in the video??? Did you even watch it? 🙄
@@haleyprice911 I watched some others and I've seen enough to make a opinion.
@@haleyprice911 Im not being mean, there is just something about her i don't trust. I can see it in her eyes.
@@arthurwarren2able yo author if you're going to make a remark like that you need to be suspicious pick you just see something in their eyes I see something in your ignorance you have to be very specific if you're going to make a very ignorant like that what the hell do you see it on your eyes? so stupid
Honestly every time I watch them I can’t stop thinking about how lucky they both are ♥️
They just love each other just like everyone else
I'm over the moon that you've finally chosen to address this topic!!! Well said, both of you!
The ignorance of some people truly amazes me. Love is love period its not about money it’s not about physical ability. People should be happy for Shane and Hannah that they found one another and plan to have an amazing life together. I myself am disabled and have been married for nearly 24 years I have two amazing kids and the most wonderful and caring wife who is also my best friend. Ok I have limits but I worked hard and gave my wife and kids the best I could give them and out of all my abled bodied friends still married to my one and only and not single or on wife number 3. There are two many keyboard warriors in this day and age also very unhappy single people who live in the parents basements who are quick to judge and leave comments with out knowing the true facts, not that Shane or Hannah need to address these idiots in the first place. I’m so happy they have each other and there family’s and true friends in there life and I wish them all the best for an amazing life together ❤️
Such bull shit
@@ebogar42 Pretty sure the definition of a slave isnt that you can literally leave any time.
How could they not fall in love with each other?? They are both hilarious, beautiful people. They are perfect together.❤
I'm a "caregiver" for someone who I'm not in a romantic relationship with, but even I know that caregiving for someone that you love never feels like a sacrifice. We naturally care for the people we love. When I reach over an wipe my friends mouth, I don't even think about it. I love her and that's the routine of things. She would do it for me if the tables were flipped, and I am not a saint for being her friend. I feel like our relationship is give and take. We both just enjoy being around each other. No sacrifice needed.
I got broken up with when my disability started getting worse and my abled partner told me it was too hard to be with me because I’m disabled. That was 2 years ago and since then my disability has got worse. Whenever I see the comments about how people like Hannah are sacrificing so much to consider being with people like Shane or like me. It makes me feel so hopeless. One of the reasons I love Shane and Hannah is because they give me hope that I could find an equal but it’s so heartbreaking to know that so many people in the world think of me as a burden that would be ruining the life of anyone who fell in love with me.
The people who say those kind of things come off as real assholes and don't deserve any kind of respect. Don't take criticism from anyone who shows such obvious disrespect and ignorance. The opinions of the people who genuinely care about you and you know to be good people are the only ones you should listen to about important matters. I realize I'm just another stranger on the internet but I am someone who loves someone with chronic illnesses and have never wanted to not love them or not be with them based on their health. Love isn't conditional, and just because some people haven't figured that out doesn't mean that no one has. Your health does not determine if you are worthy of love 💕
@@AliiSparkle never give up.
I meant for her to never give up
Sort of in the same boat as you are although I am never had a real relationship. If you ever want to chat sometime I'm always open. :-)
I feel like since my disability is getting worse, I may end up alone 😔
I was going out with my husband for two weeks when I had an accident which escalated a pain condition and has left me disabled. 5 years in a wheelchair etc. I offered for hubby to leave our relationship, later our marriage as my disability got worse. I felt that I was a burden and that he would be better off without having to care for me. Hubby got really upset and told me that he would like to be the one who decides if he is suffering and assured me that our 22 year marriage as been his happiest time. Being of service is a way of life, to care for someone can be a gift (hubby’s words not mine). Hannah and Shane, you are blessed to have found a deep and trusting love, cherish that and ignore those who find caring a chore. A fan from Australia 💕
That's true love right there. I'm happy for you😘
I think the attention you both have brought to interabled relationships is amazing! The choice you made to share you relationship to the entire world is (and will continue to) remove the stigma of not only interabled relationships, but disability in general. Thank you for sharing your stories and experiences with the world and being so open to answering questions and assumptions (even the rather mean spirited ones) in such a kind and loving way!
You two are filling a huge educational hole for society. Inter-abled relationships will be understood and more people will be accepting of them in large part due to your love and the work you are doing. Thank you for continuing to put yourselves out there, making videos, answering questions, and writing a book in spite of the negativity that comes with it. Dealing with the harsh treatment of your relationship has got to be hard, and yet your story needs to be heard. You are helping to blaze the trail of acceptance. Quite a fulfilled life indeed!
