I speak about the delayed release date for my book in this video, I am super sorry for anyone who was expecting it sooner, I know it will be far closer to what I envisioned and I hope it will be ok with all of you ❤️ Because of this I will no longer be having a book signing event this month, but you are still welcome to stop by if you saved the info, I’d love to say hello! As a sensitive soul (perhaps a bit too sentimental at times) shifts and transitions always take time to accept, and I have realized that I have been holding on to my old cottage memories without fully embracing life in the present. Has anyone else run into this? Holding on to a rosy version of the past or a fantasy? This is a continuation of a previous video I made about change. I have been moving around my entire life due to my fathers job, and moving again brought back a lot of those feelings of worry and unrest I always felt before going to a new duty station. While none of this is necessarily that important, I thought it would be - perhaps - helpful to share with you that there is so much positive shared online about embracing adventure and change, and that's so awesome, but it's also ok for these things to challenge you and be less-than-perfect. Few things in life can be wrapped up and tied with a bow and presented as without a flaw, everything can get messy and a bit complicated, especially in regards to human consciousness and the full scale of emotions. Sending you a big hug 🥰
As you and your team do your part alongside the universe’s timing, all is well in hand and as it should be. I have plenty of Cottage Fairy and Friends book suggestions to read in the meanwhile 🥰
🌬🕊🌎...heyy, love your videos, you, are a ray of shineshine, and the effort is seen in your trying to make them well, good luck with the new world now, sending Love and patience...change of any kind is hard, even very good ones 🌬💞🍀
Good things take time and we are just excited that you are even releasing a book! I can’t wait to receive it - when the time is right is when it’ll all make sense and flow. And yes - I too look at my past with rosy colored glasses at times. Certain people, events, memories - it’s like you long and yearn for them again but sometimes have to realize maybe you really don’t want that - more so the idea of it - we forget how we felt back then, or that maybe we truly weren’t as fulfilled as we thought we were. Sometimes it’s easy to take snippets of your past and fantasize about them or think how amazing it was - then evaluating the whole overall experience and realize everything happened the way it was planned and you are exactly where you’re supposed to be right now! ♥️
Since I got married 14 years ago, we have moved house 14 times. Sometimes in the Same town, sometimes different provinces(states) and one international move abroad and back. I'm restless and find it difficult to delve deep into relationships. But I'm adaptable to chance and love the unknown places.
I married my high school sweetheart many years ago, we were 21 and 22! I remember crying the first week because I missed my bedroom and everything that was "home"! We are married 39 years now, but you made me remember that.
When I moved to a mountain to live with my partner, I was unexpectedly very homesick. I cried and moped around. The altitude also affected me. On a dime, I would jump in my car and drive home 2 hrs away. I needed that. My soul needed that. Then, one day, about 8 months later, I realized I hadn’t cried in a while. It’s okay to go back to that beautiful valley. Take your puppy with you. I’m sure he misses it too. It doesn’t mean you’re not committed to your marriage and your new home. That valley and cottage will always be special to you,
It’s even more heartbreaking reflecting on this quote. She spend the last several years of her life trapped from nature. From everything. She was so brave.
Saw a quote recently that just really hit me, "There is no future in your past." I've noticed it is consistently swirling in my brain when I start to express regret or dwell in the past. It has really helped stop me in my tracks and refocus.
See, this is exactly why I live vicariously through you. My anxiety would never allow me to lay down in a field like that without getting paranoid about all the bugs and spiders that could be crawling up my dress or in my hair. So glad I get to watch someone else do it and I can get a little joy from watching yours in that moment.
1 million subscribers! You're building up your life after marriage, I'm building mine up after a divorce. My ex was supportive of me having a garden until I bought a home and we moved in... then he changed for the worst and got angry that I would "ruin it!". So I left him. It's taken me several years but I now have another beautiful home that I can make my own. This morning I was tidying up my garden and the realisation of how far I've come just hit me. I was so happy to see what I've been able to build. Just take time to look around you and suddenly you remember all the challenges have been worth it.
I spent 23 years 1800 miles from home in order for my family to all be together. I was so homesick. I'd lived in the same house for the first 26 years of my life. Moving from the Northeast to Montana was a total culture shock. I'd also lost my dad and then had unexpected major surgery that led to complications. Although I eventually resigned myself to being there, I was so so happy to move home in 2017. It takes a long time to adjust even when the changes are happy ones, especially when you're introverted, shy, and sensitive.
A lovely vlog. I’m a Brit in the U.S. I miss everything about England very much for about 18 years. Family, Food, quaintness, weather, rolling hills, history, architecture etc. It’s so different here. I have never adjusted but tell myself it’s not about me but my family here. I have my memories and am trying not to get sad but that I should feel fortunate I get to experience another culture and have a home and family. I would like my US family to appreciate the things I miss about my home, but obviously they are not from there so do not understand my homesickness. Thank you
Oh, I would so love to visit England, Ireland and Scotland. I have several little cottages (decorations) from homes there. I hope you get to go back home to England periodically. I understand your homesickness. I am from the states, but, I always wanted to go back and live in my childhood home. I remember the lovely gardens my mother had and the trees I used to climb and my pets buried there. So many lovely memories. But, now DelDot is taking my childhood home (and others) to make a new road mainly for trucks to go through. It hasn't happened yet, but, they were hoping to start tearing down our homes this year. It makes me very sad and I feel ill to my stomach thinking about it and knowing that one day it is going to be gone completely. My family says I will have the memories, but, to me, it's not the same. I hope you have made many friends from England here. Take care! 🌻
Oh I wish I can visit England and its neighboring countries someday! I see why you're homesick. It's a lovely place there. Greetings to you and all the British.
My mother is from England and we used to go visit our family there (and in Ireland) quite often. I absolutely love everything about the UK and my dream is to move there when our kids are grown. I hope that you get to go visit your home often.
I totally understand. I live in the States, but if I had the chance to live in England, I'd go. So many ancestors from there, I feel called for all the reasons you mentioned. There are things I love about the States, but it's become such a scary mess with the non-stop gun violence/mass shootings and drug fueled crime/drug usage.
I’m in the same situation and it’s so nice to hear someone else feels the same way. I’ve been here almost a decade and I miss England ever so much. I worry that I’m romanticizing the past and not really living fully in the present, but when I do go back it’s like a huge weight has been lifted. I just bought my first house and feel I should be happier, and then feel guilty. Life can be so strange.
Life gives us cycles. I've learned to see them as gifts. I've moved a lot in my life and know the anxiety it causes. Someone said that if you live in the future you live in anxiety, if you live in the past, you live in depression. Made sense to me as I've experienced both. I'm about to move into the next cycle of my life. My sons are grown and gone and I've never lived alone, ever. I'm moving, not sure where yet and will be alone. Can't express all the emotions but as an older woman, I understand how you feel. Time to move on, but moving forward gently. Thanks for being so vulnerable and real🙂🫂
Hi Mary, I am in the same boat somewhat as you at this chapter of my life. I’ve just moved in April to a new small home alone. My sons have moved on with their lives. Just had a birthday and realized I am starting over…Once more, I am learning to navigate this cycle of my season bravely and focusing on the new horizons with excitement! But a little sad in the mix. “Lettering go” is my new mantra now! 🌷
@@chantellucky4565 Oh wow, that's encouraging. Thanks for sharing. I'm excited and anxious at the same time but what would life be if there were no changes.
I’m out exploring a new town in a new state that I’ve moved to. I’m sitting having a cappuccino. The weather is perfect here in Nashville Tennessee. It’s a new city with much more traffic than I’m used to, too. I hate the 8 lane highways. Scares me 😱. Our house 🏡 will be going through some renovations so it will be upheaval. I don’t have a garden here to escape to. I had to give away my beloved kitty 🐱. My husband has retired now can be a bit bossy. A new state of being. The dust is still settling. I’m ok.
New era new you. So many new people and places. Join an art class. 🎨 very calming if hubby is stressful at times. Take classes or go to lectures, meeting people who have a new perspective. Have fun on Yr new adventure ✨️
💖The pandemic forced me to move from California (home for 21! years) to cold East Coast Connecticut and I fell into a DEEP 2 year depression and only now just starting to be present and allow myself to find beautiful moments to appreciate as I get stronger.🙏💖
Bless your heart. The culture shock and weather shock must have been so intense. I’m so proud of you for continuing to find your path. I hope you find great joy and beauty this fall so that you feel encouraged.
I've just left my childhood home after 23 years. I have lived in other places short term as an adult but I was glad to always have a familiar place to return to. My parents sold up and are moving hundreds of miles away. I thought I'd be okay with it but turns out I'm more sensitive than I thought; I didn't realise I actually find it hard to let go sometimes. I went through all the feelings from anger to grief to uncertainty. Instead of dwelling I'm looking forwards to making a new home for myself on my own and starting the rest of my life in a beautiful new place ❤️
@@jackieo8693 I sympathize. My children have one by one moved far away also. Some to another state entirely! I too feel loss and grief, especially since I'm without a husband at this time of my life. Lots of tears!
@@jaym2760 it is. I think you can grieve over a home, especially when you had to leave unexpectedly. I'm handling it well though. Thank you for the kind comment ☀️
I lived in a lovely studio cottage for 9 years, 6 of them on my own, and while I left that magical place back in 2012, I still miss it. Sometimes I let my mind wander and immerse myself in imagination so I can revisit my old friend. There were 2 enormous pine trees just behind the cottage and they felt like guardians. I don't think it's necessarily a negative to hold onto dear feelings and memories. I love and appreciate where we moved to and where we are now, but that time in that special place deserves to be remembered and cherished.
@TheCottageKitten I had my queen sized bed and a couch my old boss gave me. I didn't have company very often but when I did we actually usually sat on the floor. With wall to wall carpet and a nice rug over that and big floor pillows, it was super cozy. I mostly kept my space for myself, though. Only had a handful of guests. I don't see the problem with the bed, though?
