What do YOU think happens in his mind after the honeymoon phase? Here’s something to consider: The shift you’re noticing might not mean he’s losing interest-it could be a natural transition into a deeper phase of the relationship. Men often express love differently as the relationship evolves, prioritizing stability and partnership over romance and excitement. Have you experienced this before?? Share your thoughts, questions, or experiences below. Let’s unpack what’s really going on and discover how to create lasting connection and intimacy in this new phase of your relationship.
I experienced this in some of my relationships. When this happened, I ended the relationships ASAP. Was it a shallow reason? No. Why? I'm a firm believer of the statement "Start out how you're going to keep out." No one wants to feel cheated or shafted. If I'm giving 100% to the relationship, it's because he met me doing these things. This includes effort, physical appearance, and prioritizing his needs. Why should I stop because he became too complacent and comfortable? I was with a man who was romantically consistent the entire time. He kept the sparks alive the entire time. Unfortunately, he passed away in 2020 during Covid. I miss him terribly. 😪
If ANY person feels like their freedom is being threatened by committing to another person, then the other person isn't the one for them. You KNOW when you KNOW. Period. And Ladies: It doesn't matter *what* the reason is that a guy pulls back or shuts down and doesn't communicate. If he does that, then he's not the guy for you. You don't need to know how to communicate better with him. Just walk away. You can do better. "Masculine" b.s. You'll be thankful that you didn't wait for an uncommunicative guy who can't show emotion and be vulnerable.
As a woman in my senior years, with 2 marriages behind me, adult children and a string of long term relationships, I can honestly say from experience that everything mentioned is true. And a few other tidbits I’ve learned…….having children don’t make it better, if the relationship is not strong; men express their love through sex, with the right woman they love, sex is on a whole different level for them just as it should be, so don’t discount the physical intimacy, a man who is not into you, will be into someone else; I agree, the minute I feel like I’m chasing, I stop and wait and always my guy will reach out and it never takes long; don’t ever give up your dignity or self worth for someone else; realize that every relationship brings something to you, mostly lessons but they are all worth it in the long run. Right now, I’m in a relationship with the last man I will ever love and that is the best feeling of all.
@@lorymolino5767Nope. Scx is a side note. A deep bond of friendship, respect, and mental stimulation is where the love is. If a man can't bond through these things, he's experiencing lust, not love.
The best way to deal with a man pulling away is by not spending too much time with him in the first place. Just have passions and hobbies and things you love to do. If a man fears his freedom he can have all the freedom he wants. I want my freedom as well to think and be my own person.
Peter Pan syndrome. A child in an adult’s body. When reality sets in they can’t handle it. Also indicative of an avoidant personality. If he pulls away, leave him. Period. I dated a few losers like this. Currently married to my person going on 11 years with no problems 🥰 The key is leaving these types of men early when they exhibit these issues so you can find a good partner.
This is why I quit dating. That pull back usually includes unjust personal criticisms, cheating, and being blamed for stuff you didnt even did (gaslighting). This is childish behavior and you lose respect and trust in a man who acts like this. When/if he finally grows up, develops some introspection into his behavior and realizes he lost the best thing he will ever have, I will have moved on to a real adult man.
No wonder so many choose to stay single. Too many mind games and jumping through hoops, too much immaturity and selfishness... and for what? A big fat headache in 90+% of cases. Not worth it.
When people pull back. Give them space and do your own thing. If they co.e back refreshed and still faithful, great. If they don't, leave them well alone.
This is most likely dismissive (or maybe even fearful) avoidant attachment. To anyone reading this, learn attachment theory so you know how to spot this emotionally unavailable behavior, it’s life changing. Just remember - avoid avoidants!
It’s sad & egotistical how men think they are the only ones who care about a sense of freedom! How about assuming the other person values what they’ve created in their life as well & have a mutual discussion on how to best navigate that together. Seriously, we’re not going to sit around worshipping them all day & drop the magic we already have in our lives:
Thank you for so clearly articulating a masculine man's point of view. My father and brother were old school, and my ex-husband a weak man, so I never fully understood what you explain very well here.
