I LOVE the way you "Scottsplain" the complicated stuff so we "get it." Now when I'm reading I don't understand I try to read it in your voice. It just makes it easier somehow. Thank you.💕
I loved my job as an OB nurse back in the day. I can't count how many times confused patients would ask my opinion before consenting to a procedure/ emergency. I would spend countless hours at the bedside, treating them as family members 💜💜💜
As a U.S. physician trained in the 90's I can say that there was very little emphasis on interpersonal skills. Thank goodness that has been changing, maybe thanks to people like you! I think you would have been a great doctor 😀
The Behavior Panel is so fun and informative, but I love this "personal chat" feeling I get with Scott answering questions in greater detail, and discussing and giving his awesome and entertaining examples. Thank you, Scott!!
My sweet daddy could explain complicated concepts in a way that a small child could understand. Your dad sounded as if he was an awesome person. I love this format since you can reiterate points of body language that I've heard you point out with the behavior panel. Thanks!
I remember yawning in a class at college. The teacher assumed I was trying to send a message of boredom. However, other students in the class came to my help. They explained that I was probably tired from studying half the night. They knew.
Sophia, there are lots of cool theories about yawning. I like the evolutionary theory. That it's a bonding behaviour that pulls the pack together before sleep. Sleep is risky, we switch off to our immediate surroundings and predators. So before we switch off, we yawn to signal our togetherness. I don't know if that is actually true, but l like it. It fits in my experience, we are moving into our dorsal vagal system and we feel safe enough to open our mouths and close our eyes in the company of others. We lived in caves and didn't have the sophisticated language we have now. So yawning was an important signal to relax. If anyone else has another theory of yawning ld love to hear it 🙂👍
Yes 😂, it does seem contagious. It's a group behaviour and group behaviour must have an advantage or it wouldn't have developed in our psychology in the first place 🥰
You had a smart father. The lovely, old fashioned doctor. For the most part, long gone are the days of real personal family doctors. At least where I live. My doctor still wears a face mask - haven’t seen her face since pre Covid.
As I was listening to you tell the story of your Dad explaining how the mind of a psychopath differs from more "normal" minds, but in child's terms, I couldn't help but notice what a great Dad he must be. He listened to your question, took that curiosity seriously and answered you truthfully and in terms you could understand. Just think how different your life might have been if he just pushed you aside, told you he was busy, or made up some quick answer so he could move on with his day. Patience, time and truthfulness is so incredibly important when raising children. Those young years are called formative years for a reason
@@ScottRouse through your integrity and kindness you are quite a testament to your Dad. You might not be able to be present with him but I'm sure he's incredibly proud of you!
Anyone ever tell you that you have a very soothing voice? Must have gotten it from your dad! This old great grandma loves your podcast - always informative.
I say this to my nursing colleagues...how to speak to a patient. Some just don't get it. When you are in a position of power, you already have the upper hand. SO, make the playing field equal. Pts respond differently because they feel more included and in control of their own health.
I’ll be there for lesson!! This is the best educational opportunities right now on the internet! I can credit TBP with lots of my what I learned, and then practiced in my own work the past 3-4 years and I don’t believe I’d be coping now if I did not have this new passion! #ScottRouse #TheBehaviourPanel #TBPPanellist #BritishTBPFam
Hi Scott, not so much a body language issue but a room lay out one. This was about 20 years ago and involved my doctor, who has since retired; she called me in for an urgent meeting regarding my son Ashley’s test results. I knew it wasn’t going to be good news but as I walked in her office, the first thing my eyes were drawn to was her computer screen…..the way her desk was arranged meant her chair was facing the window, so she could see the view outside. I’m a scan reader so my eyes went to the most important words on the screen, Chronic Myeloid Leukaemia. From that split second my world turned upside down. She saw my reaction and we both couldn’t talk for what felt like ages. I would like to think that she moved that office around as soon as I left.
@@mandychadwick8762 thank you I just wanted to say that room layout in a place like that is so important. As for body language, she certainly read my non verbal clues that day!
Some people seem angry when they are in pain. You can't see their pain. So you can't judge how much pain they are in. Some of us with severe chronic pain try our best to push through. We don't mean to be angry but many times, that is how it is exhibited. We can it Pangry - pain+angry.
