People Read the Last Text From Their Ex

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  • @jubilee
    @jubilee  ปีที่แล้ว +199

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    • @eawkha
      @eawkha 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      kewl

  • @msluvlf
    @msluvlf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36971

    "I just don't understand why someone's learning experience has to come at the expense of traumatizing others" 🥺

    • @dantdt4693
      @dantdt4693 2 ปีที่แล้ว +713

      It’s a sad truth

    • @xsenpai5179
      @xsenpai5179 2 ปีที่แล้ว +121

      I’m happy it happened. I genuinely smiled.

    • @roxysvanempel
      @roxysvanempel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +541

      That comment truly broke my heart, i hope she's doing better today

    • @Red-ju4mi
      @Red-ju4mi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Why she have his txt n not block him

    • @seri4837
      @seri4837 2 ปีที่แล้ว +459

      @@xsenpai5179 "omg look at me and my comment I'm so EdgY and dIfferEnt 🤪"

  • @emorysbackyard
    @emorysbackyard 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22658

    it amazes me how quickly someone you love so dearly can be someone you never want to see again

    • @checkmate7065
      @checkmate7065 2 ปีที่แล้ว +445

      It's because you love them so much that their treason hurts so bad. And seeing/talking to them keeps the wound open and bleeding

    • @skellygirl100
      @skellygirl100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      and how quickly they do a 360

    • @RetroBasementGamingAnime
      @RetroBasementGamingAnime 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      I still talk to my ex. There is no blood between us that bad. I believe sometimes it depends on the maturity level, etc.

    • @andreachung396
      @andreachung396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      the person you love the most can hurt you the most.

    • @JM-kr3sy
      @JM-kr3sy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Going thru this now after 8 yrs and my 1st relationship

  • @SousChefSanji
    @SousChefSanji 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13600

    “Oh you’re just my girlfriend, not my best friend, she’s my best friend.” My stomach would’ve dropped after hearing that. Poor girl :(

    • @frenchgirl5878
      @frenchgirl5878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +927

      It’s the “just” for me. The guy was clearly with her out of comfort and not love. It’s clear which relationship he treasured more, and who he would choose if he had to.

    • @Nepthu
      @Nepthu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +320

      I know a guy who commonly tells his current wife that the kids from his first marriage are first in his life. I understand that may be true but why say it, especially more than once. I've always felt his wife is accepting scraps when she deserves a feast.

    • @rebecaprat712
      @rebecaprat712 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Its true your boyfriend or girlfriend wife or husban is not your friend is just your other half but its not your friend, with your friends you talk about your partner.

    • @tvtitlechampion3238
      @tvtitlechampion3238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +286

      @@rebecaprat712 "your other half" should be your friend, too. Pretty damn sad if they're not.

    • @rebecaprat712
      @rebecaprat712 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@tvtitlechampion3238 Agree to disagree, you dont whant to have intimate relacionships with your friends you do it with your partner and the way you speek to your friends is different to someone you love. Your partner is not your friend.

  • @AkatsukiFlame3
    @AkatsukiFlame3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11936

    The worst thing about betrayal is that it doesn't come from the enemy -Obi Wan Kenobi

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will enjoy💗💗💗

    • @epicaunleashed8764
      @epicaunleashed8764 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      And they just had to make a horrible spinoff from this great character

    • @cecdacheat6983
      @cecdacheat6983 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      yeah because a enemy possible can't betray lmfaoo bad example

    • @-VAJRA-
      @-VAJRA- 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      How will an enemy betray you? 😂
      Nobody trusts an enemy so the question of betrayal doesn’t even arise

    • @xxcryssmarie224
      @xxcryssmarie224 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @@cecdacheat6983 the quote is deep and you obviously just don’t have the mental capacity to really understand it .

  • @indianaembroidery5788
    @indianaembroidery5788 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9749

    My long distance bf passed away during a surgery. His last text was "I love you, please move on. I might not make it. Don't cry" I still miss him a lot, he was like the male version of me, such a nice and loving person. Our conversations still replay in my mind. I hope his soul rests in peace🙏🏻❤️

    • @prarthanaperera1997
      @prarthanaperera1997 2 ปีที่แล้ว +388

      I'm sorry for your loss sweetie. Sending love and prayers to you ❤️and my deepest sympathies with hopes that he's in peace 🙏💙

    • @glowshine8102
      @glowshine8102 2 ปีที่แล้ว +132

      I am so sorry for your loss sending you love ❤

    • @isibelim3764
      @isibelim3764 2 ปีที่แล้ว +87

      i am so sorry for your loss :( sending virtual hugs

    • @juneee.
      @juneee. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      So sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace ❤️

    • @teexomahamed4967
      @teexomahamed4967 2 ปีที่แล้ว +101

      Im currently in a long distance relationship and I cant imagine what youre going through. Write down all the memories you have with him and keep it with you so he’ll always be there. 💗 sending you love sweetheart.

  • @Katerina0919
    @Katerina0919 ปีที่แล้ว +2481

    I legit freaked out when Ivie's ex was parked outside her house after somehow finding out she started dating again, like, wtf. I hope that psycho never troubles her again. She sounds so hurt and scared 😥

    • @BristolBerg
      @BristolBerg ปีที่แล้ว

      She is clearly acting and gullible ho’s will eat it up… “ believe her “ 😩

    • @Gianni.chellini
      @Gianni.chellini ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yup 👍 that sucks as well

    • @paniiiniii1484
      @paniiiniii1484 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I’m going through this as of today. Do you know how I can deal with this? How I can stay safe since he was physically abusive towards me?

    • @taserrr
      @taserrr ปีที่แล้ว +6

      But didn't you listen to the story? She dated quickly again, a few days iirc? And he was there to pick up his stuff, after he texted her but got no response.
      Obviously we don't know the entire story, but you bet if I break up I want my stuff back.

    • @virgo_baby7777
      @virgo_baby7777 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@paniiiniii1484 tell someone you trust about it, make sure u have someone u can call in case they go to ur house or a different potentially dangerous situation. Stay safe

  • @cookie_dough_hangover
    @cookie_dough_hangover 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3957

    "His smile kind of faded". Oh, darling, you deserve a guy whose face lights up the moment he lays his eyes on you. You will find him.