I have a mental illness (tourettes to be exact) and my hubby got a shit ton of backlash for wanting to be with me. Some days can be really tough with tourettes and he just stands right by me every step of the way. Anyone teases me and he steps right in. We both sacrifice for each other. Relationships are built on sacrifice for each other. These people saying she's a hero or stupid for sacrificing for him are bloody idiots and have never truly been in love or were probably terrible partners to be with. Disabled, mentally ill, normal, it doesn't matter. Everyone who is truly in love sacrifices for their partner. If my husband lost the ability to do things on his own you better damn bet I would be HONORED to loving sacrifice for and take care of him, just as he would for me. These 2 are normal lovers, normal people, with a normal healthy relationship
@@lunaballuna Well said!
How can anyone say that she sacrifices everything, when he is her everything!? We should all be so fortunate to find true love.
Tolkien!Fan awww did little tolkienfan get his feelings hurt by an ex wife or two? Poor little guy
Tolkien!Fan omg I was right wasn’t I, you got left behind all alone and lonesome and now you troll these people. Hahaha that’s so sad and hilarious. Ps I don’t have an opinion on either one of them really, I just like making fun of clearly autistic losers like yourself
Let's see you date a cripple then
A man should not be your everything, especially when you are 24.
Irony is that Hannah has a more fulfilling and complete life than the people who are accusing her of sacrificing her life.
Example, I’m sure that their are people saying she sacrificed her life that have wanted to travel to Europe but never had the time or money, well, the irony is Hannah on any given day might be reading your comments about her sacrificing her life... on a plane flying to Europe! 😂😂😂
People have no self awareness, just accept that her “sacrifice” is actually just your jealousy that they are living their best lives, and instead of being pissed off about it be inspired.
I'm sure she has all the happiness money can buy
She's no martyr or saint. Its obviously a compromise. She gets trips to Europe out of it, like you mentioned.
Kid Kirby lol
It's normal to question things, especially a situation like this one. Only an idiot wouldn't.
@Kid Kirby fair enough. Even if the relationship is fake and she is sticking around for trips to Europe, etc, and he is basically just paying her to play that role for him, so what? Lol. I kind of already assumed that but it doesn't matter because the videos are still interesting and so is the story they have invited us all to experience with them even if parts of it aren't true. I can't say I would blame either of them.
Shane enriches Hannah's life as much as she has his. They just radiate respect and happiness! ❤️❤️❤️
Shane enriches Hanna's life, 😂😂
Hannah sacrificed her life for Shane? Pffffftttt. Hannah sacrificed her life when she worked at Kohl’s 😂 Hands down, worst job I’ve ever had! So sorry you know that pain, Hannah
Lol, good one Riley.
F off Eric. Please. I hope you’re joking 🙃
@@ebogar42 exactly! She is with him because he is funny, kind, loves to travel, is okay with living with animals, and is family oriented ... so definitely not for nothing
@@ebogar42 you dont have to get it. nobody is asking your opinion.
😂🤣😂
My husband had 3 brain aneurysms when he was 18, he now has epilepsy and recently heart by pass surgery, he is unable to drive, I met and married him when he was 32, we have two wonderful children and a very happy marriage and life. My old school friend married a school crush and he beat her, cheated on her and left her a single mum with 3 kids in a strange country. Yes my husband sometimes has seizures and we can't do everything we want to all the time but isn't that the point of appreciating what you can do !!
The way Hannah looks at Shane you can immediately tell she’s how much she loves him.
Yea that thousand yard stare speaks volumes
Being disabled sucks sometimes, and loving someone who's disabled is gonna suck sometimes too. Whether it's physical, mental, chronic pain, depression, anxiety. Nobody asks for it for themselves or for their partner. The real sacrifice is having to see the person you love in pain or struggling with their disability and being unable to fix it.
To be fair nobody is “normal” there’s no such thing ❤️
My life and marriage proves your perspective to be wrong.
@@kimharper3075 How so?
Everyone and every relationship has its ups and downs, whether a disability is in play or not.
Very good statement Russell !
The " Sacrificing" word is teasing. She is glowingly in love and happy.
@Boost , Yes. She looks happy, but I would not do it as I worked with disabled and it was too hard for me. I had to leave my job as they did not want to extend my contract as I was not strong enough for the job... I also felt unhappy as everything was about the people I used look after and mine own life was not very good and my needs not met :-(
@Boost , In my day, too. But, I can't explain another word that describes how happy and content she looks.
I couldn’t agree more...GLOWINGLY in love is the perfect way to describe her... and Shane also 👌❤️
To the judgey folks: every marriage involves sacrifice. Every relationship has issues big and small. My able bodied husband is the biggest man baby EVER! But I love him.
Hannah’s an adult woman, in love so back off and be happy for them.
Proof that people understand that relationships take sacrifice, and that their close mindedness is really just down to ableism!!
