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I’m an introvert who also avoids attachment. I’m now 74. As a person of deep faith, I’m completely comfortable as a loner. Frankly, I can’t be bothered with people.
It sounds to me like you are loner because you hate people. Me too. I see mine as old wounds that there may be a way to heal. I can't have my own rich and meaningful life without, actually I am thinking, a lot of people. It is a big goal but I am setting it up now in life and am working hard to fulfill it as my destiny. If I have lived before, I am hoping for this life to be my best one yet with the help and joy of lots of people.
i've learned to use avoidance as a coping mechanism growing up, as well as some form of escapism. it has severely hindered me in my adult years. i became aware that this was a mechanism maybe three years ago, but i only just recently really appreciated how it has negatively affected me. i'm 32, and i hope it isn't too late for me to take hold of my life.
Im 42 and still figuring out if im avoidant or just allergic to anxiously attached people so as the other comments said youre still young and have plenty of time to figure it out and turn it around if need be.
Hi, thanks for your presentation. I was always plagued by social anxiety, while as an introvert I got great satisfaction from "looking in" and nature. The introversion did not make me suffer, but the social anxiety was hell. As I wanted to change, I addressed the social anxiety through some meds, behaviour change, reading many books on social behaviour and etiquette, some therapy, practice (very important,) meditation (Braham) and most importantly a willingness to change. Now at 65, I'm doing fine. I can talk to anyone about anything, but often I'm fine alone. I live alone, all my life. I've always had dear friends. I've subscribed to your channel.
Thank you for sharing this! As a introvert with social anxiety it can be hard to ever see me being comfortable publicly as introversion is still a little taboo to many people.
I am an introvert and i love being alone. I dont like people in general. Too mich noise, emotional, stupid small talk, lack of knowledge, superficial, etc etc. Not all, every once a while you will meet a gem, highly intelligent, humble person.
I have avoidant personality disorder (also OCD, learning disability, generalized anxiety disorder and PTSD) I learned During my childhood that crying, especially in front of others makes you weak. Even to this day I feel extreme shame if I cry in front of others. In my childhood home you weren't allowed to show negative emotions, if you did, you were punished. Because I wasnt allowed to show them I instead self harmed every time I felt angry or sad. I'm 35 and I still self harm. Both of my parents have PTSD and my father has also BPD. I remember them both being very detached and sad when I was kid. They weren't warm or gentle, they never hugged us. Occasionally my father would dissociate and talk about his extremely violent and traumatic childhood. My parents had to "learn" to hug us. (sorry if there are spelling mistakes, English isnt my mother language)
This is very ABNORMAL behavior. Most people of your generation, your father's generation and mine are not like that. Expressing or at the very least dealing with your emotions even if in a different way is necessary for your sanity and mental health, which affects everything else in life, and everyone thinks it's just for the reasons everyone else chooses not to do things, and just get angry at us. Brute force and the attitude of "Doesn't matter what you're going through, FIND A WAY" is not ALWAYS the way. People need to stop assuming something is bullshit if it's beyond their understanding, and that there may be VALID factors even if they don't understand it.
@@kevinzhang6623 Thank you. You helped to clear that up for me. I am using your explanation as a road map for understand my family of origin and their relationships, by understanding love and affection and it's role in mental health. I am working to create replacement FOO in my head that is an enriched environment for my growth and development and then I can start to fantasize about how it would feel to grow back into who I already know I am and who I thought I would become. I love to use my imagination about these things (like she says to make a dream board) and I can also interject isolated memories and how they made me feel in the moment, to construct both identity and a completely different FOO.
As women we are told we are overly emotional but when we are allowed to express our emotions we can get them tended to by others and later more ourselves thus having gained "women's wisdom". This can be part of being female that we can be soft and vulnerable but also venerable in that way of helping others with relief of on-going negative emotionality!
I'm an introverted highly sensitive personality/ empath. My husband has an avoidance personality type bc of upbringing but also an introvert. Go figure. Lol. It's crazy watching him and hearing his conversations with his relatives. Very superficial and on the surface and have nothing to do with their personal lives. Very outwardly focused, even on other people's lives and issues. It drives me crazy. But with me, he can go deep and personal. I always bring it out of him though.
@@DocSnipes thank you for the information and description/ insight . I just want to add that there seems to be adifferenxe between someone who has a dysfunction and someone who just has a specific attachment style. My husband is not dysfunctional, and in marriage and having kids, he actually has grown and overcome some of his attachment style issues. I know that doesn't happen for everyone, but it happened for me. 6 years in and he has gotten better, not worse as a person. I think our relationship works because we have some core values and common ideals and some common interests and we are both introverts. I don't know that if I was an extrovert, that we would have been able to relate at all or mesh well together.
Wow! That is quite a skill to meet him with on a deeper level. To me, it sounds like you are a perfect-type of wife in that regard. You can achieve intimacy where he needed it but his family life did not give him. I wanted to do this for my father but it was inappropriate (I thought I was Heidi) and he turned into a narcissist with all my attention. Now he is angry when I don't take care of him and I am DONE WITH IT.
@@eyeonthesparrow9745 You are a keen observer of characters in ppl, non judgmental and one with a good sense of humor. Your husband must have seen a kindred soul in you, very lucky for him. Blessings.
I have always been introverted, but recently I was diagnosed as a avpd. Or do I have disorganized?? I like people and can be social, but prefer a few as you said. But the fear of rejectron is always there. I have good friends, but feel I can't open up fully. But the fear has resulted in me never having had a boyfriend and the age of 36. I fear intimacy and being vunerable with someone. My parents loved me, no doubt. But my father can be a bit aloof sometimes and my mother had a temper. So while I could talk with her about things and got hugs...I also tried not get on her bad side. But one of the major contributions to be now struggling was the bullying in school - everyday for 4 years. Thus I've had therapy on and off since I was 12. Today, most days are fine, but the out of the blue, something or someone can make me fall to the floor.
Hey just keeping working on yourself and create a new self if you have to. It may take a while but it will be worth it. I'm in my 50's and have never been loved but I've grown on my own so now I know what I want and I live my life on my terms and have worked to be comfortable around people. Now I'm hoping to find a nice woman to share my life with finally. I am finally ready. I just hope the wonderful woman I've found doesn't have avpd that she'll never be able to open up.
I was abused as a child, and have IPD and moderate PTSD. 10 years in the United States Army reinforced that. It took me until 4 years ago to start unraveling this with a therapist. After a 30 year failed marriage to a severe adhd untreated spouse in denial and thats made me avoidant....I am just now starting to recover at 53 yrs of age. I never wanted to be this way
Thank you for watching the video. I am sorry you went through that. Being abused takes its toll on physical and mental health. Have you tried watching the videos on PTSD (cPTSD)?
thank you so much for making videos on attachments.. i still haven't caught up with all, but I will.. it's so helpful for people like us who are from lesser developed countries and can't get proper help or information from mental health professionals because of poor awareness even within the professionals. thanks a ton😊❤️
My roommate of 4 years fits the avoidance description very closely. I've suggested therapy after being around her for so long when she says more alarming stuff. She flips between wanting to be alone and deciding she'll never be happy that way with broad self deprication. I've never known how to bring this kind of stuff up with her because I don't want to pry but also don't have any good advice. Suggesting she has a personality disorder has to be the worst way to care about someone.