    • @whimsicaltee412
      @whimsicaltee412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ❤️💯👏🏽

    • @madisonmoreland8750
      @madisonmoreland8750 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      i feel like u give very nice hugs ngl

    • @cookie_dough_hangover
      @cookie_dough_hangover ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@madisonmoreland8750 ♥️

    • @Scp--uk3ld
      @Scp--uk3ld ปีที่แล้ว +32

      But what about him, he just suppose to pretend to he happy?

    • @cookie_dough_hangover
      @cookie_dough_hangover ปีที่แล้ว +39

      @@Scp--uk3ld Of course not, but we don't know his story, I was only referring to her. She is the one who shared her story.

  • @amazingabby25
    @amazingabby25 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12103

    Ivie has me crying. That poor sweet baby

    • @dogloverj7
      @dogloverj7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +264

      Ik she deserves the world

    • @RAJohnson713
      @RAJohnson713 2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      Getting the low key crazy vibe from her. She could have blocked him but she played into it…

    • @karissal5790
      @karissal5790 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1046

      @@RAJohnson713 abusive relationships really mess with your head, like a lot. I don’t blame her at all and I don’t think anything she did could be considered crazy

    • @kamim8696
      @kamim8696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +323

      Not you victim blaming

    • @blacklivesmatter2855
      @blacklivesmatter2855 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      She could've just blocked him...

  • @ched28
    @ched28 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4623

    “Oops yeah you’re for the streets” Okay that was kinda funny ngl😭😭

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will enjoy💗💗💗

    • @ElishebaEkwunife
      @ElishebaEkwunife 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      too funny😂😭😭

    • @YuhasLol
      @YuhasLol 2 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Perfect way to end it. Mic drop. 🎤

    • @Framokamc
      @Framokamc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sorry, what is the meaning of that?

    • @omegasage777
      @omegasage777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Framokamc It means someone is promiscuous and not loyal to one person in a relationship...for the streets = alluding to prostitutes who work the streets lol

  • @kassandria3964
    @kassandria3964 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6554

    That last ex situation tho
    I died when he said you’re for the streets
    😂 💀

    • @xTymezz
      @xTymezz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      Is he Female to male?

    • @unitymuzik7110
      @unitymuzik7110 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      @@xTymezz yo! Exact question I was meaning to ask, just didn’t want to come off rude.

    • @vloggingwthesmiths257
      @vloggingwthesmiths257 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ItzMalick love your dorm storytime

    • @alan82777
      @alan82777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@vloggingwthesmiths257 lol haha

    • @vloggingwthesmiths257
      @vloggingwthesmiths257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@alan82777 ☺️☺️

  • @lucwijngaard8413
    @lucwijngaard8413 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6682

    It's actually crazy to see people's reactions and emotions about texts, also shows how something can be interpreted in multiple ways

    • @ieatpercs
      @ieatpercs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Meanwhile I text lol w a straight face 😐😂

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will enjoy💗💗💗

    • @omgitsaari4908
      @omgitsaari4908 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ieatpercs 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @Coco-chrispy
      @Coco-chrispy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ieatpercs😂😂😂😂😂

  • @renia1833
    @renia1833 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1909

    Wait, how did he get mad at Ivie for going on a date when he cheated while they were in a relationship 🤦🏾‍♀️ Make it make sense. I hope she gets better. Hopefully he stays out of her life

    • @leahyeahnah6866
      @leahyeahnah6866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Narcissists are like that...

    • @riyaray1006
      @riyaray1006 2 ปีที่แล้ว +111

      That's the trait of a toxic person
      She has been traumatized n 😭 from the pain n agony he has brought
      Emotionally damaging her.
      And first she needs to lover herself go on trips n relieve that trauma n heal herself

    • @SimonPetrikov12
      @SimonPetrikov12 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Rules for thee and not for me

    • @Khritter
      @Khritter ปีที่แล้ว +14

      projection be like

    • @dhimankalita1690
      @dhimankalita1690 ปีที่แล้ว

      She deserved it

  • @chucklima4763
    @chucklima4763 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1922

    the girl is cheating on deserves much better I'm glad she's moving on with her life

    • @miami7446
      @miami7446 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      She's so pretty and attractive too. Wish her well.

    • @nayantarasamtani6746
      @nayantarasamtani6746 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      who's the girl that got cheated on ?

    • @Firemarioflower
      @Firemarioflower 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nayantarasamtani6746 The Asian girl with white clothes

  • @cayleesampson7364
    @cayleesampson7364 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1420

    “As like time went on his smile kinda faded” Felt that like no other

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will enjoy💗💗💗

    • @tasbeetzainab2011
      @tasbeetzainab2011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      He was with me but he wasn't happy,,,,,, tears you off

    • @AmicieO
      @AmicieO 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yup..

    • @azarielmartinez9770
      @azarielmartinez9770 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Been there too homie 🥲🫡💪🤣🤣

  • @samriddhibarnwal2058
    @samriddhibarnwal2058 2 ปีที่แล้ว +354

    The worst part of loving someone is that you just cannot unlove them after breaking up. There is always a part of you who feels empty and dead

    • @marianafernandez1789
      @marianafernandez1789 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      There’s this eternal grief for the future that could’ve been, but never will be

  • @ReidGarwin
    @ReidGarwin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3031

    I want to hug every single one of these people

    • @m051f
      @m051f 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Eww…Pervert.

    • @COSun25
      @COSun25 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same here.

    • @muhahaha9680
      @muhahaha9680 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      you a phreak.

    • @jnnkmm
      @jnnkmm ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Call me mean but i don’t care for the first one. That’s what happens when you get into an open relationship. What d I she expecting??

    • @hell_inn0258
      @hell_inn0258 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@jnnkmmliterally 💀💀 like ppl in open relationships will always do what they want bc at the end of the day, the other person will know that they’re going to stay there

  • @billnyewashere
    @billnyewashere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4272

    Hold on, a job asked about relationship status in an interview and asked for a background check from an ex? Is that not incredibly inappropriate and potentially illegal

    • @camri.taylor
      @camri.taylor 2 ปีที่แล้ว +646

      Depends on the job. Jobs that have certain type of security clearance, like a government jobs, do that for background checks. The guy I’m currently seeing had a background check done and he had to give me a heads up that I might be contacted to ask about him. But like a regular office job or retail job would not and should not be doing that.

