I'm so lucky to be living in a country with a free health service. If I lived in the USA I would be so screwed because I can barely afford living costs each month. The only downside would be waiting times, but when the service is free you can't really complain.
um, I'm 13 years old, and I have depression, and I haven't been feeling safe with myself, does that mean That I should recieve care or am I over reacting???
@@ladyaggra6571 Yes but at least is proportional to what you earn. You will never be slapped with a sudden bill for several thousand dollars because of a medical or mental health crisis, and fear of the expense will never prevent you from seeking treatment. You will never have to worry that going to the doctor will bankrupt you.
I'm at the brink of breaking. I never told anyone how I feel inside or mental baggage since before I was 12. I'm all by myself and everyone doesn't have a clue how much I just want to dissapear. Like they would care.
Yes I definitely can!! In short, because chronic illness can cause us pain and at times make us feel hopeless, it can lead to depression and other mental health issues. This topic is on my list and I will be filming it shortly!! xoxo
I know I need more help, but I'm so scared to go to the hospital and be admitted.. I'm a university student and I'm terrified of falling behind and being a burden to others but being admitted... my therapist is the only person who I talk to about my mental illnesses and I'll be referred out soon as I'll be turning 19 in a couple of months.
I'm the same way I'm scare of going to the hospital, I always felt dizzy going to the hospital when I visit family members, even thinking about makes me scare, I only had anxiety for over 4 months, and it's awful I can't really leave my house.
If you need to be hospitalized, you most likely will be able to get a doctors note for your classes. Not sure where you live but in the US, the American Disabilities Act protects people with mental illness from discrimination. Your professors may be able to work with you or if you need to you can take a leave of absence while you work on getting better. If you dont get the help you need, then it is likely you will fall behind anyway. You can also do day treatment programs too.
Hey Miranda. I was hospitalized a couple times while I was in college, in my Junior year. The most important thing is your health. School will always be there, but you won't be able to finish if you're not around. I took two medical withdrawals from college (in two different semesters) and went home. i was able to come back when I felt better. That being said, when I was hospitalized my Junior year for between 5-9 days each time, my school was really understanding. I reached out to the therapist on campus and also asked the hospital to either contact my school or write me a "note" saying I was admitted to the hospital from such and such a date. If you are scared and feel you should/need to go to the hospital, I think you should listen to yourself. If you are worried about school you can ask the counseling office at your school (assuming there is one) what the process would be if you're concerned about falling behind. My teachers were incredibly understanding. Make sure you advocate for yourself and I wish you all the luck.
Inpatient is really not as scary as we imagine it to be. Yes it's hard work and you have to push yourself over and over again, but really it can be so so helpful! I'm currently inpatient (4th time already - so I know my fair share about it :D) and it's tough and sometimes I feel like giving up, but it's worth it in the end, I promise!
Hey Kati! Could you do a video on high functioning anxiety and depression? Also, what do you do when your best friend always acts like your problems aren't real problems and undermines them because it's not as bad as what they're going through? I love your videos, they've helped me so much!
Great question! I would also be really interested to learn more about high functioning anxiety/depression. Having anxiety that sends you into a spiral to the point you really hurt yourself etc and then getting up and going to work the next day, still see your friends and take part in social activities seems so upside down to most people. But that's been my reality for a long time now and I'd love to learn more about it. I feel like there is a lot of information on anxiety/depression that causes a visible effect on the persons life i.e becoming less sociable, declining school grades etc but there's not much out there on what happens when your outside life is running smoothly whilst internally there's a chaotic battle. Thanks for the great videos Kati! X
I agree! I would appreciate this video greatly. Also how high functioning depression/anxiety can maybe make it so we don't feel we need to see a therapist or don't know how to reach out.
I can definitely talk about high functioning anxiety and depression.. are there certain things you want me to address? Let me know! Also, as for your friend.. it sounds like they aren't much of a friend at all! I would talk to them about this and let them know that you don't feel they are listening and supporting you and always trying to one up you. Let them know that sometimes you just need them to listen and support.. hopefully they will hear you out and work to change. I also have a video about toxic people that could help. xoxo
Thank you so much for replying! I'd love it if you could address how to other people like is can seem like there's nothing wrong, and how this can make it harder to reach out. Also how the symptoms differ from 'normal' anxiety and depression. Thanks Kati! :)
Everyone always says get therapy or get help. But many people who need help can't afford it :( Where I live therapy costs around $180 per session and isn't covered by insurance.
Sometimes you can find therapists that have an escalating scale, or potentially a social worker with a background in counseling would be able to help you get in touch with someone affordable & help you out in the meantime. Doing workbooks for therapy at home is also a great option depending on what the problem is; It's free if your local library has some, or 20-30$ forever rather than 200$ for an hour.
There aren't any therapists who take insurance?? I would call your insurance company and see what they can offer. If you are in the states.. they have to cover portions of treatment if there aren't any in network clinicians within 20 or 30 miles of you. xox I hope that helps!!
No I'm in northern Alberta Canada. I have pre-existing conditions so I can't even purchase health insurance. We are very behind in a lot of health care, but especially mental health. I have health insurance through work but they don't cover therapy. Only some medications and select treatments. I do have a health spending account that I can use for alternative help, but because therapy is so expensive it would only cover about 5 sessions per year max if you use the whole spending account. But I need mine to cover uninsured portions of my meds, glasses, dental, etc. The therapists that offer sliding scales around here all start at $125 per session which is still way too much for me to afford. Wait lists and times here are ridiculous. I've been waiting over 2 years to see a psychiatrist. I finally have an initial appointment at the end of November. I voluntarily put myself in a hospital psych ward to try to get some help back in June. They did absolutely nothing to help. I was basically confined to a small space for 4 days then told to go home. Not 1 member of staff even asked me how my day was going, let alone assessed me or helped in any way. I only have limited books from the library to go off of and I find that they don't help at all.
Prudence K I'm in Edmonton now too. It's so sad that there's no help here other than library books, if you aren't high income. Sliding scales all still cost around $100 per session or more. I certainly don't have $400 extra per month out of pocket and neither do most people honestly. P.S. since you are local....don't ever go to the Grey Nun's hospital for mental health issues. If you are having a crisis or in danger go elsewhere if you feel you have to go to a hospital. I came out of there after 4 days WAY worse than when I went Horrible things happened in there. It was like an asylum out of a horror movie. I was forced to clean up another patient's feces from out of the showers with only paper towel, they refused to let me even have gloves. They pretty well refused to talk to me unless they were trying to force treatment. They forced people to have ECT who did not want it and who should not be getting it, like people with seizure disorders, without even trying any other treatments first. I could go on and on about the horrible things they did. It was mixed gender housing where the doors did not lock. 1 of the male patients threatened to rape me after I had taken my very sedating medications and spent most of the night just outside the door to where my bed was. The staff said they would not do anything because he was , "Creepy but probably harmless." So horrible. I tried getting help but instead I got mild PTSD and now have to live with terrifying flashbacks from the hospital.
Can you do a video on what inpatient is like? Like the whole process and what it’s like day to day. I love your videos, they help me so much and give me a place so zone out.
@@Katimorton I just recently found your channel and I've been so encouraged through so many of your videos. It is very hard for some of us to financially afford therapy but these topics are helpful in the image tween please keep doing what you're doing you may not see it is so but I think you have quite a mission field! Keep being honest and personable it means so much.
Health conditions definitely can contribute to mental health. I had a thyroid disease and I was severely depressed and anxious, but after treatment I felt a slow increase in better mental health
Can you do a video on the difference between antidepressants and anti psychotics and how they work? I feel like most people think you just take a pill and be happy but that’s not how they work.
Very true about physical illnesses effecting mental health, I work on an acute psychiatric ward and I have seen people with something as simple as a UTI present as psychotic, also on the other end of the scale people with undiagnosed brain tumours etc.
Do you have any advice on healing when parents won't allow therapy? I'm really struggling, but my parents overreact when I try to talk to them, and disregard what I talk to them about. Thanks!
So I've been inpatient multiple times and trust me it's not that bad. Yes the fist day is always the hardest but after you get over that first hump things do start to look up. So stay strong!
