Gabor Mate - my favorite human . He has wisdom , and razor sharp focus - never forget what he wanted to say , and politely waits for the interviewer to jump all around - and go back and finish his point ! Also , humble and not afraid to say what he wants to say. An extraordinary human being , and I deeply resonate with his words , always .
This interviewer does talk a LOT. He talks too much really. I'm so grateful for Gabor though, he's a brilliant human. I love his message, he helps so many
Dr Gabor Mate is just an extraordinary human being! All my blessings to you ! Happy belated birthday Dr Mate ❤🎉I wish for you many many many more! You are one of those kind of beings that are imprescindible ! Infinitas gracias ❤ thank you for this podcast! My first time here, I just subscribed ! Gracias!
Incredible dialogue , thanks for sharing dr mate’s insight. As a father myself like others and you Mo , I’ve done sufficient harm to my kids unknowingly,Now I get a glimpse of where all those actions came from!. I’ve read and listened to “ Myth of Normal” multiple times and anytime I read it again or listen to conversations like this , it feels as fresh and enlightening as the first time .I know Dr Mate is a recipient of “order of Canada” which he might not be very keen about but for us “people “ he well deserves Nobel Prize, , “people’s Noble prize”, for all his work and his compassion
This is one of the most beautiful podcast I’ve ever seen. I would so much to make a contribution even a small one to make also a little difference. I am born during world war 2, in 1942. My grandfather was shot point blank by a gestapo officer. My mothers and also my life was marked by the terrible events which continue and may never end.
Love this conversation and always enjoy both these men. I would note that so much of the world's pain is perpetrated by an imbalance in the world that values wealth, progress, achievement, competition, power, dominance, greed, aggression, violence, fear and war. War is so profitable. We must rebalance or we are gone!!! The earth will survive but we won't be on it. We must fundamentally to our core and with slow and steady awareness begin, and put first, valuing the earth, family, community, slowing down, sufficiency (capitalism thrives on feelings of insufficiency), authenticity, love, compassion above all else. And always always always the children. We are in a world now where we are watching children being massacred on a mass scale. This shows us there really are no red lines in the pursuit of wealth, dominance, greed and control. Killing children was supposed to be a red line. This has to be a turning point for humanity.
At 82, Bernie Sanders still works as an advocate for progress much as Gabor says here. Bernie must experience a mighty frustration from speaking the same messages for many decades. Only little baby steps have been made, yet he trudges on doing what he can for those who suffer. He is a role model to speak up for that which may not come to be in our time here, but will benefit those yet to come. Others have heard him and will carry the torch forward to progress. And so it goes. Like planting trees we will never experience their shade, yet others certainly will. We should learn from Native Americans to make decisions today based on the impact on the next seven generations. We should have learned earlier and the mess we are in would have never come about. Humans are easily distracted by themselves, and shiny things. We must never stop speaking out even if it feels futile. Great discussion between two grand humans.
Bernie Sanders was for months, against a permanent ceasefire, he only changed his stance when it became accepted to call out genocide. If that doesn't st least hint a lack of integrity, then I don't know what does... Maybe don't idealize people?
Thank you for your post. Your words were a message I was meant to receive today. As futile as my small contribution to humanity may appear to others, it is def something I believe I am here to do. I was Traumatized as a small toddler up to my youth by my farhers abuse, as were my siblings. I knew from very early that I was different and relied on my spirit to help me navigate my journey. Healing took a long time, decades and there were many times I almost gave up. Trauma is not a death sentence, forgiveness is key but first we must see ourselves through it. I hope to pass on everything it took for me to live a loving and peaceful life today. Thanks to Gabor's and so many other's work, I have hope for my siblings and those out there still suffering. ❤
I can’t describe the beauty of this interview; I cried, smiled, and felt a lot of deep, genuine emotions from the great Dr. Gabor. What an honest, sincere person with a profound sense of empathy. One of my wishes is to meet you, Dr. Gabor, even for just a few minutes, to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you offer to this world. I wish you health and wellness. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Dr Gabor is so humble and powerful at the same time. His word are so meaningful. I too wake up thinking of the citizens of Gaza and go to bed thinking of them. We are all experiencing an international trauma.
Excellent interview and very grateful to Gabor Mate for sharing his knowledge with us helping us to increase our self awareness and thereby, to improve our lives and those of our children and the world around us, in small ways within our control. Must get this book and will listen to this interview again! Such a great pm sharp mind at 80 years and a good human being, love listening to your words and lessons Gabor, thank you!!
Thankyou for this wonderful conversation, letting us know not to be bowed by our depression in the face of world-wide trauma, but to keep seeking friendships and speaking Truth to Power!
Gabor's mind at 80 is remarkable! Astounding! Go, Gabor! You are sooo loved and soooo needed! You were meant to survive and we are grateful for your life.
two brilliant minds glad i discovered both of you such early stage of my life a jewish holocost surviver and a muslim engineer whom went through a child loss.. those facts makes this conversation such a bliss.. much apperiation and admir to both of you!
1:10 if you realize you caused trauma to your child, apologize. This is gold. I did that 2 weeks ago after listening to Gabor. I'll keep apologizing to all my children.
