The key in my opinion and experience in Conscious parenting is as she says is the awakening in yourself as the parent, because Children emulate behavior and energy and frequency. When establishing the principles you want your child to exemplify be that. Forcing children through manipulation and emotional abuse is what breeds the problems. The better we become with ourselves the better we are with everyone else. The cultivation of our internal garden will reflect the external.
And aroudn 9 to 10: yes she is so right, without becomign pathetic, as she jokes, I have indeed explained to my daugthers or son how I had been raised and also told them that peopel reproduce patterns and I frankly say I'm sorry and promise to try, and so yes they feel better and yes, even if we fall into it once more, I realise with time I am getting better, so I am so glad I have happened upon this wonderful, honest psychologist! Bravo for her sincerity.
I do recognise 7.35 to 8. and am glad to say that though i still have to fight against myself, i have been doign my best to be honest with myself and am thankful I got there by questioning. It does not mean i do nto ask them to do their homework or not ask to help with the dishes, but i no longer ( I slip sometimes) threaten ot remove the mobile or yell, i try to explain and am slowly managing to get better, and i notice that we are happier, calmer, I'm actually doign myself good. SOOO true. I hsall buy her book asap!
I am so worried that l am not stable with my emotions and attitudes and that would confuse them,l have terrible mood swings which l need to be conscious about
Because you just listed your "shadows' (as Dr. Shefali called them in this video or another video I've seen), you just showed that you know what they are, you already are aware of them. next step would be recognizing them at the very moment you experience them. then give yourself 5 or 10 seconds to calm yourself down before you just snap and react. That's what Dr. Shefali says in the video. give yourself time to calm down eventho the situation is heated.
@@1983bs l am working on it ever since, l am not over it yet, but improved a lot. I started meditation, zumba, and self care as l like to call it, coz l realised l need this to deal with my shadows ,keep them away from my kids. Thanks a lot for your words , l will do exactly what you said about taking a moment before l react, this helps me with my husband too.
Most of us weren't taught the life skills necessary for coping with the inevitable(yet necessary) pain of frustration, anger and inner conflict we confront daily and in our own unique way. And at 42 I realize that we humans have been conditioned to not FEEL these types of NORMAL emotions (aka...energy in motion)we ALL experience, not only that but to talk, react or show them to others was definitely a huge NO NO. Well here's a news flash to those who tell others that it's not okay to express our innate emotions... WAKE UP FOR FUCKS SAKE!! lol here's the truth sweetie, it's awesome that you are conscious and aware of your heightened emotional state, your honesty and willingness to help yourself speaks volumes of your beautiful soul!! It takes time to undo a lifetime of patterned behavior!! I'm rooting for you sister!! Spread the awareness and your story more, you will help others in the same situation!!
My Sweet Super Shines you were gone of the first Child that I reach out to you. Put to all the other Children that I have not meant you Loved you!!! Somewhere in the future I will find your and hold you and show your how much MY SUPER SUNSHINES YOUR AMAZING. SO CHILDREN RAISE YOU LIGHT AND LET IT SHINE....
I totally disagree because we as a parent need to shape and mould the children because they are not born knowing everything and it’s our job as parent to teach them because they don’t know don’t no between right and wrong
We can do that by explaining and no timposing, when the child understands why s/he will be able to make a choice , an enlightened one, not beign forced.
I don't think Dr. Shefali is advocating for anarchy in raising your child. Yes, there are moral aspects that we should teach our children as you said. I think her point is to not make it all about you when you are doing this. For example, let's say your child commits two different sins. One you never did, and one you did when you were their age. Would the way you discipline your child be different for these two sins? Subconsciously, you probably will because you can empathize with the child's motivation to commit that same sin you did.
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The key in my opinion and experience in Conscious parenting is as she says is the awakening in yourself as the parent, because Children emulate behavior and energy and frequency. When establishing the principles you want your child to exemplify be that. Forcing children through manipulation and emotional abuse is what breeds the problems. The better we become with ourselves the better we are with everyone else. The cultivation of our internal garden will reflect the external.