Hi Katie I have dissociative identity disorder along with other mental illnesses, and in the last month I have had six suicide attempts. My local ER just keeps sending us home. I'm also totally blind and live on my own. I am 25. I don't know what the laws are in Illinois if someone makes a suicide attempt. The hospital told me that since it was not me that was suicidal that I do not meet criteria for inpatient hospitalization. I was even told by a nurse that I was just a borderline personality whose issues can't be fixed with meds who just needs to go home and stop seeking attention.
Thanks Kati! This was good timing. I've been seeing my therapist for about 3 weeks now and am in the process of trying to get in to see a psychiatrist because I feel like I'm stuck in a rut with my anxiety. I've been wondering about how to know if things are bad enough to take myself to the hospital and whether that would even be beneficial or not. I'm just trying to avoid a total collapse...
wish theres a good therapist and a IN treatment here in my country Phil. :-( all i can do is to listen to your videos everyday . Im afraid to change but I want to end this bulimia nervosa and chewing and spitting habit.
Hi Kati. I have a question. Sometimes, I get these random bursts of anxiety. Do you have any ideas as to what might be causing it. Also, can you make a video about therapy geared towards an audience that doesn't completely understand mental health altogether?
You're such a sweetheart, I'm so greatful you exist, your videos help me so much. I've had such a hard few weeks leading up to my NHS therapy assessment this week. I found it so hard! they went through a dissociative questionare with me, it upset me so much to confont how bad I am, and much worse i've been getting. Now i have 6-8 more months for my therapy to start. I'm scared
I know it's hard to be forced to confront our issues and how hard of a time we have been having. If you can, try to focus on one moment at a time. Can you get up today? Can you shower and make it to your appts? Let's start there.. and just take it one step at at time. I am so glad that they gave you 6-8 more months of therapy!!! I think that's great news... and if you need more support after that or even before that is up.. we can deal with that then. You got this!! I am so glad that you are getting some professional support. xoxo
***** Unfortunately you miss understood me, now i've had the assessment i will need to wait another 6-8 months before therapy starts. Then its usually 12 weeks. I did get told by my care coordinator (its a uk term for the person in charge of your mental health care, who is a clinical psychiatric nurse) that if I a dissociative disorder is diagnosed then the therapy will be more longterm as thats the only effective care. At the moment I'm diagnosed with BPD but myself and the assessor didn't agree that was a correct diagnosis so i've been referered for specialist diagnosis. Unfortunately thats done at only a handful of clinics and requires a petition for individual funding from the NHS body that a person is registered with. This takes quite a bit of time, and usually multiple assessments with waiting lists. You are so right about one thing at a time. I am getting support. I have 4 hours a week with support workers at the moment, which helps me get out and not be afriad i'll disociate and find myself somewhere or do something unsafe. My family aren't supportive of me and I've alienated most of my friends but I get by. Thankyou for responding xx
I live in a small town and I’ve been having homicidal thoughts all my life and recently suicidal thoughts. I’ve noticed these thoughts change on my mood and I don’t feel a whole lot of empathy. I’m really concerned
I need so much help, I feel really bad again. I'm still not in therapy and I'm really struggling with my suicidal thoughts and it's affecting how I think of what I'm going to do after graduation. I haven't had a chance to tell my case manager that I'm struggling again. Wish me luck....
I have questions: What happens if a single parent is admitted? Does the child go straight to foster care? Is it really true that once you are admitted you cannot voluntarily leave? So it’s possible you could be trapped there forever (against your will)? Do they force patients to take medications even if the patient refuses? Do inpatients usually have to share rooms? I’d be terrified to have to share a room with a mentally ill stranger.
My therapist suggested a higher level of care. She is going to sign me up for a day treatment 3 times a week for patients age 18-24. On the one hand, I know it's the right thing to do. Ever since I started uni, I've been doing progressively worse. At this point, I've staying with my parents for 3 weeks and getting out of bed is a fight every day. On the other hand, I was already in a mental health clinic earlier this year. And in summer I thought I was really doing better. So im quite frustrated/disappointed/sad that I'm back here again... Does anybody have tips on how to accept your frustration, cause I feel.like it gets in the way of my motivation to get better. Lots and lots of love. Tirsa
I thought this was so awesome kati i hate inpatient its really damn scary it happened last year when i thought my mom was not my mom and she got me sectioned and now i struggle to trust people how can i stop not trusting people .
I am so sorry that you found inpatient to be so scary :( Trust is something that has to be built slowly.. but we will also have to notice if we are not trusting of anyone.. or only people who have hurt us in the past. because those who haven't done anything bad to us..we don't have to be scared or untrusting of. But if they have hurt us.. then we have every right to be untrusting. So just notice who you are untrusting of and why. I hope that helps a bit :) xox
Hey Kati, I love your content, it's really helpful! I've got a question, maybe you can address it in a future video. Do you have any tips on how to tell your family that you're seeing a therapist? I've been living on my own for four years and I pay my own insurance so I don't necessary have to tell them, but I don't like that I've been hiding the fact that I've been going to therapy for months now. I just don't want my parents to think they've failed at being parents or something like that. Any help would be appreciated, have a great day :)
Hi Katie! Can you talk about when people are under 18 and their therapist is able to tell the parents certain things, so the kid then might not fully talk about their issues for fear of the parents knowing?
i have a therapist but i haven’t had a session with her yet. my first one is on the 23rd. i’m having super bad mood swings where i get super depressed and think of self harm and suicide a lot. they’re so bad that i have them like every day. i feel like just normal therapy might not help me at this point and at this point i don’t trust myself and i feel like i might have to go to a psych ward but i’m too scared to ask about it and i’m sure it’s pretty expensive because i’m in america
I think I’m going insane but when I think I’m going insane I convince myself I’m being insane but that in turn is driving me insane- it’s 3:46am and if my dad doesn’t realize that he needs to do something about my mom I’m going to end up in the woods wandering aimlessly and tearing my own heart and lungs from myself because that sounds lovely Was hoping this video would tell me if this is the point I should go to inpatient but still no clue because I’m convincing myself I’m just being dramatic and insane because I know I can’t be a financial burden on my dad right now
can you do a video for partners of people with servere anxiety who has a lot of panic attacks so they know how to deal with it? it's hard to find videos of how to deal with someone who has it
Hey Kati I was just wondering if you could do a video on how to tell people about your mental health as I really don't know how. Or like different ways, going to a doctor on your own etc
KATI!!!! I was wondering if maybe you could add this to your points to talk about, but are you able to talk about if you want to be in an Inpatient program but you don't necessarily need it? I would feel safer in there but I don't know. Maybe just the inpatient video would be fine
Hi Kati, I know you might not see this, but I would really love it if you could please do a video about what it's like to be in-patient. There have been a couple of times where I should have been hospitalised for depression and suicidal thoughts, but I was too scared. I guess there's a perception that society has developed over time about what it's like inside the mental health wards in hospitals, and it's that fear which has pushed me away from accepting acute treatment when I've been in need. As well, I've just turned 18 so I would no longer be in the adolescent ward, which terrifies me even more. I'm doing really well at the moment, but I guess it's something that has affected my care in the past, and yeah I would be really interested to know what to expect and what it's like as an in-patient if in the future I needed acute care. Thanks you. :)
Hey Kati thanks again for giving out yet another informative video. It came at the perfect time while I was thinking that in my mind! It actually gave me the courage to tell my therapist that I was doing worse as opposed to what she was thinking. I have a question on concurring issues. Is it possible to be doing progressively better with one issue and progressively worse with the other? Thanks again and keep them coming!!
Kati, question for you, what causes all of these symptoms with anxiety? I understand everyone has different symptoms, but mines are are dizziness, lightheaded, heart racing, headaches, numbness, chest pains, derealization, tingling all over my body, even my teeth, etc.
Thanks for this informative video today Kati. I've never been inpatient hospitalized but I've gone to outpatient three times. Two of them I didn't feel safe and told my mom so she took me to the ER. I guess that would be my suggestion to some people if they don't have a therapist or even if they do but are embarrassed or afraid to talk about their regression (though they should work on that). My question to you is, what about OCDI? It's a treatment at Mclean's hospital in Boston but I wasn't sure if it was conducted elsewhere. I believe it is outpatient but I don't understand how it works or what it is for, but it was recommended to me last year.