As a recovered alcoholic, not only do I realize the work on myself will never be complete (unless God has other plans and my karma vanishes!), but giving back to others who suffer will never be finished either. Every time I think I've had enough; I think I've been faking this whole time and am useless, too damaged, something comes over me and I feel a rush of continuing on. The great bodhisattvas who are actually on the cusp of enlightenment choose to stay here amongst us in order that no one be left behind. When my perfectionism kicks in, Mo, I also am reminded that the slightest gesture from one of us to another can have a massive impact at the end of the day. The smile, pleasantry, opening of a door, paying forward in a coffee line, all the way to interjecting with wisdom during an altercation has what some still call the butterfly effect. Experiment. Frown when you greet another or smile. Does that person continue the rest of the day unaffected? Have you, like an engineer, taken the wheel of their life or given them a suggestion toward light or darkness?
Thank you to both for a wonderful interview. You put my mind and nerves at ease every time I hear your thoughts. Mo, I lived in Egypt for 5 years, your voice and conversation brought me back to that very special time, thank you.
Good afternoon Mo and Gabor Super brilliant. So appreciate Gabor's work. Sanity brain gym for sure. Over two years ago I began a giant healing process a wee bit different to my previous maladaptive coping strategies, in short. Facing bullies at fifty years young has been a troubling process. Certainly growth absolutely evident, however not without consequence. Again, Long story short the management and lack of good leadership has made a mockery of mental health and services. (Polite description!) A public service I have loved being a big part of, providing mental health addiction care and treatment to patients in our local community for nearing two decades. Sadly yesterday I finally gave up 'my fight' with my employer NHS and a two year workplace dispute so shocking even I wouldn't believe it if it hadn't been happening to me and indeed my family secondary to. So just yesterday I sent an email to union RCN requesting Constructive dismissal process be put in process. Most difficult words I've wrote to date. Again truly grateful for you both. One door closes another requires opening.😃 Meditation is key for me. Thankyou. 💜
I'm a black lady and I'm in Dallas right know dealing with racial profiling situation and it hurts bad but as I felt my pure heart and humanity side fade due to anger, and rage I feel now gabor spirit shines bright and him seeming to try and find the root of problems makes me turn to his videos for to destress. Thanks Gabor and Mo we are listening and like that you speak the truth! I came to get on my feet and be able to help my child and live a decent life and what happened to me on my way home that night devastated me .
I used to nanny a little boy who cried bitter tears when I put him down for his nap. I always picked him up and held him, walking around the room for an hour and a half until he woke up. My arm had gone into spasms by this time, but I felt it was right for us both.
'I don't compare people's trauma.' Absolutely! Theres just too much judgement of how bad someone's trauma is. It's not based just on the event but what happenw after that and the support around you.
It is helpful, within the context of the insanity of what we see happening around us, that dedicated beings like Gabor and Mo impart their compassionate wisdom and yet, it is abundantly clear and within the realm of despair, that they both admit that, inevitably, we are powerless to really do anything. BUT, as Gabor prompts... we must try! Eventually we need to shut up, roll up our sleeves and do whatever we can to try and effect change, with a collective focus that the damaged mindsets of the elitist power brokers who spread such degrees of misery all around us, eventually (hopefully sooner than later!) become nothing more than abhorrent relics of the past - dust in the wind! May it be so! May ALL beings be free from suffering!
Thank you Mo, this dialogue was a real value to awake some sens of humain kind ,suffering and keep going no matter. The planet and the humanity try to be together and keep forgetting of the ugliness.Going through that giving us some transformation for the future....
15:03 “The initial ripples of throwing a rock in water has a very limited impact but as they reach the shores edge the ripples effect permanently transformers the landscape regardless of how big of a rock you throw” ~ My father’s wise words
Really good interview and Dr mate is one of my favorites. But I'd really love to have heard more specifics on what can and should be done in the individual life to break chronic stress or to offset stress so it doesn't become chronic. What is the healthy dynamic to do that that obviously a large majority of us in the population have not been programmed to know Thank you DR Mate for acknowledging that when you are in survival mode trying to put food on the table you don't have the time, the money or the resources to lower your stress as much as you would need whether that is buying the better food the time off from work children and responsibilities to go take a long walk in nature or to pay for and sign up for a yoga class or even to have the amount of quiet and safety to allow your programming to be interrupted because when you are in survival mode whether that's the bills the demands it is triggering that automatic program daily hourly.
