Two of my kids got engaged 3 months apart. They married 5 months apart which is just how It worked out. Son wanted to graduate from graduate school first and sister still had a year to plan first so no showers for DIL until after daughter’s wedding. They were able to negotiate with some vendors for two weddings. It helps that my kids are each other’s best friends (other than spouses). ❤ Honestly weddings are stressful enough 🤷♀️
Months apart is fine. When I got engaged, we set the wedding date and told everyone. Four months later, my nephew got engaged and set their date two weeks before ours. We did not make a fuss, Both weddings were great, but it still bothers me deep down.
If the future SIL was already whining about my wedding and copied something I had planned on doing then I’d be petty and sneaky and tell her the most obnoxious things, the complete opposite of my true choices. Let her look like a fool and pretend to be upset but really laughing at how stupid she’s being and then when my date comes around, watch it dawn on her that she got played and got what she deserved.
I just don't understand the competition for engagement/wedding dates and sibling bullcrap. What does this say about your upcoming MARRIAGE if you have to constantly say you are in competition???
I don’t think the brothers are engaging in a rivalry. They’re just living their lives. Only one of the future brides, in this story, is having a rivalry with the other one and being underhanded by copying her choices. Some people are eaten with jealousy and have main character disorder.
On the very much off chance my sister and I ever end up engaged at the same time or even if she wanted to renew her vows, I’d be excited and happy that we could celebrate together. We are of similar mindsets so we’d have a small joint civil ceremony like she did the last time and have a joint bbq reception. My family is very big on sharing events and special dates. We’ve got several birthday twins and it only took 37 years.
I think childhood sets people up to think that life happens all in the same order, based on one's age. Kids all enter school around the same age and then progress through with their peers. Younger siblings are always behind the older siblings in reaching age based milestones. Older siblings are accustomed to obtaining privileges first. As an older sibling, and the oldest cousin, I always assumed my life would follow the trend of leading my younger cousins and sibling in life milestones. Nobody explained that adulthood is different and it never occurred to me it would be different. My younger cousin married before I did. My brother's girlfriend became pregnant when my husband and I were newlyweds. Sadly, their little one didnt make it. My heart broke for them. Their relationship didn't survive the loss. To this day, I know my brother grieves the loss of his child. Two of my other cousins... who are younger by about 12 years, have married and had children in their very early twenties. Another cousin and her husband just bought their first house. My husband and I still haven't had children. We have an inherited house, which is such a blessing. My husband's younger sisters both married before he did. All three of his siblings had kids before we did. His cousins have had kids, married, divorced, all at different times and ages. It was all of this that helped me realize, everyone in adulthood has a path that is uniquely theirs. There are no longer any set age based milestones. People meet, fall in love, marry, have kids, land their dream job, buy houses, get promoted, all at different ages. So, if someone younger is married before an older sibling... it is completely NORMAL! The sil in this first story being so disturbed by the idea of the younger brother marrying before the older brother, is understandable, but also shows she is either very young and thinks life happens in a set order still, or she is very stuck on herself and wants all of the attention. From the sounds of it with the copycat wedding planning, it's likely a combination of both. What a mess.
4:45 .. 2:23 three years. 4 48 correct, seven years.. 2:19 9:57 this reads like Mom was late. It must be an error Actually, marrying by age is an old tradition in many Countries. Some still hold by it today. Although many do not demand the younger daughters wait, there are still some cultures that do. The Regency ere was not strict about it, some families were. However, this was the hope in giving daughters a "season" from eldest down. If she did not "take" or declined marriage, she might join a religious order, become a companion or a governess. Especially if there were many other daughters needing "seasons" too.
Whats the difference btw these on TH-cam and podcasts? If it was me, as soon as i noticed she was copying mmy plans, i would purposely give her hideous ideas lol. Go ahead n copy those
Two of my kids got engaged 3 months apart. They married 5 months apart which is just how It worked out. Son wanted to graduate from graduate school first and sister still had a year to plan first so no showers for DIL until after daughter’s wedding. They were able to negotiate with some vendors for two weddings. It helps that my kids are each other’s best friends (other than spouses). ❤ Honestly weddings are stressful enough 🤷♀️
Good for your kids!
