She wanted "space" and moved out after 8 years... i told her i knew what that meant and exploring options.. Found out she was cheating with a coworker. Dont let them bread crumb you and walk away.
@@lbks16 no reflection on you. that's a mean move what she did. just learn and move on. we all meet people, allow them to get close and risk betrayal. But betrayal is a no contact forever offense with few exceptions.
she left me for her boss who is about 12 years older than me. He has a house, but she monkey branched me because she was not sure of what she wanted to build with me. Our relationship was not perfect by no means, but ever since she started working at that job she would never stop talking about her boss, and several times I told her to stop it. Now she sees a life she can have with this guy and wants to get married. She made me initiate the breakup and two weeks later she was already with him and in a month introducing him to her family, in the meantime I'm healing and trying to become the best version of myself
He's right. They're just going to put them through the same bs they put you through... they can't keep their toxicity masked forever! It sucks wondering whether or not they're moving on, but they for sure will end up pushing this person away too.
I am naturally devastated, but I don't blame or feel anything negative toward my (soon-to-be-ex) husband's new supply! We're being 'played' by the same guy (in the long run, his current discard will be a blessing in disguise). If you're reading this, you deserve so much better (remember your worth in this season of betrayal).
Got it! It will either go this way: the new supply is a weak mf who is attracting a toxic partner and will eventually get discard like you or the new supply is a super strong narcissistic person capable of dominating your ex and punish them for all the f@ck up shit he/ she did to others before, thats karma working in reverse there. For all of us who have been toxic others in former relationship should heal and probably ask for forgiveness. Until we become heal and aware and avoid being toxic and entertaining it, the cycle will continue. Toxic unheeal people only attract toxic relationships and live in that ecosystem. Heal and whole people will attract the same energy. Let's choose where we want to be
@@free2bme604 There are cases it works out. My ex has been married for 22 years to her husband after leaving me. I been with my wife 21 years. It depends on the people.
Very true I’m still trying to heal and it’s been 10 months of separation and I haven’t been with anyone nor do I have any desire to be all while he is in a relationship already.. it always blew my mind on how they can move on and be intimate with someone else so comfortable and having them were I was living at .. It’s crazy
@@mcostilla7603 I understand your pain, my ex fiance cheated on me I didn't find out til her mom told me her daughter was Prego by him 🤯 😱 he denied everything in front of her, it's all been so overwhelming to say the least!! The betrayal is so hurtful all of it is! We were together almost 8 yrs! Its been 7 months since I've been with him & I can tell you it's one of the hardest times of my life he's tried getting back together numerous times but fuck no I never, ever could. What he did was one of the biggest betrayals you could do to someone you say you love!! I wish you nothing but the best God Bless You ♥️🤗
@@kathleenlogsdon6069 oh wow I’m sorry your going through that and yes after I heard he was with someone that was it for me . Yes that’s betrayal and it’s sad but I pray you will get through it as I am trying to now and moving forward and wish you the very best as well. ❤️
Thank you for this I'm trying to heal from a breakup and saw my ex-girlfriend with a new supply. It hurts but this video is what I needed to hear today.
My ex was fearful avoidant. I am mostly secure with a small FA percentage myself. Actually, my ex did me a favor by monkey branching to another, a victim of narcissistic abuse. Through hours and hours of inner work for 17 months, I am becoming my best version. I no longer resonate with the idea of the man I once knew. I have not seen him since he left. (I declined his friendship offer , wished him well, and let him go without tears or drama. No begging, no anger, no jealousy. Nothing. NC forever for me. .) I have no idea of his life now. I don't care. I look forward to a great new 2025. Peace.💕🙏😊
I highly doubt that his new supply allows him to control her. He left me for a much older woman with her own place who cooks and cleans and does laundry for him and suck on him on demand. She is 11 years older than him. He needs a place to stay, too. It’s been 5 months already and they are still together. Happy New Year, King. Thank you for this video. You’ve helped me overcome my break up..
they eventually get tired of someone they can't control, trust me. if they are gettign benefits, sure they'll hang around a while but once they feel like they are giving more than they are getting, they are out the door!
My ex husband is a narc and got with a girl at work. He wanted a divorce, so I gave him one. Word has it from good sources he's putting her through the same b.s as me....SMH they never change just find new victims.
1000%...they just swap partners and put up the good front in the beginning but the mask always always slips. they can't put on being kind and understanding forever.