One million!!! I suspect strongly you don’t measure a thing by that number but rather feel a lot of gratitude to have one million cottage friends ❤️still, congratulations ⭐️ 6:32 am, Husband wakes up, I’m watching your video. Good morning, Cottage Fairy made one million 🥰 “She did? Awww, how wonderful!” 🤗
Watching this reminds me of Henry David Thoreau: "I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived..." You are so blessed to live in such a lovely place... Congratulations on the 1m subscribers! 🎉🎉🎉
I know exactly what you’re talking about. We moved around always when we were children, always in the same town but in a different house, it was exasperating to say the least, that’s where my insecurities started. My first marriage the same thing we moved everywhere it was like repeating the dysfunctional cycle. When I got the divorced, my children and myself stayed in one place for almost 10 years, it was the first stability in my life that I ever had. Then I married my childhood sweetheart eventually bought our own house, and as I mentioned before he had a massive stroke at 55 in 2004, died in 2014. I live with my Cairn Terrier Otis Ray, who I adore ..my children and my grandchildren are all grown up now ❤️I am going to be 72 in November And I live in that same home. I am settled and somewhat content although I do miss my husband very much. Anxiety does start for me anyways with my childhood with all the uncertainties that I went through with the moving. Also I did not have a good relationship with my parents that contributed to a lot plus the move. You are doing beautifully, you are a spirited and kind soul.❌⭕️❌⭕️🐶Otis and me~ Massachusetts
Lots of changing house for me as a child also. Now my husband and I still live in the home we bought over 40 years ago , never bothering to have to rent and move as he had the same when he was a child. So sorry you lost your soulmate so soon in life. Take care and enjoy the times for yourself as Paola has shown us🤗
@@ladyjane5401 Tell your husband it's your house too and you are not going to sell it. And tell him not to bring it up again. Life is too short to have to be miserable because another person is being selfish. Put your foot down.
When I was 8 yr old we moved from the only place I'd ever lived (on a farm) to the inner city. It was a real culture shock & I hated it ! However, over time I adjusted and didn't move again until I married at age 20. Circumstances made my 20's & early 30's a constantly changing situation & I lived many places all over the world. Widowed at age 30 - I remarried at 34 and finally, stayed in one home and at one job for 28 years. It was lovely! My life was finally stable. We did move to Florida when we retired 12 years ago but have stayed in the same place here for 12 yr. I have definately become someone who prefers to stay stable and secure with one person , in one life, in one place.
I have moved a lot in my 27 year old life too. Probably to 15 or so places. Moving is so hard for me. Change is so hard for me. It's a difficult and a different kind of anxiety that come with change. Omg some of us are so attached to where we live, and leaving a place behind and moving is almost like a breakup. I'm not even exaggerating. That's how I feel.
Thank you so much for this reminder. I am 73 and three years ago God moved us from where our two girls grew up and the place where our five granddaughters loved to come. Even though I know this is where we are to be, at least for now, I miss all the memories we had in our home we had built. I so appreciate your honesty and thoughtful ways of expressing how you feel. Blessings to you and your husband as you begin new memories! ♥️
Your video popped up on my homepage and the title hit me. What a coincidence! I was just settled down my thoughts 2 years ago after 3 years moved to a country in different continent with totally different cultures, language, weather, food and people. But recently (2 months ago) my husband and I had to moved to a new town with a new home again. I was stressed and sad for at least 6 months because I had fallen in love with our house and the beautiful quiet place we lived. I have to say that it was a paradise and close friends who visited us said so. So I am now feeling unmotivated to do anything even to arrange my many stuffs which are still wrapped in boxes. I tried to run away from the reality and really have no mood to arrange them and to start decorating our new home. But today, I think God has sent me your clip and tell me to move on and stop holding onto a rosy version of the past… thank you for your motivation Cottage Fairy 🙏your new Subscriber, friendly regards from Germany 🌹
Hi Paola, I got covid 4 days ago (after 2 yrs of avoiding it) and i’ve been watching your videos because they help me calm and breathe better somehow. I’ve always wanted to live in NYC but in recent years i’ve wanted quiet and solitude, to practice my green witch lifestyle and create a small home like this with lots of animals. I realized that’s my true calling. I love people i love talking but I’m happy in solitude, I’m never bored, I’m always doing new things and finding happiness in the small things. I will hopefully make my future like this someday. The world is far too overwhelming to me now, i’m paranoid of being in big crowds, crime is getting out of control and i just want quiet with my pets. Anyways thank you for your videos during this tough time, I’m struggling with this illness but you’re making it easier 😊
I love your videos Paola, your insights, your honesty, your struggles. I am 68 and still struggling with things even though I really have everything I ever wanted. Sometimes I just need to step back and look around me and, yes, as cheesy as it sounds, count my blessings of which you are one. Thankyou. ❤️
In October of last year, I had to leave my family. There was a lot of abuse, manipulation and narcissistic behaviors coating my family dynamic. I was pregnant at the time and realized leaving my family was the best way I could raise my daughter in safety and with peace of mind. I went through a period, leading up to leaving my family, where I dwelt on this idea hanging over me of leaving and what that meant. I haven't seen my parents or 3 of my older siblings in 9 months now, leaving meant the truth of my family was my new reality. My deepest wounds are with my mom, I truly lost her when I was 7 years old and who she is now is so far from who she was. Dwelling can be helpful, there's obviously something we haven't resolved inside of ourselves. Giving us time to mourn and take away the joy from the past, loving ourselves through transitions, is very important. Time and love will help you 💙
I love how you said “We look back on our past memories through rose colored lenses, and see what we want, not necessarily what was.” I’ve been thinking about that a lot the last few weeks. It’s so true. I always love watching your videos.❤️ They make me feel peaceful and calm. I don’t know that I will ever live in a cottage in the mountains, but I would love to try it one day, even just for a short time. Thank you for making such great positive content!
Wise words, beautiful video. I moved two years ago after living in a house not far from where I am now. If I’m in the previous area, I still get sad even though I’m very happy where I am. My husband and I raised our two children there, had countless number of sweet animals, etc. He was diagnosed with Parkinson’s and I was devastated. So we moved to a cottage next to my daughter and her husband. I may have written all this before, but I guess what I want to say, my grief of my old life comes in waves. I never know when it will hit, but I can balance myself back again by, like you said; focusing on the joys in my present life. After much work, he was diagnosed PD symptom free. Total miracle! So we have many joys. But thank you so much for the reminder to live in the present. 💕
❤ great video. Life is always changing and I love how you put it “you must fall in love with life again and again”. You truly are an amazing young lady ❤
I moved from a home I loved and lived at for a long time. Shortly after I moved into the new house, my beloved dog died. He was the anchor to my new place because since he was happy, I was happy. After he died I became terribly homesick for my old place. It's been hard to feel truly home. Maybe the loss of Mr. Darcy has pulled you back to the cottage a little more because he was there longest and that's where memories take you.
Your little talk about change reminds me of a saying: "hard does not equal bad". Marriage is hard, but it's good. Moving is hard, but it can be good. Raising children is hard, but it's good. And the list goes on and on! It's just been an encouraging little saying in my own life. ❤️
I too moved often as a Child, it was hard for me to make friends as I was a strange and Sensitive Child , so I can relate a little to what You were saying . I think my imagination helped me in those times. Now I am happy about my Strangeness and Sensitivity . I noticed You hit 1 Million Cottage Fairy Tribe and I for one , am glad to have found You in the midst of these times We are going through . Your sharing of all the things and feelings You go through ...and of course the wonderful footage of Mother Nature has helped soothe me and are a real Balm for my Soul ...Blessings to You Paola from someone at the bottom of Our World (New Zealand) xx
Phew! Paola, I thought ‘it’s time to move on’ meant that you were no longer going to post videos. I was relieved to learn you meant you would try not to dwell on your old cabin. I know in my married life, I always need moments of solitude, and this makes moments with my family even better. So, take care of yourself, Paola, and take moments for yourself. Sending love and good wishes. 🥰💕💚🧡
I've been married 42 years now and I think the hardest were the first couple of years when you have 2 completely different people coming together to live as one. We get stretched and enlarged, happy and mad- all kinds of emotions. You are so blessed to have found a partner who will love you through it all. Thank you so much for sharing so honestly, you and Luke now🌿💚
You know in India there’s a whole variety of songs across several genres of music which echoes your thoughts about a girl leaving her past life and getting adjusted into her new one. It is very real, surprisingly, to romanticise the past! And … you not only have a husband and a new house but also a new cat! You spoke about it, that’s important. Like you, Luke shares these thoughts, that’s important. We are with you, that’s important. … go ahead !
I think this was a very honest and real video. When I moved late last year my husband had realised a lifetime dream. We had bought our home. 38 years after trying to go down this path. But once here we were lost. The pace was different. The ecology, the garden, the wildlife were different. The neighbours were different to seaside/City folk, in so many ways. Our family was different, we left our grown children in the city, except one who came with us and moved further out. Most interestingly we realised we were different too. Our lives had slowed and we hadn’t learnt how to slow down to meet the new normal. Ten months later much of the anxiety and unsettled feelings have levelled out. It all takes time and you will find your new self settled and be at peace in your reality. It’s Okay to feel the way you have been feeling. I feel so very privileged to have listened yo your sharing over the months as you help me to weather my own new adventure. Thank you for gentle wisdom.
I find when I'm stressed over changes to think of it as swimming or snorkeling . When I'm under water diving into the memories of things that brought me comfort or relaxation - I'm looking around in my mind at all that I knew and loved. But it is often very helpful to swim to the surface, get a huge breath, and just float for awhile. It allows me to look at the clouds while gently floating above all the old known and comfortable things that cushion me as I see the possible in the shapes of the clouds above and then focus on the horizons I can just see above the waterline. Floating along without thoughts just to feel the present is a different uncontrolled sensation but such a break from my mind being immersed in the old comfortable sights. Then I swim to the shore ready to explore the tree line I saw from above the deep, comfortable waters. Enjoy your swim for what it teaches you. You've already learned so much!
I have big transitions this year, we moved into a bigger apartment, my kids are both going to be in daycare and school after I’ve been a stay at home mom for 6 years, now I’m starting to work part time and applying to grad schools. I’m looking forward to the changes but I’m also feeling sad and nervous, anxious as well as excited. I can totally relate to how complicated and how it all takes time! Also congrats on 1M and the book! Looking forward to it
My kids were military “brats”, too- my husband was an AF pilot. It has actually served them well in life - they learned very quickly to jump right in, and also the value of pruning branches from the past. Pruning is painful, but the result is a more beautiful bush!🥰 You guys are going to be fine- I just know it!
Former Army brat...I believe the constant moving did help me to adapt to change and to being able to easily talk to anyone. But, I see how I am not easily attached to most people/things. This was part of my survival as a kid, I guess...
