How to Help Someone Who Doesn't Want Help
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I felt when I tried helping my love one with their addiction I became lost and depressed and frustrated
💛 such a tough journey to witness a loved one struggle and trying to help, bless you for your caring and ways you helped. Even if our efforts seem unreceived or not seeming to change anything, all moments of love and care matter.
Today while being a pedestrian I found myself in an ethical dillema. While waiting at a walk light right after I witnessed someone carrying 2 heavy bags of groceries tumble onto the road into traffic whereupon people around him continued to be doing their best to help manage the situation. I am not a traffic cop and so I did not know all of the right arm signs to alert oncoming traffic on a very busy street. By the time I walked/ran across that street to offer him help he had already begun to pick himself off the road. Then when I asked if his leg was okay he admitted it was not feeling his best. Then when I offered to help him carry his groceries he said, "No I am okay."
Don't cast pearls before swine. If they're dying and they're dragging you down with them, leave and end the relationship - because it doesn't serve help to both of you. It can be very sad and seemingly cruel, but what's more cruel is have twice the cruelty if one doesn't want to go down that dark path.
So let them die. How cruel
And then they commit suicide when you abandon them
@@jamesgentry13 that’s their active decision and not your fault
Thank you for the reminder of this verse. I wondered for years what this meant. Now it makes complete sense.
If someone doesn't want your help, you're generally not helping them forcing what *you* want on them. Other people aren't our pets or infants. That's part of the point of freedom.
But what if they don't want anyone's help?
Not true. Someone in psychosis are not in their true self. A loved one needs to abdicate for them.
@@co8885 The majority of adults FORCED into psychiatric holds and deprived of their civil rights aren't "psychotic." If you have evidence to the contrary, please share it. And if someone is psychotic but consistently rejects your "help" even when they're lucid, we're back to square one. You're not helping them. You're owning them.
@@aiahzohar5636 disagree! I got my son’s guardianship and it was not easy. He had 2 very bad car accident before it. He was in acute psychosis. He doesn’t even remember the first one. Someone else in the other car got badly hurt. This is not optional when you can hurt yourself and specially others. He wasn’t ok to abdicate for himself and I would never let it go.
Ones he is medicated and himself again, he will be able to understand the hallucinations and delusions wasn’t really and then gain authority to his life again.
@@co8885 I hope your son gets better. In cases like your son's, someone has directly harmed others. There are already laws intended to protect the public from others' potentially harmful behavior. I can get drunk in my home, for example, but I break the law if I'm driving while drunk. I have autonomy over my own body and personal decisions, not when I bring immediate harm to other people.
We don't need a blanket policy that deprives all of us of the dignity and autonomy to decide we do NOT want what other people consider "help." The research on suicides after forced psychiatric commitment shows that physically forcing people to endure psychiatric "help" is often not only inhumane, but ineffective. All lucid adults should be entitled to decide whether we want others' help or not. Otherwise, we BELONG to other people and are not free. Best to your family.
Thank you for the video. The advice is very helpful. Currently trying to help someone who I really care about, but she continues to do drugs. Very heartbreaking watching her do this to herself, will continue to offer the help but not become emotional, so hard to do. Thanks again
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How is he doing now?
If they are adults and don't want your help, than respect them enough to leave them alone, there lives are their own, if you don't like watching them in need than don't watch them.
"quite happily digging themselves into destruction" agree. 🙇🏾♀️
Very helpful! I could not help laughing at 'I know what this is gonna be about - they will gonna try to help me again' :)
It is so important to be able to understand the other person's perspective. And special thanks for the advice about shifting the energy away from judgment. Worth remebering if you really want to help, but so difficult if someone keeps behaving arrogantly and hurting you.
Thank you, B :)
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Nice to see that you mean well and truly want to help the ones in need...
God bless...:)
💛 thanks for your message 💛 B
As crestons wife you can't help people who don't want to be helped. You have to let them fall and not pick them back up. You have to let them pick themselves back up. You don't have to feel guilty. We are responsible for ourselves.
