I'm revisiting these videos after now finding out I'm pregnant and am so grateful for them - feeling exactly the same as you are in the videos! So grateful but feeling so ill! Thank you, Ruth 💛
I think I was a little detached from my entire pregnancy with my son because I miscarried my first pregnancy. I actually felt annoyed when other people told me they were excited to meet my baby, even in the later months, because while I was happy to be pregnant in the moment, I was so superstitious about whether I'd actually have a baby at the end that I didn't really want to talk about that part with anyone until it was there. of course I had no idea how to explain that to anyone so I was just frustrated and annoyed by it a lot.
You just perfectly described how I feel right now. I'm 12 weeks into my third pregnancy. I have a 4 year old son. I miscarried my second pregnancy about two years ago. My feelings about this pregnancy are so complicated.
I'm so happy you posted this, Ruth! My first and second pregnancies ended in MC. Now, I am 10 weeks(and 35 years old) and you have described my experience perfectly(right down to feeling "hungover"). My dearest husband is having a very hard time keeping my pregnancy under wraps, and every time he tells someone, my heart sinks. Thank you for being so honest. It made me fell less alone and more "normal". It's also comforting to know that everything is now going swimmingly for you!
Congratulations Ruth! And thank you for putting these diaries up - I am currently 6 weeks pregnant with my first pregnancy and I really appreciate being able to follow someone else's journey and know that I am not the only one with these worries. It is so hard because other than my husband, no one else knows until we are a bit further on so until then I shall be watching your updates to feel reassured! Hope you are feeling well -Pam xx
It's amazing that you have documented these weeks. Congratulations Ruth! I have a baby who just turned one as well and at that stage of thinking about the second...
Congratulations Ruth and Mr. AMR ! And I´m so happy that the baby is safe and that you are feeling better now. I have a 3 year old and had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago and I´m really frightened about getting pregnant again. But I try to say to myself, that we already have a healthy child and that there are many people that get healthy babys after they miscarried. So stories like yours and those of your lovely subscribers in this comment section give me hope
I worried throughout my pregnancy because it took so long to get pregnant. Everytime I went to the loo I was terrorfied of seeing blood. Also we nearly lost him at 6 weeks due to me getting a severe kidney infection . So happy to now have my little miracle.. 11 weeks old now. Looking forward to following your journey Ruth! x
Congrats on your pregnancy Ruth! As someone who has also previously had a miscarriage I can definitely relate to both waiting to tell people and worrying about every little twinge. I've been like that constantly! (I'm currently 32 weeks :)) Can't even begin to imagine how difficult it must be going through the first trimester with a 1 year old! I barely got out of bed for 10 weeks, I just felt so sick all the time and was throwing up 4 or 5 times a day!
Oh the memories you bring back. Early pregnancy can be very lonely and EXHAUSTING. Because like you I lost my first at 11 weeks, I didn't tell people I was expecting my second. . With Simon I was nauseous solidly for three months. I lost a stone and a half. Seemed to only want to eat quantities of oranges and drink coffee. Both of which my son is addicted to at 30 years oldnext week. But in the middle trimester I never felt better in my life. In perfect balance. I wish you a blessed pregnancy. :]
Loved that you documented this journey! :) You are an amazing human being Ruth, and a champ for bravely sharing your experience. Do hang in there and know that everything is going to be alright. As you regain health, breathe easy with the reassurance that you are cherished every step of the way. Blessings & love to you and yours. big hugs xxx
Thank you so much for making this video. It's also taken me a very long time to get pregnant after a miscarriage, then just before starting ivf for a second time we found out I was pregnant! I'm nearly 8 weeks now and so terrified whenever I feel anything or my symptoms go away for a bit! x
I loved this, because I can relate to pretty much everything you said! I haven't felt sick with either my son or my current pregnancy (just kind of an unsettled stomach), but I swear you read my mind when you talked about no food sounding appetizing. I also haven't suffered a miscarriage myself, but I have found myself worrying intensely about it (nightmares and all). I think it's the same kind of worries for everyone, just perhaps magnified for those who have suffered a loss. I wish you no complications and the best of health for this baby (and yourself, of course)!
