"Facing Fertility" Part 1: The reality of IVF
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- Our "Facing Fertility" series sets out to educate people about reproductive hurdles and give voice to the many women and men who suffer in silence with infertility. We take a look at the reality of in-vitro fertilization, or IVF. Nikki Battiste reports.
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4 miscarriages and 4 IVF treatments only resulted in divorce. It’s still painful 13 years later.
So sorry that you had to go through all of this and more ❤ hope you are well
Oh no! I hope you're healing and are in a better place psychologically.
I feel so sorry for all the women in the comments that say their relationship ended due to infertility issues. Life is so much more than what we think it is.
I love how honest Gayle is willing to be about her personal ignorances and growth. A lot of people feel the same way and hearing her experiences being educated can be so beneficial for others who have the same preconceptions.
I'm pregnant, single and have no idea how my/our future will be like. This scares me. But watching this is heartbreaking.😳 I'm glad and grateful.
You’ve got this Mama! 🤗
@@ratedr9672 thank you 💗❤💗
No one discusses how physically painful IVF is. I came to during the egg retrieval and no one warned me I’d wake up during and feel the procedure. Shots aren’t even half of the entire thing.
sometimes the answer to our prayers is.....NO
Nobody likes to mention a woman’s biological clock but it’s a very real thing. It’s hard to balance education/career and family. 😢
Men as well. 2/3 of fertility issues is due to sperm issues.
You know what's crazy is the doctors will tell you that you have all this time and you really don't. I was going on 30 and the doctor told me I have plenty of time. When I decided to try it took over a year they said I still had time. By the time I was going on 32 I finally had my first baby. By 36 and my second pregnancy they told me I was geriatric. Imagine that. Both of my pregnancies where extremely high risk. Had I tried sooner it would've been easier on my body.
So I guess women should drop out of school and quit their jobs so these unreliable men can take care of them
@@cheesewithxbread Yep, no one ever talks about men and their fertility issues. Always seems to be the woman’s fault. Men in their 40s risk having kids with issues, too
A lot of people see celebrities over 45 being pregnant and think that they have all the time in the world, when most iikely they used egg donors to conceive.
I had NO idea that IVF doesn't work most of the time. Thanks for this video. Im just very concerned about the risk of cancers as a result of the hormone therapy [injections].
Yah, I won't even take birth control for that reason, so this is not sthg I would be comfortable with at all. But I understand why people do it. I rly think we need to accept the biological clock n just how we plan for education and career, we need to plan for reproduction and not just expect it to happen.
@@BettyCollins88 Many of us DID plan for reproduction. I don't know how extra planning would help have kids earlier though. I wanted kids by age 25 and yet ten years later I still don't have a child. Wanting kids was the only reason I ever dated, and the reason I chose who I dated. I moved states so that we could start trying earlier. I gave up job opportunities, left my graduate program, so that we wouldn't miss even a single opportunity to try. I've learned everything there is to learn about pregnancy, labor, postpartum, and childcare and have a Google doc of all the things I want to introduce to my kids as well as parenting techniques I've found good in the passing. We always look for local schools, parks, and extracurricular activities in the area whenever we move again. I don't know how we could have planned better.
This brought me to tears again. This has been my entire existence for the past three years. I’m preparing for my third egg retrieval and 4th transfer. From male and female infertility, donor sperm, miscarriage, failed IUI’s, endometritis, failed transfers, hospitalization from hyperstimulation, almost $300,000 in, hundreds of blood tests, reproductive immunology, genetic testing,almost a year worth of antibiotics, and at least a thousand injections not to mention the depression and anxiety at the ages 31 to now 34, it is brutal and my worst nightmare. I go to Columbia Fertility as well. I trust them and their doctors but I’m beyond exhausted and praying for at least ONE baby. 💔💔
I am so sorry and understand the despair and heartache that comes with infertility. I remember that my husband and I got to the point where we had to ask ourselves- what was more important, becoming parents or having a biological child? We chose the former and went on to adopt 2 absolutely wonderful kids who completed our family and have brought us so much love and joy. That was over 25 years ago and if we had it to do over, we wouldn't change a thing. I sincerely hope you find your path to parenthood.
@@ga6589: I agree. Stats in the US say that a married couple with a middle-class income and a clean background check are 80% likely to be handed a healthy newborn within three years of starting the adoption process.