Me and my friends talk about mental helth alot. Just talking about diffrent issues brings up our own stuff that we talk about maybe try talking about mental helth and see if she says anything evenchaly she might open up if you get into it :)
What a wonderful description ☺️ It describes my Mother to a TEE. I think I am an introvert with some avoidant tendencies. But, I found out I have an extroverted outward persona that I developed to present in the world 🌍
I was rasied with a narcissist mother, I've got Avoident personality disorder,and it's ruined my life, I do ok, but, I'm 54 and Im conered about the rest of my life
@@richardhald9197FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her. Please don't take the crap that this "doc" said to heart.
No you don't. Attachment styles are not even recognized by the DSM 5. THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. You cannot use the terms interchangeably and this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for doing so just because they're trendy terms on the internet. Also internet tests don't mean anything, they just play into stereotypes. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thank you. There is a difference between an introvert and behaviors associated with life changes. One of the biggest misconceptions people make about introversion is that they are door mats. To that I say, don’t let the good Lord hit ya where he split ya! Lol 🤔❤🇺🇸
I'm not sure if I have avoidant personality, but I certainly have some of the symptoms. I remember as a kid being at a pool, ending up drifting into the deep end with some other peers. I nearly drowned because I was too scared to cry for help, I didn't want them to know I couldn't swim. I was lucky the lifeguard eventually spotted me drifting and dipping under the water... It's the story of my life now, and I still don't know how to swim :(
Thank you for sharing your experience. I can deeply relate. I'm 45 and I feel like my life has been a series of "near drowning" experiences. But things are getting better and there is hope. Good luck on your journey, friend!
No reason to thank her unfortunately she is making bank using meaningless trendy internet terms to spread negative stereotypes about AVPD. First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Oh my god you naild it! Im totally struggling with this my entire life no work no relationships no friends! pretty much just at home! Tried a many things including therapy but i always end up here alone at home again! Even if the odds are what it feels like to be stacked against me im never giving up this fight!
You really hit the nail right on the head when at 1:40 you said how their caregivers expected way too much out of them when they were children, and constantly criticized them. Both of my parents are incredibly narcissistic drug addicts and alcoholics. They parentified all of their children to the point of turning siblings against each other.
Thank you for making this video Watching some videos on avoidant attachment makes it seem like if you are just a tad introverted and need some alone time to recharge, then you must be avoidant This video much more clearly delineates the two (Obviously a person could be both avoidant and introverted but being one does not necessarily imply the the other, they are not synonymous)
I know I have AVPD. I identify strongly with every single issue on that list except for the last. And my mother was extremely endearing and affectionate and nothing gave me more comfort than being in her presence. I also have a big personality and can mingle and socialize in any situation. But I've stayed inside 90% of my life for the last 10 yrs. Wish I could fix myself.
Right, I don't talk much or join in on the conversation because thats my personality. I'm not hating on anybody. I don't get why thats so hard for a lot of extroverts to understand. But I do hate small talk.
I really don't know what made me like this, an avoidant, i can't remember my childhood but both my father and mother were really loving and accepting albeit overprotective, i feel like the more i read about avoidants the less I understand why I'm like this
I’m the same my parents were very loving but they worked a lot so as a child and now as a 60 year old I continue to suffer with separation anxiety which sounds ridiculous I feel the anxiety and stress practically every day when my husband is away working. It got worse as my children started leaving home I’m also an introvert and an empath
I kinda feel the same. I feel like there were certain things my parents did in my childhood that could contribute, but overall I always say I had a happy childhood. I think you can have loving parents and a happy childhood, while also recognizing that certain behaviors of your parents affected you negatively. For me, my father couldn't deal well with crying, or emotions in general, so although I knew he loved me, that made me associate feelings or crying with weakness and caused me to be shameful about vulnerability. The worst part is that recognizing this also causes me stress because I feel so ungrateful for the privileged life I've lived and the efforts my parents have made...
What happens when an avoidant personality type gets together with a codependent type? Both originally came from abusive homes, and had different responses and ways of coping. Could you do a video about this? Does avoidant personality ever look like narcissistic behavior? Like if the avoidant person just always puts themselves first in the relationship?
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I think Avoidant and Narcissistic are both overly preoccupied with the way other people perceive them. The difference is the way they perceive themselves. I worry excessively about acceptance and I am ashamed of myself to the point where all I can think about is how to improve myself. Someone might perceive this as narcissistic, but my mind is desperately trying to find a way out of alienation and loneliness. I'm unhappy because I feel like I do not get to participate in life. It's like you're missing out on every phase of life and having to watch everyone else experience life. I try really hard to make aquaintences with people, but I don't even conceptually know how someone can become your friend unless a preexisting friend or family member facilitates a safer more personal prolonged interaction.
If I am not ashamed of my introversion, I will be able to better see the more sensitive people in the room and gravitate toward them, as I look for a more interesting and fruitful evening of conversation with someone who can value my talents and I can value their innermost personality without judgement. I can't wait. Sensitive men are much more beautiful to me. I don't have to "pity" the socially inverted, as I did my self anymore. I can "own the room" as I can pick my wonderful and rewarding interactions with beautiful people. No more sitting in the corner anymore to avoid the "ugly, deeply judgmental, people" (narcissists).
Thank you for the video 🙏🏼 Could you give tips or help to heal Avoidant personality disorder/style ? It’s difficult to live with it and we don’t have any help
NO!!! Fist of all If you're not even diagnosed with AVPD then this will be unnecessary Secondly she got so much wrong here. Avoidant attachment style IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD and those terms shouldn't be used interchangeably like she did here. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I used to wish I was a billboard, but was ashamed because I could not think of anything to say, so, I drove around town to various different fast food joints trying to get the courage to order a coke because I was thirsty, but couldn't do it. Finally, after about an hour, I was able to sneak into a Cum & Go where I purchased a slushy.
I’m quite extroverted but have AVPD. I love to talk but am afraid to do so due to AVPD. One thing that annoys the crap out of me is how so many of my family members can’t understand me even when I try explaining it to them. Someone even gave me a book on “The Power of Introverts”. I just felt so misunderstood when my uncle handed me this book because I love being social and am definitely not introverted like him. I have been coping with drugs and alcohol but we all know how that turns out. The body can only handle so much before the drugs start to consume you.
I am an introvert AND I have Cptsd and my personality is not the result of trauma. I have a big personality and a strong sense of self despite my experiences. I love being alone but I have close relationships. People just tire me out! And yeah people get suspicious of introverts because we are discreet and extroverts tend to be insecure about being alone. I am a very deep person and I have been very thoughtful and complex thoughts my whole life and it made me feel like something was wrong with me because other children were not self aware at such an early age. I’m an artist and a opera singer . I can read people like a book and I get so stressed out when I’m overstimulated and more so since the trauma. I can feel people before I see them! Like when I got mugged years ago, I could feel that evil from the people before I saw anyone that’s why they couldn’t sneak up on me because I felt their presence from quite a distance. I am a highly sensitive person which does make me more vulnerable to trauma! Sometimes i isolate because of trauma and sometimes it’s because I genuinely enjoy my own company! I do love spending time with my friends but i get tired. When I was little I was really sensitive and thoughtful. I worried about other children not having toys. I liked to talk to my teacher about world hunger at the age of 7! I read my mom’s medical books at 8 and Anne frank and I taught myself to the play the piano and I loved learning the Latin names of animals and taught myself different languages. I also have synesthesia! Pain has a taste! I can see waves of music and Auras. Peoples emotions can be overwhelming for me so I tend to spend time with other introverts. I was premature so my brain may have wired differently. I was always an affectionate and sweet child but after trauma I am more avoidant so I have quite the challenge, I have to expose myself to triggers so I can become braver and trust again but also honor my natural temperament. Some of my responses are not trauma based or hyper vigilance. I know my myself better than anyone so I’m learning to tell the difference and not let people write my responses off as trauma! I have a huge BS detector! And while I do have many cognitive distortions I’m also the first person to call a spade a spade and I have always had a very rich inner world! My abuser apologized for not getting me into gifted program’s as a child I was a prodigy. Some gifted sensitive child are born into cruel homes. Sometimes I have a lot of self hatred and regret for not being all that I could’ve been. My friends think I’m talented and intelligent but I feel like such a loser because I know things could have been different. But instead I spend all my energy trying to regulate and pick of the pieces of a broken childhood! But at least I’ve been the exact same person I was since I was little and I’m proud my ability to be true to myself if nothing else 🥹
I like you! You sound like a very interesting person! May you be blessed with bravery and safety when having those triggers. I also am Complex PTSD. I know how scary and real the flashbacks can be. Thank you for trusting to share with us. I edited my post from fear of my abuser whom i never actually met. He is a very powerful person so I cannot. Will not. Yet I admire people who cn speak freely like you did. I cannot ever for fear of being found and erased.