First of all I am SOO HAPPY FOR YOU! I understand the struggles of conceiving and it makes me feel SO HAPPY for your little miracle baby number 2! Also I love this idea of the secret pregnancy vlogs! I'm 3 weeks behind you at 17 weeks with my first baby and I did the same thing and filmed secretly but didn't share until after 12 weeks! cannot wait to follow along with your pregnancy :) xx
I completely understand - my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and i'm now 12 weeks along worrying about everything. Our scan is on friday so fingers crossed all is well. Glad to see that your pregnancy has progressed well too :)
I agree with you my first pregnancy was an ecotopic with the result of right tube being removed. So when i was pregnant very quickly the second time I didn't or felt couldn't enjoy it constantly worried i was like this with my third too xx
Congratulations Ruth. I'm the sort of random person who has been reading The Uphill blog from the beginning who wasn't actually pregnant...wasn't trying for a baby either, but my husband and I are delighted we are 7 weeks pregnant (bit of a nice surprise and a shock). So I feel delighted to put your knowledge and advice to good use. I haven't experienced a miscarriage but I still feel afraid, maybe because several friends etc have had miscarriages recently and I feel very apprehensive to share my news in case something went wrong. I lost my mum a few years ago so feel like I have no one to speak to about queries, concerns, excitement...my google searches have been full of pregnancy questions so it's really nice to see your videos from early pregnancy and realise these symptoms are normal.
Congrats! So thrilled you are doing this. I have an 8 month old and we are already discussing when/if we want more. So curious about the real life experience of having two close together. Thank you so much for sharing with us. Also - My first was an absurdly quick and easy conception (especially amazing considering I am 38) and I've never had a miscarriage (though I know its super common and probably very likely if we try again) - I can say that because of my age and risk factors, I was also nervous nearly the whole pregnancy. Every twinge or lack thereof sent me nuts! Babbling now! But really..THANKS!
You're not boring but very sweet. I think everybody can understand and relate at some level with whar you are/were going through. I wish you all the luck with your pregnancy and birth :) Enjoy your happy little family expanding :)
Dear Ruth, I’ve just found this channel, having subscribed to AMR for years. I am currently 7 weeks pregnant and not telling many people as exactly a year ago I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I am tired all the time and have at least a little bit of nausea all the time too. I look forward to discovering the other videos on this channel.
a little bit of nausea makes sense at 7th week but you can subside the symptoms by drinking "no to morning sickness tea", check it out on secretsoftea.com if it helps. this tea is an all natural organic formula that helps alleviating MS and food aversions really fine.
I'm sorry you had to go through so much before having little Angelica and getting pregnant now. I miscarried this August at 5 weeks. Many people already knew about my pregnancy, even some co-workers. Because at some point I had to be open about my frequent absence at work. So more people became in the loops about it all than I'd ever imagine. This time around, I won't be as open about where exactly we stand in the process. Although in some aspects, the sincere happiness and sadness from those who knew did help.