Dr gabor mate is not just a genius, he is someone with a living heart in his chest that has empathy and pains for whatever is happening to Palestinians at the hands of terrorists of Israel, US and UK
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:04 *🤖 Introduction and overview of Gabor Mate's work* - Mo Gawdat introduces Gabor Mate, a teacher whose books have had a profound impact on him. 00:59 *📚 Discussing Gabor Mate's new book "Unstress"* - "Unstress" is a mission to take a million people out of stress every year. - Mo encourages pre-ordering the book to help it become a bestseller and gain more visibility. 02:36 *🧠 Gabor Mate's personal experiences and willingness to acknowledge his struggles* - Gabor Mate shares how he has struggled with many of the same issues he teaches about, including stress, anxiety, and early trauma. - He believes that being willing to acknowledge and work on personal challenges is what enables growth and transformation. 05:37 *🌍 Discussing the ongoing conflicts and suffering in the world* - Gabor Mate expresses his deep anguish over the ongoing suffering and violence, particularly in Gaza and other conflict-affected areas. - He questions how humanity can turn a blind eye to the tragedies occurring in the world and the lack of effective action to address them. 12:32 *🕰️ Maintaining a sense of purpose and optimism in the face of global challenges* - Gabor Mate discusses the difficulty of maintaining a of purpose and optimism in the face of the overwhelming suffering and injustice in the world. - He emphasizes the importance of speaking one's truth and making a contribution, even if the impact may not be immediately visible. 18:05 *🌳 The work of alleviating suffering and stress in the world* - Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss how their respective work aims to alleviate the stress and suffering caused by broader social and political forces. - They acknowledge that while they may not be able to "fix" the world, their efforts to empower people and reduce suffering are essential. 22:13 *🧘♀️ Strategies for managing stress and staying engaged without becoming overwhelmed* - Gabor Mate emphasizes the importance of finding a balance between being engaged with the world's problems and not becoming completely enmeshed in them. - He suggests practices like self-care, meditation, and maintaining a sense of agency as ways to stay grounded and effective in the face of global challenges. 25:30 *🤖 The impact of technology and media on human attention and passivity* - Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss how technology and media have been designed to manipulate human emotions and distract people from important issues. - They emphasize how this leads to a lack of Integrative thinking, where people are unable to consider opposing viewpoints and instead become entrenched in their own beliefs. 26:52 *🧠 The disconnection between the head and the body in engineering and technology* - Gabor Mate observes that people with an engineering or technology background tend to be very "neck up," focusing primarily on intellectual pursuits while disconnecting from their emotions and physical experiences. - He acknowledges that this was also true of his own experience earlier in life, and emphasizes the importance of developing a more holistic self-awareness. 30:34 *🌍 The role of awareness and choice in personal and societal transformation* - Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss the concept of free will and how it is tied to awareness and the ability to "interrupt" one's programmed responses. - They explore how personal experiences, such as the loss of a child or a depressive episode, can serve as catalysts for greater self-awareness and the ability to make conscious choices. 37:31 *🔁 The cyclical nature of programming and the need for interruption* - Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss the concept of being "pre-programmed" by our childhood experiences and cultural conditioning, and the importance of finding ways to interrupt this programming. - They suggest exercises and practices, such as "meeting Becky" (one's own inner voice), as a means of becoming more aware of one's unconscious thought patterns and gaining the ability to make different choices. 40:57 *🌎 The systemic nature of societal programming and the need for mass awareness* - Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss how modern societies, whether under Communist or capitalist systems, employ various forms of propaganda and manipulation to keep people passive and distracted from the real issues. - They emphasize the importance of people collectively realizing that the systems in place are not working and the need for a mass awakening to confront the underlying problems. 44:08 *🌳 The relationship between stress, societal conditioning, and the ability to confront reality* - Gabor Mate explains how the triggers for physiological stress, such as uncertainty, lack of information, loss of control, and conflict, are inherent in modern societies. - He suggests that the systems in place are designed to keep people in a state of chronic stress, which undermines their ability to confront and address the real issues facing the world. 49:08 *🌳 The role of stress in chronic illness and the importance of addressing the underlying causes* - Gabor Mate discusses how chronic stress can contribute to the development of various chronic illnesses, such as cancer and diabetes. - He emphasizes that while these conditions are not necessarily a "choice," managing stress can play a significant role in prevention and recovery. 50:45 *📢 The impact of socioeconomic factors on health and the importance of context* - Gabor Mate acknowledges that the ability to prioritize stress management and prevention is not equally accessible to all, as factors like poverty, discrimination, and lack of resources can significantly impact one's health outcomes. - He emphasizes the need to consider the broader social and environmental context in understanding the disparities in chronic illness. 53:27 *🌍 The interconnectedness of individual and environmental factors in health and wellbeing* - Gabor Mate explains how an individual's biology is deeply influenced by their social and environmental circumstances, highlighting the importance of recognizing the "biopsychosocial" nature of human health. - He provides examples of how factors like racism and childhood experiences can have tangible physiological effects, underscoring the need for a more holistic approach to understanding and addressing health challenges. 54:55 *🙏 The role of gratitude and perspective in finding meaning and contentment* - Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss the importance of cultivating gratitude, even in the face of significant challenges and suffering. - They share examples of people in dire circumstances, such as those on death row, who have found deep gratitude and meaning, highlighting the power of shifting one's perspective. 58:52 *🧠 Gabor Mate's approach to facing the realities of the world with compassion and intention* - Gabor Mate explains his perspective of "hyper-realism," where he acknowledges the ugly truths of the world without condoning them, but instead focuses on doing what he can to make a positive difference. - He emphasizes the importance of being willing to confront reality head-on, rather than denying or avoiding it, in order to take meaningful action. 01:05:17 *📖 Gabor Mate's collaborative writing process with his son, Daniel* - Gabor Mate discusses the challenges and rewards of co-authoring his latest book, "The Myth of Normal," with his son, Daniel. - He shares how their work together required navigating their own personal dynamics and histories, and how this process became a platform for deeper understanding and growth. 01:08:19 *🧒 The importance of acknowledging and addressing childhood trauma and its impact on parenting* - Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss the lasting effects of childhood trauma and the need for parents to confront their own past experiences in order to provide better care for their children. - They emphasize the importance of parents being willing to apologize and make amends for any harm done, rather than perpetuating the cycle of trauma. 01:12:13 *🧘♀️ The multigenerational nature of trauma and the importance of awareness and self-reflection* - Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss how trauma and dysfunction are often passed down through generations, with each generation inheriting and perpetuating the issues of the previous one. 01:12:27 *🙏 Expressing gratitude and appreciation for Gabor Mate's work and presence* - Mo Gawdat expresses his deep appreciation and admiration for Gabor Mate, both as a teacher and as a person, highlighting Mate's humility, realism, and generosity in sharing his knowledge and insights. 01:13:08 *📚 Encouraging pre-orders of Gabor Mate's book "The Myth of Normal" and promoting his mission with "Unstress"* - Mo Gawdat encourages viewers to pre-order Gabor Mate's latest book, "The Myth of Normal," as well as his "Unstress" mission, in order to support their widespread impact and visibility. 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I truly, truly appreciate Gabor Mate's ideation and expression - but I cannot help observing how he cannotsimply meet his counterpart half-way in a conversation. There is a weight that he puts on the other, by being slightly, but constantly, contradictory. Even when parties truly agree. And he responds a lot to praise. A lot.