Former AF brat too. Moved many times with my family stateside and across the seas. Even after I left home and moved to CA, moved into many apartments and houses, married, divorced and finally at 51 bought the condo I still live in today and I’m 74. Not in touch with anyone I went to school with and have a very small selection to friend. Forming attachments not easy and in reflection MIL life showed me how to be resilient but not how to form long lasting friendships. I promised myself I’d never uproot my son and today he is married, four children and good wife. As a single mom I gave him my all so he did not experience an unsettling life and changes if schools. Blessings to you.
@@ehpeachylove Same here, Mags H. It took me a very long time to form the few deep friendships I have. It was so painful being constantly uprooted and torn from the people you loved. Very traumatic.
Paola. Thank you so much for sharing "the struggle." A year ago my husband and I moved into a 42ft beautiful 5th wheel RV. (300 sq feet) We are empty nesters, 29 years married this September. We bought land and have a home base but we travel for my husbands business. We pull our home with us everywhere we go. It has been a wonderful adventure. But challenging and difficult as well. We got rid of everything, most of our earthly possessions in 2 1/2 weeks. It was a very difficult time for us. But much needed as we could not find a affordable house in our area. I understand your struggle, as I tend to look back. My children have grown, my life style has changed dramatically, suffice to say, it's a struggle. But a growing, learning, wonderful somewhat messy experience. I am learning so much about myself. What is really important to me. And what is not. I pray that you find peace in your new life. And can look at the past as a beautiful stepping stone to the beautiful women you are. Bless you and thank you for your open beautiful heart as you struggle and overcome those struggles. You are a beautiful soul.
I completely understand where your coming from! The hardest part about learning to live with a man... bathroom etiquette... with some men and lack there of, living alone is bliss! But really, I’m moving into a new home in a new state, and I found myself wanting to hate my new home. The former I rented and the new one I own. But I love the rental, made friends, and I didn’t feel so isolated. The new home doesn’t even have mail service. I have to drive a few miles to get my mail. I’m trying to let myself just dream of all the possibilities and all the advantages. But sometimes New I feel reluctant to just talk that step and let go. But I’m going to do it. I’m going to paint my front door, and I’m planing my garden for next year... slowly as a tired snail I’m letting my self love the change. I’m going to win this battle of my mind always turning to nostalgia. I want new memories in my new place, and not look back. I really like the word forward very much.
Paola 💜. i love how you embrace being a sensitive soul- i am one as well and often look at myself in a negative light. Thank you for encouraging me to love all of who i am💜🙏💜🙏🙏🙏💜💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜
I can really relate to your words and feelings. My husband, children and I moved to New Zealand from Germany a few years ago.... and although we feel comfortable here, i still miss a lot of things and people from over there. And yes, I do romanticize our old lives, thinking of all the things that were "better" or "easier"... but then I do remind myself, that the grass is greener on the other side and life there had it's challenges too. And we have reasons for having moved, that have not changed.. so it is right. but it is still so hard at times. I truly feel like, in life there is often no right or wrong decision (about which path to choose). There are just decisions and the way we choose to deal with the outcome. Wishing you all the best for your new life and that you can embrace everything that comes with it
Thank you for sharing your lovely heart! I have definitely felt this. My husband and I have been back in the US for several years after serving as missionaries overseas for a couple years. And I'm still processing what this new life is about. We came back to our hometown, but we live so differently now because of our mission experience. It's easy for me to want to pack up and just go back there. But there wasn't perfect either. And the ways it was beautiful are still with me now. I've had so much confirmation that we are in the right place, but it has been hard to live a new way of life in a place and culture that feel less familiar than they once did. It's all part of the journey, and I am thankful for it 🌷
I’m exhausted by all of the change we’ve experienced the last 3 years. We had a baby, my husband finished 5.5 years of grad school under a toxic supervisor, we finally took a deep breath for two months as we moved and he transitioned to a new job only to be hit with a pandemic. We saved and then transitioned again to house shopping in a pricey area so we had to buy an intense fixer upper. We’ve been living for a year in the midst of DIY projects left and right trying to just get the house to baseline (let alone cozy and homey) but are also now expecting our 2nd kiddo around Thanksgiving. We both work full time and are dealing with the ups and downs of our jobs on top of all of this- we’re trying so hard to find space for rest so we are not on empty when the new baby comes but we also have to keep up with renos that need to be complete before the baby arrives. My husband also has very little PTO and is trying to save what he can for some paternity leave. It feels like our life has been in constant transition and I’m soooooo ready for it to end and to feel settled.
I've always been sentimental with my past homes. A house holds so many memories, so it is hard to say goodbye. In my past house, we had planted two Norfolk pines, first one in the backyard and a couple of years later, one in the side front yard. The new owners cut the taller older one when they moved in.😟 At least when I drive on the road adjacent to my old neighborhood, I see the top of the Norfolk pine and mentally say hello and have a source of pride that it has grown past all the roofs of the houses and is keeping strong. 😊 What I have found that helps is looking around and seeing that I have many more trees in my new property and that God's goodness has followed me again very much like your beautiful abundant garden that I see on this video which is so beautiful. So, thank you again for featuring flowers that we don't see here in Florida! A big and take care !!☺
Thank you earth angel, for your artistic and philosophical contribution to this murky digital sphere. I am so glad so many more souls have grown to appreciate the contemplation, calm, and visual creativity you bring. "Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that". Thank you for adding to the space of light-worker luminaries.
I feel as though you have an old soul as you are wise beyond your years but living in this awkward world we have today. It is difficult with changes in our lives yet your past regarding moving many times, I believe has prepared you for this new stage in your life. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and concerns with all of us. You are truly an amazing human being of love, compassion, gentleness, understanding and passion for learning. Be kind to yourself for you are God's creation:-)
@Charles Middleton, you must truly possess a very unique and deep soul as it is plainly visible in the eloquent and touching words you use in all your comments....💕
There is only the present. We spend time in the past and future, but in reality there's only Here. In the present is where we are able to feel what we are feeling, and open up to it. Not to be consumed, but to let it have its life and go. It's quite the practice, but so rewarding. Your new environment is beautiful! Thank you for sharing
Paola, I have enjoyed watching you transition from a cozy cottage for one to a cozy cottage home for two (and more someday)!!! Your style is awesome and your quietness and love of nature brings a peace to my heart. The LOVE you have for family, friends & your critters is heartwarming and genuine. And you have shown us that change and stepping out of your comfort zone is possible!! Thank you so much. Hope you have a fantastic day! 🌞🌷🌼🌻🌹🌾🐕🐈⬛💖
The most huge and challenging life change ever for me was having my children. Piece of cake before that. Now I'm a granny and although I miss when my kids were young, I truly enjoy solitude.
I went through something similar when I had my second child. With my first, he was such a fun, happy baby I felt like I was playing house with a little doll. When my second one came around, he was also a happy baby, but the work was so. much. more!! I felt like I forgot to breathe, giving all day (and into the nights) to two little ones, and being a sensitive empath I put ridiculously high standards on myself to meet all of their needs all of the time. Life has a way of eventually settling, and we adapt. I've found the way to make any big transition easier is when I do not ruminate too much about myself or my life (because I am an overthinking addict lol) and just embrace what is. This will never be something I accomplish fully, more like support to help me ease into the different transitions of life. (they are now both teenagers, lots of opportunities to practice my own advice, they are changing on an almost daily basis)
I understand exactly what you mean about change. I moved a lot as a child in England. My father had a restless nature and just as we were settled, he’d want to move again. The biggest and by far the hardest, for this very introverted human, was at thirteen (always a very difficult age), to Australia. Leaving behind grandparents, friends and beloved pets. I hated it at first, but now many years later, married, kids and now a grandchild, although this is now my life, I still look back fondly at my English childhood. Thank you for your beautiful videos. 💜🌼🍄🧚🏻♀️
I was confronted with severe burnout by the end of 2019. I am still not completely fine and "only" work for 60%. I am learning to live in the moment, trying to remember and discover what it was I loved as a kid and reconnect to my heart in this moment. Speaking about difficult emotions and no emotions at all at times, I can relate very much. Also accepting difficult times in life and difficult emotions is a huge lesson to learn. I started gardening and try to live more in the moment to experience life instead of being indulged in anxious and stress toughts. Also I had stopped seeding to cultivate happiness a looooong time ago, so I faced real unhappiness for the first time in my life. Watching your video's make me relax, find inspiration and motivation but also teach me very important life lessons. I don't think I am the person to live very separated from society, but I want the best of both worlds from now on. I only used to chase status, wealth, materialism, name and fame. The wall you hit the day you realize that that is not what brings happiness is VERY hard. Thank you for being you!
This resonated so much in me. I loved in Madrid, Spain for 5 years, the last 18 months were lonely, financial crisis, divorce and I felt so out of place (I am belgian) . Then I took the decision to leave and move to Montpellier , France. I had a couple of months to enjoy and be present in Madrid and I did remember every bit of walk with that consciousness that it would be my last xmas, my last autumn, my last spring, my last birthday party there. I moved 10 years ago, I love Montpellier, I have 2 children now and I share this life with a great man. But sometimes I feel like missed my old madrid life. I then try to be more present and enjoy my mom life before it is too late (they are 5 and 7). I do convince my family to go in Madrid every couple of years for one week, and it feels like home...
I can imagine if you were a shy child it would be extremely difficult moving around the world with your family, making new friends is never easy when you are not a confident child and once you settle and have made friends, you move again! That definitely moulds the person you become. You are doing just fine sweetheart, be easy on yourself, you never have to explain yourself, you are who you are and that’s beautiful inside and out and omg oh so talented! 💝
I will be turning 60 this November and I am going through a massive sea change. I sold my home of 21 years and I'm moving to a smaller house. I am using this time to declutter and prepare for the change that comes from moving from a high traffic urban area to a smaller quieter town. The worry about mortgage issues, moving issues etc. has been causing some sleepless nights. I have decided to try taking it one day and one step at a time. I am concentrating spreading my wings a learning how to fly and seeing this as the adventure it truly is.
"You must fall in love with life again and again." That speaks to me as I transition to having all my kids leave home - my youngest moves to a dorm Friday! My middle one came home for a while from a deployment and left to restart college this year, and my oldest was married last year. Changes! And I have been thinking about how this is changing my routine, my anxiety, and the dynamic with my husband. He commented that I am beginning to choose some new hobbies and habits, and he is right. We find, or rediscover, endeavors to fill our time and make life useful, happy, and helpful also to those around us. Life is beautiful, if we just live intentionally and really slow down to enjoy. Thanks, Paola! Mil abrazos y Dios te bendiga.