#KatiFAQ what do you think of online counselling (email, IM, video or voice sessions with a licence counsellor)? Is it 'as good as' in person sessions? I can type my experiences and sometimes get upset, but could never imagine saying in person, and I wonder if that makes a difference at all?
Ahhhh this video came at the perfect time!!!! Today I scheduled my screening phone call to get into the intensive outpatient program! Do you have any idea what kind of question they might ask on the phone? I don't want to over share or something like that but also I don't want to come across as I'm doing better than I am cause it feels like just my default to act like I'm fine especially over the phone with someone I've never met I'm scared I might not tell them enough and they might not let me into the program or something! My therapist and I called one of the people she knows at the center during session and she seemed nice but I don't think she's the one doing the intake
In all honesty.. share as much as you feel comfortable sharing. Maybe even write down some of the things you want to make sure you talk about. That way you don't get into that whole "Oh I am fine.. no big deal" sort of thing. They will usually just ask you a bit about yourself, how long you have been sick, what behaviors you struggle with and want to go away, how often you think about the ED, SH, or whatever it is you are struggling with. It's much quicker and honestly not at all as stressful as we think it's going to be. xoxo You got this!! I am so glad you are getting more help. xoxo
Kati Morton writing some stuff down is definitely a good idea and I'll do that!!!! Thank you so much for all your help seriously I can't thank you enough!!! Hope you have a wonderful day Kati :)
I'm thinking about checking myself into a mental hospital when the quarter is over. I cant control my anger...no matter what I do. Grounding techniques I was given I cant even stop to think about those when I am angry. Cant even get a referral to see a psychiatrist at my doctors office... I need more support to get better. My anger is ruining my relationship.
Hi kati. Thank you for all your videos. :) how do you know if you need a higher level of care or just need to try harder? Sometimes when I slip up and don't do the things my therapist taught me to, I think it's because I am not trying hard enough.
I visited a psychiatrist once for a diagnosis and prescription (that i didn't get bc it's expensive af) and even with insurance the bill was expensive. It's so discouraging.
What are you thoughts on psychoanalysis? I'm in school and plan to train as a psychoanalyst afterwards, and wondered if you use psychodynamic or psychoanalytic techniques or ideas in your own practice.
Hello, Kati! I was diagnosed with persistent depressive disorder, and my therapist told me that I need to be completely honest and open with her so she can help. However, opening up is hard. When I was first diagnosed, I even cried, and that embarrassed me tremendously. How can I push back the anxiety of opening up and be able to tell her exactly what I am feeling during therapy? Any suggestions? Thanks!
Maybe write down the stuff you feel? Before I really recognized how bad I am doing I wrote stuff down I actually thought about showing someone but then I didn't but it might help?
I know I need more help. But, I’ve tried getting help before and all they did was give me so many meds that I was a zombie. That didn’t help with my depression, anxiety or feeling of worthlessness. What kind of places help better than that???
I seen the school counsellor about university, and she asked why I wanted to do such studies and I told her because I struggle with mental illnesses and want to help. She then got off topic of university and asked if I was seeing anyone, which I haven't for the past few months.. and everything has gotten worse and she could tell. She suggested going to the hospital and seeing a psychologist again. I asked to see a psychologist but they brushed it off and it's been two months since, the counsellor and she said a teacher(I didn't talk to any) had asked for me to see a psychologist, to the school, I guess they can tell I'm a danger to myself..? I've never been in the hospital and I don't know if it would be a good idea, i do think of suicide and I do self harm but I've never committed suicide or was on my very last straw.. I don't know what to do..
What if you feel like you need more care but you can’t afford it? I don’t have insurance but I don’t qualify for Medicaid despite being permanently disabled and only able to work a few hours a day (my state is stupid). There’s no way I could pay for anything more. As it is I can only afford to see my therapist every other week and I haven’t been able to afford to go to my gp at all.
I was sectioned for a few weeks earlier this year. I was really scared at first but once I got there it was fine. I was given some better meds and that seemed to turn things around for me.
My doc/nurse I see at a youth clinic referred me to a hospital outpatient program for more intense care... but im getting so bad still even with appointments every week with my social worker (plus fortnightly with my doc)... I've been told to call whenever I need too but Im so scared my social worker/case worker will get sick of me... I know logically I need inpatient treatment... as things for the past few months have just been so bad , not even sure how im still here... But Im scared of judgement from my family and people around me... The only reason I try and pull myself together even if all I cn think about and want to do is end it all..
In my life I have had two incidences where I’ve been placed in a six day and then a two week stay in a psychiatric ward the latest one was for two weeks and come to find out now I have borderline personality disorder could you possibly tell people more about that when it comes down to total breakdowns I would greatly appreciate it and the kind of intensive care that need takes to be able to get to the point of being better because I am also still trying to except it and I morning to let people know more about this problem as possible because it is so much and miss understood diagnosis and stigma attached to it and yes you can use my name for people to know who was the one who asked this question thank you
Hi Kati. I recently started seeing a counselor because of some past trauma, but I refused to get help for months and now my anxiety is so high, i scored 70 and she now thinks that this is becoming more than just past trauma, but a disorder like Otherwise Specified Schizophrenia Spectrum Disorder. She wants further testing on me. I guess my question is, how do I know how much of my anxiety is trauma related and how much is paranoia? If you could get back with me on that, it would be great. Tia. :)
Happy Thursday Kati(: So in love with coffee and a chat/FAQ's! "water in the afternoon" haha I know you had said on the live stream yesterday about possibly going into inpatient because school has completely drained me. I don't know how to do that. I know I need more help but the school is "weaning" me off of counseling because I am "doing very well". I feel like I've been on the line of crisis for a while and you're right, my grades have deteriorated. I would want more support like groups but I commute 90 minutes to see my SW and doctors. So how do you get more help with very limited options? Self help books? What activities, that don't cost much, can I do on my own that could be helpful to prevent hospitalization? I did IOP when I was 14 for a year. Again we commuted 90 minutes every week, twice a week, for year. It was just a group of 15+ people talking about why they were hospitalized. Inpatient/hospitalization is dependent on the hospital you go to. Usually, their staff will be helpful and work with your needs. Thanks Kati! You are so wonderful and I am so happy you got the gifts/cards I sent you! Keep staying awesome(:
I love your videos. I live in a group home have been struggling since December I didn't tell anyone at my mental health day program or group home workers. I did not want to go in the hospital my group home sent me to the hospital in August I wanted to go home so bad so I acted like I was better. A week later I was sent back to the hospital. Am dealing with bad anxiety now and depression but atleast im not hearing things or seeing things. Will it ever get better?
in patient doesn't work for everyone (been in a few times), in fact it can make things worse. I love your vids Kati but I wish there were more for people who are more unique that don't benefit from the current way mental health is treated.
No idea if its for me. My situation is im a truck driver struggling from fear from an undealt with trauma which affects work performance and risk if becoming homeless (of course with no family support or place to live in emergencies) Thats basically why i became curious about this because it would seem like a relief from being stuck in a high stress job but struggling to find the time/money for private therapist. Not sure if this makes it a good fit. I get nervous about this stuff as when I was homeless before, the mental health stuff and halfway-house stuff was typically a negative experience for most as they could force you to take meds or "hold you" there. Also the rescue mission shelter (old and run down) and like a halfway house/recovery program that was supposed to be "christian based" but was ran by bad people itself, a very undesireable living environment, and was mostly about chores and community service (and the food was terrible). Anyways, would love someone's opinion from their experience because if its something comfortable then id consider it but if its something that makes you feel trapped in a "mental institution" then id keep it last-resort.
Hey Kati thank you this video was very helpful. One question I have is how do I help myself while taking a mental break. I Graduated from high school this summer and decided to take the year off. I have recently had two SA's and have not been admitted to the hospital and I just want to get better but at times I don't. Thanks again😊
It all sounds nice and hopeful, but with my 10 year experience of therapy and four therapists I went to, I cannot relate to it... I went into therapy all eager to open up and receive help. Two of the therapists I saw were downright abusive, and it took me a lot of time to realise it with the first one, as I was new to it... Two just didn't help. I am still seeing one, but I don't feel any relieve or improvement in my life...
