I mean, it's a straight up lie that you need to "trim your ends", because your hair grows no matter what (unless they are damaged or splitting, but unless it's happening, the only reason you might have to trim your ends is to make your hair even, and that IS NOT "for growth"), but great sentiment.
We gotta watch who we call a “friend” not everyone has the same intention. That’s why I don’t have many. I’m just learning to be a friend to myself and I’m happy with not have any.
I just lost my best friend of 10 years because I finally realized how horrible she made me feel anytime I didn’t agree with her. She would take her frustrations out on me constantly and I thought i just had to take it if I considered myself to be a good friend. One day it hit me like a truck that she never cared about me unless I could actively benefit her in that moment. It’s so hard losing friendships but so freeing at the same time. Sending you love! Thank you for making this. ❤️
@Telisha3 Claiborne From personal experience, when someone hurts you and you keep thinking about how they have mistreated you and u keep thinking about that person....etc you technically give them so much from your energy, time and attention, so you end up doing nothing but thinking about something and someone from (past), they are past now, u need to let go, u need to realise that those things are only in your head and in reality and in your present moment nothing really exists, it's past, it's gone, we only bring them back when we think about them, and this is not good because you can invest your time and energy doing something else rather than *thinking* about Past (again, it's the thinking that controls you) Invest your time in something that will improve your life... So don't let anyone doesn't worth you time to rent rooms for free in ur head, make sure that people who surrounds you are worthy of your time... We have limited time on this earth Remember that please...
@Telisha3 Claiborne Actually I didn't get you wrong, I was really happy with your comment 😊😊 Don't worry We are cool I will search for your comment and read it.👍🏻❤️
I felt bad because I had to drop a friend earlier this year. Started as a coworker then I was a close friend, then a godmother. Then things started happening in my life. Things got rough and I felt like she didn't care. I had to give up my godmother position because I couldn't afford it and it lifted a weight. And even after I had to let it go I realized it wasn't toxic, it was just one-sided. I honestly just stopped wasting my time trying to keep up the friendship. I still miss her and her kids but I had to let go to get myself together.
I feel this bc I’m personally dealing with a very similar situation where I am godmother to two amazing little children and love them like my own but the father is the most toxic person ever and the mom just allows him to run over them and I’m hanging on for the kids but some days I question if it’s worth the stress...but then when I have the kids I feel it’s all worth it so I really don’t know😢
I used to obsess over my “lost friends”, and I used to feel guilty for standing up for myself and removing my love ... Then, I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years with an evil narcissist, and when I finally realized that I could not help him, he hung himself from our bedroom doorknob to “punish me”. He knew me very well, he KNEW that he could not hurt me anymore directly, and the only way left to destroy me was to destroy himself. He knew it would haunt me. Since that, I realized that I should not have to feel guilty for cutting out toxic people, because honestly, THEY don’t care about your feelings. And yes, no longer having you as a friend will sting (because of how amazing YOU are), but that is the lesson that they needed to learn. Protect yourself, love yourself! ❤️❤️❤️🤗
Honestly I have the same issue. I get really attached to people so I make excuses to keep toxic people in my life until I just can't anymore. And honestly I thought I was done with that part of my life...and then my mother betrayed me too. Not that I'm surprised I've been slowly trying to bring up issues with her toxic and manipulative behavior over the last few years as I've come to acknowledge them because she's my mother and i can't just cut her out of my life. But after this last thing i mean sometimes you just have to. Sometimes you just have to let go and it's difficult but it's for the sake of your own sanity and mental health.
I know exactly what you're going through. I had a really close, long friendship fall out about 3ish years ago. It wasn't a fight or anything, in fact, I think she thinks we can still be friends. But I HAD to cut her out of my life. I realized after a while that I was putting way more into our friendship than she ever did, that I tiptoed around her and her wants and didn't worry about my needs, and I realized that there was a lot of stuff that she would say "jokingly" about me and to me that really hurt. I haven't spoken to her in ages, but we were friends since 3rd grade, so it's hard not to think about her. I have been trying to move on for so long, and it's been a slow process. I recently wrote a letter to her that I don't plan on sending, but I wrote about all of the reasons for why our friendship went sour. And the more I wrote, the more things I could think of. By the end of it, I felt a lot better. I think it's still going to be hard, but I'm working through it. And it's been a lot easier since I moved away for an internship and then grad school because I'm not afraid of running into her all the time. I sincerely hope that you heal from this, and that you come out stronger because of it. I have felt a huge weight lifted from my shoulders since I left my toxic friendship and I hope that you can feel that too. Praying for your healing and joy.
Sis you can't be inspirational without sharing this stuff. This is just a part of life that everyone goes thru. So in a sense, it is inspiring to see someone talk openly about these things. Love ya♥️
You may be enterkng into a new season and those around you can't go with you. But this is alws good to let go of toxic relationships. Thank God. Now renew your mind in The Word to not be available for these things. Thank you for your realness!
let's believe ppl the first time when they show us who they are. I advise you the yt Channel grace for purpose it is fire. And do not make your identity or your wellness have ppl as their fundation. God is the best one, and healthy relationships add themselves up to it.
The most valuable thing I was ever told was "Not everyone deserves a front row seat in your life" Those seats should always be reserved for your best and your brightest, the people who are ride or die, who are in your life because they love and appreciate you, and want to see you win. Everybody else can settle down in the balcony, or they may even have to be ushered out.
I know exactly what you mean my dude. The hardest part about being an empath is protecting ourselves from becoming the cold and voluntarily unfeeling people who hurt us.
I lost a friend who was like a twin to me since second grade (for nearly eight years now, I'm 16) and we never really talked about it, we just started ignoring each other somehow. I noticed that she wasn't good for me and also didn't care about me when I felt like I was always supporting her and trying to lift her up but the way she talked to me made me feel like she was thinking that she was better than me and I started believing it. We grew apart in the last months and she was only with me when her other friend wasn't there. I told myself that that was ok because jealousy was unnecessary and stupid so I kinda let it happen. I finally tried to talk about that with her but the other friend was also there and they IGNORED me. I was walking behind them for fifteen minutes and they completely ignored me the whole time. I finally managed to leave. The next day she told me she was soo sorry and she would try from now on. Well she did, but only for like three days, then it even got worse than before. Since I noticed that talking apparently didn't help I slowly stopped talking to her. For about a month after this I could have slapped her in the face every time I saw her. I cried multiple times because of this whole situation, I talked to my family and other friends but I don't really feel like they understand. I still have to see her five days a week and we still haven't talked about it since I won't reach out to her again because it doesn't seem like she cares at all. I know that this comment is really long, but I felt the need to share this for a while now. Also, if there are any mistakes I'm really sorry, I am not a native speaker 😅.