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Adopt
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Thank you for mentioning the difficulty of secondary infertility… my 4 year old has been asking for a sibling which truly is so so heartbreaking
I understand that having children is very important life goal for most people. But sometimes, life does not go like we wanted. I think it is important to try with everything you got to get what you want. After, acceptance is the key, else one will go on suffering wanting something we cannot have. That is true suffering. I have things in my life that I wanted badly but didn’t get. Let it be what it should be.
I feel like maybe it’s not meant for these people to have children together. Sometimes, they’ll go onto other people and end up getting pregnant.
"These people" 🙄 Well "these people" have successful pregnancies so far. Also, I'M one of "these people" with an IVF baby right now. My doctor explicitly told me that it has nothing to do with chromosomes not aligning or some magical fairy science you've made up in your head.
Stop being like this.
Very nicely said. Agreed
I Struggled to get pregnant and when l did l miscarried. Aftet 3 pregnancies and no babies l gave up. The heartache of each month and countless test's. Seeing pregnant women or friends and family members that would announce there pregnancies would make me feel worse. I have never truly felt like a women and blamed myself for years. But l did find happiness with Fostering and adopting. I never tried IVF due to the cost and there's no promise of a baby. God wrote my path and it was adoption. It's taken me 25 years to feel peace and not blame myself.
Pray to God. Submit it to God
Thank you so much for pitching and then covering this story. Points that were made at the end such as how many people can't afford IVF and how only the success stories are shared are so important to talk about and add to the conversation.
Thank you CBS for this Facing Fertility series and spreading awareness to the reality and struggles of women have “diminished ovarian reserve” who are trying to get pregnant. My husband and I have been doing IVF for 8 months, after 7 attempts at egg retrievals, at age 34, I have only been able to retrieve 3 eggs, and 1 embryo. We go to one of the top fertility clinics in Manhattan and paying 90% out of pocket. It’s a emotionally and financially taxing. And happens to more women than you think. Thank you again.
Glad their talking about this having gone through my own infertility struggles, and 2 rounds of IVF what I found most suprising was how insensitive people were including medical staff.
I appreciate the main anchor’s honesty about her experience and regrets. But I think a lot of women have unfortunately been lied to or lie to themselves about the likelihood of getting pregnant past 40. The reality is that female fertility drops dramatically after 34.
My heart goes out to these ladies. I think honest conversations with younger females about having children younger. 35+ is late for starting families. This whole pushing career thing is causing real frustrations later on in life.
Women get pregnant well into their 40s. I think the causation of women who struggle is birth control. Did you know birth control can cause tumors in the liver.
No lies detected
How about conversations that it’s ok to be childless
For me, it was not pushing for my career, but finding someone serious and committed. I found my hubby late 30's. We tried, not really. But I was not on any birth control 3 years and nothing. I was just about to set up an appointment to see if something was wrong with me. I assumed it was me. I had very bad cramps all my period life, and I my husband already had a son from his previous relationship. But then I got pregnant at 40, and COVID started. I didn't get a babyshower. I didn't care, I was pregnant, and I just wanted my baby to be safe. I had my 1st in the middle of COVID. And I just had my 2nd baby 6 months ago. On my 2nd pregnancy, my OB told me I was lucky to get pregnant so quickly, 2 years after my 1st. Many women my age and younger were not having luck. Pregnancy was harder on my body, the 2nd time around. And birth complications did happen happen. We are blessed we are all good. 😍😘😋❣️ But I completely understand the emotions of not getting pregnant. My heart breaks for the women trying 💔 😢. I feel you.
@@DezaRay24This is obviously for those that want children. If it doesn't apply....
Thank you so much for talking about this. It is so much more common than people think.
I feel bad for women who struggle with this BUT it's not the end of the world if you cannot have children. I was diagnosed with cancer...a worse situation than this! At least they will live...
That's insensitive. Some people would disagree.
Yes! Keep talking! Why do we shame and silence something that we all go through???
Am 45 and don't have any children, and a lot of my friends still do this day don't understand why even i try and explain it to them they still thinks it because i don't want to lose my figure. I just laughed and stopped trying to get them to understand that i suffered from real bad endometriosis and how the pain was so bad i had to go to the emergency room every month or how i had do a six months course of injection below my belly button and put me in early menopause and weight. Than lost my bellybutton because i started bleeding though my belly button. The next year had to have surgery to remove fibroids and no amount of painkillers and emergency room visit could help with the pain it was so bad it hurts to breathe. I finally at 43 i decided to have hysterectomy done just get some relief from the non stop pain. But even that was still not enough to stop the endometriosis from growing so now am on hormone free diet because that what endometriosis feeds on.
