1.Financial status 2.Relationship status 3.Intimate details of the relationship 4.Family affairs and problems 5.New ideas 6.Goals and achievement's 7.Material purchases 8.Unverified Information 9.Social Worth 10.Disagreements or quarrel you had with someone 11.Acts of charity 12. Weakness and setbacks 13.Career opportunities 14.Do not share your current location in real time 15.
Let me just add that abuse could also be 'emotional'. Tell someone you trust because it could lead to some feelings of depression, lack of identity, or lack of self-worth.
I so love the fact that you back up your words with scriptures 😊 that simply means elegance is not complete without God's word👌 thanks a million for all you do.
I came to realise that the things you talk about or discuss with someone else, before trying to achieve them don't later come to reality, that's why I've always been a private person and people around always sees it as pride, but I don't care....thanks for these words of wisdom.
@@lang6626 I used to tell my "friends" all my plans, like everything but after that all despairs it's was like they were monitoring evil spirits. When I stopped talking,sharing and social media darling I have seen big changes in every area of my life.
Thank u so much ma'am I am 17yrs and ur contents has been a great life guide so far I just love and admire u so much Despite ur fame and status u still acknowledge God and that's the most beautiful part of it all❤
Imagine if no one shared anything, we’d have no experiences to relate to and would further feel all alone in our situations, I think the important think is to know why you’re sharing what you’re sharing and to make sure it’s a safe space to do so. I did share a career opportunity with someone and guess what happened? She got me an interview….3 interviews so far.
Yes, I agree. I have gained a lot from hearing people share their story in vulnerable ways. I’m also thankful to have people I can be vulnerable with. If I kept it all to myself, my head might explode. She made really strong points though. I think everyone has to tailor the information according to their unique situation. Find out what works best for you.
Agree with you. You have to know who to share with, why you share,what to share and when to share. Let your sharing be for positive reasons, uplifting reasons, glorifying God
We learn from different people's experiences, those people share a part of their experiences with you not all. I can bet one person's experience that they told you is not up to 10% of their personal life, they tell a part and we think we know them all? You can share experiences when you try to prove a point or want them to learn, just be careful not to disclose too much and know who you're sharing with.
@@d_euniqueart No one shares everything, we all know this so there is no need to add that. Sharing things that people have overcame is what they usually share. TH-cam is about sharing and I appreciate everything people have shared that have saved me time, money, trouble or heartache. The things I’ve shared cannot hurt me and I only share it with people who needs to hear it.
6 material acquisition 7. Do not share unverified information 8. Social wars. Do you know who I am . 9. Keep squabbles with other people to yourself 10. Act of service
@@ebelemaria1004 it really surprises me when I see naija celebs post their new homes, cars, acquisitions etc. you know this is what causes a lot of butthurt people to criticise the source of their wealth. Especially those dusty men that demand to know the source of income of a woman as if that’s any of their business. Keep things private. Especially if you’re doing better than people financially. It pains certain people to see you earn more for seemingly doing less. You’re thinking you’re Inspiring but many people have low self esteem and will see it as peppering them.
Coming from experience, I shared my family problems with people I trusted and they threw it in my face. Honestly they years later came and would degrade me n such. Keep it to yourself.
When you have the holyspirit, you will know what to share and what not to share … but it’s always important to share your story/testimony to help someone else in a bad situation
Yes, the more you keep to yourself the better off you are, especially money! I learned this young from my father. And when people talk and talk about themselves just smile and nod, you will learn things that will keep you safe.
For people who have got in a place where they've told too much. I personally have had to be mindful and intentional when you see them and they ask " how are you? " Keep it short and sweet " I'm good thanks. Hope you're good" and kinda leave it there. Sometimes they will ask questions that don't require a yes or no to draw you into telling stuff like "Your hair is nice where did you do it?" It's not a yes or no answer and can draw you into an unnecessary conversation. Don't hold malice. Keep it short and sweet and be alert
Thank you. Unless it's someone like you or celebrity. Just keep your entire life PRIVATE PERIOD!! From friends and some families too. Not to mention strangers. Thank you beautiful lady!!!
I wished I had seen this just about a year ago to remind me to not overshare and share these points. Now I know, no matter what, some ppl will never like you for whatever reasons. But if you listen and do not share these, they have very little to use against you. I removed myself from a friendship because they went to church, behaved generously, spoke graciously, and then bam! A person can never hide their true self. It usually only takes on average 90 days to see their true colors. It's forgivable but I have my sense of peace and valuable time back to myself. That's priceless. I'm so glad to have found your channel!