Being an empath is difficult. You love tirelessly and without limits. So when you lose someone its like life shatters in a way and I’m sorry that ppl can dismiss bonds. I can understand where you’re coming from and I do hope that God comforts you. Just be sure to take a process and forgive for you. You are amazing don’t settle for less than what your heart can offer🧡🧡🧡
Dear Danielle, I just wanted you to know that all things being processed in your life right now will work out for your greater good. Realize that not everyone will be there for you the way you want them too, and YES, it will hurt, but with every lost you gain something. Whether that be a new perspective, a new attitude, or even a new way to take on everyday problems and situations, think of it as self growth. Every flower has to be rained on in order for it to grow. It also amazes me that even when you’re not feeling your best you still think of others ( your subscribers)rather than your self. You continue to be positive, in a world so negative. I APPRECIATE IT!! I also thank you for all you do on this channel. Love, One of your subscribers
Whatever leaves will be replaced by something ten times better. Nothing is ever truly lost. It is only temporarily hidden from view (in one form). It will re-arrive in another form as something or someone 10 times better as long as you evolve and stay in positivity.
The shedding of friends can be a sign of personal growth. I lost a friend this year that was my best friend for a decade. It's okay, it makes room for better company in life. It's better to be your own company for a while than to have people who dont have your back around. Bounce off your faith, you have all the tools in your community to come back overflowing with life and offer that fun to others. You'll draw others in, interesting, genuine, funny and adventurous friends will come, you'll see 🐘🐘🐥😘
As someone who's currently in her mid-20's right now, I completly feel you! Myself and a person I have concidered a very close friend for over a decade, met up with two other very close friends a few weeks ago now. We haven't seen them in close to 2 years and were excited to see them. After comments from the two we met with regarding my weight, having kids, how my friend was raising her child, pretty much putting us both down for a solid 4 hours and making it seem like their lives were perfect I went through the same 'what the heck' moment. Myself and my friend sat there wondering how they'd changed into people we didn't recognise anymore, but soon realised they're not the ones that changed, we are. We both developed as people and saw different sides of the world or views from people outside of our bubble. Sometimes people just don't always fit into your life as you get older. One thing I've realised is that I don't need to make mental space or physical space for people that don't deserve it.
I learned this year that sometimes you lose a friend, not always because they’re a “toxic person” like everybody usually says, but because sometimes somebody can be toxic *for you* What may not be good for you, may be okay for somebody else. You shouldn’t feel the need to make yourself feel small just to stay friends with somebody. Sometimes you two are growing at different rates and sometimes that is what causes the toxicity in that friendship. You can leave a friendship at any time for any reason. Whether they’re a good person a bad person in between. How do they make you feel? And why? Does this person make you happy with who you are when they’re around?
God shows you things for a reason. That doesn’t mean you can’t be upset and frustrated but what it does mean is that you know who is really there for you or not. Once you start losing those toxic people in your life you will start living and winning. God got your back. You had to let those people go for your growth. I’ve lost so many friends that I realize they were never there for me to begin with. It’s ok to cry and it’s ok to even yell but know your blessing is coming because he cleared that path for you. Stay blessed love
I loved the harry potter video. I was surprised as to how much you know about it. I know absolutely nothing about. Sure not many may have watched it but rn over 4,000 people watched it. Thats more than my whole high school. don't compare your amount of views to other people videos. Because that way you put your self down and you are the last person on the list who should put your self down. Heck you shouldnt even be on that list. Im proud that YOU WENT TO THE RIDE OR DIE FAM. AND YEETED ALL YOUR TROUBLES OUT OF YOUR MIND. That was a mature and smart move. And TH-cam...I know you want to keep a schedule but If you need a break. Take as many as you like because I rather see someone rarely update but actually be happy than someone posting because they have to. TH-cam isn't a chore is a style and style changes. And if you wanna Rant on youtube to get it all out Do it sis! Aint no one stoping you! When I'm stressed I pray befor bed and drink warm milk or something warm then I treat myself and work on myself. Btw here is 🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼 🌟🐶❤
Your openness and vulnerability shows so much strength. I’ve realized that people in your life are there to teach you, and that may not last a life time. Those relationships taught you many things - good and bad - but it’s up to you to determine if they are healthy, stable, and beneficial for BOTH parties. ♥️
Most of the friends I had were toxic. Rather the friendship was 12yrs, 7 yrs, 2 yrs, several months..... I ended them or God took them out of my life, it feels good to be free of narcissistic people. A few of them did hurt, but Ik my worth. And I refuse to let other people hurt me. Sadly, I could never get close to anyone anymore. Simply, because of people getting close to me for ill intentions.
sometimes friendships have to end in order for you to realize just how you deserve to be treated trust me when i say there are people out there who will love and cherish you for who you are and will push you towards your best self. please think of all the blessings you're walking towards... even in the times where it hurts. something good is coming ^-^
My best friend growing up was like that. I finally cut contact with her when I was around 18. Over the course of our friendship, she successfully manipulated me into not being good friends with anyone else so now I don't have many of them but I feel it's better than being your 'best friend's' doormat. Hang in there girl.
You are not alone in this feeling! I've been going through the same thing these past two years because I have a hard time letting go. Even now I'm holding on to a memory of what used to be knowing it will only stay a memory. It's hard.... I love these videos because it helps me sort out my feelings and brings me closer to rest. Thank you Star Puppy You're not alone in this feeling
i am going thru the same shit right now and it's so special to hear someone else speak on it from such strength and grace!! praying the people you deserve continue to find you
You're such well spoken young woman! I've lost so many friends too, some left when i stopped drinking alcohol (im not an alcoholist, i just don't enjoy being drunk) more left when i got chronic pain, albeit i contributed to that too by not calling or meeting up. Now i have 2 very close friends and im very thankful i have them in my life.
One thing about friendships ending, you will always take the memories with you. It's your choice to hang on to the goods or reminiscing the bad may work better.
Amen sister, it is the hardest ... one of the hardest things I have had to deal with as an adult. In my twenties I have lost friends and I found it so hard because it is hard to let go honestly. So hard. I think I'm getting better at it. One friend drifted away like when I was 22 and I've only just realised how good that was for me three years later. Honestly God was looking out because if we had stayed friends. It would have been a mess. On a positive note through having "bad" friends I know appreciate the good ones a lot more. I know who my true friends are and I love that.
Just got done getting rid of this one-sided self-centered person. They kept tabs on my simple mistakes while whenever they made mistakes I looked over them. She basically cut me off for months and I didn't notice, until I finally got her to say something. She said she was uncomfortable with me with things i said which was either a joke or I didn't know I couldn't say. I like communication and she never communicates if she had an issue and I call that immaturity. I was very hurt.
