Hey Steve: Waiting for the Wedding

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  • Her fiancé started getting cold feet - but is still keeping her in his life. So now it’s time to get the man’s perspective.
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  • @trish8321
    @trish8321 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3762

    😂😂😂 I love the moments Steve realises his advice is good. Never gets old😂

    • @sarsha737
      @sarsha737 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      We've got the same name!!

    • @cahillcowan2506
      @cahillcowan2506 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Trish 💀

    • @user-fz3dy7bp9d
      @user-fz3dy7bp9d 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Well hello Trish and Trish 😂😂😂

    • @Ek1R
      @Ek1R 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's partial advice.

    • @michaelangst6078
      @michaelangst6078 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      his advice is only good depending on the person hearing it.. I would be way more willing to marry someone if I was the average joe, compared to if I was loaded with lots of options...

  • @laynanrs3245
    @laynanrs3245 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1413

    Biological Clock VS Financial Clock. Oh how I love Steve's terms..

    • @MsBadBody
      @MsBadBody 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I am a woman and i do the opposite. I'm on a financial clock

    • @vitorfernandes651
      @vitorfernandes651 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      He says what women want to hear. But the honest truth is if he was sure she's the one, he would have gotten married a long gone ago. Money has nothing to do with it.

    • @tk4609
      @tk4609 4 ปีที่แล้ว +89

      @@vitorfernandes651 money has everything to do with it to take care of her, Steve's right

    • @haitianprodigy8600
      @haitianprodigy8600 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@vitorfernandes651 Depends on where you live Vitor. In America it's money 1st Love 2nd. A sad truth I wished I would of realized earlier. Peace and Blessings.

    • @anthonynosike
      @anthonynosike 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Hallam Dyal well most times when you are at the bottom with a women, you stay there. Or if you climb to the top, you go for another woman, because you have more options

  • @PatrickJusuJr
    @PatrickJusuJr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +881

    As a young man this advice was useful for me to cause I’m 24 and I haven’t found my purpose in life yet. I work my ass off everyday and I’m very financially disciplined I just haven’t found that clear path Steve talks about. This is very true for men to feel complete. Men we have to just keep working towards our goals and strive to be the best person we can be every single day 💯

    • @mav40420
      @mav40420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yessir

    • @vaishnav4750
      @vaishnav4750 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Absolutely true!
      All the best

    • @RichObiQuan
      @RichObiQuan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly, and this is what redpill teaches us men. Especially for those who want a relationship

    • @deathbolikusjo4325
      @deathbolikusjo4325 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      While a girl will make you feel fully complete, you have to be half complete on your end first.

    • @caroc4327
      @caroc4327 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Just remember you’re never gonna have everything perfect. Don’t lose a great girl cause everything it not just so. Some things can be built together.

  • @Hotpotato11
    @Hotpotato11 5 ปีที่แล้ว +670

    i like how steve is honest and he doesn't put guys in the bad spotlight for something every guy can relate to

    • @SunnySummer777
      @SunnySummer777 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      So what he says is true? He wont feel ready unless Hes financially stable?

    • @destinyrider2479
      @destinyrider2479 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@SunnySummer777 this is late but yes it's true. Even when we are single we still struggle when we aren't where we thought we'd be. Especially if you had teachers & family that tell you "you should be this by this age" or " I was already doing this at your ave". That's where stress, overworking & anger starts to grow because at that point we feel there's no one seeing what they're going through.

    • @vaishnav4750
      @vaishnav4750 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Correct

    • @findingchristRELOADED
      @findingchristRELOADED 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@SunnySummer777 yes its very true

    • @SunnySummer777
      @SunnySummer777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@findingchristRELOADED i see poor men who aren't financially stable marry all the time though....?🤔 what's up with that?

  • @prathammittal3870
    @prathammittal3870 ปีที่แล้ว +135

    He said things that many men wanted to say but never really could.

    • @mars3676
      @mars3676 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      29 year old here, yes he did

    • @MCVALLE818
      @MCVALLE818 ปีที่แล้ว

      Legit

  • @leahrrhodes
    @leahrrhodes 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1255

    I think this was the best advice I ever heard!!

    • @LcMach91
      @LcMach91 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Facts

    • @gregorypowell7061
      @gregorypowell7061 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sounds like he has another side piece...

    • @Chutney1luv
      @Chutney1luv 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Leah Rhodes It sure is! Couples have to help & support each other; especially while engaged or married!

    • @dishingoutls8137
      @dishingoutls8137 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      He spoke straight facts.

  • @phillipswatson3452
    @phillipswatson3452 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2507

    SWEETIE...YOU SHOULD THANK HIM FOR HIS HONESTY HE COULD HAVE LEFT HER AT THE ALTER!!

    • @angeliqueesprit9155
      @angeliqueesprit9155 5 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      I don't know about thanking him, But I would definitely God for showing me this sooner than later.

