Last year , I took shrooms at Las Vegas thinking it was going to hit like an edible or something Shit was scary at first but amazing once you start getting deeper into your thoughts
3 biggest things i’ve learned to get rid of anxiety completely •don’t care what others think •workout •don’t try to be something if it’s not being yourself
@@branem.2254 you don’t need high confidence, that will come naturally within yourself, but till that comes what you can do is do things strictly YOU enjoy and don’t let other opinions intrigue your mind, stay true to your own mind you know what’s best for you
Be patient with recovery and realize that your own recovery is going to take however long it takes. Even more importantly, DO NOT give up on yourself if you're doing the work and things start to go really shitty for a while or long time. It doesn't mean what you're doing isn't working, recovery isn't a linear process where everything is going to go right all the time and that's OK. The brain takes time to rewire itself, but eventually you will get to a better place and it will be worth it. Love yourself and don't ever give up, you have something special to offer the world.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
YES very sure of bergwilly11__. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Lifelong anxiety issues. The mind going blank is maddening. My brain literally stops in it’s tracks. Meditation, 30 min a day has been a game changer. Along with exercise. Journaling. I have so much in my tool belt, but learned a lot from watching this. This was a great video. Thank you so much.
I have this exact same problem, it happens under social pressure, like interviews, i cant do them period. Did you have the same thing and you were able to get past it? Any help would be greatly appreciated
@@rossetti1313 How are you now? Join a public speaking course. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
“The only thing I am nervous about, is other people realizing that I am nervous. Like if I knew my nerves were invisible, I wouldn’t worry about it.” Wow! That really hit home with me. Thank you Tom very much: you are legendary brother! ❤️
This has always been my biggest issue. I had a couple heart palpitations and literally sat on the floor because I panicked a bit and that later on instilled a tremendous amount of anxiety because of my fear of someone else seeing me fall to the floor. The embarrassment I guess of needing support from a stranger if I'm actually having a heart attack or any other issue causes me anxiety.
Helpful tip : You are not your thoughts. You are the observer of your thoughts. You ignore bad ones and move forward with positive ones. Trust me if you practise this long enough (it is a skill which requires months of practise) it will help you a lot.
I really liked the "you are an observer of your thoughts". That's a good way to understand that you're separate from your thoughts and that your thoughts aren't equal to who you are.
“The Power of Now” that book is currently saving my life. Observe yourself having your thoughts from a 3rd person view. Become the observer, don’t judge or analyze yourself having these thoughts, just watch. You will slowly learn to detach your mind from the real you. Your mind isn’t the real you, the real you is the one that exists in the present. Thoughts can’t exist without consciousness but consciousness can exist without thoughts. Practice mindfulness and being in the present. It could be something small like analyzes what you are doing in this very moment, that’s practicing mindfulness. Being aware of yourself in the “now”. Use your mind as a tool and when your are not using it put away and focus on being in the present. Always say “yes” to the present moment, surrender to what is and say “yes” to life. When you learn and master your thoughts your no longer a slave to your mind, you become free. So next time your doing a task or even eating, don’t watch TV or your phone. Do it being aware of being fully in the present. Whenever you have anxious thoughts, picture them as you floating in your back on water and the emotion is a wave passing you, acknowledge them but don’t react to them. Remember when you feel something, you feel it in your body and not your mind. Focus on feeling and not thinking. That’s how you detach yourself from your thoughts.
You are able to control your own toughts lol, why think negative if you are totally free and able to think positive 😂 its kinda funny because it's that simple but a big life changer for me guys. Gonna practice this everyday from now on, cuz... why you don't want to finally relieve your anxiety you suffering from for years right? Thanks alot for this one. Bless!
I love you so much!!! I've lived with anxiety my entire life. It has impacted my ability to move forward in my career. Your podcast has literally given me the tools to get through my anxiety. It hasn't completely disappeared but I've been so good at controlling it and ultimately have overcome it. I hope you realize how impactful you are. I'm a single mommy of three....you've improved my families quality life. Never stop!!!!
Do you think you can give me any tips please. I can’t stand anxiety when it appears it is both scary and it makes me lose hope like I’m gonna be stuck like this for soooo long and I will end up losing everything including my mind. I just want to be happy and positive I have my moments when I am but also lots when I’m not..
Gratitude is insufficient; having my teen son look for relief for his anxiety and not having the funds for a therapist has been devastating as a mother. This video is a Godsend. If I came across you I would tearfully hug you.
Your opening about the bizarreness and hopelessness of past anxiety is so profoundly relatable to me. I spent 28 yrs in codependent abusive relationships and where I am at now is incomprehensible to five years ago when I couldn’t speak with emotion without crying.
I've delt with anxiety for a majority of my adult life. I've watched many videos on anxiety. This is by far the best video Ive ever seen. From the physiological aspects, to thought patterns, to implementation, to personal experiences just unbelievable. Great job Tom. Keep up the amazing work!
Anxiety is considered the most common mental illness. Depression can involve negative thoughts that spiral out of control. Side effects from anxiety can also lead to negative thoughts, which could affect your life. While you may not be able to stop the underlying reasons for your negative thinking, you may be able to change how you think and feel about it. Thanks for sharing this amazing post.
As a physician who has read a lot on this topic, this man offers a lot of science based and proven techniques to help with anxiety. Put these into practice and it will help. I have no relationship with this channel or Tom.
My anxiety almost didn't allow me to overcome the fear of watching this video! I'm so glad I didn't allow it to make that decision for me, great information that I can actually use every day.
Thank you so much, Tom. Your comments at the beginning of this video have already filled me with hope! I've been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks increasingly over the last 11 years... very debilitating and it's limited my contributing to the world. Less than 2 minutes in and I'm already thinking I will be able to get past this and enjoy life again. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Wim hof breathing and cold showers changed my life in dealing with anxiety. You don’t even need all 3 breathing rounds at once too. One round is enough to at least calm down the oncoming panic attack. Be kind to yourselves; we didn’t ask for this crippling disorder. Peace be with you 💛💛💛💪👍
@@bigupbig2198 the tingling you felt was your blood rushing trough your head and hands, that's completely normal. Your body however connected the fast breathing to hyperventilating.. thus your mind interpreted this as a panic attack.
My point was that I have been telling myself “Carissa you’re a LEARNER. You never thought you’d get your drivers license @ age 16 but YOU GOT IT!” “Though things seem impossible and unattainable right now does not mean it isn’t possible. It is possible for you to get what you want”
Not worrying about things I did in the past. Nothing can ever change it so I learned to let it go, Letting trivial things go over my head instead of getting angry. Not concerning myself in other people's business, gossip etc and not worrying about tomorrow, oh and forgiveness, all changed my life and helped me to sleep better at night. Most of the things I worried about never happened or if they did were no where near as bad as I'd imagined.
i had a panic attack after changing my hair color yesterday! i'm triggered by the most random minor things too. i'm so happy you share your struggles & ways to rehearse the positive. really helps tom! thanks ✌🏾
Corinne, How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
Omg girl me too, i had black hair before dying it blonde then trying to get it to look auburn I had a panic then cried then laughed because I knew I could fix it but it just seemed so silly and it’s amazing how our brains can trick us to feel some sort of fear and anxiety w the minor things like you explained 🤍 gotta laugh and and cry and it’s what helps me cope
You have a gift for explaining things profoundly and efficiently. Example: “Meditation is a physiological hook, to consciously take control of your biology.” Thank you. Brilliant.
37:48 minutes that proved to be exactly what I needed to hear, see, record, consider, absorb, learn, remember, act upon... this is gold. Gold. It’s all here. Exactly what I’ve needed. In a very concise package. Tom, know that you have changed my life today. Thank you. 🌟🦋
At some point, I sighed with relief and my eyes welled up. Your enthusiasm, researched knowledge and generous, kind willingness to share just threw a bomb of hope into a nest of years of anxiety. Thank you.
Thank you immensely for sharing this Tom. I've battled worrying excessively and anxiety for a long time and used to get sweaty palms, heart palpitations and tremors, but my anxiety is perfectly controlled by me now over the years with all the important research I did and learnt about anxiety. And your tips definitely helps too.
you feel anxiety about something (anything) because on some level you CARE about that something. Just change your attitude and say " I do not care anymore. let it go to hell or whatever, I am walking away from it" and just LEAVE that thing mentally and emotionally. Divorce it in your mind. Gee, I love the attitude, it really helps.