I tried to take on a role with my father that I could not be successful with because he just would not learn about the skills and confidence I was trying to teach him. I should have just received from him and received value, pride, and skills acknowledgement for being my self, not for serving him. As you may have guessed, I failed with him for my own goals and his (to keep me serving him). He is mad now at 95 years old, and I am struggling hard to put my pieces back together, and I could, on the positive side, know I have demonstrated some real skills and dedication to those abilities as a child as a lot of them are natural. I can re-grow them back onto me as actual demonstrations of what I AM good at. I was not a failure, just a very motivated and gifted child. I can let him stew in anger as I know he needs therapy, as his anger and need to slander me is something only therapy can help him with now!
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her. I don't think she will be of any help with your self esteem since she is taking trendy internet terms that aren't recognized by the DSM 5 that are usually used in negative stereotypes.
Trying to maintain a long distance friendship with someone who is very intoverted is hard for them to do and it is hard for us to know what they need from us when being long distance friends to them. 2 extreme introverts can show annoyance to one another when getting interrupted in turn sometimes while working together on a team in the same city without feeling any resentment towards one another about it only because they understand one another better. One reason that is so may be because a couple of introverts have a more consistent pattern in their work and home schedules.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her. And to answer your question yes but you shouldn't base it off this video since there's so much misinformation. And you should question a "doc" who won't even answer a simple question like yours without explanation as to why, instead saying generic "sorry to hear that. Thanks for watching." that she's leaving on every comment. The whole introversion and extroversion thing is just a way to describe how people like to socialize, it's not a disorder or a personality type. Just a scale that EVERYONE is on, including people with AVPD and any other disorder. Theoretically people with AVPD can also be extroverts.
I'm introverted. I work independently I always have kept jobs that are this way. I am worried because for the past several years I have struggled with getting out. My work week ends I just want to stay home and alone. It's been difficult for me to get out just go shopping for food and things needed to care for myself. I will put off until it is must. I also have avoided dating and have been single six years since my last LTR ended. I can't or don't feel right about putting myself out there and opening up to share my life with anyone. I'm not happy but I'm not unhappy. It's weird. I'm secluded but I'm not. smh
Its a bit different question but as an adhd introvert i need ur reply on my situation Doc whats ur take on - how to have a plan - B when we are uncertain about the future growth of our corporate job & does changing of the career field completely from one to another a better choice when all matters today in market is previous experience in same field for rise in salary or promotions..
I am definitely not an extrovert. Lol. Socializing or being in large groups is exhausting for me. Even some public places that are busy get me overstimulated.
No reason to thank her for spreading misinformation FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her. You should consult a real doctor.
Lol, I'm dealing with APD, trauma, and an introvert all at the same time! Trying to untangle theses things, trying to determine what is what and why! On top of dealing with autism and ADHD! What a headache! 😫
I identify myself a lot with the avoidant personality but don't know how I developed it. My holsehold was never that bad. We had a lot of fights between my family members but my parents never neglected me in any way. I don't know exactly why I grew up to be the way I am.
@@DocSnipes All I remember is that I have always been shy and socially anxious. All I cant think of is how I have always been my mothers baby (I am her youngest son). Do you think could be part of the cause?
When they say we avoid “intimate personal relationships” does that include sex? Because I’m 53 and couldn’t care less about sex. Which naturally doesn’t make my husband happy. But it is what it is🤷♀️
I appreciate you watching the video. Not just sex. Intimacy is more that sexual intercourse. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=avoidant
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her. And you could just be asexual but not aromatic. There could be other reasons for you not being interested in sex too, you should consult a medical doctor if it's a problem, hopefully one that actually knows what they're talking about unlike this "doc". This "doc" also conflated symptoms of schizoid personality disorder with AVPD. Your symptoms (if you wanna call it that) don't really match AVPD.
I LOVE the way you talk about Avoidant Personality Disorder as well Avoidant Attachment. I have so much avoidance of people when I am in an isolated place that this covers a lot of things that seem to apply to me, making it very usable to understanding my self. And Introversion helps me understand the way my brain works with pride and NOT shame. I am actually excited more about my own particular personality now because I see myself as a "deep diver". Before I was made to think that I was "overly" something. You can see better who I am so I can think of it as something positive. Thank you, Doc Snipes. Around you, I feel more likeable and valuable, which helps my self-esteem.
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Great question! Yes, it’s absolutely possible to be both an introvert and have traits of avoidant personality disorder (AvPD), though they are quite different in their nature. Introversion is a personality trait-it simply means you recharge by spending time alone and might prefer smaller, more meaningful interactions over large social gatherings. It’s not inherently tied to fear or discomfort in social situations. Avoidant personality disorder, on the other hand, involves a pervasive fear of rejection or criticism, leading to significant avoidance of social situations, even if deep down the person craves connection. For someone who is both introverted and avoidant, these two traits could interact in ways that reinforce each other. For example, an introvert might prefer solitude but also avoid social opportunities due to fear, which could make it harder to distinguish whether the preference for being alone is about recharging or rooted in anxiety. Understanding this overlap can help in finding strategies to navigate both. For example, someone with both traits might benefit from gradually challenging avoidant behaviors while still honoring their need for alone time to recharge. Therapy can also provide a safe space to explore these dynamics and develop coping skills. If this video was helpful, please consider sharing it-it might help others who are curious about these distinctions. And what about you-do you find one of these traits impacts your daily life more than the other? It would be great to hear your experience!
Let's say there's a drug. An introvert likes the drug. Someone who's shy or has social anxiety harmlessly takes the drug and feels the effects. And it'll always be harmless. Recovers afterwards. Straightforward problem and solution. Someone with APD gets drugged by it and stays overdosed, forever, and isn't sure how to get out of it.
Nah, I have an avoidant personality. I'm too empathetic. To the point that I've let people use me a lot of my life. It hurts me to let someone down in any kind of way. So I don't understand when you are saying...? I'm constantly putting myself in other people's shoes, even when I shouldn't. I've had the problem with being too empathetic. I've given and given until I had nothing left a lot of times and never expected anything in return. I never got anything in return from those people.