That’s a good thing about removing friends. You are being shifted into another place in your life. Everyone cannot go where you are going when the shift comes. As you grow, you will make new friends that will help you in your journey. You won’t understand why until you are older. I have been there and done that.
I am/will be praying for you. God is strengthening your already beautiful and amazing heart. I know that sometimes God "snatches" but he's a God who abundantly blesses and gives even more than he snatches. This was a godsend for me because I've been navigating some hairy friendships too.
I could feel and relate to each and every word of this video. I am going through such a similar phase and listening to this was so therapeutic as it lead me to organize so much of my thoughts and chaotic state of mind. And Thank you so much for reminding me that I needed to go to the right people to talk about this. ❤❤❤ I LOVELOVELOVE your content. Please keep making more of these videos and know that you are one heck of a beautiful soul. Your talks radiate energy and reflect the amazing person you must be. I wish I could by any chance meet you in Real and be friends with a person like you ❤❤❤.
Ive been there felt the same feelings for 7 years and my univ years were just useless, lonely and sad. All I can say is : all those feeling fade away… Arigato :)
this was still helpful, i appreciate you filming this. 'this may have been a season of loss but ive gained so much...' is really really helpful. it helped shift my perspective on some stuff.
I had this video in my watch later playlist for so long and I just couldn't bring myself to watch it because this was also what I was going through. I was so scared to face the reality of these ending friendships and relationships that anything that could've reminded me of the truth I AVOIDED LIKE THE PLAGUE. Finally months later I'm able to watch this video and it still hurts to think it about all of it because I'm still having such a hard time letting them go. Danielle, your videos are so helpful in this time of our lives. I just wanna say thank you for sharing your experiences with us and letting us know that we aren't alone in these trying times of our 20s, things do get better, and there are ways to handle these obstacles. Thank you
I literally just lost a "friend" yesterday. Woke up to an 8 page text blaming me for our failed connection. I wish we could talk on the phone and tell each other everything because I feel EVERYTHING you're saying. Thank you for this video. I'll be thinking about you and praying for you as I work through the pain of my loss as well
YESS HAVEN'T WATCHED VIDEO YET BUT I AM SO EXCITED. This series is how I discovered (and then proceed to binge-watch all your content) your channel. It actually has really helped me deal with things as a twenty-something. There are times where I'll rewatch these videos, too. So keep it up
StarPuppy wait you replied. MAAAAM IM honored 💕. And since you’re here you’re loved and you’re worthy and you’re beautiful and God is snatching bad friendships to make room for good ones!
Thank you so much for sharing and don't let others dim your light. I can relate. I am healing from toxic people in my life who I allowed to have so much power over me. I have more respect for myself and recognize what to avoid now. I used to be so naiive and believed people who would use pretty words to give me the illusion that they were filling a hole that was present in my life. I know now that I am a complete person and positive people are meant to empower each other. I pay attention to people's actions and effort more than pretty words now. Now I have to work on letting positive people in and not being guarded with everyone.
When you said I never get over a person that leaves my life until another person replaces that place in your life.. I got concerned 🥺 I understand where you are coming from but people shouldn't have that much power over your life. I don't know if I'm making sense but I wish you all the best 😍❤
The note in your description really helped put my mind to rest 😅. I hope these friendship deaths have allowed you to grow, frustration breeds progress 💞.
They're probably all jealous of your success. That's how it usually goes, please let them go. They're nobody, you don't need them. Look to the future, you have a lot coming yr way and you make new friends who are way more worthy of your friendship.
Girl take care, you deserve peace, calm, happiness... I really admire and respect you. This topic is really hard, thank you for talking about it, I really needed it ❤
Suprisingly,I'm dealing with the same situation. I'm still suffering from it everyday that it even affects my health. Thank you for addressing this situation. This was needed for me...
Thank you soooo much for sharing your experiences with us, Danielle! I know it must've been hard and I really appreciate your raw honesty. I just joined the star fam a few months ago and I could see in your eyes that you were going through some toxicity in your life. It really hurt my heart to see the pain in your eyes, but so many of us here are empathetic and we know exactly what you are talking about and you are not alone. The damage toxic friendships leave behind sometimes take a long time to heal, but you will emerge a healthier person. You know that. Take your time with your uploading, girl! We will be here ^.^ (Also I'm guilty of not watching the Harry Potter vid bc, coming from someone who never read the books, I didn't think I'd get the references **nervous laughter ensues....* * )
Wow, I wish I could come through the screen and hug you, because I FELT THAT. I don't wanna go through a whole life story in a comment, but watching people change and realizing that the connection that you have ... is fading . You feel ... so helpless . & cycling through memories of what use to be, is so intoxicating. Holding on through the mistrust ... is painful and wretched . But I know for a fact, that not all friendships die forever, good friendships find a way ... they just have tough moments to get through. It's okay to cry, it's okay to feel frustrated, just don't give up .
I understand how you feel and right now it sucks. Yes it does. But trust me it is a blessing. I dont know how to let go either, but hey no more snakes.
Yup! At 36 years old, this the culmination of the downloads that I’m sorting and deleting so that I can joyous and free. Much blessings to you Dani!! 💚💕
I'm going through the same thing. The difference though is that the toxic people will group together & it made me feel like I was always in the wrong. It doesnt help that we go to the same program or company and some live on the same campus as me. I'm still trying to find "my people" but right now I'm living an introverted life in an extroverts body
I’m so glad they do!!! I always felt like I was alone in these topics but I’m just finding out how many people are trying to navigate this daggone decade and beyond. We’re gonna be alright!! 🌸❤️🌸
Your coming into a new season of your life Gods stripping the toxic people out because where he's taking you they can't go this is a time of renewal for you for me the times this has happened brought on blessings that I never in a million years would have expected he knows you won't let them go on your own so he's pulling them
Been there. I can remember being the friend that cant let go. It hurts, but you know what they say about closed door... perhaps this is a new beginning to something more fruitful. Chin up, fellow weirdo.
Being in your 20’s is all about growth, God will show the truth out of people. This is your time to do better with yourself and begin to pray more. Make better friends who deserve to be in your life. This is also God’s wake up call, better things are surely coming your way. Trust me I lost plenty of friends in my 20’s, I’m 32 now and I’m doing soooo much better with my life. My skin is better, I’m very much like financially stable and my life is great! You’re going to get through it girl, trust me.
Wow....this is an amazing video and you were definitely speaking directly from me. Hope you're in a better place now...sending prayers and positive vibes your way
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 and yes they were supposed to be there in the first place. Everything happens for a reason, I believe that. You are stronger now bc of the foolery!!!