@@Katie-vz3mq I would bet 99% of the people making these comments were never in a relationship themselves.
The look on Hannah's face when she looks at Shane is a look of love. This is her life, stop judging
i have judged her the same as i judge my dad. my dad married my mom who is missing a leg. people like them see beyond the level of perfection society puts on people instead of finding beauty and perfection in people with disabilities.
I agree..watching them you can just see how much love they have for each other ❤
Humans are a judgmental species.
Don't play the judge card! there's nothing wrong with questioning someone's intentions it's not passing judgment it's making your own observation and challenging someone's true intentions
@@gamegreed9105 better known as being judgemental!
I think Dr. Phil has become wealthy by sensationalizing the misery and dysfunction of others. You made the right decision to not go on his show. I am a quadriplegic, and my wife is my caregiver. We have been married almost 40 years. We have three very successful and happy children. We have both had successful careers, and have never received or even requested any government support. No, we did not start out wealthy, but I think we are happy. I'm happy for you.
Yesss! That Dr. Phil show was the worst, because it had a veneer of professionalism to it. It was horrible sensationalism, but some were duped into thinking it was educating them about real life issues. At least Jerry Springer had the nutz to be unashamedly awful. Just thinking about them makes me shudder. Love that Shane and Hanna gave him the finger and stayed off his show, lol.
How did you become quadriplegic?
I would be more than blessed to find a man like Shane. He is kind, patient, loving and fun.
I am kind, patient, loving and fun how ood are you?
I’ll second that !!
@@gamegreed9105 lol!
Exactly. I would be proud for my daughter to be with him.
my dick is disabled but i'm loving, kind and fun :)
Disabled people don't find love huh.
I'll be sure to tell my cousin who's paralyzed and been married for 20 years.
Im the same married 30 years, paralysed at 28 now 53 and never been closer
You guys got it backwards. Is the woman happy married? This the topic here.
@@miraclelove991 y wouldn't she be do you see how she looks at him
Love and marriage are two different things ......
I am disabled. Born with hereditary spastic paraplegia and I'm happily married. Disabled people do find love!
When people say things like that, they are really telling on themselves and voicing THEIR fears. You two are so positive and bless my life!
I can honestly see why you married him. He's an amazing man. Very sweet, loving and humorous and ya'll are obviously best friends. From what I can see his disability doesn't even enter into it.
Sacrifice doesn’t equate to compromise and compromise is part of every healthy relationship. 🙌
Lol before i read this comment i was thinking in my mind how they should replace the word sacrifice with compromise, you are absolutely right.
One lucky guy 😊
So this guy doesn’t have money?
you got it so right and clear
I live with my grandmother now bc she has dementia, and she needs help with everything. I decided to move in with her bc I love her, and wanting to be with someone you love no matter what is a token of that love. People who criticize you are lacking that kind of love in their lives, and they are missing out on the incredible adventure that is loving one person that much that you want to be part of their journey, which might be called disability, aging, sickness, health, youth, loss... you name it. I loved that you made this video, even when it’s non of our business whether you are happy or miserable. 🥰
totally different lol
chris borggia, a relationship is a relationship, whether it is with a SO, with a friend, or with a family member. The point of my comment was the commitment you make with yourself based on the love you have for that person to take care of them if they need you. Also, physical care is just one type among many that are important for a person; I don’t understand were the “lol” part comes in...
I truly admire your choice to look after your grandmother. She obviously must have been a beautiful person for you to decide to look after her. We are looking after my husband’s mother who is 90 this year and we would never put her into a home. Yes, at times it is challenging to look after her but not for reasons others think. We watch her body letting her down and she is acutely aware of it which is heartbreaking. To lose independence for whatever reason is hard and we work on letting her have as much say in her day to day life, as possible but at times we need to step in for her safety. Is it a sacrifice? No, it is heartbreaking at times because of her suffering but also our way to thank her for loving and supporting hubby when he was young and for accepting my daughter from my previous marriage and never making her feel for one second that she isn’t part of the family. I love my mum-in-law and feel blessed to have her live with us.
I cared for my mother for 10 years she had Alzheimer’s and it was not a sacrifice because I loved her dearly
and I would do it again in a heartbeat I wish I could still be doing it but she passed on and when you love somebody no matter what it’s not a sacrifice once a while things get to you because you get tired I totally understand love
Right!
WHY DONT we see more of your FAMILY shane or Hannah's dad , I think Hannah"s is lovely alway's there to help Hannah with Shane if need be , what a lovely Mother in law to have Shane XXX🖐♿❤😍😘
Forgot to say posting from LONDON ENGLAND
Shane is hysterical! I love his expression when he says or finds something Hannah says funny! I love how Hannah looks at Shane with such a look of pure joy and love for him! It is so very genuine and sweet. You two make me smile!