I have to pull a cool card here thought and say that I went to the behavior panel live event and I have to tell you that your wife is my favorite person I met!!!! Tell her hi and that I said that
One of the things that impresses me is you actually read and respond to comments. Thanks for treating people as equals with value. That is what makes you God's favorite 😉 .
Spot on about doctors. There s a spinal doc in England who has amazing success , even when he can t operate on them . His secret is, he listens to his patients .
Bad vibes….sometimes I sense bad vibes in strangers/encounters with strangers ❤ almost like something unspoken which can be unsettling. Does anyone understand this phenomenon? Thank you Scott
One thing I learned from watching interrogation videos, is that the guilty person's fake emotions will come and go too fast, like one minute they are "crying" (fake crying) and the next minute they are talking normally. Nah, that's not how it works. If someone is really crying it doesn't just disappear when you bring up a new subject. The Amber Heard trial is another great place to study that, she did that a lot throughout the whole trial.
Thank you Scott! Watching your video just now brought back a memory I’d rather forget. I was in a meeting some years ago with several local female politicians. Myself and a couple of other cancer survivors were there to talk about our experiences and how our experience might help others in their fight against the disease. Well, whenever I looked at one of the politicians, I winked at her! I just couldn’t stop myself! It’s not that I was nervous it just kept happening. I was really embarrassed, I had to stop looking at her! She probably thought I was gay! I didn’t have the nerve to apologise to her. I could have said I had a nervous twitch or that it was a reaction to the radio therapy but I just left it there. To this day I still can’t understand why I did that. It’s quite funny really, but I still cringe when I think about it! Great video ❤️
Thanks to Mr. Rouse Sr. and Mr. Rouse Jr., I now better understand BOTH Psychopaths and E=MC squared. (PLUS all the other awesome things shared in here.)
How do you handle a person who “badgers”? Someone who asks you a question and you answer it maybe but not the answer they want. For example they might ask you to do something and your answer is no. And they then ask “why not” and you reply the answer is no. That’s my answer but they won’t leave it. I never know what to do in these kind of situations.
I'd love to know how to handle that too. I know someone who does that to me a lot and it always ends up becoming a huge fight and me feeling burned out after. I'd love to know how to de-esculate that.
Yay Scott! Thanks for hanging out! Vocal fry makes it almost impossible to pay attention to what they're saying! Like a misophonia reaction...almost as bad as someone chewing! *shiver* It makes my face look like this -->
Hi Scott - just love your new channel 😁 I have listened to your knowledge about psychopaths many times and maybe you have an idea about this. Is there anything you can do if you suspect a child is a psychopath? Is it a process you can somehow stop? Dr Kevin Dutton writes about "the good psychopath" - is it possible to direct a kid in that direction? Thank you again for sharing your knowledge ❤
Hey missbrok, have you watched the 10hr compilation on youtube about psychopaths? I have watched it several times and l learn something new each time l watch it. Damn, oor Scott knows those psycho guys! It is well worth watching pal if you havent already 🙂🫡💗💖
Thanks Scott. Fabulous Q & A. Always plenty to learn from! I would love to see you watch a professional NHL Ice Hockey game and figure out which team is going to win?!?
Front of house restaurant/bar/banquet workers have the best body language ever! Communication between workers is mainly done by body language, unspoken language! Also most servers are good body language readers dissecting people even as they are just being seated!! Immediately assessing whether fun people or cranky people! Lots of observations made by food servers just by watching others body language, too!!
The other week there, l watch your show about the boy who murdered his family with his big brother and l could only see how calm he was as he described his actions to the detective. Then you and Greg started talking about disassociation and l realised l had read the kid wrong. So my question is how can we tell the difference between disassociation and calmness?
Hi Scott! I have a question for you, do I need to email you it or can I just put it here? I'll put it here just incase... So when someone confronts me or corrects me, for example I went to an axe throwing game the other day and the guy told me I was holding the axe wrong... my mouth at the edges instantly go downwards and I have to bite my lips to stop it from happening, and then my throat closes up and my mouth goes dry and in that moment I could just cry, but this happens at the littlest of things ha ha ha its so embarrassing, especially when it's happened at work and we've all had our asses whooped for not working to their standard. Can you explain what's going on with my mouth 😂 Thanks Scott
My grandson and I listen to CW music. His new favorite is Ian Tyson from Canada. I think he had damage from illness to his vocal cords later in life and just learned to sing gravelly.
