Charles Spencer reveals he was sexually abused at age 11

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  • Charles Spencer, Princess Diana’s brother, is causing shockwaves with the details in his new book, “A Very Private School,” that alleges abuse against children attending the all-boys boarding school Maidwell Hall. He opens up to NBC’s Cynthia McFadden in an TODAY exclusive about his own trauma. Warning: Some of what he shares is deeply upsetting.
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  • @DebraSuttondls
    @DebraSuttondls 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +438

    Just because a person grows up with privilege does not mean a person is protected from abuse. It is very disturbing. Parents think their children are in good hands, and they are being abused. I’m glad he had the courage to speak out about this.

    • @annabellefritton
      @annabellefritton 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      yep! and privileged people often receive more prejudice than the average Joe...it's all an illusion.

    • @Sea-xr8zd
      @Sea-xr8zd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      My uncle went to an all-boys private boarding school (in a Commonwealth country, the school was run by the British) and the stories he told me were shocking, profoundly heartbreaking and infuriating. These types of schools need strict and rigorous monitoring to protect students, far more than the day-schools. All-girls boarding schools were not much better.

    • @marilynmalone7238
      @marilynmalone7238 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      100% , I personally never trusted anyone with my children,not even family ! I grew up seeing what can happen when no one is paying attention !

    • @jackiebennett3762
      @jackiebennett3762 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Members of family are also abusers. Who would think there mother was sexually abusing their grandchild

    • @earlofwickshire5416
      @earlofwickshire5416 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And to think Diana did this to him, too. It's just all so awful.

  • @nothankyounextbye
    @nothankyounextbye 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +319

    Proud of him for telling his story. It’s not easy.

  • @carolwilson2713
    @carolwilson2713 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +425

    Why separate children from their family at an age when they are not prepared in any way to protect themselves from malignant bullying or sexually inappropriate behavior of others?

    • @peterlawrence6815
      @peterlawrence6815 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      Boarding schools

    • @blahblah4129
      @blahblah4129 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      1. Brits
      2. No maternal/paternal instinct
      3. Societal pressure to have a child/children

    • @blahblah4129
      @blahblah4129 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      This can also happen when kids have nannies/ go to nurseries.

    • @ainekearney9041
      @ainekearney9041 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Their british, once it was important for them to be brutal to run an empire. Now not so much.

    • @kierieburton6779
      @kierieburton6779 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      ​@ainekearney9041 it's more about social class or this was the case once. Nothing to do with being British at all. The vast majority of Brits don't and haven't gone to boarding school. These are norms reserved for the upper class and aristocratic families. I assume they thought boarding school would make "men" out of these boys. Sort of training to be like their fathers and grandfathers. And it would have been the norm simply because their fathers, brothers, uncles had all also gone to boarding school... often the same boarding school. And yes, as someone else commented - there was pressure to have children if you married into one of these families. Women were unprepared to be maternal and it was not allowed. The norm amongst the upper-class was to have a nanny and then boarding school. So even fathers couldn't protect their children. Even if the parents had experienced the same abuse - which was probably common.... It would have been unfortunately a sort of normal that isn't spoken about. As he says they were encouraged not to "tell tales". Men in general, the world over have more historically been encouraged to bottle up emotion and keep secrets to themselves. Anything else would be considered unmanly. And amongst anyone who has suffered abuse, abusers always instill the fear in their victims that they will never be believed.

  • @mickidonahue4038
    @mickidonahue4038 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +344

    Before anyone spoke about such things, predators had it so easy, especially in boarding schools. Awful

    • @lynnhubbard844
      @lynnhubbard844 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      and families

    • @johnnycage3881
      @johnnycage3881 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      And the female ones especially.

    • @honeybunch5765
      @honeybunch5765 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      True. You hear people say it is happening more often now. No, we are only hearing about it more often now due to the Internet.

    • @mona2242
      @mona2242 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      In one ‘s own family as well as in a church environment.

    • @sophiaelayne9984
      @sophiaelayne9984 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Catholic schools. Evil.

  • @Gaeliclass
    @Gaeliclass 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +170

    I'm so sorry, Charles. You are brave enough to speak out.
    Thank you.

    • @harshanid3636
      @harshanid3636 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@markentwist
      Yes, and the increase in revenue from Althorp tours.

    • @MTknitter22
      @MTknitter22 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@harshanid3636 yes. They like these other titled families with giant estates to support (and fewer crowds willing to pay high fees to tour) are in need of money. Book and book tour soon. This was the first PR move. I pray the poor man is serious about moving forward toward ACCOUNTABILITY and will not protect the school where this happened.

    • @Noelpage9569
      @Noelpage9569 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Like Harry, Charles is speaking his truth.