I managed to find peace with myself and to find the right words to help a loved one, God bless you
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I couldnt sleep because im worried but you gave me peace again thank you
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Thank you for sharing this important information. It certainly gave me a different perspective of a situation my family and I are currently experiencing with my sister. This video was extremely helpful as it gave me excellent advice and an insight to my sister's problem. Here is a little background of her. My sister (58 years old) have three grown children and had an abusive relationship with her husband over the years which resulted in a state of anxiety, fear, intermittent fluctuation of mood swings, depression, etc. Friends and close family members began to make false judgments about her behavior as being insane, crazy, lunatic, etc. As time progress, she began to feel a sense of emptiness and being abandoned by her immediately family members. She is trying hard to keep her relationship as she has made a lifetime of sacrifice to sustain her children through college, took care of her husband 's mom, and doing the best that she can. This song by Ricky Van Shelton " Life Turned Her That Way" reminded me of her situation. However, her spouse has not been supportive along the way and now her children are shifting away from her which is bothering her so much that it makes her upset. Most recently, they called the police and had her institutionalized. This caused her a lot of pain and some medical problems as she was mistreated in a mental facility and the COVID restrictions left her with bruises on her body. Our family rescued her from this dire situation and try to work with her. She has refused to take action against her husband and what is strange she wants to protect them. We could not understand WHY? Later on, her kids encouraged her to return home in the toxic environment who does not understand her problem. Just yesterday, I saw her walking the streets with a dark shade on in the late evening. My family is concerned and wants to help her. How do you suggest we proceed in getting her back on track and what course of action should we take? Thank you again for your response in advance.
Hi, I send much love to you, your sister and family as you navigate this difficult situation. It's certainly challenging to help someone unless they want help/support. Have you considered inviting your sister to go to counselling with you, so the 2 of you see someone together with a view to having a professional help guide you both on a path focused on how to stay close as siblings and how to walk through troubled times together as a family, to get advice about how to support her and how to understand each other's viewpoints etc. So that the focus is on the "we", versus "you", and the outcome is focused on "how can we have a great sibling relationship amid life challenges". That might open up a doorway to talking deeply together, with a counsellor supporting you both, about what she is facing and how to find a path forward. That might help if she isn't seeing her own counsellor, or if you want to be able to have deeper productive conversations with her but that isn't working at the moment. With love, B
what if they've given up and there's no way they're helping themselves too, claims to live for others and avoids every kind of avail?
Needed this. Thanks.
Glad it was helpful!💛
Great video! Thank you for this!!!
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This is the best practical advice out of many many videos like this i have watched. Keep up the good work! Thanks!😉
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Thank you very much. Glad I found this vid...just in time.
You're welcome 💕
SO very helpful for me. I called the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline just minutes before watching your video. I must say that the call to them was not helpful in any way other than the fact that the disappointing conversation with the young lady led me to seek help elsewhere which led me to your page. I was calling on the behalf of a friend who is in need of help and I just didn't know how to handle the situation due to the fact that my friend shows very very high tendencies to harm himself. Very strong points taken from your video will help tremendously as to how I need to approach the situation while at the same time not push him away. I really thank you for this video.
You're very welcome and it is so good that you are there to support your friend, and I really honor the fact that you're looking for ways to do so, and getting information to understand how best to go about it. He is lucky to have you there, caring and being thoughtful about the process. If at any time you are looking for videos or audios on specific topics on the channel here or on my website and you want me to point you in the direction of resources, please don't hesitate to reach out. Love and blessings, B
Thank you for this video ❤
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Thank you for this awesome video. I really appreciate it
You're welcome 😊
Many thanks for this video share. I appreciate this.
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very helpful thank you i am trying to help my sister she is in pain and doesn't want help. she doesn't want to listen to anyone not even her mom. good video :)
I hear you! It's a tough situation to be in. Glad to share this video with you. B :)
thank you so much for this
💖 you're welcome.
its hard to come at your drug addicted family with peace when you are suffering from heart break from watching, trying to help and being around them. so everyone suffers not just the addict. you tend to come at them with anger sometimes because you feel it is there fault for making you worry your self sick and they only care about them self and doing drugs.