Hi Kati. I just started watching your videos. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a year ago. And for a year I've been struggling with trying to find a good therapist and getting in to see an actual psychiatrist. As of the past few months, I quit taking my medication and have been "rapid cycling" but it's like with in a matter of minutes and hours in a day. I've read up on BPD. I just am afraid I may have been misdiagnosed. I just don't know what to do at this point. I have a son and a life I need to live but I always prevent myself from doing it. can you help?
#KatiFAQ I love your Q&As! They've really helped me in feeling okay about having an ED and made me feel a lot more comfortable about seeking help! I do have a question and was hoping you could help a little bit (no pressure!) I have been struggling with purging after meals for a few years now but only recently decided to seek help and was informed that I have OSFED, specifically purging disorder. I hadn't told anyone before I told my doctor and counselor but recently decided to tell my best friend. My issue is that I decided to seek help because purging had become a huge part of my everyday life and had started to interfere with my academic and social life pretty intensely but I'm struggling with the fact that I don't think I'm ready to recover because purging has helped alleviate a lot of my anxiety (it helps, even for just a moment to make me feel calm and happy) but because I told my friend I feel like I should be trying to get better and am expected to dive head first into recovery but at this time in my life, I'm just having a difficult time stopping myself from doing it. How do I let my friend know that I want her support without having her try to fix me or try to speed up my recovery? (Sorry for the rambling)
Hello Kati, I was wondering how does a person deal with a family member deal with someone with dementia or Alzheimer's. Dementia or Alzheimer's is not like bipolar, depression, schizophrenia or other forms of mental illness, but dementia and Alzheimer's does affects a person and is a progressive disease and it affects a person's family. When my grandmother is dying, she acted like someone with dementia. It was very hard to take care of her and she was very resistant to getting help and eating properly. Kati, I was wondering what does the DSM guidebook say about Alzheimer's and dementia?
Hopefully you got an answer, I know it's several months old, but I feel your pain. I was my Mom's caregiver when she was alive. She had Vascular Dementia and passed in 2016. Everything I read and learned from my support group was to keep the frustration levels of the Dementia/Alzheimer's patient as low as possible. My Mom thought we all thought she was crazy because she had hallucinations. I reassured her that just because we didn't see what she did, it didn't mean it wasn't real for her or that she was crazy. Distraction and redirecting (like you would with a little kid). Don't beat yourself up if you're not cleaning house like other family members think you should, focus on keeping your loved one comfortable and stress/frustration free.
#KatiFAQ have you got a video or can you please do a video on conflicts of abuse...e.g. If someone ignores you repeatedly having actually heard you (So much so they ignore you so you say something you know they'd want to respond to and they do 😓) but then later they come up to you and act all lovely and sweet. Polar opposites in behaviour and how to deal with the constant painful switching.
I will have a few videos about that coming out soon :) Also, I have an emotional abuse video you may want to check out. It may help explain what is going on a bit better. xoxo
I feel like I'm in fear and afraid of my reality. I am coming off opiods and slight benzo withdrawal, I'm afraid of detox but I've done it before in rehab and at home. I feel like I'm losing it. I can't connect with my emotions my reality feels distorted, I'm scared and constant panic.
I'm not sure if anyone will reply to this but I think I need further help. I think I need to admit myself. I can't stop panicking. There isn't a moment I'm not terrified. I'm not me anymore and I'm not here. I've been dissociating for 3 weeks straight now. I need help but no therapist or psych will see me because I'm too sick or not sick enough. I'm exhausted. I want my life back. I'm ready to throw in the towel. This doesn't seem like a battle I'm going to win.
Daniel rought to be honest usually if you wonder if your issues are 'bad enough' they are. But truth be told I think if you wonder if you need therapy you can just make an appointment. Explain to the therapist you're struggling, but you're not sure if you need it. They'll help you figure it out and tell you, I think you could benefit from therapy or maybe not and give you some tips and tricks.
tbh if you're interested at all in seeing a therapist, you should try it. You don't need to be unwell to go to therapy. Everybody has things in life that they struggle with and therapy can help, even if a person doesn't meet the criteria for having an illness of any sort.
I have to agree with Anne. If you worry that you are need to see someone.. you do. Things don't have to be terrible in order for us to get support. For example, if I find myself crying easily at tv shows or movies.. I know I need to go see my therapist. It could be as simple as that. xoxo
Can therapists make you go into inpatient? Of course I understand that if it's recommended then it's probably in someone's best interest. I also know that I live in the UK so this may be different, but I was wondering if a therapist has the ability to get a Mental Health Act assessment and place you under section so that you have to do go into hospital?
Kati Do You Know Of Any Inpatient Treatment Centers In California That Accept Medical ? I'm Having Such A Hard Time With That But I Feel Like That's What I Need To Get Better!
5:36 What is this that you're talking about? Where are people getting mental health treatment for free? I've called treatment centers and if you don't have insurance.. It's like thousands of dollars. Not everybody has thousands of dollars to just spend per day. I see now this video was made 7 years ago was there like a difference 7 years ago? In Canada or in the US?
Hi Kati!! Happy Thanksgiving!! I just finished 13 days of a partial hospital program. Now eight days out I feel worse than ever. Any ideas why this would happen?? I notice this video is from 6 years ago, and maybe you won’t get my comment. I’ll look to see if you have something more current. 💙
I am confident that if I had already been hospitalized I wouldn't be suffering so much now. Everything is getting worse and Ive had a major mental breakdown. RIght now, I don't know what to do! I live out of state and i have no one to take care of my pets if I were to be hospitalized also with COVID its not a good idea to be hospitalized! I need a lot of help ... i need medication and i need to talk to a therapist at least daily. Idk what other options i have :( i can't be away from my pets and I'm hesitant to do an outpatient intensive because of the covid risks with being around other people... I'm screwed
How do you get through the shame of feeling depressed? I feel so stupid feeling like this and hate to be a problem with other people especially my husband. I honestly wish every day I could go to sleep and not wake up.
I’m going to tell my parents about my self-harm, but I don’t know if I’ll tell them the extent of how bad it is. I know I should be admitted to a mental hospital, but I don’t want to go. I have so much to do this summer, and I don’t want that to be taken away. I guess it would be if I ended up giving into my urges… I can’t stop thinking about sl*****g my throat, and it’s so bad. I don’t want to feel horrible anymore, I want it to stop.
Ik this is a really late comment, but if anyone sees this, do you know if you have to be Talking to a therapist first and then be an inpatient or can you just go straight to being an impatient
I'm so lucky to be living in a country with a free health service. If I lived in the USA I would be so screwed because I can barely afford living costs each month. The only downside would be waiting times, but when the service is free you can't really complain.
Rhys Sadler-Price we pay through our taxes, it really isn’t free unless you don’t work
um, I'm 13 years old, and I have depression, and I haven't been feeling safe with myself, does that mean That I should recieve care or am I over reacting???
@@whyamihere2079 Yes, talk to your parents and go and see a doctor.
Rhys Sadler-Price ok, thank you
@@ladyaggra6571 Yes but at least is proportional to what you earn. You will never be slapped with a sudden bill for several thousand dollars because of a medical or mental health crisis, and fear of the expense will never prevent you from seeking treatment. You will never have to worry that going to the doctor will bankrupt you.
I'm at the brink of breaking. I never told anyone how I feel inside or mental baggage since before I was 12. I'm all by myself and everyone doesn't have a clue how much I just want to dissapear. Like they would care.
I hope you are doing better now 🙏🏽💛
Hey Kati! I was just wondering if you could talk about the correlation between chronic illness and mental health. Thanks for everything!
Yes I definitely can!! In short, because chronic illness can cause us pain and at times make us feel hopeless, it can lead to depression and other mental health issues. This topic is on my list and I will be filming it shortly!! xoxo
I know I need more help, but I'm so scared to go to the hospital and be admitted.. I'm a university student and I'm terrified of falling behind and being a burden to others but being admitted... my therapist is the only person who I talk to about my mental illnesses and I'll be referred out soon as I'll be turning 19 in a couple of months.
Miranda Connors same problem 😑
I'm the same way I'm scare of going to the hospital, I always felt dizzy going to the hospital when I visit family members, even thinking about makes me scare, I only had anxiety for over 4 months, and it's awful I can't really leave my house.