No reason to thank her unfortunately she is making bank using meaningless trendy internet terms to spread negative stereotypes about AVPD. First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thank you for your question! It’s definitely possible to be an introvert and also have traits or a diagnosis of Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD). While introversion is a natural personality trait characterized by a preference for solitude or smaller social settings, AvPD involves deeper emotional challenges, such as intense fear of rejection, criticism, or feelings of inadequacy, which can interfere with relationships and daily life. If you experience both, it can be helpful to differentiate between times when you’re seeking solitude to recharge (as an introvert) versus avoiding social situations out of fear or discomfort (related to AvPD). If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it with others who might benefit. For more in-depth resources and tools, visit DocSnipes.com/Clones.
The myers-briggs personality types has been debunked, and is pseudo science for a long time now. Also the DSM 5 does not recognize attachment styles and IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. Internet tests mean nothing since they only rely on stereotypes. Unless you have been diagnosed with AVPD you don't have it.
@@Iisrupacyes it is unfortunately this "doc" is spreading misinformation using trendy internet terms that are not the same thing as AVPD FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Yes you can but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Yes you can but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
You can have both but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says Also I don't think your comment warranted an assumed negative connotation that would prompt a "sorry" response and this just further proves to me that she is spreading negative stereotypes about a disorder for clout. And unless you have been diagnosed with AVPD you do not have it no matter what any internet tests say. They only use stereotypes. First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
You can be but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
It turns out that INTROVERSION is really something to be proud of and something that I can add to my overall sense-of-self gladly and eagerly. Yes, my mother did not value introversion in me at all and took it as a failure socially, but actually introverts are ultimately the winners when it comes to having and teaching DEEPER and more satisfying relationships. I consider myself not as worried about status with other people being friends as much as how much we can offer each other to grow ourselves in our sense-of-self. Then we can go out into the world and enjoy what status we earn ourselves for who we are and what we can do. To me it is putting the horse before the cart. Being able to recognize my emotions of fear and anything else regarding emotions will help me no longer be ashamed of my inner self and will show me that I have control with these valuable reminders-of-needs, called emotions, so I can make more of a transition into being able to share my innermost creativity with the world! Thanks Doc Snipes! We are not "a mess" with lots of inner emotions. We are actually figuring things out for ourselves and the rest of the world if we listen and care in the most earnest of fashions.
I wonder is it possible to be both intro and extra?Almost like a bipolarity like people who are truly binary gender yet forced to pick one thus breaking down? Anyhow, Thank you so much for these videos. I cannot afford doctors who actually give a dam like you seem to. They just throw me the very drugs they told me to stay away from up until my official :bipolar adhd: :cptsd diagnosis. Then the ones who are in my insurance plan or outreaches can not even see me till I get tested for suspected "high functioning" autism lest they face legality issues, I guess. But i am old. Idc about that. What will it change? So here I am on cloud limbo and found your videos. Ty ty ty😊
Yes you can but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
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This "doc" is spreading misinformation and negative stereotypes about AVPD which her negative response "sorry" kinda proves that. And unless you've been diagnosed with the disorder you don't have it, the internet tests are wrong. First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Yes it is but also this "doc" is spreading misinformation about AVPD. First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
No reason to thank her unfortunately she is making bank using meaningless trendy internet terms to spread negative stereotypes about AVPD. First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted. Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5. FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her. Is that showing you donated money? How unfortunate that this fraudster is making bank by spreading misinformation while throwing people with real disorders under the bus.
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I’m an introvert who also avoids attachment. I’m now 74. As a person of deep faith, I’m completely comfortable as a loner. Frankly, I can’t be bothered with people.
Thank you for watching and for sharing. I am glad you are completely comfortable as a loner :)
Thing is with those of us with APD we want to be around people, we just wish it were easier if not for our skewed perception of things
I accept that you are
Sorry…I accept that you want to be around people but I honestly don’t. I would make a good hermit.
It sounds to me like you are loner because you hate people. Me too. I see mine as old wounds that there may be a way to heal. I can't have my own rich and meaningful life without, actually I am thinking, a lot of people. It is a big goal but I am setting it up now in life and am working hard to fulfill it as my destiny. If I have lived before, I am hoping for this life to be my best one yet with the help and joy of lots of people.
i've learned to use avoidance as a coping mechanism growing up, as well as some form of escapism. it has severely hindered me in my adult years. i became aware that this was a mechanism maybe three years ago, but i only just recently really appreciated how it has negatively affected me. i'm 32, and i hope it isn't too late for me to take hold of my life.
Thank you so much for watching. How are you planning to start addressing that?
32 sounds young to me. I’m figuring this out about myself now 2 months away from being 46
Im 42 and still figuring out if im avoidant or just allergic to anxiously attached people so as the other comments said youre still young and have plenty of time to figure it out and turn it around if need be.
Hi, thanks for your presentation.
I was always plagued by social anxiety, while as an introvert I got great satisfaction from "looking in" and nature.
The introversion did not make me suffer, but the social anxiety was hell.
As I wanted to change, I addressed the social anxiety through some meds, behaviour change, reading many books on social behaviour and etiquette, some therapy, practice (very important,) meditation (Braham) and most importantly a willingness to change.
Now at 65, I'm doing fine. I can talk to anyone about anything, but often I'm fine alone. I live alone, all my life. I've always had dear friends.
I've subscribed to your channel.
I appreciate you watching and subscribing. Wishing you health, peace and happiness
Pls tell us what meds u used and if they were useful. I feel like my only resort is meds as nothing else is helpinb
Thank you for sharing this! As a introvert with social anxiety it can be hard to ever see me being comfortable publicly as introversion is still a little taboo to many people.
I am an introvert and i love being alone. I dont like people in general. Too mich noise, emotional, stupid small talk, lack of knowledge, superficial, etc etc. Not all, every once a while you will meet a gem, highly intelligent, humble person.
Thanks for watching and for sharing
I have avoidant personality disorder (also OCD, learning disability, generalized anxiety disorder and PTSD) I learned During my childhood that crying, especially in front of others makes you weak. Even to this day I feel extreme shame if I cry in front of others. In my childhood home you weren't allowed to show negative emotions, if you did, you were punished. Because I wasnt allowed to show them I instead self harmed every time I felt angry or sad. I'm 35 and I still self harm. Both of my parents have PTSD and my father has also BPD. I remember them both being very detached and sad when I was kid. They weren't warm or gentle, they never hugged us. Occasionally my father would dissociate and talk about his extremely violent and traumatic childhood. My parents had to "learn" to hug us. (sorry if there are spelling mistakes, English isnt my mother language)
I would have never known that English was your second language.
This is very ABNORMAL behavior. Most people of your generation, your father's generation and mine are not like that. Expressing or at the very least dealing with your emotions even if in a different way is necessary for your sanity and mental health, which affects everything else in life, and everyone thinks it's just for the reasons everyone else chooses not to do things, and just get angry at us. Brute force and the attitude of "Doesn't matter what you're going through, FIND A WAY" is not ALWAYS the way. People need to stop assuming something is bullshit if it's beyond their understanding, and that there may be VALID factors even if they don't understand it.
@@kevinzhang6623 Thank you. You helped to clear that up for me. I am using your explanation as a road map for understand my family of origin and their relationships, by understanding love and affection and it's role in mental health. I am working to create replacement FOO in my head that is an enriched environment for my growth and development and then I can start to fantasize about how it would feel to grow back into who I already know I am and who I thought I would become. I love to use my imagination about these things (like she says to make a dream board) and I can also interject isolated memories and how they made me feel in the moment, to construct both identity and a completely different FOO.
As women we are told we are overly emotional but when we are allowed to express our emotions we can get them tended to by others and later more ourselves thus having gained "women's wisdom". This can be part of being female that we can be soft and vulnerable but also venerable in that way of helping others with relief of on-going negative emotionality!