I really admire your approach and how you advice women and men (especially). I am a single mother and I have shared quite a few of your videos with my older sons, as I believe the message you are delivering is very encouraging and and thought provoking, in a positive way. I am truly grateful for you efforts to make a better difference in peoples lives....Thank you.
So beautifully said. Ty so much Jake. Becoming whole within ourselves and magniting another partner in their wholness is my path and my truth. I really appreciate u saying this , that the man needs to want the woman. If he doesn't. It's just alot of back and forth, and really a waste of time in what I've come to realize. Chasing a man will NEVER EVER bring in a health divine union template!
This is very valuable and insightful. I am definitely not a chaser, and am in this phase where my man is starting to pull back a bit. We're long distance, been almost a year, proclaiming love for each other, kids have met each other recently. His son made a comment about us getting married recently and I think it's kinda freaked him out. I am grateful for you sharing this, thank you for confirming what I was already thinking.
I get what you say Jake, and it totally resonates and makes sense… but is it really possible for anyone to be in our radiance 24/7? Isn’t it ok to just communicate in a precise/concise way that him pulling back feels uncomfortable? 🤔😥
People let dark psychology in and forget to stay playful and fresh and that has bad effects. We really have to do our homework to be stable and healed . Read self help books, seek professional counsel and also let GOD HEAL US. HE MADE US AND HE KNOWS HOW TO HEAL US BEST.
I think this is spot on. But I have a question. I was the super happy fun girl he latched on to and continued for 8 years married, but as soon as I had a kid the ghosting and disappearing came in. Then the depression for not being supported set in, then my masculine energy set - now he's moving out end of the month! He's a very alpha male, not a player and wants to be the protector/provider but as soon as my cool girl side struggled due to childbirth, postpartum stress and sleep deprivation - he's in remission! Disconnected, ghosting and stonewalling, yet he wanted more children? Is this normal for a good guy? Or did I marry a shitty guy only to find that out now?
Sometimes we have to pull ourselves by the scruff of the neck out of our unhappy state. It's rough but it's not fair to download that onto our partner, we didn't deserve it but they really didn't either. Maybe find a therapist that has a good professional reputation, save your marriage for yourselves but also the children? Who knows if your love comes back stronger than ever.
@@carrieb300 It sounds like you’re carrying the weight of a profound emotional shift in your marriage, and I want to acknowledge how deeply challenging that must feel. From what you’ve shared, it seems like the dynamic between you and your husband shifted when life threw new demands-parenthood, postpartum struggles, and sleep deprivation-into the mix. These changes often test even the strongest of relationships. What stands out is how you mention stepping into a more “masculine energy” when you felt unsupported. This is common in relationships where one partner doesn’t step up during critical life transitions-forcing the other to compensate. Unfortunately, some men who pride themselves on being “alpha” or providers may unconsciously retreat when the emotional and relational dynamics require deeper vulnerability and adaptability rather than just provision. Your husband’s actions-ghosting, stonewalling, and withdrawing-may stem from his own unresolved struggles, but that doesn’t excuse the lack of support. A true “good guy” isn’t perfect but grows through challenges alongside his partner. If he disconnected and shut down when the relationship required collaboration and resilience, it reflects either emotional immaturity or an unwillingness to meet you in the new reality of your shared life. As for whether he’s a “shitty guy,” I think the more helpful question is: Does this relationship give you the reciprocity, safety, and growth you deserve? People change, and relationships either evolve or erode during life’s most demanding seasons. The fact that he wanted more children while emotionally checking out during this phase suggests a disconnect between his expectations and his ability to show up for you as a partner. Ultimately, you deserve a relationship where love and effort flow in both directions. This situation might not be about “good” or “bad” people but about whether he has the capacity and willingness to grow into the kind of partner you need. If he doesn’t, his departure may actually open a pathway to rediscovering your own happiness and clarity.