    • @DOPEdwarf
      @DOPEdwarf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +349

      Government. Also, if when you are trying to pass the bar exam they have a background check that includes things like past relationships

    • @someonesly1991
      @someonesly1991 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Yeah i thought that was illegal too..

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will enjoy💗💗💗

    • @thekidd7
      @thekidd7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      I was thinking the same thing.
      What if you never had a serious relationship? Could you miss out on a job based on that? What if you’re single/celibate by choice?
      What if you were abused? What if you’re ex is malicious and vindictive through no fault of your own?
      What if you lie and just have a close friend make you sound like a hero?
      Sooo many things wrong with that. I’d be offended if anyone ever asked me that nonsense. Or find a way to give the person their mother’s number.

  • @coldfries8976
    @coldfries8976 2 ปีที่แล้ว +629

    Crazy how they keep their messages. I always have to cut off and delete everything to overcome. It's tough to love somebody one day and then completely enstrange from them the next day.

    • @natalierachellouisesantana
      @natalierachellouisesantana 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same 🤍

    • @kiaj.d.5855
      @kiaj.d.5855 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      I delete texts regularly. I like to start fresh monthly lol I definitely am not keeping hurtful messages though.

    • @danifranc7011
      @danifranc7011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Evidence and reciepts lol

    • @aquapr901
      @aquapr901 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same

    • @Ljounieh
      @Ljounieh ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too

  • @kat213
    @kat213 ปีที่แล้ว +358

    The pain in ivie’s voice 😢

    • @TwistedLyfofTV
      @TwistedLyfofTV ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Girllllllllll her story got me triggered.

  • @mateobanda6808
    @mateobanda6808 2 ปีที่แล้ว +662

    The last text from my cheating ex reads: "I Love You". The irony is prevalent.

    • @jomangeee9180
      @jomangeee9180 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Where is the irony?

    • @emmabunch-benson4795
      @emmabunch-benson4795 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      @@jomangeee9180 it’s hard to say you can ‘love’ someone whilst cheating on them. You don’t even have basic respect or human decency, let alone love.

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will enjoy💗💗💗

    • @tater82
      @tater82 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      @@ItzMalick enough with the spam. You definitely won’t get followers that way.

    • @lilnotmaster6094
      @lilnotmaster6094 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@emmabunch-benson4795 Well that's the difference between guys n girls. A guy can cheat and STILL BE MADLY in love willing to fix his mistake. When a girl cheats.. Its game over. She don't love you. She got options

  • @phishdough
    @phishdough 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2371

    I’ve finally entered my first real relationship and it’s going really well, she’s great. But every once in a while I remember the fact that it could all end at anytime, for basically any reason. Only recently have I made peace with this fact. Still sucks though.

    • @mml1677
      @mml1677 2 ปีที่แล้ว +469

      The more u think of it’s ending, the less you enjoy the ride
      I dont wanna sound like a grandpa but this is actually what I believe in, so just enjoy and take ur time with the relationship rather than giving urself a hard time
      Take care

    • @Alexcutspie
      @Alexcutspie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Chris and Mml are my brain cells

    • @meltedkinderjoy479
      @meltedkinderjoy479 2 ปีที่แล้ว +108

      No no don’t think of the end at all. If it comes; which I hope it doesn’t, deal with it then. You’ll be fine. Future you problem.

    • @emmabunch-benson4795
      @emmabunch-benson4795 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Idk I feel like when you truly know & trust someone it’s not true, you don’t question it or worry about it ending at any moment. People’s morals (or lack There of ) don’t change overnight. Unless there’s red flags & you don’t know the person well or unless there’s signs, no reason to assume any end.

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will enjoy💗💗💗

  • @KingKobra49
    @KingKobra49 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1469

    There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go. Keep moving…🙏🏽

    • @sososanchez3512
      @sososanchez3512 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes..
      Well Said.

    • @DenGirl12
      @DenGirl12 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ❤️❤️

    • @ronn5650
      @ronn5650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      JJ from Criminal Minds ate with that one.

    • @KingKobra49
      @KingKobra49 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sososanchez3512 💯

    • @KingKobra49
      @KingKobra49 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DenGirl12 ❤️‍🔥

  • @helbergalinda9141
    @helbergalinda9141 2 ปีที่แล้ว +980

    Why can’t relationships be like the movies where at the end everything is fine? It sucks to become a stranger to someone who you thought would be there through thick and thin. And it sucks even more to feel sad and mad, all at the same time. I still miss and love my ex.

    • @Savyflores
      @Savyflores 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Honestly this is why I appreciate movies and shows that represent more realistic relationships, because the fairytale ending can give people such unreasonable expectations.
      Everyone needs to be willing to put in work to maintain their relationship, and even then, it’s not always going to work out

    • @darryldavis6063
      @darryldavis6063 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Especially what the first guy talked about. He still feels hopeful. The movies and shows are what we wish reality could be.

    • @pessimistkai5569
      @pessimistkai5569 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The thing is....everyone wants what's best for them. If you buy a new phone after a while you will be attracted to the new release again(if you are capable).
      So somewhere, taking the risk, and going for a better option is what people decide to do.
      And that's it. I have rarely seen in-depth relationships. Maybe bond like the teens in the fault in our stars where they know, they can't get better and have gratitude for what they get.

    • @tvtitlechampion3238
      @tvtitlechampion3238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@pessimistkai5569 it's easier to love like there's no tomorrow when there is no 'tomorrow'. Life goes on, and on, and sometimes outlasts that 'forever' feeling. It's easy to love when it just gushes out of you. It gets tricky when that well runs dry, and you can't reproduce that feeling organically. Hopefully, you'll find someone that encourages a renewal repeatedly.

    • @praxym9293
      @praxym9293 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Because life is not a movie

  • @rosesforviolets
    @rosesforviolets ปีที่แล้ว +137

    my heart dropped after hearing Ivie's experience. nobody should ever suffer mental and physical abuse at the hands of someone they once thought cared about them. and the fact that he cheated, too. so sad. :( i hope she's feeling better

    • @chenzhu9308
      @chenzhu9308 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      agreed. not only he cheated and he threatened/abused her with all his behaviors. what a trashy guy.