Dude YOU just saved my LIFE!!!! For real!!! Thanks for being brave enough to share your truth with honestly and vulnerability!!!! I am a HUGE fan of your wife Lisa and this video saved me from myself!!!!!
Thank you Tom this really helps with my anxiety. Definitely going to utilize these tips and strategies to overcome the 30 years of anxiety that I have dealt with. It makes me feel good knowing that someone understands my thoughts in my behaviors and his physically been through it
This will be a lengthy reply, but I think it will be well worth the read Elena. First off, I highly suggest checking out "When Panic Attacks" by Dr. David Burns. Fantastic book and it's one of the best I've read related to anxiety and panic with many practical tools and techniques you can use to overcome and actually BEAT anxiety, not just manage it. Also, check out "Healing and Recovery" and "Letting Go" by Dr. David R. Hawkins. He was one of the pioneers in the research of consciousness and offers such an interesting twist to how our minds work along with our consciousness and awareness to give additional tools to beat anxiety and many, many other hard times in life. Both of them have prior experience with dealing with anxiety in their own lives and were both highly sought psychiatrists for decades. I suggest "When Panic Attacks" for solid tools to beat the anxiety, and "Healing and Recovery" as well as "Letting Go" for tools on how to no longer let things bother you, and also to give you the tools to deal with virtually any potential emotional or physical setback you may face in the future. Brief backstory but I believe it is notable. I had a panic attack about 12 years ago after smoking some cannabis that didn't agree with me. Prior to that I never had any anxiety of any kind, but I was sort of a natural "worrier" as my mother would put it, which is what made me susceptible to ongoing anxiety as you will see. Anyway, instead of just attributing the attack to the weed and moving on with life which would make the most sense, I instead, developed a fear of the panic and anxiety itself which is called "second fear" coined by Dr. Claire Weekes if I recall correctly, and worried daily about it returning. So much so, that I ended up having a 2 or 3 year stint of crippling anxiety. Now, I don't know if it was due being 20 at the time and stubborn along with self medicating through alcohol (which blunts the lower levels of consciousness where anxiety thrives) but I eventually came out of it on my own without seeking any sort of therapy or medication help and besides the occasional feeling of very mild anxiety here and there which was fleeting, and would only last a minute or so in the form of VERY mild nervousness in my solar plexus region, I was virtually anxiety free for years until a month and a half ago. I'll spare you the details, but I've had many circumstances over the last 3 or 4 of years that I've subconsciously repressed the emotions of, as well as consciously suppressing said emotions as well in the name of being a "strong man." Well let me tell you, after locking emotions away long enough or just 'ignoring them' anyone can be broken. So long story short, my anxiety returned with a vengeance about a month and a half ago. It completely blindsided me. Keep in mind, anxiety hardly ever occurs 'out of the blue.' There is almost always a underlying issue or issues and the anxiety is your minds way of saying "there is something you need to deal with." I became house bound, stopped eating, lost a little over 20lbs, stopped working out, stopped going hiking with my wife and son, couldn't sit still at all, paced for hours at a time, dreaded laying down to go to sleep for fear of my idle mind, and my libido crashed. My life was turned upside down overnight. I went from being the stoic figure in my family who you could always turn to no matter the situation, who always remained calm, cool and collected, to being a house bound, shell of my former self who was scared to be alone in case the panic occurred. I was in sheer fear and terror 24/7. Being that I'm 33 now and not nearly as stubborn as when I was young, I immediately sought out a counselor, who then referred me to a great doctor and I began trying things out, as I was NOT about to let this turn into an ongoing deal like in the past. The books I've mentioned to you, especially "When Panic Attacks" have 100% made a world of difference in a very short amount of time. Reading books like that and trying techniques on your own is actually a form of therapy in and of itself, called bibliotherapy. I've read 6 books in the last month all to do with anxiety, depression etc. So I unknowingly did a ton a bibliotherapy myself without knowing it until I read about the term. Just reading about anxiety from prominent sources and learning what it actually is and how it truly works is very therapeutic in and of itself. I'm now getting back to leaving the house, my libido is just about back to normal, my appetite has been back for a couple of weeks and instead of getting back to working out in my garage gym, I'm going to rejoin my local, busy, but awesome bodybuilding and powerlifting gym. Why not? I was even able to attend a very crowded fireworks display on the 4th of July with thousands of people which also included sitting stuck in traffic for an hour and I had minimal to zero problems. A month ago you couldn't have paid me a million bucks to step foot outside of the house and that's putting it lightly. I'm not 100% where I want to be, and I still have my moments, but I'm leaps and bounds better than I was just a mere few weeks ago and I'm going to keep getting better and better thanks to all of the insight, knowledge and tools I've picked up in the books I've read. I owe all my progress primarily to the 3 books I've mentioned along with putting the techniques to work. I see no reason in trying to "manage anxiety" when it can in fact, be beaten with the proper work ethic and courage. Trying to just deal with it and hoping it will resolve itself will not do it. Drastic, quick steps must be taken and some of them WILL be scary at time and uncomfortable but THAT is the key, along with uncovering any hidden issues you or anyone might be suppressing, or avoiding. Usually it's quite obvious what the the underlying issue is, but you get so good at blowing things off, that it can take some detective work on your part. The anxiety and panic can be terrifying and it certainly was for me, and I just assumed it came 'out of the blue' but that is rarely the case. Accept that it's there, learn about it, don't run from it, don't use your typical avoidance measures to try and calm yourself and be prepared to put yourself in the thick of it to retrain your amygdala. Again, the key is acceptance of the circumstances, not viewing the anxiety as your foe, but more so your ally that is indicating that something needs to be addressed and be willing to put in the required work to beat it. It takes courage and it will be difficult but it's well worth it. Exposure of some kind will be paramount in overcoming anxiety and panic as well. If you take nothing else from this, just know that you CAN beat anxiety and not just "manage it" but you've got to work for it. In closing, if you haven't read it yet, do checkout "When Panic Attack." It could very well change your life. It is one of the BEST books I've read in regards to anxiety and panic and it has so many different types of techniques with thorough explanations of how to use them to your advantage, especially cognitive exposure, which is key for someone like me who doesn't have a specific anxiety "trigger" other than the fear of the anxiety itself. I wish you all the best.
Elena, 30 years is too long. How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
Im so glad that meditation gets more taken seriously in society for it's real benefits. Imagine meditation like surfing - when you lose focus..it's like falling off the board...so just get back on the board without self judgment...just return your focus to the object of your meditation
I needed to hear about this years years ago. I got terrible anxiety and a panic attack while smoking weed! I thought I lost my mind and became crazy. Years to come out of it. Had I had known it was anxiety a normal human condition brought on by my sensitivity to it, my life would have been different back then! Thank you for your honesty!
Tom, thank you for making this video. It has been one of the pivotal tools I’ve used to manage anxiety. Pattern interrupt. Breathe. Shift my thinking to what is important to me. Very grateful.
I really appreciate this video. What I like about you Tom is how down to earth you are and how you speak from experience. It really helps us to understand even better. Looking forward to watching more! Thanks so much! 🙏🏻
Tom, I just want to say thank you. I’ve been suffering the last two years. The pandemic absolutely destroyed me. You are saving lives Tom. Thank you thank you !
Becoming alcohol free has completely changed my anxiety issues. Who knew ? I drank to relieve my social anxiety but it turns out that was the cause. Without alcohol I feel grounded and solid and I can also see there are just some situations I don’t enjoy - so I leave and do something that’s more in line with my values and likes.
@@startracker5895 i had enough of it😭 the anxiety the depression the stress, tension headaches, depersonalization, the panic attacks the nausea all of it!
"Always & never" puts me into perfectionism. My hurdle. Thanks for this Tom. Failure is lesson. I got the book Feeling Great. Looking forward to studying it. Thank you Tom.