Such a tough situation. I did a separate video on difficult family members which may have some useful points in it if that interests you. With love. B
Wow great advice
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Compared to the Petersons word salad this is exactly what I was looking for, practical stuff to get a grasp and know how to react to a natural instinct to help until it hurts
Thank you I really want my mom to get help and she doesn’t want it for herself
I hear you Melissa, and that must be really difficult to want to help and want her to help herself but not being able to change the situation. I'm sending love your way. B
Bee, great vid, again! I am on the same wave length with you! It's just so sad, coz I only mean well and wish to help my partner. But, alas so true, he often shuts ME down, (not so much himself!) and has been extreemly nasty to me since I've kindly pointed out what he wld need to do ... I did try to avoid the fact he being this way. This is so very difficult or impossible when you live together in a small flat, in a big city. And are being insulted and shouted at, or talked to harshly... So hard to keep my cool... I have learned that I need to set boundaries. But my partner as well as some other people seem to often want to test these over and over. So tiring... It wears me out. I always have unconditional love for others, but -being an empath-, I have also learned that it doesn't mean I'm a doormat! So at times it's very important for me to step far aside, try and become neutral to their emotions, and love myself more! Coz yes, the other person has to go on it's own 'journey'. I would so much wish to share the journey with my partner. Even if it's difficult. But without the abuse... So I've stepped aside. And if needed, I'll step out. Even, if that's extreemly painful and costly for me in many ways.. I wld be greatful for a prayer/kind thought from your behalf. I know that can help, as I see it help when doing that for others. Thank you! I pray that all is well in your side. Hugs 🤗💞
Sending love and yes... holding the energy for you that the highest good for all unfolds in this situation. B 💜
i watch your videos a lot very helpful. god bless you
Blessings to you too! B :)
Amazing video
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My sis in law is constantly trying to help me and other people when we don't ask for, want, or need it. It is so annoying. It is a boundary issue on her part and then she wonders why no one likes her or helps her back. She is giving to receive, which is not the point of giving or helping. I can see she is satisfying her own need to feel important, so it comes off inauthentic. It's codependency and feels like tentacles. No thanks. It would be different if it wasn't just her giving her two cents all the time. Psychologists talk about this being a huge problem a lot.
Very good information in this video. I've known a 71 year-old woman for over 35 years and she's developed a type of mental illness that she doesn't want to talk about that manifests itself as the inability to categorize information or get everything ready in her purse to leave the house. She will just go back and forth endlessly picking up stuff and putting it down and double checking a million times. Paying bills would take forever if I wasn't there to help while she makes paper copies that fill up the room in her attempt to have a system in her head to pay bills. She doesn't feel capable of making phone calls to have things fixed around the house and other service calls because she cannot think quickly enough on the phone she says. So, she always asks me to make the calls. I've kept her nearest relative informed, a niece living 75 miles away. But this woman will start to cry over anything because she knows she can't think straight but is afraid of asking for help because she thinks they may try to institutionalize her and she would lose her house. Since obviously, I can't force her to do anything, this is really being caught between a rock and a hard place.
I have a friend with problems in their life who doesn’t want help because they don’t see anything helps and sadly I think what they say is true .. I don’t know what to do because I know from what they say that he might not tolerate the pain they have
Hi Shahilagh, I hear you and that must be a really painful situation for them and for you to be witnessing it and not know how to help. Please know, that no matter how bad a situation is, and how hopeless it may seem for your friend or for you watching this happen to your friend, there is ALWAYS hope and there is always a path forward. It might be that 100 things have been tried and not helped. I totally hear that. And yet, sometimes we go through so many variations and iterations of trying to find help and answers and to no avail, before we finally find something that reaches us in our darkness and pain, to find a way out. If you're not sure what to do, and you've tried to support them, it might be time to speak to their family members or other friends and together come up with a potential next step, so that you're not alone. It can also helpful to call a therapist in your local area and ask them for advice on what to do, by explaining the situation your friend is in, uniquely what the struggle in, and get informed advice from a professional about what to do. As a team with other friends and the person's family, the therapist might be able to offer you tips and strategies, or suggested action to help the person, and at the very least you would get support from the therapist for your own help to deal with the situation. I send much love to you and to your friend, that life b brings you both to what will be the right next step and help for a path forward and healing. B
I know lots of men who were never taught how to ask for help, and then they struggle with addictions (like p0rn, drugs, alcohol) because they don't know how to cope with getting help when they really need it.
Hi, i have tried to help my now ex, we have 2 babies together he has been on drugs for about 6 years, he was a very loving person to me and his kids, id tell hi. To stop all the time but he would always make me feel like i was making a storm in a glass of water, so i eventually stopped trying detached myself from him, all he wanted was sex all the time. He didnt work and i finally had to leave him because he strated saying i was cheating, and doing all these horrible things behind his back. And now that i left hr hits himself and cries and blames me for everything, i dont know what to do.. i dont love him anymore but i want him to get help for are babies 😣
Sounds great but in practice..... my daughter is on drugs , how am I supposed to be in a place of peace
I hear you and it is not at all "easy". You will be concerned, worried, stressed and realizing you can't stop or control another person's choices or actions. Often faith comes into play here, a realization that surrender is vital in order to find a way forward. Surrender is not giving up, it is giving over for divine guidance, support, miracles to help when you've run out of options. I have resources on this topic, I can get you links if you're interested. 💛
@@Bernadette_Logue "Suffering can be sometimes the path you take to come back home..."