    • @phillipswatson3452
      @phillipswatson3452 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Angelique Esprit 😎
      SWEETIE...SAMETHING!! SMH

    • @debbiedebz7297
      @debbiedebz7297 5 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      He wasn't even honest cuz he still didn't tell her why he prospone the wedding

    • @phillipswatson3452
      @phillipswatson3452 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Debbie debz 😎
      SWEETIE...I BELIEVE HE HAD A CHANGE HEART💏 ABOUT MARRIAGE! !

    • @debbiedebz7297
      @debbiedebz7297 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      @@phillipswatson3452 if u have a change of heart u should have the guts to tell her the reason why and not leave her hanging so that is plain childish

  • @morganl.kennedy3619
    @morganl.kennedy3619 2 ปีที่แล้ว +405

    Steve's advice was so damn true! My parents dated for 15 years because my dad wanted to have enough money and a good job to provide for my mom and for future kids (aka me).

    • @Mizwanderer1989
      @Mizwanderer1989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      15 years? More like he was waiting to find someone better, but in the end settled for what he got. But sure, the romantic version sounds so much better.

    • @freestylepunk
      @freestylepunk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@Mizwanderer1989 Disliked, that's quite an assumption on Morgan's parents. Every situation is different.
      FYI, I have 2 friends who dated 14 years before marriage. She was a doctor, he was an engineer. He worked his butt off to earn as much as her before they got married. She admires and loves his hard work.

    • @Mizwanderer1989
      @Mizwanderer1989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@freestylepunk Assumption? More like recognising a pattern. I have seen it many many times. When people settle and finally decide on the "romantic" version, gullible people ah and oh over their stories. But that is all it is. A nicely packaged story. One doesn't wait a lifetime to start a family with their loved ones because they don't have their perfect job or career. They might delay having kids, which is reasonable to not bring a new life in poverty, but anything else is just excuses.

    • @Anti_Social_Bean
      @Anti_Social_Bean 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @We or you know they can be able to afford the stuff they need for their family

    • @Anti_Social_Bean
      @Anti_Social_Bean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @We If you think that they would stay with someone they don't love for 15 years then you don't understand how love works

  • @noway464
    @noway464 5 ปีที่แล้ว +386

    Lol Steve so proud of himself 🤣

    • @naughtymaster7994
      @naughtymaster7994 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      From where he was in he twenties to what he accomplished? He must be proud and be a good example for many people

  • @rehmanarshad7282
    @rehmanarshad7282 2 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    As a 24 yr old man, he definitely hit the nail on the head

  • @ChristinaMagma
    @ChristinaMagma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +316

    This really hits home. My brother was in a very similar situation, he was in a relationship for about 6-7 years, they were high school sweethearts. She told him she wanted to have kids already because everyone around her was already getting married and having kids. The biggest one being her twin sister had gotten married already and moved out of the house. They had constant arguments about it, he would come to me for some type of advice, but my brother was just not ready for that type of commitment even though he loved her very much. It sucked because she just couldn’t wait for him to finish his school/get his degree, it was like a thing she wanted to happen immediately. They broke up and within a few weeks she was already dating someone else and engaged ( I will never understand this). But in the end it was probably the best thing to happen to my brother , he’s starting to take his future more seriously and knows what he wants to do in life, and as a career, he’s been working really hard towards it now.

    • @danielglidewell
      @danielglidewell 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Yeesh. I’m glad that your brother is doing well. The girl really was set on getting married right away. She’s probably just giving it too much priority because she feels like as long as she is married it will be wonderful, and feels if she isn’t married things are terrible (feels inferior to peers, doesn’t have what she feels will make her life complete, etc.) She didn’t give her feelings enough thought. You’ve got to challenge your feelings often times to make sure they won’t lead you into trouble.

    • @ChristinaMagma
      @ChristinaMagma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@danielglidewell Aww thanks! I’m glad he’s doing better to. When he came to my mom and me we had a long talk, we all know that in her mind, fantasy will probably be better than reality. We hope the best for her as we aren’t spiteful, but you can’t help but wonder if one day she will realize what a big mistake she made, and there’s no going back now. It would just be too disrespectful to him and our family (seeing how hurt he was) if she tried to come back.

    • @Romaniac100
      @Romaniac100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'll be spiteful for you all. I hope she Ends up in a divorce and the dad gets full custody if they have kids

    • @dj11o9er
      @dj11o9er 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      For a bro's high school sweetheart, she sure didn't love him enough to wait and stay with him until he was ready like one. A fortunate and, somehow, unfortunate bro

    • @ChristinaMagma
      @ChristinaMagma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dj11o9er so true :(

  • @AmiNa-nw5ld
    @AmiNa-nw5ld 5 ปีที่แล้ว +394

    Sometimes the desire blinds us, she desperately wants to be a wife & a mother that's great but you should ask yourself is my partner ready for that too, don't just think of your needs look to the other part of the relationship as well

    • @icycici
      @icycici 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      *THANK* *YOU* !! Marriage brings up a lot of pressure & many men want their life to be headed in the right direction at least before they say "I do".