@@JakeWoodardThank you, I agree and time will only tell. I'm sure he will realised what he had down the line and perhaps if nothing else, this may make him see what he's sacrificed due to his preferred need for comfort.
Men are not providers and protectors, women are. You will never find a man who can support you in this. Men only want fun and sex. The dopamine high and they feel entitled to it. If you’re not longer giving it to them they bail. No one holds men accountable for anything anymore. There is no such thing as a masculine man. A masculine man would never leave his wife and child in such a vulnerable state.
No woman or man is perfect and fulfilled, that just sounds pretentious and entitled/ self righteous...I agree that people always should pursue their own lives but I think that a closure always is of good and sincere and importance
Thank you so much for this video. It gives great perspective from a man’s point-of-view. Everything was great! Communication was awesome…just being in his presence gave me butterflies…the way he looked at me. We shared so much. Then, as you said, I told him how I felt and soon after, the pull back started. I made the mistake of panicking and writing the long messages. I just wanted to understand. He wasn’t malicious, but he just went so quiet. Things have been different…I believe I overwhelmed him with my feelings and overreacted when he needed space. If things work out or not, now that I understand better, I’ll be taking your advice with me. Thank you.
I really wish I knew this years ago. He was always trying to get me to talk, but I was the one that was always shut off. At about a year and a half in, he started pulling back. Now, looking back, it does make so much since, but back then I took it as he wasn't serious even though he did start hanging out like he did, and then he went to training. I really wish I would have known this i loved him so much, but I didn't know what was going on, so I left him, and it hurt him.
I'm a little bit of a fearful avoidant..I've been working really hard on it though and manage to stay relaxed, even if only on the outside sometimes lol. That bieng said, if he pulls back, give him space, but ask yourself: Do you even want him anyway? It's probably not a good fit. Don't play games, especially do not chase. That's silly for a woman to do that. If you both want each other, you'll both know.
Two men I dated and fell in love pulled back boy it was painful,,,,,ouch. Then later when I moved on they wanted me back actually crying wow ! Maybe say to yourself well if their confused forget it I have to think of myself first. They like you better if you don't chase men are hunter's.
This is just yet another way to excuse poor, disrespectful, immature behavior. Why not use your time and energy to teach males ways to grow and mature?
I just had this done to me, he told me he wanted to let me go to see if I would come back.to him because he was unsure of my feelings towards him. To me, that was it, I was hurt, my feelings dissipated towards him , the next time is saw him (weeks later) I felt nothing, all I saw was a game player, an insecure man. No thanks
Ok, so that´s how men work. Women often work in a totally different way. Why shall we women be so understanding for guys and just let him have all this space and choises. What about us? Why shall not men have the same understanding for us and what WE need? We are two in this relationship right?
Thank you jake for these wise words, i do jave a question, is there a difference between chasing anf persuing, i always thought chasing is a toxic masculine trait once he gets what he wants he chases the next best high if it's a woman she has to play mindgames to keep him chasing, while persuing is purely healthy masculine he naturaly persues because he wants to not because he has to, or am i wrong?
What would you say about a man inviting you to move im with him but saying oh but the other girl I'm seeing may or may not move in too or I don't know might not work out. Am I insecure if I don't go or am I of value by saying no. I'm not a option or a maybe. I feel a 3rd party would only mean you don't really love yourself however I'm not an option
If you want monogamy, please be clear about that. To yourself and to him. If that’s a core value for you, you don’t need to feel bad about it. It’s just what it is.. this is how it is at least for you. I say.. value yourself, honor how YOU feel and don’t move in and reconsider if you want to be in a relationship with him at all?