COMPLETELY struggling with the same thing as I am a clinical intern and my team wants me to get a higher level of care for my ED
If you need to be hospitalized, you most likely will be able to get a doctors note for your classes. Not sure where you live but in the US, the American Disabilities Act protects people with mental illness from discrimination. Your professors may be able to work with you or if you need to you can take a leave of absence while you work on getting better. If you dont get the help you need, then it is likely you will fall behind anyway. You can also do day treatment programs too.
Hey Miranda. I was hospitalized a couple times while I was in college, in my Junior year. The most important thing is your health. School will always be there, but you won't be able to finish if you're not around. I took two medical withdrawals from college (in two different semesters) and went home. i was able to come back when I felt better. That being said, when I was hospitalized my Junior year for between 5-9 days each time, my school was really understanding. I reached out to the therapist on campus and also asked the hospital to either contact my school or write me a "note" saying I was admitted to the hospital from such and such a date. If you are scared and feel you should/need to go to the hospital, I think you should listen to yourself. If you are worried about school you can ask the counseling office at your school (assuming there is one) what the process would be if you're concerned about falling behind. My teachers were incredibly understanding. Make sure you advocate for yourself and I wish you all the luck.
Inpatient is really not as scary as we imagine it to be. Yes it's hard work and you have to push yourself over and over again, but really it can be so so helpful! I'm currently inpatient (4th time already - so I know my fair share about it :D) and it's tough and sometimes I feel like giving up, but it's worth it in the end, I promise!
Hey Kati! Could you do a video on high functioning anxiety and depression? Also, what do you do when your best friend always acts like your problems aren't real problems and undermines them because it's not as bad as what they're going through? I love your videos, they've helped me so much!
Great question! I would also be really interested to learn more about high functioning anxiety/depression. Having anxiety that sends you into a spiral to the point you really hurt yourself etc and then getting up and going to work the next day, still see your friends and take part in social activities seems so upside down to most people. But that's been my reality for a long time now and I'd love to learn more about it. I feel like there is a lot of information on anxiety/depression that causes a visible effect on the persons life i.e becoming less sociable, declining school grades etc but there's not much out there on what happens when your outside life is running smoothly whilst internally there's a chaotic battle. Thanks for the great videos Kati! X
Sophie This! I'm struggling with this, too. How do we get our voices heard when we need help, but are continually pushed away?
I agree! I would appreciate this video greatly. Also how high functioning depression/anxiety can maybe make it so we don't feel we need to see a therapist or don't know how to reach out.
I can definitely talk about high functioning anxiety and depression.. are there certain things you want me to address? Let me know! Also, as for your friend.. it sounds like they aren't much of a friend at all! I would talk to them about this and let them know that you don't feel they are listening and supporting you and always trying to one up you. Let them know that sometimes you just need them to listen and support.. hopefully they will hear you out and work to change. I also have a video about toxic people that could help. xoxo
Thank you so much for replying! I'd love it if you could address how to other people like is can seem like there's nothing wrong, and how this can make it harder to reach out. Also how the symptoms differ from 'normal' anxiety and depression. Thanks Kati! :)
Everyone always says get therapy or get help. But many people who need help can't afford it :( Where I live therapy costs around $180 per session and isn't covered by insurance.
Sometimes you can find therapists that have an escalating scale, or potentially a social worker with a background in counseling would be able to help you get in touch with someone affordable & help you out in the meantime.
Doing workbooks for therapy at home is also a great option depending on what the problem is;
It's free if your local library has some, or 20-30$ forever rather than 200$ for an hour.
There aren't any therapists who take insurance?? I would call your insurance company and see what they can offer. If you are in the states.. they have to cover portions of treatment if there aren't any in network clinicians within 20 or 30 miles of you. xox I hope that helps!!
No I'm in northern Alberta Canada. I have pre-existing conditions so I can't even purchase health insurance. We are very behind in a lot of health care, but especially mental health. I have health insurance through work but they don't cover therapy. Only some medications and select treatments. I do have a health spending account that I can use for alternative help, but because therapy is so expensive it would only cover about 5 sessions per year max if you use the whole spending account. But I need mine to cover uninsured portions of my meds, glasses, dental, etc.
The therapists that offer sliding scales around here all start at $125 per session which is still way too much for me to afford.
Wait lists and times here are ridiculous. I've been waiting over 2 years to see a psychiatrist. I finally have an initial appointment at the end of November.
I voluntarily put myself in a hospital psych ward to try to get some help back in June. They did absolutely nothing to help. I was basically confined to a small space for 4 days then told to go home. Not 1 member of staff even asked me how my day was going, let alone assessed me or helped in any way.
I only have limited books from the library to go off of and I find that they don't help at all.
MiniPony ASMR ah that's where I'm from, had to move from oil town to edmonton to get help. sorry.
Prudence K I'm in Edmonton now too. It's so sad that there's no help here other than library books, if you aren't high income.
Sliding scales all still cost around $100 per session or more. I certainly don't have $400 extra per month out of pocket and neither do most people honestly.
P.S. since you are local....don't ever go to the Grey Nun's hospital for mental health issues. If you are having a crisis or in danger go elsewhere if you feel you have to go to a hospital. I came out of there after 4 days WAY worse than when I went Horrible things happened in there. It was like an asylum out of a horror movie. I was forced to clean up another patient's feces from out of the showers with only paper towel, they refused to let me even have gloves. They pretty well refused to talk to me unless they were trying to force treatment. They forced people to have ECT who did not want it and who should not be getting it, like people with seizure disorders, without even trying any other treatments first. I could go on and on about the horrible things they did. It was mixed gender housing where the doors did not lock. 1 of the male patients threatened to rape me after I had taken my very sedating medications and spent most of the night just outside the door to where my bed was. The staff said they would not do anything because he was , "Creepy but probably harmless." So horrible.
I tried getting help but instead I got mild PTSD and now have to live with terrifying flashbacks from the hospital.
Can you do a video on what inpatient is like? Like the whole process and what it’s like day to day. I love your videos, they help me so much and give me a place so zone out.
Would love a video about eating disorder inpatient Care and the difference between that and hospitalisation for eating disorders
Anyone else find that artwork very soothing and satisfying.
**patiently waiting for Water in the Afternoon With Kati to be a thing**
I seriously cannot thank you enough. I know I thank you every time but I need you to know how much you help 💜
Awe I am so glad I could be helpful :) Thank you for taking the time to leave this sweet comment. xoxo
@@Katimorton I just recently found your channel and I've been so encouraged through so many of your videos. It is very hard for some of us to financially afford therapy but these topics are helpful in the image tween please keep doing what you're doing you may not see it is so but I think you have quite a mission field! Keep being honest and personable it means so much.
Health conditions definitely can contribute to mental health. I had a thyroid disease and I was severely depressed and anxious, but after treatment I felt a slow increase in better mental health
You shoukd do an updated version of this.
Can you do a video on the difference between antidepressants and anti psychotics and how they work? I feel like most people think you just take a pill and be happy but that’s not how they work.
Very true about physical illnesses effecting mental health, I work on an acute psychiatric ward and I have seen people with something as simple as a UTI present as psychotic, also on the other end of the scale people with undiagnosed brain tumours etc.
Yes! So true! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with this! xoxo
Thank you so much.
I only recently asked this myself, so I appreciate that it is being addressed.
Oh good!! I am so glad it was helpful :) xoxo
The health system I work at doesn’t have IOP and PHP but we do have case managers that work with our health plan patients.
Do you have any advice on healing when parents won't allow therapy? I'm really struggling, but my parents overreact when I try to talk to them, and disregard what I talk to them about. Thanks!
So I've been inpatient multiple times and trust me it's not that bad. Yes the fist day is always the hardest but after you get over that first hump things do start to look up. So stay strong!
please do a complete video. I'd love to share in a community on facebook 10,000 plus folks scared to get help
Hi Katie I have dissociative identity disorder along with other mental illnesses, and in the last month I have had six suicide attempts. My local ER just keeps sending us home. I'm also totally blind and live on my own. I am 25. I don't know what the laws are in Illinois if someone makes a suicide attempt. The hospital told me that since it was not me that was suicidal that I do not meet criteria for inpatient hospitalization. I was even told by a nurse that I was just a borderline personality whose issues can't be fixed with meds who just needs to go home and stop seeking attention.