    • @user-se1ev7my6f
      @user-se1ev7my6f หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Noelpage9569Harry is spewing his lies

  • @zahiarizk4612
    @zahiarizk4612 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    My heart goes out to all the boys now men who were tortured and abused. Anyone responsible who is still alive must be brought to justice. Such courage to tell his story

  • @carolynm8350
    @carolynm8350 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +209

    Parents protect your kids. It only takes one time to damage a child's life. Don't trust anyone with your child.

    • @cherylwebb8340
      @cherylwebb8340 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      You are so right 😢

    • @fingerprint5511
      @fingerprint5511 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But TV, social media is ok for children. ok

    • @mitsverdi5832
      @mitsverdi5832 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Social workers & therapists often push parents to let their kids visit other friends' homes. There, your children are often unsupervised. The price of freedom 😢😢

    • @LRyan-li9wr
      @LRyan-li9wr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Don't even trust close relatives

    • @esperanzawanjiru2435
      @esperanzawanjiru2435 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      they themselves can be abusers too. God protect all children of the world

  • @clisediagonzalez5010
    @clisediagonzalez5010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +186

    Terribly disturbing truth. Raise your children at home. They are no trophies. 😢😢.

    • @MTknitter22
      @MTknitter22 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yes.

    • @expatmoose
      @expatmoose 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yes let’s wrap them in cotton wool and protect them from a breath of wind or we can teach our children that they can stand up to such people, they can talk to their parents about such things, it’s very very wrong that such things happen, unfortunately it happens almost everywhere, people need to keep their eyes open and just talk to their kids, when theres the bond that should be there between kids and parents or grand parents ( be honest not all kids have it, Charles shows that) then we’ve the possibility to protect them

    • @startracker5895
      @startracker5895 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@expatmooseboarding schools should never have been invented. It’s nothing to do with wrapping them in cotton wool. It’s about looking after your own kids and not give them away to school so you can have a break from them! You choose to have kids so it’s your responsibility to look after them. Not to send them away.

    • @expatmoose
      @expatmoose 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@startracker5895 I never mentioned that boarding schools are wrapping In Cotton wool, I was referring to the comment of keeping them home, kids have to learn to be independent, we can not take that away but like I mentioned in my comment and I think we both agree that parents are responsible for making their kids strong and alert to protect them from the likes of the those who feel themselves in authority to damage a child, if you put you hand on your heart I bet you could tell me at least 10 times when you ve been out and about in the last 20 years(depending on your age) that you’ve seen parents daddling on the phone instead of paying attention to their child/ren,,,, I’m not saying they should pamper every whim god forbid but some parents need to pay more attention, they may then find out from their children’s behavior if/when somethings wrong,,,, a child should also never ever feel scared to talk to their parents, obviously Charles was,,, that’s wrong imo

    • @Mftjan2000
      @Mftjan2000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Are you aware that MUCH of the time, the abusers ARE in the familiy???? EVIL people can have children!

  • @tanschi8449
    @tanschi8449 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    This gives even more sense to the fact that Princess Diana decided that her children would not be sent boarding school. Good for her and the Spencers

    • @bearkiels9032
      @bearkiels9032 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Eton is a boarding school. Check your facts.

    • @tanschi8449
      @tanschi8449 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bearkiels9032 Charles Spencer was sent to boarding school when he was 8 years old, Prince William was 13. That´s a 5 year difference. And a world of difference between a child and a teenager

  • @lourdeswright
    @lourdeswright 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +108

    This is the saddest thing I’ve heard in a long, long time and it goes to show you, even the privileged are not safe from predators & abusers . He’s very strong and brave for exposing the evildoers.

  • @SunflowerHeather
    @SunflowerHeather 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +97

    This is so important for awareness. Many boys suffering in silence .Thank you Sir.

    • @rebeccamorrison8150
      @rebeccamorrison8150 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      girls too

    • @lizarobinson189
      @lizarobinson189 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes they do...and because it is another male in most cases they struggle with their sexuality....
      I like your comment ...I was abused ...
      U can totally tell who was and wasn't by comments...
      I think he is showing us ...status doesn't matter...peodafiles have no preference with that and I think think Charles is so brave to do this...I admire him for it....
      I'm not a Brit so don't really get the social standing on all things British but I do get that abuse is abuse...a child is a child...money can't save or fix anything so it's irrelevant

  • @ChristineMercyJ
    @ChristineMercyJ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I am thankful he is speaking out. My boarding school years still haunt me to this day. British private boarding schools need to be shut down. When my son was born I was adamant he would never be exposed to what I’d endured and boarding school was on the banned list! It’s very painful to talk about and the visible and invisible scars NEVER fade or leave.

