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21:38 - As someone living with dissociative identity disorder, I think both of these things can be true. Awareness definitely varies. For example: I can have awareness of some switches and be completely unaware of others. It tends to depend on the alter, on the trigger, on the environment, and so on. DID is one of those illnesses that can contradict itself sometimes. It's extremely complex to live with.
it literally always contradicts itself. being a covert disorder it's meant to not be known. I'd say that the all over the place is supposed to happen. it sucks though - Luna
Thank you for this video! I don't tell many people of my diagnosis, but when I do, I like to give them some info on it. I've had so much bad luck with people doing their own research and coming back to me with misinfo and fear. I think this video will be one of the main things I give to friends when explaining. I was diagnosed at 31, 3 years ago today. There were so many things I explained away or just didn't want to examine. I didn't remember my wedding, any of my life before 14 years old. Didn't remember a very big vacation. I hand waved it away. Any time I tried to examine it, I just shied away from thinking about it any further and just "if I don't look, I it's not there." I often found items I didn't remember buying or getting, and handwaved it again. Any time I tried to explore why I kept having these weird gaps in memory, I shied away and forgot that I forgot. It was like amnesia of having amnesia. It still seems unreal, and I still struggle to accept that I have this. I'll go several days without "switching" and think "see? I don't have it." And then I'll find some piece of evidence that I HAD switched during those few days where I thought I was fine. People (close people, I only tell people I am very close with) who I tell often say "I never would have guessed, but now that you mention it..." and give a few stories of times I seemed "off" to them. But it's always so subtle. Almost all 13 of "us" are very good at faking being the "host." I like to keep it that way. You talk about patients asking therapists to "find" traumatic memories as a possible sign of facticious disorder and I had to laugh. I've been working with my therapist for 5 years in total, and 3 years specifically for DID and any time she tries to even touch on the fact that DID is caused by trauma, I try to grab the metaphorical steering wheel and turn the bus around. I do NOT want to know what happened and I'm perfectly fine going through the rest of my life without the details. I know other parts do have those memories, but nope. I don't need that. Another that you mentioned is someone wanting to talk all the time about the parts/alters, and again, any time my therapist wants to do deep "parts work" I dig my heels in and try every tactic I can to get the convo away from having to acknowledge that the alters even exist. And yup. My very first dx was Borderline in 2008. Was changed to C-PTSD in 2012. 2019 was when I got DID. It's so weird that my friends and family will go to TH-cam and see videos where people sob about their trauma and change clothing and hair and make up and have videos "meet the alters" and talk about how they wear name tags so everyone knows which alter they are, and here I am like "if I don't acknowledge the alters, they don't exist. If I cover my ears and close my eyes, they will go away." I've started to encounter people at professional events who will introduce themselves as someone w DID, within 3 minutes of meeting me. I'll just nod and say "nice to meet you," and hope they can't tell there's anything wrong with me. Sorry for the ramble! This video just hit a lot of the points that line up with how I experience this and there's so many other videos that seem to romanticize the disorder, and people who say they like having it. And I'm just always trying to find reasons to deny I have it and grasping for evidence that my psych got it wrong.
Thank you for watching and for sharing your story. Here’s a video on dissociation and safety you might be interested in: th-cam.com/video/hlYhKyPicS4/w-d-xo.html. Please let me know if it helps. Thank you.
Love all this info! I did want to add that for me and a lot of the other systems I know, symptoms can also increase when we learn more about DID because discovering the disorder throws the system off and not all alters know or want to know about it so switching can get more chaotic. Not always a sign of malingering.
Honestly the Dissociative fugue i had (I took off from my abusive parents home and went to Cali with no memories at all of why I left or how I got there.) Was the reason I got diagnosed with D.I.D. It was a shock to end up from Ohio in Cali, but what was even scarier was I have no recollection of how I managed to afford a flight under a name that wasn't mine, and how I got through the airport security.
@@fatuusdottore Much better today! that was...6 years ago now..We live In Florida now and shit has really been far better. it's not an easy at all disorder to have but I would rather have my alters than to be dead today - Liama, Host
@@finsterthecat I'm so sorry you dealt with one. the urge to get away is strong. you are brave and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. fugue states are hard af and terrifying
Thank you for this. ❤ Diagnosed at 36 turned 39 now. A long journey ahead for us. Over 1500 of us so far, until we learn not to create more as a coping mechanism.
@@JesusLightsYourPath I started having panic disorders. I never knew that my blanks - memory loss was applicable to my diagnosis. I was diagnosed at 36. 1st time I've ever seen a psychologist with regards to my trauma.
@@DocSnipes Thank you. It's not a curse, but a benefit. The mind is absolutely amazing at protecting an individual from being incapable of being compos mentis.
If you are interested in more detailed information on Dissociative Identity Disorder causes, diagnosis or treatment, drop a comment below. I have another video specifically on handling Dissociation at th-cam.com/video/hlYhKyPicS4/w-d-xo.html
The more I learn in my psychology courses at MSU, the more I learn about my own mental health. I have suffered a traumatic event and have eating disorders, depression, and anxiety. I’ve learned that these disorders are incredibly complex, and the thought that 70% of those diagnosed are misdiagnosed. That itself shows how complex these are!!
Tomorrow is my exam and guess what i have automatically learned and understand every bit of this video and I'm so grateful to you miss for this act of kindness. 💓
Largely, your video is helpful, and accurate, up to contemporary knowledge. Thank you for making it. Though I feel that integration is not always helpful goal because it puts pressure on the patient to arrive at measurable goal--in condition which is chronic and incurable in many people. They may be out there, but I have never heard of a complete DID cure in a person that was favorably lasting. Also, as a system of coping DID may still serve a useful purpose, which may mean that not a neurosis in the traditional sense, not a maladaptation, or a cumbersome tool without purpose. That stated, there is a lot of work that can be done to help the symptoms of DID. Dissociative identity disorder is a complicated condition. To have intrusive memories, flashbacks, revivication and other symptoms can terrible for anyone. To feel alone with this, to have an very individualized experience, with little societal communication tools or metaphors to describe it, to let the pain out, is a dreadful challenge to overcome. Most people who do not have DID, do not have models to understand what has happened. Possessing no training, how can they listen, if they cannot relate, and this further isolate the DID sufferer. For the long-term, agreements, cooperation, compromise, and balance between selves, are probably all important skills for someone who has DID. DID sociological ramifications are bewildering. Look in the movie for a DID sufferer, who isn't a bad person, and what do you find? I am weary of over-medicating people with DID. I strongly feel that anti-psychotics are oversubscribed even being offered for anxiety and PMS, which would not be a problem, but they are medications that can cause irreversible harm to a person's brain. How could you draw a picture or play music well with tardive dyskinesia. The very first rule of medicine is: do no harm. Thank you for reading this far.
Omigoodness! Yes me tooooo! I told my therapist who just diagnosed me that no it’s not DID I’m a rapid cycler, I have bipolar. Then he described to me rapid cycle bipolar is having 4 manic episodes a year. And I’m like wait, what. I’m changing constantly in the day. 4 is to little.
In the part where you said someone with DID can spiral really quickly due to distress intolerance - do you have any advice for that? Would you do a video on how to manage DID and the various symptoms it comes with?