I'm glad you found some relief.
Damn I’m sorry.
I didn’t even know endometriosis could ever get so severe it could cause that. So glad you are better now. I can’t imagine how painful that must have been.
I’m 45, I can’t have kids, but I enjoy time with the children in my life. I have worked as a teacher and hope to get more training to be a counselor.
@@estheresther8934 good luck with your training to become a counselor. It makes a different when a teacher likes their work.
Thank you for sharing your story. As I'm scrolling through these comments I realize I'm looking for a story that did not end with a baby. I was looking for someone like me. I'm tired of emotionally investing in stories of infertility that all seem to end in pregnancy. Or worse, stories about how a couple who never had children was torn apart and my personal least favorite, the one where she just loses her mind. The truth is, for some of us, there is another story- about moving through grief as a couple. Its not easy though because this grief, of not having children is the type of isolating grief for which you don't get days off of work, nobody knows about it, and every interaction with people in your peer group is a potential minefield of triggering reminders. But therapy helps, and life is rich in other ways that Hollywood and Disney do not show. My advice to those going through this grief, turn off the TV and be patient with yourself and your partner. Turn down all the baby showers you need to, give yourself permission to be a "just ok" aunt if you need to, and most importantly figure out why your life story is still valid. Spoiler alert. It is still valid and it has nothing to do with "being a mother" to anyone.
I refused IVF 30 years ago, when dealing with secondary infertility. My husband would have preferred we had tried it. I doubt I would have been willing to resort to it, even for primary infertility. It is a blessing for many, but it was not for me, for multiple reasons. I was more interested in adoption, which my husband was not eager to pursue. We are grateful for our daughter.
Only 27% of women under 35 will be successful. Once you pass 40 it less than 9% . IVF doesn't work for majority. Egg donation is not considered a cure for infertility because the child is another woman dna. They use to allow parents who use egg donation to stay hidden. But Donor many conceive through egg and sperm donation are seeking their 50% genetic bloodline. Now ivf clinics are telling parents to tell those Donor conceive kids about their biological DNA sharing genetic mom or dad ivf is a scam with fake promises
I feel for ur husband i would have divorced u
This comment section is unbelievable.
Thank you for an honest look at IVF. People thinks it's magic but it doesn't work most of the time. Same with freezing your eggs. If you really want to have kids, prioritize it or adopt.
Yes, I was struck by how she waited until 38 to even start, despite being in a relationship earlier, and getting married at 36. I try to explain to people delaying conception for career purposes that if they wait past 34-36, they risk not having any kids at all. They usually get angry at me and tell me my info is wrong, but it's just medical data that they don't want to acknowledge. Battiste said she was prioritizing her career, which was honest, but if you can't think to have a baby by even as late as 36 then perhaps that career is not right for u. Most women cannot even afford this mistake. Just start sooner if u have a partner who is willing, bc it will cost u a lot more if u wait, and I'm not talking just financially.
Thank you so much for doing this. This is my experience as well and it needs to be talked about more. Thank you.
If you can't do it, love the people you have.
Infertility was so painful IVF was too expensive 😢
I honestly do not know why people don't adopt. If the IVF is not working in the first and second try forget it and move on to adoption. The woman's body goes through invasive and tiring trials. Its very expensive as well.
Adoption is not that easy and very expensive. People think it's so easy to just adopt.
@@gal-vai7999 Adoption is expensive upfront, but there are tax credits available that help offset the costs. In 2022, families with a modified adjusted gross income below $223,410 can claim full credit of $14,890 per child. There are also county/state assistance programs for special needs or foster care adoptions.
@@gal-vai7999 From the looks of it, adoption is easier than years of painful fertility treatments and probably cheaper too
The last remark this CBS host gave makes incredible sense to me: we just don’t learn enough about fertility issues until much too late. Sex education in primary and middle school is hyper focused on telling kids about the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases and just the mechanics of things like menstruation and how pregnancies work. In my opinion, sex ed curriculums need to be entirely re-imagined so that girls at young ages can understand how their bodies and hormones might change across a life span. That way women can be mentally prepared for what comes ahead. But instead many of us are taught to fear pregnancy when young as this thing “only bad people do” and something that you should never even consider until you’ve completed higher ed, found the right partner, and are at a stable place in a career. For women who end up doing a ton of higher ed or are on career tracks that might take years to develop, that actually can leave a frighteningly short window for trying-and, for many women indeed their understanding of fertility issues does come to late. College health offices should also be educating women on these topics, too, without question-but I don’t believe many do.