    • @pleaseenteryournamehere9593
      @pleaseenteryournamehere9593 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Exactly he could love her too much that he gives her everything she wants but sacrificing his own happiness, thats when he will regret later on and then leave her. The grass aint greener on the otherside of marriage but its worth it.

    • @jasminevaliente96
      @jasminevaliente96 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@icycici well then dont propose if you're nor in that direction it is his responsibility as a man to Express his reasons for wanting to wait before publicly claiming a woman as his intended wife only to ask for a postponement without communicating a reason.

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@pleaseenteryournamehere9593 Very unlikely. More likely is he don't love her.

    • @bobbiejackson732
      @bobbiejackson732 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen

  • @skymartinez7726
    @skymartinez7726 2 ปีที่แล้ว +177

    Even after 3 years of hearing this I always loved Steve's advice from a man's view. We always want to make sure we have everything ready.

    • @his4evr2c
      @his4evr2c 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wow JESUS CHRIST IS our LORD and SAVIOR and Go after Our LORD JESUS 1st SEEK YE 1st the Kingdom of GOD and He'll take care of the rest.

    • @jblasutavario9549
      @jblasutavario9549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sky, agreed brother.

  • @BryanAli14
    @BryanAli14 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    "Help him get to where he wants, so he can help you get to where you want" Very true 💯💯💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @joshualim5973
    @joshualim5973 5 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    4:05 Steve realize his advice is FIRE 🔥 😂

  • @Someone-vm5hv
    @Someone-vm5hv 5 ปีที่แล้ว +558

    It's a good advice but he could have some other reason too, I think she should be a little careful.
    She sounds like a very sweet girl and she is so pretty. May God bless her heart!

    • @hiphopson
      @hiphopson 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      But he isn't the bad guy, just wasn't ready at least he told her before they got married

    • @gfivefour
      @gfivefour 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      I was thinking the same thing....there isn't enough information to say that the issue is just that he wasn't financially ready....he could have felt like Maybe he didn't love her enough to see himself married to her for the rest of his life but didn't have the heart to tell her but still he keeps in touch cuz he doesn't wanna fully let her go...Idk....I just felt like Maybe the solution wasnt Just clear cut like Steve made it seem

    • @stephaniecanton6865
      @stephaniecanton6865 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      He prob has another chick

    • @whitneyrideout4553
      @whitneyrideout4553 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      No. Steve was spot on

    • @davidrodgers9558
      @davidrodgers9558 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Shes not a good women if shes this pushy about her needs .. The guy should punt and run ...

  • @TechWithShon
    @TechWithShon 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    He was so on point you'd even think it was staged, he's a wiseman. Respect to him

  • @nancydeduron2
    @nancydeduron2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    Look up"Steve's advice saved this relationship" and see an update on this girl...

    • @MegaCadette55
      @MegaCadette55 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      U're the real MVP 👐💯

    • @MT-ou7ff
      @MT-ou7ff 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      was the next video that played

  • @theronwright1413
    @theronwright1413 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1350

    I didnt have much when me and ny wife married. We are building together. I struggled with wanting to provide more,but God wanted us to grow together. Sometimes us men got to put our ego and do the right thing

    • @JamesCraigWhoop
      @JamesCraigWhoop 5 ปีที่แล้ว +75

      Yes women can do much more these days for themselves. Its not all on a mans shoulders anymore.

    • @Jotaro-o
      @Jotaro-o 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      You have a really big ego if you believe there's a god and that god cares about you and your partner.

    • @Jotaro-o
      @Jotaro-o 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      So? Nobody asked for your opinion either.

    • @kynshii
      @kynshii 5 ปีที่แล้ว +98

      It's not always about Ego, it's the "complete" feeling of being a man and wanting to provide for his woman. That's not a crime, if he doesn't feel like he's ready then why bulldoze your way through and hope for the best. He want to be able to give her something nice and memorable, that's not a crime

    • @LD-mv3bk
      @LD-mv3bk 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yessssss

  • @MagneticUnicornVlogs
    @MagneticUnicornVlogs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    This makes so much sense!!! All the men I've dated have told me this exact thing. 'i don't want to get married until I'm financially secure" it makes sense... I'm going to support this man with whatever he needs to do to get to where he wants to be

    • @BabyGirl-cw6uj
      @BabyGirl-cw6uj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You go out to eat, he can't pay, y'all can't leave
      There's dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
      But while y'all washin', watch him
      He gon' make it to a Benz out of that Datsun
      He got that ambition, baby, look at his eyes
      This week he moppin' floors, next week it's the fries
      So stick by his side
      I know there's dudes ballin', and yeah, that's nice
      And they gonna keep callin' and tryin', but you stay right, girl
      *And when you get on, he'll leave yo' ass for a white girl*

    • @Football_Unlimited
      @Football_Unlimited ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is Wrong ^

  • @jessycam-k5059
    @jessycam-k5059 5 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    She should have thanked him for his honesty and told him that when he was ready for marriage, she hopes he finds someone that makes him happy. But, it won't be her. She has every right to want what she wants, and she has every right to not want to be with someone who doesn't align with her desires. The same way he has the right to not do something that doesn't align with his desires. He has the right to say he's not ready. And she has the right to say I am, and when you are I wish you the best.