Everything in this video resonates. My bf (34) is currently taking a break. We have been in no contact for a month. He is not sure whether he loves me. Let’s see… ❤
It is a sure thing that they won't lose their freedom when they don't get married and stay single. If they have fear of losing their freedom, they don't even have to start thinking about dating anyone. There's their answer.
relationships absolutely dont have to be like this.... most heartbreak and dissappointment in romantic relationships directly or indirectly stem from the fact that u had sex before marriage... especially when it comes to the womans unhappiness with the man ... usually the man seems to not experience the same discontent after the honeymoon phase. his discontent only happens cuz his woman isnt happy ... so this proves that its up to the woman to not have sex before marriage .... cuz it mostly affects the feminine and leaves the woman very unhappy. guys let me tell u something : IF A WOMAN SEES U AS MARRIAGE MATERIAL, SHES MORE THAN HAPPY TO MAKE U WAIT FOR MARRIAGE.... IF SHE SEES U AS A PLACEHOLDER, she pretends that she just cant wait to make love to you
What?! If a woman sees a man as a placeholder.., she’s not waiting to sleep with him!.., she’s just stringing the guy along until she finds a better one. Come on!
OMG I am just going to say some women feel these things as well. I retreat and I fear losing my freedom and I am a woman what does that say about me??!
I pulled away 4 times because he kept coming back then ghosting me o told him from day one no in and out or and im not chasing u so in my situation it’s been 9 months of no meeting because he didn’t the in and out to force me to chase him so that means I give it up he’s 44 so why he didn’t that to have me chase if men don’t like chase I showed him I’m out and he tried it again like ignoring me to force me to text when he knows he comes right back when I don’t but even waited two months to see if I would.
Men can stay in a relationship forever even while they cheating. And if the woman can stick it out until his testosterone drops off in his late 30s he will then be the man she needed. Or she can go find one that’s already in their late thirties.
I don’t feel this is a men - women dynamic.. I know more women who feel and act like how men were described. Guess Dutch women are a bit more masculine 😅
Sir you’re asking too much from modern men….. you got me at “ a masculine man will” ………. Find me a masculine men in todays market then this podcast will be beneficial to me
It’s sad & egotistical how men think they are the only ones who care about a sense of freedom! How about assuming the other person values what they’ve created in their life as well & have a mutual discussion on how to best navigate that together. Seriously, we’re not going to sit around worshipping them all day & drop the magic we already have in our lives.
What do YOU think happens in his mind after the honeymoon phase?
Here’s something to consider:
The shift you’re noticing might not mean he’s losing interest-it could be a natural transition into a deeper phase of the relationship. Men often express love differently as the relationship evolves, prioritizing stability and partnership over romance and excitement.
Have you experienced this before??
Share your thoughts, questions, or experiences below. Let’s unpack what’s really going on and discover how to create lasting connection and intimacy in this new phase of your relationship.
I experienced this in some of my relationships. When this happened, I ended the relationships ASAP.
Was it a shallow reason? No.
Why?
I'm a firm believer of the statement "Start out how you're going to keep out."
No one wants to feel cheated or shafted.
If I'm giving 100% to the relationship, it's because he met me doing these things. This includes effort, physical appearance, and prioritizing his needs.
Why should I stop because he became too complacent and comfortable?
I was with a man who was romantically consistent the entire time. He kept the sparks alive the entire time. Unfortunately, he passed away in 2020 during Covid.
I miss him terribly. 😪
Sorry to hear this.
If ANY person feels like their freedom is being threatened by committing to another person, then the other person isn't the one for them. You KNOW when you KNOW. Period.
And Ladies: It doesn't matter *what* the reason is that a guy pulls back or shuts down and doesn't communicate. If he does that, then he's not the guy for you. You don't need to know how to communicate better with him. Just walk away. You can do better. "Masculine" b.s. You'll be thankful that you didn't wait for an uncommunicative guy who can't show emotion and be vulnerable.
Thank you for posting this. I've found it to be all true.
If he pulls away… let him go. You don’t morn a ghost.