  • @melsyoutube
    @melsyoutube ปีที่แล้ว +178

    “i don’t understand why someone’s learning experience has to come at the expense of traumatizing others” 😪😪😪 that broke my heart. i hope she moves onto better days 💕

  • @HeyLookItsThatGuy
    @HeyLookItsThatGuy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +227

    “You’re just my girlfriend not my best friend” is crazyyyyy 😭😭

  • @queenmia1965
    @queenmia1965 2 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    5:02 “I feel like I really just gave up a part of my heart, to someone that really wasn’t ready to receive it.” 😔

  • @shabee960
    @shabee960 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1024

    Watching this 7 years deep in a marriage. We’ve been together 15 years. Gonna hug him extra today for being my forever partner. I hope everyone finds theirs too 😢

    • @randomnordmann4020
      @randomnordmann4020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      And then you suddenly want to "find yourself" and proceed to dump him. Next year maybe?

    • @omegasage777
      @omegasage777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +266

      @@randomnordmann4020 Stop projecting and seek therapy

    • @zayxoxo
      @zayxoxo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +114

      @@randomnordmann4020 what’s wrong with you heal your trauma

    • @aparna2701
      @aparna2701 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      @@randomnordmann4020 oh that’s exactly what your partner did to you wasn’t it…if you wanna insult at least try to cover up your insecurities 😂😂😂

    • @ferrypanda
      @ferrypanda 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@randomnordmann4020 Damn who hurt you dude

  • @candykizz3z68
    @candykizz3z68 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    “As time went on, his smile kind of faded” 🥺 I know the feeling girl … you notice it when it starts to fade 😔

  • @Noname-jq8ec
    @Noname-jq8ec ปีที่แล้ว +91

    “I’m in a relationship with myself. I’m in a relationship with me, with Heischler.” I really like the last dude.

  • @Ariii978
    @Ariii978 ปีที่แล้ว +127

    “Im not losing a partner im losing a friend.” Damn that hit hard

    • @musicgirl999
      @musicgirl999 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I have an ex who actually did start as a friend and then years down the road we became a couple. To this day, even though it’s been over a decade, I’ll forever value and cherish what I was able to get out of my relationship with him.

    • @Therealjimcramer
      @Therealjimcramer หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why? They were having an open relationship. It was always going to end badly for them. I don't feel bad for her at all.

  • @mimosasseat9860
    @mimosasseat9860 2 ปีที่แล้ว +686

    Why do people feel entitled to choose who their EX can or cant date?

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

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    • @xowarrior
      @xowarrior 2 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      they don't it's just disrespectful and bitter to date someone you broke up because of

    • @blighticus
      @blighticus 2 ปีที่แล้ว +77

      Yeah that was ridiculous. Everything about her was toxic and entitled.

    • @naveed_
      @naveed_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      @@xowarrior How is it disrespectful? After a relationship ends nothing you do should be seen as disrespectful towards your ex imo. Unless it directly involves them.
      Edit: Oh and bitter? What about pursuing a new relationship indicates bitterness? I don't think orange shirt girl's ex showed any bitterness in the texts.

    • @aliciauseph
      @aliciauseph 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Yeah, unlike the other situations, something was off about her. For 1, they agreed to an open relationship, and her Ex had open communication about who he wanted to see again. For whatever reason, I believe she felt frightened, and that caused the broke up IMO. However, to insist or demand your ex doesn't date someone you disapprove of is wired to me. He continued to be open and honest about his relationships and tried to maintain a friendship with her. Even though he didn't owe her anything. She walked away from the relationship and her "friend" because of envy and jealousy.

  • @Elibelle
    @Elibelle 2 ปีที่แล้ว +266

    Can we get an update from Ivie?? Make sure she's okay?? I hope she got justice...

  • @winter_s_44
    @winter_s_44 2 ปีที่แล้ว +620

    Trying to understand how “open relationship” translates to “you can’t see the person you saw during our open relationship even after we are no longer together.” Theoretically, those in open relationships are truly “open” and understanding of the fact that you have different experiences with different people, and limiting yourself is limiting your growth. Doesn’t this automatically imply that you understand that the possibility of feelings developing at some point is real? If the parameters you set are to not see same person twice, then fine. But, to then have an issue with it even after you are no longer together, like please, there was nothing “open” about your relationship. You just wanted to screw other people.

    • @chrisn2125
      @chrisn2125 2 ปีที่แล้ว +159

      Those relationships always end that way.

    • @meghna617
      @meghna617 2 ปีที่แล้ว +194

      i paused the video looking for this comment hahah. Genuinely though, I get that it’s upsetting seeing your ex with someone you didn’t want them ending up with but since when were we allowed to set rules for people we’re no longer with? 😂

    • @nanakikaur2381
      @nanakikaur2381 2 ปีที่แล้ว +149

      Lol the concept of an open relationship honestly makes no sense. Telling your SO that they can spend time with someone in a romantic context but not develop feelings for them is like putting a glass of water in front of someone thirsty and telling them not to drink it. Makes no sense.

    • @darkchurchhill
      @darkchurchhill 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      It's about boundaries and rules like all other relationships. Just cuz you're allowed to see other people doesn't mean you're allowed to see anyone. If something makes your partner uncomfortable don't do it. I think not wanting your partner to seriously date someone you had a hunch about is impossible to enforce but a understandable feeling (the same way it's considered rude to date your last partner's friends). At that point though it isn't about their past romantic relationship, but their current friendship.

    • @malorie8557
      @malorie8557 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      👏👏👏👏 Honestly, I have never seen a successful "open" relationship. Someone always develops feelings and the "open" relationship ends.

  • @evepoole3966
    @evepoole3966 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I feel this so much, people can be so cruel for no reason and it's like....we are people too, why do this to us??? Especially if you spent a lot of time with this person and we're together for a while...it just sucks and leaves you traumatized

  • @theescorpio565
    @theescorpio565 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    The last text from my ex is "hello...", dude was a narcissist and was coming back to hoover me back in. He got zero response and a block. He would ghost me and then come back in the past. I learned my lesson after the second ghosting/contact cycle.

    • @nalinipanwarxD
      @nalinipanwarxD ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Same got ghosted by a guy for 20 days after spending 24 hrs with me every day and then he msged me like nothing happened. lol blocked but ugly cried.

