This is so helpful Thankyou so much! And your right! It’s all about your state! And if I’m in a calm non anxious state these questions aren’t scary at all! They’re actually exciting and make me feel curiosity, wonder and gratitude to be part of something so amazing. Shows that it’s anxiety that is the problem and not the actual topic itself 🙏🏽💗
I still struggle with what's after death. I know I can never be certain about what comes after. No one really knows. It's not like the dead can come back and tell us about it. But it's so, so scary. I know many of us are taught to believe in one pleasant (or unpleasant) version of an afterlife, but it's still a complete mystery, and the fact that I can't control it or be certain about it is terrifying. I've made long strides in feeling better overall and being more grounded, but the fear of the unknown still steers me, and I don't know what to do about it. Though I must say that your advice at 7:51 is indispensable.
Thank you for publishing this. After the dpdr onset I honestly developed some sort of existential crisis very quickly, mostly with wondering if I’m real Or if the people I love are real. Also if I have a soul or things like that. Your videos are really really helpful. Some days for me are easier while some days I can derealize pretty badly as the actual dpdr has started a decline but the questions are still here. I feel as though not being able to have the answers has made me depressed rather than liberated and I’d really like to be on that other side (finding peace with it) but it feels like I can’t have peace without knowing… though I know I probably can. Uhg it’s complicated lol but any tips for maybe an existential depression? Thank you for what you do :)!
Hello, i feel exactly the same as you… Nothing matters for me, also if i am doing anything for my love ones dont find joy in that bc - what if they are not real? But i am fighting this disorder everyday just for them:) i am sending you so much love for your journey. We are real. We are okey. Time will heal us all🤍
@@janaskopekova3477 thank you so much, it means a lot to hear something like this from someone who knows what it feels like. I wish you the best of luck in your journey and I know we will get through this ❤️
@@bella-xo8tp hello bella how are you? I made a little progress, earthing really helps me. I just go out everyday no matter how hard day is… i also change my diet, stop drinking coffe and quite nicotine… i really hope you have just good news for me and if not thats okey! We have as much time as we need right? sending you energy from Slovakia
One book I wanted to share with you: Eric Maisel - Why Smart People hurt. The approach is you self-sabotage by de-constructing goals with a "meaning-measurement", but meaning is merely a kind of experience which arrives by actions in line with our values and principles. So the pragmatic approach would be to ACT more and see what those actions bring and enjoy the moments "meaning comes onto us". It also shows how smart people tend to cope by obsessions with linguistics or spirituality and how to "find the middle".
I just want to say how you actually helping us who struggle with anxiety, thank you for doing this kinda of videos, you truly making me see the anxiety and fears from completely different perspective. ❤️
I came to the realization long ago that as humans we love knowing what’s up and when we don’t know, most of us will choose between the vast possibilities of answers whatever sounds best or most logical to us and then call it the truth. I believe that is a basic survival trait adopted from our great ancestors and unfortunately means that some of the answers we’ve accepted as true are actually false. Religious beliefs are a great example of that. The people who believe religious things, believe they’re true, and many aggressively preach their beliefs in order to pass on their beliefs to others. Some will even kill people who don’t adhere to their religious beliefs. So we’re not talking about iffy beliefs, but adamant beliefs. Being psychic, I know more truths than people who aren’t psychic. But I don’t know everything and I fully accept that as the way it is. That we are not supposed to know everything. That some things are supposed to be unknown. A mystery. So I am super comfortable in situations when I don’t know something to admit that it’s an unsolved mystery to me. As for when I know something due to psychic experiences, I am hesitant to share what I know, because those things are invisible and spiritual and most people don’t tend to accept another person’s psychic revelations as true.
Robyn I have existential OCD and my biggest struggle is Solipsism. This video really helped and I’m suppose to accept no matter what I will never have the answers to the questions my brain wants certainty on but Solipsism OCD has a come back for everything it seems, what is I’m making up all these videos etc.. do you have any advice I can’t stop crying
Hi @Courtney. I have been struggling with the same question. This video has helped me a lot! I wanted to know if you had used other techniques/thought processes to overcome it? I am finding myself stuck, and it is really hard to go through my day at the moment.