Remember as "i" AM walking with thee! If it takes to carry thee! 1 footprint! Just know I have loved thee! Likewise unto one another! Can bring beyond ye all can EVEN imagine! In front!
I’m sorry about my previous comments and criticisms but I’m fighting for my life and I don’t like to dwell on my trauma cause I’m scared that I’m not going to heal. I have no support. You can’t compare traumas because you can’t crawl into someone else’s brain to feel what they have experienced. I understand that my trauma is so complex that I’m not sure how I’m still here. I used to self medicate but now I try to sleep to block it. But you can’t control nightmares. Give me drugs anytime but not once that make my condition worse
Hello, I just stumbled on your comment and felt bad and thought maybe I can help. I've learned that interacting with and spending time with positive-calm people can be insanely beneficial. Science says so too btw. That and being out in nature (but green landscapes, the sea apparently doesn't help as much). Good doctors and correct medicine-treatment too obviously but leaning on positive people is once again golden. Try to make yourself distracted, but not like checking constantly in your head, that would be like saying, don't think of a pink elephant. Definitely keep busy and don't forget, time heals all wounds, you just have to calmly and patiently wait for it to pass.
We would like to see Mo draw more from his Muslim culture and background and own it. People speak of Buddhism and Christianity as traditions of wisdom and Islam has been so vilified in the media that they don’t realise that the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was an incredibly magnanimous man, a wise man, a unique leader and that our tradition is full of wisdom. 2 billion people are of that tradition - it can’t be ignored.
Great chat. Your last thoughts on parenting and generational trauma piqued my interest, especially in relation to the gestalt variety experienced by European Jews and the passing down of this generational trauma, justifying to themselves that this very trauma is necessary to perpetuate the "Israeli Identity". Is healing possible on such a large scale?
Is it possible to reestablish a relationship with parents who have died? I'm not sure, but I am working with EMDR to deal with trauma including that trauma (among other kinds).
Gabor Mate - my favorite human . He has wisdom , and razor sharp focus - never forget what he wanted to say , and politely waits for the interviewer to jump all around - and go back and finish his point ! Also , humble and not afraid to say what he wants to say. An extraordinary human being , and I deeply resonate with his words , always .
completely agree 😊😊
AGREE VERY GOOD SUMMARY
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This interviewer does talk a LOT. He talks too much really.
I'm so grateful for Gabor though, he's a brilliant human. I love his message, he helps so many
Dr Mate deserves an award for speaking honestly and fearlessly and always sounds kind and without judgement
Doubt he would accept it 🙏
I learn so much every time I listen to Gabor Mate. One of my favourite speakers on being a good human being and taking care of ourselves and the world
I love you Both!! Thanks for this wonderful conversation Mo and Gabor.
Dr Gabor Mate is just an extraordinary human being! All my blessings to you ! Happy belated birthday Dr Mate ❤🎉I wish for you many many many more! You are one of those kind of beings that are imprescindible ! Infinitas gracias ❤ thank you for this podcast! My first time here, I just subscribed ! Gracias!
Incredible dialogue , thanks for sharing dr mate’s insight. As a father myself like others and you Mo , I’ve done sufficient harm to my kids unknowingly,Now I get a glimpse of where all those actions came from!. I’ve read and listened to “ Myth of Normal” multiple times and anytime I read it again or listen to conversations like this , it feels as fresh and enlightening as the first time .I know Dr Mate is a recipient of “order of Canada” which he might not be very keen about but for us “people “ he well deserves Nobel Prize, , “people’s Noble prize”, for all his work and his compassion
Love these two people! They have contributed to the humanity so much!
They are amazing.
Agree😊🥰
Thank you Mo for having Dr. Gabor!!
This is one of the most beautiful podcast I’ve ever seen. I would so much to make a contribution even a small one to make also a little difference. I am born during world war 2, in 1942. My grandfather was shot point blank by a gestapo officer. My mothers and also my life was marked by the terrible events which continue and may never end.
Listening to the incredible Dr. Mate is a therapy in itself ❤
'We're in a culture that values things that don't matter, it is hard for people to be grateful'. Gabor Mate has hit the nail right on the head!
Love this conversation and always enjoy both these men. I would note that so much of the world's pain is perpetrated by an imbalance in the world that values wealth, progress, achievement, competition, power, dominance, greed, aggression, violence, fear and war. War is so profitable. We must rebalance or we are gone!!! The earth will survive but we won't be on it. We must fundamentally to our core and with slow and steady awareness begin, and put first, valuing the earth, family, community, slowing down, sufficiency (capitalism thrives on feelings of insufficiency), authenticity, love, compassion above all else. And always always always the children. We are in a world now where we are watching children being massacred on a mass scale. This shows us there really are no red lines in the pursuit of wealth, dominance, greed and control. Killing children was supposed to be a red line. This has to be a turning point for humanity.