    • @ggunga7764
      @ggunga7764 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Agree.boarding should be illegal!

  • @laurenjohns1496
    @laurenjohns1496 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    This is a really good example of how abuse can become a culture within an institution. Normal people facilitate child abuse with their silence. He also encapsulates the feelings of guilt, confusion and self blame that the victims go through. I hope more people come forward.

  • @irefi64
    @irefi64 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Boarding school is vile. No child should be torn away from its parents before age 16 at least, in my opinion. I was not even abused at mine, but leaving my family at the age of 11 was miserable and traumatic enough to mark me for life. My parents loved me, their intentions were good, they had been through the same experience themselves, and I had a good education. However, I am 60 this year and only a few years ago did I stop having recurring, anxiety-riven dreams of being stuck alone in the dormitory. I can't begin to imagine what it would have been like being abused on top of that. Children should stay with their parents and go to day schools.

  • @tinynijman9077
    @tinynijman9077 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Well done Charles Spencer for speaking out. It sounds truly shocking 👍💚

  • @Deborah4Antiques
    @Deborah4Antiques 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    I get furious when I hear of child abuse. Leave the kids alone!!!

    • @iluop3623
      @iluop3623 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      We don't need no education😅

    • @maryk446
      @maryk446 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wonder why Earl Spencer didn't title his book "Just another brick in the wall...."

  • @carolking6355
    @carolking6355 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    The blame should start with the parents. I too was sent to boarding school at 8 about that time. I was bullied mercilessly as were others. I believe it scars you for life. I only had 2 years but would pray every night that God would take me to heaven in the night.

    • @cherylwebb8340
      @cherylwebb8340 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      That's awful. I'm so sorry 😢

    • @anaceliazapata9612
      @anaceliazapata9612 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm so sad that a child had to experience what you described. Blessings 😢

  • @jasminelee1234
    @jasminelee1234 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +118

    I think people forget how much upper class people can suffer. Often brought up by Nannies, shown little love from their families and exposed to private school paedos. This is very sad and he is brave to speak out ❤

    • @blahblah4129
      @blahblah4129 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      These are not public school by any means. They are incredibly expensive private schools.

    • @clairecarscallen2925
      @clairecarscallen2925 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      @@blahblah4129In the UK, for some reason, private schools are called public schools.

    • @yvrkid7070
      @yvrkid7070 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@blahblah4129 Public schools charge fees and state schools are government funded in the UK.

    • @gwendolynsmith9532
      @gwendolynsmith9532 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I would guess that children who might have spoken out would not be believed. Or if they WERE believed, the offenders were quickly dismissed and sent out of reach. It does make me wonder how the institutions managed to keep the victims quiet.

    • @snowmountain2007
      @snowmountain2007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      * nannies

  • @WonderWoman48
    @WonderWoman48 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    If he was abused, there's a high probability that the same could have happened to Diana.

    • @dimples2000
      @dimples2000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      I think so too . 😢😢😢

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      It would certainly explain a lot.

    • @JY-tq8dr
      @JY-tq8dr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I thought the same thing

    • @mona2242
      @mona2242 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      My exact thought. It would explain why Diana had a history of eating disorder . 😢

    • @sisterpacifica
      @sisterpacifica 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      😢😢😢

  • @ladyhawk5245
    @ladyhawk5245 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +313

    Unfortunately this is all too common and not just in boys schools.

    • @laurenmay2098
      @laurenmay2098 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      Churches, schools, inside their own home, by relatives. It is common, unfortunately.

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      It's demonic and it's everywhere. 😢

  • @neal6805
    @neal6805 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    *I’m glad to hear him opening up about such a taboo issue.*

  • @mosimosi630
    @mosimosi630 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +106

    I love this guy he fought for his sister and nephews when no one else wouldn’t

    • @helenan7368
      @helenan7368 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      Sure... he denied his sister a place in his home on her last summer, to enjoy quiet holidays with the boys without the nosy press. He had agreed and at the last moment he said no. She then accepted to go to Dodi's yacht.

    • @cherrytraveller5915
      @cherrytraveller5915 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Unfortunately that was a lie.

    • @PC-dc1kv
      @PC-dc1kv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@helenan7368. Right. I believe they weren’t on speaking terms at the time of her death.

    • @Tia-Louisa
      @Tia-Louisa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      He didn't get on with Diana. FACT.

    • @coffeehead68
      @coffeehead68 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Absolute rubbish

  • @Mftjan2000
    @Mftjan2000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    I am so proud of Charles for telling his story.