What if they'll be long dead before they come back home, or make that realization/resolution?
Btw, I do believe that what you're saying is very practical and sound wisdom/advice. However, the scenario above I imagine is also a common reality. I also don't believe that this is the only tactful way forward.
Another great piece of wisdom was given by Jordan Peterson, and his approach was to essentially get your own life in order first so that this other person you want to help is able to witness/remember/perceive this other path/reality.
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Thank you so much
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My brother-in-law is an alcoholic and had a recent relapse. If I were to send him messages of encouragement, reminders that he is loved, worthy, and supported. Will this help, hurt or would it not help at all? I don’t want to cause further damage but want him to make it through this and get to the other end of this alive.
Hi Wendy, follow your heart and know that expressions of love are always energetically helpful. So long as he hasn't said no contact or to not message (boundary). 💛💗💛
@@Bernadette_Logue he has not stated no contact. He waffles from accepting of help and wanting to get better to all is lost and this is his destiny. It’s very hard on my sister as he is a very good person to my sister and excellent father to his son when sober. He has no real support system with his biological family so I just want to make sure he knows he is cared for but only if it will help him.
What if a suicdial person doesn't want help? It can be really draining dealing with them and leaving them means they're likely to die, but if they're too far gone and they don't want to change maybe it's best to just let them decide?
Hello, thank you so much for this video! I have a friend dealing with depression and a recent breakup, and he'll come to me to talk about his problems. He believes he doesn't deserve help or to be happy, and I just sometimes dont know how I should respond to him. He has bad habits he really hates about himself, and I dont know how to go about helping him change these things, or if I even should at this point. I absolutely want to help him better himself and feel good about himself but I'm so worried about hurting his feelings in the way I try to help him, and when I do tell him I want to help him he just says he doesn't deserve it so I'm at a complete loss. He won't get professional help and sees no point in trying anymore, what should I do?
I hear you, and I acknowledge what a loving friend you are. He is lucky to have you in his life, and continue to be that loving presence. Never underestimate the powerful impact you have in his life just by listening, being there, hearing him, seeing him, acknowledging "I hear how you feel". Continue to say the things that are true, even if he pushes away those messages, that he is deserving of help, that there is hope, and it's okay to have weaknesses and difficulties and bad habits, we all do, welcome to being human. Societal messages often condition our mindset to believe that we "shouldn't" have problems or weaknesses, sometimes all we need to hear is that others have the same types of challenges, to realize we aren't as broken or beyond help as we might think. One of the things you could do for him is to release your worry/fear of hurting his feelings. When you come from love, love will guide the way and guide your words. Your own worries may have you stopped from being that supportive presence, and by releasing that and realizing just being there, irrespective of what you do or say, is a great support to him at this time. Here on my channel we have many affirmation and meditation audios, and if he shows any openness to those, they can be a really easy way to start opening up to hearing new supportive messages that can soothe a person mind, body and soul, as a first step. I send much love your way. B
Helping someone without their consent is a violation of their dignity, freedom & autonomy. When you treat someone as if they are incapable, it is very serious.
Im depressed and i dont want help, but at the same time i feel like itll be very bad for my friends if i continue this.. but at the same time i don't know how to convince myself to want help.....
Hi, I am sending much love your way, and I acknowledge your free will and choice to not accept help for what you're going through. That said, at the same time, please know that there is hope, and there is healing available, if you wish. People care about you and your friends want to support you. What about instead of trying to convince yourself to want help, you were open to seeing what might happen if you tried a few new things that might alleviate the intensity of the depression. It's not about saying you need to be fixed, or that anything is wrong or broken, and it's not that getting help means you have to do a lot of new things (which might feel like too much or exhausting just thinking about it). What if there were small ways that help could be received, which wouldn't ask too much of you, wouldn't be too tiring, and would open up a small possibility for feeling a little more peace? It can also help to tell your loved ones why you don't want help... to explain what it feels like, what feels too much, and perhaps even say to them that if you were going to be open to help, you would need them to take you by the hand and organize it all for you (e.g if you're too exhausted or too deeply in the depression to even know where to start or to muster the will or energy do to anything). There is a path forward, and your loved ones will always be there wanting to help because they see the healing and hope and peace that is possible for you. And you are very much wanted and needed in our world. I send love to you. Please reach out anytime if you want free easy tools (e.g audios) to start using each day, to see if those might help alongside anything else you choose to do. B :)
I hope your still doing videos. I need inspuration and guidance on helping my child with addiction and motivation. Nothing I'm doing is helping.