I can certainly relate! I had a cute place (geared to me, of course), and decorated it that made it warm, comfortable and a "hug" at the end of the day. I lived there for eight years; just me. My husband (not at the time) came back into my life, and fell right back in love with him, we married. We bought a house (a REAL fixer-upper)--the market was right and so was the price. We cleaned and scrubbed, repainted and re-carpeted. Nonetheless, the neglect showed--it was the "poor step-relation" on the block. When escrow closed, I got the keys and went to our house. I was immediately hit with the smell of urine. I sat on the step and just wept! We moved in and worked to remedy issues to make it livable and bring it up to our standards. My husband is extremely handy, so we worked on it whenever we could. #1? The carpet--even steam cleaning the concrete slab (So. California). After being single for eight years was transition enough, but NOTHING fit--too big, too small, too, too, TOO! I'm almost embarrassed to admit that I was SO in love with my husband, yet so very sad at the same time! The push-pull of being deliriously happy with my life; yet a heaviness too. I realized that I hadn't MOURNED my old place!! I didn't think about it--morning sunlight with coffee, warmth with my "cute" furniture, books, heirlooms, sentimental items, etc. So, I made an effort to visually see them; know that the memory will ALWAYS be mine, and moved on!! The heaviness lifted, and I slowly moved on to create new ones--I just had to stop and LISTEN to my heart. God Bless and peace! 🙏👍👩🌾💖
Oh, how happy I am to listen you talk about this subject! I just recently moved on my own and the changes - as exciting as they may be - are challenging. I find myself feeling lost, confused in a way. Though I love the place I have, and everything is well, it is difficult to relax. But through routines and being connected to the people I love has made this journey possible. My gratitude for you is limitless, thank you for your inspiring and comforting content!
I've lived in the same neighborhood most of my life. The woods here have always felt like home to me. Recently the land the woods were on was bought, and the main parts of the forest I played in/went on walks through/found comfort in these past 20 years was cut down. This isn't at all the same as having to move your home entirely, but I understand the feeling of grief that comes with losing a place you found solace in. I think you're right, it's equally important to grieve as it is to find the little joys in your new space. Recently I found a giant sunflower field I never would have been able to reach had the woods not been thinned out! I still miss the woods in my memory, but there's plenty of beauty in the new shape of them too. I hope you're able to find many new joys in your new home as well!
“All I’ve ever needed was right here”… beautifully stated. I’m very happy come to this conclusion. Your new experiences will continue through out your life and all we can do is embrace it. Life is wonderful in all ways, it teaches us lessons along the way. Paola you are a beautiful soul inside and out, you’ve married the love of your life, you both live in a gorgeous home surrounded by beautiful country. You are both truly blessed. Look forward always but remember it’s also good to glance back occasionally and reminisce those special times . Much love and best wishes always from Northern California.🤗😘❤️🙏💫💐🎁🌷🎨🖌
It's perfectly fine to miss your old lifestyle and all the feelings you got in your cottage,that was your safe place,your home,but most of all it was your starting block to a whole new journey and without the cottage you wouldn't have what you do have now. When you pine for your cottage and feel a little sad,just say out loud Thank you little cottage for everything you have given me and held me safe in your walls,please keep your new people safe and show them all the love you gave me. And that will help you transition easier, it may sound daft and probably does written down and reading it. I thank things all the time 😊.
It's always refreshing when people who are in the public eye acknowledge that not everything is sunshine and rainbows! The first year of marriage takes a lot of adjustment, and that's okay :)
Change can sometimes be hard, especially when you were so happy in your old cottage. But give yourself time, quite often you end up feeling that the place you are in now is the best place you've ever lived. You have a lovely husband by the sounds of it.x 🌾🌸🌻
Paola best wishes for you and your husband. The future is exciting and so worth it when you have your best friend (Luke) right there with you. Lean into each other. Much happiness to you. 💖
I can so relate to this video, as a military "brat" and later becoming a military spouse, I can so relate to going to new places and all the feelings you spoke of. We are now retired and have our own homestead we've settled into. And I love the peaceful mornings and watching the redbirds flying around, the sounds and antics of all the animals, and the dew on the grass, every day is a blessing. I love your videos and offer the brightest of blessings for your new beginnings and the extraordinary journey of marriage.
What lovely flowers you have. Reminded me of all the hydrangeas, hollyhocks, coneflowers, roses, lilies, irises and daffodils I planted around my former home. After retiring I knew I couldn’t keep up with the physical demands of maintaining my place so I sold it. Love living in a studio in the city but some days I miss my old place. Congratulations on 1 million subscribers!
I spend a good deal of time reflecting on the past and missing it. Back to when I was younger and my grandparents were still alive and I spent most of my time in the country. Now they're all gone, I'm in midlife living in a city and I have never adjusted to having people surrounding me 24/7. It's been 20 years!! At this point in life, I just want to live authentically and be true to myself so I just need to figure out what that looks like for me here.
First year of marriage is the hardest. Two lives are being blended together, so learn to laugh and don't obsess over little things. They are not worth it. Love shares and expands to make room for another soul. (i will be celebrating 17 years this fall) All the best to you, Paula! Your videos are AWESOME!
Having lived in other countries and cultures, having different homes, I have found when I begin to feel a little lost, I pull out my favorite books and read read read. I take them to a favorite place in my new surroundings and integrate the two. It takes time, but you will adjust. I ordered your book but Amazon says I have to wait till November! Well, it gives me something to look forward to.
Congratulations on 1 million subscribers! You have single handedly added so much peace & joy to my life. Thank you. You just keep doing you. It’s perfect….oh, and WHENEVER you book comes out, it is fine by me. A joy delayed is a joy that will just grow through anticipation 👍
When my two daughters and I moved into our new home, 🏡 I just thought they would have a difficult time adjusting. But oh, no, it was me! I wanted to leave that first night and go back to our other house we left longing to feel the walls hugging me one last time.
I recently discovered your channel, and, at first, I thought you had a beautiful perspective matched with a stunning locale. This video hit so close to home, that I had to comment. I recently moved to another country to marry, and I was excited, yet scared. I've been through many hardships and changes over the course of my life, including moving around a lot, like yourself. I have faith in myself and my abilities to do just fine, but, like you said, it can be frightening even if it's a change we're craving. I've lived in my new country for five months, and I've found myself longing for my family and my old home. Your video gave me insight to enjoy the memories I had in my old home, give myself grace to adapt to this new environment, and move forward in my journey. Thank you for validating the feelings of those who have conflict in their hearts. I wish the best for you
Good Morning Paola, I recently discovered your channel and I wanted you to know that you are a blessing to this world. Your grace and presence has such a calming affect on me. I am forever grateful. You may know of this score, Many Beautiful Things, but I wanted to share. When I hear the beautiful pieces of music I think of you❤️
Thank you for sharing your home and your soul-peace. At 71 I have discovered a talent for watercolor. Not perfect but doesn’t have to be to to give me peace. Thank you for inspiring me to slow down and be present.
This is so true and I feel like it isn't talked about enough, change is the only thing that is constant and it's hard even when we want it and you're so right, in order to create a life we love, we must fall in love with it again and again. Also congratulations on 1 million Paola, you deserve this so much I'm so thrilled for you. Sending you so much light and love this week.
Life and all it entails is ALWAYS about the people we share it with...our homes, vacations, work life - all of it. I didn't realize this until I lost my person. Since my husband's death, there is nothing in my life that hasn't changed and it ALL feels overwhelming. I struggle to find joy in the simple things I used to love so much. Just stay focused on your people - they are your stability during great change. It sounds like you have been blessed with a family who loves and supports you.
As a senior I concur with all you said about embracing change or the difficulties regarding change. You are right about memories being a little distorted as we reflect back. The thing is this every season of life brings with it challenges. Just remember whatever it is you are working toward is just not too far with each step taken in the right direction. And the journey is very rewarding with someone you love. May God bless your journey 🙏.
People say that change is unavoidable without offering tips on how to survive the transitions, the adjustment periods. And in the same breath will quip that "it's the journey, not the destination." So we turn to fairytales and folklore to gain lessons in how to identify shifty characters, suspicious hospitality, roads not to take, or when to accept unsolicited generosity. Whether fully intentionally or not, your videos have given us a glimpse into many of these angles.
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Someone once said to me ' It's ok to look back, just don't stare" The best to you and Luke on this beautiful journey.
Well said 👏
Wow..... wise words.....I feel them...x
Love this, thank you!
Wise words thank you for sharing.
@A R, I love this quote and need to remember it. Thank you for sharing it. 😊
I speak about the delayed release date for my book in this video, I am super sorry for anyone who was expecting it sooner, I know it will be far closer to what I envisioned and I hope it will be ok with all of you ❤️ Because of this I will no longer be having a book signing event this month, but you are still welcome to stop by if you saved the info, I’d love to say hello!
As a sensitive soul (perhaps a bit too sentimental at times) shifts and transitions always take time to accept, and I have realized that I have been holding on to my old cottage memories without fully embracing life in the present. Has anyone else run into this? Holding on to a rosy version of the past or a fantasy? This is a continuation of a previous video I made about change. I have been moving around my entire life due to my fathers job, and moving again brought back a lot of those feelings of worry and unrest I always felt before going to a new duty station. While none of this is necessarily that important, I thought it would be - perhaps - helpful to share with you that there is so much positive shared online about embracing adventure and change, and that's so awesome, but it's also ok for these things to challenge you and be less-than-perfect. Few things in life can be wrapped up and tied with a bow and presented as without a flaw, everything can get messy and a bit complicated, especially in regards to human consciousness and the full scale of emotions. Sending you a big hug 🥰
As you and your team do your part alongside the universe’s timing, all is well in hand and as it should be. I have plenty of Cottage Fairy and Friends book suggestions to read in the meanwhile 🥰
I need your book to nepal
🌬🕊🌎...heyy, love your videos, you, are a ray of shineshine, and the effort is seen in your trying to make them well, good luck with the new world now, sending Love and patience...change of any kind is hard, even very good ones 🌬💞🍀
Empathy hugs from a fellow author and Diplomat’s daughter. ❤️🧚♂️
Good things take time and we are just excited that you are even releasing a book! I can’t wait to receive it - when the time is right is when it’ll all make sense and flow. And yes - I too look at my past with rosy colored glasses at times. Certain people, events, memories - it’s like you long and yearn for them again but sometimes have to realize maybe you really don’t want that - more so the idea of it - we forget how we felt back then, or that maybe we truly weren’t as fulfilled as we thought we were. Sometimes it’s easy to take snippets of your past and fantasize about them or think how amazing it was - then evaluating the whole overall experience and realize everything happened the way it was planned and you are exactly where you’re supposed to be right now! ♥️
I love everyone reading this. If you watch this video, we already have something in common. Love to you all ❤️
And I love you right back, Lena.