  • @ourfloridagarden4191
    @ourfloridagarden4191 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    That’s why most people don’t send their children to boarding school unfortunately. It’s still going on. It is important for Charles to share this because there has to be a way to protect children from these horrors.

    • @MTknitter22
      @MTknitter22 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Unless Charles accuses those who were to blame, none of this does any good for anyone else.

    • @startracker5895
      @startracker5895 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@MTknitter22they’re probably all dead now anyway.

    • @meredithisme3752
      @meredithisme3752 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm sure I saw an interview in which they were named but the monsters are dead. Hopefully more speak up

    • @ggunga7764
      @ggunga7764 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Why will parents send Thier Children boarding school??why have them in the first place? And give them a miserable life

  • @user-se5nj8fz9u
    @user-se5nj8fz9u 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    This is shocking. Who'd have believed this could possibly happen. It's good he is talking.

    • @edelharrison1923
      @edelharrison1923 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Having visited Altorp , many years ago ,It gave me an insight into grandour of emptiness, How could their Mother leave at a time when they needed her most. Sadly she put her own needs first,and let her children down...Heartless he didn't have the love and Comfort.
      Very Honest Man! Now he has found love in the Arms of a Beautiful woman, ❤

  • @bunkertons
    @bunkertons 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +119

    That's sad. He lost his sister in such a public way, and then this. ❤ He's brave!

    • @NuraCaicedo-xh2ok
      @NuraCaicedo-xh2ok 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😢

    • @lynnhubbard844
      @lynnhubbard844 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      he said he also vomited like his sister

    • @dspenceruk
      @dspenceruk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@lynnhubbard844He also said that this was caused by the abuse he was enduring.

  • @susanmarie2231
    @susanmarie2231 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I am grateful for Spencer’s honesty in sharing his trauma and I hope this will help others to get therapy for their own trauma.

  • @molliwilson5639
    @molliwilson5639 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    This took a lot of courage for Charles to come forward with his abuse

  • @angelaholmes8888
    @angelaholmes8888 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    Charles is truly brave to tell what he went through i hope this will help other male survivors

  • @rabblerousin8981
    @rabblerousin8981 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Thank you for coming forward.
    I’m a survivor and as horrific as this is it makes me feel somehow better that even the queen’s godson isn’t immune. I’m horrified this happened to him and can’t imagine the compounded trauma of all the erasure I’m sure he’s faced - my trauma is more about my family’s utter failure to care than about the actual assaults - but it does mean a lot to know that it isn’t just people in the gutters getting abused and thrown away. It happens to royalty too.
    Society is sick.

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The root of this is demonic. They pass from perpetrator to the victim during the act.
      They latch on to the person and subtly manipulate them in a multitude of ways.
      Most who do this have had the same experience. Some cry bc they dont want to do it but they can't stop.
      I watch Alex Rosen who becomes Gordon Flowers and does an amazing job.
      People need to know that demons exist. This is not normal human behavior.

    • @clisediagonzalez5010
      @clisediagonzalez5010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Dr. GABOR MATE, SPEAKS WORDS OF WISDOM AND INSIGHT INTO THE EFFECTS OF EARLY CHILDHOOD TRAUMA, the death of innocence at an early age followed by the abandonment of parents and teachers kills the spirit. God bless the child that's got his own. Protect the children.

  • @gigieyre
    @gigieyre 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    It doesn't matter if one grows up with extreme privilege. You still can receive sympathy for having to endure such a horrible trauma.

    • @blahblah4129
      @blahblah4129 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Agree. Everyone has a trauma, just a different kind.

  • @jairenesereno4519
    @jairenesereno4519 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    I’m very proud of him for coming out and revealing his truth. You’ll help many people with this brave story!

  • @katjaxxx7353
    @katjaxxx7353 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    much respect for opening up. traumatising

  • @Victoria-hz3gx
    @Victoria-hz3gx 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

    I ADMIRE YOUR COURAGE TO TALK. VERY PROUD OF YOU.

    • @MTknitter22
      @MTknitter22 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Perpetrators NOT BEING NAMED, school not being named and so, THEY CONTINUE TO GET AWAY WITH IT. There is no speaking out to help others, etc. without fighting for ACCOUNTABILITY. Spencer not outting who and where and when does NOTHING.

    • @Victoria-hz3gx
      @Victoria-hz3gx 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@MTknitter22 Very true. In his position, it would cause more harm than good and the perps are probably dead and judged. I get your valid point 100% x

  • @AngelaGore-oy5du
    @AngelaGore-oy5du 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Charles Spencer is incredibly courageous in speaking out.

  • @ninavongunten122
    @ninavongunten122 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    It took a lot of courage for Charles Spencer to come forward with his story.
    My heart goes out to the victims of these horrible crimes. May God Bless them & touch with His healing power & grace.