I have been diagnosed with an Avoidant Personality Disorder. How are you doing today?
I'm an introverted highly sensitive personality/ empath. My husband has an avoidance personality type bc of upbringing but also an introvert. Go figure. Lol. It's crazy watching him and hearing his conversations with his relatives. Very superficial and on the surface and have nothing to do with their personal lives. Very outwardly focused, even on other people's lives and issues. It drives me crazy. But with me, he can go deep and personal. I always bring it out of him though.
Thank you for watching and for sharing
@@DocSnipes thank you for the information and description/ insight . I just want to add that there seems to be adifferenxe between someone who has a dysfunction and someone who just has a specific attachment style. My husband is not dysfunctional, and in marriage and having kids, he actually has grown and overcome some of his attachment style issues. I know that doesn't happen for everyone, but it happened for me. 6 years in and he has gotten better, not worse as a person. I think our relationship works because we have some core values and common ideals and some common interests and we are both introverts. I don't know that if I was an extrovert, that we would have been able to relate at all or mesh well together.
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Wow! That is quite a skill to meet him with on a deeper level. To me, it sounds like you are a perfect-type of wife in that regard. You can achieve intimacy where he needed it but his family life did not give him. I wanted to do this for my father but it was inappropriate (I thought I was Heidi) and he turned into a narcissist with all my attention. Now he is angry when I don't take care of him and I am DONE WITH IT.
@@eyeonthesparrow9745 You are a keen observer of characters in ppl, non judgmental and one with a good sense of humor. Your husband must have seen a kindred soul in you, very lucky for him. Blessings.
I have always been introverted, but recently I was diagnosed as a avpd. Or do I have disorganized?? I like people and can be social, but prefer a few as you said. But the fear of rejectron is always there. I have good friends, but feel I can't open up fully. But the fear has resulted in me never having had a boyfriend and the age of 36. I fear intimacy and being vunerable with someone. My parents loved me, no doubt. But my father can be a bit aloof sometimes and my mother had a temper. So while I could talk with her about things and got hugs...I also tried not get on her bad side. But one of the major contributions to be now struggling was the bullying in school - everyday for 4 years. Thus I've had therapy on and off since I was 12. Today, most days are fine, but the out of the blue, something or someone can make me fall to the floor.
I appreciate you watching
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Hey just keeping working on yourself and create a new self if you have to. It may take a while but it will be worth it. I'm in my 50's and have never been loved but I've grown on my own so now I know what I want and I live my life on my terms and have worked to be comfortable around people. Now I'm hoping to find a nice woman to share my life with finally. I am finally ready. I just hope the wonderful woman I've found doesn't have avpd that she'll never be able to open up.
@@FS-qk5uq like what ? Please, be specific.
I was abused as a child, and have IPD and moderate PTSD. 10 years in the United States Army reinforced that. It took me until 4 years ago to start unraveling this with a therapist. After a 30 year failed marriage to a severe adhd untreated spouse in denial and thats made me avoidant....I am just now starting to recover at 53 yrs of age.
I never wanted to be this way
Thank you for watching the video. I am sorry you went through that. Being abused takes its toll on physical and mental health. Have you tried watching the videos on PTSD (cPTSD)?
I’m both,and I’m not willing to change. I love it here. Great video
Thank you for watching the video and for sharing
thank you so much for making videos on attachments.. i still haven't caught up with all, but I will.. it's so helpful for people like us who are from lesser developed countries and can't get proper help or information from mental health professionals because of poor awareness even within the professionals. thanks a ton😊❤️
You’re welcome. Thank you for watching!
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thank you...because some people assume introverts are automatically avoidants
Thank you for watching!
None of the comments have proved that wrong.
My roommate of 4 years fits the avoidance description very closely. I've suggested therapy after being around her for so long when she says more alarming stuff. She flips between wanting to be alone and deciding she'll never be happy that way with broad self deprication. I've never known how to bring this kind of stuff up with her because I don't want to pry but also don't have any good advice. Suggesting she has a personality disorder has to be the worst way to care about someone.
I appreciate you watching
Me and my friends talk about mental helth alot. Just talking about diffrent issues brings up our own stuff that we talk about maybe try talking about mental helth and see if she says anything evenchaly she might open up if you get into it :)
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD that you shouldn't take any of her advice.
What a wonderful description ☺️ It describes my Mother to a TEE. I think I am an introvert with some avoidant tendencies. But, I found out I have an extroverted outward persona that I developed to present in the world 🌍
Thank you for watching the video.
I was rasied with a narcissist mother, I've got Avoident personality disorder,and it's ruined my life, I do ok, but, I'm 54 and Im conered about the rest of my life
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
@@richardhald9197FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Please don't take the crap that this "doc" said to heart.
I know from tests and now thanks to the confirmation of this video this video I am both an introvert and have an avoidant attachment style.
Thanks for watching! :)
Same 🌼
No you don't.
Attachment styles are not even recognized by the DSM 5.
THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD.
You cannot use the terms interchangeably and this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for doing so just because they're trendy terms on the internet.
Also internet tests don't mean anything, they just play into stereotypes.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
@@bettywho67FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thank you. There is a difference between an introvert and behaviors associated with life changes. One of the biggest misconceptions people make about introversion is that they are door mats. To that I say, don’t let the good Lord hit ya where he split ya! Lol 🤔❤🇺🇸
You’re welcome. Thanks for watching!
I'm not sure if I have avoidant personality, but I certainly have some of the symptoms. I remember as a kid being at a pool, ending up drifting into the deep end with some other peers. I nearly drowned because I was too scared to cry for help, I didn't want them to know I couldn't swim. I was lucky the lifeguard eventually spotted me drifting and dipping under the water... It's the story of my life now, and I still don't know how to swim :(
Thank you so much for watching. What would have happened if people found out you can’t swim? What would that have said about you?
Thank you for sharing your experience. I can deeply relate. I'm 45 and I feel like my life has been a series of "near drowning" experiences. But things are getting better and there is hope. Good luck on your journey, friend!
Honestly if you had APD, you would absolutely know and feel it every single day.
Thanks!
You’re most welcome. Thanks you!
No reason to thank her unfortunately she is making bank using meaningless trendy internet terms to spread negative stereotypes about AVPD.
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Oh my god you naild it! Im totally struggling with this my entire life no work no relationships no friends! pretty much just at home! Tried a many things including therapy but i always end up here alone at home again! Even if the odds are what it feels like to be stacked against me im never giving up this fight!
I appreciate you watching
No the fuck she didn't.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
You really hit the nail right on the head when at 1:40 you said how their caregivers expected way too much out of them when they were children, and constantly criticized them.
Both of my parents are incredibly narcissistic drug addicts and alcoholics. They parentified all of their children to the point of turning siblings against each other.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thank you for making this video
Watching some videos on avoidant attachment makes it seem like if you are just a tad introverted and need some alone time to recharge, then you must be avoidant
This video much more clearly delineates the two
(Obviously a person could be both avoidant and introverted but being one does not necessarily imply the the other, they are not synonymous)
Thanks for watching the video
Thanks. Loved the explanations. Not sure what I am. Feels like I'm a mix of what discussed.
Glad the video was helpful. Thanks for watching.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I know I have AVPD. I identify strongly with every single issue on that list except for the last. And my mother was extremely endearing and affectionate and nothing gave me more comfort than being in her presence. I also have a big personality and can mingle and socialize in any situation. But I've stayed inside 90% of my life for the last 10 yrs. Wish I could fix myself.