You are loved, Lena.
Love to you too ❤️🙏❤️
sending love to you 🌸
Since I got married 14 years ago, we have moved house 14 times. Sometimes in the Same town, sometimes different provinces(states) and one international move abroad and back. I'm restless and find it difficult to delve deep into relationships. But I'm adaptable to chance and love the unknown places.
I married my high school sweetheart many years ago, we were 21 and 22!
I remember crying the first week because I missed my bedroom and everything that was "home"! We are married 39 years now, but you made me remember that.
When I moved to a mountain to live with my partner, I was unexpectedly very homesick. I cried and moped around. The altitude also affected me. On a dime, I would jump in my car and drive home 2 hrs away. I needed that. My soul needed that. Then, one day, about 8 months later, I realized I hadn’t cried in a while. It’s okay to go back to that beautiful valley. Take your puppy with you. I’m sure he misses it too. It doesn’t mean you’re not committed to your marriage and your new home. That valley and cottage will always be special to you,
“I firmly believe that nature brings solace in all troubles.”
Anne Frank
It’s even more heartbreaking reflecting on this quote. She spend the last several years of her life trapped from nature. From everything. She was so brave.
Saw a quote recently that just really hit me, "There is no future in your past." I've noticed it is consistently swirling in my brain when I start to express regret or dwell in the past. It has really helped stop me in my tracks and refocus.
See, this is exactly why I live vicariously through you. My anxiety would never allow me to lay down in a field like that without getting paranoid about all the bugs and spiders that could be crawling up my dress or in my hair. So glad I get to watch someone else do it and I can get a little joy from watching yours in that moment.
In Georgia, where I live, you could never lie down like that.
I can’t help wondering, do they not have ticks where they are? I’m paranoid about getting Lyme disease.
“You must fall in love with life again & again.” 🙌🏾 *YAS! …& change provides us the opportunity to do that in new ways each time!* 🤗💚🌹💫
Just want to stop by to say: if the change really doesn't suit you, you can always make another change. No matter what. Hugs from Belgium.
1 million subscribers!
You're building up your life after marriage, I'm building mine up after a divorce. My ex was supportive of me having a garden until I bought a home and we moved in... then he changed for the worst and got angry that I would "ruin it!". So I left him. It's taken me several years but I now have another beautiful home that I can make my own. This morning I was tidying up my garden and the realisation of how far I've come just hit me. I was so happy to see what I've been able to build. Just take time to look around you and suddenly you remember all the challenges have been worth it.
He was mad about an actual garden? 💀 anyways I’m sorry about your divorce but glad you’ve came so far.
I am so happy you were able to leave a bad relationship and are building your home and garden for yourself 🥰
Love your user name :) Glad to hear that you are doing what makes you happy.
@@Jomofire thanks, fellow Whatever :D
Well done for getting rid of this miserable man
I spent 23 years 1800 miles from home in order for my family to all be together. I was so homesick. I'd lived in the same house for the first 26 years of my life. Moving from the Northeast to Montana was a total culture shock. I'd also lost my dad and then had unexpected major surgery that led to complications. Although I eventually resigned myself to being there, I was so so happy to move home in 2017. It takes a long time to adjust even when the changes are happy ones, especially when you're introverted, shy, and sensitive.
A lovely vlog. I’m a Brit in the U.S. I miss everything about England very much for about 18 years. Family, Food, quaintness, weather, rolling hills, history, architecture etc. It’s so different here. I have never adjusted but tell myself it’s not about me but my family here. I have my memories and am trying not to get sad but that I should feel fortunate I get to experience another culture and have a home and family. I would like my US family to appreciate the things I miss about my home, but obviously they are not from there so do not understand my homesickness. Thank you
Oh, I would so love to visit England, Ireland and Scotland. I have several little cottages (decorations) from homes there. I hope you get to go back home to England periodically. I understand your homesickness. I am from the states, but, I always wanted to go back and live in my childhood home. I remember the lovely gardens my mother had and the trees I used to climb and my pets buried there. So many lovely memories. But, now DelDot is taking my childhood home (and others) to make a new road mainly for trucks to go through. It hasn't happened yet, but, they were hoping to start tearing down our homes this year. It makes me very sad and I feel ill to my stomach thinking about it and knowing that one day it is going to be gone completely. My family says I will have the memories, but, to me, it's not the same. I hope you have made many friends from England here. Take care! 🌻
Oh I wish I can visit England and its neighboring countries someday! I see why you're homesick. It's a lovely place there. Greetings to you and all the British.
My mother is from England and we used to go visit our family there (and in Ireland) quite often. I absolutely love everything about the UK and my dream is to move there when our kids are grown. I hope that you get to go visit your home often.
I totally understand. I live in the States, but if I had the chance to live in England, I'd go. So many ancestors from there, I feel called for all the reasons you mentioned. There are things I love about the States, but it's become such a scary mess with the non-stop gun violence/mass shootings and drug fueled crime/drug usage.
I’m in the same situation and it’s so nice to hear someone else feels the same way. I’ve been here almost a decade and I miss England ever so much. I worry that I’m romanticizing the past and not really living fully in the present, but when I do go back it’s like a huge weight has been lifted. I just bought my first house and feel I should be happier, and then feel guilty. Life can be so strange.
I come to this channel whenever i want to feel peace
Life gives us cycles. I've learned to see them as gifts. I've moved a lot in my life and know the anxiety it causes. Someone said that if you live in the future you live in anxiety, if you live in the past, you live in depression. Made sense to me as I've experienced both. I'm about to move into the next cycle of my life. My sons are grown and gone and I've never lived alone, ever. I'm moving, not sure where yet and will be alone. Can't express all the emotions but as an older woman, I understand how you feel. Time to move on, but moving forward gently. Thanks for being so vulnerable and real🙂🫂
Hi Mary, I am in the same boat somewhat as you at this chapter of my life. I’ve just moved in April to a new small home alone. My sons have moved on with their lives. Just had a birthday and realized I am starting over…Once more, I am learning to navigate this cycle of my season bravely and focusing on the new horizons with excitement! But a little sad in the mix. “Lettering go” is my new mantra now! 🌷
@@chantellucky4565 Oh wow, that's encouraging. Thanks for sharing. I'm excited and anxious at the same time but what would life be if there were no changes.
I’m out exploring a new town in a new state that I’ve moved to. I’m sitting having a cappuccino. The weather is perfect here in Nashville Tennessee.
It’s a new city with much more traffic than I’m used to, too. I hate the 8 lane highways. Scares me 😱. Our house 🏡 will be going through some renovations so it will be upheaval. I don’t have a garden here to escape to. I had to give away my beloved kitty 🐱.
My husband has retired now can be a bit bossy. A new state of being.
The dust is still settling.
I’m ok.
New era new you.
So many new people and places.
Join an art class. 🎨 very calming if hubby is stressful at times.
Take classes or go to lectures, meeting people who have a new perspective.
Have fun on Yr new adventure ✨️
💖The pandemic forced me to move from California (home for 21! years) to cold East Coast Connecticut and I fell into a DEEP 2 year depression and only now just starting to be present and allow myself to find beautiful moments to appreciate as I get stronger.🙏💖
❤️❤️❤️ sending love from Texas!!!
Bless your heart. The culture shock and weather shock must have been so intense. I’m so proud of you for continuing to find your path. I hope you find great joy and beauty this fall so that you feel encouraged.
Praying for you. Blessings
I've just left my childhood home after 23 years. I have lived in other places short term as an adult but I was glad to always have a familiar place to return to. My parents sold up and are moving hundreds of miles away. I thought I'd be okay with it but turns out I'm more sensitive than I thought; I didn't realise I actually find it hard to let go sometimes. I went through all the feelings from anger to grief to uncertainty. Instead of dwelling I'm looking forwards to making a new home for myself on my own and starting the rest of my life in a beautiful new place ❤️
My daughter is moving twelve hours away. I keep crying off and on. Definitely worried for her and her little girls. Lots of grief
@@jackieo8693 I sympathize. My children have one by one moved far away also. Some to another state entirely! I too feel loss and grief, especially since I'm without a husband at this time of my life. Lots of tears!
@@onepartwild God bless your heart!
That's a huge change, LibbyT. And a genuine loss. I hope you find touchstones to help you reorient.
@@jaym2760 it is. I think you can grieve over a home, especially when you had to leave unexpectedly. I'm handling it well though. Thank you for the kind comment ☀️
I lived in a lovely studio cottage for 9 years, 6 of them on my own, and while I left that magical place back in 2012, I still miss it. Sometimes I let my mind wander and immerse myself in imagination so I can revisit my old friend. There were 2 enormous pine trees just behind the cottage and they felt like guardians. I don't think it's necessarily a negative to hold onto dear feelings and memories. I love and appreciate where we moved to and where we are now, but that time in that special place deserves to be remembered and cherished.
@@alejandraalejandra4700 grieving is totally normal and healthy.
Agreed
@TheCottageKitten I had my queen sized bed and a couch my old boss gave me. I didn't have company very often but when I did we actually usually sat on the floor. With wall to wall carpet and a nice rug over that and big floor pillows, it was super cozy. I mostly kept my space for myself, though. Only had a handful of guests. I don't see the problem with the bed, though?
Whenever I'm stressed out about all of the negative things going on in our country, I watch The Cottage Fairy - my happy place.
Thanks lady. 😘
One million!!! I suspect strongly you don’t measure a thing by that number but rather feel a lot of gratitude to have one million cottage friends ❤️still, congratulations ⭐️
6:32 am, Husband wakes up, I’m watching your video. Good morning, Cottage Fairy made one million 🥰 “She did? Awww, how wonderful!”
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Merci ! J ai encore passé un super moment avec toi 💞
Watching this reminds me of Henry David Thoreau: "I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived..."