Question: Can body language give away someone who may believe something intensely yet they have no real rationale for believing such a thing? E.g. many people may have thought wearing a mask during a pandemic was "life saving" yet they don't have any scientific basis for it? So, faith vs. belief due to real knowledge. Great show as usual!
Where should we post these questions? Here's one: Where does paying attention to your own body language become an issue, instead of just being yourself? You're being interviewed, and instead of just being honest you come off weird because you're all in your head, thinking about behavior.
Matching and mirroring - do we have any studies on it? I'm curious to know why it seems to be so effective. It obviously triggers something in the brain... what and why? How did we even discover that it works? Hm. I'm going go down a google rabbit hole once I've finished typing here. On another note, a little story for you because I find it interesting. We recently had someone come back to work after a few years away and he's one of those guys who everyone just loves. He stopped working there not long after I started so I didn't know him too well, but everything I ever heard about him was positive. Well, you know what I noticed the other day? Matching and mirroring. A lot of it. I wish I knew whether it was intentional or just something he naturally does, and I wonder if that's also partly why I felt so comfortable around him so quickly. I seem to be noticing it a lot in other people now too, and I'm wondering how I've never noticed it before. This is my fascination of the month.
I grew up in Southeast Alaska. When I went to college in Juneau (90s) we (me, husband, kids) would go to watch Carlos Boozer play when he was in high school. 🎉 JDHS was a rival to my high school in Ketchikan. But JDHS was better 😅
I'm an Australian women . A bloke I knew who was trying to impress me used this vocal fry. One of the most irritating, intolerable sound of the human voice
Our prime minister in Canada is testifying at an interference inquiry. I know it's probably not of interest, but I'd love you to take a go at reading him.
@@ScottRouse So here’s my question. I’m going to shorten it. What do you make of someone pulling on their cheek consistently and aggressively, while talking in a coffee shop? I’ve only seen it happen once. Thanks for asking. 👍🏻
I LOVE the way you "Scottsplain" the complicated stuff so we "get it." Now when I'm reading I don't understand I try to read it in your voice. It just makes it easier somehow. Thank you.💕
That’s awesome. Thank you for telling me that. 🙂
I loved my job as an OB nurse back in the day. I can't count how many times confused patients would ask my opinion before consenting to a procedure/ emergency. I would spend countless hours at the bedside, treating them as family members 💜💜💜
My sweet mama passed almost a month ago. Her greatest lesson was, "Treat your family like friends and your friends like family."
What a wise Mamma!! ❤️
As a U.S. physician trained in the 90's I can say that there was very little emphasis on interpersonal skills. Thank goodness that has been changing, maybe thanks to people like you! I think you would have been a great doctor 😀
The Behavior Panel is so fun and informative, but I love this "personal chat" feeling I get with Scott answering questions in greater detail, and discussing and giving his awesome and entertaining examples. Thank you, Scott!!
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My sweet daddy could explain complicated concepts in a way that a small child could understand. Your dad sounded as if he was an awesome person. I love this format since you can reiterate points of body language that I've heard you point out with the behavior panel. Thanks!
I love this format, really feels like we’re sitting down talking to you. Keep it up! 😍
I remember yawning in a class at college. The teacher assumed I was trying to send a message of boredom. However, other students in the class came to my help. They explained that I was probably tired from studying half the night. They knew.
Sophia, there are lots of cool theories about yawning. I like the evolutionary theory. That it's a bonding behaviour that pulls the pack together before sleep. Sleep is risky, we switch off to our immediate surroundings and predators. So before we switch off, we yawn to signal our togetherness. I don't know if that is actually true, but l like it. It fits in my experience, we are moving into our dorsal vagal system and we feel safe enough to open our mouths and close our eyes in the company of others. We lived in caves and didn't have the sophisticated language we have now. So yawning was an important signal to relax. If anyone else has another theory of yawning ld love to hear it 🙂👍
@@sarahthebowintherain That sounds logical. Oftentimes when one person yawns others also yawn. It's kind of contagious! 🥱🥱🥱
Yes 😂, it does seem contagious. It's a group behaviour and group behaviour must have an advantage or it wouldn't have developed in our psychology in the first place 🥰
thanx Scott. keep it up.