This is very true. In today's church world, unless by God's leading, do not share things about yourself and family, even to your pastor. It's quite difficult to know a true believer, except by discernment.
YES! TMI , keep things to yourself! You do not need to be secretive, you need to be private! there is a difference! Be open about your views on certain topics! but be quiet about your next step! From one creator to another great work!
Winnie is a woman of virtue, thank you for backing it up with those bibles passages, those points you shared are so accurate , thanks for sharing ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is extremely interesting particularly in the age we are living in. As a very private person myself, it can be interpreted as being guarded and / or coming across as perfect. When you are like that some will seek out your flaws to console themselves about their own state. However, in the wider climate where mental health is a consideration nowadays it is important to be careful not to discourage ppl speaking out when it is absolutely necessary e.g. in cases of abuse and/or where there is a danger to life. Keeping things like that private could be disastrous regardless of any potential haters seeking to exploit situations. A stiff upper lip some cultures promote but those lips must open at the appropriate time. I am able to use mine accordingly. 😊
@@Dinah5822 Balance, I share my good experiences as well as not so positive. But in times where I have no cause to complain, why must it be fabricated for the purpose of another?! I love to share POSITIVITY, ASPIRATIONAL and ACHIEVABLE STANDARDS with REALISM, based on ETHICS and DEPTH OF CHARACTER. I’m only content to be close to those who can rejoice in my successes as opposed to anyone seeking my commiserations. 😊
Know this and know peace. They’re trying to manipulate information out of you. Many people are out for their own selfish gain. You think they care about you preserving your image. No they don’t dear. It’s your responsibility to guard it jealously
@tatiana you’re correct that ppl are sometimes out for their own self interest, that speaks volumes about them + their character and that’s for their conscience before Jehovah God. Mind you, I do not take slander lightly particularly when there’s no substantive truth and / flagrant attempts to make an outright lie appear true. Intention matters. A mistake I can forgive if the perpetrator is willing to talk, but if it’s intentional wickedness then I pity them. Image and reputation I value but I’m not vain and the world does not revolve around me. HOWEVER attempt to ruin my image on the basis of my principles…we gonna have serious words.
Things that are not spoken can never put you into trouble! I needed this, I thought about searching for video on things to keep private few weeks ago; each time I share my ambition with people they always try to advice me, making me feel like am not mature enough to choose a career path, I feel hurt each time I share things that are meant to be private. Thanks alot for this video 😌
Just share it with God and keep praying about it 🙏🏿. Ask God if that's what he wants you to do. Bcos people are not successful in a career doesn't mean you won't be. I like it when people are given the opportunity to choose their career.
keeping things to yourself is so important because people just love to twist every single word and everything you do. You can have the best intentions and someone will say something negative about what you did, a thought that never crossed your mind because it's just not who you are. Don't allow people to cross your boundaries, like-minded people and people that are meant to appreciate who you are and know your worth will know.
💯% you can have the best intentions towards someone and out of jealousy and envy they will think you are trying to help them because they view you as being much better than they are, even when it has never crossed your thoughts. PEOPLE!
Perfect timing - really perfect. When one is smeared on social media, there is the temptation to defend oneself. The Lord has been reminding me that He was like a Lamb led to slaughter, He never spoke a word in His own defense.
Absolutely and all the scriptures she read out.... it's also known as Don't go DEEP i.e: Don't Defend Don't Engage Don't Explain Don't Personalise...it brings you self protection and inner peace.
Omg, I could hear this screaming out my name. I resonated perfectly with "never share your big idea" I got my fingers burnt through this medium in the end, I was advised by the so-called confidant against my big idea, and barely a month after my idea was implemented by this same person. I learned the hard way.
This is brilliant! This right here is why it is important to have professionals in your life who you can confide in to guide you through life's complexities i.e. Therapists, Certified Counselors, Life Coaches. Sometimes your friends and family do not have the capacity to support you well.
You're allowed to share cmon now. It's all about knowing how much to share, what to share and whom to share with. If you do these 3 wrong you'll be in trouble. We learn and empathise from others. Don't just stress to death because you didn't wanna share that information. Just know who is in your corner and if you don't have then pay for professional services to help you get clarity.
material things - "Don't talk about it. Just be about it." Thank you! Social media is so bad about this. smh And.... 11:39 your point is exactly correct. I appreciate the video and lessons.💖
You are absolutely right, I have gone through that in my life before, and it was dangerous and this so-called friends to this guy they were terrible very jealous They are full of lies. I’ve learnt my lessons. Thanks so much just came across your channel today.