  • @flippinmentalproductions9990
    @flippinmentalproductions9990 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    Such bravery speaking out

  • @KatrinRuth
    @KatrinRuth 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I am so sad that this happened to you and all the other children. Be proud that you had the courage and vulnerability to share your story, it will help others, so they too can go on a journey of healing and reclaim the broken parts of themselves. I have the deepest admiration for you.

  • @redwoods7370
    @redwoods7370 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Earl Spencer is very brave to do this. Child abuse needs to stop on this planet. God bless him.

  • @kathleensmith8365
    @kathleensmith8365 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    This may be part of what has motivated the Princess of Wales to buck the system about George being sent off to school in the next year or two. Earl Spencer should be commended publically for speaking up and naming names.

  • @deoneforpeace
    @deoneforpeace 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    We can see Mr Spencer pouring out His Heart for Children....Very touching.....Maybe the start of something....THANK YOUUUU....TOGETHER IN OUR HEARTSSS AND PRAYERS FOREVER 🙏 💞 💖

  • @MochiColorsZanos
    @MochiColorsZanos 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +137

    Absolutely disgusting!! But the parents are to blame here. How can you leave your small children in the care of strangers?

    • @clisediagonzalez5010
      @clisediagonzalez5010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      No blaming. It's a lifestyle. Little Prince was just sent away to school while Mama was missing. Affection is for the birds.

    • @jules1728
      @jules1728 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      This could happen to anyone anywhere. Hospital doctors and nurses, teachers, instructors etc. it happened to a girl here by a karate instructor, I don’t blame the parents it’s just things you never expect. You just always have to teach your child to communicate and know right from wrong

    • @MochiColorsZanos
      @MochiColorsZanos 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      @jules1728 You're joking, right? You're going to compare taking your child to a regular school, the doctor's office, etc to literally sending away your child to a boarding school where you basically have no contact with them, especially back in those days. You are literally handing your child over. Don't compare. That's just stupid.

    • @blahblah4129
      @blahblah4129 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      It's a cold-hearted British culture. These boarding schools also exist in the States, especially common in the north-east.

    • @butreally289
      @butreally289 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Most parent do that nearly every day. We leave them with Kindergarten teachers, school teachers, school bus drivers, trainers, coaches, etc.

  • @heidilady
    @heidilady 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    This explains a lot about what happened at boarding schools and indigenous children.

    • @clisediagonzalez5010
      @clisediagonzalez5010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Protective Services' oversight of public as well as private institutions has to be the law. This abuse is all too common. Schools, orphanages, and nursing homes come with a gross history of institutional neglect and abuse. It's shocking!

    • @Inquisitor2024
      @Inquisitor2024 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I doubt this happened btw

    • @meredithisme3752
      @meredithisme3752 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Anyone born in a country is indigenous

  • @jillfoley6834
    @jillfoley6834 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I’ve always felt a connection to Diana, since we had similar childhood experiences. It doesn’t matter if you have more money, abuse and being abandoned by your Mother is something that separates you from the “Norm.” I had no idea what Charles endured. I’m so sick of abusers, they can be your Managers too! I hope people start reporting abuse and stop suffering in silence.

  • @notabene2677
    @notabene2677 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I know exactly how he feels. Profound trauma...Bless him for opening up this way ❤

  • @Cristinact
    @Cristinact 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Poor man... it used to be so common in those schools. I hope he's had time to heal as best as he can.

    • @jacquelinewilliams5661
      @jacquelinewilliams5661 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think its called acceptance rather than healing.

  • @silentnight9655
    @silentnight9655 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    I'm sorry he experienced that but glad he has exposed the problem. Charles was a bit of a tearaway as a youngster - he and his young friends used to get into fist fights and what not. Pent up frustrations no doubt.
    Unfortunately there is xxxual/physical/psychological abuse in all institutions be they boarding schools, prisons, nunneries or church schools, etc.
    Paedos and sadists will gravitate to such places. Unfortunately!

    • @meredithisme3752
      @meredithisme3752 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Also police and clubs with children

  • @lydiapicano8806
    @lydiapicano8806 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    This is so terribly sad.

  • @RoseSharon7777
    @RoseSharon7777 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I can't believe parents send their children to boarding school. Why even have them if you're not going to raise them yourself. Its absolutely a terrible tradition especially in Britain.

  • @alidabotes6264
    @alidabotes6264 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I'm so pleased you had therapy. It's disgusting what you had to go through as a developing child. I pray no other child has to experience it bc you had the guts to tell your story. Kudos.