You are so blessed to live in such a lovely place...
Congratulations on the 1m subscribers! 🎉🎉🎉
I know exactly what you’re talking about. We moved around always when we were children, always in the same town but in a different house, it was exasperating to say the least, that’s where my insecurities started. My first marriage the same thing we moved everywhere it was like repeating the dysfunctional cycle. When I got the divorced, my children and myself stayed in one place for almost 10 years, it was the first stability in my life that I ever had. Then I married my childhood sweetheart eventually bought our own house, and as I mentioned before he had a massive stroke at 55 in 2004, died in 2014. I live with my Cairn Terrier Otis Ray, who I adore ..my children and my grandchildren are all grown up now ❤️I am going to be 72 in November And I live in that same home. I am settled and somewhat content although I do miss my husband very much. Anxiety does start for me anyways with my childhood with all the uncertainties that I went through with the moving. Also I did not have a good relationship with my parents that contributed to a lot plus the move. You are doing beautifully, you are a spirited and kind soul.❌⭕️❌⭕️🐶Otis and me~ Massachusetts
Lots of changing house for me as a child also. Now my husband and I still live in the home we bought over 40 years ago , never bothering to have to rent and move as he had the same when he was a child.
So sorry you lost your soulmate so soon in life.
Take care and enjoy the times for yourself as Paola has shown us🤗
@@patriciacarlyle9456 Thank you so much may God bless you and keep you.
@@ladyjane5401 I am so sorry that you’re going through this❤️may God’s grace reign down upon you and give you strength.. He can when we cannot
@@ladyjane5401 I sympathize with you , what do you do next
@@ladyjane5401 Tell your husband it's your house too and you are not going to sell it. And tell him not to bring it up again. Life is too short to have to be miserable because another person is being selfish. Put your foot down.
“…romantizing the past while we face the challenges of the present …” - very astute & so true. Thank you! 🌻🐝
You got 1 million ❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰 I'm so happy for you .. you're authentic. You're true fairy
Oh!! thank you so much!!! ❤️
When I was 8 yr old we moved from the only place I'd ever lived (on a farm) to the inner city. It was a real culture shock & I hated it ! However, over time I adjusted and didn't move again until I married at age 20. Circumstances made my 20's & early 30's a constantly changing situation & I lived many places all over the world. Widowed at age 30 - I remarried at 34 and finally, stayed in one home and at one job for 28 years. It was lovely! My life was finally stable. We did move to Florida when we retired 12 years ago but have stayed in the same place here for 12 yr. I have definately become someone who prefers to stay stable and secure with one person , in one life, in one place.
I have moved a lot in my 27 year old life too. Probably to 15 or so places. Moving is so hard for me. Change is so hard for me. It's a difficult and a different kind of anxiety that come with change. Omg some of us are so attached to where we live, and leaving a place behind and moving is almost like a breakup. I'm not even exaggerating. That's how I feel.
Thank you so much for this reminder. I am 73 and three years ago God moved us from where our two girls grew up and the place where our five granddaughters loved to come. Even though I know this is where we are to be, at least for now, I miss all the memories we had in our home we had built. I so appreciate your honesty and thoughtful ways of expressing how you feel. Blessings to you and your husband as you begin new memories! ♥️
Your video popped up on my homepage and the title hit me. What a coincidence! I was just settled down my thoughts 2 years ago after 3 years moved to a country in different continent with totally different cultures, language, weather, food and people. But recently (2 months ago) my husband and I had to moved to a new town with a new home again. I was stressed and sad for at least 6 months because I had fallen in love with our house and the beautiful quiet place we lived. I have to say that it was a paradise and close friends who visited us said so. So I am now feeling unmotivated to do anything even to arrange my many stuffs which are still wrapped in boxes. I tried to run away from the reality and really have no mood to arrange them and to start decorating our new home. But today, I think God has sent me your clip and tell me to move on and stop holding onto a rosy version of the past… thank you for your motivation Cottage Fairy 🙏your new Subscriber, friendly regards from Germany 🌹
Being in the present 🎁 is a gift 💝. You can do this.
Hi Paola, I got covid 4 days ago (after 2 yrs of avoiding it) and i’ve been watching your videos because they help me calm and breathe better somehow.
I’ve always wanted to live in NYC but in recent years i’ve wanted quiet and solitude, to practice my green witch lifestyle and create a small home like this with lots of animals. I realized that’s my true calling. I love people i love talking but I’m happy in solitude, I’m never bored, I’m always doing new things and finding happiness in the small things. I will hopefully make my future like this someday. The world is far too overwhelming to me now, i’m paranoid of being in big crowds, crime is getting out of control and i just want quiet with my pets. Anyways thank you for your videos during this tough time, I’m struggling with this illness but you’re making it easier 😊
I love your videos Paola, your insights, your honesty, your struggles. I am 68 and still struggling with things even though I really have everything I ever wanted. Sometimes I just need to step back and look around me and, yes, as cheesy as it sounds, count my blessings of which you are one. Thankyou. ❤️
In October of last year, I had to leave my family. There was a lot of abuse, manipulation and narcissistic behaviors coating my family dynamic. I was pregnant at the time and realized leaving my family was the best way I could raise my daughter in safety and with peace of mind. I went through a period, leading up to leaving my family, where I dwelt on this idea hanging over me of leaving and what that meant. I haven't seen my parents or 3 of my older siblings in 9 months now, leaving meant the truth of my family was my new reality. My deepest wounds are with my mom, I truly lost her when I was 7 years old and who she is now is so far from who she was. Dwelling can be helpful, there's obviously something we haven't resolved inside of ourselves. Giving us time to mourn and take away the joy from the past, loving ourselves through transitions, is very important. Time and love will help you 💙
I love how you said “We look back on our past memories through rose colored lenses, and see what we want, not necessarily what was.” I’ve been thinking about that a lot the last few weeks. It’s so true. I always love watching your videos.❤️ They make me feel peaceful and calm. I don’t know that I will ever live in a cottage in the mountains, but I would love to try it one day, even just for a short time. Thank you for making such great positive content!
Wise words, beautiful video. I moved two years ago after living in a house not far from where I am now. If I’m in the previous area, I still get sad even though I’m very happy where I am. My husband and I raised our two children there, had countless number of sweet animals, etc. He was diagnosed with Parkinson’s and I was devastated. So we moved to a cottage next to my daughter and her husband. I may have written all this before, but I guess what I want to say, my grief of my old life comes in waves. I never know when it will hit, but I can balance myself back again by, like you said; focusing on the joys in my present life. After much work, he was diagnosed PD symptom free. Total miracle! So we have many joys. But thank you so much for the reminder to live in the present. 💕
It's always such a joy to check in with you. I only hope somehow we give back as much as we receive. ❤️🙏💞🌈
❤ great video. Life is always changing and I love how you put it “you must fall in love with life again and again”. You truly are an amazing young lady ❤
I moved from a home I loved and lived at for a long time. Shortly after I moved into the new house, my beloved dog died. He was the anchor to my new place because since he was happy, I was happy. After he died I became terribly homesick for my old place. It's been hard to feel truly home. Maybe the loss of Mr. Darcy has pulled you back to the cottage a little more because he was there longest and that's where memories take you.
Nothing soothes the soul like being out in God’s Creation!🙌🏻
Your little talk about change reminds me of a saying: "hard does not equal bad". Marriage is hard, but it's good. Moving is hard, but it can be good. Raising children is hard, but it's good. And the list goes on and on! It's just been an encouraging little saying in my own life. ❤️
I too moved often as a Child, it was hard for me to make friends as I was a strange and Sensitive Child , so I can relate a little to what You were saying . I think my imagination helped me in those times. Now I am happy about my Strangeness and Sensitivity . I noticed You hit 1 Million Cottage Fairy Tribe and I for one , am glad to have found You in the midst of these times We are going through . Your sharing of all the things and feelings You go through ...and of course the wonderful footage of Mother Nature has helped soothe me and are a real Balm for my Soul ...Blessings to You Paola from someone at the bottom of Our World (New Zealand) xx
Phew! Paola, I thought ‘it’s time to move on’ meant that you were no longer going to post videos. I was relieved to learn you meant you would try not to dwell on your old cabin.
I know in my married life, I always need moments of solitude, and this makes moments with my family even better.
So, take care of yourself, Paola, and take moments for yourself. Sending love and good wishes. 🥰💕💚🧡
Each day offers a new painting of reality. We must not remain confined to a frame, when the world is our canvas!!!
~Audiann ~
I've been married 42 years now and I think the hardest were the first couple of years when you have 2 completely different people coming together to live as one. We get stretched and enlarged, happy and mad- all kinds of emotions. You are so blessed to have found a partner who will love you through it all. Thank you so much for sharing so honestly, you and Luke now🌿💚
I think it is so very important to share the difficult part of our journeys. Thank you for sharing.
You know in India there’s a whole variety of songs across several genres of music which echoes your thoughts about a girl leaving her past life and getting adjusted into her new one. It is very real, surprisingly, to romanticise the past! And … you not only have a husband and a new house but also a new cat! You spoke about it, that’s important. Like you, Luke shares these thoughts, that’s important. We are with you, that’s important. … go ahead !
I think this was a very honest and real video. When I moved late last year my husband had realised a lifetime dream. We had bought our home. 38 years after trying to go down this path. But once here we were lost. The pace was different. The ecology, the garden, the wildlife were different. The neighbours were different to seaside/City folk, in so many ways. Our family was different, we left our grown children in the city, except one who came with us and moved further out. Most interestingly we realised we were different too. Our lives had slowed and we hadn’t learnt how to slow down to meet the new normal. Ten months later much of the anxiety and unsettled feelings have levelled out. It all takes time and you will find your new self settled and be at peace in your reality. It’s Okay to feel the way you have been feeling. I feel so very privileged to have listened yo your sharing over the months as you help me to weather my own new adventure. Thank you for gentle wisdom.
I find when I'm stressed over changes to think of it as swimming or snorkeling . When I'm under water diving into the memories of things that brought me comfort or relaxation - I'm looking around in my mind at all that I knew and loved. But it is often very helpful to swim to the surface, get a huge breath, and just float for awhile. It allows me to look at the clouds while gently floating above all the old known and comfortable things that cushion me as I see the possible in the shapes of the clouds above and then focus on the horizons I can just see above the waterline. Floating along without thoughts just to feel the present is a different uncontrolled sensation but such a break from my mind being immersed in the old comfortable sights. Then I swim to the shore ready to explore the tree line I saw from above the deep, comfortable waters. Enjoy your swim for what it teaches you. You've already learned so much!