Are memories lost due to dissociative amnesia recoverable? I have virtually no memories of my childhood. And I'm not talking about when I was 5. I'm talking about my adolescent and teenage years through high school. All I've got a handful of flashbulb memories. I can't remember really any conversations I had with my parents, birthdays, holidays and vacations. I got no problem remembering my personal information and stuff like that. I think I got a fairly good memory when it comes to that. I remember the music cassettes at that time, many had the the lyrics to the songs in them and I would remember them then and I got no trouble remembering them today over 30 years later. It's just really confusing and frustrating why I can remember things like that but can't remember anything else
I mean I have DID diagnosed and been working a year and a half with a specialiszed therapist doing EMDR as described as myself or letting alters go to therapy and have their sessions ... What I can tell you from experience is yes. Good and bad memories alike, mostly all just as distressing. I remember sweet wonderful memories of my papa taking me away from my mom for short visits and the things we did. I did not have these memories last year. They have not gone away. I do write them down and talk about them in therapy. The more curious, calm and courageous I am with my self energy, the more I am able to wonder about myself (ourself) and discuss in therapy. Best of luck to you 🤗
EMDR with the right therapist may help you recover memories. I've been doing it on and off for many years and have been able to piece together a biography of abuse from back to infancy. I switch during the sessions, and parts engage in the emdr. Many of my memories are somatic (body memories), but I see images too. The therapist I have never pushed me to talk about what I experience, which helps me because some of it is so incredulous it takes me a while to believe and accept what comes up. Flooding can occur during emdr, which is gnarly. I don't recommend emdr for everyone. Personally, I have a strong desire to know my history, and I am very dissociated from emotions, so I can usually handle it.
so the answer is yes, you can recover repressed memories, but it's important to understand that some gaps in memory are simply because our brains didn't think it important enough to store (i.e we weren't alert or producing more noradrenaline) - likewise it's important to remember that we don't repress memories by accident, and that we aren't always in a safe place to uncover them. that's why EMDR comes with so many warnings and directions for self care. I've had a lot of repressed memories come back without therapy and each time it's been really difficult to manage. it drives you mad trying to fill in the gaps, but ive learned that you can't force your brain to open the locked box, and that even if you COULD, you might become very distressed at what's in there. pay attention to your triggers rather than focusing on missing memories, they'll help you in the meantime - and when you're really ready to delve in, please see a licensed EMDR therapist rather than a hypnotist, they've done lots of damage
@loriandcrew3216 are you still very detached from emotions? I discovered I was only whe. current trauma resembling childhood occurred. Cognitively I knew of a lot but it didn't affect me until the feelings came too. It seems when that happened', the overall dissociation really took off 😒
Wonderful to find this today - really appreciate it. I'm learning what I can from good resources. As someone with the diagnosis, the area that seemed to contradict (you mentioned) made sense to me. Also, I really believe, as much as is known now, we still have a lot more to learn about how DID presents in different people. "Switching" is not always fast. It can be gradual over days (I suspect even longer) with co-consciousness being part of the transition. AND a part can be in front (driving the car, basically) for years, which was my experience. This was a great presentation, super thorough and easy to listen to and follow.
I would not say that Lenehan's definition of "distress intolerance" is the equivalent of the dysregulation experienced by people with DID. She never spoke about dissociative events directly, and in DID, dissociation is the driver of many challenges. Lack of a unified identity and amnesia are the cornerstones of DID. If you don't have either, you can still be in a lot of pain, but you do not have DID. You could have OSDD or depersonalization or derealization, which can really make your life hard. They are legitimate diagnoses and can also be treated effectively.
I don't have DID but something just doesn't feel right. I have experienced trauma throughout my childhood and my marriage. A year or so ago, I started hearing 2 people in my head talking to each other. It was more about my fate. Will I die, will I fail, will I succeed. Then overtime, after being on anti psychotic meds and mood stabilizers, it stopped. Then I got in the final round in my toxic marriage and the voices returned talking to me. I felt like I have dissociated a lot during that time. I felt like I took a backseat and watch the world around me, I felt like the world wasn't real anymore, I started forgetting who I was. When I got out of the marriage and things didn't stop. We still talk to each other and have created rules to accommodate everyone. The number of voices is now three and not two. There are no names given but physical presentation is there. I dress masculine now and I feel like I have no control of it, I buy lots of male clothing, I must go to the gym, make up but no lip color or eyeliner, etc. Everyone agrees with my physical presentation but I often look at my heels knowing I can't do anything about it. I feel exhausted because I have to make everyone happy or the masculine side might get a Lil rebellious. When I try to open up to my therapist she "fronts" and my train of thought completely evaporates. Even know I can feel she isn't super happy about me opening up online. I am scared that it might get worse! I get to go to school and study because "we" want the best for us. We have different reasons for this but at least we agree on my education. What should I do? Should I just blow it off as stress or tell my therapist that I think I am crazy?
@@centralpath3372 no, I have not. I don't know much about that disorder so I dismissed the possibility. I am thinking I should see a psychotherapist of something. "They" don't trust the therapist I have now, with good reasons. She is religious and the masculine side of me isn't religious at all, dislikes men, and hate people of my therapist's cultural background. I think it's because those groups wronged me.
I was diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar since a teen. I finally got into a therapist and have somethings similar to what your saying. and they gave me DID diagnosis on the first visit after my 2 assessments. I went through 2 other places before I could find someone to see me, I highly recommend giving it a try. I find they guide me and help me see through all the things I’m not understanding with myself.
Of course, no one online can diagnose you, but you've described many things that sound like DID. Voices ‘in the head’ may be parts speaking. People with schizophrenia hear voices ‘outside the head.’ Not all parts have names, and even if they do, you may not know what they are. People with DID usually don’t know they have it and can go decades or an entire lifetime unaware of the parts (alters) inside them. The DID system of multiple parts is designed to be covert, and parts are often brainwashed by the perpetrators to never speak of it, deny its existence and avoid looking at it. Not remembering where you were or what was said is typical. Parts have their own desires and worldview and often dress or see themselves differently than the main part (the apparently normal part ANP) who handles day-to-day functions. Most of the recent research points to very early trauma, starting before 11 months old and then continuing, but there's also OSSD-1 which can form a little later in life (around 2 or 3, I think). Having DID is exhausting because of the energy generated by all the different parts. At the same time, some sleep, and others are awake. Once awareness happens, it's easier to notice fluctuating energy levels. Each part generates energy just like individual people do. My therapist tells me I should sleep 10 hours a day, but I can't because parts always operate somewhere in the system. The trauma isn't remembered until one does much therapy work. For me, it is EMDR that has allowed me access to my biography and the torture I lived through. Good luck on your journey. I wish you well.
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Always love the content. I would just be careful with the math. 70% of people diagnosed with d.i.d. does not equal 70% of people diagnosed with bpd. It's 70% of the 1.5% of the population that has d.i.d. that was diagnosed 1st with bpd, not 70% of people diagnosed with bpd have d.i.d.
I'm very curious about the differences between dissociative fugue and a heavy tendency to sleepwalking. Specifically sleepwalking manifested from trauma. I experienced a lot of sexual and psychological trauma as early as one year of age. I had a tendency to sleepwalk, and I would end up in an odd place but be away from my abuser. I had an extreme freeze response. I have a lot of amnesia from this time, and most of these memories did not start to come back until something catastrophic happened later in life. I don't remember a lot of the sleepwalking, but there were a few times where I woke up with a knife in my hand in a weird place in my house confused and upset. I'm just curious if this could be an aspect of dissociative fugue, or if this is just a strong response to trauma in a PTSD type of way. I'm very appreciative of all of your videos. I am currently working on finding a way to go to therapy, but my current circumstances is very limiting and hopefully I'll be in to receive the help that I need. Thank you for the time you took to read this.
Wow this is really informative and so so helpful. I was diagnosed with did a year and a half ago and then bpd a few months back. This is all still so new, and there’s so much misinformation. This is so helpful 🤟🏾🖤
I have reached out to the Balance Disorders clinic at UT-Knoxville and Vanderbilt to see if I can get an expert to come on the show. Since it is a vestibular disorder, counseling interventions would revolve around coping with symptoms.
I was diagnosed with d.i.d, ddnos, adhd, ocd, cptsd, bpd and gad. and at one point bipolar but I ruled that out. ( different providers) strong fearful avoidants for many years. I still have a hard time believing it, not even sure what to believe. what diagnosis is correct, I do know emotional regulation, different levels of functioning, and unable to attract and keep intimate relationships. So hard to figure diagnosis so I mostly just focus on healing. with 11 years of therapy I am thankfully able to hold down a career. I still can't hold on a relationship as when I get into one I often revert back to a teenage like state. kind of curious how you even approach dating with these kind of mental challenges. most counselors won't treat me, and some are most are inexperience or don't even believe the diagnosis. let's not forget the stigma. so I do my own research and try to do self therapy. DBT groups seem most helpful. I guess my question is if there's confusion of cptsd borderline personality disorder and did or dnos does the diagnosis matter as much as what is needed to be functioning for example if when in a romantic relationship I revert back to a child like state, is that something I work through what if I can't change is that something my partner would have to deal with? How do you approach dating if you dissociate and switch a lot and stressful States.. or whatever the instability is. Is all so confusing.
Is it common to be diagnosed as cptsd and then once therapy goes deeper to discover it is DID? As well, can alters just be labeled as colors or moods or variations of self? Thank you for making your videos.