Thank you for watching and for sharing.
Right, I don't talk much or join in on the conversation because thats my personality. I'm not hating on anybody. I don't get why thats so hard for a lot of extroverts to understand. But I do hate small talk.
I appreciate you watching.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
She is perpetuating negative stereotypes
I really don't know what made me like this, an avoidant, i can't remember my childhood but both my father and mother were really loving and accepting albeit overprotective, i feel like the more i read about avoidants the less I understand why I'm like this
Thank you so much for watching. Have you been diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder?
I’m the same my parents were very loving but they worked a lot so as a child and now as a 60 year old I continue to suffer with separation anxiety which sounds ridiculous I feel the anxiety and stress practically every day when my husband is away working. It got worse as my children started leaving home I’m also an introvert and an empath
I kinda feel the same. I feel like there were certain things my parents did in my childhood that could contribute, but overall I always say I had a happy childhood. I think you can have loving parents and a happy childhood, while also recognizing that certain behaviors of your parents affected you negatively. For me, my father couldn't deal well with crying, or emotions in general, so although I knew he loved me, that made me associate feelings or crying with weakness and caused me to be shameful about vulnerability. The worst part is that recognizing this also causes me stress because I feel so ungrateful for the privileged life I've lived and the efforts my parents have made...
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
What happens when an avoidant personality type gets together with a codependent type? Both originally came from abusive homes, and had different responses and ways of coping. Could you do a video about this? Does avoidant personality ever look like narcissistic behavior? Like if the avoidant person just always puts themselves first in the relationship?
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I think Avoidant and Narcissistic are both overly preoccupied with the way other people perceive them. The difference is the way they perceive themselves. I worry excessively about acceptance and I am ashamed of myself to the point where all I can think about is how to improve myself. Someone might perceive this as narcissistic, but my mind is desperately trying to find a way out of alienation and loneliness. I'm unhappy because I feel like I do not get to participate in life. It's like you're missing out on every phase of life and having to watch everyone else experience life. I try really hard to make aquaintences with people, but I don't even conceptually know how someone can become your friend unless a preexisting friend or family member facilitates a safer more personal prolonged interaction.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
If I am not ashamed of my introversion, I will be able to better see the more sensitive people in the room and gravitate toward them, as I look for a more interesting and fruitful evening of conversation with someone who can value my talents and I can value their innermost personality without judgement. I can't wait. Sensitive men are much more beautiful to me. I don't have to "pity" the socially inverted, as I did my self anymore. I can "own the room" as I can pick my wonderful and rewarding interactions with beautiful people. No more sitting in the corner anymore to avoid the "ugly, deeply judgmental, people" (narcissists).
Thank youDr for acknowledging HSPs in this conversation and in your understanding of Psychology . ❤
You’re most welcome. Thanks for watching
Thank you for the video 🙏🏼
Could you give tips or help to heal Avoidant personality disorder/style ?
It’s difficult to live with it and we don’t have any help
Thanks for watching! I have many videos on creating secure attachment. Here’s the playlist : docsnipes.com/Attachement
Wow and she actually did give you the Playlist please Godette more p doctors like Doc Snipes 🙏
I have a lot of these traits or behaviours however i feel if someone asked me to explain it I couldn't. I should just point them to this video. Thanks
You are quite welcome. If there are more related topics, let me know and I will do more videos
NO!!!
Fist of all If you're not even diagnosed with AVPD then this will be unnecessary
Secondly she got so much wrong here. Avoidant attachment style IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD and those terms shouldn't be used interchangeably like she did here. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Can you do a video on how to stop focusing on your physical appearance?
That would probably be a bad idea since this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD that I wouldn't trust her about anything.
Excellent job of discussing introverted traits. I'm going, YES! That's me😉
You’re so welcome. Thank you so much for watching. What is your favorite tip from the video?
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I used to wish I was a billboard, but was ashamed because I could not think of anything to say, so, I drove around town to various different fast food joints trying to get the courage to order a coke because I was thirsty, but couldn't do it. Finally, after about an hour, I was able to sneak into a Cum & Go where I purchased a slushy.
Thank you so much for watching. What tips from the video help you distinguish between introversion and Avoidant Personality Disorder?
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
@@FS-qk5uq I never met a psychologist type that I could relate to because I do not think I've ever met one that can talk from actual experience.
I’m quite extroverted but have AVPD. I love to talk but am afraid to do so due to AVPD.
One thing that annoys the crap out of me is how so many of my family members can’t understand me even when I try explaining it to them. Someone even gave me a book on “The Power of Introverts”. I just felt so misunderstood when my uncle handed me this book because I love being social and am definitely not introverted like him.
I have been coping with drugs and alcohol but we all know how that turns out. The body can only handle so much before the drugs start to consume you.
I am an introvert AND I have Cptsd and my personality is not the result of trauma. I have a big personality and a strong sense of self despite my experiences. I love being alone but I have close relationships. People just tire me out! And yeah people get suspicious of introverts because we are discreet and extroverts tend to be insecure about being alone. I am a very deep person and I have been very thoughtful and complex thoughts my whole life and it made me feel like something was wrong with me because other children were not self aware at such an early age. I’m an artist and a opera singer . I can read people like a book and I get so stressed out when I’m overstimulated and more so since the trauma. I can feel people before I see them! Like when I got mugged years ago, I could feel that evil from the people before I saw anyone that’s why they couldn’t sneak up on me because I felt their presence from quite a distance. I am a highly sensitive person which does make me more vulnerable to trauma! Sometimes i isolate because of trauma and sometimes it’s because I genuinely enjoy my own company! I do love spending time with my friends but i get tired. When I was little I was really sensitive and thoughtful. I worried about other children not having toys. I liked to talk to my teacher about world hunger at the age of 7! I read my mom’s medical books at 8 and Anne frank and I taught myself to the play the piano and I loved learning the Latin names of animals and taught myself different languages. I also have synesthesia! Pain has a taste! I can see waves of music and Auras. Peoples emotions can be overwhelming for me so I tend to spend time with other introverts. I was premature so my brain may have wired differently. I was always an affectionate and sweet child but after trauma I am more avoidant so I have quite the challenge, I have to expose myself to triggers so I can become braver and trust again but also honor my natural temperament. Some of my responses are not trauma based or hyper vigilance. I know my myself better than anyone so I’m learning to tell the difference and not let people write my responses off as trauma! I have a huge BS detector! And while I do have many cognitive distortions I’m also the first person to call a spade a spade and I have always had a very rich inner world! My abuser apologized for not getting me into gifted program’s as a child I was a prodigy. Some gifted sensitive child are born into cruel homes. Sometimes I have a lot of self hatred and regret for not being all that I could’ve been. My friends think I’m talented and intelligent but I feel like such a loser because I know things could have been different. But instead I spend all my energy trying to regulate and pick of the pieces of a broken childhood! But at least I’ve been the exact same person I was since I was little and I’m proud my ability to be true to myself if nothing else 🥹
Thanks for watching!
