Another point I think is important is accepting that life is unfair by nature. From the moment you are born, someone else has better genetics, good people loose their houses because of natural disasters, bad people get good luck without effort... Instead of shouting "why" to the sky for this inevitable injustices, we have to just accept the fact that luck is random. I believe that mindset is more peaceful.
but i feel like this mindset can be rlly down putting. i like to think everything happens for a reason and for a greater lesson i might not understand yet.
A man named Solomon said these wise words: "I have seen something further under the sun, that the swift do not always win the race, nor do the mighty win the battle, nor do the wise always have the food, nor do the intelligent always have the riches, nor do those with knowledge always have success, because time and unexpected events overtake them all". The word "luck" is defined as a mysterious force that controls random events, but in reality, luck does not exist. Often, something happens to a person simply because he is in the right place at the right time, or we might say, in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Thank you. I studied a lot, more than most of my classmates, 9-14 hours in a day. However people who studied way less and didn't care at all got better grades. I'll try not to undervalue or punish myself from now on because hating myself when I've worked really hard doesn't work. First video I got recommended by yt and subbed :)
Wow, I was just saying to my therapist the other day that I feel paralyzed because no matter what I do, it never feels good enough or I never feel like I did enough. So I’m just paralyzed! Thank you for this.
all my life I have been a very hard worker. I worked very hard for grades and stuff and always felt like the gifted student. until at some point I realized that I actually need to struggle a lot for my desired grades. I asked myself what has changed and why can't I be like I used to. then I found this amazing channel and I realized that I'm not alone and many other people feel the same way. with your help, I called myself out on some things that I tried to hide. I don't appreciate myself as much and my ''success contract'' is very long. I'm still trying to change my mindset so that I can stop feeling like I'm not good enough. thank you, Christina for all your hard work! you changed my way of seeing things
i'm gonna say what no one wants to hear, but if you feel empty and unfulfilled regardless of what you do you should go to therapy. if the cause is repressed unresolved issues, waking up at 5am and drinking green juice is not going to solve the problem.
I'm 44 and recently I've been facing "the truth" - I like my job, but I'm average or below in what i do. I suffer whenever I hear from my boss that I should be working better, even that he knows that I've been diagnosed with ADHD (and on meds now) and I'm doing my best. There is a bunch of people who will be promoted sooner than me, because their performance is much better. I'm not a manager, have no talents, now I even don't have any hobby, I have never been really good at anything (you know, in the way that most people are impressed with, like "you have tallent in singing/ playing the guitar/ painting etc). I love your videos, they help me believe in myself again. I feel undervalued at work, sometimes I feel stupid and lazy, which I KNOW is not true, but there is this voice inside telling me: "and maybe you are? the others can do better, see? you're not good enough". What's more, I can see me aging quickly, which doesn't help in gaining self-esteem...
Your story actually reminded me of mine. Back in 2019, when I was still in my Dental school (studying for a BDS- Bachelor's in Dental surgery) in India, I got failed in 2 subjects after months of hard work whilst also battling depression and self h@rm. After that, the world just crumbled. Nothing made sense. So I left Dental school and pursued an entirely different career path that everyone around me found foolish. I studied psychology (social sciences and humanities are frowned upon in India as potential careers) and during my three years of undergrad I did it extremely well. I got into the LSE in 2023, moved to London and graduated in 2024 with my MSc. And now, the pressure is to get a job so that I can pay for my rent here in London, where living costs are pretty deadly expensive, especially for international students. Idk why I'm sharing all of this in your comments section but hey, if anyone reads this and finds themselves in similar shoes as mine, you're not alone buddy.
I saw someone saying stuff like „life is unfair“ but I don’t think like that. it’s unfair when u think that is unfair. I only see the positive things in EVERYTHING and I’m also hella great full.
as someone who also looks for the positives in everything, i can still accept that life IS unfair sometimes. it’s not fair that children get cancer, for example. i think you can be an optimist & find the silver lining in disappointing events while still accepting that life isn’t always fair 🤷♀️
There’s a line from Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Shaman’s Path to Freedom, saying “humans are addicted to suffering” which is why we downplay or throw others down when they reach happiness or that happiness is not relatable at all, so they’ll just say “aw that’s cute but that’s not realistic” when watching a film/series/read a book
You're making such a good point I feel like most people are pushing themselves and others to do more to the point we just burn ourselves out. My goal this year is to say no to the extra stuff, I have experimented and pushed enough in the past years
I love this video because your values are way more important than the goals. Your values steer your ship and guide you especially in the most difficult times but also in the good times. I learned this a few years ago and it has brought me so much peace knowing that wherever my ship goes my values will help guide me back to port.
the "success is a skill" thing kinda stresses me out tbh. I feel like I just don't have it and have to work extra hard for my goals compared to someone naturally gifted at finding their way to success. I understand that this is only true if I let it be, but these feelings get so intense that they manifest physically as well, I'm not sure how to break the pattern.