4:46 if you bring the public to your family affairs. Be ready to hear different ideas/opinions Family matters stay within the family!!! That hit bottom Rock. Thank you Winnie❤
Summary: 1.financial Status 2-3.Intimate and personal relationships whether single or taken. 4.Family Affairs 5.Brand new ideas 6.Your goals and Achievements 7.Material Purchases 8.Be quiet about Unverified Information 9.Your Social Worth 10.Disagreements, Quarrels and Fights. 11.Acts of Service and Charity work 12.Weaknesses and Setbacks 13.Your Career opportunities 14.Never share you present location especially if you an individual who is present on social media often.
That’s exactly true sense.. If we don’t lose ourselves everything right in place as you said and if we lose our mind & body, then every all things happen to lose yourselves.. Then when, we need to careful everyday minding our health, mind & body what we do and the reactions of body or mind or depression or anything which affects or leads to excess sharing ourselves after we lost ourselves.. If this all needs to happen as we need, focus on you and your thoughts and action everyday and the changes happening to mind & body.. If the person is proper enough doing everything but somewhere missing without knowing what’s happening but losing yourselves is zone to stop & think ourselves.. Thank you! ♥️
Your scriptural references are spot-on and your words of caution are very much appreciated.3 years ago I began to modify my social media habits and I have experienced tremendous progress .
Thank you for this, I've been wanting to get myself together and make some changes. I'm not elegant all the time, I like to chill and but learning to walk stand, and sit confidently and maintain mystery are things I want to incorporate in my life.
This is probably the best video I have come across on this space. It isn't too late to start all over again and right the so many wrongs that's been done. Thank you for this timely counsel.
This is the first video I see of you, I immediately clicked and subscribed because I was just having these thoughts for the past days and it looks like God is confirming my thoughts. Thank you 🙏🏽
What a joy to have found this video. Winnie, you are a gift to civilization because what you say will influence others to be better. I sometimes think God must be so disappointed.
Hmmm, you just got yourself an ardent follower. I've been watching but not following. However, this sold me! I'm a private person but recently circumstances badgered my walls of defense and it came tumbling down! It was a terrible experience and I'm still reeling from the shock and hurt. This made me recoiled back into my shell with regrets on why I lost muster. Thus, this is so welcoming, endearing and reaching. Now I know what I should focus on instead of the pain of betrayal. I really, really appreciate this. Keep up the good work, you don't know how many lives you are touching by these content of yours. You are loved and appreciated 💕💕💕.
Thank you sis great advice. I trust no one. I have encountered too many fake trifling folks in my life so i learned the hard way to move in silence. What I do now is keep a journal and put all my thougts and business in there at least I know its safe there.
Wow! Proverbs 21:23 for real!!! Your counsel goes hand in hand with reading ONE chapter of Proverbs per day! How I wish I could turn back the CLOCK of time! Great counsel! YES, I agree this does NOT apply to abusive relationships that require INTERVENTION! Practical & Godly wisdom for sure. Thanks a million!
I’m a recovering over sharer lol. It’s not the best thing. However, I think sometimes it’s about finding some balance and not necessarily fixed rules. Sharing might be necessary sometimes for some people, in some cases. It’s just important to know who one is sharing with and be mindful of that.
Winnie, I think WHO we share some information to is the main issue. If we all keep things to ourselves then depression may set in. Some persons are very good at keeping secrets while some struggle to do so, they are better at letting it out.
Thank you for those words Winnie❤️ backing it with the word of God made it more Powerful, I think another thing people should keep secret is their Health status (especially those with terminal health conditions), thank you.
Haa!😮 No oo, I'll strongly disagree with you on this point!!! What if the terminal disease is contagious? You are morally obligated to disclose your health status particularly if it is contagious to your social circle!!!
Haa!😮 No oo, I'll strongly disagree with you on this point!!! What if the terminal disease is contagious? You are morally obligated to disclose your health status particularly if it is contagious to your social circle!!!
❤❤❤❤... Keep Yourself and everything about yourself... Private nobody needs to know but you and God....God is my only friend forever..... Naturally when you are a loner and completely free of what people think you don't care.....all they can do is just tell full lies..for their own demonic hateful reason....... Samonah
I don't know how GOD brought you to my TH-cam but I thank GOD I clicked and since Sunday I've had many rethinks. I have started working so much on myself, I've watched almost all of your videos. Thank GOD I found this page😢, GOD bless you. Always feels like I have an elder sister talking directly to me, thank you so much and I pray GOD continues to use you. And if you dont mind, you should consider having a conference sometime, I don't know what kind but just where you can have an open communication/public speaking, it would really mean a lot and be amazing to meet you. Thank you once again🙏🏾.