I like you! You sound like a very interesting person! May you be blessed with bravery and safety when having those triggers. I also am Complex PTSD. I know how scary and real the flashbacks can be. Thank you for trusting to share with us. I
edited my post from fear of my abuser whom i never actually met. He is a very powerful person so I cannot. Will not. Yet I admire people who cn speak freely like you did. I cannot ever for fear of being found and erased.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I tried to take on a role with my father that I could not be successful with because he just would not learn about the skills and confidence I was trying to teach him. I should have just received from him and received value, pride, and skills acknowledgement for being my self, not for serving him. As you may have guessed, I failed with him for my own goals and his (to keep me serving him). He is mad now at 95 years old, and I am struggling hard to put my pieces back together, and I could, on the positive side, know I have demonstrated some real skills and dedication to those abilities as a child as a lot of them are natural. I can re-grow them back onto me as actual demonstrations of what I AM good at. I was not a failure, just a very motivated and gifted child. I can let him stew in anger as I know he needs therapy, as his anger and need to slander me is something only therapy can help him with now!
🙏 God bless you! You are important and deserve to be happy!
Doc in case someone failed to cure his/her AvDP, what are the best choices of jobs available for AvDP patients?
I’d love to have an answer to that too.
I think I might have avoidant personality but I don’t know what to do 😓
It’s difficult to treat, I hope miss Doc Snipes could give us some resources for help in another video 🙏🏼
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
You should consult a real doctor.
@@commontouch1787FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
And I hope not.
I struggle with this every day!!..And I had a bad day and my self esteem is,shot right now .. 😢...
I am sorry for that. Some videos that might help you improve your self esteem can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=selfesteem
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I don't think she will be of any help with your self esteem since she is taking trendy internet terms that aren't recognized by the DSM 5 that are usually used in negative stereotypes.
Where could I find the tools to help change the avoidant personality.. is there a website etc thanks!
This "doc" got so much about AVPD wrong I wouldn't trust her with anything.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 🤍
You’re so welcome! Thanks for watching!
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
No reason to thank her for spreading misinformation
Trying to maintain a long distance friendship with someone who is very intoverted is hard for them to do and it is hard for us to know what they need from us when being long distance friends to them. 2 extreme introverts can show annoyance to one another when getting interrupted in turn sometimes while working together on a team in the same city without feeling any resentment towards one another about it only because they understand one another better. One reason that is so may be because a couple of introverts have a more consistent pattern in their work and home schedules.
Thank you for watching the video and for sharing
After watching this, I believe I am deeply introverted and also avoidant. Is that possible?
I am sorry for that. Thanks for watching the video
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
And to answer your question yes but you shouldn't base it off this video since there's so much misinformation.
And you should question a "doc" who won't even answer a simple question like yours without explanation as to why, instead saying generic "sorry to hear that. Thanks for watching." that she's leaving on every comment.
The whole introversion and extroversion thing is just a way to describe how people like to socialize, it's not a disorder or a personality type. Just a scale that EVERYONE is on, including people with AVPD and any other disorder. Theoretically people with AVPD can also be extroverts.
I probably am an introvert, plus I already have autism and traits of AvPD.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I'm introverted. I work independently I always have kept jobs that are this way. I am worried because for the past several years I have struggled with getting out. My work week ends I just want to stay home and alone. It's been difficult for me to get out just go shopping for food and things needed to care for myself. I will put off until it is must. I also have avoided dating and have been single six years since my last LTR ended. I can't or don't feel right about putting myself out there and opening up to share my life with anyone. I'm not happy but I'm not unhappy. It's weird. I'm secluded but I'm not. smh
I’ve lost the closest people to me.. everyone thinks i hate them bc of my hostile actions
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching. What would need to change for you to become less hostile?
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Its a bit different question but as an adhd introvert i need ur reply on my situation Doc whats ur take on - how to have a plan - B when we are uncertain about the future growth of our corporate job & does changing of the career field completely from one to another a better choice when all matters today in market is previous experience in same field for rise in salary or promotions..
Thanks for watching! I don't really feel well versed enough in the subject to give career advice.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I am definitely not an extrovert. Lol. Socializing or being in large groups is exhausting for me. Even some public places that are busy get me overstimulated.
I appreciate you watching
Brilliant explanation 👏🏼🙌🏼
Glad it was helpful!
can you make a video about avpd and cptsd comorbidity
Here is a l;ink to the videos where I discuss that topic. www.allceus.com/askdocsnipes/?c=486f5294-6dcc-4e2c-8a33-65a2b8e5e111
@@DocSnipes thanks
Thank you 😊 💓 🙏
You are so welcome
No reason to thank her for spreading misinformation
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
You should consult a real doctor.
You can be an introvert with avoidant personality disorder as well
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Lol, I'm dealing with APD, trauma, and an introvert all at the same time! Trying to untangle theses things, trying to determine what is what and why! On top of dealing with autism and ADHD!
What a headache! 😫
I am sorry you are struggling with all of these and I appreciate you watching the video
What's the difference between avpd, schizoid, and counterdependency?
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
So you shouldn't be asking her.
I identify myself a lot with the avoidant personality but don't know how I developed it. My holsehold was never that bad. We had a lot of fights between my family members but my parents never neglected me in any way. I don't know exactly why I grew up to be the way I am.
Thank you for watching and for sharing. Have you had other relationships that might have changed your attachment style?
@@DocSnipes All I remember is that I have always been shy and socially anxious. All I cant think of is how I have always been my mothers baby (I am her youngest son). Do you think could be part of the cause?
perfect description of introverts....
Ty so much!
No it's not,
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I feel like I'm a cross between both personalties
Thanks for watching!
Hello, I would like to know if you take online consultations, thank you and your channel is awesome!
When they say we avoid “intimate personal relationships” does that include sex? Because I’m 53 and couldn’t care less about sex. Which naturally doesn’t make my husband happy. But it is what it is🤷♀️
I appreciate you watching the video. Not just sex. Intimacy is more that sexual intercourse. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=avoidant
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
And you could just be asexual but not aromatic.
There could be other reasons for you not being interested in sex too, you should consult a medical doctor if it's a problem, hopefully one that actually knows what they're talking about unlike this "doc".
This "doc" also conflated symptoms of schizoid personality disorder with AVPD.
Your symptoms (if you wanna call it that) don't really match AVPD.
I LOVE the way you talk about Avoidant Personality Disorder as well Avoidant Attachment. I have so much avoidance of people when I am in an isolated place that this covers a lot of things that seem to apply to me, making it very usable to understanding my self. And Introversion helps me understand the way my brain works with pride and NOT shame. I am actually excited more about my own particular personality now because I see myself as a "deep diver". Before I was made to think that I was "overly" something. You can see better who I am so I can think of it as something positive. Thank you, Doc Snipes. Around you, I feel more likeable and valuable, which helps my self-esteem.
You’re so welcome, Kitty Kat! Thank you for watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thank You For Today's Therapy You're communication is perfect. I appreciate you. Thank you for your kindness for sharing Today's Episode Amen 🙏 Signed By: Miss Candis & Baby Israel 🤱
You’re so welcome! Thanks for watching!
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
To me, covid did not make a difference in my life.... I love social distance.
I am glad to hear that
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Would it be possible being both an introvert and an avoidant, how does either impact the other?
Great question! Yes, it’s absolutely possible to be both an introvert and have traits of avoidant personality disorder (AvPD), though they are quite different in their nature. Introversion is a personality trait-it simply means you recharge by spending time alone and might prefer smaller, more meaningful interactions over large social gatherings. It’s not inherently tied to fear or discomfort in social situations.
Avoidant personality disorder, on the other hand, involves a pervasive fear of rejection or criticism, leading to significant avoidance of social situations, even if deep down the person craves connection. For someone who is both introverted and avoidant, these two traits could interact in ways that reinforce each other. For example, an introvert might prefer solitude but also avoid social opportunities due to fear, which could make it harder to distinguish whether the preference for being alone is about recharging or rooted in anxiety.