I never ever tire of listening Gabor Mate. Thank you Mr. Gawdat for bringing your insights as well
At 82, Bernie Sanders still works as an advocate for progress much as Gabor says here. Bernie must experience a mighty frustration from speaking the same messages for many decades. Only little baby steps have been made, yet he trudges on doing what he can for those who suffer. He is a role model to speak up for that which may not come to be in our time here, but will benefit those yet to come. Others have heard him and will carry the torch forward to progress. And so it goes. Like planting trees we will never experience their shade, yet others certainly will. We should learn from Native Americans to make decisions today based on the impact on the next seven generations. We should have learned earlier and the mess we are in would have never come about. Humans are easily distracted by themselves, and shiny things. We must never stop speaking out even if it feels futile. Great discussion between two grand humans.
Bernie Sanders was for months, against a permanent ceasefire, he only changed his stance when it became accepted to call out genocide. If that doesn't st least hint a lack of integrity, then I don't know what does... Maybe don't idealize people?
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Thank you for your post. Your words were a message I was meant to receive today. As futile as my small contribution to humanity may appear to others, it is def something I believe I am here to do. I was Traumatized as a small toddler up to my youth by my farhers abuse, as were my siblings. I knew from very early that I was different and relied on my spirit to help me navigate my journey. Healing took a long time, decades and there were many times I almost gave up. Trauma is not a death sentence, forgiveness is key but first we must see ourselves through it. I hope to pass on everything it took for me to live a loving and peaceful life today. Thanks to Gabor's and so many other's work, I have hope for my siblings and those out there still suffering. ❤
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Blessings to Dr Gabor, love his teachings. Happy birthday too. ❤
BRAVO Gabor Mate for speaking the truth and not allowing the conversation to avoid the seriously political issues that are affecting everyone.
I agree he always brings it back to the truth
Wisdom is a good thing
Mo thanks for interviewing Dr Gabor Mate.A man with a brilliant mind,
I can’t describe the beauty of this interview; I cried, smiled, and felt a lot of deep, genuine emotions from the great Dr. Gabor. What an honest, sincere person with a profound sense of empathy. One of my wishes is to meet you, Dr. Gabor, even for just a few minutes, to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you offer to this world. I wish you health and wellness. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Dr Gabor is so humble and powerful at the same time. His word are so meaningful. I too wake up thinking of the citizens of Gaza and go to bed thinking of them. We are all experiencing an international trauma.
اللقاء عبارة عن وجبة غذائية داسمة للعقل. شكرآ لكما.
Excellent interview and very grateful to Gabor Mate for sharing his knowledge with us helping us to increase our self awareness and thereby, to improve our lives and those of our children and the world around us, in small ways within our control. Must get this book and will listen to this interview again! Such a great pm sharp mind at 80 years and a good human being, love listening to your words and lessons Gabor, thank you!!
Thankyou for this wonderful conversation, letting us know not to be bowed by our depression in the face of world-wide trauma, but to keep seeking friendships and speaking Truth to Power!
About to tuck in ❤gracias
Gabor's mind at 80 is remarkable! Astounding! Go, Gabor! You are sooo loved and soooo needed! You were meant to survive and we are grateful for your life.
You speak the truth without hesitation or fear. Thank you, Dr. Gabor, for speaking with all sincerity
This is brilliant, I'm going watch it over and over again. Thank you 😊
Thank you both . Keep healthy keep learning. Stress is the silent killer.Chronic stress is everywhere every time.
I’ve become a fan of yours yesterday I ran into your interview with Diary of ceo.. can’t wait to dive into your channel
Gabor Mate has helped me so much in understanding the complexity of my CPTSD. He is a wonderful human being and I'm thankful for his work.
An incredible and deep conversation. Thank you for sharing. I will be sending this to those I love.
Hi Gabe Joan here. I totally get it. Your reaction up what's happening in Gaza. Yes we tend to know and feel what others go through.❤
two brilliant minds glad i discovered both of you such early stage of my life
a jewish holocost surviver and a muslim engineer whom went through a child loss..
those facts makes this conversation such a bliss..
much apperiation and admir to both of you!
What an amazing conversation a great insight thank you so much for the awesome work you do for the community and the collective 🤍🙏
Gabor is open minded. Much respect
LOVE that Mo named his brain!!! I did the same thing & such a great tool to distinguish "truth" from flotsam.
Such an enjoyable conversation! I'm so much richer just for listening!
Thank you so much for sharing your precious knowledge!
1:10 if you realize you caused trauma to your child, apologize. This is gold. I did that 2 weeks ago after listening to Gabor. I'll keep apologizing to all my children.
The political/psychological analysis was the best thing about this podcast episode.
Glad you didn’t avoid the current issues in Gaza and occupied Palestine that are troubling all people of conscience.
As a recovered alcoholic, not only do I realize the work on myself will never be complete (unless God has other plans and my karma vanishes!), but giving back to others who suffer will never be finished either.
Every time I think I've had enough; I think I've been faking this whole time and am useless, too damaged, something comes over me and I feel a rush of continuing on.
The great bodhisattvas who are actually on the cusp of enlightenment choose to stay here amongst us in order that no one be left behind.