    • @paolamedina6444
      @paolamedina6444 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I think that this is a conversation nobody teach us to have. I think in general we expect men to desire what we want always, and honestly, they are really simply human beings. It’s valid that someone is not ready in the moment, and if she thinks she can wait, she can do it. It depends on what they agreed. I think we also have to stop being so harsh with woman’s decision, sometimes it’s not a waste of time wait for a man, is an agreement. But it’s a couple decision. Not every story has a bad ending or the same context.

  • @sterlingstauffer2915
    @sterlingstauffer2915 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I love it when Steve actually gives his audience some GOOD advice.

  • @deeqonuur5470
    @deeqonuur5470 5 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Damn she is so beautiful 😍

  • @theultimatefoodie2666
    @theultimatefoodie2666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    I wish there was an update in this couple! I hope they’re doing well and are happy.

  • @ELCAPATAZ
    @ELCAPATAZ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +315

    Not only is she gorgeous, she has a good head on her shoulders and her priorities are wholesome. A wife and a mother. She's a dying breed. Whoever finds her and makes an honest woman out of her has found an eternal treasure.

    • @JazminMortimer
      @JazminMortimer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      She also knows her value!

    • @davidg5965
      @davidg5965 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yeah yeah yeah but girls like her will get mad until they get what she wants which wouldn't be the best for a relationship or marriage

    • @xeonbladev18
      @xeonbladev18 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@davidg5965 she doesn't seem mad here. Just needed to understand his perspective

    • @dedsecaffiliate1979
      @dedsecaffiliate1979 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@davidg5965 She was probably heartbroken by her fiance wanting to delay the wedding, so it's understandable why she would be scared to talk with him about it. I'm not saying she was wrong, but she wasn't right either. The fact that she was willing to ask for another man's advice and hear him out shows that she still loves her fiance. Tell me, have you ever had a girlfriend? Have you ever been engaged?

    • @davidg5965
      @davidg5965 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@dedsecaffiliate1979 yeah I have a girlfriend but when we have problems we have heart to heart conversations and don't on TV or let everyone know lol, I Definitely get what you're saying though

  • @Francellabphotograph
    @Francellabphotograph 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "He trippin'!" I just love the way he said that. ☺️

  • @jacobmitchem8130
    @jacobmitchem8130 5 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Why would you want to be with someone thats not on the same page as you though? You shouldnt have to sacrifice your goals in life to please someone else.
    I had one woman tell me that she asked her man over and over again if they were ever going to tie the knot or have kids because that's something she really wanted in life , and he always had some sort of excuse. Well guess what? She hit a certain age and started menopause and was no longer able to have children and her time was wasted And now she resents him because of it.
    On another note, you need to communicate. Make what you want in life clear from the start. And either work things out and compromise , or if you two can't be on the same page then dont be together. Don't waste eachothers time. If you dont want to follow on the same path you dont belong together.
    Dont waste her time, and dont pressure him. Simple.

    • @truebut3243
      @truebut3243 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Damnn.. How long they together for she sound mad 🤣

    • @kmarie8206
      @kmarie8206 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Damn. Sound almost like my scenario.

  • @angelinaad209
    @angelinaad209 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1052

    What is the purpose of PROPOSING if he knew he wasnt ready?

    • @reahleneroberts3312
      @reahleneroberts3312 5 ปีที่แล้ว +185

      Angelina Adoko so he can lock hisself in no one else get her

    • @kierancedwards
      @kierancedwards 5 ปีที่แล้ว +232

      To make her happy.

    • @phillipswatson3452
      @phillipswatson3452 5 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      Angelina Adoko 😎
      SWEETIE...SOME MEN GIVE WOMEN A RING TO SHUT THEM UP...REAL TALK I HAVE SEEN IT HAPPEN MANY OF TIMES!!

    • @deeboyism
      @deeboyism 5 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      To string yo goofy ass on a little longer 😂

    • @tianamiller6820
      @tianamiller6820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      Theres a thing called a 'hush ring'which ive heard in some reality shows where the man proposes to shut the woman up about marriage. Some men are very deceptive

  • @monsterduo4038
    @monsterduo4038 5 ปีที่แล้ว +749

    One of the few times I agree with Steve. I love him and he’s hilarious, but he usually says nonsense about us men. He’s 100% correct here though 👍

    • @etf42
      @etf42 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      i agree

    • @jonathangerman2111
      @jonathangerman2111 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      100% agreed. I am trying to get their myself, and I feel I can not get married until I have everything together to support my woman.