Amazing-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop (thinking about him)
This video was recommended. Thank you! This is so good! Just what I needed to hear, seriously! Im encouraged to continue on my healing journey. I was too strong mentally, so he moved on to the weaker vessel. 🤷🏽♀️
Yeah I’ve been on both sides of this. I watched my ex move on instantly to someone else and it was shocking how much of a downgrade it was. None of my friends or family could believe it. On the flip side, I rebounded with someone and they were a downgrade from my previous partner. I thought about my ex the entire time even tho I stayed with them for almost a year and on social media we looked amazing.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her , but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
down grade is real 😂. she blocked me today when i change my dp on my social media because im more handsome than the new supply hahaha and now i know shes stalking me even she unfriended me after our break up last 2months ago 😂. well thats Good now i can do my stuff without barriers and worries. thanks paz you made me laugh 😂 never ever going back to that narc woman who destroyed my mental health who gave me trauma bond depression and anxiety. they will not change a narc always a narc
Thank you for these videos, thank you for helping us understand how we feel and how they feel. I had a crazy story of monkey branching and I got to know what was happening behind my back just 3 weeks ago. We were together for 5 years, insane love, insane support from both sides, she contacted a common friend recently, who's closer to me and she said something that indicates she thinks I lie to people to expose her and I tell the story in my way. Meanwhile I try to forgive her and support her to everyone, I keep showing all the love I can. I don't even know how she'll excuse herself for what she did, there's undeniable proof for everything, sms and text showing she was never honest and that she was stringing me along
@KevinMarshall-s9i it's a mindfuck, I really can't understand why she did and does all this. When I met her she was broken, she had tremendous issues. I helped her resolve most of them, apparently not all. She was abused at 15 by her coaches, she had been through anorexia, bulimia, self injuries, she was diagnosed with PTSD, borderline disorder and depression. She was on meds when I met her, I know it sounds stupid from me to get into a relationship with a person like that. But I felt something. After a year she was off the meds and everything was perfect, we had a 3 year honeymoon, the first 3 years of our relationship were perfect, it was insane to live in it, even to see it from outside. We were saying big words and making promises for the future. But apparently she didn't live up to it at all...
Everything you said is true. Im much older than you and was cheated... jelous of his new option..last time, 6 months ago for the first time I wasnt. Thanks for your healing words... keep going
In my perspective, it’s entirely the opposite. If she had significantly "upgraded" in her next relationship, I’d probably be left thinking, Wow, this is the kind of man she could attract? Holy moly, what did I lose with her? Was she truly that high in value? That would genuinely hurt me the most. But now she moneky branched with someone who is in his mid-40s, whos having a kid, and isn’t particularly attractive. And me? I’m just before 30 (27), women appreciate my looks, I’m pursuing a master’s degree in business psychology, and I’m building a future with great job opportunities and solid financial prospects. As for him? He’s a technician at a large company. It had me thinking, What on earth? Especially considering she’s always hated kids and wanted to live a youthful lifestyle filled with parties, festivals, and vacations. This situation really highlights just how desperate she must have been-or still is-from my perspective. It’s a stark contrast to the value I believe I bring to the table.
@@brandonlissner2840 DONT BELIEVE EVERYTHING U C THEY ARE MASTER ILLUSIONISTS, THATS HOW THEY GOT YOU TO BEGIN WITH THROUGH DECEPTION IF YOU HAD KNOWN THE TRUTH OF WHO THEY WERE TO BEGIN WITH, YOU NEVER WOULD HAVE GOTTEN WITH THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE DECEPTACONS
So basically she got herself a puppy 😂 damn. Idk whats wrong with people nowadays. Instead of changing, upgrading the relationship u already have..people seem like they're on a Marathon these days....constantly jumping from one relationship to the nwxt instead of watering the garden you already have. - they run and think..oh now i found the one... turns out after a few months novalty Dopamin wears off and they find themselves in the same fuckin wheel they thought they just got off. These people are incapable of having relationships in General, ...i wonder why they never get the idea of just staykng Single when all they do is fuck up other people with their behavior. What a waste of time
yes...lol! a watered down (more like beat down, tired, overrun with kids) version of me...SMH...she's not gonna deal with his bs long, as she's got too many kids to look after and provide for....and he's gonna get real frustrated real fast with her lack of time to spend on him!
Dear Coach, I remember you saying that rebound relationships will not last or will not be healthy, but it's been a year now since my ex moved on with someone new in the same week we broke up, and they are still together 💔 I have to see them around our small town and it breaks my heart😢 I think what on Earth is he doing?! Serious downgrade everybody says💔 I can't make sense of it and it's most painful he didn't care to work it out with me or value me💔 I'm trying to value myself but it really kicked my self-esteem and broke my heart that he moved on telling me I wasn't committed??? Hypocrisy 💔 thanks again for all you do 🌹
@@Jillisa2 That actually makes a lot of sense. If your partner was a narcissist they have a deep insecurity and will choose someone who’s beneath them so they can abuse them and that person won’t leave. Sometimes when a partner gets too healthy, the narcissist leaves because their abandonment issues are triggered.
My ex said "I am just normal, and *new girl's name* is normal too. We're just normal people." Did he see me as "too good" just because of money, work status or age? In the end all that isn't important.
They don't. But you need to start focusing on yourself. It's been a year and you still are holding him close. You are also putting placing more energy on his new partner, you need to stop. They are no one for you, just another stranger you see on the streets. I know that you still care for him but you need to stop. He isn't choosing you, so stop choosing him, by doing this you are bloking your own blessings. You said that his new partner is a downgrade, so guess what, that is exactly who he is too. Level up and the time will come till you mee someone who will love you and treat you right. Stay strong ❤
Listen, he valued you so much he didn't think he was good enough for you. That's why avoidants leave, regardless of what they say. And that is why he downgraded. Because that's all he thinks he's worth. Don't let his insecurities make you doubt yourself.