I was very lucky to have 2 successful pregnancies, both of which we fell pregnant very quickly. I worried the whole way through for both. I think it's one of the reasons I don't want to try for a third. I feel like we had so much good luck with the first 2 I don't want to push it. Realistically I know this is ridiculous, but... I am a worrier in general though. Best wishes to you and you expanding family xx
Firstly, blooming marvellous news, I had guessed, and congratulations! I had 3 miscarriages before my successful pregnancy with my twins, and that pregnancy was extremely stressful, I did had a lot of bleeding, and was high risk, so I was counting down until 24 weeks, as in my mind that's when they had a chance, turns out they had to be evacuated at 39 weeks! I have a theory, that if men were the ones getting pregnant, then early pregnancy would be spoken about, and so would miscarriage. You are right, early pregnancy can be lonely, and the reason is its hard to discuss miscarriage - if it happens. And to me that's wrong. You need support through early pregnancy, and you certainly need support after a miscarriage. It's hidden away, and that makes me really sad. So I hope you can enjoy being open about your pregnancy, and I'm excited on your behalf :)
Mr AMR= co-baby-maker....you made my day :D and it has been shitty! So thank you so much for that. My mum also had a miscarriage (before she was blessed with me) and she always tells me you should not tell anyone about your pregnancy before you're in your 12.-14. week. So I (kind of) understand your fears and I think that they are completely normal (I know I would make a mess in my pants). So happy your are now in your 20. and everything is healthy. xx
i understand ! though its really hard to know , we lost our first child at 20 weeks due to an incompetent cervix . it was and is still really wierd when people tell me or my husband that they thought we had two babies ....
I had c section, doctors say I should wait 3-4 years before get pregnant again. because of the scar in the uterus... it should heal completely before stretch again. how is your scar? did your doctor said anything about it?
in most of the cases it lasts for about 6 to 8 weeks but some times in rare cases it might stretch up longer, it cant be eliminated completely but you can subside its intensity by trying different things like I recommend "no to morning sickness tea" of secretsofea.com, an herbal drink works magics to reduce MS and nausea.
I admire you for doing this, although it' s..weird. I don't have kids and don't plan anytime soon but still watching these ones because I learn a lot from your outlook on things, it's soothing in some way...
Thank you for sharing this video, even though it was such a hard/vulnerable time for you. It's brave of you, and honestly lovely, for you to share your experiences with your fans. (What would you call us, btw.... your Crillies, maybe?)
My first pregnancy was a miscarriage as well, so I was as scared as you were throughout my other two to tell anyone. Somehow I was jealous of other women just telling everybody: Hey, I am 5 weeks pregnant without a fear while I was standing there: No, no, I just gained a little weight...
I had no idea you were pregnant again, congratulations!!! I completely understand why you wouldn't want anyone to know until you were sure everything was ok, With my first pregnancy someone crashed into our car resulting in a miscarriage at 4 months and so when I got pregnant the second time I was panicking for most of my pregnancy I refused to get in a car for the first 5 months of my pregnancy haha my husband and I now have a beautiful 2 year old girl and we'd love to have a second but I know I will be panicking again throughout the next pregnancy so you're not alone, I think it's normal to worry about a pregnancy but you worry more if you've had a miscarriage in the past :)
Oh Ruth this had me laughing at you eating the minimilk?! in bed rambling and sobbing at your miscarriage and wait for your first baby. I'm a new Mum to a six month old baby girl so very much looking forward to more videos. With love Kirstyn X
The same thing happened to friends of mine, they had a really hard time getting pregnant and then they used fertility treatment and then they still had a hard time. So eventually they get pregnant and have the baby. They just assumed it would take a long time again so they started trying as soon as possible and got pregnant right away with twins. Surprise! Lots of diapers....
I'm revisiting these videos after now finding out I'm pregnant and am so grateful for them - feeling exactly the same as you are in the videos! So grateful but feeling so ill! Thank you, Ruth 💛
I think I was a little detached from my entire pregnancy with my son because I miscarried my first pregnancy. I actually felt annoyed when other people told me they were excited to meet my baby, even in the later months, because while I was happy to be pregnant in the moment, I was so superstitious about whether I'd actually have a baby at the end that I didn't really want to talk about that part with anyone until it was there. of course I had no idea how to explain that to anyone so I was just frustrated and annoyed by it a lot.
You just perfectly described how I feel right now. I'm 12 weeks into my third pregnancy. I have a 4 year old son. I miscarried my second pregnancy about two years ago. My feelings about this pregnancy are so complicated.