Understanding this overlap can help in finding strategies to navigate both. For example, someone with both traits might benefit from gradually challenging avoidant behaviors while still honoring their need for alone time to recharge. Therapy can also provide a safe space to explore these dynamics and develop coping skills.
If this video was helpful, please consider sharing it-it might help others who are curious about these distinctions. And what about you-do you find one of these traits impacts your daily life more than the other? It would be great to hear your experience!
Great. What do we do next.
Thank you for watching the video and for your question. Please use DocSnipes.com/Clones to learn hot to create a secure attachment with yourself.
Let's say there's a drug.
An introvert likes the drug.
Someone who's shy or has social anxiety harmlessly takes the drug and feels the effects. And it'll always be harmless. Recovers afterwards. Straightforward problem and solution.
Someone with APD gets drugged by it and stays overdosed, forever, and isn't sure how to get out of it.
I would suggest they talked to their doctor about it. Thanks for watching the video
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I prefer 'adaptation' to 'disorder'. They are like that because as kids they 'adapted' to their environment which is dysfunctional.
Thanks for watching!
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Nah, I have an avoidant personality. I'm too empathetic. To the point that I've let people use me a lot of my life. It hurts me to let someone down in any kind of way. So I don't understand when you are saying...? I'm constantly putting myself in other people's shoes, even when I shouldn't. I've had the problem with being too empathetic. I've given and given until I had nothing left a lot of times and never expected anything in return. I never got anything in return from those people.
Thank you for watching and for sharing
Thank you
So welcome. Thanks for watching!
No reason to thank her unfortunately she is making bank using meaningless trendy internet terms to spread negative stereotypes about AVPD.
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
What if you have both
Thank you for your question! It’s definitely possible to be an introvert and also have traits or a diagnosis of Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD). While introversion is a natural personality trait characterized by a preference for solitude or smaller social settings, AvPD involves deeper emotional challenges, such as intense fear of rejection, criticism, or feelings of inadequacy, which can interfere with relationships and daily life.
If you experience both, it can be helpful to differentiate between times when you’re seeking solitude to recharge (as an introvert) versus avoiding social situations out of fear or discomfort (related to AvPD).
If you found this video helpful, please consider sharing it with others who might benefit. For more in-depth resources and tools, visit DocSnipes.com/Clones.
What was once loneliness, became peace.
I am glad to read that. Thanks for watching
I am a true introvert....INFJ but have avoidant attachment.
I appreciate you watching the video.
The myers-briggs personality types has been debunked, and is pseudo science for a long time now.
Also the DSM 5 does not recognize attachment styles and IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD.
Internet tests mean nothing since they only rely on stereotypes. Unless you have been diagnosed with AVPD you don't have it.
i think i am an introvert who has avoidant perspmality disorder
Thanks for watching!
Me too
After reading all these comments it seems like all introverts are avoidant. Yall really sure its different?
@@Iisrupacyes it is unfortunately this "doc" is spreading misinformation using trendy internet terms that are not the same thing as AVPD
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
You should consult a real doctor.
But can I be an introverted avoidant?
Yes you can but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Is it possible to be both an introvert and have APD? Thxs
Yes. It is. Thank you for watching the video
Yes you can but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I have both
I am sorry about that I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
You can have both but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says
Also I don't think your comment warranted an assumed negative connotation that would prompt a "sorry" response and this just further proves to me that she is spreading negative stereotypes about a disorder for clout.
And unless you have been diagnosed with AVPD you do not have it no matter what any internet tests say. They only use stereotypes.
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I think im both of these simultaneously
Thank you for watching. I am sorry about that
You can be but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
I have not been abused/neglected, and i have an avoidant personality
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video
It turns out that INTROVERSION is really something to be proud of and something that I can add to my overall sense-of-self gladly and eagerly. Yes, my mother did not value introversion in me at all and took it as a failure socially, but actually introverts are ultimately the winners when it comes to having and teaching DEEPER and more satisfying relationships. I consider myself not as worried about status with other people being friends as much as how much we can offer each other to grow ourselves in our sense-of-self. Then we can go out into the world and enjoy what status we earn ourselves for who we are and what we can do. To me it is putting the horse before the cart. Being able to recognize my emotions of fear and anything else regarding emotions will help me no longer be ashamed of my inner self and will show me that I have control with these valuable reminders-of-needs, called emotions, so I can make more of a transition into being able to share my innermost creativity with the world! Thanks Doc Snipes! We are not "a mess" with lots of inner emotions. We are actually figuring things out for ourselves and the rest of the world if we listen and care in the most earnest of fashions.
Definitely an introvert 😊
I am glad you discovered that. Thank you for watching the video
Yeah, small talk sucks and I don’t see the point of it.
I can’t tell the difference between AVPD and RSD from being autistic. Either way I want to be a hermit lol
I appreciate you watching
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
You should consult a real doctor.
I wonder is it possible to be both intro and extra?Almost like a bipolarity like people who are truly binary gender yet forced to pick one thus breaking down? Anyhow, Thank you so much for these videos. I cannot afford doctors who actually give a dam like you seem to. They just throw me the very drugs they told me to stay away from up until my official :bipolar adhd: :cptsd diagnosis. Then the ones who are in my insurance plan or outreaches can not even see me till I get tested for suspected "high functioning" autism lest they face legality issues,
I guess. But i am old. Idc about that. What will it change? So here I am on cloud limbo and found your videos. Ty ty ty😊
You’re so welcome! Thanks for watching!
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
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Thanks for watching
Can you be both?
Yes you can but you shouldn't base it off what this "doc" says
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Do introverts discard their partners or monkey branch? While they stack broken hearts..
I understand how painful it can be to feel discarded or to see someone move on quickly, leaving broken hearts behind. It's important to remember that people, whether introverted or extroverted, can sometimes struggle with handling relationships in a way that minimizes hurt. This behavior isn't specific to introverts. If you're dealing with feelings of hurt and confusion, or want to search for videos in the video library, it might help to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes or talk to someone you trust or seek support to help process these emotions. Also, please feel free to share what you’ve found most useful from the video.
I think I'm an avoider....
I am sorry for that and I appreciate you watching.
This "doc" is spreading misinformation and negative stereotypes about AVPD which her negative response "sorry" kinda proves that. And unless you've been diagnosed with the disorder you don't have it, the internet tests are wrong.
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thank you so much for your videos! That it's ok to find solitude healing. It's ok to exist. 🤍🕊️
You’re so welcome! Thanks for watching!
Yes it is but also this "doc" is spreading misinformation about AVPD.
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thanks!
So welcome! I appreciate you watching.
No reason to thank her unfortunately she is making bank using meaningless trendy internet terms to spread negative stereotypes about AVPD.
First the introversion/extroversion thing is a scale to describe how people like to socialize and literally EVERYONE is somewhere on it usually in the middle. It does not matter what if any disorder a person has. It is NOT a disorder or personality type. Theoretically someone with AVPD can also be extroverted.
Second the colloquial use of "avoidant" is used usually negatively to refer to someone with assumed avoidant attachment style which IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AVPD. And this "doc" should be ashamed of herself for using the terms interchangeably. Attachment styles aren't even recognized by the DSM 5.
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Thank you
So welcome. I appreciate you watching.
Thanks!
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
FYI this "doc" got so much wrong about AVPD you shouldn't take any advice from her.
Is that showing you donated money? How unfortunate that this fraudster is making bank by spreading misinformation while throwing people with real disorders under the bus.