Dont MOM any man - just your kids
As a woman in my senior years, with 2 marriages behind me, adult children and a string of long term relationships, I can honestly say from experience that everything mentioned is true. And a few other tidbits I’ve learned…….having children don’t make it better, if the relationship is not strong; men express their love through sex, with the right woman they love, sex is on a whole different level for them just as it should be, so don’t discount the physical intimacy, a man who is not into you, will be into someone else; I agree, the minute I feel like I’m chasing, I stop and wait and always my guy will reach out and it never takes long; don’t ever give up your dignity or self worth for someone else; realize that every relationship brings something to you, mostly lessons but they are all worth it in the long run. Right now, I’m in a relationship with the last man I will ever love and that is the best feeling of all.
It's not love if it's expressed through scx.
that’s so not true
@@lorymolino5767Nope. Scx is a side note. A deep bond of friendship, respect, and mental stimulation is where the love is. If a man can't bond through these things, he's experiencing lust, not love.
The best way to deal with a man pulling away is by not spending too much time with him in the first place. Just have passions and hobbies and things you love to do. If a man fears his freedom he can have all the freedom he wants. I want my freedom as well to think and be my own person.
My thinking is NOT to have sex before marriage. That's God's design. Also, porn is very insidious.
@@danilaroche1156agreed 100%
Peter Pan syndrome. A child in an adult’s body. When reality sets in they can’t handle it. Also indicative of an avoidant personality. If he pulls away, leave him. Period. I dated a few losers like this. Currently married to my person going on 11 years with no problems 🥰 The key is leaving these types of men early when they exhibit these issues so you can find a good partner.
This is why I quit dating. That pull back usually includes unjust personal criticisms, cheating, and being blamed for stuff you didnt even did (gaslighting). This is childish behavior and you lose respect and trust in a man who acts like this. When/if he finally grows up, develops some introspection into his behavior and realizes he lost the best thing he will ever have, I will have moved on to a real adult man.
Girl, same
No wonder so many choose to stay single.
Too many mind games and jumping through hoops, too much immaturity and selfishness... and for what?
A big fat headache in 90+% of cases.
Not worth it.
Thank you!
Yeah I think both genders do this and it’s annoying af. Too many games.
If a person isnt sure they pull back. Don't chase him its hard but don't. They come back if you don't chase. But if they don't it wasn't meant to be.
Whats resonated for me is renembering to center myself instead of centering the relationship. ❤️🙏🏼
When people pull back. Give them space and do your own thing. If they co.e back refreshed and still faithful, great. If they don't, leave them well alone.
This is most likely dismissive (or maybe even fearful) avoidant attachment. To anyone reading this, learn attachment theory so you know how to spot this emotionally unavailable behavior, it’s life changing. Just remember - avoid avoidants!
lust is not love
Makes sense why surveys say married men and single women are the happiest statistically
I wouldn't believe every survey you read, lol
@@JakeWoodard Research it, single women report happier satisfaction and so do married men x
@@JakeWoodard research it, satisfaction is higher in single women and married men.
I'm the chaser, the controller that is pushing the masculine men away. This is so helpful
Took me forever to learn this. Spent a lot of time alone healing, and now I’m ready for a real masculine man ✨
Good luck, they don’t exist.
The honeymoon phase, do you mean love bombing phase? After that is the smear campaign. He will always desire the next shiny thang💃
Yes, I agree.
It’s sad & egotistical how men think they are the only ones who care about a sense of freedom! How about assuming the other person values what they’ve created in their life as well & have a mutual discussion on how to best navigate that together. Seriously, we’re not going to sit around worshipping them all day & drop the magic we already have in our lives:
I think you've quite aptly spoken truth! 😊 ❤❤❤
Freedom to see another girls😅
You are a blessing to the world saying everything you say!
I will be sure my young daughter listens to this. Thank you!
Age taught me this 😅
Thank you for so clearly articulating a masculine man's point of view. My father and brother were old school, and my ex-husband a weak man, so I never fully understood what you explain very well here.
Men are emotional.
Women are logical.