I think it’s skill in a way that you have to find success in smaller things. I used to believe I can only feel proud of myself if I worked my ass off and beyond and got recognition from others and that mindset made me feel like I constantly failed at everything (even if I didn’t). Celebrating smaller victories gives more confidence and willpower to reach higher goals and makes you more successfull.
Thank you for this video! This gave me some good reminders heading into the year as i very much self sabotage. I have ASD/ADHD and quite bad anxiety but didn't get diagnosed until uni. One thing that I always have to remind myself is thief is the comparison of joy as going through school and uni i could see people making progress with something in weeks, months days that for me would be a skill that might take years or more and someone else might feel is natural to them or a skill they learnt as a kid but for me is unnatural and a struggle. Comparing only to myself and looking back on my progress both small or big has helped with my perspective and removed a lot of that anxiety/doubt. I'm definitely still a work in progress and will always be as life is about learning but letting go of unrealistic exceptions has helped as sometimes we can be our own worse critics so fact checking my thoughts by laying it all out helps.
Studying is my religion, and learning my lessons in the best way possible is my way of thanking God for what I have. My grandmothers before me could not go to school, but if I could, I should be grateful for that.
i cannot even begin to express how grateful i am i found your channel. im 14 years old and i feel like you have a video for every problem i go through and im just so thankful christina 💕💕 keep up the amazing content
I have never found a yt channel that so perfectly describes me! Every time I click on your videos my whole perspective on everything changes so much. Keep making videos they are so awesome!
Really glad I found this video. Understanding that what you’re hiding owns you was a challenging concept to come to terms with. But knowing i’m not alone in that struggle helps a lot. Keep up the good work!
Sidenote/piece of advice, the easiest way to reach a goal is to shift your focus from the goal itself but rather the actions or tasks that will help you reach that goal, your goal becomes consistency and you feel successful whenever you’re consistent, it’s also less limited and allows you to succeed and go beyond your goal rather than you stopping your progress once you reach that goal. eg. If you want to lose or gain a certain amount of weight, instead of saying oh I want to be 55 kg make your goal I want to go to the gym four times a week start eating healthier
Thank you sooo much Christina for your videos. It is actually so heart-warming to hear your pieces of advises on friendships, self-love and self-esteem and on how to reflect upon some dynamics that hold us back. ❤
gurrl the way I needed this so much like.. I truly enjoy self development content and all that improvement stuff u talked abt in the vid, as well as studying, I try to romantisize it amap. But today I just needed some comfort and this video gave me exactly what I was subcounsciously looking for. Luv u, have a slay day❤️❤️❤️
Wow this video hit a nail on the head 😅. I just started a self healing journey and this was a much needed video to help me keep myself on track and lay ground work. Thank you so much for this breakdown of self sabotage, I believe I struggle with that a lot and in so many ways and I didn’t realize how it appears in one’s life in different ways.
Christina I hope you know that you have such an amazing impact on accepting who we are but also carry on to come our better version! Please keep up this amazing content, every video feels so special, no words!!!
this is an incredible video, thank you so much christina! what you said about certainity really hit hard. as much as i want to create and work hard and do something i can be proud of, at my core i want safety more than anything. how do you align your goals with your values when your values are, in the end, rooted in your comfort zone?
Ugh finally someone talks aboit those change yourself for new years like girl i considee eveey day as a new chance my birthdays Its very toxic like you should change your selfe and set goels for new year !!???
Soooo, I‘m this kind of person who doesn’t down play their achievements, I do actually the opposite but not like REALLY bragging yk. But I do feel rlly rlly guilty when someone says „Omg that is amazing work that u have done..“ and I am like „yeah thank u“ but inside i am like „yeah but I used Chat gpt“ or „I used a template for this project so I didn’t do actually anything special and anyone could do it, I didn’t rlly work hard..“ stuff like that and I am like „yeah that’s true, u don’t do enough and if u do than not that good or unique..“ and I hate this fact about me and everytime I try to change these thoughts I would immediately remember the moments I was lacking off or just being unproductive IN MY FREETIME, and I feel so damn guilty and miserable because of it….