There it is! This describes my family to a T! -Over controlling parenting -insecure attachment -emotional abuse/neglect You say if it’s generational and inescapable, it can cause DID… even without sexual or physical abuse… thank you for saying this because I have DID, and my sexual abuse didn’t occur until 13 and that was outside of the family, and there were just a handful of physical abuse instances at home, so I always thought oh, how did I end up with this? Other people had much more horrific childhoods. I wasn’t a victim of incest, I didn’t get beat all the time…although…being kidnapped and taken to another state against my will and subjected to thought reform/cult brainwashing at a secluded inescapable child prison compound probably didn’t help… I worry about what was programmed :(
Hi Dr, love your channel and the work you do. I had a question about D.I.D.; when a person is aware of the process taking place, when they feel the flight of consciousness taking place how would they avoid pain that comes from being locked in a state of fight or flight (autonomic nervous suspension) due to external forces such as bullying, and harassment? Sorry if that's a mouthful. Thank you.
I have been suffering from Disassociation for over 36 years or more, I didn't realize it could be different personalities as I thought it was just Anxiety & Mood Swings making say or act different at times or be someone else for while when I'm anxious. It's been hard today split up with my girlfriend as I said something wrong as I wasn't thinking at the time & I was overwhelmed by all the information she was saying to process. I do have trouble remembering most of my life & go out of my body often to somewhere nearby in a fog. Never heard any voices in my head as it is completely silent in my head.
@@DocSnipes just the general whole thing. For me it was when you related the experiences of those with DID vs similar but different disorders including fictitious disorder which I have noticed: brings the comparison there helped me look at the past decade of my life and even from my childhood and brought back experiences I have had, in a clearer manner. So thank you
I have no idea who I am. I can be anyone I want to be other than who I really am I guess. I never got to know myself because I was always trying to become someone else besides myself because my mom and dad didn’t want me the way I was.
Hey Doc Snipes - love your channel and think you deserve WAY more subs! I wonder if it would make sense to modify the channel name so that it clearly indicates the channel is about mental health?
I wonder... What is the likelyhood of an individual who has a high percentage of comorbidities actually having DID or OSDD? Compared to someone who develops those conditions independently of DID?
That's an insightful question. The likelihood of an individual with a high percentage of comorbidities having DID or OSDD can be higher, as these conditions often develop in response to severe and prolonged trauma, which can also lead to other mental health issues. Comorbidities like PTSD, anxiety, and depression are commonly seen alongside DID and OSDD. However, each person's experience is unique, and a thorough assessment by a qualified mental health professional is crucial to accurately understand and diagnose these conditions. Also, if you’re comfortable, please free to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in learning more about the topic or want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
@DocSnipes thank you. I really wish there was a more definite answer Throughout life, I've developed condition after condition as the early complex trauma accumulated. Despite desperately not wanting to be this way and alwayz seeking treatment (checked myself into treatment as an adolescent, for example), my strive to be healthy isnt consistentlysuccessful. It's very confusing how I can be so educated and driven, but lack the ability and know how to get myself there. I guess it's as if there are conflicting parts inside of me.
@DocSnipes you're am absolutely fantastic resource. Your presentation style coupled with the slides are very clear and understandable. It was your video on the 6 things to know of BPD that made me certain after struggling half my life.
When I married my wife, she had four personalities, a three year old child, a pre-teen, herself at 33 and Hilda who was 92 years old. She did not know she had these other personalities. She simply believed she had blacked out. It took me awhile to figure out what was happening, as I did not really know her before we were married. She had been good for about 7 years, but last year psychosis caused her to revert to how she was in our first four years of marriage. She has been diagnosed with BPD, C-PTSD and psychosis.
I have heard people say that psychosis in schizophrenia specifically feels dream like but I also have people say it doesn’t. I have heard “detachment from reality” I don’t really understand what that means.
Psychosis in schizophrenia can indeed be a complex and varied experience, and it's understandable that you've heard differing descriptions. When people with schizophrenia experience psychosis, they may have hallucinations or delusions that feel very real to them. The term "detachment from reality" refers to a state where what a person perceives, believes, or experiences does not align with the commonly accepted reality. This can manifest in several ways: Hallucinations: These are sensory experiences that appear real but are created by the mind. For example, a person might hear voices that no one else can hear or see things that aren't there. Delusions: These are strong beliefs that are not based in reality and may seem irrational to others. For instance, a person might believe they are being persecuted by unseen forces or that they have special powers. Disorganized Thinking: This can result in speech that is difficult to follow or doesn't make sense to others, as thoughts may be jumbled or disconnected. Some individuals describe their experience of psychosis as dream-like or foggy, which may be similar to the symptoms of derealization, where the environment seems unreal, lifeless, or visually distorted. Others may not describe it this way, as the experience of psychosis can be unique to each individual. It's also important to note that while the symptoms of psychosis in schizophrenia are egocentric, meaning the person's altered perception of reality makes sense to them, they may not understand why others do not share this perception. This differs from conditions like dissociative identity disorder, where reality testing remains intact, and the person recognizes that their experiences are not reflective of common reality. In summary, psychosis in schizophrenia can involve a range of symptoms that affect a person's perception, beliefs, and thinking. The experience can vary greatly from person to person, and while some may describe it as dream-like, others may not. The key aspect of psychosis is the significant difference between the person's experience and what is generally recognized as reality. Learn more for FREE at allceus.com/DocSnipes-AI
@@DocSnipes hmm thank you for elaborating. But isn’t word salad found in disorganized schizophrenia? But that’s not a diagnosis anymore. Do paranoid schizophrenics do word salad? I’m interested in this I would appreciate a response thank you.
I was diagnosed with dissociation disorder and I wanted to learn more about it because all videos focus on did and I don't have that 😅 So I wanted to learn more about the others. I'm still working on that and now I'm worried about borderline personality disorder, I'll just wait and stop looking for more info I don't want to get confused as a patient 😅
It can be terrifying and dangerous at times to live with someone with DID. I would love to see more help about coping mechanisms for the significant other who lives with a DID person. I'm curious if there is a way to guide the afflicted into a safer alter, or back to the host. Also, in the case of my SO, the symptoms are getting worse with more frequent switching between alters now versus 20+ years ago.
It may not rise to the level of dissociative identity disorder, but substance use was often away of chemically dissociating if you will, so when you're clean, it's not uncommon to experience. Of dissociation. A therapist could evaluate and tell you if it is DID
Can you ever be free of that? My ex has that and his therapist said according to him that my he has to strengthen the part of his brain that is weak and once he works through his trauma starting from childhood till now that Victoria will go away and as a security thing that there are pills he can take to make sure she never comes back is that true?
alters don't "go away". They integrate. Healing would mean that your ex would regain all of Victoria's memories and vice versa, creating a cohesive person. Alters aren't the cause of the disorder, they're a symptom. They integrate as the person with DID gets better.
@@coolpal2026 what does integrate mean? I’m guessing that means that Victoria will still pop out every time there is trauma in his life or something that Scott just can’t handle so he lets her come out. He admitted he did that and that he came out of it and I said yeah this time. I don’t talk to him anymore so I’m not sure what his healing journey looks like now
@@angelawarren57 integration means that the barrier between two alters is getting thiner, and eventually leaves. They become one new alter. If all the alters integrate with each other, that's known as final fusion, and that means there is one whole person now. Ignoring alters doesn't do any good to someone with DID. Even if the alters stop taking control, they still have skills and memories that would be good to integrate
Once they integrate and become one does that mean that they no longer have DID/ Multiple personality disorder? How do you forgive someone that has that from the damage that was caused due to it?