Coach also says " If it lasts more than one year it always turns toxic". I have a feeling if this relationship is not toxic it is well on its way to becoming that.
I knew an animal like this once, bumped into him last year didn’t want to know him. He hovered. He looked for attention. I walked away. I don’t value animals who think their men. He really was a sicko
What if the new person looks like a carbon copy of me but has accomplished more and has similar interests to him? I can’t be sure he monkey branched but the way he acted right after the bu suggests to me that she was already in the picture or immediately afterwards. I keep thinking of how he probably thought he is upgrading so he now can forget about me (claimed he was over me after a week and that it “has been over for a while”) but I don’t have all the answers and I never will, but I feel so replaceable and unworthy since finding out about her. :/
he will still mess it up by following the same pattern with her, if it makes you feel any better. these folks don't change no matter who they are with.
Well, I'd say my ex is the exception to the rule then... He has been dating his rebound for longer than we were together now and even has the two of them up on his WhatsApp profile picture. He never posted a picture of us. To make matters worse, he told a mutual friend a few months ago that the new girl is only there for sex, but it obviously turned into something more than that.
My Ex informed me years into our situation-ship that she had just learned from her therapist that she was Bi-Polar. I said to her, "Oh Really," but in my head I was saying, "I knew I was F N Right!!!" I'm sure I have my quirks, but she was draining. That, "LOVE BOMBING," is 4 Real. It keeps you locked into that relationship. God Bless anyone that can get out of it. My Ex swears she has changed and is a better person, but as my man, Paz, stated, the same thing they did to you they will do to the new partner.
Send the new supply a sympathy card. Your ex wouldn't change for you, and they repeat the same behavior with everyone. They never learn that the problem is them. Yet, they blame everyone else for their bad relationships.
Cool mate, Very encouraging rave my man…… words of truth and wisdom based on experience….. when we go through the BS, and come out the other side, simply be a light of love and gratitude, that life has allowed us to experience and realise that decency, transparency, TRUTH and respect will always guide us, to simply KNOW right from wrong, and to LIVE such hard earned blessings……. Thank you from Australia 🦘🦘🦘
Hey coach my ex-girlfriend got new boyfriend who was cheated on by his ex-girlfriend and she monkey branched and cheated on me basically she basically made it seem like we can still be friends but then she ended up getting a restraining order on me because when I seen her she looks so miserable and all I tried to do was be the nice person and still got blamed for everything
Nope i am definitely single and i have been for a long time this time around people have been fed with lies about me. I have been alone for a long time and i dont even chase anyone. People need to relax
Down grade to a drunk and a pot head😂😂they try to triangulate you with, thinking you will chase them.🤣🤣🤣you can destroy them by doing nothing. The supply had the nerve to call me, he’s married to me she calls him her fiancé 🤣🤣🤣She wanted my help taking him down🤣🤣🤣I said you came to my home, went through my things and want help? Dumb hoe🤣🤣
yeah sis they love validating trash from the dumpster...and had no problem doing so while you were still together too, i'm sure ...if your narc was anyting like mine. always adding random local women who were trampy, OF chicks, raci$t, had low end jobs, multiple kids and baby daddies and liking or commenting on their skanky photos. Once i caught onto it, i was done. no more wasting precious time and energy on someone who doesn't value a good thing when they have it!
WHAT DO U MEAN PRAY FOR THEM HAVE COMPASSION FOR THEM FOOL ? BAD ADVICE , I AINT PRAYIN FOR ANYBODY WHO DON'T DESERVE IT ? THEY KNEW SHE WAS WITH U WHILE THEY WERE SLEEPIN WITH HER BEHIND YOUR BACK , SO LET THEM FIND OUT THE HARD WAY LIKE I DID WHEN SHES OUT SLEEPIN BEHIND THEIR BACK. IM JUST GLAD HE TOOK MY TRASH OUT 4 ME , N NOT ONLY THAT BUT HE CLAIMED IT 4 HIMSELF LIKE HE GOT THE PRTZE , WHEN IN REALITY WHAT HE GOT WAS A SURPRISE !!!... HA,HA,HA,HAH !!!!!!...
What does it have to do with the video? Everyone could be a "new supply" once but there is a difference between being a "new supply" couple of days or a month after a break up or being someone's "new supply" after they've taken time to heal, analyse, work, improve, acknowledge own mistakes, insecurities, problems, traumas etc. My ex gf broke up with me 2 months ago after an 8 months relationship. She found a new guy 5 days later and in the span of this time made him her new bf. Did she take time to heal or do any work? No. She did the exact same thing she did before me. I was her "new supply" cause at the start of us officially become a couple she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend 3 weeks ago, pretty much when she met me, but she added that she lost her feelings towards him a long time ago. I was heavily weirded out by it but decided to look over that "red flag" and others and jumped in. What came out of it? Nothing good. Now I'm her 4th "x" with a broken heart who truly loves her for who she is. Who's been absolutely broken and is now improving and learning from this horrible experience and mistakes I made. My first relationship and I already learned so much. Post Scriptum: There were probably lots of "right mates" it's just that the other person was not ready or didn't acknowledge that it was one.