I'm glad these friendships revealed their true forms & you're able to see it and talk to your sisters about it ♥️♥️♥️♥️ I feel like I'm going through or I'm about to go through something like this. I'm so ready to drop these people 😔
Thank you for this video... I'm trying to go through the lost of the friendship I had with someone I still love so much to this day. It is very hard to lose people. She was my best friend and it was very toxic. But I love her so much I couldn't see it. I'm still grieving this relationship even though it has been a whole semester. It set me in a deep depression that I'm still trying to get out of. With her I lost our friend group. She asked them to pick a side and they did. I tried so much to heal our relationship but she just ignored me until I couldn't give anything else. It happened in one of the hardest times of my life and she knew everything that was going on... she told lies about me, she pretended I wasn't there when she saw me and did all this childish things to hurt me. After leaving her I felt more confident, I felt like I could breathe, didn't feel guilty anymore, didn't feel useless or dumb or all these other things she made me feel. But I felt very lost , after all, I let her take control of me. I depended on her. It was very comfortable for me. I felt save when I was with her. She was an amazing human with a lot of issues and I was as guilty as her for everything that happened. To anyone in a similar situation: things get better. You will forever miss the people you love when you no longer can be by their side, but you learn to live without them and there will be other loves and amazing relationships that will be truly good for you. We all do the best we can, for me the only way out of that pain was forgiving.
It’s like you know when to make a video that’s going to help immediately. Keep your head up! You’re talented and kind! You don’t need toxicity in your life. I’m sorry that you are struggling but things will get better and if you need to. Let it out and then readjust that crown 👑
These videos help me so much :) you’ve made my night so much better. I’m in a very similar situation as losing a bunch of “friends” this last year. And now you’ve helped me look at it in a different way! Thank you! I love you! I hope we can make it through this funk together and survive our 20’s 💕 keep uploading girl you’re INSPIRING
I'm sending you love❤️ I wish I could see how terrible my person is for me and how they just vanished and ghosted me I'm pissed and hurt and I needed this video for real❤️
I am so grateful that you are sharing this with all of us.. just a few months ago I decided to „end“ the friendship with my best friend (we have been bf for over 10 years) because a lot of the time she made me feel guilty about myself for no particular reason & I therefore often felt really anxious. We depended on one another to an extend that wasn‘t healthy anymore.. so as much as it hurts, I can‘t imagine being friends with her any longer 🙁 This Video definitely helped me feeling less alone with this. You can be so proud of yourself. Thank you ♥️🙏
Giiiiirrrrrrllllll I'm currently in that same transition and it has definitely affected my life lol. But I pray your upswing is permanent and I'm glad you learned. Our 20s are hard.
I'm binge-watching all of your videos while writing a paper :0) Also, I totally get it. This is why I have very few friends. There are very few people I know I can truly trust to not try to put me down or use me as scapegoat for their problems.
Honey its been a literal year since god has been doing the same to me, taking away my friends, my relationship, and taking all kinds of human relationships away from me, some of them were toxic and some were good... but stuff happens and you know what? Screw them. You have friends only to make you go through life easier, Im not saying you’re not supposed to go with your friends through good and bad, but when your friend starts controlling you and eating off your life points, thats about enough. You’re not obligated to keep this shit, you always deserve better than this, self respect and self love is hard to reach so I dont blame you, but keep working on it, you deserve love, and you shouldnt take any less
omg this hit home sooo hard. I wasnt brave to let go of certain friends but God had other plans for me. it was so painful and some days i still cry about the ruptures but I know that it was for the best. I learned so much from them but damn it hurt like hell.
This is sooo timely for me right now, going through this now with 2 people, I need to learn to let go, and I believe in God as well, I can relate to you soo much in this video
In life! Sweetheart of gold You! most ppl don’t have the same heart as you. Don’t take it personal. This has been hard for me to accept in my life but when you turn closer to 40 I shall say you don’t give a damn anymore!! And I’m not 40 yet!! Just remember that and you meet like minded friends but the others that your talking about you are learning very early to not waste your time with them.
I know as a Pisces (February 28)m that this is a hard concept. Especially when you trusted them. However, you talked about change. You change products and sometimes your hair will change . You change to be an adult then friendships will end. You are awesome and GOD blessed you through that season. "On to the next one." I just want to reach through the screen and give you a hug. I know it hurts and you are human too. The only way you can make this channel and this play list is because you have been through it. I hate when people preach and they have not experienced. just sayin. I just found you and binge watching everything. I'm always so behind on everything. Slow bus just pulled up and I"m happy to get off here with you .
Well. The whole not a victim perspective really grinds my gears as someone who just left an abusive relationship. We are victims. Even if some hurt was mutual. Not leaving or letting go early enough does not negate having been hurt aka being a victim.
we need to trim our ends for growth and im not just talking about hair
😮😮😮😮🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌👐👐👏👏👏👏 that was beautiful ❤️
I mean, it's a straight up lie that you need to "trim your ends", because your hair grows no matter what (unless they are damaged or splitting, but unless it's happening, the only reason you might have to trim your ends is to make your hair even, and that IS NOT "for growth"), but great sentiment.
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Come through with these facts. 👏🏾
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You're growing up, girl! I'm so proud of you! Losing wolves disguised as sheep is never a bad thing, but it always hurts. You can do this! ❤
We gotta watch who we call a “friend” not everyone has the same intention. That’s why I don’t have many. I’m just learning to be a friend to myself and I’m happy with not have any.
amen some enter your life with an agenda to use and abuse
Same
I just lost my best friend of 10 years because I finally realized how horrible she made me feel anytime I didn’t agree with her. She would take her frustrations out on me constantly and I thought i just had to take it if I considered myself to be a good friend. One day it hit me like a truck that she never cared about me unless I could actively benefit her in that moment. It’s so hard losing friendships but so freeing at the same time. Sending you love! Thank you for making this. ❤️
U don't look alright girl, chill up
No one deserves to rent a room in ur brain for free😘
@Telisha3 Claiborne
From personal experience, when someone hurts you and you keep thinking about how they have mistreated you and u keep thinking about that person....etc you technically give them so much from your energy, time and attention, so you end up doing nothing but thinking about something and someone from (past), they are past now, u need to let go, u need to realise that those things are only in your head and in reality and in your present moment nothing really exists, it's past, it's gone, we only bring them back when we think about them, and this is not good because you can invest your time and energy doing something else rather than *thinking* about Past
(again, it's the thinking that controls you)
Invest your time in something that will improve your life... So don't let anyone doesn't worth you time to rent rooms for free in ur head, make sure that people who surrounds you are worthy of your time...
We have limited time on this earth
Remember that please...