@angelawarren57 someone that heals from DID could be called a "fully integrated DID system". There is always a chance they'll split again, or that there is still one or more "small" alters left far away in the consciousness. Technically, the diagnosis could be removed, because the patient is now "sub symptomatic", meaning they don't have enough symptoms to qualify for the diagnosis anymore. I'd suggest you read some reputable sources about DID. This channel is a great start, she links some things in the comments sometimes. MPD (multiple personality disorder) hasn't been clinically used for years. As for the forgiving part... I don't know your situation. But I'll tell you that people don't do things because of their disorder. People can be good, bad, in-between, regardless of any disorder they might have. Regardless, if an alter of your ex hurt you, they probably did so for a reason that makes sens in their mind. They might have seen you, or the idea of having a partner, as a threat. They most likely won't apologize for that until they realize the threat was imagined, which could take years. Are you willing to forgive someone that might not be sorry? That might do it again? Healing takes time. If your ex hurts you when he's sick, he might not be a great person to be around.
maybe its psychopathy, maybe manipulation. maybe personality disorder. I feel like whenever i face a human , i have about 15 different versions of me, like avatars on a hanger, waiting which one i will pick up to deal with the human against me. Assessment takes about 3-5 secs. a human is a challenge, despite if its known human or not. communication is a challenge, where you want to win, win as someone who can be understood, accepted, or unnoticed, or sharp and using sharp phrases, or overly flirty, Flirty version of me would come out as reaction to psychologically bad atmosphere, where my boundaries or dignity are about to be broken to shock or surprise the other person to make him stop.. My strongest avatar is a legal body. Advocate, lawyer. prosecutor. this one works almost on everybody.
It sounds like you're describing a highly adaptable and situational approach to interacting with others, where you switch between different personas or "avatars" depending on the context. While this can be a useful skill for managing social interactions, it's important to distinguish between this kind of flexibility and Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). DID involves the presence of two or more distinct personality states or identities that control a person's behavior at different times, often with significant memory gaps. Your experience seems more like a conscious and strategic choice rather than an involuntary shift between identities. If you have concerns about your mental health or how you're coping with social interactions, it might be helpful to speak with a mental health professional who can provide personalized insights and support. Also please share any insights or useful points you gathered from the video. Additionally, if you're keen to dive deeper into DID, explore more resources, or search for videos in the video library, you can use my AI first free. Here’s the link: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
Aw thanks so much for commenting. My avatars come spontaneously, and it takes a hell job to keep them in control. Sometimes in stressful concentration i feel im not myself and I can't stop it, but recently i have learned to keep my real self for longer on track and say to myself, if something horrible happens, let it happen l, I will hold myself as much as i can, as consequences of letting it go and letting spontaneous masks change me will have bad consequences to my finances etc. even it feels right thing inside me. Memory gaps, it again takes huge concentration to keep knowing what i was doing for 3-5 seconds, i never had long memory gaps, but 2-4 seconds happened which i always think is distraction or day dreaming about something. My bog worry that my hobbies change so rapidly, i seem to be same person, but i cant understand why one day i am passionate about playing music, the other, i dont want to do. It, third day or week i will only play chess or learn language. Or go to gym. Looks like huge inconsistency, but understanding all of this makes me sane and feelingi i can actually change something. Unknown paths are always the hardest ones. But yeah. Here we go.
@@DocSnipes i still think personally there must be different depth levels of disassociation depending on impact of trauma and age which would mean there is a spectrum of how independent are the alters. The stronger the trauma, more independent is alter, until trauma is healed, dealt with.
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@@DocSnipes in the process of trying to figure that out. Thank you. With diagnoses of ptsd, anxiety, depression and RAD but with an IQ of 65 for a child under 10 it’s hard to know which is what. Starting to see antisocial behaviors and dissociating (since adopted at age 5) would you think that’s possible to have all those? This child seems like the body is moving but the brain is not there.
I think this is what my partner is dealing with, does anyone know any good online support groups I could talk to for myself as a partner of someone who might have this whole we are seeking help or them as well?
It's commendable that you're seeking support for yourself as you navigate this challenging situation. Caring for a partner who may have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) can be complex, and having a supportive community can make a big difference. There are several online support groups specifically for partners and loved ones of individuals with DID. These groups offer a space to share experiences, ask questions, and receive guidance from others who understand what you're going through. Here are a few options to consider: 1. ISSTD (International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation) Forums: They offer online communities where you can connect with others facing similar situations. While primarily focused on professionals, they have resources and forums that can be helpful for partners and families. 2. Reddit - r/DID: While this is a broader community, there are often discussions that include partners and loved ones. It's a place where you can ask questions and get a variety of perspectives. 3. Online Support Groups through Mental Health Organizations: Websites like [Mental Health America](www.mhanational.org/) or [NAMI](www.nami.org/Home) (National Alliance on Mental Illness) sometimes offer or can direct you to relevant support groups. While they may not be DID-specific, they can still offer support for general mental health and caregiving challenges. 4. Facebook Groups: There are several private groups dedicated to partners of people with DID. These groups often require you to request to join and may ask a few screening questions to ensure privacy and safety within the community. It's also important to remember to take care of your own mental health while supporting your partner. Therapy or counseling for yourself can provide an additional layer of support and guidance during this time. If you’re interested in learning more about DID or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes. Also, if you're in the process of seeking help for your partner, professional guidance from a therapist or psychiatrist with experience in trauma and dissociation is crucial. They can help both your partner and you navigate this journey with the right support and strategies.
@@DocSnipes Thank you SO much, it really does mean a lot. Their therapist is looking into specialists, I just definitely have my own struggles in understanding and coping sometimes. I definitely hate being mad at the host if I know it's an altar that caused something.
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Loving someone with DID- A, has been so painful and constantly abusive just based on basic interaction not malicious intent. No real relationship possible. It's all about them. That is the impact even if it's not on purpose. I'm done explaining away that their illness gets tender treatment... and I just have to suffer because "they can't help it". I refuse to participate. I send my love from a distance.
I spent seven years with a Philippina woman who seemed to enjoy the drama/control her alter provided. During a recent argument, this alter took over and transformed into a full-blown witch. I knew something wasn't right, but love IS blind, and I'm a dedicated sleepwalker. This particular video has been a tremendous revelation for me, and I am deeply thankful for the wisdom...
Well... Considering the nature of having a disorder in which your personality has broken down into subroutines used to function on account of life threatening experiences, along with a possible # of comorbid stuff, I'd say that is to be expected. Honestly though, you can't just lump your personal views and experiences into one grand understanding of people with DID and *their* relationships as well. A person must have a very ridgid understanding of life to see everything so righteously.
Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is indeed a complex mental health condition, but it is distinct and not typically considered part of a spectrum in the same way conditions like autism are. DID involves the presence of two or more distinct personality states and is often linked to severe trauma or abuse during childhood. It is different from other mental health conditions that may share some overlapping symptoms but have different underlying mechanisms and diagnostic criteria.
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21:38 - As someone living with dissociative identity disorder, I think both of these things can be true. Awareness definitely varies. For example: I can have awareness of some switches and be completely unaware of others. It tends to depend on the alter, on the trigger, on the environment, and so on. DID is one of those illnesses that can contradict itself sometimes. It's extremely complex to live with.
it literally always contradicts itself. being a covert disorder it's meant to not be known. I'd say that the all over the place is supposed to happen. it sucks though - Luna
How were you diagnosed? I am wondering if I have it, I've been dealing with dissociative symptoms for years 😭
Thank you for this video! I don't tell many people of my diagnosis, but when I do, I like to give them some info on it. I've had so much bad luck with people doing their own research and coming back to me with misinfo and fear. I think this video will be one of the main things I give to friends when explaining. I was diagnosed at 31, 3 years ago today. There were so many things I explained away or just didn't want to examine. I didn't remember my wedding, any of my life before 14 years old. Didn't remember a very big vacation. I hand waved it away. Any time I tried to examine it, I just shied away from thinking about it any further and just "if I don't look, I it's not there." I often found items I didn't remember buying or getting, and handwaved it again. Any time I tried to explore why I kept having these weird gaps in memory, I shied away and forgot that I forgot. It was like amnesia of having amnesia.
It still seems unreal, and I still struggle to accept that I have this. I'll go several days without "switching" and think "see? I don't have it." And then I'll find some piece of evidence that I HAD switched during those few days where I thought I was fine.
People (close people, I only tell people I am very close with) who I tell often say "I never would have guessed, but now that you mention it..." and give a few stories of times I seemed "off" to them. But it's always so subtle. Almost all 13 of "us" are very good at faking being the "host." I like to keep it that way.
You talk about patients asking therapists to "find" traumatic memories as a possible sign of facticious disorder and I had to laugh. I've been working with my therapist for 5 years in total, and 3 years specifically for DID and any time she tries to even touch on the fact that DID is caused by trauma, I try to grab the metaphorical steering wheel and turn the bus around. I do NOT want to know what happened and I'm perfectly fine going through the rest of my life without the details. I know other parts do have those memories, but nope. I don't need that. Another that you mentioned is someone wanting to talk all the time about the parts/alters, and again, any time my therapist wants to do deep "parts work" I dig my heels in and try every tactic I can to get the convo away from having to acknowledge that the alters even exist.