I'm so happy you posted this, Ruth! My first and second pregnancies ended in MC. Now, I am 10 weeks(and 35 years old) and you have described my experience perfectly(right down to feeling "hungover"). My dearest husband is having a very hard time keeping my pregnancy under wraps, and every time he tells someone, my heart sinks. Thank you for being so honest. It made me fell less alone and more "normal". It's also comforting to know that everything is now going swimmingly for you!
Rhonda G did everything go well? I hope you have a lovely son/daughter now...
Congratulations Ruth! And thank you for putting these diaries up - I am currently 6 weeks pregnant with my first pregnancy and I really appreciate being able to follow someone else's journey and know that I am not the only
one with these worries. It is so hard because other than my husband, no one else knows until we are a bit further on so until then I shall be watching your updates to feel reassured! Hope you are feeling well -Pam xx
Thank you for posting these. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in these crazy feelings !
It's amazing that you have documented these weeks. Congratulations Ruth! I have a baby who just turned one as well and at that stage of thinking about the second...
Congratulations Ruth and Mr. AMR !
And I´m so happy that the baby is safe and that you are feeling better now.
I have a 3 year old and had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago and I´m really frightened about getting pregnant again. But I try to say to myself, that we already have a healthy child and that there are many people that get healthy babys after they miscarried.
So stories like yours and those of your lovely subscribers in this comment section give me hope
I worried throughout my pregnancy because it took so long to get pregnant. Everytime I went to the loo I was terrorfied of seeing blood. Also we nearly lost him at 6 weeks due to me getting a severe kidney infection .
So happy to now have my little miracle.. 11 weeks old now.
Looking forward to following your journey Ruth! x
Congrats on your pregnancy Ruth! As someone who has also previously had a miscarriage I can definitely relate to both waiting to tell people and worrying about every little twinge. I've been like that constantly! (I'm currently 32 weeks :)) Can't even begin to imagine how difficult it must be going through the first trimester with a 1 year old! I barely got out of bed for 10 weeks, I just felt so sick all the time and was throwing up 4 or 5 times a day!
Oh the memories you bring back. Early pregnancy can be very lonely and EXHAUSTING. Because like you I lost my first at 11 weeks, I didn't tell people I was expecting my second. . With Simon I was nauseous solidly for three months. I lost a stone and a half. Seemed to only want to eat quantities of oranges and drink coffee. Both of which my son is addicted to at 30 years oldnext week. But in the middle trimester I never felt better in my life. In perfect balance. I wish you a blessed pregnancy. :]
Loved that you documented this journey! :) You are an amazing human being Ruth, and a champ for bravely sharing your experience. Do hang in there and know that everything is going to be alright. As you regain health, breathe easy with the reassurance that you are cherished every step of the way. Blessings & love to you and yours. big hugs xxx
Co-babymaker gave me a good chuckle 😂
Thank you so much for making this video. It's also taken me a very long time to get pregnant after a miscarriage, then just before starting ivf for a second time we found out I was pregnant! I'm nearly 8 weeks now and so terrified whenever I feel anything or my symptoms go away for a bit! x
I loved this, because I can relate to pretty much everything you said! I haven't felt sick with either my son or my current pregnancy (just kind of an unsettled stomach), but I swear you read my mind when you talked about no food sounding appetizing. I also haven't suffered a miscarriage myself, but I have found myself worrying intensely about it (nightmares and all). I think it's the same kind of worries for everyone, just perhaps magnified for those who have suffered a loss. I wish you no complications and the best of health for this baby (and yourself, of course)!