I "sacrifice" things for my husband and he does for me too and we both go out of our way to take care of each other. We're both able bodied. That's a part of any partnership.
You guys are great together. I'm sorry about the no so nice comments.
I'm voting for the water park in the backyard ... one with a lazy river would be perfect!!
they will send you soo, the link for the donations. You won the 1st place in the list
Yes!
@@ethelthethird2558 stfu
Yes!!!
Being a disabled person myself I’m really glad you made this video ❤️. I’ve said this in comments on other videos so I apologize. I have Cerebral Palsy and my boyfriend has Duchenne muscular dystrophy. I have also gotten comments from people that I’m sacrificing everything to be with him. I think it’s important to mention that my boyfriend and I are both in college we are both set to graduate in Spring 2021. ❤️
I think people should understand that being a caregiver can be quit sacrificial if it doesn't aline with your personality or if it is for someone or something that is emotionally and physically draining, but it can also be the most wonderful and fulfilling thing, giving strength and further the relationship between the people involved. As with everything it all depends on how you view and handle the situation.
Everyone is different in that way.
Love your channel, you two. 💖💕
Shane, you really have my sense of humor. I am currently binging your videos. It's now 3 am and I can't stop laughing. I am learning things and having fun at the same time.
Keep up the great work and stay safe ❤️❤️❤️❤️
“That’s not even worthy of a Nope”. I feel like that sums up the answer to all these trolls, who project their own feelings onto Shane & Hannah’s relationship
🔥"...who project their own feelings onto Shane & Hannah’s relationship"🔥
Don’t see this often, but Shane is a GREAT person. To have someone to be emotionally comfortable with, who you can be yourself with, and the way he looks at Hannah is always with love. He doesn’t see her as his care taker and neither does Hannah. She sees herself just helping the person she loves and for Shane to allow her to take care of him is huge too. Not many people will say they would legitimately take care of their partner through sickness and in health. She sees past his disability and anyone reading this who feels Shane is dragging Hannah down or keeping Hannah from living her life fuck off ☺️don’t watch them simple as that 🤷♂️ he provides just like any other man out there. Congratulations to you both on the wedding I’m so happy for you both! And love both of your personalities! You guys are so real! Goals 💯
When I broke up with my disabled partner my grandma told me she was glad because, if I had stayed with him, I would have been throwing my life away. As glad as I am to no longer be with him, it has absolutely nothing to do with his health. He was just not right for me as a person. Had he been, though, and had we stayed together, I would have absolutely not been throwing my life away. It's in our nature to care for the people we love. It's not a sacrifice. They're not a burden.
That was eight years ago and her comment still pisses me off to this day. Glad you guys made a video about it because it really needs to be addressed, and I kind of want to send this to my grandmother.
I hope you let your grandma know that, that wasn't an issue because I had an ex that told me his mom didnt want him with me. She told him that its fresh and to end it now. Of course he didn't but after a while he did because he was influenced by alot of ppl.
Justin E Thank you for saying this. I think the disabled feel like burdens enough without someone being so cruel.
Your grandma had a brain lmao
@@fudgecake76 On the topic of grandmothers: my friend's grandma is married to a blind man. I have never seen a happier woman. There are things she has to do to help him every single day, more than in the average marriage, but she still (before retirement) had a job, goes out with her friends, has hobbies... I don't see how having a disabled partner, whom you love as much as one could possibly love another, means you're throwing your life away. Could you explain that to me, please?
@@CrissyBoo88 what's wrong with you?
As a person who has worked with people with disabilities for several decades, I am sitting here literally crying over the beauty depicted in this video. Thank you so very very much for this wonder-filled loving depiction of a loving relationship....regardless of physical circumstances.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I have Charcot Marie tooth Disease. I met my husband 10 years ago. I was already in a power chair. The reason I fell in love with him, was because he “saw me”. Not my situation. I was a single mom of two kids. And my awesome husband took the whole package! He cooks, because I can’t any longer. Due to my hands. He cleans the house, with my daughter and son. Because it’s hard for me. But even though he may take on more things than me. We are still loving partners! He never ever makes me feel like a burden. Even though I feel like that sometimes. This year will be 11 years together! And we are both grateful for each other! He’s pretty amazing! But, so am I! Love you guys! I totally get it! 🤍
Love your story. Very heartwarming. Thanks for posting.
Thank you for sharing your story. 😁 Growing up only seeing toxic & mutually hateful marriages, it makes me happy to hear about the good ones.
What an awesome story! I also have CMT :)
Wheelie Lovely I subscribed to you and the op. CMT runs in my family and my mom was diagnosed last year.