And yup. My very first dx was Borderline in 2008. Was changed to C-PTSD in 2012. 2019 was when I got DID.
It's so weird that my friends and family will go to TH-cam and see videos where people sob about their trauma and change clothing and hair and make up and have videos "meet the alters" and talk about how they wear name tags so everyone knows which alter they are, and here I am like "if I don't acknowledge the alters, they don't exist. If I cover my ears and close my eyes, they will go away." I've started to encounter people at professional events who will introduce themselves as someone w DID, within 3 minutes of meeting me. I'll just nod and say "nice to meet you," and hope they can't tell there's anything wrong with me.
Sorry for the ramble! This video just hit a lot of the points that line up with how I experience this and there's so many other videos that seem to romanticize the disorder, and people who say they like having it. And I'm just always trying to find reasons to deny I have it and grasping for evidence that my psych got it wrong.
Thank you for watching and for sharing your story. Here’s a video on dissociation and safety you might be interested in: th-cam.com/video/hlYhKyPicS4/w-d-xo.html.
Please let me know if it helps. Thank you.
I'm thinking I have it. I don't feel like my current diagnosis line up with what I'm experiencing.
Love all this info! I did want to add that for me and a lot of the other systems I know, symptoms can also increase when we learn more about DID because discovering the disorder throws the system off and not all alters know or want to know about it so switching can get more chaotic. Not always a sign of malingering.
Thanks for watching
Honestly the Dissociative fugue i had (I took off from my abusive parents home and went to Cali with no memories at all of why I left or how I got there.) Was the reason I got diagnosed with D.I.D. It was a shock to end up from Ohio in Cali, but what was even scarier was I have no recollection of how I managed to afford a flight under a name that wasn't mine, and how I got through the airport security.
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I too had a fugue state found myself in another state across the country from where I lived.
Jesus. I’m glad you’re okay. Please take care.
@@fatuusdottore Much better today! that was...6 years ago now..We live In Florida now and shit has really been far better. it's not an easy at all disorder to have but I would rather have my alters than to be dead today - Liama, Host
@@finsterthecat I'm so sorry you dealt with one. the urge to get away is strong. you are brave and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. fugue states are hard af and terrifying
Thank you for this. ❤ Diagnosed at 36 turned 39 now. A long journey ahead for us. Over 1500 of us so far, until we learn not to create more as a coping mechanism.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching
diagnosed at 23. 25 now. oof
What lead you to the diagnosis? I am experiencing dissociative disorders
@@JesusLightsYourPath I started having panic disorders. I never knew that my blanks - memory loss was applicable to my diagnosis. I was diagnosed at 36. 1st time I've ever seen a psychologist with regards to my trauma.
@@DocSnipes Thank you. It's not a curse, but a benefit. The mind is absolutely amazing at protecting an individual from being incapable of being compos mentis.
Thank you for sharing this video. D.I.D is often very misunderstood and I believe that misunderstanding causes many with D.I.D additional struggles.
Thanks for watching.
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thank you doctor
Yes we would love it if you made another video on this topic.
Yes please!!
Yes.
The more I learn in my psychology courses at MSU, the more I learn about my own mental health. I have suffered a traumatic event and have eating disorders, depression, and anxiety. I’ve learned that these disorders are incredibly complex, and the thought that 70% of those diagnosed are misdiagnosed. That itself shows how complex these are!!
Tomorrow is my exam and guess what i have automatically learned and understand every bit of this video and I'm so grateful to you miss for this act of kindness. 💓
You’re so welcome. Thanks for watching the video. Good luck!
Largely, your video is helpful, and accurate, up to contemporary knowledge. Thank you for making it.
Though I feel that integration is not always helpful goal because it puts pressure on the patient to arrive at measurable goal--in condition which is chronic and incurable in many people. They may be out there, but I have never heard of a complete DID cure in a person that was favorably lasting. Also, as a system of coping DID may still serve a useful purpose, which may mean that not a neurosis in the traditional sense, not a maladaptation, or a cumbersome tool without purpose.
That stated, there is a lot of work that can be done to help the symptoms of DID. Dissociative identity disorder is a complicated condition.
To have intrusive memories, flashbacks, revivication and other symptoms can terrible for anyone. To feel alone with this, to have an very individualized experience, with little societal communication tools or metaphors to describe it, to let the pain out, is a dreadful challenge to overcome. Most people who do not have DID, do not have models to understand what has happened. Possessing no training, how can they listen, if they cannot relate, and this further isolate the DID sufferer.
For the long-term, agreements, cooperation, compromise, and balance between selves, are probably all important skills for someone who has DID.
DID sociological ramifications are bewildering. Look in the movie for a DID sufferer, who isn't a bad person, and what do you find?
I am weary of over-medicating people with DID. I strongly feel that anti-psychotics are oversubscribed even being offered for anxiety and PMS, which would not be a problem, but they are medications that can cause irreversible harm to a person's brain. How could you draw a picture or play music well with tardive dyskinesia. The very first rule of medicine is: do no harm.
Thank you for reading this far.
You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching the video and sharing your thoughts
I have been misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder. I always wondered why I was ultra rapid cycling… thank you.
So welcome. I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching.
Omigoodness! Yes me tooooo! I told my therapist who just diagnosed me that no it’s not DID I’m a rapid cycler, I have bipolar. Then he described to me rapid cycle bipolar is having 4 manic episodes a year. And I’m like wait, what. I’m changing constantly in the day. 4 is to little.
In the part where you said someone with DID can spiral really quickly due to distress intolerance - do you have any advice for that? Would you do a video on how to manage DID and the various symptoms it comes with?
It took 5 years for docs to decide I had DID. It was so upsetting. I just fell to the floor when I was told I had it. It’s not dramatic.
Are memories lost due to dissociative amnesia recoverable? I have virtually no memories of my childhood. And I'm not talking about when I was 5. I'm talking about my adolescent and teenage years through high school. All I've got a handful of flashbulb memories. I can't remember really any conversations I had with my parents, birthdays, holidays and vacations. I got no problem remembering my personal information and stuff like that. I think I got a fairly good memory when it comes to that. I remember the music cassettes at that time, many had the the lyrics to the songs in them and I would remember them then and I got no trouble remembering them today over 30 years later. It's just really confusing and frustrating why I can remember things like that but can't remember anything else
I mean I have DID diagnosed and been working a year and a half with a specialiszed therapist doing EMDR as described as myself or letting alters go to therapy and have their sessions ...
What I can tell you from experience is yes. Good and bad memories alike, mostly all just as distressing. I remember sweet wonderful memories of my papa taking me away from my mom for short visits and the things we did. I did not have these memories last year. They have not gone away. I do write them down and talk about them in therapy. The more curious, calm and courageous I am with my self energy, the more I am able to wonder about myself (ourself) and discuss in therapy. Best of luck to you 🤗
EMDR with the right therapist may help you recover memories. I've been doing it on and off for many years and have been able to piece together a biography of abuse from back to infancy. I switch during the sessions, and parts engage in the emdr. Many of my memories are somatic (body memories), but I see images too. The therapist I have never pushed me to talk about what I experience, which helps me because some of it is so incredulous it takes me a while to believe and accept what comes up. Flooding can occur during emdr, which is gnarly. I don't recommend emdr for everyone. Personally, I have a strong desire to know my history, and I am very dissociated from emotions, so I can usually handle it.
Sometimes I randomly remember stuff but never sure if it's my imagination or real
so the answer is yes, you can recover repressed memories, but it's important to understand that some gaps in memory are simply because our brains didn't think it important enough to store (i.e we weren't alert or producing more noradrenaline) - likewise it's important to remember that we don't repress memories by accident, and that we aren't always in a safe place to uncover them. that's why EMDR comes with so many warnings and directions for self care. I've had a lot of repressed memories come back without therapy and each time it's been really difficult to manage. it drives you mad trying to fill in the gaps, but ive learned that you can't force your brain to open the locked box, and that even if you COULD, you might become very distressed at what's in there. pay attention to your triggers rather than focusing on missing memories, they'll help you in the meantime - and when you're really ready to delve in, please see a licensed EMDR therapist rather than a hypnotist, they've done lots of damage
@loriandcrew3216 are you still very detached from emotions?