I really admire your approach and how you advice women and men (especially). I am a single mother and I have shared quite a few of your videos with my older sons, as I believe the message you are delivering is very encouraging and and thought provoking, in a positive way. I am truly grateful for you efforts to make a better difference in peoples lives....Thank you.
I appreciate you!
@@JakeWoodard Thank You Sir💎
So beautifully said. Ty so much Jake. Becoming whole within ourselves and magniting another partner in their wholness is my path and my truth. I really appreciate u saying this , that the man needs to want the woman. If he doesn't. It's just alot of back and forth, and really a waste of time in what I've come to realize.
Chasing a man will NEVER EVER bring in a health divine union template!
This was good, you provided a lot of good insights and information. Thank you.
This is very valuable and insightful. I am definitely not a chaser, and am in this phase where my man is starting to pull back a bit. We're long distance, been almost a year, proclaiming love for each other, kids have met each other recently. His son made a comment about us getting married recently and I think it's kinda freaked him out. I am grateful for you sharing this, thank you for confirming what I was already thinking.
this is remarkable. I need to be educated at relationships.
2 years in, Ex bf won't commit nor leave, so I left.
I get what you say Jake, and it totally resonates and makes sense… but is it really possible for anyone to be in our radiance 24/7? Isn’t it ok to just communicate in a precise/concise way that him pulling back feels uncomfortable? 🤔😥
Wow! This is so on point! Sharing this with my girlfriends. THANKS Jake!!!
People let dark psychology in and forget to stay playful and fresh and that has bad effects. We really have to do our homework to be stable and healed . Read self help books, seek professional counsel and also let GOD HEAL US. HE MADE US AND HE KNOWS HOW TO HEAL US BEST.
I think this is spot on. But I have a question. I was the super happy fun girl he latched on to and continued for 8 years married, but as soon as I had a kid the ghosting and disappearing came in. Then the depression for not being supported set in, then my masculine energy set - now he's moving out end of the month! He's a very alpha male, not a player and wants to be the protector/provider but as soon as my cool girl side struggled due to childbirth, postpartum stress and sleep deprivation - he's in remission! Disconnected, ghosting and stonewalling, yet he wanted more children? Is this normal for a good guy? Or did I marry a shitty guy only to find that out now?
Sometimes we have to pull ourselves by the scruff of the neck out of our unhappy state. It's rough but it's not fair to download that onto our partner, we didn't deserve it but they really didn't either. Maybe find a therapist that has a good professional reputation, save your marriage for yourselves but also the children? Who knows if your love comes back stronger than ever.
@@carrieb300 It sounds like you’re carrying the weight of a profound emotional shift in your marriage, and I want to acknowledge how deeply challenging that must feel. From what you’ve shared, it seems like the dynamic between you and your husband shifted when life threw new demands-parenthood, postpartum struggles, and sleep deprivation-into the mix. These changes often test even the strongest of relationships.
What stands out is how you mention stepping into a more “masculine energy” when you felt unsupported. This is common in relationships where one partner doesn’t step up during critical life transitions-forcing the other to compensate. Unfortunately, some men who pride themselves on being “alpha” or providers may unconsciously retreat when the emotional and relational dynamics require deeper vulnerability and adaptability rather than just provision.
Your husband’s actions-ghosting, stonewalling, and withdrawing-may stem from his own unresolved struggles, but that doesn’t excuse the lack of support. A true “good guy” isn’t perfect but grows through challenges alongside his partner. If he disconnected and shut down when the relationship required collaboration and resilience, it reflects either emotional immaturity or an unwillingness to meet you in the new reality of your shared life.
As for whether he’s a “shitty guy,” I think the more helpful question is: Does this relationship give you the reciprocity, safety, and growth you deserve? People change, and relationships either evolve or erode during life’s most demanding seasons. The fact that he wanted more children while emotionally checking out during this phase suggests a disconnect between his expectations and his ability to show up for you as a partner.