  • @gen9018
    @gen9018 2 ปีที่แล้ว +217

    I feel for all these people. To the person who had an ex with the temper - such wise words were spoken and you could hear their voice tremble. My heart goes out to you!! ❤️ love at the end they said they were in a relationship with themself! Yesssss 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @dhimankalita1690
      @dhimankalita1690 ปีที่แล้ว

      They deserved it.. Not feeling anything

    • @sykko14
      @sykko14 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@dhimankalita1690?

    • @Firemarioflower
      @Firemarioflower 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The lady in red had it coming.... she was toxic. The two Asian women, they had a bad time. I pity them.

  • @HibiTeamQueso
    @HibiTeamQueso ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Loosing your best friend and your partner is trully heartbreaking

  • @vichernandezii
    @vichernandezii 2 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    As time went on, his smile faded. Dang.

  • @taivaldez5521
    @taivaldez5521 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    “i’m going to convince him.” that is so heart breaking. i don’t get how ppl can do that to another human being. 😕

  • @Mooner_9
    @Mooner_9 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    Heartbreak hurts more than someone's death.
    The person is still alive and is available for everyone else, except you :)

    • @DoubleUProds
      @DoubleUProds ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Absolutely asinine take, my dude.

    • @Xhoven
      @Xhoven ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The grief that comes from the loss of a loved one is on a different level from anything else. There are no "other fish in the sea" to fill the hole in your heart, it is a permanent hole that can never be filled.

    • @marry1321
      @marry1321 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's EGO

    • @ramzmocro7687
      @ramzmocro7687 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Xhovenmaybe you should try to stop comparing pain. A loss is a loss and someone can feel the same pain intensity in a break up and a death. It’s a common concept in psycology.

    • @Xhoven
      @Xhoven 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@ramzmocro7687And yet, you're only telling me to stop comparing pain, even though the original post was also someone comparing pain saying that heartbreak is worse than death...

  • @annaelisavettavonnedozza9607
    @annaelisavettavonnedozza9607 2 ปีที่แล้ว +408

    The day my partner asks me for an open relationship is the day I walk out of their life. Most of the open relationships I know of are 🚩 relationships where one person suggests it & the other person goes along with it so they don’t lose them.
    I know it works for many, but it ain’t for me. I think it’s a doorway to trouble & there’s no way I could handle it 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @md.md16
      @md.md16 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Exactly. And you can see she was still trying to act as monogamous as soon as he mentioned seeing someone again. She knew at that point it might be more than physical interaction. It seems she agreed to an open relationship without actually understanding what that is.
      On the other side, an open relationship is just an excuse to keep your options open and go cheat, while the other person is desperate enough to pretend they don't care, as long as you don't leave them. The level of clinginess and low self love is incredible.
      I know for my dearest life I would never share anyone, either with me 100% or out. No point to fight keeping someone if they don't even see you as enough for a normal relationship. 🙄

    • @abeautifulmess163
      @abeautifulmess163 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I agree

    • @babypipess7227
      @babypipess7227 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      it’s not even about handling it, it’s about having the self worth not to share.

    • @dorisharrer4857
      @dorisharrer4857 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@md.md16Exactly, the people that suffer most in this are the women ofcourse. But they want to appear cool and modern

    • @Godsend12936
      @Godsend12936 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dorisharrer4857you are delusional

  • @juandavid2492
    @juandavid2492 2 ปีที่แล้ว +603

    I hope they can find better people in the future ❤️

  • @tabris1135
    @tabris1135 2 ปีที่แล้ว +426

    1:00 Imagine having the audacity of breaking up with someone and still maing demands to that very same person

    • @tess0728
      @tess0728 2 ปีที่แล้ว +156

      Honestly that was kind of my same thought. If they were broken up, it shouldn’t matter who they date next.

    • @SuperDeuser
      @SuperDeuser 2 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      And it was her fault for getting herself into that situation by being in a relationship like that

    • @nasur1n156
      @nasur1n156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@SuperDeuser huh???

    • @rymmmmm
      @rymmmmm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      @@nasur1n156 he’s basically saying that the relationship was doomed from the start because it was an open relationship. You can search it up if u don’t know what it is but I agree cuz if ur going to be in an “open relationship” then it’s doomed imo

    • @nasur1n156
      @nasur1n156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@rymmmmm yep i didnt really pay attention to the "open relationship" part. that's why i was kinda perplexed. thanks lmaoo

  • @maideluxe
    @maideluxe ปีที่แล้ว +33

    It's heartbreaking to hear what these people have gone through. I'm in a +6 years relationship with my first boyfriend, and alone the thought of ever breaking up makes me really depressed. I hope I will never have to go through this in my entire life.

  • @chrispark7010
    @chrispark7010 2 ปีที่แล้ว +455

    The girl who was in an open relationship getting mad at her partner for going off with someone else is hilarious. Thats the definition of an open relationship.

    • @michaelpark5681
      @michaelpark5681 2 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      She's a selfish person. She wanted the benefits of being in such a relationship (dating other guys) only for herself.

    • @julies8465
      @julies8465 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      She was toxic to be honest.

    • @michaelpark5681
      @michaelpark5681 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@julies8465 Absolutely.

    • @sweetpea2182
      @sweetpea2182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +81

      Open relationships still have rules and boundries. A common one is no friends co workers or exes.
      I think its strange for after they broke up but being open doesnt mean open to everyone

    • @chrispark7010
      @chrispark7010 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      @@sweetpea2182 🤨 I’m pretty sure open relationships just mean you can sleep with whomever. And the couples fill in the rest of the gap with rules. I just find it ironic she said no to him being with another person even though that’s what they agreed to. It’s a evolutionary instinct that kicked in on her part, it’s called mate guarding in anthropology, that’s why open relationships don’t work.

  • @famousmcfly80
    @famousmcfly80 2 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    One of the most heartbreaking things that can happen is loving and losing someone so dear to us. They essentially become a stranger. As if you’d never met. Just….gone from your life.

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @wcnderzz1044
      @wcnderzz1044 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ItzMalick stop it

    • @aewtx
      @aewtx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah, that's really sad. It makes me sad that my ex-fiance, someone who I planned to spend the rest of my life with, is now a stranger. But he cheated on me, so no, you don't get to remain friends as if you didn't do anything wrong. You don't get to have your cake and eat it too, you @sscrack.

    • @frenchgirl5878
      @frenchgirl5878 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Now you’re just somebody that I used to know..

    • @MT-nf1ls
      @MT-nf1ls 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Not even a stranger. A breakup can be like mourning a death if you never see them again afterwards...

