I’m here to learn how to reparent myself. I’ve always been a bit shy, but it was the most intense when I was a toddler. I’ve been dealing with toxic shame, guilt, fear, a victim mentality, and several narcissistic traits for the past 15 years. Thank you for your insight ❤
I am 28years old and extremely shy here in US unfortunately. I am not American and I have poor English which is the reason of me being too shy and unsocial.. for almost 8years with no friends here and my daughter is growing shy just like me 😢 Very frustrating and I feel stuck
My 4year old son is super shy, like super super shy, even at school he doesn't even have friends, he can read, he can spell, he knows all the flags of the world, knows the entire human skeleton borns and organs and what they do, all he wants to do is just study, he hates being taught so he simply doesn't take instructions at school which makes him seem like he doesn't understand the work he does, i don't know what to do with him, even when you ask him ehat5he studied, he can tell you before bed time literally telling me about the phases of the moon and explaining each one of them in detail. He had/has speech delay so his finding his words and his turning 5,he only speaks English because books are written in English, while we africans so English is like 4th - 6th language to most of us, so his often belittled or bullied by kids even adults about not knowing how to speak his language, i had learnt months later from him when he told me his teacher would literally push him, shouts shut up at him! Because of the language he speaks. My son got more withdrawn, i had taken him to a new school where all kids speak English, his still trying to find his place in the new school with new teachers, the old school had traumatized him, the little friendliness he had in him has been literally been ripped out of him, so i just need to find something to make his less shy
Hi I feel that you explained the situation of my son, my son speak our won language and English and french everything about earth and galaxy he knows he is execellent in math but he has just on friend he doesn’t talk in the class he doesn’t show his homework not even eat good at school and he is tell shy to talk loud 😢 I don’t know what to do with him.
You should watch sensitive. It’s like a fawn stress response. Many people are aggressive or leave fight or flight, but highly sensitive people usually freeze or fawn. It’s not a manipulative choice As you kinda say it is.
My son is so shy he knows his things but when he goes to nursery he don’t speak in fs1 the teacher was amazing last year after sometime he started talking and more confident this. Year unfortunately I don’t see that much care or effort this evening he told me one of the assistant asked. Him to write on the board he refused he wanted to draw car so she told him don’t come tomorrow to school I feel very disappointed and. I can’t believe. This. Happening he is smart boy but it take him time to adjust
I'm sorry you're going through that! It sounds like his teacher needs to be pre-taught about his adjustment needs and, if they don't respect them, then other action needs to be taken. I can't give super detailed advice on the information I have here, but I'd love to hear more about it on my weekly Support Group calls! I can go into more detail and give more specific advice there. Here's a link with more information on that: teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/ I hope that helps!
I had the same problem with my son today the first day of visit she just explained me the negative point of shynesses of my son and she was not looking professional finally I decided to make a complaint on her cause it’s not the way to judge kids at school like this
My daughter is really shy.she is really bright and intelligent.very active and expreesive at home...but with strangers finds difficult to interact
I’m here to learn how to reparent myself. I’ve always been a bit shy, but it was the most intense when I was a toddler. I’ve been dealing with toxic shame, guilt, fear, a victim mentality, and several narcissistic traits for the past 15 years. Thank you for your insight ❤
I am 28years old and extremely shy here in US unfortunately. I am not American and I have poor English which is the reason of me being too shy and unsocial.. for almost 8years with no friends here and my daughter is growing shy just like me 😢
Very frustrating and I feel stuck
Oooh, good tip- shyness as a mechanism of control. Of course, I knew this but needed to hear it again. Thanks! 💛
You're so welcome!
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I can't tell if this is sarcasm or genuine
@@TeachingSelfGovernment THANK YOU FOR THE LINK
Not me watching this as a kid because I’m too shy at class
Same I have no friends
My 4year old son is super shy, like super super shy, even at school he doesn't even have friends, he can read, he can spell, he knows all the flags of the world, knows the entire human skeleton borns and organs and what they do, all he wants to do is just study, he hates being taught so he simply doesn't take instructions at school which makes him seem like he doesn't understand the work he does, i don't know what to do with him, even when you ask him ehat5he studied, he can tell you before bed time literally telling me about the phases of the moon and explaining each one of them in detail. He had/has speech delay so his finding his words and his turning 5,he only speaks English because books are written in English, while we africans so English is like 4th - 6th language to most of us, so his often belittled or bullied by kids even adults about not knowing how to speak his language, i had learnt months later from him when he told me his teacher would literally push him, shouts shut up at him! Because of the language he speaks. My son got more withdrawn, i had taken him to a new school where all kids speak English, his still trying to find his place in the new school with new teachers, the old school had traumatized him, the little friendliness he had in him has been literally been ripped out of him, so i just need to find something to make his less shy
Looks like you have very special talented boy. Just don't let him think something is wrong with him. Sounds like he's amazing.
Hi I feel that you explained the situation of my son, my son speak our won language and English and french everything about earth and galaxy he knows he is execellent in math but he has just on friend he doesn’t talk in the class he doesn’t show his homework not even eat good at school and he is tell shy to talk loud 😢 I don’t know what to do with him.
You made me feel better about my technique. I am doing a good job. 😊
Thank you
Yes, you are! I'm glad your self-analysis helped you find ways to praise yourself. You've got this!
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You should watch sensitive. It’s like a fawn stress response. Many people are aggressive or leave fight or flight, but highly sensitive people usually freeze or fawn. It’s not a manipulative choice As you kinda say it is.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Great information!
Glad it was helpful!
My son is so shy he knows his things but when he goes to nursery he don’t speak in fs1 the teacher was amazing last year after sometime he started talking and more confident this. Year unfortunately I don’t see that much care or effort this evening he told me one of the assistant asked. Him to write on the board he refused he wanted to draw car so she told him don’t come tomorrow to school I feel very disappointed and. I can’t believe. This. Happening he is smart boy but it take him time to adjust
I'm sorry you're going through that! It sounds like his teacher needs to be pre-taught about his adjustment needs and, if they don't respect them, then other action needs to be taken. I can't give super detailed advice on the information I have here, but I'd love to hear more about it on my weekly Support Group calls! I can go into more detail and give more specific advice there. Here's a link with more information on that: teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope that helps!
I had the same problem with my son today the first day of visit she just explained me the negative point of shynesses of my son and she was not looking professional finally I decided to make a complaint on her cause it’s not the way to judge kids at school like this
Really useful video... Also the best presentation of yours..... Keep going ❣️
thank you, this is very informative video❤️❤️❤️
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Hi i really am happy i found your video. I need your assistance how can i contact you
I'm glad they're helpful for you! The best way to contact me by emailing support@teachingselfgovernment.com