Months apart is fine. When I got engaged, we set the wedding date and told everyone. Four months later, my nephew got engaged and set their date two weeks before ours. We did not make a fuss, Both weddings were great, but it still bothers me deep down.
@ that was just rude 🤬
If the future SIL was already whining about my wedding and copied something I had planned on doing then I’d be petty and sneaky and tell her the most obnoxious things, the complete opposite of my true choices. Let her look like a fool and pretend to be upset but really laughing at how stupid she’s being and then when my date comes around, watch it dawn on her that she got played and got what she deserved.
I just don't understand the competition for engagement/wedding dates and sibling bullcrap. What does this say about your upcoming MARRIAGE if you have to constantly say you are in competition???
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I don’t think the brothers are engaging in a rivalry. They’re just living their lives. Only one of the future brides, in this story, is having a rivalry with the other one and being underhanded by copying her choices. Some people are eaten with jealousy and have main character disorder.
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On the very much off chance my sister and I ever end up engaged at the same time or even if she wanted to renew her vows, I’d be excited and happy that we could celebrate together. We are of similar mindsets so we’d have a small joint civil ceremony like she did the last time and have a joint bbq reception. My family is very big on sharing events and special dates. We’ve got several birthday twins and it only took 37 years.
Next, the sil will try to get pregnant before her!!
I think childhood sets people up to think that life happens all in the same order, based on one's age.
Kids all enter school around the same age and then progress through with their peers. Younger siblings are always behind the older siblings in reaching age based milestones. Older siblings are accustomed to obtaining privileges first.
As an older sibling, and the oldest cousin, I always assumed my life would follow the trend of leading my younger cousins and sibling in life milestones. Nobody explained that adulthood is different and it never occurred to me it would be different.
My younger cousin married before I did. My brother's girlfriend became pregnant when my husband and I were newlyweds. Sadly, their little one didnt make it. My heart broke for them. Their relationship didn't survive the loss. To this day, I know my brother grieves the loss of his child.
Two of my other cousins... who are younger by about 12 years, have married and had children in their very early twenties.
Another cousin and her husband just bought their first house.
My husband and I still haven't had children. We have an inherited house, which is such a blessing.
My husband's younger sisters both married before he did. All three of his siblings had kids before we did. His cousins have had kids, married, divorced, all at different times and ages.
It was all of this that helped me realize, everyone in adulthood has a path that is uniquely theirs. There are no longer any set age based milestones. People meet, fall in love, marry, have kids, land their dream job, buy houses, get promoted, all at different ages.
So, if someone younger is married before an older sibling... it is completely NORMAL!
The sil in this first story being so disturbed by the idea of the younger brother marrying before the older brother, is understandable, but also shows she is either very young and thinks life happens in a set order still, or she is very stuck on herself and wants all of the attention. From the sounds of it with the copycat wedding planning, it's likely a combination of both. What a mess.
4:45 .. 2:23 three years.
4 48 correct, seven years.. 2:19
9:57 this reads like Mom was late. It must be an error
Actually, marrying by age is an old tradition in many Countries. Some still hold by it today. Although many do not demand the younger daughters wait, there are still some cultures that do.
The Regency ere was not strict about it, some families were. However, this was the hope in giving daughters a "season" from eldest down. If she did not "take" or declined marriage, she might join a religious order, become a companion or a governess. Especially if there were many other daughters needing "seasons" too.
I truly don't get the first story Like why would you not want your own wedding Second story Daughter was rude
I heard the restaurant in Malibu called Moonshadows in your 2nd story mentioned. Sadly, it apparently burned down in the Malibu fire this week. 😢
Whats the difference btw these on TH-cam and podcasts?
If it was me, as soon as i noticed she was copying mmy plans, i would purposely give her hideous ideas lol. Go ahead n copy those