Thanks Kati! This was good timing. I've been seeing my therapist for about 3 weeks now and am in the process of trying to get in to see a psychiatrist because I feel like I'm stuck in a rut with my anxiety. I've been wondering about how to know if things are bad enough to take myself to the hospital and whether that would even be beneficial or not. I'm just trying to avoid a total collapse...
wish theres a good therapist and a IN treatment here in my country Phil. :-( all i can do is to listen to your videos everyday . Im afraid to change but I want to end this bulimia nervosa and chewing and spitting habit.
Hi Kati. I have a question. Sometimes, I get these random bursts of anxiety. Do you have any ideas as to what might be causing it. Also, can you make a video about therapy geared towards an audience that doesn't completely understand mental health altogether?
You're such a sweetheart, I'm so greatful you exist, your videos help me so much. I've had such a hard few weeks leading up to my NHS therapy assessment this week. I found it so hard! they went through a dissociative questionare with me, it upset me so much to confont how bad I am, and much worse i've been getting. Now i have 6-8 more months for my therapy to start. I'm scared
I know it's hard to be forced to confront our issues and how hard of a time we have been having. If you can, try to focus on one moment at a time. Can you get up today? Can you shower and make it to your appts? Let's start there.. and just take it one step at at time. I am so glad that they gave you 6-8 more months of therapy!!! I think that's great news... and if you need more support after that or even before that is up.. we can deal with that then. You got this!! I am so glad that you are getting some professional support. xoxo
***** Unfortunately you miss understood me, now i've had the assessment i will need to wait another 6-8 months before therapy starts. Then its usually 12 weeks. I did get told by my care coordinator (its a uk term for the person in charge of your mental health care, who is a clinical psychiatric nurse) that if I a dissociative disorder is diagnosed then the therapy will be more longterm as thats the only effective care. At the moment I'm diagnosed with BPD but myself and the assessor didn't agree that was a correct diagnosis so i've been referered for specialist diagnosis. Unfortunately thats done at only a handful of clinics and requires a petition for individual funding from the NHS body that a person is registered with. This takes quite a bit of time, and usually multiple assessments with waiting lists. You are so right about one thing at a time. I am getting support. I have 4 hours a week with support workers at the moment, which helps me get out and not be afriad i'll disociate and find myself somewhere or do something unsafe. My family aren't supportive of me and I've alienated most of my friends but I get by. Thankyou for responding xx
I live in a small town and I’ve been having homicidal thoughts all my life and recently suicidal thoughts. I’ve noticed these thoughts change on my mood and I don’t feel a whole lot of empathy. I’m really concerned
Hi Kati. Thank you for your videos.
Awe you are so welcome :) xoxo
I really appreciate your videos! I'd love videos with someone with severe social anxiety disorder, or even not severe.
I need so much help, I feel really bad again.
I'm still not in therapy and I'm really struggling with my suicidal thoughts and it's affecting how I think of what I'm going to do after graduation.
I haven't had a chance to tell my case manager that I'm struggling again.
Wish me luck....
hi love how is it going?
I'm tired of waking up and have to double-check that I'm actually awake. It's gotten to the point where I can't tell the difference.
Hi kati! I hope all is well, can you make a video about talking to your parents about treatment?
I have questions: What happens if a single parent is admitted? Does the child go straight to foster care? Is it really true that once you are admitted you cannot voluntarily leave? So it’s possible you could be trapped there forever (against your will)? Do they force patients to take medications even if the patient refuses? Do inpatients usually have to share rooms? I’d be terrified to have to share a room with a mentally ill stranger.
My therapist suggested a higher level of care. She is going to sign me up for a day treatment 3 times a week for patients age 18-24. On the one hand, I know it's the right thing to do. Ever since I started uni, I've been doing progressively worse. At this point, I've staying with my parents for 3 weeks and getting out of bed is a fight every day. On the other hand, I was already in a mental health clinic earlier this year. And in summer I thought I was really doing better. So im quite frustrated/disappointed/sad that I'm back here again... Does anybody have tips on how to accept your frustration, cause I feel.like it gets in the way of my motivation to get better. Lots and lots of love. Tirsa
I thought this was so awesome kati i hate inpatient its really damn scary it happened last year when i thought my mom was not my mom and she got me sectioned and now i struggle to trust people how can i stop not trusting people .
I am so sorry that you found inpatient to be so scary :( Trust is something that has to be built slowly.. but we will also have to notice if we are not trusting of anyone.. or only people who have hurt us in the past. because those who haven't done anything bad to us..we don't have to be scared or untrusting of. But if they have hurt us.. then we have every right to be untrusting. So just notice who you are untrusting of and why. I hope that helps a bit :) xox
This may be too general, but when I turned 12 I started feeling like life wasn't real...more like a dream. It lasted years, what causes this?
It could be maladaptive daydreaming or dissociation. I have videos about both.. I would check those out and see if it fits. xoxo I hope that helps!!
IOP isn’t really like that it’s normally a like 3-6 pm or such. Meet with a therapist, psychiatrist, and do group therapy..
Hey Kati, I love your content, it's really helpful!
I've got a question, maybe you can address it in a future video. Do you have any tips on how to tell your family that you're seeing a therapist? I've been living on my own for four years and I pay my own insurance so I don't necessary have to tell them, but I don't like that I've been hiding the fact that I've been going to therapy for months now. I just don't want my parents to think they've failed at being parents or something like that.
Any help would be appreciated, have a great day :)
Hi Katie! Can you talk about when people are under 18 and their therapist is able to tell the parents certain things, so the kid then might not fully talk about their issues for fear of the parents knowing?
i have a therapist but i haven’t had a session with her yet. my first one is on the 23rd. i’m having super bad mood swings where i get super depressed and think of self harm and suicide a lot. they’re so bad that i have them like every day. i feel like just normal therapy might not help me at this point and at this point i don’t trust myself and i feel like i might have to go to a psych ward but i’m too scared to ask about it and i’m sure it’s pretty expensive because i’m in america
I think I’m going insane but when I think I’m going insane I convince myself I’m being insane but that in turn is driving me insane- it’s 3:46am and if my dad doesn’t realize that he needs to do something about my mom I’m going to end up in the woods wandering aimlessly and tearing my own heart and lungs from myself because that sounds lovely
Was hoping this video would tell me if this is the point I should go to inpatient but still no clue because I’m convincing myself I’m just being dramatic and insane because I know I can’t be a financial burden on my dad right now
can you do a video for partners of people with servere anxiety who has a lot of panic attacks so they know how to deal with it? it's hard to find videos of how to deal with someone who has it
thank you for this video about such an important topic.
Hey Kati I was just wondering if you could do a video on how to tell people about your mental health as I really don't know how. Or like different ways, going to a doctor on your own etc
Thanks for this
KATI!!!! I was wondering if maybe you could add this to your points to talk about, but are you able to talk about if you want to be in an Inpatient program but you don't necessarily need it? I would feel safer in there but I don't know. Maybe just the inpatient video would be fine
Hi Kati, I know you might not see this, but I would really love it if you could please do a video about what it's like to be in-patient. There have been a couple of times where I should have been hospitalised for depression and suicidal thoughts, but I was too scared. I guess there's a perception that society has developed over time about what it's like inside the mental health wards in hospitals, and it's that fear which has pushed me away from accepting acute treatment when I've been in need. As well, I've just turned 18 so I would no longer be in the adolescent ward, which terrifies me even more. I'm doing really well at the moment, but I guess it's something that has affected my care in the past, and yeah I would be really interested to know what to expect and what it's like as an in-patient if in the future I needed acute care. Thanks you. :)
Hey Kati thanks again for giving out yet another informative video. It came at the perfect time while I was thinking that in my mind! It actually gave me the courage to tell my therapist that I was doing worse as opposed to what she was thinking. I have a question on concurring issues. Is it possible to be doing progressively better with one issue and progressively worse with the other? Thanks again and keep them coming!!
Kati, question for you, what causes all of these symptoms with anxiety? I understand everyone has different symptoms, but mines are are dizziness, lightheaded, heart racing, headaches, numbness, chest pains, derealization, tingling all over my body, even my teeth, etc.