First of all I am SOO HAPPY FOR YOU! I understand the struggles of conceiving and it makes me feel SO HAPPY for your little miracle baby number 2! Also I love this idea of the secret pregnancy vlogs! I'm 3 weeks behind you at 17 weeks with my first baby and I did the same thing and filmed secretly but didn't share until after 12 weeks! cannot wait to follow along with your pregnancy :) xx
I completely understand - my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and i'm now 12 weeks along worrying about everything. Our scan is on friday so fingers crossed all is well. Glad to see that your pregnancy has progressed well too :)
I agree with you my first pregnancy was an ecotopic with the result of right tube being removed. So when i was pregnant very quickly the second time I didn't or felt couldn't enjoy it constantly worried i was like this with my third too xx
*ectopic gosh my spelling 🙈
Congratulations Ruth. I'm the sort of random person who has been reading The Uphill blog from the beginning who wasn't actually pregnant...wasn't trying for a baby either, but my husband and I are delighted we are 7 weeks pregnant (bit of a nice surprise and a shock). So I feel delighted to put your knowledge and advice to good use. I haven't experienced a miscarriage but I still feel afraid, maybe because several friends etc have had miscarriages recently and I feel very apprehensive to share my news in case something went wrong. I lost my mum a few years ago so feel like I have no one to speak to about queries, concerns, excitement...my google searches have been full of pregnancy questions so it's really nice to see your videos from early pregnancy and realise these symptoms are normal.
Congrats! So thrilled you are doing this. I have an 8 month old and we are already discussing when/if we want more. So curious about the real life experience of having two close together. Thank you so much for sharing with us. Also - My first was an absurdly quick and easy conception (especially amazing considering I am 38) and I've never had a miscarriage (though I know its super common and probably very likely if we try again) - I can say that because of my age and risk factors, I was also nervous nearly the whole pregnancy. Every twinge or lack thereof sent me nuts! Babbling now! But really..THANKS!
You're not boring but very sweet. I think everybody can understand and relate at some level with whar you are/were going through. I wish you all the luck with your pregnancy and birth :) Enjoy your happy little family expanding :)
Dear Ruth,
I’ve just found this channel, having subscribed to AMR for years.
I am currently 7 weeks pregnant and not telling many people as exactly a year ago I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks.
I am tired all the time and have at least a little bit of nausea all the time too.
I look forward to discovering the other videos on this channel.
a little bit of nausea makes sense at 7th week but you can subside the symptoms by drinking "no to morning sickness tea", check it out on secretsoftea.com if it helps. this tea is an all natural organic formula that helps alleviating MS and food aversions really fine.
I'm sorry you had to go through so much before having little Angelica and getting pregnant now.
I miscarried this August at 5 weeks. Many people already knew about my pregnancy, even some co-workers. Because at some point I had to be open about my frequent absence at work. So more people became in the loops about it all than I'd ever imagine. This time around, I won't be as open about where exactly we stand in the process.
Although in some aspects, the sincere happiness and sadness from those who knew did help.
Congratulations Ruth!!!
I'm 7 weeks right now and this video made me feel better :) Thank you for uploading this!
I was very lucky to have 2 successful pregnancies, both of which we fell pregnant very quickly. I worried the whole way through for both. I think it's one of the reasons I don't want to try for a third. I feel like we had so much good luck with the first 2 I don't want to push it. Realistically I know this is ridiculous, but... I am a worrier in general though. Best wishes to you and you expanding family xx
Firstly, blooming marvellous news, I had guessed, and congratulations! I had 3 miscarriages before my successful pregnancy with my twins, and that pregnancy was extremely stressful, I did had a lot of bleeding, and was high risk, so I was counting down until 24 weeks, as in my mind that's when they had a chance, turns out they had to be evacuated at 39 weeks! I have a theory, that if men were the ones getting pregnant, then early pregnancy would be spoken about, and so would miscarriage. You are right, early pregnancy can be lonely, and the reason is its hard to discuss miscarriage - if it happens. And to me that's wrong. You need support through early pregnancy, and you certainly need support after a miscarriage. It's hidden away, and that makes me really sad. So I hope you can enjoy being open about your pregnancy, and I'm excited on your behalf :)
Beyond real! Thanks for this video - totally relatable.
Mr AMR= co-baby-maker....you made my day :D and it has been shitty! So thank you so much for that.