Tom, as a mental health advocate on a mission to break the stigma in the Pakistani/Indian community: Thank You! I talk exclusively on Anxiety on my channel and everything you shared here (plus what the community is sharing in comments) is beautiful and made me tear up. Thank you for this! Your friend, Arsalan
When I was a professional singer, I used to get stage fright. Right before I went on, I would feel that wave of anxiety take over my body. What I discovered was that if I let the wave have its way and wash through me, without trying to divert it, talk myself out of it, pretend it wasn't there, pretend it didn't matter, it only got worse. When I sat with it, gave it all my attention, and fully felt it, it would peak, and then evaporate. Dr. David Hawkins uses this technique with all emotions. He says, don't try to talk yourself out of it. You will just stuff it down into your body until it wants to come out again. Instead, allow it to rise , to create its feeling, give it your full attention, DON'T TELL A STORY ABOUT IT, just feel it, and surrender it. Soon it will no long live inside of you waiting to get out. It already got out. This works great for me no matter what the feeling, or how unpleasant it is. It always passes when you let it move through you and out of you.
Hmm, I'll consider that. I tend to stuff and try and dismiss the bad feelings. I faced some really negative feelings the other day. Wrote them out and it they did seem to dissolve for awhile.
I think that's great advice. I'm having some anxiety right now (I have GAD) and it is SO difficult to accept it and fully feel it. I think Eckhart Tolle says much the same as you did about anxiety - and other mental stress.
@@i_love_rescue_animals I think the trick is to acknowledge it briefly. Like writing the feelings out, but also putting forth an intention to get past. I do the Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations and it helps a great deal to get past depression and anxiety. I'm having much better days. It's a process, but I'm seeing healing w/ irritable bowel syndrome, which was becoming a daily blight w/ a terrible breakup. In around a month and a half, the gains are noticable. And the gains are encouraging more effort. I have to get ahold of my thoughts first thing in the morning and when I can't sleep. Instead of stewing, relentlessly push myself to more positive thinking. It's a matter of rewiring old circuits and creating new healthy pathways as the man said. It happens w/ time and effort.
Thank you. I’ve suffered horribly from anxiety and depression for years. On so many meds that I think it’s actually made me worse and changed my brain, if that makes sense. I enjoyed watching your video, and hoping I can find some help/change for my future.
You know what has helped in my anxiety and depression😂☝🏻stretchung the frog pose releases all my trauma it may sound funny but thats eht been working for me.
This video was really am eye opener. The anxiety, as Tom described, is exactly how i have felt for decades, thinking it was normal. But it is not normal to always think of the worst-case scenario. Imagining failure and negativity is all destructive. Thanks Tom for alerting me my anxiety that i was not aware of before.
yeah dude, when i tell myself that these anxious feelings/thoughts come and go, i feel so grounded and it helps me be more optimistic. this works for me really well ☺️
JUST HEARD THIS SAYING AND IT IS SO TRUE. "DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK." AM JUST GETTING OVER ANXIETY AFTER GOING TO THE ER. TWICE IN ONE WEEK. Susan
Positive thoughts is the cure , Social as much as u can 💕and be on positive side cause life's too short all deserve healthy happy life that starts by u 🙏
Thank you Tom for being this open and direct about your experience with anxiety I am one of those doing it wrong for 30 years and had just started understanding bits and pieces almost a decade ago through really tough times and I had just started getting physical anxiety aches coincidentally after 45 days quitting pornography but is probably more tied to the screaming family of origin I moved in with but I'm gonna do better than this I have what it takes to succeed and do well for myself I haven't worked in 3 years and haven't held a job long in 6 but I believe every word you are saying here everything I've been doing wrong is going to be made right and it won't be long I will out there working well with everyone so I can start my own business growing vegetables and do everything that I want to do, thank you for reading this and have a great week.
what helped me to kill anxiety is the attitude i developed over the years - "I do not give a hsit" and walking away from it mentally. Works like a charm.
So many things like this are either too clinical or too superficial, not really actionable. Love the very practical, useful explanations and things that can help!
Great video! It seems for me as I get older the anxiety and depression gets worse at times. I've found alcohol even a couple drinks causes a delayed onset of anxiety a couple days later. I've quit all alcohol and noticed a difference. Exercise for me particularly cardio does wonders. I wish everyone luck with their anxiety issues. It's no fun.
I feel like every time I go to Tom’s TH-cam page he has more and more followers. He’s at 2.35 million right now and I swear he was at 2 million earlier this year. Good job Tommy boy!
I too suffered with paryalzing anxiety attacks for many years and over time I used nutrition, exercise and my spiritual life to help me and happy to report now my anxiety attacks bad days is far and few between that I live pretty much a normal life….. great video I’m going to share with a friend of mine who suffers worse then me …..
Tom THANK YOU. I've watched your videos for years when I was walking through hell. This though was what I've needed my whole life💙 I'll share this with as many people as possible.
Thank you so much for posting this video! Stress, anxiety, and worry have been a part of my being since childhood. But I think with your approach and techniques, I can learn to overcome this problem. Thank you for helping to change peoples’ lives! 🥰
Just finished listening to your video while I pull weeds out of my flower bed. Gardening in itself is therapeutic, coupled with words of wisdom from Tom makes it more rewarding. Taking your advice to the next level. Thank you for always pushing me towards my goals. Now it’s my turn to pay it forward.
The more I grow in my own process and study different material, I see the synchronicities all across the board! I’m sure I’m not the first or only to say this, but in my knowing, those who experience severe anxiety are, highly and I mean highly, underestimating their ability to manifest and grow into the individual they want to become. I only use the word underestimate as an identification/representation of where your current energy and attention is flowing. Little to nothing to do with being special (we all are - you’re a 1 of 1), & I do understand and respect the biological process which an individual undergoes in the brain. But for a moment, imagine a spectrum representing the power of your consciousness (or one of the many spectrums inside of your infinite nature) & on one end is the crippling anxiety you’ve felt. Knowing the reality of that end of the spectrum, let me ask you - what’s on the opposite side? It’s as real as what you’ve became accustom to… To my knowing, what’s on the opposite side is a clarity, peace and abundance as unique as your current individuality. Right now, consider and acknowledge yourself a master of feeling anxiety, and let yourself know (with grace in your heart) that it’s time to embrace the other side of the spectrum. I’m here to tell you your overworking anxiety isn’t here to stay, or even to return as a lurking enemy. You will look back at those moments with a gratitude and appreciation for the fullness of experience. Continue to study, use the techniques and tactics, heal your biological body and continue to shift your energy. Remember!! Just like the man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t - What is hard and what is EASY is a matter of your perspective and your choice!! Enjoy an easy journey my friends 🏁
1. I can become like that with enough time 2. Dont catastrophize , it does not serve it, do pattern interruption , wait I am not good yet, but I can get they good. undo the anxiety. Replace with positivity. The only belief that matter, I can get good at anything, hardwire positivity, put massive amount of time and energy to hardwire this mindset . dont allow negativity to hardwire 3.you can control yiur neurochemistry -put on song -smile -laugh -breathing from diaphgram 27:50 28:20 never rehearse failure 28:41 let failure surprise you, rehease success, visualize success 29:57 never allow myself to rehearse failure 34:58 stop investing in anxiety
Thank you, Tom - I have massive anxiety due to chronic MindBody pain..I cured myself but I still get relapses when I get stressed, anxious and fearful. So thank you so much for these tools and resources and for being so candid about your own experience. ❤
Great information Tom. As someone who has spent his life trying to “Figure myself out” the information you’ve shared, people with whom you’ve spoken too and recommended has started me on a path to a BETTER ME. Bottom line is I’m grateful to have stumbled onto your podcasts sometime back. I may be doing the work but you showed me a door…and I opened the fucking thing! Thank you!
This has been so incredibly helpful. Thank you. I had a therapist years ago tell me to sit with the anxious thoughts so I've been letting myself stew in the anxiety, hoping it will become less powerful and I'll become desensitized from them. So for the past five years I've been training myself to be more anxious.
Thank you so so much for this! I have some social anxiety ever since I had a situation that had me freeze up about a year ago and after that I feel it only got worse because I constantly do think the worse and plan for the worse and I even plan out situations and how I’m going to greet someone once I see them when it could just be something super natural. I need to stop doing that. That’s the answer and instead reinforce positive thinking and not “planning out scenarios”
"I realized oh my god, any time i do anything outside my comfort zone, no matter how minor ,my brain has now allowed itself to condition itself to be anxious about anything that sort of deviated from the norm". Amen. Well said. My brain does that too. Those darned brains, gotta learnhow to live with your own!