Hi girl i just love your videos i have a question iam in my class 10th I wasted my whole year now I just have 4months in my hand can I be able to score A if I start now
@ChristinaAaliyah can you do for me?? I,m struggle because I look in the eye of people around me or stare but weird when I don't look in they eye I feel missing do you think that's not me? because I think I force to look in there eye to full fill the missing but I,m not that comportable because my head is getting pain I look away when I feel no interest or my head is pain or my neck I,m not feeling well now plss explain that in the way I understand do u speak Tagalog or something? I don't really understand you're English accent help me I know that's I have a potential but my personality is the problem so help me I,m handsome but my personality make me ugly because it's unstable and I think something is missing so help me
Another point I think is important is accepting that life is unfair by nature. From the moment you are born, someone else has better genetics, good people loose their houses because of natural disasters, bad people get good luck without effort... Instead of shouting "why" to the sky for this inevitable injustices, we have to just accept the fact that luck is random. I believe that mindset is more peaceful.
this is so true, a harsh reality i had to face
Omg I love ur profile pictures . We love melodrama and lorde ❤❤❤❤
@alexisleavemealone7442 thank you! 💕
but i feel like this mindset can be rlly down putting. i like to think everything happens for a reason and for a greater lesson i might not understand yet.
A man named Solomon said these wise words: "I have seen something further under the sun, that the swift do not always win the race, nor do the mighty win the battle, nor do the wise always have the food, nor do the intelligent always have the riches, nor do those with knowledge always have success, because time and unexpected events overtake them all". The word "luck" is defined as a mysterious force that controls random events, but in reality, luck does not exist. Often, something happens to a person simply because he is in the right place at the right time, or we might say, in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Don't set goals, set values. That makes so much sense to me that I don't understand why I never realized that before.
Very interesting video, thanks
Thank you. I studied a lot, more than most of my classmates, 9-14 hours in a day. However people who studied way less and didn't care at all got better grades. I'll try not to undervalue or punish myself from now on because hating myself when I've worked really hard doesn't work. First video I got recommended by yt and subbed :)
have you researched learning techniques? I had the same troubles and halved my learning time!
@craftingweirdo6498 what study methods do you use??
Wow, I was just saying to my therapist the other day that I feel paralyzed because no matter what I do, it never feels good enough or I never feel like I did enough. So I’m just paralyzed! Thank you for this.
That's so relatable. Sometimes I am my biggest downfall
all my life I have been a very hard worker. I worked very hard for grades and stuff and always felt like the gifted student. until at some point I realized that I actually need to struggle a lot for my desired grades. I asked myself what has changed and why can't I be like I used to. then I found this amazing channel and I realized that I'm not alone and many other people feel the same way. with your help, I called myself out on some things that I tried to hide. I don't appreciate myself as much and my ''success contract'' is very long. I'm still trying to change my mindset so that I can stop feeling like I'm not good enough. thank you, Christina for all your hard work! you changed my way of seeing things
I'm so glad this helped 🥹
@@ChristinaAaliyahI really really like you you’re so sweet and pretty and cool
i'm gonna say what no one wants to hear, but if you feel empty and unfulfilled regardless of what you do you should go to therapy. if the cause is repressed unresolved issues, waking up at 5am and drinking green juice is not going to solve the problem.
i absolutely agree
I'm 44 and recently I've been facing "the truth" - I like my job, but I'm average or below in what i do. I suffer whenever I hear from my boss that I should be working better, even that he knows that I've been diagnosed with ADHD (and on meds now) and I'm doing my best. There is a bunch of people who will be promoted sooner than me, because their performance is much better. I'm not a manager, have no talents, now I even don't have any hobby, I have never been really good at anything (you know, in the way that most people are impressed with, like "you have tallent in singing/ playing the guitar/ painting etc). I love your videos, they help me believe in myself again. I feel undervalued at work, sometimes I feel stupid and lazy, which I KNOW is not true, but there is this voice inside telling me: "and maybe you are? the others can do better, see? you're not good enough". What's more, I can see me aging quickly, which doesn't help in gaining self-esteem...
Your story actually reminded me of mine. Back in 2019, when I was still in my Dental school (studying for a BDS- Bachelor's in Dental surgery) in India, I got failed in 2 subjects after months of hard work whilst also battling depression and self h@rm. After that, the world just crumbled. Nothing made sense. So I left Dental school and pursued an entirely different career path that everyone around me found foolish. I studied psychology (social sciences and humanities are frowned upon in India as potential careers) and during my three years of undergrad I did it extremely well. I got into the LSE in 2023, moved to London and graduated in 2024 with my MSc. And now, the pressure is to get a job so that I can pay for my rent here in London, where living costs are pretty deadly expensive, especially for international students. Idk why I'm sharing all of this in your comments section but hey, if anyone reads this and finds themselves in similar shoes as mine, you're not alone buddy.