100 percent correct. Keep your travelling dates to yourself especially if you are travelling out of the country😂😂 keep your Family history and background to yourself.
Thanks for the reminder, sometimes we get carried away by what other people say during conversations and might be tempted to reveal our plans about our schooling,jobs, businesses etc. Thanks Winnie.
My favourite TH-camr! Thanks for this piece! A lot of value was derived from this video of yours. Plus, the God factor you talked about. Thanks, Winnie!😊
Wow..... thank you so much mama, all your videos are always thoughtful. Am happy to see myself as an elegant person in this very video. More grace to you Winnie 💖
I liked the fact that you ended the talk with Bible passages. The outcome of sharing whatever is dependent on when, how, what and who you are sharing with. Sharing life challenges you have overcome could serve as encouragement to others going through same things. Above all, reliance on the Holy Spirit in all we do is paramount.
your write ,not everything should be said.Even in the bible there is averse that says' to take hid of what you should say'👏...Am ALWAYS humbled whenever i watch ur classes..GOD BLESS U ABUNDANTLY
Always looking up to you for guidance, counseling and advice. You're an amazing person, wish I came to know earlier. Thanks for your constant selfless service
1.Financial status
2.Relationship status
3.Intimate details of the relationship
4.Family affairs and problems
5.New ideas
6.Goals and achievement's
7.Material purchases
8.Unverified Information
9.Social Worth
10.Disagreements or quarrel you had with someone
11.Acts of charity
12. Weakness and setbacks
13.Career opportunities
14.Do not share your current location in real time
15.
Thank you
Thank you
Thank you for making it easy by noting down for us🙏
Y’all please when she says “keep everything about your relationship private” it doesn’t apply when you’re being abused! Please y’all!! Thank you 🙏🏽
This!!!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
True but the challenge is, people who’s are being abused do not know or accept they are.
@@winniesschoolofelegance is telling your age and elegant thing to do?
Even when being abused know who to talk to, not everyone must know
Let me just add that abuse could also be 'emotional'. Tell someone you trust because it could lead to some feelings of depression, lack of identity, or lack of self-worth.
I so love the fact that you back up your words with scriptures 😊 that simply means elegance is not complete without God's word👌 thanks a million for all you do.
God’s word is the ultimate!💪🏽
@@winniesschoolofelegance I'm glad you know that.
@@LivingForCHRISTJESUSTv o
Ultimate 🙌🙌🙌
The uniqueness about Winifred is the Holy Spirit, it's evident that's why I'm with here
I came to realise that the things you talk about or discuss with someone else, before trying to achieve them don't later come to reality, that's why I've always been a private person and people around always sees it as pride, but I don't care....thanks for these words of wisdom.
Yup ❤works
💯
Do you know what could be the reason? cause it seems to be true
@@lang6626 I used to tell my "friends" all my plans, like everything but after that all despairs it's was like they were monitoring evil spirits.
When I stopped talking,sharing and social media darling I have seen big changes in every area of my life.
@@SheriK926 yea like a miracle
Thank u so much ma'am
I am 17yrs and ur contents has been a great life guide so far
I just love and admire u so much
Despite ur fame and status u still acknowledge God and that's the most beautiful part of it all❤
Imagine if no one shared anything, we’d have no experiences to relate to and would further feel all alone in our situations, I think the important think is to know why you’re sharing what you’re sharing and to make sure it’s a safe space to do so. I did share a career opportunity with someone and guess what happened? She got me an interview….3 interviews so far.
Yes, I agree. I have gained a lot from hearing people share their story in vulnerable ways. I’m also thankful to have people I can be vulnerable with. If I kept it all to myself, my head might explode.
She made really strong points though. I think everyone has to tailor the information according to their unique situation. Find out what works best for you.
Agree with you. You have to know who to share with, why you share,what to share and when to share. Let your sharing be for positive reasons, uplifting reasons, glorifying God
We learn from different people's experiences, those people share a part of their experiences with you not all. I can bet one person's experience that they told you is not up to 10% of their personal life, they tell a part and we think we know them all? You can share experiences when you try to prove a point or want them to learn, just be careful not to disclose too much and know who you're sharing with.
Intention intention! ❤
@@d_euniqueart No one shares everything, we all know this so there is no need to add that. Sharing things that people have overcame is what they usually share. TH-cam is about sharing and I appreciate everything people have shared that have saved me time, money, trouble or heartache. The things I’ve shared cannot hurt me and I only share it with people who needs to hear it.
Been praying to God to help me tame my tongue, it's not a coincidence I came across this, Thank you very much for this
😂😂😂sister from another mother
"Keep your ideas to yourself"
This right here, I've been a victim of this and I learnt the hard way. Thank you Winnie 🤗
My absolute pleasure!❤❤
Jop
Me too😢
Yes o!