@Telisha3 Claiborne
Actually I didn't get you wrong, I was really happy with your comment 😊😊
Don't worry
We are cool
I will search for your comment and read it.👍🏻❤️
@Telisha3 Claiborne by the way, no need to apologise 🙌🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Haven't U ever thought of writing a book " how to save your 20's"🤔
Seriously every single word you said is a shining diamond 💎💫❤❤❤❤
@Telisha3 Claiborne i feel like retrospective is not too helpful in a story like that.. otherwise you would just ask your parents wouldnt you ?
I like this title
WE NEED NEED ONE ON TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS PLEASE IM STRUGGLING
Same here gurl! Hang in there, things will get better soon ❤❤
I felt bad because I had to drop a friend earlier this year. Started as a coworker then I was a close friend, then a godmother. Then things started happening in my life. Things got rough and I felt like she didn't care. I had to give up my godmother position because I couldn't afford it and it lifted a weight. And even after I had to let it go I realized it wasn't toxic, it was just one-sided. I honestly just stopped wasting my time trying to keep up the friendship. I still miss her and her kids but I had to let go to get myself together.
I feel this bc I’m personally dealing with a very similar situation where I am godmother to two amazing little children and love them like my own but the father is the most toxic person ever and the mom just allows him to run over them and I’m hanging on for the kids but some days I question if it’s worth the stress...but then when I have the kids I feel it’s all worth it so I really don’t know😢
I used to obsess over my “lost friends”, and I used to feel guilty for standing up for myself and removing my love ... Then, I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years with an evil narcissist, and when I finally realized that I could not help him, he hung himself from our bedroom doorknob to “punish me”. He knew me very well, he KNEW that he could not hurt me anymore directly, and the only way left to destroy me was to destroy himself. He knew it would haunt me.
Since that, I realized that I should not have to feel guilty for cutting out toxic people, because honestly, THEY don’t care about your feelings. And yes, no longer having you as a friend will sting (because of how amazing YOU are), but that is the lesson that they needed to learn. Protect yourself, love yourself! ❤️❤️❤️🤗
You're almost at 100k. I'm so proud of you. I remember following you at 27k
Thanks for sticking with the weirdness🌸
@@TheStarPuppy loveeeeee it sis
Surviving my 30s with StarPuppy...
You know it’s coming at some point 🙌🏿
Honestly I have the same issue. I get really attached to people so I make excuses to keep toxic people in my life until I just can't anymore. And honestly I thought I was done with that part of my life...and then my mother betrayed me too. Not that I'm surprised I've been slowly trying to bring up issues with her toxic and manipulative behavior over the last few years as I've come to acknowledge them because she's my mother and i can't just cut her out of my life. But after this last thing i mean sometimes you just have to. Sometimes you just have to let go and it's difficult but it's for the sake of your own sanity and mental health.
I know exactly what you're going through. I had a really close, long friendship fall out about 3ish years ago. It wasn't a fight or anything, in fact, I think she thinks we can still be friends. But I HAD to cut her out of my life. I realized after a while that I was putting way more into our friendship than she ever did, that I tiptoed around her and her wants and didn't worry about my needs, and I realized that there was a lot of stuff that she would say "jokingly" about me and to me that really hurt. I haven't spoken to her in ages, but we were friends since 3rd grade, so it's hard not to think about her. I have been trying to move on for so long, and it's been a slow process. I recently wrote a letter to her that I don't plan on sending, but I wrote about all of the reasons for why our friendship went sour. And the more I wrote, the more things I could think of. By the end of it, I felt a lot better. I think it's still going to be hard, but I'm working through it. And it's been a lot easier since I moved away for an internship and then grad school because I'm not afraid of running into her all the time.
I sincerely hope that you heal from this, and that you come out stronger because of it. I have felt a huge weight lifted from my shoulders since I left my toxic friendship and I hope that you can feel that too. Praying for your healing and joy.
Trash person like this in my life
Wow I'm literally dealing with this currently. Thank you for sharing!♥️
Sis you can't be inspirational without sharing this stuff. This is just a part of life that everyone goes thru. So in a sense, it is inspiring to see someone talk openly about these things. Love ya♥️
You may be enterkng into a new season and those around you can't go with you. But this is alws good to let go of toxic relationships. Thank God. Now renew your mind in The Word to not be available for these things. Thank you for your realness!
let's believe ppl the first time when they show us who they are. I advise you the yt Channel grace for purpose it is fire. And do not make your identity or your wellness have ppl as their fundation. God is the best one, and healthy relationships add themselves up to it.
The most valuable thing I was ever told was "Not everyone deserves a front row seat in your life" Those seats should always be reserved for your best and your brightest, the people who are ride or die, who are in your life because they love and appreciate you, and want to see you win. Everybody else can settle down in the balcony, or they may even have to be ushered out.
I know exactly what you mean my dude. The hardest part about being an empath is protecting ourselves from becoming the cold and voluntarily unfeeling people who hurt us.
I lost a friend who was like a twin to me since second grade (for nearly eight years now, I'm 16) and we never really talked about it, we just started ignoring each other somehow. I noticed that she wasn't good for me and also didn't care about me when I felt like I was always supporting her and trying to lift her up but the way she talked to me made me feel like she was thinking that she was better than me and I started believing it.
We grew apart in the last months and she was only with me when her other friend wasn't there. I told myself that that was ok because jealousy was unnecessary and stupid so I kinda let it happen.
I finally tried to talk about that with her but the other friend was also there and they IGNORED me. I was walking behind them for fifteen minutes and they completely ignored me the whole time. I finally managed to leave.
The next day she told me she was soo sorry and she would try from now on. Well she did, but only for like three days, then it even got worse than before.
Since I noticed that talking apparently didn't help I slowly stopped talking to her.
For about a month after this I could have slapped her in the face every time I saw her. I cried multiple times because of this whole situation, I talked to my family and other friends but I don't really feel like they understand.
I still have to see her five days a week and we still haven't talked about it since I won't reach out to her again because it doesn't seem like she cares at all.
I know that this comment is really long, but I felt the need to share this for a while now.
Also, if there are any mistakes I'm really sorry, I am not a native speaker 😅.
Being an empath is difficult. You love tirelessly and without limits. So when you lose someone its like life shatters in a way and I’m sorry that ppl can dismiss bonds. I can understand where you’re coming from and I do hope that God comforts you. Just be sure to take a process and forgive for you. You are amazing don’t settle for less than what your heart can offer🧡🧡🧡
“love tirelessly” really hit me. I’ve always described it as “deeply” but your way of saying it really hits the nail on the head.