Thanks for this informative video today Kati. I've never been inpatient hospitalized but I've gone to outpatient three times. Two of them I didn't feel safe and told my mom so she took me to the ER. I guess that would be my suggestion to some people if they don't have a therapist or even if they do but are embarrassed or afraid to talk about their regression (though they should work on that). My question to you is, what about OCDI? It's a treatment at Mclean's hospital in Boston but I wasn't sure if it was conducted elsewhere. I believe it is outpatient but I don't understand how it works or what it is for, but it was recommended to me last year.
this is a great video I'm sure it will help alot of those who need it.. woop
#KatiFAQ what do you think of online counselling (email, IM, video or voice sessions with a licence counsellor)? Is it 'as good as' in person sessions? I can type my experiences and sometimes get upset, but could never imagine saying in person, and I wonder if that makes a difference at all?
Ahhhh this video came at the perfect time!!!! Today I scheduled my screening phone call to get into the intensive outpatient program! Do you have any idea what kind of question they might ask on the phone? I don't want to over share or something like that but also I don't want to come across as I'm doing better than I am cause it feels like just my default to act like I'm fine especially over the phone with someone I've never met I'm scared I might not tell them enough and they might not let me into the program or something! My therapist and I called one of the people she knows at the center during session and she seemed nice but I don't think she's the one doing the intake
In all honesty.. share as much as you feel comfortable sharing. Maybe even write down some of the things you want to make sure you talk about. That way you don't get into that whole "Oh I am fine.. no big deal" sort of thing. They will usually just ask you a bit about yourself, how long you have been sick, what behaviors you struggle with and want to go away, how often you think about the ED, SH, or whatever it is you are struggling with. It's much quicker and honestly not at all as stressful as we think it's going to be. xoxo You got this!! I am so glad you are getting more help. xoxo
Kati Morton writing some stuff down is definitely a good idea and I'll do that!!!! Thank you so much for all your help seriously I can't thank you enough!!! Hope you have a wonderful day Kati :)
I'm thinking about checking myself into a mental hospital when the quarter is over. I cant control my anger...no matter what I do. Grounding techniques I was given I cant even stop to think about those when I am angry. Cant even get a referral to see a psychiatrist at my doctors office... I need more support to get better. My anger is ruining my relationship.
Hi kati. Thank you for all your videos. :) how do you know if you need a higher level of care or just need to try harder? Sometimes when I slip up and don't do the things my therapist taught me to, I think it's because I am not trying hard enough.
I visited a psychiatrist once for a diagnosis and prescription (that i didn't get bc it's expensive af) and even with insurance the bill was expensive. It's so discouraging.
Your videos are so helpfull!!
What are you thoughts on psychoanalysis? I'm in school and plan to train as a psychoanalyst afterwards, and wondered if you use psychodynamic or psychoanalytic techniques or ideas in your own practice.
Hello, Kati! I was diagnosed with persistent depressive disorder, and my therapist told me that I need to be completely honest and open with her so she can help. However, opening up is hard. When I was first diagnosed, I even cried, and that embarrassed me tremendously. How can I push back the anxiety of opening up and be able to tell her exactly what I am feeling during therapy? Any suggestions? Thanks!
Maybe write down the stuff you feel? Before I really recognized how bad I am doing I wrote stuff down I actually thought about showing someone but then I didn't but it might help?
It might help. I will be sure to try that! Thank you for responding.
Thank you so much for this video 💜💜💜
You are very welcome :) xoxo So glad you liked it!! xxo
@@Katimorton is it possible to meet you for therapy
I know I need more help. But, I’ve tried getting help before and all they did was give me so many meds that I was a zombie. That didn’t help with my depression, anxiety or feeling of worthlessness. What kind of places help better than that???
I seen the school counsellor about university, and she asked why I wanted to do such studies and I told her because I struggle with mental illnesses and want to help. She then got off topic of university and asked if I was seeing anyone, which I haven't for the past few months.. and everything has gotten worse and she could tell. She suggested going to the hospital and seeing a psychologist again. I asked to see a psychologist but they brushed it off and it's been two months since, the counsellor and she said a teacher(I didn't talk to any) had asked for me to see a psychologist, to the school, I guess they can tell I'm a danger to myself..? I've never been in the hospital and I don't know if it would be a good idea, i do think of suicide and I do self harm but I've never committed suicide or was on my very last straw.. I don't know what to do..
What if you feel like you need more care but you can’t afford it? I don’t have insurance but I don’t qualify for Medicaid despite being permanently disabled and only able to work a few hours a day (my state is stupid). There’s no way I could pay for anything more. As it is I can only afford to see my therapist every other week and I haven’t been able to afford to go to my gp at all.
hey kati! you can always show my work that i have given you! :) ~Molly
Kati Can you talk about RTC/RTF? My therapist has been talking about it and I'm kind of worried about it.
I was sectioned for a few weeks earlier this year. I was really scared at first but once I got there it was fine. I was given some better meds and that seemed to turn things around for me.
My doc/nurse I see at a youth clinic referred me to a hospital outpatient program for more intense care... but im getting so bad still even with appointments every week with my social worker (plus fortnightly with my doc)...
I've been told to call whenever I need too but Im so scared my social worker/case worker will get sick of me... I know logically I need inpatient treatment... as things for the past few months have just been so bad , not even sure how im still here... But Im scared of judgement from my family and people around me... The only reason I try and pull myself together even if all I cn think about and want to do is end it all..
In my life I have had two incidences where I’ve been placed in a six day and then a two week stay in a psychiatric ward the latest one was for two weeks and come to find out now I have borderline personality disorder could you possibly tell people more about that when it comes down to total breakdowns I would greatly appreciate it and the kind of intensive care that need takes to be able to get to the point of being better because I am also still trying to except it and I morning to let people know more about this problem as possible because it is so much and miss understood diagnosis and stigma attached to it and yes you can use my name for people to know who was the one who asked this question thank you
Also what if the root cause of a mental health condition comes from a learning disability? Do you do any referral services to disability specialists?
i just got out of inpatient, i’m glad to be out, but i’m feeling bad again
Hi Kati. I recently started seeing a counselor because of some past trauma, but I refused to get help for months and now my anxiety is so high, i scored 70 and she now thinks that this is becoming more than just past trauma, but a disorder like Otherwise Specified Schizophrenia Spectrum Disorder. She wants further testing on me. I guess my question is, how do I know how much of my anxiety is trauma related and how much is paranoia? If you could get back with me on that, it would be great. Tia. :)
Happy Thursday Kati(:
So in love with coffee and a chat/FAQ's! "water in the afternoon" haha
I know you had said on the live stream yesterday about possibly going into inpatient because school has completely drained me. I don't know how to do that. I know I need more help but the school is "weaning" me off of counseling because I am "doing very well". I feel like I've been on the line of crisis for a while and you're right, my grades have deteriorated. I would want more support like groups but I commute 90 minutes to see my SW and doctors. So how do you get more help with very limited options? Self help books? What activities, that don't cost much, can I do on my own that could be helpful to prevent hospitalization?
I did IOP when I was 14 for a year. Again we commuted 90 minutes every week, twice a week, for year. It was just a group of 15+ people talking about why they were hospitalized. Inpatient/hospitalization is dependent on the hospital you go to. Usually, their staff will be helpful and work with your needs.
Thanks Kati! You are so wonderful and I am so happy you got the gifts/cards I sent you! Keep staying awesome(:
Love ur videos
I spent a week in inpatient care. while I was there i found out I had kidney stones due to my parathyroid gland.
Vitamin D is helpful. It’s not a cure all, but it’s helping me some.
I love your videos. I live in a group home have been struggling since December I didn't tell anyone at my mental health day program or group home workers. I did not want to go in the hospital my group home sent me to the hospital in August I wanted to go home so bad so I acted like I was better. A week later I was sent back to the hospital. Am dealing with bad anxiety now and depression but atleast im not hearing things or seeing things. Will it ever get better?
good video I love your content.
in patient doesn't work for everyone (been in a few times), in fact it can make things worse. I love your vids Kati but I wish there were more for people who are more unique that don't benefit from the current way mental health is treated.
No idea if its for me. My situation is im a truck driver struggling from fear from an undealt with trauma which affects work performance and risk if becoming homeless (of course with no family support or place to live in emergencies)
Thats basically why i became curious about this because it would seem like a relief from being stuck in a high stress job but struggling to find the time/money for private therapist.