Beautiful 🥰
I have big transitions this year, we moved into a bigger apartment, my kids are both going to be in daycare and school after I’ve been a stay at home mom for 6 years, now I’m starting to work part time and applying to grad schools. I’m looking forward to the changes but I’m also feeling sad and nervous, anxious as well as excited. I can totally relate to how complicated and how it all takes time! Also congrats on 1M and the book! Looking forward to it
My kids were military “brats”, too- my husband was an AF pilot. It has actually served them well in life - they learned very quickly to jump right in, and also the value of pruning branches from the past. Pruning is painful, but the result is a more beautiful bush!🥰 You guys are going to be fine- I just know it!
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Former Army brat...I believe the constant moving did help me to adapt to change and to being able to easily talk to anyone. But, I see how I am not easily attached to most people/things. This was part of my survival as a kid, I guess...
Former AF brat too. Moved many times with my family stateside and across the seas. Even after I left home and moved to CA, moved into many apartments and houses, married, divorced and finally at 51 bought the condo I still live in today and I’m 74. Not in touch with anyone I went to school with and have a very small selection to friend. Forming attachments not easy and in reflection MIL life showed me how to be resilient but not how to form long lasting friendships. I promised myself I’d never uproot my son and today he is married, four children and good wife. As a single mom I gave him my all so he did not experience an unsettling life and changes if schools. Blessings to you.
@@ehpeachylove Same here, Mags H. It took me a very long time to form the few deep friendships I have. It was so painful being constantly uprooted and torn from the people you loved. Very traumatic.
Paola. Thank you so much for sharing "the struggle." A year ago my husband and I moved into a 42ft beautiful 5th wheel RV. (300 sq feet) We are empty nesters, 29 years married this September. We bought land and have a home base but we travel for my husbands business. We pull our home with us everywhere we go. It has been a wonderful adventure. But challenging and difficult as well. We got rid of everything, most of our earthly possessions in 2 1/2 weeks. It was a very difficult time for us. But much needed as we could not find a affordable house in our area. I understand your struggle, as I tend to look back. My children have grown, my life style has changed dramatically, suffice to say, it's a struggle. But a growing, learning, wonderful somewhat messy experience. I am learning so much about myself. What is really important to me. And what is not. I pray that you find peace in your new life. And can look at the past as a beautiful stepping stone to the beautiful women you are. Bless you and thank you for your open beautiful heart as you struggle and overcome those struggles. You are a beautiful soul.
I completely understand where your coming from! The hardest part about learning to live with a man... bathroom etiquette... with some men and lack there of, living alone is bliss! But really, I’m moving into a new home in a new state, and I found myself wanting to hate my new home. The former I rented and the new one I own. But I love the rental, made friends, and I didn’t feel so isolated. The new home doesn’t even have mail service. I have to drive a few miles to get my mail. I’m trying to let myself just dream of all the possibilities and all the advantages. But sometimes New I feel reluctant to just talk that step and let go. But I’m going to do it.
I’m going to paint my front door, and I’m planing my garden for next year... slowly as a tired snail I’m letting my self love the change. I’m going to win this battle of my mind always turning to nostalgia. I want new memories in my new place, and not look back. I really like the word forward very much.
Paola 💜. i love how you embrace being a sensitive soul- i am one as well and often look at myself in a negative light. Thank you for encouraging me to love all of who i am💜🙏💜🙏🙏🙏💜💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜
I can really relate to your words and feelings. My husband, children and I moved to New Zealand from Germany a few years ago.... and although we feel comfortable here, i still miss a lot of things and people from over there. And yes, I do romanticize our old lives, thinking of all the things that were "better" or "easier"... but then I do remind myself, that the grass is greener on the other side and life there had it's challenges too. And we have reasons for having moved, that have not changed.. so it is right. but it is still so hard at times.
I truly feel like, in life there is often no right or wrong decision (about which path to choose). There are just decisions and the way we choose to deal with the outcome.
Wishing you all the best for your new life and that you can embrace everything that comes with it
Thank you for sharing your lovely heart! I have definitely felt this. My husband and I have been back in the US for several years after serving as missionaries overseas for a couple years. And I'm still processing what this new life is about. We came back to our hometown, but we live so differently now because of our mission experience. It's easy for me to want to pack up and just go back there. But there wasn't perfect either. And the ways it was beautiful are still with me now. I've had so much confirmation that we are in the right place, but it has been hard to live a new way of life in a place and culture that feel less familiar than they once did. It's all part of the journey, and I am thankful for it 🌷
I’m exhausted by all of the change we’ve experienced the last 3 years. We had a baby, my husband finished 5.5 years of grad school under a toxic supervisor, we finally took a deep breath for two months as we moved and he transitioned to a new job only to be hit with a pandemic. We saved and then transitioned again to house shopping in a pricey area so we had to buy an intense fixer upper. We’ve been living for a year in the midst of DIY projects left and right trying to just get the house to baseline (let alone cozy and homey) but are also now expecting our 2nd kiddo around Thanksgiving. We both work full time and are dealing with the ups and downs of our jobs on top of all of this- we’re trying so hard to find space for rest so we are not on empty when the new baby comes but we also have to keep up with renos that need to be complete before the baby arrives. My husband also has very little PTO and is trying to save what he can for some paternity leave. It feels like our life has been in constant transition and I’m soooooo ready for it to end and to feel settled.
I've always been sentimental with my past homes. A house holds so many memories, so it is hard to say goodbye. In my past house, we had planted two Norfolk pines, first one in the backyard and a couple of years later, one in the side front yard. The new owners cut the taller older one when they moved in.😟 At least when I drive on the road adjacent to my old neighborhood, I see the top of the Norfolk pine and mentally say hello and have a source of pride that it has grown past all the roofs of the houses and is keeping strong. 😊
What I have found that helps is looking around and seeing that I have many more trees in my new property and that God's goodness has followed me again very much like your beautiful abundant garden that I see on this video which is so beautiful. So, thank you again for featuring flowers that we don't see here in Florida! A big and take care !!☺
Thank you earth angel, for your artistic and philosophical contribution to this murky digital sphere. I am so glad so many more souls have grown to appreciate the contemplation, calm, and visual creativity you bring. "Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that". Thank you for adding to the space of light-worker luminaries.
Well said Matrix 22
I love your sweet kitty - always so playful and into everything.
I feel as though you have an old soul as you are wise beyond your years but living in this awkward world we have today. It is difficult with changes in our lives yet your past regarding moving many times, I believe has prepared you for this new stage in your life. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and concerns with all of us. You are truly an amazing human being of love, compassion, gentleness, understanding and passion for learning. Be kind to yourself for you are God's creation:-)
@Charles Middleton, you must truly possess a very unique and deep soul as it is plainly visible in the eloquent and touching words you use in all your comments....💕
There is only the present. We spend time in the past and future, but in reality there's only Here. In the present is where we are able to feel what we are feeling, and open up to it. Not to be consumed, but to let it have its life and go. It's quite the practice, but so rewarding. Your new environment is beautiful! Thank you for sharing
Paola, I have enjoyed watching you transition from a cozy cottage for one to a cozy cottage home for two (and more someday)!!! Your style is awesome and your quietness and love of nature brings a peace to my heart. The LOVE you have for family, friends & your critters is heartwarming and genuine. And you have shown us that change and stepping out of your comfort zone is possible!! Thank you so much. Hope you have a fantastic day! 🌞🌷🌼🌻🌹🌾🐕🐈⬛💖
The most huge and challenging life change ever for me was having my children. Piece of cake before that. Now I'm a granny and although I miss when my kids were young, I truly enjoy solitude.
I went through something similar when I had my second child. With my first, he was such a fun, happy baby I felt like I was playing house with a little doll. When my second one came around, he was also a happy baby, but the work was so. much. more!! I felt like I forgot to breathe, giving all day (and into the nights) to two little ones, and being a sensitive empath I put ridiculously high standards on myself to meet all of their needs all of the time. Life has a way of eventually settling, and we adapt. I've found the way to make any big transition easier is when I do not ruminate too much about myself or my life (because I am an overthinking addict lol) and just embrace what is. This will never be something I accomplish fully, more like support to help me ease into the different transitions of life. (they are now both teenagers, lots of opportunities to practice my own advice, they are changing on an almost daily basis)
I understand exactly what you mean about change. I moved a lot as a child in England. My father had a restless nature and just as we were settled, he’d want to move again. The biggest and by far the hardest, for this very introverted human, was at thirteen (always a very difficult age), to Australia. Leaving behind grandparents, friends and beloved pets. I hated it at first, but now many years later, married, kids and now a grandchild, although this is now my life, I still look back fondly at my English childhood. Thank you for your beautiful videos. 💜🌼🍄🧚🏻♀️
Don’t fret over the release date. Sometimes these things must happen so that it becomes everything you want it to be 🥰❤️🙏 DTB
I was confronted with severe burnout by the end of 2019. I am still not completely fine and "only" work for 60%. I am learning to live in the moment, trying to remember and discover what it was I loved as a kid and reconnect to my heart in this moment. Speaking about difficult emotions and no emotions at all at times, I can relate very much. Also accepting difficult times in life and difficult emotions is a huge lesson to learn. I started gardening and try to live more in the moment to experience life instead of being indulged in anxious and stress toughts. Also I had stopped seeding to cultivate happiness a looooong time ago, so I faced real unhappiness for the first time in my life. Watching your video's make me relax, find inspiration and motivation but also teach me very important life lessons. I don't think I am the person to live very separated from society, but I want the best of both worlds from now on. I only used to chase status, wealth, materialism, name and fame. The wall you hit the day you realize that that is not what brings happiness is VERY hard. Thank you for being you!
This resonated so much in me. I loved in Madrid, Spain for 5 years, the last 18 months were lonely, financial crisis, divorce and I felt so out of place (I am belgian) . Then I took the decision to leave and move to Montpellier , France. I had a couple of months to enjoy and be present in Madrid and I did remember every bit of walk with that consciousness that it would be my last xmas, my last autumn, my last spring, my last birthday party there.
I moved 10 years ago, I love Montpellier, I have 2 children now and I share this life with a great man. But sometimes I feel like missed my old madrid life.