Omg yes! I had a "friend" who stole/copied my business ideas after I shared them.
1- financial status
2- relationship status
3- intimate details about your relationship
4- your family affairs
5-
6 material acquisition
7. Do not share unverified information
8. Social wars. Do you know who I am .
9. Keep squabbles with other people to yourself
10. Act of service
5.brand new ideas
11. Acts of service/charity work
12. weaknesses and setbacks
13. career opportunities
14. current location
10. disagreements, quarrels, and fights
@@ebelemaria1004 it really surprises me when I see naija celebs post their new homes, cars, acquisitions etc. you know this is what causes a lot of butthurt people to criticise the source of their wealth. Especially those dusty men that demand to know the source of income of a woman as if that’s any of their business. Keep things private. Especially if you’re doing better than people financially. It pains certain people to see you earn more for seemingly doing less. You’re thinking you’re Inspiring but many people have low self esteem and will see it as peppering them.
Coming from experience, I shared my family problems with people I trusted and they threw it in my face. Honestly they years later came and would degrade me n such. Keep it to yourself.
It felt as if a big sister was talking to me. Thanks for the masterclass.
Thanks for listening!❤️❤️
Exactly .
If I had known this years back ehn.. I would have been more happier but then I thank God for my life today.
When you have the holyspirit, you will know what to share and what not to share … but it’s always important to share your story/testimony to help someone else in a bad situation
Even in good situations to encourage one another.
Yes! Spirit of discernment!
Right
True
Holy Spirit * 🙏🏼
I stopped oversharing and boom my life became more peaceful and bigger things started coming ❤. Thank you for sharing
Yes, the more you keep to yourself the better off you are, especially money! I learned this young from my father. And when people talk and talk about themselves just smile and nod, you will learn things that will keep you safe.
For people who have got in a place where they've told too much. I personally have had to be mindful and intentional when you see them and they ask " how are you? " Keep it short and sweet " I'm good thanks. Hope you're good" and kinda leave it there. Sometimes they will ask questions that don't require a yes or no to draw you into telling stuff like
"Your hair is nice where did you do it?" It's not a yes or no answer and can draw you into an unnecessary conversation. Don't hold malice. Keep it short and sweet and be alert
Thank you. Unless it's someone like you or celebrity. Just keep your entire life PRIVATE PERIOD!! From friends and some families too. Not to mention strangers. Thank you beautiful lady!!!
I wished I had seen this just about a year ago to remind me to not overshare and share these points. Now I know, no matter what, some ppl will never like you for whatever reasons. But if you listen and do not share these, they have very little to use against you. I removed myself from a friendship because they went to church, behaved generously, spoke graciously, and then bam! A person can never hide their true self. It usually only takes on average 90 days to see their true colors. It's forgivable but I have my sense of peace and valuable time back to myself. That's priceless. I'm so glad to have found your channel!
Don't let your left hand know what the right hand is doing. Great message 👍 👏
This is very true. In today's church world, unless by God's leading, do not share things about yourself and family, even to your pastor. It's quite difficult to know a true believer, except by discernment.
so true
Absolutely, except by the leading of God and after careful observation.
Me too.
I agree so much with this comment!
So calm and collected. Your posture is so mature, you voice, so audible and mature too.. You earned yourself a subscriber
don't tell your friends you desire a relationship. if they are jealous, they will make you insecure and tell you it will be hard for you
YES! TMI , keep things to yourself! You do not need to be secretive, you need to be private! there is a difference! Be open about your views on certain topics! but be quiet about your next step! From one creator to another great work!