When my perfectionism kicks in, Mo, I also am reminded that the slightest gesture from one of us to another can have a massive impact at the end of the day. The smile, pleasantry, opening of a door, paying forward in a coffee line, all the way to interjecting with wisdom during an altercation has what some still call the butterfly effect.
Experiment. Frown when you greet another or smile. Does that person continue the rest of the day unaffected? Have you, like an engineer, taken the wheel of their life or given them a suggestion toward light or darkness?
The 2 most soothing voices in one interview!!!they would make a fortune just reading for other people's audio books!😍
Gabors work has had such an impact on my life.!!
Thank you to both for a wonderful interview. You put my mind and nerves at ease every time I hear your thoughts. Mo, I lived in Egypt for 5 years, your voice and conversation brought me back to that very special time, thank you.
You are both amazing human beings. Thank you for being what you are.
You both were incredible and such a great interview!
Thank you very much sir for this precious podcast.also many thanks to Gobor mate
Thank you for this conversation, gentlemen.
Dr Gabor Mate 's pain etc ewsonate with me and many other, we do appreciate everything that he can talk about and help us soò much! 🙏🏻👌💙🙌🙌🙌
thank you Gabor for being who you are. I was so grateful when you mentionned Gaza. We are part of the same tribe, me and you. tribe human.
Good afternoon Mo and Gabor
Super brilliant.
So appreciate Gabor's work. Sanity brain gym for sure.
Over two years ago I began a giant healing process a wee bit different to my previous maladaptive coping strategies, in short.
Facing bullies at fifty years young has been a troubling process. Certainly growth absolutely evident, however not without consequence.
Again, Long story short the management and lack of good leadership has made a mockery of mental health and services. (Polite description!)
A public service I have loved being a big part of, providing mental health addiction care and treatment to patients in our local community for nearing two decades.
Sadly yesterday I finally gave up 'my fight' with my employer NHS and a two year workplace dispute so shocking even I wouldn't believe it if it hadn't been happening to me and indeed my family secondary to.
So just yesterday I sent an email to union RCN requesting Constructive dismissal process be put in process.
Most difficult words I've wrote to date.
Again truly grateful for you both.
One door closes another requires opening.😃
Meditation is key for me.
Thankyou.
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Merci pour cette conversation messieurs
I'm a black lady and I'm in Dallas right know dealing with racial profiling situation and it hurts bad but as I felt my pure heart and humanity side fade due to anger, and rage I feel now gabor spirit shines bright and him seeming to try and find the root of problems makes me turn to his videos for to destress. Thanks Gabor and Mo we are listening and like that you speak the truth! I came to get on my feet and be able to help my child and live a decent life and what happened to me on my way home that night devastated me .
you and your child are loved
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We need 4+ more hours of this please :)
(Just bought a second copy of Myth of Normal to give away + Pre-ordered Unstressable, love you guys)
Great interview!! Very human and heartwarming
Love these two. So human and good people. Why can’t our nasty politicians that destroy everything why can’t they be good people like these two?
I used to nanny a little boy who cried bitter tears when I put him down for his nap. I always picked him up and held him, walking around the room for an hour and a half until he woke up. My arm had gone into spasms by this time, but I felt it was right for us both.
Much gratitude for the discussion. Thank you!
'I don't compare people's trauma.' Absolutely! Theres just too much judgement of how bad someone's trauma is. It's not based just on the event but what happenw after that and the support around you.
Looking forward to reading Unstressable.
Two of my favorite influencers 🌸🌺💓🙏
What a beautiful time we can share such conversations
It is helpful, within the context of the insanity of what we see happening around us, that dedicated beings like Gabor and Mo impart their compassionate wisdom and yet, it is abundantly clear and within the realm of despair, that they both admit that, inevitably, we are powerless to really do anything. BUT, as Gabor prompts... we must try! Eventually we need to shut up, roll up our sleeves and do whatever we can to try and effect change, with a collective focus that the damaged mindsets of the elitist power brokers who spread such degrees of misery all around us, eventually (hopefully sooner than later!) become nothing more than abhorrent relics of the past - dust in the wind! May it be so! May ALL beings be free from suffering!
In my living room getting hyped by every sentence Gabor says . I just screamed Gaboooooorr tell them
Thank you so much for the great podcast very proud of you Mo Guadat as Egyptian 🙏
Thanks for giving us a chance to support your mission. We got the easy end of the deal 😊🙏❤️
2 of my favourite people! Thank you!
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Always forward, never ever backward!!
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These two are amazing.
Hi Gabor, Joan here. My Mother passed whe I was 3. Now 74. All those young children losing a parent. Very sad!😢
My two favorite teachers ❤
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Thank you for attending! By now ye all should know comes with. Love you too!
Thank you Mo, this dialogue was a real value to awake some sens of humain kind ,suffering and keep going no matter.
The planet and the humanity try to be together and keep forgetting of the ugliness.Going through that giving us some transformation for the future....
15:03 “The initial ripples of throwing a rock in water has a very limited impact but as they reach the shores edge the ripples effect permanently transformers the landscape regardless of how big of a rock you throw” ~ My father’s wise words
Thank you so much for this conversation. I learned a lot and I will definitely buy your books! ❤
Thank you so much for this video. It was very beneficial. Keep up the Great Work! Much appreciated!