We are not meant to be anyone’s “supply”. We need to heal enough to recognize when someone does not have our best interest at heart and who just exist in our lives to use us. Realizing you were just there for their benefit will help you recognize you are in a fake relationship with them that has an expiration date for them.
I was also cheated on by my ex of more than a decade. I was in depresión for 2 months later my friend recommended me to a dating app and then I realised I am still very much in demand 😂
As an exit strategy? That's not an exit strategy, she was already cheating and talking to someone else prior to actually leaving. Hold these woman accountable when they have shown you who they are. She will do it again and is very capable.
@@stylewithaltitude That's what monkey branching is ( Cheating while still with you) She cheated hoping l would leave her. She wanted to leave the marriage before the cheating started , but l did not want to give up trying to repair the marriage. She did not have the confidence to just leave.
if they have done all the therapist work quietly secretly, and they have done their grief already while being with us. So, will their rebound be last lor amazing because they dont have any emotion anymore, and they think their new supply is the best
@@MirroReflections6678 I dont agree this. They can not work with a terapist quitely and handle their issues. Because they are narcisistic people, it takes very long time to be normal for them.
Must have been better supply. She married him in 6 months. He was not better looking and he made a fraction of the money. Was definitely a downgrade for her.
@EadsB7002 they were engaged in 4 months. Started dating him day after she broke up with me. During that time called me 2 times and told me she considered getting back with me. Told me she missed me about 3 weeks before she got engaged. Lol
@@Sevoflurane2014 sounds about right! they almost always circle back to what they consider "better supply"..but they end up screwing over and pushing the new supply away regardless. they can;t keep the mask on forever.
@@Sevoflurane2014 so typical! the mask will eventually fall...they follow the exact same toxic pattern and end up destroying every relationship they get into.
Stop being jealous ! I'm not leaving for her ! She know ! She had him before pray for me ! Because I'm hoping he treats her worst than how he did me and do it to her !! Maybe she will stop taking him back ! I feel sorry for her because she weak at 44 but nope not praying for her. I'm praying for myself for my healing trauma and grief he caused me !
Tnk you.hs w my husband well ex now.he let 2 years ago for another woman.hot caught now he's with another engaged and divorced me after 7 weeks of leaving me.he is also on dateing sight.i managed 11 years 😢😢
What does it mean when u say after a year it turn TOXIC? My “husband “ and I been separated for a year & half and he’s been with the a monkey brancher since before he left. I think they are happy I guess all I know he still with her and he definitely screams 🚩.
Mhhh people over think and make a lot of assumption, and why would you think you are better than other people you probably way worse than the assumed " new supply"
Well said the flag allways follow the wind or when is winter were wishing sun but if sun there we say ist to hot peoples sit where there calm and wind every meal every day is not testy
Hi Stephaneward, I just want you to know I'm in a similar situation he got with a much younger girl I'm talking 14 yrs younger than him 🤢 she ended up getting Prego we had been together almost 8 yrs!!! It's not about how pretty or her age it's about how they can control much younger people! It's actually very disturbing when you think about it 🤯 I hope you find peace & strength to get past this. Your worthy & you matter.
She wanted "space" and moved out after 8 years... i told her i knew what that meant and exploring options.. Found out she was cheating with a coworker. Dont let them bread crumb you and walk away.
@@stylewithaltitude let that snake get her milk somewhere brother .
@@stylewithaltitude same thing happened time. She left me for a dentist twice
@@derekazyan9942 Yeah bro when they say they want "space"... theres someone else in the picture.
@@stylewithaltitude The coworker she left me with is much richer.
@@lbks16 no reflection on you. that's a mean move what she did. just learn and move on. we all meet people, allow them to get close and risk betrayal. But betrayal is a no contact forever offense with few exceptions.
she left me for her boss who is about 12 years older than me. He has a house, but she monkey branched me because she was not sure of what she wanted to build with me. Our relationship was not perfect by no means, but ever since she started working at that job she would never stop talking about her boss, and several times I told her to stop it. Now she sees a life she can have with this guy and wants to get married. She made me initiate the breakup and two weeks later she was already with him and in a month introducing him to her family, in the meantime I'm healing and trying to become the best version of myself
He's right. They're just going to put them through the same bs they put you through... they can't keep their toxicity masked forever! It sucks wondering whether or not they're moving on, but they for sure will end up pushing this person away too.
I am naturally devastated, but I don't blame or feel anything negative toward my (soon-to-be-ex) husband's new supply! We're being 'played' by the same guy (in the long run, his current discard will be a blessing in disguise). If you're reading this, you deserve so much better (remember your worth in this season of betrayal).
Got it! It will either go this way: the new supply is a weak mf who is attracting a toxic partner and will eventually get discard like you or the new supply is a super strong narcissistic person capable of dominating your ex and punish them for all the f@ck up shit he/ she did to others before, thats karma working in reverse there. For all of us who have been toxic others in former relationship should heal and probably ask for forgiveness. Until we become heal and aware and avoid being toxic and entertaining it, the cycle will continue. Toxic unheeal people only attract toxic relationships and live in that ecosystem. Heal and whole people will attract the same energy. Let's choose where we want to be
If you quickly jumped into new relationships you haven't done the work ! Never be good ! Thank you for this !