Well-said and so true. Your brain starts creating more and more scenarios that will lead to anxiety to where you just prefer to stay in the few scenarios where you are comfortable. It’s horrible, restricting and dominates your mind.
Victoria, How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
I feel like you were in my brain. I have dealt with the exact same issues until I went to a therapist and went through cognitive behavioral therapy. It was honestly, probably the most important thing I've ever done to improve my life.
This might be the most important video I've ever watched on this topic. I've been suffering from anxiety for over 20 years and nobody showed me how to breathe from my diaphragm. Thank You ❤️
I’ve recently been dealing with extremely debilitating anxiety. I’ve stopped driving, I’ve lost weight due to avoiding certain foods, I’ve stopped working and it’s affected my performance in school. All of my anxiety is focused on something happening to me and this is something terrible, like dying at a young age. Every single thing that happens to me I think is going to kill me. I’m always afraid of passing out or having a stroke or seizure or cancer or something that doctors just can’t find. I’m 24 years old and completely healthy (according to doctors). I feel trapped in my own head and it’s affecting every aspect of my life. I’m currently in therapy and taking medication and have found a little bit of relief but not much. This video has helped me quite a bit and I hope to take your advice and hopefully change my life. I never want to rehearse failure (or dying in my case) again.
Just know you’re not alone. if you ever need someone to talk to.. message me. I’ve been going through the same thing and trust me…. It’s all in our head. just message me. we can do this together.
The only way I can calm my anxiety (horrible, fast arrhythmia, and panic, often in the middle of the night, but not always) is to bring some perspective in. This sounds crazy, but I remind myself I'm tiny in an infinite cosmos, but that my soul is as huge as the cosmos, that I will die one day, and so shall we all, and that if that's the worst that can happen, its fine! Because we all will die. Also, I read Living the Untethered Soul or The Power of Now, or The Biology of Belief (about the power of the mind over the body) and I will immediately feel better (well, I'll start to feel better) because, again, it gives a kind perspective and also reminds me I'm not my thoughts or my feelings. Hang in there. I'm sooooo much better than I was in my 20s. If I'd had the Internet then, I'd have felt better, sooner!
I really enjoyed listening to this. I have been battling anxiety for almost 2 years. First it was health anxiety along with palpitations, muscle cramps, sleep starts etc. And now it’s just ‘oh gosh what if I can’t beat this, what if I feel scared forever’?! The pattern interrupt is definitely something I will use to combat this negative thought loop. I’ve become so impatient with myself and my bodily symptoms but it seems time and repetition are the key tools so it’s time to accept that. Thanks for this video, it really helped.
@@daisylopez9001 I’m so sorry to hear that Daisy, it’s really tough! If it makes you feel any better, I’ve had it before and it went away for years! So it does go away, there’s just some stuff you need to do to help yourself and listening to podcasts like this is a really good step! Sending you so much love and strength ❤️❤️❤️
Anxiety everyone has it, but some of us get full blown panic attacks and are stuck in a state of panic cycle with avoidance behaviors, allot of this is good advice learning how you got into the cycle is a good way to learn how to get out of it.
My problem starts with a negative thought that catastrophizes and starts spiraling down. Thinking bizarre thoughts like I’m gonna lose my job because I won’t be able to go to work due to anxiety, thinking I won’t be able to sleep cause of anxiety. It’s so hard to get out of that mind space. It’s crippling. I meditate and feel fine while meditating but then anxiety comes back after it’s over. It really is the worst thing ever.
I hear you - this is exactly me! Once we go down that rabbit hole its so hard to pull ourselves out of it. Crippling is exactly what it is. Meditation has been my saviour but like you, anxiety creeps back in sometimes afterwards. Anxiety is a habit unfortunately along with many other things/reasons. Acceptance is the key- I have had my best break through's when I have stopped, acknowledged my anxiety and talk to myself with self soothing words then continue to ride the waves with acceptance. Always goes away much faster then when I resist. I honestly would not wish any Anxiety/Panic disorder on anyone. It steals so much of our energy and so much precious time away from enjoying life 💖
Me too!! It's like I wrote this...mines every morning. Wake up heart pounding..sweaty...hormones for sure and check your iron! Cause low iron causes and Mimics anxiety.!!
Hey man. I've commented on this same video before. But I just really have to reiterate how incredibly potent and accurate and valuable this video is to me. Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart for making this video.
Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. Breathe.You're strong. You got this . Take it day by day.
I have been having constant and unbearable anxiety because of university. Dr.healingstrain is life saver. Thank you
Where to search?? Is it IG??
Last year , I took shrooms at Las Vegas thinking it was going to hit like an edible or something Shit was scary at first but amazing once you start getting deeper into your thoughts
@@fondalinney3238 my bro go Utube - are you a good person by living waters
Nice copy and paste
3 biggest things i’ve learned to get rid of anxiety completely
•don’t care what others think
•workout
•don’t try to be something if it’s not being yourself
I agree plenty of water as well
That's all the thing I can't do
How do you stop caring what others think, if u low on confidence? Thats why people get anxious , most of the time
@@branem.2254 you don’t need high confidence, that will come naturally within yourself, but till that comes what you can do is do things strictly YOU enjoy and don’t let other opinions intrigue your mind, stay true to your own mind you know what’s best for you
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Other people really dont care. Give that same energy.
Be patient with recovery and realize that your own recovery is going to take however long it takes. Even more importantly, DO NOT give up on yourself if you're doing the work and things start to go really shitty for a while or long time. It doesn't mean what you're doing isn't working, recovery isn't a linear process where everything is going to go right all the time and that's OK. The brain takes time to rewire itself, but eventually you will get to a better place and it will be worth it. Love yourself and don't ever give up, you have something special to offer the world.
Thank you🙏🏾
Actually loving yourself is the cause of a lot of fear/anxiety. The key is to deny yourself.
Thank you man, I really needed that.
Your excited nature is sooo good thank you for this video
100% true
hug to hug all those suffer anxiety and depression.
It’s a horrible combon
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
YES very sure of bergwilly11__. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Can bergwilly11_ send to me in PA?
Lifelong anxiety issues. The mind going blank is maddening. My brain literally stops in it’s tracks. Meditation, 30 min a day has been a game changer. Along with exercise. Journaling. I have so much in my tool belt, but learned a lot from watching this. This was a great video. Thank you so much.
Really learned alot as well from this vid ...I like when he speaks from experience.
I have this exact same problem, it happens under social pressure, like interviews, i cant do them period. Did you have the same thing and you were able to get past it? Any help would be greatly appreciated
@@rossetti1313 How are you now? Join a public speaking course. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63
What kind of meditation do you do????
“The only thing I am nervous about, is other people realizing that I am nervous. Like if I knew my nerves were invisible, I wouldn’t worry about it.” Wow! That really hit home with me. Thank you Tom very much: you are legendary brother! ❤️
This has always been my biggest issue. I had a couple heart palpitations and literally sat on the floor because I panicked a bit and that later on instilled a tremendous amount of anxiety because of my fear of someone else seeing me fall to the floor. The embarrassment I guess of needing support from a stranger if I'm actually having a heart attack or any other issue causes me anxiety.
I’m going through this right now 😢I’m scared so scared I’m alone 😭😭😭😭😭😭God please help me
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@@annmontana6374 i am with you🖤
Helpful tip :
You are not your thoughts. You are the observer of your thoughts. You ignore bad ones and move forward with positive ones.
Trust me if you practise this long enough (it is a skill which requires months of practise) it will help you a lot.
Thank you for this
I really liked the "you are an observer of your thoughts". That's a good way to understand that you're separate from your thoughts and that your thoughts aren't equal to who you are.
@@kyliemartinez1507 It is easier said than done but it sure helps a lot. I can help you with this if you want to.