My mum also had a miscarriage (before she was blessed with me) and she always tells me you should not tell anyone about your pregnancy before you're in your 12.-14. week. So I (kind of) understand your fears and I think that they are completely normal (I know I would make a mess in my pants). So happy your are now in your 20. and everything is healthy. xx
i understand ! though its really hard to know , we lost our first child at 20 weeks due to an incompetent cervix . it was and is still really wierd when people tell me or my husband that they thought we had two babies ....
p.s. It'll be so neat, when your kids are older, and they have these videos of yours to go back and watch, as well as your writings.
Early pregnancy is the worst. Especially after a loss - I was so sick with my daughter and I was having to care for my 3 year old.
I'm so happy for you!!!
I had c section, doctors say I should wait 3-4 years before get pregnant again. because of the scar in the uterus... it should heal completely before stretch again. how is your scar? did your doctor said anything about it?
Hi Ruth, I'm just wondering when the morning sickness stopped for you? I'm feeling terrible xx
in most of the cases it lasts for about 6 to 8 weeks but some times in rare cases it might stretch up longer, it cant be eliminated completely but you can subside its intensity by trying different things like I recommend "no to morning sickness tea" of secretsofea.com, an herbal drink works magics to reduce MS and nausea.
I admire you for doing this, although it' s..weird. I don't have kids and don't plan anytime soon but still watching these ones because I learn a lot from your outlook on things, it's soothing in some way...
Thank you for sharing this video, even though it was such a hard/vulnerable time for you. It's brave of you, and honestly lovely, for you to share your experiences with your fans. (What would you call us, btw.... your Crillies, maybe?)
I really had no idea so was a surprise but a lovely one ! And you look beautiful. Xx
'Is that veneer or is that real wood?'. Omg, I do that.
My first pregnancy was a miscarriage as well, so I was as scared as you were throughout my other two to tell anyone. Somehow I was jealous of other women just telling everybody: Hey, I am 5 weeks pregnant without a fear while I was standing there: No, no, I just gained a little weight...
Great news Ruth! :) x
Wishing you all the very best🙋🏼💞💞💞💞💞
Congrats again and....you are never boring. Not for me ;)
Congrats, Ruth!!!! 💜💜💜💜💜😜
"co-baby maker" Best edit award, 2016. :D
You are so brave to post this. I've been there. Remember, the odds are overwhelmingly in your favor. 😊
Love you Ruth
Oh gosh I don't miss these symptoms and I can't imagine having to deal with a baby too. The only thing I could liken it to was a permanent hangover
My thoughts exactly, except I'd say permanent hangover while also being extremely jet lagged!
lol this video is everything.
I had no idea you were pregnant again, congratulations!!! I completely understand why you wouldn't want anyone to know until you were sure everything was ok, With my first pregnancy someone crashed into our car resulting in a miscarriage at 4 months and so when I got pregnant the second time I was panicking for most of my pregnancy I refused to get in a car for the first 5 months of my pregnancy haha my husband and I now have a beautiful 2 year old girl and we'd love to have a second but I know I will be panicking again throughout the next pregnancy so you're not alone, I think it's normal to worry about a pregnancy but you worry more if you've had a miscarriage in the past :)
You needed your Mum to look after you
Oh Ruth this had me laughing at you eating the minimilk?! in bed rambling and sobbing at your miscarriage and wait for your first baby. I'm a new Mum to a six month old baby girl so very much looking forward to more videos. With love Kirstyn X
The same thing happened to friends of mine, they had a really hard time getting pregnant and then they used fertility treatment and then they still had a hard time. So eventually they get pregnant and have the baby. They just assumed it would take a long time again so they started trying as soon as possible and got pregnant right away with twins. Surprise! Lots of diapers....
I'm so sorry that you had a miscarriage. No woman should have to go through that :/
congratulations Ruth and u are nsver boring xxx
Did Ruth have a miscarriage before?😭💔
Did you not watch the first twenty seconds?!
I think she did watch it, she was just expressing compassion in a question form.
Flower May exactly what I was doing👌🏽💗