I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly. I was married at 35, and in retrospect, the biggest lie my friends and family told me was that I “had time” to get pregnant. I didn’t. Now I’m pregnant at 43 (IVF) after having a miscarriage at 38 (natural pregnancy), and I wish I had started everything sooner. While I’m excited to finally be a mother, most of of my peers had their babies in their 30s, and some in their 20s. Amazingly my two closest friends from college had their firsts in their early 40s, but they don’t live near me. It’s kind of lonely. No one told me this. There needs to be more honesty around the reality of our biology. Time really does fly. I can’t say if I would have been ready to hear it in high school or college, but at least it would have started the wheels turning in my mind.
@@FairlyTolerable The problem could be you. My brother and his wife is in their 20s and had fertility problems. You family and friends told you that you have time because many women 78% to 87% gets pregnant naturally in their 30s and 20s is even higher. When a woman have fertility problems young in their 30s is because they had low egg counts. Your 40 something year old friends got pregnant because they have high eggs counts. A doctors said he seen women in their 20s that enter his facility and had low egg counts meanwhile he seen women in their 43s with high eggs counts. Sometimes it's not age. My mom got pregnant with my brother at age 36,she got pregnant with me at age 38 and had me at age 39 then 3 months later she got pregnant with my brother and had him at 40. Some women are born more fertile than the other women. Some women are so infertile that after age 25 their are done. Some after age 16 they are done. So maybe the problem was you. I have women in my family who gave birth at 39 then again at 42 . We are Caribbean and don't do ivf . So maybe you were born with low egg counts compared to your peers. Rachel the wife of Jacob was the youngest sister and have problem conceiving compared to her older sisters who conceived with no problems
@@holyempressw8531 your assumptions are incorrect about me. I went through IVF, I know what my egg count was. In fact, my doctor and her colleagues at my clinic had never had a patient in her 40s with so many eggs. They were genuinely shocked. My point is the quality of a woman’s eggs goes down over time no matter how many she has to begin with. My fertility issue was directly related to my age. If I’d wanted a family in my 20s, I have no doubt I would have been able to have as many children as I’d wanted, but life had other plans.
This is my story. In the middle of a journey! In does need a lot of fortitude.🥺
For us it was a long and emotionally difficult road. Our son is the best gift ever.
I'm crying watching this because it hurts to hear another story similar to mine, but also I know that I am not alone. Why us? and Should we be doing this? are questions I struggle with too.
i had my 1st baby at 34 years old and will have my 2nd when i'm 36. i really wish i had started a family a lot earlier, but wanted a stable career 1st in order to provide for my future family. Getting pregnant wasn't easy for us and I feel "old" trying to keep up with a toddler.
Yea, I wish I started earlier too! I’m 38 and parenting a 4 yo and 1.5 year old is utterly exhausting. I don’t have the energy to chase them around. Yes I am extremely grateful to have my babies, but I just am so tired all day every day since they’ve been born.
Agree. I worked hard in my 20s and 30s, now I’m 37 and just not interested in having kids. Luckily my husband is ok with it, we can be retired in early 40. I thought I would have at least 3 kids when I was young. Lol life is like a drama series, things happened which changed our mind.
Thank you for sharing your story
Nothing wrong with building a career/life as a woman, but I wish more of us were told to save for infertility treatment if we intend to delay having children after 35.
Please share with this couple we’ve had the same issues with DOR…used DE, all miscarriages…we aren’t giving up but the pain of the failure is immense
If you want children and can’t get pregnant, please consider making one of the many children who need a loving home your own.
It cost $$$ to even be considered for adoption
@@Oldwomaninthewoods not just money. not everyone is ready to handle the severe emotional and/or physical issues. these kids have often been through abuse and neglect.
@@Oldwomaninthewoods IVF usually costs way more
My husband and I did that, and after trying to navigate the domestic adoption process in the U.S., we ended up doing IVF. We now have two kids. If we’d gone the adoption route, we’d probably still be waiting for a baby. Or we’d be like a friend of mine who got two babies taken from her after taking care of them and thinking she was going to adopt them. Anyone who’s actually been through adoption of IVF knows that there are no easy answer. You can’t “just” adopt or “just” do IVF. It’s all extremely painful, emotionally and sometimes physically.