Congrats on getting your MSc! You will find something soon!!
I saw someone saying stuff like „life is unfair“ but I don’t think like that. it’s unfair when u think that is unfair. I only see the positive things in EVERYTHING and I’m also hella great full.
as someone who also looks for the positives in everything, i can still accept that life IS unfair sometimes. it’s not fair that children get cancer, for example. i think you can be an optimist & find the silver lining in disappointing events while still accepting that life isn’t always fair 🤷♀️
There’s a line from Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Shaman’s Path to Freedom, saying “humans are addicted to suffering” which is why we downplay or throw others down when they reach happiness or that happiness is not relatable at all, so they’ll just say “aw that’s cute but that’s not realistic” when watching a film/series/read a book
You're making such a good point I feel like most people are pushing themselves and others to do more to the point we just burn ourselves out. My goal this year is to say no to the extra stuff, I have experimented and pushed enough in the past years
I love this video because your values are way more important than the goals. Your values steer your ship and guide you especially in the most difficult times but also in the good times. I learned this a few years ago and it has brought me so much peace knowing that wherever my ship goes my values will help guide me back to port.
the "success is a skill" thing kinda stresses me out tbh. I feel like I just don't have it and have to work extra hard for my goals compared to someone naturally gifted at finding their way to success. I understand that this is only true if I let it be, but these feelings get so intense that they manifest physically as well, I'm not sure how to break the pattern.
I think it’s skill in a way that you have to find success in smaller things. I used to believe I can only feel proud of myself if I worked my ass off and beyond and got recognition from others and that mindset made me feel like I constantly failed at everything (even if I didn’t). Celebrating smaller victories gives more confidence and willpower to reach higher goals and makes you more successfull.
I still have to reflect on everything you said on this video, but I really wanted to thank you for this 💜✨
you're awesome
Thank you for this video! This gave me some good reminders heading into the year as i very much self sabotage. I have ASD/ADHD and quite bad anxiety but didn't get diagnosed until uni. One thing that I always have to remind myself is thief is the comparison of joy as going through school and uni i could see people making progress with something in weeks, months days that for me would be a skill that might take years or more and someone else might feel is natural to them or a skill they learnt as a kid but for me is unnatural and a struggle. Comparing only to myself and looking back on my progress both small or big has helped with my perspective and removed a lot of that anxiety/doubt. I'm definitely still a work in progress and will always be as life is about learning but letting go of unrealistic exceptions has helped as sometimes we can be our own worse critics so fact checking my thoughts by laying it all out helps.
I needed this, I was so sad with my slow progress but I'm so much better than I give myself credit for.😊🎉
Studying is my religion, and learning my lessons in the best way possible is my way of thanking God for what I have. My grandmothers before me could not go to school, but if I could, I should be grateful for that.
i cannot even begin to express how grateful i am i found your channel. im 14 years old and i feel like you have a video for every problem i go through and im just so thankful christina 💕💕 keep up the amazing content
I have never found a yt channel that so perfectly describes me! Every time I click on your videos my whole perspective on everything changes so much. Keep making videos they are so awesome!
Really glad I found this video. Understanding that what you’re hiding owns you was a challenging concept to come to terms with. But knowing i’m not alone in that struggle helps a lot. Keep up the good work!
Sidenote/piece of advice, the easiest way to reach a goal is to shift your focus from the goal itself but rather the actions or tasks that will help you reach that goal, your goal becomes consistency and you feel successful whenever you’re consistent, it’s also less limited and allows you to succeed and go beyond your goal rather than you stopping your progress once you reach that goal. eg. If you want to lose or gain a certain amount of weight, instead of saying oh I want to be 55 kg make your goal I want to go to the gym four times a week start eating healthier
Thank you sooo much Christina for your videos. It is actually so heart-warming to hear your pieces of advises on friendships, self-love and self-esteem and on how to reflect upon some dynamics that hold us back. ❤
It’s 2am and i’ve never felt worse this comes at the right time… I love you.