You had a smart father. The lovely, old fashioned doctor. For the most part, long gone are the days of real personal family doctors. At least where I live. My doctor still wears a face mask - haven’t seen her face since pre Covid.
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As I was listening to you tell the story of your Dad explaining how the mind of a psychopath differs from more "normal" minds, but in child's terms, I couldn't help but notice what a great Dad he must be. He listened to your question, took that curiosity seriously and answered you truthfully and in terms you could understand. Just think how different your life might have been if he just pushed you aside, told you he was busy, or made up some quick answer so he could move on with his day. Patience, time and truthfulness is so incredibly important when raising children. Those young years are called formative years for a reason
He was the greatest. I miss him. 👍🙂
@@ScottRouse through your integrity and kindness you are quite a testament to your Dad. You might not be able to be present with him but I'm sure he's incredibly proud of you!
Anyone ever tell you that you have a very soothing voice? Must have gotten it from your dad!
This old great grandma loves your podcast - always informative.
Thank you Kathleen! I really appreciate you telling me that. 🙂
Hi Scott. Thank you for sharing your expertise with us. Great session today and always. Be safe and have a great day 😊
I say this to my nursing colleagues...how to speak to a patient. Some just don't get it. When you are in a position of power, you already have the upper hand. SO, make the playing field equal. Pts respond differently because they feel more included and in control of their own health.
Oh, Scott, you are wearing the hat! ❤ You make my day 😊
He always had that hat when I watched the panel. I thought he was bald and did not want to show it.
@@textrue9088 nope, only when he needs a haircut 🤣
BALD?!?! OH MY LORD!
Judy, you nailed it. 👍
@@judyc9630 hey we’ve all been there 😂 and who doesn’t love a hat 😉
Thanks Scott! Means a lot and I really look forward to these!
I’ll be there for lesson!!
This is the best educational opportunities right now on the internet!
I can credit TBP with lots of my what I learned, and then practiced in my own work the past 3-4 years and I don’t believe I’d be coping now if I did not have this new passion! #ScottRouse #TheBehaviourPanel #TBPPanellist #BritishTBPFam
Yay!
I love the stories about your dad. 🤗 and you're a fantastic storyteller, always such a treat! thank you for doing these Q&A.
Hi Scott, not so much a body language issue but a room lay out one. This was about 20 years ago and involved my doctor, who has since retired; she called me in for an urgent meeting regarding my son Ashley’s test results. I knew it wasn’t going to be good news but as I walked in her office, the first thing my eyes were drawn to was her computer screen…..the way her desk was arranged meant her chair was facing the window, so she could see the view outside. I’m a scan reader so my eyes went to the most important words on the screen, Chronic Myeloid Leukaemia. From that split second my world turned upside down.
She saw my reaction and we both couldn’t talk for what felt like ages.
I would like to think that she moved that office around as soon as I left.
So sorry that you had to face such an emotional situation in that way. Bless you ❤️
@@mandychadwick8762 thank you
I just wanted to say that room layout in a place like that is so important. As for body language, she certainly read my non verbal clues that day!
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I empathise with you for what happened because you shouldn’t have been placed in that situation. ❤️
Sounds like you kicked that !! Good job !!
Some people seem angry when they are in pain. You can't see their pain. So you can't judge how much pain they are in. Some of us with severe chronic pain try our best to push through. We don't mean to be angry but many times, that is how it is exhibited. We can it Pangry - pain+angry.
I have to pull a cool card here thought and say that I went to the behavior panel live event and I have to tell you that your wife is my favorite person I met!!!! Tell her hi and that I said that
I will! Thank you so much. She’s the sweetest thing in the whole world. 🙂
One of the things that impresses me is you actually read and respond to comments. Thanks for treating people as equals with value. That is what makes you God's favorite 😉 .
Thank you so much. I’m getting a lot of great questions in here. 🙂👍
"They got that nerd up in their head" is a new favourite - so, cheers. And thanks for another good one 🙂
Ps. “It’s just… too much” is what socialising feels like most of the time.