StarPuppy cause I’m an empath as well! Feeling for others can be both a superpower and a weakness you know. But we make it work😉
God is calling you to be a better friend with him..it sounds weird but its true ..i respect your videos so much
Perfect video and perfect timing. Perfect eyebrows as well
Dear Danielle,
I just wanted you to know that all things being processed in your life right now will work out for your greater good. Realize that not everyone will be there for you the way you want them too, and YES, it will hurt, but with every lost you gain something. Whether that be a new perspective, a new attitude, or even a new way to take on everyday problems and situations, think of it as self growth. Every flower has to be rained on in order for it to grow. It also amazes me that even when you’re not feeling your best you still think of others ( your subscribers)rather than your self. You continue to be positive, in a world so negative. I APPRECIATE IT!! I also thank you for all you do on this channel.
Love,
One of your subscribers
i feel this so much and i also believe in God too. It sucks losing friends that you've known for years...
Whatever leaves will be replaced by something ten times better. Nothing is ever truly lost. It is only temporarily hidden from view (in one form). It will re-arrive in another form as something or someone 10 times better as long as you evolve and stay in positivity.
The shedding of friends can be a sign of personal growth. I lost a friend this year that was my best friend for a decade. It's okay, it makes room for better company in life. It's better to be your own company for a while than to have people who dont have your back around. Bounce off your faith, you have all the tools in your community to come back overflowing with life and offer that fun to others. You'll draw others in, interesting, genuine, funny and adventurous friends will come, you'll see 🐘🐘🐥😘
As someone who's currently in her mid-20's right now, I completly feel you!
Myself and a person I have concidered a very close friend for over a decade, met up with two other very close friends a few weeks ago now. We haven't seen them in close to 2 years and were excited to see them.
After comments from the two we met with regarding my weight, having kids, how my friend was raising her child, pretty much putting us both down for a solid 4 hours and making it seem like their lives were perfect I went through the same 'what the heck' moment.
Myself and my friend sat there wondering how they'd changed into people we didn't recognise anymore, but soon realised they're not the ones that changed, we are. We both developed as people and saw different sides of the world or views from people outside of our bubble. Sometimes people just don't always fit into your life as you get older. One thing I've realised is that I don't need to make mental space or physical space for people that don't deserve it.
I learned this year that sometimes you lose a friend, not always because they’re a “toxic person” like everybody usually says, but because sometimes somebody can be toxic
*for you*
What may not be good for you, may be okay for somebody else. You shouldn’t feel the need to make yourself feel small just to stay friends with somebody. Sometimes you two are growing at different rates and sometimes that is what causes the toxicity in that friendship. You can leave a friendship at any time for any reason. Whether they’re a good person a bad person in between. How do they make you feel? And why?
Does this person make you happy with who you are when they’re around?
God shows you things for a reason. That doesn’t mean you can’t be upset and frustrated but what it does mean is that you know who is really there for you or not. Once you start losing those toxic people in your life you will start living and winning. God got your back. You had to let those people go for your growth. I’ve lost so many friends that I realize they were never there for me to begin with. It’s ok to cry and it’s ok to even yell but know your blessing is coming because he cleared that path for you. Stay blessed love
I loved the harry potter video. I was surprised as to how much you know about it. I know absolutely nothing about. Sure not many may have watched it but rn over 4,000 people watched it. Thats more than my whole high school. don't compare your amount of views to other people videos. Because that way you put your self down and you are the last person on the list who should put your self down. Heck you shouldnt even be on that list. Im proud that YOU WENT TO THE RIDE OR DIE FAM. AND YEETED ALL YOUR TROUBLES OUT OF YOUR MIND. That was a mature and smart move. And TH-cam...I know you want to keep a schedule but If you need a break. Take as many as you like because I rather see someone rarely update but actually be happy than someone posting because they have to. TH-cam isn't a chore is a style and style changes. And if you wanna Rant on youtube to get it all out Do it sis! Aint no one stoping you!
When I'm stressed I pray befor bed and drink warm milk or something warm then I treat myself and work on myself.
Btw here is 🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼
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What did I do to deserve such a lovely person😭✨🖤✨
Your openness and vulnerability shows so much strength. I’ve realized that people in your life are there to teach you, and that may not last a life time. Those relationships taught you many things - good and bad - but it’s up to you to determine if they are healthy, stable, and beneficial for BOTH parties. ♥️
Most of the friends I had were toxic. Rather the friendship was 12yrs, 7 yrs, 2 yrs, several months..... I ended them or God took them out of my life, it feels good to be free of narcissistic people. A few of them did hurt, but Ik my worth. And I refuse to let other people hurt me. Sadly, I could never get close to anyone anymore. Simply, because of people getting close to me for ill intentions.
sometimes friendships have to end in order for you to realize just how you deserve to be treated
trust me when i say there are people out there who will love and cherish you for who you are and will push you towards your best self. please think of all the blessings you're walking towards... even in the times where it hurts. something good is coming ^-^
My best friend growing up was like that. I finally cut contact with her when I was around 18. Over the course of our friendship, she successfully manipulated me into not being good friends with anyone else so now I don't have many of them but I feel it's better than being your 'best friend's' doormat. Hang in there girl.
You are not alone in this feeling! I've been going through the same thing these past two years because I have a hard time letting go. Even now I'm holding on to a memory of what used to be knowing it will only stay a memory. It's hard.... I love these videos because it helps me sort out my feelings and brings me closer to rest.
Thank you Star Puppy
You're not alone in this feeling
i am going thru the same shit right now and it's so special to hear someone else speak on it from such strength and grace!! praying the people you deserve continue to find you
I had this very toxic person in my life. She abused me, harassed me, bullied me, put me down, NEVER supported me like damn
You're such well spoken young woman! I've lost so many friends too, some left when i stopped drinking alcohol (im not an alcoholist, i just don't enjoy being drunk) more left when i got chronic pain, albeit i contributed to that too by not calling or meeting up. Now i have 2 very close friends and im very thankful i have them in my life.
One thing about friendships ending, you will always take the memories with you. It's your choice to hang on to the goods or reminiscing the bad may work better.
I stay as far away as i can from toxic people
Amen sister, it is the hardest ... one of the hardest things I have had to deal with as an adult. In my twenties I have lost friends and I found it so hard because it is hard to let go honestly. So hard. I think I'm getting better at it.
One friend drifted away like when I was 22 and I've only just realised how good that was for me three years later. Honestly God was looking out because if we had stayed friends. It would have been a mess.
On a positive note through having "bad" friends I know appreciate the good ones a lot more. I know who my true friends are and I love that.
Just got done getting rid of this one-sided self-centered person. They kept tabs on my simple mistakes while whenever they made mistakes I looked over them. She basically cut me off for months and I didn't notice, until I finally got her to say something. She said she was uncomfortable with me with things i said which was either a joke or I didn't know I couldn't say. I like communication and she never communicates if she had an issue and I call that immaturity. I was very hurt.
"Anyone can be in your circle but not everyone will be around." best advice i have ever been given.