    • @etf42
      @etf42 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      do it for yourself first and foremost. do not do it for a woman.

    • @rastabuggie7239
      @rastabuggie7239 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Steve is a clown...he spews his nonsense to appease these women. It's all about building his brand brainwashing these low esteem women.

    • @ASHMAN750
      @ASHMAN750 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I agree with you but I think most Time why he be little us men Is so that woman will listen to him

  • @arlenetaveras159
    @arlenetaveras159 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I literally watch this at least once a day because at 25 I'm going through what she is going and not only am I losing hope in myself but in the relationship

    • @americanexplorer459
      @americanexplorer459 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      U stupid! Where's your father? It's more to life getting married. Where's your money stop depending on a man to take care of you.

    • @lifeisbeautiful9455
      @lifeisbeautiful9455 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You’re young

    • @rg1924
      @rg1924 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lifeisbeautiful9455 25 ain’t that young, she needs to find someone to marry asap

    • @3l3phantz
      @3l3phantz ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Decide if you want to stay or not from a strength perspective, rather than fear. I stayed in a stagnant relationship for years and by the time I was 29, I thought that if I leave, I'll never find someone better. But I left bc I favored my biological clock. Six months later, I found my husband and we are happy and whole.

  • @christycapers4715
    @christycapers4715 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    “I’m gonna cry 😭”
    Steve: 👁️👄👁️🧍🏾‍♂️ “No, don’t do dat”

  • @naakwaamahannan2703
    @naakwaamahannan2703 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Steve I love you sooo much ❤️ You are like a Dad I never had. God bless you.

  • @gabrielcolio5221
    @gabrielcolio5221 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Steve is 100% correct about us men right here.

    • @SunnySummer777
      @SunnySummer777 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Been almost 2 years with my boyfriend. Not living together, but he wants to. Not that I dont, but he's $47,000 in student debt(also has more with a parent student loan). And he's not sure where exactly he's going career wise.... he'll be 34 years old soon, I'm 26. what should I do?:/

    • @truebut3243
      @truebut3243 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@SunnySummer777 don't do anything because you feel pressured

  • @thandiweluluphiri5
    @thandiweluluphiri5 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Am so happy to be born in an era with Steve Harvey as a big part of it, he really helps me and am sure millions of people out there. Thanks mr Steve Harvey.

  • @deadandgone70
    @deadandgone70 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I was so like this with my ex... she wanted me to propose during uni. She wanted to have kids in 3 years. I wanted to wait till I had a job to propose. Guys really do think financially and it’s taken Steve for me to see that I do this subconsciously 👏🏼

  • @nadinadia3056
    @nadinadia3056 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Steve you're a great person and that advice hit so hard,I love you.

  • @nikhilmirgal5962
    @nikhilmirgal5962 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Steve , you just spoke my heart out , wish I could hug you. You are the best, your videos gives me motivation. Thanks a lot for spreading the positivity, thanks a ton. Love from India ❤.

  • @samsonngugi9417
    @samsonngugi9417 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Steve thanks for that advice..am watching from Kenya

  • @nxronite9994
    @nxronite9994 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is SO spot on. I've heard/seen so many people getting married too early, having kids and absolutely dragging themselves financially. I won't be getting married until I KNOW I'm ready either! I want to enjoy life not work 12hrs just to get by and support my family. I'm sure my future partner and kids would want the same.

    • @K1ng1995
      @K1ng1995 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I know so many moms that are single and they just do OF
      Or they baby-trapped rich nerds who have no female experience so they can be taken care of.

  • @Avembe
    @Avembe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The depth of the wisdow Steve is so often able to deliver is jawdropping... Sometimes it even sting the eyes like onions

  • @Frank-ie8of
    @Frank-ie8of 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You are truly a teacher Steve,honestly wish to be part of your show in person.always blessing my life .

  • @rosslee1996
    @rosslee1996 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you Steve! This is such good advice!
    Love this! ❤️

  • @_ghost96
    @_ghost96 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Man I needed to see this🙏🏽 Get yourself right first before you can get/treat somebody else right

  • @catherinebarnett8856
    @catherinebarnett8856 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That was such great wisdom right there!!! Omg he was so spot on!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @dorcaspeter1755
    @dorcaspeter1755 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Looking at your Steve’s show, i forget all my stress for a moment. Big up uncle Steve 👏🏻👏🏻

  • @ashleybraden8344
    @ashleybraden8344 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I love Steve!!! I watch him every single day and it makes my whole day!!!

  • @chukwudiekezie8250
    @chukwudiekezie8250 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    You hit the nail on the head, Mr Harvey...
    Brilliant Advice!!!