@@RahulSharma-dq4yr I’ll take all the help I can get
“The Power of Now” that book is currently saving my life. Observe yourself having your thoughts from a 3rd person view. Become the observer, don’t judge or analyze yourself having these thoughts, just watch. You will slowly learn to detach your mind from the real you. Your mind isn’t the real you, the real you is the one that exists in the present. Thoughts can’t exist without consciousness but consciousness can exist without thoughts. Practice mindfulness and being in the present. It could be something small like analyzes what you are doing in this very moment, that’s practicing mindfulness. Being aware of yourself in the “now”. Use your mind as a tool and when your are not using it put away and focus on being in the present. Always say “yes” to the present moment, surrender to what is and say “yes” to life. When you learn and master your thoughts your no longer a slave to your mind, you become free. So next time your doing a task or even eating, don’t watch TV or your phone. Do it being aware of being fully in the present. Whenever you have anxious thoughts, picture them as you floating in your back on water and the emotion is a wave passing you, acknowledge them but don’t react to them. Remember when you feel something, you feel it in your body and not your mind. Focus on feeling and not thinking. That’s how you detach yourself from your thoughts.
"Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.”
Just let the anxiety toughts go and change them to more positive toughts just like hes learnt us in this vid.
You are able to control your own toughts lol, why think negative if you are totally free and able to think positive 😂 its kinda funny because it's that simple but a big life changer for me guys.
Gonna practice this everyday from now on, cuz... why you don't want to finally relieve your anxiety you suffering from for years right?
Thanks alot for this one. Bless!
I think a lot of our anxiety comes from being frightened as a child.
I feel helpless when I get anxiety and I live in hostel far away from my parents 😔 .
Exactly
“Never again rehearse failure” Absolutely LOVE THIS!!!!!! 🙏🏽 Gratitude 🙏🏽
Really touched
I love you so much!!! I've lived with anxiety my entire life. It has impacted my ability to move forward in my career. Your podcast has literally given me the tools to get through my anxiety. It hasn't completely disappeared but I've been so good at controlling it and ultimately have overcome it. I hope you realize how impactful you are. I'm a single mommy of three....you've improved my families quality life. Never stop!!!!
Do you think you can give me any tips please. I can’t stand anxiety when it appears it is both scary and it makes me lose hope like I’m gonna be stuck like this for soooo long and I will end up losing everything including my mind. I just want to be happy and positive I have my moments when I am but also lots when I’m not..
I used to struggle with panic attacks myself, but today everything is much different. There was also anxiety. I wish you all a speedy recovery,❤️
All those "present moment" or mindfulness exercises can be such powerful tool when it comes to anxiety or negative emotions in general
Gratitude is insufficient; having my teen son look for relief for his anxiety and not having the funds for a therapist has been devastating as a mother. This video is a Godsend. If I came across you I would tearfully hug you.
Please look into The Linden Method.
Maybe he should be on medication.
Your opening about the bizarreness and hopelessness of past anxiety is so profoundly relatable to me. I spent 28 yrs in codependent abusive relationships and where I am at now is incomprehensible to five years ago when I couldn’t speak with emotion without crying.
I'm there now and can't go out in public or church without crying and it's embarrassing.
Don’t believe everything you feel. ❤
i needed to see this comment so terribly today. i thank you so so much. so much gratitude
thank you for the advise love it
Control your feelings with your thoughts and don't let your feelings Control your thoughts. Much easier said than done.
Then what else is there to believe ?
@@johnj3506 Yourself
I've delt with anxiety for a majority of my adult life. I've watched many videos on anxiety. This is by far the best video Ive ever seen. From the physiological aspects, to thought patterns, to implementation, to personal experiences just unbelievable. Great job Tom. Keep up the amazing work!
Anxiety is considered the most common mental illness.
Depression can involve negative thoughts that spiral out of control. Side effects from anxiety can also lead to negative thoughts, which could affect your life.
While you may not be able to stop the underlying reasons for your negative thinking, you may be able to change how you think and feel about it.
Thanks for sharing this amazing post.
Thinking about getting anxious and having attacks are definitely the start of all my episodes.
Best explanation of anxiety i heard of ... worrying about the future in the present moment based on past experiences/trauma.
As a physician who has read a lot on this topic, this man offers a lot of science based and proven techniques to help with anxiety. Put these into practice and it will help. I have no relationship with this channel or Tom.
My anxiety almost didn't allow me to overcome the fear of watching this video! I'm so glad I didn't allow it to make that decision for me, great information that I can actually use every day.
Me too! I thought watching something about anxiety is going to trigger me but I’m soooooo happy I watched! This guy is awesome 🤩🤍
Please look into The Linden Method. It will change how you view anxiety and teach you the way to recover, not cope.
You probably don't even realise how useful your advice is to people. To me is was life saving right now. Thank you so much 🥰
Agreed
Life saving💯💯
I would never guest in a million years you suffer with anxiety and panic attack! Thankyou Tom for sharing your knowledge and your experience. ❤️🙏🙏
Thank you so much, Tom. Your comments at the beginning of this video have already filled me with hope! I've been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks increasingly over the last 11 years... very debilitating and it's limited my contributing to the world. Less than 2 minutes in and I'm already thinking I will be able to get past this and enjoy life again. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Hey how's it been goin since this comment?
Wim hof breathing and cold showers changed my life in dealing with anxiety. You don’t even need all 3 breathing rounds at once too. One round is enough to at least calm down the oncoming panic attack. Be kind to yourselves; we didn’t ask for this crippling disorder. Peace be with you 💛💛💛💪👍
Great to read!
I started a month ago with his breathing.
It gave me a panic attack when i first tried it. My head just felt some sensation hard to describe
how cold?
@@wokwithjosh1473 as cold as the water can go at that time of year
@@bigupbig2198 the tingling you felt was your blood rushing trough your head and hands, that's completely normal. Your body however connected the fast breathing to hyperventilating.. thus your mind interpreted this as a panic attack.
Let failure surprise you......That's going to work for me. Thank you.
My point was that I have been telling myself “Carissa you’re a LEARNER. You never thought you’d get your drivers license @ age 16 but YOU GOT IT!” “Though things seem impossible and unattainable right now does not mean it isn’t possible. It is possible for you to get what you want”
Not worrying about things I did in the past. Nothing can ever change it so I learned to let it go, Letting trivial things go over my head instead of getting angry. Not concerning myself in other people's business, gossip etc and not worrying about tomorrow, oh and forgiveness, all changed my life and helped me to sleep better at night. Most of the things I worried about never happened or if they did were no where near as bad as I'd imagined.
i had a panic attack after changing my hair color yesterday! i'm triggered by the most random minor things too. i'm so happy you share your struggles & ways to rehearse the positive. really helps tom! thanks ✌🏾
Corinne, How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
Omg girl me too, i had black hair before dying it blonde then trying to get it to look auburn I had a panic then cried then laughed because I knew I could fix it but it just seemed so silly and it’s amazing how our brains can trick us to feel some sort of fear and anxiety w the minor things like you explained 🤍 gotta laugh and and cry and it’s what helps me cope
This was very helpful. I've hit rock bottom after decades of having anxiety. Thank you for you sharing your experience and knowledge.
You have a gift for explaining things profoundly and efficiently. Example: “Meditation is a physiological hook, to consciously take control of your biology.” Thank you. Brilliant.
37:48 minutes that proved to be exactly what I needed to hear, see, record, consider, absorb, learn, remember, act upon... this is gold. Gold.
It’s all here. Exactly what I’ve needed. In a very concise package.
Tom, know that you have changed my life today.
Thank you. 🌟🦋
What is wrong with you?
Thank you soooo much.
At some point, I sighed with relief and my eyes welled up. Your enthusiasm, researched knowledge and generous, kind willingness to share just threw a bomb of hope into a nest of years of anxiety. Thank you.
Thank you immensely for sharing this Tom. I've battled worrying excessively and anxiety for a long time and used to get sweaty palms, heart palpitations and tremors, but my anxiety is perfectly controlled by me now over the years with all the important research I did and learnt about anxiety. And your tips definitely helps too.
What has helped you?
Yes please share what has helped you
you feel anxiety about something (anything) because on some level you CARE about that something. Just change your attitude and say " I do not care anymore. let it go to hell or whatever, I am walking away from it" and just LEAVE that thing mentally and emotionally. Divorce it in your mind. Gee, I love the attitude, it really helps.
How you have get rid of it
@carolinedsouza4340
You hit the nail in the head. Panic feeds itself. You are worried about getting anxious and that leads to anxiety and panic. A positive feedback loop.
Dude YOU just saved my LIFE!!!! For real!!! Thanks for being brave enough to share your truth with honestly and vulnerability!!!! I am a HUGE fan of your wife Lisa and this video saved me from myself!!!!!