The moment I open youtube I see this wow... a good omen
That’s a good thing about removing friends. You are being shifted into another place in your life. Everyone cannot go where you are going when the shift comes. As you grow, you will make new friends that will help you in your journey. You won’t understand why until you are older. I have been there and done that.
Toxic Friends🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️ I'm glad God has tossed them out my life
I am/will be praying for you. God is strengthening your already beautiful and amazing heart. I know that sometimes God "snatches" but he's a God who abundantly blesses and gives even more than he snatches. This was a godsend for me because I've been navigating some hairy friendships too.
For sure. I also don’t breeze past the fact that God often is snatching poison out of my hand 🙌🏿
A close friend recently snitched on me, left me with an awkward mess to clean...this video has never been more relevant. Thanks Danni! xo
This is exactly what I'm going through right now. Thank you for being a source of relatability, inspiration and strength 😭❤️
I could feel and relate to each and every word of this video. I am going through such a similar phase and listening to this was so therapeutic as it lead me to organize so much of my thoughts and chaotic state of mind. And Thank you so much for reminding me that I needed to go to the right people to talk about this. ❤❤❤ I LOVELOVELOVE your content. Please keep making more of these videos and know that you are one heck of a beautiful soul. Your talks radiate energy and reflect the amazing person you must be. I wish I could by any chance meet you in Real and be friends with a person like you ❤❤❤.
Ive been there felt the same feelings for 7 years and my univ years were just useless, lonely and sad. All I can say is : all those feeling fade away… Arigato :)
this was still helpful, i appreciate you filming this. 'this may have been a season of loss but ive gained so much...' is really really helpful. it helped shift my perspective on some stuff.
I had this video in my watch later playlist for so long and I just couldn't bring myself to watch it because this was also what I was going through. I was so scared to face the reality of these ending friendships and relationships that anything that could've reminded me of the truth I AVOIDED LIKE THE PLAGUE. Finally months later I'm able to watch this video and it still hurts to think it about all of it because I'm still having such a hard time letting them go. Danielle, your videos are so helpful in this time of our lives. I just wanna say thank you for sharing your experiences with us and letting us know that we aren't alone in these trying times of our 20s, things do get better, and there are ways to handle these obstacles. Thank you
I literally just lost a "friend" yesterday. Woke up to an 8 page text blaming me for our failed connection. I wish we could talk on the phone and tell each other everything because I feel EVERYTHING you're saying. Thank you for this video. I'll be thinking about you and praying for you as I work through the pain of my loss as well
Lost a best friend in November overnight and definitely feel you on the theme of loss. Stay strong x
YESS HAVEN'T WATCHED VIDEO YET BUT I AM SO EXCITED. This series is how I discovered (and then proceed to binge-watch all your content) your channel. It actually has really helped me deal with things as a twenty-something. There are times where I'll rewatch these videos, too. So keep it up
When she said were they supposed to be there in the first place? I audibly said . OOP!
I felt that.
Lmaooo I’m honored
StarPuppy wait you replied. MAAAAM IM honored 💕. And since you’re here you’re loved and you’re worthy and you’re beautiful and God is snatching bad friendships to make room for good ones!
Thank you so much for sharing and don't let others dim your light.
I can relate. I am healing from toxic people in my life who I allowed to have so much power over me. I have more respect for myself and recognize what to avoid now. I used to be so naiive and believed people who would use pretty words to give me the illusion that they were filling a hole that was present in my life. I know now that I am a complete person and positive people are meant to empower each other. I pay attention to people's actions and effort more than pretty words now. Now I have to work on letting positive people in and not being guarded with everyone.
When you said I never get over a person that leaves my life until another person replaces that place in your life.. I got concerned 🥺 I understand where you are coming from but people shouldn't have that much power over your life. I don't know if I'm making sense but I wish you all the best 😍❤
The note in your description really helped put my mind to rest 😅.
I hope these friendship deaths have allowed you to grow, frustration breeds progress 💞.
Those 2 dislikes are 'friend' one and two
....you might be right lmaoooo
Im glad you were able to get rid of these toxic people, and it’s okay to mourn a loss even if it’s a toxic one.
They're probably all jealous of your success. That's how it usually goes, please let them go. They're nobody, you don't need them. Look to the future, you have a lot coming yr way and you make new friends who are way more worthy of your friendship.
Girl take care, you deserve peace, calm, happiness... I really admire and respect you. This topic is really hard, thank you for talking about it, I really needed it ❤
Your notes!
I kept earring "look at my nose" and I was very confused as to whether I missed an inside joke or wtv
Suprisingly,I'm dealing with the same situation. I'm still suffering from it everyday that it even affects my health. Thank you for addressing this situation. This was needed for me...
Thank you soooo much for sharing your experiences with us, Danielle! I know it must've been hard and I really appreciate your raw honesty. I just joined the star fam a few months ago and I could see in your eyes that you were going through some toxicity in your life. It really hurt my heart to see the pain in your eyes, but so many of us here are empathetic and we know exactly what you are talking about and you are not alone. The damage toxic friendships leave behind sometimes take a long time to heal, but you will emerge a healthier person. You know that.
Take your time with your uploading, girl! We will be here ^.^
(Also I'm guilty of not watching the Harry Potter vid bc, coming from someone who never read the books, I didn't think I'd get the references **nervous laughter ensues....* * )
Wow, I wish I could come through the screen and hug you, because I FELT THAT.
I don't wanna go through a whole life story in a comment, but watching people change and realizing that the connection that you have ... is fading . You feel ... so helpless .
& cycling through memories of what use to be, is so intoxicating.
Holding on through the mistrust ... is painful and wretched .
But I know for a fact, that not all friendships die forever, good friendships find a way ... they just have tough moments to get through.
It's okay to cry, it's okay to feel frustrated, just don't give up .
I understand how you feel and right now it sucks. Yes it does. But trust me it is a blessing. I dont know how to let go either, but hey no more snakes.
Yup! At 36 years old, this the culmination of the downloads that I’m sorting and deleting so that I can joyous and free. Much blessings to you Dani!! 💚💕
I'm going through the same thing. The difference though is that the toxic people will group together & it made me feel like I was always in the wrong. It doesnt help that we go to the same program or company and some live on the same campus as me.
I'm still trying to find "my people" but right now I'm living an introverted life in an extroverts body
I absolutely live for these and they help so much >.< also sending positive vibes your way!! ❤️
I’m so glad they do!!! I always felt like I was alone in these topics but I’m just finding out how many people are trying to navigate this daggone decade and beyond. We’re gonna be alright!! 🌸❤️🌸
Your coming into a new season of your life Gods stripping the toxic people out because where he's taking you they can't go this is a time of renewal for you for me the times this has happened brought on blessings that I never in a million years would have expected he knows you won't let them go on your own so he's pulling them
I was searching for the perfect comment and I found this one... so beautifully put. I know this wasn't meant for me, but it definitely helped.💜🙏🏾
@@mixedlove1234 I'm happy to know it helped 😊😊😊
Been there. I can remember being the friend that cant let go. It hurts, but you know what they say about closed door... perhaps this is a new beginning to something more fruitful. Chin up, fellow weirdo.