@@snakeypuffs6154 nobody is entitled to someone else’s child but the biological parents. I’m glad it sounds like those babies are where they should be-in their bio moms arms.
It’s disgusting y’all think buying another woman’s baby is gonna fix your issues
I don’t have infertility issues but I did IVF in order to freeze my embryo for later use. It cost me $20,000 all in. $12,000 is correct for the procedure but the medication is very expensive and not covered.
I would never waste that kind of money if I not needed to. U can buy a house with that in some countries 😂
Omg, I cannot imagine 4 rounds of IVF. When I had my first round of IVF, my doctor told me about the side effects (early menopause, possible ovarian cancer, mood change...)
I've done 3 retrievals, and a few FETS, but I don't remember hearing about cancer or early menopause
@@chihuahua0965 same. I haven't heard about either of those in fact I think I was told those aren't accurate
@rebeccazeman9309 yeah like you don't "use your eggs faster" I can see why someone would think that though.
@rebeccazeman9309 fertility industry is a billion dollar industry. They only see you as money walking. Don't put your trust in man . Never. Less than 28% of women doing ivf under age 35 get success. After this the percentage drop to 9% pass age 40.
It's just logical that it would have a hormonal impact that could affect all those things you mention. I was glad Kourtney Kardashian was honest about it, although there was a lot of pushback against her speaking out about her ivf experience bc there's so much money and emotion on the line. Juliana Rancic got cancer in the middle of ivf as well. That's a big reason why I take the biological clock very seriously. Bc I would not want to put that many exogenous hormones and drugs in my system. Even ovulating 1 egg a month puts me through the ringer physically and emotionally, always has. I've always avoided taking hormonal birth control for the same reasons. I don't think it's wise to use so many exogenous hormones when hormones regulate every aspect of health and they work in very delicate balance. Ovarian hyper stimulation is potentially deadly as well. They don't talk about the people who pass away or have massive damage to their bodies and ovaries as a result.
I understand the desire to have your own kids and not being able to. I can’t imagine what that experience is but I can’t imagine spending all that money on multiple rounds of I’ve when there’s thousands of orphans in this country. Thousands of kids that have been waiting and hoping for a home and parents. But people rather spend the same kind of money it would take to adopt on MULTIPLE failing rounds of IVF. It’s truly heartbreaking. We keep bringing people into this world that never asked for it to force them to grow up in a broken economy. That’s the part I don’t understand. If you so badly want to be a parent, then adopt. Give a child that’s already living and suffering a chance.
My heart breaks for these poor couples. I hope, hope, hope so much that both of their pregnancies are successful ❤
Moral of the Story: Let’s stop telling young women career first, children later. This is cruel.
What about men? Infertility isn’t just a women issue. This is such a dumb thing to say.
How many children do you think they could have adopted with that money?
Think of all that love the could’ve provided for a child. Such a shame.
There's nothing stopping you from adopting if you think you're so righteous
People should only adopt if they really want to, not as a plan B to having biological children.
They could’ve adopted 0 children with what IVF costs.
I am a mother of 6.. SOME people might think that I am just TOO young but to me it's VERY worth it that God gave me a chance to be a mother.. I feel so bad for the ones who want to be a mother but couldn't.. My advice is don't deny the GODS will of having kids.. Don't try to stop what God has plans for us just let it flow.. God knows best..
What you said was really unhelpful. First, not everyone subscribes to what you believe. And as a mother of 6 maybe you shouldn’t feel the need to give advice to women who you can’t understand. You have zero idea what it’s like. Take a seat.
Maybe God granted intelligence to the person who invented IVF and fertility doctors.
Umm perhaps you should read the room. This is a story on women who would die for ONE CHILD and you’re looking for attention by saying you have six kids. Come on have some empathy.
I have PCOS and, although I would love kids, cannot stomach the idea of going hundreds of thousands of dollars into debt in order to even get a chance at it. That being said, completely understand and sympathize with those that do. The fertility industry knows how desperate couples are and exploit this.
The clinic I went to was about $10k plus meds so maybe like $15k per round (I had insurance so don’t know for sure the exact amount) and they have excellent outcomes.
You can get pregnant despite having PCOS. Look into low carb diets, reducing sugar intake, taking ovasitol, and taking supplements/eating foods that help to correct hormone levels.