Success is a skill.❤
ahh yes, this video was perfect! Christina i can’t thank you enough!
i'm so glad it's helpful
Very astute commentary on the misalignment of goals and values. Of all the points mentioned, this one is especially relevant to my aging self
gurrl the way I needed this so much like.. I truly enjoy self development content and all that improvement stuff u talked abt in the vid, as well as studying, I try to romantisize it amap. But today I just needed some comfort and this video gave me exactly what I was subcounsciously looking for. Luv u, have a slay day❤️❤️❤️
Wow this video hit a nail on the head 😅. I just started a self healing journey and this was a much needed video to help me keep myself on track and lay ground work. Thank you so much for this breakdown of self sabotage, I believe I struggle with that a lot and in so many ways and I didn’t realize how it appears in one’s life in different ways.
Christina I hope you know that you have such an amazing impact on accepting who we are but also carry on to come our better version! Please keep up this amazing content, every video feels so special, no words!!!
This means so much!
Amazing video, exactly what I needed to hear rn
the timing >>>
0:34 you’ve done everything: me who’s done like nothing except the bare minimum to get the grades I want… 😅 yeaaaah
Wow, You are The only one who made me realise why I was feeling stuck and what was happening in my head. You are amazing, thank You.❤
this is an incredible video, thank you so much christina!
what you said about certainity really hit hard. as much as i want to create and work hard and do something i can be proud of, at my core i want safety more than anything. how do you align your goals with your values when your values are, in the end, rooted in your comfort zone?
Thanks!
so kind of you
Girl, thank you, really. This video opened my eyes and reminded me that it is our heart that we have to follow ❤
Ugh finally someone talks aboit those change yourself for new years like girl i considee eveey day as a new chance my birthdays
Its very toxic like you should change your selfe and set goels for new year !!???
Thank you for the comfort your video brings.After a days productivity its good to know you don't have to be perfect to feel good about yourself ❤
feeling lost right now and your videos are helping me a ton ! thank you so much
So helpful, thank you 🙏🏾😊
Thank YOU 💗
I’m so happy I found your channel
My goal in life is to do the bare minimum to enjoy life
Thank you so much for this video, it was exactly what I needed ❤
Your videos give me a chance to look into myself and help with improvement, thankyou
This is soo My situation rn.
Thank you.
Soooo, I‘m this kind of person who doesn’t down play their achievements, I do actually the opposite but not like REALLY bragging yk. But I do feel rlly rlly guilty when someone says „Omg that is amazing work that u have done..“ and I am like „yeah thank u“ but inside i am like „yeah but I used Chat gpt“ or „I used a template for this project so I didn’t do actually anything special and anyone could do it, I didn’t rlly work hard..“ stuff like that and I am like „yeah that’s true, u don’t do enough and if u do than not that good or unique..“ and I hate this fact about me and everytime I try to change these thoughts I would immediately remember the moments I was lacking off or just being unproductive IN MY FREETIME, and I feel so damn guilty and miserable because of it….
the fact that nobody talks about Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood speaks volumes about how people are stuck in trance
I will only feel successful if I:
*Have straight A's
*Expand my vocabulary
*Become Battalion Commander
*Lose weight
Such a good video 💓
Thanks Hana!
Hi girl i just love your videos i have a question iam in my class 10th I wasted my whole year now I just have 4months in my hand can I be able to score A if I start now
Yeah, make a study plan and stick to it 🚀
Good video
I appreciate this, thank you
2:22
Oh wow
I really forgot some people are just naturally driven already
Huh
Can't do anything consistently
Hi!!! Love your videos, I'm 13 years old, can you give me some tips to have a better future or something like this?
How to be you're self when you don't know you're self because it's hard I don't know my self how to know my self?????
this is such a good topic
@ChristinaAaliyah can you do for me?? I,m struggle because I look in the eye of people around me or stare but weird when I don't look in they eye I feel missing do you think that's not me? because I think I force to look in there eye to full fill the missing but I,m not that comportable because my head is getting pain I look away when I feel no interest or my head is pain or my neck I,m not feeling well now plss explain that in the way I understand do u speak Tagalog or something? I don't really understand you're English accent help me I know that's I have a potential but my personality is the problem so help me I,m handsome but my personality make me ugly because it's unstable and I think something is missing so help me
You should stop being so harsh on yourself
You're not missing anything
whats the name of th backgroyund music of your intro
Everyone is driven nowadays?? Where do you live; Wall Street? For real confusing me
It could be a hyperbole, but it is to show that many people, like us, are driven, it doesn't have to be all, but there are many.
Почему нет перевода звуковой дорожки на разные языки?
Never related to a video so much, at least I don’t feel alone with my struggles now
Thank you for the video 🩷