Ultimately, you deserve a relationship where love and effort flow in both directions. This situation might not be about “good” or “bad” people but about whether he has the capacity and willingness to grow into the kind of partner you need. If he doesn’t, his departure may actually open a pathway to rediscovering your own happiness and clarity.
@@JakeWoodardThank you, I agree and time will only tell. I'm sure he will realised what he had down the line and perhaps if nothing else, this may make him see what he's sacrificed due to his preferred need for comfort.
Men are not providers and protectors, women are. You will never find a man who can support you in this. Men only want fun and sex. The dopamine high and they feel entitled to it. If you’re not longer giving it to them they bail. No one holds men accountable for anything anymore. There is no such thing as a masculine man. A masculine man would never leave his wife and child in such a vulnerable state.
Awe Carrie, this situation sounds awful. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You absolutely 💯 deserve better 💐
So true Bro thanks for sharing so amazing knowledge
Excellent handling of a very sensitive topic.
Clearly and very well explained, for both sides, thank you
No woman or man is perfect and fulfilled, that just sounds pretentious and entitled/ self righteous...I agree that people always should pursue their own lives but I think that a closure always is of good and sincere and importance
You made some very valid points.
This’s advice is simply e clear to understanding.. thank you very much my friend 🙌
Thank you so much for this video. It gives great perspective from a man’s point-of-view.
Everything was great! Communication was awesome…just being in his presence gave me butterflies…the way he looked at me. We shared so much. Then, as you said, I told him how I felt and soon after, the pull back started. I made the mistake of panicking and writing the long messages. I just wanted to understand. He wasn’t malicious, but he just went so quiet. Things have been different…I believe I overwhelmed him with my feelings and overreacted when he needed space.
If things work out or not, now that I understand better, I’ll be taking your advice with me. Thank you.
I really wish I knew this years ago. He was always trying to get me to talk, but I was the one that was always shut off. At about a year and a half in, he started pulling back. Now, looking back, it does make so much since, but back then I took it as he wasn't serious even though he did start hanging out like he did, and then he went to training. I really wish I would have known this i loved him so much, but I didn't know what was going on, so I left him, and it hurt him.
I'm a little bit of a fearful avoidant..I've been working really hard on it though and manage to stay relaxed, even if only on the outside sometimes lol. That bieng said, if he pulls back, give him space, but ask yourself: Do you even want him anyway? It's probably not a good fit. Don't play games, especially do not chase. That's silly for a woman to do that. If you both want each other, you'll both know.
Thank you. I now understand this clearly.
So good. Thank you
I'm very much into this video, you makes a lot of sense. Thank you so much ❤
Two men I dated and fell in love pulled back boy it was painful,,,,,ouch. Then later when I moved on they wanted me back actually crying wow ! Maybe say to yourself well if their confused forget it I have to think of myself first. They like you better if you don't chase men are hunter's.
Thank you for letting me know this.. Everything you said for a woman not to do,
I was doing .. 😣
Good points. Appreciated this video.
Why can't people just be open and up front with each other without all the games?
So in giving space, ok to say "yeah, sure. We can back off from "intimacy" to see which way things might go?
This helped so much, thank you ❤
On point!...Thanks 💎💎💎
💯Thank you for saying that 👻 is abusive!!!
What do you mean when you say you continue to pursue your wife? Can you give an example of what that looks like? Thank you! Great info.
You don’t know what pursuing a woman is?
I am going through this but I feel like I am the man in the situation 🙃
Birth control will do that
This is just yet another way to excuse poor, disrespectful, immature behavior. Why not use your time and energy to teach males ways to grow and mature?
I just had this done to me, he told me he wanted to let me go to see if I would come back.to him because he was unsure of my feelings towards him.
To me, that was it, I was hurt, my feelings dissipated towards him , the next time is saw him (weeks later) I felt nothing, all I saw was a game player, an insecure man. No thanks
Ok, so that´s how men work. Women often work in a totally different way. Why shall we women be so understanding for guys and just let him have all this space and choises. What about us? Why shall not men have the same understanding for us and what WE need? We are two in this relationship right?