My sister in law went through the same thing 5-6 IVF and still no success
For those interested in learning more about the declining fertility rates, I would recommend “The Countdown” by Dr.Shanna H. Swan. Men’s fertility rates have fallen nearly 50 percent in the last thirty years, women now are less fertile in their 20’s then their great grandmothers in their 30’s. This is just the tip of the iceberg, the book dives deeper into these issues and the problem is a lot more extensive and intense.
Probably from all the plastics in food and beverage containers, and estrogen mimics in toiletries.
@@CharlestonChica The American diet.
@@holyempressw8531 Sperm counts have plummeted globally in the last 50 years. So this is not just an American phenomenon.
anyone who thinks artificial reproductive technology is a good thing has clearly never had to suffer through it
I am not a network morning show fan but seeing this story pop up on TH-cam made me decide to watch. Heartbreaking to hear these couples recount their painful personal infertility journeys. As a mother who watched her daughter go through infertility and succeed using IVF I pray for them.
I know infertility is not just a women’s issue. However, because of diminished ovarian age possibilities I think women who focus so much on career goals in their twenties and thirties should understand that time is not always on their sides regarding family planning and that they should give the same priority to growing a family as they do to growing their careers.
Your comment is ignorant. Focusing on a family in your 20’s or 30’s will not magically make you more fertile. Many 29-something’s go through infertility.
I am sorry you took my comment negatively and found it ignorant. I intended to point out that there are medical possibilities like egg harvesting and freezing that could mitigate (possibly) infertility due to lack of eggs as a result of diminishing ovarian age. Of course, younger women suffer from infertility from all kinds of reasons and aging is just one of those.
Sadly though for many women there is no solution and I did not intend to be offensive.
@@wantitwrite Plus OP seems to be putting a lot of the blame of infertility on women, when men can have issues too.
i think the moral is if you can't get married in your 20s, just get pregnant on your own. marriage isn't necessary.
I hope they address the ethical problems with the long term effects of fertility drugs prescribed off label (lupron - a drug only FDA approved for late stage prostate cancer). Most of these drugs have not been studied to see if they can cause various cancers. The doctors won’t question the ethics because the fertility industry is a huge money maker for fertility doctors and big pharma both profit off of it.
If this woman could afford to pay off the IVF should absolutely not be on Medicaid. Medicaid is for health care that a person can not afford insurance. She could have used those payments for insurance.
Disgusting how can this happen wow people are selfish
I'm going turn there same, but are will Never give up 💪🏽
This while infertility thing is a recent issue. Our food is to blame.
Food is one factor, genetics is another factor. Genetic testing from the start helps couples find out how they can start planning to have a family or what lifestyle choices to make to have a healthy pregnancy.
There are many reasons, but delaying childbearing is almost certainly the biggest. The average age for marriage for American women is 27. A woman's peak reproductive years are between the late teens and late 20s. Ferility starts to decline by age 30, and the decline increases after the mid-30's.
I got pregnant at 21, 27, 32, 37, and 39. The declining fertility rate they claim is NOT true for every woman. I can think of women who had no problem getting pregnant past age 35.
Recessive genes are a factor for people of European decent probably from inbreeding tbh.
@@MillennialMountainMama exactly. My mom got pregnant easy and fast in her mid 30s. She had me at 38 and my brother at 40 and my big brother at 37. Some women have horrible fertility egg counts. A 28 year old woman was told by her doctor she had egg counts of a 50 year old women. She was trying since age 24
God bless all women and couples desiring to have a baby. I pray the best for you all.
Women in thier 20s: Babies are a burden focus on your career!
Women in thier 40s: I focused on my career now I need ivf to have a baby
Woman who had a child in her 20s, says when she’s 30 “I’d like another child” and can’t for 3 years. Thank you ivf for allowing me to have a second child. It’s not all about age.
@@Psychiatricnerd 30s is when egg quality decrease..glad it help ya
I wish more light was shined on the men or women who are single and want children. I’m in that boat, and I have a low egg count. It’s hard because I don’t have a husband for the sperm so I have to get donor sperm, which is super expensive. Top off the costs of fertility treatments.
Adopt?
Would love to hear a story about egg donors, sperm donors and people who chose to be surrogates. Being an egg donor is like going through part of the IVF medical process and is taxing on the body. Same with surrogates. I know plenty of people whom have gone through IVF and I feel for people whom are desperate to have kids (but would prefer not to adopt), but I wonder about the ethics of egg donation, sperm donation, surrogacy. I would imagine that most people who donate their eggs, sperm, become surrogates do it bc they need the money, but I could be wrong. Would love to hear the other side of the story.