Winnie is a woman of virtue, thank you for backing it up with those bibles passages, those points you shared are so accurate , thanks for sharing ❤️❤️❤️❤️
It’s my absolute pleasure. Thank you so much for your kind words.❤️❤️
This is extremely interesting particularly in the age we are living in. As a very private person myself, it can be interpreted as being guarded and / or coming across as perfect. When you are like that some will seek out your flaws to console themselves about their own state. However, in the wider climate where mental health is a consideration nowadays it is important to be careful not to discourage ppl speaking out when it is absolutely necessary e.g. in cases of abuse and/or where there is a danger to life. Keeping things like that private could be disastrous regardless of any potential haters seeking to exploit situations. A stiff upper lip some cultures promote but those lips must open at the appropriate time. I am able to use mine accordingly. 😊
When things are good for you ,you don't want to share so when they are bad is when it's appropriate to share ? Lol
@@Dinah5822 Balance, I share my good experiences as well as not so positive. But in times where I have no cause to complain, why must it be fabricated for the purpose of another?! I love to share POSITIVITY, ASPIRATIONAL and ACHIEVABLE STANDARDS with REALISM, based on ETHICS and DEPTH OF CHARACTER. I’m only content to be close to those who can rejoice in my successes as opposed to anyone seeking my commiserations. 😊
Know this and know peace. They’re trying to manipulate information out of you. Many people are out for their own selfish gain. You think they care about you preserving your image. No they don’t dear. It’s your responsibility to guard it jealously
@tatiana you’re correct that ppl are sometimes out for their own self interest, that speaks volumes about them + their character and that’s for their conscience before Jehovah God. Mind you, I do not take slander lightly particularly when there’s no substantive truth and / flagrant attempts to make an outright lie appear true. Intention matters. A mistake I can forgive if the perpetrator is willing to talk, but if it’s intentional wickedness then I pity them. Image and reputation I value but I’m not vain and the world does not revolve around me. HOWEVER attempt to ruin my image on the basis of my principles…we gonna have serious words.
I’m responsible for being true to who I am, in thought, in values and in faith, that I guard.
Things that are not spoken can never put you into trouble!
I needed this, I thought about searching for video on things to keep private few weeks ago; each time I share my ambition with people they always try to advice me, making me feel like am not mature enough to choose a career path, I feel hurt each time I share things that are meant to be private.
Thanks alot for this video 😌
Just share it with God and keep praying about it 🙏🏿. Ask God if that's what he wants you to do. Bcos people are not successful in a career doesn't mean you won't be. I like it when people are given the opportunity to choose their career.
Yes oh, share with God, get a mentor in the field if possible.
She is elegant,intelligent and religious, may your wisdom not diminish
keeping things to yourself is so important because people just love to twist every single word and everything you do. You can have the best intentions and someone will say something negative about what you did, a thought that never crossed your mind because it's just not who you are. Don't allow people to cross your boundaries, like-minded people and people that are meant to appreciate who you are and know your worth will know.
💯% you can have the best intentions towards someone and out of jealousy and envy they will think you are trying to help them because they view you as being much better than they are, even when it has never crossed your thoughts. PEOPLE!
Seriously and you keep trying to explain what you mean they still won't understand
True true… not everyone is rooting for you. I learnt this the hard way. Thanks for always giving value Winnie.
Perfect timing - really perfect. When one is smeared on social media, there is the temptation to defend oneself. The Lord has been reminding me that He was like a Lamb led to slaughter, He never spoke a word in His own defense.
Sounds right to me ❤
Absolutely and all the scriptures she read out.... it's also known as Don't go
DEEP i.e:
Don't Defend
Don't Engage
Don't Explain
Don't Personalise...it brings you self protection and inner peace.
So basically what I got from this entire message is keep quiet, protect your energy and stay in your lane! Noted ☑️💕
Sure on the people who hate u n share ur stories with them
Omg, I could hear this screaming out my name. I resonated perfectly with "never share your big idea" I got my fingers burnt through this medium in the end, I was advised by the so-called confidant against my big idea, and barely a month after my idea was implemented by this same person. I learned the hard way.
This is brilliant! This right here is why it is important to have professionals in your life who you can confide in to guide you through life's complexities i.e. Therapists, Certified Counselors, Life Coaches. Sometimes your friends and family do not have the capacity to support you well.
Yr so right about that 🎯💯
This 🔥
Perfect response, whenever I share my issues with friends and family, I don't always have peace ooo.
Always love the fact that you never leave GOD out of all you do and share❤️🥰.
More grace👍
I have seen massive changes in my life , since I started following your channel and my friends are testifying......thanks so much
You're allowed to share cmon now. It's all about knowing how much to share, what to share and whom to share with. If you do these 3 wrong you'll be in trouble. We learn and empathise from others. Don't just stress to death because you didn't wanna share that information. Just know who is in your corner and if you don't have then pay for professional services to help you get clarity.
I love that you include scripture in your videos ☺️
material things - "Don't talk about it. Just be about it." Thank you! Social media is so bad about this. smh And.... 11:39 your point is exactly correct. I appreciate the video and lessons.💖
You are absolutely right, I have gone through that in my life before, and it was dangerous and this so-called friends to this guy they were terrible very jealous They are full of lies. I’ve learnt my lessons. Thanks so much just came across your channel today.
It’s my first time here and I love Winnie already with this episode 😂😂😂
I am a firm believer of keeping your idea to yourself or share with someone that can be your role model 👌👌❤️❤️
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This advice is honest and well presented. Blessings to you Winnie for sharing these tips.