  • @buttered--toast
    @buttered--toast 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    the one about the guy dating his best friend broke my heart. i've been in the same place before with someone figuring out their sexuality and it can be so heart wrenching. i hope he's doing better

    • @rivendriftwood
      @rivendriftwood ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I have sort of a similar experience with him. Had broken up recently with my boyfriend of 3 years because I can no longer keep our relationship a secret. It makes me hate him which is unfair to him. I love him but I can't go back in the closet.

    • @silverofthesunbears
      @silverofthesunbears 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@rivendriftwood this was like almost a year ago. Hows it going now?

  • @backgroundcharacter6991
    @backgroundcharacter6991 2 ปีที่แล้ว +233

    1st girl is crazy if she thinks she should still have some sort of say or control over the dude AFTER their relationship has ended.🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

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      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @sepiajoy2871
      @sepiajoy2871 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Yeah she didn’t give a lot of details, so it makes me wonder why she was so against him dating that person. Maybe “that person” was a toxic ex of hers or something idk

    • @sabyayaas1318
      @sabyayaas1318 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Which one? Which first girl, the one in t6be open relationship?

    • @diana-rz3yo
      @diana-rz3yo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sabyayaas1318 yes

    • @omegasage777
      @omegasage777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@sepiajoy2871 Because they were in an open relationship so when he wanted to see the same person twice, that must have been one of her boundaries (that she wasn't comfortable with) for the open relationship. So she enforced her boundary and he seemed to agree to it - (or not, if they broke up). Idk why he didn't just come clean and say he wanted to actually date the other person instead of being like "no it's not like that" - and then ending up dating them anyway LMAO. He agreed to be in an open relationship, so you have to be honest and communicate well if you want it to work

  • @im_just_vidu
    @im_just_vidu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    This reminds me that so many people who get into relationships expecting "happy endings" ends up with hating each other too.

  • @rymmmmm
    @rymmmmm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    “Oops yeah your for the streets bye” HAHA KING ☠️ 🙏

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      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @winniejung
    @winniejung 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    2:55
    ex: i want to fix things
    *two seconds later*
    im calling the cops

  • @akuabaryeh5181
    @akuabaryeh5181 2 ปีที่แล้ว +221

    Wait is it legal for a job to inquire about your last relationship and request their information???

    • @chill3282
      @chill3282 2 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      Depends the job. I know some political positions they can ask. I’m guessing this dude isn’t working for McDonald’s that’s fs

    • @WoahhTeamJacob
      @WoahhTeamJacob 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I’m wondering too. It has be something more lucrative

    • @zaksharman
      @zaksharman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      @@WoahhTeamJacob maybe something like a police officer so that they can make sure the're not hiring a creep

    • @megg2826
      @megg2826 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I mean its neither legal or illegal to be asked about it. It depends on the job and career field

    • @NewIdeas226
      @NewIdeas226 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Federal government jobs

  • @BLACKGHOST21100
    @BLACKGHOST21100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    About the first girl who said you're not alone to date that person after we break up.... girl bye he is allowed to do whatever 🙄

  • @ECW5320
    @ECW5320 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    6:11 Why would a job want to know about someone's previous ex? That's weird.

  • @jacobzaranyika9334
    @jacobzaranyika9334 2 ปีที่แล้ว +307

    "Don't understand why someone else's learning experience has to come at the expense of traumatizing others" - couldn't have structured it better.
    That is our message to Canada. My son and I would have nothing else to say to Canada as a country but that one profound line. No mercy coming from us. Just lessons!

    • @dianaadamo5574
      @dianaadamo5574 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      don't mean to be invasive ... but how did Canada as a country traumatize you? It just sounds super random

    • @kats.5958
      @kats.5958 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Lol please spill the tea about Canada! 🤣

    • @ayeshabaugh6620
      @ayeshabaugh6620 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dianaadamo5574 They’re probably indigenous. Canada fucked up a lot of natives

    • @katet8639
      @katet8639 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      What did Canada do to you and your son, if you don't mind me asking?

    • @serene3175
      @serene3175 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I thought Canada was nice?

  • @nptrain3439
    @nptrain3439 2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Nah the “im going to try to convince him” is crazy

    • @nidiaesperanza8003
      @nidiaesperanza8003 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I genually don't understand what she means 😟

    • @ashleyp02
      @ashleyp02 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@nidiaesperanza8003 the text was meant for her friend, not him, so she was trying to text her friend that she was gonna convince him that she didn't remember the kiss

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @nidiaesperanza8003
      @nidiaesperanza8003 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ashleyp02 damn :/

  • @mistermazemusic
    @mistermazemusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    "Ima try to convince him" ...... Jeez.

    • @Kirbystare1992
      @Kirbystare1992 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thinking she did that on purpose

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @zg5672
      @zg5672 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jeremy Fuller why would she do that on purpose? Genuine question

    • @Kirbystare1992
      @Kirbystare1992 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@zg5672 it’s a way to avoid confrontation in a way people would rather do something to make someone stop talking to them rather than just explain to them why they don’t want to anymore.

    • @zg5672
      @zg5672 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Kirbystare1992 oh that makes sense, thanks for explaining!

  • @kekw5153
    @kekw5153 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    These text hurts but atleast they had the courage to tell them about it whilst others just straight up ghosting which is even worse for me honestly cause you wouldn't know if you should move on already or not

  • @sriyasv9269
    @sriyasv9269 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    What amazes me is, how these people are still so brave enough to keep these messages.. Seeing them after going through such a painful experience is just rubbing salt in the wound. It's too painful to even watch.. Poor souls.. 😖

  • @Maximus-hq1cz
    @Maximus-hq1cz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I recently was dumped via text message, we are both in our 30's... Suffice to say it's been one of the hardest things I've dealt with in my life , because it makes me feel like she didn't care about me at all during the relationship..

  • @peachica
    @peachica 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Can someone please help me understand open relationships? I don’t understand why someone (the first one in the video) would be picky and stingy for their partner if they agreed to be in that situation in the first place where both partners are allowed to love another person.

    • @darkestlight6784
      @darkestlight6784 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I think open relationships are more for not so trusting people. They dont wanna be hurt by cheating so they d rather have it open and honest. Growth and progress always happen and i think she ended up wanting him only to herself.