I've been watching videos to help my anxiety for weeks now and this one has been the best. Thank you!!!!
Thank you Tom this really helps with my anxiety. Definitely going to utilize these tips and strategies to overcome the 30 years of anxiety that I have dealt with. It makes me feel good knowing that someone understands my thoughts in my behaviors and his physically been through it
This will be a lengthy reply, but I think it will be well worth the read Elena. First off, I highly suggest checking out "When Panic Attacks" by Dr. David Burns. Fantastic book and it's one of the best I've read related to anxiety and panic with many practical tools and techniques you can use to overcome and actually BEAT anxiety, not just manage it. Also, check out "Healing and Recovery" and "Letting Go" by Dr. David R. Hawkins. He was one of the pioneers in the research of consciousness and offers such an interesting twist to how our minds work along with our consciousness and awareness to give additional tools to beat anxiety and many, many other hard times in life. Both of them have prior experience with dealing with anxiety in their own lives and were both highly sought psychiatrists for decades. I suggest "When Panic Attacks" for solid tools to beat the anxiety, and "Healing and Recovery" as well as "Letting Go" for tools on how to no longer let things bother you, and also to give you the tools to deal with virtually any potential emotional or physical setback you may face in the future.
Brief backstory but I believe it is notable. I had a panic attack about 12 years ago after smoking some cannabis that didn't agree with me. Prior to that I never had any anxiety of any kind, but I was sort of a natural "worrier" as my mother would put it, which is what made me susceptible to ongoing anxiety as you will see. Anyway, instead of just attributing the attack to the weed and moving on with life which would make the most sense, I instead, developed a fear of the panic and anxiety itself which is called "second fear" coined by Dr. Claire Weekes if I recall correctly, and worried daily about it returning. So much so, that I ended up having a 2 or 3 year stint of crippling anxiety.
Now, I don't know if it was due being 20 at the time and stubborn along with self medicating through alcohol (which blunts the lower levels of consciousness where anxiety thrives) but I eventually came out of it on my own without seeking any sort of therapy or medication help and besides the occasional feeling of very mild anxiety here and there which was fleeting, and would only last a minute or so in the form of VERY mild nervousness in my solar plexus region, I was virtually anxiety free for years until a month and a half ago.
I'll spare you the details, but I've had many circumstances over the last 3 or 4 of years that I've subconsciously repressed the emotions of, as well as consciously suppressing said emotions as well in the name of being a "strong man." Well let me tell you, after locking emotions away long enough or just 'ignoring them' anyone can be broken. So long story short, my anxiety returned with a vengeance about a month and a half ago. It completely blindsided me. Keep in mind, anxiety hardly ever occurs 'out of the blue.' There is almost always a underlying issue or issues and the anxiety is your minds way of saying "there is something you need to deal with."
I became house bound, stopped eating, lost a little over 20lbs, stopped working out, stopped going hiking with my wife and son, couldn't sit still at all, paced for hours at a time, dreaded laying down to go to sleep for fear of my idle mind, and my libido crashed. My life was turned upside down overnight. I went from being the stoic figure in my family who you could always turn to no matter the situation, who always remained calm, cool and collected, to being a house bound, shell of my former self who was scared to be alone in case the panic occurred. I was in sheer fear and terror 24/7. Being that I'm 33 now and not nearly as stubborn as when I was young, I immediately sought out a counselor, who then referred me to a great doctor and I began trying things out, as I was NOT about to let this turn into an ongoing deal like in the past.
The books I've mentioned to you, especially "When Panic Attacks" have 100% made a world of difference in a very short amount of time. Reading books like that and trying techniques on your own is actually a form of therapy in and of itself, called bibliotherapy. I've read 6 books in the last month all to do with anxiety, depression etc. So I unknowingly did a ton a bibliotherapy myself without knowing it until I read about the term. Just reading about anxiety from prominent sources and learning what it actually is and how it truly works is very therapeutic in and of itself.
I'm now getting back to leaving the house, my libido is just about back to normal, my appetite has been back for a couple of weeks and instead of getting back to working out in my garage gym, I'm going to rejoin my local, busy, but awesome bodybuilding and powerlifting gym. Why not? I was even able to attend a very crowded fireworks display on the 4th of July with thousands of people which also included sitting stuck in traffic for an hour and I had minimal to zero problems. A month ago you couldn't have paid me a million bucks to step foot outside of the house and that's putting it lightly. I'm not 100% where I want to be, and I still have my moments, but I'm leaps and bounds better than I was just a mere few weeks ago and I'm going to keep getting better and better thanks to all of the insight, knowledge and tools I've picked up in the books I've read. I owe all my progress primarily to the 3 books I've mentioned along with putting the techniques to work. I see no reason in trying to "manage anxiety" when it can in fact, be beaten with the proper work ethic and courage. Trying to just deal with it and hoping it will resolve itself will not do it. Drastic, quick steps must be taken and some of them WILL be scary at time and uncomfortable but THAT is the key, along with uncovering any hidden issues you or anyone might be suppressing, or avoiding. Usually it's quite obvious what the the underlying issue is, but you get so good at blowing things off, that it can take some detective work on your part. The anxiety and panic can be terrifying and it certainly was for me, and I just assumed it came 'out of the blue' but that is rarely the case. Accept that it's there, learn about it, don't run from it, don't use your typical avoidance measures to try and calm yourself and be prepared to put yourself in the thick of it to retrain your amygdala.
Again, the key is acceptance of the circumstances, not viewing the anxiety as your foe, but more so your ally that is indicating that something needs to be addressed and be willing to put in the required work to beat it. It takes courage and it will be difficult but it's well worth it. Exposure of some kind will be paramount in overcoming anxiety and panic as well. If you take nothing else from this, just know that you CAN beat anxiety and not just "manage it" but you've got to work for it. In closing, if you haven't read it yet, do checkout "When Panic Attack." It could very well change your life. It is one of the BEST books I've read in regards to anxiety and panic and it has so many different types of techniques with thorough explanations of how to use them to your advantage, especially cognitive exposure, which is key for someone like me who doesn't have a specific anxiety "trigger" other than the fear of the anxiety itself. I wish you all the best.
Elena, 30 years is too long. How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
Awww same here I'm going through it right now
Im so glad that meditation gets more taken seriously in society for it's real benefits.
Imagine meditation like surfing - when you lose focus..it's like falling off the board...so just get back on the board without self judgment...just return your focus to the object of your meditation
I needed to hear about this years years ago. I got terrible anxiety and a panic attack while smoking weed! I thought I lost my mind and became crazy. Years to come out of it. Had I had known it was anxiety a normal human condition brought on by my sensitivity to it, my life would have been different back then! Thank you for your honesty!
Tom, thank you for making this video. It has been one of the pivotal tools I’ve used to manage anxiety. Pattern interrupt. Breathe. Shift my thinking to what is important to me. Very grateful.
I really appreciate this video.
What I like about you Tom is how down to earth you are and how you speak from experience. It really helps us to understand even better.
Looking forward to watching more!
Thanks so much! 🙏🏻
Absolutely!!!! 100% Agreeeeeeee
Such a clever title to get people to click knowing that people with anxiety freak out for ever little thing. Nice of you :)
Tom, I just want to say thank you. I’ve been suffering the last two years. The pandemic absolutely destroyed me.
You are saving lives Tom. Thank you thank you !
I feel that this is the best TH-cam video on anxiety that I have ever listened to.
Becoming alcohol free has completely changed my anxiety issues. Who knew ? I drank to relieve my social anxiety but it turns out that was the cause. Without alcohol I feel grounded and solid and I can also see there are just some situations I don’t enjoy - so I leave and do something that’s more in line with my values and likes.
The book "Hope and Help for your Nerves" by Claire Weeks saved me from a miserable anxiety ridden life. It changed my life. Thank God for that book
Just knowing that someone like you has anxiety, makes me feel worlds better. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Anxiety is worse than death. Is pure suffering but never dying :( pure torture
Tell me about it it sucks so much:(
It’s like living in an eternal hell!
@@startracker5895 i had enough of it😭 the anxiety the depression the stress, tension headaches, depersonalization, the panic attacks the nausea all of it!
@@favier9856 have you tried meditation? That eases my symptoms a bit. Not totally but it takes the edge off for sure.