4:46 if you bring the public to your family affairs. Be ready to hear different ideas/opinions
Family matters stay within the family!!!
That hit bottom Rock.
Thank you Winnie❤
Thank you Winnie, I got value.
My 7yrs daughter enjoys your elegance videos, I'll ensure she sees this too. ❤
Summary:
1.financial Status
2-3.Intimate and personal relationships whether single or taken.
4.Family Affairs
5.Brand new ideas
6.Your goals and Achievements
7.Material Purchases
8.Be quiet about Unverified Information
9.Your Social Worth
10.Disagreements, Quarrels and Fights.
11.Acts of Service and Charity work
12.Weaknesses and Setbacks
13.Your Career opportunities
14.Never share you present location especially if you an individual who is present on social media often.
Agreed,great advice 💞.. I am a private person & follow all of those points you spoke on. Thank you
You just put up very crucial fact that should not be neglected. This is a skill everyone should learn.
That’s exactly true sense.. If we don’t lose ourselves everything right in place as you said and if we lose our mind & body, then every all things happen to lose yourselves.. Then when, we need to careful everyday minding our health, mind & body what we do and the reactions of body or mind or depression or anything which affects or leads to excess sharing ourselves after we lost ourselves.. If this all needs to happen as we need, focus on you and your thoughts and action everyday and the changes happening to mind & body.. If the person is proper enough doing everything but somewhere missing without knowing what’s happening but losing yourselves is zone to stop & think ourselves.. Thank you! ♥️
Your scriptural references are spot-on and your words of caution are very much appreciated.3 years ago I began to modify my social media habits and I have experienced tremendous progress .
I’ve found it brings much more peace.
I agree; I’m keeping my mouth shut. I've my lesson. So true.
The moral of this post is to be and stay humble in life ❤
Thank you for this, I've been wanting to get myself together and make some changes. I'm not elegant all the time, I like to chill and but learning to walk stand, and sit confidently and maintain mystery are things I want to incorporate in my life.
Thanks for always impacting on me positively.
I pray the ocean of your knowledge never dry.
It’s my absolute pleasure!❤️❤️ Amen!🙏🏽
I love the fact that you backed up your points with passages of the scriptures. Thank you. All points noted.
I really love ❤❤ how this episode popped up after my mum spoke to me about idle words and I love how you backed it up with scriptures from the Bible
Thank you dear Winnie ..there is no word missed ...very audible and understood.
This is probably the best video I have come across on this space.
It isn't too late to start all over again and right the so many wrongs that's been done.
Thank you for this timely counsel.
So sorry to bring this here but watching Winnie's videos kept me going cause the martial pressures am getting from home is driving me crazy
You are very right, Winnie. Wisdom is profitable to direct. ( Ecclesiastes 10:10)
Winnie,thank you ,I am guilty of all of these but I have learnt my lessons.
This is the first video I see of you, I immediately clicked and subscribed because I was just having these thoughts for the past days and it looks like God is confirming my thoughts. Thank you 🙏🏽
I'm new on this page, but I must confess that your content is very inspiring... Thank you so much! More grace and wisdom...
When my first heartbreak happened, I woke my 8months old sibling, I told him everything and we cried together 😭
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That must have been therapeutic..😁
You chop breakfast😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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I really enjoyed this❣️So much to learn from it especially from the Bible passages you shared.Job well done👏🏼
Words fitly spoken. Thank you so much, Elegant Winnie.
It’s my absolute pleasure!❤️
What a joy to have found this video.
Winnie, you are a gift to civilization because what you say will influence others to be better.
I sometimes think God must be so disappointed.
Hmmm, you just got yourself an ardent follower. I've been watching but not following. However, this sold me!
I'm a private person but recently circumstances badgered my walls of defense and it came tumbling down! It was a terrible experience and I'm still reeling from the shock and hurt. This made me recoiled back into my shell with regrets on why I lost muster. Thus, this is so welcoming, endearing and reaching. Now I know what I should focus on instead of the pain of betrayal.
I really, really appreciate this. Keep up the good work, you don't know how many lives you are touching by these content of yours. You are loved and appreciated 💕💕💕.
Thank you sis great advice. I trust no one. I have encountered too many fake trifling folks in my life so i learned the hard way to move in silence. What I do now is keep a journal and put all my thougts and business in there at least I know its safe there.
Aunty Wendy!
Where have you been all this while?
Thank you for all your teachings, they are full of values.