I then try to be more present and enjoy my mom life before it is too late (they are 5 and 7). I do convince my family to go in Madrid every couple of years for one week, and it feels like home...
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I can imagine if you were a shy child it would be extremely difficult moving around the world with your family, making new friends is never easy when you are not a confident child and once you settle and have made friends, you move again! That definitely moulds the person you become. You are doing just fine sweetheart, be easy on yourself, you never have to explain yourself, you are who you are and that’s beautiful inside and out and omg oh so talented! 💝
I will be turning 60 this November and I am going through a massive sea change. I sold my home of 21 years and I'm moving to a smaller house. I am using this time to declutter and prepare for the change that comes from moving from a high traffic urban area to a smaller quieter town. The worry about mortgage issues, moving issues etc. has been causing some sleepless nights. I have decided to try taking it one day and one step at a time. I am concentrating spreading my wings a learning how to fly and seeing this as the adventure it truly is.
"You must fall in love with life again and again." That speaks to me as I transition to having all my kids leave home - my youngest moves to a dorm Friday! My middle one came home for a while from a deployment and left to restart college this year, and my oldest was married last year. Changes! And I have been thinking about how this is changing my routine, my anxiety, and the dynamic with my husband.
He commented that I am beginning to choose some new hobbies and habits, and he is right. We find, or rediscover, endeavors to fill our time and make life useful, happy, and helpful also to those around us. Life is beautiful, if we just live intentionally and really slow down to enjoy. Thanks, Paola! Mil abrazos y Dios te bendiga.
I can certainly relate! I had a cute place (geared to me, of course), and decorated it that made it warm, comfortable and a "hug" at the end of the day. I lived there for eight years; just me. My husband (not at the time) came back into my life, and fell right back in love with him, we married. We bought a house (a REAL fixer-upper)--the market was right and so was the price. We cleaned and scrubbed, repainted and re-carpeted. Nonetheless, the neglect showed--it was the "poor step-relation" on the block. When escrow closed, I got the keys and went to our house. I was immediately hit with the smell of urine. I sat on the step and just wept! We moved in and worked to remedy issues to make it livable and bring it up to our standards. My husband is extremely handy, so we worked on it whenever we could. #1? The carpet--even steam cleaning the concrete slab (So. California). After being single for eight years was transition enough, but NOTHING fit--too big, too small, too, too, TOO! I'm almost embarrassed to admit that I was SO in love with my husband, yet so very sad at the same time! The push-pull of being deliriously happy with my life; yet a heaviness too. I realized that I hadn't MOURNED my old place!! I didn't think about it--morning sunlight with coffee, warmth with my "cute" furniture, books, heirlooms, sentimental items, etc. So, I made an effort to visually see them; know that the memory will ALWAYS be mine, and moved on!! The heaviness lifted, and I slowly moved on to create new ones--I just had to stop and LISTEN to my heart. God Bless and peace! 🙏👍👩🌾💖
Oh, how happy I am to listen you talk about this subject! I just recently moved on my own and the changes - as exciting as they may be - are challenging. I find myself feeling lost, confused in a way. Though I love the place I have, and everything is well, it is difficult to relax. But through routines and being connected to the people I love has made this journey possible. My gratitude for you is limitless, thank you for your inspiring and comforting content!
I've lived in the same neighborhood most of my life. The woods here have always felt like home to me. Recently the land the woods were on was bought, and the main parts of the forest I played in/went on walks through/found comfort in these past 20 years was cut down. This isn't at all the same as having to move your home entirely, but I understand the feeling of grief that comes with losing a place you found solace in. I think you're right, it's equally important to grieve as it is to find the little joys in your new space. Recently I found a giant sunflower field I never would have been able to reach had the woods not been thinned out! I still miss the woods in my memory, but there's plenty of beauty in the new shape of them too. I hope you're able to find many new joys in your new home as well!
“All I’ve ever needed was right here”… beautifully stated.
I’m very happy come to this conclusion. Your new experiences will continue through out your life and all we can do is embrace it. Life is wonderful in all ways, it teaches us lessons along the way.
Paola you are a beautiful soul inside and out, you’ve married the love of your life, you both live in a gorgeous home surrounded by beautiful country. You are both truly blessed. Look forward always but remember it’s also good to glance back occasionally and reminisce those special times . Much love and best wishes always from Northern California.🤗😘❤️🙏💫💐🎁🌷🎨🖌
It's perfectly fine to miss your old lifestyle and all the feelings you got in your cottage,that was your safe place,your home,but most of all it was your starting block to a whole new journey and without the cottage you wouldn't have what you do have now.
When you pine for your cottage and feel a little sad,just say out loud Thank you little cottage for everything you have given me and held me safe in your walls,please keep your new people safe and show them all the love you gave me.
And that will help you transition easier, it may sound daft and probably does written down and reading it.
I thank things all the time 😊.
Your videos are full of wisdom and peace that we need in our time right now.
It's always refreshing when people who are in the public eye acknowledge that not everything is sunshine and rainbows! The first year of marriage takes a lot of adjustment, and that's okay :)
Change can sometimes be hard, especially when you were so happy in your old cottage. But give yourself time, quite often you end up feeling that the place you are in now is the best place you've ever lived. You have a lovely husband by the sounds of it.x 🌾🌸🌻
Paola best wishes for you and your husband. The future is exciting and so worth it when you have your best friend (Luke) right there with you. Lean into each other. Much happiness to you. 💖
Love your vids….so peaceful, calming and remind me to put life into perspectives. Keep it up! And congrats on 1mil subscribers!
I can so relate to this video, as a military "brat" and later becoming a military spouse, I can so relate to going to new places and all the feelings you spoke of. We are now retired and have our own homestead we've settled into. And I love the peaceful mornings and watching the redbirds flying around, the sounds and antics of all the animals, and the dew on the grass, every day is a blessing. I love your videos and offer the brightest of blessings for your new beginnings and the extraordinary journey of marriage.
What lovely flowers you have. Reminded me of all the hydrangeas, hollyhocks, coneflowers, roses, lilies, irises and daffodils I planted around my former home. After retiring I knew I couldn’t keep up with the physical demands of maintaining my place so I sold it. Love living in a studio in the city but some days I miss my old place. Congratulations on 1 million subscribers!
Also, girl you’ve reached 1 Million subscribers!!!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
I spend a good deal of time reflecting on the past and missing it. Back to when I was younger and my grandparents were still alive and I spent most of my time in the country. Now they're all gone, I'm in midlife living in a city and I have never adjusted to having people surrounding me 24/7. It's been 20 years!! At this point in life, I just want to live authentically and be true to myself so I just need to figure out what that looks like for me here.
First year of marriage is the hardest. Two lives are being blended together, so learn to laugh and don't obsess over little things. They are not worth it. Love shares and expands to make room for another soul. (i will be celebrating 17 years this fall) All the best to you, Paula! Your videos are AWESOME!
Having lived in other countries and cultures, having different homes, I have found when I begin to feel a little lost, I pull out my favorite books and read read read. I take them to a favorite place in my new surroundings and integrate the two. It takes time, but you will adjust. I ordered your book but Amazon says I have to wait till November! Well, it gives me something to look forward to.
"Change is the only constant in life"
Congrats on the 1 million milestone, Paola. You deserve it! You’re such a breath of fresh air in this world. Absolutely inspirational! ❤️❤️
Congratulations on 1 million subscribers! You have single handedly added so much peace & joy to my life. Thank you. You just keep doing you. It’s perfect….oh, and WHENEVER you book comes out, it is fine by me. A joy delayed is a joy that will just grow through anticipation 👍
Your gorgeous vids are always divinely timed & soothe my soul. Thank you, Paola. 🙏🏼😘
When my two daughters and I moved into our new home, 🏡 I just thought they would have a difficult time adjusting. But oh, no, it was me! I wanted to leave that first night and go back to our other house we left longing to feel the walls hugging me one last time.
I recently discovered your channel, and, at first, I thought you had a beautiful perspective matched with a stunning locale. This video hit so close to home, that I had to comment. I recently moved to another country to marry, and I was excited, yet scared. I've been through many hardships and changes over the course of my life, including moving around a lot, like yourself. I have faith in myself and my abilities to do just fine, but, like you said, it can be frightening even if it's a change we're craving. I've lived in my new country for five months, and I've found myself longing for my family and my old home. Your video gave me insight to enjoy the memories I had in my old home, give myself grace to adapt to this new environment, and move forward in my journey. Thank you for validating the feelings of those who have conflict in their hearts. I wish the best for you
Good Morning Paola,
I recently discovered your channel and I wanted you to know that you are a blessing to this world. Your grace and presence has such a calming affect on me. I am forever grateful. You may know of this score, Many Beautiful Things, but I wanted to share. When I hear the beautiful pieces of music I think of you❤️
Ordered your book, looking forward to getting it whenever it is ready....everything has a time and Season. I know it will be worth the wait. Peace.
Thank you for sharing your home and your soul-peace. At 71 I have discovered a talent for watercolor. Not perfect but doesn’t have to be to to give me peace. Thank you for inspiring me to slow down and be present.
This is so true and I feel like it isn't talked about enough, change is the only thing that is constant and it's hard even when we want it and you're so right, in order to create a life we love, we must fall in love with it again and again. Also congratulations on 1 million Paola, you deserve this so much I'm so thrilled for you. Sending you so much light and love this week.
Life and all it entails is ALWAYS about the people we share it with...our homes, vacations, work life - all of it. I didn't realize this until I lost my person. Since my husband's death, there is nothing in my life that hasn't changed and it ALL feels overwhelming. I struggle to find joy in the simple things I used to love so much. Just stay focused on your people - they are your stability during great change. It sounds like you have been blessed with a family who loves and supports you.
As a senior I concur with all you said about embracing change or the difficulties regarding change. You are right about memories being a little distorted as we reflect back. The thing is this every season of life brings with it challenges. Just remember whatever it is you are working toward is just not too far with each step taken in the right direction. And the journey is very rewarding with someone you love. May God bless your journey 🙏.
People say that change is unavoidable without offering tips on how to survive the transitions, the adjustment periods. And in the same breath will quip that "it's the journey, not the destination." So we turn to fairytales and folklore to gain lessons in how to identify shifty characters, suspicious hospitality, roads not to take, or when to accept unsolicited generosity. Whether fully intentionally or not, your videos have given us a glimpse into many of these angles.