Being in your 20’s is all about growth, God will show the truth out of people. This is your time to do better with yourself and begin to pray more. Make better friends who deserve to be in your life. This is also God’s wake up call, better things are surely coming your way. Trust me I lost plenty of friends in my 20’s, I’m 32 now and I’m doing soooo much better with my life. My skin is better, I’m very much like financially stable and my life is great! You’re going to get through it girl, trust me.
Wow....this is an amazing video and you were definitely speaking directly from me. Hope you're in a better place now...sending prayers and positive vibes your way
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 and yes they were supposed to be there in the first place. Everything happens for a reason, I believe that. You are stronger now bc of the foolery!!!
I'm glad these friendships revealed their true forms & you're able to see it and talk to your sisters about it ♥️♥️♥️♥️ I feel like I'm going through or I'm about to go through something like this. I'm so ready to drop these people 😔
Thank you for this video... I'm trying to go through the lost of the friendship I had with someone I still love so much to this day. It is very hard to lose people. She was my best friend and it was very toxic. But I love her so much I couldn't see it. I'm still grieving this relationship even though it has been a whole semester. It set me in a deep depression that I'm still trying to get out of. With her I lost our friend group. She asked them to pick a side and they did. I tried so much to heal our relationship but she just ignored me until I couldn't give anything else. It happened in one of the hardest times of my life and she knew everything that was going on... she told lies about me, she pretended I wasn't there when she saw me and did all this childish things to hurt me. After leaving her I felt more confident, I felt like I could breathe, didn't feel guilty anymore, didn't feel useless or dumb or all these other things she made me feel. But I felt very lost , after all, I let her take control of me. I depended on her. It was very comfortable for me. I felt save when I was with her. She was an amazing human with a lot of issues and I was as guilty as her for everything that happened.
To anyone in a similar situation: things get better. You will forever miss the people you love when you no longer can be by their side, but you learn to live without them and there will be other loves and amazing relationships that will be truly good for you. We all do the best we can, for me the only way out of that pain was forgiving.
It’s like you know when to make a video that’s going to help immediately. Keep your head up! You’re talented and kind! You don’t need toxicity in your life. I’m sorry that you are struggling but things will get better and if you need to. Let it out and then readjust that crown 👑
These videos help me so much :) you’ve made my night so much better. I’m in a very similar situation as losing a bunch of “friends” this last year. And now you’ve helped me look at it in a different way! Thank you! I love you! I hope we can make it through this funk together and survive our 20’s 💕 keep uploading girl you’re INSPIRING
It hurts to see you like this... Take care of yourself 💕
I'm sending you love❤️ I wish I could see how terrible my person is for me and how they just vanished and ghosted me I'm pissed and hurt and I needed this video for real❤️
I am so grateful that you are sharing this with all of us.. just a few months ago I decided to „end“ the friendship with my best friend (we have been bf for over 10 years) because a lot of the time she made me feel guilty about myself for no particular reason & I therefore often felt really anxious. We depended on one another to an extend that wasn‘t healthy anymore.. so as much as it hurts, I can‘t imagine being friends with her any longer 🙁
This Video definitely helped me feeling less alone with this. You can be so proud of yourself. Thank you ♥️🙏
Giiiiirrrrrrllllll I'm currently in that same transition and it has definitely affected my life lol. But I pray your upswing is permanent and I'm glad you learned. Our 20s are hard.
I lost friends too , but hearing you talk about it makes me so close to you , you are a friend ! ♥
u don't understand how much I can relate to everything ur talking about
Much love Dani ♡♡ stay hydrated and take as long as you need
I'm binge-watching all of your videos while writing a paper :0) Also, I totally get it. This is why I have very few friends. There are very few people I know I can truly trust to not try to put me down or use me as scapegoat for their problems.
Don’t have to worry about toxic friends cause I don’t have any 👌👌gotta go watch #7 again
You’ll find your tribe, high quality usually isn’t in high quantity. Keep going, you and do it ✨🖤✨
Honey its been a literal year since god has been doing the same to me, taking away my friends, my relationship, and taking all kinds of human relationships away from me, some of them were toxic and some were good... but stuff happens and you know what? Screw them. You have friends only to make you go through life easier, Im not saying you’re not supposed to go with your friends through good and bad, but when your friend starts controlling you and eating off your life points, thats about enough. You’re not obligated to keep this shit, you always deserve better than this, self respect and self love is hard to reach so I dont blame you, but keep working on it, you deserve love, and you shouldnt take any less
I LOVED THE REALNESS THANK YOU FOR YOUR POINT OF VIEW💕💕💕🙌🙌
I’m a simple human being: I see a new video about surviving your 20s has been uploaded, so I watch that video.
omg this hit home sooo hard. I wasnt brave to let go of certain friends but God had other plans for me. it was so painful and some days i still cry about the ruptures but I know that it was for the best. I learned so much from them but damn it hurt like hell.
This is sooo timely for me right now, going through this now with 2 people, I need to learn to let go, and I believe in God as well, I can relate to you soo much in this video
In life! Sweetheart of gold You! most ppl don’t have the same heart as you. Don’t take it personal. This has been hard for me to accept in my life but when you turn closer to 40 I shall say you don’t give a damn anymore!! And I’m not 40 yet!! Just remember that and you meet like minded friends but the others that your talking about you are learning very early to not waste your time with them.
I know as a Pisces (February 28)m that this is a hard concept. Especially when you trusted them. However, you talked about change. You change products and sometimes your hair will change . You change to be an adult then friendships will end. You are awesome and GOD blessed you through that season. "On to the next one." I just want to reach through the screen and give you a hug. I know it hurts and you are human too. The only way you can make this channel and this play list is because you have been through it. I hate when people preach and they have not experienced. just sayin. I just found you and binge watching everything. I'm always so behind on everything. Slow bus just pulled up and I"m happy to get off here with you .
These revelations....wow you did this in 2019? I'm just getting to this...now.
Well. The whole not a victim perspective really grinds my gears as someone who just left an abusive relationship. We are victims. Even if some hurt was mutual. Not leaving or letting go early enough does not negate having been hurt aka being a victim.
But rest of video was really really good. Thank you. I needed this. Sending thoughts your way
Oh starpuppy I hate to see you sad but hey there is reason why they are no longer apart life Romans 8:28