@@startracker5895 i've tried but when i tell myself to breathe and think of nothing thats when all the negative thoughts kick in :(
"Always & never" puts me into perfectionism. My hurdle. Thanks for this Tom. Failure is lesson. I got the book Feeling Great. Looking forward to studying it. Thank you Tom.
Tom, as a mental health advocate on a mission to break the stigma in the Pakistani/Indian community: Thank You! I talk exclusively on Anxiety on my channel and everything you shared here (plus what the community is sharing in comments) is beautiful and made me tear up. Thank you for this! Your friend, Arsalan
When I was a professional singer, I used to get stage fright. Right before I went on, I would feel that wave of anxiety take over my body. What I discovered was that if I let the wave have its way and wash through me, without trying to divert it, talk myself out of it, pretend it wasn't there, pretend it didn't matter, it only got worse. When I sat with it, gave it all my attention, and fully felt it, it would peak, and then evaporate. Dr. David Hawkins uses this technique with all emotions. He says, don't try to talk yourself out of it. You will just stuff it down into your body until it wants to come out again. Instead, allow it to rise , to create its feeling, give it your full attention, DON'T TELL A STORY ABOUT IT, just feel it, and surrender it. Soon it will no long live inside of you waiting to get out. It already got out. This works great for me no matter what the feeling, or how unpleasant it is. It always passes when you let it move through you and out of you.
Hmm, I'll consider that. I tend to stuff and try and dismiss the bad feelings. I faced some really negative feelings the other day. Wrote them out and it they did seem to dissolve for awhile.
I think that's great advice. I'm having some anxiety right now (I have GAD) and it is SO difficult to accept it and fully feel it. I think Eckhart Tolle says much the same as you did about anxiety - and other mental stress.
@@i_love_rescue_animals I think the trick is to acknowledge it briefly. Like writing the feelings out, but also putting forth an intention to get past. I do the Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations and it helps a great deal to get past depression and anxiety. I'm having much better days. It's a process, but I'm seeing healing w/ irritable bowel syndrome, which was becoming a daily blight w/ a terrible breakup. In around a month and a half, the gains are noticable. And the gains are encouraging more effort. I have to get ahold of my thoughts first thing in the morning and when I can't sleep. Instead of stewing, relentlessly push myself to more positive thinking. It's a matter of rewiring old circuits and creating new healthy pathways as the man said. It happens w/ time and effort.
I've heard that too from Dr. Hawkins. I was taking singing lessons from a rock star on zoom and had to pre- record myself, rather than sing live.
This was a very helpful video! This is exactly how my anxiety disorder affects me! Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thank you. I’ve suffered horribly from anxiety and depression for years. On so many meds that I think it’s actually made me worse and changed my brain, if that makes sense. I enjoyed watching your video, and hoping I can find some help/change for my future.
You know what has helped in my anxiety and depression😂☝🏻stretchung the frog pose releases all my trauma it may sound funny but thats eht been working for me.
This video was really am eye opener. The anxiety, as Tom described, is exactly how i have felt for decades, thinking it was normal. But it is not normal to always think of the worst-case scenario. Imagining failure and negativity is all destructive. Thanks Tom for alerting me my anxiety that i was not aware of before.
Anxiety, like many other emotions come and go. Understanding that allows you to push through until a different wave comes in.
yeah dude, when i tell myself that these anxious feelings/thoughts come and go, i feel so grounded and it helps me be more optimistic. this works for me really well ☺️
Great take
This is something I am working on it. I need to overcome with it immediately.
True. Anxiety/depression are also really clever liars
Anxiety is not an emotion, it is a condition. Fear is the emotion and it is transient. Anxiety will remain until it is removed.
JUST HEARD THIS SAYING AND IT IS SO TRUE. "DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK." AM JUST GETTING OVER ANXIETY AFTER GOING TO THE ER. TWICE IN ONE WEEK. Susan
Thanks Tom, from South Africa🇿🇦 you have helped me a lot out of anxiety, i now meditate everyday for about 20minutes and it has become a habit
Positive thoughts is the cure , Social as much as u can 💕and be on positive side cause life's too short all deserve healthy happy life that starts by u 🙏
Memo: pre frontal cortex shuts off when u have anxiety. It's the area responsible for higher thinking (goals, future etc)
The pattern interrupt and replacing with a rational thought to reinforce it did it for me. Thank you SO much Tom. You're the best.
Thank you Tom for being this open and direct about your experience with anxiety I am one of those doing it wrong for 30 years and had just started understanding bits and pieces almost a decade ago through really tough times and I had just started getting physical anxiety aches coincidentally after 45 days quitting pornography but is probably more tied to the screaming family of origin I moved in with but I'm gonna do better than this I have what it takes to succeed and do well for myself I haven't worked in 3 years and haven't held a job long in 6 but I believe every word you are saying here everything I've been doing wrong is going to be made right and it won't be long I will out there working well with everyone so I can start my own business growing vegetables and do everything that I want to do, thank you for reading this and have a great week.
I just forced my self to smile, and I just started crying. Which I really struggle to do these days. Something was clearly released in my brain.
Going through the same thing i dont know whats happening in my life rn. Hope ur doing better buddy
what helped me to kill anxiety is the attitude i developed over the years - "I do not give a hsit" and walking away from it mentally. Works like a charm.
Yup! Agreed
Also learning to not be afraid of death will help relieve it as well.
So many things like this are either too clinical or too superficial, not really actionable. Love the very practical, useful explanations and things that can help!
Great video! It seems for me as I get older the anxiety and depression gets worse at times. I've found alcohol even a couple drinks causes a delayed onset of anxiety a couple days later.
I've quit all alcohol and noticed a difference.
Exercise for me particularly cardio does wonders.
I wish everyone luck with their anxiety issues. It's no fun.
I feel like every time I go to Tom’s TH-cam page he has more and more followers. He’s at 2.35 million right now and I swear he was at 2 million earlier this year. Good job Tommy boy!
Watched the entire vid, and can say every step he mentioned instantly eased my anxiety, can’t wait to master them all. I’m subscribing now 💪🏾
I too suffered with paryalzing anxiety attacks for many years and over time I used nutrition, exercise and my spiritual life to help me and happy to report now my anxiety attacks bad days is far and few between that I live pretty much a normal life….. great video I’m going to share with a friend of mine who suffers worse then me …..
*Today be thankful and think how rich you are. Your family is priceless. Your health is wealth. Your time is gold.* 🖤
Tom THANK YOU. I've watched your videos for years when I was walking through hell. This though was what I've needed my whole life💙 I'll share this with as many people as possible.
Thank you so much for posting this video! Stress, anxiety, and worry have been a part of my being since childhood. But I think with your approach and techniques, I can learn to overcome this problem. Thank you for helping to change peoples’ lives! 🥰
Just finished listening to your video while I pull weeds out of my flower bed. Gardening in itself is therapeutic, coupled with words of wisdom from Tom makes it more rewarding. Taking your advice to the next level. Thank you for always pushing me towards my goals. Now it’s my turn to pay it forward.
The more I grow in my own process and study different material, I see the synchronicities all across the board! I’m sure I’m not the first or only to say this, but in my knowing, those who experience severe anxiety are, highly and I mean highly, underestimating their ability to manifest and grow into the individual they want to become. I only use the word underestimate as an identification/representation of where your current energy and attention is flowing. Little to nothing to do with being special (we all are - you’re a 1 of 1), & I do understand and respect the biological process which an individual undergoes in the brain. But for a moment, imagine a spectrum representing the power of your consciousness (or one of the many spectrums inside of your infinite nature) & on one end is the crippling anxiety you’ve felt. Knowing the reality of that end of the spectrum, let me ask you - what’s on the opposite side? It’s as real as what you’ve became accustom to… To my knowing, what’s on the opposite side is a clarity, peace and abundance as unique as your current individuality. Right now, consider and acknowledge yourself a master of feeling anxiety, and let yourself know (with grace in your heart) that it’s time to embrace the other side of the spectrum. I’m here to tell you your overworking anxiety isn’t here to stay, or even to return as a lurking enemy. You will look back at those moments with a gratitude and appreciation for the fullness of experience. Continue to study, use the techniques and tactics, heal your biological body and continue to shift your energy. Remember!! Just like the man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t - What is hard and what is EASY is a matter of your perspective and your choice!! Enjoy an easy journey my friends 🏁
1. I can become like that with enough time
2. Dont catastrophize , it does not serve it, do pattern interruption , wait I am not good yet, but I can get they good. undo the anxiety. Replace with positivity. The only belief that matter, I can get good at anything, hardwire positivity, put massive amount of time and energy to hardwire this mindset . dont allow negativity to hardwire
3.you can control yiur neurochemistry
-put on song
-smile
-laugh
-breathing from diaphgram
27:50
28:20 never rehearse failure
28:41 let failure surprise you, rehease success, visualize success
29:57 never allow myself to rehearse failure
34:58 stop investing in anxiety
”Let failure surprise you.” 👌🏽
Love this
Tom, thank you for your heart to learn and share. Your heart for caring about us shines through.