Hi Linda, so sorry for the delayed reply. I'm sorry to hear that your child is going through this difficult experience and honor you for caring so much as a parent to be there for them through this. I will honestly say that addiction is not an area I can provide useful advice on as it's outside my area of experience, in terms of how to help someone who is suffering from this very specific life challenge. Though there are lots of experts online, as well as local community based groups and 12 step programs both for people going through addiction but also for family members of them. I have some clients who belong to 12 step groups in order to get the support they need being a partner/parent/child of someone addicted. You may already have that support and be in that space. Also seeing a 1:1 counsellor for your own support is a great starting place, as having someone to guide you through these tough times is just as important as the help you get/give for your child. I am sending much love to you and your family, and may you be blessed for you love and care for your child. Bx
very difficult to be in this situation
Or they continously ask for your help!
Never help someone who doesn't want your help. Presuming even that which you have to offer is of any actual help.
Hey I’m 17 and my mom has never been diagnosed with any mental illnesses yet I’m 99% certain than she has some sort of schizophrenia and is currently homeless and every time anyone attempts to help her financially or give her shelter she diverts back to drugs / steal stuff from us and she won’t admit anything to that she has done or even acknowledge when I ask about her well-being....... I know it’s a lot but what do I do her behavior is completely self-destructive.. please help and thanks for everything you do :)
Hi Luke, thanks for your message and sharing your situation. That must be so deeply challenging and I'm sure anyone reading this will be sending love your way. As this is such a complex situation in that your loved one is struggling with mental health and homelessness and drugs, and you're so young, and it's A LOT for you to carry at your age, it's best to seek advice from a professional in this area who has the wisdom to support you. Have you or your other family members or guardian got a counsellor or therapist you can see who is familiar with helping people with mental health and addiction? As much as your Mom might need that type of help, there are support groups and therapists who are able to help you as an affected family member/loved one. Just earlier today I got a message from someone else in a similar position, and it's so important to know that there are specialists in this space who deal just with mental health/addiction who will know what it's like for you to see your Mom go through this, and who are equipped to support you. I would recommend you talk to your guardian or a trusted adult family member or school teacher/guidance counsellor about this, and ask for help to process and deal with it. Seeing someone in person regularly to talk through things can make a world of difference. With love and best wishes.
What if there's really no choice and that person want to die so all their problem would be gone do i need to let go..?
Hi Bee, I send so much love your way for this situation you're in with someone you care about. In support of you, if you love this person and you want to help and they are at rock bottom, continue to show up in ways you can that are loving and present, continue to look at help with professionals for what is available to support this person you love. When someone is at rock bottom, often as friends/family of the person we are not equipped to know how to help them, that's where getting support ourselves can be really help. So you might reach out to a professional to help you process what's happening and get advice about how to handle it and what to do.
I came here for me. Im that person who says i want help but no matter what anyone else does helps and i cant help myself. What do i do? Ive been struggling with depression for about 5 years and self harm for 1 year.... i relapsed after a year yesterday and its giving me the urge to do it again right now..
Thank you for reaching out and please know you are not alone, there is much love here for you, and that there is hope and light ahead. It's so important when struggling with depression to have regular in person support with a specialist (therapist, psychologist, counsellor) who can help you on the journey, not once, but with regular guidance. I acknowledge what you shared that in the past no matter what anyone else does, you feel like you can't help yourself. We all need the help of others, and you don't need to find your path alone, or rely just on helping yourself. Even if things in the past seemed to not help, there is always more available, sometimes it's just a matter to taking one more step forward each day, and staying open to new help, new ways, new paths. Right now, the most important thing is to reach out to someone in your local area for professional help, such as a therapist or counsellor that you can see in person asap. If you're unsure where to find someone, or how to get started, please do speak to a trusted loved one (a family member or friend) and let them know how you're feeling and that you need help to find a professional support person. I send love to you. You matter. You are loved. You are enough just as you are. You are important. You have purpose and the world needs you. 💛💜💛
@@Bernadette_Logue thank you so much❤️
I watched this to see why people want to help.
It annoys me.
I don't want to talk.
I'd rather think about it alone in my room.