Thanks for doing these, they are really fun!
Your voice is so soothing 😊..
Thank you.
Spot on about doctors. There s a spinal doc in England who has amazing success , even when he can t operate on them . His secret is, he listens to his patients .
Thank you!!
Bad vibes….sometimes I sense bad vibes in strangers/encounters with strangers ❤ almost like something unspoken which can be unsettling.
Does anyone understand this phenomenon?
Thank you Scott
Yes, pay attention, closely.
One thing I learned from watching interrogation videos, is that the guilty person's fake emotions will come and go too fast, like one minute they are "crying" (fake crying) and the next minute they are talking normally. Nah, that's not how it works. If someone is really crying it doesn't just disappear when you bring up a new subject. The Amber Heard trial is another great place to study that, she did that a lot throughout the whole trial.
THANK YOU. I'm the nervous fidgetty giggler, and I am enormously relieved that I'm "safe".
Thank you Scott! Watching your video just now brought back a memory I’d rather forget. I was in a meeting some years ago with several local female politicians. Myself and a couple of other cancer survivors were there to talk about our experiences and how our experience might help others in their fight against the disease. Well, whenever I looked at one of the politicians, I winked at her! I just couldn’t stop myself! It’s not that I was nervous it just kept happening. I was really embarrassed, I had to stop looking at her! She probably thought I was gay! I didn’t have the nerve to apologise to her. I could have said I had a nervous twitch or that it was a reaction to the radio therapy but I just left it there. To this day I still can’t understand why I did that. It’s quite funny really, but I still cringe when I think about it! Great video ❤️
Thanks to Mr. Rouse Sr. and Mr. Rouse Jr., I now better understand BOTH Psychopaths and E=MC squared. (PLUS all the other awesome things shared in here.)
How do you handle a person who “badgers”? Someone who asks you a question and you answer it maybe but not the answer they want. For example they might ask you to do something and your answer is no. And they then ask “why not” and you reply the answer is no. That’s my answer but they won’t leave it. I never know what to do in these kind of situations.
I'd love to know how to handle that too. I know someone who does that to me a lot and it always ends up becoming a huge fight and me feeling burned out after. I'd love to know how to de-esculate that.
Yay Scott! Thanks for hanging out! Vocal fry makes it almost impossible to pay attention to what they're saying! Like a misophonia reaction...almost as bad as someone chewing! *shiver* It makes my face look like this -->
Hi Scott - just love your new channel 😁 I have listened to your knowledge about psychopaths many times and maybe you have an idea about this. Is there anything you can do if you suspect a child is a psychopath? Is it a process you can somehow stop? Dr Kevin Dutton writes about "the good psychopath" - is it possible to direct a kid in that direction? Thank you again for sharing your knowledge ❤
Hey missbrok, have you watched the 10hr compilation on youtube about psychopaths? I have watched it several times and l learn something new each time l watch it. Damn, oor Scott knows those psycho guys! It is well worth watching pal if you havent already 🙂🫡💗💖
@@sarahthebowintherain Thank you - I will look for it 😄
Thanks Scott. Fabulous Q & A.
Always plenty to learn from!
I would love to see you watch a professional NHL Ice Hockey game and figure out which team is going to win?!?
Front of house restaurant/bar/banquet workers have the best body language ever! Communication between workers is mainly done by body language, unspoken language! Also most servers are good body language readers dissecting people even as they are just being seated!! Immediately assessing whether fun people or cranky people! Lots of observations made by food servers just by watching others body language, too!!
Hi Scott I am a big Liverpool football fan and always look at the players body language in the tunnel before they walk on the pitch
Awesome, looking forward to it. ❤
Would love to hear some of your singing! Either love or if you directed us to some of your recordings?
I don’t sing. Only backgrounds on whatever I was working on. 👍
@@ScottRouse That should've said "either live"! You're not going to direct us to any of those background vocals tracks, huh? Okay. 😊
But you play!! I'd love to hear your bluegrass sound! My son is a professional musician, and I'm forever telling him the stories you've shared.
@Scott Rouse I purposely avoid talking with my hands because i get freaked out when people watch my hands while I'm talking!