I am pretty sure there is a lot you are giving him in return, emotionally and mentally. A relationship does not only consist of cooking and cleaning but of emotional support, organizing your life etc.
My husband IS able bodied and I have to take care of him.I 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂
Haha right?
Ziuta Sow you’re nasty, but if I had to, I would. Sad you’re selfish that you wouldn’t help someone you love.
Ziuta Sow every married women is just a car crash or stroke away from having to do those things. You marry for better or worse, sickness and in health. If you think doing those things for someone you love is wrong then you’ve never loved anyone and I feel sorry for you.
Araceli Polendo - Same! My husband is so lazy!
Lol I can see it coming...people commenting "So, it's in fact Shane who is sacrificing for Hanna, so brave" hahhahahahhahhahahhaha 🤣🤣🤣
Ok lol have bad days
@@davimusic2349 ?
Lmao this thought definitely went through my head 😂
@@valerieann9179 lol ok
😂😂😂 that's so funny, just love them!
They are both amazing people. My wife became seriously ill at29 yrs old, which was 6 months after we got married. She is not disabled like Shane, but has still bee unable to work for 26 years now. We could not be more happy with our union. I have developed serious health conditions over the last 15 years, and now at 57 yrs old we are quite a pair. We are each mostly mobile; no wheelchairs or walkers... Just pain, lots of pain for both of us, with little relief. Our love keeps us going. I wish the best for these two, this is true love; I know because I'm a practitioner! God Bless you both.
Really grateful for this video. I am disabled... and I question every day whether I'm being a burden on my spouse. To see the love you two share really helps hit home for me that my husband sees me beyond my disability, he sees me for me.
God bless Shane, he's giving up his 20's putting up with Hanna. He's truly a saint. I'm a cat parent and It would break my heart if my human son fell in love with the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.
If you can't tell I'm miserable. I hate seeing people falling in love with someone for what they are instead of what they aren't.
lmao damn
What the fuck did you just try to say?
@@spyweb314 thought I was the only one 🤣
So I’m not the only one who can’t understand this..
so you’d be upset if your son fell in love with a physically disabled woman?
Reverse psychology stuff. It's meant to be an innocent joke I think. Like the opposite of the usual comments about Hannah's "sacrifices"
I call BS on the haters. Hannahs face glows with love when she looks at Shane and vice versa.Any idiot should able to see how much ya"ll mean to each other.
I love how Hannah looks so lovingly at Shane. You can truly see how much she loves him and I think Shane is histerical by the way
Oh Please Its A Fucking Sham!
@@endora3760 ya you are a shame jealous because your a looser lol.
People tend to look at a situation imagining themselves in it, with factors of their own lives. They sometimes then put those feelings on someone else and their life I have a large family (5 kids) plus we took in 2 more, raising 2 foster kids. I have many think OMG, I couldn't do it. It's not for everyone, and for some, if struggling with 2 kids, or maybe dealing with a child with struggles, the thought of 5 or 6 more would be overwhelming. Understandable. Many also just wouldn't want the responsibility of 7, which is also understandable. I was widowed suddenly at 41. Now I have no interest in dating anyone and choose not to bring any man in my children's lives, but if I did, there are certain circumstances, many struggles a man might have, I would not choose for me now just because I have so must responsibility already, it would not be fair to these kids to add more. Someone with a completely different life circumstances would feel completely differently and would take on a relationship with extra physical challenges. If my husband of 23 years, their dad, suddenly had a disability or medical issues in our marriage though, then I wouldn't think twice, and same for him with me. It would not be right for me to start new challenges now with a new person though. On the other side, I also would understand a man not wanting to take on a woman with 7 kids, who still is completely in love with and who honors another man daily. That's not for everyone. What is right for one is not right for another, and that goes for almost everything in life. It's not right or wrong. We are all just unique, all with varying life circumstances.
you worded this perfectly.
You can talk to my dad I am on his account
Well said.
I bet you two are more in love, bonded and open with each other than most couples. I think this might be true because of the extra time you spend together. I would think while you are doing Shane's therapy or care you would be talking, laughing, sharing feelings. I think your relationship is something to look up to. Sending Love.
Thats such a postive way of thinking of it... and I imagine other people don't think of it that way.
I am on my daddy account
This video makes me smile. I am the ‘disabled’ one in my relationship. I have extreme agoraphobia, panic, BPD, depression, anxiety... list is endless.. and I feel all the time that my partner sacrifices so much being with me. I can’t go out with him, can’t stay at his, can’t go away, can’t go shopping....pubs/days out/meals/if he’s invited anywhere he goes alone (you get the idea). I know he compromises a lot to be with me..... and for 90% of our almost 3 year relationship I’ve been convinced I wasn’t worthy of being loved by him and even more convinced he would find someone ‘normal’.... turns out, he’s still with me, still loves me regardless of my mental illnesses and wants to be with me forever..... so yeah.... what I’ve learnt along the way is that it’s NOT sacrificing if you love someone, it’s what you do, and I would do the same for him............. THANK YOU BOTH for this video.