    • @Moondragon1821
      @Moondragon1821 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      ​@@darkestlight6784 I've found that people in the kink/BDSM communities have GREAT open/poly relationships, because that community is already ALL about rules/boundaries/respect. But random vanilla Jane and Joe? Usually one party just wants to cheat without it being labeled as cheating and so they don't make proper rules/guidelines and someone always gets hurt.

    • @Karmalu
      @Karmalu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      She’s insecure and controlling that’s why.

    • @annap1340
      @annap1340 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That was confusing for me too. Maybe their rule was that they can only see another person once?

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will Enjoy💗💗💗

  • @oweneastwood3445
    @oweneastwood3445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +466

    What I do know is that ending a relationship without talking everything through with your partner, no matter hard that is, and giving them closure, is one of the ultimately cruelest things you can do to a person. It happened to me 3.5 years ago and the grief and trauma hasn't subsided. I know it's trendy to applaud people for choosing to 'block and move on', particularly when the people doing so are women - but there is another side we don't see.

    • @RayRayCharles98
      @RayRayCharles98 2 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      Ive gone back and forth about this concept a lot and with where Im currently at now, Id have to disagree. If someone wrongs you enough for you to want to end a committed relationship, the person who has been wronged doesn't owe the other person anything. If they want to just cut them off and block them, that's vaild. Giving the person that did the harm closure, especially if the person that was harmed truly doesn't need it to move forward with their life, that's a luxury rewarded to the person that did the harm and really isnt, or should it be, a requirement

    • @josiebello4666
      @josiebello4666 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I had a situation like this happen to me. I was 17, and I met this guy at a retreat for teens with trauma/addictions. We created a bond and started dating. We were dating for a few months and he wanted to have sex. I wasn’t ready bcuz I was abused so it was something I was scared of. The last time I saw him he said “maybe you’re just making your abuse up. You were a little kid, how could you remember”. That broke me. One day, he took a while to respond so I told myself it’s ok to not respond back quickly. I ended up not responding to him again, and he didn’t seem to respond back either. It’s been 10 yrs and although it seems like he didn’t respect me, I do feel bad for not breaking up with him in person.

    • @randomnordmann4020
      @randomnordmann4020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@RayRayCharles98 Who said anything about the dumped one doing any harm? It's usually the dumper who does the harm anyway.

    • @frenchgirl5878
      @frenchgirl5878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      I get it. But I personally don’t look for closure and it is best for me. I “block and move on” when people betray my trust. I do not owe an explanation or a declaration of my departure from the relationship when they’ve clearly ticked me over. And I don’t want to hear anything from them. I don’t want to give them the opportunity to manipulate me or gaslight their way back into the relationship. I’ve seen it happen too many time to let it happen to me.

    • @MiladyToxic
      @MiladyToxic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Ridiculous. Don't judge a person for blocking and moving on when you don't know the full story. Maybe they were assaulted. Maybe violated. Maybe abused. You don't owe anybody an explanation if they crossed serious boundaries.

  • @ellieandreson4506
    @ellieandreson4506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I tend to force myself to hate my exes because it’s easier to move on and forget about them…

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will Enjoy💗💗💗

  • @luci4087
    @luci4087 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    2:01 he was physically violent and manipulative. i’m sorry you had to go through that.

  • @ajarmstrong355
    @ajarmstrong355 2 ปีที่แล้ว +308

    "Everything we had... I fucked up"
    Yes sir, yes you did.
    That knowledge should be enough to leave her alone

  • @caidyc
    @caidyc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    What potential employer asks for info from past relationships? NO ONE. It’s against the law. He is playing you.

    • @FlaccidAcid
      @FlaccidAcid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Pretty sure serious government jobs ask you for this. They also ask that you quit your previous job and stay under observation in the city where the potential job is for a period of 6-9 months depending on the organisation for multiple reasons but mainly to show that you can support yourself in that time.

    • @luf4rall
      @luf4rall 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Some jobs that require some sort of security clearance or working in vulnerable sectors

  • @lea9977
    @lea9977 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Definitely hurts losing someone your grew close to, and then heartbreak, betrayal, etc.

  • @yuli1_266
    @yuli1_266 2 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    Honestly, I don't remember my ex's last text, but I do remember one thing. The day my current boyfriend and I agreed to start dating, I got a notification from Snapchat that my ex sent a friend request. I didn't give him a chance, blocked him and now 2 years later..Im finally happy with my highschool sweetheart :)

    • @yuli1_266
      @yuli1_266 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Things get better when you forgive yourself and take time to heal

  • @MadESG
    @MadESG 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It’s so crazy how one moment someone can be so close to you, you think you’re going to spend the rest of your life with them.. then the next moment they’re just not a part of your life anymore. Even if nothing bad happened between you two , it just didn’t work out. You just think that person will always be with you no matter what. And then they’re not. It sucks

  • @rawanaa6689
    @rawanaa6689 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I don’t how people can do open relationships I get so jealous I would never be able to take it!!

  • @baddog2724
    @baddog2724 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    The last message I have from one of my ex is
    "I'm doing fine, please stop harassing me, I thought I made it very clear"
    It just broke my heart every time I saw that, cause I just feel like a terrible person for disturbing her life. Now I have other problems need to deal with and no longer disturbing her due to too busy on fixing other issues.

  • @sarasmit1099
    @sarasmit1099 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The second girl deserves so much more. I just got mad watching this. I hope your life got so much better sweetie.

  • @annushka999
    @annushka999 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    “I feel like i gave up a part of my heart to someone that wasn’t ready to receive it”

  • @MusiqueEnchantment
    @MusiqueEnchantment ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Damn.. how do people keep their ex’s text messages? As soon as they leave I literally delete everything leaving no trace of theirs 😭

    • @TESkyrimizer
      @TESkyrimizer ปีที่แล้ว +7

      same. memories are painful. and bitter.

  • @belam3950
    @belam3950 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    “ I'm not only losing a
    partner, I'm losing a friend “
    when she said that i started to cry because i know exactly what she meant, two huge losses that end up with you… that’s so so sad

  • @Chillbeats7111
    @Chillbeats7111 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I loved him so hard and his last msg was like 'I thought that we should not talk.'

  • @rheam3920
    @rheam3920 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    When she said I look at the photos and realise how happy I looked and his smile kind of faded and I realised he wasn't happy anymore.
    I felt that. I don't know why. I've never been in a relationship but that hurt so bad.