Thank you both so much ❤
Great to see You two together 😊 my top dream is to see Your conversation with Sadhguru 😊
Really good interview and Dr mate is one of my favorites. But I'd really love to have heard more specifics on what can and should be done in the individual life to break chronic stress or to offset stress so it doesn't become chronic. What is the healthy dynamic to do that that obviously a large majority of us in the population have not been programmed to know
Thank you DR Mate for acknowledging that when you are in survival mode trying to put food on the table you don't have the time, the money or the resources to lower your stress as much as you would need whether that is buying the better food the time off from work children and responsibilities to go take a long walk in nature or to pay for and sign up for a yoga class or even to have the amount of quiet and safety to allow your programming to be interrupted because when you are in survival mode whether that's the bills the demands it is triggering that automatic program daily hourly.
Thank you Gabor mate
Gratitude After the covid 19. I realized what I had and leaned gratitude. Thank you. Read the book the myth of normal three times.. Gratitude. ❤❤❤
Dr gabor mate is not just a genius, he is someone with a living heart in his chest that has empathy and pains for whatever is happening to Palestinians at the hands of terrorists of Israel, US and UK
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Pop Gabor and my Heir Host Mo carry thy comfort with Thee! Given
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🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:04 *🤖 Introduction and overview of Gabor Mate's work*
- Mo Gawdat introduces Gabor Mate, a teacher whose books have had a profound impact on him.
00:59 *📚 Discussing Gabor Mate's new book "Unstress"*
- "Unstress" is a mission to take a million people out of stress every year.
- Mo encourages pre-ordering the book to help it become a bestseller and gain more visibility.
02:36 *🧠 Gabor Mate's personal experiences and willingness to acknowledge his struggles*
- Gabor Mate shares how he has struggled with many of the same issues he teaches about, including stress, anxiety, and early trauma.
- He believes that being willing to acknowledge and work on personal challenges is what enables growth and transformation.
05:37 *🌍 Discussing the ongoing conflicts and suffering in the world*
- Gabor Mate expresses his deep anguish over the ongoing suffering and violence, particularly in Gaza and other conflict-affected areas.
- He questions how humanity can turn a blind eye to the tragedies occurring in the world and the lack of effective action to address them.
12:32 *🕰️ Maintaining a sense of purpose and optimism in the face of global challenges*
- Gabor Mate discusses the difficulty of maintaining a of purpose and optimism in the face of the overwhelming suffering and injustice in the world.
- He emphasizes the importance of speaking one's truth and making a contribution, even if the impact may not be immediately visible.
18:05 *🌳 The work of alleviating suffering and stress in the world*
- Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss how their respective work aims to alleviate the stress and suffering caused by broader social and political forces.
- They acknowledge that while they may not be able to "fix" the world, their efforts to empower people and reduce suffering are essential.
22:13 *🧘♀️ Strategies for managing stress and staying engaged without becoming overwhelmed*
- Gabor Mate emphasizes the importance of finding a balance between being engaged with the world's problems and not becoming completely enmeshed in them.
- He suggests practices like self-care, meditation, and maintaining a sense of agency as ways to stay grounded and effective in the face of global challenges.
25:30 *🤖 The impact of technology and media on human attention and passivity*
- Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss how technology and media have been designed to manipulate human emotions and distract people from important issues.
- They emphasize how this leads to a lack of Integrative thinking, where people are unable to consider opposing viewpoints and instead become entrenched in their own beliefs.
26:52 *🧠 The disconnection between the head and the body in engineering and technology*
- Gabor Mate observes that people with an engineering or technology background tend to be very "neck up," focusing primarily on intellectual pursuits while disconnecting from their emotions and physical experiences.
- He acknowledges that this was also true of his own experience earlier in life, and emphasizes the importance of developing a more holistic self-awareness.
30:34 *🌍 The role of awareness and choice in personal and societal transformation*
- Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss the concept of free will and how it is tied to awareness and the ability to "interrupt" one's programmed responses.
- They explore how personal experiences, such as the loss of a child or a depressive episode, can serve as catalysts for greater self-awareness and the ability to make conscious choices.
37:31 *🔁 The cyclical nature of programming and the need for interruption*
- Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss the concept of being "pre-programmed" by our childhood experiences and cultural conditioning, and the importance of finding ways to interrupt this programming.
- They suggest exercises and practices, such as "meeting Becky" (one's own inner voice), as a means of becoming more aware of one's unconscious thought patterns and gaining the ability to make different choices.
40:57 *🌎 The systemic nature of societal programming and the need for mass awareness*
- Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss how modern societies, whether under Communist or capitalist systems, employ various forms of propaganda and manipulation to keep people passive and distracted from the real issues.
- They emphasize the importance of people collectively realizing that the systems in place are not working and the need for a mass awakening to confront the underlying problems.
44:08 *🌳 The relationship between stress, societal conditioning, and the ability to confront reality*
- Gabor Mate explains how the triggers for physiological stress, such as uncertainty, lack of information, loss of control, and conflict, are inherent in modern societies.
- He suggests that the systems in place are designed to keep people in a state of chronic stress, which undermines their ability to confront and address the real issues facing the world.
49:08 *🌳 The role of stress in chronic illness and the importance of addressing the underlying causes*
- Gabor Mate discusses how chronic stress can contribute to the development of various chronic illnesses, such as cancer and diabetes.
- He emphasizes that while these conditions are not necessarily a "choice," managing stress can play a significant role in prevention and recovery.