I suffered through solipsistic syndrome. I wish this disorder on no one, not even my enemies. I understand what you're going through: No matter what rebuttal you provide, solipsism comes back with an answer, and the lines remain blurry. At some point, I was doing hours' worth of philosophical and religious research every day, trying to get that "Aha" moment and find the right answer. But I couldn't. It was a fool's errand. What I finally decided to do was to be engaged in life. I wanted to divert that energy I was spending daily trying to get an answer I could never get into things I'm interested in. I read books, magazine articles. I watched videos, movies, TV series. I spent time with family. I learned how to drive. I tried to spend at least 30 minutes outside regularly, and I literally touched grass and felt the Sun on my skin. Ultimately, and slowly but surely, solipsism and DP/DR became less and less of worries. I was reading an article about Joe Biden and how he dealt with the loss of his first wife and daughter. After he grieved their deaths, he went back to working a lot. One might see it as a distraction, but the real distraction from the life that's right in front of me is trying to answer a question I could never answer.
@@alifleih hi Ali, I found your message very useful and it gives me hope. I would love to talk about it a bit further with you if you are interested. I am finding myself at the crossway of different strategies to cope with it, and am quite lost in the way forward. I have decided to continue my life as it is: working, activities, my relationship, projects, etc. Which for me is essential and helps me moving forward, but then when the thought keeps coming, I really don't know how to receive it: whether to give it time or not, to let the feeling come with it or not, to contradict it or not... it has slowly opened the path to a spiritual journey, although it seems like this also makes it worst at times... Anyway, if you'd be interested, I'd love to know a bit more about the ways you delt with it. I also understand if it is a topic you might not want to go over again. Have a good one! :)
Hi friend. I know these questions feel very scary to ask… so little is known and so much is uncertain. But may I ask you why these questions feel so important to answer? Trust me, I understand how it feels so urgent to you, but I promise that not knowing is not the end of the world. I think that questions like these feel so important to us because we feel a need for control over something we simply don’t have control over. But none of us know, really. All we have is this moment. I know it feels scary right now but I advise you to not scour the internet looking for the truth… you will not find it. My advice to you my friend is to cherish the ones you love and to find peace in what you DO know and not let what you DONT know disturb that peace. I’m struggling with it too, please know you are not alone whatsoever and I wish you the best finding what you need, as it will not necessarily be on the internet lol.
Hi friend 🙂. After a lifetime spiritual and philosophical search I would firstly say that it is valid to ask questions like the one you have . I set the standard for spiritual teachers very high so any suggestion of corrupt behaviour then I would give them a swerve . If you don't know Him you might want to check out Sri Ramana Maharshi ( plenty on TH-cam about Him ) . He expertly answered existential questions from His own experience which very closely resembled the ancient philosophy of Advaita Vedanta. There is someone on TH-cam called Michael James who expertly answers existential questions in the Light of Sri Ramana's teaching . One thing for sure is that don't accept this idea that no one knows the answers to these deep questions. They do . Best wishes to you ✌️🕉️
just a loud thought: what are the reasons behind existentialism(anxiety and depression): may be clarity explanation and the basic questions have not been answered by the religions (separation of state and church and the rise of secularism)capitalism marxism consumerism and materialism: philosophers tried their best too: but its a hard way to get the required clarity: for example Albert Camus: suicide philosophical suicide religion and emphatic no:a cup of coffee(on lighter note): then comes existencialism and Absurdity:generally the universe is silent to answer(why we are here? where we come from? where we ll end? what is this grand drama of sound and fury all about? what is the meaning of life? man is condemned to free will/freedom:it seems man is left all alone to face and live in this chaoitic fast changing cut throat inhuman competition: with survival of the fittest:man is not equipped with survival tool provided by evolution(Charles Darwin)but since long the surrounding we live in has completely and drastically been changed: we are no more by surrounded by trees caves animals and survival threats:so man is left to find answers on its own: with no guidance from no where: now should we turn into meditation..? "life is a tale told by an idiot full of sound and fury signifying nothing"(Shakespeare Macbeth)..."where but to think is to be full of sorrow"(John Keats)..."Alas I have no hope nor health, Nor peace within nor calm around,Not that content surpassing wealth, The sage in meditation found,And walked with inward glory crowned---Nor fame, nor power, not love, nor leisure.Others I see whom these surround---Smiling they live, and call life pleasure;To me that cup has been dealt in another measure.(P.B.Shelley)
Does anyone think that everything is just ur imagination and if ur imagination get gone u were seeing nothing but dark and talking to dark and living in dark its very scary too i was feeling the world is fake and everything is game but this new thought is more scarier than the old thought can u help me pls 😢
Could questioning whether others are being sincere be part of DPDR? Is it the same as what you meant by questioning if others are real?.. I do recognize the negative thoughtpattern when questioning about the sincerity of others.. especially when I think about it afterwards, which has no usecase what so ever because instant mutuality in the moment of contact itself is the only and best way to experience or change the dynamic of the relation.