  • @JimmiAlli
    @JimmiAlli 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    He seems very down to earth for an aristocrat. Good on him. 😊

    • @butreally289
      @butreally289 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Like Diana!

  • @angieanddeb
    @angieanddeb 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Thank you for sharing your story, Charles Spencer

  • @christinacampbell4422
    @christinacampbell4422 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Well done to speak up. I wish more would!

  • @Dhruv_Dogra
    @Dhruv_Dogra 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hats off to any man or woman who speaks out and exposes this terrible tragedy so many children suffer all over the world 🌎

    • @tessdurberville711
      @tessdurberville711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And continue to suffer when "victims" keep it to themselves.

  • @InvisibleWarrior279
    @InvisibleWarrior279 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    ANY environments that are isolated, unaccountable, and don’t have proper channels for reporting abuse are hunting grounds for predators. Thankfully it seems like many of these situations are finally coming out of the shadows.

  • @NuraCaicedo-xh2ok
    @NuraCaicedo-xh2ok 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Just listening to to this just making me cry I'm so sorry you went through this my heart is broken for you😢😢😢😢

  • @high_maintenance
    @high_maintenance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    God bless him and anyone else who went through this ❤

  • @CaesarAugustus.
    @CaesarAugustus. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    He let that ferment inside for 30 years? Omg.

    • @lizarobinson189
      @lizarobinson189 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Average years someone from that era... I am one ...born in 72....
      We didn't have a choice...it was taboo...
      It's hard and isolating to live with....omg yes...shocking but true and common

  • @paulinehouston3556
    @paulinehouston3556 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This happened to my brother, he was sent to boarding school in North Wales, during 1970's. He started there aged 8 years old because that's what male members of the family did. He never told me about the abuse, I found out via someone else, many years later, when he took his own life. I think boarding schools are expensive orphanages and they shouldn't be allowed to operate. They harbour paedo's , who rule through violence and fear. Thank- You to Lord Spencer, for being so courageous and making this public and therefore not a hidden secret. I hope that by speaking out, you will make these predators, afraid !

    • @PLuMUK54
      @PLuMUK54 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am sorry for your loss.

    • @lizarobinson189
      @lizarobinson189 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm sorry about your brother ...I'm a 52 year old woman...I was 10 and not in an institution....but I teared up when I got to the part that your brother took his own life... it is commendable that you are being his voice...sending peace and love ....may your brother r.i.p

    • @P55999
      @P55999 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This happened in the 70's so there probably all dead. Its too bad he didn't speak up earlier but sadly there is a taboo about talking about SA. My own family has disowned me for speaking about my own abuse by a family member!

  • @Mftjan2000
    @Mftjan2000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    It is very possible Diana was also abused.

    • @startracker5895
      @startracker5895 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Wouldn’t be surprised as she was so troubled even before she was married. Eating disorders and self harming.

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      This would explain many of Diana's behavior. The stress brought out many troubles from her past and no one knew why she was acting that way.
      And then her husband treated her terribly for it.

    • @Mftjan2000
      @Mftjan2000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lorimiller4301 I knew! I work with abuse survivors. People didn't "know" because the media and people in POWER didn't want them to know!

    • @tinamartina1801
      @tinamartina1801 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😮

  • @suzannemckitterick2781
    @suzannemckitterick2781 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    So powerful.Brave soul, Charles.Thank you.

  • @claudiagallardo9524
    @claudiagallardo9524 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It’s extremely sad. I hope he’s healed.

  • @user-ii1pt5vq3e
    @user-ii1pt5vq3e 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    There aren't enough words to express how sad I am to know that he and others were subjected to such treatment. Tears are streaming down my face. How frightening! I feel a real sense of grief for him. I'm glad though, that he was able to seek out therapy. I pray that this wound has healed.
    🙏💙

  • @valorieallen8502
    @valorieallen8502 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Sad, I hope Mr. Spencer has found some peace!

  • @nickygarrett5067
    @nickygarrett5067 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Terrible like all children who have been abused, full of shame and robbed of their childhood innocence.

  • @maryearll3359
    @maryearll3359 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    It's not a little red jacket - It's a blazer worn as part of a school uniform

  • @linedanzer4302
    @linedanzer4302 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Are any of those predators still around? If so, justice can still be served. It's horrendous to think that some grown woman is forcing herself upon an 11-year old boy. Just think of the confusion and dysfunction she planted in his head - which follows him around to this day.

    • @tessdurberville711
      @tessdurberville711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maidwell Hall is an all boys boarding school. Male teachers, male instructors, male staff.