50:45 *📢 The impact of socioeconomic factors on health and the importance of context*
- Gabor Mate acknowledges that the ability to prioritize stress management and prevention is not equally accessible to all, as factors like poverty, discrimination, and lack of resources can significantly impact one's health outcomes.
- He emphasizes the need to consider the broader social and environmental context in understanding the disparities in chronic illness.
53:27 *🌍 The interconnectedness of individual and environmental factors in health and wellbeing*
- Gabor Mate explains how an individual's biology is deeply influenced by their social and environmental circumstances, highlighting the importance of recognizing the "biopsychosocial" nature of human health.
- He provides examples of how factors like racism and childhood experiences can have tangible physiological effects, underscoring the need for a more holistic approach to understanding and addressing health challenges.
54:55 *🙏 The role of gratitude and perspective in finding meaning and contentment*
- Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss the importance of cultivating gratitude, even in the face of significant challenges and suffering.
- They share examples of people in dire circumstances, such as those on death row, who have found deep gratitude and meaning, highlighting the power of shifting one's perspective.
58:52 *🧠 Gabor Mate's approach to facing the realities of the world with compassion and intention*
- Gabor Mate explains his perspective of "hyper-realism," where he acknowledges the ugly truths of the world without condoning them, but instead focuses on doing what he can to make a positive difference.
- He emphasizes the importance of being willing to confront reality head-on, rather than denying or avoiding it, in order to take meaningful action.
01:05:17 *📖 Gabor Mate's collaborative writing process with his son, Daniel*
- Gabor Mate discusses the challenges and rewards of co-authoring his latest book, "The Myth of Normal," with his son, Daniel.
- He shares how their work together required navigating their own personal dynamics and histories, and how this process became a platform for deeper understanding and growth.
01:08:19 *🧒 The importance of acknowledging and addressing childhood trauma and its impact on parenting*
- Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss the lasting effects of childhood trauma and the need for parents to confront their own past experiences in order to provide better care for their children.
- They emphasize the importance of parents being willing to apologize and make amends for any harm done, rather than perpetuating the cycle of trauma.
01:12:13 *🧘♀️ The multigenerational nature of trauma and the importance of awareness and self-reflection*
- Gabor Mate and Mo Gawdat discuss how trauma and dysfunction are often passed down through generations, with each generation inheriting and perpetuating the issues of the previous one.
01:12:27 *🙏 Expressing gratitude and appreciation for Gabor Mate's work and presence*
- Mo Gawdat expresses his deep appreciation and admiration for Gabor Mate, both as a teacher and as a person, highlighting Mate's humility, realism, and generosity in sharing his knowledge and insights.
01:13:08 *📚 Encouraging pre-orders of Gabor Mate's book "The Myth of Normal" and promoting his mission with "Unstress"*
- Mo Gawdat encourages viewers to pre-order Gabor Mate's latest book, "The Myth of Normal," as well as his "Unstress" mission, in order to support their widespread impact and visibility.
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I truly, truly appreciate Gabor Mate's ideation and expression - but I cannot help observing how he cannotsimply meet his counterpart half-way in a conversation. There is a weight that he puts on the other, by being slightly, but constantly, contradictory. Even when parties truly agree. And he responds a lot to praise. A lot.
Untrue. Sometimes he agrees and sometimes he doesn't. Plus, he's the guest speaker so he has the opportunity to express his opinion.
History repeats itself. Some write books some read but most don’t read books,
Remember as "i" AM walking with thee! If it takes to carry thee! 1 footprint! Just know I have loved thee! Likewise unto one another! Can bring beyond ye all can EVEN imagine! In front!
I’m sorry about my previous comments and criticisms but I’m fighting for my life and I don’t like to dwell on my trauma cause I’m scared that I’m not going to heal. I have no support. You can’t compare traumas because you can’t crawl into someone else’s brain to feel what they have experienced. I understand that my trauma is so complex that I’m not sure how I’m still here. I used to self medicate but now I try to sleep to block it. But you can’t control nightmares. Give me drugs anytime but not once that make my condition worse
Hello, I just stumbled on your comment and felt bad and thought maybe I can help. I've learned that interacting with and spending time with positive-calm people can be insanely beneficial. Science says so too btw. That and being out in nature (but green landscapes, the sea apparently doesn't help as much). Good doctors and correct medicine-treatment too obviously but leaning on positive people is once again golden. Try to make yourself distracted, but not like checking constantly in your head, that would be like saying, don't think of a pink elephant. Definitely keep busy and don't forget, time heals all wounds, you just have to calmly and patiently wait for it to pass.
We would like to see Mo draw more from his Muslim culture and background and own it. People speak of Buddhism and Christianity as traditions of wisdom and Islam has been so vilified in the media that they don’t realise that the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was an incredibly magnanimous man, a wise man, a unique leader and that our tradition is full of wisdom. 2 billion people are of that tradition - it can’t be ignored.
YES GABOR 👏👏👏 I dearly wish you were our PM instead
The personal is the political . The two are intertwined
Great chat. Your last thoughts on parenting and generational trauma piqued my interest, especially in relation to the gestalt variety experienced by European Jews and the passing down of this generational trauma, justifying to themselves that this very trauma is necessary to perpetuate the "Israeli Identity". Is healing possible on such a large scale?
It is quite frustrating for me to see that people close to me are supporting the violence believing that it is good.
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Is it possible to reestablish a relationship with parents who have died? I'm not sure, but I am working with EMDR to deal with trauma including that trauma (among other kinds).