One of my favourite memes is: "Are you a boy or a girl? - I'm a threat" Another one is: "To my transphobic mother, I'm not a girl but I sure am one son-of-a-bitch!"
The reason I use bi lable instead of pan lable is that I can call myself bi-biologist. That’s it. There is also the benefit of more people know what it means.
I prefer the pan flag's colors. That's it. I guess it also has something to do with the mindset for me? I realized it was less "I like all of these genders" and instead "gender is not a factor for me, there is just people I like and people I don't like"
I use bi as a general way to describe my sexuality, like I’m under the bi umbrella. I like all genders, but more specifically, I consider myself omnisexual rather than pan because my personal understanding of pan is that attraction is possible regardless of gender, while with omnisexual I’m attracted to all genders but the gender plays a role in my attraction and I experience these attractions a little differently. Part of the reason why has to do with my own trans nonbinary identity and how I perceive myself in relationships with different genders. Basically, for me all attraction or relationships are gay, not in a funny way but in a genuine and meaningful way ya know?
when you said "My dad still sometimes calls me his daughter" bro you pass so well that actually threw me through a loop and I had to process that information LOL
I saw a post saying something like "When you transition you will likely not look like a skinny anime girl but you will probably look like someone's mom and you need to realize how swag that is" I dunno how true that statement is but it sounds really funny
@@gmarefan Just imagine the conversation where the repeatedly ask you what your gender is and you keep switching the answer “What’s your gender” No What’s your gender? Yes “What’s your gender?” Maybe “What’s your gender”*increasingly frustrated* *Pulls out a uno reverse card*
@@THRASH.EXElll being agender, my answer is always no ;) I know you didn’t mean any arm, it’s just when you don’t know someone, it’s better not to use their own expression for expressing yours ;)
@@gmarefan being agender, my answer is always no ;) I know you didn’t mean any arm, it’s just when you don’t know someone, it’s better not to use their own expression for expressing yours ;)
Fun fact about that bathroom signs post. Fish was a term in the polari language that meant "to pass as a woman" and was frequently used to describe a drag queen's looks.
Icelandic uses gendered patronymics as surnames (which would translate to "X's-son" or "X's-daughter"). This is legally enforced. That legislation was expanded in 2019 so that NB folks can instead use an option that translates to "X's-child".
9:40 when my neighbor's daughter got divorced she told her two kids that they could change their names if they wanted, then got mad when they each picked a metal for their new first names (they were kind of young at the time I think). the implication I picked up was that they were supposed to pick between their mom and dad's last names instead, but that the mom didn't explain what she meant by "you can change your name".
I still confuse some people when I say I'm "bi" but am plenty willing to date and be with people regardless of their gender or lack of gender. Like, I fall in love with the person. Anything else is just extra icing on the cake or variety. They're like "but bi means only male or female!". Nothing is ever simple. Nothing.
@@queerbee. i thought bi = binary (as in the two binary genders) and since non-binary meant neither man nor woman, i thought bi people wouldn't be attracted to non-binary people. Is this wrong? if we are basing this conversation on this 6:26 i do not see why trans people are excluded in the bigots lineups.
@@Theoriginalautismer7790basically bisexuality is very old and when it was "created" in the early 20th century gender wasn't really researched. Therefore it was called bisexuality because we thought there were two genders. But tbh the definition of bisexuality has expanded and now its usually relatively the same as pan except the flag has different pretty colors
The fact that I love wearing skirts but don't know how to behave in them makes me endlessly appreciative of skorts. The other day I saw a cute skirt in a store, walked in to have a closer look, realized they were actually shorts and immediately bought them
That last one about coming out is how I've been doing it. I only told my partner at the time, family, and two friends. I didn't tell anyone at work, just started presenting more queer each month. Last month I had a big grant renewal meeting and went 100% trans-mode and no one dared ask. A few days later, one colleague worked up the nerve to ask and I told him. I think my boss has figured a few things out as she's had a trans student before, but she still hasn't really asked about it.
A lot of people think they misgender me, but they don’t. I go to my mom’s workplace a lot, and she introduces me as my deadname. Before she introduces me most people (correctly) assume I am her son. Right after she deadnames me, I always get apologized to. The most frequent comment is “sorry, I was only looking at the hair.” It’s quite frustrating. Idk why I wrote that this video reminds me of it tho.
I've heard alot of my bi friends say it's more like being attracted to masculine and feminine people, regardless of "s3x assigned at birth" like fembois, and tomgirls. Or yah know dudes.
25:22 I read some funny ways to come out lists (they're hilarious, you should read some) and one of my favorites was "Order an Edible Arrangement for yourself. (These are queer by nature, everyone should get it.)"