I discovered I was only whe. current trauma resembling childhood occurred. Cognitively I knew of a lot but it didn't affect me until the feelings came too. It seems when that happened', the overall dissociation really took off 😒
Wonderful to find this today - really appreciate it. I'm learning what I can from good resources. As someone with the diagnosis, the area that seemed to contradict (you mentioned) made sense to me. Also, I really believe, as much as is known now, we still have a lot more to learn about how DID presents in different people. "Switching" is not always fast. It can be gradual over days (I suspect even longer) with co-consciousness being part of the transition. AND a part can be in front (driving the car, basically) for years, which was my experience. This was a great presentation, super thorough and easy to listen to and follow.
Thanks for watching.
I would not say that Lenehan's definition of "distress intolerance" is the equivalent of the dysregulation experienced by people with DID. She never spoke about dissociative events directly, and in DID, dissociation is the driver of many challenges. Lack of a unified identity and amnesia are the cornerstones of DID. If you don't have either, you can still be in a lot of pain, but you do not have DID. You could have OSDD or depersonalization or derealization, which can really make your life hard. They are legitimate diagnoses and can also be treated effectively.
I don't have DID but something just doesn't feel right. I have experienced trauma throughout my childhood and my marriage. A year or so ago, I started hearing 2 people in my head talking to each other. It was more about my fate. Will I die, will I fail, will I succeed. Then overtime, after being on anti psychotic meds and mood stabilizers, it stopped. Then I got in the final round in my toxic marriage and the voices returned talking to me. I felt like I have dissociated a lot during that time. I felt like I took a backseat and watch the world around me, I felt like the world wasn't real anymore, I started forgetting who I was. When I got out of the marriage and things didn't stop. We still talk to each other and have created rules to accommodate everyone. The number of voices is now three and not two.
There are no names given but physical presentation is there. I dress masculine now and I feel like I have no control of it, I buy lots of male clothing, I must go to the gym, make up but no lip color or eyeliner, etc. Everyone agrees with my physical presentation but I often look at my heels knowing I can't do anything about it. I feel exhausted because I have to make everyone happy or the masculine side might get a Lil rebellious. When I try to open up to my therapist she "fronts" and my train of thought completely evaporates. Even know I can feel she isn't super happy about me opening up online. I am scared that it might get worse! I get to go to school and study because "we" want the best for us. We have different reasons for this but at least we agree on my education. What should I do? Should I just blow it off as stress or tell my therapist that I think I am crazy?
Have you considered schizophrenia? Relatable I must say.
@@centralpath3372 no, I have not. I don't know much about that disorder so I dismissed the possibility. I am thinking I should see a psychotherapist of something. "They" don't trust the therapist I have now, with good reasons. She is religious and the masculine side of me isn't religious at all, dislikes men, and hate people of my therapist's cultural background. I think it's because those groups wronged me.
I was diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar since a teen. I finally got into a therapist and have somethings similar to what your saying. and they gave me DID diagnosis on the first visit after my 2 assessments. I went through 2 other places before I could find someone to see me, I highly recommend giving it a try. I find they guide me and help me see through all the things I’m not understanding with myself.
Of course, no one online can diagnose you, but you've described many things that sound like DID. Voices ‘in the head’ may be parts speaking. People with schizophrenia hear voices ‘outside the head.’
Not all parts have names, and even if they do, you may not know what they are.
People with DID usually don’t know they have it and can go decades or an entire lifetime unaware of the parts (alters) inside them.
The DID system of multiple parts is designed to be covert, and parts are often brainwashed by the perpetrators to never speak of it, deny its existence and avoid looking at it.
Not remembering where you were or what was said is typical. Parts have their own desires and worldview and often dress or see themselves differently than the main part (the apparently normal part ANP) who handles day-to-day functions.
Most of the recent research points to very early trauma, starting before 11 months old and then continuing, but there's also OSSD-1 which can form a little later in life (around 2 or 3, I think).
Having DID is exhausting because of the energy generated by all the different parts. At the same time, some sleep, and others are awake. Once awareness happens, it's easier to notice fluctuating energy levels. Each part generates energy just like individual people do. My therapist tells me I should sleep 10 hours a day, but I can't because parts always operate somewhere in the system.
The trauma isn't remembered until one does much therapy work. For me, it is EMDR that has allowed me access to my biography and the torture I lived through.
Good luck on your journey. I wish you well.
I really enjoy your videos! I wish you went into more detail with the dissociative amnesia and the diagnostic features 😩
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Always love the content. I would just be careful with the math. 70% of people diagnosed with d.i.d. does not equal 70% of people diagnosed with bpd. It's 70% of the 1.5% of the population that has d.i.d. that was diagnosed 1st with bpd, not 70% of people diagnosed with bpd have d.i.d.
I was diagnosed with BPd before I got My DID diagnosis. it can be co-morbid more often than not :) /nm
just for addition. you are absolutely right commenter but wanted to add this as well - Luna
@@allure2492 Can you explain what D.I.D. is like for you? I suffer from dissociation and I don't have money for therapy yet.
I'm very curious about the differences between dissociative fugue and a heavy tendency to sleepwalking. Specifically sleepwalking manifested from trauma. I experienced a lot of sexual and psychological trauma as early as one year of age. I had a tendency to sleepwalk, and I would end up in an odd place but be away from my abuser. I had an extreme freeze response. I have a lot of amnesia from this time, and most of these memories did not start to come back until something catastrophic happened later in life. I don't remember a lot of the sleepwalking, but there were a few times where I woke up with a knife in my hand in a weird place in my house confused and upset. I'm just curious if this could be an aspect of dissociative fugue, or if this is just a strong response to trauma in a PTSD type of way. I'm very appreciative of all of your videos. I am currently working on finding a way to go to therapy, but my current circumstances is very limiting and hopefully I'll be in to receive the help that I need. Thank you for the time you took to read this.
I am so glad to see you have already made a video with the information I want!!!
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Wow this is really informative and so so helpful. I was diagnosed with did a year and a half ago and then bpd a few months back. This is all still so new, and there’s so much misinformation. This is so helpful 🤟🏾🖤
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Can you do a video on PPPD and how best to treat/manage it. Thanks
I have reached out to the Balance Disorders clinic at UT-Knoxville and Vanderbilt to see if I can get an expert to come on the show. Since it is a vestibular disorder, counseling interventions would revolve around coping with symptoms.
I was diagnosed with d.i.d, ddnos, adhd, ocd, cptsd, bpd and gad. and at one point bipolar but I ruled that out. ( different providers) strong fearful avoidants for many years. I still have a hard time believing it, not even sure what to believe. what diagnosis is correct, I do know emotional regulation, different levels of functioning, and unable to attract and keep intimate relationships. So hard to figure diagnosis so I mostly just focus on healing. with 11 years of therapy I am thankfully able to hold down a career. I still can't hold on a relationship as when I get into one I often revert back to a teenage like state. kind of curious how you even approach dating with these kind of mental challenges. most counselors won't treat me, and some are most are inexperience or don't even believe the diagnosis. let's not forget the stigma. so I do my own research and try to do self therapy. DBT groups seem most helpful. I guess my question is if there's confusion of cptsd borderline personality disorder and did or dnos does the diagnosis matter as much as what is needed to be functioning for example if when in a romantic relationship I revert back to a child like state, is that something I work through what if I can't change is that something my partner would have to deal with? How do you approach dating if you dissociate and switch a lot and stressful States.. or whatever the instability is. Is all so confusing.
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Is it common to be diagnosed as cptsd and then once therapy goes deeper to discover it is DID?
As well, can alters just be labeled as colors or moods or variations of self?
Thank you for making your videos.
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There it is! This describes my family to a T!
-Over controlling parenting
-insecure attachment
-emotional abuse/neglect
You say if it’s generational and inescapable, it can cause DID… even without sexual or physical abuse… thank you for saying this because I have DID, and my sexual abuse didn’t occur until 13 and that was outside of the family, and there were just a handful of physical abuse instances at home, so I always thought oh, how did I end up with this? Other people had much more horrific childhoods. I wasn’t a victim of incest, I didn’t get beat all the time…although…being kidnapped and taken to another state against my will and subjected to thought reform/cult brainwashing at a secluded inescapable child prison compound probably didn’t help… I worry about what was programmed :(
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching
Hi Dr, love your channel and the work you do. I had a question about D.I.D.; when a person is aware of the process taking place, when they feel the flight of consciousness taking place how would they avoid pain that comes from being locked in a state of fight or flight (autonomic nervous suspension) due to external forces such as bullying, and harassment? Sorry if that's a mouthful. Thank you.