And aroudn 9 to 10: yes she is so right, without becomign pathetic, as she jokes, I have indeed explained to my daugthers or son how I had been raised and also told them that peopel reproduce patterns and I frankly say I'm sorry and promise to try, and so yes they feel better and yes, even if we fall into it once more, I realise with time I am getting better, so I am so glad I have happened upon this wonderful, honest psychologist! Bravo for her sincerity.
the best video of Dr Shefalis teachings ive found on youtube so far
I do recognise 7.35 to 8. and am glad to say that though i still have to fight against myself, i have been doign my best to be honest with myself and am thankful I got there by questioning. It does not mean i do nto ask them to do their homework or not ask to help with the dishes, but i no longer ( I slip sometimes) threaten ot remove the mobile or yell, i try to explain and am slowly managing to get better, and i notice that we are happier, calmer, I'm actually doign myself good. SOOO true. I hsall buy her book asap!
“React to connection.” Powerful way to transition the thought of disciplining children.
Thank you for sharing great video 😍
Amazing. Thank you so much for these videos. I recognized myself a few times.
The "as is" so powerful!
I'm glad i ran into this.
For me, the battle is accepting the chaos of allowing my child to be
So grateful for you 💜♾💜
just LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOO MUCH DR. SHEPALI TSABARY. I AM REALLY TOUCHED EMOTIONALLY BY YOUR SPEECH AND TEACHINGS. MY YOU BE BLESSED BY GOD
6:40 is gold !!
Such excellent advice and insight
So glad and grateful
I am so worried that l am not stable with my emotions and attitudes and that would confuse them,l have terrible mood swings which l need to be conscious about
Because you just listed your "shadows' (as Dr. Shefali called them in this video or another video I've seen), you just showed that you know what they are, you already are aware of them. next step would be recognizing them at the very moment you experience them. then give yourself 5 or 10 seconds to calm yourself down before you just snap and react. That's what Dr. Shefali says in the video. give yourself time to calm down eventho the situation is heated.
@@1983bs l am working on it ever since, l am not over it yet, but improved a lot. I started meditation, zumba, and self care as l like to call it, coz l realised l need this to deal with my shadows ,keep them away from my kids.
Thanks a lot for your words , l will do exactly what you said about taking a moment before l react, this helps me with my husband too.
Most of us weren't taught the life skills necessary for coping with the inevitable(yet necessary) pain of frustration, anger and inner conflict we confront daily and in our own unique way. And at 42 I realize that we humans have been conditioned to not FEEL these types of NORMAL emotions (aka...energy in motion)we ALL experience, not only that but to talk, react or show them to others was definitely a huge NO NO. Well here's a news flash to those who tell others that it's not okay to express our innate emotions... WAKE UP FOR FUCKS SAKE!! lol here's the truth sweetie, it's awesome that you are conscious and aware of your heightened emotional state, your honesty and willingness to help yourself speaks volumes of your beautiful soul!! It takes time to undo a lifetime of patterned behavior!! I'm rooting for you sister!! Spread the awareness and your story more, you will help others in the same situation!!
My Sweet Super Shines you were gone of the first Child that I reach out to you. Put to all the other Children that I have not meant you Loved you!!! Somewhere in the future I will find your and hold you and show your how much MY SUPER SUNSHINES YOUR AMAZING. SO CHILDREN RAISE YOU LIGHT AND LET IT SHINE....
I love this video, but I wonder if it's a coincidence that the movie "Problem Child 2" has suddenly appeared on my suggested purchase list on Amazon.
amazing! thank you for sharing!!
Beautiful insights thank you
I loved loved loved this conversation 👍🏽
Wonderful!!!! Part 1 and 2.......
Now we know why Dogs need to be on leash. Thanks, everyone who follow the rules.
OMG laughing so hard at 6:95 so true.🤣😆
like how you give your examples
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I totally disagree because we as a parent need to shape and mould the children because they are not born knowing everything and it’s our job as parent to teach them because they don’t know don’t no between right and wrong
We can do that by explaining and no timposing, when the child understands why s/he will be able to make a choice , an enlightened one, not beign forced.
I don't think Dr. Shefali is advocating for anarchy in raising your child. Yes, there are moral aspects that we should teach our children as you said. I think her point is to not make it all about you when you are doing this. For example, let's say your child commits two different sins. One you never did, and one you did when you were their age. Would the way you discipline your child be different for these two sins? Subconsciously, you probably will because you can empathize with the child's motivation to commit that same sin you did.
Coming from someone who doesn't have children