  • @wrenfinnelan5928
    @wrenfinnelan5928 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Ivie's boyfriend sounds exactly my ex. Cheated on me several times, and then put his hands on me and started getting nasty once I tried to leave. Sent manipulating messages, such a narcissist.

  • @marnowsky107
    @marnowsky107 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Hurts a lot the fact that the person you loved so much, and you have for best friend, and one day total silence... He is like your enemy... That's sucks

  • @sgxsaint3130
    @sgxsaint3130 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Just wanted to get this off my chest but it saddens me how someone you thought was the one could easily fall out of love for you in a snap, albeit its my fault but still.. All I can do now is grow and be a better person I guess

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will Enjoy💗💗💗

  • @randymarsh9488
    @randymarsh9488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +196

    It's amazing how that girl at 6:50 still likes him after he stood her up even after riding The bus 300 miles to see him.

    • @Red-ju4mi
      @Red-ju4mi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Been there. Y'all can ride the bus 6h to see me next time lol

    • @seri4837
      @seri4837 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@Red-ju4mi nobody's gonna do that for you so keep dreaming lol

    • @iShootClickers
      @iShootClickers 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      dude Randy?? LOOOL

    • @darryldavis6063
      @darryldavis6063 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sounds like an episode of Catfish

    • @julienfraser5156
      @julienfraser5156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      umm he didn't ask her to, and she did it because she was jealous of his friend

  • @apollolyon
    @apollolyon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    Even though its been almost 10 years, I still think about my first ex sometimes. Ive deleted everything and we sadly werent able to be friends. Even though he cheated on me at the end of the almost 5 year relationship, and broke my heart, I still hope he's doing well. I hope he was able to achieve his dreams and has found himself. I miss him sometimes.

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will enjoy💗💗💗

    • @poojarawat1565
      @poojarawat1565 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hey, I hope you are doing fine🙏

    • @taeyoungkim9979
      @taeyoungkim9979 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You are worth so much more than him.

    • @apollolyon
      @apollolyon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@taeyoungkim9979 I try to remind myself of that. It’s hard sometimes.

    • @apollolyon
      @apollolyon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@poojarawat1565 Trying to be! Life has its up and downs. Just need to learn that healing isn’t a straightforward process. sometimes my healing takes a few steps back.

  • @coolbreeze5683
    @coolbreeze5683 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It's probably best just to be in a relationship with yourself after bad breakups. Sometimes you reflect back and think about all the crazy things you did for what you thought was true love. When you get that true respect and love for yourself, you realize those boundaries you need to set and to never get drawn into that craziness ever again. When you're in love with someone, it's like being drunk. When you love yourself first, it's like being sober.

  • @gabrielawilde
    @gabrielawilde 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    He told me “You were an option, and I didn’t choose you. Get over it.” This was yesterday 😕

    • @Ayalaula
      @Ayalaula 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      You deserve better! ❤️

    • @mpd9695
      @mpd9695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You can do a million times better than that person, I promise you. He's doing you a favor in the long run, because you're going to find someone so much kinder and more compassionate.

    • @lilnotmaster6094
      @lilnotmaster6094 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well... Sucks

    • @saba1867
      @saba1867 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @gabrielawilde Omg I’m so sorry, I can relate tho - ive been through almost the same sh*t a month ago, it hurts so much in your confidence !
      He doesn’t worth your time and your energy. Be strong 💪 !

    • @gabrielawilde
      @gabrielawilde 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Ayalaula thank you! 🤍🤍

  • @Sabrinaaa36
    @Sabrinaaa36 2 ปีที่แล้ว +117

    ivie is so pretty and she didn’t deserve that

  • @kimberlyoakland7506
    @kimberlyoakland7506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Just got out of relationship a few months ago, and this absolutely breaks my heart. I miss her everyday.

    • @christelle8572
      @christelle8572 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same here. My ex broke up with me last month. I can't believe we came to that when a few months ago, she wanted us to get married...

  • @u_u2406
    @u_u2406 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    "you're for the streets... bye" LMAOOOO I DIED

  • @TheJazzDoll
    @TheJazzDoll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    The girl with the open relationship can't stop the guy from seeing someone once they're broken up. If the guy wants to see that person she doesn't get a say.

  • @leilazhu1321
    @leilazhu1321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    When I went through my photo with my ex, I found out how unhappy he looks in the photo too. How blind I was.

  • @artemij1994
    @artemij1994 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really like that kind of content, it touches me really bad bcs i also had a lot of that stuff going on in my life. Its important to speak that out, its a process of healing. Ty guys, take care.

  • @baked2617
    @baked2617 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    About 3 years ago I ended a 2 year long relationship with my now ex girlfriend because of a deep depression which I regret every day still since she opened up to me and told me about her past and how she also had been depressed. I miss her everyday even though I don’t even have contact with her anymore. She was perfect in every way possible and I know that she would have just comforted me if I would’ve letten her known about my depression but instead I broke up with the girl of my dreams and fell into an even deeper depression where I didn’t go to school for over 2 years.

  • @rais14
    @rais14 2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    i'm here to give ivie the biggest hug.

  • @raiderfrankdatank
    @raiderfrankdatank 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Y have an open relationship if you can't handle an open relationship?

    • @ItzMalick
      @ItzMalick 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yo fam I’m a small TH-camr from Cali 📍, and I make short entertaining videos on TH-cam as well, I’m still working on versatility, but I guarantee you will find something you will Enjoy💗💗💗

  • @NateWareing
    @NateWareing 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    He then sent her a 3 paragraph text basically getting everything off his chest and apologising and she was glad he did as she got the closure she had been wanting the whole time… you’re welcome

    • @goobercat
      @goobercat 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      LOLLLO from the short

  • @kornelmi21454
    @kornelmi21454 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    0:55 she literally thought that she owned him lmao

  • @ishahelen
    @ishahelen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Its really fascinating that they r able to talk about their exes especially after what they had gone through

  • @KingKing-op7ts
    @KingKing-op7ts 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That’s why it’s sometimes better to be alone, no one can hurt you

  • @al201103
    @al201103 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The first one.
    Open relationship for a year. Can I see this person again. No you cannot. Then they split up.
    After that, isn't he free to date whomever he chooses? Am I missing something? Genuine question.