Y'know, as my first time here, I see you talking about how you get misgendered, it took me a minute to figure out that you're Not AMAB I wonder if any of those people assumed you were a trans woman and were trying to be gender affirming
The only form of policing I'm okay with, is keeping out the fake moles and similar from the community. Most are super obvious, like ai art level obvious. Yet, some still manage to get tricked by them.
I went to Berkeley for my first year of college (1990-91). The dorm floor I lived on had a single bathroom with multiple sinks, toilet stalls, and shower stalls. Oh, and the floor was co-ed and everyone used the same bathroom. It was really not that big a deal😮
17:09 for some time I referred to myself as non-binary, until I realized that my issue was gender roles, allowing my egg to crack fully as a trans woman. And yeah, spanish is too gendered. There is actually a push for a new linguistic gender for non-binary people, but people who don't understand language evolution refuse to accept it. It's disappointing, really. But yeah, most enbies prefer to be referred to with an e, or alternating between masc and femme terms in spanish. For example, instead of "no binario/no binaria", it would be "no binarie" because that's an actual form for the language in quite a few instances.
I'm Brazilian and non binary, and unfortunately have that problem too. I don't like "neutral" language that much for myself, it's a lack of actually using it often and I really try to use it whenever I can, so I kinda prefer when people who accept me flip flops between he/him/she/her, but I'll never refuse using neutral "e" for someone else
Damn, I couldn't do a funny coming out cause I spent my entire discovery phase needing help from friends and mum to work out what the hell was going on.
17:15 There is two gender neutral suffixes for this kinda thing actually The uh, awkward one that was probably not made by latine people is -x, which always just feels really awkward By there was ine made by Spanish speaking people, -e! Which already exists in some places in the language, is easier to say, and is made by people who use the language
For the spanish one, I am gonna say, to each their own way of expressing themselves, I just accept both ones since language gender != speaker gender, is just silly, the water is both female or male depending on what sounds better, so like the water, just let yourself flow =3
FALSE! I got called "ma'am" in a walmart with a full beard as an AMAB person. I still don't understand it, but thank you random old man for making me realize I was not attached to male labels!
i work at a little shop and ive been thinking about how to come out as enby there, the place has very chill vibes, theres not that many co-workers and im pretty sure about at least my boss being an ally. i think its less of they'll be full on transphobic and more of they'll be confused about it. the only problem is i know my mum is a bit transphobic because i tried to come out to her a few years back as demigirl and she just said "that (diffrence between gender and biological sex) dosent exist to me" which sucks because she picks me up to and from work. if anyones got any ideas that would be great. also i just subscribed because this video was very chill and you seem very chill and cool :)
If your coworkers are chill you can maybe just explain to them that your mom doesn’t know yet so they’ll hopefully not tell her anything in passing. Maybe bring up a “trans friend” (you can make one up if you don’t have one) to gauge how they react to it if you wanna test the waters first
I took Spanish my sophomore year (grade 10), gendered languages like Spanish when there’s multiple people or you need to refer to someone without gendering them, you use the masculine version. “No binaria” is grammatically incorrect.
I'm changing my name to 🔳🔳🔳 and adding a zombie fish with only 30% of its body mass left in all my signatures as part of the name, because I feel like bites have been taken out of me by every other fish I've met and only my heart wants its body to keep swimming, and only my heart beleives it deserves as much. And hoping that the identity change will cease what equations and laws that govern others treatment of me. I doubt it will. I need to shed my old identity no matter what though.
Question im really stupid about everything lgbtq+ stuff and I want be a better ally so where could I find ways to learn more about the community so I could be slightly less stupid.
Honestly I think browsing through reddit communities or watching videos by queer people where they talk about their experiences is maybe a good place to start off. And tbh you don’t need to know or understand everything to be an ally :)
Tbh, it feels a bit harmful to imply trans people figure themselves out really early, or don't have options. Sure, a good few do, but that statement feels like it sort of invalidates people who get hit by it later, like during puberty, or later, like when I found out what the word trans even meant in my early 20s.
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One of my favourite memes is:
"Are you a boy or a girl? - I'm a threat"
Another one is: "To my transphobic mother, I'm not a girl but I sure am one son-of-a-bitch!"
"nono, what''s in your pants?' - ***DOOM***
The reason I use bi lable instead of pan lable is that I can call myself bi-biologist. That’s it. There is also the benefit of more people know what it means.
I am going to college as a biology major and am bisexual, thank u for this idea!
Plus the bi flag has nice pretty colours :)
Bonus: bisexual lighting ✨ is everywhere and must be found. Like pineapples in a Psych episode.