Aside from the agoraphobia (I have autism and DID instead), this is basically my thoughts. You’re completely right though, it’s not a sacrifice if it’s a choice you’re making out of love, and if the tables were turned, I would do the same for her without hesitation.
i have autism. i think that u guys found love. i hope one day to have that kind of love. SO happy for u guys!
Wow. Thanks for speaking on this. My husband and I help each other with stretches and rehab ALL the time and no one would EVER make comments like that. You guys literally cannot live without scrutiny. I'm sorry you have to experience this daily but grateful that you are able to educate. I'm learning more about ableism every day - thanks to you both!
People who feel like it’s okay to say those things need to see a psychiatrist. What makes people think it’s okay to say every stupid thought that comes into their empty heads? Both of you are adorable! We love your adventures! You are definitely an encouragement to people with disabilities. I have so many disabilities right now that I don’t recognize my life anymore. It wasn’t always like this. I watch your videos and think how genuine you both are! Hannah is beautiful so people are jealous! Shane I am so happy you found joy with her! You compliment each other! TH-cam decided to suggest a video of you before Hannah. It broke my heart! You keep being happy, fulfilled and ignore the haters! Did it ever cross peoples narrow little minds that affection in any form is affection? Your significant other has a neck ache so you rub their shoulders, how is it different if Hannah gives physical therapy? Imbeciles! ❤️ Shane and Hannah! Stay strong
People can say what they want, maybe some shouldnt be snowflakes and take things so serious.
It would be fun if they had a psychologist on who explained why people can't seem to comprehend that Hanna caught a good man and is very happy. 😂😂
You guys remind me of a young version of my parents who were an inter-abled couple. They had the best relationship and were married for 41 years before my dad passed. Love watching your videos.
To be honest, one thing that would stop me from dating a disabled person and being their care-taker, is the level of dependency. If I ever loose feelings for my partner or am unhappy in my relationship, I want to be able to leave without feeling guilty. I think in relationships like these there can be a lot of pressure on the side of the caretaker which makes it hard sometimes. But who knows, these two really seem happy and i love their relationship!!!
Thats very reasonable
You are a class act for sharing this thought. I'm sure others have questions, too.
But it just seems people on this thread are downright hateful or, the other extreme, syrupy sweet about everything. No in between.
I've had similar thoughts. Not to be negative, but people that are/were in love break up all the time, for all kinds of reasons. If it happened with Shane and Hannah it would just add another layer of complexity to the usual complexity of a break up. But God bless them...they seem to have a good foundation and an abundance of love and respect for one another. I hope to find that kind of love someday!
@@PoeCommunicateATL I haven't seen any super nasty comments on here.
He’s rich. He could easily get a nurse if Hannah left. In fact they probably already do have nurses / maids but they’re hiding it from TH-cam
I constantly think about a part in Shane’s book when he had to look after Hannah and realized that what people said to him his entire life was true: “labors” of love don’t feel like labor when you really care about someone. Looking after them is almost natural and not a sacrifice at all. Love is a give-and-take. It’s very powerful and an amazing example of what real love is.
When you said “roused” I was thinking something else. lol
Woman of a certain age 10 same. *picks up mind from gutter*
Me too!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂
Me too 🤣
same here 😂
I thought she actually said "aroused" 🤣
Just found you guys from Taylor Wynn’s video on her favorite TH-cam channels. I’ve binged almost all of your videos in a few days!! Thank you for the endless entertainment!
Julia Cramer welcome to the family they are really fun to watch they bring happiness in my life
Yes welcome...they are fun n great...
One can choose to view most any situation as an OBSTACLE or an OPPORTUNITY. Think about this for yourself. Look at the chemistry and ease these two beautiful souls have with each other. It's obviously authentic and I wish them so much continued love and happiness. Also, look how productive they are in their lives! It's inspiring!!!
One look at Hannah's face should tell anyone that she is exactly where she wants to be, with who she wants to be with. We should all be so lucky.
You can tell by the way she looks at him she is just crazy in love with this guy !
I like how Shane made the joke about the “announcement,” disregards it, and adds “Have I mentioned that you are absolutely glowing right now?” 😂 so sweet and random
It's a reference to a joke, as its often said that women glow in the early stages of pregnancy 😉
Sazbear 391 ohhh!! It’s obvi that I’ve never been pregnant before 😂
Hannah is the luckiest lady - Shane is not just funny, he's hilarious. And the love they share is SO obvious.