  • @lizsmith3132
    @lizsmith3132 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I am very sorry to hear. 😢

  • @simplifyhandles
    @simplifyhandles 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This is why no matter how elite an education supposedly is, when you have groups of vulnerable children there are always predators nearby. Other children can also be predators. It shouldn’t be shocking, but thankfully people, and more men in positions of power are coming forward to warn of these abuses. He’s done us a huge service and I hope he feels that way, I hope all survivors feel that way when they share their story.

  • @salzwell25
    @salzwell25 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My dad was at a boarding school from a very young age. He's told us about the abuse that went on there.

  • @cheribee968
    @cheribee968 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    It’s helpful that men are speaking up

  • @oc2538
    @oc2538 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    So heartless of parents to send their 8 year old to boarding schools. Who does that to their child? Unable to see if they are smiling at the end of the day.

    • @taniacummings9207
      @taniacummings9207 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No running home with paintings for Mummy to stick on the fridge and given a thank you cuddle before tea.

  • @eviemc
    @eviemc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I could never send my child away at that young age, OMG, NO.😪.

  • @stephanypasnin1474
    @stephanypasnin1474 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    My daughter was sexually abused by her father , my ex husband for over a year when she was 9 /10. She told me when she was 16 . Hes now in prison. Shes left traumatized and deeply affected . This will affect her her whole life Why do people do this to kids. I dont get it.

    • @johnnycage3881
      @johnnycage3881 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Part of the blame goes to the abomination that is the p..rn industry. Some, not all cases.

    • @watchtellyinuk
      @watchtellyinuk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Is your keyboard missing the apostrophe? 😩

    • @safiakausar3792
      @safiakausar3792 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Did you not see anything odd???

    • @butreally289
      @butreally289 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Well done for believing her, so many women choose to believe their partner.

    • @margaretmunce1501
      @margaretmunce1501 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My daughter was abused by her cousin on numerous occasions, and I also believe by her father… my ex husband. It was away from my presence. So I couldn’t protect her.
      There’s generational CSA within that family.
      She’s never been right even as an adult.

  • @shamrock4500
    @shamrock4500 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    A brave man to come forward.

  • @816Lynnie
    @816Lynnie 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    How horrific, sorry for what happened to you as a young boy 🙏🙏🙏

  • @SusanBLochocki
    @SusanBLochocki 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    It's good that he came out and said these things it will help this generation and other Generations speak about the horrors of going to boarding school. And that's exactly it the best love is from Mom and Dad sending your kids away to school is a nightmare it's time to create family again

  • @elaineborthwick989
    @elaineborthwick989 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    it's common 'knowledge' but rarely confirmed -- well done for speaking up.

  • @caramelbilquees
    @caramelbilquees 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

    He should name & shame the person and put a LAWSUIT on them. Not right he hasn't outed the man. He probably went on to abuse thousands of young boys as he has never been outed, named & shamed he's had no repurcussions, accountability

    • @silentnight9655
      @silentnight9655 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      May even be ded by now but should be named.

    • @Danko31
      @Danko31 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He did name one of them, he said it was the school headmaster who was a wicked p*d* ​@@silentnight9655

    • @Xiroi87
      @Xiroi87 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      Maybe you should watch the video before commenting. He says it was a woman.

    • @smoutube1197
      @smoutube1197 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      It's a woman i think a lot of people think only men abuse or boys enjoy it when their abused by females not to say thats what you were saying but just to put out men can be victims too

    • @lynnhubbard844
      @lynnhubbard844 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@Xiroi87 also the headmaster

  • @EnqlishRoses69
    @EnqlishRoses69 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Absolutely horrible and disgusting!! Poor Charles and the rest of the boys.🙏

  • @mandysmith1337
    @mandysmith1337 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very brave to speak out. It happens everywhere in every society and all types of schools and homes.

  • @LUNA_1111
    @LUNA_1111 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I can’t say I’m surprised! Boarding schools raising your children is no different than orphanages for a higher social demographic. Also no different from the catholic schools where many of the priests abused the children. Those type of individuals go where they can feed their sick behavior & stay undercover as long as possible. Sounds like Mr. Spencer is getting the help he needs cuz he speaking out.. and speaking your truth in whatever way you can so the abuse no longer has control over you is part of the healing process. Speaking from my own personal journey 🤷‍♀️ Much love Mr Spencer from a fellow survivor ❤

  • @martinkrukenberg4590
    @martinkrukenberg4590 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    there were many abused and still are

  • @ceebee4750
    @ceebee4750 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Bravo, thank you for sharing your story!