Look up eggsploitation. Many women who donate eggs are now infertile. So.e have cancer,some have died young and some of those women are seeking ways to track down the women they donate their eggs to because some wants their children back.
I agree with most of Europe and other developed countries that commercial surrogacy is unethical. They have different reasons. Sweden does not condone the sale of human beings. The UK considers the surrogate a mother as well, instead of a handmaiden or sthg. Others note that it is detrimental to the baby to be abruptly separated from all it has known, and thus ban even volunteer surrogacy. America is really the Wild West of reproductive technology. Our government does not regulate the procedures as they do in Europe or Asia. And as long as wealthy white women, who have in most cases delayed pregnancy too long, are willing to shell out a lot of money, some poorer, young, usually mother of color, will be made to shoulder the physical and emotional burden of pregnancy, birth, and child separation for what I consider pennies. Bc how do u actually place a value on this sacrifice? It's alarming how many couples using a surrogate are willing to place multiple embryos in her, creating a potentially very high risk pregnancy. Some are not happy with the resulting babies, for reasons as superficial as "that's not the gender we ordered" and even attempt to return it. During the Pandemic surrogates were required to raise the babies for some time bc many of the clientele in America is foreign as surrogacy is not permitted in much of the world. It's clear that biology should not be exchanged for money in this way, and that is a dark chapter of American history that should be left behind. Also, why are the middlemen selling the surrogate making double what she does for simple bureaucratic work. I suggest the documentary "Breeders: A subclass of women?" It includes testimony from repeat surrogates and human rights lawyers. It really opened my eyes to how dystopian it is to not regulate this thing for strictly medical need, and to not put real parameters around what constitutes medical need. It should not be commercial at all. Perhaps you could make the arguement for volunteer surrogacy, as they do in the UK. But this much rarer as surrogacy is usually an act of socio-economic need or desperation on the part of a poor mother (u must already be a mother to be surrogate). I have never heard of a wealthy white mother being a surrogate.
It’s not an easy journey ….
12400 is ridiculous.. its 30k in total just for the first cycle.
There is a biological clock, especially for women. Society pushes career, career, career and so many woman are missing the opportunity for a family. It’s a tragedy.
This so ignorant. Men suffer from infertility as well. Stop spreading misinformation
Lol there are many reasons women don’t start families until they’re older. Not just careers
What’s wrong with not worrying yourself to have children if the woman’s body or male sperm can’t perform successfully?
It’s crazy how people don’t want kids have baby at young age and people like them are having hard time
I have been in IVF TRANSFER 7X SINCE 2014 TO 2020 got pregnant the first time and miscarriage I did multiple transfers until 2020 got pregnant but no sac 😢 now I stop for all my savings was drained 😢.
I suffer from too much fertility
The reality is it’s causing an increase in insurance premiums.
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Is adoption not even on the table for those couples?
Sounds like it works
IVF is that ineffective 😮
Depends on the clinic and age.
Im about to start ivf because of my genetic problem so nervous 😟
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Gynecologist need to honestly tell young girls and women what long term birth control use will do...
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Sorry but I don't feel sorry for women/couples experiencing "Secondary infertility" considering that some women can't even get pregnant once no matter how hard they try! They should just be thankful for the one child they already have!
A bit rude.
Yes, very rude. I knew of a very kind NICU nurse who took care of my 3rd baby and she was so hurt that she couldn’t have a second baby. Try to have some compassion.
We don’t need your sympathies or permission. You can simultaneously be so incredibly thankful for your first born and also have the desire for a second child. Why should people that struggle for a second child be reprimanded for wanting that child when many people have multiple children. People’s life choices are theirs to make.
As an infant adoptee let me state this loud and clear for anyone suffering infertility. Us adoptees are NOT your infertility treatments. We do not heal your infertility trauma. Go to therapy to deal with the fact you can’t have children biological-and find ways to help children in your communities that doesn’t strip them of their birth rights or biological family so you can get your selfish, wants, needs, and desires met to be a parent. Parenthood isn’t a promise or a right.
NOBODY is entitled to someone else’s child
Adoption isn’t a family building tool
You do not grow a family based on another family in crisis.
Would you be open to it if the child has absolutely no one and the prospective parents go through therapy? I think its a beautiful thing that humans have the capacity to raise kids that aren't theirs, but you're right about selfishly using the child as a mental crutch, they don't deserve that, but they do deserve a home
I was a adopted too. And from the sounds it you got handed a hard situation. For those reading this. I adore my parents. I love them with all my heart.