@@free2bme604 There are cases it works out. My ex has been married for 22 years to her husband after leaving me. I been with my wife 21 years. It depends on the people.
Very true I’m still trying to heal and it’s been 10 months of separation and I haven’t been with anyone nor do I have any desire to be all while he is in a relationship already.. it always blew my mind on how they can move on and be intimate with someone else so comfortable and having them were I was living at .. It’s crazy
@@mcostilla7603 he obviously has been wanting to get out of the relationship for a long time now so it seems. So yes, he’s been ready.
@ probably but I didn’t deserve to be treated so cruel.
@@mcostilla7603I’m in the same boat. We will get better..
@@mcostilla7603 I understand your pain, my ex fiance cheated on me I didn't find out til her mom told me her daughter was Prego by him 🤯 😱 he denied everything in front of her, it's all been so overwhelming to say the least!! The betrayal is so hurtful all of it is! We were together almost 8 yrs! Its been 7 months since I've been with him & I can tell you it's one of the hardest times of my life he's tried getting back together numerous times but fuck no I never, ever could. What he did was one of the biggest betrayals you could do to someone you say you love!! I wish you nothing but the best God Bless You ♥️🤗
@@kathleenlogsdon6069 oh wow I’m sorry your going through that and yes after I heard he was with someone that was it for me . Yes that’s betrayal and it’s sad but I pray you will get through it as I am trying to now and moving forward and wish you the very best as well. ❤️
Thank you for this I'm trying to heal from a breakup and saw my ex-girlfriend with a new supply. It hurts but this video is what I needed to hear today.
This helps a lot. I've been going through this from September through to now. It's very painful and emotional to go through.
This man is spitting insane facts!!
oh for sure! they all(narc ex's) follow the exact same pattern.
You’re a genius Paz, great channel, love your content and confidence, makes me feel better about the whole situation because you’re spot on right
My ex was fearful avoidant. I am mostly secure with a small FA percentage myself. Actually, my ex did me a favor by monkey branching to another, a victim of narcissistic abuse. Through hours and hours of inner work for 17 months, I am becoming my best version. I no longer resonate with the idea of the man I once knew. I have not seen him since he left. (I declined his friendship offer , wished him well, and let him go without tears or drama. No begging, no anger, no jealousy. Nothing. NC forever for me. .)
I have no idea of his life now. I don't care. I look forward to a great new 2025. Peace.💕🙏😊
I highly doubt that his new supply allows him to control her. He left me for a much older woman with her own place who cooks and cleans and does laundry for him and suck on him on demand. She is 11 years older than him. He needs a place to stay, too. It’s been 5 months already and they are still together. Happy New Year, King. Thank you for this video. You’ve helped me overcome my break up..
they eventually get tired of someone they can't control, trust me. if they are gettign benefits, sure they'll hang around a while but once they feel like they are giving more than they are getting, they are out the door!
@ he ain’t providing that woman with nothing but food stamps and penis. He is a landscaper and does snow removal. No money.
My ex husband is a narc and got with a girl at work. He wanted a divorce, so I gave him one. Word has it from good sources he's putting her through the same b.s as me....SMH they never change just find new victims.
1000%...they just swap partners and put up the good front in the beginning but the mask always always slips. they can't put on being kind and understanding forever.
Amazing-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop (thinking about him)
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive!
You're not alone! Sending you all my love during this difficult time.
You're not alone! Sending you all my love during this difficult time.
This video was recommended. Thank you! This is so good! Just what I needed to hear, seriously! Im encouraged to continue on my healing journey. I was too strong mentally, so he moved on to the weaker vessel. 🤷🏽♀️
I love your authenticity ❤ you're right he's just desperate to jump to a puppet from someone he failed to control 😂
When it's over who cares no more contact never go back or you will not personally go forward,cheers.
Yeah I’ve been on both sides of this. I watched my ex move on instantly to someone else and it was shocking how much of a downgrade it was. None of my friends or family could believe it.
On the flip side, I rebounded with someone and they were a downgrade from my previous partner. I thought about my ex the entire time even tho I stayed with them for almost a year and on social media we looked amazing.
Thanks, man! Good luck for them. :)
❤❤❤ such good information and advice! Paz is the shit❤❤❤
Thank you, coach Paz. Your videos really help me a lot. Keep it up. God bless you always!
This was actually what I needed. Finally!
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her , but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?
The spiritual counselor is Suzanne Ann Walters, she unite partners and families together.
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online.