Thank you jake for these wise words, i do jave a question, is there a difference between chasing anf persuing, i always thought chasing is a toxic masculine trait once he gets what he wants he chases the next best high if it's a woman she has to play mindgames to keep him chasing, while persuing is purely healthy masculine he naturaly persues because he wants to not because he has to, or am i wrong?
What would you say about a man inviting you to move im with him but saying oh but the other girl I'm seeing may or may not move in too or I don't know might not work out. Am I insecure if I don't go or am I of value by saying no. I'm not a option or a maybe. I feel a 3rd party would only mean you don't really love yourself however I'm not an option
If you want monogamy, please be clear about that. To yourself and to him. If that’s a core value for you, you don’t need to feel bad about it. It’s just what it is.. this is how it is at least for you. I say.. value yourself, honor how YOU feel and don’t move in and reconsider if you want to be in a relationship with him at all?
@hedwignl8118 I def value mongo. Thank you 🙏
Run baby run, there are so many better options only for you and you know you are worth it.
Don’t move in with a man unless your married and yall did pre counseling
"For all that is in the world-the lust of the flesh;the desire of the eyes and the pride of life is not from God but from the world." 1JOHN2:16🎉
thank you!
Everything in this video resonates. My bf (34) is currently taking a break. We have been in no contact for a month. He is not sure whether he loves me. Let’s see… ❤
It is a sure thing that they won't lose their freedom when they don't get married and stay single. If they have fear of losing their freedom, they don't even have to start thinking about dating anyone. There's their answer.
relationships absolutely dont have to be like this.... most heartbreak and dissappointment in romantic relationships directly or indirectly stem from the fact that u had sex before marriage... especially when it comes to the womans unhappiness with the man ... usually the man seems to not experience the same discontent after the honeymoon phase. his discontent only happens cuz his woman isnt happy ... so this proves that its up to the woman to not have sex before marriage .... cuz it mostly affects the feminine and leaves the woman very unhappy. guys let me tell u something : IF A WOMAN SEES U AS MARRIAGE MATERIAL, SHES MORE THAN HAPPY TO MAKE U WAIT FOR MARRIAGE.... IF SHE SEES U AS A PLACEHOLDER, she pretends that she just cant wait to make love to you
What?! If a woman sees a man as a placeholder.., she’s not waiting to sleep with him!.., she’s just stringing the guy along until she finds a better one. Come on!
@@hedwignl8118 his that happened to you. . . .
OMG I am just going to say some women feel these things as well. I retreat and I fear losing my freedom and I am a woman what does that say about me??!
😅😅😅😅😅😅 I thought he was Stephen Curry. On the front.😅😅😅😅😅😅
I pulled away 4 times because he kept coming back then ghosting me o told him from day one no in and out or and im not chasing u so in my situation it’s been 9 months of no meeting because he didn’t the in and out to force me to chase him so that means I give it up he’s 44 so why he didn’t that to have me chase if men don’t like chase I showed him I’m out and he tried it again like ignoring me to force me to text when he knows he comes right back when I don’t but even waited two months to see if I would.
Men are more logical... U lost me there. Bye😅
Men can stay in a relationship forever even while they cheating. And if the woman can stick it out until his testosterone drops off in his late 30s he will then be the man she needed. Or she can go find one that’s already in their late thirties.
Second solution is much more healthy.
I don’t feel this is a men - women dynamic.. I know more women who feel and act like how men were described. Guess Dutch women are a bit more masculine 😅
Sir you’re asking too much from modern men….. you got me at “ a masculine man will” ……….
Find me a masculine men in todays market then this podcast will be beneficial to me
It’s sad & egotistical how men think they are the only ones who care about a sense of freedom! How about assuming the other person values what they’ve created in their life as well & have a mutual discussion on how to best navigate that together. Seriously, we’re not going to sit around worshipping them all day & drop the magic we already have in our lives.
TATE SYNDROME...... All mantrums....