Not sure if this makes it a good fit.
I get nervous about this stuff as when I was homeless before, the mental health stuff and halfway-house stuff was typically a negative experience for most as they could force you to take meds or "hold you" there. Also the rescue mission shelter (old and run down) and like a halfway house/recovery program that was supposed to be "christian based" but was ran by bad people itself, a very undesireable living environment, and was mostly about chores and community service (and the food was terrible).
Anyways, would love someone's opinion from their experience because if its something comfortable then id consider it but if its something that makes you feel trapped in a "mental institution" then id keep it last-resort.
Hey Kati thank you this video was very helpful. One question I have is how do I help myself while taking a mental break. I Graduated from high school this summer and decided to take the year off. I have recently had two SA's and have not been admitted to the hospital and I just want to get better but at times I don't. Thanks again😊
How long would you say you wait for a patient to get better before you consider mentioning in patient treatment?
It all sounds nice and hopeful, but with my 10 year experience of therapy and four therapists I went to, I cannot relate to it... I went into therapy all eager to open up and receive help. Two of the therapists I saw were downright abusive, and it took me a lot of time to realise it with the first one, as I was new to it... Two just didn't help. I am still seeing one, but I don't feel any relieve or improvement in my life...
Hi Kati. I just started watching your videos. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a year ago. And for a year I've been struggling with trying to find a good therapist and getting in to see an actual psychiatrist. As of the past few months, I quit taking my medication and have been "rapid cycling" but it's like with in a matter of minutes and hours in a day. I've read up on BPD. I just am afraid I may have been misdiagnosed. I just don't know what to do at this point. I have a son and a life I need to live but I always prevent myself from doing it. can you help?
#KatiFAQ I love your Q&As! They've really helped me in feeling okay about having an ED and made me feel a lot more comfortable about seeking help!
I do have a question and was hoping you could help a little bit (no pressure!) I have been struggling with purging after meals for a few years now but only recently decided to seek help and was informed that I have OSFED, specifically purging disorder. I hadn't told anyone before I told my doctor and counselor but recently decided to tell my best friend. My issue is that I decided to seek help because purging had become a huge part of my everyday life and had started to interfere with my academic and social life pretty intensely but I'm struggling with the fact that I don't think I'm ready to recover because purging has helped alleviate a lot of my anxiety (it helps, even for just a moment to make me feel calm and happy) but because I told my friend I feel like I should be trying to get better and am expected to dive head first into recovery but at this time in my life, I'm just having a difficult time stopping myself from doing it. How do I let my friend know that I want her support without having her try to fix me or try to speed up my recovery? (Sorry for the rambling)
Hello Kati, I was wondering how does a person deal with a family member deal with someone with dementia or Alzheimer's. Dementia or Alzheimer's is not like bipolar, depression, schizophrenia or other forms of mental illness, but dementia and Alzheimer's does affects a person and is a progressive disease and it affects a person's family. When my grandmother is dying, she acted like someone with dementia. It was very hard to take care of her and she was very resistant to getting help and eating properly. Kati, I was wondering what does the DSM guidebook say about Alzheimer's and dementia?
Hopefully you got an answer, I know it's several months old, but I feel your pain. I was my Mom's caregiver when she was alive. She had Vascular Dementia and passed in 2016. Everything I read and learned from my support group was to keep the frustration levels of the Dementia/Alzheimer's patient as low as possible. My Mom thought we all thought she was crazy because she had hallucinations. I reassured her that just because we didn't see what she did, it didn't mean it wasn't real for her or that she was crazy. Distraction and redirecting (like you would with a little kid). Don't beat yourself up if you're not cleaning house like other family members think you should, focus on keeping your loved one comfortable and stress/frustration free.
#KatiFAQ have you got a video or can you please do a video on conflicts of abuse...e.g. If someone ignores you repeatedly having actually heard you (So much so they ignore you so you say something you know they'd want to respond to and they do 😓) but then later they come up to you and act all lovely and sweet. Polar opposites in behaviour and how to deal with the constant painful switching.
I will have a few videos about that coming out soon :) Also, I have an emotional abuse video you may want to check out. It may help explain what is going on a bit better. xoxo
Kati Morton thank you x
I feel like this Kati ^^^ thanks
You are very welcome! I hope this video was helpful :) xoxo
I feel like I'm in fear and afraid of my reality. I am coming off opiods and slight benzo withdrawal, I'm afraid of detox but I've done it before in rehab and at home. I feel like I'm losing it. I can't connect with my emotions my reality feels distorted, I'm scared and constant panic.
I'm not sure if anyone will reply to this but I think I need further help. I think I need to admit myself.
I can't stop panicking. There isn't a moment I'm not terrified. I'm not me anymore and I'm not here. I've been dissociating for 3 weeks straight now. I need help but no therapist or psych will see me because I'm too sick or not sick enough. I'm exhausted. I want my life back. I'm ready to throw in the towel. This doesn't seem like a battle I'm going to win.
Okay so how do you know you need outpatient? In general like how bad does it have to be?
Daniel rought to be honest usually if you wonder if your issues are 'bad enough' they are. But truth be told I think if you wonder if you need therapy you can just make an appointment. Explain to the therapist you're struggling, but you're not sure if you need it. They'll help you figure it out and tell you, I think you could benefit from therapy or maybe not and give you some tips and tricks.
tbh if you're interested at all in seeing a therapist, you should try it. You don't need to be unwell to go to therapy. Everybody has things in life that they struggle with and therapy can help, even if a person doesn't meet the criteria for having an illness of any sort.
I have to agree with Anne. If you worry that you are need to see someone.. you do. Things don't have to be terrible in order for us to get support. For example, if I find myself crying easily at tv shows or movies.. I know I need to go see my therapist. It could be as simple as that. xoxo
Can you see a therapist anonymously? Or in secret idk
Can therapists make you go into inpatient? Of course I understand that if it's recommended then it's probably in someone's best interest. I also know that I live in the UK so this may be different, but I was wondering if a therapist has the ability to get a Mental Health Act assessment and place you under section so that you have to do go into hospital?
I think they can if you are doing really really bad. I am not quiet sure though.
Kati Do You Know Of Any Inpatient Treatment Centers In California That Accept Medical ? I'm Having Such A Hard Time With That But I Feel Like That's What I Need To Get Better!
I seem to have gotten worse since I've reached out for help. not sure what I'm doing wrong...😕
5:36 What is this that you're talking about? Where are people getting mental health treatment for free? I've called treatment centers and if you don't have insurance.. It's like thousands of dollars. Not everybody has thousands of dollars to just spend per day. I see now this video was made 7 years ago was there like a difference 7 years ago? In Canada or in the US?
Hi Kati!! Happy Thanksgiving!! I just finished 13 days of a partial hospital program. Now eight days out I feel worse than ever. Any ideas why this would happen?? I notice this video is from 6 years ago, and maybe you won’t get my comment. I’ll look to see if you have something more current. 💙
Hey Kati can you do a video about GAD
I am confident that if I had already been hospitalized I wouldn't be suffering so much now. Everything is getting worse and Ive had a major mental breakdown. RIght now, I don't know what to do! I live out of state and i have no one to take care of my pets if I were to be hospitalized also with COVID its not a good idea to be hospitalized! I need a lot of help ... i need medication and i need to talk to a therapist at least daily. Idk what other options i have :( i can't be away from my pets and I'm hesitant to do an outpatient intensive because of the covid risks with being around other people... I'm screwed
How do you get through the shame of feeling depressed? I feel so stupid feeling like this and hate to be a problem with other people especially my husband. I honestly wish every day I could go to sleep and not wake up.
I’m going to tell my parents about my self-harm, but I don’t know if I’ll tell them the extent of how bad it is. I know I should be admitted to a mental hospital, but I don’t want to go. I have so much to do this summer, and I don’t want that to be taken away. I guess it would be if I ended up giving into my urges… I can’t stop thinking about sl*****g my throat, and it’s so bad. I don’t want to feel horrible anymore, I want it to stop.
Ik this is a really late comment, but if anyone sees this, do you know if you have to be
Talking to a therapist first and then be an inpatient or can you just go straight to being an impatient