Thanks Paz, experience is the best teacher !!!
down grade is real 😂. she blocked me today when i change my dp on my social media because im more handsome than the new supply hahaha and now i know shes stalking me even she unfriended me after our break up last 2months ago 😂. well thats Good now i can do my stuff without barriers and worries. thanks paz you made me laugh 😂 never ever going back to that narc woman who destroyed my mental health who gave me trauma bond depression and anxiety. they will not change a narc always a narc
@stylewithaltitude keep ya head up bro. Hope you bounce back even better and not ever sour. 💪🏾
Thank you for these videos, thank you for helping us understand how we feel and how they feel. I had a crazy story of monkey branching and I got to know what was happening behind my back just 3 weeks ago. We were together for 5 years, insane love, insane support from both sides, she contacted a common friend recently, who's closer to me and she said something that indicates she thinks I lie to people to expose her and I tell the story in my way. Meanwhile I try to forgive her and support her to everyone, I keep showing all the love I can. I don't even know how she'll excuse herself for what she did, there's undeniable proof for everything, sms and text showing she was never honest and that she was stringing me along
Insane she’s was able to do that, whilst also supporting you so much. I can only begin to imagine what that feels like?
@KevinMarshall-s9i it's a mindfuck, I really can't understand why she did and does all this. When I met her she was broken, she had tremendous issues. I helped her resolve most of them, apparently not all. She was abused at 15 by her coaches, she had been through anorexia, bulimia, self injuries, she was diagnosed with PTSD, borderline disorder and depression. She was on meds when I met her, I know it sounds stupid from me to get into a relationship with a person like that. But I felt something. After a year she was off the meds and everything was perfect, we had a 3 year honeymoon, the first 3 years of our relationship were perfect, it was insane to live in it, even to see it from outside. We were saying big words and making promises for the future. But apparently she didn't live up to it at all...
Everything you said is true. Im much older than you and was cheated... jelous of his new option..last time, 6 months ago for the first time I wasnt.
Thanks for your healing words... keep going
In my perspective, it’s entirely the opposite. If she had significantly "upgraded" in her next relationship, I’d probably be left thinking, Wow, this is the kind of man she could attract? Holy moly, what did I lose with her? Was she truly that high in value? That would genuinely hurt me the most.
But now she moneky branched with someone who is in his mid-40s, whos having a kid, and isn’t particularly attractive. And me? I’m just before 30 (27), women appreciate my looks, I’m pursuing a master’s degree in business psychology, and I’m building a future with great job opportunities and solid financial prospects. As for him? He’s a technician at a large company.
It had me thinking, What on earth? Especially considering she’s always hated kids and wanted to live a youthful lifestyle filled with parties, festivals, and vacations. This situation really highlights just how desperate she must have been-or still is-from my perspective. It’s a stark contrast to the value I believe I bring to the table.
The new supply runs around for her, does everything for her, spends tons of money on her, pays for trips away all the time😂
@@brandonlissner2840 DONT BELIEVE EVERYTHING U C THEY ARE MASTER ILLUSIONISTS, THATS HOW THEY GOT YOU TO BEGIN WITH THROUGH DECEPTION
IF YOU HAD KNOWN THE TRUTH OF WHO THEY WERE TO BEGIN WITH, YOU NEVER WOULD HAVE GOTTEN
WITH THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE
DECEPTACONS
So basically she got herself a puppy 😂 damn. Idk whats wrong with people nowadays. Instead of changing, upgrading the relationship u already have..people seem like they're on a Marathon these days....constantly jumping from one relationship to the nwxt instead of watering the garden you already have. - they run and think..oh now i found the one... turns out after a few months novalty Dopamin wears off and they find themselves in the same fuckin wheel they thought they just got off. These people are incapable of having relationships in General, ...i wonder why they never get the idea of just staykng Single when all they do is fuck up other people with their behavior. What a waste of time
A watered-down version of me….he needs to know that limited addition is limited addition 🤷🏻♀️
yes...lol! a watered down (more like beat down, tired, overrun with kids) version of me...SMH...she's not gonna deal with his bs long, as she's got too many kids to look after and provide for....and he's gonna get real frustrated real fast with her lack of time to spend on him!
Dear Coach, I remember you saying that rebound relationships will not last or will not be healthy, but it's been a year now since my ex moved on with someone new in the same week we broke up, and they are still together 💔
I have to see them around our small town and it breaks my heart😢
I think what on Earth is he doing?! Serious downgrade everybody says💔
I can't make sense of it and it's most painful he didn't care to work it out with me or value me💔
I'm trying to value myself but it really kicked my self-esteem and broke my heart that he moved on telling me I wasn't committed??? Hypocrisy 💔 thanks again for all you do 🌹
@@Jillisa2 That actually makes a lot of sense. If your partner was a narcissist they have a deep insecurity and will choose someone who’s beneath them so they can abuse them and that person won’t leave. Sometimes when a partner gets too healthy, the narcissist leaves because their abandonment issues are triggered.
My ex said "I am just normal, and *new girl's name* is normal too. We're just normal people."
Did he see me as "too good" just because of money, work status or age? In the end all that isn't important.
They don't. But you need to start focusing on yourself. It's been a year and you still are holding him close. You are also putting placing more energy on his new partner, you need to stop. They are no one for you, just another stranger you see on the streets. I know that you still care for him but you need to stop. He isn't choosing you, so stop choosing him, by doing this you are bloking your own blessings. You said that his new partner is a downgrade, so guess what, that is exactly who he is too. Level up and the time will come till you mee someone who will love you and treat you right. Stay strong ❤
Listen, he valued you so much he didn't think he was good enough for you.
That's why avoidants leave, regardless of what they say.