I prefer the pan flag's colors.
That's it.
I guess it also has something to do with the mindset for me? I realized it was less "I like all of these genders" and instead "gender is not a factor for me, there is just people I like and people I don't like"
@@monocasualzari I prefer the bi flag's colors, but I am definitely pan, like I do NOT think about gender at all when I like someone.
I use bi as a general way to describe my sexuality, like I’m under the bi umbrella. I like all genders, but more specifically, I consider myself omnisexual rather than pan because my personal understanding of pan is that attraction is possible regardless of gender, while with omnisexual I’m attracted to all genders but the gender plays a role in my attraction and I experience these attractions a little differently. Part of the reason why has to do with my own trans nonbinary identity and how I perceive myself in relationships with different genders. Basically, for me all attraction or relationships are gay, not in a funny way but in a genuine and meaningful way ya know?
What if, as a prank, you replaced gendered bathroom signs with "you must be this tall to ride" signs from theme parks
when you said "My dad still sometimes calls me his daughter"
bro you pass so well that actually threw me through a loop and I had to process that information LOL
Trans guy: *wants to where a skirt bc they like it but don't want to be seen as a girl
Me, an intellectual: SCOTTLAND FOREVER!!! *bagpipe earrape*
Me, a trans man who’s transition goals are Jonathan Davis: I see this as an absolute win.
@@kieranindahouseLMAO for real 🙏
@@wookalarrr OMG I LOVE YOUR NATHAN EXPLOSION PFP
@@kieranindahouse YAAYYA!!!
I saw a post saying something like "When you transition you will likely not look like a skinny anime girl but you will probably look like someone's mom and you need to realize how swag that is"
I dunno how true that statement is but it sounds really funny
My bisexual, trans/nonbinary/bigender arse when i get told bisexuals cant be attrqcted to trans/enbys *gone, reduced to attoms*
And so, pansexuality was revealed!
@@autumn948 that isn't what the difference is, despite the etymological origins of each term
@@--CHARLIE-- my knowledge on seualities is still limited, sorry.
I said what I did because this is how I became pansexual
“Are you a man or a woman?” “What is your gender?”
No.
Or alternatively, yes.
@@gmarefan Just imagine the conversation where the repeatedly ask you what your gender is and you keep switching the answer
“What’s your gender”
No
What’s your gender?
Yes
“What’s your gender?”
Maybe
“What’s your gender”*increasingly frustrated*
*Pulls out a uno reverse card*
@@THRASH.EXElll being agender, my answer is always no ;)
I know you didn’t mean any arm, it’s just when you don’t know someone, it’s better not to use their own expression for expressing yours ;)
@@gmarefan being agender, my answer is always no ;)
I know you didn’t mean any arm, it’s just when you don’t know someone, it’s better not to use their own expression for expressing yours ;)
Fun fact about that bathroom signs post. Fish was a term in the polari language that meant "to pass as a woman" and was frequently used to describe a drag queen's looks.
Icelandic uses gendered patronymics as surnames (which would translate to "X's-son" or "X's-daughter"). This is legally enforced. That legislation was expanded in 2019 so that NB folks can instead use an option that translates to "X's-child".
9:40 when my neighbor's daughter got divorced she told her two kids that they could change their names if they wanted, then got mad when they each picked a metal for their new first names (they were kind of young at the time I think). the implication I picked up was that they were supposed to pick between their mom and dad's last names instead, but that the mom didn't explain what she meant by "you can change your name".
"Be yourself, kiddos!"
"Not like that!
I still confuse some people when I say I'm "bi" but am plenty willing to date and be with people regardless of their gender or lack of gender. Like, I fall in love with the person. Anything else is just extra icing on the cake or variety. They're like "but bi means only male or female!". Nothing is ever simple. Nothing.
Why are people confused? Do they wanna tell you you need to identify as pan?
@@queerbee. don't know. Best guess is they see bi as "into men or women" and pan as bi but also into everyone else?
@@queerbee. i thought bi = binary (as in the two binary genders) and since non-binary meant neither man nor woman, i thought bi people wouldn't be attracted to non-binary people. Is this wrong? if we are basing this conversation on this 6:26 i do not see why trans people are excluded in the bigots lineups.