Dear Tom ,you are doing a great job man!!!! THAT'S AWESOME.❤️ ABSOLUTELY INSPIRING.
Thank you, Tom - I have massive anxiety due to chronic MindBody pain..I cured myself but I still get relapses when I get stressed, anxious and fearful. So thank you so much for these tools and resources and for being so candid about your own experience. ❤
Great information Tom. As someone who has spent his life trying to “Figure myself out” the information you’ve shared, people with whom you’ve spoken too and recommended has started me on a path to a BETTER ME. Bottom line is I’m grateful to have stumbled onto your podcasts sometime back. I may be doing the work but you showed me a door…and I opened the fucking thing! Thank you!
This has been so incredibly helpful. Thank you. I had a therapist years ago tell me to sit with the anxious thoughts so I've been letting myself stew in the anxiety, hoping it will become less powerful and I'll become desensitized from them. So for the past five years I've been training myself to be more anxious.
I am in constant cycle of coming in & out of anxiety.
@77ranko it doesn't just stop.. Hence the anxiety loop/cycle. Tom podcast has helped a lot, & I have come far.
Tom, you rock to share this! Thanks for being one of the humans that are out there being a real human and helping us to be real humans, too!
Thank you so so much for this! I have some social anxiety ever since I had a situation that had me freeze up about a year ago and after that I feel it only got worse because I constantly do think the worse and plan for the worse and I even plan out situations and how I’m going to greet someone once I see them when it could just be something super natural. I need to stop doing that. That’s the answer and instead reinforce positive thinking and not “planning out scenarios”
Omg same here. I froze up in school doing my undergrad studies. It was very traumatizing!
@@claudiacanales2662 aw I hope you’re doing better!!
"I realized oh my god, any time i do anything outside my comfort zone, no matter how minor ,my brain has now allowed itself to condition itself to be anxious about anything that sort of deviated from the norm". Amen. Well said. My brain does that too. Those darned brains, gotta learnhow to live with your own!
Well-said and so true. Your brain starts creating more and more scenarios that will lead to anxiety to where you just prefer to stay in the few scenarios where you are comfortable. It’s horrible, restricting and dominates your mind.
Thank you Tom 🙏🏼 I suffer with anxiety/panic attacks and completely understand your perspective. Very helpful!
Victoria, How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Sr. Counsellor.
I feel like you were in my brain. I have dealt with the exact same issues until I went to a therapist and went through cognitive behavioral therapy. It was honestly, probably the most important thing I've ever done to improve my life.
This might be the most important video I've ever watched on this topic. I've been suffering from anxiety for over 20 years and nobody showed me how to breathe from my diaphragm. Thank You ❤️
20 yrs is a long time my goodness... I'm praying for you
Thank you this helped me with my current transition from college to a job having serious panic attacks and social anxiety.
I can feel your heart in this message, thank you Tom ♥️🙏🏼
I’ve recently been dealing with extremely debilitating anxiety. I’ve stopped driving, I’ve lost weight due to avoiding certain foods, I’ve stopped working and it’s affected my performance in school. All of my anxiety is focused on something happening to me and this is something terrible, like dying at a young age. Every single thing that happens to me I think is going to kill me. I’m always afraid of passing out or having a stroke or seizure or cancer or something that doctors just can’t find. I’m 24 years old and completely healthy (according to doctors). I feel trapped in my own head and it’s affecting every aspect of my life. I’m currently in therapy and taking medication and have found a little bit of relief but not much. This video has helped me quite a bit and I hope to take your advice and hopefully change my life. I never want to rehearse failure (or dying in my case) again.
Just know you’re not alone. if you ever need someone to talk to.. message me.
I’ve been going through the same thing and trust me…. It’s all in our head. just message me. we can do this together.
The only way I can calm my anxiety (horrible, fast arrhythmia, and panic, often in the middle of the night, but not always) is to bring some perspective in. This sounds crazy, but I remind myself I'm tiny in an infinite cosmos, but that my soul is as huge as the cosmos, that I will die one day, and so shall we all, and that if that's the worst that can happen, its fine! Because we all will die. Also, I read Living the Untethered Soul or The Power of Now, or The Biology of Belief (about the power of the mind over the body) and I will immediately feel better (well, I'll start to feel better) because, again, it gives a kind perspective and also reminds me I'm not my thoughts or my feelings. Hang in there. I'm sooooo much better than I was in my 20s. If I'd had the Internet then, I'd have felt better, sooner!
Tom!! That was a life Changer!! I was a Champion at working Hard whenever I used to feel that tension!!
Thanks!! I am sure thats' a Ah Ha moment for me!! Pls keep up the great work!!
I really enjoyed listening to this. I have been battling anxiety for almost 2 years. First it was health anxiety along with palpitations, muscle cramps, sleep starts etc. And now it’s just ‘oh gosh what if I can’t beat this, what if I feel scared forever’?! The pattern interrupt is definitely something I will use to combat this negative thought loop. I’ve become so impatient with myself and my bodily symptoms but it seems time and repetition are the key tools so it’s time to accept that.
Thanks for this video, it really helped.
I just started having anxiety about 6 months ago. Exactly what you described. I’m often anxious about being anxious 😢
@@daisylopez9001 I’m so sorry to hear that Daisy, it’s really tough! If it makes you feel any better, I’ve had it before and it went away for years! So it does go away, there’s just some stuff you need to do to help yourself and listening to podcasts like this is a really good step! Sending you so much love and strength ❤️❤️❤️
DARE by Barry Mcdonagh is a game changer.
That was so amazing listening to you Tom, thank you so much🙏
Anxiety everyone has it, but some of us get full blown panic attacks and are stuck in a state of panic cycle with avoidance behaviors, allot of this is good advice learning how you got into the cycle is a good way to learn how to get out of it.
My problem starts with a negative thought that catastrophizes and starts spiraling down. Thinking bizarre thoughts like I’m gonna lose my job because I won’t be able to go to work due to anxiety, thinking I won’t be able to sleep cause of anxiety. It’s so hard to get out of that mind space. It’s crippling. I meditate and feel fine while meditating but then anxiety comes back after it’s over. It really is the worst thing ever.
I hear you - this is exactly me! Once we go down that rabbit hole its so hard to pull ourselves out of it. Crippling is exactly what it is. Meditation has been my saviour but like you, anxiety creeps back in sometimes afterwards. Anxiety is a habit unfortunately along with many other things/reasons. Acceptance is the key- I have had my best break through's when I have stopped, acknowledged my anxiety and talk to myself with self soothing words then continue to ride the waves with acceptance. Always goes away much faster then when I resist.
I honestly would not wish any Anxiety/Panic disorder on anyone. It steals so much of our energy and so much precious time away from enjoying life 💖
Has anyone tre Buspar for anxiety?
Thinking of trying it for GAD
God Bless All
Me too!! It's like I wrote this...mines every morning. Wake up heart pounding..sweaty...hormones for sure and check your iron! Cause low iron causes and Mimics anxiety.!!
Read the book called “think like a monk”. Helping me so much , it’s by jay shetty
It is hard. I too deal with this.
We ALWAYS HAVE CHOICE STRENGTH to self-regulate, use our SELF-CONTROL, Self-assurance to keep responsibility
I LOVE YOU SIR TOM! YOU ARE A LEGEND!
Hey man. I've commented on this same video before. But I just really have to reiterate how incredibly potent and accurate and valuable this video is to me. Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart for making this video.