Hi, Pedro. Thank you for watching. Here’s a video on breaking out of the Fight-Flight-Freeze Response
I have been suffering from Disassociation for over 36 years or more, I didn't realize it could be different personalities as I thought it was just Anxiety & Mood Swings making say or act different at times or be someone else for while when I'm anxious. It's been hard today split up with my girlfriend as I said something wrong as I wasn't thinking at the time & I was overwhelmed by all the information she was saying to process. I do have trouble remembering most of my life & go out of my body often to somewhere nearby in a fog. Never heard any voices in my head as it is completely silent in my head.
This was very affirming and helpful
I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
@@DocSnipes just the general whole thing. For me it was when you related the experiences of those with DID vs similar but different disorders including fictitious disorder which I have noticed: brings the comparison there helped me look at the past decade of my life and even from my childhood and brought back experiences I have had, in a clearer manner. So thank you
I set reminder to help support
this doc is the mom i never had
Thank you! I appreciate you watching.
I have no idea who I am. I can be anyone I want to be other than who I really am I guess. I never got to know myself because I was always trying to become someone else besides myself because my mom and dad didn’t want me the way I was.
I am sorry you are going through that and I appreciate you watching. What do you enjoy doing? What are your values?
I got a lot from this video thanks
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@@DocSnipes thankyou so much!
Great informative presentation.
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Hey Doc Snipes - love your channel and think you deserve WAY more subs! I wonder if it would make sense to modify the channel name so that it clearly indicates the channel is about mental health?
I wonder... What is the likelyhood of an individual who has a high percentage of comorbidities actually having DID or OSDD? Compared to someone who develops those conditions independently of DID?
That's an insightful question. The likelihood of an individual with a high percentage of comorbidities having DID or OSDD can be higher, as these conditions often develop in response to severe and prolonged trauma, which can also lead to other mental health issues. Comorbidities like PTSD, anxiety, and depression are commonly seen alongside DID and OSDD. However, each person's experience is unique, and a thorough assessment by a qualified mental health professional is crucial to accurately understand and diagnose these conditions.
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@DocSnipes thank you. I really wish there was a more definite answer
Throughout life, I've developed condition after condition as the early complex trauma accumulated. Despite desperately not wanting to be this way and alwayz seeking treatment (checked myself into treatment as an adolescent, for example), my strive to be healthy isnt consistentlysuccessful. It's very confusing how I can be so educated and driven, but lack the ability and know how to get myself there. I guess it's as if there are conflicting parts inside of me.
@DocSnipes you're am absolutely fantastic resource. Your presentation style coupled with the slides are very clear and understandable.
It was your video on the 6 things to know of BPD that made me certain after struggling half my life.
When I married my wife, she had four personalities, a three year old child, a pre-teen, herself at 33 and Hilda who was 92 years old. She did not know she had these other personalities. She simply believed she had blacked out. It took me awhile to figure out what was happening, as I did not really know her before we were married.
She had been good for about 7 years, but last year psychosis caused her to revert to how she was in our first four years of marriage. She has been diagnosed with BPD, C-PTSD and psychosis.
I am deeply sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video
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You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video
Informative! Thanks ❤
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Ah yes, I was also initially misdiagnosed with "symptoms of borderline personality disorder", so was my sister.
Thanks for sharing, and watching.
I have heard people say that psychosis in schizophrenia specifically feels dream like but I also have people say it doesn’t. I have heard “detachment from reality” I don’t really understand what that means.
Psychosis in schizophrenia can indeed be a complex and varied experience, and it's understandable that you've heard differing descriptions. When people with schizophrenia experience psychosis, they may have hallucinations or delusions that feel very real to them. The term "detachment from reality" refers to a state where what a person perceives, believes, or experiences does not align with the commonly accepted reality. This can manifest in several ways:
Hallucinations: These are sensory experiences that appear real but are created by the mind. For example, a person might hear voices that no one else can hear or see things that aren't there.
Delusions: These are strong beliefs that are not based in reality and may seem irrational to others. For instance, a person might believe they are being persecuted by unseen forces or that they have special powers.
Disorganized Thinking: This can result in speech that is difficult to follow or doesn't make sense to others, as thoughts may be jumbled or disconnected.
Some individuals describe their experience of psychosis as dream-like or foggy, which may be similar to the symptoms of derealization, where the environment seems unreal, lifeless, or visually distorted. Others may not describe it this way, as the experience of psychosis can be unique to each individual.
It's also important to note that while the symptoms of psychosis in schizophrenia are egocentric, meaning the person's altered perception of reality makes sense to them, they may not understand why others do not share this perception. This differs from conditions like dissociative identity disorder, where reality testing remains intact, and the person recognizes that their experiences are not reflective of common reality.
In summary, psychosis in schizophrenia can involve a range of symptoms that affect a person's perception, beliefs, and thinking. The experience can vary greatly from person to person, and while some may describe it as dream-like, others may not. The key aspect of psychosis is the significant difference between the person's experience and what is generally recognized as reality.
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@@DocSnipes hmm thank you for elaborating. But isn’t word salad found in disorganized schizophrenia? But that’s not a diagnosis anymore. Do paranoid schizophrenics do word salad? I’m interested in this I would appreciate a response thank you.
I was diagnosed with dissociation disorder and I wanted to learn more about it because all videos focus on did and I don't have that 😅 So I wanted to learn more about the others. I'm still working on that and now I'm worried about borderline personality disorder, I'll just wait and stop looking for more info I don't want to get confused as a patient 😅
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. Here are the videos on BDP: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=BPD
It can be terrifying and dangerous at times to live with someone with DID. I would love to see more help about coping mechanisms for the significant other who lives with a DID person. I'm curious if there is a way to guide the afflicted into a safer alter, or back to the host. Also, in the case of my SO, the symptoms are getting worse with more frequent switching between alters now versus 20+ years ago.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching. Maybe this video on dissociation and safety helps: th-cam.com/video/hlYhKyPicS4/w-d-xo.html
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Can this happen in paws withdrawal for a time being?
It may not rise to the level of dissociative identity disorder, but substance use was often away of chemically dissociating if you will, so when you're clean, it's not uncommon to experience. Of dissociation. A therapist could evaluate and tell you if it is DID
Thank you for the video.
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I've lived like this all my life. I don't know any different 😕 🤷
Good video.
Glad you enjoyed it
Can you ever be free of that? My ex has that and his therapist said according to him that my he has to strengthen the part of his brain that is weak and once he works through his trauma starting from childhood till now that Victoria will go away and as a security thing that there are pills he can take to make sure she never comes back is that true?
alters don't "go away". They integrate. Healing would mean that your ex would regain all of Victoria's memories and vice versa, creating a cohesive person. Alters aren't the cause of the disorder, they're a symptom. They integrate as the person with DID gets better.
@@coolpal2026 what does integrate mean? I’m guessing that means that Victoria will still pop out every time there is trauma in his life or something that Scott just can’t handle so he lets her come out. He admitted he did that and that he came out of it and I said yeah this time. I don’t talk to him anymore so I’m not sure what his healing journey looks like now
@@angelawarren57 integration means that the barrier between two alters is getting thiner, and eventually leaves. They become one new alter. If all the alters integrate with each other, that's known as final fusion, and that means there is one whole person now.
Ignoring alters doesn't do any good to someone with DID. Even if the alters stop taking control, they still have skills and memories that would be good to integrate
Once they integrate and become one does that mean that they no longer have DID/ Multiple personality disorder? How do you forgive someone that has that from the damage that was caused due to it?
@angelawarren57 someone that heals from DID could be called a "fully integrated DID system". There is always a chance they'll split again, or that there is still one or more "small" alters left far away in the consciousness. Technically, the diagnosis could be removed, because the patient is now "sub symptomatic", meaning they don't have enough symptoms to qualify for the diagnosis anymore.