@@jrdnjsts89 nobody is saying you can’t love them-however birth moms deserve support over shame, blame, and coercion. Birth fathers deserve to be notified that they have children that are going up for adoption children deserve to stay in their biological systems in someway. It’s been proven that I adopted children have more issues than kept biological children.
This country does nothing to support, young and single mothers. We do more to separate families, than we ever have done to keep them together.
@@nightshadesylv that’s the thing though you’re asking the parents to go to therapy only for themselves. Adoption is for the child in crisis, so the child is the one who is also going to be in trauma for the rest of their lives, so don’t you also think the parents would need to be trauma informed as well? You do not parent an adopted child the same way parent a biological child.
The odds of a child, having absolutely no family…? Ummm we live in America, not a war torn country. Please implore some critical thinking skills in to your questioning.
Well someone needs to take care of the abandoned babies.
Is it so hard to be able to live without kids? What about adoption?
Most people don’t want someone else’s kid. And adopted children are very disturbed.
Great series. Thx. Women don't get so caught up in a career that u waste time not planning a family if that's what you desire. Time is not on your side
27 year olds are having issues getting pregnant. This is way more than an age thing. We are being poisoned by our government and corporations with low quality food, harmful medications, and toxins.
Give it up lady's... world ain't getting any better.. spend your money on you! Your time is yours! Enjoy it!
Wtf, smh be considerate
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Biology does not care about your career
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Waiting a few years to have kids if you don't get married until your mid 30's is a risky choice. If you already have one child, be happy with that.
Feminism definitely contributed to this rising issue
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Please change your bedroom decor. More light colors, enlighten your house and pray to God. God gives everything 😊
married at 36? what did you think?
She still could have gotten pregnant. Plus many of these men in this video have low and bad sperm count. American men are 50% less fertile than there grandfather and 20% less fertile than German men
Where are the statistics for lgbtq couples
All of these wasted resources. Just get a woman with a good breadbasket and discard these impotent ones.
This seems like push to get ivf covered by insurance.
Many insurers already do.
I wish all insurance company will paying IVF too!
Maybe if you wanted kids that badly you would adopt!!!!
If you're willing to do IVF, consider paying someone to be pregnant for you if you have endometriosis, structural defects or pre-existing poor health so you don't waste an attempt. I'm not sure what the allure of pregnancy is, you're better off being alive for your surrogate-carried child than dead/disabled because of pregnancy.
Maybe bring back genetic testing before marriage. Its harsh but understanding possible risk are important. Reproducing is essential for survival of all species therefore evaluating compatibility is harmless.
Testing for what?🤔
@@politereminder6284 genetic abnormalities, micro deletions, male and female risk factors,etc. To sum it up what can and can't or will or won't be passed on to the fetus.
@@hoplarchuspsittacus7380 there is a limited number of things that can be tested for. Fertility is complex
Pregnancy is easy for melanated people. There are health and aesthetic benefits to having rich pigment. Health is wealth. Health is beautiful.
Yeah. I just had twins. It’s not hard to get pregnant.
@@Stephanie-lh1pj what an ignorant thing to say. Didn't you watch how difficult and painful it was for the people to get and stay pregnant?!
@@ayeeshahm9078 My apologies. They’re not missing out on anything major. I mean, yeah, it’s fun and good. Some people just didn’t make the cut. It’s not my fault. I didn’t do it. It’s better that way. Things could be much worse🙄
As a black woman, I hate that you posted this extremely insensitive topic. Melanin has nothing to do with fertility. I work in healthcare and there are many black women who come in with infertility, prenatal issues and miscarriages.
@@Brwn_Aphrodite I couldn’t agree more. I completed my first IVF cycle in February and we’re finally pregnant. It hasn’t been easy.
Not being able to get pregnant is a sign to adopt.
Most couples want their own biological child and want to get experience pregnancy.
Why should stable people be responsible for the offspring of the irresponsible?
Maybe they should accept the facts and help kids like me. (I was adopted). It frustrates me seeing thousands of dollars used for making a baby but not for an already alive baby.
Maybe gods way of telling you to adopt geez
Was she born a woman or not? That’s a huge factor.
What?
all these old broads waited too long
I hate you for saying that.
@@kennethrosario6706 why? Aren’t you a dude? Lol simp harder
Rude