@@queerbee. wait can trans people transition to non-binary people
@@Theoriginalautismer7790basically bisexuality is very old and when it was "created" in the early 20th century gender wasn't really researched. Therefore it was called bisexuality because we thought there were two genders. But tbh the definition of bisexuality has expanded and now its usually relatively the same as pan except the flag has different pretty colors
The fact that I love wearing skirts but don't know how to behave in them makes me endlessly appreciative of skorts. The other day I saw a cute skirt in a store, walked in to have a closer look, realized they were actually shorts and immediately bought them
That last one about coming out is how I've been doing it. I only told my partner at the time, family, and two friends. I didn't tell anyone at work, just started presenting more queer each month. Last month I had a big grant renewal meeting and went 100% trans-mode and no one dared ask. A few days later, one colleague worked up the nerve to ask and I told him. I think my boss has figured a few things out as she's had a trans student before, but she still hasn't really asked about it.
Haha that’s honestly kind of a fun way to play chicken with the cishets :D to see if anyone dares to ask
A lot of people think they misgender me, but they don’t. I go to my mom’s workplace a lot, and she introduces me as my deadname. Before she introduces me most people (correctly) assume I am her son. Right after she deadnames me, I always get apologized to. The most frequent comment is “sorry, I was only looking at the hair.” It’s quite frustrating. Idk why I wrote that this video reminds me of it tho.
1:25 as a fish i see this as an absolute win
omg, fellow fish in the wild?
@@freddiefishton 🐟
shoutout to my university building for having mostly (though not entirely) gender neutral bathrooms
I affectionately call my gender a Roulette wheel.
I've heard alot of my bi friends say it's more like being attracted to masculine and feminine people, regardless of "s3x assigned at birth" like fembois, and tomgirls. Or yah know dudes.
25:22 I read some funny ways to come out lists (they're hilarious, you should read some) and one of my favorites was "Order an Edible Arrangement for yourself. (These are queer by nature, everyone should get it.)"
bran meams (bean memes)
Why did i keep the mispelling again?
@@RandomPersonOnTH-cam-vh3yp Idk
raisin bran
@@mrblakeboy1420why the fuck does that translate to “I raped Bran”
@@RandomPersonOnTH-cam-vh3ypbecause this is gold.
16:52 in German, the word for girl “mädchen” is neuter
I would feel more comfortable going to a bathroom with a sign with a fish or an alien symbol or even just a random shape on it
Y'know, as my first time here, I see you talking about how you get misgendered, it took me a minute to figure out that you're Not AMAB
I wonder if any of those people assumed you were a trans woman and were trying to be gender affirming
I have been watching them for a bit and lost my mind at the idea their dad called them daughter, like wtf?
Haha yeaaah so many people who just meet me now wonder if I’m a trans woman because I’m enby and kinda feminine it’s honestly funny :D
The only form of policing I'm okay with, is keeping out the fake moles and similar from the community. Most are super obvious, like ai art level obvious. Yet, some still manage to get tricked by them.
I went to Berkeley for my first year of college (1990-91). The dorm floor I lived on had a single bathroom with multiple sinks, toilet stalls, and shower stalls. Oh, and the floor was co-ed and everyone used the same bathroom.
It was really not that big a deal😮
17:09 for some time I referred to myself as non-binary, until I realized that my issue was gender roles, allowing my egg to crack fully as a trans woman. And yeah, spanish is too gendered. There is actually a push for a new linguistic gender for non-binary people, but people who don't understand language evolution refuse to accept it. It's disappointing, really. But yeah, most enbies prefer to be referred to with an e, or alternating between masc and femme terms in spanish. For example, instead of "no binario/no binaria", it would be "no binarie" because that's an actual form for the language in quite a few instances.
I'm Brazilian and non binary, and unfortunately have that problem too. I don't like "neutral" language that much for myself, it's a lack of actually using it often and I really try to use it whenever I can, so I kinda prefer when people who accept me flip flops between he/him/she/her, but I'll never refuse using neutral "e" for someone else
transfem enby here, I always say I'm woman adjacent, sometimes people get it sometimes they don't lol
Most people just think "gender" is a straight line.
Damn, I couldn't do a funny coming out cause I spent my entire discovery phase needing help from friends and mum to work out what the hell was going on.
18:38 not gender related, but this applies to antifurries too
9:22 I feel very targeted. My name is literally a shape
Hello, trapezoid
@@altf4755 You have guessed wrong it's Quasi Rhombicosidodecahedron
@@Afk29292 Rookie mistake, I'll do better next time
Nice to meet you dechehadron
Oh hi there triangle
17:15
There is two gender neutral suffixes for this kinda thing actually
The uh, awkward one that was probably not made by latine people is -x, which always just feels really awkward
By there was ine made by Spanish speaking people, -e! Which already exists in some places in the language, is easier to say, and is made by people who use the language
ooo nice video but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE IRON YOUR FLAG IVE SEEN THIS A MILLION TIMES IM BEGGING. nice vid btw ❤
Not all flags can be ironed some aren’t made for all that.