Just leave it
Thank you for sharing. 💛
What about when they become dangerous to others. Compromising others. And will refuse to accept that they are causing everyone else damage while self destructing. And exacerbated by Xanax abuse while denying it. I am falling into a depression myself trying to figure this out
Hi, I send so much love your way and totally hear how challenging that must be. I acknowledge you for caring and wanting to help this person, and for reaching out looking for ideas, advice, support. It sounds like a serious situation in which it may be useful to get support from a therapist to help you navigate this, someone you can see regularly in person where you live, both to support your own wellbeing and the weight of this on you, as well as support for what interventions are possible if the person is potentially dangerous to be around. With love, B
I want to help my friend to go theraphy but she says she is fine even her mom is struggling cut me off from social media how can I convince I tried everything don't want to hear anything
Indeed it's hard to help someone who refuses help and doesn't want it. The one thing we can always do, which helps, is to love them. Love them where they stand. Hear them. See them. Listen and love. 💗 May love prevail.
Hi guys! I just want to leave this here! I am thinking about ending my life. I have no one that speaks to me and I haven’t been able to share my troubles with anyone these past two years. Is there anyone here that would speak to me?
I need someone to talk to me
Sweet soul, I'm here. Message me on email to support@bernadettelogue.com. You are not alone, ever. Love is all around you and you are courageous, supported and cherished. Reach out on email. With love, B 💜
But I don’t have faith and their problems become my problems
My issue with people who want no help is they refuse to leave your life. Once you've decided you don't want a persons help, LEAVE! Its that simple. My son doesn't want to go to school. He seems extremely depressed. I have wasted time and money setting him up with therapy. He refuses to go. He wants to do nothing but lie in bed all day. I know it sounds cruel but next year on his 18th birthday I am purchasing a home and changing my phone number and blocking him on social media. There is no where else to take this relationship. He wants to be left alone, so that's exactly what I'm gonna leave him.
Good. Fail as a parrent, fail as a person. You do that you are no better than your son. He needs a therapist, or life expieriance. Throwing him out could just as well lead to suicide. How would you like that?
And you going to that extent. You may verry well need a therapist yourself!
You actually ruined my day
@@aronsundnes6649 Judging is easy and it solves nothing. If you have no actual advice to offer, your opinion is useless.
I would love to hear what you would do in this situation though.
My advice is. You cannot change a person. The person has to decide for themself if he wants change. The best you can do is accept him for who he is. No judgement. Be a person he can open up to. Either if it’s drugs, criminal problems, anything at all. You have to be a person he can trust, not pass judgement on to him. You maybe thinkin you want him good, but sometimes that is the problem. Help him if he asks for help. Be open, don’t judge, be the best person you can be for him. Educate yourself about this before you make any decision that can make the problem worse. Good luck to you, i really hopes it helps you out in any way♥️🙏🏼
Can I message you privately? Please.
Hi Sam, I see you've reached our via private direct message and I have replied. Thanks! B 😊
@@Bernadette_Logue me to pleade someone lives depends on it
@@Bernadette_Logue Could i speak to you privately?
This was nice but this person is super stubborn and refuses any help and keeps shutting me out still and refuses to get professional help either
It's tough to be in that situation you're in. Sometimes we have to accept that people have their own path to walk. Hard to watch it happen. Always remain open that one day they may want change. 💛
Omg same situation here, i donr know that to do else.
Wish i fucking saw this 2 days ago
Can you just let someone suffer until they get tired of the suffering themselves? Because everyone eventually reaches a wall where they can't take it anymore.
Hi Elsie, it really depends on the situation and trusting your own intuition about what is the best path forward. Yes if someone refuses help and you've tried to support them, sometimes there is nothing more than can be done, as we don't control other people. Sometimes though a loved one may stage an intervention to protect someone from their own selves (in extreme circumstances where someone is really unwell or causing themselves harm or harm to others). Other times if that is not the type of situation, yes you might leave a person to come to their own point of helping themselves if they have refused your help. We all reach a point where we can't take suffering anymore, but equally that dark place can be too much for some people to handle and may not always lead to epiphany or breakthrough on their own, sometimes it takes help when we're down the dark hole to have a hand reach down to assist us out. If someone won't take help, you can be on standby and lovingly hold presence walking close by them in case needed. It's complicated, as it really depends on the nature of the relationship, the person's situation and challenges, and honoring that each person has their own path to walk.
With love
B
what if they've given up and there's no way they're helping themselves too, claims to live for others and avoids every kind of avail?
what if they've given up and there's no way they're helping themselves too, claims to live for others and avoids every kind of avail?