I'd suggest you read some reputable sources about DID. This channel is a great start, she links some things in the comments sometimes. MPD (multiple personality disorder) hasn't been clinically used for years.
As for the forgiving part... I don't know your situation. But I'll tell you that people don't do things because of their disorder. People can be good, bad, in-between, regardless of any disorder they might have.
Regardless, if an alter of your ex hurt you, they probably did so for a reason that makes sens in their mind. They might have seen you, or the idea of having a partner, as a threat. They most likely won't apologize for that until they realize the threat was imagined, which could take years. Are you willing to forgive someone that might not be sorry? That might do it again? Healing takes time. If your ex hurts you when he's sick, he might not be a great person to be around.
maybe its psychopathy, maybe manipulation. maybe personality disorder.
I feel like whenever i face a human , i have about 15 different versions of me, like avatars on a hanger, waiting which one i will pick up to deal with the human against me. Assessment takes about 3-5 secs. a human is a challenge, despite if its known human or not. communication is a challenge, where you want to win, win as someone who can be understood, accepted, or unnoticed, or sharp and using sharp phrases, or overly flirty, Flirty version of me would come out as reaction to psychologically bad atmosphere, where my boundaries or dignity are about to be broken to shock or surprise the other person to make him stop.. My strongest avatar is a legal body. Advocate, lawyer. prosecutor. this one works almost on everybody.
It sounds like you're describing a highly adaptable and situational approach to interacting with others, where you switch between different personas or "avatars" depending on the context. While this can be a useful skill for managing social interactions, it's important to distinguish between this kind of flexibility and Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). DID involves the presence of two or more distinct personality states or identities that control a person's behavior at different times, often with significant memory gaps. Your experience seems more like a conscious and strategic choice rather than an involuntary shift between identities.
If you have concerns about your mental health or how you're coping with social interactions, it might be helpful to speak with a mental health professional who can provide personalized insights and support. Also please share any insights or useful points you gathered from the video. Additionally, if you're keen to dive deeper into DID, explore more resources, or search for videos in the video library, you can use my AI first free. Here’s the link: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
Aw thanks so much for commenting.
My avatars come spontaneously, and it takes a hell job to keep them in control. Sometimes in stressful concentration i feel im not myself and I can't stop it, but recently i have learned to keep my real self for longer on track and say to myself, if something horrible happens, let it happen l,
I will hold myself as much as i can, as consequences of letting it go and letting spontaneous masks change me will have bad consequences to my finances etc. even it feels right thing inside me.
Memory gaps, it again takes huge concentration to keep knowing what i was doing for 3-5 seconds, i never had long memory gaps, but 2-4 seconds happened which i always think is distraction or day dreaming about something. My bog worry that my hobbies change so rapidly, i seem to be same person, but i cant understand why one day i am passionate about playing music, the other, i dont want to do. It, third day or week i will only play chess or learn language. Or go to gym. Looks like huge inconsistency, but understanding all of this makes me sane and feelingi i can actually change something. Unknown paths are always the hardest ones.
But yeah. Here we go.
@@DocSnipes i still think personally there must be different depth levels of disassociation depending on impact of trauma and age which would mean there is a spectrum of how independent are the alters. The stronger the trauma, more independent is alter, until trauma is healed, dealt with.
Ive been diagnosed bipolar 1, and have verybrapid cycling
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@santiagoleo who did?
Every time I talk to a new therapist, I have to argue about whether DID is real or not.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video
Perhaps they mean at some point it's not evident to them. For 3 years it wasn't obvious to me
Thank you for watching the video and for sharing
Nice. I'm not alone.shes great. What a breakdown. Thought I was losing my fucking mind. IM NOT ALONE GUYS
I feel like a passanger in my own body, watching myself from inside,not able to control it
I am sorry about that
Can dissociative disorder be diagnosed in a person with an IQ of 65?
If the symptoms are not better explained by whatever caused to low IQ
@@DocSnipes in the process of trying to figure that out. Thank you. With diagnoses of ptsd, anxiety, depression and RAD but with an IQ of 65 for a child under 10 it’s hard to know which is what. Starting to see antisocial behaviors and dissociating (since adopted at age 5) would you think that’s possible to have all those? This child seems like the body is moving but the brain is not there.
I think this is what my partner is dealing with, does anyone know any good online support groups I could talk to for myself as a partner of someone who might have this whole we are seeking help or them as well?
It's commendable that you're seeking support for yourself as you navigate this challenging situation. Caring for a partner who may have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) can be complex, and having a supportive community can make a big difference.
There are several online support groups specifically for partners and loved ones of individuals with DID. These groups offer a space to share experiences, ask questions, and receive guidance from others who understand what you're going through. Here are a few options to consider:
1. ISSTD (International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation) Forums: They offer online communities where you can connect with others facing similar situations. While primarily focused on professionals, they have resources and forums that can be helpful for partners and families.
2. Reddit - r/DID: While this is a broader community, there are often discussions that include partners and loved ones. It's a place where you can ask questions and get a variety of perspectives.
3. Online Support Groups through Mental Health Organizations: Websites like [Mental Health America](www.mhanational.org/) or [NAMI](www.nami.org/Home) (National Alliance on Mental Illness) sometimes offer or can direct you to relevant support groups. While they may not be DID-specific, they can still offer support for general mental health and caregiving challenges.
4. Facebook Groups: There are several private groups dedicated to partners of people with DID. These groups often require you to request to join and may ask a few screening questions to ensure privacy and safety within the community.
It's also important to remember to take care of your own mental health while supporting your partner. Therapy or counseling for yourself can provide an additional layer of support and guidance during this time.
If you’re interested in learning more about DID or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
Also, if you're in the process of seeking help for your partner, professional guidance from a therapist or psychiatrist with experience in trauma and dissociation is crucial. They can help both your partner and you navigate this journey with the right support and strategies.
@@DocSnipes Thank you SO much, it really does mean a lot. Their therapist is looking into specialists, I just definitely have my own struggles in understanding and coping sometimes. I definitely hate being mad at the host if I know it's an altar that caused something.
Jesus…. Can you please message me, my partner needs to see you. Your the best in the world in this disorder and co disorders. Thank you
I am currently not taking new patients. You can message support@docsnipes.com and we can try to help you find a therapist in your area. You can also search online using your state and therapists treating dissociative identity disorder
What’s with the hands
Lol. That's hand signal is creepy.
Sometimes i feel like i can evesdrop on my own thoughts
That sounds awful and I am sorry it happens to you
Zero pharmakia< it makes things waaay worse!
Thanks for watching
It's not a disorder or a identity
By making it that your saying that's who you are and it'll be forever. I think it's part of anxiety my opinion.
Thank you for watching and for sharing your opinion. Do you thinks videos on addressing anxiety would help?
@@DocSnipes Yes
@@DocSnipes In my case it's anxiety I can't speak for nobody else because I don't know there situation.
So beautiful
Loving someone with DID- A, has been so painful and constantly abusive just based on basic interaction not malicious intent. No real relationship possible. It's all about them. That is the impact even if it's not on purpose. I'm done explaining away that their illness gets tender treatment... and I just have to suffer because "they can't help it". I refuse to participate. I send my love from a distance.
I spent seven years with a Philippina woman who seemed to enjoy the drama/control her alter provided. During a recent argument, this alter took over and transformed into a full-blown witch. I knew something wasn't right, but love IS blind, and I'm a dedicated sleepwalker. This particular video has been a tremendous revelation for me, and I am deeply thankful for the wisdom...
.......what are you talking about??
just because someone has DID doesn't mean that they are suddenly going to be abusive..........
you have one bad experience with a person with did so that means all people with did are like that? youre insane
Well... Considering the nature of having a disorder in which your personality has broken down into subroutines used to function on account of life threatening experiences, along with a possible # of comorbid stuff, I'd say that is to be expected. Honestly though, you can't just lump your personal views and experiences into one grand understanding of people with DID and *their* relationships as well.
A person must have a very ridgid understanding of life to see everything so righteously.
i think DID is on the spectrum as many other mental conditions
Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is indeed a complex mental health condition, but it is distinct and not typically considered part of a spectrum in the same way conditions like autism are. DID involves the presence of two or more distinct personality states and is often linked to severe trauma or abuse during childhood. It is different from other mental health conditions that may share some overlapping symptoms but have different underlying mechanisms and diagnostic criteria.