Hanna is an angel in Shane's life, and Shane is a blessing in Hanna's life.
Best wishes to this lovely couple from Brazil!
I'm happily married to my best friend but I can totally see why Hannah fell in love with Shane. He's so witty, so funny, his face is gorgeous... Absolute love material, right there ❤️
Sure jan
I love how you both address all the questions and accusations: head on and with an incredible sense of humor. Much love and respect from CANADA 🇨🇦❤
My heart is sooooo saddened to hear that people can be sooooo nasty!!!! We should all CELEBRATE THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR EACH OTHER 🤗🤗God Bless
Shane is seriously hilarious!! After watching for a while... I forget he is even disabled. Then you blink and remember he is in a chair and in a body that just doesn't work the same as most. Hannah has emotional and mental support from Shane... and not all couples even have that from their partner. Where Shane lacks in some areas... he soars in others. It brings a good balance to your relationship! We are rooting for you!!
I just love Shane, Hannah and Cloe ❤️
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Me too💜while everyone else is saying negative things about Hannah and shanes relationship we will be the ones who sit back not say anything and enjoy their videos. And if we do say anything it's that we love them or their videos brighten our day i know they do mine. I was just reading some of the comments and had to stop because there was a fight going on between like 5 people in the comments they said sonething really negative about shane and it was just back and fourth bickering like 5 yr olds it's horrible. I just come to watch their video and enjoy them. And they do love eachother very much and they are a beautiful couple. I wish them all the love and happiness in the world.
She and Shane has an amazing sense of humour and his honestly with his emotions are about being each other's support person
Look around, do we see genuinely happy couples like these two? or even individuals.....
I literally cry laughing at Shane’s humour. Your both lovely people, I wish you both forever happiness together ❤️
It amazes me how many people leave comments completely outing themselves as selfish!
You guys are amazing and we love your sense of humor. We have unseen disabilities in our family and we're so thankful for the strength you display in vulnerably sharing your personal life with everyone!
It honestly makes me sad that some people see your guys’ relationship that way.! I find you two to be lovely and funny!! I have never seen you two being together as Hannah “sacrificing” he life to be with Shane. In a relationship yeah there is sacrificing but just because Shane has a disability doesn’t mean someone has to sacrifice their life to be with him!! Everyone deserves love able bodied or not(.) I just wish you two a lovely and happy life together ☺️
I know other couple that sacrifice a lotttt for their partner and they dont have a disability
It is clear by the way they interact that it is real love. Her life is probably MORE fulfilling with Shane in her life... he is hilarious and clearly keeps her laughing, he obviously loves her, and the kind of love you can see between them is what is rare. It is crazy to me that people think "convenience" is what relationships should be about. Relationships should be filled with sacrifice on both sides... giving up your former single lives to become one. And that means you both may possibly give things up FOR EACH OTHER.
Anyway, I love your videos. Shane, you are seriously hilarious. I love your sense of humor and Hannah I love how you just go with it when he is making his jokes. 🥰
@Tolkien!Fan Why are people so mad about their relationship? I just don't get it.
As someone who has a lot of health issues, I constantly feel like I am a huge burden to my husband, daughter, parents, etc. I feel like they have had to make so many sacrifices for me, both physical and financial, and I am in a constant state of guilt.
If you asked any of them, they would immediately shut it down, but I still struggle with it. There is so much we can’t do as a family because of me and my limitations.
I love that y’all are standing up for your relationship, and all interabled relationships, but just know that those comments might actually be coming from someone in Shane’s position who feels like the burden. It doesn’t make it right, but it can be hard to move past the guilt and see all the positive impact you’ve made.
I have health issues and I suffer from depression and anxiety disorder. I have 2 adult kids and my grandson that live with me. My son just turned 21. My daughter left her now ex fiance and came to live with me along with my grandson. So, after almost 4 years of my daughter being here, not helping with anything, tells me how she tells her friends that I have mental issues, I am needy, to dependent and more. It hurts so, so bad. I love my children but I feel like a huge burden because of the comments. I am the one who has raised her child, taken them in and she lives a free life here. I so get where you are coming from! Sending hugs to you!
I feel the exact same way. I have quite bad chronic pain and I feel like such a burden to my family, but they, especially my husband tries to do a great job of keeping that shut down in my mind
Girl, I’m in the same boat! It’s so embarrassing to me to be such a burden on my Husband! I swear, he NEVER complains at all! I understand what you’re feeling! We got lucky to have the people in our live that we do! Blessings to you and your Family!❤️👍🏻🙏🏻
This video encourages me a lot. My dad has been paralyzed for 21 years (he was paralyzed while my mom was pregnant with me), and I struggle with discouragement sometimes and just the hardships that come with a disability. My family and I are really close, and when my dad got in his accident, many people told my mom to leave my dad. But she has stayed with him and LOVES him fully! Jesus has been so good to us despite really hard struggles we've had to face, especially recently.