Dit moest ik echt even horen. Ik heb over 1,5 week eindexamen en denk constant bij mezelf dat ik ga falen of zal flauwvallen van angst wanneer ik in die zaal zit. Heb je nog een paar korte tips voor deze angsten?
De angst niet zien als een monster maar als een klein bang kindje in jou. In plaats van bang te zijn voor de angst en er tegen te vechten als het naar boven komt, probeer je het te troosten en er net zacht voor te zijn. Je kan zeggen: dank je lieve schat, ik weet dat je me probeert te beschermen, maar het is oké, er is geen gevaar en ik zal voor jou zorgen. Je mag naast me zijn maar ik blijf achter het stuur zitten. Heel veel succes!
Who knew asking “why?”long enough would give me a breakdown. Thanks a ton for your videos thought not many people thought about this
This is so helpful Thankyou so much! And your right! It’s all about your state! And if I’m in a calm non anxious state these questions aren’t scary at all! They’re actually exciting and make me feel curiosity, wonder and gratitude to be part of something so amazing. Shows that it’s anxiety that is the problem and not the actual topic itself 🙏🏽💗
I still struggle with what's after death. I know I can never be certain about what comes after. No one really knows. It's not like the dead can come back and tell us about it. But it's so, so scary. I know many of us are taught to believe in one pleasant (or unpleasant) version of an afterlife, but it's still a complete mystery, and the fact that I can't control it or be certain about it is terrifying. I've made long strides in feeling better overall and being more grounded, but the fear of the unknown still steers me, and I don't know what to do about it. Though I must say that your advice at 7:51 is indispensable.
Thank you for publishing this. After the dpdr onset I honestly developed some sort of existential crisis very quickly, mostly with wondering if I’m real
Or if the people I love are real. Also if I have a soul or things like that. Your videos are really really helpful. Some days for me are easier while some days I can derealize pretty badly as the actual dpdr has started a decline but the questions are still here. I feel as though not being able to have the answers has made me depressed rather than liberated and I’d really like to be on that other side (finding peace with it) but it feels like I can’t have peace without knowing… though I know I probably can. Uhg it’s complicated lol but any tips for maybe an existential depression? Thank you for what you do :)!
Hello, i feel exactly the same as you… Nothing matters for me, also if i am doing anything for my love ones dont find joy in that bc - what if they are not real? But i am fighting this disorder everyday just for them:) i am sending you so much love for your journey. We are real. We are okey. Time will heal us all🤍
@@janaskopekova3477 thank you so much, it means a lot to hear something like this from someone who knows what it feels like. I wish you the best of luck in your journey and I know we will get through this ❤️
@@bella-xo8tp hello bella how are you? I made a little progress, earthing really helps me. I just go out everyday no matter how hard day is… i also change my diet, stop drinking coffe and quite nicotine… i really hope you have just good news for me and if not thats okey! We have as much time as we need right? sending you energy from Slovakia
Hi Jana, have you fully recovered?
@@janaskopekova3477 Ahoj Jana, how are you? Have you recovered yet?
One book I wanted to share with you: Eric Maisel - Why Smart People hurt. The approach is you self-sabotage by de-constructing goals with a "meaning-measurement", but meaning is merely a kind of experience which arrives by actions in line with our values and principles. So the pragmatic approach would be to ACT more and see what those actions bring and enjoy the moments "meaning comes onto us". It also shows how smart people tend to cope by obsessions with linguistics or spirituality and how to "find the middle".