Wow! Proverbs 21:23 for real!!! Your counsel goes hand in hand with reading ONE chapter of Proverbs per day! How I wish I could turn back the CLOCK of time! Great counsel! YES, I agree this does NOT apply to abusive relationships that require INTERVENTION! Practical & Godly wisdom for sure. Thanks a million!
It’s the way you strongly and precisely backed it up with scriptures for me💯 thank you
I’m a recovering over sharer lol. It’s not the best thing. However, I think sometimes it’s about finding some balance and not necessarily fixed rules. Sharing might be necessary sometimes for some people, in some cases. It’s just important to know who one is sharing with and be mindful of that.
Winnie, I think WHO we share some information to is the main issue. If we all keep things to ourselves then depression may set in.
Some persons are very good at keeping secrets while some struggle to do so, they are better at letting it out.
Why am I just seeing this now? I wish I saw this a year ago. I just subscribed. You're doing amazingly well with your teachings ma.
Thank you for those words Winnie❤️ backing it with the word of God made it more Powerful, I think another thing people should keep secret is their Health status (especially those with terminal health conditions), thank you.
God bless you ma
Haa!😮 No oo, I'll strongly disagree with you on this point!!! What if the terminal disease is contagious? You are morally obligated to disclose your health status particularly if it is contagious to your social circle!!!
Haa!😮 No oo, I'll strongly disagree with you on this point!!! What if the terminal disease is contagious? You are morally obligated to disclose your health status particularly if it is contagious to your social circle!!!
Not sure how I came across your channel but I really enjoy the content even more backing it up with scripture. Keep doing what you.
❤❤❤❤... Keep Yourself and everything about yourself... Private nobody needs to know but you and God....God is my only friend forever..... Naturally when you are a loner and completely free of what people think you don't care.....all they can do is just tell full lies..for their own demonic hateful reason.......
Samonah
I had to subscribe to this channel... because this make so much sense...
You're such a wise woman. Thank you for sharing these truths, particularly making reference to specific scriptures.
I don't know how GOD brought you to my TH-cam but I thank GOD I clicked and since Sunday I've had many rethinks. I have started working so much on myself, I've watched almost all of your videos. Thank GOD I found this page😢, GOD bless you. Always feels like I have an elder sister talking directly to me, thank you so much and I pray GOD continues to use you. And if you dont mind, you should consider having a conference sometime, I don't know what kind but just where you can have an open communication/public speaking, it would really mean a lot and be amazing to meet you. Thank you once again🙏🏾.
I follow these rules and I absolutely love how my life is. Drama free!
It's really my wish to keep my family problems private
Thanks so much Winnie ❤
100 percent correct. Keep your travelling dates to yourself especially if you are travelling out of the country😂😂 keep your Family history and background to yourself.
This!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thanks for the reminder, sometimes we get carried away by what other people say during conversations and might be tempted to reveal our plans about our schooling,jobs, businesses etc. Thanks Winnie.
Lovely! I like the way you expressed the ZIP IT.
My favourite TH-camr! Thanks for this piece! A lot of value was derived from this video of yours. Plus, the God factor you talked about.
Thanks, Winnie!😊
Thank you elegant sister, God bless you and may He increase you ,so that you will help many out there. ❤
Please can you do one on how to dress elegantly to school as a university student. Thank you ma 🥰
There's lots of wisdom I'm getting from you Dea God bless u what a blessed soul
Wow..... thank you so much mama, all your videos are always thoughtful. Am happy to see myself as an elegant person in this very video. More grace to you Winnie 💖
You are absolutely welcome!❤️❤️
I liked the fact that you ended the talk with Bible passages. The outcome of sharing whatever is dependent on when, how, what and who you are sharing with. Sharing life challenges you have overcome could serve as encouragement to others going through same things. Above all, reliance on the Holy Spirit in all we do is paramount.
Keep your travel / vacation plans to yourself!!!!
your write ,not everything should be said.Even in the bible there is averse that says' to take hid of what you should say'👏...Am ALWAYS humbled whenever i watch ur classes..GOD BLESS U ABUNDANTLY
Thank you so much Winnie...
These lessons are top-notch...
I am glad you backed these points with scriptures...
I got timely value here
I started following you. Your advice means so much in my life
Thank you... So helpful, and you are so pretty!
SO GRATEFUL FOR THIS MESSAGE. I WILL DEFINITELY CONTINUE IN THESE TIPS. YOU ARE ELEGANT AND WISE.
Speak no negative or slanderous words (or gossip) about yourself or others
Your channel is so worthy to be watched by everyone, both men and women, young and old. Thank you so much.
Always looking up to you for guidance, counseling and advice. You're an amazing person, wish I came to know earlier. Thanks for your constant selfless service