  • @lelandmercer471
    @lelandmercer471 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    That was beautiful, he deserves to be where he is, man he’s good!

  • @erikhopkins9488
    @erikhopkins9488 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I didn't have any of this and still proposed!

  • @janellec_mcdaniel-life_lov6413
    @janellec_mcdaniel-life_lov6413 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Steve felt that one! People talk about Steve this and that, but Steve (like everyone else) is human and through him helping others is helping him with his stuff in the past. Steve you alright with me! My mama always watch you as well as I! I want me and my mama be in your seats at your talk show one day soon!! 🧡💛💚💜❤️ what you do Mr.Steve!!

  • @mahasinabdurahman1504
    @mahasinabdurahman1504 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    All I can say how great Mr.Harvey is. Reaching that point of ur life where u connect stages of ur life and Criticize ur self that open take a lot of courage and self tolerance.

  • @rudinaismalaj620
    @rudinaismalaj620 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed to hear this. Thank you

  • @joycearyee3266
    @joycearyee3266 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That is great Steve. I love your show. Am learning a lot from you. Keep it up.

  • @jessegamez3764
    @jessegamez3764 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I needed to hear this, because I lost the Love of my life when I broke up with her. Simply because I couldn't provide. I wish her the best 😔

  • @gauravlalwani6335
    @gauravlalwani6335 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mr.Harvey, very good advice, and the explaination you gave was so good....not just good it was the best...

  • @wanyamuthimookariuki2012
    @wanyamuthimookariuki2012 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautifully put out there for ourselfs andfor understanding others decisions better....

  • @GCSalinas
    @GCSalinas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    My gf waited 7 years for me to get my life together. I have a great job with benefits and most importantly I can provide and protect her and our future family. I just bought her a $7k ring cash and now I plan on giving it to her b4 we buy our first house. God is great 👍 🙌 🙏 ❤

    • @zizi9028
      @zizi9028 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      How so sweet. I really am so happy for both of you. Seems you guys are amazing people. Wish all the best for you and your girlfriend 🤗🙏 and happy wedding as well! ☺️

    • @incrediblesoulgh1287
      @incrediblesoulgh1287 ปีที่แล้ว

      I love you Zi Zi. Can we get to know each other?

    • @shadowdwellerjl3789
      @shadowdwellerjl3789 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wish I had someone that would wait for me that long to get my life together and still love me and support me and not complain that I don't give her enough to or affection when all I'm trying to do is become financially stable enough to do what she an I want to do together

  • @missNCW
    @missNCW 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    27 year old man is too young but a 27 woman has to have EVERYTHING figured out

    • @groshow9501
      @groshow9501 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      oh you didnt get it. Theres a difference between "everything figured out" and fully ready to provide for your family. I can tell you i figured everything out but still not ready for marriage because i still live in a small appartment and didnt save enough money to go through bad times. i been trough a lot of bad times yet, and thats why i know i need to have it together.

    • @Sweetheart0189
      @Sweetheart0189 ปีที่แล้ว

      That’s why she needs an older man like 35

    • @someone-ji2zb
      @someone-ji2zb ปีที่แล้ว

      @@groshow9501 Not trying to make some assumption on whether you are ready for marriage or not... but for thousands of years people were getting married and having kids and they lived day to day by hunting/farming/scavenging or barely doing enough to trade goods for food.
      Funny how things have changed in the minds of so many people in the last 80~ years. People want all the reward without the risk. Then they get mad and depressed when their low risk choices in their 20s and even 30s backfire on them and they end up alone.

    • @BaMBaM-gi6yx
      @BaMBaM-gi6yx ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh Jenny it's very clear you do not get what steve was saying lol

    • @BaMBaM-gi6yx
      @BaMBaM-gi6yx ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@Sweetheart0189 no she just needs to be patient like Harvy said. So you want her to leave a man she's built a relationship who needs a little time to give her everything she wants? Sounds toxic to me

  • @charmedlibra927
    @charmedlibra927 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One of his best ones!👏🏽👊🏾👌🏾💯💯💯

  • @scvz9wolf9
    @scvz9wolf9 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    A lifetime of learning in one clip, Thx SH!

  • @fantymorfa7592
    @fantymorfa7592 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The only thing with helping HIM getting where he wants, is that when he is there, he might leave you for a another woman! ( a more glamorous one)
    😊.....and forget that you where the one by his side all those years supporting him.

  • @centigradz
    @centigradz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I know someone who did the same exact thing. The girl didn't contact him anymore. He has a good job now but still not married. Some men have commitment issues. Period. He is going to do the same to someone else.

    • @truebut3243
      @truebut3243 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's not that easy to find someone to marry..

  • @kahsayhailu1552
    @kahsayhailu1552 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great advice! Lots of respect to Mr. Harvey. From Ethiopia, Africa.

  • @sheenacyn
    @sheenacyn 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you steve. Love you mucho!! Well said!!!!