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I just want to say how you actually helping us who struggle with anxiety, thank you for doing this kinda of videos, you truly making me see the anxiety and fears from completely different perspective. ❤️
That is so sweet Joseph. Thank you a lot for this, really! Hope you feel better soon ❤️
You have no idea how much this helped me. I thought I was going crazy , I am so relieved that I found your channel !❤️
why am i me, observing the world from my eyes-
THIS
Thank you this is so helpful!
can you please help me i just can’t imagine my parents not living forever with me it makes me so sad
I think there is no answer to this
I came to the realization long ago that as humans we love knowing what’s up and when we don’t know, most of us will choose between the vast possibilities of answers whatever sounds best or most logical to us and then call it the truth. I believe that is a basic survival trait adopted from our great ancestors and unfortunately means that some of the answers we’ve accepted as true are actually false.
Religious beliefs are a great example of that. The people who believe religious things, believe they’re true, and many aggressively preach their beliefs in order to pass on their beliefs to others. Some will even kill people who don’t adhere to their religious beliefs. So we’re not talking about iffy beliefs, but adamant beliefs.
Being psychic, I know more truths than people who aren’t psychic. But I don’t know everything and I fully accept that as the way it is. That we are not supposed to know everything. That some things are supposed to be unknown. A mystery.
So I am super comfortable in situations when I don’t know something to admit that it’s an unsolved mystery to me. As for when I know something due to psychic experiences, I am hesitant to share what I know, because those things are invisible and spiritual and most people don’t tend to accept another person’s psychic revelations as true.
Robyn I have existential OCD and my biggest struggle is Solipsism. This video really helped and I’m suppose to accept no matter what I will never have the answers to the questions my brain wants certainty on but Solipsism OCD has a come back for everything it seems, what is I’m making up all these videos etc.. do you have any advice I can’t stop crying
Hi Courtney! Check out my latest video. I did it about Solipsism :)
Hi @Courtney. I have been struggling with the same question. This video has helped me a lot! I wanted to know if you had used other techniques/thought processes to overcome it? I am finding myself stuck, and it is really hard to go through my day at the moment.
I suffered through solipsistic syndrome. I wish this disorder on no one, not even my enemies. I understand what you're going through: No matter what rebuttal you provide, solipsism comes back with an answer, and the lines remain blurry. At some point, I was doing hours' worth of philosophical and religious research every day, trying to get that "Aha" moment and find the right answer. But I couldn't. It was a fool's errand. What I finally decided to do was to be engaged in life. I wanted to divert that energy I was spending daily trying to get an answer I could never get into things I'm interested in. I read books, magazine articles. I watched videos, movies, TV series. I spent time with family. I learned how to drive. I tried to spend at least 30 minutes outside regularly, and I literally touched grass and felt the Sun on my skin. Ultimately, and slowly but surely, solipsism and DP/DR became less and less of worries. I was reading an article about Joe Biden and how he dealt with the loss of his first wife and daughter. After he grieved their deaths, he went back to working a lot. One might see it as a distraction, but the real distraction from the life that's right in front of me is trying to answer a question I could never answer.
@@alifleih hi Ali, I found your message very useful and it gives me hope. I would love to talk about it a bit further with you if you are interested. I am finding myself at the crossway of different strategies to cope with it, and am quite lost in the way forward. I have decided to continue my life as it is: working, activities, my relationship, projects, etc. Which for me is essential and helps me moving forward, but then when the thought keeps coming, I really don't know how to receive it: whether to give it time or not, to let the feeling come with it or not, to contradict it or not... it has slowly opened the path to a spiritual journey, although it seems like this also makes it worst at times... Anyway, if you'd be interested, I'd love to know a bit more about the ways you delt with it. I also understand if it is a topic you might not want to go over again. Have a good one! :)
Thank you! It helped a lot.
can you please help i question what happened before i was born?