@@insert_namedialinsert_name you can always use a hairdryer on a low setting for vinyl
But then the flag would be straight
🤣
you have awesome glasses
Thank you :)
For the spanish one, I am gonna say, to each their own way of expressing themselves, I just accept both ones since language gender != speaker gender, is just silly, the water is both female or male depending on what sounds better, so like the water, just let yourself flow =3
6:27 As a bisexual trans enby, I can approve that this kind of message gives me a great sense of erasure 🫥
Instead of drinking water I took my daily estrogen 👍
I just gotta say that my friend send me this video saying that I look so similar to you, and it's true, you're my doppelganger, lmao.
That’s pretty cool :D I’ve never met someone that resembled me before
8:40 try having a beard, then people will think you are a man no matter what else you do or wear
=__= too real
Not sure my beard grows in even or fast enough but I guess it would work
FALSE! I got called "ma'am" in a walmart with a full beard as an AMAB person. I still don't understand it, but thank you random old man for making me realize I was not attached to male labels!
i work at a little shop and ive been thinking about how to come out as enby there, the place has very chill vibes, theres not that many co-workers and im pretty sure about at least my boss being an ally. i think its less of they'll be full on transphobic and more of they'll be confused about it. the only problem is i know my mum is a bit transphobic because i tried to come out to her a few years back as demigirl and she just said "that (diffrence between gender and biological sex) dosent exist to me" which sucks because she picks me up to and from work. if anyones got any ideas that would be great.
also i just subscribed because this video was very chill and you seem very chill and cool :)
If your coworkers are chill you can maybe just explain to them that your mom doesn’t know yet so they’ll hopefully not tell her anything in passing. Maybe bring up a “trans friend” (you can make one up if you don’t have one) to gauge how they react to it if you wanna test the waters first
I think, i don´t know any queer person who doesn´t have this lovely plush
I’ve become so 14:25 I can’t feel you there
Gender? I barely even know her!
Wtf is a gender
@@-_cat_-_paws-_ WTF IS A GENDEEERRRRRRR 🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧
I’m looking for the bathroom sign that looks like Leviathan from Hellraiser, that’s where ai belong
MUST COMMENT TO SUPPORT!!
I took Spanish my sophomore year (grade 10), gendered languages like Spanish when there’s multiple people or you need to refer to someone without gendering them, you use the masculine version. “No binaria” is grammatically incorrect.
I'm changing my name to 🔳🔳🔳 and adding a zombie fish with only 30% of its body mass left in all my signatures as part of the name, because I feel like bites have been taken out of me by every other fish I've met and only my heart wants its body to keep swimming, and only my heart beleives it deserves as much. And hoping that the identity change will cease what equations and laws that govern others treatment of me. I doubt it will. I need to shed my old identity no matter what though.
Was that supposed to be irony or... what??
I WISH i was strong enough to use any pronouns but he/him hurts too much :(
samee
5:54 This is literally my partner tho
Your dad called you his daughter? How the fk?
He literally drove me to and picked me up from top surgery but somehow still is confused because long hair. It’s the silliest
WE STAN
omg fedi spotted (chitter xyz runs mastodon)
yt algorithm found this video haha!
Question im really stupid about everything lgbtq+ stuff and I want be a better ally so where could I find ways to learn more about the community so I could be slightly less stupid.
Honestly I think browsing through reddit communities or watching videos by queer people where they talk about their experiences is maybe a good place to start off. And tbh you don’t need to know or understand everything to be an ally :)
@@queerbee. Thank!
Stay away from hateful groups like truscum as well. r/trans and r/lgbt are fine places to absorb information.
As a bi enby and also Latin American, I don’t actually get that error in my google translate
Might be photoshop you never know :D
a gender in this econemy? i think not
Is it trans to have insomnia?
Yeah if you can’t sleep cause of dysphoria or not being able to decide what outfit to wear. Or if your stressed about something.
Yeaaah it’s not trans to have insomnia but I think a lot of queer people in general struggle with it
Tbh, it feels a bit harmful to imply trans people figure themselves out really early, or don't have options. Sure, a good few do, but that statement feels like it sort of invalidates people who get hit by it later, like during puberty, or later, like when I found out what the word trans even meant in my early 20s.
Wow I’m early
/ot but squeeee I wanna look like you sm
12:45 me (apapronominal)
Edit: flag sucks though
How did this video become your second most popular video in like 4 days?
A suggestion for the Spanish nonbinary word:
NONBINARIAO
20:33 I see what you did there :)