  • @Keepo777
    @Keepo777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    He deserved a standing ovation

  • @monicabrowne-smith8009
    @monicabrowne-smith8009 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Steve Harvey is a real father and truly knows how to converse with young people, when it truly matters. Well done Steve, we can all take a leaf out if your book.😃😃😃

  • @nicholesharp8650
    @nicholesharp8650 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you, Steve! Good advice! I LOVE your attire on this show!

  • @charmieperoy_
    @charmieperoy_ ปีที่แล้ว

    will be back again at this video soon. thank you so much for that great advice, Steve.

  • @secondopinion53
    @secondopinion53 5 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    Someone is going to pick Steve up on another Show!! That's his Gift!!!

    • @marywilson4977
      @marywilson4977 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Second OpinionI hope so. He is truly gifted in the area of knowing how to respond. He gives great advice and he is hilarious.

    • @mercedeswilkins9085
      @mercedeswilkins9085 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That why I say they shouldnt cancel his show. He give good advice and i love seeing him and his suits.

  • @stepstoleaps
    @stepstoleaps 5 ปีที่แล้ว +141

    It might also be.......he don't want to be tied down. Or he want more girls. Or what Steve say. A lot of reasons.

    • @morenikeogunsusi9579
      @morenikeogunsusi9579 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Or maybe he does want to marry her he just doesn't want to rush. There's nothing wrong with getting married when your not completely financially stable bc they can both help one another. Now a child is a different case. He probably didn't tell her bc he knew that she'll still rush him into marriage.

    • @stepstoleaps
      @stepstoleaps 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@morenikeogunsusi9579 Yes, just like what Steve say. A lot of reasons.

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@morenikeogunsusi9579 still rush? BS.

    • @Fbitypeshit
      @Fbitypeshit 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Bajan Strokes Survivor Steve should have ask more questions than just being the "i know every answer because i know the nature of the average man so i know your man particularly "

    • @vitorfernandes651
      @vitorfernandes651 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He's 27. Far too young to marry. They should live together and be happy. There's no rush.

  • @didypy
    @didypy 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great insight Steve God bless you

  • @nathalieperez2240
    @nathalieperez2240 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’ve spent all morning watching Steve Harvey and I literally just love hearing him preach 😂

  • @DjGORILLARED
    @DjGORILLARED 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I CAN RESPECT THIS HEY STEVE!

    • @SxyIntell0120
      @SxyIntell0120 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Walk that Walk, Steve!!😎

  • @guanijk619
    @guanijk619 2 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    Amazing advice. I got married at 22 and felt 75% ready financially. We had a rough 2 years at the beginning. 7 years later I’m 95% where I want to be and now separated 😂

    • @abenaoseii
      @abenaoseii 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ☹️so sorry

    • @tanusree-lfgrdchakraborty6309
      @tanusree-lfgrdchakraborty6309 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oops...

    • @Popzugzugz
      @Popzugzugz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Oof, that had a twist. Wouldn’t laugh about it either, kinda cringe

    • @guanijk619
      @guanijk619 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Popzugzugz it’s funny how life works. You live and learn and create a better future. “Life only makes sense if you force it to.”

    • @MrKasa1989
      @MrKasa1989 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sorry bud, things gets better.

  • @nmercenary
    @nmercenary 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Of all the pageantry talk shows and host...this is some of the most genuine, authentic, honest, direct and blatant solid advice/perspective ever televised. I’m surprised the net work execs allowed this to air.

  • @candicemills4448
    @candicemills4448 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Steven you'r the best..

  • @siphesihlemavuso8608
    @siphesihlemavuso8608 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Steve’s walk is legendary. L E G E N D A R Y I tell you🙌🏼🙌🏼🔥🔥🔥🔥😂

  • @abdulaziza4232
    @abdulaziza4232 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "Ok, nah don't do that....this just hey Steve" haha

  • @ph3r109
    @ph3r109 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the best of the best Ask Steve ever!

  • @KeepHealingSis
    @KeepHealingSis 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is ABSOLUTELY the BEST advice ever! It’s not always a negative reason why a guy won’t commit, like playing games etc... this is SOUL deep people! Trust what your intuition tells you. It doesn’t ever lie. Wishing everyone well on their journeys.

  • @bigbraz
    @bigbraz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Damn Steve, he finally gives dudes some love. Of course it's when I want him to tell her to move in and come find me. She's gorgeous. Good luck to them.

  • @oldtymer9106
    @oldtymer9106 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My Mom and Dad were dead broke when they got married, it was some of the happiest days of their lives! They made it happen. Life shouldn't be about the "stuff". Not the guys fault, society is putting unrealistic material expectations on couples. Get married. Work hard. Be thirfty. Make some kids. The "stuff" will come in time. My Mom and Dad made four kids - none of us have been to jail or been pregnant out of wedlock. Two of their kids are Vets. We all vote. Lots of memories and good times and they weren't financially stable till Dad was in his early sixties and retiring. Love conquers all.