And that is why he downgraded. Because that's all he thinks he's worth.
Don't let his insecurities make you doubt yourself.
Coach also says " If it lasts more than one year it always turns toxic". I have a feeling if this relationship is not toxic it is well on its way to becoming that.
Damn y'all. I this is the raw truth.
I knew an animal like this once, bumped into him last year didn’t want to know him. He hovered. He looked for attention. I walked away. I don’t value animals who think their men. He really was a sicko
So since I was in a relationship with a narcissist, I was the weak one too?
What if the new person looks like a carbon copy of me but has accomplished more and has similar interests to him? I can’t be sure he monkey branched but the way he acted right after the bu suggests to me that she was already in the picture or immediately afterwards. I keep thinking of how he probably thought he is upgrading so he now can forget about me (claimed he was over me after a week and that it “has been over for a while”) but I don’t have all the answers and I never will, but I feel so replaceable and unworthy since finding out about her. :/
he will still mess it up by following the same pattern with her, if it makes you feel any better. these folks don't change no matter who they are with.
Great guy 👍
So true!
Thank you for all the time and wisdom you give to us. 😊x
Perfect video!!! Thanks Coach Paz
Well, I'd say my ex is the exception to the rule then... He has been dating his rebound for longer than we were together now and even has the two of them up on his WhatsApp profile picture. He never posted a picture of us. To make matters worse, he told a mutual friend a few months ago that the new girl is only there for sex, but it obviously turned into something more than that.
Everyone is a new supply at some point…
@whiteliner2253 nah I make connections not using supply
Nope
Starting to think my ex with a quiet BPD. Dammit.
My Ex informed me years into our situation-ship that she had just learned from her therapist that she was Bi-Polar. I said to her, "Oh Really," but in my head I was saying, "I knew I was F N Right!!!" I'm sure I have my quirks, but she was draining. That, "LOVE BOMBING," is 4 Real. It keeps you locked into that relationship. God Bless anyone that can get out of it. My Ex swears she has changed and is a better person, but as my man, Paz, stated, the same thing they did to you they will do to the new partner.
love this content...❤
Send the new supply a sympathy card. Your ex wouldn't change for you, and they repeat the same behavior with everyone. They never learn that the problem is them. Yet, they blame everyone else for their bad relationships.
Cool mate,
Very encouraging rave my man…… words of truth and wisdom based on experience….. when we go through the BS, and come out the other side, simply be a light of love and gratitude, that life has allowed us to experience and realise that decency, transparency, TRUTH and respect will always guide us, to simply KNOW right from wrong, and to LIVE such hard earned blessings……. Thank you from Australia 🦘🦘🦘
Hey coach my ex-girlfriend got new boyfriend who was cheated on by his ex-girlfriend and she monkey branched and cheated on me basically she basically made it seem like we can still be friends but then she ended up getting a restraining order on me because when I seen her she looks so miserable and all I tried to do was be the nice person and still got blamed for everything
Nope i am definitely single and i have been for a long time this time around people have been fed with lies about me. I have been alone for a long time and i dont even chase anyone. People need to relax
I have many exees that fkd up the relationship or marriage. They all have downgraded 😅😅 two ended up crashing into homelessness.
Down grade to a drunk and a pot head😂😂they try to triangulate you with, thinking you will chase them.🤣🤣🤣you can destroy them by doing nothing.
The supply had the nerve to call me, he’s married to me she calls him her fiancé 🤣🤣🤣She wanted my help taking him down🤣🤣🤣I said you came to my home, went through my things and want help? Dumb hoe🤣🤣
yeah sis they love validating trash from the dumpster...and had no problem doing so while you were still together too, i'm sure ...if your narc was anyting like mine.
always adding random local women who were trampy, OF chicks, raci$t, had low end jobs, multiple kids and baby daddies and liking or commenting on their skanky photos. Once i caught onto it, i was done. no more wasting precious time and energy on someone who doesn't value a good thing when they have it!
They were with them whilst in a relationship with you
WHAT DO U MEAN PRAY FOR THEM HAVE COMPASSION FOR THEM FOOL ? BAD ADVICE , I AINT PRAYIN FOR ANYBODY WHO DON'T DESERVE IT ? THEY KNEW SHE WAS WITH U WHILE THEY WERE SLEEPIN WITH HER BEHIND YOUR BACK , SO LET THEM FIND OUT THE HARD WAY LIKE I DID WHEN SHES OUT SLEEPIN BEHIND THEIR BACK. IM JUST GLAD HE TOOK MY TRASH OUT 4 ME , N NOT ONLY THAT BUT HE CLAIMED IT 4 HIMSELF LIKE HE GOT THE PRTZE , WHEN IN REALITY WHAT HE GOT WAS A SURPRISE !!!...
HA,HA,HA,HAH !!!!!!...
@@ELIEL-e3e you missed the point of prayer
Hold up! We were all the new supply once. So be honest and say that none of us were ever the right mate.