Hi friend. I know these questions feel very scary to ask… so little is known and so much is uncertain. But may I ask you why these questions feel so important to answer? Trust me, I understand how it feels so urgent to you, but I promise that not knowing is not the end of the world. I think that questions like these feel so important to us because we feel a need for control over something we simply don’t have control over. But none of us know, really. All we have is this moment. I know it feels scary right now but I advise you to not scour the internet looking for the truth… you will not find it. My advice to you my friend is to cherish the ones you love and to find peace in what you DO know and not let what you DONT know disturb that peace. I’m struggling with it too, please know you are not alone whatsoever and I wish you the best finding what you need, as it will not necessarily be on the internet lol.
@@bella-xo8tp Thank you so much Bella you are a great human being keep it up!
@@bella-xo8tp I appreciate you
Hi friend 🙂. After a lifetime spiritual and philosophical search I would firstly say that it is valid to ask questions like the one you have .
I set the standard for spiritual teachers very high so any suggestion of corrupt behaviour then I would give them a swerve .
If you don't know Him you might want to check out Sri Ramana Maharshi ( plenty on TH-cam about Him ) . He expertly answered existential questions from His own experience which very closely resembled the ancient philosophy of Advaita Vedanta.
There is someone on TH-cam called Michael James who expertly answers existential questions in the Light of Sri Ramana's teaching .
One thing for sure is that don't accept this idea that no one knows the answers to these deep questions. They do . Best wishes to you ✌️🕉️
I have a question. How do I frame my thoughts around not understanding how my brain thinks and has thoughts?
thanks. this helps a lot
Is anyone here whos thinking about enlightment or stuff Like that ?
Great video needed this today
You're welcome!
just a loud thought: what are the reasons behind existentialism(anxiety and depression): may be clarity explanation and the basic questions have not been answered by the religions (separation of state and church and the rise of secularism)capitalism marxism consumerism and materialism: philosophers tried their best too: but its a hard way to get the required clarity: for example Albert Camus: suicide philosophical suicide religion and emphatic no:a cup of coffee(on lighter note): then comes existencialism and Absurdity:generally the universe is silent to answer(why we are here? where we come from? where we ll end? what is this grand drama of sound and fury all about? what is the meaning of life? man is condemned to free will/freedom:it seems man is left all alone to face and live in this chaoitic fast changing cut throat inhuman competition: with survival of the fittest:man is not equipped with survival tool provided by evolution(Charles Darwin)but since long the surrounding we live in has completely and drastically been changed: we are no more by surrounded by trees caves animals and survival threats:so man is left to find answers on its own: with no guidance from no where: now should we turn into meditation..? "life is a tale told by an idiot full of sound and fury signifying nothing"(Shakespeare Macbeth)..."where but to think is to be full of sorrow"(John Keats)..."Alas I have no hope nor health, Nor peace within nor calm around,Not that content surpassing wealth, The sage in meditation found,And walked with inward glory crowned---Nor fame, nor power, not love, nor leisure.Others I see whom these surround---Smiling they live, and call life pleasure;To me that cup has been dealt in another measure.(P.B.Shelley)
Does anyone think that everything is just ur imagination and if ur imagination get gone u were seeing nothing but dark and talking to dark and living in dark its very scary too i was feeling the world is fake and everything is game but this new thought is more scarier than the old thought can u help me pls 😢
Please help me 😭
Could questioning whether others are being sincere be part of DPDR? Is it the same as what you meant by questioning if others are real?.. I do recognize the negative thoughtpattern when questioning about the sincerity of others.. especially when I think about it afterwards, which has no usecase what so ever because instant mutuality in the moment of contact itself is the only and best way to experience or change the dynamic of the relation.
Dit moest ik echt even horen. Ik heb over 1,5 week eindexamen en denk constant bij mezelf dat ik ga falen of zal flauwvallen van angst wanneer ik in die zaal zit. Heb je nog een paar korte tips voor deze angsten?
De angst niet zien als een monster maar als een klein bang kindje in jou. In plaats van bang te zijn voor de angst en er tegen te vechten als het naar boven komt, probeer je het te troosten en er net zacht voor te zijn. Je kan zeggen: dank je lieve schat, ik weet dat je me probeert te beschermen, maar het is oké, er is geen gevaar en ik zal voor jou zorgen. Je mag naast me zijn maar ik blijf achter het stuur zitten.
Heel veel succes!
@@robinschindelka2117 heel erg bedankt! Dit zal zeker helpen :)
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