  • @gracelovvheals2169
    @gracelovvheals2169 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love Steve!! He gives the best advice!

  • @brenda4784
    @brenda4784 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like that little walks Steve has. He tells it like it is and he is so fly!

  • @MelissaKarmel
    @MelissaKarmel 5 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    He should’ve waited until he got himself together to propose

    • @Lifeiqmovies
      @Lifeiqmovies 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Why?

    • @Matt-hi7ey
      @Matt-hi7ey 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Knowing how women are. She probably told him to propose or she was leaving

    • @TowerofCrows
      @TowerofCrows 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      She was probably pressuring him.

    • @TheColby3
      @TheColby3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You have no idea the pressure he would be under Day after day...

    • @peridozq9390
      @peridozq9390 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      claude lamothe
      You say most women are selfish, I say ALL men are selfish. Now who’s got it worse?

  • @daysrays3987
    @daysrays3987 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    She is gorgeous ❤

  • @anointedi.q.akagnocchi3818
    @anointedi.q.akagnocchi3818 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Praise God, God bless you big bro, you are a blessing to many lives big homie. #RealestTalk

  • @wowso4
    @wowso4 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love Steve! So always on point! Don’t “support him financially” just be there for him and if his not ready move on!

  • @xnorpatch4492
    @xnorpatch4492 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I see this as an oppurtunity for the couple. As a man, I will cherish my partner more, if we go through this difficult episode together. Facing the challenge together; failing at times and finally succeeding with the support of your partner will build and forge an unbreakable foundation to the relationship. Wishing them the best!

  • @groshow9501
    @groshow9501 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is a perfect example. Men and women dont know much about the other gender. We think, speak and live differently. Instead of hating, we need to help eachother.

  • @Iamnina_mariee
    @Iamnina_mariee 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this!! Sometimes we have to be willing to hear the other side, It took me having to mentally check myself and understand that I have a whole other person that I care about that is going through something of his own too, its not just me, and if we don't want to lose what we have instead of turning your back sometime you have to be willing to sit back and say ok what is it that you need. Relationships are about 2 people coming together, you have to be willing to drop your ego and WORK through it, because you will never always agree. I see people saying why would he purpose if he knew he wasn't sure, just like Steve said and it goes both ways male and female when you love someone you will be willing to do whatever it takes to make that person happy, and it may in fact work for a minute, but YOUR happiness will not let you lie to yourself and eventually it comes out. WE ARE HUMAN, sometimes thinking through it comes 2nd, we have ALL done it some way or another. Its not about just making it work, you have to be willing to put IN the work! Of course we have to protect our own happiness as well so COMMUNICATION from both people has to happen, know that a strong relationship is not a fairy tale it is a partnership! Love each other through it take the space you need to mentally understand that because it is not easy to put your feelings aside! I wish the best for her and she is not wrong for being hurt or confused, Just work through girl if he is goo to you and loves you don't leave him when he needs you the most!

  • @MKEditsxx
    @MKEditsxx 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is one of the best advices from hey Steve 👍🏻🥰

  • @tcalvin4196
    @tcalvin4196 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Young ladies tend to fall in love with the "The Wedding Day" and the gown and all the hoopla that goes into preparing for their day the day they have dreamed of every since they where little girls playing with the Bridal Dolls. This is a blessing in disguise for you with him having "cold feet or WHATEVER". Take your time young lady and just know the Lord does not bless mess. Your Boaz will find you when the time is right. Be patient my dear.

    • @Andy-be4kp
      @Andy-be4kp 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes Amen and Amen!!! ❤✌

  • @brittanypino2282
    @brittanypino2282 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    That suit though Steve 🔥

  • @londym.
    @londym. 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love it when he said, “estatic.”🤣. Uncle Steve is the best.

  • @mandartikale953
    @mandartikale953 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Best Ask Steve on life lessons ever ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sheilacastillo7699
    @sheilacastillo7699 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I totally get how she feels. I have expressed that to my boyfriend before and I told him that I’ll be patient with him and that if I don’t see that later on in our relationship then I will end a relationship with respect his decision. But this year and lately I have not mentioned it to him because at the end I don’t want it to turn out as a disappointment

  • @rainbowbrite6019
    @rainbowbrite6019 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Don't let your inhibitions be your guide. Steve made an excellent point. Relax and just have fun until he's ready to meet the family structure you will need. 60 years is a long time to be with someone, just make sure it is not full of regrets because you either didn't call him back or is forcing an indirect ultimatum. If You were going to marry him he's worth waiting for, this is a lesson in patience. Compromises are something that should be discussed and considered. Make your goals (Together)! J.S.

  • @tonyminority1510
    @tonyminority1510 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Steve just gave the realest advice ever 💯💯❤️

  • @stints8018
    @stints8018 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Steve