  • @honeybunch5765
    @honeybunch5765 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    So sad and very sick.😢

  • @elisabethschwartz160
    @elisabethschwartz160 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Charles Spencer and Lady Diana were the youngest children and were living with their Mother in London for one year when she left their Father and the other daughters. She married and moved to Australia in 1969 when they were little, so their Father an alcoholic couldn't raise them properly and that's why Charles was send to boarding scholl. They had a disfunction family. Their maternal grandmother tertified against her own daughter during their divorce and she had to leave her children behind. That also explain why Lady Diana wanted her boys to grow up differently!
    I feel sorry for Charles Spencer !

  • @ginchen33
    @ginchen33 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As a mother I cannot imagine sending my child off to boarding school at age 8, have never understood this practice. I am convinced that a loving middle class childhood is still the best way for children to grow up.

  • @Katwoman4318
    @Katwoman4318 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Touchy-feely happens everywhere. Tell a trusted person.

  • @LexingtonB09
    @LexingtonB09 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Someone I know that went to boarding school in England and he said that the first year he was there, he was about 7 years old and the first 6 weeks they aren’t even allowed to call their parents. That’s the rule so that the transition is “easier”. I couldn’t believe it! I mean could a predator ask for better circumstances?

  • @thesisterhoodhub
    @thesisterhoodhub 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you Charles for being so courageous and speaking up about this heinous crime, this will help so many others to come forward, talk about it and get help to heal, especially the men!

    • @tessdurberville711
      @tessdurberville711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      50 years too late. How many other boys lost their innocence while Charles Spencer kept silent.

  • @agnes14ish
    @agnes14ish 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    So sorry Charles much healing from another survivor 🙏🏾

  • @polynesia8733
    @polynesia8733 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Very courageous..candid...how very sad..did Diana know?

  • @SB-iz8sz
    @SB-iz8sz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you for sharing. Bless you🙏

  • @MNP208
    @MNP208 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    Why is anyone surprised that this happened? Remember King George’s experience?

    • @katjaxxx7353
      @katjaxxx7353 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      no, what was it?

    • @MNP208
      @MNP208 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      @@katjaxxx7353 His nanny was abusing him which ultimately led to his stutter.

    • @Wowwwzaaa
      @Wowwwzaaa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      ⁠@@MNP208wow! I didn’t know that and I’ve watched plenty documentaries about the royals. Do you have the link please?

    • @ME-gz8yi
      @ME-gz8yi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      ​@@Wowwwzaaa Apparently his nanny would pinch the heck out of him right before his parents, George V & Queen Mary, would meet the kids each day cuz she wanted them to be repelled by his constant crying or to show off how he would stop crying when she soothed him [by stopping the pinch.] Lady Colin Campbell wrote about it in great detail in her book about his wife "The Queen Mother" also there's a film about his stuttering called "The King's Speech" which I've not seen and may detail the cause of his stutter.

    • @janetsmith8566
      @janetsmith8566 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      This has been talked about for decades.

  • @christinasomething
    @christinasomething 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It sucks that he has to remind people that he knows he's PRIVILEGED, because of the hate that comes from those people who LOOOOVE to assume that these people don't know that. Or who think that people who are privileged can't have traumas or can't complain.

  • @misscantbewrong6649
    @misscantbewrong6649 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Childhood last for such a short amount of time!!! Children should be able to keep their innocence!!

  • @martytrueblood5902
    @martytrueblood5902 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    i thought that was mandatory for upper crust as they make better mind control agents
    once they go into government or business ...they already have an emotional disconnection from humanity

    • @margaretmunce1501
      @margaretmunce1501 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is, unfortunately, often very true.

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hollywood too.

  • @retroguy9494
    @retroguy9494 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was bullied horribly as a child/teenager and had abusive parents. I remember getting up before the sun to watch Charles and Diana's wedding in 1980 when I was 15 and Charles Spencer was 16 as he is a couple months older than me. I remember seeing Charles Spencer and them showing Althorp and his parents, etc. I thought back then how wonderful it was to be the son of an Earl and a future Earl himself with the huge house and surrounded by upper class people. As well as to go to private prestigious schools because I got it into my head that children of the wealthy or upper classes weren't as cruel or were treated better. I admit I felt some jealousy. Now here we are 44 years later and all this comes out. It just goes to show you that one never knows what is bubbling under the surface and how even this class of people can suffer. He's the Earl now and has the big house and I'm a bachelor who's family is all dead now and I have no friends. Even all alone as I am, if I had the opportunity to go back and trade places with Charles, I wonder if I would if it would only mean 6 years of misery compared to virtually a lifetime of it.

  • @magdalenadacunto888
    @magdalenadacunto888 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Congrats for publishing ir! These abusive men and women are everywhere. It´s agood thing to talk about it so that parnts are alert.

  • @maryfitzgerald62
    @maryfitzgerald62 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great for speaking out..👏👏👏👏