What does it have to do with the video? Everyone could be a "new supply" once but there is a difference between being a "new supply" couple of days or a month after a break up or being someone's "new supply" after they've taken time to heal, analyse, work, improve, acknowledge own mistakes, insecurities, problems, traumas etc. My ex gf broke up with me 2 months ago after an 8 months relationship. She found a new guy 5 days later and in the span of this time made him her new bf. Did she take time to heal or do any work? No. She did the exact same thing she did before me. I was her "new supply" cause at the start of us officially become a couple she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend 3 weeks ago, pretty much when she met me, but she added that she lost her feelings towards him a long time ago. I was heavily weirded out by it but decided to look over that "red flag" and others and jumped in. What came out of it? Nothing good. Now I'm her 4th "x" with a broken heart who truly loves her for who she is. Who's been absolutely broken and is now improving and learning from this horrible experience and mistakes I made. My first relationship and I already learned so much.
Post Scriptum: There were probably lots of "right mates" it's just that the other person was not ready or didn't acknowledge that it was one.
We are not meant to be anyone’s “supply”. We need to heal enough to recognize when someone does not have our best interest at heart and who just exist in our lives to use us. Realizing you were just there for their benefit will help you recognize you are in a fake relationship with them that has an expiration date for them.
No we aren’t. Maybe you are
@Bloodsport1337 If you were ever with a narcissist, then, YES you were the NEW supply. You're silly.
@ not everyone gets played like you did.
Stop being jealous of the new supply! …pray for them 😅
I was also cheated on by my ex of more than a decade. I was in depresión for 2 months later my friend recommended me to a dating app and then I realised I am still very much in demand 😂
I think My ex never told the two guys after me that she was with me, yes u heard that correctly she's been with 2 guys after me.
Yes I have been through it my cheating ex wife exchanged me for a caricature of Santa Claus
Hi Paz, do think a woman that used monkey branching only as an exit strategy because it was her only way out of a 20 year marriage, would cheat again.
As an exit strategy? That's not an exit strategy, she was already cheating and talking to someone else prior to actually leaving. Hold these woman accountable when they have shown you who they are. She will do it again and is very capable.
@@stylewithaltitude
That's what monkey branching is ( Cheating while still with you) She cheated hoping l would leave her. She wanted to leave the marriage before the cheating started , but l did not want to give up trying to repair the marriage. She did not have the confidence to just leave.
if they have done all the therapist work quietly secretly, and they have done their grief already while being with us. So, will their rebound be last lor amazing because they dont have any emotion anymore, and they think their new supply is the best
I'd love to see an episode about this. I am wondering if their new Monkeybranch partner is still a rebound or a serious relationship.
@@MirroReflections6678 I dont agree this. They can not work with a terapist quitely and handle their issues. Because they are narcisistic people, it takes very long time to be normal for them.
Must have been better supply. She married him in 6 months. He was not better looking and he made a fraction of the money. Was definitely a downgrade for her.
she will learn. that's super quick to marry someone. not nearly enough time to see who he really is!
@EadsB7002 they were engaged in 4 months. Started dating him day after she broke up with me. During that time called me 2 times and told me she considered getting back with me. Told me she missed me about 3 weeks before she got engaged. Lol
@@Sevoflurane2014 sounds about right! they almost always circle back to what they consider "better supply"..but they end up screwing over and pushing the new supply away regardless. they can;t keep the mask on forever.
@@Sevoflurane2014 so typical! the mask will eventually fall...they follow the exact same toxic pattern and end up destroying every relationship they get into.
Stop being jealous ! I'm not leaving for her ! She know ! She had him before pray for me ! Because I'm hoping he treats her worst than how he did me and do it to her !! Maybe she will stop taking him back ! I feel sorry for her because she weak at 44 but nope not praying for her.
I'm praying for myself for my healing trauma and grief he caused me !
Tnk you.hs w my husband well ex now.he let 2 years ago for another woman.hot caught now he's with another engaged and divorced me after 7 weeks of leaving me.he is also on dateing sight.i managed 11 years 😢😢
Came for the talk, stayed for the Buddha statue. 😌👌
What does it mean when u say after a year it turn TOXIC?
My “husband “ and I been separated for a year & half and he’s been with the a monkey brancher since before he left. I think they are happy I guess all I know he still with her and he definitely screams 🚩.
Youre not a saint but surely know what your talking about
Mhhh people over think and make a lot of assumption, and why would you think you are better than other people you probably way worse than the assumed " new supply"
They no new they are old supplies
Well said the flag allways follow the wind or when is winter were wishing sun but if sun there we say ist to hot peoples sit where there calm and wind every meal every day is not testy
YOU ARE DEFO A TOP G!
MAY ALLAH HONOUR YOU WITH ISLAM!
He did upgrade, she is younger than me and prettier than me.
doesn't matter though. they'll still put them through the exact same toxic bs they put you through. the mask always falls at some point!
Hi Stephaneward, I just want you to know I'm in a similar situation he got with a much younger girl I'm talking 14 yrs younger than him 🤢 she ended up getting Prego we had been together almost 8 yrs!!! It's not about how pretty or her age it's about how they can control much younger people! It's actually very disturbing when you think about it 🤯 I hope you find peace & strength to get past this. Your worthy & you matter.
@ Thank you so much I appreciate what you said . I didn’t know it would be this hard.
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