The other week there, l watch your show about the boy who murdered his family with his big brother and l could only see how calm he was as he described his actions to the detective. Then you and Greg started talking about disassociation and l realised l had read the kid wrong. So my question is how can we tell the difference between disassociation and calmness?
@@sarahthebowintherain This is an EXCELLENT question. I am also trying to understand this distinction!
Can’t wait!
Hi Scott! I have a question for you, do I need to email you it or can I just put it here? I'll put it here just incase... So when someone confronts me or corrects me, for example I went to an axe throwing game the other day and the guy told me I was holding the axe wrong... my mouth at the edges instantly go downwards and I have to bite my lips to stop it from happening, and then my throat closes up and my mouth goes dry and in that moment I could just cry, but this happens at the littlest of things ha ha ha its so embarrassing, especially when it's happened at work and we've all had our asses whooped for not working to their standard. Can you explain what's going on with my mouth 😂 Thanks Scott
My grandson and I listen to CW music. His new favorite is Ian Tyson from Canada. I think he had damage from illness to his vocal cords later in life and just learned to sing gravelly.
What episode was that vocal fry where a female did that.. not AH 🤔
Question: Can body language give away someone who may believe something intensely yet they have no real rationale for believing such a thing? E.g. many people may have thought wearing a mask during a pandemic was "life saving" yet they don't have any scientific basis for it? So, faith vs. belief due to real knowledge. Great show as usual!
Wearing a mask to not catch a virus is like using chain link to keep the mosquitoes out.
Where should we post these questions? Here's one: Where does paying attention to your own body language become an issue, instead of just being yourself? You're being interviewed, and instead of just being honest you come off weird because you're all in your head, thinking about behavior.
Email me. BodyLanguageQuestions@gmail.com
What’s the X stand for in behavior X?
Voice Fry, never heard of it, but it explains why my expressions sound like Johnny Depp after watching his entire trial in 2022. ❤
Matching and mirroring - do we have any studies on it? I'm curious to know why it seems to be so effective. It obviously triggers something in the brain... what and why? How did we even discover that it works? Hm. I'm going go down a google rabbit hole once I've finished typing here.
On another note, a little story for you because I find it interesting. We recently had someone come back to work after a few years away and he's one of those guys who everyone just loves. He stopped working there not long after I started so I didn't know him too well, but everything I ever heard about him was positive. Well, you know what I noticed the other day? Matching and mirroring. A lot of it. I wish I knew whether it was intentional or just something he naturally does, and I wonder if that's also partly why I felt so comfortable around him so quickly. I seem to be noticing it a lot in other people now too, and I'm wondering how I've never noticed it before. This is my fascination of the month.
Look into Dr Milton Erickson. 👍
@@ScottRouse legend - thank you!
Currently I've only got as far as mirror neurons and now, an AANS page explaining the anatomy of the brain.
Tennis games you can tell who's gonna win from their entrances onto the court, usually.
Do you think that some people are just naturally good (or bad) at reading body language and can these people be trained in the skills required?
I grew up in Southeast Alaska.
When I went to college in Juneau (90s) we (me, husband, kids) would go to watch Carlos Boozer play when he was in high school. 🎉 JDHS was a rival to my high school in Ketchikan.
But JDHS was better 😅
Vocal fry is when the false vocal chords are engaged in conjunction with the vocal chords. Many American wome. seem to think it sounds cool.
I'm an Australian women . A bloke I knew who was trying to impress me used this vocal fry. One of the most irritating, intolerable sound of the human voice
Our prime minister in Canada is testifying at an interference inquiry. I know it's probably not of interest, but I'd love you to take a go at reading him.
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I give up! My question must be too simple. 😂
@@Critical.Thinker compliment?
What was the question? I have a bunch of them and it may be in the next video.
@@ScottRouse So here’s my question. I’m going to shorten it. What do you make of someone pulling on their cheek consistently and aggressively, while talking in a coffee shop? I’ve only seen it happen once. Thanks for asking. 👍🏻
How does your wife deal with your skills?😉
She’s a P.I. She gets me. 🙂
@@ScottRouse You know, that is kind of funny. Cuts down on a lot of "what's wrong" conversations.
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