Hannah seems extremely happy, how could it be a sacrifice to be with Shane?
It’s just a joke! They like to do that in their thumbnails and titles, part of the reason I love them so much lol!
How isn't it? I would not want to be with someone I had to do literally everything for him. If they have kids it would be a nightmare. I would be very sad for either of my daughters if they chose a life like Hannah's.
@@strollintrollin7779 Well looking at your username I can tell you're just a 🍆 head.
Strollin Trollin I feel sorry for your daughters because they have a bitch for a mother. 🥰
Plenty of caregivers understand. You may not. Have you spent months or years taking care of someone who needed maximum assistance with all of their basic needs? Many people will eventually do this for aging spouses or parents. In my experience, most people who have acted as caregivers themselves specifically ask their families not to do this for them.
Shanes dream talking - a fall, in winter, knock on his face... Can shane see in to the future?? duh, duh, duuuuuuuuh
He totally did!
Right, i didn't even think of that!
😱😱😱 now that you mention it
The quarantine cut is looking great Shane! It suits you!
Natalia Rodriguez I think the cut looks great on him... brings attn to those fantastic eyes! Sorry Hannah, not flirting, married for 27 years and old as the hills!
"...in all of my disabled wonder."
Shane... you're so freaking awesome. I wish I had friends as funny and genuine as you!!
If you love someone then you love to take care of each other, that's never a burden. It's love ❤️
I love this couple. Shane’s sense of humour is hilarious and Hannah’s reactions to his humour are priceless. They bounce off each other so well. Keep up the good work people. Greetings from the UK x
Hannah, voice memo! I have 17 years worth of them of my husband! 🤣
I’m sorry that you experience this hate from others. We sacrifice in our marriages, just in different ways. I’ve had cancer. 3 times. My husband cared for me and worked full time as an Air Force pilot whilst our kids were school aged. You guys are amazing!
God bless you i hope you're fine now ❤
For better or worse in sickness and health ... I hope you are doing well now ♥️
Girl boys
I love Shane's hair cut even more now its grown a bit .
The improvements that Shane has gone through are incredible, seeing him with such a good posture is amazing. Thank you for sharing such precious moments!
Love this: my husband helps me due to my disability ; he feels like Hannah even though I tend to feel guilty at times; don’t want to be a burden but am reminded constantly I am not
every time i watch them my heart feels full and happy. they are so pure, so real and also hilarious. one of the best channels on youtube. no lies, no fake news, no drama, just real. thanks for sharing your life together w us all :)
All I see is 2 people who are so made for each other!! The love is so apparent. Shane has the best sense of humor, and Hannah with a heart of gold. Love these 2
You two are too cute. Every relationship has it’s “sacrifices”. You do that for people you love whether disabled or not. I think people who make comments like what you’re talking about have never had a loving relationship and don’t understand that. Never a burden, always a privilege. My husband and I have been through many ups and downs over our 38 years together. I’ve wiped his bum when he was unable and he’s wiped mine lol. You just do it. Love is a wonderful thing. 💕
You are both lucky to have a mutually supportive, respectful relationship. I grew up in abuse, married into it, became a single mother in poverty with two tiny ones. To have what you two have is rare, not counting that you are interabled. I love your videos, and I think more than anything you give people hope that there is true love out there, which is a precious gift. Thanks for brightening my days- you’re both funny! 💯
"You're Wrong" and "Just shut up" LOL Best and most appropriate responses! hahaha You two are amazing together and individually :)
I. Love. This. Guy!!! This sense of humor is absolutely amazing. It's so effortless. I'm sitting here laughing just thinking about a previous video I watched where Shane was siting in the back yard meditating. Saying he needed to get outside of his mind due to being stuck at home. So funny! Seriously, the coolest guy ever!
Its really nobody's business. Glad they can see the humor in people's ignorance.
It really is our business they choose to make their relationship public
@@gamegreed9105 yes, bc it's totally your business whether you think Hannah should stay with Shane or not.
@@minaisfab17 you're so cute Miss sarcastic😉 as a matter of fact I actually hope he does stay with her forever, I have a disability myself and I have had difficulties finding a woman that is accepting of me.
@@gamegreed9105 I hope you find true love!!!!
@@mazieg7072 thank you for your recipe Channel I just got started in baking
I love how you both keep life simple yet work hard and achieve your goals.